WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:01.639 And so this is when we do the hot tag 2 00:00:02.160 --> 00:00:05.360 and bring in our buddy Greg Garza. Oh and see 3 00:00:05.360 --> 00:00:07.360 now and Greg is out on the little nye. See 4 00:00:07.440 --> 00:00:10.640 now Greg's got the Greg's got the pretty backdrop this morning. 5 00:00:10.800 --> 00:00:14.560 So uh nice, I love that backdrop. 6 00:00:14.160 --> 00:00:15.199 Brother, good morning. 7 00:00:15.320 --> 00:00:18.920 Yeah, I wish it was uh, I wish it was fake. 8 00:00:19.039 --> 00:00:23.440 And I'm just kidding, very very grateful. 9 00:00:24.120 --> 00:00:26.280 Yeah, I mean that's uh. 10 00:00:26.760 --> 00:00:29.839 It's a little smoky here. It's uh, there's some smoke. 11 00:00:29.879 --> 00:00:31.039 I'm in Canada right now. 12 00:00:31.079 --> 00:00:34.679 My boys are in Brazil, so it's a little smoky 13 00:00:34.719 --> 00:00:37.119 here due to the wildfires in Manitoba. 14 00:00:37.479 --> 00:00:39.280 Yes, and so of course the way you can. 15 00:00:39.159 --> 00:00:41.560 Kind of see you in the background, Yeah, it's crazy. 16 00:00:41.799 --> 00:00:44.280 Uh, you know, keeping an eye on all of that, 17 00:00:44.399 --> 00:00:46.520 and the fact that you are that you're that you're 18 00:00:46.560 --> 00:00:50.280 in the sixth and that everything is coming from Manitoba 19 00:00:50.320 --> 00:00:51.399 and working its way your way. 20 00:00:51.399 --> 00:00:53.600 That's just absolutely that's absolutely crazy. 21 00:00:53.840 --> 00:00:56.520 Last night last night, today is very hazy. Last night 22 00:00:56.679 --> 00:00:58.240 was like very very much. 23 00:00:58.280 --> 00:01:02.320 So, yeah, how much time are you spending north of 24 00:01:02.359 --> 00:01:03.320 the border these days? 25 00:01:04.799 --> 00:01:06.959 I'd probably say right now, I have a couple of 26 00:01:06.959 --> 00:01:10.040 weeks here. I think taking advantage of my boys. It's 27 00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:12.280 stuff I have to like program my mind that my 28 00:01:12.359 --> 00:01:15.560 boys are are in Brazil and I'm like in preseason 29 00:01:15.640 --> 00:01:16.040 right now. 30 00:01:16.840 --> 00:01:18.200 It's like it's a preseason. 31 00:01:18.200 --> 00:01:20.079 I'd always be without my kids for like, you know, 32 00:01:20.120 --> 00:01:21.879 a month, month and a half, two months at a 33 00:01:21.920 --> 00:01:25.040 time while we would be away and they would be 34 00:01:25.159 --> 00:01:25.920 back back. 35 00:01:25.680 --> 00:01:28.560 Home with moms. So I'm like, my mind is. 36 00:01:28.439 --> 00:01:32.359 Programmed right there to where I'm like in preseason right now. 37 00:01:32.400 --> 00:01:33.680 But I'll be here. I'll be here and. 38 00:01:35.159 --> 00:01:38.760 Well, and I'm when you're with everything that you're doing 39 00:01:38.799 --> 00:01:43.000 now with beyond goals, it's a different kind of it's 40 00:01:43.000 --> 00:01:46.920 a different kind of it's skill sets and prioritizing and 41 00:01:46.959 --> 00:01:49.439 making sure that everything is lined up where all you're doing, 42 00:01:49.480 --> 00:01:51.239 all the globe trotting and all the soccer for good 43 00:01:51.239 --> 00:01:54.200 that you're doing, but you've still got to balance being 44 00:01:54.200 --> 00:01:56.319 a dad and you've got to balance all these other 45 00:01:56.400 --> 00:01:59.920 aspects of the life away from soccer. How different is 46 00:02:00.159 --> 00:02:02.560 that now with what you're doing with beyond goals? How 47 00:02:02.599 --> 00:02:04.680 different a juggling act is it these days? 48 00:02:04.719 --> 00:02:08.840 Yeah, it's still I'm still I think I think being 49 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:15.199 an entrepreneur allows that flexibility of still prioritizing what's what's important. 