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Speaker 1: Well, well, well, welcome back. Bestie's It's mother. I'm so

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excited to be here with you guys today.

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Speaker 2: I'm in La.

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Speaker 1: I'm living my best life. I'm so happy I got

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to hang out with one of my best friends today.

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I hope you guys enjoyed the episode as much as

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I did. Please enjoy Ashley Hasseltine Time. Ashley Hassele time.

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You know, I was like having a panic attack because

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I always do that. I'm like one of my best friends,

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Ashley Hasseltine. No, no, but this literally no, I'm in

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her course, don't tell her.

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Speaker 2: No, It's fine, I don't care. Ashley has Time.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's perfect, that's perfect introduction were I remember when

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WASPS came out?

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Speaker 2: What ass Plussy? Oh what like Desahni. I was like, eh, Cardie,

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she's oh. She just says in there and I was like,

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could you not? I paid for it? I know you're

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just rapping, but like you not?

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I kind of forgot about that.

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Speaker 2: I think about Wop a lot. I think about We've

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never had a song like that. It's just my neck,

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my back and wop. And I literally coming from a girl.

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Speaker 1: Who's had a dwop A my has never been with

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Oh my god, we really never been. But no dry, say,

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let's just talk about this. She's like clinically dry. It's

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like going down there's like going to Joshua Tree the

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fucking summer.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Like are we rolling? What's going on?

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Oh we've been rolling this whole time. Okay, perfect? Oh

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my god, I'm so happy here at me too?

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Speaker 1: How are you we're starting?

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Speaker 2: Okay, it was where I started.

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Speaker 1: We're keeping all that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we just turned it on and we're just so proper.

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Are we keeping that in? Yes? Okay, so a scale

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of one to one to wop? How what is your guys? Pussy?

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Leave a comment? We need to know is it? Is it? Disny?

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Speaker 1: Can you imagine you fashioned if it was like a

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water fountain or someone going down on you and saying

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it tastes like a sawny.

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Speaker 2: I would cry.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I've have you eaten pussy? No, see, I've

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eaten pussy every time I get down there. I'm like,

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I taste taste like a coin purse.

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Speaker 2: It's like iron.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it tastes like the inside of my grandma's Are

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they on the have they been in their period. No,

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it's just there's something zingy about it. Have your tasted

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dr out, Okay, we're off to it.

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Speaker 2: Tastes like this is what I'm trying to say. Liqu

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with death, that's what they call it. That's what liqu

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Oh my god. Okay, once you go in there, you

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don't know how you're getting now, death by drone.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, yes, I have that. I had no more

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no more tags.

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Speaker 2: Uh. Yeah. We just took our honeymoon back from Singapore.

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Yeah it was. It was really great.

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Speaker 3: That's a perfect place, like it's one of the cleanest, safest,

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most beautiful countries, right and everything was. It was a

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really nice trip. We did like tons of like amazing

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food and sightseeing. We took a boat out, We did

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all this stuff. But I have to tell you like

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one story. So we were we went out. It was

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probably our latest night.

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Speaker 2: We went to dinner.

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Speaker 3: We'd had a couple of drinks, like drunk by any stretch,

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but we'd probably I don't know, I been out and

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had like at a few different bars, and we were like,

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let's bike back to the hotel. And we loved like

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all city bike around New York. I don't like to

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drink and bike. But it happens it, you know. So

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we got a doe.

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Speaker 2: See these bikes.

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Speaker 3: See these bikes, and we like down on the app

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and we hop on the bikes. And I was wearing

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like a dress. I just like hiked it up and

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we're like biking in the street. I think that you

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bike in the street. I'm like former New Yorker, that's

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where I bike. So I thought we were supposed to

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be in the street.

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Speaker 2: We're having a great time.

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Speaker 3: There's really no cars in the streets one o'clock in

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the morning, and we hear sirens behind us, and as

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someone who has been pulled over for drinking, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Like, it's such a trigger. And again I was not drunk.

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Speaker 3: I don't need to justify this, but it was like,

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oh my god, Like we're going to jail, Like I've

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had some drinks. There's a cop. We're foreign visitors, especially

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right now in this country, and like we're going to

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the goolog you know, like that's it for us.

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Speaker 2: We're breaking the.

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Speaker 3: Logs, throw the book out and yeah, Shashank, my current

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husband didn't think that they were for us. And I'm like,

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I know, therefore, I know that we're getting pulled over

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on bike right now.

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Speaker 2: And sure enough the cop was just like, are you guys,

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you're you're visiting.

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Speaker 3: We're like, of course, we're obviously we're visiting. He was like,

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we ride on the sidewalk here. You need to be

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safe and you're just wear a helmet. But for the

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most parta just like stay on the sidewalking out of

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the street and like let us on our way. Just

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like pulled us over to say that's nice to say,

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be safe. Oh what a place you say, but it was.

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It was a real trigger.

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Speaker 2: But you know, you can get a bike d U

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Speaker 3: I mean, and again I don't want to condone drinking

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and biking, but what do you think the limit is

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it the same limit?

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Speaker 2: The limit does not exist.

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Speaker 1: It's just I'm like, really, you're gonna give you But yeah,

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my ex boyfriend in college got a d U I

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on a bicycle.

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Speaker 2: On a bicycle, but not even an e bike. No,

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they didn't even exist when I was in college.

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Speaker 3: Because at the end, if you're really if you're really

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drunk on a bike, you're probably only gonna hurt yourself, right, Yes,

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you could cause an accident, I'm sure it's happened, So

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be safe out there, you guys.

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Speaker 1: But I will say in Wisconsin, our workaround is you

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can't get a dy on a horse because technically you're

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not in control so the horses.

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Speaker 2: So people take horses to the bar. Time up, get

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black out.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well that's what we'll do on our next honeymoon. Yeah.

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I heard you can walk around there and like bare

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feet and you will not get any dirt on your feet.

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Speaker 2: Like it's that clean.

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Speaker 1: It's that clean, And there's all these laws and rules

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like littering. I mean, we have a way of littering.

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Speaker 3: Too, but they don't sell gum there, so gum is

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completely banned. Oh so because chewing gum. It's like, right,

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people stick at places. So I'm trying to think if

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there's any other I think there's a there's allegedly a

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fine if you don't flush a public toilet. Like everywhere

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is so clean, right, it's wonderful. Yeah, and you come

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back here and you're in the airport in Lax and

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you're like, this is the third world.

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Speaker 1: That it's disgusting, and I think, you know, here's what

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I think. You know, we keep taking places over and

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trying to like implement our ways.

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Speaker 2: I think Singapore needs to start taking places.

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Speaker 1: Over and just be like, how about you guys do

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it arway because this is perfect.

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Speaker 3: They do a lot of government control, but they're like,

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I don't know they're doing it right. They're like the

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ways that the government controls overreaches. I guess some people

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would say, is all for the benefit, Like there's no

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homeless people. Everybody has houls, everybody's jobs at Like they

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have this system where they ever like you're supposed to

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have an app and they'll put the government puts money

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into it for you to go spend with like local vendors,

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Like they have a whole They have so many systems

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set up so people can live in nice life. Their

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public housing looks like luxury housing. Wow, it's just a

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wonderful place.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So anyway, I was just very fascinated like the way

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the country runs because I'm like, this feels too perfect,

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and they don't pay that many taxes, like as much

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as I do.

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Speaker 1: I am curious how it runs. I mean, ours is

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just fraud and pedophilia.

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Speaker 2: So we're taking notes.

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Speaker 4: Don't accidentally take your drugs there because you will be for.

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Speaker 2: You will go to prison for drugs. So yeah, so

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I like we I was told that.

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Speaker 1: Like, so I brought my PCP as usual, I.

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Speaker 2: Brought I brought.

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Speaker 3: I was like, even, I'm not going to risk it,

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but I do take gummies to sleep sometimes CBD sometimes

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THHD like to mix it up. And I did bring

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to on the plane and I thought I was gonna

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take them. I didn't, so I just like left them

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on the plane. Oh good, Yeah, I wasn't gonna.

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Speaker 1: I mean, no, that's true. Why wouldn't you just hat

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it was just the CBD ones, But I think you

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can get in trouble probably, No, they're like very hardcore.

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But yeah, even like Thailand. I remember when I went

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over there and I brought weed with me. I was

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there for a friend's wedding and he was like, you

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brought what? And I was like, stuffing a fucking narc

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It's just weed.

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Speaker 2: He's like, girl, you will go to prison if you

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get caught with that. And I was like, do you

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remember that movie?

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Speaker 1: Was it Playing Down Palace? No?

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Speaker 2: Oh, okay, this Broke Back Mountain, Broke Falton. It was

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the lesbian version. No, it was about two women.

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Speaker 3: It was Claire Danes was in it of course because

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she looked up at cry face and they hear her.

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I think they got framed, but they went to like

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a jail and another country. I mean, I'm scarred for

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it for life.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So anyway, Yeah, three people last year were hung for

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drugs where Singapore?

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Speaker 2: What kind of Singapore?

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Speaker 1: They're not doing public hangings, and you want to talk

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about what we do need to do.

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Speaker 2: It's like we need to bring those.

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Speaker 3: Over here public hangings. Yeah, did you see Weathering Heights?

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 3: So it starts with someone getting hung in like the

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town square, like Marie Antoinette style.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Is it guillotine or guillotine?

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Speaker 1: Guillotine?

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Speaker 4: Guillotine?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, guillotine. Is is that where they chop your off?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's what happened to her.

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Speaker 4: Antonette was no.

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Speaker 1: So someone was just hung that.

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Speaker 3: They had like regular, They had a sack over his

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head and everyone in the town square was like watching

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and rejoicing. People were sucking in the street. And then

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they never really circled back to what that was about.

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I was so confused. I figured that was how Jacob

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Elordi's character was also going to die. They never really

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close the loop on that.

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Speaker 1: And you know what that sounds like, I wrote that movie.

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Speaker 2: I waited a confusing hanging. Did you I wonder if

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you watch this movie? Did you watch Step Up?

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Speaker 1: Chanting Tatum?

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Speaker 3: And that's how I saw this guy. Follow Rob Anderson

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or what is that his name? Hearthrob Anderson on Instagram

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and he like recaps these old movies and he did

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Step Up today and he said, like they wrote.

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Speaker 2: This movie as they went along. It was like the

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funniest recap.

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Speaker 3: Remember Channing Tatum, he was like a bad kid, Yeah,

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to go do like community service. He was like a

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jin or at the art school and he like went

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into the ballet class and like it was just a

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very funny, like they made this up as they went along.

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Speaker 2: Vibe. Yeah, it was of dance, Yeah, the good.

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Speaker 3: Hunting well and then he oh his line in it,

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he said, Julia Styles krip walked, so Step Up could

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run like iconic line.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, So how are you doing because last

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year you had a really big year. Yeah, you got

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married obviously, and you shot a special and I think

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those are two of the most like emotional build up.

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Speaker 2: And then right afterwards you're like that what.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's we're four and a half months

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out from my wedding, right, so I'm just now recovering.

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Speaker 1: No, just go back to normal.

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Speaker 2: No, it's it's fine, just outside of the annulment.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if we're married, if there's been a

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whole thing with the wedding certificate.

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Speaker 1: You're not sure.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure, and I need to call the city.

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It's not Yes, it's none yours business. No, it's I'm fine.

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I was not fine. It my whole twenty twenty five,

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which was probably, I mean the greatest year of my

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life in hands down numerous ways.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all I.

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Speaker 3: Did was playing this wedding and playing my tour and

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then do my tour, and it felt insane.

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Speaker 1: And then a beautiful special yeah thank you.

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Speaker 3: And it just felt like chaotic and really stressful, and

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every day I felt completely underwater, and I was like,

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I can't believe I'm been doing this on top of

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my job, on top of running two companies, two episodes

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a week.

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Speaker 2: Of Girls Could Eat Like.

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Speaker 3: It was so much, I couldn't believe I actually got

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through it all. All the travel, I mean a full

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ass tour and planning a wedding, and those were three

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weeks up. Two and a half weeks apart from each

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other were the Special and the Special was October twelve,

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and then the wedding was Novermber first, well technically like

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it started days before that, So after they both ended,

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it felt so abrupt, like both of these things, I

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don't know what to do with myself. I feel like

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I had this loss of identity. This is all I've

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been the whole year.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know. I don't know my life had been

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planned for me.

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Speaker 3: It had been so busy, it was so exciting, there

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was so much celebrations, like both of those events, the

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Special and the wedding, were the best times of my life.

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And then it was just like what do I do now?

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And of course, yes something The Special will come out soon.

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It's a surprise, you guys will see. And I got

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married and I did the honeymoon and all these things.

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I love my life, but it was hard to come

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down from.

