WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.480 --> 00:00:07.000 Welcome to Winning every Living Day. I'm Orally Cormier, and 2 00:00:07.080 --> 00:00:10.560 together with doctor Pat, we will help you to envision 3 00:00:10.640 --> 00:00:14.119 the life of your dreams. This is the space where 4 00:00:14.119 --> 00:00:18.879 women like you are inspired to believe in yourself, believe 5 00:00:19.239 --> 00:00:22.640 in your dreams and your ability to create a life 6 00:00:22.760 --> 00:00:29.800 you truly love. Together, we'll explore health and wellness, relationships, careers, 7 00:00:29.879 --> 00:00:33.479 and the small but powerful baby steps that lead to 8 00:00:33.600 --> 00:00:38.759 lasting transformation. Because no matter where you start, life is 9 00:00:38.880 --> 00:00:44.039 meant for joy, happiness, and abundance, whether in vibrant health, 10 00:00:44.280 --> 00:00:49.119 loving connections, fulfilling work, or freedom of time and money. 11 00:00:49.719 --> 00:00:53.920 Here you'll learn to reflect, visualize, feel, and take action 12 00:00:54.600 --> 00:00:58.560 so you can manifest the life you deserve. Let's step 13 00:00:58.600 --> 00:01:06.879 into your power and aren't winning every living day together? Okay, 14 00:01:07.120 --> 00:01:10.719 welcome everyone. I'm so glad you're here. I am the host. 15 00:01:10.879 --> 00:01:14.760 My name is Orally Comer and today for our winning 16 00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:28.719 because since last year, we are in that fire horse 17 00:01:28.959 --> 00:01:35.840 energy and July has been quite July was quite significant 18 00:01:37.120 --> 00:01:39.439 with everything going on in the world. So I thought 19 00:01:39.599 --> 00:01:43.040 I'd start by sharing an example of an idea that 20 00:01:43.120 --> 00:01:46.040 we can create the life that we would love by 21 00:01:46.120 --> 00:01:50.239 believing in our dream and six years ago, my daughter 22 00:01:50.280 --> 00:01:52.640 had grown. I was a single mom. I brought her 23 00:01:52.719 --> 00:01:55.319 up and she was twenty two. She was on her own, 24 00:01:55.400 --> 00:01:58.760 exploring the world, and I was at home, you know, 25 00:01:58.879 --> 00:02:02.599 working on my business and thinking, geez, it just feels 26 00:02:02.599 --> 00:02:06.280 like something's missing. And what was missing was I wanted 27 00:02:06.319 --> 00:02:10.560 to spend I wanted a partner. And so I prayed 28 00:02:10.560 --> 00:02:12.680 to God. I said, God, I don't think you brought 29 00:02:12.680 --> 00:02:16.360 me to this world to spend my wisdom years alone. 30 00:02:16.479 --> 00:02:18.759 So can you please find me a husband and just 31 00:02:18.879 --> 00:02:24.199 drop them in my lap for me? And so I 32 00:02:24.240 --> 00:02:27.599 wrote down everything I wanted in a man. His character, 33 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:31.080 you know that he was at a master's degree, he 34 00:02:31.159 --> 00:02:34.199 was a family man, he had children, that he was 35 00:02:34.360 --> 00:02:37.360 hard working, he was honest, on and on, and of 36 00:02:37.400 --> 00:02:42.400 course he was handsome. And three years later, after visualizing 37 00:02:42.479 --> 00:02:46.560 and feeling and taking the action steps for my dream, 38 00:02:46.719 --> 00:02:50.520 including getting myself a coach to keep me accountable to 39 00:02:50.599 --> 00:02:54.919 my action steps, I manifested that man and at first 40 00:02:54.960 --> 00:02:58.639 we connected through emails and then talking on the phone 41 00:02:58.719 --> 00:03:00.840 for about eight months, and he said he was going 42 00:03:00.919 --> 00:03:02.879 to come up and see me for my birthday a 43 00:03:02.919 --> 00:03:07.639 couple of days after Christmas, and Christmas and my birthday 44 00:03:07.639 --> 00:03:10.159 came and went and I never saw him. But I 45 00:03:10.280 --> 00:03:13.599 