WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.920 --> 00:00:04.320 What if the answers you're searching for are already within 2 00:00:04.400 --> 00:00:08.560 you here at Richer Within. We believe they are, and 3 00:00:08.599 --> 00:00:12.519 we're here to help you discover them. I'm Catherine, joined 4 00:00:12.519 --> 00:00:17.679 by Dynamo doctor Pat. Together we blend science and spirituality 5 00:00:17.839 --> 00:00:21.320 to guide you in reconnecting with your inner wisdom and 6 00:00:21.519 --> 00:00:26.879 unique magnificence. Tune in for inspiring stories and practical strategies 7 00:00:26.960 --> 00:00:31.640 to boost clarity, embrace your worth, and spark meaningful change. 8 00:00:32.359 --> 00:00:40.600 Ready to unlock your inner wealth, start your transformation? Now, Hi, everyone, 9 00:00:40.640 --> 00:00:42.799 we have a great show for you today. This is 10 00:00:42.920 --> 00:00:47.079 so cool, right you know, I get to join Catherine 11 00:00:47.119 --> 00:00:50.240 to do this show and I'm always amazed at what 12 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:55.200 Catherine shows up to talk about. Today, we're talking about 13 00:00:55.679 --> 00:01:00.640 you are the party and this is a broader conversation 14 00:01:00.799 --> 00:01:04.560 than you may think. Just remember that phrase, you are 15 00:01:04.680 --> 00:01:08.120 the party Captain. This is such an important energy right now. 16 00:01:08.159 --> 00:01:12.560 Thank you for taking this topic on. You know, every 17 00:01:12.599 --> 00:01:15.000 one of us has something that comes in our mind, 18 00:01:15.079 --> 00:01:18.040 that comes in our field. Can you talk about what 19 00:01:18.239 --> 00:01:21.680 this was for you? Where you're just saying, unlike that 20 00:01:21.799 --> 00:01:26.280 old school song, it's my party, right, but this is 21 00:01:26.359 --> 00:01:29.040 about you are the party. Talk about that for a minute, 22 00:01:29.040 --> 00:01:32.280 and thank you for picking this topic. Well, thanks for 23 00:01:32.319 --> 00:01:35.159 having fun with it with me. I'm excited about it. Yeah, 24 00:01:36.040 --> 00:01:37.799 you know, just a couple of weeks ago, this came 25 00:01:37.879 --> 00:01:41.560 up for me. I was headed for a friend's birthday 26 00:01:41.599 --> 00:01:45.439 party and I could see the party happening half a 27 00:01:45.480 --> 00:01:49.840 block away. They were all under this covered area outside 28 00:01:49.840 --> 00:01:52.599 of the restaurant, and I was noticing who was there 29 00:01:52.799 --> 00:01:54.920 and kind of who wasn't there, and send people that 30 00:01:55.000 --> 00:01:57.519 I didn't know, and see if I wasn't quite sure 31 00:01:57.560 --> 00:02:01.959 of and I started going, you know, I'm not too 32 00:02:01.959 --> 00:02:05.599 sure about this, and I'm not that great in crowds, 33 00:02:05.640 --> 00:02:08.520 and I'm not I'm kind of tired. I hiked all 34 00:02:08.599 --> 00:02:10.599 day and I'm not sure this outfit is right. And 35 00:02:10.680 --> 00:02:15.080 I literally felt my body start to shrink. I literally 36 00:02:15.080 --> 00:02:19.000 felt like I was getting smaller. And in that moment, 37 00:02:19.240 --> 00:02:24.520 I caught myself and went, wait a minute, wait a minute, 38 00:02:25.560 --> 00:02:35.520 I am the party. All I remembered. I am the party. 39 00:02:35.599 --> 00:02:41.240 I am the party. So what does that mean? I said, Okay, mindset. 40 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:47.120 I choose to show up as graceful, I choose to 41 00:02:47.159 --> 00:02:50.759 show up as open. I choose to show up as curious, 42 00:02:51.800 --> 00:02:55.639 I choose to be open to having a better time 43 00:02:55.680 --> 00:02:58.960 than he would imagine. I give myself permission to be me. 44 00:02:59.719 --> 00:03:03.439 I know how to be here. I am the party, 45 00:03:04.560 --> 00:03:08.680 and I grew another three inches. And I went to 46 00:03:08.719 --> 00:03:10.840 the party and I had such a great time. I 47 00:03:10.919 --> 00:03:14.120 met new people, I got to speak with the people 48 00:03:14.159 --> 00:03:17.319 that I didn't know very well, and they were wonderful 49 00:03:18.360 --> 00:03:20.360 and it was so much fun that I didn't want 50 00:03:20.400 --> 00:03:22.639 to leave. But I had another I had a dance 51 00:03:22.759 --> 00:03:28.439 party to go to and it was it was so fulfilling. 