WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:04.040 KFI AM six forty. You're listening to Dean Sharp, the 2 00:00:04.080 --> 00:00:09.359 House Whisperer on demand on the iHeartRadio app. Hey, welcome 3 00:00:09.640 --> 00:00:13.880 to home where. Every week we help you better understand 4 00:00:13.919 --> 00:00:17.960 that place where you live. I am Dean Sharp, the 5 00:00:18.000 --> 00:00:23.039 House Whisperer, custom home Builder, custom home designer, and most 6 00:00:23.039 --> 00:00:27.239 important today, your guide to turning your ordinary house into 7 00:00:27.559 --> 00:00:30.960 an extraordinary home. All right, we're getting very personal today, 8 00:00:31.480 --> 00:00:34.799 very personal. We're going into the Holy of Holies, as 9 00:00:34.840 --> 00:00:38.240 it were, for your home. We're talking about your bedroom, 10 00:00:38.679 --> 00:00:44.119 bedrooms today, bedroom design, bedroom talk, boomb chick a boumb bomb. Now, 11 00:00:44.159 --> 00:00:45.840 it doesn't have to be it does not have to 12 00:00:45.880 --> 00:00:49.159 be that way, although it's not a bad thing anyway. 13 00:00:49.759 --> 00:00:54.159 We're gonna talk bedrooms today, and of course also we're 14 00:00:54.200 --> 00:00:56.240 going to be taking your calls. Let me give you 15 00:00:56.280 --> 00:01:01.000 the number right now, eight three three two. Ask Dean 16 00:01:01.159 --> 00:01:04.680 A three three the numeral two. Ask Dean A three 17 00:01:04.719 --> 00:01:09.760 three two Beep ask Dean. It's just that simple. And 18 00:01:09.799 --> 00:01:13.519 of course, you know, as it is every show, regardless 19 00:01:13.560 --> 00:01:16.439 of what I have selected as my main topic of 20 00:01:16.480 --> 00:01:18.879 the day, when it comes to calls, it's free for all. 21 00:01:18.959 --> 00:01:22.480 You get to decide anything that you are scratching your 22 00:01:22.480 --> 00:01:28.480 head about your home today, design, construction, DIY stuff. It's 23 00:01:28.560 --> 00:01:35.239 all fair game inside, outside, landscape, interior, scape decor, fluffing pillows, 24 00:01:35.319 --> 00:01:39.959 whatever the case may be. A three three two ask Dean. 25 00:01:40.040 --> 00:01:42.480 The phone lines are open right now. Producer Richie, he's 26 00:01:42.519 --> 00:01:44.959 standing by. He's gonna take your call. He'll tell you 27 00:01:44.959 --> 00:01:47.400 everything you need to know. Pop you into the queue. 28 00:01:47.519 --> 00:01:49.719 You can listen to the show while you wait, and 29 00:01:49.719 --> 00:01:52.480 then hopefully we can put our heads together. We'll figure 30 00:01:52.480 --> 00:01:55.719 it out. And if we do all of this right, 31 00:01:56.079 --> 00:01:58.280 we're going to bring some light into your morning, and 32 00:01:58.280 --> 00:02:00.959 we're gonna make you feel glad that you were here. 33 00:02:01.280 --> 00:02:05.760 Speaking of being glad that somebody is here, Elmer is 34 00:02:05.879 --> 00:02:09.840 on the board. Good morning, Wilmar, Good morning Dean. Thanks 35 00:02:09.879 --> 00:02:13.840 for having me morning now doing good. Yeah, I'm up 36 00:02:13.960 --> 00:02:16.560 and I'm not tired, and I am happy to be here. 37 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:19.960 There you go. That's those are the three keys of 38 00:02:20.039 --> 00:02:23.719 the process. Awesome. And like I said, producer Richie is 39 00:02:23.719 --> 00:02:26.280 standing by, not near his mic right now. That's fine 40 00:02:26.319 --> 00:02:29.800 because he's busy. Oh look at that, he's busy taking call. Hey, 41 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:32.159 I totally jelled. I did not look around the corner. 42 00:02:32.199 --> 00:02:34.439 Who is sitting at the news desk, who's hiding in 43 00:02:34.479 --> 00:02:41.520 the booth. This is Eileen Gonzalez Live twenty four hour Newsroom. Wow. Wow, 44 00:02:41.680 --> 00:02:44.159 there's a lot of energy coming out of there right now. 45 00:02:44.280 --> 00:02:46.759 I'm faking it. I'm tired. I'm not gonna wine. Okay, 46 00:02:46.919 --> 00:02:50.039 why did you have a You have a big Saturday, Eileen? 