WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.319 Hi everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My 2 00:00:02.399 --> 00:00:04.799 name is Alicia Cogan, the host of The Globe Secret podcast, 3 00:00:04.879 --> 00:00:07.200 where I help you expand your mind and become more 4 00:00:07.200 --> 00:00:09.160 self aware so that you can glow up into the 5 00:00:09.160 --> 00:00:13.679 best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? I 6 00:00:13.759 --> 00:00:15.960 already know you guys are gonna ask. This hoodie is 7 00:00:16.000 --> 00:00:20.280 from Abercrombie. I just got it, Camo hoodie. It's fire, Okay, 8 00:00:20.440 --> 00:00:24.160 it is so comfortable. Obviously it looks immaculate. You guys 9 00:00:24.280 --> 00:00:26.519 know I love me a good hoodie. Okay, And we 10 00:00:26.640 --> 00:00:29.800 are inching into the fall time, which means this is 11 00:00:29.800 --> 00:00:32.079 basically all you're gonna see. Okay, but listen, I highly 12 00:00:32.119 --> 00:00:34.000 recommend this water and I will have a line down below. 13 00:00:34.079 --> 00:00:34.439 Okay. 14 00:00:34.479 --> 00:00:37.719 So I was thinking, as I always do every single day, 15 00:00:37.840 --> 00:00:42.159 all day about everything. I was thinking about how life 16 00:00:42.399 --> 00:00:44.520 seems to be testing a lot of us right now, 17 00:00:44.560 --> 00:00:49.560 which kind of coincides with mercury retrograde, which I am 18 00:00:49.560 --> 00:00:53.439 honestly not super into astrology. I just believe in it 19 00:00:53.520 --> 00:00:57.960 because I'm a very spiritual person and I feel when 20 00:00:58.479 --> 00:01:00.840 things are moving and entered, she is moving, and things 21 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:04.760 are different in the realm of life. I can just 22 00:01:04.760 --> 00:01:07.040 feel into it. And how it goes with the strology 23 00:01:07.159 --> 00:01:10.040 is I usually am feeling this like death and rebirth 24 00:01:10.200 --> 00:01:15.079 or this something happening, and then I always hear that 25 00:01:15.239 --> 00:01:18.400 it's like mercury retrograde or like this thing or even 26 00:01:18.719 --> 00:01:22.840 the lines portal thing, Like before anyone was really talking 27 00:01:22.840 --> 00:01:24.439 about that, and before I even knew about it, but 28 00:01:24.480 --> 00:01:26.079 before a lot of people were talking about that, I 29 00:01:26.840 --> 00:01:30.439 there was some changes happening, Like I feel like I 30 00:01:30.519 --> 00:01:32.760 was right at the cusp of like feeling that, and 31 00:01:32.760 --> 00:01:34.239 then I started to feel into it, and I feel 32 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:36.879 like a lot of people around me started to too. 33 00:01:37.079 --> 00:01:39.319 So anyways, life has definitely been testing me. I know 34 00:01:39.359 --> 00:01:41.280 it's been testing you guys, especially if you're listening to 35 00:01:41.280 --> 00:01:45.159 this right now, and recently the people in my life 36 00:01:45.159 --> 00:01:47.239 as well. And I want to talk about that. I 37 00:01:47.239 --> 00:01:49.599 want to talk about how you can pass the test, 38 00:01:49.719 --> 00:01:52.760 because we know this is just a test. Come on, 39 00:01:53.480 --> 00:01:56.319 if you guys been listening to this podcast for you know, 40 00:01:56.400 --> 00:02:00.799 even less than a year, you guys know it's a test, okay, 41 00:02:01.079 --> 00:02:03.519 but sometimes you need to be reminded of that. And 42 00:02:03.680 --> 00:02:05.719 I want to talk quickly about like a little story 43 00:02:05.760 --> 00:02:09.000 that even made me think about this, and I think 44 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:11.000 it will help all of you guys, but even me, 45 00:02:11.159 --> 00:02:12.560 it helped me when I was thinking about this. 46 00:02:12.639 --> 00:02:13.919 So I have a. 47 00:02:13.879 --> 00:02:18.960 Friend who in her life, she has family members who 48 00:02:20.400 --> 00:02:26.159 don't really support her or believe in her, okay, And 49 00:02:26.319 --> 00:02:30.280 partly it's because of her past mistakes that she has made. 50 00:02:30.840 --> 00:02:34.919 She knows that, and they have verbalized that. But at 51 00:02:34.919 --> 00:02:35.439 the end of the. 52 00:02:35.479 --> 00:02:39.599 Day, she is trying to get her life in order, 53 00:02:39.800 --> 00:02:44.199 but her family still looks at her like the same girl, 54 00:02:44.400 --> 00:02:49.800 the same girl who can't be trusted, who is a failure, 55 00:02:50.039 --> 00:02:52.560 who is a loser, who is da da da da Okay. 56 00:02:52.680 --> 00:02:54.879 And she was coming to me with an issue that 57 00:02:54.919 --> 00:02:57.719 she was having, and it was basically just the same issue. 