WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.560 --> 00:00:05.599 This is Pastor Rick's Daily Hope, the audio broadcast ministry 2 00:00:05.639 --> 00:00:09.359 of Pastor Rick Warren. Today we continue in a series 3 00:00:09.439 --> 00:00:13.240 called Better Together. In this series, Rick takes us through 4 00:00:13.320 --> 00:00:18.079 First Corinthians chapter thirteen and shows us how to cultivate deep, 5 00:00:18.280 --> 00:00:22.600 meaningful relationships with the people around us. In just a 6 00:00:22.640 --> 00:00:25.160 few moments, we're going to tell you how you can 7 00:00:25.199 --> 00:00:28.719 get a copy of Pastor Rick's book called God's Power 8 00:00:28.839 --> 00:00:32.399 to Change Your Life. In it, you'll discover how God 9 00:00:32.439 --> 00:00:35.520 provides the power you need to take you from where 10 00:00:35.520 --> 00:00:38.719 you are to where you want to be. 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Right now, here's Pastor Rick Warren. 16 00:00:59.359 --> 00:01:01.719 With part two, you have a message called how We 17 00:01:01.840 --> 00:01:02.960 Help each Other Grow. 18 00:01:07.120 --> 00:01:09.799 UCLA did a study in a while back and discovered 19 00:01:09.879 --> 00:01:15.599 that to be a healthy, fulfilled, satisfied adult, you need 20 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:20.400 eight to ten meaningful touches every day. 21 00:01:20.879 --> 00:01:22.159 Say boy, I'm getting cheated. 22 00:01:23.920 --> 00:01:28.359 You do handshakes, hugs, pat on the bat back, a 23 00:01:28.359 --> 00:01:33.959 little squeeze. You were made for being touched. Whether you 24 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:36.879 ever marry or not, whether you ever have sex or not, 25 00:01:37.079 --> 00:01:42.000 you need touches in your life in order to grow 26 00:01:42.040 --> 00:01:43.439 and to be all that God wants you to be. 27 00:01:44.879 --> 00:01:47.280 And yet I talk to a lot of people sometimes 28 00:01:47.319 --> 00:01:49.319 on the patty who say, you know, Rick, the only 29 00:01:49.359 --> 00:01:53.319 physical affection I get all week is at church, when 30 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:55.680 you say, turn around and hug somebody, or turn around 31 00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:58.079 and shake hands with somebody, or give somebody a pat 32 00:01:58.120 --> 00:02:00.200 on them, He said, they are They say that's all 33 00:02:00.239 --> 00:02:03.560 I get all week. When I'm out on the patio 34 00:02:03.560 --> 00:02:05.840 and I hug somebody off in wonder, how long does 35 00:02:05.840 --> 00:02:09.439 that hug have to last that person. Most of you 36 00:02:09.479 --> 00:02:11.919 know I'm pretty famous for hugging, because if you get 37 00:02:11.919 --> 00:02:16.000 in my way, you're gonna get hugged. And that's why 38 00:02:16.120 --> 00:02:21.840 I know why some of you leave early, because you're chicken. Okay, 39 00:02:21.919 --> 00:02:24.159 I see you up there in the bleachers your last song. 40 00:02:24.280 --> 00:02:26.199 You side out because you think I'll get out before 41 00:02:26.240 --> 00:02:29.520 Rick gets out here. But you can run, you can't hide. 42 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:35.960 I'm gonna get you. Eventually, You're gonna get hugged. Everybody 43 00:02:36.039 --> 00:02:40.080 stand up right now? Oh you say, oh no, everybody 44 00:02:40.120 --> 00:02:44.319 stand up, Come on, stand up. Okay, stretch everybody, stretch, 45 00:02:44.400 --> 00:02:45.360 go ahead, stretch. 