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Speaker 4: welcome back to Rogue Soul. Which night we're talking about
Speaker 4: demi sexuality. Demisexuality. Yeah, it's the thing that just so
Speaker 4: happens to be the thing that was always the thing.
Speaker 4: Now it has a name, pretending to be special and different,
Speaker 4: very very strange. You've come full circle between you know,
Speaker 4: needing to get away from monogamy actual loving connection, you know,
Speaker 4: being connected to somebody, having sex with someone because you
Speaker 4: feel connected to them deeply, you know, and rebelling against
Speaker 4: that and going into polyamory and polygamy and all of this,
Speaker 4: you know, various levels of sexuality. Asexuality like I don't
Speaker 4: know all the genders, all that stuff, just to come
Speaker 4: fully back to only having sex with people who you love. Yes,
Speaker 4: that's what Debbie sexuality is. So we're gonna talk a
Speaker 4: little bit about that today and how they pretend that
Speaker 4: even though it's exactly the same as it has always
Speaker 4: been and what our ideal has always been, with the
Speaker 4: standard for society always was, we're gonna keep pretending like
Speaker 4: this isn't just so people who need to rebel and
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Speaker 4: get into it. This is the AI Google AI's summary
Speaker 4: of demisexuality. Demisexuality, it says, is a sexual orientation on
Speaker 4: the asexual spectrum. That's actually this asexual part is a
Speaker 4: newer thing. The demisexuals were angry when it got put
Speaker 4: on the asexual spectrum because it's actually nothing like asexuality.
Speaker 4: So interesting, we'll get there. This is why this community
Speaker 4: is so full of just nightmarage cluster b people, as
Speaker 4: well as just the neediness of like, no, it has
Speaker 4: to be this way, and also the neediness of wait,
Speaker 4: that sounds a little bit too much, like, you know,
Speaker 4: the traditional thing, and so we have to make it
Speaker 4: different somehow, you know. And so there's all this infighting
Speaker 4: and none of it has anything to do with reality,
Speaker 4: which makes it way harder. And let me rephrase that.
Speaker 4: People definitely have various things going on with their sexuality.
Speaker 4: That's obviously true, all kinds of kinks, fetishes, traumas, repressions,
Speaker 4: you know, subconscious stuff. I mean, it's like, it's insane.
Speaker 4: So if you're gonna just make up names for every
Speaker 4: other possible thing that possibly going on with your own sexuality,
Speaker 4: then you're gonna get stuff like this. You're gonna get
Speaker 4: stuff like this where demisexuality is put on the asexual
Speaker 4: spectrum against demisexuals as wills. So I'll just even my
Speaker 4: very light foray into this topic. I've seen them infighting
Speaker 4: about whether or not it's asexuality or not. And yeah,
Speaker 4: it's interesting, all right, so it says it's on the
Speaker 4: asexual spectrum. Put an asterisk next to that in your mind,
Speaker 4: where a person only experiences sexual attraction, get this after
Speaker 4: forming a deep, meaningful emotional bond. Just like everything exploded.
Speaker 4: It went back to like when I heard this, I
Speaker 4: was like, wait, so they're just saying they're normal. They're
Speaker 4: just saying they're healthy, normal people. Imagine that. Imagine being
Speaker 4: so weirded out by being a healthy, normal person that
Speaker 4: you need a label for it. Demi sexuality. This is
Speaker 4: in fact the historical norm, the multicultural norm. This is
Speaker 4: the norm. The norm is that sexual attraction comes from
Speaker 4: a deep emotional bond with somebody. It is in fact,
Speaker 4: and you could look into all the studies and you
Speaker 4: can see the evidence for this, that anything that strays
Speaker 4: from that comes from some sort of a Barrett psychology
Speaker 4: or trauma or series of traumas or conditioning, and that
Speaker 4: this is actually the default normal. If you're a normal,
Speaker 4: healthy person, This is the default. We talk about this
Speaker 4: too sometimes on Day zero. It'll come up every once
Speaker 4: in a while and people will be like, I don't
Speaker 4: even really get They're all men, right, I'm hanging out
Speaker 4: with the guys and they're like, I don't even really
Speaker 4: get like a rape or these things like how do
Speaker 4: how do you get into it?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 4: Like how are you even attracted to that situation? Exactly right?
Speaker 4: Because that's actually a baron. It's unhealthy, right, it's dysfunctional.
Speaker 4: Something has gone wrong, and so now you're a rapist.
Speaker 4: This is actually the default is that you don't actually
Speaker 4: get super horny for anybody unless you're in a loving
Speaker 4: experience with them that creates a sexual attraction, that creates
Speaker 4: the arousal. I'm so weird a out that I really
Speaker 4: have found out in looking into this that there's people
Speaker 4: who don't know that that's how dysfunctional our society is.
Speaker 4: That's how dysfunctional we are sexually. Is that this seems
Speaker 4: surprising to people, This seems shocking, This seems to need
Speaker 4: a label, like it's so weird. I can't just like
Speaker 4: go to an orgy for orries and just like, but
Speaker 4: fuck anybody, I have to actually, you know, have a
Speaker 4: connection with someone. It's crazy. No, that's not crazy, sir
Speaker 4: or madam. That's actually how it's supposed to be. What
Speaker 4: you have discovered is that you're in a sea of
Speaker 4: psychoses and you don't have that psychotic break with reality.
Speaker 4: You're actually normal and healthy. So really, really wild too.
Speaker 4: This is the wild future that we're in, is that
Speaker 4: people are this messed up that just having emotional attraction
Speaker 4: weirds them out. They say this too, This is so interesting.
Speaker 4: They say it is not a choice or a preference,
Speaker 4: but a consistent pattern of attraction.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: We again, you only have to say that because this
Speaker 4: is now being put into this category of all these
Speaker 4: other sexual identities that do require someone to say, Oh,
Speaker 4: it's not my choice, it's not my choice. I just
Speaker 4: am attracted to children. Yeah, no, we get that. You're
Speaker 4: not conscious decaying you know who, I want to be
Speaker 4: attracted to? Little kids. Now, everyone gets that whether or
Speaker 4: not it's your choice or not, it's a totally different
Speaker 4: question because philosophically, you'd have to actually understand what it
Speaker 4: means to make a choice, and that's something I don't
Speaker 4: think most of these people do understand. I think that
Speaker 4: life is something that happens to them and never something
Speaker 4: that they choose. So of course they're going to default too.
Speaker 4: It's not my choice. I'm a victim of this sexual orientation.
Speaker 4: You know what's interesting too, is this also sort of
Speaker 4: like gets you away from this idea that it actually
Speaker 4: doesn't matter what makes your genitalia start to be aroused
Speaker 4: or your emotions start to be aroused in a sexual way.
Speaker 4: You still are responsible for acting or not acting right,
Speaker 4: and this type of thinking moves you away from that responsibility.
Speaker 4: It starts to pretend like, again, everything's happening to you.
Speaker 4: You have no choice in the matter, you have no agency.