had bought him a present for Christmas, a book that 46 00:03:13.639 --> 00:03:16.960 I thought he would really enjoy, and I personalized it. 47 00:03:17.000 --> 00:03:19.719 I wrote a little message in it, and I wrapped 48 00:03:19.719 --> 00:03:23.199 it up with a bow and everything, and I thought, well, 49 00:03:23.439 --> 00:03:26.199 nobody else is going to really want this book. It's 50 00:03:26.879 --> 00:03:29.879 meant for Bob. I wrote this personal message in it, 51 00:03:30.280 --> 00:03:32.479 so I mailed it to him, and then he got 52 00:03:32.520 --> 00:03:34.520 in touch with me, and he said that, you know, 53 00:03:34.800 --> 00:03:37.719 he would come up and see me. So that first 54 00:03:37.800 --> 00:03:40.199 weekend when we met each other, and he came up 55 00:03:40.599 --> 00:03:44.520 to spend you know, three days with me. I can 56 00:03:44.560 --> 00:03:47.680 remember him being in my house and we were talking 57 00:03:47.919 --> 00:03:51.080 and all of a sudden, I blurted out of my mouth, Bob, 58 00:03:51.319 --> 00:03:54.199 I've waited my entire life for you. And then all 59 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:56.039 of a sudden, I thought to myself, what did I 60 00:03:56.240 --> 00:03:58.479 just say. I didn't mean to say that. It wasn't 61 00:03:58.840 --> 00:04:01.680 you know something I was, but it just came blurting 62 00:04:01.680 --> 00:04:04.639 out of my mouth. And then I stepped back and 63 00:04:04.680 --> 00:04:08.199 I thought, well, it is true. I've waited my whole 64 00:04:08.240 --> 00:04:10.599 life for this man. He reminds me so much of 65 00:04:10.639 --> 00:04:14.199 my dear grandfather who I loved so much and I 66 00:04:14.199 --> 00:04:18.000 felt he loved me unconditionally. I felt so comfortable with him, 67 00:04:18.439 --> 00:04:21.759 And now three years later, I feel exactly the same way. 68 00:04:21.879 --> 00:04:24.920 And the good news is is that a week ago 69 00:04:25.120 --> 00:04:28.240 he proposed to me, So we're going to be getting married, 70 00:04:28.480 --> 00:04:31.879 and I'm like, oh my god, I was able to 71 00:04:32.000 --> 00:04:35.959 manifest my dream. So there's two things I want to 72 00:04:36.000 --> 00:04:39.160 tell you about this is that it is never too 73 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:43.399 late to manifest your dream. And you can have what 74 00:04:43.439 --> 00:04:47.439 you would love in this of time. And so I 75 00:04:47.519 --> 00:04:50.360 know if I can do it, you can do it too. 76 00:04:51.199 --> 00:04:56.120 So what we're learning during this time and how we 77 00:04:56.160 --> 00:04:59.639 can transform our lives during the current challenges in this 78 00:04:59.720 --> 00:05:05.680 world world is I'm going to share another personal example 79 00:05:05.839 --> 00:05:09.639 of how we can win every living day because this 80 00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:12.839 was my dream. But you have your own dreams, and 81 00:05:12.879 --> 00:05:16.160 I know that you can have what you would love too, 82 00:05:16.319 --> 00:05:20.519 And as I spoke above, there are action steps you 83 00:05:20.560 --> 00:05:23.199 can take to manifest your own dream and some of 84 00:05:23.240 --> 00:05:26.800 the key points to manifesting what you love is first, 85 00:05:27.160 --> 00:05:30.079 figure out what it is you would love in your life. 86 00:05:30.240 --> 00:05:35.279 Is there anything that would light you up and ignite 87 00:05:35.319 --> 00:05:38.480 you and make you feel passionate about what you're doing, 88 00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:43.839 either in your health, your relationships, your career, your time, 89 00:05:44.000 --> 00:05:49.959 money and abundance freedom. And then secondly, there's research that 90 00:05:50.160 --> 00:05:54.040 documents that what we focus on can become wired into 91 00:05:54.079 --> 