46 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:52.400 Okay. Touch your toes, touch your neighbor's toes. Okay. 47 00:02:52.879 --> 00:02:54.639 I want you to turn around, and I want you 48 00:02:54.719 --> 00:02:58.560 to hug a total stranger. Go ahead, turn around, hug 49 00:02:58.639 --> 00:03:13.360 a total stranger. All right, All right, sit down, okay, 50 00:03:13.400 --> 00:03:14.120 sit down. 51 00:03:15.960 --> 00:03:19.120 Now. Now. 52 00:03:19.159 --> 00:03:21.400 I know that there were two reactions to what we 53 00:03:21.560 --> 00:03:25.599 just did. Some of you are thinking I'm never going 54 00:03:25.680 --> 00:03:30.919 back to that church again, and the smarter ones are thinking, 55 00:03:31.000 --> 00:03:33.479 next week, I'm sitting by somebody cute. 56 00:03:34.240 --> 00:03:34.560 Okay. 57 00:03:35.000 --> 00:03:38.639 So Pastor Rick, do it again next week and I'll 58 00:03:38.639 --> 00:03:39.639 be ready next time. 59 00:03:40.439 --> 00:03:45.759 Okay. Oh, Brother Roman's twelfth ten. 60 00:03:45.800 --> 00:03:49.400 Let's read it aloud together, love one another with brotherly 61 00:03:49.560 --> 00:03:52.840 affection as members of one family. 62 00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:54.039 Hey, we're family. 63 00:03:54.479 --> 00:03:57.039 We're all in the family of God. You're my sister, 64 00:03:57.199 --> 00:04:00.560 you're my brother. Brothers and sisters, show affection to each other. 65 00:04:01.479 --> 00:04:03.479 You got to show it, not just say it. It's 66 00:04:03.520 --> 00:04:06.360 not just enough to tell people or say you love them. 67 00:04:06.439 --> 00:04:09.000 They need to feel it. They need to feel it. 68 00:04:09.039 --> 00:04:11.039 And if you love others in God's family, you need 69 00:04:11.080 --> 00:04:14.560 to show it and make a habit of hugging, of touching, 70 00:04:14.639 --> 00:04:17.120 of you know, giving a firm grip of a pat 71 00:04:17.160 --> 00:04:19.560 on the back and at a boy you know, just 72 00:04:20.439 --> 00:04:22.720 you know, whatever it takes to just give them a 73 00:04:22.800 --> 00:04:25.360 word of encouragement. It says, you know what, I love 74 00:04:25.399 --> 00:04:29.120 you and we're togetherness. It's not enough just to say it. 75 00:04:29.639 --> 00:04:32.439 People need to be touched and they need hugs. So 76 00:04:32.560 --> 00:04:33.959 this week, here's what I want you to do. I 77 00:04:34.000 --> 00:04:37.199 want you to go all over the county and hug everybody, 78 00:04:38.240 --> 00:04:40.560 and if they look really weird, actually. 79 00:04:40.240 --> 00:04:43.120 Just say my pastor asked me to do this. Okay. 80 00:04:43.759 --> 00:04:44.920 Now here's the fourth way. 81 00:04:45.360 --> 00:04:50.480 By showing acceptance, showing attention, showing affection, and showing appreciation, 82 00:04:51.839 --> 00:04:56.759 we affirm each other's worth with appreciation. Now, appreciation means 83 00:04:57.000 --> 00:05:00.279 to raise in value. That's what If you've you bought 84 00:05:00.279 --> 00:05:02.079 a home in Orange County, you know the meaning of 85 00:05:02.120 --> 00:05:05.560 the word appreciation. It goes up in value. If you've 86 00:05:05.560 --> 00:05:07.959 ever bought a car, you know the meaning of depreciation. 87 00:05:08.759 --> 00:05:10.639 You lose in value the moment you drive it off 88 00:05:10.639 --> 00:05:10.920 the lot. 89 00:05:10.959 --> 00:05:12.959 It's not worth as much as you bought paid for it. 90 00:05:14.160 --> 00:05:17.759 Every time you appreciate somebody, you raise their value to 91 00:05:17.920 --> 00:05:20.920 you and to others. When you appreciate your wife, you 92 00:05:21.040 --> 00:05:24.360 raise her value. When you appreciate your husband, or your boyfriend, 93 00:05:24.399 --> 00:05:27.120 or your girlfriend or a friend, you raise their value. 94 00:05:27.279 --> 00:05:30.600 When you appreciate your kids, you raise their value. When 95 00:05:30.600 --> 00:05:35.279 you appreciate your small group, you raise its value to you. 96 00:05:36.639 --> 00:05:41.000 Everything you appreciate increases in value. 97 00:05:41.240 --> 00:05:42.839 Now look at this next verse. 98 00:05:43.360 --> 00:05:48.120 The Bible says, brothers and sisters, appreciate those who work 99 00:05:48.199 --> 00:05:50.720 hard among you, who lead you in the Lord and 100 00:05:50.800 --> 00:05:52.959 teach you. Now, when was the last time you thank 101 00:05:53.040 --> 00:05:55.639 the Sunday school teacher? If you have children over in 102 00:05:55.680 --> 00:05:58.560 all stars, Today, when this service is over, before you 103 00:05:58.680 --> 00:06:02.360 leave this campus, find read people to appreciate. If you 104 00:06:02.480 --> 00:06:05.480 got somebody in all stars, goverment, Thank one of the teachers, 105 00:06:05.519 --> 00:06:08.839 Thank you for teaching my kids. Thank the ushers, Thank 106 00:06:08.920 --> 00:06:12.639 the greeters, Thank the traffic people. Thank the people who 107 00:06:12.680 --> 00:06:14.160 set up the tables. You know it takes about one 108 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:16.879 thousand people just to pull off a weekend here at Saddleback. 