Speaker 1: Hi everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My
Speaker 1: name is Alicia Cogan, the host of The Globe Secret podcast,
Speaker 1: where I help you expand your mind and become more
Speaker 1: self aware so that you can glow up into the
Speaker 1: best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? I
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Speaker 1: So I was thinking, as I always do every single day,
Speaker 1: all day about everything. I was thinking about how life
Speaker 1: seems to be testing a lot of us right now,
Speaker 1: which kind of coincides with mercury retrograde, which I am
Speaker 1: honestly not super into astrology. I just believe in it
Speaker 1: because I'm a very spiritual person and I feel when
Speaker 1: things are moving and entered, she is moving, and things
Speaker 1: are different in the realm of life. I can just
Speaker 1: feel into it. And how it goes with the strology
Speaker 1: is I usually am feeling this like death and rebirth
Speaker 1: or this something happening, and then I always hear that
Speaker 1: it's like mercury retrograde or like this thing or even
Speaker 1: the lines portal thing, Like before anyone was really talking
Speaker 1: about that, and before I even knew about it, but
Speaker 1: before a lot of people were talking about that, I
Speaker 1: there was some changes happening, Like I feel like I
Speaker 1: was right at the cusp of like feeling that, and
Speaker 1: then I started to feel into it, and I feel
Speaker 1: like a lot of people around me started to too.
Speaker 1: So anyways, life has definitely been testing me. I know
Speaker 1: it's been testing you guys, especially if you're listening to
Speaker 1: this right now, and recently the people in my life
Speaker 1: as well. And I want to talk about that. I
Speaker 1: want to talk about how you can pass the test,
Speaker 1: because we know this is just a test. Come on,
Speaker 1: if you guys been listening to this podcast for you know,
Speaker 1: even less than a year, you guys know it's a test, okay,
Speaker 1: but sometimes you need to be reminded of that. And
Speaker 1: I want to talk quickly about like a little story
Speaker 1: that even made me think about this, and I think
Speaker 1: it will help all of you guys, but even me,
Speaker 1: it helped me when I was thinking about this.
Speaker 2: So I have a.
Speaker 1: Friend who in her life, she has family members who
Speaker 1: don't really support her or believe in her, okay, And
Speaker 1: partly it's because of her past mistakes that she has made.
Speaker 2: She knows that, and they have verbalized that. But at
Speaker 2: the end of the.
Speaker 1: Day, she is trying to get her life in order,
Speaker 1: but her family still looks at her like the same girl,
Speaker 1: the same girl who can't be trusted, who is a failure,
Speaker 1: who is a loser, who is da da da da Okay.
Speaker 1: And she was coming to me with an issue that
Speaker 1: she was having, and it was basically just the same issue.
Speaker 1: Her family was just looking at her like the old
Speaker 1: version of her, of who she used to be. And
Speaker 1: like I said, she knows this and I know this,
Speaker 1: but I was basically giving her the advice of remember
Speaker 1: what is going on right here, okay, And I'm going
Speaker 1: to explain this the best that I can. And I
Speaker 1: have to kind of give you two examples because I
Speaker 1: know there's some people who are very logical and more spiritual,
Speaker 1: and I am. I think I'm like equally both, okay.
Speaker 1: So logically, what's going on here is her family has
Speaker 1: these like preconceived beliefs and notions about her which is
Speaker 1: based off of her past. It's real, it's happening, you know,
Speaker 1: if you have to obviously respond to these things in
Speaker 1: certain ways, yes, like we're not talking about just you know,
Speaker 1: pretending like this doesn't exist, okay. But spiritually, the way
Speaker 1: that I look at this situation, and a lot of situations,
Speaker 1: even though some situations require you to be logical and
Speaker 1: to be rational, I always usually come to these types
Speaker 1: of conclusions of like, okay, what is a lesson? What's
Speaker 1: the spiritual lesson from this? And I told her that
Speaker 1: it's not really your family. And yes, again logically, yes
Speaker 1: it is the family, okay, but they are just a
Speaker 1: physical representation of the essence and the spirit of the
Speaker 1: old version of her, okay. And I was trying to
Speaker 1: tell her because she really wants people to respect her,
Speaker 1: to respect her boundaries, to have a better life, to
Speaker 1: have people show up in certain ways and this that,
Speaker 1: And I said, the way that that's going to happen
Speaker 1: is if you stop responding to the old version of you,
Speaker 1: which is reflected in your current life right now in
Speaker 1: some sort of the way. Whatever thing you don't like
Speaker 1: is really just that reflection. Okay, So if you want
Speaker 1: people to treat you better, if you want people to
Speaker 1: commit to you, if you want more money, if you
Speaker 1: want whatever, Da da da da, don't look at the
Speaker 1: current life circumstance that you're in, in the situations and
Speaker 1: say I'm not getting what I want because people are
Speaker 1: still not treating me well or I still haven't seen
Speaker 1: it show up or this that, and the third life
Speaker 1: is testing you right now. Life is literally and this
Speaker 1: is what I told her too, like specially her, because
Speaker 1: she's had a lot of tests in her life. We
Speaker 1: get a lot of tests, even like if it's extreme
Speaker 1: or not right. It's like should I go to the
Speaker 1: gym or should I knock go to the gym? Should
Speaker 1: I go out and get black out drunk? Or should
Speaker 1: I stay in? Should I text the X or not?
