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<v Speaker 1>Justin Worsham is host of The Dad Podcast, joins us

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<v Speaker 1>when he can on Wednesdays to talk about parenting and.

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<v Speaker 2>Today this is a good one.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, what to.

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<v Speaker 1>Do when your kid is dating another kid and that

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<v Speaker 1>kid's not supposed.

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<v Speaker 2>To be dating.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm so glad that you guys were as fascinated as

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<v Speaker 4>about this, because I honestly, when I found it, I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, this is really interesting to me. But it's

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<v Speaker 4>not the usual like data driven thing that I will

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<v Speaker 4>come in here with. It's very much just anecdotal, real life,

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<v Speaker 4>real life, and I don't know what I would honestly do.

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<v Speaker 4>The example was this woman finds herself in a situation

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<v Speaker 4>where her son is dating girl. The girl happens to

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<v Speaker 4>be from an immigrant family, and the family is not

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<v Speaker 4>supposed to know that she's dating, and that they think

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<v Speaker 4>that the family thinks that she's going over to another

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<v Speaker 4>girlfriend's house, but when she's actually going over to her

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<v Speaker 4>boyfriend's house. I've not experienced this personally, have either of

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<v Speaker 4>you been.

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<v Speaker 3>I would not feel comfortable.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I would feel comfort as a parent

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<v Speaker 1>knowing my kid was dating somebody who was not supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to be dating, that the parents didn't know, I would

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<v Speaker 1>take it on my The onus would be on me

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<v Speaker 1>at that point to let them know.

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<v Speaker 4>And the challenge that they presented is that they didn't

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<v Speaker 4>find out about this until like months into the like,

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<v Speaker 4>so then they find out late.

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<v Speaker 2>They didn't know the girl was forbidden from dating, correct

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<v Speaker 2>until that had been going on.

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<v Speaker 4>Now they have to come and like try to divulge

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<v Speaker 4>to these people that they don't know, they don't know

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<v Speaker 4>if English is a barrier for them, and how they

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<v Speaker 4>can like communicate with them to say, we just found

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<v Speaker 4>this out, Like what does that do to everything? It's

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<v Speaker 4>also a div like if I put myself both of

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<v Speaker 4>my sons are gentlemen, comforter not comforter Shannon.

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<v Speaker 2>They are gentlemen, but.

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<v Speaker 4>They are gentlemen, so I wouldn't I wouldn't worry about

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<v Speaker 4>the daughter's like well being from an intimate standpoint, right,

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<v Speaker 4>So that would probably be the only reason I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 4>I'll let them work this out.

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<v Speaker 2>But there's an interesting aspect.

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<v Speaker 3>But under your roof, yeah, that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 5>There's an aspect of it all. So where you have

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<v Speaker 5>to teach your kid. First of all, you tell them

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<v Speaker 5>I think you're playing with fire, like, not only are

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<v Speaker 5>you going to get in trouble, you're gonna get her

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<v Speaker 5>in trouble, and she's gonna be forbidden from ever seeing

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<v Speaker 5>you again, and then it turns into Romeo and Juliet

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<v Speaker 5>or whatever. Not that it ends the same way. We

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<v Speaker 5>don't have to get into that, hope, but you also

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<v Speaker 5>have to You have to let your kid know that

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<v Speaker 5>it's his responsibility. I mean, I actually think it would

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<v Speaker 5>be more his responsibility than mine as a parent. That's

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<v Speaker 5>not to say that I wouldn't do it, because I

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<v Speaker 5>do think that there are times when that kind of

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<v Speaker 5>information is going to be necessary to protect the girl.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, there's a reason why they don't want her

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<v Speaker 5>to date. I don't know what it is. I don't

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<v Speaker 5>know they're thinking behind it. Nobody knows because they can't

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<v Speaker 5>really know. Nobody can talk to them to really find out.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, it's also it sounds like the daughter doesn't

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<v Speaker 5>completely comprehend or understand it. I mean, my younger son

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<v Speaker 5>had a girlfriend about a year ago, but this was

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<v Speaker 5>like early middle school age, like love, if you can

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<v Speaker 5>call it that, and she was never allowed to come

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<v Speaker 5>over because she he said that the dad couldn't know

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<v Speaker 5>that she even had a boyfriend. And I would argue

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<v Speaker 5>that all they ever saw each other was at school,

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<v Speaker 5>So did she really have a boyfriend? Like, not really so,

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<v Speaker 5>but they felt like it.

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<v Speaker 4>To Shannon's point, she was never in my house, she

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<v Speaker 4>was never under my roof, under my quote unquote care

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<v Speaker 4>where I'm technically responsible for her during that time.