109 00:06:17.240 --> 00:06:18.439 Thank the musicians. 110 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:20.519 Now, you don't have to thank me, because I know 111 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:22.279 you appreciate me, except those of you are afraid I'm 112 00:06:22.279 --> 00:06:26.439 gonna hug you. But you can find people to express 113 00:06:26.480 --> 00:06:30.160 appreciation too. And then this week I am naming this 114 00:06:30.480 --> 00:06:34.639 host appreciation Week. So when you go to your small 115 00:06:34.680 --> 00:06:38.040 group this week, I want you to really show appreciation 116 00:06:38.160 --> 00:06:38.720 to your host. 117 00:06:38.920 --> 00:06:40.319 Buy them a car. 118 00:06:40.879 --> 00:06:44.560 Okay, just buy him a car and appreciate your host 119 00:06:44.639 --> 00:06:46.879 and tell them how much you love them and how 120 00:06:46.920 --> 00:06:48.560 much you appreciate their opening your home. 121 00:06:50.199 --> 00:06:52.279 Tom's going to talk about the next one. 122 00:06:54.759 --> 00:06:56.920 There's another way that we can all help each other grow, 123 00:06:56.959 --> 00:07:00.319 and that is by praying for each other's growth, praying 124 00:07:00.319 --> 00:07:03.079 for each other's growth, by doing what this guy named 125 00:07:03.120 --> 00:07:05.720 a path for us did in Colossians four to twelve. 126 00:07:06.360 --> 00:07:09.519 The path forist Paul Roade always prays for you that 127 00:07:09.560 --> 00:07:12.240 you will be, that you will grow to be spiritually mature. 128 00:07:12.720 --> 00:07:14.079 That guy is a hero to me. I don't know 129 00:07:14.079 --> 00:07:15.800 about you. I look at it says he always praised 130 00:07:15.839 --> 00:07:17.759 for you. I don't know about you. But prayer is 131 00:07:17.759 --> 00:07:19.879 hard for me. It's not I think we think it 132 00:07:19.879 --> 00:07:22.360 should come naturally. It doesn't for me. I mean I 133 00:07:22.399 --> 00:07:24.079 have to make time, have to set a side time. 134 00:07:24.120 --> 00:07:25.959 I think it's that way for most people. So he 135 00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:28.040 impresses me that he took the time. He had the 136 00:07:28.079 --> 00:07:30.360 discipline to always take time to pray for people. But 137 00:07:30.439 --> 00:07:32.160 I also love the fact that he prayed for people's 138 00:07:32.160 --> 00:07:35.399 spiritual growth. And we usually pray for people's needs. They 139 00:07:35.439 --> 00:07:38.079 have health needs and financial needs, and we should, but 140 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:40.720 we don't spend nearly enough time praying for people's spiritual 141 00:07:40.759 --> 00:07:44.199 growth that our character will change, because that's gonna last. 142 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:47.439 I think one of the reasons probably is we don't 143 00:07:47.439 --> 00:07:49.480 know what to pray about. How would I pray for 144 00:07:49.560 --> 00:07:54.120 somebody's spiritual growth? Well, fortunately, the Bible is filled with 145 00:07:54.240 --> 00:07:56.680 verses about how to pray for somebody to grow spiritually. 146 00:07:56.720 --> 00:07:59.040 In fact, the next six verses in your outline are 147 00:07:59.079 --> 00:08:00.800 prayers for people's spiritual growth. 148 00:08:01.360 --> 00:08:02.519 And I'll tell you what. 149 00:08:03.399 --> 00:08:06.000 Instead of me reading these and telling you what they mean, 150 00:08:06.120 --> 00:08:08.759 let's spend a few minutes just doing what these verses say. 151 00:08:09.120 --> 00:08:10.839 There's people in your life you'd like to pray for 152 00:08:10.879 --> 00:08:13.600 their spiritual growth, people in your group, your family, your friends. 