WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.040 --> 00:00:06.519 Hello, and thanks for joining us here on Pastor Rick's 2 00:00:06.599 --> 00:00:10.080 Daily Hope. Well today we continue in our series called 3 00:00:10.160 --> 00:00:14.160 God's Prescription for a Healthy Life. In it, Pastor Rick 4 00:00:14.199 --> 00:00:17.719 will show you how to improve your health physically, spiritually, 5 00:00:18.079 --> 00:00:23.160 relationally and emotionally by applying the five essentials needed for 6 00:00:23.239 --> 00:00:26.079 a more vibrant life. If you want to have what 7 00:00:26.160 --> 00:00:29.160 it takes to live out your calling in life, stay 8 00:00:29.199 --> 00:00:32.840 with us for this amazing series. 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Right now, here's Pastor Rick with part 20 00:01:16.879 --> 00:01:20.719 one of a message called the Amazing Power of Forgiveness. 21 00:01:22.040 --> 00:01:24.719 I don't know a more important subject than the issue 22 00:01:24.719 --> 00:01:28.239 of forgiveness because our world is filled with conflict, and 23 00:01:28.359 --> 00:01:31.799 families are filled with conflict, and marriages are filled with conflict. 24 00:01:32.200 --> 00:01:36.760 The problem is most people think they understand forgiveness, but 25 00:01:36.840 --> 00:01:42.079 they really don't. Forgiveness may be the most misused, misapplied, 26 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:46.719 misunderstood quality in our culture. We think we know what 27 00:01:46.719 --> 00:01:50.079 forgiveness is all about, but we really don't. And to 28 00:01:50.120 --> 00:01:53.079 start us off tonight, I thought we'd begin with a 29 00:01:53.079 --> 00:01:59.760 little quiz. So look on your paper there now, no cheating, okay, 30 00:02:00.120 --> 00:02:03.200 no looking at the person next to your's paper, Okay, 31 00:02:03.480 --> 00:02:05.400 just write true or false. There's a t r F 32 00:02:05.519 --> 00:02:09.080 down there, and don't worry about it. If you get 33 00:02:09.120 --> 00:02:13.439 any of these wrong, I forgive you. Okay, So and 34 00:02:13.879 --> 00:02:16.680 don't say it aloud. Okay, we'll go over these together 35 00:02:17.000 --> 00:02:21.319 Nunmber through Number one, A person should not be forgiven 36 00:02:22.159 --> 00:02:24.599 until he asks for it, and you can check the 37 00:02:24.680 --> 00:02:27.400 t are the F there for true or false? A 38 00:02:27.439 --> 00:02:30.800 person should not be forgiven until he asked for it, okay. 39 00:02:31.520 --> 00:02:37.759 Number two, forgiving includes minimizing the offense and the pain cost. 40 00:02:38.280 --> 00:02:45.120 Forgiving includes minimizing the offense and the pain cost. Number 41 00:02:45.120 --> 00:02:53.520 three forgiveness includes restoring trust and reuniting a relationship. Forgiveness 42 00:02:53.560 --> 00:02:59.439 includes restoring trust and reuniting a relationship. Tr F, TRU 43 00:02:59.479 --> 00:03:03.280 or false. Number four, you haven't really forgiven until you've 44 00:03:03.280 --> 00:03:09.439 forgotten the offense. You haven't really forgiven until you've forgotten 45 00:03:09.520 --> 00:03:11.400 the offense, And you can write true or false. And 46 00:03:11.439 --> 00:03:15.120 then finally number five, when I see somebody hurt, it 47 00:03:15.240 --> 00:03:18.680 is my duty to forgive the offender. Now, I'm not 48 00:03:18.680 --> 00:03:20.680 talking about if you hurt somebody, but you see somebody 49 00:03:20.879 --> 00:03:24.159 hurt by somebody else, it is my duty to forgive 50 00:03:25.080 --> 00:03:28.960 the offender. All right, everybody got their answers done? Okay. 51 00:03:29.759 --> 00:03:32.599 When you read the Bible and you see what God 52 00:03:32.639 --> 00:03:36.039 has to say about forgiveness, we discover that all five 53 00:03:36.080 --> 00:03:42.439 of those statements are false. All five of them are false. Now, 54 00:03:42.479 --> 00:03:46.639 do I have your attention? When I say most people 55 00:03:46.719 --> 00:03:51.879 don't understand forgiveness, I mean it, most people don't understand forgiveness. 