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Speaker 1: So there's something I read recently about when you achieve

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your goals, and like obviously getting married, I don't know,

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was that ever a goal for you or is that

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just something you did? No, Like for some girls, it's

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those goal women. It's a goal, but I think the

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special is a goal and you achieved that and shot that,

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and it's like after you achieved the goal, there's kind

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of this profound like emptiness. Yeah, because it's just like, well,

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I've been putting all my energy and all my life

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blood into this, and nobody talks about how when you

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achieve your dreams, there is like a level of sadness

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that comes right afterwards, like right afterwards, because in the

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identity crisis. I had a huge identity crisis after I

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got married because I always identified as like a single

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back bitch, and I was like, you know, and then

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all of a sudden, I was married and I had

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a new last name, and I was like, who the

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fuck is this person now?

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Speaker 2: And I don't know if I'm like her, but you

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didn't have to do that. I know that last name

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was tragic.

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Speaker 1: Literally, I have one debit card in my Tesla with

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the old last name on it, and Max grabbed it and.

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Speaker 2: He's like, what fuck name is this? So I was

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like I was married before. I was like, yeah, don't

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worry about it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, no, there's just kind of I under

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I really relate to the identity crisis and also the

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profound just like what the fuck is next now?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And I if the wedding come down was like so

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much excitement and everyone just leaves, you know, you're there

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with you for four days.

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Speaker 2: It was like I just like missed my mom. You know,

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there was that and.

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Speaker 1: What was I just gonna say, are we editing this

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an episode?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 2: Can I see how we look? Please? I don't think

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we ever got a look. I don't know if this's

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how if it's gonna be. I I changed through. It's perfect,

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we need to address it. Awesome.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, obviously because it's Rainos because I stole Rainu's clothes. Okay, yeah, perfect,

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because you can't see my you look like Raina.

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Speaker 2: I'm dead. I'm literally this is so funny.

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I was like, I know, and I decided I'm treating

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this year like COVID because I'm in Palm Beach.

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Speaker 2: Now know what else to fucking do.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just acting like the world is shut down

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because I am in a place where nothing's going on.

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love setting a goal that's nice and low. The bar's

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in fucking hell.

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Speaker 2: I just want my hair to grow this year.

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And that's it, all right, love you guys.

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Speaker 2: Bye, okay, let me go back.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, So the there's also maybe kind of what

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you're talking about is this theory called the arrival fallacy,

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where you think everything is working towards this goal, and

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after you get it, you don't or you'd achieve something,

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or you don't know. Sorry, you have this sense of emptiness.

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And the antidote to that is to try to enjoy

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the journey as much as you can. And so I

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was constantly feeling like that the whole time, like even

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when I'm stressed, even when I'm frustrated, even when I'm

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so tired from all the travel, like I'm enjoying this.

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I won't get to do this again in this way,

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And so I think that's really a helpful thing to

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remember for anyone doing anything, whether it's a tour, or

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you're planning a wedding, or you're writing a book, or

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you're shooting a movie or.

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Speaker 1: TV show or all relatable things that you're picking.

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Speaker 3: What is there for any movie stars listening reading a book?

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Speaker 2: Pretty wildly successful. Okay, what are other I don't what

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are other things? Other things? Getting married is for a while,

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getting married is a big one.

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Speaker 3: So just try to enjoy the journey, because I think

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people get really racing towards a promotion or something like that.

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Speaker 1: You know, just something where you're like when I get there,

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when I get happy, when I get there, and then

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you get there and like I've had this where I

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have gotten there enough and I'm still just like what's

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on the other side, And it's like you hit the

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goal post and then the goalpost moves, and so I'm

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just it's.

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Speaker 2: Just being a life succeasst.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, ready to wrap it up, this life of the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Both people. Really, I don't know if you.

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Speaker 3: Felt like this when you got married, what I felt

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that feeling. No one had warned me at all, So

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we come back into the house after the Sunday, after

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everything was over, and I just burst into tears and

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se Shank was like carrying stuff up from the car.

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Speaker 2: He was just like, are you gonna help? But I'm like,

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I get and everyone was like, oh girl, yeah, like

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this could last.

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Speaker 3: Weeks two months. I'm like, what are you saying. No

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one's talking about this. It's like childbirth.

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Speaker 2: It's this thing.

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Speaker 3: Everyone's experiencing and going through and no one's really talking

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about it. My wedding planner, Brenna Andrew Collins wife like,

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people were like, oh yeah, this was rough for me,

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and I was like, okay, we need to be talking

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about this more, this post wedding depression crash out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I don't even I'm actually glad. We just took

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a mini moon.

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Speaker 3: Then we went to Napa for a few days, and

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then we just took our real honeymoon. I'm kind of

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glad cause I was crying on the mini moon, like

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not all the time, but like something there. I whatever,

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it's not important, but I did cry, Like on the

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way to a winery.

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Speaker 1: I was just crying.

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Speaker 2: So I mean I cry all the time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I cry, I like, but I do think it's

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also I think so for you. I think yours was

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probably not like it's it's specifically more intense because you

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were doing that comedy tour, yeah, and the special, So

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it's like you, I like lost you as a friend

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last year, Like you were like go go, go, go go,

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Like it was like you were not available to your

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head was not even up the air, like you were

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just busy. And when you're that busy, and then you

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have a special, which is like that was your first special, right,

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that's my shooting. My first special was one of the

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best nights in my life. Like it was so special,

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like truly, like I was like, holy shit, that was unbelievable. Yeah,

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and then to then two or three weeks later, have

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a wedding where you're surrounded by all of your friends

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and family and everyone you love and your dad who's

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a fucking icon, and.

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Speaker 2: Like, just by the way stole the wedding.

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Speaker 1: I was dying when he gave his speech and you

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like were trying to he's he made some like sassy

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comment and you're like, well, I paid for the wedding.

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Speaker 2: He's like, because I paid for your duys, And I

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was like the way I stood in clasp for that

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stand ovation.

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Speaker 3: You're in the video Standing Ovation. My agent stands up

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and is like.

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Speaker 2: Let's book him a tool. It really signs up, Like

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it was.

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Speaker 3: We couldn't have planned it. People were like, did you

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plan that? We couldn't have if we tried. No, he's

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doing it was about how I was like, you know,

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never had any money as a kid, and I was

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putting his own Christmas gifts on the credit card and

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I yell out, I pay for this wedding. Yeah, And

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he clapped back so quick, and I mean, I'm so

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happy we have it on video, Like it's the best

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thing you could ever have, is to have that memorialized forever.

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Like I'm so glad Ryan caught it because it is

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an unbelievable thing. He pans the room. It's a standing ovation.

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Speaker 2: It's it's unreal. I mean.

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Speaker 1: But to have all of that, yeah, which is on

474
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:47,440
the back of a special that like you felt it

475
00:20:47,559 --> 00:20:50,119
was amazing, looked amazing, was a perfect night.

476
00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:52,079
Speaker 2: And then to have that and then to just be

477
00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:54,200
like okay, it was.

478
00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,640
Speaker 3: So tough because it was like after the special, it's like, okay,

479
00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:58,400
I still have one more thing, yea, yeah, I still

480
00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:01,400
have this wedding the second best thing of the year,

481
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,359
and then it was luckily the holidays came after that.

482
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,440
Like there was a point where I was really in

483
00:21:07,519 --> 00:21:11,119
a like just a fog, and I went home and

484
00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:13,440
it was my nephew's joint birthday party and they were

485
00:21:13,480 --> 00:21:15,359
running around and they were in the bounce house, and

486
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:16,839
I was like, Okay, I'm having like a moment of

487
00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:19,720
half of joy, Like I'm being cured by being around

488
00:21:19,759 --> 00:21:23,240
like family and these these kids. And so I was like,

489
00:21:23,599 --> 00:21:25,720
I haven't experienced something like that.

490
00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:27,759
Speaker 1: I crash out, Yeah, kind of ever because you're not

491
00:21:27,759 --> 00:21:28,599
a depressed person.

492
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:34,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm I'm not gonna lie. No, it's great.

493
00:21:34,599 --> 00:21:37,160
Speaker 1: I am so envious of you and how you will

494
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:41,400
move through life. I sometimes am like is this real?

495
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:44,960
So she really this good all the time, But.

496
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:45,559
Speaker 2: Like you really are.

497
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,799
Speaker 1: You just have a loving family and you were raised right,

498
00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:53,480
and you're just secure and confident and like really enjoying

499
00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:56,640
most of your life. And so you've never really had

500
00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:58,480
a big crash out before. So welcome to.

501
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:03,519
Speaker 2: The club base. I mean, thanks for saying that.

502
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:13,559
Speaker 3: I being secure and stable and healthy, like I attribute

503
00:22:13,599 --> 00:22:17,000
one hundred percent to my upbringing and my family, and

504
00:22:17,039 --> 00:22:17,799
that's just luck.

505
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 2: And I had a friend say to me once when

506
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:21,000
you grow up.

507
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:23,319
Speaker 3: Like, like I did you have a head start in

508
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:25,359
the world, And I took that to heart.

509
00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:26,119
Speaker 2: I know that's right.

510
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:28,400
Speaker 3: I didn't or in this in any way. I was

511
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,319
just lucky enough to be born to the family I was.

512
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,200
I grew up in a small town, which was nice,

513
00:22:33,279 --> 00:22:36,039
Like grew up in a time pre social media. I

514
00:22:36,079 --> 00:22:39,240
don't think growing up in an adolescent in the social

515
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,240
media era, I would have survived it just who I

516
00:22:41,279 --> 00:22:42,680
was as I look back as like who I was

517
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,680
as a kid and as a teenager, and I just

518
00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:49,480
think all the factors were right to kind of to

519
00:22:49,519 --> 00:22:52,279
be able to be just I don't know, like securely

520
00:22:52,279 --> 00:22:55,319
attached and whatever the things, you know, Like it's it's

521
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:58,559
not a brag, it's just I got lucky like that.

522
00:22:58,960 --> 00:22:59,440
Speaker 2: I don't know.

523
00:22:59,559 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 1: I mean I think I was. I think I'm naturally confident.

524
00:23:06,079 --> 00:23:07,599
Speaker 3: I guess when I you know, you look back at

525
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,920
who you were as a kid, and I always was

526
00:23:11,039 --> 00:23:15,200
really motivated, and I think at a young age, I

527
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:19,240
was really wanted to be well liked and popular and

528
00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:22,400
in with the cool kids, like desperately and I realized

529
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:24,759
I wasn't pretty like the other girls.

530
00:23:24,759 --> 00:23:25,599
Speaker 1: And I was like, gosh, I.

531
00:23:25,559 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 2: Gotta be funny and like you.

532
00:23:27,079 --> 00:23:29,759
Speaker 3: Just when I look back at like what got me

533
00:23:29,759 --> 00:23:31,079
to where I am today, it all kind of like

534
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:33,759
goes together, Like it's like you can put the puzzle pieces.

535
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:38,799
Speaker 2: Together, right. So, well I'm jealous. Well, well I'm jealous,

536
00:23:38,839 --> 00:23:47,839
but you're away prettier. It's worse. Trust Just what is it? Pretty? Punishment? Yeah? Literally? Pretty?

537
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: But people hate you just because whatever. I'm not even

538
00:23:50,039 --> 00:23:51,319
gonna say it, they'll hate me more.

539
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:57,519
Speaker 2: I say it. Oh my, okay, I want to talk

540
00:23:57,559 --> 00:24:00,839
about them. Can I say his name?

541
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, we say the same since we get married. Okay, great,

542
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:06,400
that's when we did our heart. He's like doing your podcast.

543
00:24:07,559 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 1: Special guest, Sean's filling in for Raina. You're in Raina's clothes.

544
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:16,119
You come doing it simulation. I'm banned from the podcast.

545
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,559
Let's be honest. No, we need to just bring you.

546
00:24:19,559 --> 00:24:21,599
You could really sub in for her right now. This

547
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:25,279
is I did. I never realized, like you are cosplaying Raina.

548
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,960
I know you're in her clothes, but it's a whole

549
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,920
I didn't realize how specific her look is until I

550
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:31,559
saw you in it.

551
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 2: I feel she would have never wore the sweats on

552
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,480
the bottom, but she like, I feel like this is

553
00:24:37,519 --> 00:24:44,680
so hard. Actually, yep, everything's raina is. I was just

554
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:45,599
trying first of all.

555
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,640
Speaker 1: I mean it was like being at sas Fit Avenue

556
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,000
in her house. I was just trying on all these

557
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,160
Most of her clothes have tags on them.

558
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:53,519
Speaker 2: Still.

559
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:53,839
Speaker 1: I know.

560
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,599
Speaker 3: She says she's like toned down her like shopping addiction,

561
00:24:57,759 --> 00:25:00,839
but now she's like in her shop my era, so

562
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:03,559
she gets closed centers sometimes, Like I think it's like

563
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,279
she doesn't shop as much, but the clothes are still coming.