47 00:02:51.360 --> 00:02:55.759 Just working, you know. Yeah, it's here till seven yesterday 48 00:02:55.840 --> 00:02:59.479 and yeah, and came back bright and bright eyed and 49 00:02:59.520 --> 00:03:03.199 bushy tail this morning. Well you sounded, you sounded, and 50 00:03:03.319 --> 00:03:06.599 I'm glad you're faking it. They continue, you make it. 51 00:03:06.639 --> 00:03:10.360 But it's all working out great, all right, that's the team. 52 00:03:10.560 --> 00:03:13.800 Oh oh and also now, you know, if you heard 53 00:03:13.840 --> 00:03:17.400 the yesterday's show, you heard me kind of getting on 54 00:03:17.439 --> 00:03:20.400 the case that at this moment, at this moment in 55 00:03:20.520 --> 00:03:26.159 yesterday's show, I looked across the table and who was there? 56 00:03:27.879 --> 00:03:32.639 My dog, Sammy the beagle. That was it. Tina was taken. 57 00:03:33.759 --> 00:03:36.759 You know. We're just back from spending a couple of 58 00:03:36.759 --> 00:03:40.840 weeks in Vermont, just sucking in autumn in a big way. 59 00:03:41.280 --> 00:03:46.800 And Tina has extended her vacation time apparently, but today 60 00:03:47.360 --> 00:03:50.280 she has a legit excuse for not sitting across the 61 00:03:50.319 --> 00:03:52.960 table from me, because I'm looking at just an empty 62 00:03:53.319 --> 00:03:57.960 sofa right there, a mic just hanging out there, no 63 00:03:58.000 --> 00:04:04.080 one wearing the headphones. Why because today is Tina's birthday 64 00:04:04.280 --> 00:04:12.319 and exactly also, by the way, earlier this week on Wednesday, 65 00:04:12.360 --> 00:04:14.960 my daughter in law, Christie's birthday, and so the two 66 00:04:15.000 --> 00:04:19.160 of them are headed out to get some special pampering 67 00:04:19.439 --> 00:04:22.360 right now before we have a little get together for 68 00:04:22.439 --> 00:04:28.360 them this afternoon. Also Elmer's birthday this week, So you 69 00:04:28.399 --> 00:04:30.720 know what, three of my favorite people all lined up 70 00:04:30.759 --> 00:04:34.639 in a row. Part of what makes autumn a very 71 00:04:34.720 --> 00:04:38.560 very special time. So anyway, here I am sitting on 72 00:04:38.600 --> 00:04:44.519 my own. We're gonna dive into bedrooms. Let me pull 73 00:04:44.600 --> 00:04:48.439 up my special bedroom notes here because I had a 74 00:04:48.439 --> 00:04:54.879 couple of things. Oh, somebody asked yesterday, how was how 75 00:04:55.000 --> 00:04:58.600 was Vermont? And you know what, what can I say? 76 00:04:59.000 --> 00:05:07.800 Vermont is amazing? Just amazing? Did now we almost almost 77 00:05:08.040 --> 00:05:11.680 hit peak color? And let me tell you, if what 78 00:05:11.800 --> 00:05:15.879 we saw wasn't peak, then I can't even imagine what 79 00:05:16.040 --> 00:05:20.560 peak is because you know, born and raised in southern California, 80 00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:24.120 and I've gotten around the planet some you know, But 81 00:05:24.560 --> 00:05:26.639 never It's always been kind of a bucket list thing. 82 00:05:26.680 --> 00:05:30.079 I've never been at ground zero for autumn in the 83 00:05:30.160 --> 00:05:35.040 United States at the exact right time, and man, we 84 00:05:35.120 --> 00:05:39.959 were there. Autumn is a blaze in the state of Vermont. 85 00:05:40.000 --> 00:05:43.600 And Vermont is such a cool, cool place. I'll tell 86 00:05:43.639 --> 00:05:47.199 you more about it as times go, but yeah, we 87 00:05:47.199 --> 00:05:49.759 we just had a blast. Just suffice it to say 88 00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:56.639 that I rediscovered how fun it is to drive, to drive, 89 00:05:57.240 --> 00:06:02.519 like on highways and stuff. Wasn't expecting that, wasn't expecting 90 00:06:02.560 --> 00:06:06.160 to feel relaxed driving, But you know what when you're 91 00:06:06.279 --> 00:06:09.319 one of only like three cars on the highway and 92 00:06:09.439 --> 00:06:12.920 everything around you is just gorgeous. And by the way, 93 00:06:13.199 --> 00:06:16.160 here's a reason to love the state of Vermont. They 94 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:20.920 have a law that forever in today they do not 95 00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:25.560 allow billboards. Billboards are illegal in Vermont. There's no such thing. 