WEBVTT 1 00:00:07.879 --> 00:00:09.160 Glue driven screens. 2 00:00:09.199 --> 00:00:11.279 It's a plant to drop the hike q biting the 3 00:00:11.320 --> 00:00:13.560 Mansi temper, but rumors that don't like you. 4 00:00:13.720 --> 00:00:15.679 Macarm has cropped the melancholi with. 5 00:00:15.679 --> 00:00:18.359 The wood Banza Holly suggestions out of clicker rates of 6 00:00:18.440 --> 00:00:22.239 camel Plaza Holly that took the mental toobry execute us 7 00:00:22.280 --> 00:00:23.399 up with the hypocricy. 8 00:00:23.480 --> 00:00:25.280 It is back to Rea and black the top with me. 9 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:28.760 You plip the hands up to touch the Acasta gets 10 00:00:28.760 --> 00:00:31.320 you know, deep down to something bigger than your. 11 00:00:31.199 --> 00:00:39.000 Wallet, sweet eternal balance while it is getting true and beautiful. Friends, 12 00:00:39.039 --> 00:00:41.600 welcome back to Rogue Soul. Which night we're talking about 13 00:00:41.880 --> 00:00:47.280 demi sexuality. Demisexuality. Yeah, it's the thing that just so 14 00:00:47.439 --> 00:00:50.039 happens to be the thing that was always the thing. 15 00:00:50.560 --> 00:00:54.159 Now it has a name, pretending to be special and different, 16 00:00:55.240 --> 00:00:57.920 very very strange. You've come full circle between you know, 17 00:00:58.280 --> 00:01:03.200 needing to get away from monogamy actual loving connection, you know, 18 00:01:03.280 --> 00:01:06.519 being connected to somebody, having sex with someone because you 19 00:01:06.560 --> 00:01:10.319 feel connected to them deeply, you know, and rebelling against 20 00:01:10.359 --> 00:01:13.879 that and going into polyamory and polygamy and all of this, 21 00:01:14.239 --> 00:01:19.439 you know, various levels of sexuality. Asexuality like I don't 22 00:01:19.480 --> 00:01:23.359 know all the genders, all that stuff, just to come 23 00:01:23.439 --> 00:01:27.480 fully back to only having sex with people who you love. Yes, 24 00:01:27.519 --> 00:01:30.120 that's what Debbie sexuality is. So we're gonna talk a 25 00:01:30.120 --> 00:01:33.159 little bit about that today and how they pretend that 26 00:01:33.239 --> 00:01:35.480 even though it's exactly the same as it has always 27 00:01:35.560 --> 00:01:37.640 been and what our ideal has always been, with the 28 00:01:37.680 --> 00:01:41.120 standard for society always was, we're gonna keep pretending like 29 00:01:41.200 --> 00:01:44.959 this isn't just so people who need to rebel and 30 00:01:45.000 --> 00:01:48.480 be special and unique and have an identity can continue 31 00:01:48.519 --> 00:01:52.000 to do so. So that's gonna be fun. Let's get 32 00:01:52.040 --> 00:01:55.000 into it. We've got ruguesol dot org. This is the 33 00:01:55.000 --> 00:01:57.799 place for you to go to get everything of mine. Somehow, 34 00:01:57.840 --> 00:01:59.799 all of a sudden, I haven't looked at which book, 35 00:01:59.840 --> 00:02:02.319 but some book is spreading across Europe. So who knows, 36 00:02:02.359 --> 00:02:05.120 I might be your next famous author. We'll see. Make 37 00:02:05.200 --> 00:02:08.159 it real, right, And so I've got I just got 38 00:02:08.199 --> 00:02:10.639 all these alerts that all these sales are happening. I'm 39 00:02:10.639 --> 00:02:13.719 not sure what's happening, but I'll take it. So if 40 00:02:13.719 --> 00:02:15.719 you want to get the books from me instead of 41 00:02:15.800 --> 00:02:18.800 Barnes and Noble, Amazon other big booksellers instead of listening 42 00:02:18.800 --> 00:02:21.039 to them on audible. All those are great ways to 43 00:02:21.080 --> 00:02:23.719 do it, but otherwise go to rogueshol dot org. My 44 00:02:23.800 --> 00:02:25.759 books are here. As you see one of the tabs 45 00:02:25.759 --> 00:02:28.039 says books, it'll take you to all the books that 46 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:32.319 I have channeled through as spiritual messages, and also the 47 00:02:32.360 --> 00:02:36.360 fictional trilogy, also channeled in a slightly different way, not 48 00:02:36.439 --> 00:02:41.319 a direct messaging system, but a really amazing story. If 49 00:02:41.319 --> 00:02:43.840 you like fiction, if you like to read novels, then 50 00:02:43.879 --> 00:02:46.120 this is for you. So check that all out. You 51 00:02:46.159 --> 00:02:49.240 get a channeled inscribed message from me when you buy 52 00:02:49.280 --> 00:02:51.919 it from me. Otherwise get it wherever books are sold. 53 00:02:52.000 --> 00:02:53.960 You can also schedule with me here on the site 54 00:02:54.319 --> 00:02:56.560 at roguesol dot org. All of the things that I 55 00:02:56.599 --> 00:02:58.919 offer one on one as well as the group sessions 56 00:02:58.960 --> 00:03:00.960 like the full Moon bless what's coming up on the 57 00:03:00.960 --> 00:03:05.199 twenty ninth of July. This is a blessing for abundance 58 00:03:05.360 --> 00:03:10.039 and wealth that is there for you. Take advantage of these. 