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<v Speaker 1>Everybody. Welcome.

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<v Speaker 2>It is June twenty second, day after Father's Day, but

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<v Speaker 2>I have an article that I wanted to do on

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<v Speaker 2>Father's Day.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's an interesting one.

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<v Speaker 2>It says that the surprising way fatherhood changes men. We'll

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<v Speaker 2>take a quick look at this and it's a feel

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<v Speaker 2>good story. Stay tuned, hi, and welcome to Health Talk

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<v Speaker 2>with Doctor Lynn, your daily dose. The information you hear

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<v Speaker 2>on the show is informational. It's not meant to diagnose

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<v Speaker 2>or treat any disease. Any kind of complete health conditions

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<v Speaker 2>must be checked out in discussed with your primary care physician.

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<v Speaker 2>Get ready for the good news of the day. God

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<v Speaker 2>bless you, folks, and here.

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<v Speaker 1>Is doctor Lynn.

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<v Speaker 2>Our daily devotional today for June twenty second comes through

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<v Speaker 2>the Book of Psalms, Chapter one, sixteen.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank me for the very things that are troubling you.

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<v Speaker 2>You're on the brink of rebellion, precariously close to shaking

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<v Speaker 2>your fist in my face. You're attempted to indulge in

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<v Speaker 2>just a little complaining about my treatment of you. Once

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<v Speaker 2>you step over that line, torrents of rage and self

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<v Speaker 2>pity can sweep you away. The best protection against this

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<v Speaker 2>indulgence is Thanksgiving, it's impossible to thank me and curse

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<v Speaker 2>me at the same time. Thanking me for trials will

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<v Speaker 2>feel awkward and contrived at first, but if you persist,

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<v Speaker 2>your thankful words praded faith will eventually make a difference

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<v Speaker 2>in your heart. Thankfulness awakes you to My presence, which

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<v Speaker 2>overshadows all of your problems.

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<v Speaker 1>Stay tuned.

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<v Speaker 2>It's amazing since I get the results of this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I find out that.

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<v Speaker 2>Last week we were in Algeria, and we were in

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<v Speaker 2>Saudi Arabia and a lot of other countries, and people

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<v Speaker 2>wonder why I play the national anthem before every show

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<v Speaker 2>Because I'm a proud American. I love this country, I

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<v Speaker 2>love everything that stands for it, and I hate what

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<v Speaker 2>the Democrats.

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<v Speaker 1>Are doing to it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I will bring that up over and over and

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<v Speaker 2>over again. So the surprising way fatherhood changes men. Before

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<v Speaker 2>the baby arrives, men are already changing in ways that

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<v Speaker 2>reshape their brains, hormones, and their sense of self. Decades

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<v Speaker 2>of research have examined what fathers do for their children.

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<v Speaker 2>Almost none of it asked a question, what does having

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<v Speaker 2>children do to father? Many men struggle to articulate what

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<v Speaker 2>happens after they become fathers life continues to look similar

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<v Speaker 2>from the outside, the same job, the same house, similar

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<v Speaker 2>daily routines.

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<v Speaker 1>Yet many fathers describe.

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<v Speaker 2>The feeling that something fundamentally is shifted. Fatherhood doesn't just

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<v Speaker 2>create a new identity, says Tommy madera licensed marriage to

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<v Speaker 2>a family therapist. Sometimes it reveals something that was already

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<v Speaker 2>there but had yet to be called forward. Scientists are

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<v Speaker 2>now finding evidence of measurable changes and expected fathers even

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<v Speaker 2>before they begin changing diapers or reading bedtime stories. Fatherhood

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<v Speaker 2>is often considered to begin in the delivery room, research

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<v Speaker 2>suggests it may begin much earlier. A twenty twenty five

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<v Speaker 2>study followed first time fathers and found miserable hormonal changes

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<v Speaker 2>in the men before the baby arrived, challenging the view

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<v Speaker 2>that fathers as observers waiting on the sidelines. Study found

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<v Speaker 2>that fathers had higher oxytocin levels than non fathers, often

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<v Speaker 2>referred to as the bonding hormone, and it plays that

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<v Speaker 2>in attachment, trust in social connection. Researchers believe it may

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<v Speaker 2>help to support the close parent child relationships that developed

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<v Speaker 2>during infancy. One of the most intriguing findings of the

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<v Speaker 2>study involved testosterone. It found that fathers of had experienced

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<v Speaker 2>lower testosterone levels after becoming parents, a shift that may

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<v Speaker 2>help redact direct attention from competition and more toward family life.

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<v Speaker 2>Depecting fathers with lower testosterone levels during pregnancy more likely

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<v Speaker 2>to become highly involved fathers after birth. Changes aren't limited

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<v Speaker 2>to hormonal levels. Brain regions related to empathy and affection

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<v Speaker 2>see an increase in activity, and there's a shift to

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<v Speaker 2>how the courtisol works in the body. This helps the

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<v Speaker 2>father to be more aware of the baby's needs and

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<v Speaker 2>respond faster to them. While both mothers and fathers become parents,

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<v Speaker 2>that transition unfolds differently from men. While mothers undergo more

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<v Speaker 2>visible physical change during pregnancy and child birth, fathers are

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<v Speaker 2>more likely to experience this transition internally. The biggest thing

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<v Speaker 2>for me has been the learning of patients and justin

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<v Speaker 2>attunas a California father of two sons.