56 00:03:52.319 --> 00:03:54.199 So tonight what we're gonna do is we're gonna look 57 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:57.599 at what is real forgiveness, and then we're gonna look 58 00:03:57.639 --> 00:04:00.000 at why must I forgive the people who've hurt me 59 00:04:00.080 --> 00:04:02.039 in my life? And they have nothing to do with 60 00:04:02.080 --> 00:04:04.879 the person themselves who hurt you. And then we're going 61 00:04:04.960 --> 00:04:07.800 to look at how do I forgive? And in the 62 00:04:07.800 --> 00:04:09.280 middle of it all, you're going to hear the most 63 00:04:09.319 --> 00:04:13.560 dramatic story of forgiveness. So let's get right into it first. 64 00:04:13.599 --> 00:04:17.040 What is real forgiveness? You might write these down Number one. 65 00:04:17.279 --> 00:04:24.800 It isn't conditional. It isn't conditional. Real forgiveness is unconditional. 66 00:04:24.839 --> 00:04:29.040 There's no attachment to it. You don't earn it, you 67 00:04:29.120 --> 00:04:33.839 don't deserve it, you don't bargain for it. Forgiveness is 68 00:04:33.839 --> 00:04:36.560 not based on a promise to never do it again. 69 00:04:37.319 --> 00:04:40.439 It's just unconditional. You offer it to somebody, whether they 70 00:04:41.040 --> 00:04:44.319 ask for it or not. You know, when somebody says 71 00:04:44.399 --> 00:04:47.120 I will forgive you if or if you say it's 72 00:04:47.199 --> 00:04:50.439 somebody else, I will forgive you. If that's not forgiveness, 73 00:04:50.800 --> 00:04:54.680 that's bargaining. If you do this, I'll do this, it's bargaining. 74 00:04:54.959 --> 00:04:58.360 Forgiveness is always unconditional, and if you put a condition 75 00:04:58.639 --> 00:05:02.399 an if on it, it's not really forgiveness. When Jesus 76 00:05:02.439 --> 00:05:05.639 stretched out his hands on the cross and he said, Father, 77 00:05:06.040 --> 00:05:09.399 forgive them, for they don't know what they're doing. When 78 00:05:09.439 --> 00:05:13.800 he said that nobody had asked for it, nobody had said, oh, 79 00:05:13.839 --> 00:05:15.680 please forgive me Jesus for what they're doing to you. 80 00:05:15.839 --> 00:05:19.240 He just offered it. He took the initiative. And forgiveness 81 00:05:19.360 --> 00:05:23.000 is always your initiative. You forgive the person, whether they 82 00:05:23.079 --> 00:05:26.000 ask for it or whether they don't, whether they change 83 00:05:26.120 --> 00:05:30.639 or whether they don't, whatever, you just offer forgiveness unconditionally. 84 00:05:30.759 --> 00:05:37.560 Number two, it isn't minimizing the seriousness of the fence. Forgiveness. 85 00:05:37.560 --> 00:05:42.399 Real forgiveness is not minimizing the seriousness of the offense. 86 00:05:42.439 --> 00:05:44.360 And what I mean by that is when somebody comes 87 00:05:44.360 --> 00:05:46.319 and they ask for forgiveness and the needs say, well, 88 00:05:46.399 --> 00:05:49.920 it's no big deal. He really didn't hurt. It's okay, 89 00:05:50.360 --> 00:05:52.759 it didn't really bother me, it wasn't that big a deal. 90 00:05:52.959 --> 00:05:55.560 If it wasn't a big deal, you don't need forgiveness 91 00:05:55.800 --> 00:05:58.560 and you don't need to offer it. That actually cheapens forgiveness. 92 00:05:58.800 --> 00:06:02.439 Forgiveness is only for the big stuff. You don't use 93 00:06:02.480 --> 00:06:06.199 it on little slights that are, you know, just minor issues. 