1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: When your old career gives you lemons throwing some ice 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:08,960 mix in some vodka colored a podcast from the Mac 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:12,679 of All Trade Studio in Fairport and driven by Victor 4 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:17,800 Chrysler Dots Jupe ram It's Billified the Bill Moran Podcast. 5 00:00:31,679 --> 00:00:34,439 Speaker 2: Hello and welcome. Thanks for getting your pot on. Thank 6 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:35,679 you for telling a friend. 7 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 3: That's how we spread the word about the pirate ship. 8 00:00:40,039 --> 00:00:41,439 Speaker 2: Oh I'm excited about today. 9 00:00:42,359 --> 00:00:46,759 Speaker 3: You know, sometimes a small innocent moment on the Internet 10 00:00:47,399 --> 00:00:51,320 accidentally opens a full blown existential conversation. 11 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:52,520 Speaker 4: Full blown. 12 00:00:52,679 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. 13 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:56,119 Speaker 3: A few weeks ago, a friend of mine, someone you 14 00:00:56,159 --> 00:00:59,520 may remember from the podcast, posted something on Facebook that 15 00:00:59,759 --> 00:01:00,799 fell simple enough. 16 00:01:00,799 --> 00:01:01,399 Speaker 2: It really did. 17 00:01:02,079 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 3: She wrote that she had two beautiful, successful girlfriends who 18 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:10,959 couldn't find a man. They were fun, loyal, smart, and single. 19 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:15,879 She asked interested men to comment, not message, and said 20 00:01:15,879 --> 00:01:19,280 the women would browse Facebook and reach out if they 21 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:23,920 found someone intriguing. YEP, it already feels like a really 22 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:27,400 bold experiment to me, and kind of like a group project. 23 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:30,359 None of us asked for what happened next. Over two 24 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,439 hundred and fifty comments, not DM's comments. 25 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 4: I'm going to pull up the total views because I 26 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:36,319 can see that internally? 27 00:01:36,439 --> 00:01:38,159 Speaker 2: Okay, how you keep going public? 28 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:42,439 Speaker 3: Men putting them out there themselves out there, women watching quietly, 29 00:01:42,799 --> 00:01:47,159 married friends grabbing popcorn. They were all on there, group chats, 30 00:01:47,239 --> 00:01:49,359 lighting up like it was a live sporting event. 31 00:01:49,719 --> 00:01:55,519 Speaker 5: Nineteen thousand local people, holy shit, clicked red stock. 32 00:01:55,319 --> 00:01:58,079 Speaker 4: But didn't you know leave a ca so nineteen thousand. 33 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:00,799 Speaker 5: Wow, I was at a part and people like kid 34 00:02:00,959 --> 00:02:03,879 just everybody was talking about and browsing the men. 35 00:02:04,239 --> 00:02:07,599 Speaker 2: So what does it say about dating right now? 36 00:02:07,799 --> 00:02:11,719 Speaker 3: About loneliness, about standards, about starting over in your late 37 00:02:11,759 --> 00:02:14,360 thirties and forties, when you're confident enough to know what 38 00:02:14,439 --> 00:02:17,759 you want but tired enough to not want any kind 39 00:02:17,759 --> 00:02:22,560 of bullshit. This episode isn't about answers. It's more about 40 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:27,240 the curiosity. And Stephanie is here someone who's life changed 41 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:31,360 in very real ways from the time we spent together 42 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:35,400 on the podcast a couple of years ago. I don't know, 43 00:02:35,439 --> 00:02:38,919 I think this is like crazy what happened, But I'd 44 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:42,080 rather go back to kind of to you because we 45 00:02:42,599 --> 00:02:45,319 had you on the podcast and you were one of 46 00:02:45,319 --> 00:02:46,840 the most popular people. 47 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 4: I had so much fun and. 48 00:02:48,439 --> 00:02:50,319 Speaker 2: You were not dating at the time. 49 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:51,599 Speaker 4: Well I was dating. 50 00:02:51,680 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 3: No, no, no, you were dating, but you weren't serious with somebody. Yeah, 51 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:58,800 you weren't serious with somebody, and then you met Mike, 52 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:02,439 right yeah, and from there, I mean, that's been how 53 00:03:02,479 --> 00:03:04,080 many years now, we'll be. 54 00:03:04,039 --> 00:03:06,639 Speaker 4: Together three years May first, Wow? 55 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:10,039 Speaker 2: A lot of time, yeah, by yeah. 56 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 4: And you see love coming on the show. 57 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:14,240 Speaker 2: You're welcome any time. You know that. 58 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:17,080 Speaker 3: There was always open, but like, and I didn't want 59 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:19,280 to have the whole crew in for this because I 60 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:21,439 kind of wanted to take a look at this in 61 00:03:21,479 --> 00:03:23,680 a little bit of a deeper way and I didn't 62 00:03:23,719 --> 00:03:26,759 want them, you know, well, the jokes flying. 63 00:03:26,479 --> 00:03:28,039 Speaker 4: And someone we can you on the phone set. I 64 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:29,360 don't want any penis jokes fly. 65 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 2: And that's I think I said. I don't want any 66 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,960 dick jokes, is what. I know. I know what And 67 00:03:35,159 --> 00:03:40,039 it's just that because it's a serious thing. But going 68 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:43,000 back to you, you're the real estate is blown up 69 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:43,240 for you. 70 00:03:43,479 --> 00:03:47,199 Speaker 4: I saw this record sale. Wow at Christmas Eve. 71 00:03:47,639 --> 00:03:49,639 Speaker 2: Christmas Eve, I got. 72 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,719 Speaker 5: An offer accepted for five point two million dollars. Oh 73 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:57,280 my god, the personal record. So I just posted it today. 74 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:58,159 Speaker 4: It took me a. 75 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,919 Speaker 2: Good Is that the blue House? Yes? 76 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,319 Speaker 4: God, it's just beautiful where is it Canada. 77 00:04:03,879 --> 00:04:06,599 Speaker 2: Oh I'm the lake yeah, oh my waterfront. 78 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:10,599 Speaker 5: Oh but it was such a big career when I 79 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:13,319 didn't want to brag about it. I didn't want to 80 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:16,560 make other realtors feel bad about themselves. And I also 81 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,279 didn't want normal consumers not to call me to list 82 00:04:19,319 --> 00:04:21,480 their house because I think, oh, my house is just 83 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:23,879 four hundred. No, I would love to list your house 84 00:04:23,959 --> 00:04:26,519 after fifty whatever. Yeah, so I didn't want to push 85 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,639 people away. But then so month passes, I'm like, I 86 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:32,639 really should talk about this because this is a career milestone. 