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<v Speaker 1>Here we go with the Minnesota Goodbye. Basically, it is

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<v Speaker 1>as compendium a word Bailey of the emails, a comprehensive browsing. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what does compendium mean? Is that? Is it a compendium

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<v Speaker 1>of emails? The proper terminology.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of so it's a collection of concise but detailed

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<v Speaker 2>information about a particular subject, especially in a book or

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<v Speaker 2>other publication.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of probably wrong about it a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what's funny is that years ago there was

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<v Speaker 1>a radio ad and it's like, you can improve your vocabulary.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll learn a new word every single day with this

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<v Speaker 1>series of I think it was probably cassette tapes. It

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<v Speaker 1>was so long ago, and you'll learn a new word

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<v Speaker 1>and they'd use words like nobody and I And I

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<v Speaker 1>thought to myself, why would I ever want to learn

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of words that no one knows what they mean,

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<v Speaker 1>like compendium? And I think you should call the show

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<v Speaker 1>pendium today maybe, but but is I think one of

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<v Speaker 1>the gifts of like being being a good communicator is

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<v Speaker 1>to speak in simple but colorful terms. Yes, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like you don't want to use words that people go,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what she meant by that. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>if you can color it up by like you walk

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<v Speaker 1>into a room that smells like, I don't know, lasagna,

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<v Speaker 1>you could say like, as I walked it in, I

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<v Speaker 1>walked in, I could almost see those lasagna bubbling in

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<v Speaker 1>the pan. It's juicy, red, cheesy goodness bubbling up the

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<v Speaker 1>sides of the pan as it filled the air with

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<v Speaker 1>a wonderful aroma of Italian spices, cheese and red. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean that type of thing. Yeah, I mean yeah, Not

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<v Speaker 1>once did I use a big word in there.

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<v Speaker 2>So I agree with you because I work with high

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<v Speaker 2>schoolers that I keep telling them you got to be conversational,

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<v Speaker 2>but have slightly elevated language so you know what you're

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<v Speaker 2>talking about without sounding like you know too much. I

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<v Speaker 2>heard it elevated language, just like instead of saying, so today,

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<v Speaker 2>we're first gonna talk about a problem, and then we're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna talk about some other things like the effects of

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<v Speaker 2>the problem, and then we're gonna come up with some solutions,

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<v Speaker 2>like we don't want to use some like words like

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<v Speaker 2>gunna or like wanna. So first we will gather together

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<v Speaker 2>to review the problem and blah blah blah, just like

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<v Speaker 2>elevate it a little bit, but like, there are some

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<v Speaker 2>kids who I heard a kid say that something stemy's progress,

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<v Speaker 2>and I wrote down the word stemy's. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>there's no way that this sixteen year old kid knows

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<v Speaker 2>the word stymy's. He definitely looked it up on the thesaurus,

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<v Speaker 2>or a coach or a teacher wrote it for him.

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<v Speaker 2>Steiny's who says that no quai.

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<v Speaker 1>In regular conversation, but I think it is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>a colorful word.

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<v Speaker 2>Personally it is, but you would never use it in conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Here is a note about Bailey from Molly. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>know Molly Bartel by any chance?

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<v Speaker 3>Um?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I thought maybe you worked with her or something,

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<v Speaker 1>She says. I want to send a quick note to

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<v Speaker 1>say how often I think of Bailey being able to

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<v Speaker 1>work on the Dave Ryan Show. She grew up here

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<v Speaker 1>listen forever and now is there how surreal that must

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<v Speaker 1>be for her? Oh? I thought I thought there was

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<v Speaker 1>something here that said she knew you, but so apparently not.

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<v Speaker 1>So glad she said yes, cheers to so many of

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<v Speaker 1>us who were here, who were here were her, and

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<v Speaker 1>think about how cool it really is. Molly dart Lick,

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<v Speaker 1>If I'm in the moody.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks Molly.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think it would be weird to like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I grew up listening to a radio station in Colorado

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<v Speaker 1>Springs that was the radio station, and then I eventually

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<v Speaker 1>got to work there, and it was a little bit surreal,

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<v Speaker 1>like Wow, I am on kys N, the big station

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<v Speaker 1>that everybody listened to, and it was really cool. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Lena had the same thing. Lena grew up here basically,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she's on the show like from two thousand

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<v Speaker 1>and seven to twenty eleven, I think, and so kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the same thing with her and I today.

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<v Speaker 2>Earlier on the show, we were talking about was it

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<v Speaker 2>dark Horse.

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<v Speaker 3>Or dark dark Stars, dark Star dark Star.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I remember when I when I got hired, I

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<v Speaker 2>called my dad to tell him and he said that

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<v Speaker 2>I was the new dark Star because apparently the guy

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<v Speaker 2>who is named dark Star who was on did you

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<v Speaker 2>say WCCO, yep, Yeah, that he was just like a

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<v Speaker 2>guy who would call in to talk about I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>football or something, and then he just kept calling in,

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<v Speaker 2>calling in to be kind of like their weird little

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<v Speaker 2>specialist for this one thing, and then he was on

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<v Speaker 2>it and was like super well known and popular, and

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<v Speaker 2>he's like, you're.