94 00:06:06.920 --> 00:06:10.720 If it really requires forgiveness, then you should not minimize it. 95 00:06:10.759 --> 00:06:13.839 When somebody asks you for forgiveness and you shouldn't say, well, 96 00:06:13.839 --> 00:06:15.600 it wasn't a big deal, it was a big deal. 97 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:17.680 If it wasn't a big deal, you just say, oh, 98 00:06:17.680 --> 00:06:20.560 you don't need to ask forgiveness. But if it was, 99 00:06:20.639 --> 00:06:22.079 you need to admit it. Now. The fact is there 100 00:06:22.079 --> 00:06:23.720 are a lot of big deals in life. Have you 101 00:06:23.800 --> 00:06:26.160 noticed that it's easy to get hurt in a big 102 00:06:26.199 --> 00:06:29.240 way and when you minimize it. If somebody went out 103 00:06:29.240 --> 00:06:31.680 and tried to minimize what happened at nine to eleven, well, 104 00:06:31.720 --> 00:06:36.199 that cheapens forgiveness. You don't put it down. And you 105 00:06:36.240 --> 00:06:41.519 need to understand the difference between being wounded and being wronged. 106 00:06:41.800 --> 00:06:46.680 They're not the same. Wounded requires not forgiveness, but just 107 00:06:46.839 --> 00:06:52.240 patience and acceptance. Being wrong required forgiveness. For instance, wounded 108 00:06:52.360 --> 00:06:55.519 is unintentional. If somebody comes out and they just say something, 109 00:06:55.560 --> 00:06:57.519 it kind of hurt your feelings, but they didn't really 110 00:06:57.519 --> 00:06:59.360 know what they were doing and they didn't mean it, 111 00:06:59.439 --> 00:07:01.519 or you know, they just kind of blab off of 112 00:07:01.560 --> 00:07:04.639 them out. It wasn't intentional. That's the difference. When you're wounded, 113 00:07:04.759 --> 00:07:07.920 it's unintentional. They didn't mean to hurt you. When you're wrong, 114 00:07:08.120 --> 00:07:11.199 they did it intentionally. They lied to you, or they 115 00:07:11.279 --> 00:07:15.160 gossiped about you, or they hurt you physically. They did 116 00:07:15.160 --> 00:07:19.959 it intentionally to hurt you, and wrongs require forgiveness. Wounds 117 00:07:20.000 --> 00:07:24.199 only require acceptance and you know, patience. So somebody just 118 00:07:24.240 --> 00:07:26.360 says something about you and hurt your feeling, or they 119 00:07:26.399 --> 00:07:29.639 didn't notice your new hairdoo or something like that, that 120 00:07:29.680 --> 00:07:32.560 doesn't require forgiveness. I mean, let me give an example. 121 00:07:32.600 --> 00:07:34.360 Let's just say, now, I know this would never happen, 122 00:07:34.480 --> 00:07:36.319 but let's say you didn't like the way I dress 123 00:07:39.079 --> 00:07:41.079 and you think, you know, I think pastors should be 124 00:07:41.079 --> 00:07:44.399 a little bit more formal than Rick. Well, I don't 125 00:07:44.560 --> 00:07:48.319 need your forgiveness. I just need your acceptance. You just go, oh, 126 00:07:48.319 --> 00:07:50.480 that's just Rick. You know, he's kind of a dork, 127 00:07:50.560 --> 00:07:52.240 you know, I mean, he's and you get the good 128 00:07:52.240 --> 00:07:55.000 and the bad together, you know, and when you when you, 129 00:07:55.120 --> 00:07:56.839 when you get Rick, you get this and then that, 130 00:07:56.879 --> 00:07:59.079 and you're like, we're all we've all got our weaknesses. 131 00:07:59.800 --> 00:08:01.759 And what I need from you is just your patience 132 00:08:01.800 --> 00:08:04.959 with me. I need your acceptance. I certainly don't need 133 00:08:04.959 --> 00:08:09.120 your forgiveness because I haven't intentionally wronged you. I may 134 00:08:09.120 --> 00:08:11.160 have wounded you in some way, maybe I overlooked you 135 00:08:11.199 --> 00:08:14.319 on the patio, but I didn't intentionally wrong you, and 136 00:08:14.360 --> 00:08:17.879 so I need acceptance, not forgiveness. On the other hand, 137 00:08:18.240 --> 00:08:20.639 is somebody really intends to do it and they wrong you, 138 00:08:20.879 --> 00:08:23.439 then they need to forgive you. So what am I saying? 