Speaker 1: This is Gary and Shannon and you're listening to kf
Speaker 1: I A M six forty, the Gary and Shannon Show
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Speaker 1: when we started this show, you would kind of shake
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Speaker 2: That what your bottom?
Speaker 3: Listen?
Speaker 4: This is the jam?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 4: Is it the move?
Speaker 1: I haven't heard this forever?
Speaker 2: Doesn't play in your head.
Speaker 4: It doesn't just play your head part. You always cut
Speaker 4: it off right, my favorite part?
Speaker 2: Leave you one more?
Speaker 4: That's hurtful. The Dow is a mess.
Speaker 1: It's having another down day on Wall Street right now.
Speaker 1: Dow down six seventy seven. Markets lost a combined four
Speaker 1: trillion dollars in value yesterday.
Speaker 4: Don't panic yet.
Speaker 1: Investors remain concerned over the state of the economy as
Speaker 1: this tariff war standoff, whatever it is, continues. Nasdaq S
Speaker 1: and P five hundred lower as well as you can
Speaker 1: imagine all that.
Speaker 3: Also playing in the background is this ongoing fight over
Speaker 3: a potential government shutdown. The Republican led House is planning
Speaker 3: a vote, I believe, at about one o'clock today our time,
Speaker 3: on a stopgap measure to keep the federal government funded
Speaker 3: beyond Friday.
Speaker 2: Politico has said that Vice President J. D.
Speaker 3: Vance met with House Republicans today and said that Republicans
Speaker 3: will be taking the blame for the government shutdown if
Speaker 3: they don't pass this. Mike Johnson, Speaker of the House,
Speaker 3: said this is squarely at the feet of Democrats if
Speaker 3: they don't pass something.
Speaker 2: So some dispute there, I suppose.
Speaker 1: Well, we broke this to you as it was breaking yesterday.
Speaker 1: We saw this coming. The murder trial of that Orange
Speaker 1: County judge who pulled a gun from his ankle holster
Speaker 1: and shot and killed his wife during an argument in
Speaker 1: their home in Anaheim Hills has ended in a mistrial.
Speaker 1: Jurors could not agree on a unanimous verdict, which means
Speaker 1: that they could not agree, thank you, despite more hours
Speaker 1: of deliberation than even evidence that they heard. This was
Speaker 1: Superior Court Judge Jeffrey Ferguson, who, while sitting at the
Speaker 1: police station said aloud to himself, I killed her. Ladies
Speaker 1: and gentlemen of the jury, convict my ass I did
Speaker 1: it well. The actual jury did not.
Speaker 3: The jury for person was telling a judge yesterday. So
Speaker 3: they were hung on a second degree murder charge eleven
Speaker 3: to one guilty eleven to one guilty they had had
Speaker 3: they unanimously agreed that he was not guilty of the
Speaker 3: second degree murder, they could have considered either a lesser
Speaker 3: involuntary manslaughter conviction, or even acquitted him of all the charges.
Speaker 1: He seemed to be holding back emotion during the week
Speaker 1: long trial. He did not show any obvious reaction to
Speaker 1: the announcement of the mistrial. Here's how it went down.
Speaker 1: If you're just joining the story, This was a judge.
Speaker 1: She liked his cocktails. He and his wife and one
Speaker 1: of the sons, they go out to dinner there in
Speaker 1: Orange County.
Speaker 4: They had a couple pops.
Speaker 1: After having a couple pops at home, they get into
Speaker 1: an argument about spending money on a son that he
Speaker 1: had had with another woman before these two were married.
Speaker 1: And as fights over money, off and get it gets
Speaker 1: contentious and he's at the dinner table when he uses
Speaker 1: his fingers in his hand to form the form a gun.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, make a gun with your
Speaker 1: hand with your fingers, right, we know how to do that.
Speaker 1: He does that to her at the table and she
Speaker 1: says something effective, why don't you use a real gun.
