Speaker 1: Here we go with the Minnesota Goodbye. Basically, it is
Speaker 1: as compendium a word Bailey of the emails, a comprehensive browsing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what does compendium mean? Is that? Is it a compendium
Speaker 1: of emails? The proper terminology.
Speaker 2: Kind of so it's a collection of concise but detailed
Speaker 2: information about a particular subject, especially in a book or
Speaker 2: other publication.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of probably wrong about it a little bit.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: You know what's funny is that years ago there was
Speaker 1: a radio ad and it's like, you can improve your vocabulary.
Speaker 1: You'll learn a new word every single day with this
Speaker 1: series of I think it was probably cassette tapes. It
Speaker 1: was so long ago, and you'll learn a new word
Speaker 1: and they'd use words like nobody and I And I
Speaker 1: thought to myself, why would I ever want to learn
Speaker 1: a lot of words that no one knows what they mean,
Speaker 1: like compendium? And I think you should call the show
Speaker 1: pendium today maybe, but but is I think one of
Speaker 1: the gifts of like being being a good communicator is
Speaker 1: to speak in simple but colorful terms. Yes, you know,
Speaker 1: like you don't want to use words that people go,
Speaker 1: I don't know what she meant by that. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: if you can color it up by like you walk
Speaker 1: into a room that smells like, I don't know, lasagna,
Speaker 1: you could say like, as I walked it in, I
Speaker 1: walked in, I could almost see those lasagna bubbling in
Speaker 1: the pan. It's juicy, red, cheesy goodness bubbling up the
Speaker 1: sides of the pan as it filled the air with
Speaker 1: a wonderful aroma of Italian spices, cheese and red. I
Speaker 1: mean that type of thing. Yeah, I mean yeah, Not
Speaker 1: once did I use a big word in there.
Speaker 2: So I agree with you because I work with high
Speaker 2: schoolers that I keep telling them you got to be conversational,
Speaker 2: but have slightly elevated language so you know what you're
Speaker 2: talking about without sounding like you know too much. I
Speaker 2: heard it elevated language, just like instead of saying, so today,
Speaker 2: we're first gonna talk about a problem, and then we're
Speaker 2: gonna talk about some other things like the effects of
Speaker 2: the problem, and then we're gonna come up with some solutions,
Speaker 2: like we don't want to use some like words like
Speaker 2: gunna or like wanna. So first we will gather together
Speaker 2: to review the problem and blah blah blah, just like
Speaker 2: elevate it a little bit, but like, there are some
Speaker 2: kids who I heard a kid say that something stemy's progress,
Speaker 2: and I wrote down the word stemy's. I was like,
Speaker 2: there's no way that this sixteen year old kid knows
Speaker 2: the word stymy's. He definitely looked it up on the thesaurus,
Speaker 2: or a coach or a teacher wrote it for him.
Speaker 2: Steiny's who says that no quai.
Speaker 1: In regular conversation, but I think it is kind of
Speaker 1: a colorful word.
Speaker 2: Personally it is, but you would never use it in conversation.
Speaker 1: Here is a note about Bailey from Molly. Do you
Speaker 1: know Molly Bartel by any chance?
Speaker 3: Um?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Maybe?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: Okay, I thought maybe you worked with her or something,
Speaker 1: She says. I want to send a quick note to
Speaker 1: say how often I think of Bailey being able to
Speaker 1: work on the Dave Ryan Show. She grew up here
Speaker 1: listen forever and now is there how surreal that must
Speaker 1: be for her? Oh? I thought I thought there was
Speaker 1: something here that said she knew you, but so apparently not.
Speaker 1: So glad she said yes, cheers to so many of
Speaker 1: us who were here, who were here were her, and
Speaker 1: think about how cool it really is. Molly dart Lick,
Speaker 1: If I'm in the moody.
Speaker 2: Thanks Molly.
Speaker 1: So I think it would be weird to like, I mean,
Speaker 1: I grew up listening to a radio station in Colorado
Speaker 1: Springs that was the radio station, and then I eventually
Speaker 1: got to work there, and it was a little bit surreal,
Speaker 1: like Wow, I am on kys N, the big station
Speaker 1: that everybody listened to, and it was really cool. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Lena had the same thing. Lena grew up here basically,
Speaker 1: and then she's on the show like from two thousand
Speaker 1: and seven to twenty eleven, I think, and so kind
Speaker 1: of the same thing with her and I today.
Speaker 2: Earlier on the show, we were talking about was it
Speaker 2: dark Horse.
Speaker 3: Or dark dark Stars, dark Star dark Star.
Speaker 2: Because I remember when I when I got hired, I
Speaker 2: called my dad to tell him and he said that
Speaker 2: I was the new dark Star because apparently the guy
Speaker 2: who is named dark Star who was on did you
Speaker 2: say WCCO, yep, Yeah, that he was just like a
Speaker 2: guy who would call in to talk about I don't know,
Speaker 2: football or something, and then he just kept calling in,
Speaker 2: calling in to be kind of like their weird little
Speaker 2: specialist for this one thing, and then he was on
Speaker 2: it and was like super well known and popular, and
Speaker 2: he's like, you're.