564
00:25:07,079 --> 00:25:10,039
Speaker 2: In, yeah saying it, yeah, yeah, yeah.

565
00:25:10,079 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 1: But she's telling stuff on Poshmark too, allegedly.

566
00:25:12,599 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 2: I don't know whatever.

567
00:25:15,079 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 4: All right, well, let's say, is that a regular thing

568
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:20,799
if a woman stays at your house, should you expect

569
00:25:20,799 --> 00:25:22,319
that she's gonna try on all of your clothes?

570
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,279
Speaker 1: No, she just told me to make myself at home.

571
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,119
So she's like, if you could take some tags off,

572
00:25:27,599 --> 00:25:30,200
I'd love for you to take my tag test drive

573
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,480
all these new clothes.

574
00:25:33,839 --> 00:25:35,279
Speaker 3: I just want to go back and say that I

575
00:25:35,319 --> 00:25:38,519
do get sad sometimes that I am. You don't sad

576
00:25:38,559 --> 00:25:42,279
sometimes I am like a neurotic person who fixates in spirals.

577
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,039
Speaker 1: Okay, good, No, I mean I know you have OCD

578
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,000
thinking about stuff, but that's more like justice based.

579
00:25:47,039 --> 00:25:49,119
Speaker 2: Like you're like my partner in justice.

580
00:25:49,559 --> 00:25:51,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, like when when it's funny because I was talking

581
00:25:51,839 --> 00:25:54,240
to Rayna more about the design fiasco and she's like,

582
00:25:55,039 --> 00:25:57,279
she's like, with love and care, you need to call

583
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:59,880
actually because I met my ed.

584
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,319
Speaker 2: I don't go round and round and round. Yeah, like

585
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,079
I don't. I don't think any.

586
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,039
Speaker 3: I just want to clear up because you think I'm

587
00:26:08,079 --> 00:26:10,079
like stable and secure and I am and I will

588
00:26:10,079 --> 00:26:12,480
take that, but I don't think I'm like happy, go lucky,

589
00:26:12,559 --> 00:26:13,160
like I don't know.

590
00:26:13,279 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 2: I never said that. Oh I know. To be clear,

591
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,079
we don't have those kind of friends. No, I don't

592
00:26:17,079 --> 00:26:18,200
think that you're banned.

593
00:26:18,319 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 1: You're just confident in a way that's not forced and

594
00:26:21,519 --> 00:26:23,440
it's not like you can tell you didn't have to.

595
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:25,279
Speaker 2: Like work really hard on yourself to get there.

596
00:26:25,319 --> 00:26:28,559
Speaker 1: Like it's just innate and that's the head start. Yeah,

597
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:33,400
that's the head to start from my legendary father. And honestly, honestly,

598
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:35,440
maybe you're getting like rewarded in this life because in

599
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:37,200
the last life, like some shit went wrong?

600
00:26:37,559 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 2: But do you believe in that? Because I don't. Why

601
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,960
do we get to be so lucky? Like even people were.

602
00:26:43,759 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 3: Born in this country into like a decent enough family,

603
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:49,480
Like why do you get to be that lucky?

604
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,279
Speaker 2: And other people don't like why? Just I don't know.

605
00:26:51,319 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 1: This is like a too deep of a combo, but like.

606
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,519
Speaker 2: Enough, he's too deep of a convo. But what's your question?

607
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:00,559
Just I guess the bottom line is life isn't but

608
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:01,519
life isn't fair.

609
00:27:01,519 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 1: But here's my belief. My belief is that we as

610
00:27:06,559 --> 00:27:10,519
souls pick the lives that we enter into based on

611
00:27:10,599 --> 00:27:13,440
the lessons we need to learn in this iteration of life.

612
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:15,359
Speaker 2: And I think that.

613
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:19,559
Speaker 1: Maybe you're an older soul and you've gone through a

614
00:27:19,599 --> 00:27:22,240
lot and you're getting like maybe the easy life out

615
00:27:22,279 --> 00:27:24,960
of the way, and you're close to like being done

616
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:29,680
with reincarnation. Oh okay, my god, you have chills, which

617
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:32,279
is really nice. You should read the book Journey of Souls. Okay,

618
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,279
I definitely will. And because it's all about lot Yeah, no, you'll,

619
00:27:35,319 --> 00:27:37,640
you'll that book will blow you away. It's this I

620
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:39,480
talk about it too much on this podcast. I'll stop

621
00:27:39,519 --> 00:27:44,400
but this guy, he's a PhD hypno therapist, and he

622
00:27:44,559 --> 00:27:47,759
was hypnotizing people for trauma, trying to figure out like

623
00:27:47,839 --> 00:27:50,519
where their pain was coming from. And when he did that,

624
00:27:50,559 --> 00:27:52,680
he realized he could go to past lives, and he

625
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,599
lives past lives, and he could realize that the pain

626
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:57,359
in their body that they were holding could have been

627
00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,000
from a past life. So like somebody would come in

628
00:28:00,039 --> 00:28:01,799
with back pain, a doctor couldn't figure it out, and

629
00:28:01,799 --> 00:28:03,680
he's like, oh, yeah, in your past life, you whatever,

630
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,799
something horrible happened to your back, like you got crushed

631
00:28:06,839 --> 00:28:10,240
under a crane or something like that. But it basically

632
00:28:10,279 --> 00:28:13,160
just talks about the soul's journey and the different levels

633
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:16,000
of soul. And I think when you're near the end

634
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:20,720
of reincarnation you get to have a good, one easy life.

635
00:28:21,039 --> 00:28:25,960
So I'm nowhere near it. Somewhere in the first quarter

636
00:28:30,599 --> 00:28:37,640
Q four, unfortunately at the end of the FIS school year. Okay,

637
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,880
back to Shashank, I want to talk about I want

638
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:44,519
to talk about pre naps because I I think this

639
00:28:44,559 --> 00:28:46,680
is another thing people aren't talking about enough, and I

640
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:48,960
think they're so important and I don't think it really

641
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:53,200
matters where you and your partner are at like Shahank's wonderful,

642
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,799
but he is much younger than you and his you know,

643
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,440
career is a little further behind. And so you guys

644
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:01,000
got a prenap and you had a prenup lawyer come

645
00:29:01,039 --> 00:29:03,720
on your podcast and talk about prenups, right.

646
00:29:04,119 --> 00:29:06,839
Speaker 3: We did years ago. We had the prenup lawyer. We

647
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,640
had Laura Wasser come on, who was the goat. She's

648
00:29:10,039 --> 00:29:13,480
done Kim Kardashi and she's the one. Yeah. And then

649
00:29:13,559 --> 00:29:16,000
we had Jason Tartett come on and talk a little

650
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,319
bit more about them too. But Laura Wasser came on,

651
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:19,839
it was like such an honor and I was like, oh,

652
00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:22,359
I've never ever really been attracted to a woman until now,

653
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:24,720
Like she's like that goaded and that hot.

654
00:29:24,839 --> 00:29:25,559
Speaker 2: Yeah.

655
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 3: And then she is actually an advisor investor I don't

656
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:32,079
want to miss speak in the company that I used

657
00:29:32,079 --> 00:29:35,359
to do my prenup, which I feel like also lended

658
00:29:35,359 --> 00:29:37,519
it credibility. And then I developed a relationship with the

659
00:29:37,519 --> 00:29:39,559
founder of the company, Hello Prenup was also a divorce

660
00:29:39,599 --> 00:29:42,200
attorney previously before she founded this company, so I feel

661
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,880
like I do have a lot of information.

662
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:46,759
Speaker 2: So Hello Prenup is the company.

663
00:29:47,119 --> 00:29:49,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, because when I started the process, I was like,

664
00:29:49,119 --> 00:29:51,400
wait a minute, this is so difficult. I feel like

665
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:53,240
I'm going to come across like I'm presenting on Shark

666
00:29:53,279 --> 00:29:55,119
Tank right now, but like, truly I am their number

667
00:29:55,160 --> 00:30:00,160
one spokesperson. Because when I started to dive into how

668
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,480
much work it would take, how expensive it would be,

669
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:04,680
and I was talking to my business manager and he

670
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:05,880
put me in touch with the lawyer and I was like,

671
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,640
this cannot be. This should this has to be easier

672
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:11,319
in twenty twenty five to do. And that's where a

673
00:30:11,319 --> 00:30:13,240
hell a prenup came in. I found this service and

674
00:30:13,319 --> 00:30:16,839
it is and it's all online and they do I

675
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,160
don't want to misspeak again, but I think they're currently

676
00:30:19,279 --> 00:30:24,279
doing like a thirty or forty percent or even more

677
00:30:24,319 --> 00:30:26,119
of the country's prenups.

678
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 2: Oh wow, and they're holding up on court. I mean

679
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:28,559
it's littally legit.

680
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 3: Obviously, it goes out saying and you have to get

681
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,759
them notorized, you have to go through these processes. But

682
00:30:31,839 --> 00:30:33,759
it's just made it really easier as supposed to go

683
00:30:33,799 --> 00:30:35,759
into lawyer's office and paying all this money and you

684
00:30:35,799 --> 00:30:38,599
can get it done for you know, depending on what

685
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:43,000
you need six hundred bucks to two thousand dollars, where

686
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:45,559
upwards it would have been more like upwards of seven

687
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:52,200
to ten k prior. So I mean, I I don't

688
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,160
know if it would have even mattered if I married

689
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,720
someone who made the same or more.

690
00:30:57,839 --> 00:31:00,319
Speaker 2: No, that's that's that's what's the point. I always want

691
00:31:00,319 --> 00:31:00,799
to like.

692
00:31:01,319 --> 00:31:06,839
Speaker 1: My thing is the quote that I love and Jason

693
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:09,119
Tartak said this on our podcast, and it's not like

694
00:31:09,319 --> 00:31:11,440
such a hot take, but it's you always have a prenup.

695
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:14,039
It's whatever your state has decided for you. Marriage is

696
00:31:14,039 --> 00:31:15,880
a contract. It's just paperwork.

697
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 3: Like I didn't really care about getting married because I

698
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:22,039
was like, I am independent, I make my own money,

699
00:31:22,079 --> 00:31:23,319
I'm not going to change my last name.

700
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,279
Speaker 1: I'm not having children. I think it's great that people

701
00:31:26,359 --> 00:31:28,519
get married. My parents are still married and they share

702
00:31:28,559 --> 00:31:29,920
les same last name and they have children, they have

703
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:31,519
a family. Like that is how I grew up.

704
00:31:31,559 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 3: I have a lot of respect for it's very lovely,

705
00:31:33,519 --> 00:31:35,440
but that just wasn't going to be what I was

706
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:37,759
going to do, so I didn't care about it. It

707
00:31:37,799 --> 00:31:40,160
was really important to Shashank and we decided to get married.

708
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,759
I'm so glad that we did, but I always knew

709
00:31:42,759 --> 00:31:46,240
I would want a prenup and have whatever if we

710
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:49,599
were ever to break up, which is just being realistic

711
00:31:49,759 --> 00:31:50,640
about life.

712
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 2: I don't think we will. I hope we don't.

713
00:31:53,279 --> 00:31:56,559
Speaker 1: Nobody gets married exactly exactly why, but why do people

714
00:31:56,599 --> 00:32:01,440
think they're exempt from anything can happen? So anyway, I

715
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:04,400
always knew that we would have that, so what it

716
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:07,960
would be on our own terms. And California is a

717
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,720
community property state, which means that if you were get

718
00:32:10,799 --> 00:32:14,359
to get divorced without a pretty nuptial agreement, you both

719
00:32:14,359 --> 00:32:16,559
are pretty much entitled to fifty percent of all the

720
00:32:16,599 --> 00:32:18,960
income and assets that have been earned since you got married.

721
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 2: It all just goes into one pot.

722
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:25,519
Speaker 3: And so it was important to me and he knew that,

723
00:32:25,799 --> 00:32:29,599
and it was so easy. He's not trying to get

724
00:32:29,599 --> 00:32:31,440
my money, you know. If we were to get divorced also,

725
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:35,000
I would owe him spousal support immediately, which is crazy.

726
00:32:35,319 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 2: We don't have kids. And I would owe.

727
00:32:36,839 --> 00:32:39,119
Speaker 3: Him money just because he's been like if he opted

728
00:32:39,119 --> 00:32:40,559
in for that yet he could wait. He would wave

729
00:32:40,599 --> 00:32:43,519
it and I like that and I know kind of

730
00:32:43,519 --> 00:32:45,240
guy he is and he would never.

731
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,279
Speaker 2: Want that, but it we just wanted to do it.