153 00:08:14.360 --> 00:08:15.879 Let me just share these verses with you, and as 154 00:08:15.920 --> 00:08:18.079 I do so, let's pray for them right now, bring 155 00:08:18.120 --> 00:08:20.600 their name to mind and say, yeah, God, they could 156 00:08:20.680 --> 00:08:22.920 use that help them in that area. For instance, this 157 00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:25.800 first verse from Ephesians three eighteen and nineteen. Who could 158 00:08:25.800 --> 00:08:29.040 you pray this verse for? I pray that you'll be 159 00:08:29.079 --> 00:08:32.960 able to feel and understand how long, why deep, and 160 00:08:33.080 --> 00:08:36.559 high Christ's love really is, and to experience this love 161 00:08:36.960 --> 00:08:40.120 for yourselves. Who do you know that needs God's love 162 00:08:40.159 --> 00:08:42.519 in their life right now? Let's maybe struggle a little bit. 163 00:08:42.559 --> 00:08:44.679 We'll bring their name to mind and say, God, show 164 00:08:44.720 --> 00:08:47.480 them your love. Let them know today how much you 165 00:08:47.519 --> 00:08:50.399 really love them. I have a feeling that these prayers 166 00:08:50.399 --> 00:08:51.679 were praying right now are going to have a lot 167 00:08:51.720 --> 00:08:54.360 more impact than anything Rick or I say today. That's 168 00:08:54.360 --> 00:08:56.440 the power of prayer to make a difference in people's lives. 169 00:08:57.480 --> 00:08:58.720 Who do you know that you need to pray the 170 00:08:58.759 --> 00:09:01.840 next verse for Hebrews thirteen twenty one. I pray that 171 00:09:01.879 --> 00:09:05.320 you'll always be eager to do what is right? Parents, 172 00:09:05.360 --> 00:09:07.480 wouldn't like to pray that for your kids? I mean, really, 173 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:09.399 that they not only do what was right, but they'd 174 00:09:09.399 --> 00:09:12.159 be eager to do the right thing. We'll pray for 175 00:09:12.200 --> 00:09:14.600 him right now, or some friends, somebody at work, God 176 00:09:14.600 --> 00:09:16.919 give them integrity. Just bring their name to mind God, 177 00:09:16.919 --> 00:09:19.559 I pray for him. Or how about this next one? 178 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:23.600 Romans fifteen thirteen. Let's read this together. I pray, God, 179 00:09:23.679 --> 00:09:28.240 who gives hope, will fill you with much joy and peace. Well, 180 00:09:28.279 --> 00:09:31.279 how you trust in him? Who wouldn't like some hope 181 00:09:31.320 --> 00:09:33.519 in their lives? Who doesn't need more joy, more peace 182 00:09:33.519 --> 00:09:35.759 in their lives? Well you see the foundation of it 183 00:09:35.799 --> 00:09:37.639 all there is that you trust in him. 184 00:09:37.799 --> 00:09:38.279 So say it. 185 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:40.759 God, I know somebody who needs some hope, Help them 186 00:09:40.799 --> 00:09:42.519 to trust in you during this difficult time. I know 187 00:09:42.559 --> 00:09:44.720 somebody who needs some joy. Help them to trust in 188 00:09:44.759 --> 00:09:46.480 you so their heart can be lifted up. Just bring 189 00:09:46.480 --> 00:09:49.519 their name to mind right now. Or this next verse 190 00:09:49.559 --> 00:09:51.320 where the Bible says, I pray God would give you 191 00:09:51.360 --> 00:09:53.759 a spirit of wisdom and revelation. Who do you know 192 00:09:53.799 --> 00:09:56.320 that's facing a decision? Ask God to give him his 193 00:09:56.360 --> 00:09:59.000 wisdom right now. He says he'll give it if we ask. Well, 194 00:09:59.039 --> 00:10:01.960 you pray on their behalf, pray for their growth. Or 195 00:10:02.000 --> 00:10:05.200 the next verse and second Tessalonians three five. I pray 196 00:10:05.200 --> 00:10:06.919 the Lord will guide you to be as loving as 197 00:10:07.000 --> 00:10:10.120 God and as patient as Christ. First of all, anyone 198 00:10:10.159 --> 00:10:12.159 got that one down yet, anybody here as loving as God, 199 