59 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:13.400 The abundance blessings or are some of my favorite. They're 60 00:03:13.439 --> 00:03:16.719 all fantastic, you know, I say everything's my favorite because 61 00:03:16.759 --> 00:03:20.080 it is so love. I love the blessings for abundance 62 00:03:20.159 --> 00:03:24.280 though it's nice to see people's abundance situations transform. But 63 00:03:24.319 --> 00:03:27.919 you can also schedule Lightning, Oracle, Spirit guide sessions, sound healing, 64 00:03:27.919 --> 00:03:32.800 Attunement's life path readings, Taro coaching and talk sessions, Past life, 65 00:03:32.800 --> 00:03:36.800 Tarot and more. It's all here for you roguesol dot org. 66 00:03:37.240 --> 00:03:39.439 Also check out the shop. There's plenty of Oregon as 67 00:03:39.479 --> 00:03:42.319 well as the classes I teach. We just started the 68 00:03:42.400 --> 00:03:46.439 money package course. Last night was our first class. I 69 00:03:47.159 --> 00:03:50.960 in true form went forty minutes over. I just love 70 00:03:51.039 --> 00:03:55.199 to give you, guys, more than is a promise to 71 00:03:55.240 --> 00:03:58.719 you and everything I do above and beyond. So that 72 00:03:58.840 --> 00:04:01.360 was a really long course. Can still join Technically, it's 73 00:04:01.360 --> 00:04:04.159 all recorded, so if you're it's you to join us, 74 00:04:04.199 --> 00:04:06.080 there's still a cupe on code and you can still 75 00:04:06.159 --> 00:04:09.919 join us and catch up with the recording. Nothing lost 76 00:04:10.039 --> 00:04:12.199 in that. So that's also here in the shop at 77 00:04:12.280 --> 00:04:15.439 roguesoul dot org. Everything I do is here. Those powerful 78 00:04:15.560 --> 00:04:19.040 Orgon Lotus pieces are here. I love everything on rogues 79 00:04:19.040 --> 00:04:21.079 soul dot org. Check it out if you want to 80 00:04:21.120 --> 00:04:23.879 get into any of that. Also go to rogue ways 81 00:04:23.879 --> 00:04:26.680 dot Substack dot com is where I do oh my writing. 82 00:04:27.319 --> 00:04:29.480 You can become a free subscriber and get all this 83 00:04:29.639 --> 00:04:33.079 content for free. You can also become a paid subscriber 84 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:35.360 and get the channeled messages as they come through, as 85 00:04:35.399 --> 00:04:38.720 well as the entire archive of everything going back many years, 86 00:04:39.319 --> 00:04:43.079 so many hundreds and hundreds of posts and channeled messages 87 00:04:43.079 --> 00:04:46.160 here for you. This most recent is the Heavens rolled 88 00:04:46.240 --> 00:04:48.839 up like a scroll. It's actually free for everyone as 89 00:04:48.839 --> 00:04:51.800 far as I remember, and I'm sharing with you some 90 00:04:51.839 --> 00:04:54.839 of the things that have come to light through various visions, 91 00:04:54.920 --> 00:04:59.240 messages and channeled messages that I've received both over the 92 00:04:59.319 --> 00:05:02.560 years and then come binding a very fascinating one I've 93 00:05:02.560 --> 00:05:05.879 received very recently. So you can check that all out 94 00:05:05.920 --> 00:05:09.240 for free roadways dot subsac dot com. Subscribe while you 95 00:05:09.360 --> 00:05:12.319 are there, and also become a paid subscriber if you 96 00:05:12.360 --> 00:05:13.920 love what I do, or if you want access to 97 00:05:13.920 --> 00:05:17.399 those channel messages as they come through. And so let's 98 00:05:17.399 --> 00:05:20.279 get into it. This is the AI Google AI's summary 99 00:05:20.399 --> 00:05:24.920 of demisexuality. Demisexuality, it says, is a sexual orientation on 100 00:05:24.959 --> 00:05:29.560 the asexual spectrum. That's actually this asexual part is a 101 00:05:30.040 --> 00:05:33.720 newer thing. The demisexuals were angry when it got put 102 00:05:33.759 --> 00:05:37.759 on the asexual spectrum because it's actually nothing like asexuality. 