00:05:58.079 our brain. So if we're constantly focused on distress and 92 00:05:58.160 --> 00:06:03.680 anxiety and depression and victimhood, we will attract more of 93 00:06:03.720 --> 00:06:07.959 that to ourselves. But if we can rewire our brains 94 00:06:08.040 --> 00:06:11.079 and focus in on what we love in our life 95 00:06:11.120 --> 00:06:14.120 and what makes us happy and joyful and what we 96 00:06:14.240 --> 00:06:17.240 have fun doing, we're going to bring more of that 97 00:06:17.399 --> 00:06:20.959 to ourselves as well. So focus in on what you 98 00:06:21.000 --> 00:06:24.000 would love in your life and write that down because 99 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:27.360 that I found that incredibly helpful, just to write down 100 00:06:27.439 --> 00:06:30.519 what I would love and then I put that up 101 00:06:30.560 --> 00:06:32.639 on my wall, or you can put it in your 102 00:06:32.720 --> 00:06:38.839 journal and look back and reflect on that periodically. And 103 00:06:38.920 --> 00:06:42.360 once you decide what you would love, then believe you 104 00:06:42.480 --> 00:06:46.439 deserve it, because you do, and you can have what 105 00:06:46.480 --> 00:06:48.600 you would love. And of course it doesn't mean that 106 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:50.759 you're going to get exactly what you would love in 107 00:06:50.800 --> 00:06:55.680 your life, because sometimes it wouldn't be good for us 108 00:06:55.720 --> 00:06:59.639 if we got exactly what we wanted. And it just 109 00:06:59.680 --> 00:07:04.279 as an example, I will tell you that I was 110 00:07:06.519 --> 00:07:09.560 in the nineties. In the nineteen nineties, I lived down 111 00:07:09.600 --> 00:07:12.000 in Connecticut. I was working at Stanford Hospital as the 112 00:07:12.040 --> 00:07:15.800 clinical specialist for women's health, so I was doing half 113 00:07:15.839 --> 00:07:20.800 breast cancer haf GYN cancer. Absolutely loved my job, and 114 00:07:21.240 --> 00:07:25.600 I became pregnant and I birthed my daughter, my first 115 00:07:25.639 --> 00:07:29.000 miracle in my life. And then I went on a 116 00:07:29.040 --> 00:07:32.199 four month maternity leave, which I absolutely was the best 117 00:07:32.240 --> 00:07:35.199 four months I ever had in my life. But during 118 00:07:35.240 --> 00:07:38.079 the time of my maternity leave, the hospital that I 119 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:41.680 worked at had decided to buy the other hospital in 120 00:07:41.920 --> 00:07:45.079 town and the two merged. So when I came back 121 00:07:45.120 --> 00:07:47.879 from maternity leave, then they had to figure out how 122 00:07:47.920 --> 00:07:50.319 they were going to merge these two hospitals and stay 123 00:07:50.399 --> 00:07:54.000 financially solvent. And so what they ended up doing is 124 00:07:54.040 --> 00:07:57.759 making some cuts, and there were a group of we 125 00:07:57.959 --> 00:08:03.319 nurses who were cut from their system. And here I was. 126 00:08:03.439 --> 00:08:05.839 My daughter was ten months old at the time. I 127 00:08:05.879 --> 00:08:09.759 had started taking courses at Yale in their Oncology Nurse 128 00:08:09.800 --> 00:08:14.519 Practitioner program as well as working at the hospital, and 129 00:08:15.600 --> 00:08:19.879 I absolutely loved the program at Yale, and I just 130 00:08:20.199 --> 00:08:25.319 couldn't believe that I was, now, you know, being cut 131 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:27.560 from my job, and it meant that I was going 132 00:08:27.600 --> 00:08:30.439 to have to sell my house and I was going 133 00:08:30.519 --> 00:08:33.360 to move back to Massachusetts, which was a good thing. 