96 00:06:25.560 --> 00:06:27.519 Why because they don't want anything block in the view. 97 00:06:27.879 --> 00:06:34.839 And rightly so. It is rural. Their biggest city, Burlington, 98 00:06:35.959 --> 00:06:41.480 not the capital. The capital's Montpellier. But but Burlington is 99 00:06:41.480 --> 00:06:48.079 their biggest city. And we're talking about metropolitan Burlington, bustling 100 00:06:48.720 --> 00:06:52.199 with like forty five thousand people. That's it. It's literally 101 00:06:52.240 --> 00:06:55.319 I think it. I think Burlington has the record of 102 00:06:55.439 --> 00:07:01.040 being the smallest largest city in a state of all 103 00:07:01.079 --> 00:07:05.759 the states, because it is the largest city in the 104 00:07:05.920 --> 00:07:09.040 entire state of Vermont, with forty five thousand people in 105 00:07:09.160 --> 00:07:15.639 the immediate downtown Burlington area, and then outside of Burlington, 106 00:07:15.720 --> 00:07:18.279 it just keeps getting smaller and smaller. I think most 107 00:07:18.319 --> 00:07:20.839 of the villages and it's better to call them villages 108 00:07:20.920 --> 00:07:24.800 than towns. I think. You know, we're talking like fifteen 109 00:07:24.879 --> 00:07:29.399 hundred to three thousand people population. It's just so nice, 110 00:07:29.720 --> 00:07:33.360 and everybody had the same vibe, and I came back 111 00:07:34.319 --> 00:07:37.199 full of maple syrup. There's a good amount of maple 112 00:07:37.199 --> 00:07:40.800 syrup in my veins right now, which might explain my 113 00:07:41.040 --> 00:07:43.079 energy level and the fact that we had two weeks 114 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:45.600 of rest. So anyway, there you go. Those of you 115 00:07:45.639 --> 00:07:48.000 who are always annoyed that I spend the first segment 116 00:07:48.079 --> 00:07:50.680 talking about personal stuff, I don't care. 117 00:07:51.720 --> 00:07:55.000 You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 118 00:07:55.120 --> 00:07:56.879 KFI AM six forty. 119 00:07:58.120 --> 00:08:01.639 Dean Sharp the house Whisper at your service. Hey, you 120 00:08:01.680 --> 00:08:04.600 know what, whether you live in a condo or a 121 00:08:04.639 --> 00:08:08.000 cottage or a castle, if it's the place you call home, 122 00:08:08.120 --> 00:08:11.160 I'm here to help you take it to the next 123 00:08:11.399 --> 00:08:15.759 level and do it in an encouraging and uplifting way. Yeah, 124 00:08:16.199 --> 00:08:21.480 some say in a nerdy way, but why do those 125 00:08:21.519 --> 00:08:24.160 have to be opposites of each other. Let's just bring 126 00:08:24.199 --> 00:08:28.160 it all in there, you go. Okay, we're talking about 127 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:31.600 bedrooms today, also taking calls. Let me give you the 128 00:08:31.680 --> 00:08:34.679 number one more time, eight three to three two. Ask 129 00:08:34.879 --> 00:08:38.559 Dean A three three the numeral two. Ask Dean. We've 130 00:08:38.559 --> 00:08:40.320 got some calls on the board, but you know what, 131 00:08:40.360 --> 00:08:43.000 I picked calls at random, so we got room for you. 132 00:08:43.639 --> 00:08:46.399 Give us a call eight three to three two, ask Dan. 133 00:08:46.519 --> 00:08:52.759 All right, the bedroom. It seems like a pretty straightforward idea. 134 00:08:52.759 --> 00:08:54.480 And by the way, can I just say that I'm 135 00:08:54.559 --> 00:08:57.279 thrilled to get back to some design talk. It's been 136 00:08:57.320 --> 00:08:59.879 a little while, been taking care of nuts and bolts, 137 00:09:00.080 --> 00:09:03.879 fire season talk, roofing talk. You know, I love the 138 00:09:03.960 --> 00:09:08.960 contractor side of things, but even more or just as much, 139 00:09:09.039 --> 00:09:11.480 I don't know, Yeah, probably even more. I love the 140 00:09:11.600 --> 00:09:14.600 design side of things. So happy to be giving you 141 00:09:14.679 --> 00:09:19.240 design advice today. So it seems like a pretty straightforward idea, 142 00:09:19.320 --> 00:09:23.080 the bedroom. But it's really more difficult than most people 143 00:09:23.120 --> 00:09:29.320 think to design a truly great bedroom. Now, how can 144 00:09:29.360 --> 00:09:35.639 I express to you the level of importance for design 145 00:09:35.759 --> 00:09:39.120 in the bedroom from this perspective, From my perspective, and 146 00:09:39.159 --> 00:09:45.200 again my perspective on your home is that it is 147 00:09:45.240 --> 00:09:49.120 a beautiful place that other people appreciate, but it's your home. 148 00:09:49.320 --> 00:09:52.759 It's for you. And of all the places