Speaker 1: Should I continue to spend money or should I get
Speaker 1: my life together?
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like there's tests always, but in her specific life, definitely
Speaker 1: there are. It's so clear too that she's growing because
Speaker 1: there's so many tests that keep coming into her way.
Speaker 1: And I told her, the universe got whatever you want
Speaker 1: to believe in, this is what I believe, just like spiritually,
Speaker 1: in order for you to become that person who is respected,
Speaker 1: who has money, who has a good life, you need
Speaker 1: to act a new way, right You need a whole
Speaker 1: new identity. Somebody who identifies as a smoker versus a
Speaker 1: non smoker, they do different actions, okay, And so if
Speaker 1: you want new results in your life, you must become
Speaker 1: a new person. But the new version of you requires
Speaker 1: you to not respond the same way. And the way
Speaker 1: that you respond is looking at your current life circumstance
Speaker 1: and saying, this is literally just an old version of
Speaker 1: me shining through all people, places, and things right now.
Speaker 1: The treatment that I'm currently getting, the disrespect that's happening
Speaker 1: in my life, the inconsistency with certain things that I've
Speaker 1: been wanting to have. It really is all just a reflection.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to maybe even be you. It could
Speaker 1: have been like other people playing a role in your
Speaker 1: life or this that, and you don't have to get
Speaker 1: mad at yourself for it. We're not sitting here and
Speaker 1: playing the blame game. But the end of the day,
Speaker 1: it's like that's usually what happens. Okay, my current reality
Speaker 1: sitting here on the podcast Living Downtown tront You know,
Speaker 1: every single thing is a manifestation of the version of
Speaker 1: me who stepped into the identity of I get what
Speaker 1: I want my life. I'm a podcaster, I'm X, Y
Speaker 1: and Z. And now my friend was really frustrated because
Speaker 1: this had been going on for so long and she
Speaker 1: has been making progress to show these people that, you know,
Speaker 1: she is better and different and this that, and I
Speaker 1: think that's when you're right at the tipping point of
Speaker 1: whether you're going to pass the tests or not, is
Speaker 1: when you really start to get frustrated and you're like,
Speaker 1: why me, and it's why is this happening again?
Speaker 2: And how?
Speaker 1: And because I think that that is really where you
Speaker 1: can get some power and to use that power for
Speaker 1: something that's really really good. I think this is the
Speaker 1: same thing as kind of like hitting rock bottom. Sometimes
Speaker 1: you really have great change when you hit rock bottom. Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: we don't really want that to happen, but most of us,
Speaker 1: as human beings, we let it get to the point
Speaker 1: of rock bottom. And honestly, I will take back even
Speaker 1: we let it get a lot of the times. It's
Speaker 1: just so hard for you to like do every proper
Speaker 1: move so that you don't go to rock bottom, like
Speaker 1: you're operating out of trauma. You have all these like
Speaker 1: mini addictions to things. You have, attachment styles, you also
Speaker 1: just have like real life that has nothing to do
Speaker 1: with trauma, and like your interests and how you want
Speaker 1: to live in your life and your age and this that,
Speaker 1: Like there's so many things going on that sometimes it's
Speaker 1: like the things that kind of blow up in your face.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's like damn, like I didn't like maybe I
Speaker 1: saw that coming, but I didn't think it was gonna happen.
