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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction. It's that one thing that we

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have to have in order to feel like we are

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breathing or moving through life. And if you're not being creative,

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trust me, you're using somebody else's creativity to get things

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going in your own personal life. Unplugged because we will

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always say yes to creativity. Totally uncut because we all

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make mistakes, So turn it into a tool. This is

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Arrow unplugged.

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Speaker 2: Hete zero and this is d Frank asking the questions,

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questioning the answers. You come here to lay your truth

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on the table, not just me, you to be able

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to not confront yourself because usually when we confront ourselves

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it's usually out of anger or sadness, but basically to

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have a conversation, to have a relationship with that inner

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core and being able to develop a conversation that really

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is about learning and teaching and being available. But if

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you have to have a confrontation, it's going to be

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no different than Gordon Ramsay and he's just stepped into

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your dirty ass kitchen and it's like, oh, oh, what

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are we going to now? We forgot to ask the

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questions and question the answers. This is Dfrank today we're

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going to hit a very deep subject. First of all,

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I am not a professional, but through experience, I've gone

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through a lot. And the subject that we're going to

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deal with is are you instantly forgiven when you've been

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called home? You know what I mean by that? Right

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when you're called home, when you transition, when you pass away,

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do we instantly forgive what happens in that situation. I've

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been through a lot of passings over the past five years,

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and wow, it's not what you expect. It's you know,

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each each one is much different than the other one,

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but you learn. But you have to understand that I'm

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a spiritualist. A spiritualist means that I don't look at

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death the way that other people look at death. I

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don't go to funerals, and the reason why is because

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I believe in the continuation. That's the Buddhism, the studies

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of that that's moving through me at all times. You know,

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it's like, wow, where did you show up? Where was

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your rebirth? I'm going to go find that out. But

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after losing my sister just a few days ago, it

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did occur to me. Does this mean that I instantly forgive?

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I mean because when it comes to marriage, isn't it

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till death do us part? Which I've never never liked

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sharing that when I am the efficient at a wedding.

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I don't like that because I want to believe that

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love lasts way longer than life, and that the possibilities

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of their being love beyond what we know as a

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human being, will continue. In fact, I wrote a song

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about that, about how my wife wants her ashes spread

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in Carmel and for the longest time I wanted my

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ashes to be spread in Santa Barbara, California, and that

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the song was basically written about how the ashes moved

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out through the ocean and they came together some more.

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Out there in the middle of that ocean, our ashes

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met again, and during the way that nature works its way,

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something happened. It sucked the water from the ocean to

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create the clouds that took a rainstorm to a mountain side,

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and from the mountain side new life began. That's how

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I think. But the question on DFRAG today is is

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that when somebody passes, do you instantly forgive? And I

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think that what I need to be saying is is

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that even in life, when things don't go the way

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that you want them to. You should instantly forgive. Forgiveness

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is such a tool in an age where we want

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to hold grudges, where we don't mind being a little

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bit angry, or to allow other people's emotions to kind

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of stand in the way of us finding peace. I

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once had a man tell me. He says, says, I

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don't like you when you're happy, and I said why,

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He goes, no, I like it when you're angry, because

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you're edgier and you say things and you cuss, and

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I like that. I like it when people can can

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really kind of look at the world and be a

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little pissed off about it. But when you're happy, you're

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talking about, oh my god, look at the daffodils today,

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Oh man, did you hear that new song on the radio?

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And so I go back to do we instantly forgive

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when the transition has taken place? And I'm pointing the

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finger to let's see how we can do and forgiving

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before a transition takes place. We all make mistakes. I've

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said that a billion times on these podcasts. We all

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make mistakes, So turn them into a tool. Oh well,

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that's easier said than done, right, you damn straight. It's

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easier said than done, because it's just one of those

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things that when you start using the lessons that you've

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learned as a tool as a physical presence in your

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decision making. For instance, the one thing that I've learned

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as I've gotten older in life is that I'm less

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of an argument waiting to happen, and I'm more of

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a tell me your side of the story. In fact,

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that was with Dan Abrams from ABC Today. He's got

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a brand new show that's on TV and basically it's

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the news, and the way that Dan talks about the

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show is that it's going to be his point of view,

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but he's got an expert panel and he's going to

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look at him and say, did I get that right?

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I like that. I like having our own points of view,

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but we don't have to argue about it. We might

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disagree a little bit here and there. But it doesn't

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mean that we have to create a situation where, oh, crap,

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I gotta forgive you. Now, well, what did you do?

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I don't know. I just felt like that I went

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wrong somewhere and now I've got to forgive you. But

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back to the original quot question, during the transition, do

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you instantly forgive? And I bring this up because my

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sister and I we had a love hate relationship for

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nearly sixty years, love hate, on and off, constantly on

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and off, and we even got to the point to

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where we made an agreement. Is that. Look, when one

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of us says that I have to go away for

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a couple of days, allow it to happen. Don't be

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getting pissed off, don't be getting you know, sad or

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anything like that. It means that we've spent too much

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time together and we need to work it out. But

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this last time, which was back in October of twenty

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twenty two, it wasn't being worked out. It was pretty

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much straight and forward that I think this is it

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after nearly sixty years, that that what you said to

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me and what I said to you. Ah, you know,

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you just it's just it's not working out and it's

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putting too much stress on a relationship here and that

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that I don't like your points of view and you

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don't like my points of view. It ain't working And

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so do you instantly forgive? Now? Well, here's the thing

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is that I did instantly forgive while it was happening,

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and it's written in my defrag journals, it's written in

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my daily writing. So I for those months between October

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of twenty twenty two and this week, which was the

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third week of February in twenty twenty three, I waited

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for the phone call, the text message, something well I got.

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I got a phone call from my other sister. She said,

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your sister's gone. Instantly forgive, Right. I think we should

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instantly forgive while we're alive. And when you do have

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those moments where things are really not going as well

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as you want, find a way to continue a new conversation.

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Don't run from where the anger was, because you know

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what the thing is about anger. You're usually fighting about

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something that has nothing to do with what you're fighting about,

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that it's coming from a different source of energy. Sure,

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I'm disappointed that I didn't get to talk to my

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sister because I kept hoping. Oh, I tried to call.

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The one thing I hate about modern day phones blocking ghosting.

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You can't get through once you've been blocked. Instantly forgiving

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after the transition. I think it should be before. I

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think it should be during our times of living. But

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it's going to take some work. I'm Arrow and that's

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Deeve Fryk