50 00:02:16.599 --> 00:02:18.240 You know, it still allows me to be a dad, 51 00:02:18.280 --> 00:02:21.639 to see my kids, to see my kids games every weekend, 52 00:02:21.680 --> 00:02:23.960 Whereas I think whenever even I played, I didn't have 53 00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:25.280 that that that. 54 00:02:25.280 --> 00:02:27.800 Ability, or that that luxury to do. So so. 55 00:02:29.360 --> 00:02:32.360 Now now with parking and myself, I think we're able 56 00:02:32.400 --> 00:02:36.039 to really prioritize family time and as well the things 57 00:02:36.039 --> 00:02:40.120 that matter to us. But at the same time travel 58 00:02:40.159 --> 00:02:42.240 a bit all at the same time and still be 59 00:02:42.280 --> 00:02:43.159 able to see the world. 60 00:02:43.240 --> 00:02:45.360 Instead of just a bus, a hotel in a. 61 00:02:45.319 --> 00:02:48.800 Stadium, we get to actually visit the city and learn 62 00:02:48.879 --> 00:02:51.479 some history and and see see things. You know, I'm 63 00:02:51.840 --> 00:02:53.879 I'm very fortunate to say I think I've been over 64 00:02:54.120 --> 00:02:57.680 forty five countries in the world today, but you know, 65 00:02:57.719 --> 00:03:00.319 I don't know if I've actually been able to really 66 00:03:00.759 --> 00:03:02.120 see all of those countries. 67 00:03:02.159 --> 00:03:06.560 And really I love I love learning about culture. 68 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:10.879 And you obviously that every country and religion and belief 69 00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:14.039 and everything that that goes within. So it's cool to 70 00:03:14.080 --> 00:03:16.159 be it's cool to be in different places and and 71 00:03:16.159 --> 00:03:20.639 and learn different things about different different different locations. 72 00:03:20.800 --> 00:03:23.639 When you talk to your mentees, do you tell them 73 00:03:23.800 --> 00:03:27.000 about stepping away and the importance of stepping away and 74 00:03:27.080 --> 00:03:29.800 becoming you know, understanding life in three dimensions. 75 00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:32.599 Do you have those conversations big time? 76 00:03:32.719 --> 00:03:35.479 It is unbelievable to see how many kids are able 77 00:03:35.520 --> 00:03:37.120 to travel today because of soccer. 78 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:42.639 I mean, I always tell kids, my my my. 79 00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:48.120 Greatest experience in playing the Beautiful Game was was the 80 00:03:48.159 --> 00:03:50.919 ability to travel and see different things and have a 81 00:03:50.960 --> 00:03:53.560 growth mindset and learn about different countries and cultures. And 82 00:03:53.599 --> 00:03:57.120 I want kids to to to know that they have 83 00:03:57.240 --> 00:03:59.960 that ability and an opportunity and be grateful for the 84 00:04:00.039 --> 00:04:04.080 those those moments as well. And my kids, my kids included, 85 00:04:04.199 --> 00:04:07.400 being in Brazil right now, seeing seeing a different way 86 00:04:07.439 --> 00:04:11.759 of life, playing on the streets right now with with 87 00:04:11.919 --> 00:04:16.160 kids they have no shoes on right playing barefoot on 88 00:04:17.240 --> 00:04:20.720 the street and not worrying about anything that might be 89 00:04:20.800 --> 00:04:23.040 on the street. Hopefully they stay safe, but I mean, 90 00:04:23.079 --> 00:04:24.160 that's the way of life there. 91 00:04:24.199 --> 00:04:25.759 That's that's uh, you know. 92 00:04:25.839 --> 00:04:28.560 I think sometimes we we take a lot for what 93 00:04:28.600 --> 00:04:31.160 we have for for granted. So I think it's even 94 00:04:31.240 --> 00:04:34.040 it's even good for even my my kids included, to 95 00:04:34.160 --> 00:04:36.399 see different ways of life in different areas of the world. 96 00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:40.279 What's it like to see them grow and respond to 97 00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:43.560 those different areas of the world and understand that it's 98 00:04:43.600 --> 00:04:45.920 not just us in a bubble. It is an entire 99 00:04:46.040 --> 00:04:47.639 world that's out there that they can learn from. 100 00:04:47.800 --> 00:04:51.240 Yeah, I think they've in particular, they have been immersed 101 00:04:51.240 --> 00:04:52.480 in it from a very young age. 102 00:04:52.519 --> 00:04:54.040 They they understand what it's like. 103 00:04:54.199 --> 00:04:56.879 They know they know the different ways of life and 104 00:04:56.920 --> 00:04:59.199 different parts of the world, especially where. 