103 00:05:38.279 --> 00:05:41.560 So interesting, we'll get there. This is why this community 104 00:05:41.680 --> 00:05:45.360 is so full of just nightmarage cluster b people, as 105 00:05:45.399 --> 00:05:48.519 well as just the neediness of like, no, it has 106 00:05:48.519 --> 00:05:51.839 to be this way, and also the neediness of wait, 107 00:05:51.920 --> 00:05:54.120 that sounds a little bit too much, like, you know, 108 00:05:54.240 --> 00:05:56.560 the traditional thing, and so we have to make it 109 00:05:56.639 --> 00:05:59.759 different somehow, you know. And so there's all this infighting 110 00:05:59.800 --> 00:06:02.160 and none of it has anything to do with reality, 111 00:06:02.160 --> 00:06:06.360 which makes it way harder. And let me rephrase that. 112 00:06:06.399 --> 00:06:10.360 People definitely have various things going on with their sexuality. 113 00:06:10.439 --> 00:06:16.120 That's obviously true, all kinds of kinks, fetishes, traumas, repressions, 114 00:06:16.439 --> 00:06:19.240 you know, subconscious stuff. I mean, it's like, it's insane. 115 00:06:19.360 --> 00:06:22.040 So if you're gonna just make up names for every 116 00:06:22.079 --> 00:06:25.959 other possible thing that possibly going on with your own sexuality, 117 00:06:26.000 --> 00:06:29.439 then you're gonna get stuff like this. You're gonna get 118 00:06:29.439 --> 00:06:32.160 stuff like this where demisexuality is put on the asexual 119 00:06:32.199 --> 00:06:37.680 spectrum against demisexuals as wills. So I'll just even my 120 00:06:38.120 --> 00:06:42.040 very light foray into this topic. I've seen them infighting 121 00:06:42.120 --> 00:06:45.120 about whether or not it's asexuality or not. And yeah, 122 00:06:45.199 --> 00:06:47.439 it's interesting, all right, so it says it's on the 123 00:06:47.480 --> 00:06:50.560 asexual spectrum. Put an asterisk next to that in your mind, 124 00:06:50.759 --> 00:06:55.639 where a person only experiences sexual attraction, get this after 125 00:06:55.879 --> 00:07:03.759 forming a deep, meaningful emotional bond. Just like everything exploded. 126 00:07:03.800 --> 00:07:05.720 It went back to like when I heard this, I 127 00:07:05.759 --> 00:07:08.319 was like, wait, so they're just saying they're normal. They're 128 00:07:08.399 --> 00:07:13.560 just saying they're healthy, normal people. Imagine that. Imagine being 129 00:07:14.160 --> 00:07:17.079 so weirded out by being a healthy, normal person that 130 00:07:17.160 --> 00:07:23.519 you need a label for it. Demi sexuality. This is 131 00:07:23.560 --> 00:07:29.800 in fact the historical norm, the multicultural norm. This is 132 00:07:29.839 --> 00:07:33.560 the norm. The norm is that sexual attraction comes from 133 00:07:34.040 --> 00:07:37.800 a deep emotional bond with somebody. It is in fact, 134 00:07:38.839 --> 00:07:40.759 and you could look into all the studies and you 135 00:07:40.800 --> 00:07:45.199 can see the evidence for this, that anything that strays 136 00:07:45.279 --> 00:07:49.639 from that comes from some sort of a Barrett psychology 137 00:07:50.480 --> 00:07:56.959 or trauma or series of traumas or conditioning, and that 138 00:07:57.079 --> 00:08:00.000 this is actually the default normal. If you're a normal, 139 00:08:00.319 --> 00:08:03.920 healthy person, This is the default. We talk about this 140 00:08:03.959 --> 00:08:05.959 too sometimes on Day zero. It'll come up every once 141 00:08:05.959 --> 00:08:07.199 in a while and people will be like, I don't 142 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:09.759 even really get They're all men, right, I'm hanging out 143 00:08:09.800 --> 00:08:12.160 with the guys and they're like, I don't even really 144 00:08:12.199 --> 00:08:14.000 get like a rape or these things like how do 145 00:08:14.240 --> 00:08:16.160 how do you get into it? 146 00:08:16.279 --> 00:08:16.399 Right? 147 00:08:16.480 --> 00:08:21.079 Like how are you even attracted to that situation? Exactly right? 148 00:08:21.120 --> 00:08:26.079 Because that's actually a baron. It's unhealthy, right, it's dysfunctional. 149 00:08:27.000 --> 00:08:29.240 Something has gone wrong, and so now you're a rapist. 