00:10:12.360 --> 00:10:15.080 anybody hears patient as Christ. We're just not there yet, 200 00:10:15.320 --> 00:10:17.559 but we can pray for each other that will grow 201 00:10:17.559 --> 00:10:19.320 the rest of our lives to get closer to that 202 00:10:19.639 --> 00:10:21.919 Who needs some of God's love, who needs some patience 203 00:10:21.919 --> 00:10:24.159 in their lives right now? Pray that verse for him. 204 00:10:24.200 --> 00:10:27.320 Bring their name to mind right now? Or this next one. 205 00:10:27.960 --> 00:10:30.840 Who do you know that's feeling pretty overwhelmed by life. 206 00:10:31.399 --> 00:10:33.679 Who do you know that maybe doesn't feel like they're 207 00:10:33.679 --> 00:10:35.679 going to make it or feels like they're having to 208 00:10:35.720 --> 00:10:38.679 do everything on their own energy, own power. Pray this 209 00:10:38.799 --> 00:10:42.080 verse for him Iphesian three sixteen. I pray that God 210 00:10:42.120 --> 00:10:45.679 may strengthen you with power through his spirit. Bring their 211 00:10:45.720 --> 00:10:47.240 name to mind, and say, God, help them to know 212 00:10:47.279 --> 00:10:51.639 they're not alone today, that you'll give them strength and power. Now, 213 00:10:51.759 --> 00:10:53.919 we just prayed individually for a lot of people, and 214 00:10:53.919 --> 00:10:55.879 there is power in that, but there's even more power 215 00:10:55.919 --> 00:10:57.720 when you pray together. When you get in a group 216 00:10:57.759 --> 00:10:59.720 of other people and pray, and I want to encourage 217 00:10:59.759 --> 00:11:01.240 you to do that in your group, pray for each 218 00:11:01.240 --> 00:11:03.399 other's spiritual growth. And as you're doing that, just a 219 00:11:03.440 --> 00:11:06.480 couple of real quick suggestions. First of all, make it 220 00:11:06.519 --> 00:11:08.720 a priority, you know, if you're in a group and 221 00:11:08.720 --> 00:11:10.240 you're gonna pray, and you wait till the end of 222 00:11:10.240 --> 00:11:12.080 the meeting to do that. You never get around to it. 223 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:14.159 There's four minutes left, you don't have enough time to pray. 224 00:11:14.320 --> 00:11:17.000 So some weeks start with prayer may take most of 225 00:11:17.039 --> 00:11:19.159 the meeting. But what better way to meet than to 226 00:11:19.159 --> 00:11:21.159 pray for each other? Pray for each other's growth. So 227 00:11:21.279 --> 00:11:23.759 make it a priority. And then secondly, I want to 228 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:26.279 encourage you, when you pray with other people, to do 229 00:11:26.320 --> 00:11:30.679 it a little bit differently than we usually do. Pray conversationally. 230 00:11:30.879 --> 00:11:32.559 If you've been in any group that prays, you know 231 00:11:32.559 --> 00:11:34.559 we usually do it like this. This person talks for 232 00:11:34.600 --> 00:11:36.200 about three or four minutes and says what they want 233 00:11:36.240 --> 00:11:38.120 to say. Then the next person in the circle talks 234 00:11:38.120 --> 00:11:39.639 for three or four minutes says what they want to say. 235 00:11:39.639 --> 00:11:41.480 We pray like this, don't we? Then the next person 236 00:11:41.519 --> 00:11:42.799 in the next person, We. 237 00:11:42.759 --> 00:11:43.960 Don't talk like that. 238 00:11:44.320 --> 00:11:46.279 I mean, if you're having a conversation, this person says 239 00:11:46.279 --> 00:11:48.639 a sentence, This person says a sentence, This person interrupts, 240 00:11:48.720 --> 00:11:50.720 this person says, oh yeah, I was thinking about that too. 241 00:11:51.159 --> 00:11:53.919 Try praying like that. God's there in the room. You 242 00:11:53.960 --> 00:11:55.840 can talk to them like a person. So try praying 243 00:11:55.919 --> 00:11:57.159 like that. Somebody you are look at me like that's 244 00:11:57.240 --> 00:11:58.519 not going to work for our group and never going 245 00:11:58.559 --> 00:12:00.639 to work. Sure it'll work. Just do it to do 246 00:12:00.720 --> 00:12:03.000 something different. And here's the way to make it work. 247 00:12:03.799 --> 00:12:05.960 Make sure at the beginning you say, okay, nobody can 248 00:12:05.960 --> 00:12:08.639 pray more than a sentence at a time, just one sentence. 