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<v Speaker 3>The new dark Star.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, and that's funny.

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<v Speaker 2>No idea what he was talking about, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, Wow Darkstar was big on WCCO back in the nineties,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've heard of him, but I did I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>actively listen to him.

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<v Speaker 3>So he passed away, right, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I do believe he died. Yeah, I'm not sure. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>probably in the last ten years or so. Here is

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<v Speaker 1>an interesting one, Dave a while ago, when you were

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<v Speaker 1>in Las Vegas and the elevator with a single woman

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<v Speaker 1>and she wanted you to get out. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you remember the story, and I don't think about

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<v Speaker 1>it that often, but I was in an elevator in

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<v Speaker 1>Las Vegas and I was right I either was about

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<v Speaker 1>to get on the elevator and she said I'd rather

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<v Speaker 1>not ride with you, because you know, here I am

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<v Speaker 1>a dude and she was a young woman, and or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I was on the elevator and she asked me

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<v Speaker 1>to get out. I don't remember, and I did because

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<v Speaker 1>I was not going to start an argument with her.

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<v Speaker 1>But really it was really offensive. It was really offensive.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, listen, if you're going to be out in public,

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to encounter people that you don't know, and

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<v Speaker 1>some of them might be men. You cannot be rude

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<v Speaker 1>to every guy and ask him not to ride on

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<v Speaker 1>the elevator. But like I said, I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>start a fight. This guy goes on to say, did

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<v Speaker 1>you ever feel like it was a setup? As if

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<v Speaker 1>she picked a floor for you to leave the elevator,

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<v Speaker 1>she might have had people there ready to mug or

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<v Speaker 1>rob you. Las Vegas is one of the last cash

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<v Speaker 1>carrying cities. Nope, never even occur to me.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess I don't understand that. Why would she, Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>because you were already on that floor, so she had

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<v Speaker 3>people ready to mug you on that floor?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what it means? I don't remember exactly. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it might have been when she got on she said,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to ride with you, Can you take

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<v Speaker 1>another car? Something like that, And I haven't thought about

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<v Speaker 1>that in months, but I just thought it was really

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<v Speaker 1>weird and very like, Okay, you can't walk around in

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<v Speaker 1>public asking anybody to make way for you. If you

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<v Speaker 1>have a problem, that's kind of your problem. Agree or disagree?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think it depends on how you remember

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<v Speaker 3>that story or not. Because I don't remember if she

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<v Speaker 3>was like already on the elevator, then like she probably

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<v Speaker 3>could have just gotten off in that moment. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know. I guess. I guess it's all about whatever

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<v Speaker 3>her experience was that caused her to ask you to

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<v Speaker 3>get off the elevator, is.

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<v Speaker 1>What it comes to.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's not my problem, okay, But like, also, you're right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's not your problem. But I think that like she

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<v Speaker 3>probably was only doing it because of something that traumatized

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<v Speaker 1>It's not my problem.

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<v Speaker 3>Again, not my problem, Okay, Well, I mean that's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't have to like do something just because she

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<v Speaker 3>asked you to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>You could think.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's just like a polite situation where it's like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what you're you've been through, I'm just

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<v Speaker 3>gonna step off the elevator. She could have gotten off herself, obviously.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so she definitely could have gotten off herself.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but there was nobody waiting there to mug me.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm really happy about that. So that would have

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<v Speaker 1>been what a ploy though, But there's cameras everywhere. You

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<v Speaker 1>really can't get away with I mean, you know there's

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<v Speaker 1>security camp. We learn there's security camera here in the

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<v Speaker 1>radio station because when I spit water by accident into

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<v Speaker 1>the board last week, they got it on the security camera.

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<v Speaker 1>So can't go anywhere, all right. Stephanie writes in it's

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<v Speaker 1>garbage day to day in our neighborhood. And I just

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<v Speaker 1>saw garbage person get out of their truck, walk down

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<v Speaker 1>a long driveway of a neighbor, bring their garbage bin

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<v Speaker 1>to the curb, empty the bin, and went to the

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<v Speaker 1>next house. What a wonderful person to do that for

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who didn't remember to bring their bin down the driveway.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out to that hero.

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<v Speaker 3>That's so nice. Our garbage didnt get picked up last week,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm really salty about it. I don't know what

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<v Speaker 3>was going on. We had our bin out and it

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<v Speaker 3>is completely full and we can't fit anything else in it.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't that the worst when you forget to put your

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<v Speaker 1>garbage out And it's like, oh God.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I don't have that problem. I live in an

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<v Speaker 2>apartment building.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you put yours on a shoot or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, sometimes you like go out to like put your

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<v Speaker 2>recycling in. Because we just have like giant dumpsters in

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<v Speaker 2>the back of our building, and the entire like recycling

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<v Speaker 2>dumpster is completely full. You're like, but I have a

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<v Speaker 2>box and three bags and so many things to shove

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<v Speaker 2>in here. But apparently I don't know how often they

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<v Speaker 2>bring the recycling truck around, but it's not nearly enough.