Speaker 4: It's not my fault. I'm attracted men or women or
Speaker 4: children or old people or whatever, people in diapers or
Speaker 4: whatever is going on for you right now. It is technically,
Speaker 4: you're right, it's not technically your conscious choice about who
Speaker 4: you're going to be attracted to or what situations are
Speaker 4: going to make you sexually arousse in life. It is
Speaker 4: one hundred percent your choice what you actually do in
Speaker 4: your life. And remember everything that we're doing, thinking and
Speaker 4: saying is always coming from our subconscious, and our subconscious
Speaker 4: is one hundred percent a factor of repetition. So yes,
Speaker 4: you are conditioned into these things. You are traumatized into
Speaker 4: these things, right, and you develop coping mechanisms that make
Speaker 4: you feel as though this is the way to go. Dude,
Speaker 4: if you don't know that how many people are out
Speaker 4: there having sex and don't actually want to be You're
Speaker 4: a little bit crazy. You haven't actually thought things through
Speaker 4: right so much, so much so that it has become
Speaker 4: the thing for young girls to identify as male so
Speaker 4: that they can avoid having sexual experiences instead of just
Speaker 4: realizing it's actually normal to not want to have sex,
Speaker 4: and it's actually okay to say, yeah, I don't like
Speaker 4: to have sex. That's that's it, right the end. I'll
Speaker 4: do it when I want to someday. Right. No one's
Speaker 4: teaching that. Everyone's like, yeah, go be like yay, or
Speaker 4: like put a butt plug in or just you know,
Speaker 4: masturbate all the time or anything you want. Just use
Speaker 4: loomy afterwards. It was like, you don't even need to
Speaker 4: shower and just like lick each other's buttholes. It's totally cool,
Speaker 4: and no one's saying, you know what else is cool?
Speaker 4: You don't have to do any of that ever. You
Speaker 4: don't have to do it until you're twenty five, you
Speaker 4: don't have to do it till you're thirty. If you want,
Speaker 4: you don't do anything. You can do nothing sexual ever,
Speaker 4: and it's totally normal. In fact, most people probably don't
Speaker 4: actually want to be having sex. People who I knew
Speaker 4: who were having sexually early were sexually molested and abused.
Speaker 4: That wasn't normal, right, We're super sexualized society. We have
Speaker 4: a lot of abuse and trauma going on. We never
Speaker 4: address it wet it doesn't exist. And then we also
Speaker 4: smother kids with this sexual programming even in school, so
Speaker 4: they're like, oh, no, actually, you know what, I'm a guy. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that's safer, right, that's safer. You go watch cut Daughters
Speaker 4: of the West. You can see that most of the
Speaker 4: people who are identifying as trans or female to male,
Speaker 4: most of them are female to male, and most of
Speaker 4: them are no longer having these other things that used
Speaker 4: to take the place of what a trans is now
Speaker 4: taking the place of like eating disorders, right, like plastic surgery, obsessions,
Speaker 4: and like other things that essentially took them out of
Speaker 4: or made it so it's easier for them to accept
Speaker 4: themselves as a sexual being. Right, Really interesting psychology behind
Speaker 4: all that. Most people aren't looking at that because they're
Speaker 4: programmed and all they're doing is getting angry when people
Speaker 4: like me say things like this, instead of actually listening
Speaker 4: and thinking and caring about children and their health. So
Speaker 4: we get to this where demisexuality has become an identity. Oh,
Speaker 4: it's so weird. Only guess actually aroused when I'm really
Speaker 4: close to somebody. Yeah, No, that's totally normal. That's how
Speaker 4: it's supposed to be. That's the default setting for a healthy,
Speaker 4: well individual. It says, understanding the nuances of demisexuality as
Speaker 4: though there's nuance to this, as though this is nuanced.
Speaker 4: This is actually not nuanced at all. Is the norm.
Speaker 4: It is what's healthy. It is what healthy people do. No,
Speaker 4: almost none of us were healthy. No, almost none of
Speaker 4: us had actual free, loved upbringings right that didn't have
Speaker 4: all this programming and trauma and handed out good people
Speaker 4: don't even know. People come to me all the time, Oh,
Speaker 4: I don't have trauma, and then they tell me about
Speaker 4: like their parents fighting or leaving each other, or like
Speaker 4: the house days that they had to leave behind because
Speaker 4: of whatever financial collapse, or the uncle who touched them
Speaker 4: or whatever. I'm like, you think you don't have trauma.
Speaker 4: There have been such a mess of society. People don't
Speaker 4: even know that. So emotional catalyst, it says, the spark
Speaker 4: of sexual attraction is essentially non existent for demisexuals until
Speaker 4: trust an emotional or intellectual intimacy, you're established on the hevil.
Speaker 4: This is a real sentence I'm reading this. Bond is
Speaker 4: most often formed through close friendship. Just as like again,
Speaker 4: we could go back to with the best advice anyone
Speaker 4: ever gave anybody about marriage and sex and love is
Speaker 4: marry your best friend. Marry your best friend. You're your
Speaker 4: person who you're married to should be your best friend,
Speaker 4: bestier than your bestie, right Otherwise, why are you bothering?
Speaker 4: What is this? This is just a fake thing you're doing,
Speaker 4: just a fulfiller role or whatever that can work out
Speaker 4: too tactically. But you know, best friend, So what is
Speaker 4: his best friend? Someone who you have a close emotional
Speaker 4: and intellectual intimacy with. Says no instant attraction Demiseexuals do
Speaker 4: not experience sexual desire for strangers, acquaintances, or celebrities based
Speaker 4: on physical appearance alone. Yeah, what's really really interesting to me?
Speaker 4: I was just thinking about this last night. Is I
Speaker 4: do not anymore for a while now? If I look
Speaker 4: at it, there's like a guy he's like chiseled, and
Speaker 4: he's in a movie and he's like, oh, I don't
Speaker 4: even care, Like I genuinely don't care, but I used to.
Speaker 4: But you look back on like my Facebook post from
Speaker 4: like ten years ago, fifteen years ago, and I'm like, ooh,
Speaker 4: I would totally fuck Kirk or whatever, the guy who
Speaker 4: played Kirk on Space Track or what Star Trek. Like
Speaker 4: a bunch of my posts were like that, and I
Speaker 4: was like, oh, it was like cringey. I was like gross, yeah,
Speaker 4: but I really was feeling that way. But actually I
Speaker 4: was so unwell still. I had not healed almost anything,
Speaker 4: but I thought I had. But I was doing pretty
Speaker 4: good in life as far as people are concerned. Checked
Speaker 4: all the boxes, college degrees, career path, married, good guy,
Speaker 4: doesn't hurt me, loves me to death, right, all the
Speaker 4: boxes are checked. But I was saying it like that,
Speaker 4: But I didn't think that was There was nothing wrong
Speaker 4: with that. Right When people say that, people are like, oh,
Speaker 4: that's so funny, or oh, everybody has their like celebrity
Speaker 4: person they get to have sex with if they actually
Speaker 4: get the opportunity someday. And I had mine, right, oh,
Speaker 4: And I thought, oh, that'd be so cool. And one day,
Speaker 4: as I was like healing more and more, I was like,
Speaker 4: would I actually like if Johnny Depp, well, not Johnny
Speaker 4: Depp now, but like Johnny Depp then right, but like
Speaker 4: Orlando Bloom is legless, or something like if he walked
Speaker 4: up to me right now, would I actually just go
Speaker 4: have sex with him and like it whether or not
Speaker 4: it was sexually pleasing or not? Could I do that?