58 00:02:58.199 --> 00:03:01.240 Her family was just looking at her like the old 59 00:03:01.360 --> 00:03:04.400 version of her, of who she used to be. And 60 00:03:04.560 --> 00:03:07.639 like I said, she knows this and I know this, 61 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:12.199 but I was basically giving her the advice of remember 62 00:03:12.599 --> 00:03:15.479 what is going on right here, okay, And I'm going 63 00:03:15.560 --> 00:03:17.639 to explain this the best that I can. And I 64 00:03:17.680 --> 00:03:19.439 have to kind of give you two examples because I 65 00:03:19.479 --> 00:03:22.360 know there's some people who are very logical and more spiritual, 66 00:03:22.400 --> 00:03:25.000 and I am. I think I'm like equally both, okay. 67 00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:30.319 So logically, what's going on here is her family has 68 00:03:30.479 --> 00:03:35.639 these like preconceived beliefs and notions about her which is 69 00:03:35.879 --> 00:03:40.560 based off of her past. It's real, it's happening, you know, 70 00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:42.840 if you have to obviously respond to these things in 71 00:03:42.840 --> 00:03:47.280 certain ways, yes, like we're not talking about just you know, 72 00:03:47.639 --> 00:03:51.960 pretending like this doesn't exist, okay. But spiritually, the way 73 00:03:52.039 --> 00:03:54.800 that I look at this situation, and a lot of situations, 74 00:03:55.199 --> 00:03:58.719 even though some situations require you to be logical and 75 00:03:58.719 --> 00:04:03.319 to be rational, I always usually come to these types 76 00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:05.599 of conclusions of like, okay, what is a lesson? What's 77 00:04:05.599 --> 00:04:09.560 the spiritual lesson from this? And I told her that 78 00:04:10.159 --> 00:04:15.120 it's not really your family. And yes, again logically, yes 79 00:04:15.159 --> 00:04:17.759 it is the family, okay, but they are just a 80 00:04:17.800 --> 00:04:23.680 physical representation of the essence and the spirit of the 81 00:04:23.839 --> 00:04:26.959 old version of her, okay. And I was trying to 82 00:04:27.000 --> 00:04:29.839 tell her because she really wants people to respect her, 83 00:04:30.120 --> 00:04:33.040 to respect her boundaries, to have a better life, to 84 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:35.120 have people show up in certain ways and this that, 85 00:04:35.319 --> 00:04:38.240 And I said, the way that that's going to happen 86 00:04:39.000 --> 00:04:43.279 is if you stop responding to the old version of you, 87 00:04:43.759 --> 00:04:46.959 which is reflected in your current life right now in 88 00:04:47.000 --> 00:04:49.240 some sort of the way. Whatever thing you don't like 89 00:04:49.959 --> 00:04:53.759 is really just that reflection. Okay, So if you want 90 00:04:53.920 --> 00:04:56.240 people to treat you better, if you want people to 91 00:04:56.360 --> 00:04:58.399 commit to you, if you want more money, if you 92 00:04:58.439 --> 00:05:00.519 want whatever, Da da da da, don't look at the 93 00:05:00.600 --> 00:05:03.600 current life circumstance that you're in, in the situations and 94 00:05:03.639 --> 00:05:06.879 say I'm not getting what I want because people are 95 00:05:06.920 --> 00:05:08.920 still not treating me well or I still haven't seen 96 00:05:08.959 --> 00:05:11.680 it show up or this that, and the third life 97 00:05:11.720 --> 00:05:14.360 is testing you right now. Life is literally and this 98 00:05:14.399 --> 00:05:17.759 is what I told her too, like specially her, because 99 00:05:17.800 --> 00:05:20.360 she's had a lot of tests in her life. We 100 00:05:20.399 --> 00:05:23.519 get a lot of tests, even like if it's extreme 101 00:05:23.639 --> 00:05:25.560 or not right. It's like should I go to the 102 00:05:25.600 --> 00:05:27.439 gym or should I knock go to the gym? Should 103 00:05:27.439 --> 00:05:29.160 I go out and get black out drunk? Or should 104 00:05:29.160 --> 00:05:31.279 I stay in? Should I text the X or not? 105 00:05:31.519 --> 00:05:33.360 Should I continue to spend money or should I get 106 00:05:33.360 --> 00:05:33.959 my life together? 