87 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:33,439 Speaker 2: Yeah. 88 00:04:33,519 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, I sold the five million dollar lake house a close. 89 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 2: Wow, that's impressive. 90 00:04:38,199 --> 00:04:40,399 Speaker 4: And I love what I do. I love all price points. 91 00:04:40,759 --> 00:04:43,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I understand that, and and and in real 92 00:04:43,759 --> 00:04:46,279 estate you have to write you're not you know? 93 00:04:46,399 --> 00:04:47,399 Speaker 2: Is that one you know? 94 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:50,319 Speaker 3: Or are there people who diguess just dealing a million 95 00:04:50,399 --> 00:04:51,560 plus fro some sell. 96 00:04:51,439 --> 00:04:52,759 Speaker 4: To a year, that's it. 97 00:04:52,959 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 5: Yeah, five million dollars lake houses, that's cruise control. Yeah, 98 00:04:56,199 --> 00:04:58,759 so I can do higher volume selling fifty and make 99 00:04:58,800 --> 00:04:59,360 more money. 100 00:04:59,519 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 4: Sure, And a lot of people will. 101 00:05:01,639 --> 00:05:04,279 Speaker 5: Think, oh, just because you sell an expensive house, you're smarter, 102 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:04,759 you're better. 103 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 4: You're not. 104 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 5: It just maybe you're just you're you have connections, you 105 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:11,839 got to all kill, you sell a couple of year, 106 00:05:11,879 --> 00:05:14,040 and you're happy you're part time. I like the grind 107 00:05:14,079 --> 00:05:16,040 and I like to help everyone, and I want to 108 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:18,199 be busy and stop. I do twelve to eight and 109 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:20,319 hour days in the spring and I love it. I'm 110 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:22,879 not complaining, no, I know, and I like the grind. 111 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 3: I there's something about that because I had to come 112 00:05:26,959 --> 00:05:29,879 to terms myself with a lot of things in terms 113 00:05:29,959 --> 00:05:36,399 of you know, it isn't about working harder. It's definitely 114 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:38,759 about working smarter. But when you love what you do, 115 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:41,600 you're going to just do it all the time. And 116 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:45,319 I think for many, many many years for me, I 117 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:50,360 have just worked NonStop radio. I did all the time 118 00:05:50,399 --> 00:05:52,439 because I wanted to be I wanted to be the best. 119 00:05:52,439 --> 00:05:53,439 Speaker 2: I wanted to be number one. 120 00:05:53,439 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 4: While you're pivoting, though. 121 00:05:54,959 --> 00:05:58,040 Speaker 3: I am pivoting, and I'm and I'm I'll tell you 122 00:05:58,079 --> 00:06:02,920 like I'm looking to you. I'm changing things up for sure, 123 00:06:03,319 --> 00:06:06,959 and I'm looking to combine some things and I'm looking 124 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,079 to make something that is less of a service and 125 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:14,120 more of a system and something that's scalable. So you 126 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,600 know what, I mean like service to me is we're 127 00:06:16,639 --> 00:06:18,680 talking about today's news, today's sports today is. 128 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:21,079 Speaker 2: That it's disposable. It's what radio was this. 129 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,959 Speaker 3: So I'm looking to pivot away from that slightly a 130 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,199 little bit and do more things like this or I 131 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,920 didn't help people, yes, and that's the thing, and I 132 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,839 just did one. 133 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:36,759 Speaker 2: I had a night. 134 00:06:37,439 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 3: Where I got extremely intoxicated the urinal night. 135 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:45,920 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes yes. I was so drunk. 136 00:06:46,639 --> 00:06:48,959 Speaker 3: How bad I mean, I was slurring so badly in 137 00:06:48,959 --> 00:06:57,680 that video that was the opening of Damien's second location. Yeah, okay, 138 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:02,319 so I uh so I was so drunk and there 139 00:07:02,399 --> 00:07:05,759 was so much stuff happening sort of at once that 140 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:08,639 I was very cold to someone that I didn't mean 141 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:13,079 to be via text, via text, and the next day 142 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:17,480 I apologized. I got no response, and then I sent 143 00:07:17,759 --> 00:07:22,079 a text later in the day just about something completely. 144 00:07:21,759 --> 00:07:28,639 Speaker 2: Different and that's how we are. And then I. 145 00:07:31,279 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 3: Got a response. A couple of days I got a response, 146 00:07:33,879 --> 00:07:38,399 and the response was basically like I'm crushed, you crushed 147 00:07:38,399 --> 00:07:40,680 me or whatever it was, so which made me feel 148 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:42,839 like piece of shit, and I backed off. 149 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 2: And just let I go. I don't want to apologize, 150 00:07:45,519 --> 00:07:47,000 so I started happened. 151 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 3: No, I understand. So I didn't want to be one 152 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:50,240 of these I apologize. 153 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 2: I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry. 154 00:07:51,279 --> 00:07:55,079 Speaker 3: I already apologized, right, you become that To me, that's 155 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:57,199 sort of a sign of weakness when you start doing 156 00:07:57,199 --> 00:07:59,959 that over and over. But it made me really think, 157 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:01,360 and so I came in here and I did a 158 00:08:01,399 --> 00:08:04,360 podcast on alcohol and why it's not an excuse for 159 00:08:04,439 --> 00:08:08,639 bad behavior. Alcohol doesn't make you behave badly. It gets 160 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:11,120 rid of your internal brake system, which is your inhibitions, 161 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:13,639 and so you do things and say things and some 162 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:15,480 people go, well, it's not a truth serum. 163 00:08:15,519 --> 00:08:17,879 Speaker 2: It's not. It's just in the moment. 164 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 3: And a lot of times we carry a lot of 165 00:08:21,079 --> 00:08:25,199 baggage as people, and when something is in front of 166 00:08:25,279 --> 00:08:28,680 you and that old baggage gets hit and you've never 167 00:08:28,759 --> 00:08:31,120 dealt with it, it carries a lot of weight and it 168 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:34,200 comes really hard, right, And so those are the things 169 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:36,240 that you know, And so I did a whole podcast 170 00:08:36,279 --> 00:08:38,799 on that. I'm like, this is the direction they need 171 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:39,200 to circle. 172 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 5: And that's why I don't have the baggage. If you 173 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:44,279 have it, you can get rid of it by talking 174 00:08:44,279 --> 00:08:45,759 to someone that do like a couler. 