Speaker 1: Like now I thought maybe I was doing a good
Speaker 1: enough job this that. So like just don't even get
Speaker 1: mad at yourself if these things are happening. But I
Speaker 1: do think that sometimes the best power or like the
Speaker 1: most potent, I don't know, spiritualness that's not the word,
Speaker 1: but whatever usually happens around the times where you are
Speaker 1: really fed up and really annoyed and this that, And
Speaker 1: I think that I always get really excited sometimes, like
Speaker 1: when I feel that, which is crazy. It's like I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure I've said this before, but I've had many
Speaker 1: different like chronic illness and just really crappy circumstances in
Speaker 1: my life, and I will actually thrive off of being
Speaker 1: in rock bottom. So anyways, if you can try and
Speaker 1: access some of that type of energy and use that
Speaker 1: to push you into doing the opposite of what you've
Speaker 1: been doing, because I feel like a lot of the
Speaker 1: things in our life are just requiring us to respond
Speaker 1: basically the opposite. You eat like shit, eat better, You
Speaker 1: keep not going to the gym, go to the gym,
Speaker 1: You keep not waking up early, wake up early, you
Speaker 1: keep texting the X. Stop texting the X, like those
Speaker 1: type of things. But sometimes you need so much energy
Speaker 1: to do that, so much like knowness about what's been
Speaker 1: going on and boredom of what's been going on, that
Speaker 1: shitty circumstance and be like, eh, I'm going to respond
Speaker 1: in a completely different way now. What always helps me
Speaker 1: to respond in a new way, because it is hard,
Speaker 1: just like I said, to even have that motivation to
Speaker 1: really push yourself to do the opposite, even though you
Speaker 1: know what you need to do, you know, like hold
Speaker 1: a actual boundary or not getting triggered and being reactive
Speaker 1: to something that is you know in your mind, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I could react to this, or let me defend myself
Speaker 1: or let me explain, or let me get mad because
Speaker 1: these people don't understand me and they keep disrespecting me.
Speaker 2: Or you could do the opposite, and why it's good
Speaker 2: to do that.
Speaker 1: I've talked about this in last week's episode, so please
Speaker 1: go listen to that because I talk about how everyone
Speaker 1: is your mirror. If you want people to respect you,
Speaker 1: you have to respect yourself first. You have to look
Speaker 1: at yourself like you are a respectable person, and you
Speaker 1: have to stop engaging in behaviors that allow people to
Speaker 1: keep disrespecting you. But you have to do that first.
Speaker 2: But what we.
Speaker 1: Usually do is we just cry about the fact that
Speaker 1: people are not respecting us or not choosing us or
Speaker 1: not committing. But it's like, you have to look at
Speaker 1: your own actions in the way you've been playing a
Speaker 1: role and what is being reflected in your life. But
Speaker 1: the biggest thing probably that actually helps me be able
Speaker 1: to even respond differently is to go like radio silent,
Speaker 1: to slow things down, to come inwards. And honestly, that's
Speaker 1: what I've been doing the past like week and a
Speaker 1: half when it comes to people, when it comes to
Speaker 1: social media, when it comes to even like work things
Speaker 1: and like projects and to dos, like I have completely
Speaker 1: just sucked my energy back towards myself because I know
Speaker 1: that this period of life, with whatever's happening, there's a
Speaker 1: lot of things moving around. There's a lot of things
Speaker 1: that I want, and there's a lot of things that.
Speaker 2: I don't want.
Speaker 1: And I know, because I've been talking about it, that
Speaker 1: there's things currently happening in my life that are asking
Speaker 1: me to either respond the same way or differently, and
Speaker 1: I already know the lesson of no, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to respond the same way. And what helps, though is
Speaker 1: to really spend that time with myself. And in order
Speaker 1: for me to really do all of that, I need
Speaker 1: some time to think. Okay, I feel like we live
Speaker 1: in a generation where everything is we're stimulated all the time,
Speaker 1: even if you want to think that you're not the
Speaker 1: persons that that is stimulated, and like constantly thinking about
Speaker 1: a million things and consuming things now like even me,
Speaker 1: I do a good job at it, but still I'm
Speaker 1: stimulated all the time. I'm also just really interested in
Speaker 1: a lot of things all of the time, and I
Speaker 1: am working, Like I have goals, I have things that
Speaker 1: I'm trying to do. Okay, So I struggle with like chilling,
Speaker 1: I really do. It's never been a thing that I've done, you,
Speaker 1: like never. I know the importance of obviously taking a
Speaker 1: break in some time, but it's sometimes hard for people
Speaker 1: who are like that because it's just really like you
Speaker 1: can't enjoy slowing down because it's like it just doesn't
Speaker 1: compute in your head, like it's not enjoyable. So why
Speaker 1: would I, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: But what I have found joy in is when a.
Speaker 1: External stimuli is requiring me to slow down.
Speaker 2: That is what I usually slow down, which is happens often.
Speaker 1: Honestly, it happens often because that's life, whether it's mercury
Speaker 1: retrograde or it's that time of the month, which I
Speaker 1: usually do with the time of the month and all
Speaker 1: of that.
Speaker 2: I swear, just coming.