107 00:05:34.000 --> 00:05:34.480 You know what I mean? 108 00:05:34.519 --> 00:05:38.879 Like there's tests always, but in her specific life, definitely 109 00:05:38.920 --> 00:05:42.399 there are. It's so clear too that she's growing because 110 00:05:42.439 --> 00:05:44.639 there's so many tests that keep coming into her way. 111 00:05:44.759 --> 00:05:47.759 And I told her, the universe got whatever you want 112 00:05:47.759 --> 00:05:50.040 to believe in, this is what I believe, just like spiritually, 113 00:05:50.240 --> 00:05:53.879 in order for you to become that person who is respected, 114 00:05:54.279 --> 00:05:57.839 who has money, who has a good life, you need 115 00:05:57.879 --> 00:06:00.759 to act a new way, right You need a whole 116 00:06:00.759 --> 00:06:04.399 new identity. Somebody who identifies as a smoker versus a 117 00:06:04.399 --> 00:06:08.120 non smoker, they do different actions, okay, And so if 118 00:06:08.120 --> 00:06:10.759 you want new results in your life, you must become 119 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:14.560 a new person. But the new version of you requires 120 00:06:14.680 --> 00:06:18.759 you to not respond the same way. And the way 121 00:06:18.759 --> 00:06:22.959 that you respond is looking at your current life circumstance 122 00:06:23.079 --> 00:06:27.160 and saying, this is literally just an old version of 123 00:06:27.240 --> 00:06:30.920 me shining through all people, places, and things right now. 124 00:06:31.240 --> 00:06:34.600 The treatment that I'm currently getting, the disrespect that's happening 125 00:06:34.639 --> 00:06:37.800 in my life, the inconsistency with certain things that I've 126 00:06:37.800 --> 00:06:41.319 been wanting to have. It really is all just a reflection. 127 00:06:41.399 --> 00:06:43.160 It doesn't have to maybe even be you. It could 128 00:06:43.160 --> 00:06:45.279 have been like other people playing a role in your 129 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:47.040 life or this that, and you don't have to get 130 00:06:47.079 --> 00:06:49.040 mad at yourself for it. We're not sitting here and 131 00:06:49.040 --> 00:06:50.720 playing the blame game. But the end of the day, 132 00:06:50.720 --> 00:06:55.360 it's like that's usually what happens. Okay, my current reality 133 00:06:55.639 --> 00:07:00.120 sitting here on the podcast Living Downtown tront You know, 134 00:07:00.279 --> 00:07:02.920 every single thing is a manifestation of the version of 135 00:07:02.959 --> 00:07:06.079 me who stepped into the identity of I get what 136 00:07:06.160 --> 00:07:09.000 I want my life. I'm a podcaster, I'm X, Y 137 00:07:09.120 --> 00:07:12.639 and Z. And now my friend was really frustrated because 138 00:07:12.680 --> 00:07:15.600 this had been going on for so long and she 139 00:07:15.720 --> 00:07:19.160 has been making progress to show these people that, you know, 140 00:07:19.560 --> 00:07:22.439 she is better and different and this that, and I 141 00:07:22.439 --> 00:07:25.439 think that's when you're right at the tipping point of 142 00:07:25.480 --> 00:07:27.319 whether you're going to pass the tests or not, is 143 00:07:27.360 --> 00:07:30.439 when you really start to get frustrated and you're like, 144 00:07:30.680 --> 00:07:33.319 why me, and it's why is this happening again? 145 00:07:33.439 --> 00:07:33.839 And how? 146 00:07:33.879 --> 00:07:36.279 And because I think that that is really where you 147 00:07:36.279 --> 00:07:39.800 can get some power and to use that power for 148 00:07:40.160 --> 00:07:42.560 something that's really really good. I think this is the 149 00:07:42.600 --> 00:07:45.399 same thing as kind of like hitting rock bottom. Sometimes 150 00:07:45.439 --> 00:07:48.639 you really have great change when you hit rock bottom. Unfortunately, 151 00:07:48.639 --> 00:07:50.639 we don't really want that to happen, but most of us, 152 00:07:50.680 --> 00:07:53.240 as human beings, we let it get to the point 