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Speaker 2: Night.
Speaker 1: What's up? Everybody help?
Speaker 2: Happy?
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Athena Ginshirt, Sander Greens, Jennifer falls, Aaron Sanchez, Leslie Whyckoff,
Alicia Escalante, Kelly Bryandt, Rebecca Lubin, Isshan Vajpe, Missy and Gabby, Katerina,
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still help. Couldn't help myself.
Speaker 1: I frolicking down that Colorado river last week, and Missy
and Gabby were right there.
Speaker 2: So I feel so bad for all of us fellow
moms who have kids who are doing APS this week.
This is the week boy Xander had one last week,
but this week he had. Okay, so peek behind the curtain.
Today is Monday. We're recording on a Monday. Xander had
his AP seminar test this morning. Okay, Wednesday, he's got
ap laying. Last week he had a push APUs boy.
Speaker 1: Oh boy, that's a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And also this is just a little bit of
a complaint about my kid's school. So ap tests are, are,
you know?
Speaker 1: Hard?
Speaker 2: I wouldn't know. I never took an AP test or
an ab.
Speaker 1: Last at my school, at my Valley Alternative school.
Speaker 2: I don't know if they had them at mine, but
I've got to assume they did. It's not like a
new invention.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: I could see why they didn't have them at Valley Alternative.
But I went to like a big regular public school.
I'm sure I know they had honors classes. Yeah, they
had aps. I never took any. I didn't, No, I
told you. I was like honor the honors English class
was too hard for me. I got a C and
then dropped out of like. I was like, nope, not
for you.
Speaker 1: They didn't have honors at my school either. It was
just like you're either in the advanced class or you're
in the remedial class, or I are in between, don't
I don't remember.
Speaker 2: I can't help but not giving a fuck about me,
And I try to pretend to be supportive and go like, yeah,
you want to take that as an ape. Sure, but
in my mind, I'm like, look, I ended up being
a writer. I barely graduated school and like I said,
I couldn't even handle Honors English. Right, it doesn't to
me equate that much with what you're going to do
later in life. Yes, now, I know that AP classes
help you with the credits. Listen, God bless LB and
taking all those aps.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, totally so it worked out worked in our advantage.
Speaker 2: But she's already kind of a go getter yet, which
she doesn't get from me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and here's the thing.
Speaker 2: These schools, so the test, that AP test is three
hours long and you pay for them, right, they're not cheap, right,
I know some kids at some schools they give it
to them for free. I don't know, they have some fun.
Speaker 1: Qualify I think, yeah, well.
Speaker 2: No, there's all there's financial hardship. But also like last
the LB's last year of school, they were all the
aps were free for all kids. Ok, you just you
sign up for it. You don't have to pay, right,
And I know some schools have that. Our school doesn't.
Those things are like one hundred and fifty dollars a pop.
Maybe the seminar one was one fifty and the other
ones are like one twenty five. But my point is
it's not cheap. Let's say you have twins and there getters.
God forbid, I don't have that, but.
Speaker 1: Like, God forbid, that's for a lot of money too.
Speaker 2: I know it's more than college applications. Yeah, Anyway, our
school makes it so that, like they send out these
notices that are like, hey, AP's are coming up, but
just know that you if you try to miss any school,
like if you have like a doctor's appointment early in
the day, but you get to school in time for
your AP test, like you can't take it.
Speaker 1: Jesuz, what's with the rules?
Speaker 2: I don't know. They're very obsessed with attendance at our school,
so their whole thing is like but the thing is,
like taking an AP test is not a luxury, Like
this means that the kids that go to your school
are go getters and are going above and beyond. And
if your whole thing about your school is like we
want everybody to go to a good college, then like
easy on me, like making everything more difficult, Like basically
they go if you're late for school or if you.
Speaker 1: Even if you have a doctor's appointment.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure, but I would hate to like risk
the rules or if you take an AP you can't
go home, or the next AP test you can't. You
can't You're not allowed to take it.
Speaker 1: Jesus crimey. Yeah, it's a lot of I was. I
was so happy when school is done because and my kids,
because my kids both you know, we all know how
sunny in Italia. You know, these they struggled. They were
you know, they had the the d U.
Speaker 2: I S or what of that?
Speaker 1: What was the thing called I PAS and and and
I had to you know, I had to have a
lot of meetings with the teachers and things like that, accommodations.
But the point is is they got so burned out
by twelfth grade. I was concerned, like, Okay, now you
guys are going off to college. Now it's it's different.
It's all on you. You make what you're gonna make
out of it. And the fact that they're like both
kicking ass, doing really well like their actual some of
their classes. Yes, they have a lot of shitty classes
too that they have to get out of the way.
Ty's got to do stats and everything. She's got a
whole she's taking five classes and if she doesn't get
the GPA that she wants to get to the college,
she's gonna go into summer and she's gonna take classes
during summer. Same thing with Sonny. But I think Sonny's
gonna be okay. But her, like, she's you know, she
really is pushing hard. So and I'm like, why you
guys are doing really well? Uh, you know, I never
I never thought. I mean I not that I never thought,
but the fact that you're enjoying it. And they said,
it's different because we're not tortured all day. There's some
days we don't have to go to class. We have
class online, you know, we can whatever. It's just, you know,
it's not the same. Like high school was such a burden.