134 00:08:33.399 --> 00:08:35.240 I was going to be closer to my family when 135 00:08:35.279 --> 00:08:38.360 my daughter was young, but I would have to leave 136 00:08:38.399 --> 00:08:40.320 the program at Yale and I'd have to leave a 137 00:08:40.440 --> 00:08:44.320 job that I really loved. But it all turned out 138 00:08:44.399 --> 00:08:47.519 for the best. And so that's why when we think 139 00:08:47.559 --> 00:08:52.120 about what our dream is, saying this or something greater 140 00:08:52.360 --> 00:08:57.320 still is a wonderful practice because what ended up happening 141 00:08:57.440 --> 00:09:01.840 is I'm preparing to move back to Massachusetts and find 142 00:09:01.879 --> 00:09:04.840 out that the University of Massachusetts and Worcester is now 143 00:09:04.879 --> 00:09:10.240 going to start a cancer prevention and control nurse practitioner 144 00:09:10.320 --> 00:09:14.720 program because they got a federal grant to start this 145 00:09:14.919 --> 00:09:19.440 program and it was phenomenal and it was my passion 146 00:09:19.600 --> 00:09:23.879 my entire career. So I was like, oh, the universe 147 00:09:23.919 --> 00:09:27.480 has got my back, and the universe will have your 148 00:09:27.559 --> 00:09:31.240 back too. So keep that in mind when you envision 149 00:09:31.320 --> 00:09:34.440 what you would love and what your dream is, this 150 00:09:34.759 --> 00:09:37.720 or something greater still, because if you don't get exactly 151 00:09:37.759 --> 00:09:42.440 what you want, trust that something better is planned and 152 00:09:43.200 --> 00:09:46.759 is there for you, And it also means that you 153 00:09:46.879 --> 00:09:50.240 need to work towards your goals, as they won't just 154 00:09:50.399 --> 00:09:54.720 have keep believing, keep working towards your dream, keep taking 155 00:09:54.759 --> 00:09:57.159 the action steps that you need to take to get 156 00:09:57.200 --> 00:10:00.720 to your dream. And as you know, this year has 157 00:10:00.879 --> 00:10:05.039 thrown us so many curveballs. I mean, between the multiple 158 00:10:05.120 --> 00:10:08.000 conflicts going on in the world that are now merging 159 00:10:08.039 --> 00:10:13.039 with each other, the intense heat this summer, the fires, 160 00:10:13.639 --> 00:10:22.679 the droughts, the floods, the hurricanes, the tornadoes, the earthquakes 161 00:10:22.759 --> 00:10:28.440 that have happened and had just almost hard to believe 162 00:10:28.639 --> 00:10:34.240 consequences for so many people. It has been heartbreaking at times, 163 00:10:34.639 --> 00:10:38.360 but it also is a time where it is showing 164 00:10:38.440 --> 00:10:42.879 us that this is so challenging, that this is going 165 00:10:42.919 --> 00:10:45.879 to lead us towards transformation, because we don't want to 166 00:10:45.919 --> 00:10:49.960 stay in this energy. We want a new and better energy, 167 00:10:50.399 --> 00:10:52.799 and I think as women, we can be the ones 168 00:10:52.879 --> 00:10:57.720 that lead this world forward to transform into a better word. 169 00:10:58.639 --> 00:11:02.159 So it all starts believing that we have more control 170 00:11:02.279 --> 00:11:06.919 over our lives than we are meant to believe, and 171 00:11:06.960 --> 00:11:11.840 that we are worthy and we're deserving of a wonderful 172 00:11:11.879 --> 00:11:15.360 life that we would love that we can be our 173 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:19.440 authentic selves, to be not only the caretakers and nurturers 174 00:11:19.799 --> 00:11:25.679 that society oftentimes sees us as and we have taken on, 175 00:11:26.399 --> 00:11:28.960 but we can also be the leaders. We can be 176 00:11:29.080 --> 00:11:33.320 the managers, the problem solvers, the peacekeepers. Oh my gosh, 177 00:11:33.360 --> 00:11:43.000 this world needs peacekeepers right and peacemakers, healers, CEOs, community builders, educators, entrepreneurs, creatives, 178 00:11:43.639 --> 00:11:48.679 and dare I say, even a president of the United States. 