Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm back. Listen. I hope everyone is
Speaker 1: doing well. Thank you so much for tuning in to
Speaker 1: my podcast. Hey, You're always welcome to reach out to me.
Speaker 1: Much much, much much love to each and every one
Speaker 1: of you. Today, let's get into it. If loving them
Speaker 1: is wrong, run seriously. If loving him or her is wrong, run,
Speaker 1: I mean seriously. What I find the problem to be
Speaker 1: for most people is individuals are blind. Now, years ago
Speaker 1: I talked about if loving you is wrong, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be right, which if you listen to that episode,
Speaker 1: I wasn't going along with that. I was speaking against it,
Speaker 1: just like I'm speaking against this. Many people always say,
Speaker 1: you know, the cliche love is blind. That's a lie.
Speaker 1: That's a lie from the pit of hell. It's a lie.
Speaker 1: Love is not blind. People are blind. People who are
Speaker 1: individuals who think they're in love they are blind. And
Speaker 1: people are blind, you know, just in general, because of
Speaker 1: the hearts and minds of people. If loving them is wrong,
Speaker 1: run bela Forrest Gump, Run run run seriously, because if
Speaker 1: it's wrong, that means it's no good for you. You have
Speaker 1: to be able to see beyond all of the little
Speaker 1: butterflies you're getting in your stomach. You have to see
Speaker 1: beyond how you feel. You have to see beyond what
Speaker 1: your eyes can see. If you don't, I promise you
Speaker 1: you will suffer the consequences you will. So many people
Speaker 1: get into unnecessary relationships with individuals who are no good
Speaker 1: with you know, good for them. Unnecessary because you didn't
Speaker 1: have to do it, You didn't have to go that way.
Speaker 1: But many people do because they're blind. They cannot see
Speaker 1: beyond what they want, what they desire, how they feel.
Speaker 1: They just can't see beyond those things, and they find
Speaker 1: themselves in bad situations. Many people have even end up dead.
Speaker 1: Many people have ended up dead because they got into
Speaker 1: relationships with individuals who were no good for them. Sometimes
Speaker 1: you can see it right out. Sometimes it's subtle things
Speaker 1: they do. But a person always, always, always, always, without
Speaker 1: fail show you who they really are. You may not
Speaker 1: believe it, but that I mean it's not true. People always,
Speaker 1: at some point or another show you who they are.
Speaker 1: Now you don't have to believe it. You can deny it,
Speaker 1: you can sugarcoat it, you can water it down, you
Speaker 1: can just pretend that what you see is just not real.
Speaker 1: Whatever you choose is on you. But just remember the
Speaker 1: choice and the decisions you make. You gotta live with
Speaker 1: the consequences. And unfortunately, some people are in their grades
Speaker 1: right now because they chose wrong. They chose wrong. They
Speaker 1: chose wrong because they couldnt see beyond what they wanted,
Speaker 1: how they felt, what they desired. They couldn't say beyond it.
Speaker 1: If a person that you have all of these feelings
Speaker 1: and emotions for, if that person is no good for you,
Speaker 1: they're no good for you. If loving that person is wrong,
Speaker 1: that's it. I'm washing my hands of that person. That's
Speaker 1: what you should be doing. If loving that person is wrong,
Speaker 1: you should not want any parts of it. None, no one,
Speaker 1: no man, no woman is worth it. Not one. They're
Speaker 1: not worth it. When a person is not good for you,
Speaker 1: let me tell you. When a person is not good
Speaker 1: for you and you open yourself up to that person,
Speaker 1: you open your life up to that person, you definitely
Speaker 1: making a wrong decision. You are making a very bad
Speaker 1: decision for you. And sometimes it involves your family, your children,
Speaker 1: because some people have killed the children, the significant other,
Speaker 1: their mom, other people. I mean, you can put so
Speaker 1: many people in harm's way, so many in harm's way.
Speaker 1: When you make bad choices and decisions when you're blind
Speaker 1: and it cannot see the truth it. Just think about it.
Speaker 1: Think about what I'm saying right now. If loving them
Speaker 1: is wrong, run, just think about that. If loving them
Speaker 1: is wrong, don't even consider If loving them is wrong,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be right. Don't even consider that.
Speaker 1: If loving them is wrong, that should be the end
Speaker 1: of it. You shouldn't want anything to do with that person.