Speaker 3: The new dark Star.
Speaker 1: Wow, and that's funny.
Speaker 2: No idea what he was talking about, but.
Speaker 1: Well, Wow Darkstar was big on WCCO back in the nineties,
Speaker 1: and I've heard of him, but I did I didn't
Speaker 1: actively listen to him.
Speaker 3: So he passed away, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I do believe he died. Yeah, I'm not sure. I'm
Speaker 1: probably in the last ten years or so. Here is
Speaker 1: an interesting one, Dave a while ago, when you were
Speaker 1: in Las Vegas and the elevator with a single woman
Speaker 1: and she wanted you to get out. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you remember the story, and I don't think about
Speaker 1: it that often, but I was in an elevator in
Speaker 1: Las Vegas and I was right I either was about
Speaker 1: to get on the elevator and she said I'd rather
Speaker 1: not ride with you, because you know, here I am
Speaker 1: a dude and she was a young woman, and or
Speaker 1: maybe I was on the elevator and she asked me
Speaker 1: to get out. I don't remember, and I did because
Speaker 1: I was not going to start an argument with her.
Speaker 1: But really it was really offensive. It was really offensive.
Speaker 1: It's like, listen, if you're going to be out in public,
Speaker 1: you're going to encounter people that you don't know, and
Speaker 1: some of them might be men. You cannot be rude
Speaker 1: to every guy and ask him not to ride on
Speaker 1: the elevator. But like I said, I didn't want to
Speaker 1: start a fight. This guy goes on to say, did
Speaker 1: you ever feel like it was a setup? As if
Speaker 1: she picked a floor for you to leave the elevator,
Speaker 1: she might have had people there ready to mug or
Speaker 1: rob you. Las Vegas is one of the last cash
Speaker 1: carrying cities. Nope, never even occur to me.
Speaker 3: I guess I don't understand that. Why would she, Oh,
Speaker 3: because you were already on that floor, so she had
Speaker 3: people ready to mug you on that floor?
Speaker 1: Is that what it means? I don't remember exactly. I
Speaker 1: think it might have been when she got on she said,
Speaker 1: I don't want to ride with you, Can you take
Speaker 1: another car? Something like that, And I haven't thought about
Speaker 1: that in months, but I just thought it was really
Speaker 1: weird and very like, Okay, you can't walk around in
Speaker 1: public asking anybody to make way for you. If you
Speaker 1: have a problem, that's kind of your problem. Agree or disagree?
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it depends on how you remember
Speaker 3: that story or not. Because I don't remember if she
Speaker 3: was like already on the elevator, then like she probably
Speaker 3: could have just gotten off in that moment. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: don't know. I guess. I guess it's all about whatever
Speaker 3: her experience was that caused her to ask you to
Speaker 3: get off the elevator, is.
Speaker 1: What it comes to.
Speaker 3: But that's not my problem, okay, But like, also, you're right,
Speaker 3: it's not your problem. But I think that like she
Speaker 3: probably was only doing it because of something that traumatized
Speaker 3: her in the past. I don't think.
Speaker 1: It's not my problem.
Speaker 3: Again, not my problem, Okay, Well, I mean that's fine.
Speaker 3: You don't have to like do something just because she
Speaker 3: asked you to do it.
Speaker 2: You could think.
Speaker 3: I think it's just like a polite situation where it's like, well,
Speaker 3: I don't know what you're you've been through, I'm just
Speaker 3: gonna step off the elevator. She could have gotten off herself, obviously.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so she definitely could have gotten off herself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but there was nobody waiting there to mug me.
Speaker 1: So I'm really happy about that. So that would have
Speaker 1: been what a ploy though, But there's cameras everywhere. You
Speaker 1: really can't get away with I mean, you know there's
Speaker 1: security camp. We learn there's security camera here in the
Speaker 1: radio station because when I spit water by accident into
Speaker 1: the board last week, they got it on the security camera.
Speaker 1: So can't go anywhere, all right. Stephanie writes in it's
Speaker 1: garbage day to day in our neighborhood. And I just
Speaker 1: saw garbage person get out of their truck, walk down
Speaker 1: a long driveway of a neighbor, bring their garbage bin
Speaker 1: to the curb, empty the bin, and went to the
Speaker 1: next house. What a wonderful person to do that for
Speaker 1: somebody who didn't remember to bring their bin down the driveway.
Speaker 1: Shout out to that hero.
Speaker 3: That's so nice. Our garbage didnt get picked up last week,
Speaker 3: and I'm really salty about it. I don't know what
Speaker 3: was going on. We had our bin out and it
Speaker 3: is completely full and we can't fit anything else in it.
Speaker 1: Isn't that the worst when you forget to put your
Speaker 1: garbage out And it's like, oh God.