52 00:03:28.560 --> 00:03:31.439 The host actually had a birthday cake for all of us, 53 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:34.960 so I did get to have my cake and eat 54 00:03:35.000 --> 00:03:35.360 it too. 55 00:03:36.560 --> 00:03:39.360 But you know, what you described so often is like 56 00:03:39.439 --> 00:03:44.240 a metaphor for life, because how often do we either 57 00:03:44.360 --> 00:03:49.360 not do something or contemplate it beyond the point of 58 00:03:49.360 --> 00:03:54.240 being on time to do something. Now that's a different 59 00:03:54.319 --> 00:03:58.520 version of procrastination. I think, you know, there's procrastination because 60 00:03:58.680 --> 00:04:03.479 l la la la whatever, But then there's the avoidance procrastination. Right, 61 00:04:05.120 --> 00:04:09.199 how did you overcome that? Because that's big for me too. Boy, 62 00:04:09.719 --> 00:04:12.719 people don't get that. I'm like a super introvert, so 63 00:04:12.840 --> 00:04:15.919 going to a party, it's like I'd rather sit in 64 00:04:15.960 --> 00:04:20.560 my closet and be on my tablet ah. 65 00:04:20.959 --> 00:04:26.759 Well, for me, it's remembering that I am not dependent 66 00:04:26.920 --> 00:04:32.240 on external circumstances to have the experience that I want 67 00:04:32.279 --> 00:04:37.720 to have wherever I am. So rather than relying on Okay, 68 00:04:37.759 --> 00:04:40.399 who's at the party, who's not at the party? 69 00:04:41.120 --> 00:04:41.360 Right? 70 00:04:41.399 --> 00:04:44.959 Am I dressed well enough? Am I going to fit in? 71 00:04:45.839 --> 00:04:52.480 It's more about bringing ourselves first, bringing myself first to 72 00:04:52.560 --> 00:04:55.560 the party, bringing yourselft to the part. How do you 73 00:04:55.600 --> 00:04:56.800 want to show up? Do you want to be a 74 00:04:56.839 --> 00:04:59.480 little mischievous that night at that party because you're feeling 75 00:04:59.560 --> 00:05:02.639 a little, you know, a little of that resistance. So 76 00:05:03.160 --> 00:05:08.040 it's really about that practice of flipping. When we want 77 00:05:08.120 --> 00:05:10.959 to have an experience other than we're having, well, then 78 00:05:10.959 --> 00:05:13.319 what do we want to have? How do we want 79 00:05:13.360 --> 00:05:16.759 to show up? Right? And I understand what you're talking 80 00:05:16.759 --> 00:05:18.680 about because there's parties that I've been to and I 81 00:05:18.720 --> 00:05:20.480 come home and I'm like, why didn't I dance? 82 00:05:21.319 --> 00:05:21.800 Yeah? 83 00:05:22.240 --> 00:05:24.959 Right? Why didn't I approach that person that seemed curious 84 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:28.199 about me? Why? And you know, it's a great place 85 00:05:28.279 --> 00:05:32.839 for reflection because it's how willing am I to be 86 00:05:33.600 --> 00:05:36.800 man to just love myself enough to show up just 87 00:05:36.920 --> 00:05:41.920 as I am, regardless and be able to go with 88 00:05:42.079 --> 00:05:42.720 that flow. 89 00:05:44.199 --> 00:05:46.199 Yeah, and you know, part of this is what we 90 00:05:46.240 --> 00:05:50.839 tell ourselves, right, I was listening. I do a lot 91 00:05:50.879 --> 00:05:53.279 of listening because I'm a work in progress, so I 92 00:05:53.399 --> 00:05:56.800 have to listen. I be reminded of different things. And 93 00:05:56.879 --> 00:05:58.959 you know, one of the things that we do. We're 94 00:05:59.000 --> 00:06:02.519 great in talking with ourselves. But how great are we 95 00:06:02.720 --> 00:06:06.240 affirming ourselves? Like I don't want to go to the 96 00:06:06.240 --> 00:06:11.040 party because I look too fat. That one is been 97 00:06:11.240 --> 00:06:16.160 measured by society. That's like the number one statistic about 98 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:20.480 why people don't do something. Now, it doesn't just mean 99 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:23.560 that it's body image. Right, So we're all cut out 100 00:06:24.160 --> 00:06:27.240 an entire event that we could have fun. 101 00:06:28.480 --> 00:06:30.720 But what if we were just us? 102 00:06:30.920 --> 00:06:33.879 What if you could just be yourself? 