732
00:32:47,319 --> 00:32:48,839
And you know there's a lot of stuff in there

733
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,279
that's beneficial. I mean, talk about what to do with

734
00:32:51,319 --> 00:32:53,519
a dog. You can do wills, you can do all

735
00:32:53,519 --> 00:32:57,079
this type of stuff. So, did you guys do a will? No,

736
00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:00,480
that's like on our Okay, wills are very funny nowadays.

737
00:33:00,519 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just want to warn you, like I, Chris

738
00:33:03,319 --> 00:33:04,640
and I had to do a will after we bought

739
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,240
our house together. And that house is the reason why

740
00:33:07,319 --> 00:33:09,880
I would never get married again without a prenup because

741
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:13,319
I put ninety five percent of the money for the

742
00:33:13,359 --> 00:33:15,160
down payment into that house and then I lost the

743
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,480
house in the divorce because I didn't have rich parents

744
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:18,599
to buy it, you.

745
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:19,039
Speaker 2: Know what I mean.

746
00:33:19,079 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that that was like a devastating loss. And

747
00:33:21,319 --> 00:33:22,960
Chris and I when we first got married, we both

748
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:25,039
had nothing. You know, we both were not nothing, but

749
00:33:25,079 --> 00:33:26,720
we were both working and I just saw a lot

750
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,480
of people think yeah, and I just pulled ahead. And

751
00:33:29,519 --> 00:33:33,440
then I bought the house and well, I'm not gonna

752
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:36,240
say I we bought the house, but you know, I

753
00:33:36,279 --> 00:33:40,759
bought the house and then losing it made me realize

754
00:33:40,799 --> 00:33:43,240
the value of a prenup. And it's it's just so

755
00:33:43,359 --> 00:33:46,839
interesting now because obviously with with Max, He's like, we

756
00:33:47,119 --> 00:33:48,920
absolutely have to get a prenup, and I'm like, of

757
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:50,640
course we do, Like we absolutely have to.

758
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:52,319
Speaker 2: I'm like, do you think my earning power is zero?

759
00:33:52,799 --> 00:33:55,039
Speaker 1: Like, do you think that over the next ten years,

760
00:33:55,079 --> 00:33:56,240
I'm gonna make no money?

761
00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 2: Yeah?

762
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:58,759
Speaker 1: You know. So it's like it really doesn't matter where

763
00:33:58,759 --> 00:34:01,319
you're at economically. It's just like if you don't want

764
00:34:01,359 --> 00:34:03,559
to get fucked in a way that you could never imagine.

765
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:06,160
Like the worst thing is like to the worst thing

766
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:10,840
in the world is getting divorced. It is the most painful, humbling, horrible, devastating, sad,

767
00:34:11,039 --> 00:34:13,360
And yes it can be great and empowering and wonderful

768
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,320
and necessary in all of those things, but at the

769
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:19,079
same time, it's horrible and then to also lose the

770
00:34:19,119 --> 00:34:20,559
shit you worked your ass off for.

771
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't want anyone to go through.

772
00:34:23,519 --> 00:34:26,280
Speaker 1: That, to lose it or even have to fight for it,

773
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,400
like even just to deal with all of that shit

774
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:32,519
on top of the divorce, Like it, I think it's

775
00:34:32,559 --> 00:34:34,280
so important, and.

776
00:34:36,039 --> 00:34:39,599
Speaker 3: Like I you're a great example of someone who needed one.

777
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,320
My aunt got really taken advantage of by her ex

778
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:47,119
husband who they don't have kids either, and she owed

779
00:34:47,159 --> 00:34:48,719
them all this money and she had built her business

780
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:51,000
before he even came along, and we watched her just

781
00:34:51,039 --> 00:34:52,880
get fucked to the point where she was like, take

782
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:54,800
two hundred K and get out of my life, you know.

783
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:57,119
And so I always knew that we would want to

784
00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:01,679
do that. And it is so unsex and it's really awkward,

785
00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:05,679
and you have to lay out everything from everything you have,

786
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:08,360
everything you make, all your debts, credit card debt, all

787
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,480
the things. I mean, a lot of people wouldn't want

788
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:12,239
to might be hiding that kind of thing. And we

789
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:15,719
have a really open, transparent, honest relationship and we communicate

790
00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:18,159
really well. But even for us, it was just weird,

791
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:23,039
like to go and check all these like nope, separate, Nope, separate, Nope, separate.

792
00:35:23,079 --> 00:35:24,559
Speaker 2: Like there's a point where we're like, why are we

793
00:35:24,639 --> 00:35:27,119
been getting married? Yeah, but we wanted to do it,

794
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:29,159
and we're glad that we did. If we are.

795
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,280
Speaker 1: Technically married, I'm not sure, but it's just.

796
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I really do recommend it, and I like that

797
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:37,280
it's being talked about more.

798
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:39,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think it's kind of like a

799
00:35:39,679 --> 00:35:41,880
bad word in some circles, you know, like, why are

800
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:42,480
we going to prenup?

801
00:35:42,559 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 2: We don't, you know.

802
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 1: I had one of Max's friends the other day said

803
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:49,360
I don't believe in divorce, and I was like, it's

804
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,840
not a fucking belief system, right, it's yeah, nobody goes

805
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:56,880
into marrying somebody thinking we're gonna get divorced, right, Nobody

806
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:59,199
goes into it being like this is my first marriage,

807
00:35:59,199 --> 00:36:01,480
Like I don't. It's you get into it and then

808
00:36:01,519 --> 00:36:03,760
you change because you're growing up and you either grow

809
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:04,760
together or grow apart.

810
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:05,119
Speaker 2: It's not.

811
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,199
Speaker 1: And it was just like such an arrogant, dumb young

812
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:11,880
thing to you say yeah, And I just was like, okay, yeah,

813
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:14,920
all right, right, it's like call me in fucking eight years.

814
00:36:15,119 --> 00:36:17,119
Speaker 2: I would love to see where you guys are at.

815
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 3: I just think it's I don't understand how people think

816
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,360
they're exempt from a potential break.

817
00:36:24,519 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: I will say that I did. But I got married

818
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:29,639
at twenty eight, and I thought, like, I'm never going

819
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:30,559
to be like my parents.

820
00:36:30,599 --> 00:36:31,280
Speaker 2: I'm still drinking.

821
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 1: I was still very like defiant and adamant and like

822
00:36:34,519 --> 00:36:36,079
everything that came out of my mouth, I knew for

823
00:36:36,119 --> 00:36:37,639
a fact to be true. Even though I was like

824
00:36:37,639 --> 00:36:39,440
probably the dumbest person in every room.

825
00:36:39,679 --> 00:36:40,639
Speaker 2: Like you know what I mean.

826
00:36:40,639 --> 00:36:41,840
Speaker 1: I was like, at that point in my life, I

827
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:43,800
was like, I'm never going to get married. I'm never

828
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:45,360
going to get married. And then when I got married,

829
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,000
I was like, I'm never going to get divorced. I'm

830
00:36:47,039 --> 00:36:49,360
never going to get divorced. It's twenty eight year old.

831
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:54,920
Yeah literally, And then I was like, and so I'm divorced, right,

832
00:36:55,119 --> 00:36:56,599
But then after I got divorced again, I was like,

833
00:36:56,599 --> 00:36:58,119
I'm never going to get married, and I'm now I'm

834
00:36:58,159 --> 00:37:00,880
just like I have to stop saying never, of saying never,

835
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:02,559
because it just puts a target on my back for

836
00:37:02,639 --> 00:37:03,239
the universe to.

837
00:37:03,159 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 3: Be like right in your cue, one of your reincredation.

838
00:37:07,079 --> 00:37:09,920
I mean, it's not even about you, Like, it's not

839
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:13,920
even I feel like some people feel like they're insulting

840
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,440
themselves or their ability to love or their relationship.

841
00:37:16,679 --> 00:37:19,039
Speaker 2: What if the other person just goes rogue. You don't

842
00:37:19,159 --> 00:37:20,280
know the other person.

843
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:24,679
Speaker 1: Kanye is right like you just big a man? Yeah,

844
00:37:25,119 --> 00:37:25,800
just a man.

845
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 2: You trust a man.

846
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 3: Literally, You're like, that man's gonna be great forever. Since

847
00:37:31,079 --> 00:37:32,199
when has that ever happened?

848
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's barely good now, right, Like that's what's so

849
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,159
crazy to me, Like, ladies, what do you why would

850
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:40,599
you put all the rest of your life's trust in.

851
00:37:40,599 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 2: This mayn right? So just protect yourself.

852
00:37:43,119 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 3: I like man Amanda Beetula and Kyle Cook, they're like

853
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,760
from Summer House or whatever. But she's they've recently got

854
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:52,199
had this public divorce and she's been talking about prenups

855
00:37:52,199 --> 00:37:57,039
and it's a little unclear. I don't I haven't dove

856
00:37:57,079 --> 00:38:00,400
in too deeply. But he had this beverage company, her boy,

857
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:05,000
and she worked for him for years and she's saying

858
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,239
she wish she would have got a prenup. And I

859
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,079
think it's because the company is all this debt. So

860
00:38:09,119 --> 00:38:11,360
I think some people don't remember, don't remember the debts

861
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:13,280
a part of it. It's it's yes, it's about protecting

862
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,079
your assets, but it's also about their debts.

863
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:22,159
Speaker 2: So that's the thing. Because our partners like to gamble.

864
00:38:27,559 --> 00:38:31,800
Speaker 1: They're going to go to the MGM and come out

865
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:35,440
I know, like once they locked in about their gambling.

866
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:38,559
Speaker 2: Well is Max Baseball like is that he's whatever's whatever?

867
00:38:38,599 --> 00:38:43,360
Speaker 1: I mean, like he'll do like badminton and fucking Siberia.

868
00:38:43,599 --> 00:38:44,199
Speaker 2: The war.

869
00:38:45,559 --> 00:38:49,639
Speaker 3: Iran no Sha Shanka's baseball is his season, and like,

870
00:38:50,079 --> 00:38:52,639
I have to give it, he's not, it's not out

871
00:38:52,639 --> 00:38:57,280
of controls ps the most games. But I have to

872
00:38:57,280 --> 00:39:00,519
remember the other night that part he's sou were amped

873
00:39:00,519 --> 00:39:02,320
for baseball, and I had to remember that. It's like

874
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:05,800
because he's gonna make my hopefully, Like it reminded me

875
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:07,679
of why he's so excited about it, because he does

876
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:08,280
like this sport.

877
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 2: But then I was like, oh, right, it's the gambling.

878
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:14,000
So but he's yeah, he keeps it in check.

879
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 1: Max did mushrooms in Vegas and he had a download

880
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,000
from the universe that he had to stop gambling. So

881
00:39:20,119 --> 00:39:22,920
he stopped sports gambling and now he just plays poker

882
00:39:23,559 --> 00:39:24,840
like a degenerate, Like he's.

883
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:28,199
Speaker 2: Literally in like irl or yeah he literally it just went.

884
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 1: He drove forty minutes to like I don't even know

885
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,760
where he is, Fort Lauderdale or something, to go enter

886
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:39,440
a poker tournament at some like Indian Reservation casino.

887
00:39:39,679 --> 00:39:41,800
Speaker 2: What was he doing before, like sports camping?

888
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,159
Speaker 1: Like yeah, sports gambling is bad, Like I don't know,

889
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,480
it's like aren't isn't everybody doing like FanDuel? Yeah, but

890
00:39:47,519 --> 00:39:52,119
it's it's it's degenerate gambling. It's like waking up make

891
00:39:52,199 --> 00:39:54,639
cooking a parlay. Like every time before bed, he'd be like,

892
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:56,079
I'm working, and I'm like, you're not.

893
00:39:56,159 --> 00:39:59,760
Speaker 2: Working trading on FANDUL.

894
00:40:00,079 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, listing all your entire savings ten dollars time.

895
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

896
00:40:04,559 --> 00:40:09,039
Speaker 3: Okay, is he really does. It's not like an addiction,

897
00:40:09,199 --> 00:40:11,719
I will say. And it's sporadic and random.

898
00:40:14,519 --> 00:40:18,039
Speaker 4: Baseball, by the way, Yeah, professional sports betters, they do

899
00:40:18,159 --> 00:40:22,079
think baseball is the most predictable and safe way to go,

900
00:40:22,199 --> 00:40:25,800
and like that's their sport of choice them.

901
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,519
Speaker 2: At all, Like it the most boring sport.

902
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 4: You're welcome, sir.

903
00:40:28,599 --> 00:40:34,840
Speaker 3: And and the longest, most most games of right, Like

904
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:39,039
it's just it's the Yeah, like football, there's what twelve

905
00:40:39,039 --> 00:40:40,480
games a team a season.