Speaker 2: Yes, I don't have that problem. I live in an
Speaker 2: apartment building.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you put yours on a shoot or something.
Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes you like go out to like put your
Speaker 2: recycling in. Because we just have like giant dumpsters in
Speaker 2: the back of our building, and the entire like recycling
Speaker 2: dumpster is completely full. You're like, but I have a
Speaker 2: box and three bags and so many things to shove
Speaker 2: in here. But apparently I don't know how often they
Speaker 2: bring the recycling truck around, but it's not nearly enough.
Speaker 3: It's also because your apartment people don't break down their boxes. Also,
Speaker 3: that was a hot debate in my apartment when Don
Speaker 3: the groundskeeper, would literally pull boxes out and be like,
Speaker 3: you need to break this down, and like left a
Speaker 3: note on our.
Speaker 2: Do especially hazard like name on it too. This was
Speaker 2: delivered to you an Amazon box as a giant. Put
Speaker 2: it back outside your door. Break down your box, idiot,
Speaker 2: Oh that'd be good.
Speaker 1: That's the worst I've got In my house in Minnesota.
Speaker 1: We got a bunch of Amazon boxes that I need
Speaker 1: to break down for recycling, and I just haven't. You know,
Speaker 1: they're all stacked on top of each other. I just
Speaker 1: haven't gotten around to it. So one day last email,
Speaker 1: don't say my name. Okay, this is really interesting. I
Speaker 1: read through this earlier first time writer, longtime listener, and
Speaker 1: we might be able to do this on the show
Speaker 1: as well, because it really is like a show flavored
Speaker 1: email situation bothering me for some weeks. Now, love to
Speaker 1: hear your opinions. My sister is twenty six and recently
Speaker 1: left an abusive relationship about eight months ago. She started
Speaker 1: dating this guy when and she was seventeen and he
Speaker 1: was fifty and married with three kids. Fifty married with
Speaker 1: three kids, she was seventeen, he divorced his wife or
Speaker 1: my sister anyway, I was beyond happy when she left
Speaker 1: that situation. I'm gonna tell you there's not a decent
Speaker 1: man who would marry a seventeen year old or date
Speaker 1: a seventeen year old a fifty year old. There is
Speaker 1: no decent fifty year old man that would say, hey,
Speaker 1: this person who's not even of legal age yet seems
Speaker 1: like a great partner. That guy has got some problems
Speaker 1: and it turns out, yeah, he was abusive. Fast forward
Speaker 1: to now she's dating somebody new. He is also married,
Speaker 1: lives with his wife, AND's got a six year old kid.
Speaker 2: Es.
Speaker 1: I'm absolutely disgusted, in shocked she's dated another married man
Speaker 1: and breaking up another family. I've tried to talk to
Speaker 1: her about it, but she said, I'm not doing anything wrong.
Speaker 1: The worst part is he met my parents last weekend
Speaker 1: and they are fully accepting of him. Am I justified
Speaker 1: for being disgusted and angry at my sister for continuously
Speaker 1: putting herself in the same situations and wrecking homes. I
Speaker 1: am outraged and not sure how to proceed. At family
Speaker 1: gatherings and other interactions I will have with them, any
Speaker 1: advice will be greatly appreciated. I would say, there's not
Speaker 1: a thing you can do your sister as an adult.
Speaker 1: She will do exactly what she wants to do. She'll
Speaker 1: justify it in her mind, and she will continue to
Speaker 1: do this probably the rest of her life. Maybe not
Speaker 1: this specifically, but she will do stupid things for the
Speaker 1: rest of her life. I've got stupid people in my family,
Speaker 1: and I've just I distance myself. I keep them at
Speaker 1: arm's length, and I don't try to get them to change.
Speaker 3: It sounds like her sister needs therapy, honestly, because why
Speaker 3: is she going after people who are unavailable? Like there's
Speaker 3: something going on with her that's like allowing her to
Speaker 3: like continue in a relationship with someone who can't even
Speaker 3: fully give themselves to her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I also think it's like a two way Street, Like,
Speaker 2: it's not just her who's making the choices, it's the
Speaker 2: guys who are married men who are actively seeking out
Speaker 2: someone else. And she's obviously like it takes two to tango.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean, they're obviously at fault too, But I
Speaker 3: think that, like, she's already been burned pretty badly by
Speaker 3: the first situation, So why is she continuing to do
Speaker 3: something that already turned out really badly? Something's wrong with her?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and very possibly. And I think that when you
Speaker 1: say something's wrong either her way of thinking or mentally
Speaker 1: or whatever, and I think she'll continue, you'll be surprised
Speaker 1: and I won't say your name, or maybe you won't
Speaker 1: be surprised that in twenty years she'll still be doing
Speaker 1: stupid stuff and you will continue to be disgusted. But
Speaker 1: there's not a thing you can do to change it.
Speaker 1: Maybe just keep her at arm's length and just kind
Speaker 1: of like maybe write her out of your life as
Speaker 1: much as you can. That is going to do it
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