Speaker 1: They get home a couple more pops, they continue to
Speaker 1: get into it. He claims that he was trying to
Speaker 1: put the gun away and he took it out of
Speaker 1: his holster, it went off, it fired, and it killed her.
Speaker 1: The prosecutors argued, no, he obviously took it out in
Speaker 1: the heat of the moment, shot her and killed her.
Speaker 1: The son, who was there in the home that went
Speaker 1: to dinner and was in the home, subsequently said that
Speaker 1: his mother's last words were, he shot me. He The
Speaker 1: judge also, just moments after he shot and killed her,
Speaker 1: got on his phone and started texting his bailiff and
Speaker 1: court reporter. Hey, I'm not going to be in tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Sorry about that. I've shot and killed my wife. Yet,
Speaker 1: this is a jury that could not decide based on
Speaker 1: what I can only believe was a muddled explanation of
Speaker 1: the law. My only explanation is that they did not
Speaker 1: explain the law correctly to these us because the second
Speaker 1: degree murder charge is an implied malice murder. And here's
Speaker 1: how it's been described to me. You have a loaded
Speaker 1: gun and you fire it into a crowd of people.
Speaker 1: Do you mean to shoot and kill any.
Speaker 4: Of those people? No, you do not, But you know
Speaker 4: that what.
Speaker 1: You're doing is inherently dangerous. You know that you're operating
Speaker 1: with a conscious disregard of human life. That there alone
Speaker 1: is enough to get get you to a second degree murder.
Speaker 1: And they could not find that in this case. They
Speaker 1: must have believed the defense argument, or at least a
Speaker 1: one person stuck in dug in and would not believe
Speaker 1: anything different than the defense explanation that this guy had
Speaker 1: had a couple pops, he was trying to put the
Speaker 1: gun away, he's got the arthritis in the shoulder, he
Speaker 1: was sloppy, the gun went off and killed her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the prosecutors were basically saying it was a complete
Speaker 3: BS story that he admitted over and over again to
Speaker 3: shooting his wife. He said it outside the house, he
Speaker 3: said it in the police station. The key, at least
Speaker 3: to the defense was he never admitted to intentionally shooting
Speaker 3: his wife. And the way the prosecutors argued that was
Speaker 3: they said, well, this guy's clearly a judge. This guy
Speaker 3: knows the law, and he has the ability with that
Speaker 3: knowledge of the law, he has the ability to answer
Speaker 3: certain questions in certain ways to avoid culpability.
Speaker 1: But he didn't need to intentionally shoot her. That's what
Speaker 1: a second degree murder. Is is right? Yeah, and that's I
Speaker 1: think your point is perfect. That what we understand as
Speaker 1: the basic definition of second degree murder, this actually this
Speaker 1: fits it, and he admits to it. Todd Spitzer, the
Speaker 1: DA says that this is despite the hung jury, this
Speaker 1: and mistrial. This is a success for him because and
Speaker 1: for the ocda's office, because they have an eleven to one.
Speaker 1: They're pretty confident that they could do this again with
Speaker 1: twelve more juriors and come up with a twelve nothing.
Speaker 1: Tod Spitzer could take a dump in the morning and
Speaker 1: call it a successful day.
Speaker 2: Well, I think that's.
Speaker 1: You think that many people would. Many people would. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right, you're right.
Speaker 4: I was wrong.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean you made you made it here before
Speaker 3: you had your experiment.
Speaker 1: Before I peed the car. Yeah, I did make it.
Speaker 1: Thank you for letting me take that victory letter. Well today,
Speaker 1: all right? Coming up next. Did you ever know that
Speaker 1: there was a Life After Death club.
Speaker 4: In Orange County?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 1: Well there is, and they dedicate themselves to learning about
Speaker 1: people after they pass on. It's probably like a grief tool. Okay,
Speaker 1: you got just open your mind. As we move into
Speaker 1: the next segment, we shall.
Speaker 5: See you're listening to Gary and Shannon on demand from
Speaker 5: KFI AM six forty.
Speaker 1: Coming up next, a lot of American adults withdrawing from romance.