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<v Speaker 2>But I would also like, I don't know, I really

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<v Speaker 2>think that.

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<v Speaker 4>In my opinion, I agree with the idea of using

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<v Speaker 4>it as an opportunity to teach your kid how to

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<v Speaker 4>handle relationships ethically, But I mean, they're so young.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I would just play a lot. It would

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<v Speaker 2>be a lot for a kid.

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<v Speaker 5>But if you imagine if someone's fifteen, sixteen, seventeen years old,

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<v Speaker 5>they're starting to play with those ideas of being adult,

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<v Speaker 5>doing adult things, having adult conversations, that that would be

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<v Speaker 5>one of those things that.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to do.

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<v Speaker 5>And and you as a as a seventeen year old,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, it's hard to There's a lot going on,

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<v Speaker 5>you got burning desires in places you didn't think existed before.

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<v Speaker 5>How do you how do you then convince your kid

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<v Speaker 5>to respect the wishes of her parents when all you

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<v Speaker 5>want is to see them jubblees.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean that's a hard the Jubbleese.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's a hard word before.

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<v Speaker 4>It's probably something that is heard of that absolutely. I

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<v Speaker 4>mean I would argue I haven't heard of it, but

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<v Speaker 4>I get it, you know, inherently it's the international language jubblees.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe it's just a guy. But how do you then?

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, why would you have a mask? I e

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<v Speaker 2>s Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>To your point, though, what I would tell my kid

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<v Speaker 4>if that was on the table, I would say, this

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<v Speaker 4>is definitely not the.

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<v Speaker 2>Person have secon like. I would definitely like that was

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<v Speaker 2>where I would intervene at least.

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<v Speaker 1>And say that's like saying go have sex with that person.

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<v Speaker 2>No, not to my kids, Okay, definitely not. It would

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<v Speaker 2>not because here's the thing. Because of this, I just

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<v Speaker 2>want to point out, he is so nice. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>he is so nice.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why he lets them have the comforter.

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<v Speaker 2>And nothing happened because it was so cold in that house. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>the house is so cold, all right, it gets cold

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<v Speaker 2>in the worship house that you're.

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<v Speaker 1>Want something going on underneath the comforter. There's sex on

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<v Speaker 2>No, there's no nothing at not doing that with your fingers.

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<v Speaker 2>You two, you grow up.

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<v Speaker 4>Somebody saved us with the news report police before I

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<v Speaker 4>have to.

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<v Speaker 2>If I have to start telling you guys what to do,

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<v Speaker 2>we're in big, big trouble. But you would say to

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<v Speaker 2>your kid, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Would say not just because because of this story, I

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<v Speaker 4>actually looked into it, and it's not something I knew.

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<v Speaker 4>I always went with the common knowledge that there is

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<v Speaker 4>nothing illegal about two underage people having come sexual sex.

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<v Speaker 4>Actually the law begs to differ. You cannot consent to

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<v Speaker 4>having sex if you are under the age of eighteen.

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<v Speaker 3>That's because the law says or does.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not saying that, but I would like for the

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<v Speaker 4>same reason I tell my sons, like, if a girl

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<v Speaker 4>ever sent you a naked picture of herself, you need

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<v Speaker 4>to immediately delete that and just tell that girl that

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<v Speaker 4>is not my thing.

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<v Speaker 2>When you're when you're how dare you're how dare You're

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<v Speaker 2>saying it with a wink and a smile, though, don't

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<v Speaker 2>you No.

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<v Speaker 1>I tell all you can say at that moment is

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<v Speaker 1>don't share it?

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<v Speaker 3>No right back, that's not.

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<v Speaker 2>How dare you?

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<v Speaker 4>How dare you come in here Latin so condescendingly.

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<v Speaker 3>Jumples aren't my thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think I want to do this anymore.

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<v Speaker 5>You can make fun of her green tongue now because

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<v Speaker 5>of this weird thing that she's we're talking about Justin Warsham, who,

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<v Speaker 5>by the way, you'll be hearing a little bit more

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<v Speaker 5>of on Sunday and we'll talk about that coming up.

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<v Speaker 5>But we're talking about parenting issues specifically, and this kind

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<v Speaker 5>of may dovetail a little bit with these relationships sometimes

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<v Speaker 5>for in relationships that kids find themselves in and what

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<v Speaker 5>responsibility we have his parents to let all the parties

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<v Speaker 5>be informed about what's going on.

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<v Speaker 2>But this one I thought was interesting.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh, your kid comes to you and says that they're

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<v Speaker 5>upset because they haven't had their first kiss, or they

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<v Speaker 5>haven't had their first boyfriend, girlfriend, or whatever. They haven't

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<v Speaker 5>had that thing yet that they think everybody else already has.