153 00:07:53.319 --> 00:07:55.759 of rock bottom. And honestly, I will take back even 154 00:07:56.839 --> 00:07:59.279 we let it get a lot of the times. It's 155 00:07:59.279 --> 00:08:02.319 just so hard for you to like do every proper 156 00:08:02.360 --> 00:08:04.759 move so that you don't go to rock bottom, like 157 00:08:04.800 --> 00:08:07.040 you're operating out of trauma. You have all these like 158 00:08:07.160 --> 00:08:10.199 mini addictions to things. You have, attachment styles, you also 159 00:08:10.319 --> 00:08:12.399 just have like real life that has nothing to do 160 00:08:12.439 --> 00:08:14.160 with trauma, and like your interests and how you want 161 00:08:14.199 --> 00:08:16.720 to live in your life and your age and this that, 162 00:08:16.800 --> 00:08:19.000 Like there's so many things going on that sometimes it's 163 00:08:19.040 --> 00:08:23.040 like the things that kind of blow up in your face. 164 00:08:23.199 --> 00:08:25.480 Sometimes it's like damn, like I didn't like maybe I 165 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:27.519 saw that coming, but I didn't think it was gonna happen. 166 00:08:27.560 --> 00:08:30.000 Like now I thought maybe I was doing a good 167 00:08:30.079 --> 00:08:32.440 enough job this that. So like just don't even get 168 00:08:32.519 --> 00:08:34.879 mad at yourself if these things are happening. But I 169 00:08:34.919 --> 00:08:39.320 do think that sometimes the best power or like the 170 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:44.000 most potent, I don't know, spiritualness that's not the word, 171 00:08:44.039 --> 00:08:47.039 but whatever usually happens around the times where you are 172 00:08:47.120 --> 00:08:50.360 really fed up and really annoyed and this that, And 173 00:08:50.879 --> 00:08:53.240 I think that I always get really excited sometimes, like 174 00:08:53.279 --> 00:08:55.879 when I feel that, which is crazy. It's like I'm 175 00:08:55.919 --> 00:08:58.840 pretty sure I've said this before, but I've had many 176 00:08:58.879 --> 00:09:02.600 different like chronic illness and just really crappy circumstances in 177 00:09:02.600 --> 00:09:07.120 my life, and I will actually thrive off of being 178 00:09:07.240 --> 00:09:09.639 in rock bottom. So anyways, if you can try and 179 00:09:09.720 --> 00:09:13.799 access some of that type of energy and use that 180 00:09:13.960 --> 00:09:16.840 to push you into doing the opposite of what you've 181 00:09:16.840 --> 00:09:19.080 been doing, because I feel like a lot of the 182 00:09:19.120 --> 00:09:23.440 things in our life are just requiring us to respond 183 00:09:24.120 --> 00:09:27.559 basically the opposite. You eat like shit, eat better, You 184 00:09:27.639 --> 00:09:29.519 keep not going to the gym, go to the gym, 185 00:09:29.720 --> 00:09:32.039 You keep not waking up early, wake up early, you 186 00:09:32.120 --> 00:09:35.159 keep texting the X. Stop texting the X, like those 187 00:09:35.200 --> 00:09:38.360 type of things. But sometimes you need so much energy 188 00:09:38.399 --> 00:09:41.639 to do that, so much like knowness about what's been 189 00:09:41.679 --> 00:09:44.840 going on and boredom of what's been going on, that 190 00:09:44.840 --> 00:09:47.120 shitty circumstance and be like, eh, I'm going to respond 191 00:09:47.159 --> 00:09:49.519 in a completely different way now. What always helps me 192 00:09:49.679 --> 00:09:52.159 to respond in a new way, because it is hard, 193 00:09:52.399 --> 00:09:55.080 just like I said, to even have that motivation to 194 00:09:55.320 --> 00:09:58.600 really push yourself to do the opposite, even though you 195 00:09:58.720 --> 00:10:01.399 know what you need to do, you know, like hold 196 00:10:01.399 --> 00:10:05.360 a actual boundary or not getting triggered and being reactive 197 00:10:05.799 --> 00:10:09.320 to something that is you know in your mind, Yeah, 198 00:10:09.399 --> 00:10:11.919 I could react to this, or let me defend myself 199 00:10:11.960 --> 00:10:15.039 or let me explain, or let me get mad because 200 00:10:15.039 --> 00:10:17.759 these people don't understand me and they keep disrespecting me. 201 00:10:18.679 --> 00:10:21.320 Or you could do the opposite, and why it's good 202 00:10:21.320 --> 00:10:21.600 to do that. 203 00:10:21.639 --> 00:10:23.759 I've talked about this in last week's episode, so please 204 00:10:23.799 --> 00:10:26.159 go listen to that because I talk about how everyone 205 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:28.840 is your mirror. If you want people to respect you, 206 00:10:28.840 --> 00:10:31.559 you have to respect yourself first. You have to look 207 00:10:31.559 --> 00:10:34.919 at yourself like you are a respectable person, and you 208 00:10:35.000 --> 00:10:38.279 have to stop engaging in behaviors that allow people to 209 00:10:38.360 --> 00:10:40.919 keep disrespecting you. But you have to do that first. 