Speaker 1: Have you noticed it's not just young people, but the
Speaker 1: trend seems to be especially pronounced for people born between
Speaker 1: nineteen ninety seven and twenty twelve. They say that love
Speaker 1: is media driven. Not completely wrong, we'll dive into it.
Speaker 4: Coming up next.
Speaker 1: Well, there is a Life After Life Club and it's
Speaker 1: where exactly where you would think you would find it,
Speaker 1: exactly where you think you would find it, and that
Speaker 1: is what I think of as a wonderful place to
Speaker 1: spend my golden Year's leisure World.
Speaker 4: They're in Orange County.
Speaker 2: There's always a bathroom around the corner.
Speaker 1: The majority of residents in their mid seventies at leisure
Speaker 1: World and for almost twenty years, the Life After Life
Speaker 1: Club has gathered to learn about the healing power of UFOs,
Speaker 1: trance channeling the power of animal communication, near death experiences.
Speaker 4: Their sessions are recorded.
Speaker 1: Their YouTube channel has about thirty thousand subscribers more than
Speaker 1: three point five million visitors, and recently they all got
Speaker 1: together to hear what the dead have to say to
Speaker 1: the living.
Speaker 4: It's very beetlejuice, isn't it. I know, you don't believe
Speaker 4: in any of it.
Speaker 1: You don't have to come down anywhere because this is
Speaker 1: this could be something that evolves. I think a lot
Speaker 1: of people are doubters of psychics and things like that,
Speaker 1: and that's what they had. They had a psychic come in.
Speaker 1: Jennifer Rose is her name, very New agey, and.
Speaker 4: She speaks.
Speaker 1: She says of spirit. She's speaking of the dead, but
Speaker 1: she would never use that word. She says the dead
Speaker 1: are lifeless and gone, but the spirit which she courts
Speaker 1: is animated, full of love and loved. And they want
Speaker 1: to talk to Jennifer Rose about not only what the
Speaker 1: dead have to say to the living, but also to communicate.
Speaker 1: I mean, think about the demo here, leisure world. People
Speaker 1: in their mid seventies. Everyone's kind of with their own mortality.
Speaker 1: They probably have loss in their life, recent loss, a
Speaker 1: lot of it, and they want to believe that there's
Speaker 1: something beyond this world, or some of them want to
Speaker 1: believe that. So that's why they gather for this. She says,
Speaker 1: what happens when we pass over? That's what she asks
Speaker 1: the group. She says, as a medium, I bring a
Speaker 1: lot of people together in reuniting, and I deliver a
Speaker 1: lot of apologies too.
Speaker 4: Isn't that fascinating?
Speaker 1: All the people that have rifts with others and somebody
Speaker 1: passes on and that riff remains and it bothers them.
Speaker 1: One woman who didn't want to give her name, confide
Speaker 1: she liked to hear from her brother, who recently died.
Speaker 1: She says they were close until this last year, she said,
Speaker 1: when he lost his mind to cirrhosis and they fell apart,
Speaker 1: so she wanted to patch things up.
Speaker 2: Well, that's where my.
Speaker 3: The questions begin for me, which is oftentimes if you're
Speaker 3: going to if you're gonna go see a medium or
Speaker 3: a psychic or a spirit talk or whatever term, it's
Speaker 3: because you feel like there's some unfinished business that you
Speaker 3: want finished. I didn't get to answer the question, or
Speaker 3: I didn't get to tell you that I loved you,
Speaker 3: or I didn't get to hear from you that you
Speaker 3: were proud of me, whatever.
Speaker 2: And I think of.
Speaker 3: In my instance, for example, my parents died, but I'd
Speaker 3: never felt like there was unsaid stuff.
Speaker 2: We got it all out, we did everything we could.
Speaker 2: We were there.
Speaker 3: I was there when both of them pat like, that's
Speaker 3: a complete picture for me if I were to go
Speaker 3: see somebody like this. I don't have any open wounds
Speaker 3: that need to be solved, solved, saved. I don't have
Speaker 3: any wounds that need to be fixed. You know I don't.