in your 149 00:09:52.799 --> 00:10:00.960 home that are for you and probably least for everybody else, bedroom, right, 150 00:10:01.279 --> 00:10:04.039 I mean, let's face it doesn't mean that it isn't 151 00:10:04.120 --> 00:10:07.840 part of the tour when people come over and want 152 00:10:07.879 --> 00:10:12.200 to see your awesome house. But your bedroom is for you. 153 00:10:12.360 --> 00:10:15.200 It's your experience. This is a kind of you know, 154 00:10:16.559 --> 00:10:22.039 ground zero for you, and getting that right is something 155 00:10:22.120 --> 00:10:24.879 that you got to get your head in that this 156 00:10:25.159 --> 00:10:28.360 is my space for me kind of place. And it 157 00:10:28.519 --> 00:10:31.720 starts with asking the big question, and that is what 158 00:10:32.080 --> 00:10:35.879 is your bedroom for? Now that may seem super obvious 159 00:10:35.919 --> 00:10:42.240 to you, there are strong opinions amongst most designers about bedrooms. 160 00:10:43.080 --> 00:10:46.919 I would say the majority of designers that I know 161 00:10:47.120 --> 00:10:51.440 and their approach to the bedroom is very simply that 162 00:10:51.600 --> 00:10:55.919 bedrooms are primarily about the three s's. The three s's. 163 00:10:56.039 --> 00:11:01.679 What are the three s's sleep, sex, and sickness and 164 00:11:01.759 --> 00:11:07.000 you know that's justifiably probably accurate. Right, These are the 165 00:11:07.039 --> 00:11:11.519 three things most likely to take place in the bedroom, 166 00:11:11.600 --> 00:11:14.360 and some of you are like, well, maybe two of them, 167 00:11:14.399 --> 00:11:16.480 but I don't know about that third way. All right, 168 00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:18.919 I get it. We're not going to get that personal 169 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:22.360 with you. But the bedroom is where we spend a 170 00:11:22.360 --> 00:11:27.919 lot of time when we are sick and otherwise recreational 171 00:11:27.960 --> 00:11:32.399 activities like sleep and other things. So here's the thing 172 00:11:33.240 --> 00:11:36.320 that as a given, my view is that a bedroom 173 00:11:36.360 --> 00:11:40.240 should be whatever you want it to be. Okay, it's 174 00:11:40.279 --> 00:11:42.919 the twenty first century, and you know we live in 175 00:11:42.960 --> 00:11:46.840 a post COVID world, and really the sky is the 176 00:11:46.919 --> 00:11:49.840 limit when it comes to what you want and need 177 00:11:49.919 --> 00:11:51.759 your bedroom to do. And of course all of this 178 00:11:51.879 --> 00:11:55.120 depends on the space that you have for the bedroom. 179 00:11:56.679 --> 00:12:03.320 But it's often in the bedroom where we yield the 180 00:12:03.360 --> 00:12:07.639 most to other people's stories. And that's what I want 181 00:12:07.679 --> 00:12:09.600 to bring to an end. I want it to be 182 00:12:10.159 --> 00:12:14.240 your story in there. So, uh, this is the question, 183 00:12:14.399 --> 00:12:18.240 the big question you put yourself in the bedroom, and 184 00:12:18.600 --> 00:12:23.960 we need to ask at least four questions of this space. Okay, 185 00:12:24.519 --> 00:12:32.279 Number one, what is the dressing experience? Okay, now you're like, yeah, 186 00:12:32.399 --> 00:12:34.080 I get up, I get my clothes out, and I 187 00:12:34.080 --> 00:12:36.519 get dressed in Yeah, But I want you to think 188 00:12:36.559 --> 00:12:42.080 in terms of what is the optimal dressing experience that 189 00:12:42.159 --> 00:12:46.039 you want to have in your bedroom space, assuming that 190 00:12:46.080 --> 00:12:50.159 the bedroom is where you get dressed. Okay, what's the 191 00:12:50.279 --> 00:12:56.440 dressing experience? Two? What's the waking experience? And I don't 192 00:12:56.480 --> 00:12:59.799 mean being awake, I mean when you wake up. As 193 00:12:59.879 --> 00:13:04.519 you are waking up, what is your experience in this place? 