179 00:11:48.799 --> 00:11:51.120 And I do believe that in the next ten to 180 00:11:51.200 --> 00:11:54.799 fifteen years we will see a woman president and I 181 00:11:54.840 --> 00:11:57.600 think I'm going to be cheering her on. I think 182 00:11:57.600 --> 00:12:01.360 it's so exciting. But whatever role or position we assume, 183 00:12:02.080 --> 00:12:05.159 we can decide what we want to be surrounded with 184 00:12:05.799 --> 00:12:09.720 in a positive mindset, to focus in on an awareness 185 00:12:09.799 --> 00:12:14.840 of beauty and joy in our life and happiness in fun, 186 00:12:15.639 --> 00:12:20.000 and to feel that we are stepping into who we 187 00:12:20.080 --> 00:12:24.159 be and our authentic selves in this lifetime as well 188 00:12:24.200 --> 00:12:26.960 as men. Men are meant to step into their authentic 189 00:12:27.039 --> 00:12:32.720 selves too, But as women, we are oftentimes seen as 190 00:12:32.759 --> 00:12:37.480 having a certain role within society, within the family, and 191 00:12:37.600 --> 00:12:41.080 yet we are the ones that can decide what we 192 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:45.080 want and what we would love and what we be 193 00:12:45.559 --> 00:12:49.879 in this lifetime that we have agency over our own lives. 194 00:12:49.919 --> 00:12:54.000 We have agencies over our bodies and our careers, and 195 00:12:54.120 --> 00:12:57.919 we can dream of what we would love. We want 196 00:12:57.960 --> 00:13:01.759 to support all women to win every living day focused 197 00:13:01.840 --> 00:13:04.639 on a dream of what they would love for their life. 198 00:13:04.919 --> 00:13:08.360 Sounds good, right, but it's true. And just as I 199 00:13:08.480 --> 00:13:12.399 manifested my dream and I will be marrying my man soon, 200 00:13:13.399 --> 00:13:16.360 I'm asking you to take a deep dive into thinking 201 00:13:16.399 --> 00:13:19.600 about what you would love for your life and then 202 00:13:19.679 --> 00:13:22.679 start creating it. The truth is you can do the 203 00:13:22.720 --> 00:13:25.759 same thing when you believe in your dream, when you 204 00:13:26.600 --> 00:13:30.000 write it down, when you visualize it, feel it, and 205 00:13:30.039 --> 00:13:33.840 then take the action steps towards your dream and be 206 00:13:34.159 --> 00:13:38.480 in a community of believing eyes. So what I have 207 00:13:38.720 --> 00:13:42.480 found in my life and you may have found in 208 00:13:42.519 --> 00:13:46.639 your own life, it's much harder to do just by yourself. 209 00:13:46.720 --> 00:13:50.240 It's much easier to do in a community of other 210 00:13:50.360 --> 00:13:55.039 women and have the support and the encouragement of other 211 00:13:55.120 --> 00:14:00.399 women around you to have these believing eyes for you 212 00:14:00.519 --> 00:14:04.200 as well as you have believing eyes for them and 213 00:14:04.279 --> 00:14:07.480 what they would love. What you love, no matter what 214 00:14:07.759 --> 00:14:10.399 challenge your face at this point in your life, it 215 00:14:10.440 --> 00:14:14.159 starts by first and foremost, being kind to yourself, being 216 00:14:14.240 --> 00:14:18.600 compassionate and patient with yourself, because it doesn't happen overnight. 217 00:14:18.720 --> 00:14:21.080 It takes time. Now for some people it is going 218 00:14:21.159 --> 00:14:24.480 to happen overnight, but for most of us it takes time. 219 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:27.240 I know it took time for me. But be kind 220 00:14:27.279 --> 00:14:31.600 to yourself. You know, have a listening gear for others 221 00:14:31.720 --> 00:14:35.159 as well as they will have a listening gears listening 222 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:39.200 here for you, so that each of us can step 223 00:14:39.240 --> 00:14:42.879 into our dream. And one thing that I wanted to 224 00:14:42.960 --> 00:14:46.039 mention I had mentioned this in the last podcast that 225 00:14:46.120 --> 00:14:48.759 