WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:03.799 Nine ish nine thirty or so, and we get to 2 00:00:03.839 --> 00:00:06.440 talk to our mogul and training and we get to 3 00:00:06.440 --> 00:00:10.359 find out what's going on as he's looking at multiple 4 00:00:10.400 --> 00:00:13.919 divisions and looking at multiple teams getting ready for the 5 00:00:13.919 --> 00:00:16.480 starts of their season. So what this means is we 6 00:00:16.559 --> 00:00:22.519 bring in the man himself, Michael Parkers Parky, what is 7 00:00:22.760 --> 00:00:27.559 happening John, You, sir, being a mogul in training as 8 00:00:27.640 --> 00:00:30.960 you are for season two of being a mogul in training? 9 00:00:33.119 --> 00:00:35.119 You get to and I mentioned it before you popped in, 10 00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:37.920 it's like you're looking at it from your your team 11 00:00:37.960 --> 00:00:41.679 perspective with Atlanta United, but then also the ownership perspective 12 00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:45.439 and overseer perspective at Rhode Island DEFC. What's it like 13 00:00:45.520 --> 00:00:48.759 handling all of these different personalities of yours heading into 14 00:00:48.840 --> 00:00:49.479 a season for. 15 00:00:49.439 --> 00:00:49.960 A chain. 16 00:00:53.600 --> 00:00:54.600 No different than last year? 17 00:00:55.359 --> 00:00:55.520 You know? 18 00:00:55.560 --> 00:00:56.000 I think that. 19 00:00:57.679 --> 00:01:00.920 What no, no, no comment about well, xbectations are higher 20 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:03.159 on both sides considering what happened. Come on, where's my 21 00:01:03.240 --> 00:01:04.959 expectations or higher SoundBite? 22 00:01:06.239 --> 00:01:09.840 I mean, naturally, expectations are higher year two than year one. 23 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:13.680 That doesn't mean that we're going to go further. I 24 00:01:13.719 --> 00:01:17.000 mean we could only win one more game at the 25 00:01:17.120 --> 00:01:17.400 end of. 26 00:01:17.319 --> 00:01:18.120 The season at least. 27 00:01:18.719 --> 00:01:22.760 But yeah, to be honest, John, all this d one 28 00:01:22.840 --> 00:01:26.359 talk is confusing to me. I don't USL is in 29 00:01:26.439 --> 00:01:30.439 a good place right now. MLS is a behemoth compared 30 00:01:30.439 --> 00:01:34.560 to USL, and I'm not privy. 31 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:35.120 To all the information. 32 00:01:35.239 --> 00:01:37.439 I'm not on all these Board of Governor's calls with 33 00:01:37.599 --> 00:01:41.439 USL and owners calls, so I'm not sure what the 34 00:01:41.480 --> 00:01:45.959 thinking is, but I just don't think it makes sense 35 00:01:46.000 --> 00:01:50.840 to try and go up against ms. MLS is buying 36 00:01:50.840 --> 00:01:54.799 and selling players intra league now for ten plus million dollars, 37 00:01:55.319 --> 00:02:00.359 and you know our budget for players is like point 38 00:02:00.359 --> 00:02:04.400 five million, So yeah, it's we're on different levels. So 39 00:02:04.760 --> 00:02:07.239 you know, for me, it just doesn't make sense. That 40 00:02:07.359 --> 00:02:11.879 being said, if things do go, do do progress, Rhode 41 00:02:11.879 --> 00:02:15.560 Island will be in the top bracket of USL for sure. 42 00:02:15.800 --> 00:02:19.439 Okay, since you since you mentioned everything going on with 43 00:02:20.240 --> 00:02:22.879 Lanty United and getting ready for multiple seasons in multiple 44 00:02:22.879 --> 00:02:28.759 places as a player, how much did you look forward 45 00:02:28.840 --> 00:02:31.719 to the preseason in and of itself or did you 46 00:02:31.759 --> 00:02:33.479 just want to get out there and start knocking guys 47 00:02:33.479 --> 00:02:35.560 around and have things going for real? What was your 48 00:02:35.560 --> 00:02:38.120 what was your thought about preseason and getting ready for 49 00:02:38.159 --> 00:02:38.960 the regular season. 