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<v Speaker 2>And how do you assuage that or tell them that

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<v Speaker 2>they're just slow?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, yeah, a late bloomer because the plight way

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<v Speaker 4>we like to say, bless their heart like and again,

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<v Speaker 4>I know I sound like just an idiot who has

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<v Speaker 4>no idea what my kids are up to or doing,

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<v Speaker 4>how they feel.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you're laugh big to differ. I just know Siren

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<v Speaker 2>Song of like.

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<v Speaker 4>Athout his kid my radio show to talk about parenting.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the week.

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<v Speaker 1>That I was just saying. I was laughing at the

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<v Speaker 1>idea of an adolescent boy getting a picture that a

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<v Speaker 1>girl sent to him of boobs or whatever and writing back,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not my thing. I don't think that that

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<v Speaker 1>would ever happen in the history of the world, just

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<v Speaker 1>because of what's going on with an adolescent boy.

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<v Speaker 3>You're right, You're right, that's all I met. I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>mean your kids mean.

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<v Speaker 2>She did say that.

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<v Speaker 4>During the break, she goes that, maybe I think, and

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<v Speaker 4>that's probably the lack of perspective that I have, because

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<v Speaker 4>I am even this.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm seeing like what I remember when I was in.

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<v Speaker 4>High school is that there definitely was a pressure to buy,

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<v Speaker 4>like I have to lose my virginity. But it didn't

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't feel very strongly about that, but I know

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<v Speaker 4>that it was definitely talked about a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>And what's weird about kids today is that.

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<v Speaker 4>If you transport teenagers in a car that they're just

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<v Speaker 4>in the back seat, they act like it's a limo

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<v Speaker 4>with a closed window between like they just talk like

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<v Speaker 4>you're not even in the car, And from hearing those

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<v Speaker 4>conversations and just the conversations I've had with other like

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<v Speaker 4>other kids, that the number of kids that are actually

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<v Speaker 4>having sex a teenage is very, very small compared to

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<v Speaker 4>what I feel like it was. And I've seen data

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<v Speaker 4>that says the same thing. That kids are waiting longer

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<v Speaker 4>in their life to have sex, but the window from

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<v Speaker 4>the time that they go from like we are holding

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<v Speaker 4>hands to full blown having sex is now shortened.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think it's also because they're older.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I just say one last thing to put a

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<v Speaker 1>bow in the boobs thing? Yes, is your kids are

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<v Speaker 1>so polite? Yeah that I think that even if it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't their thing, they would write back something like nice or.

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<v Speaker 2>Something fits pup.

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<v Speaker 3>They wouldn't want her to feel bad about it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, I hope to report that. I hope

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<v Speaker 2>to report back to you next weekend.

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<v Speaker 4>This week this I'm gonna have a I'm gonna try

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<v Speaker 4>and have an honest conversation about what my kids would

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<v Speaker 4>do and see why is that? No?

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<v Speaker 2>God, I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm uncomfortable thinking about you.

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<v Speaker 2>Feel like I'm putting them on the spot.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>You have a zero problem with that, zero problem with it,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think my kids have zero problem with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Conversations start, I'm just gonna say anti Shannon pretty much exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, you're the only friends too.

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<v Speaker 4>That, by the way, that I refer or two is

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<v Speaker 4>anti Shannon, like I, both Natalie and I have been

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<v Speaker 4>for some reason, because we went to celebrate her birthday

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<v Speaker 4>and they learned the joys of gambling around anti Shannon.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's cute, and the kids think get's cute.

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<v Speaker 2>So every once a while when.

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<v Speaker 4>They hear your voices on the radio or like, oh

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<v Speaker 4>is that anti Shannon like that? Well, yeah, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 4>say do I'm going to say, what would you guys

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<v Speaker 4>do if a girl set you naked pictures? And I'm

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<v Speaker 4>going to say, this is not a test. I want

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<v Speaker 4>you to be no wrong answer. And then when they

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<v Speaker 4>say to me what I think that they're going to say,

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<v Speaker 4>which is like I would reply back and say like, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>that's okay, we don't have to do that, right like,

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<v Speaker 4>because both of them have been told by me that

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<v Speaker 4>that girls at this age, I believe feel a certain

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<v Speaker 4>level of pressure to do things that maybe they're not

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<v Speaker 4>comfortable in doing because they want the guy to like them,

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<v Speaker 4>and they think that's how they get guys to like them.

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<v Speaker 4>And I said, that is not the circumstance that you

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<v Speaker 4>want to experience these things. You want to experience them

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<v Speaker 4>in way that both people are equally as passionate, for

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<v Speaker 4>lack of a better word, or maybe the best word,

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<v Speaker 4>into what has actually happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Yes, that is excellent. That's a really good point

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<v Speaker 1>to make to them. I hope that you do not

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<v Speaker 1>want like that where the girl thinks that she has Yes.