150 00:08:29.560 --> 00:08:32.240 This is actually the default is that you don't actually 151 00:08:32.679 --> 00:08:36.600 get super horny for anybody unless you're in a loving 152 00:08:36.960 --> 00:08:40.840 experience with them that creates a sexual attraction, that creates 153 00:08:41.240 --> 00:08:45.600 the arousal. I'm so weird a out that I really 154 00:08:45.679 --> 00:08:47.639 have found out in looking into this that there's people 155 00:08:47.639 --> 00:08:52.399 who don't know that that's how dysfunctional our society is. 156 00:08:52.399 --> 00:08:55.879 That's how dysfunctional we are sexually. Is that this seems 157 00:08:55.919 --> 00:08:59.159 surprising to people, This seems shocking, This seems to need 158 00:08:59.159 --> 00:09:01.600 a label, like it's so weird. I can't just like 159 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:03.840 go to an orgy for orries and just like, but 160 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:06.639 fuck anybody, I have to actually, you know, have a 161 00:09:06.639 --> 00:09:10.480 connection with someone. It's crazy. No, that's not crazy, sir 162 00:09:10.679 --> 00:09:14.519 or madam. That's actually how it's supposed to be. What 163 00:09:14.559 --> 00:09:17.440 you have discovered is that you're in a sea of 164 00:09:17.559 --> 00:09:22.240 psychoses and you don't have that psychotic break with reality. 165 00:09:22.720 --> 00:09:27.200 You're actually normal and healthy. So really, really wild too. 166 00:09:27.240 --> 00:09:29.480 This is the wild future that we're in, is that 167 00:09:29.519 --> 00:09:35.159 people are this messed up that just having emotional attraction 168 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:40.159 weirds them out. They say this too, This is so interesting. 169 00:09:40.240 --> 00:09:42.639 They say it is not a choice or a preference, 170 00:09:43.320 --> 00:09:45.360 but a consistent pattern of attraction. 171 00:09:47.279 --> 00:09:47.559 Yeah. 172 00:09:47.960 --> 00:09:51.200 We again, you only have to say that because this 173 00:09:51.279 --> 00:09:54.120 is now being put into this category of all these 174 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:57.840 other sexual identities that do require someone to say, Oh, 175 00:09:57.879 --> 00:10:00.320 it's not my choice, it's not my choice. I just 176 00:10:00.399 --> 00:10:04.240 am attracted to children. Yeah, no, we get that. You're 177 00:10:04.279 --> 00:10:06.120 not conscious decaying you know who, I want to be 178 00:10:06.159 --> 00:10:11.879 attracted to? Little kids. Now, everyone gets that whether or 179 00:10:11.960 --> 00:10:14.320 not it's your choice or not, it's a totally different 180 00:10:14.399 --> 00:10:17.080 question because philosophically, you'd have to actually understand what it 181 00:10:17.120 --> 00:10:19.679 means to make a choice, and that's something I don't 182 00:10:19.679 --> 00:10:21.519 think most of these people do understand. I think that 183 00:10:21.559 --> 00:10:24.080 life is something that happens to them and never something 184 00:10:24.080 --> 00:10:26.240 that they choose. So of course they're going to default too. 185 00:10:26.360 --> 00:10:30.000 It's not my choice. I'm a victim of this sexual orientation. 186 00:10:31.279 --> 00:10:33.799 You know what's interesting too, is this also sort of 187 00:10:33.840 --> 00:10:36.840 like gets you away from this idea that it actually 188 00:10:36.840 --> 00:10:40.960 doesn't matter what makes your genitalia start to be aroused 189 00:10:41.039 --> 00:10:44.639 or your emotions start to be aroused in a sexual way. 190 00:10:44.759 --> 00:10:47.799 You still are responsible for acting or not acting right, 191 00:10:48.039 --> 00:10:51.720 and this type of thinking moves you away from that responsibility. 192 00:10:52.360 --> 00:10:55.320 It starts to pretend like, again, everything's happening to you. 193 00:10:55.320 --> 00:10:57.440 You have no choice in the matter, you have no agency. 194 00:10:58.399 --> 00:11:00.840 It's not my fault. I'm attracted men or women or 195 00:11:00.879 --> 00:11:03.320 children or old people or whatever, people in diapers or 196 00:11:03.320 --> 00:11:07.840 whatever is going on for you right now. It is technically, 197 00:11:07.879 --> 00:11:13.480 you're right, it's not technically your conscious choice about who 198 00:11:13.519 --> 00:11:15.639 you're going to be attracted to or what situations are 199 00:11:15.639 --> 00:11:17.320 going to make you sexually arousse in life. It is 200 00:11:17.360 --> 00:11:20.200 one hundred percent your choice what you actually do in 201 00:11:20.240 --> 00:11:24.399 your life. And remember everything that we're doing, thinking and 202 00:11:24.399 --> 00:11:26.840 saying is always coming from our subconscious, and our subconscious 203 00:11:26.879 --> 00:11:30.799 is one hundred percent a factor of repetition. So yes, 204 00:11:30.840 --> 00:11:33.639 