Speaker 1: Inwards and going like radio silent and giving yourself a
Speaker 1: second to just breathe, think about the situations or not
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. I don't know, like it doesn't even not
Speaker 1: really matter what you do in this time, but like,
Speaker 1: just go radio silent for a second, know that you
Speaker 1: can respond, you can do everything that you need to do,
Speaker 1: and you can get right back to it whenever you can.
Speaker 1: But just going radio silence really creates so much clarity
Speaker 1: and so much change for me. And I feel like
Speaker 1: sometimes we just think the way that we're gonna have
Speaker 1: change is like us continuing to force it to happen,
Speaker 1: or like, what's the next thing that I can do
Speaker 1: so I can make this thing work, or like what's
Speaker 1: the next thing, or what's the next gool or what's
Speaker 1: the next whatever.
Speaker 2: But I have learned that it's really not about that.
Speaker 1: It's more about pulling energy off of the things you're
Speaker 1: constantly ruminating on the ideas that you've been having about
Speaker 1: things and how life needs to go. Even just removing
Speaker 1: your energy from people and the things that you know
Speaker 1: that you've been observing that aren't serving you even at
Speaker 1: that moment or forever. Maybe that's something that needs to
Speaker 1: change completely. Being so incredibly done with situations where you
Speaker 1: just know you're just so bored, like it's just boring.
Speaker 1: It's literally like I feel like we're all very bored
Speaker 1: right now, and we're bored because it's the same situation
Speaker 1: that you keep playing out with people you know, and
Speaker 1: then it gets boring and you want to turn that
Speaker 1: boredom into like some sort of like emotional like I.
Speaker 2: Don't know, even anger or depending on what you're going through, anger.
Speaker 1: Or just done this, I don't know, and use that
Speaker 1: to pull yourself back for a second, put that energy
Speaker 1: towards yourself, really reevaluate what you've been doing in the
Speaker 1: cycles that you have been going in yourself. That you
Speaker 1: can come right back to the stimulation, to the boring
Speaker 1: story if you want, if you're really not ready to
Speaker 1: let that go, okay, because sometimes we're not ready to
Speaker 1: let go that like boring story go, which usually keeps
Speaker 1: you in the same cycle. But something that really helps
Speaker 1: me is is like doing this, like I'm gonna bring
Speaker 1: my energy back to myself. But it's fine, Everything's going
Speaker 1: to be exactly where I left it. And really I
Speaker 1: don't mind losing the boring things anyways. And that's another thing.
Speaker 1: I think you have to be really willing to walk
Speaker 1: away from certain situations or like certain patterns, which is
Speaker 1: why sometimes rock bottom works because it like pushes you.
Speaker 2: To walk away.
Speaker 1: But I also think that there's like some beauty truly
Speaker 1: will not some there is a lot of beauty in
Speaker 1: moving through life like this, where you know, you're expanding
Speaker 1: some more energy, and you're out into the world and
Speaker 1: you're experiencing things, and you're even maybe responding to life
Speaker 1: because you can be in reality, you don't have to
Speaker 1: always be spiritually aligned. But how I think about like
Speaker 1: ebbing and flowing through life is kind of the same
Speaker 1: way as like always getting ready every single day. You
Speaker 1: no longer kind of like look in the mirror like, oh,
Speaker 1: I look so amazing and beautiful. I mean, maybe you do,
Speaker 1: and you should no matter what, but I'm just saying
Speaker 1: in terms of like getting ready and like getting your
Speaker 1: best outfit on, and like doing your hair and like
Speaker 1: everything like that, if you do it every single day,
Speaker 1: you're kind of like, okay, whatever. But if you are
Speaker 1: not somebody who regularly does that, but then here and
Speaker 1: there you do that most of the time. At least
Speaker 1: for me, I really appreciate it more. I feel like
Speaker 1: I really look so good because I don't always do
Speaker 1: my hair or I don't always wear that dress or
Speaker 1: something like that. But it also personally works for me
Speaker 1: and living my life, and maybe it doesn't for other people,
Speaker 1: but it works for me because I feel like I
Speaker 1: can replenish myself and I don't have to do the
Speaker 1: same thing over and over and over and over again.
Speaker 1: And I benefit from that. But then even as I
Speaker 1: go out into the world, and let's say, like an
Speaker 1: example of like getting ready, I also look and feel
Speaker 1: the absolute best because I've put my best work forward
Speaker 1: after coming inwards and kind of like working on myself
Speaker 1: or like whatever. There's so many examples, right, same thing
Speaker 1: can happen in relationships if you spend every waking day
Speaker 1: with that man.