50 00:02:38.960 --> 00:02:40.759 As a player, I. 51 00:02:40.719 --> 00:02:42.879 Enjoyed preseason for the most part. 52 00:02:43.039 --> 00:02:43.520 I think that. 53 00:02:43.520 --> 00:02:46.080 There's obviously aspects of preseason that you don't look forward to, 54 00:02:46.199 --> 00:02:50.639 mostly the fitness, but I enjoyed it just because it 55 00:02:50.680 --> 00:02:52.840 was a time to get to know each other and 56 00:02:53.840 --> 00:02:58.400 set the foundation for the season. There was no you know, 57 00:02:58.560 --> 00:03:02.919 pressure yet as far as you know, games and seedings 58 00:03:02.960 --> 00:03:05.319 and all that stuff, so it was like, Okay, you know, 59 00:03:05.360 --> 00:03:07.280 this is a good time to just train. And I 60 00:03:07.400 --> 00:03:10.199 liked the process of training. I liked you know, the 61 00:03:10.599 --> 00:03:16.120 daily routine of its. So yeah, for me, I really 62 00:03:16.199 --> 00:03:18.360 enjoyed it. But yeah, I think that there comes a 63 00:03:18.400 --> 00:03:20.319 time in preseason, even though you're enjoying it, where you're 64 00:03:20.319 --> 00:03:21.280 ready to start the season. 65 00:03:21.719 --> 00:03:23.560 And I'm sure they've hit that point. 66 00:03:24.000 --> 00:03:27.199 When it comes to your mentees these days, and this 67 00:03:27.280 --> 00:03:29.360 might even play into how you were when you were 68 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:32.400 their age. There you go get ready. Literally, it's the 69 00:03:32.400 --> 00:03:34.439 flipping of the switch. Like it wasn't over the top 70 00:03:34.479 --> 00:03:36.439 with stallone. You got the hat on backwards, You're ready 71 00:03:36.479 --> 00:03:40.919 to go. When you were of a young and impressionable 72 00:03:40.960 --> 00:03:42.680 age starting out in the game. 73 00:03:42.759 --> 00:03:46.479 So basically last Tuesday. What did you. 74 00:03:46.599 --> 00:03:50.800 Think about all of the conditioning and the preseason and 75 00:03:50.879 --> 00:03:53.439 all of these things and getting acquainted with new teammates 76 00:03:53.439 --> 00:03:57.439 and everything. You know, do you find that your mentees 77 00:03:57.680 --> 00:04:01.400 understand the importance of a build up, any preseason and 78 00:04:01.439 --> 00:04:04.120 staying as ready as possible or do you have to 79 00:04:04.159 --> 00:04:06.560 explain to them, Yeah, I know, you got you've got games. 80 00:04:06.599 --> 00:04:09.000 Those are important, but at the same time, you have 81 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:12.599 to maintain the self going into those games. Do you 82 00:04:12.599 --> 00:04:16.759 have to have those kinds of conversations at all. 83 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:18.560 Yeah, a little bit, And for sure it changes throughout time, right, 84 00:04:18.600 --> 00:04:22.519 I mean, as younger players, the preseason is more important. 85 00:04:22.680 --> 00:04:25.000 These these minutes that you get with the first team 86 00:04:25.079 --> 00:04:29.279 in these games are super valuable and super important because 87 00:04:29.319 --> 00:04:33.360 you don't know how many opportunities you'll get sometimes right 88 00:04:33.399 --> 00:04:35.560 where for me as a veteran later in my career, 89 00:04:35.560 --> 00:04:38.759 it was like health is the most important thing, Like, Okay, 90 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:40.560 you know, I want to get going and I want 91 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:44.560 to you know, get sharp and stuff, but like this 92 00:04:44.639 --> 00:04:47.079 preseason game, I don't really care about as long as 93 00:04:47.120 --> 00:04:50.800 I you know, feel good and stay fit and get 94 00:04:50.839 --> 00:04:53.360 healthy coming out of it all, like that was the 95 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:56.279 most important. But I do remember being younger, it was like, hey, 96 00:04:56.360 --> 00:04:57.759 you know, every time you're out there, it's like I 97 00:04:57.800 --> 00:05:01.800 got something to prove, I got something to earn. So 98 00:05:02.199 --> 00:05:05.959 you know that that is definitely a different situation for 99 00:05:06.040 --> 00:05:09.600 younger guys versus some veteran players. And yeah, I think 100 00:05:09.600 --> 00:05:12.279 that it's important for the younger players to understand that. 101 00:05:12.519 --> 00:05:17.680 And it's it's different now where players come