105 00:04:59.600 --> 00:05:00.680 Their parents it's are from. 106 00:05:00.720 --> 00:05:05.079 So you know, it's always important to take them back, 107 00:05:05.120 --> 00:05:08.399 not only to our roots, but help them understand the 108 00:05:08.439 --> 00:05:11.600 differences of of of how life has lived in different 109 00:05:11.639 --> 00:05:15.480 areas of the world. I mean that's always you know, 110 00:05:15.519 --> 00:05:18.240 we always talk about taking my kids every year. They 111 00:05:18.319 --> 00:05:22.600 always choose one place where they want to travel, you know, 112 00:05:22.639 --> 00:05:24.920 each and every one of them, and I always do 113 00:05:25.040 --> 00:05:28.600 that for them to to help them learn about different 114 00:05:28.800 --> 00:05:32.279 different places. But uh, it's it's my oldest it's my 115 00:05:32.360 --> 00:05:35.800 oldest choice this year, and I believe he will probably 116 00:05:35.879 --> 00:05:39.480 choose San Diego and Tijuana. So, I mean, he was 117 00:05:39.519 --> 00:05:41.639 born in Tijuana, so I think it's taking him back. 118 00:05:41.680 --> 00:05:44.399 He hasn't been there since he was probably about four 119 00:05:44.439 --> 00:05:48.000 years old when we left to to Atlanta, So it'll 120 00:05:48.000 --> 00:05:49.920 be it'll be an awesome trip to kind of see 121 00:05:49.959 --> 00:05:52.600 where he was born and get to know get no 122 00:05:52.720 --> 00:05:53.959 south of the border as well. 123 00:05:54.920 --> 00:05:59.160 And all right, since we talked about it at the Open. 124 00:05:58.920 --> 00:06:00.959 I know that I'm going kind of ways with you here. 125 00:06:01.360 --> 00:06:03.560 Did you see what happened with the Vancouver white. 126 00:06:03.319 --> 00:06:05.639 Caps with Chris Horner? 127 00:06:06.079 --> 00:06:06.639 Yeah? 128 00:06:06.680 --> 00:06:08.879 I did watch that game. Did you're like what happened? 129 00:06:08.959 --> 00:06:13.399 Or did I just like what happened after that might 130 00:06:13.439 --> 00:06:14.759 have contributed to the game? 131 00:06:15.800 --> 00:06:17.120 I did not what happened. 132 00:06:17.439 --> 00:06:17.879 Uh. 133 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:20.680 They have not been practicing the last couple of days 134 00:06:20.720 --> 00:06:24.319 because of more than thirty staff members and team members 135 00:06:24.399 --> 00:06:27.279 suffering from gastro intestinal distress. 136 00:06:28.959 --> 00:06:31.000 So you think they were poisoned before the game? 137 00:06:31.319 --> 00:06:34.959 I think that they might have done some rookie mistakes. 138 00:06:35.240 --> 00:06:37.240 I think that they might have, oh I don't know, 139 00:06:37.360 --> 00:06:40.560 perhaps consumed the water that they weren't supposed to, or 140 00:06:40.600 --> 00:06:42.759 had food that they weren't supposed to. Might have had 141 00:06:42.759 --> 00:06:45.360 a little bit more of an adventure than they should have. 142 00:06:45.439 --> 00:06:47.040 That's what that's my guess. 143 00:06:47.240 --> 00:06:48.680 Yeah, that happened to me in Peru. 144 00:06:50.040 --> 00:06:54.040 Oh yeah, playing in an under eighteen no sorry, an 145 00:06:54.079 --> 00:07:00.079 under twenty quadrangular tournament. It was us prew Column and 146 00:07:00.160 --> 00:07:04.639 be uh and maybe Brazil. But that happened to me 147 00:07:04.720 --> 00:07:07.160 maybe maybe the third day. I think I had played 148 00:07:07.160 --> 00:07:08.959 against Peru, and then that was my only game that 149 00:07:09.000 --> 00:07:09.800 I was able to play. 150 00:07:11.000 --> 00:07:13.319 I was, I was. I was in the hospital actually 151 00:07:13.399 --> 00:07:16.639 for wow a week and a half. 152 00:07:16.920 --> 00:07:17.439 Wow. 153 00:07:17.800 --> 00:07:20.839 They had to emergency flying me back to UH Portugal. 