194 00:13:04.960 --> 00:13:10.480 Is dark? Is it gloomy? What is And here's something 195 00:13:10.519 --> 00:13:12.679 really important. One of the and I'm going to get 196 00:13:12.679 --> 00:13:16.200 to this in a bit, but one of the primary 197 00:13:16.360 --> 00:13:21.120 angles from which the bedroom must be judged is not 198 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:24.679 not the magazine shot right, which is usually like from 199 00:13:24.759 --> 00:13:27.120 the entry door in right, that's what you see in 200 00:13:27.200 --> 00:13:31.480 the design magazines. That's a secondary angle as far as 201 00:13:31.480 --> 00:13:33.399 I'm concerned, because where do we spend most of our 202 00:13:33.440 --> 00:13:36.320 time in the bedroom, in the bed, and where should 203 00:13:36.320 --> 00:13:41.080 you evaluate how your room looks and functions from your bed? 204 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:46.240 Starting with what's right above your head? Right? So when 205 00:13:46.279 --> 00:13:49.480 you wake up, your eyes first open up. Do we 206 00:13:49.559 --> 00:13:53.399 have morning light coming in through windows? Is it dark? 207 00:13:53.559 --> 00:13:56.840 Is it inclosed off? And when you look up at 208 00:13:56.879 --> 00:14:00.720 the ceiling when your eyes flicker open from your pillow. 209 00:14:01.440 --> 00:14:05.480 Is there anything there to greet you? Some folks have 210 00:14:06.440 --> 00:14:08.399 you know, popped into and maybe I can get a 211 00:14:08.440 --> 00:14:11.440 shot of this. I'm not gonna show you everything, but 212 00:14:12.600 --> 00:14:15.240 you know, we've got a ceiling treatment on our ceiling 213 00:14:15.320 --> 00:14:18.240 in our bedroom. It just goes along with the motif 214 00:14:18.440 --> 00:14:21.480 of our room. But we've put kind of a molded 215 00:14:21.960 --> 00:14:26.960 and wallpapered ceiling treatment along with a really cool light 216 00:14:27.120 --> 00:14:31.000 fixture that hangs in our bedroom ceiling over our bedroom, 217 00:14:31.320 --> 00:14:33.759 over our bed, and you know what, it's just a 218 00:14:33.799 --> 00:14:36.879 really pleasant It's the thing I want to see when 219 00:14:36.919 --> 00:14:39.559 I lift my eyes in the morning. That's what I 220 00:14:39.639 --> 00:14:43.559 mean by what is the waking experience? Okay, the third 221 00:14:43.639 --> 00:14:46.320 question is what is the sleep experience? And then we 222 00:14:46.399 --> 00:14:48.639 have to talk about the bed, and we've got to 223 00:14:48.679 --> 00:14:51.159 talk about fresh air, and we've got to talk about 224 00:14:51.279 --> 00:14:53.679 lights in the room or the absence of light in 225 00:14:53.720 --> 00:14:58.039 the room and so on, and finally the fourth question 226 00:14:58.159 --> 00:15:02.279 is your bedroom a sanctum? Right? Is it a retreat 227 00:15:02.399 --> 00:15:06.320 for you? Is it a place where you just sleep 228 00:15:06.360 --> 00:15:11.559 and then you're out? Is it for show, which in 229 00:15:11.600 --> 00:15:13.759 my book is a little weird. I always put that 230 00:15:13.799 --> 00:15:16.879 at as the last priority. Or is it all of 231 00:15:16.919 --> 00:15:19.279 the above or a combination of the above. So these 232 00:15:19.360 --> 00:15:21.840 are the essential questions that we've got to warm our 233 00:15:21.879 --> 00:15:24.840 brains up to in order to get into this subject 234 00:15:24.919 --> 00:15:28.440 of how to design a bedroom best. 235 00:15:29.519 --> 00:15:32.799 You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 236 00:15:32.919 --> 00:15:34.399 KFI Am six forty. 237 00:15:36.559 --> 00:15:40.279 You know your Home with Dean Sharp, the house whisper 238 00:15:40.320 --> 00:15:44.360 Welcome home, Welcome to the program. Have I mentioned this yet? 239 00:15:44.840 --> 00:15:48.759 It is a good, good, gorgeous day outside. Have you 240 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:52.519 looked out there? If you haven't, you're probably breaking some 241 00:15:52.799 --> 00:15:57.039 law of nature. You really should get an eyeball full 242 00:15:57.519 --> 00:16:00.759 of what's going on outside in southern California. You this morning, 243 00:16:01.320 --> 00:16:05.399 it is not cold and rainy, it's not overcast, it's 244 00:16:05.480 --> 00:16:12.000 not blazing hot. It is a beautiful Southern California fall day. 245 00:16:12.120 --> 00:16:14.720 And you know what, You've got to celebrate every single 246 00:16:14.799 --> 00:16:17.720 one that comes our way. So I hope you got 247 00:16:17.720 --> 00:16:20.600 plans for today. Not yet, though, you stay right where 248 00:16:20.600 --> 00:16:23.440 you are because we're talking about your bedroom. You know 249 00:16:23.480 --> 00:16:26.879 how important that is. So anyway we