906
00:40:40,639 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I don't know what do I know? But yeah,

907
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:45,840
and what do we know at all? I tried to

908
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:47,719
get in on sports gambling and then I just lost

909
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:48,920
money and I was like, this isn't fun.

910
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:49,559
Speaker 2: I don't like this.

911
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:52,599
Speaker 4: Oh right, yeah, decided to go with sports players instead.

912
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 2: I tried to know. I did that long long ago, Mike,

913
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:56,159
long long ago.

914
00:40:56,199 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: It's funny because it's just been like get going out

915
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:02,280
in the sun every day. I started saying his name literally,

916
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,639
just last podcast, I was calling him mister Manhattan.

917
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:05,639
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm calling.

918
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 1: Him Max because he's not on man hat anymore. I know,

919
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:16,840
mister Bagel, mister mister displaced me out of La Mister

920
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:20,119
took me away from my dreams. We can call that

921
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,679
mister put a bag over my head and took me

922
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:23,159
to Florida.

923
00:41:23,639 --> 00:41:24,119
Speaker 2: Anyway.

924
00:41:24,599 --> 00:41:27,679
Speaker 1: He's half Cyrian and he's been tanning and he's getting

925
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,159
very brown and I like it. Oh good, And he

926
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,159
was like, my dark enough for you, and I was like, still, no,

927
00:41:33,119 --> 00:41:34,239
I get that a lot.

928
00:41:34,119 --> 00:41:37,320
Speaker 2: Still shocked us that too. Yeah, well we we just

929
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,719
went to he doesn't wear sunscreen. I wish he would.

930
00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 3: I care about him in his health, but he does not.

931
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:44,639
I'm not going to force it on him. You know,

932
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:48,280
that's his problem. So he gets so dark. But yeah,

933
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:51,280
he makes the same jokes. He's still dark enough and

934
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:52,400
he swings his dick around.

935
00:41:55,639 --> 00:41:56,199
Speaker 2: Hilarious.

936
00:41:57,920 --> 00:41:59,760
Speaker 1: Wait, we have to talk about wills. So when Chris

937
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,840
and I we're doing a will for the house, what

938
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:06,119
wills are so petty? Now, you can be unbelievably petty

939
00:42:06,159 --> 00:42:09,280
in a will, which made me so excited. Okay, basically, like,

940
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:11,000
after you die, you can put in a will who

941
00:42:11,079 --> 00:42:12,880
you do not want at your funeral.

942
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god, could you like? Could I say like?

943
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 1: And I want this person to run security like a

944
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:22,599
bouncer as a funeral, Oh my god, to turn people away.

945
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:23,760
Speaker 2: You can put a.

946
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 1: Playlist, Ashley, this is where you're gonna shine. A playlist

947
00:42:27,599 --> 00:42:31,000
for your funeral. You can upload it into the will.

948
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:34,360
Speaker 2: It's just a well, like Spotify gonna still be around.

949
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:38,679
Speaker 1: You just upload it, you type it in, and it's

950
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:41,039
going to play it at the What if they don't

951
00:42:41,119 --> 00:42:41,760
have premium?

952
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 2: They play ads at your funeral? Would be my funeral?

953
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:50,440
Be an ad? Would be an ice ad? Oh my

954
00:42:50,559 --> 00:42:54,639
security recruitment. Oh my god. Wait this is I can't

955
00:42:54,679 --> 00:42:55,199
wait to die.

956
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:57,679
Speaker 3: This is great. I'm in my fourth quarter. This turning

957
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:00,639
people away from your funeral is iconic.

958
00:43:00,679 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 1: It's such a gift. Yeah, I I you know, for

959
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:04,840
many reasons I want to die, but.

960
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,079
Speaker 2: For that one the most, I like. I can't wait

961
00:43:07,119 --> 00:43:10,239
to have it. Do not allow that allow.

962
00:43:10,519 --> 00:43:13,679
Speaker 1: It's like that meme that said you see people crying

963
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:15,559
at your funeral, and my best friend snaps because she

964
00:43:15,599 --> 00:43:18,280
never liked y'all right, people there crying and she's like,

965
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:19,599
she didn't like you.

966
00:43:19,639 --> 00:43:20,599
Speaker 2: Well, I also hope Blake.

967
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:22,639
Speaker 3: By the time I die, like, all my enemies will

968
00:43:22,639 --> 00:43:24,079
be dead, all my ops will be dead.

969
00:43:25,599 --> 00:43:28,199
Speaker 4: But what song do you want playing while you're being lowered?

970
00:43:28,639 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 2: Oh? That's really good?

971
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 1: Back that up, Chris, honestly, wops gotta be Chris and

972
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:40,119
I had what's that fucking song? You put two of

973
00:43:40,159 --> 00:43:43,159
America's most wanted in the same motherfucking place at the

974
00:43:43,159 --> 00:43:44,440
same motherfucking time.

975
00:43:44,559 --> 00:43:45,159
Speaker 2: What is it?

976
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 1: That's pop the champagne glasses and the motherfucking condoms. That's

977
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:54,320
literally what I can hear it? I will Yeah, America's

978
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:58,440
most wanted. I think, Oh, okay, hang on, I have

979
00:43:58,519 --> 00:44:00,800
to get it. Chris picked the song obviously, yep, this

980
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:08,840
is it. You know they had like the intro.

981
00:44:09,119 --> 00:44:12,079
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, this son always an intro back in our

982
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:12,679
back in.

983
00:44:12,679 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 3: Our day, always an interlude.

984
00:44:17,039 --> 00:44:22,039
Speaker 2: Come on, what are you.

985
00:44:22,039 --> 00:44:24,760
Speaker 1: Guys wanting to be in the same casket? No, but

986
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:26,800
if we both died together, it's but that's just a

987
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:27,440
funny intro.

988
00:44:27,679 --> 00:44:29,559
Speaker 3: So I wanted to be cremated, but now I'm like

989
00:44:29,639 --> 00:44:37,480
a casket lowering music is oh, yeah, perfect.

990
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 4: You'd have said nothing about a gangster party, we'd have

991
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:42,519
known the song instantly.

992
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:47,119
Speaker 3: What you want a different direction you're doing like the

993
00:44:47,159 --> 00:44:49,960
other stuff. No, no, he's saying, if you would have

994
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:51,320
said that from the beginning, we would have known.

995
00:44:55,000 --> 00:45:01,880
Speaker 1: It's this intro that really gets this.

996
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:16,079
Speaker 2: Oh hell, yes, did you get that song? And then divorce.

997
00:45:18,679 --> 00:45:20,519
Speaker 1: Chris got that song in the divorce and he picks it.

998
00:45:20,760 --> 00:45:23,159
Picked it also his ring tone for me, which was

999
00:45:23,199 --> 00:45:25,400
his ring tone when we were married and has stayed

1000
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:27,599
his ring tones since we got divorced. For every time

1001
00:45:27,639 --> 00:45:30,400
I call his cold des Ice, that's perfect, so good,

1002
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:32,880
Oh my god, every time his phone rings, it's cold

1003
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:33,199
des Ice.

1004
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:38,039
Speaker 2: He knows since he's like it transitioned perfectly. Ring tone

1005
00:45:38,119 --> 00:45:38,719
is hilarious.

1006
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 3: I saw the funniest real the other day and it

1007
00:45:41,519 --> 00:45:45,559
was like a doctor calling someone to tell them they

1008
00:45:45,599 --> 00:45:48,639
had chlamydia in the early two thousands, and it was just.

1009
00:45:48,639 --> 00:45:51,920
Speaker 1: Like jaw role playing, like like living it up and

1010
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:54,039
they're just like waiting to leave with us. It's it's

1011
00:45:54,119 --> 00:45:57,559
so true with the ringback tone, the ringbacks also the

1012
00:45:57,679 --> 00:46:01,199
ring tones I remember on my Motorola razor. Yes, like

1013
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:04,360
it would just like you, but you assigned them to

1014
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:07,639
different people and so you knew who was calling. So I,

1015
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:12,239
my drug dealer boyfriend got a t I song. It

1016
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:15,599
was top Back, and every time I hear top Back

1017
00:46:15,639 --> 00:46:16,519
now I get kind of.

1018
00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 2: Horny like it. No, that's a horny song about Yeah. Also,

1019
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:28,400
t I is fucking back Guy's back.

1020
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: Was he doing something?

1021
00:46:30,079 --> 00:46:32,360
Speaker 2: Is he t Guy's back? Baby? I mean, do you

1022
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:33,360
hear the new t I song?

1023
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:35,760
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, Yeah, he drugged some girls. It's not great,

1024
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:39,079
but we did. Yeah. Remember the whole Daughter of Virginity thing?

1025
00:46:39,079 --> 00:46:41,199
That was weird. That was weird, but we're ignoring it

1026
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:43,000
because listen to this, there's so many worse men.

1027
00:46:43,079 --> 00:46:46,039
Speaker 2: I'll cut it, Mike, you'll cut it. Sorry.

1028
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 1: You just have to hear this song. It's like we're

1029
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:55,239
back in the good old days. It's a fucking banger already.

1030
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:55,800
I'm in.

1031
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 3: My face is like, I know it's a millennial yeah,

1032
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:06,519
oh hell yeah.

1033
00:47:06,639 --> 00:47:14,800
Speaker 2: It feels like just Scott, what is it? This is

1034
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:20,519
so good? I'm like, why do I have these rain

1035
00:47:20,599 --> 00:47:24,039
cars that face? Yeah? Well, listen to it on the

1036
00:47:24,039 --> 00:47:27,239
car at home, okay, perfect? Oh, right in the tesla no,

1037
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,599
not the Tesla. The Tesla.

1038
00:47:29,679 --> 00:47:30,199
Speaker 1: What do you have?

1039
00:47:30,679 --> 00:47:34,639
Speaker 2: I have Rennel Raina's car. No, she forgot to leave

1040
00:47:34,679 --> 00:47:36,840
me the key. I would be the full package if

1041
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:40,400
she left the No.

1042
00:47:40,679 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: My friend Brian let me borrow his car, but I

1043
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:44,360
don't think he's used it since twenty twelve.

1044
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:46,039
Speaker 2: What is it?

1045
00:47:46,119 --> 00:47:48,679
Speaker 1: A VW It doesn't even have a backup camera. I

1046
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:50,239
literally just reverse without looking.

1047
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:53,800
Speaker 3: It's so it's so crazy, Like I drove a two

1048
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,679
thousand and three Nissan Extra until just a few years ago.

1049
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:58,960
Oh and now it is hard to go back to

1050
00:47:59,039 --> 00:48:00,760
like a nice car backup cameras.

1051
00:48:01,199 --> 00:48:01,800
Speaker 2: It's really hard.

1052
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:03,639
Speaker 1: I remember when I was home because the Tesla, the

1053
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:06,559
phone is your key, so when you get out of it,

1054
00:48:06,559 --> 00:48:08,199
it just shuts down automatically.

1055
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:09,280
Speaker 2: You don't have to do anything.

1056
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:11,199
Speaker 3: Wait, what were it wasn't Sha shuk helping you with

1057
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:14,559
your car? Yeah it's busted, but from Florida?

1058
00:48:14,679 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 2: Yeah okay Sun.

1059
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:19,239
Speaker 3: Because he was radioing it, he was like, I've worked

1060
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:20,400
on Berney's car all day to day.

1061
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:22,800
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh okay all day.

1062
00:48:23,559 --> 00:48:23,639
Speaker 1: No.

1063
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 2: It was like intermittently It's.

1064
00:48:25,599 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 1: So funny because Max was like, it's being shock said,

1065
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:29,679
it's being bad, and Bax was like.

1066
00:48:29,679 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 2: Should I spank? It was like no, Like Max, go

1067
00:48:33,599 --> 00:48:36,519
clean up the carpet. Ye literally cleaned up the dog shit.

1068
00:48:38,119 --> 00:48:38,800
What was I saying?

1069
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 1: Will's petty noka something right before?

1070
00:48:45,039 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 2: That doesn't pay attention to what I say. I can't

1071
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:49,920
ask him.

1072
00:48:50,039 --> 00:48:53,119
Speaker 1: Okay, well, good to know. I'm gonna get on the

1073
00:48:53,159 --> 00:48:56,079
car the backup camera. Oh this is what I was Okay, Okay,

1074
00:48:56,119 --> 00:48:57,880
So I'm so used to the Tesla just getting out

1075
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,360
of the car and it turns off. And I was

1076
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:02,519
in Wisconsin and my dad has like a little forward car.

1077
00:49:02,679 --> 00:49:04,800
He calls it the grocery getter, and so that's.

1078
00:49:04,639 --> 00:49:05,760
Speaker 2: What I drive when I'm home.