210 00:10:41.279 --> 00:10:41.799 But what we. 211 00:10:41.840 --> 00:10:44.440 Usually do is we just cry about the fact that 212 00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:47.480 people are not respecting us or not choosing us or 213 00:10:47.480 --> 00:10:50.000 not committing. But it's like, you have to look at 214 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:52.600 your own actions in the way you've been playing a 215 00:10:52.679 --> 00:10:55.559 role and what is being reflected in your life. But 216 00:10:55.639 --> 00:10:57.960 the biggest thing probably that actually helps me be able 217 00:10:58.000 --> 00:11:03.200 to even respond differently is to go like radio silent, 218 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:09.159 to slow things down, to come inwards. And honestly, that's 219 00:11:09.159 --> 00:11:11.159 what I've been doing the past like week and a 220 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:14.320 half when it comes to people, when it comes to 221 00:11:14.360 --> 00:11:17.759 social media, when it comes to even like work things 222 00:11:17.799 --> 00:11:20.759 and like projects and to dos, like I have completely 223 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:24.679 just sucked my energy back towards myself because I know 224 00:11:24.799 --> 00:11:28.320 that this period of life, with whatever's happening, there's a 225 00:11:28.360 --> 00:11:30.320 lot of things moving around. There's a lot of things 226 00:11:30.320 --> 00:11:32.120 that I want, and there's a lot of things that. 227 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:32.720 I don't want. 228 00:11:32.879 --> 00:11:34.559 And I know, because I've been talking about it, that 229 00:11:34.600 --> 00:11:36.679 there's things currently happening in my life that are asking 230 00:11:36.679 --> 00:11:38.720 me to either respond the same way or differently, and 231 00:11:38.919 --> 00:11:41.720 I already know the lesson of no, I'm not going 232 00:11:41.799 --> 00:11:45.039 to respond the same way. And what helps, though is 233 00:11:45.120 --> 00:11:48.799 to really spend that time with myself. And in order 234 00:11:48.840 --> 00:11:51.759 for me to really do all of that, I need 235 00:11:51.960 --> 00:11:56.879 some time to think. Okay, I feel like we live 236 00:11:57.000 --> 00:12:02.080 in a generation where everything is we're stimulated all the time, 237 00:12:02.879 --> 00:12:04.519 even if you want to think that you're not the 238 00:12:04.559 --> 00:12:07.519 persons that that is stimulated, and like constantly thinking about 239 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:10.600 a million things and consuming things now like even me, 240 00:12:10.759 --> 00:12:13.120 I do a good job at it, but still I'm 241 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:17.480 stimulated all the time. I'm also just really interested in 242 00:12:17.519 --> 00:12:21.200 a lot of things all of the time, and I 243 00:12:21.240 --> 00:12:24.039 am working, Like I have goals, I have things that 244 00:12:24.039 --> 00:12:27.399 I'm trying to do. Okay, So I struggle with like chilling, 245 00:12:28.159 --> 00:12:31.720 I really do. It's never been a thing that I've done, you, 246 00:12:31.840 --> 00:12:36.480 like never. I know the importance of obviously taking a 247 00:12:36.519 --> 00:12:39.080 break in some time, but it's sometimes hard for people 248 00:12:39.080 --> 00:12:41.000 who are like that because it's just really like you 249 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:45.919 can't enjoy slowing down because it's like it just doesn't 250 00:12:45.960 --> 00:12:48.679 compute in your head, like it's not enjoyable. So why 251 00:12:48.679 --> 00:12:49.559 would I, you know what I mean? 252 00:12:50.159 --> 00:12:54.480 But what I have found joy in is when a. 253 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:59.200 External stimuli is requiring me to slow down. 254 00:12:59.399 --> 00:13:02.720 That is what I usually slow down, which is happens often. 