you are conditioned into these things. You are traumatized into 205 00:11:33.639 --> 00:11:37.919 these things, right, and you develop coping mechanisms that make 206 00:11:37.960 --> 00:11:40.039 you feel as though this is the way to go. Dude, 207 00:11:40.080 --> 00:11:42.519 if you don't know that how many people are out 208 00:11:42.519 --> 00:11:45.799 there having sex and don't actually want to be You're 209 00:11:45.799 --> 00:11:48.519 a little bit crazy. You haven't actually thought things through 210 00:11:49.440 --> 00:11:53.639 right so much, so much so that it has become 211 00:11:54.200 --> 00:11:58.759 the thing for young girls to identify as male so 212 00:11:58.759 --> 00:12:02.039 that they can avoid having sexual experiences instead of just 213 00:12:02.120 --> 00:12:04.600 realizing it's actually normal to not want to have sex, 214 00:12:04.960 --> 00:12:06.919 and it's actually okay to say, yeah, I don't like 215 00:12:06.960 --> 00:12:10.960 to have sex. That's that's it, right the end. I'll 216 00:12:10.960 --> 00:12:14.480 do it when I want to someday. Right. No one's 217 00:12:14.519 --> 00:12:17.000 teaching that. Everyone's like, yeah, go be like yay, or 218 00:12:17.039 --> 00:12:18.720 like put a butt plug in or just you know, 219 00:12:18.840 --> 00:12:21.360 masturbate all the time or anything you want. Just use 220 00:12:21.440 --> 00:12:23.919 loomy afterwards. It was like, you don't even need to 221 00:12:24.000 --> 00:12:27.080 shower and just like lick each other's buttholes. It's totally cool, 222 00:12:28.080 --> 00:12:29.960 and no one's saying, you know what else is cool? 223 00:12:30.159 --> 00:12:32.039 You don't have to do any of that ever. You 224 00:12:32.039 --> 00:12:33.759 don't have to do it until you're twenty five, you 225 00:12:33.759 --> 00:12:35.440 don't have to do it till you're thirty. If you want, 226 00:12:35.480 --> 00:12:39.679 you don't do anything. You can do nothing sexual ever, 227 00:12:39.759 --> 00:12:43.720 and it's totally normal. In fact, most people probably don't 228 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:46.480 actually want to be having sex. People who I knew 229 00:12:46.480 --> 00:12:51.279 who were having sexually early were sexually molested and abused. 230 00:12:52.840 --> 00:12:56.639 That wasn't normal, right, We're super sexualized society. We have 231 00:12:56.679 --> 00:12:58.799 a lot of abuse and trauma going on. We never 232 00:12:59.080 --> 00:13:02.720 address it wet it doesn't exist. And then we also 233 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:07.799 smother kids with this sexual programming even in school, so 234 00:13:07.919 --> 00:13:10.480 they're like, oh, no, actually, you know what, I'm a guy. Yeah, 235 00:13:10.519 --> 00:13:14.799 that's safer, right, that's safer. You go watch cut Daughters 236 00:13:14.799 --> 00:13:16.120 of the West. You can see that most of the 237 00:13:16.159 --> 00:13:18.759 people who are identifying as trans or female to male, 238 00:13:19.080 --> 00:13:22.240 most of them are female to male, and most of 239 00:13:22.279 --> 00:13:24.759 them are no longer having these other things that used 240 00:13:24.799 --> 00:13:27.360 to take the place of what a trans is now 241 00:13:27.399 --> 00:13:32.360 taking the place of like eating disorders, right, like plastic surgery, obsessions, 242 00:13:33.200 --> 00:13:35.960 and like other things that essentially took them out of 243 00:13:37.559 --> 00:13:39.799 or made it so it's easier for them to accept 244 00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:45.120 themselves as a sexual being. Right, Really interesting psychology behind 245 00:13:45.159 --> 00:13:47.159 all that. Most people aren't looking at that because they're 246 00:13:47.159 --> 00:13:49.440 programmed and all they're doing is getting angry when people 247 00:13:49.480 --> 00:13:51.720 like me say things like this, instead of actually listening 248 00:13:51.759 --> 00:13:54.399 and thinking and caring about children and their health. So 249 00:13:54.480 --> 00:13:59.000 we get to this where demisexuality has become an identity. Oh, 250 00:13:59.039 --> 00:14:01.639 it's so weird. Only guess actually aroused when I'm really 251 00:14:01.679 --> 00:14:04.720 close to somebody. Yeah, No, that's totally normal. That's how 252 00:14:04.720 --> 00:14:08.759 it's supposed to be. That's the default setting for a healthy, 253 00:14:08.759 --> 00:14:14.960 well individual. It says, understanding the nuances of demisexuality as 254 00:14:14.960 --> 00:14:18.159 though there's nuance to this, as though this is nuanced. 