139 00:08:24.079 --> 00:08:27.240 Forgiveness is always reserved for the big stuff, and when 140 00:08:27.279 --> 00:08:32.639 you minimize a hurt, you actually cheapen forgiveness. That makes sense, Okay. 141 00:08:32.960 --> 00:08:39.600 Number three, It isn't resuming a relationship without change. Forgiveness 142 00:08:39.720 --> 00:08:46.639 is not resuming a relationship without change. 143 00:08:48.080 --> 00:08:51.240 You're listening to Pastor Rick's Daily Hope Rip will be 144 00:08:51.320 --> 00:08:54.120 back in just a moment with the rest of today's lesson. 145 00:08:54.600 --> 00:08:57.320 If you've missed any part of today's teaching, you can 146 00:08:57.360 --> 00:09:02.360 listen online anytime at pastor dot com. 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Or call 171 00:10:24.720 --> 00:10:28.519 eight hundred six hundred five zero zero four and thank 172 00:10:28.559 --> 00:10:32.360 you so much for your support. 173 00:10:35.519 --> 00:10:38.159 Once again, here's Rick number three. 174 00:10:38.399 --> 00:10:44.480 It isn't resuming a relationship without change. Forgiveness is not 175 00:10:45.120 --> 00:10:52.120 resuming a relationship without change. In fact, forgiveness and resuming 176 00:10:52.159 --> 00:10:55.120 a relationship are two different things. One of them is 177 00:10:55.159 --> 00:10:59.679 what you do as the offended person, and resuming the 178 00:10:59.679 --> 00:11:03.200 relationlationship is what they do in order to get back 179 00:11:03.240 --> 00:11:06.639 into good graces, and just saying I'm sorry is not enough. 180 00:11:06.840 --> 00:11:09.879 In fact, the Bible teaches that three things are essential 181 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:12.759 to resume a relationship that's been broken. You might write 182 00:11:12.759 --> 00:11:16.519 these down three things to resume a relationship when it's 183 00:11:16.559 --> 00:11:19.840 been broken. Number one, that these all are what the 184 00:11:19.840 --> 00:11:22.440 offender has to do. Number one, you have to be 185 00:11:22.639 --> 00:11:27.440 genuinely repentant. In other words, you're truly, truly saddened by 186 00:11:27.519 --> 00:11:31.720 what you did. And that's not just saying I'm sorry. No, 187 00:11:31.799 --> 00:11:37.080 it means saying this, I was wrong, please forgive me. 188 00:11:37.480 --> 00:11:41.799 That's repentance. I was wrong and please forgive me. Not 189 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:43.799 I'm sorry. You can be sorry that the weather was 190 00:11:44.039 --> 00:11:47.200 bad or something like that. Repentans is saying I admit it, 191 00:11:47.279 --> 00:11:50.559 I was wrong, and I am sorry. The second thing 192 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:56.000 that's required to restore a relationship after repentance is restitution. 193 00:11:56.960 --> 00:11:59.960 Sometimes you have to do some kind of physical or 194 00:12:00.480 --> 00:12:03.799 or material restitution. If I came over to your house 195 00:12:04.960 --> 00:12:07.639 and I burned down your house. It wouldn't be enough 196 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:11.799 for me to go oops, I'm sorry. No, you wouldn't 197 00:12:11.840 --> 00:12:14.080 have to assume that debt. I'd have to assume that 198 00:12:14.159 --> 00:12:18.000 debt because I destroyed your house. You don't just say, oh, fine, 199 00:12:18.279 --> 00:12:20.279 you're forgiven and then I'm let off the hook. I 200 00:12:20.320 --> 00:12:23.000 still have to pay my debt to society or to 201 00:12:23.080 --> 00:12:26.399 use that make