Speaker 3: I'm not emotionally broken by my parents and need them
Speaker 3: to apologize or need.
Speaker 1: To hear this something you want to tell them, like
Speaker 1: if maybe if you know your daughter had a baby
Speaker 1: or something.
Speaker 4: I don't know. I have no idea what you would
Speaker 4: want to You've.
Speaker 3: Broken a lot of news about my family in the
Speaker 3: last ten minutes, and I want to know if that's
Speaker 3: true or not.
Speaker 2: My daughter is pregnant, she's not. Okay, good, thank you.
Speaker 1: No. The only news I broke is that it's her
Speaker 1: like best friend's birthday. I sat on Instagram.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 5: Well.
Speaker 4: One woman at.
Speaker 1: This leisure World gathering raised her hand with a story
Speaker 1: and a question. Her husband, she said, passed away almost
Speaker 1: five years ago, and the first year she felt him constantly.
Speaker 4: I've heard this before, she says.
Speaker 1: The TV came on, the lights came on, we started talking,
Speaker 1: the clock would go crazy.
Speaker 4: But then after a year and.
Speaker 1: A half, I woke up and I almost felt him
Speaker 1: pull from me and he was gone. Do they move
Speaker 1: on after so long? She said, that's a gift that
Speaker 1: you got all that. She said, I love all that stuff,
Speaker 1: the knox atteps, the banging on the walls, the change
Speaker 1: in temperature, things like that. That what she experienced was pure, unconditional,
Speaker 1: extreme love. She attributes his sudden departure to the questioner's
Speaker 1: healing and need for new experiences. But that doesn't mean
Speaker 1: he can't return, she says, Now, I have heard that
Speaker 1: the departed sometimes stick around for a while, whether it's
Speaker 1: a day or three days or a week or what
Speaker 1: have you, or maybe longer, but then they continue on
Speaker 1: their journey because they want to make sure you're okay,
Speaker 1: or someone's okay, or the family's okay, the home's okay,
Speaker 1: things like that. But I don't think it matters what
Speaker 1: we think about. This is long. It's kind of like faith, right.
Speaker 1: You look at people that attend church religiously, they seem
Speaker 1: to be a happy people. It doesn't matter that you
Speaker 1: don't believe in it, or you don't think this is
Speaker 1: true or how could that happen?
Speaker 2: Or whatever?
Speaker 1: Who cares it's not for you? Then it's for them.
Speaker 1: Same thing with this kind of stuff. It doesn't matter
Speaker 1: if you and I believe that the lights went off
Speaker 1: in here because it was your parents saying, stop talking
Speaker 1: about this, it's stupid. It just matters for the people
Speaker 1: that it helps.
Speaker 4: If it helps you, like if you're a.
Speaker 3: Totally listen and I mean, there's grief. How many times
Speaker 3: as we said, there's no playbook for grief. We all
Speaker 3: react differently. Some of us it hits immediately, some of
Speaker 3: us it's a delayed reaction to grief, or it's a
Speaker 3: continuous grief, or sometimes it's just in short spurts. It's
Speaker 3: one of those things where if that's what you need
Speaker 3: to help, like I said, heal those wounds that you
Speaker 3: think exists between you and your dearly departed.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And if.
Speaker 1: I get hit by a bus or something on my
Speaker 1: way home, I'm totally going to stick around and f
Speaker 1: with you.
Speaker 4: Like I mean, I think that would be a lot
Speaker 4: of fun.
Speaker 3: You're going to you're going to die in a crash
Speaker 3: while you're peeing into a bucket.
Speaker 1: So maybe, but I'm going to stick around for probably
Speaker 1: about a year.
Speaker 3: All right, Gary, what happens if our teenagers never date romantically,
Speaker 3: but they just they just don't do it, Like, why,
Speaker 3: what's the what are we doing?
Speaker 2: We're breaking our children.
Speaker 4: It's a trend.
Speaker 2: Gary and Shannon will continue.