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<v Speaker 3>It's also because your apartment people don't break down their boxes. Also,

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<v Speaker 3>that was a hot debate in my apartment when Don

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<v Speaker 3>the groundskeeper, would literally pull boxes out and be like,

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<v Speaker 3>you need to break this down, and like left a

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<v Speaker 3>note on our.

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<v Speaker 2>Do especially hazard like name on it too. This was

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<v Speaker 2>delivered to you an Amazon box as a giant. Put

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<v Speaker 2>it back outside your door. Break down your box, idiot,

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that'd be good.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the worst I've got In my house in Minnesota.

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<v Speaker 1>We got a bunch of Amazon boxes that I need

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<v Speaker 1>to break down for recycling, and I just haven't. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>they're all stacked on top of each other. I just

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<v Speaker 1>haven't gotten around to it. So one day last email,

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<v Speaker 1>don't say my name. Okay, this is really interesting. I

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<v Speaker 1>read through this earlier first time writer, longtime listener, and

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<v Speaker 1>we might be able to do this on the show

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<v Speaker 1>as well, because it really is like a show flavored

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<v Speaker 1>email situation bothering me for some weeks. Now, love to

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<v Speaker 1>hear your opinions. My sister is twenty six and recently

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<v Speaker 1>left an abusive relationship about eight months ago. She started

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<v Speaker 1>dating this guy when and she was seventeen and he

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<v Speaker 1>was fifty and married with three kids. Fifty married with

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<v Speaker 1>three kids, she was seventeen, he divorced his wife or

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<v Speaker 1>my sister anyway, I was beyond happy when she left

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<v Speaker 1>that situation. I'm gonna tell you there's not a decent

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<v Speaker 1>man who would marry a seventeen year old or date

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<v Speaker 1>a seventeen year old a fifty year old. There is

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<v Speaker 1>no decent fifty year old man that would say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>this person who's not even of legal age yet seems

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<v Speaker 1>like a great partner. That guy has got some problems

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<v Speaker 1>and it turns out, yeah, he was abusive. Fast forward

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<v Speaker 1>to now she's dating somebody new. He is also married,

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<v Speaker 1>lives with his wife, AND's got a six year old kid.

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<v Speaker 2>Es.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm absolutely disgusted, in shocked she's dated another married man

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<v Speaker 1>and breaking up another family. I've tried to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>her about it, but she said, I'm not doing anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>The worst part is he met my parents last weekend

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<v Speaker 1>and they are fully accepting of him. Am I justified

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<v Speaker 1>for being disgusted and angry at my sister for continuously

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<v Speaker 1>putting herself in the same situations and wrecking homes. I

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<v Speaker 1>am outraged and not sure how to proceed. At family

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<v Speaker 1>gatherings and other interactions I will have with them, any

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<v Speaker 1>advice will be greatly appreciated. I would say, there's not

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<v Speaker 1>a thing you can do your sister as an adult.

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<v Speaker 1>She will do exactly what she wants to do. She'll

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<v Speaker 1>justify it in her mind, and she will continue to

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<v Speaker 1>do this probably the rest of her life. Maybe not

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<v Speaker 1>this specifically, but she will do stupid things for the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of her life. I've got stupid people in my family,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've just I distance myself. I keep them at

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<v Speaker 1>arm's length, and I don't try to get them to change.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds like her sister needs therapy, honestly, because why

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<v Speaker 3>is she going after people who are unavailable? Like there's

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<v Speaker 3>something going on with her that's like allowing her to

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<v Speaker 3>like continue in a relationship with someone who can't even

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<v Speaker 3>fully give themselves to her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I also think it's like a two way Street, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not just her who's making the choices, it's the

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<v Speaker 2>guys who are married men who are actively seeking out

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<v Speaker 2>someone else. And she's obviously like it takes two to tango.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean, they're obviously at fault too, But I

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<v Speaker 3>think that, like, she's already been burned pretty badly by

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<v Speaker 3>the first situation, So why is she continuing to do

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<v Speaker 3>something that already turned out really badly? Something's wrong with her?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and very possibly. And I think that when you

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<v Speaker 1>say something's wrong either her way of thinking or mentally

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever, and I think she'll continue, you'll be surprised

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<v Speaker 1>and I won't say your name, or maybe you won't

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<v Speaker 1>be surprised that in twenty years she'll still be doing

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<v Speaker 1>stupid stuff and you will continue to be disgusted. But

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<v Speaker 1>there's not a thing you can do to change it.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe just keep her at arm's length and just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like maybe write her out of your life as

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<v Speaker 1>much as you can. That is going to do it

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