sense. So forgiveness, you say, I forgive you, 202 00:12:26.480 --> 00:12:29.200 but you're still gonna have to pay your debt. And 203 00:12:29.240 --> 00:12:32.440 there is some restitution for what was damaged or destroyed 204 00:12:33.279 --> 00:12:35.799 in what you did. And the third thing that's required 205 00:12:36.080 --> 00:12:41.799 for restoring a relationship is rebuilding trust. Rebuilding trust. There 206 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:48.480 must be repentance, restitution and rebuilding trust. And that friends, 207 00:12:48.679 --> 00:12:53.360 takes a long long time. Forgiveness is instant. When somebody 208 00:12:53.440 --> 00:12:57.559 hurts you, you have to forgive them immediately, but you 209 00:12:57.600 --> 00:13:01.799 don't have to trust them immediately. Trust is rebuilt. Forgiveness 210 00:13:01.840 --> 00:13:04.519 is built on grace. It's unconditional, and you do it 211 00:13:04.559 --> 00:13:06.399 not because they deserve it. You do it because it's 212 00:13:06.440 --> 00:13:09.039 the right thing to do. By the way, nobody deserves forgiveness. 213 00:13:09.080 --> 00:13:11.879 You don't and I don't so it's not something that 214 00:13:11.919 --> 00:13:15.320 we deserve. You just give it out of grace. But 215 00:13:15.360 --> 00:13:18.320 then trust is something that's rebuilt over a period of time. 216 00:13:18.360 --> 00:13:21.759 For instance, is somebody at your office they're just really 217 00:13:21.759 --> 00:13:25.480 a jerk, and they they offend you over and over 218 00:13:25.600 --> 00:13:28.039 and over and over and over and over, and they 219 00:13:28.120 --> 00:13:31.399 keep telling lies about you behind your back over and 220 00:13:31.480 --> 00:13:34.440 over and over and over and over. Okay, you must 221 00:13:34.440 --> 00:13:37.559 forgive them over and over and over and over, but 222 00:13:37.639 --> 00:13:40.200 you don't have to trust them. God doesn't expect you 223 00:13:40.240 --> 00:13:42.559 to be an idiot, you know. And you know some 224 00:13:42.720 --> 00:13:44.639 con man comes in and he cons you wants well, 225 00:13:44.679 --> 00:13:46.639 you don't have to say I forgive you know, con 226 00:13:46.759 --> 00:13:49.639 me again. Okay, that's a does that you understand that 227 00:13:49.679 --> 00:13:54.600 there's me forgiveness and trust. I mean, the whole thing 228 00:13:54.639 --> 00:13:56.639 here is that. For instance, let's say there's an abusive 229 00:13:57.080 --> 00:14:01.120 alcoholic spouse and he or she comes back to his 230 00:14:01.279 --> 00:14:04.919 or her spouse and they say, you know, I'm really 231 00:14:04.960 --> 00:14:09.159 sorry about this, I feel bad about it. I was wrong. 232 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:13.519 Will you forgive me? And they've been abusive, yes because 233 00:14:13.519 --> 00:14:16.759 of alcohol? And you say yes, and then they say, well, 234 00:14:16.799 --> 00:14:18.679 will you let me back in the house. Well, now, 235 00:14:18.720 --> 00:14:23.879 that's another matter that has to be based on repentance, 236 00:14:24.360 --> 00:14:29.720 restitution and rebuilding trust. And rebuilding trust takes time. You 237 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:33.240 just don't You can lose trust in a second, just 238 00:14:33.279 --> 00:14:35.440 go have an affair and you lose trust in a second, 239 00:14:36.440 --> 00:14:39.879 But it takes often takes a long long time to 240 00:14:40.039 --> 00:14:43.919 rebuild it. Forgivenesses by grace. Trust must be re earned. Now, 241 00:14:43.960 --> 00:14:46.519 the reason I'm belaboring this point is because in our 242 00:14:46.559 --> 00:14:50.240 culture most people don't get this, the difference between the two. 243 00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:54.279 