175 00:08:45,879 --> 00:08:47,399 Speaker 2: Yes, and eventually that. 176 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:48,759 Speaker 4: Though, so you're more pleasant drunk. 177 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:55,120 Speaker 3: I mean that's right exactly. I mean so, I don't know. 178 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:58,879 It was just it was strange, but I thought, that's 179 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:00,960 kind of the way I need to start doing things 180 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:03,639 that are ever green. What if someone finds this podcast 181 00:09:03,639 --> 00:09:05,840 in five years will have value to them. 182 00:09:05,919 --> 00:09:06,399 Speaker 4: I like that. 183 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:08,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, And so that's where I'm that's where I'm headed, 184 00:09:09,039 --> 00:09:11,360 And I eventually want to buy a building. I want 185 00:09:11,399 --> 00:09:13,679 to put offices in there that I can rent out. 186 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:16,039 I want to put studios in there. I want somewhat 187 00:09:16,039 --> 00:09:18,519 of an event space, and we'll. 188 00:09:18,399 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 2: Go from there. 189 00:09:18,879 --> 00:09:21,679 Speaker 4: I just thought of some wild idea. What if there's 190 00:09:21,759 --> 00:09:24,759 people that want help, but they'd be willing to publicly 191 00:09:24,879 --> 00:09:28,120 raise their hand and you help them, Yeah, on the 192 00:09:28,159 --> 00:09:28,639 air live. 193 00:09:28,799 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. 194 00:09:29,039 --> 00:09:31,879 Speaker 5: I meant it could be like a journey of their transformation. 195 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:35,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be amazing. That would be absolutely amazing. 196 00:09:35,399 --> 00:09:38,039 And I think that's something that like you could do 197 00:09:38,159 --> 00:09:40,000 as a teachable. 198 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 4: And that would tie in with both businesses. 199 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:44,519 Speaker 3: Yeah, and That's what I'm looking to do. And so 200 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:47,639 we'll see how things go down the road. When you 201 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:52,320 were here last I don't remember actually but when you 202 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:55,159 were on sometimes we had made a lot of fun 203 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:56,919 of the fact that you wrote songs. 204 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, break up songs and all kinds of stuff. 205 00:10:01,399 --> 00:10:02,919 Speaker 4: I've been writing songs with my whole life. 206 00:10:03,519 --> 00:10:07,399 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, and did nothing with them or what. 207 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:10,879 Speaker 4: The problem is. If I'm honest, my voice is like 208 00:10:10,960 --> 00:10:13,120 a six point eight out of ten. 209 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 5: Okay, and now there's so much technology, just like filters 210 00:10:17,159 --> 00:10:20,360 with a girl looking hotter. Yeah, I can put filters 211 00:10:20,360 --> 00:10:21,519 and edit my voice. 212 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 4: So the tech is here. 213 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 5: Where it can be me singing and Mike actually does 214 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,200 it in the background, adjusting my voice to sound good 215 00:10:28,879 --> 00:10:31,039 like auto tuning, but you don't want it to sound fake. 216 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:33,600 And then there's me training it where I'll like work 217 00:10:33,639 --> 00:10:35,240 on a couple of notes then he can make it. 218 00:10:35,279 --> 00:10:36,039 Speaker 4: So it took forever. 219 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:37,639 Speaker 2: It was a year and a half, a year and 220 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:38,960 a half to to write. 221 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,759 Speaker 5: So I have breakup songs, I have songs about getting 222 00:10:41,799 --> 00:10:43,440 old and what it's like to go at the bar. 223 00:10:44,279 --> 00:10:47,480 But I actually wrote a song about loss, like losing 224 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:49,519 a child, or you could apply it to losing like 225 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:51,679 a love, like a spouse or a partner. 226 00:10:51,799 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. When you say loss, like are you talking death? 227 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 3: Are you talking all different kinds of so even loss 228 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:00,320 of like a divorce or a right. 229 00:11:00,639 --> 00:11:04,519 Speaker 5: Yeah, so there's not a lot of songs about like, 230 00:11:04,519 --> 00:11:08,000 for example, if you have a miscarriage, you know, or 231 00:11:08,039 --> 00:11:09,039 you lose a two year old? 232 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,039 Speaker 4: What what song do you jam out to? 233 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:14,159 Speaker 5: And I know that sounds weird, but when I'm in pain, 234 00:11:14,399 --> 00:11:17,279 I like to belt, cry and sing. And the Arms 235 00:11:17,279 --> 00:11:19,960 of the Angel just isn't getting it, like it's it's 236 00:11:20,039 --> 00:11:20,559 kind of lame. 237 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:23,399 Speaker 3: No, no, no, there's not no because nobody wants to 238 00:11:23,399 --> 00:11:25,159 get who's writing these songs? 239 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 2: I am fucking sad. 240 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:29,879 Speaker 5: I am so I wrote a sad song about loss, 241 00:11:30,399 --> 00:11:33,120 and now I mean it's done, it's fully produced. 242 00:11:33,279 --> 00:11:36,159 Speaker 4: I'm going to have a different stage name. I've decided. 243 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:38,039 I'm not ready to quite announce it in case I 244 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:41,720 go direction. But actually this weekend and next weekend, Mike 245 00:11:41,759 --> 00:11:43,519 and I are going to film the music video. 246 00:11:44,919 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 2: Uh to our song, and we're gonna. 247 00:11:47,039 --> 00:11:49,799 Speaker 4: Fully I'm gonna put on Spotify iTunes like. 248 00:11:49,879 --> 00:11:53,440 Speaker 2: You are for it, like really for real, And I don't. 249 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:55,279 Speaker 4: Care if thirteen people see it or what if it 250 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:58,200 blows up? Why aren't we starting that business? Why aren't 251 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,240 we asking that girl? Out, why aren't we dancing? Like 252 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,080 why why are we happy? 253 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:07,559 Speaker 3: That's a great I mean that's so true, and and 254 00:12:07,639 --> 00:12:10,679 I think, like that's a great way to get into 255 00:12:10,720 --> 00:12:16,000 your your podcast thing, because uh, why aren't you asking 256 00:12:16,039 --> 00:12:19,639 that that girl out, that guy out, that personnel, whoever 257 00:12:19,679 --> 00:12:21,519 it is, because yeah. 258 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:22,519 Speaker 4: You have to lose. 259 00:12:22,919 --> 00:12:27,919 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's it's it's absolutely amazing. And that 260 00:12:28,399 --> 00:12:30,679 was because I'm going in my head when I saw that, 261 00:12:30,759 --> 00:12:33,159 when I saw the with the post that you put up, 262 00:12:33,879 --> 00:12:40,000 I was like, what was the moment, Like why, because well, 263 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:42,879 you decide to post that, but why aren't they doing 264 00:12:42,919 --> 00:12:43,679 it for themselves? 