Speaker 4: And my answer was like, no, gross In fact, it
Speaker 4: was grossing me out. And the healthier I've gotten, and
Speaker 4: the more well I've gotten, and the more I've healed
Speaker 4: my traumas and been really genuine to myself and had
Speaker 4: this you know environment where I get to be just
Speaker 4: so true to myself, radical to myself, radically true to
Speaker 4: myself is what I meant. The more I've I'm not
Speaker 4: even not I'm not. I don't even have to pretend.
Speaker 4: I genuinely like a super hot guy could walk by
Speaker 4: just like dripping whatever if people think it's sexy, and
Speaker 4: I'd be like, ough, like maybe you should put some
Speaker 4: bothesonsre like are you cold here? Or cover up right?
Speaker 4: I don't have any sexual attraction to people who I'm
Speaker 4: not close with. I only am sexually attracted to my soulmate. Literally,
Speaker 4: I used to think people just said that shit to
Speaker 4: say it, I just thought they thought that's what they
Speaker 4: were supposed to feel and think, and so they were lying.
Speaker 4: And now I'm that person because I'm healthy, and it
Speaker 4: blows my fucking mind. So I kind of understand how
Speaker 4: these people are blowing their own fucking minds when they're like, weird,
Speaker 4: I'm only into people who I love. You're supposed to
Speaker 4: only be into people who you love. You're supposed to
Speaker 4: be there's something else going on. If something else is
Speaker 4: going on, I'm not saying you. If you're sitting there
Speaker 4: going like, hey, I'm super into like people on those
Speaker 4: TV screen or whatever, I'm not saying you have some
Speaker 4: sort of massive problems. Again, it's very normal in our society.
Speaker 4: But I just am personally aware there is actually something
Speaker 4: that is not healthy about that. It's not healthy. It's
Speaker 4: not healthy at all. So it says the spectrum. Because
Speaker 4: demisexuality is on the asexual spectrum. It bridges the gap
Speaker 4: between asexuality and alo sexuality, which is experiencing frequent sexual attraction.
Speaker 4: Asexuals you're almost never or you never are sexually attracted
Speaker 4: to anyone or anything. Again, that's also in a barent state,
Speaker 4: there's actually something wrong. Usually again, it may often come
Speaker 4: from trauma and there's a severe repression going on. Right,
Speaker 4: and then allosexuality is like you're attracted to everything all
Speaker 4: the time. I actually knew somebody who had this. It
Speaker 4: was like an affliction. They were not happy about it.
Speaker 4: They were sexually abused as a child, and they constantly,
Speaker 4: one percent of all day, every day, looked at every
Speaker 4: single human and thought about having sex with them, not
Speaker 4: going to act on it. Not a dangerous person. It
Speaker 4: was an obsessive thing, right, It was a It was
Speaker 4: a coping mechanism. You're like, you know, sexually abused as
Speaker 4: a child, then you create this experience for yourself where,
Speaker 4: oh everything is cool. I've just in fact liked to
Speaker 4: have sex all the time with everyone. It's always good.
Speaker 4: It's like an overreaction overcope. Right. So that's allosexuality, they're saying, horrible.
Speaker 4: Both of these are horrible afflictions. You are meant to
Speaker 4: be a sexual being with people who you will love
Speaker 4: deeply and have a close intimate bond with. You're not
Speaker 4: meant to never have sexual attraction. You're not meant to
Speaker 4: always have sexual attraction. That's neither of those things is healthy.
Speaker 4: So they're saying, this is on the spectrum of this
Speaker 4: what how is how is being attracted to someone who
Speaker 4: you love and have a deep intimate bond with. How
Speaker 4: is that anywhere near a sexuality? It's not. How is
Speaker 4: it anywhere near alloseexuality? It's not. But they have to
Speaker 4: make it into this again, not responsible for myself. I'm
Speaker 4: just happen to land on these various spectrums of being
Speaker 4: and none of them have anything to do with my
Speaker 4: actual sovereignty or choice. All of it is just happening
Speaker 4: to me. It just so happens to be this way. Why,
Speaker 4: it's wild what they'll do to never take responsibility for themselves. Right,
Speaker 4: And it says attraction versus action, experiencing sexual attraction requires
Speaker 4: a bond. But demi sexual individuals are still fully capable
Speaker 4: of choosing to engage or abstain from sexual activities. Do
Speaker 4: you know why they say that? Not because anyone questioned
Speaker 4: whether it was true, because everyone assumes in fact that
Speaker 4: one hundred percent of people are one hundred percent capable
Speaker 4: of choosing when to engage in sexual acts. But because
Speaker 4: some people can't take responsibility so much that they say no,
Speaker 4: I'm a sex adage and I he myself. And then
Speaker 4: they have to say stuff like this for every other
Speaker 4: sexual orientation or situation to make it normalized. Right, to
Speaker 4: normalize the lack of responsibility. You do the same thing
Speaker 4: with pedophiles when you get there. Oh, they're perfectly gapable
Speaker 4: of choosing to act or not act on it. Okay,
Speaker 4: all right, So that's the AI's definition. Here's a have
Speaker 4: a Gay Day Facebook page or group I'm not sure,
Speaker 4: and they're saying sharing this image that says demisexual have
Speaker 4: a gay Day. It's two men that seem to be
Speaker 4: very intimate with one another, and it says only feeling
Speaker 4: sexual attraction after a strong emotional bond is formed. That
Speaker 4: needed an image for some reason, and it needed to
Speaker 4: be gay for some reason. So you can be a gay, astray,
Speaker 4: a trans, demisexual, you can be anything and demi sexual. Right.
Speaker 4: This is from the subreddit demisexuality. It says some confused
Speaker 4: thoughts about demisexuality being considered a type of asexuality. He says,
Speaker 4: demisexual seems to describe me. Well, I'm not interested in
Speaker 4: sex with anyone I'm not strongly emotionally connected to. If
Speaker 4: not outright in love with It's not a morality thing.
Speaker 4: I have to say that too, right, because this isn't
Speaker 4: a Christian thing. It's not traditional. It's totally different from
Speaker 4: traditional things. Don't get mad at me. They're so desperate
Speaker 4: because this group is so hateful. Because this group, if
Speaker 4: you don't toe every line they have, they're going to
Speaker 4: land bast you. This is the most controlling group of
Speaker 4: people that you can find. You can't say things that
Speaker 4: don't fit in what they've preconstructed for you to think
Speaker 4: and say. So he has to say, or she or
Speaker 4: whoever has to say. It's not a morality thing. Don't
Speaker 4: get mad at me, don't attack me. In fact, that again,
Speaker 4: that's why demisexuality is a think at all, so that
Speaker 4: normal people can exist in this hyper controlling, deeply narcissistic,
Speaker 4: abusive group of people that pretend to be open and
Speaker 4: welcoming and tolerant and la la there the most hateful
Speaker 4: people that exist. So does it just have never occurred
Speaker 4: to me to want to do something sexual in another situation?