I did a couple of weeks ago, is there is 226 00:14:48.799 --> 00:14:51.519 a new book out that I highly recommend called Born 227 00:14:51.600 --> 00:14:55.240 to Flourish. How New Science and Ancient Wisdom reveal a 228 00:14:55.320 --> 00:14:59.159 simple pot with driving by Richard Davidson and Portland Dal 229 00:15:00.279 --> 00:15:04.039 So easy to read. It just brings me so much 230 00:15:04.200 --> 00:15:08.600 joy and peace and excitement to read this. But basically, 231 00:15:08.720 --> 00:15:12.679 Richard Davidson in nineteen ninety two went with I believe 232 00:15:12.720 --> 00:15:16.600 he went with John Kevitsin over to Domsala, India to 233 00:15:16.639 --> 00:15:19.879 meet the Dali Lama. And when he did, the Dali 234 00:15:19.960 --> 00:15:22.840 Lama challenged him and he said, you know you psychiatrists 235 00:15:22.840 --> 00:15:26.600 and psychologists in the West, you love to study anxiety, depression, 236 00:15:26.639 --> 00:15:31.480 and schizophrenia. Well how about kindness and compassion? And Richard 237 00:15:31.720 --> 00:15:34.879 Davidson thought to himself, Yeah, how about kindness and compassion. 238 00:15:34.960 --> 00:15:37.480 So he came back to the United States. He was 239 00:15:37.519 --> 00:15:42.679 at the University of Wisconsin at Madison that's affiliated with 240 00:15:42.720 --> 00:15:46.600 the Medical School, and he started the Center for Healthy Minds. 241 00:15:46.759 --> 00:15:50.679 It is absolutely fantastic. They've done so much research. But 242 00:15:50.759 --> 00:15:55.799 they started by researching the supermeditators, the Tibetan monks who 243 00:15:55.840 --> 00:15:58.639 had meditated at least ten thousand hours in their life, 244 00:15:59.080 --> 00:16:03.000 and they did functional MRIs on their brain and what 245 00:16:03.039 --> 00:16:06.480 they found is that the area of the brain for 246 00:16:06.840 --> 00:16:14.279 stress management was thicker than other, you know, other people, 247 00:16:15.000 --> 00:16:20.840 the average person, an adult in life, probably because of 248 00:16:20.919 --> 00:16:26.080 their meditation which created resiliency for them. And through this work, 249 00:16:26.159 --> 00:16:30.240 now Richard Davidson has founded another organization called Human h 250 00:16:30.360 --> 00:16:34.039 U m I N with Portland Dall and they were 251 00:16:34.080 --> 00:16:36.360 the ones that wrote this book. But what they found 252 00:16:36.519 --> 00:16:40.159 is that when we are involved in things that are 253 00:16:40.240 --> 00:16:47.399 dramatic and distressful and harmful and hurtful, we will then 254 00:16:47.679 --> 00:16:50.799 focus in on those things and we bring more of 255 00:16:50.840 --> 00:16:54.559 that into our thinking right and then create more of 256 00:16:54.600 --> 00:16:57.480 that for ourselves. We can just go in a loop 257 00:16:57.559 --> 00:17:01.320 of spinning around thinking about all these negative But if, 258 00:17:01.440 --> 00:17:05.200 on the other hand, we focus in on what brings 259 00:17:05.279 --> 00:17:08.559 us happiness and joy and we have fun in our life, 260 00:17:08.880 --> 00:17:13.880 we can rewire our brains to experience more of that. 261 00:17:14.400 --> 00:17:18.119 Isn't that exciting? And even more exciting is they said 262 00:17:18.200 --> 00:17:21.759 that if we can do this with young children in 263 00:17:21.839 --> 00:17:27.759 the early years, in the pre k error, in the kindergarten, 264 00:17:28.400 --> 00:17:33.559 elementary school, middle school, high school, the times in a 265 00:17:33.759 --> 00:17:37.920 child's life when their brain is growing and developing, then 266 00:17:38.000 --> 00:17:44.400 we can actually build in that resilience to the stress 267 00:17:44.480 --> 00:17:47.880 that they're going to experience throughout their lives. Because look 268 00:17:47.880 --> 00:17:51.960 at what the younger generation has experienced