Get up every morning, you're there all day till three o'clock.
Most of the stuff it's like are you gonna need it?
You know, things like whatever geometry or I don't know,
that's the science class that they had to take in
eleventh grade. I think it was just such so tough.
So the fact that they're doing really well with school
and they're enjoying it makes me so happy. So I
was happy that school is done. And you're almost there.
Speaker 2: I am almost there. I think senior year will be
a little bit easier. It will. There are certain things,
like Spanish has been kind of kicking Xander's ass because, well,
the problem is the Spanish teacher left midway through the
year and they couldn't get another Spanish teacher, so they
had to move to online. Same exact thing happened to
Elb and it was a total disaster because having a
Spanish teacher is way better than trying to learn Spanish online.
And there's a lot of busy work, and he got
behind when he was doing Greece. Told you I did
see the movie Grease by the way, Yeah, but he
got behind, and now it's kind of kicking his ass.
But next year he doesn't have to take a language.
He is going to take math, but he's going to
take stats. He's going to take statistics. So I know
a lot of kids struggle with that. But Elbe took
statistics and didn't mind it and then got it out
of the way, so she there were a lot of
classes she did not have to take in college.
Speaker 1: AT's see, that's that's nice.
Speaker 2: And she's only been taking three classes.
Speaker 1: Really, yeah, well, I feel she's got a lot of
those out of the way. Yeah, got she got done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so kind of same thing. She's she's really enjoying it.
She says, it's so different than high school. Also, and
I think your kids had the same thing. When Elbe
was in high school, it was a straight schedule, so
it was like one first through sixth period every day,
five days a week, whereas Sadie and Xander have a
block schedule, which I just think is much better. So
they have every class on Monday, but it's there, but
the classes are short. Tuesday they have like three classes
and like, but they're longer, right, there are long classes, yeah,
but there's only a couple of them.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Setting and Italian had block scheduled too, which was
good in some ways, but bad if you have a
class that you really hate and then you're there extra
long on those days. Yeah, that was tough. But yeah,
so their schedule is easier.
Speaker 2: Well, so both kids have a tough schedule on Tuesdays
and Thursdays, but then a very easy schedule Wednesday and Friday.
So it's like, I don't know, I think it makes
the week better because like Wednesday and Friday they're doing electives, rightly, right,
So Xander has his history class, but then he also
he has music, and he has speech and debate, and
he has like advisories. So it's kind of a.
Speaker 1: Cush day, right right. That's nice that they are. So,
you know, here's the other thing I want to ask you.
I was talking to Glenn on the way home on
our car drive from Arizona, and he was telling me
about he has a twenty one year old daughter and
she's going to school full time and she works. And
he said, he said to me, I teach my kids
their credit is everything. When they get old and they
get a job, you want to have good credit because
if you late, you know, you want to buy you
want to Lisa car or buy a car or whatever.
You know. You He said that his daughter has really
good FIGHTA scores and he started, you know, when they
got jobs, he got them their own credit card, the
little limit, a couple hundred dollars limit, but made sure
that they paid it off on time. I was like,
that's a you know, it's a great idea.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a credit card. She has her credit card. I
just got want to discover student credit card. It's in
her name.
Speaker 1: Her credit that's what I got. That's what Natalia got
at Chase. She got h I think it was a student.
She did it by herself, and I get the bill.
But she's got a zellm me money. But you know,
it's some sometimes it's out of her allowance. But now
she's going to be coming home in a few weeks
and we're working on her resume and she wants to
get a job immediately when she gets back, and so
I'm helping her with that. Sonny too a job, I know,
I know Sonny want. Sonny wants to work at Trader
Joe's too, so does Oh.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was telling you that, but I told you
that they opened up that. The guy told me they
opened up the thing, the job opportun tunity, the Trader
Joe's near us, And he told me that. The guy,
the manager said, in three days they had five hundred applications.
Speaker 1: Insane. I know, it's too tough.
Speaker 2: It's like playing the lottery. Yeah, how are you gonna
get in there?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 2: And Xander has friends that work there that vouched for him,
and they've never called him. He's gone by there and
handed his resume and said, you know, interest in the job.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's tons of I told Sending, there's so many
different like restaurants and places to work in our little area.
You know, his friends are all had had jobs in
high school and stuff, little part time jobs at the
chop shop, salad Jersey mics whatever. So but then he's
gonna have to get a car. So then he's gonna
have to pay for it, which I'll have to get him.
Speaker 2: Adam won't get him a car.
Speaker 1: Nope, mm hmm. Natalia tried to No, waita thought she
has a car. She does, but her lease is gonna
be up. And she's like, I I think you know
he's a he's a car guy, and I want I
want Dad to help me find a car. And uh,
I asked her, how did you have that conversation? She said, yeah, no.
Speaker 2: And he just said no, just straight up won't help.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, okay, not to do our ad early, but
seriously definitely calling Oh Adam, he will, Adam, it's it's you.