Speaker 4: My confusion is that now people are categorizing this as asexuality. Yeah,
Speaker 4: it is weird. Like I said, the demisexuals, the old school,
Speaker 4: which I think is only a few months old. Demiseexuals
Speaker 4: are already being pushed into categories. Don't make them comfortable.
Speaker 4: But guess what, They're not gonna have a choice because
Speaker 4: this group hates everybody who doesn't do what they say,
Speaker 4: So you better do what they say. You're asexual, now,
Speaker 4: deal with it. The war has begun. It's the war.
Speaker 4: What's happening now? Okay? This is what is demisexuality, meaning
Speaker 4: signs and how it shapes attraction. Here's the signs that
Speaker 4: you're demisexual. Guys, if it's confusing for you to figure
Speaker 4: out whether or not you're only sexually attracted to people
Speaker 4: you have close connections with, here's the signs are people
Speaker 4: this don I don't know. This is from a place
Speaker 4: called talk space. Here's the key takeaways. Demisexuality is a
Speaker 4: sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum, where sexual attraction typically
Speaker 4: emerges only after a strong emotional bond forms, not before.
Speaker 4: Demisexuality describes a consistent pattern of attraction, not a preference,
Speaker 4: a libido level, or a choice about how to date.
Speaker 4: Demisexual people can hold any romantic orientation and may feel
Speaker 4: at home within the broader asexual community. All of that
Speaker 4: should be obvious. But here's a whole article to tell
Speaker 4: you all of those things. It's really just teaching you
Speaker 4: how to fit into the narcissistic world that is the
Speaker 4: identity politics, non responsibility for self sort of world of
Speaker 4: the leftist. Primary attraction is immediate, based on appearance or
Speaker 4: first impressions. Secondary attraction is developed over time through emotional connection.
Speaker 4: It's wild. It's wild to be so dysfunctional that we
Speaker 4: think it's normal to just look at someone and want
Speaker 4: to have sex with them. Let me qualify that. If
Speaker 4: you're in this stage of youth where your hormones are
Speaker 4: very strange and sexual impulses can be kind of like
Speaker 4: super high, then there definitely can be things like that
Speaker 4: going on that are perfectly normal and healthy. But when
Speaker 4: you're just a well rounded adult, that's not normal. It's
Speaker 4: not normal to just walk around being like, oh, I'm
Speaker 4: gonna have sex with that and that over there. Yeah.
Speaker 4: And here's the difference. I can look at any human man, woman,
Speaker 4: anybody and say, you know, is this person beautiful? Is
Speaker 4: there shape pleasing? These are esthetic things that have to
Speaker 4: do with like I've talked about before, And you can
Speaker 4: go watch the episodes, if you're interested, they have to
Speaker 4: do with math and the way our brain has developed
Speaker 4: over time over thousands, hundreds of thousands of years. In fact,
Speaker 4: that's what those things have to do with, right, Which
Speaker 4: faces are pleasing and which shapes of bodies are pleasing,
Speaker 4: That's what those things have to do with. So anybody
Speaker 4: can look at anyone and be like, that is an
Speaker 4: objectively beautiful person, right, Or that person has a shape
Speaker 4: that would perhaps allow them to have many babies very
Speaker 4: easily and feed them amply. Right, anybody can do that.
Speaker 4: That doesn't equal attraction. It doesn't equal sexual attraction. So
Speaker 4: so also know that when they're talking about attraction, they're
Speaker 4: talking about when you look at someone and want to
Speaker 4: fuck them. It's very different, right. It's also very different
Speaker 4: to you know, get to know a personality of somebody
Speaker 4: and be like, man, I really love that. I hope
Speaker 4: to find something like that for myself. Right, And that
Speaker 4: doesn't have to be sexual attraction either. That can just
Speaker 4: be apreciation for qualities that you see that you like those.
Speaker 4: Those things don't have to be sexual, right, So all
Speaker 4: of us can have various levels of what they're gonna
Speaker 4: call attraction without it being sexual, and it would be
Speaker 4: more helpful to note those things, especially for children, you know,
Speaker 4: for people coming up, it's like, yeah, you can appreciate
Speaker 4: the way someone looks, you can love it. In fact,
Speaker 4: you can think it's very beautiful or exceptional, and you
Speaker 4: can still not want to have sex with them, right,
Speaker 4: and that could still not be sexual for you. That
Speaker 4: might be helpful for people to understand. It says most
Speaker 4: people experience both primary attraction and secondary attraction. I don't
Speaker 4: know that that's true, because again, these people are so
Speaker 4: poor at actually describing reality that I don't know that
Speaker 4: they even account for what I just described, which is
Speaker 4: the ability to appreciate somebody's looks without being sexually attracted
Speaker 4: to them. Right, So do most people experience that? Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm sure of it. I'm sure most people most of
Speaker 4: the time, with their just stopping to look at a
Speaker 4: person and notice how they look, they're going to notice
Speaker 4: things they like and don't like. That doesn't have to
Speaker 4: do with attraction. If you're going at this from a
Speaker 4: scientific logical point of view, you would have to differentiate
Speaker 4: between all those things in order to say a sentence
Speaker 4: like most people experience both. I don't know that that's true.
Speaker 4: I don't know that that's true at all. In fact,
Speaker 4: I would say unfortunately, the more traumatized you might be,
Speaker 4: the more unlikely it is for you to feel sexual
Speaker 4: attraction towards someone that you do have an actual, powerful,
Speaker 4: emotional and mental healthy bond with. This is a very
Speaker 4: common thing, and especially for abused to traumatized women to
Speaker 4: be turned off by that. Their sexual partners tend to
Speaker 4: be people who are emotionally unavailable, maybe abusive, whereas they're
Speaker 4: like close friends that happened to be of the gender
Speaker 4: that they are otherwise sexually attracted to, So might be
Speaker 4: someone they're very very close with, but to think of
Speaker 4: that person as a sexual partners if it ghos. I
Speaker 4: work with lots of people. I've seen it over and
Speaker 4: over again. Any counselor any therapist out there would show
Speaker 4: you the same thing. So you know how many people
Speaker 4: are actually experiencing either of these things, and what other
Speaker 4: types of experiences might they be having that you're miscategorizing
Speaker 4: as attraction. It's a whole thing. It's a whole thing
Speaker 4: that you're not going to get into because your only
Speaker 4: goal here is to give someone a label so that
Speaker 4: they continue to fit into the radical leftist view of
Speaker 4: sexuality while actually being normal and healthy. That's the only
Speaker 4: thing going on here, So they put it on this
Speaker 4: asexual spectrum again for no reason at all. They also
Speaker 4: have something called gray sexual. This is someone who is
Speaker 4: otherwise would have been called asexual and the past, but
Speaker 4: technically sometimes they do actually have sexual attraction to someone
Speaker 4: or something, so they're gray sexual that we would have
Speaker 4: just used to say asexual if it's so rare that
Speaker 4: it's notable if you're still generally asexual. But now there's
Speaker 4: gray sexual, and then demisexual is after that. They're literally
Speaker 4: making it a strange thing to not always be attracted
Speaker 4: to things all the time, to not always want to
Speaker 4: have sex, as though it's weird. It's bizarre. It's bizarre
Speaker 4: because why understanding this distinction matters. It clarifies how attraction works. No,
Speaker 4: it doesn't. It absolutely muddies the water, and it leaves
Speaker 4: out so much it's not clarifying much. It reduces common misconceptions.