Speaker 2: Listen, Okay, actually hold on.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do a disclaimer because I already know there's
Speaker 1: some girls who be spending every week and day with
Speaker 1: their man. Listen, you do you if you're happy and
Speaker 1: you guys are thriving. I feel like there's definitely couples
Speaker 1: that just like really are meant to just always be together.
Speaker 1: I don't know, whatever, Please don't take offense to this,
Speaker 1: but for me, the way I think and the way
Speaker 1: I've experienced it, because I am me. Okay, not everyone
Speaker 1: is the same, but spending every day with the man
Speaker 1: loses some it loses something. It loses something for me personally,
Speaker 1: and I sometimes think it usually loses like something for
Speaker 1: a man too. I don't know same thing with content,
Speaker 1: posting every single day, every single day, every single day,
Speaker 1: if you sometimes lose that hmm, you know, whether like
Speaker 1: people like look at it as there's a loss or
Speaker 1: even you and I can bring that to my podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure you guys would be happy if I
Speaker 1: posted like every day. I mean, some people would, I'm sure.
Speaker 1: So it's not really even that, but it's me right.
Speaker 1: I won't be able to put the best podcast episodes
Speaker 1: out every single time, and sometimes it's fine sometimes, like
Speaker 1: you have a career or you have a relationship or
Speaker 1: something that needs stability. I'm not talking about living every
Speaker 1: single thing out in life as very cyclical, but I
Speaker 1: do think that there is beauty and we thrive the
Speaker 1: best when we leave room for the ebbs and flows
Speaker 1: of life, and I look at it the way I
Speaker 1: look at Sometimes you need to be really logical. Sometimes
Speaker 1: there's just things that logic will not be able to
Speaker 1: explain about the world. But it happens, and you either
Speaker 1: can believe in it because you believe that there's some
Speaker 1: sort of higher power or there's like some spiritual thing,
Speaker 1: or you can use your logical mind to just play
Speaker 1: the victim role and say that there's just no causation.
Speaker 1: There's no logical explanation for this thing, so I just
Speaker 1: must be doomed and there's no answer or this that
Speaker 1: sometimes you actually need to believe in something bigger than
Speaker 1: what you see. You just sometimes it just has to
Speaker 1: be like that. And I think that that's how you
Speaker 1: really grow and how you really prosper. And I have
Speaker 1: been somebody who used to be so analytical and so
Speaker 1: logical and to never really have belief in anything, and
Speaker 1: I got into a lot of ruts. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: that I didn't get to places where I needed to
Speaker 1: go with logic, but there were some things that I
Speaker 1: kept just going in circles because logic is not going
Speaker 1: to do it. So I really do believe if you're spiritual,
Speaker 1: if you believe, like you have a religion or whatever,
Speaker 1: I think that everyone does some good with believing in
Speaker 1: something outside of themselves, because if not, I do find
Speaker 1: that you kind of go into those spirals and those things. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I told you guys this, but
Speaker 1: this is kind of like a think piece. It's not
Speaker 1: really even like I don't even know really where I'm
Speaker 1: going with this, but this is just things that I
Speaker 1: was thinking about this weekend, and also coming back to
Speaker 1: sometimes life is testing you. I find when life is
Speaker 1: testing you, that's when you want to come back inwards
Speaker 1: instead of expanding that energy, instead of doing the same
Speaker 1: thing over and over. And I also think when you
Speaker 1: come back towards yourself and you replenish yourself and you
Speaker 1: just take a break from the same things that you've
Speaker 1: been ruminating over or the same damn cycle. Okay, when
Speaker 1: you take a break, when you're ready to go back out,
Speaker 1: you're so aligned. Why because you've thought about what you want,
Speaker 1: You've replenished yourself, whether it's like literally like sleep or rest.
Speaker 1: You know, when you do that before you get period
Speaker 1: things like that, or even when it comes to like relationships,
Speaker 1: maybe you're walking away from something that doesn't serve you
Speaker 1: and you're coming back to yourself and you're really thinking
Speaker 1: about what do I want from a relationship, because clearly
Speaker 1: what's happening over there is just not it. So usually
Speaker 1: we just get so incredibly like aligned. If we spend
Speaker 1: the time, you know, reflecting and taking it easy and
Speaker 1: not just suppressing emotions and stuff, we usually come out
Speaker 1: and you're so dead ass aligned. And that's usually when,
Speaker 1: especially like post breakup, when you feel really good about yourself,
Speaker 1: it's because you just came out of that like thinking
Speaker 1: about what you want, and then you usually find somebody
Speaker 1: that tends to happen. I don't know, that's happened with
Speaker 1: me many, many, many times. But anyways, another thing that
Speaker 1: is important to do during times where life is trying
Speaker 1: to test you, when you're bringing your energy towards yourself,
Speaker 1: is to work on any sort of anger or sadness
Speaker 1: or even happiness, honestly, jealousy, comparison all of those things, okay,
Speaker 1: and create space for them, because I feel like a
Speaker 1: lot of the things that usually play out in our
Speaker 1: lives are from the result of repressed emotions, and we're
Speaker 1: always repressing something. I mean, unless you like do real
Speaker 1: like deep emotional release practices like day after day and
Speaker 1: stuff like that, which I don't think is always necessary.