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<v Speaker 1>Kids want your attention all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>You realize they're not trying to be difficult, they just

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<v Speaker 2>want to share their world with you. Fatherhood has forced

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<v Speaker 2>me to slow down and see things through their eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>The transition happened gradually, Frantwo, as he said, through countless

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<v Speaker 2>ordinary moments that required him to be another person's needs

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<v Speaker 2>ahead of his own. His experience reflects a theme that

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<v Speaker 2>appearance repeated conversations with fathers. Many describe the feeling that

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<v Speaker 2>life becomes less centered on personal ambition and more focused

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<v Speaker 2>on serving a purpose larger than themselves. Men are often

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<v Speaker 2>socialized prioritize achievement, productivity, independence, and professional success. A twenty

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<v Speaker 2>twenty four review known as the Paternal Body describe fatherhood

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<v Speaker 2>as a developmental transition, concluding that it can affect how

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<v Speaker 2>men think, feel, and understand themselves. Across dozens of studies,

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<v Speaker 2>researchers found that becoming a father can reshape a man's

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<v Speaker 2>physical health, emotional lives, relationship, and even their identity. The

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<v Speaker 2>role has a way of doing what years of therapy

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes can't. It moves life from abstract to concrete very fast,

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<v Speaker 2>with no onboarding process. A newborn forces a man to

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<v Speaker 2>find answers. Someone is depending on you, watching you, learning

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<v Speaker 2>from you, whatever you intend to do it or not.

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<v Speaker 1>For many men, becoming.

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<v Speaker 2>A dad challenges what they were taught a man was

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to be. Many boys grow up hearing message is

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<v Speaker 2>like don't cry or be tough, often from a father

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<v Speaker 2>who showed love by working hard rather than take talking

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<v Speaker 2>to our feelings. However, when children start to cry, some

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<v Speaker 2>dab's first impulses to walk away.

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<v Speaker 1>Others go to the opposite way.

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<v Speaker 2>Hovering over every sound at the baby's monitor, determined not

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<v Speaker 2>to repeat the emotional distance they had with their kids.

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<v Speaker 2>In both cases, fatherhood forces many men to see how

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<v Speaker 2>their own upbringing and the version of masculinity that they

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<v Speaker 2>were given shows up in their parenting. Jann And Franklin,

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<v Speaker 2>a psychologist who specializes in family dynamics, said that the

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<v Speaker 2>process of caring for childs often where the most distinctive

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<v Speaker 2>growth happens. Men who were never asked how they felt

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<v Speaker 2>suddenly have to track both their child's emotions.

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<v Speaker 1>And their own.

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<v Speaker 2>Over time, many learn to manage their reactions and remain

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<v Speaker 2>present during difficult situations.

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<v Speaker 1>Franklin believes his experiences often serve.

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<v Speaker 2>As catalysts for a father's own development become a father.

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<v Speaker 1>Becoming a father.

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<v Speaker 2>Can reactivate memories and patterns from a man's relationship with

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<v Speaker 2>his own parents. In some cases, they understand their own

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<v Speaker 2>parents even better, comes an opportunity to address issues that

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<v Speaker 2>have lingered for years.

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<v Speaker 1>Children also have.

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<v Speaker 2>A way of reflecting both parents' strength and shortcomings. Fatherhood

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<v Speaker 2>becomes an unexpected mirror, an opportunity for growth. Children introduce

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<v Speaker 2>responsibilities can feel overwhelming, but they also provide a reason

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<v Speaker 2>to endure challenges that might otherwise seem impossible. Sleep in

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<v Speaker 2>personal times suddenly becomes more flexible than they once seemed.

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<v Speaker 2>Blanco has observed that men experiencing greater self confidence, improved

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<v Speaker 2>relationship quality, increased emotional flexibility, and higher levels of life

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<v Speaker 2>satisfaction after becoming fathers. Every day presents opportunities to show up,

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<v Speaker 2>fall short, learn and try again, and newborn does not

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<v Speaker 2>care what a man does for a living. They have

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<v Speaker 2>no interest in professional accomplishments or status symbols that one

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<v Speaker 2>seemed important. Child only knows whether someone comes when it cries,

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<v Speaker 2>whether someone stays when things are difficult, and whether someone

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<v Speaker 2>can be counted on for tomorrow. For many men, that's

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<v Speaker 2>simply that simple reality becomes one of the most powerful

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<v Speaker 2>forces of change they'll ever experience. It asks more of

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<v Speaker 2>them than they expected, and it reveals parts of themselves

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<v Speaker 2>that they never have discovered otherwise. In the process of

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<v Speaker 2>raising a child, many find that they too are still

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<v Speaker 2>becoming the men they hope to be. That was outstanding,

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<v Speaker 2>Take it to heart, share it with him and Dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Be great to do, Have a great, healthy day,