265 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:46,399 Speaker 2: Do you understand what I'm saying going to your. 266 00:12:46,279 --> 00:12:50,639 Speaker 3: Theory that you just said or your your statement of yeah, 267 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:52,639 why aren't you asking that guy out? 268 00:12:52,799 --> 00:12:53,759 Speaker 2: I know one of. 269 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:58,840 Speaker 5: The women chased, they want to be chased and then 270 00:12:59,519 --> 00:13:01,080 they like to chase. 271 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 4: Sure they do, and so over the holidays. 272 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:07,799 Speaker 5: I mean these one of the very successful, Like I'm 273 00:13:07,919 --> 00:13:11,240 like too hot, and there's not a lot of hot 274 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:12,840 successful men that. 275 00:13:12,799 --> 00:13:14,960 Speaker 4: Are and good in our town. 276 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:17,159 Speaker 5: Like there's got to be some guys all over the country. 277 00:13:17,159 --> 00:13:20,320 They could clean up if they they moved here. And 278 00:13:20,360 --> 00:13:23,399 I was at an event, and I looked around and 279 00:13:23,399 --> 00:13:25,679 I think I counted thirty eight like hot women, like 280 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:26,320 the way they. 281 00:13:26,279 --> 00:13:29,639 Speaker 4: Dressed and like hot. And I looked around and I 282 00:13:29,679 --> 00:13:34,200 saw two handsome men the thirty eight. 283 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 2: Wow. 284 00:13:36,799 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 4: Yeah. 285 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:37,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 286 00:13:37,679 --> 00:13:40,120 Speaker 5: And if you really go out at a bar, like 287 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:42,360 look at the good looking women that come in and look, 288 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:44,720 there's a lot of trolls, and look at the guys 289 00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:45,480 on my post. 290 00:13:46,399 --> 00:13:46,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I. 291 00:13:48,279 --> 00:13:52,679 Speaker 5: Just some I'm like, you think you're hot and successful 292 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:56,320 and these aren't gold diggers. But the problem is is 293 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:59,360 they want somebody bigger than them, and. 294 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 2: Actually who does these ladies, yes. 295 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:05,879 Speaker 5: Right, because they want a guy that has worked harder 296 00:14:05,919 --> 00:14:08,440 than they have, because they still want. 297 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:11,200 Speaker 4: To be inferior in some way. They don't want to 298 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:11,799 be the leader. 299 00:14:12,519 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 5: Some guy wrote on there that these women are messing 300 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:19,039 up with the balance of some big fancy word the 301 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:23,120 way society is supposed to be that they're dudes. Yeah, 302 00:14:23,120 --> 00:14:27,200 but so like that was firing women up. But the 303 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:29,919 natural but he's right on some level, or the natural 304 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:32,960 level is the men are supposed to be the breadwinner leaders. 305 00:14:34,279 --> 00:14:34,519 Speaker 2: Yeah. 306 00:14:34,639 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 3: I mean some people will get upset and say that's 307 00:14:37,039 --> 00:14:38,240 a misogynistic thing. 308 00:14:38,639 --> 00:14:39,919 Speaker 2: You have to be confident. 309 00:14:40,240 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 3: I think that I think that's the one thing that's 310 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:45,200 really missing for most people is confidence and not so 311 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:48,960 much cocky. And I think confidence comes more with age. 312 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:52,159 Cockiness is when you're younger, right, and because it's almost 313 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:55,360 a mask for what you should be confident about, but 314 00:14:55,399 --> 00:14:58,519 you're not. And I think you know that confidence comes 315 00:14:58,519 --> 00:15:03,679 with age and not everything is a put down to you, 316 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:08,039 a slam to you. No one's here to really fuck 317 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:09,600 with you like that, you know what I mean. And 318 00:15:09,639 --> 00:15:13,080 so when you see a woman who's successful and she 319 00:15:13,279 --> 00:15:16,639 does well and she busts her as fraid, why but yes, 320 00:15:16,759 --> 00:15:17,960 I understand, I do. 321 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 5: And then so I had kind of messages of some 322 00:15:22,559 --> 00:15:25,320 guys that are more like total package and they're embarrassed, 323 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:27,960 they're afraid to say interested. 324 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:30,639 Speaker 4: They're like, well, if they're hot, send them my screen Screensho. 325 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 2: Why why do you think that was? 326 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:37,679 Speaker 3: Because they don't want their buddies to know their jobs because. 327 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 2: It is kind of public. 328 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, it was public, you know, and they don't want 329 00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:42,279 to get made fun of. 330 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 4: So so many people chickened out. But I did have 331 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:47,240 some successful matches. 332 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 5: Then there's the whole like the fifty two year old 333 00:15:51,159 --> 00:15:57,080 man with let's just say fat slobby ex wife that 334 00:15:57,320 --> 00:15:58,559 he was never getting sex. 335 00:15:58,679 --> 00:15:59,879 Speaker 4: Let's just say she was a letter. 336 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:05,399 Speaker 5: What he wants some young hot girl that doesn't have babies. 337 00:16:05,559 --> 00:16:07,759 He wants to go hook up with the smoke shows 338 00:16:08,759 --> 00:16:10,960 and a lot there's a lot of girls. They'll buy 339 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:11,480 their way through. 340 00:16:11,559 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 4: Hey, you want to leave a ton, I'll take you 341 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:14,799 out to dinner and the girl will get the purse 342 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:16,600 and like they're going through their horror. 343 00:16:16,279 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 5: Face and then they realize, I need a woman I 344 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:20,120 can connect with. 345 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 4: There's more than that. 346 00:16:21,519 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 5: It's a face, So what face do you catch the 347 00:16:25,639 --> 00:16:28,720 guy in? He's got to burn through the young hotties 348 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:32,120 and then he gets more realistic and then it's like 349 00:16:32,159 --> 00:16:35,000 who is he gonna grab up? And when is he ready? 350 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:37,679 Speaker 2: Yeah? I feel like do women do that as well? 351 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 1: They do? 352 00:16:38,639 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, they find like the guy, Yeah, sure, Like they. 353 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:45,519 Speaker 5: Want the young, hot, dumb guy that they're like, oh, 354 00:16:45,519 --> 00:16:46,840 buy you a ticket to Miami. 