Speaker 1: You probably have been repressing something and bringing it back
Speaker 1: to my friend something that I even told her was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, instead of reacting responding to the old
Speaker 1: version of you that your family is just kind of
Speaker 1: like mirroring to you right now, because it's like, what's
Speaker 1: the point.
Speaker 2: But there might actually be hurt. You know, there might
Speaker 2: be anger.
Speaker 1: There might be frustration of people not listening or loving
Speaker 1: you or respecting you or showing up for you. Take
Speaker 1: that emotion that you would really be not directing in
Speaker 1: the right energy of like them, getting mad at them.
Speaker 2: Bring it to pen and.
Speaker 1: Paper or out loud, go to therapy if you need
Speaker 1: to this that. But I usually just journal and write
Speaker 1: that out. Like, process that emotion. Allow room for frustration
Speaker 1: and anger and comparison and jealousy and all of those
Speaker 1: things before you go right to I can't compare myself.
Speaker 1: I shouldn't feel jealous. I want to think good thoughts
Speaker 1: about these people. Want you know, all the positive things
Speaker 1: that you want to do. Yes, we can do all that,
Speaker 1: but like first process those emotions, because honestly, the things
Speaker 1: are not happening in your life that you want to
Speaker 1: be happening. There are definitely emotions that they're eliciting right now,
Speaker 1: so you might as well process them because you're just
Speaker 1: going to be kind of weighing them down. And I
Speaker 1: think that also really helps you get aligned and when
Speaker 1: you're ready to kind of like get your energy back
Speaker 1: and go into the world or like do something new
Speaker 1: or different than what you've been doing. You get really
Speaker 1: aligned because you have released your emotions. You're not moving
Speaker 1: out of the same person that you were before, and
Speaker 1: you're really clear about where you want to put your
Speaker 1: energy and your time with people, places, and things, and
Speaker 1: sometimes you just need time with yourself. So in order
Speaker 1: to pass the test, you need to understand that everything
Speaker 1: is just your mirror and there's no point on responding
Speaker 1: the same way to the same things if you want
Speaker 1: a new result, which is what you want. AKA, you
Speaker 1: want to pass the test because you know what it
Speaker 1: means to pass the test. It means it's a new level.
Speaker 1: It means something new.
Speaker 2: In your life.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's why you want to pass the test. So
Speaker 1: in order to do that, you need to become a
Speaker 1: new version of you. Bring your energy towards yourself, stay silent.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure somebody said this on TikTok. Actually, now
Speaker 1: that i'm thinking about this, somebody was talking about mercury retrograde.
Speaker 1: I didn't really even listen to the whole thing, but
Speaker 1: they just like started off by like saying, like you
Speaker 1: see me the way that I act. Oh, by the way,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like put this little trend in during mercury retrograde,
Speaker 1: I become silent. I'm very demure, very mindful. Okay, So
Speaker 1: you guys need to be silent, radioactive silence, and it's
Speaker 1: gonna look different for everyone. What do I mean by silence,
Speaker 1: I don't know. It depends on what you are going through.
Speaker 2: Okay. Maybe it's removing.
Speaker 1: Yourself from places that literally keep you in the same position.
Speaker 2: Okay. Maybe it is a new routine. Maybe it is no.
Speaker 1: Longer triple million thousand texting a man who clearly doesn't
Speaker 1: want to commit to you. Okay, let it go. Stop
Speaker 1: answering the phone, let it go. Please, Like we're bored,
Speaker 1: be bored, so bored, Please be so bored. Be so
Speaker 1: bored of people who are either gossiping or like doing.
Speaker 2: The same thing. You know those ones, you know, those
Speaker 2: friends who just.
Speaker 1: Remind you that you are your age and they are not,
Speaker 1: and like no real shade because everyone's like stuck in
Speaker 1: their ways and this that. But sometimes you need a break.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you need to just m I'm not gonna do
Speaker 1: that right now. I'm good, Okay. You just need to
Speaker 1: be very demure, very mindful, take a slow, take a break.