Speaker 4: Demisexuality isn't about waiting or having higher standards or lacking interest.
Speaker 4: This is such a crab in the bucket state, and
Speaker 4: it's blowing my mind. This is like there's a group
Speaker 4: of people and they're like, what, we're all fucking why
Speaker 4: aren't you? And you're like, oh shit, I can't say
Speaker 4: I'm waiting because then I sound Christian. And I can't
Speaker 4: say it's a moral thing because then I sound, you know,
Speaker 4: like I might be like old fashioned or you know,
Speaker 4: not progressive enough. I can't say it's a standards thing
Speaker 4: and that no one's yet meant my standards because then
Speaker 4: I sound judgmental, right, And so I have to say
Speaker 4: something else, what is it? Oh, I'll just say that
Speaker 4: I'm only attracted to people who I'm emotionally connected with.
Speaker 4: You ended on the thing that's actually the most healthy,
Speaker 4: normal thing. But because now you can say it's a
Speaker 4: sexual orientation, these people will allow you to remain in
Speaker 4: their shitty bucket with them. You can be a crab
Speaker 4: in the bucket with them the whole time, all the
Speaker 4: time you want it. Say the same stuff is when
Speaker 4: someone's trying to leave poverty or go to college or
Speaker 4: leave the reservation, you're like, oh, what you think you
Speaker 4: just have higher standards in us, just better than us.
Speaker 4: Uh No, I just thought I was gonna do what
Speaker 4: I wanted with my fucking life. You'd JEALOUSP shit, why
Speaker 4: don't you do something with yours? Right? Maybe we should
Speaker 4: say that more often. It separates attraction from behavior, describes
Speaker 4: how attraction is experienced, not how someone chooses to date
Speaker 4: or form relationships. But it literally is a choice, you idiots.
Speaker 4: Everything you do in life is your choice, one hundred
Speaker 4: percent of it. Everything you think, everything you feel, everything
Speaker 4: you act, everything you say, it's all your choice. Deal
Speaker 4: with it. Grow up. It supports self understanding. I understand
Speaker 4: myself as a demisexual. I'm never gonna tell someone I'm
Speaker 4: a demisexual. I fit this category. No, I'm not a demisexual.
Speaker 4: I'm a normal, healthy adult female. Oh seven signs you
Speaker 4: might be demisexual? Does your attraction tend to follow emotional connection?
Speaker 4: You know what's funny is even though I didn't know,
Speaker 4: even though I had all these things where I was
Speaker 4: not attracted really to people who are nice or good
Speaker 4: because I was so messed up, and uh, you know,
Speaker 4: and all of this stuff and whatever, I still I
Speaker 4: always would say, like, it's so weird to me because
Speaker 4: I'll see someone and I'll think they're kind of ugly,
Speaker 4: but then I'll get to know them and they're so
Speaker 4: cool that I like then think they're hot. That was
Speaker 4: confusing for me again because I was dysfunctional, and that
Speaker 4: is actually how things are supposed to function. So I
Speaker 4: didn't get it. That confused me. I'd be like, and
Speaker 4: then someone will be super hot and then I'll talk
Speaker 4: to them and they're a piece of shit and I'll
Speaker 4: be like, oh you're ugly. Now, yeah, this is just
Speaker 4: actually normal. This is just actually how things go. If
Speaker 4: you're drawn to people, you already know you might be demisexual.
Speaker 4: So if you don't fuck strangers, you might be demisexual.
Speaker 4: Casual dating or hookup culture feels unappealing. That's not just
Speaker 4: healthy and normal, that's just that're you have this weird
Speaker 4: type of sexuality called demisexuality. Weirdo. Oh my god, that's
Speaker 4: how bad it is. Right now, it takes time for
Speaker 4: attraction to develop for you, you might be demisexual. You
Speaker 4: notice personality before physical attraction. Instant attraction can feel confusing,
Speaker 4: You're unfamiliar what is happening. Attraction can feel rare or
Speaker 4: unexpected when it happens therapists. Therapists wrote this article, therapists
Speaker 4: are working with this now. That's why I'm never going
Speaker 4: to become an actual therapist. I'm going to keep changing
Speaker 4: people's lives with them and the way I do it. Now, Oh,
Speaker 4: let's see if this wants anything good to give us.
Speaker 4: I think we actually hit all this. It just goes
Speaker 4: into all these other things. Here's here's a good one,
Speaker 4: demisexuality versus sapio sexuality. While demisexual people must feel an
Speaker 4: emotional connection, sapio sexuals must first feel an intellectual connection.
Speaker 4: They're mainly attracted to intell legence. Safe you have. Sexuality
Speaker 4: is just for anyone who's actually intelligent and again healthy,
Speaker 4: you would also like another intelligent mate. Oh, you don't
Speaker 4: understand flirting. You might be a demisexual. That's not a
Speaker 4: real thing. You might not understand flirting because you're not
Speaker 4: interested in shallow conversations and that's what people call flirting. Dude.
Speaker 4: I always was like, I was like, what, just tell me,
Speaker 4: what are we doing here? We're just having a drink
Speaker 4: and that's cool. Fine, if you're trying to fuck, just
Speaker 4: let me know. Just have totally different types of conversations perhaps,
Speaker 4: or I'll just know and then I'll walk away. Right, Well,
Speaker 4: at least we know, let's just be honest here, Like
Speaker 4: I don't need this fucking bullshit. You're not gonna trick
Speaker 4: me into anything. Oh, that's what most flirting seems like.
Speaker 4: I can I trick this person into liking me. Here's
Speaker 4: in fact, the consistent anthropologically studied recorded norms. Right, here's
Speaker 4: a key concept. This is a book. Marriage in anthropology
Speaker 4: mean that means studied studying human behavior around the world.
Speaker 4: Right All Cultures says marriage performs four recurring functions across societies.
Speaker 4: It legitimizes certain sexual relations, legitimizes offspring for inheritance, creates
Speaker 4: official kinship ties between whole families, and organizes economic resources
Speaker 4: and political alliances. That is the function of marriage societally
Speaker 4: and politically, and underneath all of that, it tends to
Speaker 4: make you very close and intimate with a person who
Speaker 4: you are having sex with. Ideally, that is what you love.
Speaker 4: You love to have sex with this person who is
Speaker 4: the most close to you of all of the world. Right.
Speaker 4: It does admit there is some polygny and polyandry, which
Speaker 4: is one man married to multiple women in the case
Speaker 4: of polygony and in polyandry, one woman married to multiple men.
