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Speaker 1: One of my favorite features on ero dot net Aarroe

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I'm always asking questions, and the reason why is because

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the fun begins when you start researching for those answers,

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such as, when making New Year's resolutions, aren't we, in

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reality setting ourselves up for failure? Plus? How can we

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create a more positive path towards setting goals and meeting ambitions?

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My name is Erro. I'm a daily writer, a silent wolf.

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I stand on the sidelines and do nothing but watch, listen, study,

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than activate. I call it the daily Mess, a chronological

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walk through an everyday world. Yeah, it's my morning writing

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as a receiver of thoughts and ideas, We as people

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tend to throw things to the side because we're so

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convinced that we're gonna deal with it later on. Is

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it on your calendar? What about now? What about now?

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Have you done it yet? See what I mean? See

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what I mean when a subject arrives inside of me.

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I know it's time to dig in. It's still keeping

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that daily journal. But but but but but by doing

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the research, the picture becomes clearer. This is the daily

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mess when making New Year's resolutions, aren't we just kind

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of setting ourselves up for failure? The short answer is yes,

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I didn't say that. Mental health experts said that. Yes,

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But we truly don't have to feel like a failure.

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A New Year's resolution always feels inspiring. It's the way

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we frame the resolutions that can get us in trouble

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with a struggle. So why do they fail? Well, they're

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date based, not behavioral based. January first of every single

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year is a twenty four hour period of high pressure

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as well as symbolism not readiness. New Year's resolutions are

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usually focused in on shaping an outcome, you know, like

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losing thirty pounds by eating less sugar. Oh man, that

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could be big results. No clear action takes place. The

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motivation that New Year's resolutions generate doesn't stay locked into

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that red bull rush. Motivation has a way of fading.

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I mean, seriously, when it comes down to it, a

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New Year's resolution is an all or nothing challenge. One

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slip up, and your inner core of belief instantly slideses

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that little failure sticker right there onto your forehead. I mean,

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it's because we've been trained that if something fails, it

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means something about me. That's not growth, that's actually shame

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dressed up as ambition. Hey, coming up next, if we

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aren't creating New Year's resolutions, how do we expect to

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set new goals and projections? Hey? Thanks for coming back

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to the daily mess. We all agree that creating a

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resolution can be a setting up of failure. Well, what

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happens if we decide to not create New Year's resolutions?

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How do we expect to set new goals and projections

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for the new year. Well, let's make it clear new

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Year's resolutions are guilty of a serious crime, turning self

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improvement into a moral test. There's a much better way

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to look at this. Don't set yourself up with another

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worthless resolution. Go into it as an experiment. What happens

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if I were to take a ten minute walk every

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single day? That was me like three years ago. I

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call it a transition walk today. But what happens if

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I take a ten minute walk every day? It changed

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my life? What if I stopped eating after eight pm?

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You know what happened. I went from two eleven to

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one seventy four when it comes to my weight because

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I stopped eating late at night. What if I stripped

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away many things such as know the identity builders? Am

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I not kind of reconstructing my identity? If even I

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take an experiment and put it into forward motion, well,

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the goal is to do all you can to toy

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away with the idea of no longer rushing into a meal.

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I want you to think about that. We live in

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a world overtaken by movement. To face directional change every

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single day, choose up the need to create a resolution.

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It gets in the way of seasonal intentions and more.

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I mean, we're trying to fit our entire life into

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a ten pound potato sack. Research shows got to bring

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in the research. It shows that people who don't make

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resolutions actually grow more, They quit less, they learn new

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projects much faster, and stay kinder to their inner selves.

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Screw the act of resolutions and adopt intentional and flexible

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actions that actually lead toward personal growth. Him Merril, And

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that's the daily mess