355 00:16:46,919 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 4: They do the same thing. They're trying to spoil it too. 356 00:16:49,919 --> 00:16:53,320 Speaker 5: Yeah, and they they joke they want the hard private 357 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:57,120 parts in the six pack, you know, and then they realize, wait, 358 00:16:57,440 --> 00:16:59,320 this is embarrassing to my children, or I didn't want 359 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:01,360 a guy that knows how to fix something, or someone's 360 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:03,720 more my age, and they go through the same thing, right, 361 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:06,359 so it's already a small pool. And then what phase 362 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:07,960 are they at. 363 00:17:07,599 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 2: And what phase are they at? Well, yeah, because I think. 364 00:17:09,799 --> 00:17:11,319 Speaker 4: You got to have the balls and ask them out. 365 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:15,680 Speaker 3: Are there more middle aged single people today? That's what 366 00:17:15,839 --> 00:17:19,200 surprised me was the number on there, because I did 367 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:24,799 see comments and uh, the one woman commented, I'm fifty eight, 368 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:28,440 retired in Brighton, which is a suburb of here. She's 369 00:17:28,559 --> 00:17:32,599 so nice and divorced, right and so okay, and. 370 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:34,440 Speaker 4: She's out if anyone reached out to her, I. 371 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 3: Don't know, oh somebody else. I wish my friends would 372 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:43,640 do this for me. Then somebody says put out there 373 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:47,440 about one of their longtime friends, and it said it's 374 00:17:47,480 --> 00:17:50,799 hard out there. Everyone I meet just wants a hook up. Bye, 375 00:17:50,799 --> 00:17:51,559 by no, thank you. 376 00:17:51,559 --> 00:17:52,799 Speaker 4: Here's the hookup fase. 377 00:17:52,960 --> 00:17:59,319 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it was. Uh, it's interesting that it just 378 00:17:59,519 --> 00:18:00,759 hit with so many people. 379 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:04,640 Speaker 5: Yeah, and then you'll have like the guy, let's say 380 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:08,160 he's forty eight, maybe he's super successful. He's done with 381 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:11,440 her face, but he's running his company and he's he's 382 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:15,400 got a full on Dad Bob. But then the girl 383 00:18:15,759 --> 00:18:20,880 who's super successful forty one is like, ew, I'm slaving 384 00:18:21,039 --> 00:18:24,240 away at my body, eating you know nothing, and you 385 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:26,759 got this gut right, And then they'll be mad they 386 00:18:26,759 --> 00:18:28,839 don't take care of their health. And I'm like, you're 387 00:18:28,839 --> 00:18:30,880 gonna throw away the guy because of the gut. He's 388 00:18:30,920 --> 00:18:35,559 got everything else. And then I'll find a perfect fucking. 389 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:38,079 Speaker 2: Mad I that I want that on a T shirt. 390 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:40,839 I throw away the guy for the gut. He's got 391 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:43,000 everything else. The fuck it's a gut. 392 00:18:44,079 --> 00:18:48,319 Speaker 5: I But then so then I'll suggest to the guy 393 00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:51,000 my friend that's perfect, and he's like, oh, I mean, 394 00:18:51,039 --> 00:18:53,319 maybe she's got fifty pounds overweight, and he's like, I 395 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:56,880 wanted someone hotter. It's like so much vanity is taking 396 00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:57,480 place too. 397 00:18:58,079 --> 00:18:59,519 Speaker 2: Oh well, okay, I saw. 398 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:02,079 Speaker 4: I felt that the private messages were like, yeah, I 399 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:05,799 was hoping for someone more fit or someone hotter. And 400 00:19:05,839 --> 00:19:07,400 then poor guys when they lose their hair. 401 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:09,960 Speaker 5: You got a shit ton of hair, but that's the thing, 402 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:13,240 like ew, he's like he's like balding, you know. 403 00:19:13,759 --> 00:19:15,839 Speaker 4: And then there's a lot of guys, believe it or not. 404 00:19:16,799 --> 00:19:18,839 I am really I can't wait too. 405 00:19:18,799 --> 00:19:20,079 Speaker 2: I'll tell you if it's real. 406 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:27,319 Speaker 4: Fake lips, uh, fake faces. Yeah, and I couldn't believe it. 407 00:19:27,559 --> 00:19:29,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I can understand that. 408 00:19:29,279 --> 00:19:32,799 Speaker 5: I think going through a phase now where I think 409 00:19:33,440 --> 00:19:35,839 men are starting to want more real. 410 00:19:36,039 --> 00:19:40,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, I find something about a confident middle aged woman. 411 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 2: I I and I can's you, I know, but I 412 00:19:44,839 --> 00:19:45,279 and I know. 413 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:49,839 Speaker 3: And I've also seen like where I can almost sense 414 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:51,880 that they're on the same vibe because they'll give. 415 00:19:51,759 --> 00:19:54,559 Speaker 2: It you get a second look energy. I don't know 416 00:19:54,599 --> 00:19:56,240 what it is. I don't know what it is. 417 00:19:56,759 --> 00:19:59,400 Speaker 3: I don't know, but I just wonder with the working 418 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:02,200 on yourself, I think everyone says they do it, but 419 00:20:02,279 --> 00:20:03,920 are they I'm working on myself? 420 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:05,839 Speaker 2: Are you? And how? And what is that? 421 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:07,319 Speaker 4: I think I have the answer. 422 00:20:07,519 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 2: Okay? 423 00:20:08,599 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 4: Are they approachable? 424 00:20:11,519 --> 00:20:13,319 Speaker 5: And I think why I talk to so many people, 425 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,799 especially single I talked to anybody, I'm a goofball. 426 00:20:17,279 --> 00:20:19,640 Speaker 4: I'd be the one like headbanging that it's like easier 427 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:21,880 to talk to Y versus the girl that looks like. 428 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:23,839 Speaker 5: The model of the body that just got out of 429 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:26,880 the portial, you know, like you know that might be 430 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:27,759 more intimidating. 431 00:20:28,799 --> 00:20:31,160 Speaker 2: Sure, absolutely, And I told them I'm like. 432 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:34,480 Speaker 4: You guys need to like be a little goofy. And 433 00:20:34,519 --> 00:20:35,640 I've actually. 434 00:20:35,279 --> 00:20:38,680 Speaker 5: Told this to maybe five of them, like why don't 435 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:39,759 you make a post. 436 00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:42,359 Speaker 4: Where you don't have makeup on? Or you do something silly. 437 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:46,599 They're also like, oh, like just like you know, show 438 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:49,640 some personality. 