Speaker 4: It says that's actually stremely rare while polygamy has been
Speaker 4: permitted in the majority of world societies but occasionally and
Speaker 4: it's still monogamy remains the statistical norm in all cultures
Speaker 4: droughout all time because having one man worried to multiple
Speaker 4: women requires so much resources. You're going to support all
Speaker 4: these women and all their children, right, you have to
Speaker 4: be pretty rich. So when it does happen, it's rare,
Speaker 4: but it does happen, and polyandria almost never happens. There's
Speaker 4: almost never a woman married to multiple men. There's marriage payments,
Speaker 4: there's where people move after they're married. Spouse selection runs
Speaker 4: between finding people outside of your group in order to
Speaker 4: allot ally with them or marrying within it by religion, cast,
Speaker 4: or class. A lot often across culturally manages this very strictly,
Speaker 4: in fact, in order to avoid obvious problems with in
Speaker 4: breeding and more. And it says romantic love is recognized
Speaker 4: in nearly every society. Romantic love is recognized nearly every siety.
Speaker 4: It's a little bit newer to let everyone be free
Speaker 4: to just choose romantic love, as in it's the past
Speaker 4: many hundreds of years where that has been becoming the norm.
Speaker 4: Before that, it wasn't always the case, because again there
Speaker 4: was just needs. You might be in a rural, small place,
Speaker 4: there's this one guy for you, that's the guy. Like
Speaker 4: you're gonna have to figure it out, you know. That's
Speaker 4: the That's just the problem with place and time. It's
Speaker 4: not like this thing that people tried to make this
Speaker 4: oppressiveness right. But my point being when people act like
Speaker 4: it's so weird to have marriage and attraction based on intimacy, right,
Speaker 4: and to have that be the norm, and they act
Speaker 4: like that's crazy, or that it was like created by
Speaker 4: Christians to control women, or that it's this like culturally
Speaker 4: outdated thing, it is actually the norm. It remains the norm.
Speaker 4: It's been the norm for so long because it's so effective,
Speaker 4: because it works so well to keep societies going, to
Speaker 4: keep order and law so that you can keep society going,
Speaker 4: so that the human race can continue. This has been
Speaker 4: the norm forever. There's nothing weird about it. There's nothing
Speaker 4: Christian about it. There's a lot that's Christian about but
Speaker 4: it doesn't come from Christianity. There's nothing controlling about it,
Speaker 4: there's nothing anti woman about it. But these are all
Speaker 4: the lives of people genuinely believe and so they're like, yeah,
Speaker 4: of course, we should just fuck anybody for any reason
Speaker 4: at any time. We're free. We're free. I had a
Speaker 4: friend of mine who's gay, came up to me and
Speaker 4: he was saying, you know, I actually think that the
Speaker 4: older I get, the more I think it might be
Speaker 4: a mistake to let people be gay. I'm paraphrasing for him.
Speaker 4: He'll forgive me if I get oh small details wrong.
Speaker 4: But he's like, I just I realize that men who
Speaker 4: are not and however he put it, it was kind of
Speaker 4: like almost like restrained by a woman. Men who are
Speaker 4: not restrained by a woman, and the need to provide
Speaker 4: for a family, they're just kind of feckless, Like they
Speaker 4: just kind of tend to have like no purpose and
Speaker 4: no need for real morals, and like all of this
Speaker 4: sort of starts to fall apart, and he just sees
Speaker 4: that men often are becoming having a lack of sort
Speaker 4: of motivation in a way. He's a gay man. By
Speaker 4: the way, he's not saying he's not going to be
Speaker 4: gay anymore because of this. He's just saying he notices
Speaker 4: things because he's an intelligent human being, and so he's
Speaker 4: actually saying I'm like, yeah, I kind of get like
Speaker 4: why society says, like, you know, in general in the past,
Speaker 4: has said, no, you can't be gay, you have to
Speaker 4: have a wife and have kids, and like do it
Speaker 4: this way, And there's a reason why keeps society going,
Speaker 4: it keeps the human race going. Neither of us, him
Speaker 4: or I are saying people shouldn't be gay. We're saying, like,
Speaker 4: there's a reason why the family unit is created in
Speaker 4: such a way, functions in such a way, is so
Speaker 4: effective and is in fact our default setting. And there's
Speaker 4: nothing oppressive about it, nothing specifically Christian about it, and
Speaker 4: nothing that's anti woman about it. This is a Marxist ideology, though,
Speaker 4: has come in and said, now all of this has
Speaker 4: to be destroyed. It's all wrong, it's all oppressive, and
Speaker 4: it keeps you from being free, traps you. Well, yeah,
Speaker 4: some people have been trapped by it. Some people, as
Speaker 4: we've just seen, are trapped by the mega identity politics.
Speaker 4: You must be different from the norm or what we
Speaker 4: thought was the norm. You must be different from tradition,
Speaker 4: you must reject it and rebel against it. Some people
Speaker 4: are trapped by that. That's why they came up with demisexuality.
Speaker 4: They had to come up with it because they're trapped
Speaker 4: in it because they don't feel like they can actually
Speaker 4: be true to themselves, say what they feel and act
Speaker 4: as they would like to act, because these cluster be
Speaker 4: nightmare narcissistic fucks will attack and reject and abandon them
Speaker 4: for being that which is true to themselves. So, yeah,
Speaker 4: some people are going to get stuck if we have
Speaker 4: this traditional views on marriage in the family, and some
Speaker 4: people are going to get stuck if we don't, and
Speaker 4: other things will also fall apart in that scenario where
Speaker 4: we do not have the family, and do not have monogamy,
Speaker 4: and do not in general have people who are heterosexual
Speaker 4: as the norm. It is the entire backbone, it's the basis.
Speaker 4: It's the cornerstone of everything we do, all of our existence,
Speaker 4: all of our politics, all of our society is built
Speaker 4: on the family. And the person who best describes that,
Speaker 4: in my opinion as G. K. Chesterton, who viewed marriage
Speaker 4: and the family as the oldest and most sacred of
Speaker 4: human institutions. He saw the marriage vow not as a
Speaker 4: restriction of freedom, but as a voluntary, romantic defiance of
Speaker 4: the world, a promise that creates a private sovereign space
Speaker 4: to protect human dignity against the overreach of the state
Speaker 4: and modern industrialism. He saw it as the revolution and
Speaker 4: the way to keep your liberty from the state, which
Speaker 4: will always tend towards oppression and centralization of power. He's
Speaker 4: not a stupid man, and he's not just saying this
Speaker 4: to say it. He's one of the most intelligent people
Speaker 4: who's ever lived and written about things. And he's saying
Speaker 4: it because it's true. It's true. There's a reason why
Speaker 4: when you read communist literature, they attack the family, because
Speaker 4: they know that to destroy the family will destroy everything
Speaker 4: else in society, and now they can seize all power
Speaker 4: and control. In Pole Pot's Cambodia, small children would be
Speaker 4: marched to their training camps while their parents were marched
Speaker 4: to their work camps. And if their parents happened to
Speaker 4: slip them a little bit of food that they happened
Speaker 4: to find by some fucking crazy stroke of luck in
Speaker 4: this impoverished, horrifying scenario, the children were trained to rat
Speaker 4: that parent out, and the ChIL child would then get
Speaker 4: food and love and appreciation which they hadn't been getting.