into camp 102 00:05:17.800 --> 00:05:23.399 ready to go, and it's so much different than when 103 00:05:23.399 --> 00:05:26.519 I first started. So in that regard, these younger players 104 00:05:26.560 --> 00:05:29.480 are in a much better place than I was probably 105 00:05:29.480 --> 00:05:32.399 when I was younger. But I think that they also 106 00:05:32.920 --> 00:05:36.480 sometimes put too much emphasis on one game, one play, 107 00:05:36.879 --> 00:05:38.839 where it's like, hey, that's the beauty of preseason, that's 108 00:05:38.839 --> 00:05:42.519 why we got six weeks together, right, especially if you're 109 00:05:42.519 --> 00:05:44.839 training with the first team the whole time, like you know, 110 00:05:45.040 --> 00:05:46.720 you can you can go out there and it's okay 111 00:05:46.759 --> 00:05:50.079 to have a stinker or have a bad training session. 112 00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:54.120 It's more important the response to it and getting back 113 00:05:54.120 --> 00:05:54.720 on the saddle. 114 00:05:55.279 --> 00:05:58.399 Well, and you you mentioned that it's okay to have 115 00:05:58.480 --> 00:06:04.079 a stinker. I would think that, I mean, is pressure 116 00:06:04.360 --> 00:06:10.319 that much different these days? Where because I remember packing 117 00:06:10.439 --> 00:06:13.480 by a day, you know, when I actually had more hair. 118 00:06:14.240 --> 00:06:18.800 You had that pressure from the generations inside your home 119 00:06:18.839 --> 00:06:21.680 that you know, like the scene in Breakfast Club at 120 00:06:21.680 --> 00:06:24.360 the end when they're having and Emilio Ostevez, you know, 121 00:06:24.439 --> 00:06:27.639 he has the big speech. I'm sure that we either 122 00:06:27.720 --> 00:06:30.120 had parents like that, we had family members like that, 123 00:06:30.319 --> 00:06:33.079 or we knew folks that were like that, and you know, 124 00:06:33.319 --> 00:06:36.920 pressure was there. Andrew, your attitude is for ish and 125 00:06:37.680 --> 00:06:39.759 I'm sure we experienced a lot of that growing up. 126 00:06:41.000 --> 00:06:46.759 How different is parental influence and family influence on players 127 00:06:46.759 --> 00:06:48.920 today and on your mentees than it was maybe when 128 00:06:48.959 --> 00:06:50.879 we were growing up. How different is it? Is it 129 00:06:50.920 --> 00:06:53.639 different much? I know I'm asking like a four part 130 00:06:53.720 --> 00:06:55.319 question here, but I guess it has to do with 131 00:06:55.360 --> 00:06:58.399 parental influence and pressure that's put on from the family. 132 00:06:58.439 --> 00:07:00.319 How different is it from your observation. 133 00:07:00.959 --> 00:07:06.639 Yeah, I think it's I feel like back in the day, 134 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:13.800 it was more pressure of winning and just playing well, 135 00:07:14.639 --> 00:07:17.079 and now it's a different type of pressure where it's 136 00:07:17.120 --> 00:07:23.079 like pressure to play your best, be the best, make 137 00:07:23.160 --> 00:07:26.759 sure that you're in a good spot to get a scholarship, 138 00:07:26.839 --> 00:07:30.319 or you know, played on your high school team, played 139 00:07:31.040 --> 00:07:35.600 in college, get a scholarship, you know, it's that type 140 00:07:35.600 --> 00:07:39.040 of pressure is much more where back when we were 141 00:07:39.079 --> 00:07:40.920 growing up, it wasn't like I didn't have pressure to 142 00:07:41.120 --> 00:07:44.519 go play in college or anything. That was just like yeah, 143 00:07:44.639 --> 00:07:48.040 parents just freaking out trying to win each game, right, 144 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:53.079 So I think it was just more short term pressure 145 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:55.680 like game to game, where now I think it's like 146 00:07:55.720 --> 00:07:59.800 a sometimes it's an overarching pressure of like getting to 147 00:07:59.839 --> 00:08:02.839 a certain level or a certain place by a certain time, 148 00:08:04.920 --> 00:08:07.720 just because of year round the money that the parents 149 00:08:07.759 --> 00:08:11.800 are putting into sports, all the extra training, So the 150 00:08:11.839 --> 00:08:16.240 pressure is still there for sure. And I'm sure it 151 00:08:16.279 --> 00:08:17.639 was like this back in the day, Like not all 152 00:08:17.720 --> 00:08:20.759 parents are like that, but you do have some. 153 00:08:21.600 --> 00:08:25.240 And honestly, I've been pleasantly surprised. 