255 00:13:02.759 --> 00:13:06.240 Honestly, it happens often because that's life, whether it's mercury 256 00:13:06.279 --> 00:13:09.279 retrograde or it's that time of the month, which I 257 00:13:09.360 --> 00:13:12.919 usually do with the time of the month and all 258 00:13:12.960 --> 00:13:13.279 of that. 259 00:13:13.720 --> 00:13:15.360 I swear, just coming. 260 00:13:15.080 --> 00:13:17.879 Inwards and going like radio silent and giving yourself a 261 00:13:17.919 --> 00:13:20.559 second to just breathe, think about the situations or not 262 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:22.799 doesn't matter. I don't know, like it doesn't even not 263 00:13:22.879 --> 00:13:24.639 really matter what you do in this time, but like, 264 00:13:24.960 --> 00:13:28.240 just go radio silent for a second, know that you 265 00:13:28.279 --> 00:13:30.200 can respond, you can do everything that you need to do, 266 00:13:30.240 --> 00:13:32.320 and you can get right back to it whenever you can. 267 00:13:32.720 --> 00:13:36.240 But just going radio silence really creates so much clarity 268 00:13:36.320 --> 00:13:38.720 and so much change for me. And I feel like 269 00:13:38.759 --> 00:13:41.840 sometimes we just think the way that we're gonna have 270 00:13:42.000 --> 00:13:45.320 change is like us continuing to force it to happen, 271 00:13:45.759 --> 00:13:47.080 or like, what's the next thing that I can do 272 00:13:47.159 --> 00:13:49.120 so I can make this thing work, or like what's 273 00:13:49.120 --> 00:13:50.960 the next thing, or what's the next gool or what's 274 00:13:51.000 --> 00:13:51.759 the next whatever. 275 00:13:52.279 --> 00:13:56.960 But I have learned that it's really not about that. 276 00:13:57.519 --> 00:14:02.279 It's more about pulling energy off of the things you're 277 00:14:02.320 --> 00:14:06.480 constantly ruminating on the ideas that you've been having about 278 00:14:06.519 --> 00:14:10.240 things and how life needs to go. Even just removing 279 00:14:10.279 --> 00:14:13.480 your energy from people and the things that you know 280 00:14:13.559 --> 00:14:15.919 that you've been observing that aren't serving you even at 281 00:14:15.919 --> 00:14:19.159 that moment or forever. Maybe that's something that needs to 282 00:14:19.200 --> 00:14:22.840 change completely. Being so incredibly done with situations where you 283 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:26.399 just know you're just so bored, like it's just boring. 284 00:14:26.679 --> 00:14:29.480 It's literally like I feel like we're all very bored 285 00:14:29.559 --> 00:14:34.039 right now, and we're bored because it's the same situation 286 00:14:34.159 --> 00:14:36.559 that you keep playing out with people you know, and 287 00:14:36.559 --> 00:14:38.879 then it gets boring and you want to turn that 288 00:14:38.919 --> 00:14:42.200 boredom into like some sort of like emotional like I. 289 00:14:42.200 --> 00:14:45.440 Don't know, even anger or depending on what you're going through, anger. 290 00:14:45.200 --> 00:14:49.519 Or just done this, I don't know, and use that 291 00:14:49.879 --> 00:14:54.080 to pull yourself back for a second, put that energy 292 00:14:54.120 --> 00:14:57.799 towards yourself, really reevaluate what you've been doing in the 293 00:14:57.840 --> 00:15:00.639 cycles that you have been going in yourself. That you 294 00:15:00.679 --> 00:15:05.320 can come right back to the stimulation, to the boring 295 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:07.879 story if you want, if you're really not ready to 296 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:10.320 let that go, okay, because sometimes we're not ready to 297 00:15:10.399 --> 00:15:13.639 let go that like boring story go, which usually keeps 298 00:15:13.679 --> 00:15:16.840 you in the same cycle. But something that really helps 299 00:15:16.919 --> 00:15:19.559 me is is like doing this, like I'm gonna bring 300 00:15:19.559 --> 00:15:22.240 my energy back to myself. But it's fine, Everything's going 301 00:15:22.320 --> 00:15:25.279 to be exactly where I left it. And really I 302 00:15:25.320 --> 00:15:27.919 don't mind losing the boring things anyways. And that's another thing. 