Speaker 4: Because this is communist Paul Pot Cambodia, right, So the
Speaker 4: kid would do it, and the kid would rat out
Speaker 4: their parents, and their parents would get shot and killed,
Speaker 4: and the kid would get a couple extra snacks and
Speaker 4: get praise. And now you've destroyed all connection, all human connection. Right.
Speaker 4: The thing that you might otherwise fight and die for
Speaker 4: is killed out of you. You don't have any of
Speaker 4: it left. There's no independence there, there's nothing sacred to
Speaker 4: fight for. There. There is only obedience to the state,
Speaker 4: and all there is the state, and you you're alone
Speaker 4: in that. Nobody can live in that way. Nobody can
Speaker 4: overcome those odds. But the family can. And that's why
Speaker 4: in every book of communism they destroy, attack and say
Speaker 4: that the nuclear family should be destroyed. That's why in
Speaker 4: every communist revolution they attack families first, try to separate
Speaker 4: them as much as possible, and or outright kill their
Speaker 4: connections to each other. That's why it's in Brave New World,
Speaker 4: that's why it's in nineteen eighty four, that's why it's
Speaker 4: in everything you've ever read that has anything to do
Speaker 4: with that sort of worldview, because they see that it
Speaker 4: is the primary problem that they have between themselves and
Speaker 4: gaining ultimate centralized power. And you can pretend all you
Speaker 4: want it's for people's betterment or whatever, but what it
Speaker 4: actually is is centralized ultimate power. Who wouldn't want that
Speaker 4: if you're a power hungry psychopath. And what's standing in
Speaker 4: the way of you and it? The family. Yes, there
Speaker 4: is a reason why we have families, and yes some
Speaker 4: people get trapped in them, and some of them are
Speaker 4: not great. But to throw them away in order to
Speaker 4: have furry butt plug parties and orgies and whatever other
Speaker 4: misadventures you're having in your sick, sexual, dysfunctional world. To
Speaker 4: put the whole fate of the human race, our political,
Speaker 4: our societal, and our future existence at risk so that
Speaker 4: you could be a disgusting, perverse pretty fucked up. It's
Speaker 4: pretty fucked up to call that freedom. You do what
Speaker 4: you want. I'm not gonna stop any individual from saying
Speaker 4: their trands or sis or you know, sticking their furry
Speaker 4: butt plug up, or you know, having their weird, loomy
Speaker 4: sex parties or whatever else. None of my business. In general,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna keep bringing us back to these truths in
Speaker 4: hopes that we save ourselves from the absolute devolution that
Speaker 4: we're creating in this downward spiral of cultural collapse.
Speaker 2: GK.
Speaker 4: Chesterton is one of the most beautifully eloquent defenders of
Speaker 4: traditional families and marriage I've ever read in my life.
Speaker 4: He just is I don't know if I think I
Speaker 4: just said he's one of He just is the best.
Speaker 4: Let's just have a couple quotes from him on this,
Speaker 4: just a few quotes. There's someone who's collected from some
Speaker 4: of them. He says, well, free love seems to me
Speaker 4: a heresy. Divorce does really seem to me a superstition.
Speaker 4: It is not only more of a superstition than free love,
Speaker 4: but much more of a superstition and strict sacramental marriage.
Speaker 4: And this point can hardly be made too plain. It
Speaker 4: is the partisans of divorce, not the defenders of marriage,
Speaker 4: who attach a stiff and senseless sanctity to a mere
Speaker 4: ceremony apart from the meaning of the ceremony. It is
Speaker 4: our opponents and not we, who hope to be saved
Speaker 4: by the letter of ritual instead of the spirit of reality.
Speaker 4: He's saying, you're the one who imagines as possible that
Speaker 4: a piece of paper from the state means something. The
Speaker 4: marriage itself is the reality, saying this is actually what
Speaker 4: human souls are seeking is to connect with one other
Speaker 4: person who is their sacred, committed, safe place of sovereignty
Speaker 4: that they create together in their home. That this sacred
Speaker 4: bond is the thing, and that's what matters. And so
Speaker 4: your paper doesn't matter. That People who are into marriage
Speaker 4: don't even think that the marriage itself, the ceremony, or
Speaker 4: the paper is the thing that matters. But divorces they
Speaker 4: think that that's what matters. So that was really interesting.
Speaker 4: He's always doing this. He's making you see things in
Speaker 4: a very interesting way. Many quite disinterested people urge many
Speaker 4: quite reasonable considerations in the case of divorce, he says,
Speaker 4: as a type of domestic liberation, But in the journalistic
Speaker 4: and general discussion of the matter, there's far too much
Speaker 4: of the mind that works backwards and at random, in
Speaker 4: the manner of all windows and no walls. Such people
Speaker 4: say they want divorce without asking themselves whether they want marriage.
Speaker 4: Even in order to be divorce, it has generally been
Speaker 4: found necessary to go through the preliminary formality of being married.
Speaker 4: We might as well, oh sorry, he says, And unless
Speaker 4: the nature of this initial act be considered, we might
Speaker 4: as well be discussing haircutting. For the bald or spectacles.
Speaker 4: For the blind, to be divorced is to be in
Speaker 4: the literal sense, unmarried. And there's no sense in a
Speaker 4: thing being undone when we do not know if it
Speaker 4: is done. He's always he's very funny too, in the
Speaker 4: most academic way possible. But he's right, right, were you
Speaker 4: even married? Then? Do you even know what marriage is?
Speaker 4: Do you even know if you want marriage? Have you
Speaker 4: ever thought about it? Actually? To get divorced implies that
Speaker 4: you do actually want a marriage, but it seems as
Speaker 4: though you never actually had one, because saying the word
Speaker 4: divorce and having his paper can't actually disunite you from
Speaker 4: another soul, you know. And this is at a time
Speaker 4: when obviously almost everyone stayed married no matter what, and
Speaker 4: divorce was very uncommon, and he was seeing the sort
Speaker 4: of start of the rise of some of these more
Speaker 4: radical Marxist types of ideas feminism and the like, and
Speaker 4: so a divorce was becoming more common. And he's very
Speaker 4: fair about it. It does a great job not actually
Speaker 4: being he's less judgmental than me, for sure. He talks
Speaker 4: again about, uh, you know, the document itself. Signing this
Speaker 4: document like has nothing to do with it. It is
Speaker 4: a union of souls, and it's a commitment you make,
Speaker 4: and this must be fine. I haven't read this one yet.
Speaker 4: He says. If divorce is a disease, it's no longer
Speaker 4: to be a fashionable disease like appendicitis. It is to
Speaker 4: be made an epidemic like smallpox. As we've already seen,
Speaker 4: papers and public men today make a vast bread of
Speaker 4: the necessity of setting a poor man free to get
Speaker 4: a divorce. Now, why are they so mortally anxious that
Speaker 4: he should be free to get a divorce, and not
Speaker 4: in the least anxious that he should be free to
Speaker 4: get anything else. Why are the same people happy, nay,
Speaker 4: almost hilarious when he gets a divorce, who are horrified
Speaker 4: when he gets a drink? This is the teetotally time too.