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<v Speaker 4>Nobody wants to have sex make love with somebody who

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<v Speaker 4>is very nervous and like afraid, like you want them

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<v Speaker 4>to be very comfortable and relaxed and also into it.

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<v Speaker 2>And I said, so until you.

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<v Speaker 4>Really like I don't know why I sait it this way,

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<v Speaker 2>They drive the ship.

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<v Speaker 4>The lady always drives the ship, and every time the

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<v Speaker 4>lady decides to level it up, I go. My advice

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<v Speaker 4>is you always say, hey, I'm I'm totally down to

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<v Speaker 2>But I just want you to know we don't have

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<v Speaker 2>to do this for me to like you.

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<v Speaker 3>How does that change when you get married.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like everybody should be into it, Like, but

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>What I mean, Like you want to do your weird stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>She should be down kind of.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, not that you want to a first or change.

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<v Speaker 4>Just loves to give you shovels to dig yourself a grave.

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<v Speaker 2>She just loves it. Even when you She's gonna glance

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<v Speaker 2>over it. She goes, Wait, wait, let's circle back over

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<v Speaker 2>the year. You've got your shovel. You forgot your.

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<v Speaker 4>Shovel, speaking of which I guess, So this week in

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<v Speaker 4>my own sand Boston shovel Sunday.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm excited for this. I'm super excited.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so tell me, so what's coming up on Sunday

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<v Speaker 2>Sunday two to four.

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<v Speaker 4>They are I'm auditioning for on Sunday April sixth and

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<v Speaker 4>Sunday April thirteenth, from two to four that you could

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<v Speaker 4>listen to on your radio dial or on the iHeart

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm going to be doing a show about real estate.

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<v Speaker 4>So right out of the gates, what we're going to

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<v Speaker 4>be talking about is how the commissions have changed within

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<v Speaker 4>the last year and how agents get paid in California.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm also going to talk about what I think the

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<v Speaker 4>impact of the fires are going to have on the

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<v Speaker 4>real estate market. Give you some projections, and then backfill

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<v Speaker 4>from there with other topics that I think are interested.

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<v Speaker 2>And you've been an agent for a while now. For

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<v Speaker 2>a while, I've been.

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<v Speaker 4>I've had my license since twenty thirteen and been adjacent

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<v Speaker 4>to real estate, became a full time agent in twenty

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<v Speaker 4>eighteen and a full broker owner in twenty twenty one one.

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<v Speaker 3>And I must say I've worked with you. I am oh,

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<v Speaker 3>thank you, And you're fantastic.

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<v Speaker 4>I believe I'm in the top six percent of all

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<v Speaker 4>real fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>I would not go to anybody else ever. Sunday from

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<v Speaker 1>two to four.

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<v Speaker 4>Sunday from two to four. Please tune in. You can

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<v Speaker 4>send it. Use the talk back to send. We're going

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<v Speaker 4>to talk. We also want to hear horror stories, but

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<v Speaker 4>I want to hear also if you have questions about people.

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<v Speaker 4>In fact, if you want to just google my name,

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<v Speaker 4>it's easy to find my emails.

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<v Speaker 2>Send me a question.

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<v Speaker 1>If my husband was so impressed with with what you did,

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<v Speaker 1>he he sent you pictures of his boobs and.

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<v Speaker 4>I appreciated it, but I said, that is not my thing, right,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, I said, thank you.

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<v Speaker 5>He didn't need to do that to be friends with

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<v Speaker 5>you friends, but he wanted to.

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<v Speaker 4>And that that's why I was and that's why I reciprocated.

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<v Speaker 4>I gave him my jumblesday talking. But you can get

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<v Speaker 4>jubilacious about the jubblees. That's definitely a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>You can have a jubbly jubilee. Oh but if everybody

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<v Speaker 2>only everybody's into it. Of course, if it's your thing,

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<v Speaker 2>consent is important.

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<v Speaker 5>Guys, Sunday from two to four, Justin and the Real

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<v Speaker 5>Estate Show.

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<v Speaker 2>Good luck, good luck.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, Wait, I'm really excited.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a lifelong dream.

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<v Speaker 4>This is a childhood dream mine, and I appreciate everybody

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<v Speaker 4>for giving me the opportunity.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a fun because how could it not be with Justin?

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<v Speaker 4>I hope, So thank you, guys, because I really, honestly,

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<v Speaker 4>this would not happen if it weren't for you, guys.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it's not true.

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<v Speaker 2>Well it's true. I'm going to send you a picture

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<v Speaker 2>of my job