are. Oh and 250 00:16:26.879 --> 00:16:29.120 that was R two D two in the background. There 251 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:34.240 gotta shut that guy up. We're talking about your bedroom. Also, 252 00:16:34.320 --> 00:16:37.120 let me throw out the number right after the break, 253 00:16:37.159 --> 00:16:39.320 we're going to be going to the phones as we do. 254 00:16:40.360 --> 00:16:43.720 Eight three three two, Ask Dean eight three to three 255 00:16:43.759 --> 00:16:47.480 the numeral two. Ask Dean. All right, let's get back 256 00:16:47.519 --> 00:16:51.200 to it. Where'd I leave you? We've asked the big questions, 257 00:16:51.240 --> 00:16:54.399 the four big questions. You know, what's our dressing experience 258 00:16:54.519 --> 00:16:57.600 in the bedroom, what's our waking up experience? What's our 259 00:16:57.639 --> 00:17:02.200 sleep experience? And is your bedroom a sanctum just for you? 260 00:17:02.399 --> 00:17:04.119 Is it for show? Is it both? 261 00:17:04.279 --> 00:17:04.519 You know? 262 00:17:04.559 --> 00:17:07.160 What do you want to do with this room? These 263 00:17:07.160 --> 00:17:09.599 are the critical questions that you ask because the bedroom 264 00:17:09.640 --> 00:17:14.000 is an awkward place in terms of just general design, 265 00:17:15.119 --> 00:17:19.920 because it's so very you, and it's so very not 266 00:17:20.200 --> 00:17:25.079 a part of what belongs to you know, public view, right, unless, 267 00:17:25.119 --> 00:17:30.079 of course that's your thing. So bedroom function, at the 268 00:17:30.160 --> 00:17:32.480 end of the day, as far as I'm concerned, has 269 00:17:32.519 --> 00:17:35.240 everything to do with just whatever you want it to be. 270 00:17:35.960 --> 00:17:38.680 It's relative to the function of the whole house, by 271 00:17:38.720 --> 00:17:42.279 the way, right, So, so is it a place for 272 00:17:42.480 --> 00:17:46.559 just sleep or romance? Is it a media room? Is 273 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:50.279 it a standalone retreat? Now, people who have a little 274 00:17:50.279 --> 00:17:54.839 bit roomy or bedrooms. This is a concept that that's 275 00:17:54.839 --> 00:17:58.720 an awkward concept. And what do I mean by awkward. 276 00:17:58.839 --> 00:18:03.960 I mean that for a long long time, higher end 277 00:18:04.039 --> 00:18:09.720 homes have classically had huge bedrooms, which coming from a 278 00:18:09.759 --> 00:18:14.319 guy who not only, you know, during daylight hours, designs 279 00:18:14.440 --> 00:18:18.960 higher end homes, but also lives in a small cottage. Right, 280 00:18:19.640 --> 00:18:24.680 my bedroom is dinky by just general standards, but it's 281 00:18:24.720 --> 00:18:29.960 everything that we need it to be, okay, And so 282 00:18:30.119 --> 00:18:34.720 the idea of the huge bedroom. What that does is 283 00:18:34.759 --> 00:18:38.079 it provides a space for not only the bed and 284 00:18:38.200 --> 00:18:44.079 of course dressers or whatever, but also theoretically a sitting area. 285 00:18:44.440 --> 00:18:48.759 Now Here is where this gets really important. I have 286 00:18:48.839 --> 00:18:54.559 to say that the vast majority of sitting area bedrooms 287 00:18:55.039 --> 00:19:00.279 that I have encountered in consults and designery work and 288 00:19:00.319 --> 00:19:05.559 so on, when I interview the owner the client, I 289 00:19:05.680 --> 00:19:08.200 find out that, yeah, yeah, we never use this. I 290 00:19:08.240 --> 00:19:10.079 mean we put a chair there, because if we didn't 291 00:19:10.079 --> 00:19:13.440 put a chair there, this room would just be enormously crazy, 292 00:19:13.480 --> 00:19:17.200 stupid big. But I find that the vast majority of 293 00:19:17.599 --> 00:19:21.480 quote unquote sitting areas in bedrooms, at least in the past, 294 00:19:22.160 --> 00:19:25.400 go unused. They are just what they are, Okay, they're 295 00:19:25.440 --> 00:19:27.920 just they're kind of taking up empty space. That's kind 296 00:19:27.920 --> 00:19:33.920 of a shame. Well, during a major remodel request from homeowners, 297 00:19:34.559 --> 00:19:37.160 will I asked that question right off the top, and 298 00:19:37.200 --> 00:19:40.319 I'll tell you why. And you'll appreciate this, because if 299 00:19:41.240 --> 00:19:44.839 if we've got a large area in the master bedroom 300 