303 00:15:27.919 --> 00:15:29.720 I think you have to be really willing to walk 304 00:15:29.759 --> 00:15:34.240 away from certain situations or like certain patterns, which is 305 00:15:34.240 --> 00:15:37.399 why sometimes rock bottom works because it like pushes you. 306 00:15:37.360 --> 00:15:37.960 To walk away. 307 00:15:38.039 --> 00:15:40.960 But I also think that there's like some beauty truly 308 00:15:41.240 --> 00:15:43.399 will not some there is a lot of beauty in 309 00:15:44.240 --> 00:15:47.159 moving through life like this, where you know, you're expanding 310 00:15:47.159 --> 00:15:49.120 some more energy, and you're out into the world and 311 00:15:49.159 --> 00:15:52.080 you're experiencing things, and you're even maybe responding to life 312 00:15:52.159 --> 00:15:54.360 because you can be in reality, you don't have to 313 00:15:54.360 --> 00:15:57.840 always be spiritually aligned. But how I think about like 314 00:15:57.879 --> 00:16:00.279 ebbing and flowing through life is kind of the same 315 00:16:00.320 --> 00:16:04.120 way as like always getting ready every single day. You 316 00:16:04.200 --> 00:16:06.159 no longer kind of like look in the mirror like, oh, 317 00:16:06.279 --> 00:16:09.120 I look so amazing and beautiful. I mean, maybe you do, 318 00:16:09.279 --> 00:16:11.120 and you should no matter what, but I'm just saying 319 00:16:11.120 --> 00:16:13.360 in terms of like getting ready and like getting your 320 00:16:13.440 --> 00:16:15.639 best outfit on, and like doing your hair and like 321 00:16:15.679 --> 00:16:17.320 everything like that, if you do it every single day, 322 00:16:17.360 --> 00:16:20.600 you're kind of like, okay, whatever. But if you are 323 00:16:20.639 --> 00:16:23.240 not somebody who regularly does that, but then here and 324 00:16:23.279 --> 00:16:25.440 there you do that most of the time. At least 325 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:28.120 for me, I really appreciate it more. I feel like 326 00:16:28.120 --> 00:16:33.240 I really look so good because I don't always do 327 00:16:33.360 --> 00:16:35.799 my hair or I don't always wear that dress or 328 00:16:35.879 --> 00:16:38.240 something like that. But it also personally works for me 329 00:16:38.480 --> 00:16:40.559 and living my life, and maybe it doesn't for other people, 330 00:16:40.919 --> 00:16:43.519 but it works for me because I feel like I 331 00:16:43.559 --> 00:16:46.320 can replenish myself and I don't have to do the 332 00:16:46.360 --> 00:16:48.320 same thing over and over and over and over again. 333 00:16:48.679 --> 00:16:51.639 And I benefit from that. But then even as I 334 00:16:51.679 --> 00:16:53.600 go out into the world, and let's say, like an 335 00:16:53.600 --> 00:16:57.240 example of like getting ready, I also look and feel 336 00:16:57.279 --> 00:17:01.480 the absolute best because I've put my best work forward 337 00:17:01.600 --> 00:17:03.960 after coming inwards and kind of like working on myself 338 00:17:04.000 --> 00:17:06.319 or like whatever. There's so many examples, right, same thing 339 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:11.480 can happen in relationships if you spend every waking day 340 00:17:11.519 --> 00:17:12.200 with that man. 341 00:17:12.799 --> 00:17:14.759 Listen, Okay, actually hold on. 342 00:17:14.799 --> 00:17:17.160 I'm gonna do a disclaimer because I already know there's 343 00:17:17.160 --> 00:17:19.000 some girls who be spending every week and day with 344 00:17:19.039 --> 00:17:22.839 their man. Listen, you do you if you're happy and 345 00:17:22.880 --> 00:17:25.240 you guys are thriving. I feel like there's definitely couples 346 00:17:25.319 --> 00:17:28.759 that just like really are meant to just always be together. 