He will save you so much money and you just
tell him what you're looking for and he'll find.
Speaker 1: When the time comes.
Speaker 2: I know for sure it's low. I get a monthly payment.
He'll do all the research. He'll take care of the
financing and then you'll just get a car.
Speaker 1: There's your head.
Speaker 2: A lot of people do that for their kids. He
deals with a lot of that, Yeah, he does.
Speaker 1: I've seen it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, He's definitely the first thing I think of when
the time comes.
Speaker 2: And there are a lot of deals right now, especially
on electric cars, a lot of rebates and the electric thing.
Speaker 1: It's like, if Natalia has it in Santa Barbara, is
there a place to plug it in?
Speaker 2: You know, right, that's true, So you might want to
do a hybrid for herh Gascar. Yeah, yeah, so we'll see. Yeah,
but there's deals on those two m Yeah.
Speaker 1: But yeah, they're going to be home soon for the summer.
And Suzanne went and got Gracie. She's coming home. She's
done a lot of these kids.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my my, one of my bff's daughters already home,
came home over the weekend.
Speaker 1: I feel like it went so fast.
Speaker 2: It's only May, I know, but yeah, Alby's got like
another six Albe doesn't get out until mid June, but.
Speaker 1: It's Natalia gets out. I don't know, I sun anything
in June too. I think Natalia is coming home in
a few weeks.
Speaker 2: Don't you feel like though now that now that you
sent your kids to college. I don't know. Maybe maybe
it's different for some people, but because both your kids
are fairly close. But I have never had to miss Albie.
Speaker 1: I know. I Natalia came home for a couple of
days last week. It would probably be a Patreon. But
whatever her roommate was, as my mother would say, is
a given her a headache?
Speaker 2: Oh really yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and a given everybody around her a headache. I
guess she has a boyfriend now, so she gets really
bitchy when when he's around. I don't know. So Natalia's like,
I'm just coming home for a couple of days. I
was like, good, But it was great for me. I
bonded with her. We were talking about everything and you know,
get caught up. It was really nice. I love that
she But she didn't come home very often at all
up until kind of recently. And then Sonny, well't you
Sonny's been home quite a few times, and then he's
going to be back for the summer.
Speaker 2: How is his ankle? Is it all better?
Speaker 1: All better?
Speaker 2: Oh? Good? Yeah, yes, Sometimes those things can take a
long time to heal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And he had a great time in Korea. He
was sick though his stomach. This kid doesn't do good.
He's a paradise. He's like the rest of all the
guys in my family too, are the my nephews are
the same way. They all have sensitive stomachs. So Sonny
eating you know, kim chi every day was just going,
you know, giving him a hard time with his stomach.
And then so Sonny in his in his pal they
would have to take train sometimes. Sometimes they like one
day they traveled for twelve hours, you know, but that
I think there was a lot of traveling, but just
you know, there's like an hour long train ride, then
another train ride. Sometimes the trains don't have bathrooms, and
he's just went out to dinner and now he's like,
can't wait to get home because the food and uh.
Speaker 2: You know so well, last time that happened to him.
Speaker 1: It happened to him last year.
Speaker 2: He had to be stuck in the bathroom and they
had had a behind that broke my heart.
Speaker 1: Yes, No, he took the last train. No, he took
an uber. It was like late and his friends were leaving.
They're like, we're leaving, and he was stuck in the bathroom,
and the guys that worked at the station didn't speak
any English, and they were, you know, trying to close up,
and they're yelling at Sonny. He was in the stall
in the bathroom. While he's trying to go to the bathroom,
they're yelling at him. He's like, I don't speak English.
He's trying to on his app trying to tell him
what's going on, and they're like, come on, come on,
you know. Yes, so I think he's done with Asia
for a while. Oh, maybe he needs some Italian food
or did he have fun though, Yes, he had a
great time. They went on a really long hike, They
went to some museums, they took the bullet train. Yeah,
they just tooled around Korea. He said, it was.
Speaker 2: It was.
Speaker 1: They have a lot of the same customs as Japan,
but more relaxed. Like in Japan, it's frowned upon to
walk around and drink in public or eat food and public.
Korea not so much. It's a little more relaxed. But
the beds in Japan were way more uncomfortable compared to
the ones in Korea. Korea, they're basically like a merit
like a hotel in New York. But the hotel beds
and Japan are like, you know there, it's custom. It's
a it's kind of like they're custom. But Sonny's like
some customs are like after a while, you know, like
aren't there taller people that want to be more comfortable?
I don't know that. The beds are extremely tiny for
him and not just short, but like skinny, like his
shoulders barely fit on the whole thing. But uh, but yes,
he had a great time and he did a lot
of like he had when he first got there. He
traveled for twenty fridesy to do you know, one around
by himself, finding everything and it was easy. And coming
home he came home by himself. It was great. Yeah,
he did a great time.
Speaker 2: That's so cool. He's adventurous, never asks for anything, so
I was happy to send him.