And whenever a like a political leader really they get 244 00:14:54.320 --> 00:14:56.960 caught in a scandal of money or sex or any 245 00:14:57.000 --> 00:14:59.240 kind of thing, or a religious leader gets caught in 246 00:14:59.240 --> 00:15:01.200 a scandal of mine one of your sex or anything, 247 00:15:01.600 --> 00:15:05.960 or a government, an academic leader or a civic leader 248 00:15:06.240 --> 00:15:08.720 or anything like that, there will always be a certain 249 00:15:08.759 --> 00:15:13.279 percentage of the people go, hey, we're all imperfect, we're 250 00:15:13.320 --> 00:15:19.000 all human. We need to just forgive him and keep ongoing. Well, no, yes, 251 00:15:19.159 --> 00:15:22.279 you must forgive him immediately, but you don't have to 252 00:15:22.320 --> 00:15:27.240 trust him. And the Bible says trust is built on time. 253 00:15:27.679 --> 00:15:32.159 The credibility is what a leader leads with. All leaders 254 00:15:32.279 --> 00:15:34.519 must have trust. It's the money that they it's the 255 00:15:34.519 --> 00:15:37.240 currency they live in. If you don't trust me, I'm 256 00:15:37.240 --> 00:15:40.759 not your leader. And if you lose trust, you have 257 00:15:40.919 --> 00:15:44.200 lost your right to lead at that moment, and you can't. 258 00:15:44.240 --> 00:15:46.279 You may have the title, but you're not the leader 259 00:15:46.559 --> 00:15:49.559 until you've rebuilt trust, and that isn't going to happen instantly. 260 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:53.399 Does that make sense? So if a pastor falls in 261 00:15:53.440 --> 00:15:55.799 a scandal or a politician falls in a scandal or 262 00:15:55.799 --> 00:15:58.480 something like that, yes you must forgive them immediately, but 263 00:15:58.519 --> 00:16:01.000 you don't immediately just start trusting them again. In fact, 264 00:16:01.039 --> 00:16:03.519 they probably need to take a break from leadership and 265 00:16:03.600 --> 00:16:06.360 do something else and get their act together and figure 266 00:16:06.360 --> 00:16:10.320 out why they fell, and then as it's rebuilt, they 267 00:16:10.360 --> 00:16:12.679 may have a second chance at leadership. But it's all 268 00:16:12.720 --> 00:16:18.639 built on trust. Number four, Forgiveness isn't forgetting what's happened. 269 00:16:19.480 --> 00:16:24.639 Forgiveness isn't forgetting what's happened. Now, this is real important 270 00:16:24.639 --> 00:16:27.200 because some of you are afraid to forgive people who've 271 00:16:27.240 --> 00:16:29.039 hurt you because you say, I don't want to forget. 272 00:16:29.480 --> 00:16:31.639 They hurt me so bad and I don't want to 273 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:33.440 let it go. I don't want to forget. Now you've 274 00:16:33.440 --> 00:16:37.120 heard this phrase over and over. Forgive and forget, forgive 275 00:16:37.240 --> 00:16:40.559 and forget, forgive and forget. There's only one problem with it. 276 00:16:40.799 --> 00:16:45.919 You can't do it. It's impossible. You really can't forget any 277 00:16:46.000 --> 00:16:48.960 hurt that's been in your life. You will never forget it. 278 00:16:49.159 --> 00:16:52.080 In fact, you can't even try to forget. People say, 279 00:16:52.399 --> 00:16:56.159 have you forgotten that? Well, I'm trying, I'm really trying. 280 00:16:56.399 --> 00:16:58.679 What happens when you're trying, You're focusing on the very 281 00:16:58.720 --> 00:17:01.600 thing you can't forget. I'm trying to forget it. It's 282 00:17:01.600 --> 00:17:04.119 like a smoker, if you quit smoking, Well, I'm trying. 