249 00:12:08.720 --> 00:12:10.480 If they pray more than a sentence, kick them in 250 00:12:10.480 --> 00:12:12.840 an affirming way, but kick them all right, And you 251 00:12:13.080 --> 00:12:14.960 pray one sentence, and you pray about one thing for 252 00:12:15.000 --> 00:12:16.879 a while. You all pray together. This will help some 253 00:12:16.919 --> 00:12:18.799 of you who have never prayed with other people. 254 00:12:18.840 --> 00:12:19.519 You can just say. 255 00:12:19.440 --> 00:12:21.639 Yeah, me too, God on that one, and that'll help 256 00:12:21.639 --> 00:12:23.600 you to pray also. And everybody can get together and 257 00:12:23.639 --> 00:12:26.559 pray together for one another's spiritual growth. So make it 258 00:12:26.600 --> 00:12:29.600 a priority and pray conversationally, and you'll see some incredible 259 00:12:29.639 --> 00:12:31.240 things happen in your group as you pray together. 260 00:12:34.240 --> 00:12:36.080 Now, look at the verse on the back of your outline. 261 00:12:36.159 --> 00:12:42.120 Romans fifteen to five says this, may God develop maturity 262 00:12:42.120 --> 00:12:44.440 in you so that you all get along with each 263 00:12:44.440 --> 00:12:48.600 other as well as Jesus gets along with us. Notice 264 00:12:48.639 --> 00:12:53.600 that the test of maturity is relationships, not content or knowledge, 265 00:12:53.639 --> 00:12:57.399 but relationships. Knowledge is important, but it says that ultimately, 266 00:12:57.480 --> 00:13:00.519 maturity is the ability to get along with it people. 267 00:13:00.799 --> 00:13:03.240 If you have a hard time getting along with other people, 268 00:13:03.279 --> 00:13:05.919 it says one thing, guess what you are immature. 269 00:13:09.759 --> 00:13:12.879 You're listening to Pastor Rick's Daily Hope. Rick will be 270 00:13:12.960 --> 00:13:15.799 back in just a moment with the rest of today's lesson. 271 00:13:16.159 --> 00:13:19.279 You can sign up for Pastor Rick's free email devotional 272 00:13:19.519 --> 00:13:23.720 at pastorick dot com. That's pastorick dot com. 273 00:13:23.720 --> 00:13:28.000 What does it take to become more loving, live more peacefully, 274 00:13:28.559 --> 00:13:33.519 develop patience, have self control? Pastor Rick says, throughout all 275 00:13:33.600 --> 00:13:36.440 the years he's been a pastor, the number one question 276 00:13:36.559 --> 00:13:40.519 he's been asked is why can't I change? People want 277 00:13:40.559 --> 00:13:44.240 to change, but they're stuck. Maybe you feel that way too. 278 00:13:44.960 --> 00:13:48.200 In his book God's Power to Change Your Life, Rick 279 00:13:48.360 --> 00:13:53.200 lays the groundwork for personal transformation, then offers biblical insights 280 00:13:53.279 --> 00:13:56.480 and simple steps for ten areas of growth that can 281 00:13:56.519 --> 00:13:59.399 take you from where you are to where you want 282 00:13:59.440 --> 00:14:02.320 to be. This book connects you with the power to 283 00:14:02.440 --> 00:14:05.720 actually make the changes you long to make, and as 284 00:14:05.759 --> 00:14:08.759 you apply the truth of God's word by the power 285 00:14:08.840 --> 00:14:12.919 of His spirit. Your life will change. 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There's only two days left 297 00:14:48.679 --> 00:14:51.080 to get this great resource, so don't wait. 298 00:14:56.120 --> 00:14:59.480 And now here's Pastor Rick Warren with the second half 299 00:14:59.519 --> 00:15:00.919 of today lesson. 300 00:15:01.080 --> 00:15:03.480 If you have a hard time getting along with other people, 301 00:15:03.559 --> 00:15:04.240 It says one thing. 302 00:15:04.320 --> 00:15:07.879 Guess what you are immature If. 303 00:15:07.759 --> 00:15:10.720 You're always worried about other people, if you're always threatened 304 00:15:10.720 --> 00:15:13.399 by other people, if you can't get along with other people, 305 00:15:14.000 --> 00:15:17.440 you have an immaturity problem and you need to grow up. 306 00:15:17.639 --> 00:15:20.480 God says, as he develops maturity in us, we get 307 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:21.799 along with each other. 