154 00:08:25.279 --> 00:08:29.360 And maybe it's because that the families that come and 155 00:08:29.399 --> 00:08:35.440 work with Greg and I obviously have a an open 156 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:38.759 mind frame of how we can help their athlete. 157 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:40.679 But most of the. 158 00:08:40.600 --> 00:08:43.519 Families that we work with, the parents are hands off. 159 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:45.320 They put the they set up the. 160 00:08:45.279 --> 00:08:48.440 Kid, and it's just us, the and the kid working together, 161 00:08:48.720 --> 00:08:51.919 which is awesome. And every now and then we'll have 162 00:08:52.960 --> 00:08:57.720 the helicopter parent that's answering the questions and sitting right 163 00:08:57.720 --> 00:08:58.639 there and everything. 164 00:08:58.720 --> 00:09:01.279 But I'm honestly been. I was pleasantly surprised in that. 165 00:09:01.200 --> 00:09:03.519 Regard well, and I know that we've talked about it 166 00:09:03.519 --> 00:09:06.279 in the past, about the helicopter. 167 00:09:05.840 --> 00:09:06.840 Parent, and. 168 00:09:08.720 --> 00:09:12.120 I'm thankful for you to you and for you for 169 00:09:12.200 --> 00:09:15.799 what you and Gregor are doing to where those instances 170 00:09:15.840 --> 00:09:18.440 seem to be few and far between, where the parents, 171 00:09:18.919 --> 00:09:21.360 even though they seem to be wanting to play this 172 00:09:21.919 --> 00:09:25.120 long game, however long it is about getting their their 173 00:09:25.159 --> 00:09:28.960 athlete to the next level and next levels whatever those are, 174 00:09:29.399 --> 00:09:31.879 that they seem to be laying off because I mean, 175 00:09:32.679 --> 00:09:35.639 once again, going back in my day days of black 176 00:09:35.639 --> 00:09:39.320 and white television, you had the family members yelling at umps, 177 00:09:39.399 --> 00:09:41.759 you had him yelling at kids through dugouts, you had 178 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:45.440 all these kinds of things. And you know, I'm I'm 179 00:09:45.519 --> 00:09:49.480 glad that it seems, at least through your prism that 180 00:09:49.600 --> 00:09:51.879 for the most part, they're laying off. And I think 181 00:09:51.879 --> 00:09:54.320 that that speaks a lot to I guess what the 182 00:09:54.399 --> 00:09:56.320 parents are looking for and what they hope to see 183 00:09:56.360 --> 00:09:58.559 out of their out of their kids. 184 00:09:58.919 --> 00:10:01.559 Yeah, for sure, I do think it's good. 185 00:10:01.759 --> 00:10:04.120 And don't get me wrong, Hey, you go to any 186 00:10:04.440 --> 00:10:10.399 Saturday soccer youth tournament and go on a sideline You'll 187 00:10:10.440 --> 00:10:13.639 be like, yeah, you know, holy smokes, what is going 188 00:10:13.720 --> 00:10:14.720 on in society. 189 00:10:15.000 --> 00:10:17.840 Don't get me wrong, But it was like that back 190 00:10:17.840 --> 00:10:21.360 in the day too, and I so I do think 191 00:10:21.360 --> 00:10:23.840 that there's a lot of parents that have realized, and 192 00:10:24.399 --> 00:10:26.120 you know, I think social media can help in this 193 00:10:26.200 --> 00:10:28.039 regard where it's like you get called out a little 194 00:10:28.080 --> 00:10:30.440 bit and there's more information out there about like, hey, 195 00:10:31.519 --> 00:10:34.879 this is not good for our athletes and there's so 196 00:10:34.960 --> 00:10:38.759 many benefits from losing, so stop freaking out on the 197 00:10:38.759 --> 00:10:44.840 sideline after every game or during every game. So yeah, 198 00:10:45.039 --> 00:10:47.519 there's always going to be some that don't get the message, 199 00:10:47.600 --> 00:10:50.440 and you know, are living through their kids and it 200 00:10:50.480 --> 00:10:53.200 means more to them than their kids. But honestly, I 201 00:10:53.240 --> 00:10:57.639 think for the most part, it's getting a little bit better. 