283 00:17:05.240 --> 00:17:09.559 I'm trying you the whole time. Anytime you try to 284 00:17:09.599 --> 00:17:12.359 do something, you are focusing on what you don't want 285 00:17:12.359 --> 00:17:13.839 the whole time. You know, that's when you go on 286 00:17:13.880 --> 00:17:16.839 a diet, you think about food all the time. If 287 00:17:16.839 --> 00:17:18.799 you not that, you think about it more than when 288 00:17:18.839 --> 00:17:21.880 you're not on a diet, You actually focus on it. 289 00:17:22.000 --> 00:17:25.039 And the only way you can forget something is actually 290 00:17:25.200 --> 00:17:27.559 to refocus on something else. It's like if you're watching 291 00:17:27.599 --> 00:17:29.559 TV and this is a dumb show and I want 292 00:17:29.599 --> 00:17:33.000 to forget it, It's real simple. Change the channel. When 293 00:17:33.039 --> 00:17:36.359 something else gets my attention, then I will forget the former. 294 00:17:37.279 --> 00:17:39.720 Nothing like a new relationship to cause you to forget 295 00:17:39.759 --> 00:17:43.160 the old one. Okay, But if you don't have a 296 00:17:43.160 --> 00:17:46.759 new relationship, you're going to keep thinking about that one. Okay. Now, 297 00:17:47.039 --> 00:17:50.279 what's more important is forgetting is not what God wants 298 00:17:50.319 --> 00:17:54.000 you to do. There's something better than forgiving and forgetting, 299 00:17:54.640 --> 00:17:59.279 And what it is is forgiving and then remembering the 300 00:17:59.359 --> 00:18:02.880 hurt and then seeing how God can bring good out 301 00:18:02.920 --> 00:18:08.559 of it. That's more important than forgetting. Actually remembering the 302 00:18:08.640 --> 00:18:12.079 hurt and then seeing how God brought good out of it, 303 00:18:12.119 --> 00:18:13.960 because then you thank God for the good that He 304 00:18:14.000 --> 00:18:15.759 brought out of it. You don't thank God for things 305 00:18:15.759 --> 00:18:18.880 you forget. One of the greatest verses in the Bible 306 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:21.599 is Romans chapter eight, verse twenty eight. It's a great 307 00:18:21.680 --> 00:18:25.880 comfort verse. And we know not, guests, we know that 308 00:18:26.119 --> 00:18:29.519 all things, not some things, but all all things work 309 00:18:29.680 --> 00:18:33.039 together for good. Not all things are good, but work 310 00:18:33.079 --> 00:18:35.839 together for good for those who love God and are 311 00:18:35.839 --> 00:18:38.839 called according to his purpose. And the Bible says that 312 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:42.799 if I love God and I'm following his purposes, God says, 313 00:18:42.880 --> 00:18:45.119 then I will make sure that no matter what happens 314 00:18:45.160 --> 00:18:48.519 to you, all things will work together for good. Now 315 00:18:48.559 --> 00:18:50.599 it doesn't say all things are good, because all things 316 00:18:50.640 --> 00:18:53.759 are not good. Cancer is not good, disease is not good, 317 00:18:54.000 --> 00:18:56.400 death is not good, Divorce is not good, war is 318 00:18:56.440 --> 00:18:58.839 not good, rape and abuse is not good. There are 319 00:18:58.839 --> 00:19:01.200 a lot of bad things in life. They are evil. 320 00:19:01.440 --> 00:19:04.039 Not everything that happens in this world is God's will. 321 00:19:04.440 --> 00:19:07.640 Don't blame God for some murder. Who's going out killing somebody. 322 00:19:07.720 --> 00:19:10.680 That's called evil. That's why we need God in our lives. 323 00:19:12.200 --> 00:19:14.400 So not everything in the world is good. But the 324 00:19:14.400 --> 00:19:16.880 cool thing about it is that God says I will 325 00:19:16.920 --> 00:19:20.279 work even good out of bad if you will trust me. 326 00:19:20.720 --> 00:19:22.759 If you come to me and say, God, I give 327 00:19:22.799 --> 00:19:25.359 you all the pieces of my life, he will return 328 00:19:25.480 --> 00:19:29.119 peace for my pieces. And when I given the pieces 329 00:19:29.119 --> 00:19:31.000 of my life, he gives me peace in my heart. 