103 00:06:35.879 --> 00:06:43.600 And that's the ticket, That is the ticket, It's our authenticity. 104 00:06:44.800 --> 00:06:49.920 And in my mind, that's what we're here for. Yeah, 105 00:06:49.959 --> 00:06:54.000 because you know I am here, You are here, everyone 106 00:06:54.040 --> 00:06:58.000 who is listening. We are fourteen billion years in the 107 00:06:58.079 --> 00:07:02.279 process of being us, and there will only ever be 108 00:07:02.360 --> 00:07:05.279 I mean think about that for a second. Really, fourteen 109 00:07:05.439 --> 00:07:12.120 billion years of evolution, that is what we are, and 110 00:07:12.160 --> 00:07:15.680 we only have one chance in this physical form to 111 00:07:15.839 --> 00:07:19.480 experience this life for life to experience itself through us. 112 00:07:19.800 --> 00:07:24.600 And so it is about embracing ourselves with that loving compassion, 113 00:07:25.560 --> 00:07:30.680 and that acceptance gives other people permission right to be 114 00:07:30.759 --> 00:07:35.120 fully accepting of who they are. And it's thank you 115 00:07:35.160 --> 00:07:39.680 for bringing that up, because it is the number one, 116 00:07:39.839 --> 00:07:44.839 the number one, the number one thing that people often 117 00:07:44.879 --> 00:07:47.680 bring to me and down on one sessions. It usually 118 00:07:48.240 --> 00:07:51.839 it comes down to self worth, self love. 119 00:07:52.959 --> 00:07:56.079 Yeah, and you know, sometimes we just need a small 120 00:07:56.160 --> 00:07:59.759 course correction to at least say I am going to 121 00:07:59.759 --> 00:08:01.519 go to the party. It doesn't mean you're going to 122 00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:03.959 go to every single party that shows up for you, 123 00:08:04.360 --> 00:08:08.279 but when you realize you are the party and it's 124 00:08:08.319 --> 00:08:12.720 not controlled by whether or not there's cake. Here, here's 125 00:08:12.759 --> 00:08:13.920 something you'll laugh about. 126 00:08:14.360 --> 00:08:15.560 We have a line. 127 00:08:15.360 --> 00:08:19.480 Dancing place like maybe two models down, two miles down 128 00:08:19.560 --> 00:08:22.560 the road, and I love the whole line dancing thing, 129 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:26.480 believe it or not, true confessions. I'm really a pretty 130 00:08:26.480 --> 00:08:31.120 good two stepper. Right, So here's my big reason for 131 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:34.279 not like signing up and going. And I even, I 132 00:08:34.559 --> 00:08:36.240 mean I even got Linda to said you want to 133 00:08:36.240 --> 00:08:41.399 go learn line dancing? Right, it's amazing. I don't have 134 00:08:41.480 --> 00:08:46.200 my dancing boots anymore. I left them back and say, okay, 135 00:08:46.519 --> 00:08:48.519 do you believe that that's going to be my reason 136 00:08:48.639 --> 00:08:51.879 right there for not going dancing? Can you believe that 137 00:08:52.120 --> 00:08:54.240 now you know this and I know this, do you 138 00:08:54.440 --> 00:09:03.679 think Catherine, that that's what it's really about my boots? Yeah? 139 00:09:03.720 --> 00:09:07.480 And that's where we get to be compassionate with ourselves 140 00:09:07.480 --> 00:09:11.080 and ask ourselves, So what's behind the boots? Yeah? 141 00:09:11.159 --> 00:09:14.480 Exactly, exactly. And you know this is for all of 142 00:09:14.480 --> 00:09:17.799 you out there, because this is a message that strikes 143 00:09:17.799 --> 00:09:22.600 home quite a bit. And we've become so normalized to this, 144 00:09:23.480 --> 00:09:29.240 We've become so normalized to not being the party that 145 00:09:29.279 --> 00:09:33.440 there are so many things we compromise on. Right, So 146 00:09:33.840 --> 00:09:37.519 if people are thinking, I don't know, do I really 147 00:09:37.559 --> 00:09:41.080 want to say I am the party? That sounds so selfish. 148 00:09:41.360 --> 00:09:44.000 I mean, did that go through your mind to get 149 00:09:44.080 --> 00:09:46.200 you out of there? Because that's not the first thing 150 00:09:46.200 --> 00:09:49.519 that hits me. But it certainly is an excuse for 151 00:09:49.600 --> 00:09:51.440 not to claim you are the party? 