Speaker 1: I'm taking a break kind of right now, even though
Speaker 1: I'm literally on the podcast talking, but I'm just like
Speaker 1: posting this. I'm about to get my period and want
Speaker 1: to get my period. I don't vlog and I sometimes
Speaker 1: get an episode out, but usually not. I'm not even
Speaker 1: posting on my stories right now, just like whatever I need,
Speaker 1: which will be like promoting this and a few other things,
Speaker 1: but it just keeping it very demure, okay, and spending
Speaker 1: a lot of this time, like I said, with my
Speaker 1: emotions because I feel like we really don't do that
Speaker 1: enough guys. Like I know we say we do, especially
Speaker 1: in the like the healing cell development stuff, but it's like,
Speaker 1: you know what we do. We do a lot of
Speaker 1: listening to other people talk about emotions, but actually being
Speaker 1: with ourselves, we do not actually do to usually hit
Speaker 1: rock bottom in this that which, you know what, I
Speaker 1: don't think that you need to be like processing emotions
Speaker 1: all the time, but like maybe this is a good
Speaker 1: time for you to actually do that. That is a
Speaker 1: great thing to do. And I'm also making some big
Speaker 1: decisions in my life and it needs a lot of
Speaker 1: room for me to think clearly. So that's what I'm
Speaker 1: doing right now. And what else am I doing. I'm
Speaker 1: making time for things that interest me right now without
Speaker 1: any like guilt or being like oh my gosh, like
Speaker 1: I need to do something with this or I don't know.
Speaker 1: You know, just giving yourself space is the best thing
Speaker 1: that you can do, and the opposite of not doing that, guys,
Speaker 1: because if you are having a part of you that's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, no, I can't slow down.
Speaker 2: Please just sit.
Speaker 1: Down and analyze how much time you waste trying to
Speaker 1: always be on. Okay, you're not as productive as you think.
Speaker 1: You really aren't. So let's use our brains because we
Speaker 1: can and we are smart, and say goodbye to constantly
Speaker 1: burning yourself out doing the same thing over and over
Speaker 1: again and only like ten percent of that actually being productive.
Speaker 2: Okay, you might as well.
Speaker 1: Replenish your nervous system in your entire life and stop
Speaker 1: expanding stupid energy with stupid people and come towards yourself
Speaker 1: and then get more aligned, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I hope this listen. I hope this episode made sense.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure in some capacity it did. Please let
Speaker 1: me know what you want to hear next. I do
Speaker 1: still have, like I've been saying, I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: a broken record, but I do have a few more episodes.
Speaker 1: But it requires me to not be on was getting
Speaker 1: my period. It requires me to be more my logical
Speaker 1: thinking brain and like ready to go motivation and like
Speaker 1: da da da da. I really do want to talk
Speaker 1: about productivity and adhd and I was gonna title it
Speaker 1: something that I forget now but whatever, so it is coming,
Speaker 1: but it does well. I mean, my logical mind wants
Speaker 1: to be very logical about it.
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's.
Speaker 1: Interesting, like there's certain topics. I guess this is just
Speaker 1: a side note now I'm just talking, but there's certain
Speaker 1: topics with my podcast where like I register it as
Speaker 1: like it's going to need to be the logical version
Speaker 1: of me, or it's going to need to be like
Speaker 1: the more spiritual, like laid back version of me. And
Speaker 1: I don't even plan it that way. It's just like
Speaker 1: as soon as I have an idea, it's either going
Speaker 1: into one of those categories and then depending on where
Speaker 1: I'm at, I can speak on it right away. Like
Speaker 1: sometimes I get those like logical ones in my mind
Speaker 1: that I register out right away because I'm in that energy.
Speaker 1: But if I'm in the like I don't know, spiritualish
Speaker 1: type of whatever flow and I have that idea, I'm like,
Speaker 1: can't do it. We're not going to do it, because
Speaker 1: what I will do usually is I will just be
Speaker 1: feeling so much resistance, which would make sense because my
Speaker 1: body naturally just wants to be flowing. Okay, my body
Speaker 1: is just naturally just wanting to be more of that
Speaker 1: spiritual side of me. And then if I try and
Speaker 1: force myself to talk about something or do something that
Speaker 1: I don't really feel like doing in that moment, I
Speaker 1: will sabotage it. And yes, we have to do things
Speaker 1: we don't like. And I've been really good at like
Speaker 1: trying to like baseline myself into like making sure that
Speaker 1: I do the things that I need to do, and
Speaker 1: I'm pretty good at that. Being an entrepreneur, but especially
Speaker 1: being an entrepreneur, you definitely have more pockets where you
Speaker 1: could be like, nah, I'm not going to do it
Speaker 1: because I don't feel like it, So you have to
Speaker 1: be careful. But then also the beauty of this job
Speaker 1: is that you have room to do that. And if you,
Speaker 1: in my opinion, kind of do it directly by understanding yourself,
Speaker 1: you can create some beautiful things and that's a journey
Speaker 1: and I'm on that journey right now. So anyways, that's it.