00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:50.920 or excuse me, primary bedroom that is going unused as 301 00:19:50.960 --> 00:19:54.400 a seating area, and we're thinking about doing some major 302 00:19:54.519 --> 00:19:59.200 changes on the house, then hey, how about we shrink 303 00:19:59.240 --> 00:20:01.519 that area down and how about we slide a wall 304 00:20:01.559 --> 00:20:06.240 a little bit and enlarge the bathroom? Yeah, or a 305 00:20:06.279 --> 00:20:09.960 closet or both, Okay, because these are the kinds of 306 00:20:10.000 --> 00:20:14.000 things that people really really really love having more closet 307 00:20:14.000 --> 00:20:18.000 space and enlarging the bathroom. So the question of is 308 00:20:18.079 --> 00:20:22.160 the bedroom a retreat for you, I'm being very very 309 00:20:22.240 --> 00:20:25.759 I want you to be very specific about that. Is 310 00:20:25.920 --> 00:20:30.960 the bedroom the retreat for you? It's a given these 311 00:20:31.079 --> 00:20:38.079 days that more than ever, bathrooms are amazing spalike retreats 312 00:20:38.279 --> 00:20:41.440 for people, and they have grown and grown and grown 313 00:20:41.599 --> 00:20:44.160 in that role. And I would say, I would argue 314 00:20:44.160 --> 00:20:47.319 that that's just a natural that's unnatural. You've heard me 315 00:20:47.319 --> 00:20:50.640 say this before, and I'll say it again that in 316 00:20:50.720 --> 00:20:56.839 some ways we are culturally trained that the bathroom is 317 00:20:56.839 --> 00:20:59.160 going to be a retreat. Okay, now you want to 318 00:20:59.160 --> 00:21:02.079 hear this quick, the psychology of the bathroom as a 319 00:21:02.119 --> 00:21:06.640 retreat from your very earliest year. Think about this when 320 00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:09.880 you're just a little toddler, Okay, as you start to 321 00:21:09.960 --> 00:21:16.519 develop your potty skills, right, there is a landmark day 322 00:21:16.559 --> 00:21:21.440 that comes in which your parents, instead of going in 323 00:21:21.480 --> 00:21:25.119 with you and handling all of that, they encourage you, 324 00:21:25.480 --> 00:21:30.160 I mean encourage you go into the bathroom alone with 325 00:21:30.319 --> 00:21:33.240 the door closed. In fact, I would argue for most 326 00:21:33.279 --> 00:21:37.000 of us, the bathroom is the very very first room 327 00:21:38.119 --> 00:21:44.440 in childhood development that your parents actually tell you, oh yeah, 328 00:21:44.559 --> 00:21:49.279 please go in that room, be alone, close the door, 329 00:21:50.599 --> 00:21:55.359 and have that privacy space. I think we all carry 330 00:21:55.359 --> 00:21:57.880 that with us. We carry it with us because even 331 00:21:57.920 --> 00:22:00.960 as adults, let's face it, you're at a party, you're 332 00:22:00.960 --> 00:22:04.000 at a restaurant, and the conversation lags or whatever, you know, 333 00:22:04.079 --> 00:22:06.119 whatever the case may be, and you need a little 334 00:22:06.119 --> 00:22:09.000 space for yourself. What do you do? Yeah, You're like, oh, 335 00:22:09.079 --> 00:22:11.160 you guys, excuse me, I'm gonna go use the restroom. 336 00:22:11.440 --> 00:22:14.960 Even if you don't have to go why Because once 337 00:22:14.960 --> 00:22:18.319 you're in there, that is your space, right, even if 338 00:22:18.359 --> 00:22:21.839 it's a public space, it's your space while you're there. 339 00:22:22.119 --> 00:22:25.240 So I would argue that that is ingrained in us 340 00:22:25.279 --> 00:22:27.720 from day one, that the bathroom is a retreat space. 341 00:22:27.759 --> 00:22:31.960 But the question of whether the bedroom, the actual room 342 00:22:32.039 --> 00:22:35.279 with the bed in it, is that a retreat space. 