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f co ol Nice. Yeah, I was just gonna say
too that with LB. I was just actually talk discussing
this with Julie because both of us have kids at UCLA,
and I was like, you know, the year that Elby
was home, the thing is the time that I spend
with Elby now is so much better then. Even though
she was home for that whole year in between high
school and going to UCLA, it was such a drag
because she was so unhappy. I remember that she was
just sad all the time, and it was like a
lot of worrying and a lot of them, you know,
just like how are you Albie quiet? You know, just
staying in her room. And now when I see her,
even though I see her a lot less, but when
I see her, she's just a different person and she
shares stuff with me, and it's like it's so much
more intentional because like when I go pick her up,
I get like, hi, Mama, Like she's like beaming and
like excited and like what do you want to do?
You want to go get something to eat, and then
we sit and she gossips with me and you know
the best. And I felt like, I, oh, let me
leave her alone, like leave her be, because it always
felt like I was being intrusive, like evading her space
or like yes, you know. Now it's like, oh, when
I see her, we have a great time. And if
I was to say, like, hey, do you want to
go to the mall, she'd be like, yeah, let's go
to the mall.
Speaker 1: And then it's so nice, I know. And as the
girls get older, you know, they change a little bit.
Like I remember there was a time it was like
senior year and I would ask Natalia, well, she would
tell me some things about her friends, and then i'd
you know, later a few weeks later, I'd ask her
about it and she goes, okay, do we have We
don't need to talk about it. We already I already
told you you know, like that. But now, you know,
like when she was here a couple of days and
I asked her about that date. You know, I was
like can you I said, you know, I approached it
like do you want to finish telling me about the
date you went on? And she's like, oh, yeah, and
then she went into it and we talked about it,
and she was telling me about a couple other guys
that have asked her out other dates she's been on,
and then she's telling me about her really good guy
friends that she loves and this is what they do
for her and the stories. She's showing me videos and
stuff like just so it was just nice, Like I
never have that chance with Natalia. Sonny and I talk
all the time. We we I get on the phone
with Sonny a couple times a week when he's in Oregon,
and we just most of the time it's him talking
about sports but whatever, you know, like we talk, you know,
and then we're talking.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But with Natalia, she's it's always been like hi, goodbye,
you know, keeping everything short. And now like since this
last year, she's way more. She'll call me in between
her classes because she has nobody else to talk to,
and she knows that I'll pick up immediately and we'll talk,
and then you know, she's getting something to eat while
we're talking, and you know, and then she's like, Okay,
I gotta go now by you know, I love it.
I love it. It's totally she's totally changed, you know,
it's getting older.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it. And you know, if I think
about it too, it's the same with me, where like, oh,
I'll be used to She's always been kind of private.
She's a lot less private all of a sudden, right
Like when I ask her questions, she used to kind
of bristle a little bit, like especially about like boys stuff.
Totally she don't want to talk about it. Now she
totally wants to talk about it with me. She wants
to like analyze stuff and like get into it with
you know I do. Yes, I love it and yeah
me it's the same. But it used to be too
with the friends stuff. Same thing where like she tell
me this whole story about let's say, something that was
bothering her. Right then the next time I go to say, like, oh,
so what's going on with that, she'd be like what
do you mean? Uh huh, Say, well, you were telling
me a whole story about it. She's like, yeah, it's
the same, and I'd be like, okay, right, I know
that you'd want to, like, yes, rehash it right now
She kind of does. Yeah. Now, if I give me
an update about this or give me an update about that,
she'll be like, oh, okay, and she knows that I
like to gossip in a fun way, right, not like
me and gossip ever, But you know she knows I
liked the details. So she'll be like, oh, mom, do
you want to hear about She's like, I know you'll
want to hear about this. She's like, oh, I got
something for you.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: I know. I eat it up. It's so great.
Speaker 1: Now, what's gonna happen? Like Xander's gonna go off? You
think he's gonna leave live at home? No, I don't.
He doesn't want to.
Speaker 2: It's tricky.
Speaker 1: It's tricky to rack around, to rock her around.
Speaker 2: That's right on time.
Speaker 1: It's chicky gz chicky chick chick. It's rock around, no
rock Arama's right on time.
Speaker 2: It's chicky.
Speaker 1: Oh he said, we say.
Speaker 2: He's by Buddas.
Speaker 1: Tinted windows don't mean nothing. They know who's inside is chicken.
Speaker 2: And racker around too.
Speaker 1: Come on, kaylin, rack around.
Speaker 2: That's right on time.
Speaker 1: It's chicky, ticky, chicky, chicky chicky. In New York, the
people talking trying to wake the Ryan, you really hope,
but they don't don't because they got no time. But
in the City.
Speaker 2: It's a pity, one of the best albums. I love
that every song is a hit. Run DMC. That is
like classic run DMC.
Speaker 1: Do you know that it was run DMC? No? Did
you think we were making this song? No?
Speaker 3: I didn't know. I know that song, but I didn't
know who's saying it.
Speaker 1: Oh, mother one to me?
Speaker 2: I started singing. You know what's funny about the kids?
Speaking of Xander, he knows every song. He knows eighty songs.
He knows seventies songs from from listening to yacht rock.
