Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction. It's that one thing that we
have to have in order to feel like we are
breathing or moving through life. And if you're not being creative,
trust me, you're using somebody else's creativity to get things
going in your own personal life. Unplugged because we will
always say yes to creativity. Totally uncut because we all
make mistakes, So turn it into a tool. This is
Arrow unplugged.
Speaker 2: Hete zero and this is d Frank asking the questions,
questioning the answers. You come here to lay your truth
on the table, not just me, you to be able
to not confront yourself because usually when we confront ourselves
it's usually out of anger or sadness, but basically to
have a conversation, to have a relationship with that inner
core and being able to develop a conversation that really
is about learning and teaching and being available. But if
you have to have a confrontation, it's going to be
no different than Gordon Ramsay and he's just stepped into
your dirty ass kitchen and it's like, oh, oh, what
are we going to now? We forgot to ask the
questions and question the answers. This is Dfrank today we're
going to hit a very deep subject. First of all,
I am not a professional, but through experience, I've gone
through a lot. And the subject that we're going to
deal with is are you instantly forgiven when you've been
called home? You know what I mean by that? Right
when you're called home, when you transition, when you pass away,
do we instantly forgive what happens in that situation. I've
been through a lot of passings over the past five years,
and wow, it's not what you expect. It's you know,
each each one is much different than the other one,
but you learn. But you have to understand that I'm
a spiritualist. A spiritualist means that I don't look at
death the way that other people look at death. I
don't go to funerals, and the reason why is because
I believe in the continuation. That's the Buddhism, the studies
of that that's moving through me at all times. You know,
it's like, wow, where did you show up? Where was
your rebirth? I'm going to go find that out. But
after losing my sister just a few days ago, it
did occur to me. Does this mean that I instantly forgive?
I mean because when it comes to marriage, isn't it
till death do us part? Which I've never never liked
sharing that when I am the efficient at a wedding.
I don't like that because I want to believe that
love lasts way longer than life, and that the possibilities
of their being love beyond what we know as a
human being, will continue. In fact, I wrote a song
about that, about how my wife wants her ashes spread
in Carmel and for the longest time I wanted my
ashes to be spread in Santa Barbara, California, and that
the song was basically written about how the ashes moved
out through the ocean and they came together some more.
Out there in the middle of that ocean, our ashes
met again, and during the way that nature works its way,
something happened. It sucked the water from the ocean to
create the clouds that took a rainstorm to a mountain side,
and from the mountain side new life began. That's how
I think. But the question on DFRAG today is is
that when somebody passes, do you instantly forgive? And I
think that what I need to be saying is is
that even in life, when things don't go the way
that you want them to. You should instantly forgive. Forgiveness
is such a tool in an age where we want
to hold grudges, where we don't mind being a little
bit angry, or to allow other people's emotions to kind
of stand in the way of us finding peace. I
once had a man tell me. He says, says, I
don't like you when you're happy, and I said why,
He goes, no, I like it when you're angry, because
you're edgier and you say things and you cuss, and
I like that. I like it when people can can
really kind of look at the world and be a
little pissed off about it. But when you're happy, you're
talking about, oh my god, look at the daffodils today,
Oh man, did you hear that new song on the radio?
And so I go back to do we instantly forgive
when the transition has taken place? And I'm pointing the
finger to let's see how we can do and forgiving
before a transition takes place. We all make mistakes. I've
said that a billion times on these podcasts. We all
make mistakes, So turn them into a tool. Oh well,
that's easier said than done, right, you damn straight. It's
easier said than done, because it's just one of those
things that when you start using the lessons that you've
learned as a tool as a physical presence in your
decision making. For instance, the one thing that I've learned
as I've gotten older in life is that I'm less
of an argument waiting to happen, and I'm more of
a tell me your side of the story. In fact,
that was with Dan Abrams from ABC Today. He's got
a brand new show that's on TV and basically it's
the news, and the way that Dan talks about the
show is that it's going to be his point of view,
but he's got an expert panel and he's going to
look at him and say, did I get that right?
I like that. I like having our own points of view,
but we don't have to argue about it. We might
disagree a little bit here and there. But it doesn't
mean that we have to create a situation where, oh, crap,
I gotta forgive you. Now, well, what did you do?
I don't know. I just felt like that I went
wrong somewhere and now I've got to forgive you. But
back to the original quot question, during the transition, do
you instantly forgive? And I bring this up because my
sister and I we had a love hate relationship for
nearly sixty years, love hate, on and off, constantly on
and off, and we even got to the point to
where we made an agreement. Is that. Look, when one
of us says that I have to go away for
a couple of days, allow it to happen. Don't be
getting pissed off, don't be getting you know, sad or
anything like that. It means that we've spent too much
time together and we need to work it out. But
this last time, which was back in October of twenty
twenty two, it wasn't being worked out. It was pretty
much straight and forward that I think this is it
after nearly sixty years, that that what you said to
me and what I said to you. Ah, you know,
you just it's just it's not working out and it's
putting too much stress on a relationship here and that
that I don't like your points of view and you
don't like my points of view. It ain't working And
so do you instantly forgive? Now? Well, here's the thing
is that I did instantly forgive while it was happening,
and it's written in my defrag journals, it's written in
my daily writing. So I for those months between October
of twenty twenty two and this week, which was the
third week of February in twenty twenty three, I waited
for the phone call, the text message, something well I got.
I got a phone call from my other sister. She said,
your sister's gone. Instantly forgive, Right. I think we should
instantly forgive while we're alive. And when you do have
those moments where things are really not going as well
as you want, find a way to continue a new conversation.
Don't run from where the anger was, because you know
what the thing is about anger. You're usually fighting about
something that has nothing to do with what you're fighting about,
that it's coming from a different source of energy. Sure,
I'm disappointed that I didn't get to talk to my
sister because I kept hoping. Oh, I tried to call.
The one thing I hate about modern day phones blocking ghosting.
You can't get through once you've been blocked. Instantly forgiving
after the transition. I think it should be before. I
think it should be during our times of living. But
it's going to take some work. I'm Arrow and that's
Deeve Fryk