154 00:07:20.839 --> 00:07:22.279 I was playing in Portugal at the time and I 155 00:07:22.319 --> 00:07:25.720 was on an IV Wow. So I was not able 156 00:07:25.759 --> 00:07:29.399 to eat or drink absolutely anything. And that that was 157 00:07:29.480 --> 00:07:31.040 that was that who knows what they put in the 158 00:07:31.040 --> 00:07:32.720 food at the hotel. 159 00:07:33.199 --> 00:07:33.879 Wow. 160 00:07:34.160 --> 00:07:37.800 Yeah, I mean that's but yeah, I mean just when 161 00:07:38.319 --> 00:07:42.040 you mentioned that, that's crazy that that it would go 162 00:07:42.120 --> 00:07:44.399 to that kind of an extreme in a situation. 163 00:07:44.439 --> 00:07:47.279 Oh, when we were in Coco Labertadoras and with Club Tijuana, 164 00:07:47.319 --> 00:07:48.920 we would bring our own chef and he would cook. 165 00:07:49.040 --> 00:07:49.839 He would cook food. 166 00:07:50.439 --> 00:07:52.279 Even when we were traveled to Brazil and we would 167 00:07:52.279 --> 00:07:54.680 traveled to Bolivia, we would always bring our. 168 00:07:54.600 --> 00:07:56.560 Own chef and and he would go to the market 169 00:07:57.079 --> 00:07:59.160 buy the food, grocery store, buy the food and then 170 00:07:59.240 --> 00:08:01.240 cook it for us. We never eat the hotel food. 171 00:08:01.839 --> 00:08:03.720 Man gonna be careful. 172 00:08:04.000 --> 00:08:08.360 Yeah, well, and so do you have conversations with uh, 173 00:08:08.600 --> 00:08:11.360 those in your circle, whether it's mentees or young folks 174 00:08:11.360 --> 00:08:15.360 in general. Just while you understand the culture and have fun, 175 00:08:16.120 --> 00:08:19.120 there's a job to do at the same time, of course. 176 00:08:19.240 --> 00:08:25.439 Yeah, I mean I wouldn't put Vancouver's. 177 00:08:25.920 --> 00:08:30.079 Lost no to the what they ate. No, they just 178 00:08:30.120 --> 00:08:36.480 got absolutely hammered. Uh it was they turned into Intermlian. 179 00:08:36.000 --> 00:08:38.679 And psy. 180 00:08:39.159 --> 00:08:43.639 Yeah. But I mean, yes, you have to be weary 181 00:08:43.720 --> 00:08:46.480 of of of what you eat, what you dream. 182 00:08:46.600 --> 00:08:50.480 It's especially when you were in different world countries for sure. 183 00:08:51.440 --> 00:08:52.639 I mean that's that's uh. 184 00:08:53.399 --> 00:08:55.559 You know when you see stuff like that, obviously you 185 00:08:55.879 --> 00:08:57.799 bring it to the front of the line and go, man, 186 00:08:57.799 --> 00:08:59.879 that's just absolutely crazy. A part of the and it's 187 00:09:00.039 --> 00:09:03.039 part of the learning experience about competitions. 188 00:09:03.200 --> 00:09:05.360 So you mentioned. 189 00:09:05.120 --> 00:09:08.279 Vancouver and them getting thumped by Cruise USUL. I know 190 00:09:08.320 --> 00:09:10.039 a lot of folks were sitting there thinking, Okay, it's 191 00:09:10.080 --> 00:09:12.679 gonna be a cruse as they know that that's going 192 00:09:12.720 --> 00:09:15.240 to be the case, but it didn't this particular time. 193 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:20.600 When you play in international competitions, it's a great learning 194 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:24.799 experience on a bunch of different levels. But is the 195 00:09:25.120 --> 00:09:27.559 how much is the gap closing when it comes to 196 00:09:27.600 --> 00:09:30.480 the talent pool, when it comes to say US talent 197 00:09:30.600 --> 00:09:34.000 or US based talent, this hemisphere and then in the 198 00:09:34.000 --> 00:09:36.679 world space, where do you think that the gap is 199 00:09:36.720 --> 00:09:38.440 closing and how much is it closing? 200 00:09:38.720 --> 00:09:40.639 Yeah, I just I just watched the video of Taylor 201 00:09:40.639 --> 00:09:42.000 Twelveman speaking yesterday. 202 00:09:42.759 --> 00:09:44.639 I don't know if you saw that same video. 203 00:09:44.440 --> 00:09:49.320 That theyre my life were past Mexican talent. 204 00:09:50.679 --> 00:09:53.200 Oh I disagree. 