308 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:23.639 Just as Jesus gets along with us. 309 00:15:24.360 --> 00:15:27.159 Now, that's why we're doing forty days of community. That's 310 00:15:27.200 --> 00:15:30.159 why we're doing small groups. The purpose is to learn 311 00:15:30.240 --> 00:15:33.200 to get along with each other. The purpose is to 312 00:15:33.279 --> 00:15:36.759 learn to build relationships, learning how to love. Now, there 313 00:15:36.840 --> 00:15:42.840 is a secret ingredient that builds community faster than anything else, 314 00:15:43.399 --> 00:15:47.159 and it is this number three. By admitting our mistakes. 315 00:15:48.759 --> 00:15:54.159 By admitting our mistakes, we build community, intimacy, relationships faster 316 00:15:54.480 --> 00:15:58.399 than any other way. Ephesians four twenty five says this, 317 00:16:00.080 --> 00:16:03.919 Tell each other the truth, because we all belong to 318 00:16:04.000 --> 00:16:08.360 each other. Tell the truth about yourself, your fears, your doubts, 319 00:16:09.559 --> 00:16:10.399 your hang ups. 320 00:16:10.480 --> 00:16:11.320 Now, let me see. 321 00:16:11.519 --> 00:16:16.440 Confession does not mean just confessing your deep dark sense. 322 00:16:17.279 --> 00:16:19.960 Confession just means admitting what's going on in your life. 323 00:16:20.320 --> 00:16:23.759 You know, I'm having some doubts today, you admit. That's confession. 324 00:16:24.000 --> 00:16:26.799 You know I'm worried about such a that's a confession. 325 00:16:27.240 --> 00:16:30.480 You know I'm feeling a little lonely today, that's a confession. 326 00:16:30.919 --> 00:16:33.600 You know I'm having a hard time forgiving that person. 327 00:16:33.840 --> 00:16:34.759 That's a confession. 328 00:16:35.200 --> 00:16:39.360 You know, I just don't know why, but I feel depressed, 329 00:16:39.519 --> 00:16:41.039 I feel discouraged, today. 330 00:16:41.320 --> 00:16:42.320 That is a confession. 331 00:16:43.120 --> 00:16:45.320 And when you were honest about what's going on in 332 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:49.159 your life and you're not blaming anybody else for it, 333 00:16:49.159 --> 00:16:52.320 it draws you closer to them and those closer to you. Now, 334 00:16:52.399 --> 00:16:55.480 why in the world would anybody do that? Why would 335 00:16:55.519 --> 00:17:01.080 anybody risk honesty? Because it's worth the risk. God says, 336 00:17:01.320 --> 00:17:05.160 there are four benefits of being honest about our mistakes, 337 00:17:05.480 --> 00:17:09.480 about our feelings, our faults, our fatigue, our failures, our fears. 338 00:17:09.759 --> 00:17:13.440 There are four benefits, and you only get these benefits 339 00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:17.000 when you're honest with one other person or a group. 340 00:17:17.640 --> 00:17:25.200 Here they are number one emotional healing. Emotional healing comes 341 00:17:25.359 --> 00:17:28.880 from being honest with other people about what's going on 342 00:17:28.920 --> 00:17:33.359 in your life. James five point sixteen says this, admit 343 00:17:33.480 --> 00:17:37.720 your faults. Read it with me to one another circle that. 344 00:17:37.960 --> 00:17:40.759 Notice it doesn't say admit him to the priest. It 345 00:17:40.799 --> 00:17:43.160 doesn't say admit him to a pastor. It doesn't say 346 00:17:43.200 --> 00:17:45.839 admit him to God. It doesn't say admit them to 347 00:17:45.880 --> 00:17:48.799 a counselor. It says, admit them. 348 00:17:48.640 --> 00:17:52.799 To each other. And that's your group. Pray for each other. 349 00:17:53.279 --> 00:17:53.720 Sow that. 350 00:17:53.880 --> 00:17:57.359 Read it with me. You may be healed now everybody 351 00:17:57.359 --> 00:18:01.240 look up here because this is extremely important. There is 352 00:18:01.279 --> 00:18:06.319 a big difference between forgiveness and emotional healing. They are 353 00:18:06.359 --> 00:18:11.000 not the same. They are not forgiveness. If you need 354 00:18:11.039 --> 00:18:13.240 forgiveness for something in your life, all you need to 355 00:18:13.240 --> 00:18:14.799 do is confess it to God. You don't have to 356 00:18:14.799 --> 00:18:18.000 tell anybody else. Confess it to God and you are forgiven. 