255 00:14:18.159 --> 00:14:20.519 This is actually not nuanced at all. Is the norm. 256 00:14:20.679 --> 00:14:24.440 It is what's healthy. It is what healthy people do. No, 257 00:14:24.519 --> 00:14:27.039 almost none of us were healthy. No, almost none of 258 00:14:27.120 --> 00:14:34.200 us had actual free, loved upbringings right that didn't have 259 00:14:34.240 --> 00:14:36.720 all this programming and trauma and handed out good people 260 00:14:36.720 --> 00:14:40.320 don't even know. People come to me all the time, Oh, 261 00:14:40.360 --> 00:14:42.159 I don't have trauma, and then they tell me about 262 00:14:42.159 --> 00:14:45.240 like their parents fighting or leaving each other, or like 263 00:14:45.279 --> 00:14:47.399 the house days that they had to leave behind because 264 00:14:47.440 --> 00:14:50.519 of whatever financial collapse, or the uncle who touched them 265 00:14:50.559 --> 00:14:54.240 or whatever. I'm like, you think you don't have trauma. 266 00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:57.320 There have been such a mess of society. People don't 267 00:14:57.399 --> 00:15:02.039 even know that. So emotional catalyst, it says, the spark 268 00:15:02.080 --> 00:15:06.399 of sexual attraction is essentially non existent for demisexuals until 269 00:15:06.480 --> 00:15:11.759 trust an emotional or intellectual intimacy, you're established on the hevil. 270 00:15:12.240 --> 00:15:15.080 This is a real sentence I'm reading this. Bond is 271 00:15:15.120 --> 00:15:19.360 most often formed through close friendship. Just as like again, 272 00:15:19.399 --> 00:15:21.559 we could go back to with the best advice anyone 273 00:15:21.600 --> 00:15:24.440 ever gave anybody about marriage and sex and love is 274 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:28.039 marry your best friend. Marry your best friend. You're your 275 00:15:28.200 --> 00:15:30.559 person who you're married to should be your best friend, 276 00:15:32.159 --> 00:15:36.960 bestier than your bestie, right Otherwise, why are you bothering? 277 00:15:37.080 --> 00:15:39.320 What is this? This is just a fake thing you're doing, 278 00:15:39.399 --> 00:15:41.840 just a fulfiller role or whatever that can work out 279 00:15:41.879 --> 00:15:44.480 too tactically. But you know, best friend, So what is 280 00:15:44.519 --> 00:15:46.679 his best friend? Someone who you have a close emotional 281 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:53.000 and intellectual intimacy with. Says no instant attraction Demiseexuals do 282 00:15:53.120 --> 00:15:57.039 not experience sexual desire for strangers, acquaintances, or celebrities based 283 00:15:57.039 --> 00:16:01.200 on physical appearance alone. Yeah, what's really really interesting to me? 284 00:16:01.240 --> 00:16:04.360 I was just thinking about this last night. Is I 285 00:16:04.399 --> 00:16:07.919 do not anymore for a while now? If I look 286 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:10.080 at it, there's like a guy he's like chiseled, and 287 00:16:10.120 --> 00:16:12.919 he's in a movie and he's like, oh, I don't 288 00:16:12.919 --> 00:16:17.080 even care, Like I genuinely don't care, but I used to. 289 00:16:17.639 --> 00:16:19.960 But you look back on like my Facebook post from 290 00:16:19.960 --> 00:16:23.080 like ten years ago, fifteen years ago, and I'm like, ooh, 291 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:26.240 I would totally fuck Kirk or whatever, the guy who 292 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:31.879 played Kirk on Space Track or what Star Trek. Like 293 00:16:31.919 --> 00:16:33.480 a bunch of my posts were like that, and I 294 00:16:33.519 --> 00:16:37.759 was like, oh, it was like cringey. I was like gross, yeah, 295 00:16:37.799 --> 00:16:40.240 but I really was feeling that way. But actually I 296 00:16:40.360 --> 00:16:43.960 was so unwell still. I had not healed almost anything, 297 00:16:43.960 --> 00:16:46.720 but I thought I had. But I was doing pretty 298 00:16:46.720 --> 00:16:49.840 good in life as far as people are concerned. Checked 299 00:16:49.840 --> 00:16:55.759 all the boxes, college degrees, career path, married, good guy, 300 00:16:55.960 --> 00:16:59.879 doesn't hurt me, loves me to death, right, all the 301 00:17:00.000 --> 00:17:03.159 boxes are checked. But I was saying it like that, 302 00:17:03.200 --> 00:17:04.799 