It's like these kids, their brains, they have so much
more room in their memory. I do so like he
knows so many lyrics to songs, but he knows lyrics
to like eighties songs, some of them better than I do. Right,
Like he would sing it's tricky, and I'd be like
Leah forgot right. Yeah, he'd be like mom and then
just sing me the whole song. Right. He knows Beastie
Boys songs. Yeah, he has favorite beat. I was trying
to play him. She's crafty. I love more of the
words than I knew.
Speaker 1: And I know that song.
Speaker 2: Oh scrubs, No scrubs, you can sing all the words
to No Scrubs love that and I'm like, I miss
some of it, and I'm like, oh, it's a bust exactly.
He's like all the lyrics right right.
Speaker 1: I think they like they they discover that kind of stuff,
you know, like Instagram or TikTok or whatever. Yes, yeah, yes, yeah.
Speaker 2: It's so funny though, the songs that he knows that
I'm like, you don't know this song and he's like, yeah,
I do. I know it's crazy, but he knows old
songs too, just I guess from I love that he
could sing Brandy, You're a fine girl. Yeah, what a
good wife. You would be such a good my lady.
Oh my god. This is totally off topic. But my friend,
my friend Cecily, not podcast partner Cecily, but my mom
friend Cecily. She got for her birthday. She got us
tickets to go see the yacht rock really by Nature,
but you know the one that I love, not his face,
you know, the yacht rock the big yacht rock band
that now I can't think of the name of it.
But she got good seats to wherever We're going. That
was which she got for her birthday and then invited.
Speaker 1: Me, Wow, that's nice. Where are they playing now? I
can't remember at the place out in Thousand Oaks, so
not the.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, it's somewhere else, but like where you
get like real seats. I don't know all reports coling
next week because it's not till November. Oh okay, all right,
but listen, at my age, I like to have stuff
like like to look forward to. I know, no, it's fun,
like it's like a little fun thing to think about.
Speaker 1: Right we're going. We were saying, like this weekend was
such a success. Suzanne was the one that was missing,
and Glenn said, we'll do it again, but not until
like October because it's miserable now starting now because out
there it's like one hundred and ten. Shit, it gets
really miserably hot. So he's like, not October, it'll be nice,
like now he has something to look forward to.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but back to Xander and call.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So different than Elbe. So Elbe was very much like
and this is what ended up fucking her, although in
the end it all worked out so it didn't. It
didn't really. But Elbe was like, I want to go
to school in California, and I want to go to
a big school. So her dream school was UCLA. From
early on, she'd gone on a tour of it. Young
We used to go to the UCLA basketball girls basketball
games and then she, like I said, she toured it
in junior year and then she was like, that's my
dream school. But then she didn't feel like she had
the grades and the extracurriculars to get in there. So
then her hope was Santa Barbara, which we really felt
confident about. But the point is she had like, this
is the type of school I want to go to.
When we went to tourist Santa Barbara, she was like,
I'm in.
Speaker 1: This is what I want.
Speaker 2: And she already knew that she wanted to major in psychology,
which did not she's sociology, but she loves it now.
She was very clear, like I want to be in California,
so I'm not even She applied to a couple of
other schools, but even when it came down to it,
she was like, I'm not going to go I'm not
going to go to them. Although after she came with
me to New York to do JUW Barrymore, she was like,
I kind of like, maybe I should have applied to
some East Coast schools because yeah, that I've been here
and done this, Like I think I could have lived
this life. But she's so happy. Everything's fine. Xander does
is like I don't know, I don't know what I
want to major in. Actually, if anybody can help me
and come up with okay. So here's what Xander loves.
He loves music. He's very into music. I mean, the
kid plays his guitar, you know how they say you
know how we talked about the idea that like getting
your kids into an activity and then you have to
make them practice and it can and if you have
to do. But then there's the kids that are super
into something that they just do it on their own.
That's Xander with guitar. From the time he's taught himself
how to play guitar. We tried with the lessons. He
did it like one or two times, and he was like, oh,
it's not for me taking lessons, right, Fria can YouTube
videos like taught himself taught during COVID and now he
is like he plays guitar every single day. If he's home,
he's playing his guitar. He's playing it like he plays
it to relax. Right, like he doesn't need a break
from guitar, but he's had a stressful day.
Speaker 1: That's a good sign.
Speaker 2: He's unwinding by playing guitar, always working, he's always challenging himself.
He's really good.
Speaker 1: That's interesting because we were listening to the audiobook of
Alex van Halen on the way home, and he dedicated
the book to his brother and he talked about when
they were little. Their dad was a musician and he
didn't care if they played, but the mother did. So
the mother she was more of the disciplinarian where she
was like, if that your husband, my husband wants you
to be a musician's just start like she first started
them on piano or whatever. But then they got older,
they were seeing like the Beatles and all these bands,
and they were, you know, they wanted to start playing
other instruments. So Alex started playing the guitar, Eddie started
playing the drums, and they loved it. They would come
home and just play, and the dad was like, hey,
that's what they want to play. Let him play. Like
we forced him with the piano, but obviously they want
to do this, let him play that. And then after
a while they were playing and they switched and now
you know, the rest is history. But if you had
and Tommy Lee too, I've I've read his book. Like
he all he wanted to do is play those drums.