439 00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:53,799 Speaker 3: Right, because a lot of times not being perfect. Yes, 440 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:56,559 and I think there's there you hit the nail on 441 00:20:56,599 --> 00:20:59,519 the head there approachable. Well, it makes you more approachable, 442 00:20:59,559 --> 00:21:01,839 but it also makes you more human, right, you don't 443 00:21:01,839 --> 00:21:04,039 come off so much as like this two stuff. 444 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,160 Speaker 4: Guy's going to think I'm not that perfect? 445 00:21:06,319 --> 00:21:06,559 Speaker 2: Right? 446 00:21:07,039 --> 00:21:08,119 Speaker 4: What is she going to think of me? 447 00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:11,759 Speaker 5: Right? And my Jenny shirt watching football scratch and my 448 00:21:11,799 --> 00:21:13,000 belly on a Sunday. 449 00:21:13,079 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 3: You know, I come from a family of men who 450 00:21:19,279 --> 00:21:21,839 would put on a suit to get the mail. My dad, 451 00:21:22,079 --> 00:21:26,880 my grandfather, and I have always liked more or less 452 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,799 not today, you got me? I was, you know, not today, 453 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:34,400 But I would rather wear a blazer and jeans and 454 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:35,519 a custom made shirt. 455 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:38,599 Speaker 6: Or you're a dress up gut I would love to Really, 456 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:41,000 I didn't know that about casual dress up though, I 457 00:21:41,039 --> 00:21:44,640 mean not not like n we'll call it business casual, right, 458 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,880 But I still know that when I go places like that, 459 00:21:48,039 --> 00:21:50,079 you're kind of looked at, like no, but you look 460 00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:51,640 like you stand out. 461 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,839 Speaker 3: And I'm not always looking to stand out, but I'd 462 00:21:54,920 --> 00:22:00,680 rather dress nicely and presentable. Everybody today, I mean even 463 00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:02,920 in schools they're wearing like leggings and. 464 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:08,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all cover, it's all cover, but of it. No, no, 465 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:11,119 it's fine. But my point is like, well, look at you. 466 00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:11,839 You have the blazer. 467 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,240 Speaker 3: Run right, it dresses, but it dresses, it dresses it 468 00:22:15,319 --> 00:22:17,920 up right, you look great. So I just think that 469 00:22:18,079 --> 00:22:22,440 also raises your confidence. You feel better about yourself, and 470 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:24,880 you know what I mean, it's dressed for the I 471 00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:27,519 would say, dress for the person you want to impress, 472 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:29,480 you know what I mean, or whatever. 473 00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:30,039 Speaker 2: I guess. 474 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:32,519 Speaker 3: The other thing is too, is I always go it's 475 00:22:32,519 --> 00:22:34,960 an inside job. And if you're not confident about yourself, 476 00:22:35,039 --> 00:22:36,720 or you don't feel good about yourself, or you even 477 00:22:36,799 --> 00:22:38,720 worked out your shit, you're no good to anybody. 478 00:22:39,039 --> 00:22:39,759 Speaker 2: You're going to be the. 479 00:22:39,759 --> 00:22:42,440 Speaker 3: Same miserable person with the same type of person that 480 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,839 you've been with. You know, you whatever about an ex 481 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,640 wife or an ex husband, and the next thing you know, 482 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,720 you got somebody who almost I mean they may look 483 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,759 very different on the outside, but they are absolutely very 484 00:22:56,799 --> 00:22:59,440 similar on the inside. Or with whatever behaviors or whatever, 485 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,599 the lunatic bullshit that you said you were sick of 486 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:03,160 dealing with is what you deal with. 487 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,599 Speaker 2: You gotta you gotta find the thing. 488 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,920 Speaker 3: And I would say even taking some time alone, like 489 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:11,920 truly alone, and you know, not your whore phase, not 490 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:15,200 your whatever, just alone to kind of work on yourself. 491 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:18,839 Speaker 4: Well, you know what, I there's something to note here. 492 00:23:19,319 --> 00:23:20,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a. 493 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 5: Lot of middle of the road vanilla people living like 494 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,200 I'm not saying they're bad people, but I'm not. 495 00:23:26,559 --> 00:23:27,319 Speaker 4: I'm not trying to. 496 00:23:27,319 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 5: Hook up the r gene worker with the physical therapist. 497 00:23:32,759 --> 00:23:35,079 Speaker 2: There's that's that's normal. 498 00:23:35,279 --> 00:23:35,680 Speaker 4: Normal. 499 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 5: I'm talking about I have some exceptional. 500 00:23:39,079 --> 00:23:40,960 Speaker 2: I think you have to do at you're. 501 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,759 Speaker 4: Looking for some exceptional. Now, I have normal friends. 502 00:23:43,799 --> 00:23:46,559 Speaker 5: I love the whole world and the whole variety of 503 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:51,519 everyone on earth. But this was about finding my exceptional 504 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:55,599 like mega hot, mega rich put together like. 505 00:23:57,519 --> 00:24:00,039 Speaker 4: It's harder. There's a lot of middle, is what I 506 00:24:00,039 --> 00:24:03,599 I'm saying. There's a lot you're you know, in the middle. 507 00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:04,720 There's a lot to choose from. 508 00:24:04,759 --> 00:24:08,200 Speaker 3: There's not a lot of the time to post something publicly, 509 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,559 for even the guys to answer, the guys with the 510 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:12,599 like the guy with the cat, I mean, it takes 511 00:24:12,599 --> 00:24:14,759 a little bit of guts, you know. 512 00:24:15,039 --> 00:24:17,279 Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, let me scroll if I can find 513 00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,839 the picture of the cat. 514 00:24:19,799 --> 00:24:24,759 Speaker 4: The boy some of the like, oh oh jeez, do 515 00:24:24,799 --> 00:24:28,400 you find it? There's so many. I mean, this is 516 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:29,200 just one friend. 517 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:36,039 Speaker 3: It's a reminder that so many people, good, interesting, emotionally 518 00:24:36,079 --> 00:24:39,799 aware people are still out there trying. I think that 519 00:24:39,799 --> 00:24:43,720 that's kind of the thing they're trying, and maybe we 520 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:46,160 should all go back to when we dated, when we 521 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:47,920 were young, and I like, really kind. 522 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:52,079 Speaker 5: Of those one friend. Okay, and this is kind of 523 00:24:52,079 --> 00:24:55,519 where it starts. I just answered, so let's see how 524 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:56,759 quick he responds. 