205 00:09:53.960 --> 00:09:58.440 I disagree because whenever we play these these next tournament, 206 00:09:58.600 --> 00:10:00.840 whatever we're playing, we alway playing the States. 207 00:10:01.240 --> 00:10:02.039 You know, that's. 208 00:10:02.080 --> 00:10:05.360 Uh for for us. 209 00:10:05.519 --> 00:10:08.960 I remember playing against Galaxy and the CONCA champions with 210 00:10:08.960 --> 00:10:12.679 Club Tijuana and playing in Galaxy with Robbie Keane and 211 00:10:13.120 --> 00:10:16.360 Landon Donovan and all those big Omar Gonzalez and all 212 00:10:16.399 --> 00:10:19.039 those big names that they had way back in the day. 213 00:10:20.159 --> 00:10:22.799 And I believe we lost one zero in in l 214 00:10:22.879 --> 00:10:25.000 A and had a few chances, and then we were 215 00:10:25.080 --> 00:10:27.960 just licking our chops for when we had them the 216 00:10:27.960 --> 00:10:29.840 next week in Tijuana because we knew it was going 217 00:10:29.919 --> 00:10:31.639 to be a thrashing, and I think we thrashed them. 218 00:10:31.679 --> 00:10:33.519 I want to say it was like five to zero or. 219 00:10:36.639 --> 00:10:39.120 Playing in Mexico is just a different it's a different, 220 00:10:39.240 --> 00:10:43.000 different atmosphere, and it's uh, you know, you talk about 221 00:10:43.000 --> 00:10:47.720 the bins and you talk about different locations Portland, and 222 00:10:47.799 --> 00:10:51.840 I mean, I can bring up some great environmental places 223 00:10:51.840 --> 00:10:55.399 to play, but it is it is not as hostile 224 00:10:55.919 --> 00:10:58.480 as when you play in Mexico. It's it's it's a 225 00:10:58.519 --> 00:11:01.840 different it's a different beast, it's a different animal when 226 00:11:01.840 --> 00:11:04.720 you play you know, these these games as as Vancouver 227 00:11:04.759 --> 00:11:07.960 played in the Puma Stadium, although it was at to say. 228 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:13.039 Oh, you know, you have have a different, a different feel. 229 00:11:13.279 --> 00:11:16.360 You're you're dealing with external factors, you're dealing with altitude, 230 00:11:16.399 --> 00:11:19.600 you're dealing with the fan base, and it's. 231 00:11:19.480 --> 00:11:21.679 Just there's so much, there's so much more. 232 00:11:21.799 --> 00:11:26.799 So, you know, it's obviously subjective in what Taylor Twelman says, 233 00:11:26.840 --> 00:11:30.440 and I do think the gap is rather closing, but 234 00:11:31.200 --> 00:11:34.799 I still think, you know, it's it's very it's it's 235 00:11:34.879 --> 00:11:38.120 very it's very it's very close. The minimal, it's very minimal. 236 00:11:39.080 --> 00:11:41.279 But I think whenever we play in the States, we 237 00:11:41.320 --> 00:11:44.759 do have that advantage. We just never we never, we 238 00:11:44.840 --> 00:11:47.639 never take ourselves outside of our comfort zone. I mean 239 00:11:48.000 --> 00:11:50.559 I feel like I feel like we're almost kind of 240 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:53.759 like the national team, right, the national team never takes 241 00:11:53.799 --> 00:11:55.080 themselves out of their comfort zone. 242 00:11:55.120 --> 00:11:58.320 We just we scrimmage, We scrimmage Bosnia. 243 00:11:57.919 --> 00:12:01.679 And and and you know Bulgar Area in Slovenia and 244 00:12:02.039 --> 00:12:06.919 New Zealand, but never scrimmage Spain or Italy or Holland 245 00:12:07.000 --> 00:12:09.840 or England, right, and and we never really get to 246 00:12:10.200 --> 00:12:12.960 put ourselves up against those beasts until when it really matters, 247 00:12:13.000 --> 00:12:15.720 and then that's when you see the the huge differences. 248 00:12:15.799 --> 00:12:19.879 So I think for MLS it's it's we almost kind 249 00:12:19.919 --> 00:12:23.320 of have that same we almost have that same uh 250 00:12:23.799 --> 00:12:26.840 same mindset as long as we can protect ourselves. And 251 00:12:27.039 --> 00:12:29.120 I think this is this will be a massive test 252 00:12:29.440 --> 00:12:31.759 with the Club World Cup right around the corner, Like 253 00:12:31.799 --> 00:12:34.440 I think that'll be a huge testament to see where 254 00:12:34.480 --> 00:12:38.879 we are in comparison to other clubs around the world and. 255 00:12:38.840 --> 00:12:40.559 Hopefully we hopefully we can compete. 