Speaker 5: You're listening to Gary and Shannon on demand from KFI AM.
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Speaker 3: is down about seven hundred points as of right now.
Speaker 1: A lot of American adults with drawing from romance. In
Speaker 1: a twenty twenty three poll from the survey On Survey
Speaker 1: Center on American Life, looks like young people is the
Speaker 1: group that is.
Speaker 4: Pulling away the most.
Speaker 1: The number of teens experiencing romantic relationships has dropped quite
Speaker 1: a bit. According to this Survey Center, or fifty six
Speaker 1: percent of Gen Z adults say they'd been in a
Speaker 1: romantic relationship at any point in their teen years, compared
Speaker 1: with seventy six percent the generation before and seventy eight
Speaker 1: percent the generation before that.
Speaker 3: I wonder if, just right off the bat, if part
Speaker 3: of that is just a definition of what is a
Speaker 3: romantic relationship.
Speaker 1: I agree with you completely, because it's evolved, hasn't it.
Speaker 3: I think so because in the old days, in the
Speaker 3: old days, say forties fifty sixties, if there was a
Speaker 3: teenage girl and a teenage boy and they were in
Speaker 3: a relationship, together. It went through a process, and there
Speaker 3: was a lot of formality to that courtship many times,
Speaker 3: not that I was alive then, but i've you know,
Speaker 3: you've seen the movies. That's just kind of the way
Speaker 3: the teenage boy would would have to go and carefully
Speaker 3: dress up and go to the girl's house and meet
Speaker 3: the parents, and then they would be in kind of
Speaker 3: a relationship and maybe they were going steady or whatever
Speaker 3: term they used at the.
Speaker 1: Time, because that was the only access you had to
Speaker 1: anything female exactly. There was no playboy that came later.
Speaker 1: There was no cell phone where you could look up porn,
Speaker 1: which came later. There was no casual relationships with text
Speaker 1: or email or any of that stuff that came later.
Speaker 1: If you wanted female interaction, which your brain is programmed
Speaker 1: for if you're a straight male, not just your brain
Speaker 1: but your penis, thank you, you.
Speaker 4: Asked for it.
Speaker 1: You had to jump through hoops to get it. You
Speaker 1: had to go through a lot, you had to develop
Speaker 1: a set of balls. There was an interesting statistic at
Speaker 1: all of this that I saw. It's deeper into it,
Speaker 1: deeper into.
Speaker 3: The survey here, but it says about fifty six percent
Speaker 3: of gen z Dahers said that the fear of rejection
Speaker 3: kept them from pursuing a potential relationship, and about the
Speaker 3: same amount said they had actually refrained from confessing their
Speaker 3: feelings about someone because they.
Speaker 2: Were worried that it would be a turnoff.
Speaker 3: Think about that, you're attracted to this person, but you
Speaker 3: don't want to tell them.
Speaker 2: That you're attracted to them.
Speaker 3: That's been the way, because you're afraid that they're going
Speaker 3: to I remember being wrong, I.
Speaker 1: Remember feeling that way. I feel like that has been
Speaker 1: That's a constant. I think that, you know, the aloofness
Speaker 1: you see teenagers have has been a constant. I mean,
Speaker 1: that's the way it was, at least when I was
Speaker 1: a teenager. Act like you don't care about something. That's
Speaker 1: so that's the cool thing to do, is act like
Speaker 1: you don't care when you care entirely, whether it's your family,
Speaker 1: your friends, a love interest. Even when you care so much,
Speaker 1: you have to act like whatever, because it's not cool
Speaker 1: to care, because then you're opening yourself up and being vulnerable,
Speaker 1: and it's terrifying to get hurt.
Speaker 3: Well, the interesting one of the interesting aspects about it
Speaker 3: is that it might not be bad that that young
Speaker 3: people might actually benefit from a lack of romantic activity.
Speaker 4: Maybe they'll wait until they're actually ready for it.
Speaker 2: We'll explain that when we come back.