525 00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,079 Speaker 4: I had a weird feeling that he might wait because 526 00:24:59,079 --> 00:24:59,960 he said he has his kid. 527 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,319 Speaker 5: So like she's waiting for the response, and she's like, 528 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,319 you know, now, she's wondering, does what if he doesn't 529 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:07,039 think she's cute? 530 00:25:08,519 --> 00:25:11,240 Speaker 2: Okay, really yourself out. 531 00:25:11,319 --> 00:25:16,000 Speaker 5: She's nervous, and then she goes, I'm gonna leave the 532 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:20,119 guy's name out. That one guy's going after everyone. He's 533 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,319 not even attractive, and she's just doing like all. 534 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:24,119 Speaker 2: These laugh faits laugh. 535 00:25:26,079 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 5: Wow, he's nice to me, but he's he's crazy and 536 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:32,759 he has a lot of issues. 537 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:37,519 Speaker 4: And this one guy, she's like, ew gross. 538 00:25:36,559 --> 00:25:40,400 Speaker 5: Like taking screenshots of the guys. The bow tie guy 539 00:25:41,079 --> 00:25:43,559 must not have gotten any messages because now he's adding 540 00:25:43,559 --> 00:25:48,880 a date to Patron Saint's. 541 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:48,319 Speaker 2: Date to the steakhouse. 542 00:25:49,039 --> 00:25:52,000 Speaker 4: He was like, I'm interested. Now he's like if I'm interested, 543 00:25:52,039 --> 00:25:53,240 Patron Saint and all. 544 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:56,559 Speaker 5: So like we're noticing, like who's like leveling up their posts, Like, 545 00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:57,839 oh my god, I saw that. 546 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:02,240 Speaker 4: Wow, herd has hell No, what the fuck? 547 00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:04,160 Speaker 5: The one he looks like he should be in a 548 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:07,559 crime documentary for bodies in his basement, zoom in on 549 00:26:07,599 --> 00:26:10,920 the swimsuit model poster on his wall, covering all the 550 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:15,079 speckle of that like this is just one friend. 551 00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:15,960 Speaker 2: No, I saw that. 552 00:26:16,079 --> 00:26:18,559 Speaker 3: I saw that picture and I did zoom in to 553 00:26:18,599 --> 00:26:20,200 see it, Like I was shocked. 554 00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,039 Speaker 5: The swimsuit poster had me rolling its screams I still 555 00:26:23,079 --> 00:26:23,839 live with my mom. 556 00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:26,400 Speaker 4: I sleep in my childhood bedroom. 557 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,400 Speaker 2: Well this was good. He's ripped. 558 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:31,799 Speaker 5: Wow. 559 00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:33,799 Speaker 4: Yeah, he's too hot. He's gonna want one of your 560 00:26:33,799 --> 00:26:34,920 hot friends in the thirties. 561 00:26:35,759 --> 00:26:38,359 Speaker 5: So now she feels like that one guy was too hot, 562 00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:40,880 like it just comments. So when they're too hot, she's like, 563 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:41,680 you're not gonna want me. 564 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:42,599 Speaker 4: I'm almost fifty. 565 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:46,759 Speaker 5: Yeah, but yeah, that's some examples. 566 00:26:46,799 --> 00:26:47,119 Speaker 2: Wow. 567 00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:55,279 Speaker 3: There's also something deeply human about wanting a connection, right, 568 00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,880 I mean add that to me and not wanting to 569 00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:03,519 feel dramatic or I don't know, well even dramatic for 570 00:27:03,599 --> 00:27:05,160 wanting it, just wanting. 571 00:27:04,839 --> 00:27:06,759 Speaker 2: The human connection. I mean, I think that's important. 572 00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,480 Speaker 4: I just maybe I love human connections. 573 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,519 Speaker 5: So even when I'm single, at the bar, I sit 574 00:27:11,559 --> 00:27:13,799 at the bar in the restaurant, not at the table 575 00:27:13,799 --> 00:27:15,200 because I want to talk to people. 576 00:27:16,559 --> 00:27:19,880 Speaker 3: Think about this for a second, because you're you are 577 00:27:20,039 --> 00:27:22,720 different in terms of that stuff, right, You're different, and 578 00:27:22,799 --> 00:27:24,920 especially about the women you're talking about, I don't think 579 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:30,079 they're like that. So maybe dating isn't harder today. 580 00:27:31,319 --> 00:27:31,880 Speaker 2: Uh. 581 00:27:32,079 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 3: And I'll say that because there will say it's harder 582 00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:38,400 because there aren't enough options. That's kind of what's come up, 583 00:27:38,519 --> 00:27:41,079 right that that seems to be what's come up. And 584 00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,599 I wonder maybe it's harder because there's more noise and 585 00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:48,640 there's more performance. There's the botox lips, there's the you know, 586 00:27:48,799 --> 00:27:51,559 you understand, and more of this is fine energy when 587 00:27:51,559 --> 00:27:52,279 it's not fine. 588 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 4: I think men have to raise. 589 00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:56,240 Speaker 2: On themselves. 590 00:27:57,119 --> 00:28:00,279 Speaker 4: Women have to lower their expectation one percent. I think 591 00:28:00,319 --> 00:28:01,200 that's the problem. 592 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:02,119 Speaker 2: I wish we did. 593 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,519 Speaker 4: Girls are too picky and these guys step it up. 594 00:28:04,799 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, maybe playing video games instead of going 595 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:12,720 to the gym when you're forty three and single, isn't the. 596 00:28:11,839 --> 00:28:15,359 Speaker 4: Maybe batter yourself and I laugh because like those white. 597 00:28:15,279 --> 00:28:18,079 Speaker 3: New Balances, all. 598 00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:18,559 Speaker 4: White socks are in style. 599 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:19,240 Speaker 2: They are. 600 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:21,960 Speaker 5: Yeah, like the hot girls will wear like the white 601 00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:24,119 New Balances with the tall white socks. 602 00:28:24,319 --> 00:28:26,559 Speaker 3: Okay, the hot girl, the hot girls, Yeah, but it's 603 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,319 usually the it's the sixty plus guy. I used to 604 00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,480 call them grilling shoes, and I would say they came 605 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,400 they came with like stabilizers on the side so they 606 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:35,000 would come out. 607 00:28:35,599 --> 00:28:37,759 Speaker 2: But now hot girls are worms to have told you. 608 00:28:38,079 --> 00:28:40,839 I see I have Facebook. No, I'm oh my god. 609 00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:42,599 Speaker 4: Now my dad thinks he's cool. 610 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,759 Speaker 2: Oh that's that's really funny. I'll say. Maybe it's moments like. 611 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 3: This that are a little chaotic, right, this whole thing 612 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:52,680 that you did a very public They're reminders that connection 613 00:28:52,799 --> 00:28:54,240 doesn't always come from swiping. 