256 00:12:40.679 --> 00:12:44.360 I I truly hope this is this is where I 257 00:12:44.399 --> 00:12:48.360 think Taylor Twelveman will have his next interview of of 258 00:12:48.399 --> 00:12:51.399 what what how we really shape up to other clubs 259 00:12:51.399 --> 00:12:53.960 in the world. And I hope we do, because I 260 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:58.159 do feel like we are climbing up the ranks. But 261 00:12:58.159 --> 00:12:59.960 but I do feel like we still have some ways 262 00:13:00.080 --> 00:13:03.519 to go in terms of of that level. I think 263 00:13:03.559 --> 00:13:07.279 we are at an enormous level. I think we are 264 00:13:07.279 --> 00:13:09.600 an enormous level in terms of where the league is, 265 00:13:10.720 --> 00:13:12.840 but but we still we still have some ways to go. 266 00:13:13.519 --> 00:13:15.480 Great guards to hear and the Freddie free kick breaking 267 00:13:15.480 --> 00:13:18.759 everything down at beaching mentoring on social media. So when 268 00:13:18.759 --> 00:13:23.480 you talk to your mentees about hostile environments and external 269 00:13:23.559 --> 00:13:26.279 factors and things that they can't control but still have 270 00:13:26.320 --> 00:13:28.120 to focus on the task at hands so they could 271 00:13:28.159 --> 00:13:31.879 be successful, what are those conversations like, I. 272 00:13:31.799 --> 00:13:34.360 Think preparation, Preparation is everything. 273 00:13:34.399 --> 00:13:37.240 Preparation is key, and making sure you're staying consistent in 274 00:13:37.320 --> 00:13:42.960 those in those areas, you know, controlling what you can control. 275 00:13:43.279 --> 00:13:45.519 I think that's that's an important piece of it. 276 00:13:47.320 --> 00:13:52.679 Then you go from the controlling the controllables to learning 277 00:13:52.840 --> 00:13:56.960 that there are those gaps, those talent gaps, and not 278 00:13:57.080 --> 00:14:00.720 getting wrapped up into the idea of, oh crap, they 279 00:14:00.759 --> 00:14:03.799 really are that much better than me. I've got to 280 00:14:03.799 --> 00:14:06.399 get to that level instead of having it weigh you down. 281 00:14:06.600 --> 00:14:09.200 What about you know, having those kinds of conversations about 282 00:14:09.200 --> 00:14:12.840 self improvement and not focusing on the outside and the 283 00:14:12.960 --> 00:14:15.799 focusing on the inside out so you can become a better. 284 00:14:15.559 --> 00:14:19.279 App Yeah, self assessment is a huge is a huge 285 00:14:19.360 --> 00:14:23.320 component to what we speak about. You consistently have to 286 00:14:24.000 --> 00:14:26.600 always look at the man in the mirror, never never 287 00:14:26.639 --> 00:14:34.360 point fingers, don't make excuses, Consistently think about improvement, you know, analyze, review, 288 00:14:34.559 --> 00:14:37.600 reflect on what you can get better at. Have find 289 00:14:37.639 --> 00:14:40.080 a way to fix your mistakes and find your consistencies. 290 00:14:40.799 --> 00:14:43.240 Self assessment is a huge piece. 291 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:47.799 To to what we apply and then also implement within 292 00:14:47.840 --> 00:14:48.399 our program. 293 00:14:48.879 --> 00:14:53.679 So when you discuss self assessment, do your mentees understand 294 00:14:53.720 --> 00:14:55.720 that initially or is it something that they have to 295 00:14:55.759 --> 00:14:59.000 warm up to instead of sitting there and comparing themselves 296 00:14:59.399 --> 00:15:03.120 in uh, you know inbound, it's comparing yourself outbound, I 297 00:15:03.159 --> 00:15:04.559 mean self assessment. 298 00:15:04.600 --> 00:15:07.240 Were Self assessment is a constant reminder. 