330 00:19:31.599 --> 00:19:34.000 And what is that piece. It's the peace knowing that 331 00:19:34.039 --> 00:19:36.400 all things work together for good. Even the hurts in 332 00:19:36.440 --> 00:19:39.839 my life, even the mistakes that I caused in my life, 333 00:19:39.920 --> 00:19:42.279 God will use them for good in my life if 334 00:19:42.319 --> 00:19:45.039 I will trust him. Now, is that a promise for everybody? No, 335 00:19:45.799 --> 00:19:48.119 it is not a promise for everybody. It says all 336 00:19:48.160 --> 00:19:50.480 things work together for good. For those who love God 337 00:19:50.519 --> 00:19:52.880 are called according to his purpose. What that means is, 338 00:19:53.720 --> 00:19:56.440 if I'm not living for God and I'm not following 339 00:19:56.440 --> 00:19:59.160 his purposes, all things are not working together for good 340 00:19:59.160 --> 00:20:01.599 in my life. In fact, if I'm not trying to 341 00:20:01.599 --> 00:20:03.759 go God's way, all things are working together for bad. 342 00:20:04.400 --> 00:20:06.279 If I thumb my nose God's God, I'm gonna do 343 00:20:06.279 --> 00:20:07.880 my own thing. I want to follow my own rules. 344 00:20:07.920 --> 00:20:10.359 I want to be my own God. God has no 345 00:20:10.400 --> 00:20:13.480 responsibility to make your life work out, to make it 346 00:20:13.519 --> 00:20:15.359 all work for good. In fact, it's all working for 347 00:20:15.440 --> 00:20:17.799 bad because you're moving further and further away from God. 348 00:20:18.720 --> 00:20:20.240 But when I come to Him and I say, God, 349 00:20:20.279 --> 00:20:22.480 I give it to you, he works it for good. 350 00:20:23.519 --> 00:20:25.440 And so what we want to do is not forget, 351 00:20:25.480 --> 00:20:28.519 because you can't anyway. You know, every memory you've ever 352 00:20:28.799 --> 00:20:31.240 had is still in your brain, even the ones you 353 00:20:31.319 --> 00:20:35.160 never thought consciously. And we know that today a surgeon 354 00:20:35.359 --> 00:20:38.559 can cut back your scalp and stimulate part of your brain, 355 00:20:38.799 --> 00:20:41.319 and you will have memories that you knew, never knew 356 00:20:41.319 --> 00:20:44.039 you even had. They are there, and they will come 357 00:20:44.079 --> 00:20:46.599 back and they'll be vivid because it's all stored in 358 00:20:46.599 --> 00:20:51.000 this marvelous machine that God has given us called the brain. 359 00:20:51.079 --> 00:20:54.960 It's all there, so you really can't forget it. But 360 00:20:55.039 --> 00:20:56.920 God says, I didn't say you had to forget it. 361 00:20:57.079 --> 00:21:00.799 What I said is forgive it and then look and 362 00:21:00.880 --> 00:21:02.880 see how I can bring good out of it. 363 00:21:05.559 --> 00:21:08.920 This is Pastor Rick's Daily Hope. We're so thankful that 364 00:21:08.960 --> 00:21:11.920 you've chosen to spend time with us. If you've missed 365 00:21:12.000 --> 00:21:15.519 any part of this broadcast, including portions we didn't have 366 00:21:15.599 --> 00:21:19.640 time for today, just go to Pastorick dot com and 367 00:21:19.759 --> 00:21:23.359 listen online anytime. 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John says he uses these written devotionals every 396 00:23:08.759 --> 00:23:11.000 morning to start his daily prayer and Bible reading. And 397 00:23:11.000 --> 00:23:14.440 he writes this, Pastor Rick, I started receiving your Daily 398 00:23:14.440 --> 00:23:17.799 Hope Devotionals about ten years ago. Not only did they 399 00:23:17.799 --> 00:23:20.400 bless my life and help me with my daily walk. 400 00:23:20.799 --> 00:23:22.680 I would save them and send them to my friends 401 00:23:23.079 --> 00:23:26.039