614 00:28:54,319 --> 00:28:55,519 Speaker 2: It's just right. 615 00:28:55,559 --> 00:28:58,759 Speaker 3: It doesn't always come from swiping, yeah, and sometimes it 616 00:28:58,799 --> 00:29:01,839 comes from saying something thing out loud and seeing who's 617 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:03,079 brave enough to respond to it. 618 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,599 Speaker 4: But there was a lot of brave men and somewhere 619 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,640 good middle of the road catches. 620 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:08,119 Speaker 2: Yeah. 621 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:11,039 Speaker 5: I was like, oh, I hope one of those women 622 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:12,279 would message them. 623 00:29:12,079 --> 00:29:15,759 Speaker 3: But they're all afraid, afraid to message the guy. Afraid, Right, 624 00:29:16,119 --> 00:29:18,880 we got to have the app where the women make 625 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,359 the move first. Oh, actually they have that. They haven't, No, 626 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:24,000 we're oh they have that? 627 00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:28,240 Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, girls get pissed off and guys don't use 628 00:29:28,279 --> 00:29:29,200 accurate pictures. 629 00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:33,240 Speaker 2: Well they flow out of course of course. 630 00:29:33,519 --> 00:29:36,119 Speaker 5: You know, you take a lot of complaints on that, 631 00:29:36,839 --> 00:29:39,839 Like they'll be like, oh, his pictures from twelve years ago? 632 00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:41,359 Speaker 4: What the fuck is scary? 633 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:42,480 Speaker 2: I'm not messaging him. 634 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:44,359 Speaker 5: How do you know it's from twelve years Is it 635 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:47,200 chosen Facebook when your profile pick was last updated? 636 00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:49,559 Speaker 2: So they the hell? 637 00:29:50,279 --> 00:29:55,519 Speaker 4: You know like it that. Women assume you're ugly if 638 00:29:55,519 --> 00:29:56,680 you don't put pictures. 639 00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,960 Speaker 5: So even the guy, it's like guns, car jets, goods, 640 00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,160 car jets, go bills, go bills. 641 00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:03,759 Speaker 4: It's like, well, what do you fucking look like you 642 00:30:03,839 --> 00:30:05,319 must be We assume you're ugly. 643 00:30:06,279 --> 00:30:06,799 Speaker 2: They all do. 644 00:30:07,079 --> 00:30:09,799 Speaker 4: He's got no pictures. He's a troll. The guy could 645 00:30:09,799 --> 00:30:12,640 be hot, but that's just society. Like, why isn't he 646 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:13,599 posting himself? 647 00:30:14,079 --> 00:30:16,799 Speaker 3: Well, most guys aren't gonna do selfies. Women do way 648 00:30:16,839 --> 00:30:17,599 more selfie but. 649 00:30:17,559 --> 00:30:19,319 Speaker 4: They could have like the guys at the bar. 650 00:30:19,839 --> 00:30:22,440 Speaker 2: Oh, I see what you're saying, like yeah, yeah, yeah. 651 00:30:22,319 --> 00:30:24,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, because no pictures is the red flag. 652 00:30:25,359 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, and you I could read you pages of Yep, 653 00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:30,480 he's got no pictures. 654 00:30:30,519 --> 00:30:34,440 Speaker 4: He must be bad. Yeah, there could be cutches out there. 655 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:37,359 We don't know this is true, but yeah, so it's 656 00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:38,400 Stephanie Christen. 657 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 2: Yes, okay on Facebook, scroll a. 658 00:30:41,359 --> 00:30:45,160 Speaker 5: Couple down and they can see the. 659 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:47,079 Speaker 4: Post so they can maybe go shopping. 660 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:50,319 Speaker 2: So this is a middle girl, a middle guy have 661 00:30:50,359 --> 00:30:51,039 a fucking. 662 00:30:50,799 --> 00:30:53,559 Speaker 4: Field day because there's no hobbies with jets and six packs. 663 00:30:53,599 --> 00:30:55,960 There's no flours on there. You're normal. 664 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:59,079 Speaker 2: Wait wait wait, wait wait wait, there's. 665 00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 3: No force or oh fours, I think you said four. 666 00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,480 Speaker 4: With a jet. I got They're just a lot of metals. 667 00:31:06,519 --> 00:31:09,559 Speaker 2: Actually, there's there isn't in the world. That's the problem, 668 00:31:09,799 --> 00:31:11,559 Like you know, there isn't in the world. 669 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,880 Speaker 4: There's so many hot checkcent everywhere. 670 00:31:15,279 --> 00:31:19,039 Speaker 2: I don't know, because women take care of themselves better, 671 00:31:19,079 --> 00:31:22,279 I can't say where is the problem? Yeah, well get 672 00:31:22,279 --> 00:31:22,960 out of guys. 673 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,160 Speaker 4: Yeah all right, well it's to the gym, guys and girls. 674 00:31:26,279 --> 00:31:31,200 Speaker 2: Fucking message first, Stephanie. Uh, it's always great to see you. Goddamn. 675 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,519 It's just like I love when you do things like this. 676 00:31:33,599 --> 00:31:35,240 It's my favorite. It's my favorite. 677 00:31:35,319 --> 00:31:37,480 Speaker 4: We'll see what happens when the song gets released. 678 00:31:37,519 --> 00:31:38,720 Speaker 2: I can't wait for that either. 679 00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:40,759 Speaker 4: That's gonna be it's put myself out. 680 00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 2: There, Yeah it is, but that's not anything new. 681 00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:46,519 Speaker 5: No, but I a song, a real song, not to 682 00:31:46,519 --> 00:31:47,759 advertise a house. 683 00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,480 Speaker 3: I understand, But you put yourself out there with the 684 00:31:50,559 --> 00:31:51,920 videos and stuff like that. 685 00:31:52,079 --> 00:31:54,799 Speaker 2: So I think this will be great. I can't wait 686 00:31:54,839 --> 00:31:55,799 to see it where it goes. 687 00:31:55,799 --> 00:31:57,680 Speaker 4: I gotta see how long it takes us to make it. 688 00:31:57,839 --> 00:32:00,319 Speaker 3: And in the meantime, I'll say wherever you are in 689 00:32:00,359 --> 00:32:05,079 your own story, single partner, divorce, starting over, happily, avoiding 690 00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:08,880 dating altogether. I really hope this conversation made you feel 691 00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:12,519 a little less alone in that and maybe just maybe 692 00:32:12,599 --> 00:32:14,680 a little less weird for wanting something real. 693 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,079 Speaker 2: Right a little. 694 00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:19,240 Speaker 4: I have a field like, go find your person on there, ladies. 695 00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:22,720 Speaker 3: Go find your person for Stephanie Kristen. I'm Bill Moran. 696 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:24,799 We'll see you tomorrow. 697 00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:28,119 Speaker 2: It must the bean that doesn't know the warnings. It 698 00:32:28,319 --> 00:32:29,480 wasn't warning to get it. 699 00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:33,359 Speaker 4: It wasn't one dodging it.