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Speaker 3: We'll come back and talk about why it is that
Speaker 3: this lack of romantic activity might actually be a benefit
Speaker 3: for young people.
Speaker 5: You're listening to Arian Shannon on demand from KFI AM
Speaker 5: six forty.
Speaker 2: Wow, why did you put that on me?
Speaker 1: Because you were thinking the same thing that I said
Speaker 1: out loud. The S and P five hundred has dropped
Speaker 1: more than ten percent below its record following the latest
Speaker 1: escalation in this trade war. It is nine point nine
Speaker 1: percent below its record. The Dow down right now six
Speaker 1: hundred and one points, NASDAC down one point two percent
Speaker 1: as we well, wait what's going to happen when it
Speaker 1: comes to tariffs on steel and aluminum coming from Canada.
Speaker 1: President said they planned increase to fifty percent. Was a
Speaker 1: response to Canada saying that they're going to go after electricity.
Speaker 1: The White House just moments ago calling what Canada has
Speaker 1: done as egregious.
Speaker 2: Egregious.
Speaker 3: I don't know if we've ever experienced in our life
Speaker 3: times a trade war like this. If there has been,
Speaker 3: I've never been aware of attention. Yeah, which goes to
Speaker 3: our conversation about politics and people. A little over forty
Speaker 3: percent of registered voters in the city of La say
Speaker 3: they think that Karen Bass did a poor or very
Speaker 3: poor job responding to the fires. Nineteen percent said her
Speaker 3: response was either good or excellent. This is a new
Speaker 3: study from the UC Berkeley Institute of Governmental Studies. About
Speaker 3: one in five LA City residents thought she was doing
Speaker 3: a fair job. Everybody else had no opinion. We are
Speaker 3: expecting rain. There has been some rain already today. We'll
Speaker 3: get most of the big storm. We'll be rolling in
Speaker 3: late tomorrow into Thursday morning.
Speaker 1: Well, when it comes to moving away from romance or relationships,
Speaker 1: everyone's saying, Oh, the young people, they're not coupling up.
Speaker 1: What's happening? What is it all mean? Well, I think
Speaker 1: you hit the nail on the head when you said
Speaker 1: it's all about the definition and the labels they're constantly changing.
Speaker 1: Do young people consider what they're doing as in a
Speaker 1: relationship or a boyfriend?
Speaker 2: Girl?
Speaker 4: Probably not?
Speaker 1: Have they dated? What is dating even mean? Does this
Speaker 1: mean hooking up with somebody?
Speaker 4: What is hooking up?
Speaker 1: Meanes? Hooking up mean just hooking up or having sex?
Speaker 1: Or what the hell does anything mean anymore? It changes
Speaker 1: all the time. Being a well rounded grown up, they say,
Speaker 1: doesn't require romantic experience of any kind. Amy Rower is
Speaker 1: a human development professor at the University of Tennessee at Knoxville,
Speaker 1: and she says, often you know adolescents, emerging adulthood, or
Speaker 1: times of uncertainty, and what people need most is often
Speaker 1: just a cheerleader, Whether it's a friend, or a grandparent
Speaker 1: or a coach. Someone who makes them feel secure in
Speaker 1: a relationship doesn't have to be a boyfriend or a girlfriend, say,
Speaker 1: Teens can learn social skills, how to make small talk,
Speaker 1: resolve arguments, empathize in all sorts of relationships. The romantic
Speaker 1: relationship the milestone, so to speak. It's not necessary for development.
Speaker 1: She's the one who points out that some research actually
Speaker 1: suggests that young people might benefit from a lack of this.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: If one study says that compared with teenagers who do date,
Speaker 3: the students who date either very infrequently or not at
Speaker 3: all over a seven year period were seen by their
Speaker 3: teachers as having better leadership skills, better social skills. They
Speaker 3: reported fewer symptoms of depression.