347 00:17:28.799 --> 00:17:32.319 I don't know, whatever, Please don't take offense to this, 348 00:17:32.519 --> 00:17:35.039 but for me, the way I think and the way 349 00:17:35.079 --> 00:17:38.599 I've experienced it, because I am me. Okay, not everyone 350 00:17:38.640 --> 00:17:42.240 is the same, but spending every day with the man 351 00:17:42.519 --> 00:17:46.839 loses some it loses something. It loses something for me personally, 352 00:17:47.039 --> 00:17:50.160 and I sometimes think it usually loses like something for 353 00:17:50.400 --> 00:17:54.680 a man too. I don't know same thing with content, 354 00:17:54.839 --> 00:17:58.119 posting every single day, every single day, every single day, 355 00:17:58.119 --> 00:18:01.400 if you sometimes lose that hmm, you know, whether like 356 00:18:01.480 --> 00:18:05.359 people like look at it as there's a loss or 357 00:18:05.400 --> 00:18:07.440 even you and I can bring that to my podcast. 358 00:18:07.759 --> 00:18:09.480 I'm pretty sure you guys would be happy if I 359 00:18:09.519 --> 00:18:12.279 posted like every day. I mean, some people would, I'm sure. 360 00:18:12.920 --> 00:18:15.519 So it's not really even that, but it's me right. 361 00:18:15.599 --> 00:18:18.400 I won't be able to put the best podcast episodes 362 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:22.640 out every single time, and sometimes it's fine sometimes, like 363 00:18:22.759 --> 00:18:24.519 you have a career or you have a relationship or 364 00:18:24.559 --> 00:18:27.119 something that needs stability. I'm not talking about living every 365 00:18:27.160 --> 00:18:31.400 single thing out in life as very cyclical, but I 366 00:18:31.440 --> 00:18:34.039 do think that there is beauty and we thrive the 367 00:18:34.079 --> 00:18:36.839 best when we leave room for the ebbs and flows 368 00:18:36.839 --> 00:18:40.079 of life, and I look at it the way I 369 00:18:40.119 --> 00:18:43.119 look at Sometimes you need to be really logical. Sometimes 370 00:18:43.400 --> 00:18:46.319 there's just things that logic will not be able to 371 00:18:46.359 --> 00:18:50.279 explain about the world. But it happens, and you either 372 00:18:50.359 --> 00:18:52.440 can believe in it because you believe that there's some 373 00:18:52.480 --> 00:18:54.880 sort of higher power or there's like some spiritual thing, 374 00:18:55.480 --> 00:18:59.279 or you can use your logical mind to just play 375 00:18:59.279 --> 00:19:03.640 the victim role and say that there's just no causation. 376 00:19:04.200 --> 00:19:08.279 There's no logical explanation for this thing, so I just 377 00:19:08.440 --> 00:19:11.400 must be doomed and there's no answer or this that 378 00:19:11.480 --> 00:19:15.359 sometimes you actually need to believe in something bigger than 379 00:19:15.359 --> 00:19:18.079 what you see. You just sometimes it just has to 380 00:19:18.119 --> 00:19:20.039 be like that. And I think that that's how you 381 00:19:20.079 --> 00:19:23.759 really grow and how you really prosper. And I have 382 00:19:23.880 --> 00:19:26.759 been somebody who used to be so analytical and so 383 00:19:26.920 --> 00:19:29.400 logical and to never really have belief in anything, and 384 00:19:29.480 --> 00:19:31.839 I got into a lot of ruts. I'm not saying 385 00:19:31.880 --> 00:19:33.759 that I didn't get to places where I needed to 386 00:19:33.759 --> 00:19:36.240 go with logic, but there were some things that I 387 00:19:36.319 --> 00:19:39.359 kept just going in circles because logic is not going 388 00:19:39.440 --> 00:19:43.200 to do it. So I really do believe if you're spiritual, 389 00:19:43.240 --> 00:19:45.319 if you believe, like you have a religion or whatever, 390 00:19:45.400 --> 00:19:48.160 I think that everyone does some good with believing in 391 00:19:48.200 --> 00:19:50.599 something outside of themselves, because if not, I do find 392 00:19:50.640 --> 00:19:55.000 that you kind of go into those spirals and those things. Anyways, 393 00:19:55.359 --> 00:19:56.759 I don't know if I told you guys this, but 394 00:19:56.799 --> 00:19:58.240 this is kind of like a think piece. It's not 395 00:19:58.319 --> 00:20:00.440 really even like I don't even know really where I'm 396 00:20:00.440 --> 00:20:02.920 going with this, but this is just things that I 397 00:20:02.960 --> 00:20:05.359 was thinking about this weekend, and also coming back to 398 00:20:05.920 --> 00:20:10.440 sometimes life is testing you. I find when life is 399 00:20:10.440 --> 00:20:13.279 testing you, that's when you want to come back inwards 400 00:20:13.279 --> 00:20:15.799 instead of expanding that energy, instead of doing the same 401 00:20:15.839 --> 00:20:18.160