But I didn't think that was There was nothing wrong 303 00:17:04.880 --> 00:17:07.240 with that. Right When people say that, people are like, oh, 304 00:17:07.240 --> 00:17:09.559 that's so funny, or oh, everybody has their like celebrity 305 00:17:09.559 --> 00:17:11.480 person they get to have sex with if they actually 306 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:15.400 get the opportunity someday. And I had mine, right, oh, 307 00:17:15.640 --> 00:17:17.920 And I thought, oh, that'd be so cool. And one day, 308 00:17:17.920 --> 00:17:19.559 as I was like healing more and more, I was like, 309 00:17:19.680 --> 00:17:23.079 would I actually like if Johnny Depp, well, not Johnny 310 00:17:23.119 --> 00:17:25.119 Depp now, but like Johnny Depp then right, but like 311 00:17:25.240 --> 00:17:27.559 Orlando Bloom is legless, or something like if he walked 312 00:17:27.599 --> 00:17:29.559 up to me right now, would I actually just go 313 00:17:29.680 --> 00:17:33.640 have sex with him and like it whether or not 314 00:17:33.640 --> 00:17:37.240 it was sexually pleasing or not? Could I do that? 315 00:17:38.640 --> 00:17:42.200 And my answer was like, no, gross In fact, it 316 00:17:42.240 --> 00:17:45.359 was grossing me out. And the healthier I've gotten, and 317 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:47.440 the more well I've gotten, and the more I've healed 318 00:17:47.440 --> 00:17:50.559 my traumas and been really genuine to myself and had 319 00:17:50.559 --> 00:17:52.960 this you know environment where I get to be just 320 00:17:53.039 --> 00:17:57.640 so true to myself, radical to myself, radically true to 321 00:17:57.680 --> 00:17:59.799 myself is what I meant. The more I've I'm not 322 00:17:59.839 --> 00:18:02.599 even not I'm not. I don't even have to pretend. 323 00:18:02.640 --> 00:18:04.880 I genuinely like a super hot guy could walk by 324 00:18:05.359 --> 00:18:08.359 just like dripping whatever if people think it's sexy, and 325 00:18:08.359 --> 00:18:10.640 I'd be like, ough, like maybe you should put some 326 00:18:10.680 --> 00:18:15.480 bothesonsre like are you cold here? Or cover up right? 327 00:18:15.680 --> 00:18:18.519 I don't have any sexual attraction to people who I'm 328 00:18:18.519 --> 00:18:25.400 not close with. I only am sexually attracted to my soulmate. Literally, 329 00:18:26.079 --> 00:18:28.960 I used to think people just said that shit to 330 00:18:29.079 --> 00:18:32.680 say it, I just thought they thought that's what they 331 00:18:32.720 --> 00:18:35.119 were supposed to feel and think, and so they were lying. 332 00:18:36.279 --> 00:18:40.039 And now I'm that person because I'm healthy, and it 333 00:18:40.079 --> 00:18:43.359 blows my fucking mind. So I kind of understand how 334 00:18:43.359 --> 00:18:46.640 these people are blowing their own fucking minds when they're like, weird, 335 00:18:46.720 --> 00:18:50.240 I'm only into people who I love. You're supposed to 336 00:18:50.279 --> 00:18:54.200 only be into people who you love. You're supposed to 337 00:18:54.240 --> 00:18:56.680 be there's something else going on. If something else is 338 00:18:56.720 --> 00:18:59.559 going on, I'm not saying you. If you're sitting there 339 00:18:59.599 --> 00:19:02.000 going like, hey, I'm super into like people on those 340 00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:04.400 TV screen or whatever, I'm not saying you have some 341 00:19:04.440 --> 00:19:07.559 sort of massive problems. Again, it's very normal in our society. 342 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:11.759 But I just am personally aware there is actually something 343 00:19:12.160 --> 00:19:17.160 that is not healthy about that. It's not healthy. It's 344 00:19:17.160 --> 00:19:22.920 not healthy at all. So it says the spectrum. Because 345 00:19:22.960 --> 00:19:26.160 demisexuality is on the asexual spectrum. It bridges the gap 346 00:19:26.200 --> 00:19:31.640 between asexuality and alo sexuality, which is experiencing frequent sexual attraction. 