1079
00:49:06,039 --> 00:49:08,719
Speaker 1: And I was driving my dad somewhere and I just

1080
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,960
got out of the car and left it running and

1081
00:49:12,039 --> 00:49:14,400
walked away totally. And he looked at me and he's

1082
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:19,840
like really really, And I was like, what the car's on?

1083
00:49:20,440 --> 00:49:22,079
Speaker 2: The keys in the car?

1084
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,880
Speaker 3: Okay, so why, like I am, it's supposed to turn off,

1085
00:49:26,679 --> 00:49:28,559
it's to call a cab.

1086
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 2: And they're like you have to pay me? Yeah, yelling

1087
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:33,960
at me. This is weird.

1088
00:49:34,119 --> 00:49:36,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like I'm on a horse and buggy

1089
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:39,719
God in Wisconsin.

1090
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:43,119
Speaker 2: Oh my God, Okay, what do you think about this?

1091
00:49:43,119 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 1: This is going around on the internet and I want

1092
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:46,480
to get your two cents on it. They're saying that

1093
00:49:46,599 --> 00:49:49,719
over communicating is a form of begging, Like if you

1094
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:55,079
tell someone something and they don't make a change or react,

1095
00:49:55,599 --> 00:49:58,639
then you're wasting your time by telling them twice.

1096
00:49:59,519 --> 00:50:00,719
Speaker 2: I mean, what's an example.

1097
00:50:00,800 --> 00:50:02,920
Speaker 3: Is this more like an a relationship, like something your

1098
00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:04,079
partner's doing that you don't like.

1099
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:07,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think yeah, I think it can be in

1100
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:10,079
a relationship, Like if you continue to say I need

1101
00:50:10,119 --> 00:50:11,400
you to do this, I need you to do this,

1102
00:50:11,519 --> 00:50:14,119
and they're not doing it and they refuse to acknowledge

1103
00:50:14,119 --> 00:50:16,679
it or make any change, then it's like you're begging

1104
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:21,079
them to pay attention to you, right or to acknowledge

1105
00:50:21,079 --> 00:50:21,679
your needs.

1106
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:23,800
Speaker 2: And and then do you stay put? Do you keep

1107
00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:25,840
saying it or do you walk away? Yeah?

1108
00:50:25,960 --> 00:50:28,119
Speaker 1: I mean I guess it's like what level is it

1109
00:50:28,159 --> 00:50:32,679
take the trash out or is it not gambling?

1110
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's something they need to do, so

1111
00:50:36,119 --> 00:50:36,840
I think take the.

1112
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:40,159
Speaker 1: Trash out is that's one that seems small, but over

1113
00:50:40,199 --> 00:50:43,599
time that will derail a marriage.

1114
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:44,679
Speaker 2: Like that's the thing.

1115
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:48,280
Speaker 1: It's like it's not about it's a there's there's a saying,

1116
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:49,880
and I don't remember exactly what it is.

1117
00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:50,679
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get it wrong.

1118
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:53,559
Speaker 1: But it's not about the dish, right, It's it's about

1119
00:50:53,559 --> 00:50:56,679
the respect. It's not about putting them. Yeah I want, well,

1120
00:50:56,679 --> 00:50:58,280
I don't I just put that. It's not about me.

1121
00:50:58,639 --> 00:51:00,679
It's not about you not putting the dish in the

1122
00:51:00,679 --> 00:51:03,920
dishwasher at three years later. It's about something else, you

1123
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:05,480
know what I mean, Like you not putting the dish

1124
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:08,239
in the dishwasher after I ask you five hundred times

1125
00:51:08,519 --> 00:51:10,760
to put the dish in the dishwasher. It's no longer

1126
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:12,480
about me wanting you to do that. It's about you

1127
00:51:12,519 --> 00:51:16,079
disrespecting the fact that that is a need of mine. Yeah,

1128
00:51:16,119 --> 00:51:18,440
And I don't want to clean up after you, and

1129
00:51:18,480 --> 00:51:21,360
you're not fucking listening, right, So it's like I think

1130
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:24,320
those those are like smaller examples that become really big.

1131
00:51:25,039 --> 00:51:26,960
But I think I also wonder I'm not making any sense,

1132
00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:28,280
And I know that because you're looking at people.

1133
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:29,199
Speaker 2: No, I know what you're saying.

1134
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about my own personal experience and how to

1135
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:33,880
answer the question. I mean, the trash thing is so

1136
00:51:34,039 --> 00:51:37,119
huge yea. Like when we moved in together, I was like,

1137
00:51:37,519 --> 00:51:41,519
you know, this is something I want you to do.

1138
00:51:41,599 --> 00:51:42,000
Speaker 2: Shshank.

1139
00:51:42,039 --> 00:51:44,199
Speaker 3: Obviously he's the guy takes the trash out. I'm not

1140
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,320
taking the trash out, like I mean, I can't even

1141
00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:49,039
imagine it now. I mean I had to for so

1142
00:51:49,119 --> 00:51:51,559
many years. But it's like, this is the guy's job.

1143
00:51:51,599 --> 00:51:53,159
It's like that everyone reason to get married, so they

1144
00:51:53,159 --> 00:51:53,719
take the trash out.

1145
00:51:53,719 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 2: You don't deal with the trash.

1146
00:51:54,639 --> 00:51:55,840
Speaker 1: You don't take the trash out.

1147
00:51:56,159 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 2: That's no.

1148
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:00,639
Speaker 3: I mean, if it's if he's gone and the trash

1149
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:03,719
is full, but that's his I hate to I don't

1150
00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:05,440
like to say that's his job. It's not we don't

1151
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:06,920
like chores. I'm not his mom, but like we have

1152
00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:08,239
our own responsibilities.

1153
00:52:08,559 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 1: So what's your equivalent to that? Like, what do you

1154
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:12,440
do exclusively that he doesn't do?

1155
00:52:13,679 --> 00:52:20,000
Speaker 2: Make the money? Yeah, failure out. I mean, what are my.

1156
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:27,039
Speaker 1: You're like, so, nun I do a lot. We both

1157
00:52:27,119 --> 00:52:28,840
do a lot. I know, I'm not saying you don't know.

1158
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:30,960
I'm just saying that was like a very gender specific

1159
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:32,079
like men take the trash out.

1160
00:52:32,119 --> 00:52:32,880
Speaker 2: So I'm wondering, like.

1161
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:36,679
Speaker 3: What I feel like as a whole. I keep the

1162
00:52:36,679 --> 00:52:41,440
house cleaner. Okay, I book the house cleaner. I text

1163
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:45,159
with Ruby. No, but I like, when do we do

1164
00:52:45,159 --> 00:52:48,559
have someone come clean every couple of weeks? And in

1165
00:52:49,039 --> 00:52:51,199
outside of that window, I keep the house clean, like

1166
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:54,280
I don't. He rarely vacuums, azol sheds like crazy, Like

1167
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:56,800
I'm always with the dice in like I do think

1168
00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:59,639
it is. I keep the house clean, love a dice

1169
00:52:59,679 --> 00:53:01,679
in and oh my god, like I really get off

1170
00:53:01,679 --> 00:53:01,920
on it.

1171
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:02,840
Speaker 2: I do you have.

1172
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: The one with the green light?

1173
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:06,880
Speaker 2: I don't know, we know you would know one.

1174
00:53:07,039 --> 00:53:09,039
Speaker 1: Okay, No, you have to you have to get the

1175
00:53:09,039 --> 00:53:10,400
adult one. Okay, you have to.

1176
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:12,239
Speaker 2: Get the one. You just said a pet.

1177
00:53:12,599 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 1: No, it's a full size it's a full size stick.

1178
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:16,199
Oh I thought you meant it was just like like

1179
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:16,719
a shark.

1180
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 2: Now it's not that. Okay.

1181
00:53:19,079 --> 00:53:22,079
Speaker 1: The mine has a green light and it illuminates all

1182
00:53:22,119 --> 00:53:26,199
the dust. I never thought it could be so excited

1183
00:53:26,239 --> 00:53:26,800
about cleaton.

1184
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:29,599
Speaker 2: I mean I do it in the dark. Yeah, oh

1185
00:53:29,639 --> 00:53:37,360
my god, it's like MTV room writers. There's I'm so funny.

1186
00:53:37,599 --> 00:53:41,360
Speaker 1: We can detect your coffee, your dust, here's dust, here's

1187
00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:42,480
colored dogs.

1188
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:48,400
Speaker 2: Resident residue. But your boyfriend did and clean up. Talk

1189
00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:51,840
about the podcast. Let's talk about it. Okay, talk about it. Well,

1190
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:53,679
we don't have to know, let's talk about it.

1191
00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:59,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, so anyway, that so I okay, it's fine, you

1192
00:53:59,800 --> 00:54:00,360
don't chortes.

1193
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 2: Let's talk about it.

1194
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:04,159
Speaker 3: I don't back to your question, Like, I understand it

1195
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:08,440
being frustrating when to have to continuously ask someone to

1196
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:10,920
do something and you have to decide what your boundary

1197
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:12,920
is and if you want to live like that forever.

1198
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 1: And yeah, so it's like basically what they're saying on

1199
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:19,039
reels and TikTok and whatever is they heard you and

1200
00:54:19,079 --> 00:54:22,119
they don't care, you know. So over communication is a

1201
00:54:22,119 --> 00:54:23,840
form of begging in that they heard you the first

1202
00:54:23,840 --> 00:54:25,480
time and they don't give a fuck because they didn't

1203
00:54:25,559 --> 00:54:27,639
change the behavior. Yeah, and so I think that it

1204
00:54:27,679 --> 00:54:30,800
can apply to anything big or small, you know. I

1205
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:32,440
don't think it has to be any one thing.

1206
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:34,559
Speaker 2: It just depends on what it is and they might

1207
00:54:34,639 --> 00:54:35,039
not care.

1208
00:54:35,159 --> 00:54:39,119
Speaker 3: And it also could be a crazy demand, like I

1209
00:54:39,119 --> 00:54:40,800
don't know what it is. It just there's such a

1210
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:45,840
spectrum of this from trash to I don't know what

1211
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:49,920
would be like a intense demand. I don't know that's

1212
00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:51,559
just I think it just depends on what it is.

1213
00:54:51,679 --> 00:54:54,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, like asking for fundamental lifestyle changes, like you golfing

1214
00:54:54,920 --> 00:54:58,199
five days a week, it makes me feel isolated or

1215
00:54:58,239 --> 00:55:00,480
lonely or whatever, and then they keep golfing five times

1216
00:55:00,519 --> 00:55:02,360
a week, you know, but they're like, he's like that

1217
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:05,920
brings me joy, you know. So I think it's just well.

1218
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 3: Then they need to tell you that, Like if you say,

1219
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:09,360
like I need to stop partying, I need to stop golfing,

1220
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:11,159
and I need you to plan more, this, plan more that,

1221
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:13,920
Like your partners should say here's what I can do, right,

1222
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:15,320
here's what I'm not willing to do, and here's what

1223
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:17,360
I can do. The worst thing someone could do is

1224
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:19,320
say okay, I'll stop, and then not stop, and then

1225
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:23,519
you're double disrespected, right, so right, I don't know.

1226
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:26,039
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I also think, okay, so go back,

1227
00:55:26,119 --> 00:55:29,119
you take out the trash. Yeah I do, but we alternate.

1228
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,159
But now that I know that you don't, I'm not

1229
00:55:31,199 --> 00:55:36,960
going to when it comes to trash.

1230
00:55:37,039 --> 00:55:40,800
Speaker 3: I'm just not a feminist even I'm like, that's a

1231
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:41,639
feminist at all.

1232
00:55:41,679 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 1: I would love just kuayludes in a fucking mop, Like I.

1233
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:47,119
Speaker 2: Don't need to do that. I have a pomenis, but

1234
00:55:47,199 --> 00:55:51,519
not about the trash like I would. I can't, but

1235
00:55:52,079 --> 00:55:55,360
you guys have figured it out. I don't identify.

1236
00:55:59,119 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 1: Okay, so about the dishes, going back to this point

1237
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:02,079
because it's been.

1238
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:03,400
Speaker 2: In my brain for five minutes.

1239
00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:07,280
Speaker 1: So I think the problem with the dish example, or

1240
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:09,199
like little examples like the trash, is that if you

1241
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:11,400
say you have to put the dish in the dishwasher,

1242
00:56:11,719 --> 00:56:13,159
and then they don't do it, and then you do

1243
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:15,840
it for them, they get used to the pattern of

1244
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:17,840
you then doing it for them, so they think you

1245
00:56:17,880 --> 00:56:18,519
don't mean it.

1246
00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:21,239
Speaker 2: Yes, do you know what I mean?

1247
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,159
Speaker 1: So it's like there has to also be some like

1248
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:25,880
you set a boundary, there has to be action that

1249
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,079
opposes that boundary. You have to let dishes pile up

1250
00:56:28,119 --> 00:56:30,320
until he lives in a home filled with dishes.