And my friend Craig that we were on the trip with,
he was a drummer and a band for a long time.
We loved to go see him play. And he was
saying the other day that if he had YouTube, he
would have been a way better drummer. It makes a
world of a difference. He's like, if I had YouTube,
like back then when I was a kid, I would
be a totally bad I would probably you know, went
on to playing with other bands, being a musician in studio,
you know, on records or something.
Speaker 2: But it's I mean tutorials for any song. Like so
Xander is like, oh, I want to learn how to
play this song? Right that looks up the tutorial and
like my.
Speaker 1: Point is back to Xander, is that if that's what
he likes and it's coming naturally to him, you know
that he should keep it going. So he likes music.
Speaker 2: He likes music, but he doesn't know if he wants
to major in music because a that in college is
like a lot of it is more classical music. There
isn't really like rock guitar major in college. So he's like,
I would be interested in majoring in like music in
music production. But he's never even really done it that much,
you know what I mean, Like he's not it's not
like he's on his own doing that. So he's like,
but he's also so he doesn't love like straight up acting,
so he doesn't think he wants to major in theater,
but he does he loves comedy. Uh huh, Now there's
a comedy program. He really He's like, if I I
just want to major in comedy, like I want to
write sketches and like, I know, but that it's that
is a very specific. There's one college that has it,
Emerson as a literal comedy major, but Emerson is really
expensive and it's in Boston, and I just don't know
if I can afford to pay for that for four
years to major in comedy, which, dude, you live in
LA You could do something else and then go take
classes at UCB And you know what I mean, Like,
do you if we were rich, I'd be like, sure,
go spend four years learning about comedy in college and
experimenting and having fun. But there's a part of me
that's like, but then I've suggested that maybe screenwriting or
like a writing degree's just going to say, and then
focus it on comedy and make all your pieces comedic.
I don't know.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say the same thing, right, Yeah, what
about cal Arts?
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, it's really expensive, So like I could, I'll
let him apply and see if we could get a deal,
But like, I don't know. I'm like confused as to
and he's confused, and I'm like, let's go look at
some schools and see what you vibe with, right, because
you see, Santa Barbara has a creative writing program that
I feel like could be good. But he's like, I
don't know. So he's in that mode of like nothing
is Like LB would get real excited about a certain
school the vibes, Xander's like he doesn't know what he wants.
I can take him to see some schools, but it's
been hard because his high school doesn't allow for like
juniors to go miss days to go see school.
Speaker 1: He's got to wait till senior year.
Speaker 2: Senior year they get they can go visit, they can
go do college tours. But I would like, maybe I'll
take him for one over the summer or you know,
I don't know. I guess they have Saturday tours for
some schools. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think you should just take them around and see
schools and things. Yeah, and then you know, something will spark.
Speaker 2: And then Setny. Sadie is more set on Xander does
not want to live at home. He wants to go
to college, and Sadie, I think would like to stay local,
maybe at least for the first year. And I dip
her toe into it and see if college is even
for her. So I got two different types of kids.
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Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: After last week? Yeah, you kind of have your friends
and neighbors. No the John Ham, No, I haven't I vehicle.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's gotten progressively worse every week. Dang it. This one.
John and I were like, come on, come on, come
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you how many times we both like looked at each
other and had giant eye roll like are you are
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Speaker 1: So disappointing because I haven't caught I haven't I'm not
caught up, and we were I was with my friends
who are kind of like civilians, you know, not in television,
and like, yeah, they love it, and I'm like, really
is it? Is it? Like?
Speaker 2: They love?
Speaker 1: Of course they love the first episode, and I was
telling them that it was getting kind of like not
so great. The writing's not that good. And then they
were like, oh, it's good. It's fine. It's like okay,
all right, we're just snobs.
Speaker 2: I guess maybe so. But the studio, are you guys
watching the studio.
Speaker 1: I love that show. I haven't getten better.
Speaker 2: That was getting better, Yes, getting more curby your enthusias.
Speaker 1: Right, yes, you get the you get okay makes Pratt
does the Pratt falls and it's a little over the
top and everybody, you know, you get the straight out
of casting, casting of the chick, the publicist, like everything's
like you know, that's Delulu, you know that kind of
But it's gotten better. It gets I think the first
episode I was like eh with Marty scorsesey, but then
I got the gist, like Okay, this is what's going on,
and but.
Speaker 2: It's less prout folly like it is aired crazy over
the top. Did you see last week now? I haven't
seen like two. No, I can't really funny.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm gonna go watch that ship tonight.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this one it just aired over the weekend, and
the one the week before was I thought, really funny.
Speaker 1: I think it's it.
Speaker 3: I like it.
Speaker 1: I like the studio. Yeah that was really good.
Speaker 2: But yeah, no, Friends is like Seth Rogan too. I
like him too. I used to, and he's really smart
and funny and on the right side of things, and
I used to really get him confused with Jonah Hill,
he too talked about. But Jonah Hill is like God
is way more problematic, like Seth Rogan is like a
good guy. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Seth Rogan is a great guy for sure. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like him when I hear his interviews on Howard Stern,
I love him. He's so down to earth. I love
his laugh and everything. Yeah, I like him a lot.