299 00:15:07.799 --> 00:15:10.240 I think even with with with even if you don't 300 00:15:10.279 --> 00:15:12.720 play sports right, you're the. 301 00:15:12.679 --> 00:15:13.879 World the world is. 302 00:15:14.159 --> 00:15:17.720 The world is full of judgment, and the world is 303 00:15:17.720 --> 00:15:23.279 full of comparisons. From a scouting perspective, in soccer, everything 304 00:15:23.360 --> 00:15:27.000 is comparison, right. You are comparing this player to that player, 305 00:15:27.039 --> 00:15:29.159 that player to this player, this player to that player. 306 00:15:29.399 --> 00:15:31.960 But when you are amidst and you are kind of 307 00:15:32.000 --> 00:15:34.919 immersed in the world of sport, uh, and you are 308 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:38.840 that player, then that's where I think that that judgment 309 00:15:38.960 --> 00:15:41.120 has to be of your own, and I think that's 310 00:15:41.159 --> 00:15:44.320 where it is. I think even the self assessment is 311 00:15:44.360 --> 00:15:47.519 still taking constructive criticism from those that you feel like 312 00:15:47.559 --> 00:15:51.639 you could take advice from, yeah, and kind of shutting 313 00:15:51.639 --> 00:15:55.480 out and and blocking out the rest uh and making 314 00:15:55.480 --> 00:15:57.480 sure you're just focusing on the man in the mirror, 315 00:15:57.480 --> 00:15:59.879 because I think that's a huge that is a huge 316 00:16:00.039 --> 00:16:01.120 component towards improvement. 317 00:16:01.200 --> 00:16:04.039 That's a huge component towards staying. 318 00:16:05.120 --> 00:16:08.440 Staying I guess, loyal to your own trajectory and your 319 00:16:08.480 --> 00:16:11.759 own path and not allowing anything else to veer you 320 00:16:11.799 --> 00:16:12.879 off into a different direction. 321 00:16:13.200 --> 00:16:15.639 How do you keep it from being too self critical? 322 00:16:15.720 --> 00:16:15.879 Though? 323 00:16:17.639 --> 00:16:19.080 I like kids who are self critical. 324 00:16:20.080 --> 00:16:23.399 I enjoy kids who are very critical of themselves because 325 00:16:23.399 --> 00:16:26.679 I feel like the greatest of athletes are very critical 326 00:16:26.720 --> 00:16:30.000 of themselves, as long as it is critical towards growth, 327 00:16:30.080 --> 00:16:32.840 and I think that's a huge That's a huge component 328 00:16:32.879 --> 00:16:35.840 that I try to imply whenever I speak to kids, 329 00:16:35.919 --> 00:16:40.080 is you you have to think about being self critical 330 00:16:40.720 --> 00:16:44.919 and in terms of growing towards something that's that's that's better. 331 00:16:45.200 --> 00:16:49.279 You can't be critical and in pulling yourself down as 332 00:16:49.279 --> 00:16:51.519 long as it is, even if it is a pulley, 333 00:16:51.600 --> 00:16:54.919 but you know it's it's where you're consistently going into 334 00:16:54.960 --> 00:16:59.279 a forward and up upward direction rather than being critical 335 00:16:59.320 --> 00:17:01.639 to where it's you're you're not getting the best out 336 00:17:01.679 --> 00:17:02.200 of yourself. 337 00:17:03.559 --> 00:17:06.119 At the same time, though, and this might be a 338 00:17:06.160 --> 00:17:11.160 generational thing where I would anticipate that there are certain 339 00:17:11.240 --> 00:17:15.920 generations when it comes to their self criticism, that they 340 00:17:15.960 --> 00:17:19.920 are too harsh, but that's just what they know from 341 00:17:20.079 --> 00:17:22.920 their their particular age group and those that were influencing 342 00:17:23.039 --> 00:17:29.000 them in that particular timeframe. Are older mentees because of 343 00:17:29.039 --> 00:17:32.279 their influence, Are they more self critical that has to 344 00:17:32.319 --> 00:17:36.519 be corrected? Are they more open to the process of 345 00:17:36.599 --> 00:17:38.920 When it comes to I guess age differences, is there 346 00:17:39.079 --> 00:17:42.680 is there a difference in the self criticism. 347 00:17:41.920 --> 00:17:42.799 You'd be surprised. 