202 00:10:57.720 --> 00:10:59.919 Michael Parkhurst than the Friday free kick, hanging out with it, 203 00:11:00.159 --> 00:11:04.120 answering all the questions about being an owner, being a player, 204 00:11:04.159 --> 00:11:06.360 getting ready for the season, being a mentor. But that 205 00:11:06.399 --> 00:11:09.399 is that's where our focus traditionally is here with what 206 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:12.000 they're doing at beyond goals, mentoring at BG, mentoring on 207 00:11:12.159 --> 00:11:15.720 the twitters, at beyond goals mentoring dot com when it 208 00:11:15.720 --> 00:11:18.519 comes to social media, Since you mentioned social media and 209 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:21.879 how it can be a good influence, it can be 210 00:11:21.919 --> 00:11:23.799 a good it can be I was gonna say, when 211 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:27.440 is the reinforcement ever bad? It can be a reinforcement 212 00:11:27.960 --> 00:11:32.039 to activity and behaviors, or it can be an absolute negative, 213 00:11:32.240 --> 00:11:35.000 And if you pay too much attention to the negative, 214 00:11:35.759 --> 00:11:39.279 then it could take everything and make it all haywire. 215 00:11:39.919 --> 00:11:44.799 Do you have conversations with your mentees about social media 216 00:11:45.080 --> 00:11:49.279 and how it can be that that double edged sword sometimes? 217 00:11:49.279 --> 00:11:51.240 Do you have those kinds of conversations with them about 218 00:11:51.279 --> 00:11:52.240 the power social media? 219 00:11:52.879 --> 00:11:55.000 Yeah, for sure, especially the players that are trying to 220 00:11:55.000 --> 00:11:57.840 play in college, because if I was an assistant coach, 221 00:11:57.960 --> 00:12:01.159 I would absolutely be checked out their social media to 222 00:12:01.200 --> 00:12:03.120 see what type of content are they putting out there, 223 00:12:03.519 --> 00:12:05.559 Who are they as a person, what are the people 224 00:12:05.600 --> 00:12:07.320 they hang with, what do they do off the field, 225 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:08.879 like all that stuff. 226 00:12:10.200 --> 00:12:11.600 It's super important. 227 00:12:11.639 --> 00:12:13.559 So yeah, you want it to make sure that your 228 00:12:13.559 --> 00:12:16.279 social media is a good representative of who you are 229 00:12:17.600 --> 00:12:24.639 and know that nothing ever gets deleted and it can 230 00:12:24.679 --> 00:12:27.200 cost you if you're not smart with it. It can 231 00:12:27.240 --> 00:12:30.879 cost you a place at a university. It can cost 232 00:12:30.879 --> 00:12:34.600 you a job in the future, right, And yes, people 233 00:12:34.600 --> 00:12:36.759 will give you a pass if you post something silly 234 00:12:36.799 --> 00:12:41.000 when you're fifteen or sixteen to a certain degree, but 235 00:12:42.200 --> 00:12:43.440 that doesn't mean it won't hurt. 236 00:12:43.320 --> 00:12:46.600 You at some point along the road. So yeah, we 237 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:48.039 absolutely talk about. 238 00:12:47.799 --> 00:12:51.120 That and it can be a great tool as well. 239 00:12:53.080 --> 00:12:55.000 I've got a couple of kids that post all their 240 00:12:55.080 --> 00:12:58.240 highlights there, which is great. Right If a college coach 241 00:12:58.279 --> 00:13:00.360 is all of a sudden looking at their social media 242 00:13:00.399 --> 00:13:03.000 and see some of these highlights like fantastic, that's a 243 00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:05.240 great way to use it. And obviously you can make 244 00:13:05.279 --> 00:13:07.679 money off it if you get to a certain level, right. 