Speaker 2: I am done.
Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much. By the way, for over
Speaker 1: thirty thousand subscribers on the YouTube channel, that is crazy,
Speaker 1: but I mean, we knew it was coming, didn't we.
Speaker 1: Also for anyone who is new and you might be
Speaker 1: wondering why I have this slack on here, it is
Speaker 1: from my first YouTube channel that I made and I
Speaker 1: basically just postv logs and stuff. So if you guys
Speaker 1: are interested, also, I've been talking a lot about gut
Speaker 1: health and like healthy living and stuff. You can go
Speaker 1: subscribe to that channel. It'll be linked down below. Also,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure we hit probably at this point one
Speaker 1: point four million downloads on the audio side of things,
Speaker 1: if you are watching on YouTube, we have the podcast
Speaker 1: on audio and we're almost we're inching up to one
Speaker 1: point five and that's a lot. Okay, And the reason
Speaker 1: whym Actually I'm gonna say one more thing and then
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you the reason why I'm saying this.
Speaker 1: And we hit over fifty thousand followers on Spotify alone. Okay,
Speaker 1: so we're hitting numbers. The reason why I'm saying that
Speaker 1: is because I need you guys to understand that there's
Speaker 1: that many people wanting and willing and trying to change
Speaker 1: their lives. That's a lot of people, okay, And I'm
Speaker 1: proud of you guys like it. It makes me so
Speaker 1: happy to see because I'm on the journey. Yes, But
Speaker 1: also I don't know, it's like something about like my
Speaker 1: younger self. It's not that I like, oh, I see
Speaker 1: my younger self and all you guys, because some of
Speaker 1: you guys are literally older than me. Some of you
Speaker 1: are wiser than me. Okay, some of you are just
Speaker 1: like you guys are it's just incredible. But you know,
Speaker 1: some parts of you guys, I guess remind me of
Speaker 1: the young version of me. And I look at the
Speaker 1: young version of me, and I'm very proud of her,
Speaker 1: Like that girl was doing things that a lot of
Speaker 1: people were not doing, Okay, mainly because I had to
Speaker 1: grow up very fast. But that's my story, and I
Speaker 1: just like, look at you guys like that as well.
Speaker 1: Like I know, the journey of working on yourself and
Speaker 1: glowing up and healing. Depending on your life circumstance, it
Speaker 1: can be lonely sometimes it can be isolating. It can
Speaker 1: be if you guys are relating to the things that
Speaker 1: I'm talking about, it can be hard because you're battling
Speaker 1: with things, you're in cycles, you're so self aware, you're
Speaker 1: so sensitive, you're so intellectual, you're so interested in things,
Speaker 1: you have so many goals, Like there's so many things
Speaker 1: that I know, Like that's how.
Speaker 2: I live my life.
Speaker 1: So I just like I have empathy, I guess, but
Speaker 1: I'm also like really proud because at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, we are the people who are willing to
Speaker 1: do the work and willing to just learn and grow.
Speaker 1: And I think that that is a really good indicator
Speaker 1: of somebody who's actually very healthy and somebody who is
Speaker 1: thriving and somebody who can do a lot in this world,
Speaker 1: which I think a lot of people need to hear that,
Speaker 1: including me, because I feel like we fall on the
Speaker 1: side of always thinking that there's something wrong with us
Speaker 1: and we have to fix it, or there's something wrong
Speaker 1: and we're trying to fix it, because that's kind of
Speaker 1: like what people do who are like seekers in a way.
Speaker 1: But then there's a part of you who is just
Speaker 1: a natural seeker, and I think that that's beautiful too.
Speaker 1: I think that, yes, part of this can be because
Speaker 1: you have trauma and you're trying to heal and this that.
Speaker 1: But for me, I don't know. It's a huge mix
Speaker 1: of like, yes, I'm interested in this work because I've
Speaker 1: needed to be, but I have a fascination with psychology
Speaker 1: and spirituality and the human condition really and I just
Speaker 1: don't ever see myself stopping being interested in that because
Speaker 1: I've also even gone times where I wasn't so much
Speaker 1: deep into self development or healing and I still just
Speaker 1: like always found my way back and being interested in things.
Speaker 2: So that's it.
Speaker 1: Okay, thank you to everyone who's watching subscribing, and I'll
Speaker 1: see you guys in the next one.
Speaker 2: Bye.