152 00:09:52.159 --> 00:09:57.480 Mm hmm. And that's a good question to me. It's 153 00:09:57.879 --> 00:10:01.639 if I were coming from an egotistical place, I would 154 00:10:01.639 --> 00:10:05.559 walk into that party and I would steal the limelight 155 00:10:05.879 --> 00:10:09.440 from the birthday man right. I would do everything I 156 00:10:09.440 --> 00:10:12.759 could to be the center of attention. I would talk 157 00:10:13.000 --> 00:10:15.759 and talk and talk and talk and talk, and I 158 00:10:15.879 --> 00:10:20.399 would not be paying attention to people's body cues. I 159 00:10:20.399 --> 00:10:23.879 would just want to be the center of attention no 160 00:10:23.960 --> 00:10:27.000 matter what. To me, that would be coming from an 161 00:10:27.039 --> 00:10:31.200 egotistical place. That, to me, is very different than showing 162 00:10:31.320 --> 00:10:39.879 up authentic. And there's something very magnetic about authenticity, and 163 00:10:39.919 --> 00:10:47.840 if far outweighs charisma, people are drawn to authenticity. And 164 00:10:47.879 --> 00:10:52.360 so the difference between the authenticity and the ego drivenness. 165 00:10:52.360 --> 00:10:54.720 When I say I am the party, it's just remembering, 166 00:10:54.759 --> 00:10:58.000 you know what, I'm bringing my full self here. Yeah, 167 00:10:58.759 --> 00:11:03.360 and I am going to take full responsibility for my 168 00:11:03.799 --> 00:11:07.240 experience here. That's the other part of it. I'm not 169 00:11:08.159 --> 00:11:10.279 grasping on to somebody else to make sure I have 170 00:11:10.360 --> 00:11:14.360 a good time or anything like that. It's it's the 171 00:11:14.440 --> 00:11:18.759 whole thing about I am richer within myself, and that's 172 00:11:18.840 --> 00:11:22.240 how I'm choosing to show up. It's a choice. Yeah, 173 00:11:22.279 --> 00:11:25.960 it's not a drive. It's a choice. It's so interesting. 174 00:11:26.120 --> 00:11:30.240 So you went to the party, Yeah, yeah, okay, did 175 00:11:30.279 --> 00:11:31.080 you dance. 176 00:11:32.360 --> 00:11:34.519 Well they were dancing afterwards, but I was going to 177 00:11:34.559 --> 00:11:35.519 a different kind of dance. 178 00:11:36.080 --> 00:11:39.279 Oh right, oh yes, and I went and I danced 179 00:11:39.320 --> 00:11:44.320 my Now, look at your double book and very nice. 180 00:11:43.480 --> 00:11:47.039 But you see, that's what I'm trying to say, to 181 00:11:47.159 --> 00:11:51.200 really muster up the energy around I am the party. 182 00:11:51.279 --> 00:11:53.919 It's so important. Let's take it on a bigger Let's 183 00:11:53.919 --> 00:11:59.240 take it to a bigger stage for a minute. Because look, 184 00:11:59.279 --> 00:12:02.960 I'm around a lot of different business people, but I'm 185 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:08.039 around athletes a lot, and I watch people looking at 186 00:12:08.080 --> 00:12:12.159 a championship pipe athlete and saying, oh, they're egotistical, they're arrogant. 187 00:12:12.600 --> 00:12:15.039 Well I don't know that they are. I think that 188 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:17.759 they believe they are the party and they show up 189 00:12:17.759 --> 00:12:22.360 as the party. How can we incorporate this in our 190 00:12:22.519 --> 00:12:26.519 entire life? Do you understand what I'm saying? How can 191 00:12:26.600 --> 00:12:29.960 we take this and say, wait a minute, I'm not 192 00:12:30.120 --> 00:12:33.279 just a party at my friend's birthday, or I'm not 193 00:12:33.360 --> 00:12:37.919 the party at that line dancing place. Can I be 194 00:12:38.000 --> 00:12:40.440 the party everywhere? Right? 195 00:12:41.480 --> 00:12:45.799 And that's the question. What if life is a party? 196 00:12:45.960 --> 00:12:50.159 And when I say party, I mean a celebration. What 197 00:12:50.240 --> 00:12:55.440 if it's a gift to be enjoyed. When we think 198 00:12:55.480 --> 00:12:58.840 of the emotional vibrational scale, every motion carries a vibration. 