1251
00:56:30,119 --> 00:56:33,239
Speaker 3: Right, But also like I don't know. I mean, I

1252
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:36,239
am my home is very clean. I want to be

1253
00:56:36,519 --> 00:56:38,559
neat and tidy, and I don't want dishes in the

1254
00:56:38,599 --> 00:56:39,119
sing But.

1255
00:56:39,039 --> 00:56:42,039
Speaker 1: Like, I don't know, sometimes there's a dish in the saying.

1256
00:56:42,039 --> 00:56:44,039
Speaker 2: I'm just like I'm a human, you.

1257
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:45,679
Speaker 1: Know, Like I find if you put the dish in

1258
00:56:45,760 --> 00:56:46,079
the sake.

1259
00:56:46,599 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 2: But is there a world in which it's just like.

1260
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 3: One partner is just nagging the other one all the

1261
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,760
time and it's just kind of like they're just being

1262
00:56:57,079 --> 00:56:59,760
human or is it like a real pattern and they

1263
00:57:00,079 --> 00:57:01,639
refuse to clean up after themselves.

1264
00:57:01,719 --> 00:57:03,360
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know either. I was just

1265
00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:05,639
bringing up something I saw on a real Yeah.

1266
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:09,239
Speaker 3: No, I find this really interesting, Like and there's so

1267
00:57:09,320 --> 00:57:15,679
many things tied into it, like weaponized incompetence when explain specifically,

1268
00:57:15,760 --> 00:57:17,960
men like don't do stuff because like you can.

1269
00:57:17,880 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 2: Do it better.

1270
00:57:18,639 --> 00:57:19,480
Speaker 1: I don't know how to do that.

1271
00:57:19,599 --> 00:57:21,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, you just like do it better. Kind.

1272
00:57:22,039 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 1: It's been really interesting living with Max because he keeps

1273
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:28,559
reminding me. He's like, this is my first time living

1274
00:57:28,599 --> 00:57:31,119
with someone, so you have to help me. He's like,

1275
00:57:31,159 --> 00:57:32,920
you have to like teach me how to be better,

1276
00:57:33,199 --> 00:57:35,559
which I think is such a healthy way to approach

1277
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:38,559
living with someone for the first time because I have

1278
00:57:38,639 --> 00:57:42,920
so much experience coexisting with someone. I know to clean up,

1279
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:46,800
and I know to take care, and I know to provide,

1280
00:57:46,880 --> 00:57:48,880
like to give space when space is needed, Like I

1281
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:52,000
understand pretty well how to coexist. But he's like, this

1282
00:57:52,039 --> 00:57:54,159
is my first time, he's like, so please tell me

1283
00:57:54,199 --> 00:57:56,679
how to be better at this, which I think is

1284
00:57:56,679 --> 00:57:58,480
such a like healthy way to communicate.

1285
00:57:58,719 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 2: And he's been.

1286
00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:05,039
Speaker 3: Great totally and yes, and I think Shock's like really

1287
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:08,800
really perfect partner. So I'll use an ex as an

1288
00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:11,880
example here, Like I remember living with an ex who

1289
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:15,239
was the first person I had lived with and like

1290
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,199
as a romantic partner, of course, I had like roommates,

1291
00:58:17,599 --> 00:58:21,360
and I remember saying, like, can you help.

1292
00:58:21,199 --> 00:58:22,119
Speaker 1: Me with the dishes?

1293
00:58:22,360 --> 00:58:24,480
Speaker 3: And he and he did, and he like really took

1294
00:58:24,519 --> 00:58:27,800
a note. But he was just never going to put

1295
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:28,960
his towel on the towel rack.

1296
00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:30,280
Speaker 2: I don't know what it is.

1297
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:33,119
Speaker 3: He would throw it over the top, throw it on

1298
00:58:33,119 --> 00:58:35,400
the door. You know, guys love to throw a towel

1299
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:36,360
on the fucking door.

1300
00:58:37,119 --> 00:58:38,239
Speaker 2: That's our next mountain working.

1301
00:58:38,360 --> 00:58:41,320
Speaker 3: But I decided, and I'm still to this day of

1302
00:58:41,360 --> 00:58:43,480
like I am, I'll put his towel in the rack.

1303
00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:48,159
I have to pick my battles like he. It doesn't

1304
00:58:48,199 --> 00:58:51,119
bother me that much. I'm not picking up his dishes

1305
00:58:51,119 --> 00:58:55,119
and his socks after him like he is. He is

1306
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:58,440
sharing the load. But that one thing I'm not going

1307
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:00,199
to nag him. I'll just use the towel, like I

1308
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:03,000
just kind of learned of picking battles and you just

1309
00:59:03,039 --> 00:59:05,760
you have to, yeah, because people are going to live

1310
00:59:05,840 --> 00:59:07,599
differently than you. I think I talk with this rain

1311
00:59:07,679 --> 00:59:08,679
all the time, right, and it's like, I don't know

1312
00:59:08,679 --> 00:59:10,360
how I'm going to live with somebody. I just want

1313
00:59:10,400 --> 00:59:12,239
to be like picking up after them all the time,

1314
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:14,079
like don't test this and don't pull this out, and

1315
00:59:14,079 --> 00:59:16,239
don't leave this here and all of that.

1316
00:59:16,320 --> 00:59:16,960
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I.

1317
00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:19,159
Speaker 3: Hope you find somebody that is neat and tidy and

1318
00:59:19,239 --> 00:59:21,320
appreciates the same way do you want to live because

1319
00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:23,440
it is tough to make the adjustment.

1320
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:26,840
Speaker 1: Right, And I think too, have you heard of two things?

1321
00:59:26,880 --> 00:59:28,760
One of us a Sean but also have you heard

1322
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:31,519
of living a part together? Yeah? Yeah, something that they

1323
00:59:31,559 --> 00:59:35,239
do in England a lot UK primarily, which is having

1324
00:59:35,239 --> 00:59:38,920
your own residence and being married or being partnered, like

1325
00:59:39,039 --> 00:59:41,840
not sharing homes because some people really can't like.

1326
00:59:42,119 --> 00:59:45,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I had said this was what I wanted

1327
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:48,280
to do. I was preaching this for years before it

1328
00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:51,079
even had that term. And we did have a guest

1329
00:59:51,119 --> 00:59:52,760
on that talked about that and she was wonderful. Name

1330
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:56,920
was Kelly Coin. And people love that episode, and she

1331
00:59:57,119 --> 00:59:59,880
is a professor and it was wonderful. She had all

1332
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:02,239
the stats right, Like, it was a really wonderful episode

1333
01:00:02,239 --> 01:00:03,280
that we did. If you guys want to listen to

1334
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:05,320
it and look for Kelly Coin and living apart Together

1335
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:08,320
is probably in the title. I can't remember exactly, and

1336
01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:10,079
I'd always said that. I said my dream was to

1337
01:00:10,119 --> 01:00:14,440
live in the same neighborhood as my partner, like across

1338
01:00:14,519 --> 01:00:15,239
the street.

1339
01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:17,760
Speaker 1: Like Courtney and Travis, like next door, yeah, or.

1340
01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 2: Adjoining houses, you know, a little walkway like it's an airport. Yeah.

1341
01:00:22,320 --> 01:00:25,480
Speaker 3: But I just found the right partner, and I really

1342
01:00:25,519 --> 01:00:28,400
do love living with him. We work really well together.

1343
01:00:29,320 --> 01:00:33,559
But I just got lucky there too, like I chose well.

1344
01:00:34,119 --> 01:00:37,360
But yeah, it's tough to blend those lifestyles.

1345
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay.

1346
01:00:38,440 --> 01:00:40,440
Speaker 1: This brings me to my next point, which is that

1347
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:45,159
you always speak very highly of your partner and your friendships,

1348
01:00:45,199 --> 01:00:51,039
which I think is very healthy. But I can't relate, No,

1349
01:00:51,119 --> 01:00:54,159
I can't. I just wonder if you're genuinely Okay, So

1350
01:00:54,239 --> 01:00:57,960
I'm wondering if you genuinely having this sixperience, do you

1351
01:00:58,119 --> 01:00:59,039
actually like.

1352
01:00:59,039 --> 01:01:02,199
Speaker 2: To shock we're not married. I'm trying to I'm gonna

1353
01:01:02,199 --> 01:01:04,639
trying to tease this all episode. So I think we are.

1354
01:01:04,679 --> 01:01:07,639
I think we are. Is it actually that great?

1355
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 1: Or are you the kind of person that if there's drama,

1356
01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:12,440
you leave it in the room it is in and

1357
01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:14,599
you don't carry it with you or I'm around the neighborhood.

1358
01:01:14,880 --> 01:01:22,000
Speaker 3: So Sehank and I do have a really healthy relationship.

1359
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:26,559
We don't have a lot of conflict. I really I

1360
01:01:26,599 --> 01:01:31,119
love what we have and that we don't have a

1361
01:01:31,159 --> 01:01:31,760
lot of conflict.

1362
01:01:32,199 --> 01:01:33,239
Speaker 2: We but we do have some.

1363
01:01:33,360 --> 01:01:37,960
Speaker 3: We're human, and when we have conflict or I'm frustrated

1364
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:43,519
about something, I initially think can I.

1365
01:01:43,360 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 2: Work through this myself?

1366
01:01:45,840 --> 01:01:49,599
Speaker 3: And if I really feel like I need to vent,

1367
01:01:50,599 --> 01:01:55,000
I just usually talk to Reina, And that's kind of it.

1368
01:01:55,159 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 2: I don't I don't know.

1369
01:01:56,039 --> 01:01:58,440
Speaker 3: I used to run around and circle the wagons with

1370
01:01:58,559 --> 01:01:59,840
an X of mine. Again, we had to really talk

1371
01:01:59,840 --> 01:02:02,320
to relationships. Was not really comparable at all. But like

1372
01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:05,760
I used to tell everybody everything, and it frames the

1373
01:02:05,760 --> 01:02:07,880
way they think of them. And I think everybody loves

1374
01:02:07,880 --> 01:02:10,840
Shahank and they're not going to think poorly of them.

1375
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:13,239
And if I were to share something, but I just

1376
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:17,480
don't need to share everything all the time if we

1377
01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:21,280
can work it out ourselves, or again, I tell Raina

1378
01:02:21,320 --> 01:02:23,480
because she knows me the best, she knows him the best,

1379
01:02:23,519 --> 01:02:26,039
and she's not going to think differently about him.

1380
01:02:26,440 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I don't. I wouldn't call it

1381
01:02:29,519 --> 01:02:30,480
an over correction.

1382
01:02:30,599 --> 01:02:33,519
Speaker 3: But I used to be that person that told my parents,

1383
01:02:33,920 --> 01:02:35,800
you know, they hated my ex and there was a

1384
01:02:35,840 --> 01:02:37,960
lot to hate, like we had a bad relationship and

1385
01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:40,280
we should have broken up before we did. But I

1386
01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:43,880
just used to share more. And I kind of I

1387
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:47,039
want to keep my relationship sacred. I want people to

1388
01:02:47,039 --> 01:02:51,360
think highly of him. And he doesn't do anything, he's wonderful.

1389
01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:54,280
But that's my frame of mind, is like do I

1390
01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:57,159
even need to tell anybody this? And a lot of

1391
01:02:57,159 --> 01:03:01,800
that is just growth on my end, and but I

1392
01:03:02,039 --> 01:03:04,960
don't hold stuff in, and I just usually, like again,

1393
01:03:05,800 --> 01:03:07,719
speak to Raina. I would if we went to lunch

1394
01:03:07,719 --> 01:03:08,960
and I was dealing with something, I would talk to

1395
01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:11,400
you too, you know, like it's not that I haven't yet,

1396
01:03:11,519 --> 01:03:15,039
so I would love to you after this. And then

1397
01:03:15,039 --> 01:03:18,719
my friendships, I mean, I love my friends. I don't

1398
01:03:19,639 --> 01:03:21,760
I don't have a lot of conflict with friends either,

1399
01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:23,280
But I do have some, and I feel like I

1400
01:03:23,320 --> 01:03:25,159
talked to you when I had that friendship breakup. This

1401
01:03:25,239 --> 01:03:27,400
was a couple of years back back, and I've shared

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01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:29,239
with you and we are no longer friends. And yeah,

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01:03:29,400 --> 01:03:33,519
I have had a few other like less important friendships

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01:03:33,559 --> 01:03:35,000
fall by the wayside for various reasons.

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Speaker 2: One like a political thing whatever, like and you know

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about that.