I never really paid attention to him until this show.
You know, always thought he was just like for Stoner's
or something. I don't know, but but yeah, because I
think he originally was that was like his name thing.
Speaker 2: He writes super bad. He did, and then Jonah Hill
played like him. But then he they were both like
fat Stoners, right, both of them like lost weight and
like became like a little bit more serious.
Speaker 3: Jonah Hill definitely lost He kind of went up and
down there for a while, and then he definitely lost
a lot of weight. But I don't think Seth Rogan
really I guess he did lose weight.
Speaker 1: He was kind of he was a little chubby. He's
like my nephews, Like he was like in the awkward
stage or something. I don't know how old he was,
but yeah, he was a little chubby. But then he
got guys get better looking as they get older too,
some of them, like my guy friends, They're all like
they get better looking as they get older.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I think that.
Speaker 1: Uh, I like those two shows. Well, I'm rooting for
Friends and Neighbors, but right now that's the only shows
I'm I'm other than watching like you know, Karen Reid
Stuff and Puff Daddy. I was watching this morning on
tubou toob tmz. Harvey Levin has like updates now, I
think weekly updates on the p Didty trial and he
had Gara Gos and Nancy Grace on the one I
watched this morning, and they were going at it, arguing
with each other. Oh really yeah, it was pretty funny.
Speaker 2: But like, is pro Diddy right? Yeah? I mean he
was so God is he ever on the wrong side
of something? Right? So he's a defense attorney.
Speaker 1: He's a defense attorney and his daughter is like number
two up there as for his defense team, and he
got in trouble. So if you if you watched the
Angry Two Angry Men podcast with Harvey Levin and Mark Garratt,
goes like a week ago before the trial started, he
was said he made a comment and said, the legal
team for the prosecution is six a pack of six
white women. Is that what he said? Oh?
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is the This came out as like a
news story, right right, and the judge heard some white women.
Speaker 1: I guess not. Well, he was talking about that on
our show. Yeah, so the judge said, like, I don't know,
he got pissed about it. And then the judge said,
I'm going to be watching your podcast. Yeah yeah, and yes,
So Gerret Goos was all over that for the first
week he was at the courthouse. He was sitting behind
them in the courtroom and Diddy, I guess, look is
all gray and it's thin and not looking good.
Speaker 2: And probably on purpose.
Speaker 1: I also, yeah, I also heard the saying that he
got a hold of a cell phone while he's been
at that jail, and he also got like a serial
number you can use so that they can't they don't
know it's him using the phone and he like was trying.
So they're like, he can't even abide by the rules
while he's in jail. We're not gonna let him out
on bail, right, So I don't know, I don't know
what's gonna happen. It's gonna be crazy.
Speaker 2: So yeah, a flight risk. Come on, right, that guy's
gonna hop on one of his boats, get on a
jail by Yeah, you know, go to a Roman pilancerpos
not liking white women. It's pretty funny. He I mean,
he's such a we love us some Mark Garrett. It's
such a so yeah, but like he can smile on
your face and go, you're a big nightmare for jury,
just a middle aged white woman right when I was
like hot card Dad definitely did it. But like you're
a nightmare, how right, because I see the truth, Mark, I.
Speaker 1: Know, I don't know, it's it's uh. And then there's
one uh, there's one person. They're gonna have Cassie Ventura.
She's going to be like their uh start witness, but
they have another witness that does not want Like she's
like in the top three that they want to call,
and she doesn't want to do it. She's afraid, and
they're trying to get her to, you know, uh take
the stand.
Speaker 2: But they they have their defense. Part of their defense
is that Cassie was it was like a consensual thing.
Speaker 1: That's what they're going for. Like they're all adults, they're
all consensual.
Speaker 2: Yeah, except that we all saw the videotape.
Speaker 1: Imagine the other videotapes they have after they went through
all his mansions. I mean they took his hard drives.
I guarantee they saw other ship on there. So how
are they gonna that when you watch a video of
that ship going down, how are you gonna say? I
don't know, like that that could work. I don't know
if it's consensual unless they really, you know, can put
together a good cage, which I think they are going to.
I think that they pretty pretty much feel confident, but
I don't know. It's gonna be pretty crazy. And then
who's what other you know, celebrities are gonna whose names
are gonna come out? That's quite interesting? Yeah? Is it
started or they just they're gonna They're finished today. Today's Monday.
They're finishing the jury selection and they should be starting
testimony by tomorrow.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, well we will stay on that because we're
pretty good like court reporters. Yeah, and I wonder I
need to see what's happening with Karen Reid.
Speaker 1: I'm behind on Karen Reid, although they did play her
voicemail messages which are kind of hilarious and after I
heard that, I was like, man, this bitch is nuts.
Maybe she did do it, and why is she Here's
the thing when she's saying they had somebody on the
stand like an EMT saying that she said I hit him,
I hit him, and then the police officer came. She
said the police officer asked him, when asked her what happened,
and she's like, I think I hit him. I hit him.