199 00:12:59.399 --> 00:13:05.240 What's it? The bliss, peace, joy, those are at the 200 00:13:05.240 --> 00:13:08.919 top of the vibrational scale. So what if we're hardwired 201 00:13:08.960 --> 00:13:11.720 for it? And when we're not in that state, we 202 00:13:11.759 --> 00:13:16.440 feel the dissonance because life wants to be joyful and 203 00:13:16.519 --> 00:13:21.919 expressive and expressing itself. And so there's everyday gatherings like 204 00:13:21.960 --> 00:13:24.679 you're talking about, doctor Pat. How are we showing up 205 00:13:24.679 --> 00:13:27.559 at the grocery store? Are we chatting with the person there? 206 00:13:28.039 --> 00:13:30.960 How are we showing up at work? How are we 207 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:34.480 showing up in family situations? How are we showing up 208 00:13:34.600 --> 00:13:39.720 wherever we are? At a basketball game, at a yoga class, 209 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:45.639 wherever we show up? How about that? I'd love to 210 00:13:45.639 --> 00:13:49.399 give you an example. Yeah, please do work. I know 211 00:13:49.440 --> 00:13:53.879 it can be a really challenging place to be in joy. 212 00:13:54.399 --> 00:13:58.639 And my first professional job was with a bankruptcy attorney. 213 00:13:59.320 --> 00:14:02.039 And I don't know how I got that job. I 214 00:14:02.080 --> 00:14:04.240 didn't really even know how to type very well. But 215 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:09.639 it was just myself and this bankruptcy attorney on a 216 00:14:09.679 --> 00:14:13.639 floor of other attorneys. And this person was one of 217 00:14:13.639 --> 00:14:18.440 the biggest grumpelophaguses I have ever known. He would come 218 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:21.639 in the office, he would not say hello, he would harumph, 219 00:14:21.840 --> 00:14:24.759 and then close this door. And then he would come 220 00:14:24.799 --> 00:14:27.480 out and give me work, give me a few instructions, 221 00:14:27.519 --> 00:14:29.879 and then he would go back in. And that's just 222 00:14:29.879 --> 00:14:32.360 how the day went. And after a while, I'm like, 223 00:14:32.440 --> 00:14:36.919 you know what, I'm not having fun and I deserve 224 00:14:37.919 --> 00:14:40.759 to have a good time at work because I'm here 225 00:14:40.960 --> 00:14:43.240 eight hours a day and I gave it my all. 226 00:14:44.039 --> 00:14:47.879 So h what can I do? What can I do? 227 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:50.919 How can I be the party? And what I did 228 00:14:51.279 --> 00:14:54.559 was I noticed that every day after he went out 229 00:14:54.600 --> 00:14:57.840 for lunch, he came back with a bag of those 230 00:14:58.080 --> 00:15:02.639 iced animal cookies, this little miniature ice things. Yeah little, 231 00:15:02.919 --> 00:15:04.000 he's on top of him. 232 00:15:04.279 --> 00:15:06.559 And I don't know them, well, I know them well, 233 00:15:08.600 --> 00:15:09.000 That's what. 234 00:15:09.039 --> 00:15:12.000 He had every single day. And so one day I 235 00:15:12.039 --> 00:15:15.919 got to the office early and I went into his office. 236 00:15:16.000 --> 00:15:18.279 I'm not sure i'd every been in there, but I 237 00:15:18.320 --> 00:15:21.320 went into his office before he got there, and I 238 00:15:21.480 --> 00:15:24.440 had bought a bag of iced animal cookies and I 239 00:15:24.519 --> 00:15:28.279 put them everywhere. I put them in his desk drawers. 240 00:15:28.679 --> 00:15:31.000 I put him on this ledge that he would open 241 00:15:31.039 --> 00:15:33.320 the curtains to for the view. I put them behind 242 00:15:33.320 --> 00:15:35.519 the curtains so idy open the curtains, he would see them. 243 00:15:35.960 --> 00:15:38.759 I put them under his phone receiver when we had them. 244 00:15:38.799 --> 00:15:43.039 I'm dating myself there, But anyway, and he came in 245 00:15:43.039 --> 00:15:46.639 the office, closed his door, you know, her rumped and 246 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:49.919 closed his door. And then a few minutes later I 247 00:15:49.960 --> 00:15:54.879 hear this hurrah, and then a couple of minutes later, 248 00:15:54.919 --> 00:15:58.000 I hear this huh r. That's how we laughed. I'd 249 00:15:58.279 --> 00:16:03.600 heard him laugh before all day long, all day long. 250 00:16:04.759 --> 00:16:07.200 I don't remember if we actually talked that day, but 251 00:16:07.320 --> 00:16:11.559 the next day I got to my desk. I used 252 00:16:11.600 --> 00:16:14.519 to eat a grapefruit every day for lunch. There was 253 00:16:14.559 --> 00:16:17.879 a grapefruit on my typewriter. Oh my god, there are 254 00:16:18.039 --> 00:16:22.080 grapefruits in my drawers. There are, my gosh, everywhere. He 255 00:16:22.159 --> 00:16:23.039 could put one. 256 00:16:24.120 --> 00:16:29.720 Wow, he actually noticed you were grapefruit for lunch. WHOA right, 257 00:16:30.440 --> 00:16:31.519 yeah right? 