Speaker 1: Because they're focusing on things that are not their painess. Uh. Yes,
Speaker 1: Sometimes if you are into a boy or into a girl,
Speaker 1: it's kind of all you can think about, and you're
Speaker 1: not focused on the things that you should be focused on,
Speaker 1: whether it's school or work or other relationships. And you
Speaker 1: know what, sometimes those things make you sad. When you're
Speaker 1: not get what you want, or if it's unrequited love,
Speaker 1: that kind of thing makes you depressed.
Speaker 4: Again, more loss of focus.
Speaker 2: Right, they said.
Speaker 3: Also, love isn't always positive because of that more emotional
Speaker 3: whirlwround that you're talking about can be the distraction, but
Speaker 3: it can also be in the worst cases. Abusive adolescent
Speaker 3: girls experience intimate partner violence, they said, at particularly high rates,
Speaker 3: and then when it ends the breakups that we've all
Speaker 3: been through, teenagers don't really have the mechanism to deal
Speaker 3: with it, which is why it's an important thing we
Speaker 3: told our kids when they started doing this whole thing
Speaker 3: about what even what friends they would hang out with,
Speaker 3: but romantic partners, was you've got to be able to
Speaker 3: find somebody or one of the characteristics that we would
Speaker 3: want for our kids is someone that encourages them to
Speaker 3: do what they want or encourages them to be good.
Speaker 2: You know, make sure that if my daughter's.
Speaker 3: Going out with the guy that he has good grades
Speaker 3: and wants her to have good grades too, and doesn't constantly.
Speaker 2: Go, I don't worry about your homework, you can do
Speaker 2: it later or whatever.
Speaker 3: Or or my son dates a girl who encourages him
Speaker 3: to get a job or go to college or something like.
Speaker 1: That thing to better themselves. Yeah, and not just the
Speaker 1: it's very attractive. It's a very attractive thing.
Speaker 2: But I just don't see.
Speaker 3: I mean, there aren't enough teenagers out there who have
Speaker 3: the wherewithal, who have the self company of them.
Speaker 1: To do that for you, right, some of those relationships
Speaker 1: that I think that you are more likely to find
Speaker 1: later on. I think when you're teenagers, all your run
Speaker 1: by or your hormones, you don't really care if that
Speaker 1: person is getting good grades or although I must say
Speaker 1: one of my girlfriends, her daughter started dating fourteen years old,
Speaker 1: started dat again.
Speaker 4: I don't know what the term is.
Speaker 1: This guy and he's super into church, and he's super
Speaker 1: into school, and her daughter starts studying more, she starts
Speaker 1: getting straight A. I mean, she wasn't a bad student
Speaker 1: to begin with, but suddenly hyper focused on this straight
Speaker 1: a's into church, happier less. I mean, she saw like
Speaker 1: all these benefits in her daughter from this young relationship.
Speaker 4: So I mean, it can't happen, I guess at that age.
Speaker 1: But yeah, you would prefer that your kids not hook
Speaker 1: up with the guy who did his class for fentanyl.
Speaker 1: You know, it would be nice. That's the dream, right,
Speaker 1: I just went worst case scenario. That's the dream is
Speaker 1: that your kid or whoever you care about is with
Speaker 1: someone who makes them the best version of themselves.
Speaker 4: Too often that it's not the case. People are awful.
Speaker 3: Up next, we'll get into swamp watch a little bit
Speaker 3: about politics, because it is really dominating the economic news today.
Speaker 3: But there's also a potential government shutdown floating around.
Speaker 1: Joey Bosa going to San Francisco Real you with his brother,
Speaker 1: that's the rumor. Well that's a rumor, but that's always
Speaker 1: been what they wanted, the two of them. I think
Speaker 1: it's probably gonna be a one year deal something like that.
Speaker 2: We'll talk about Katie Porter running for governor.
Speaker 1: Bloodbath for the forty nine ers yesterday, man, my brother
Speaker 1: said it best. Or like the Jaguars, like everybody to
Speaker 1: use check greenlaw left. I'm going to see green law
Speaker 1: twice a year. He went to the Broncos. Anyway, that
Speaker 1: a conversation off the air, Gary Shannon will consin.
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