Speaker 1: I don't care how fine they are. I don't care
Speaker 1: how gorgeous they are, how much money they have, what
Speaker 1: they have, they're titles, their positions, None of that should
Speaker 1: matter to you if loving them is wrong. Many of
Speaker 1: you have gotten into relationships with married people. You know,
Speaker 1: you know, without even thinking about it, you know it's wrong.
Speaker 1: Never set your heart on someone who's already taken, whether
Speaker 1: it's a married person or it's somebody's else significant other,
Speaker 1: just dating. Never set your sights on someone else's baboo.
Speaker 1: Never do that. You deserve better than that. Stop selling
Speaker 1: yourself short. You deserve better than to be with someone
Speaker 1: that belongs to someone else in the essence of being
Speaker 1: in a relationship, because no one is no one else's property.
Speaker 1: But I'm saying being in a relationship with someone else,
Speaker 1: you should never settle for that because that comes alone
Speaker 1: with a lot problems, and it also could come along
Speaker 1: with some danger because a lot of times you don't
Speaker 1: know the other individual. You don't know what they're capable of.
Speaker 1: People can go to another level when you're messing with
Speaker 1: their significant others, so you don't know. Don't put yourself
Speaker 1: in that situation. Don't bring harm to yourself or to
Speaker 1: your family or friends. So if loving them is wrong,
Speaker 1: look at it just like that. It's wrong, and you
Speaker 1: shouldn't want any parts of it. Stop allowing your hearts
Speaker 1: to lead you into bad places. Stop allowing your heart
Speaker 1: to cause you to get into relationships with individuals you
Speaker 1: shouldn't be with. I mean, you have sense enough to
Speaker 1: know right from wrong, total sense enough to know right
Speaker 1: from wrong. So if you willfully move forward with someone
Speaker 1: that you know is wrong for you, I'm telling you
Speaker 1: the consequences can be far greater than what you can
Speaker 1: ever anticipate. So you have to be mindful and aware
Speaker 1: of what you become involved with, who you become involved with,
Speaker 1: because if they're wrong, it's wrong. You cannot get into
Speaker 1: a relationship you can't get into one and think that
Speaker 1: this person is going to bring you all of these
Speaker 1: great things when it's wrong, and think about this. People
Speaker 1: have agendas. They know it's wrong, but they also know
Speaker 1: you don't care because you can't see beyond your feelings,
Speaker 1: your wants, your desires. They know it, they know the
Speaker 1: relationship is wrong, but they have an agenda, and unfortunately
Speaker 1: a lot of people cannot see it because they just
Speaker 1: want what they want. Many people set themselves up from
Speaker 1: the gate, from the start, from the beginning, by moving
Speaker 1: on into relationships with individuals that you know are no
Speaker 1: good for you. I've told you before. I've heard people say, oh,
Speaker 1: I just didn't see the signs. There were no signs.
Speaker 1: That's a lie. You're still in denial. You know there
Speaker 1: were signs. There are always, always, always signs and red
Speaker 1: flags always. Now you can deny them, but they're there.
Speaker 1: They are there, and just because you want to be
Speaker 1: with the person so bad, it does not change the
Speaker 1: reality that there are signs of red flags that you've
Speaker 1: chosen to ignore. I mean, I just want you to
Speaker 1: think about it. Why would you want to be with
Speaker 1: someone who's wrong for you? If you do, I'm telling
Speaker 1: you right now. If you do, you have some growing
Speaker 1: to do. There is some unhealed part of you that
Speaker 1: needs attention. You need to deal with that in order
Speaker 1: to grow and mature and love yourself. Because if anything
Speaker 1: or anyone is no good for you, is wrong for you, you
Speaker 1: shouldn't want any parts of it. And that's just the
Speaker 1: bottom line. When you want someone so bad, all you
Speaker 1: do is give power to those thoughts. Or I just
Speaker 1: I have to have him, I have to have her.
Speaker 1: You just can't stop thinking about them. Every waking moment
Speaker 1: you're thinking about them. That's because you're giving power to
Speaker 1: those thoughts. Remember those thoughts. For those of you who've
Speaker 1: listened to me before, remember those thoughts. I tell you
Speaker 1: all the time, when you think on something, the more
Speaker 1: you think on it, the more you give power to
Speaker 1: those thoughts, the more you get power to them. And
Speaker 1: most times it's negativity. When you're thinking about someone else's husband, girlfriend,
Speaker 1: or boyfriend. You know you're wrong, but you let your
Speaker 1: heart in your unhealthy way of thinking, getting the way.