Speaker 4: It is mostly women. Yeah, it's interesting. Why did the
Speaker 4: wealthy want divorce to become necessary? Why did they promote
Speaker 4: feminism and the further destruction of the family unit in
Speaker 4: that way? Why did they also promote the destruction of
Speaker 4: the family by having the nanny state right that rewards
Speaker 4: you for not having a father in the house, thereby
Speaker 4: creating all of these single mother families, which again you
Speaker 4: can already. See, it doesn't matter if you like it
Speaker 4: or not, or if you think it's neat or not,
Speaker 4: or if you want this to exist or not. So
Speaker 4: if it's not a convenient fact for you, that's too bad.
Speaker 4: You still have to deal with it. But it is
Speaker 4: true that children from single parent families are most likely
Speaker 4: to fail at life in almost every category could discern.
Speaker 4: They're most likely to not succeed in education. They're most
Speaker 4: likely to commit crimes. They're most likely to not create
Speaker 4: successful bonds and families of their own. They're most likely
Speaker 4: to not have fulfilling, sustained careers. Why would you want
Speaker 4: to do that to people?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 4: Yeah, because it makes them more controllable, Because it makes
Speaker 4: society and the political world more unstable, more unclear, and
Speaker 4: easier and easier for you to say. Here, I have
Speaker 4: the offer for you, I have the answer for you.
Speaker 4: Rely on me. Now, I have the power. Are you free? Now?
Speaker 4: Are you more free? Now? If freedom to you means
Speaker 4: and GK. Testis does a great job of describing this too.
Speaker 4: If freedom to you means being able to do anything
Speaker 4: you want at any time, you don't understand freedom right.
Speaker 4: True freedom is a political and a social thing. I mean,
Speaker 4: true freedom is in your soul, of right, It's a
Speaker 4: freedom from bondage and freedom from leading lacking a soul,
Speaker 4: freedom to be true to yourself, all that. But we're
Speaker 4: talking about freedom as far as political things go. That's
Speaker 4: not free. It's not freedom to just be able to like, oh,
Speaker 4: you know what, it's two am, I'm gonna wander down
Speaker 4: to a club and I'm gonna just find someone. I'm
Speaker 4: just gonna go home with them and have sex with them.
Speaker 4: That's not freedom. In fact, you hit most of these
Speaker 4: situations you're quite burdened by your addictions and by your
Speaker 4: lack of health, by your lack of wellness, its internal
Speaker 4: to yourself. That's a huge burden. Leads to addiction, depression, anxiety.
Speaker 4: What are the things that are most likely to lead
Speaker 4: someone out of anxiety and depression? Taking walks, eating well,
Speaker 4: talking to other humans who you have an emotional connection
Speaker 4: with and feeling connected and doing things that are new
Speaker 4: to you. That's more effective than all the drugs. That's
Speaker 4: more effective than all the pharmaceuticals. There's studies on studies
Speaker 4: on studies on studies on studies that prove that over
Speaker 4: and over again. So now you're not free because you
Speaker 4: have no responsibility, no inner wellness, are just wandering through
Speaker 4: the world for the next fuck, full of addictions, full
Speaker 4: of self hatred, full of contradictions, miserable and desperately trying
Speaker 4: to control a bunch of other people's language, like whether
Speaker 4: they say your assists or whatever, trans or whatever, instead
Speaker 4: of just taking care of yourself and making a fulfilling
Speaker 4: life and being happy. So yeah, it's interesting. He actually GK.
Speaker 4: Chestershan will talk about too. That's the commitment of marriage
Speaker 4: itself is something that brings its own deep wellness and satisfaction.
Speaker 4: Even if you thought you weren't deeply in love with
Speaker 4: your partner, if you stay committed to that, you'd stay
Speaker 4: committed to creating with each other this sacred space of
Speaker 4: the family and the home. That this is one of
Speaker 4: the most soul fulfilling things that you can experience. Maybe
Speaker 4: he's right. I wouldn't know I didn't have kids, but
Speaker 4: he is right, and I can know. But having this
Speaker 4: person who you are deeply soul level, truly authentic with
Speaker 4: and committed to, it's everything. There's nothing else. In fact,
Speaker 4: I am so grateful that that is something that I
Speaker 4: have found in my life. I am sad about all
Speaker 4: the lies I was told. And I've shared these before.
Speaker 4: I've done whole episodes on the lies that we've told
Speaker 4: each other about sex, you know, back in the day.
Speaker 4: I believe them all. He's like, Oh, you're supposed to
Speaker 4: have sex with multiple people so you can see, like
Speaker 4: which penis you like, and like like what type of
Speaker 4: person and what type of sex, and now you can
Speaker 4: get married because now you know. No, they've done against
Speaker 4: studies on studies, on studies that show the people who
Speaker 4: don't have a lot of sex and don't have a
Speaker 4: lot of partners and get married, especially the people who
Speaker 4: waited and then are monogamous with their partner, happiest of all,
Speaker 4: most sexually satisfied of all. So that was a lie.
Speaker 4: They're still telling that lie. Oh well, you got to
Speaker 4: shop around. No, you don't. You're not stupid. You know
Speaker 4: what you like. You don't need a bunch of random
Speaker 4: dicks to show you what you like about connection with
Speaker 4: other humans or vaginas or whatever you're to do. I
Speaker 4: don't care, right, Yeah. The other lie, oh, birth control
Speaker 4: is safe, there's no long term effects. Lie. People who
Speaker 4: have been on long term birth control, have worse perimenopause
Speaker 4: and menopause symptoms, worse pemonal situations all throughout their life.
Speaker 4: Nobody says anything. Still not being told to people. Kids
Speaker 4: are still being told, you know, just take it. It's safe.
Speaker 4: It's better than I'm in a baby, right, go fuck everyone.
Speaker 4: It's dark, dude. We got to a dark place here
Speaker 4: in society. Hen it's going to take a lot of
Speaker 4: light to dig us out. But the light starts with
Speaker 4: us actually understanding it, being honest about it in ourselves.
Speaker 4: And also whenever that comes up, maybe if it's the
Speaker 4: right for you, right situation, for you, being brave enough
Speaker 4: to say, you know what, that's actually a lie, you
Speaker 4: know what, that's not actually what's best in life, or
Speaker 4: being like my gay friend who said, you know what,
Speaker 4: I don't know that we should allow it to be
Speaker 4: gay as a gay person, right, Being brave enough to
Speaker 4: say things that you notice about reality. It's part of
Speaker 4: what brings the light backs, part of what allows people
Speaker 4: to break free from their own delusions, and especially of
Speaker 4: those sick little cluster be narcissistic circles that demand not authenticity,
Speaker 4: not that you get to beat you, but that you
Speaker 4: must toe their political and social line, or you will
Speaker 4: be abandoned. It helps free people from that helps people
Speaker 4: create better, lasting lives. So let's be as honest as
Speaker 4: we can, as often as we can say the things
Speaker 4: we notice, loving and colmway and until we can do
Speaker 4: that all day, every day, because the world has changed.
Speaker 4: Travel well, interbalance and always look inside first.
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