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Speaker 1: It's all about making a connection. Erro dot net a

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r r oe dot net. I am a podcast listener

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that just happens to have a podcast. So when I

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go searching for things that I want to be entertained by,

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I want to have the power of choice. Oh you do.

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On ero dot net. There are seventeen podcasts to choose

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from a r oe dot net. Enjoy your exploration. This

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one's gonna be a little heavy today. I'm telling you it.

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It came to me when I least expected it. But

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because I'm a daily writer and I trust in the

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process of bringing words forward, whatever you feel in your

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moment of all things right now, put it on a

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page and grow with it. And that's what's happening here.

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And I probably will lose you because there are many

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times that I've sat here in this research and thought

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to myself, way over my head, way over my head.

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I'm always asking questions. The fun begins when you start

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researching for answers such as how important is it to reflect?

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Is it breaking the rules of trying to live in

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this thing we call the present? The right now? Plus

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is there an art to picking up life's every day

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broken pieces? My name is erro. I'm a daily writer,

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a silent wolf. I stand on the sidelines and do

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nothing but watch, listen, study, then activate. I happen to

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call it the daily Mess, a chronological walk through an

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everyday world. Yeah, it is my morning writing as a

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receiver of thoughts and ideas. We as people tend to

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throw things to the side because we think we're gonna

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deal with it later on. The hell is what I

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thought this morning. This one is not getting away. Once again,

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I warn you it's gonna be heavy. When a subject

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arrives inside of me, I know it's time to dig in.

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It's still keeping that daily journal, but by doing the research,

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the picture becomes clearer. This is the daily Mess. How

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important is it to reflect? Because I have a seriously

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out of control problem when it comes to that subject.

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Reflect because I believe it's living in the past. And

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is it breaking the rules of living in the past,

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you know, being in the now. Mental health experts did

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not hide behind a stone to put on display why

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reflecting is very important in your life, and no, it

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does not break the rules surrounding a life of living

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in the present. Here's a very important lesson that I

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want you to tuck away inside your heart. There is

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a huge difference between being present versus having a presence.

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I gotta say that again. There is a huge difference

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between being present versus having a presence. A presence is

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about where your attention lives, not what time period you

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live in or what time period you're thinking about. Presence

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versus present. I'm here, you're here. This is your presence

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of now. But is it your act of being present? Oh?

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Everything has to be twenty twenty six. That's the way

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I'm thinking, because I do everything to stay in the present,

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and when I came across this, for the love of God,

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I was wrong, one hundred percent wrong. I'm the one

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that's violating the rules. If I don't want to flash

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back to nineteen ninety three, not to live it, but

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to reflect on it, I am denying myself access to

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the presence of something that could be a learning tool.

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A healthy reflection takes place in the present you are

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thinking about something, not reliving it. Reflection can easily pull

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you out of your presence. It can lead to rumination.

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Oh god, it took that long to get to that word. Rumination,

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the same loop with no insight. How many people do

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you know that live in rumination, including yourself? So you

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gotta ask yourself, am I adding an understanding? Or am

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I adding more weights to this thing called my present

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place of now? This is my presence. Coming up next

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the quote that fell from my writing instrument. I never

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know what's going to end up on a page when

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I begin. Hey, welcome back to the daily mess. This

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quote fell from my writing instrument this morning. The name

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of that writing instrument Mama White, which is in honor

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of my white, beautiful dove that was with me for

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nearly twenty years. Mama White. Okay, this is what happened

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when I put ink on the nib of this writing instrument.

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These are the words. The best way to to pick

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up the pieces is to stop grinding the glass back

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into sand. The best way to pick up the pieces

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is to stop grinding the glass back into sand. I

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had to instantly chat gpt this, What does it mean?

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How can I apply this? The goal or the ambition

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is to stop rehashing or re injuring yourself with the

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same pain. Then it gets really deep. You don't gather

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what's left by rubbing the damage deeper. Oh God, you

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don't gather what's left. By rubbing the damage deeper, you

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gather it by stopping the harm. The best way to

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pick up the pieces is to stop grinding the glass

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back into sand. It takes us right to the present

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place of now, and right here is where we're facing

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the difference. But yet the similarity of presents and being present.

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If stuck in all things literally right now, that is present,

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but without reflection, your presence in the story is staying.

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Because what is required is for you to stop grinding

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the glass into sand. My daily writing is a very

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good example of that. If I don't go back one year,

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or twenty five years, or all thirty three years of

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my daily writing to reflect, then these pages right here

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are absolutely worthless. Reflection helps you. Rumination is what harms you,

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and that's the barrier that you've got to face. You've

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got to be able to look at that chariot and say,

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you our rumination. I keep living the same story over

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and over and over again. I am not in the present. Well,

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if you identify yourself, you are. But if you're not

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going to do something about it, then your presence begins

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to fade. The best way to pick up the pieces

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is to stop grinding the glass back into sand. I'm arrow,

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and that's the daily mess.