245 00:13:07.759 --> 00:13:10.279 So yeah, of course social media is important. You know, 246 00:13:10.720 --> 00:13:12.840 nil deals in college and all that stuff. A lot 247 00:13:12.840 --> 00:13:17.080 of it is social media based. So yeah, there's such 248 00:13:17.120 --> 00:13:18.440 benefits to it, for sure. 249 00:13:18.240 --> 00:13:19.480 If it's used the right way. 250 00:13:19.519 --> 00:13:24.480 But yeah, we definitely talk about what the negatives could 251 00:13:24.519 --> 00:13:25.000 be as well. 252 00:13:26.039 --> 00:13:28.600 Is it eye opening to a mentee when you talk 253 00:13:28.639 --> 00:13:31.919 about the negatives because they may just sit there and say, well, 254 00:13:31.919 --> 00:13:34.360 it's social media and I'm just putting things out there 255 00:13:34.399 --> 00:13:37.440 and I'm trying to be social. Do you and Greg 256 00:13:37.559 --> 00:13:39.720 ever sit there and have, you know, call a time 257 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:43.120 out when you see something on a social media platform 258 00:13:43.279 --> 00:13:46.120 that's attached to a mentee and sit there and go, okay, 259 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:48.559 this you need to learn from that. You need to 260 00:13:48.600 --> 00:13:50.960 either take this down or learn from it, or say something. 261 00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:54.000 Do you do you have those warning conversations with mentees 262 00:13:54.039 --> 00:13:54.279 at all? 263 00:13:54.960 --> 00:13:59.080 We haven't had to yet, we have. I've never come across. 264 00:14:00.320 --> 00:14:03.879 A mentee who's posted something where I thought, you know, 265 00:14:04.440 --> 00:14:06.759 that's crossing a line, or you gotta be careful here, 266 00:14:06.879 --> 00:14:12.840 or things, and so no I haven't, which is great. 267 00:14:13.159 --> 00:14:17.679 Yes, will it happen, probably yes, but not yet. 268 00:14:18.720 --> 00:14:22.000 That's always a good thing. But the thing is, but 269 00:14:22.600 --> 00:14:27.679 you acknowledge though you and Greg both acknowledge it hasn't happened, 270 00:14:27.759 --> 00:14:31.559 it's probably gonna happen. So at least there's that preparation 271 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:36.399 level of Okay, at some point, this is coming, and 272 00:14:36.720 --> 00:14:38.879 we've got to be ready for it. We have to, 273 00:14:39.200 --> 00:14:41.879 meaning you and Greg have to be. BGM has to be, 274 00:14:42.480 --> 00:14:44.720 and you have to be prepared to say the right 275 00:14:44.799 --> 00:14:47.440 things to a mentee in a situation like that and 276 00:14:47.440 --> 00:14:50.759 sit there and go, Okay, you know, saw something the 277 00:14:50.799 --> 00:14:52.840 other day and whatever it was is, whatever it was, 278 00:14:53.440 --> 00:14:55.840 but this is the kind of stuff that will come 279 00:14:55.879 --> 00:14:58.840 back and hurt you, and explain why it could come 280 00:14:58.879 --> 00:15:01.360 back and hurt you from that perspective of I'm not 281 00:15:01.399 --> 00:15:04.000 trying to jam on you, but I'm trying to give 282 00:15:04.039 --> 00:15:08.240 you advice as to why this can hurt you long term. 283 00:15:08.600 --> 00:15:10.799 Mhmm. Yeah, no doubt about it. 284 00:15:10.799 --> 00:15:15.759 It's absolutely part of the journey. It's part of the pathway, 285 00:15:15.919 --> 00:15:18.840 and mistakes will be made. I mean, shoot, we've all 286 00:15:18.879 --> 00:15:22.320 made mistakes, so you know. It's it's more about the 287 00:15:22.360 --> 00:15:25.960 knowledge and growing from it and understanding it. Because I 288 00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:29.240 think that there's a false sense that you know, I'll 289 00:15:29.279 --> 00:15:31.200 just delete something, I'll just get rid of it. 290 00:15:31.440 --> 00:15:35.399 Yeah. No, there's no such thing as fully deleted. 291 00:15:35.840 --> 00:15:39.000 If you were to tell a mentee how to set 292 00:15:39.080 --> 00:15:42.799 up a social media account. Because there are times on 293 00:15:43.559 --> 00:15:45.799 in other sports when I when I look at recruits 294 00:15:45.799 --> 00:15:48.159 and things like that, or high school student athletes trying 295 00:15:48.159 --> 00:15:50.639 to get to the next level, they will lay out 296 00:15:50.679 --> 00:15:54.120 all the information in their their bioblast like on the 297 00:15:54.120 --> 00:16:03.440 two hundred and eighty character app. It is literally like name, positions, year, GPA, email, contact. 298 00:16:02.879 --> 00:16:04.559 Info, all of these things. 