343 00:22:35.880 --> 00:22:38.400 Is there a bed and a desk? Is there a 344 00:22:38.440 --> 00:22:41.960 bed and a chair and a place to read? And 345 00:22:42.200 --> 00:22:47.000 if there is, do you use it? That's a question 346 00:22:47.319 --> 00:22:51.160 that has to get very very homeowner specific. Now I 347 00:22:51.200 --> 00:22:53.400 may sound like I spent a lot of time on that, 348 00:22:53.640 --> 00:22:57.440 but and probably most of us don't have bedrooms large 349 00:22:57.519 --> 00:22:59.920 enough to have a seating area in them. But I 350 00:23:00.039 --> 00:23:02.559 I'm you know, I'm here for everybody, so I'm trying 351 00:23:02.599 --> 00:23:04.920 to cover the entire it's a moot point if your 352 00:23:04.920 --> 00:23:07.839 bedroom is like mine and you barely have room for 353 00:23:07.960 --> 00:23:12.759 the bed, Okay, Nevertheless, you know, I just want to 354 00:23:12.799 --> 00:23:16.759 cover this for everyone, so that whatever the degree of 355 00:23:16.839 --> 00:23:20.000 space you have in your bedroom, we're really thinking through 356 00:23:20.519 --> 00:23:23.640 are we using it this way or could we use 357 00:23:23.680 --> 00:23:26.400 it a different way? Okay, all right, we're going to 358 00:23:26.440 --> 00:23:32.079 get into some bigger specifics and some very specific advice 359 00:23:32.359 --> 00:23:37.039 on buying furniture and closet orientation and so on when 360 00:23:37.079 --> 00:23:38.880 we return to the subject. But when we come back 361 00:23:38.880 --> 00:23:40.720 from the break, guess what it's time to go to 362 00:23:40.759 --> 00:23:41.279 the phones. 363 00:23:42.200 --> 00:23:45.519 You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 364 00:23:45.599 --> 00:23:50.279 KFI AM six forty. 365 00:23:50.319 --> 00:23:53.519 Welcome home. Thanks for joining us on the program here, 366 00:23:54.359 --> 00:23:57.759 beautiful day outside. I appreciate that you are with me 367 00:23:58.000 --> 00:24:01.920 here right now talking about your home, and specifically we're 368 00:24:01.960 --> 00:24:06.200 talking about your bedroom today. Design ideas, design concepts, the 369 00:24:06.240 --> 00:24:10.279 way to approach, of course, from a whole perspective, because 370 00:24:10.279 --> 00:24:12.680 that's where I love to start, as you know, I 371 00:24:12.799 --> 00:24:16.000 love to you know, I'm all about the you know, 372 00:24:16.200 --> 00:24:17.920 you know the old saying. You know, give a man 373 00:24:17.960 --> 00:24:20.799 a fish, feed him for a day, teach him to fish, 374 00:24:20.880 --> 00:24:22.960 feed him for a lifetime. Yeah, I'm all about to 375 00:24:23.000 --> 00:24:26.240 teach somebody to fish thing, right. I just want to 376 00:24:26.279 --> 00:24:29.480 equip you so that you can approach all of the 377 00:24:29.519 --> 00:24:33.480 design for your home in a way that just goes 378 00:24:33.599 --> 00:24:36.480 and goes and goes and works for you instead of 379 00:24:36.640 --> 00:24:39.839 just like, oh, that that picture in the magazine looked 380 00:24:39.880 --> 00:24:42.720 pretty good. Maybe we should try to do that. You know, 381 00:24:42.799 --> 00:24:45.920 it's just you know, sometimes you luck out. Sometimes it 382 00:24:46.000 --> 00:24:49.599 works most of the time, trust me, does not does not. 383 00:24:50.039 --> 00:24:53.119 That's not the way to go about designing your own home. 384 00:24:53.480 --> 00:24:58.200 It's learning and giving yourself permission a little. I think 385 00:24:58.200 --> 00:25:00.400 I'm going to share in just a bit, little bit 386 00:25:00.400 --> 00:25:03.920 more about what I shared yesterday in terms of permission 387 00:25:04.759 --> 00:25:09.079 about designing your place. But that'll be coming up. Here's 388 00:25:09.119 --> 00:25:11.839 a quick thing, just so you know, a lot of 389 00:25:11.839 --> 00:25:15.799 stuff happening now that the holidays have hit. Yes, for 390 00:25:15.880 --> 00:25:19.400 those of you who are wondering the Sunday before Thanksgiving, 391 00:25:19.440 --> 00:25:23.640 which actually is not that far away, the Sunday before Thanksgiving, 392 00:25:23.720 --> 00:25:27.359 we will we are confirmed, we are booked. We are 393 00:25:27.400 --> 00:25:31.640 doing yet another House Whisper holiday home show with a 394 00:25:31.720 --> 00:25:35.920 live studio audience right here on the fifth floor Honda 395 00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:41.359 Theater in our studios in Burbank, sponsored of course by 396 00:25:41.519 --> 00:25:44.759 Aldick Home. And yes, we will be giving away another 397 00:25:44.920 --> 00:25:48.839 fully decorated Aldi Christmas tree, which is awesome to a 398 00:25:48.920 --> 00:25:51.319 lucky audience member. And yes, we're going to have some 399 00:25:51.359 --> 00:25:55.839 special guests with us and tickets are going to be 400 00:25:55.880 --> 00:25:59.680 available soon. So just no, that's coming up market calendars. 401 00:25:59.759 --> 00:26:05.720