258 00:16:32.360 --> 00:16:37.840 So that changed everything. That changed everything from then on. 259 00:16:38.360 --> 00:16:41.639 We had a great working relationship. We had fun together, 260 00:16:42.399 --> 00:16:46.399 and that's how we could transform because I'm like, I'm 261 00:16:46.399 --> 00:16:48.480 not going to depend on him to be happy, and 262 00:16:48.559 --> 00:16:50.519 I could do something here. I'm going to bring a 263 00:16:50.519 --> 00:16:53.320 little party, I ever, bring these party animal crackers and 264 00:16:53.919 --> 00:16:55.159 change things up a little bit. 265 00:16:55.360 --> 00:16:58.639 Yeah, So let's help people do this because you have 266 00:16:58.720 --> 00:17:00.360 a way to do it and you incorporate reate that 267 00:17:00.440 --> 00:17:03.080 into your coaching platform and what you do. And for 268 00:17:03.080 --> 00:17:04.480 those of you out there, if you want to find 269 00:17:04.519 --> 00:17:08.920 out more about Catherine, go to Richer within dot com. 270 00:17:09.079 --> 00:17:11.640 That's Richer within dot com. But you have a way 271 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:16.160 that you a great way that you help people shift 272 00:17:16.200 --> 00:17:19.960 that energy, right, because that's what we're talking about. And 273 00:17:20.519 --> 00:17:23.400 don't you find that if you can stop it before 274 00:17:23.720 --> 00:17:27.359 it becomes a story, then it becomes an epic movie. 275 00:17:27.799 --> 00:17:30.119 And right, you see what I'm saying. So, how do 276 00:17:30.160 --> 00:17:33.680 you help people with this? Talk about the rad approach? 277 00:17:35.799 --> 00:17:39.440 Thank you for asking. It is one of my very favorites, quickest, 278 00:17:39.559 --> 00:17:44.599 easiest to remember, very effective, and it came to me 279 00:17:44.880 --> 00:17:48.559 in the course of doing this work play, and it's 280 00:17:48.640 --> 00:17:55.200 called b RAD. Do rad right, be radical in your joy, 281 00:17:55.279 --> 00:17:58.519 be radical in your living. And so the RAD is 282 00:17:58.559 --> 00:18:02.480 an acronym for three things. The R is for recognize, 283 00:18:03.400 --> 00:18:07.880 the A is a firm, and the D is for 284 00:18:08.000 --> 00:18:12.039 do so. In the situation of the party that I 285 00:18:12.079 --> 00:18:17.160 was walking into, I recognize because it's about awareness of 286 00:18:17.200 --> 00:18:19.359 what we're thinking and feeling in our bodies at any 287 00:18:19.359 --> 00:18:22.079 given time. What am I thinking? What am I feeling? 288 00:18:22.440 --> 00:18:26.680 And I recognize I'm shrinking because I'm thinking all of 289 00:18:26.720 --> 00:18:29.599 these negative thoughts and I haven't even gotten to the 290 00:18:29.640 --> 00:18:33.839 party yet. And I caught myself and I call that 291 00:18:34.039 --> 00:18:36.440 like you know, when we're making pancakes in the kitchen 292 00:18:36.920 --> 00:18:39.119 and we leave something on too long and it starts 293 00:18:39.160 --> 00:18:41.279 to stink a little bit, right, it starts to burn. 294 00:18:41.480 --> 00:18:45.920 So what do we do? Flip it? We flip it 295 00:18:45.960 --> 00:18:48.000 to its opposite. Just goes all the way back to 296 00:18:48.039 --> 00:18:53.799 the yoga sutras. Yeah, right, from flipping from negative to positive? 