347 00:19:31.880 --> 00:19:35.079 Asexuals you're almost never or you never are sexually attracted 348 00:19:35.079 --> 00:19:38.000 to anyone or anything. Again, that's also in a barent state, 349 00:19:38.039 --> 00:19:41.400 there's actually something wrong. Usually again, it may often come 350 00:19:41.720 --> 00:19:46.160 from trauma and there's a severe repression going on. Right, 351 00:19:47.119 --> 00:19:49.359 and then allosexuality is like you're attracted to everything all 352 00:19:49.359 --> 00:19:51.839 the time. I actually knew somebody who had this. It 353 00:19:51.920 --> 00:19:54.640 was like an affliction. They were not happy about it. 354 00:19:55.240 --> 00:20:00.000 They were sexually abused as a child, and they constantly, 355 00:20:00.079 --> 00:20:02.200 one percent of all day, every day, looked at every 356 00:20:02.200 --> 00:20:05.359 single human and thought about having sex with them, not 357 00:20:05.559 --> 00:20:09.039 going to act on it. Not a dangerous person. It 358 00:20:09.079 --> 00:20:11.480 was an obsessive thing, right, It was a It was 359 00:20:11.519 --> 00:20:15.799 a coping mechanism. You're like, you know, sexually abused as 360 00:20:15.839 --> 00:20:19.279 a child, then you create this experience for yourself where, 361 00:20:19.319 --> 00:20:21.559 oh everything is cool. I've just in fact liked to 362 00:20:21.559 --> 00:20:23.920 have sex all the time with everyone. It's always good. 363 00:20:23.960 --> 00:20:31.400 It's like an overreaction overcope. Right. So that's allosexuality, they're saying, horrible. 364 00:20:31.519 --> 00:20:35.519 Both of these are horrible afflictions. You are meant to 365 00:20:35.559 --> 00:20:37.920 be a sexual being with people who you will love 366 00:20:38.000 --> 00:20:40.559 deeply and have a close intimate bond with. You're not 367 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:43.160 meant to never have sexual attraction. You're not meant to 368 00:20:43.279 --> 00:20:47.160 always have sexual attraction. That's neither of those things is healthy. 369 00:20:47.319 --> 00:20:49.720 So they're saying, this is on the spectrum of this 370 00:20:50.880 --> 00:20:55.240 what how is how is being attracted to someone who 371 00:20:55.279 --> 00:20:58.240 you love and have a deep intimate bond with. How 372 00:20:58.279 --> 00:21:00.519 is that anywhere near a sexuality? It's not. How is 373 00:21:00.559 --> 00:21:05.079 it anywhere near alloseexuality? It's not. But they have to 374 00:21:05.119 --> 00:21:09.240 make it into this again, not responsible for myself. I'm 375 00:21:09.319 --> 00:21:12.200 just happen to land on these various spectrums of being 376 00:21:12.240 --> 00:21:14.440 and none of them have anything to do with my 377 00:21:14.599 --> 00:21:17.359 actual sovereignty or choice. All of it is just happening 378 00:21:17.400 --> 00:21:22.240 to me. It just so happens to be this way. Why, 379 00:21:22.319 --> 00:21:26.839 it's wild what they'll do to never take responsibility for themselves. Right, 380 00:21:28.240 --> 00:21:31.799 And it says attraction versus action, experiencing sexual attraction requires 381 00:21:31.799 --> 00:21:34.960 a bond. But demi sexual individuals are still fully capable 382 00:21:35.000 --> 00:21:39.200 of choosing to engage or abstain from sexual activities. Do 383 00:21:39.240 --> 00:21:42.000 you know why they say that? Not because anyone questioned 384 00:21:42.039 --> 00:21:45.480 whether it was true, because everyone assumes in fact that 385 00:21:45.519 --> 00:21:49.519 one hundred percent of people are one hundred percent capable 386 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:54.440 of choosing when to engage in sexual acts. But because 387 00:21:54.480 --> 00:21:58.519 some people can't take responsibility so much that they say no, 388 00:21:58.640 --> 00:22:01.079 I'm a sex adage and I he myself. And then 389 00:22:01.119 --> 00:22:03.160 they have to say stuff like this for every other 390 00:22:03.200 --> 00:22:08.000 sexual orientation or situation to make it normalized. Right, to 391 00:22:08.079 --> 00:22:10.920 normalize the lack of responsibility. You do the same thing 392 00:22:11.000 --> 00:22:15.960 with pedophiles when you get there. Oh, they're perfectly gapable 393 00:22:16.000 --> 00:22:22.400 of choosing to act or not act on it. Okay, 394 00:22:23.480 --> 00:22:27.240 all right, So that's the AI's definition. Here's a have 395 00:22:27.279 --> 00:22:31.079 a Gay Day Facebook page or group I'm not sure, 396 00:22:31.759 --> 00:22:36.519 and they're saying sharing this image that says demisexual have 397 00:22:36.680 --> 00:22:39.039 a gay Day. It's two men that seem to be 398 00:22:39.160 --> 00:22:42.640 very intimate with one another, and it says only feeling 399 00:22:42.720 --> 00:22:48.200 sexual attraction after a strong emotional bond is formed. That 400 00:22:48.799 --> 00:22:51.359 needed an image for some reason, and it needed to 401 00:22:51.359 --> 00:22:56.920