357 00:18:18.839 --> 00:18:20.920 But a lot of people, after they've confessed to God, 358 00:18:21.079 --> 00:18:24.039 they still feel guilty, they still feel hung up, they 359 00:18:24.079 --> 00:18:27.359 still can't let it go, they still feel emotionally scarred. 360 00:18:27.400 --> 00:18:30.599 Why they haven't done this part telling it to somebody else. 361 00:18:31.880 --> 00:18:35.039 God has wired the universe in such a way that 362 00:18:35.200 --> 00:18:39.799 emotional healing comes not from telling God he already knows it, 363 00:18:40.119 --> 00:18:44.200 but from telling somebody else who doesn't know it. That's 364 00:18:44.240 --> 00:18:48.200 where emotional healing comes from. Now I'm not making this up. 365 00:18:48.440 --> 00:18:52.119 This is what God says. Confess your faults to one another, 366 00:18:53.039 --> 00:18:56.279 not to God, to one another, and you will be healed. 367 00:18:56.480 --> 00:18:59.720 You want forgiveness, you confess it to God. You want healing. 368 00:19:00.279 --> 00:19:02.839 You want to let go of that pain. You want 369 00:19:02.880 --> 00:19:05.400 to get it behind you. You want to stop having 370 00:19:05.440 --> 00:19:07.359 to think about it. You need to tell it somebody 371 00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:11.279 else that thing you've kept as a secret your entire life. 372 00:19:11.400 --> 00:19:13.279 Now you don't have to tell everybody. In fact, I 373 00:19:13.279 --> 00:19:16.000 don't recommend that don't tell everybody, but you need to 374 00:19:16.000 --> 00:19:20.160 tell somebody, a small group of trusted individuals, or a 375 00:19:20.200 --> 00:19:24.599 spiritual partner who can pray with you. God has wired 376 00:19:24.680 --> 00:19:26.799 us that way that we need to tell others. The 377 00:19:26.839 --> 00:19:28.759 second thing you get when you do this is a 378 00:19:28.799 --> 00:19:33.359 fresh start. Not only emotional healing, but you get a 379 00:19:33.400 --> 00:19:37.640 fresh start and Proverbs twenty eight thirteen, the Bible says 380 00:19:37.799 --> 00:19:43.480 anyone who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful, 381 00:19:44.079 --> 00:19:49.960 but if he confesses and forsakes them, he gets another chance. Now, 382 00:19:50.000 --> 00:19:53.160 this is why I love celebrate recovery so much in 383 00:19:53.200 --> 00:19:57.640 our church. Seven five hundred people in our church have 384 00:19:57.799 --> 00:20:01.640 gone through celebrate recovery over the p past years. And 385 00:20:01.799 --> 00:20:04.039 those people, many of them, are now the leaders of 386 00:20:04.079 --> 00:20:06.880 this church. Why God wants to take the worst thing 387 00:20:06.920 --> 00:20:09.519 in your life, heal you of it and turn you 388 00:20:09.720 --> 00:20:11.920 into a leader and a person of influence. 389 00:20:12.880 --> 00:20:13.640 That's what he does. 390 00:20:13.799 --> 00:20:16.880 There is nothing that has happened in your life that 391 00:20:16.920 --> 00:20:19.720 God can't use for good. But you have to be 392 00:20:19.920 --> 00:20:23.000 honest about it. You have to share it with somebody. 393 00:20:23.240 --> 00:20:26.119 You have to get it off your chest. One of 394 00:20:26.200 --> 00:20:28.359 the most helpful things you can do in your small 395 00:20:28.359 --> 00:20:33.839 group is help people forgive themselves. A lot of people 396 00:20:34.000 --> 00:20:35.960 have confessed to God and God has forgiven. 397 00:20:35.640 --> 00:20:36.880 But they just don't feel it. 398 00:20:37.359 --> 00:20:41.400 They need somebody to say, you are forgiven. Have you 399 00:20:41.440 --> 00:20:44.279 admitted it to God? Yeah, then you are forgiven. Have 400 00:20:44.400 --> 00:20:45.920 you confessed it yet? Then you are forgiven? 401 00:20:46.039 --> 00:20:46.559