348 00:17:43.079 --> 00:17:45.839 I think a lot of even even I see it 349 00:17:46.119 --> 00:17:49.680 on the younger side of the spectrum, to where more 350 00:17:49.759 --> 00:17:52.759 kids on even on the younger side or are are 351 00:17:52.759 --> 00:17:56.160 more self critical in a positive way rather than than 352 00:17:56.160 --> 00:18:02.720 older ones. I think it varies varies from age to 353 00:18:02.799 --> 00:18:07.599 age and generation to generation, but you know, I think 354 00:18:08.720 --> 00:18:11.799 I think it is more noticeable to see more kids 355 00:18:11.839 --> 00:18:16.640 critical towards a negative a negative way rather than than 356 00:18:16.680 --> 00:18:19.039 a positive way from from from our point of view. 357 00:18:19.079 --> 00:18:22.400 And so it's always trying to just help them understand 358 00:18:22.440 --> 00:18:26.200 how to turn maybe that negativity into a positive outcome 359 00:18:27.599 --> 00:18:29.920 when when they are when they're assessing their game player 360 00:18:29.960 --> 00:18:33.519 reflecting or reviewing and always thinking about growth. 361 00:18:33.759 --> 00:18:36.359 Yeah, and that was why I was asking it that way, 362 00:18:36.440 --> 00:18:40.599 but because I would anticipate that when you have all 363 00:18:40.640 --> 00:18:43.319 of this external peer pressure that's attached to it, you 364 00:18:43.440 --> 00:18:48.519 try to navigate through it, make yourself better through self criticism, 365 00:18:48.799 --> 00:18:52.319 but you have those external factors that can either push 366 00:18:52.359 --> 00:18:55.279 you forward and make you fix it sooner, or they 367 00:18:55.279 --> 00:18:58.039 can drag you back and make the process along. 368 00:18:58.400 --> 00:18:59.680 Am I am I off there. 369 00:19:00.200 --> 00:19:01.279 Big time, big time. 370 00:19:01.400 --> 00:19:05.000 Yeah, it's uh, you want you want kids to kind 371 00:19:05.000 --> 00:19:07.079 of understand small cues and the. 372 00:19:07.200 --> 00:19:10.359 And as quickly as possible to. 373 00:19:09.640 --> 00:19:13.680 To help them, to help them whenever they do critique themselves, 374 00:19:13.759 --> 00:19:16.720 or whenever they do receive constructive criticism, or when they 375 00:19:16.720 --> 00:19:20.039 do try and think about improvement. It's it's it's always 376 00:19:20.359 --> 00:19:22.039 it's always towards a positive direction. 377 00:19:22.720 --> 00:19:26.599 And I mean it's something that for those of us 378 00:19:26.599 --> 00:19:32.039 of a certain age group, it was negative first and 379 00:19:32.039 --> 00:19:33.839 and it was like, you know, it'll be a cold 380 00:19:33.880 --> 00:19:36.119 day in hell before you you know, you go back 381 00:19:36.119 --> 00:19:38.359 to doing that all over again, and that stuff can 382 00:19:38.400 --> 00:19:41.359 stick with you, and then as an adult it can 383 00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:43.880 influence and it's almost like a trickle down effect of 384 00:19:44.440 --> 00:19:47.200 this is how I was influenced, and so by default, 385 00:19:47.319 --> 00:19:49.440 this is how I influence. And so I think for 386 00:19:49.519 --> 00:19:51.880 adults it's just as much of a challenge to try 387 00:19:51.920 --> 00:19:53.000 and change that mindset. 388 00:19:53.000 --> 00:19:54.680 And so when they try to influence. 389 00:19:54.720 --> 00:19:55.480 Yeah, big time. 390 00:19:55.759 --> 00:20:00.000 Uh we you and I have talked about this before 391 00:20:00.119 --> 00:20:06.039 or and just understanding understanding how to manage different generations. 392 00:20:06.119 --> 00:20:07.039 Yeah, I think. 393 00:20:08.640 --> 00:20:10.839 I always I always tell people, I think in our generation, 394 00:20:10.960 --> 00:20:15.160 we're we're built very tough. Coaches coaches pulled us, pulled 395 00:20:15.200 --> 00:20:19.240 us by the collar, or us by the ear or 396 00:20:19.279 --> 00:20:22.319 where in today's world that's that's you're not unable to 397 00:20:22.359 --> 00:20:25.000 do so. And I think it was more when when 398 00:20:25.039 --> 00:20:27.839 you were a kid, you were more accepting of that. Uh, 399 00:20:28.200 --> 00:20:30.480 It's like it was the it was the norm, where 400 00:20:30.680 --> 00:20:33.400 in today's world would be very abnormal for anybody to 401 00:20:33.480 --> 00:20:34.839