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Speaker 3: And I love to talk shit, yeah, but I guess

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I don't want to get in like a toxic loop

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of talking shit about my friends. I don't think any

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of us really really do. But I do talk about

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01:03:50,599 --> 01:03:54,239
stuff going on in my friendships with other friends. I

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think it's helpful, Like I do remember talking to you

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01:03:56,280 --> 01:03:58,360
a lot about that friendship breakup of mine and you

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01:03:58,639 --> 01:04:01,199
sharing about yours and that kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there's two there's two schools of thought

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01:04:03,920 --> 01:04:05,800
on this and one and it doesn't have to be

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01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:10,599
necessarily with you know, romantic relationships, but relationships in general,

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01:04:10,719 --> 01:04:15,599
or like when women experience any sort of drama, the

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01:04:15,719 --> 01:04:18,199
reason that it takes them longer, I'll just use a

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breakup as an example, but like the reason that it

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01:04:20,440 --> 01:04:23,519
takes them longer to get over it is because they're

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01:04:23,559 --> 01:04:27,360
rehashing it with every single friend they have, And so

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01:04:27,599 --> 01:04:31,719
when you're rehashing something and excruciating detail, you're reliving it,

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01:04:31,800 --> 01:04:34,199
and your body doesn't know the difference between going through

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01:04:34,199 --> 01:04:37,119
it in the moment and rehashing it, so your body

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01:04:37,159 --> 01:04:38,159
thinks you're still like.

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Speaker 2: In an ongoing trauma.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it takes much longer for women to move

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01:04:42,920 --> 01:04:45,559
on because they won't stop talking about it. So I

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01:04:45,559 --> 01:04:48,920
do think it's I do think what you're doing is healthy,

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01:04:49,119 --> 01:04:52,559
and I again wish I could do it, But I

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01:04:52,599 --> 01:04:55,239
just think it's interesting because like guys when they're going

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01:04:55,239 --> 01:04:56,719
through a breakup, they'll just like go to the bar,

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01:04:57,039 --> 01:04:59,920
get some beers, you know, hang out with their bodies,

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01:05:00,039 --> 01:05:01,840
and like not really talk about it too much. And

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I don't know if that's healthy or easier either, because

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01:05:03,960 --> 01:05:06,199
they might just be like, you know, burying feelings down

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01:05:06,280 --> 01:05:07,559
until it turns to ass cancer.

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01:05:07,639 --> 01:05:09,920
Speaker 2: But like one hundred percent, I mean, I don't know.

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01:05:10,000 --> 01:05:10,760
I think guys.

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01:05:10,559 --> 01:05:16,960
Speaker 3: Actually that their trauma last way longer, Like the guys

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01:05:17,679 --> 01:05:20,039
got dumped once in college and can't commit till they're

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01:05:20,119 --> 01:05:23,320
forty five. Yeah, you know, So I think that women

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01:05:24,079 --> 01:05:26,239
get through it quicker when and they actually put it

1445
01:05:26,239 --> 01:05:29,039
to rest, but meanwhile they're retraumatizing themselves every time they

1446
01:05:29,039 --> 01:05:30,599
share the story at brunch, right, Like, I think you

1447
01:05:30,639 --> 01:05:33,960
have to figure out what your own boundary is, where

1448
01:05:34,039 --> 01:05:36,679
you have to realize that every time you tell the

1449
01:05:36,760 --> 01:05:39,159
story again, you are reading.

1450
01:05:39,280 --> 01:05:42,199
Speaker 1: Working yourself up. I was realizing that and catching that

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01:05:42,280 --> 01:05:45,079
in my loop with the designers, because I.

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01:05:45,079 --> 01:05:47,199
Speaker 2: Was just like, who haven't I told about this?

1453
01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:50,119
Speaker 1: Yeah? No, And it's like it was like intoxicating because

1454
01:05:50,119 --> 01:05:53,199
it was such a dramatic story and it was so crazy,

1455
01:05:53,239 --> 01:05:55,440
and I was like, ye, another thing, like I couldn't

1456
01:05:55,519 --> 01:05:57,559
believe what was going on. But then I also was

1457
01:05:57,559 --> 01:05:59,639
like in a really unhealthy headspace and I was like, Okay,

1458
01:05:59,679 --> 01:06:01,119
it's time to move the fuck on, Like we have

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01:06:01,159 --> 01:06:01,760
to stop.

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01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:02,559
Speaker 2: Talking about I know.

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01:06:02,679 --> 01:06:04,400
Speaker 3: I mean I had a situation I really don't want

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01:06:04,440 --> 01:06:08,199
to share all the details, but with a designer as well, yeah,

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01:06:08,280 --> 01:06:11,159
right before my wedding, and I felt really wronged and

1464
01:06:11,320 --> 01:06:13,559
just like taking advantage of and all the things. And

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01:06:13,599 --> 01:06:15,840
I mean it was a good manipulatory Yeah yeah, I

1466
01:06:15,840 --> 01:06:16,719
mean it was crazy.

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01:06:16,719 --> 01:06:17,760
Speaker 2: It was a great story.

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01:06:17,800 --> 01:06:19,960
Speaker 3: I loved fucking telling it, and then I just had

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01:06:19,960 --> 01:06:22,239
to put it to rest, and I was like, again, yes,

1470
01:06:22,280 --> 01:06:24,679
every time I'm rehashing this, I'm getting my heart rate

1471
01:06:24,800 --> 01:06:26,719
is up and I'm about to get married and I

1472
01:06:26,760 --> 01:06:30,559
have to I'm not going to get revenge or anything like,

1473
01:06:30,599 --> 01:06:33,159
I have to let this go and clear it from

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01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:36,239
my body and my brain. But and I think with

1475
01:06:36,719 --> 01:06:39,280
when you decide to put something to rest, you can

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01:06:39,320 --> 01:06:42,559
tell your friends I'm done talking with like, with all

1477
01:06:42,639 --> 01:06:44,760
due respect, with love, Like if they want to rile

1478
01:06:44,840 --> 01:06:46,920
you up or ask what's going on, you can say like,

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01:06:46,960 --> 01:06:49,280
I've moved past that and I really don't want to

1480
01:06:49,360 --> 01:06:52,519
rehash it, and I think they should respect that. I

1481
01:06:52,519 --> 01:06:56,480
think the tough thing with sharing so much about your

1482
01:06:56,679 --> 01:06:59,480
romantic relationship, for example, the ups and downs and the

1483
01:06:59,519 --> 01:07:02,119
fights and the drama, is then when people ask, so,

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01:07:02,159 --> 01:07:04,440
how's it going, you know, and then you're like, oh,

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01:07:04,440 --> 01:07:06,000
we're fine, what are.

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01:07:05,880 --> 01:07:10,199
Speaker 1: You talking about? Like, well you yeah, so I said,

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01:07:10,239 --> 01:07:11,079
that's what you expect.

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01:07:11,159 --> 01:07:14,320
Speaker 3: You have to be cautious of who you tell, Like

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01:07:14,400 --> 01:07:16,400
with you with the designers, I can't even imagine if

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01:07:16,400 --> 01:07:18,000
I would have checked in, you'd be like, oh, we're fine,

1491
01:07:18,000 --> 01:07:18,719
we worked it out.

1492
01:07:18,599 --> 01:07:21,239
Speaker 2: And like, no, you have it, No, you have not

1493
01:07:21,440 --> 01:07:22,840
you got us all worked.

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01:07:22,559 --> 01:07:26,199
Speaker 1: Out unless you got the fucking receipt Unless you got

1495
01:07:26,239 --> 01:07:29,079
the receipts and you're going to share them in adf Yeah,

1496
01:07:29,119 --> 01:07:32,880
I never got the receipts, right, so I will tell

1497
01:07:32,880 --> 01:07:36,599
you what happened. Yeah, we tended to catch up. Okay, Well,

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01:07:36,639 --> 01:07:38,119
I love you so much. Oh wait, we have to

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01:07:38,119 --> 01:07:40,880
do word of the week. Okay, Mike, well kill me.

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01:07:41,119 --> 01:07:42,599
Speaker 2: Where to the week? We're making everyone smarter?

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01:07:42,880 --> 01:07:51,039
Speaker 1: Mike picked vocab, Yes, yes, love this. Mike picked words

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01:07:51,480 --> 01:07:54,480
that aren't English. No, but I loved Okay, this one's

1503
01:07:54,480 --> 01:07:59,280
a good one, but it's not English. Okay, red true

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01:07:59,400 --> 01:08:03,119
veil I R A t r O U v A

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01:08:03,400 --> 01:08:05,480
I L l E. I would imagine that's French name,

1506
01:08:05,519 --> 01:08:08,960
saying it wrong, like are you gonna? Retil is a

1507
01:08:09,000 --> 01:08:13,199
French word. French word that means rediscovery. It's a noun

1508
01:08:13,519 --> 01:08:15,400
being reunited with someone you love, and it is an

1509
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:17,079
example of that, like me and you right now?

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01:08:17,199 --> 01:08:21,520
Speaker 2: Okay, and Mike, because Mike loves me so much? Mike,

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01:08:21,560 --> 01:08:24,680
can I fought worry about these words? Look at the words.

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01:08:24,720 --> 01:08:26,000
You tell me if any of those.

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01:08:25,880 --> 01:08:29,239
Speaker 1: Are English, tell me if they're not beautiful, they're beautiful.

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01:08:30,399 --> 01:08:31,600
Speaker 4: And they were words to learn.

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01:08:32,359 --> 01:08:35,680
Speaker 2: But I like, I like Medanoya. Medanoya, what's that?

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01:08:36,239 --> 01:08:38,840
Speaker 3: The journey of changing your mind, heart, self and way

1517
01:08:38,840 --> 01:08:40,920
of life, a spiritual awakening. Oh I love that was

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01:08:40,960 --> 01:08:43,439
an example. I don't know that one these words are crazy.

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01:08:43,600 --> 01:08:45,880
I love the meme that says, you know and your

1520
01:08:45,920 --> 01:08:47,439
friends trying not a new word.

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01:08:47,880 --> 01:08:51,199
Speaker 1: It's literally me in this podcast medanoia, Right, I think

1522
01:08:51,239 --> 01:08:53,840
Randa does that. Like people will say, like when we

1523
01:08:53,880 --> 01:08:56,159
have an episode, they're like drink every time someone said

1524
01:08:56,159 --> 01:08:59,000
they said Raina's word of the week was oscillate this week,

1525
01:08:59,119 --> 01:09:01,600
like people will recognize it, and I'm like, good for her.

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01:09:01,720 --> 01:09:02,279
Speaker 2: She's trying to.

1527
01:09:03,760 --> 01:09:06,880
Speaker 1: She read a book, she looked up a word. No,

1528
01:09:07,119 --> 01:09:10,760
I just want everyone to be smarter metanoia.

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01:09:10,800 --> 01:09:12,039
Speaker 2: I already forgot their gratitude.

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01:09:12,239 --> 01:09:18,680
Speaker 1: What is retronaut rete the joy Reunite.

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01:09:21,039 --> 01:09:23,239
Speaker 2: He's like, they're beautiful words. They are beautiful words. I

1532
01:09:23,279 --> 01:09:26,039
can't say any of them. Are you a word? No,

1533
01:09:26,119 --> 01:09:28,279
it's me, it's me. I like the word of the week,

1534
01:09:28,439 --> 01:09:30,800
but I usually have a book the crazy words. Well,

1535
01:09:30,840 --> 01:09:32,439
because I forgot my I got.

1536
01:09:32,279 --> 01:09:35,159
Speaker 4: A text message five minutes before the episode that said, hey,

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01:09:35,359 --> 01:09:36,840
can you pick some words of the week.

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01:09:37,039 --> 01:09:38,119
Speaker 2: Okay, Mike relaxed.

1539
01:09:38,960 --> 01:09:41,039
Speaker 1: He was more bad earlier. Trust me, we got to fight.

1540
01:09:42,159 --> 01:09:44,800
I had to pell Lacy before and I was like,

1541
01:09:44,920 --> 01:09:46,880
leog do you know that word. He's like, yeah, that's

1542
01:09:46,920 --> 01:09:47,479
my cousin.

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01:09:47,840 --> 01:09:55,720
Speaker 2: No, that is so quick and funny. Oh my gosh,

1544
01:09:55,800 --> 01:09:58,079
I'm screaming. Okay, tell everyone where they can follow you, please.

1545
01:09:58,520 --> 01:10:00,800
Speaker 3: Uh you can listen to my packcast. Girls gotta eat.

1546
01:10:01,000 --> 01:10:05,239
I am ash Hess on Instagram and TikTok and I

1547
01:10:05,239 --> 01:10:08,399
do have a special coming out someday somewhere.

1548
01:10:10,079 --> 01:10:16,359
Speaker 2: Some watch this. Just watch the Throne. Okay, bye, besties.

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01:10:16,359 --> 01:10:17,960
We love you so I thank you.