299 00:16:06.159 --> 00:16:08.799 Is there such a thing as putting too much information, 300 00:16:09.240 --> 00:16:13.080 you know, at the front of some kind of identification 301 00:16:13.159 --> 00:16:15.440 for a coach or something like that. Or is this 302 00:16:15.600 --> 00:16:17.840 where we are right now? You think where I got 303 00:16:17.840 --> 00:16:19.440 to put all this information out there and make it 304 00:16:19.519 --> 00:16:22.960 just as easy for the next level to get in 305 00:16:23.039 --> 00:16:25.399 touch with me. Or do you still hold some information 306 00:16:25.519 --> 00:16:28.080 back just because of how social media can be these days. 307 00:16:28.639 --> 00:16:29.399 It's a good question. 308 00:16:31.240 --> 00:16:36.639 I definitely when we talk to mentees about creating videos 309 00:16:36.679 --> 00:16:40.360 to send to college coaches, we always say, either in. 310 00:16:40.360 --> 00:16:44.480 The email or the front picture. 311 00:16:44.200 --> 00:16:48.200 Before your video starts, have some of this information because yes, 312 00:16:48.279 --> 00:16:51.240 GPA is super important. Right A coach says sees that 313 00:16:51.279 --> 00:16:53.080 you've got a one point something, he's probably not even 314 00:16:53.080 --> 00:16:56.840 gonna watch the video. No, right, it's not waste my time. No, 315 00:16:57.120 --> 00:17:00.440 So you know that that is important. I don't think 316 00:17:00.480 --> 00:17:03.360 it needs to be front and center, like in your 317 00:17:03.360 --> 00:17:06.160 face all the time. So that's that can be a 318 00:17:06.160 --> 00:17:09.559 little bit information overload, because that's you don't want to 319 00:17:09.559 --> 00:17:11.319 do that either, right, I think we all OI all 320 00:17:11.400 --> 00:17:14.440 can be like, oh, shoot, they get bogged down. That's 321 00:17:14.480 --> 00:17:16.720 how I feel at the grocery store sometimes, especially coming 322 00:17:16.759 --> 00:17:18.680 back from Europe, where I was like I was in 323 00:17:18.720 --> 00:17:21.079 the Cereal Aisle, and you know, just after being in 324 00:17:21.119 --> 00:17:22.920 Europe for five years, it was like I came back 325 00:17:22.920 --> 00:17:26.319 and was like, oh my gosh, there's seven hundred cereals 326 00:17:26.319 --> 00:17:27.000 to choose from. 327 00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:28.960 I'm overloaded. 328 00:17:29.960 --> 00:17:30.839 That's also how I. 329 00:17:30.759 --> 00:17:34.960 Feel when I go to, uh, golly, what's the name 330 00:17:35.000 --> 00:17:39.240 of the restaurant. It's got a whole menu. 331 00:17:39.400 --> 00:17:40.119 It's like a book. 332 00:17:42.119 --> 00:17:44.079 I mean that I can't remember that. 333 00:17:44.559 --> 00:17:45.519 It's a huge chain. 334 00:17:46.039 --> 00:17:48.440 But if there's a restaurant that's got like seven hundred 335 00:17:48.519 --> 00:17:51.279 things and their menus like an inch and a half thick, 336 00:17:52.119 --> 00:17:53.119 you kind of get lost. 337 00:17:53.319 --> 00:17:56.319 It's like, that's what I'm saying, you get too much choices, 338 00:17:56.759 --> 00:18:00.240 too much information shut down. So that's that's what I'm 339 00:18:00.240 --> 00:18:02.640 saying too about information about you know, on the front 340 00:18:02.720 --> 00:18:09.759 right it's cheesecake factory, Thanks Ricky. Yet too much information 341 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:12.880 right in your face right away can also be a shutdown. 342 00:18:12.920 --> 00:18:14.839 I think. So, yeah, there's a balance there, but I 343 00:18:14.839 --> 00:18:16.319 do think, you know, you do need. 344 00:18:16.200 --> 00:18:20.559 To provide some information right of like, yeah, GPA and 345 00:18:20.640 --> 00:18:22.440 contact info is probably about it. 346 00:18:22.480 --> 00:18:27.400 Though, when it comes to mentees trying to get in 347 00:18:27.480 --> 00:18:33.680 touch with coaches or whomever at the next level. Have 348 00:18:33.799 --> 00:18:36.960 you had the chance to help them navigate those kinds 349 00:18:36.960 --> 00:18:41.559 of things? It's like, okay, initial conversation, it's like it's 350 00:18:41.559 --> 00:18:44.000 like what they see in a relationship or a business relationship. 