Speaker 1: But you know it's not right because think of it.
Speaker 1: If if it were you think of it that way.
Speaker 1: If it were you would you want someone doing it?
Speaker 1: To you, would you want your significant other doing it
Speaker 1: to you with someone So you have to be able
Speaker 1: to look at it more than one way. So many
Speaker 1: people in this world got into relationships the wrong way
Speaker 1: and thinking, oh, they're gonna have all of these great
Speaker 1: things from that relationship. No, No, you get into it
Speaker 1: the wrong way. Nine out of ten times it's gonna
Speaker 1: end based on how you got into that relationship. When
Speaker 1: you go into it the wrong way, that is normally
Speaker 1: how it ends. What do I mean? You get into
Speaker 1: a relationship with a married person or a person who's
Speaker 1: involved in a relationship those same issues is what's gonna
Speaker 1: break you up. Either they gonna do it again with
Speaker 1: someone else, something is gonna happen, and you're gonna find
Speaker 1: yourself faced with that same issue that you formed your
Speaker 1: relationship upon. It's like getting in relationships with abusive people.
Speaker 1: You're gonna get sick of that abuse and you're gonna
Speaker 1: want to get out. But for a lot of people,
Speaker 1: you've stayed too long. Some of you, it's getting into
Speaker 1: relationships with people who introduce you to things you should
Speaker 1: have never gotten involved with, drugs, breaking the law, all
Speaker 1: kinds of stuff. Whatever it is, it normally is the
Speaker 1: same thing that tears you apart. You can't expect good
Speaker 1: things to come out of a wrong and negative relationship,
Speaker 1: one that you should have never been in before. So
Speaker 1: it's really a learning curve because it teaches you you
Speaker 1: don't know who you are, You don't love yourself yet.
Speaker 1: You haven't gotten to that point in life where you've
Speaker 1: grown and matured and learn how to love yourself. You
Speaker 1: have not gotten to that point because if you had,
Speaker 1: you would be in a relationship with the wrong person.
Speaker 1: Some of you get into these relationships you realize you're
Speaker 1: in a terrible situation, terrible and it's easy to get in,
Speaker 1: but sometimes it's hard to get out of, very hard
Speaker 1: to get out of. You have to be willing to
Speaker 1: accept the truth for what it is, the truth. You
Speaker 1: must be willing to accept the truth. You must be
Speaker 1: able to see beyond your feelings, your wants, your desires,
Speaker 1: howard look, you must be able to see beyond those
Speaker 1: superficial things. When you can't, it can cause you so
Speaker 1: much a drama and pain. It really can a lot
Speaker 1: of people right now as I speak, in relationships.
Speaker 2: With the wrong people, feeling horrible, unloved, lonely, hurt, regretful, fearful,
Speaker 2: all kind of negative things because you allow your heart
Speaker 2: to lead you into a bad situation because you had that.
Speaker 1: Unhealthy mindset, unhealthy ways of thinking. So I just wanted
Speaker 1: to talk a little bit about it, and I really
Speaker 1: hope you allow it to permeate, and I mean really
Speaker 1: think about it, especially those of you who know who
Speaker 1: know you're in that type of relationship. You know, you
Speaker 1: know what you're going through, you know how the relationship started.
Speaker 1: My mom used to say this old saying your eyes
Speaker 1: were bigger than your belly. That means you took on
Speaker 1: more than you can handle, or you ate more food
Speaker 1: than your belly could handle. That's why she used to
Speaker 1: say it. But it's a metaphor that could fit many situations.
Speaker 1: Some of you get caught up and things and possessions
Speaker 1: until you just lose focus because that's what's driving you.
Speaker 1: Things and possessions and money and looks and how someone.
Speaker 1: You know, their appearance, what they have, their cars, their homes,
Speaker 1: their titles, their positions. All that stuff appealed to you,
Speaker 1: and it leads people into bad situations because of the
Speaker 1: mindsets that they have. So really that's all I'm saying
Speaker 1: on that, I'm leaving it right there. Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for listening. As I said in the beginning, much
Speaker 1: love to you. You and you reach out to me.
Speaker 1: My podcast page tells you exactly how you can reach me.
Speaker 1: I in every episode the same, And I hope I
Speaker 1: really really do I hope you do it, think on it.