You know, she said it a lot of times. But
to me, that's like a She's such a narcissist that
it's like, I could you know see that she's making
it even in his death, she's making it about her
like could could I have hit him? Could I have
hit him? I don't know? And then when you hear
voice messages, I have to second guess, like maybe she did.
She's fucking nuts.
Speaker 2: Well as you know, I think she did do it.
But I know everybody disagrees with me.
Speaker 1: Oh fuck yourself. I love that one.
Speaker 2: Yeah pervert, Yeah, rap pervert. You're a rap pervert.
Speaker 1: John, It's one am. I'm with your nephew. Fuck yourself.
I say that all the time. I know, go fuck yourself.
Speaker 2: I know we're gonna start doing the like the what
was our our pam uh not Pam smart? But whoa
whoa whoa.
Speaker 4: Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa
whoa go fuck yourself yourself, fuck yourself. Somebody wrote it
online too, the way.
Speaker 1: Like f A h c K like fuck yourself yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, An, I think that we have to take
it seriously that she literally has no memory of what happened.
So you can't say, like, no, she remembers, she knows
she didn't do it. No, she doesn't. She was so
so drunk. Listen, I'm not saying this is I'm not
saying this is proof that she did it, okay right now,
but I'm saying what people that are like, No, she
absolutely didn't do it. She was framed. She knows she
didn't do it. No, she doesn't. She doesn't have a
memory of what happened. She said that. So if she's
saying like I hit him, and everyone's saying, oh, and
she never said that, that's all been it's all a conspiracy.
They're all saying that she said it, but she didn't
say it. I don't think that they could have gotten
everyone in on the conspiracy. But I'm not gonna say
anything else because I know people think that I'm not
looking at all. The cares. It's your opinion.
Speaker 1: Cares go, well, fuck yourselves, everybody. She's guilty, she's innocent.
Who knows. I don't know. I it is the thing though, Yeah,
I mean it's just like, well it could be I
don't know, like fifty to fifty. But the the the police,
there was a lot of fucking weird shit going.
Speaker 2: Definitely hundred percent. Kaitlin, you have a movie that you
said that we should all watch that.
Speaker 1: It was Nonahs. I'm gonna watch that.
Speaker 3: What is it?
Speaker 1: Bonah's on Netflix? Nona's Yeah, it's Vince. Sorry one second,
it's Vince Vund's movie. He's in it and he played
and it's based on a true story in New York City.
He gets a restaurant and he hires all these nonahs
like Nanas to cook Grandma's Italian old school grammas to cook.
And there's like what's your name? From Goodfellas is in it? Like, oh,
what's her name? From the Sopranos. There's a lot of
actress that Susan Sarandon's one of the Nona's Yeah, it's
really it looks good, so I'm gonna watch it.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'll watch that, all right.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I watched the movie on Peacock last week called
Black Bag, which is like a kind of spy thriller
with Michael Fossbender, you know, Michael Fossbender and Kate Blanchett,
and it's it's a very kind of like simple movie,
but they play like I five, like British intelligence agents
and they're kind of trying to like just find kind
of like a mole in the in the agency or whatever.
And it's it's good.
Speaker 1: It's good. It's on Peacock. Oh, also on Peacock as
Karen Reid, so they're they're Boston ten in NBC New
York Local News. They do I guess, like a half
hour wrap up of every day and then they're putting
it on Peacock and you can stream it. There's three
episodes so far, but it's each week and each episode
is like almost two hours, so it's like every night
all of there. Oh hell yeah, now watch that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I want there to be like a podcast, like maybe
a daily podcast.
Speaker 1: I think there is is there. I don't know, I'm
probably there. Is, but yeah, on Peacock you can watch
the whole wrap up each week.
Speaker 2: I gotta tell you that I am so out of
podcasts right now.
Speaker 1: I was what I was listening listen to the Two
Angry Men podcast. Okay that listen to the episode. It's
Nancy Grace and and and Garrett go's going at it.
It's really funny actually, and she gives them a whole
fucking hard time about Scott Peterson. She's like, you're Delulu. No,
She's like, oh yeah, She's like she's arguing. She's like, okay,
mar like totally like what you would say to him,
totally arguing with him. It's really funny.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you gotta watch Peterson. His blind spot for
Scott Peterson is hilarious.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's the Lulu.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's his lawyer. What's he supposed to say? Like,
I probably did it right.
Speaker 1: Now, it's over, absolutely not right.
Speaker 2: I want to know, are these menandos brothers out yet?
What's happening with you now?
Speaker 1: He talks about that on the podcast too. He gives
you updates about that. Oh my god, he's fighting though
every day, like for them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of at this point want them out
of jail.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's good enough enough, We're good. Look, they're not
a danger. I don't think they're a danger to society.
Speaker 2: No, probably not.
Speaker 1: No. And all the good things they've done in jail
since all the programs they've set up.
Speaker 2: They've done a lot. Really yeah, like all the Yeah,
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Thanks Caylin. You're a parent, now, don't f it up.
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