351 00:18:44.000 --> 00:18:47.200 Don't call on Monday, don't call on Friday. Best business 352 00:18:47.240 --> 00:18:50.079 is always done on Tuesday. Have you gone through those 353 00:18:50.119 --> 00:18:53.200 steps in trying to help your your mentees and the 354 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:56.440 families navigate Okay? If you're going to reach out, reach 355 00:18:56.480 --> 00:18:59.200 out in this way to this person at this time 356 00:18:59.279 --> 00:19:02.519 to do these things, or is it just kind of like, 357 00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:04.920 all right, we'll just put the information out there and 358 00:19:04.960 --> 00:19:08.559 then let the contacted individual come back to me. It's 359 00:19:08.559 --> 00:19:10.079 like I want the coach to talk to me. Here's 360 00:19:10.079 --> 00:19:11.839 my first piece of info. I'm going to leave it alone. 361 00:19:12.240 --> 00:19:16.119 Or do you encourage mentees after that first contact? Hey 362 00:19:16.119 --> 00:19:18.079 did you get my tape? How long do you wait 363 00:19:18.119 --> 00:19:20.000 before did you get my tape? Those kinds of things 364 00:19:20.319 --> 00:19:22.839 Navigating the next level, I guess is where I'm trying 365 00:19:22.880 --> 00:19:23.240 to get at. 366 00:19:23.839 --> 00:19:29.920 Yeah, we're actually putting together in the very early process, 367 00:19:30.000 --> 00:19:35.599 John putting together a whole playbook for such things. 368 00:19:36.400 --> 00:19:39.359 I interviewed the size of the cheesecake factory, a menu. 369 00:19:42.440 --> 00:19:43.240 I hope not. 370 00:19:44.400 --> 00:19:47.319 I hope we can dissect it a little bit and 371 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:49.119 get down to what's most important. 372 00:19:49.160 --> 00:19:52.519 But I interviewed a. 373 00:19:51.440 --> 00:19:56.359 D one assistant coach yesterday actually, and so it's part 374 00:19:56.400 --> 00:19:59.319 of the process of like helping out with what information 375 00:19:59.440 --> 00:20:06.079 is important, when to contact, who to contact, and you know, 376 00:20:06.240 --> 00:20:08.799 how to get in touch with some coaches with the 377 00:20:08.880 --> 00:20:12.480 benefit of going to id camps. You know, this type 378 00:20:12.480 --> 00:20:14.720 of information that I think a lot. 379 00:20:14.559 --> 00:20:17.880 Of people are looking for and could use. 380 00:20:20.079 --> 00:20:24.039 So that is definitely one of our goals probably for 381 00:20:24.119 --> 00:20:26.160 the first half of this year, is to try and 382 00:20:26.200 --> 00:20:28.440 get more of that information out there. I mean, yes, 383 00:20:28.480 --> 00:20:30.279 we do it right now on a one on one basis, 384 00:20:30.720 --> 00:20:33.680 but to have this information available for those that you know, 385 00:20:34.039 --> 00:20:36.000 we're not mentoring full time or something like that, I 386 00:20:36.039 --> 00:20:37.240 think is valuable. 387 00:20:37.599 --> 00:20:42.039 The BGAM Handbook for contacting I get it, and and 388 00:20:42.119 --> 00:20:44.519 I mean that's a valuable piece of information that folks 389 00:20:44.559 --> 00:20:47.839 can have. You know, It's like, okay, not all coaches 390 00:20:47.880 --> 00:20:50.960 like to be contacted by email. They like to you know, 391 00:20:51.000 --> 00:20:53.279 they like carrier pigeon, they like to have things in 392 00:20:53.319 --> 00:20:55.759 a PDF, they like to have things mailed, and literally 393 00:20:55.759 --> 00:20:59.519 you're having to navigate individuals who have complete and totally 394 00:20:59.559 --> 00:21:03.079 different character traits about contact. And it's got to be 395 00:21:03.160 --> 00:21:07.680 something that you know, fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, eighteen year old athletes, 396 00:21:07.880 --> 00:21:09.240 they've got to know and it has to be a 397 00:21:09.279 --> 00:21:11.920 case by case basis, because you can't just blanket assume 398 00:21:12.359 --> 00:21:14.920 that everybody wants to be contacted the same way at 399 00:21:14.920 --> 00:21:17.519 the same time. Because you get you get a coach 400 00:21:17.880 --> 00:21:20.400 at the wrong day, at the wrong time. He might 401 00:21:20.400 --> 00:21:22.920