297 00:18:54.839 --> 00:19:01.400 And so oh, how am I feeling? I am feeling insecure? Ooh, 298 00:19:02.079 --> 00:19:07.640 I know who I am? I am feeling shy. Ah. 299 00:19:07.839 --> 00:19:12.920 I'm choosing to be curious, and you can say out loud, 300 00:19:13.000 --> 00:19:17.519 is really powerful. I choose to be I affirm I'm 301 00:19:17.519 --> 00:19:21.000 in the right place. I affirm I belong here, I 302 00:19:21.079 --> 00:19:24.240 affirm I am I am the party. I affirm I 303 00:19:24.279 --> 00:19:29.200 know who I am. Whatever works for you that helps 304 00:19:29.319 --> 00:19:33.759 shift and you I, well, yes, I would say we 305 00:19:33.920 --> 00:19:38.559 feel it internally because these thoughts become chemicals, they come 306 00:19:38.640 --> 00:19:42.720 flow through our body, creates our vibratory field, and it's 307 00:19:42.759 --> 00:19:47.039 like a it's like a vibrational field clearing for ourselves. Right. Yeah, 308 00:19:47.160 --> 00:19:52.680 so those out loud affirmations. So recognize a stinky compassionately, 309 00:19:53.400 --> 00:19:56.480 flip it to its opposite, say it for affirmation. And 310 00:19:56.519 --> 00:20:01.000 then the do is do it? Yeah, yeah, do it right. 311 00:20:01.039 --> 00:20:03.119 And people say, oh, fake it till you make it, 312 00:20:03.200 --> 00:20:06.039 no act as if it is. 313 00:20:06.640 --> 00:20:11.079 Oh, and that's so important. The whole fake it to 314 00:20:11.200 --> 00:20:13.240 you make it thing is a little odd. I know 315 00:20:13.359 --> 00:20:15.799 that's a big thing in recovery, that that turn. But 316 00:20:15.880 --> 00:20:18.920 that never worked for me. And you know, this whole 317 00:20:18.920 --> 00:20:21.400 thing about the dancing, I mean, I'm like starting to 318 00:20:21.400 --> 00:20:23.599 invite a bunch of people and then I'm like going 319 00:20:23.680 --> 00:20:26.920 to back out. Hello, But you know the mine works 320 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:29.160 like this. It's like, first it starts with the boots, 321 00:20:29.240 --> 00:20:31.680 because I got my dance and boots up in Sturgis. 322 00:20:32.200 --> 00:20:35.640 On my way through Sturgis, got two great pairs of boots. 323 00:20:36.440 --> 00:20:39.400 Oh my god, I don't have jeans that fit me now, Catherine, 324 00:20:39.599 --> 00:20:42.519 Oh my god, jeans. I don't have the right okay, 325 00:20:42.720 --> 00:20:46.400 the right jeans to wear dancing. Are you kidding? Who cares? 326 00:20:47.200 --> 00:20:52.039 But you understand? And you know the mind, the heart, 327 00:20:52.640 --> 00:20:55.720 the heart wants to go and the mind will tell you, 328 00:20:55.759 --> 00:20:59.160 girl friend, you ready to go line dancing? You know 329 00:20:59.240 --> 00:21:01.640 they already line you got or under your eyes? I mean, 330 00:21:01.680 --> 00:21:05.680 that's the way the dialogue goes, right, So what comes after? 331 00:21:07.920 --> 00:21:11.319 The worthy part? Because first none of us like the 332 00:21:11.319 --> 00:21:14.480 way this feels? Do we But we stop? There? 333 00:21:18.319 --> 00:21:22.599 We stop? We stop, and the stopping is actually the 334 00:21:22.680 --> 00:21:29.400 first step because we can recognize Wow, I suggest placing. 335 00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:32.400 This is what I practice off in I place my 336 00:21:32.519 --> 00:21:37.119 hand on my heart and breathe into my heart space. 337 00:21:37.200 --> 00:21:40.319 The heart is the seed of emotion and that's the 338 00:21:40.359 --> 00:21:43.880 place where we can shift it the most deeply and 339 00:21:44.039 --> 00:21:47.839 honor our heart, honor our being. We get to love ourselves. 340 00:21:48.759 --> 00:21:52.279 We get to love ourselves and practice that, and the 341 00:21:52.279 --> 00:21:55.000 more we practice, the easier it becomes to do it. 342 00:21:55.759 --> 00:21:58.880 And then we rewire our neural pathways so that the 343 00:21:58.880 --> 00:22:01.480 brain isn't in charge all the time. There's more of 344 00:22:01.480 --> 00:22:05.880 a conversation and communication between the heart and the brain 345 00:22:06.359 --> 00:22:09.759 because the heart's brain is much bigger than the one 346 00:22:09.759 --> 00:22:14.279 in our head. Yeah, and you know, I also want 347 00:22:14.319 --> 00:22:19.359 to say you can leave the party if you want. Hello, 348 00:22:20.720 --> 00:22:23.720 I can leave. And if it's not serving and you've 349 00:22:23.720 --> 00:22:25.559 done all you can and you're like, this is just 350 00:22:25.680 --> 00:22:27.599 not what I'm in for, you can leave. And the 351 00:22:27.640 --> 00:22:29.799 other thing is And for those of you who are 352 00:22:29.839 --> 00:22:32.720 listening and not seeing I put on a beautiful tiara 353 00:22:32.839 --> 00:22:34.599 when I said I am a party, I'm going to 354 00:22:34.640 --> 00:22:38.440 take it off now. It's beautiful and just recognize that 355 00:22:38.599 --> 00:22:41.839 sometimes we just need to take off our party hat 356 00:22:41.880 --> 00:22:42.720 and have a good cry. 357 00:22:43.480 --> 00:22:43.799 Yeah. 358 00:22:44.559 --> 00:22:47.400 And that's okay too, because that is loving ourselves and 359 00:22:47.440 --> 00:22:50.279 honoring when we're in a space like that, because it 360 00:22:50.319 --> 00:22:55.480 isn't always easy. And the more we practice our self 361 00:22:55.519 --> 00:22:59.920 love and self acceptance, the more willing we are to 362 00:23:00.119 --> 00:23:03.799 shift ourselves into you know what, I'm wearing my tennises 363 00:23:03.880 --> 00:23:06.440 dancing tonight. I'm going to put on a skirt I 364 00:23:06.519 --> 00:23:09.480 feel good in and I am having a good time. 365 00:23:09.960 --> 00:23:13.359 Yeah. And you know, part of this too is incorporate 366 00:23:13.440 --> 00:23:16.640 the higher power side of this, the God of your understanding, 367 00:23:16.680 --> 00:23:20.839 the spiritual nature of things, because it is so powerful 368 00:23:20.920 --> 00:23:24.160 when we bring that in. It is the thing that 369 00:23:25.599 --> 00:23:28.799 you know, up until the nineties, I didn't get what 370 00:23:28.839 --> 00:23:33.279 that was. I really didn't, and my sobriety helped me, 371 00:23:33.480 --> 00:23:39.160 but spiritual practice in many traditions help me understand the power. 372 00:23:39.920 --> 00:23:43.160 So how can we help our people today and how 373 00:23:43.200 --> 00:23:45.279 do they work with you? What's the best way for 374 00:23:45.359 --> 00:23:48.640 them to get a hold of you. 375 00:23:48.640 --> 00:23:51.160 You can get a hold of me through richer within 376 00:23:51.359 --> 00:23:55.680 dot com, Richer as in Richer for the experience, Richer 377 00:23:55.720 --> 00:24:00.359 within dot Com. I'm also on Instagram and you too, 378 00:24:01.279 --> 00:24:06.039 And I would love to work with anyone who would 379 00:24:06.119 --> 00:24:10.519 like to, anyone anywhere. And also I'd like to offer 380 00:24:11.160 --> 00:24:13.359 an example of something that you can learn to do 381 00:24:13.640 --> 00:24:19.039 for yourself to tune into that deeper aspect of your being, 382 00:24:19.480 --> 00:24:23.319 your highest self. And so I'll just bring us right 383 00:24:23.359 --> 00:24:27.640 into that. Thank you everyone for being willing and being 384 00:24:27.720 --> 00:24:31.839 open to being at this party today, and I just 385 00:24:31.920 --> 00:24:36.799 invite you to take a moment to settle in, receive 386 00:24:37.039 --> 00:24:41.680 a nice breath. If you're in a place to close 387 00:24:41.720 --> 00:24:46.279 your eyes, please do so. And I am just so 388 00:24:46.480 --> 00:24:51.920 incredibly grateful for the celebration that life is. To know 389 00:24:52.000 --> 00:24:55.680 that life is always lifing, and it is always creating, 390 00:24:55.759 --> 00:25:00.480 It is always exploring, it is always moving and answering 391 00:25:01.240 --> 00:25:06.279 and in constant creativity. And it is this life that 392 00:25:06.519 --> 00:25:12.440 expresses itself in through and as everything, every spec of 393 00:25:12.519 --> 00:25:16.200 everything that we see, and even things that are unseeable. 394 00:25:16.880 --> 00:25:20.279 It is expressing in through and as this life and 395 00:25:20.319 --> 00:25:24.799 as everyone everywhere. And I know this is the truth 396 00:25:24.839 --> 00:25:29.039 of me. I know I am an embodiment of that life. 397 00:25:29.119 --> 00:25:31.519 And as I know this is the truth of me, 398 00:25:31.839 --> 00:25:34.799 I know it is the truth of everyone. Within the 399 00:25:34.839 --> 00:25:41.720 sound of my voice, everyone is a beautiful, magnificent, whole 400 00:25:42.000 --> 00:25:47.440 and complete and radiant expression of that very power that 401 00:25:47.519 --> 00:25:53.160