so far in 269 00:17:51.960 --> 00:17:55.279 their life. For those that grew up under nine to eleven, 270 00:17:55.680 --> 00:17:59.119 that was dramatic for many people. Then there was the 271 00:17:59.240 --> 00:18:06.519 gun shooting in schools, and they what were the other 272 00:18:06.599 --> 00:18:09.240 things that were spread COVID and then they had to 273 00:18:09.240 --> 00:18:11.480 go through COVID and they couldn't be with their friends, 274 00:18:11.480 --> 00:18:14.640 and they had to do school virtually. That has all 275 00:18:14.720 --> 00:18:19.039 had an emotional impact on not only their being, but 276 00:18:19.200 --> 00:18:22.799 also their brains. So if we can help them to 277 00:18:22.880 --> 00:18:29.279 do some stress management, whether that's belly breathing, mindfulness meditation, kids, yoga, 278 00:18:30.240 --> 00:18:33.039 chi gong. I love chi gong. I got involved in 279 00:18:33.079 --> 00:18:35.799 that about fifteen years ago and it transformed into my 280 00:18:35.880 --> 00:18:42.319 life or tai chi or like my mom doesn't like 281 00:18:42.359 --> 00:18:45.480 any of those things, just prayer. She praised the Rosary 282 00:18:45.519 --> 00:18:48.480 every day and goes to church every day. That keeps 283 00:18:48.640 --> 00:18:53.480 her nervous system calm. So we can rewire our brains. 284 00:18:53.720 --> 00:18:56.519 But the good news is kids, when they start young, 285 00:18:57.000 --> 00:19:04.839 they are wired for resiliency. And so what I want 286 00:19:04.880 --> 00:19:07.319 you to know is that it's never too late. I 287 00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:10.759 will tell you that when I was in my late 288 00:19:10.799 --> 00:19:15.319 twenties early thirties, I developed a panic attack and PTSD 289 00:19:15.759 --> 00:19:18.039 and I didn't even know what it was, but I 290 00:19:18.119 --> 00:19:20.119 went to my doctor. He told me I was having 291 00:19:20.119 --> 00:19:25.359 a panic attack and ETSD and that I needed, you know, 292 00:19:25.480 --> 00:19:30.079 I needed to calm down. And it was not easy, 293 00:19:30.200 --> 00:19:33.960 but I knew about John cabots In. I started doing 294 00:19:34.000 --> 00:19:37.599 mindfulness meditation, and in the beginning, I would just program 295 00:19:37.640 --> 00:19:40.880 my phone, okay, twenty minutes I would have it scheduled. 296 00:19:41.000 --> 00:19:43.319 I would sit down, I would close my eyes, I 297 00:19:43.359 --> 00:19:48.160 would take deep breaths, broms and homes and twenty minutes later, 298 00:19:48.240 --> 00:19:52.279 I felt exactly the same, and I'm like, Okay, nothing's happened. 299 00:19:52.960 --> 00:19:55.880 But twelve weeks into it, all of a sudden, one day, 300 00:19:55.960 --> 00:19:58.720 I'm finishing up my meditation for the day and I 301 00:19:58.759 --> 00:20:03.440 can feel my energy coming up, and it's just just 302 00:20:03.519 --> 00:20:08.200 the most wonderful feeling of not only energy, but it's 303 00:20:08.240 --> 00:20:11.440 a peaceful type of energy where I just felt like 304 00:20:11.640 --> 00:20:16.240 I was more alive and I just felt really good 305 00:20:16.400 --> 00:20:22.079 inside and calm inside. And I had that aha moment, like, 306 00:20:22.720 --> 00:20:25.200 oh my god, now I know what they're talking about. 307 00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:28.440 And so that gave me motivation to keep going. And 308 00:20:28.960 --> 00:20:31.400 that's what I want to encourage you to do, is 309 00:20:31.440 --> 00:20:34.359 that it's not like having struck throat. You take an antibiotic, 310 00:20:34.400 --> 00:20:37.799 three days later, you're better. Your nervous system is going 311 00:20:37.880 --> 00:20:41.799 to take longer to heal. It's like five to seven years. 312 00:20:41.880 --> 00:20:45.680 Five years later I cured myself. I have never had 313 00:20:45.680 --> 00:20:49.839 another panic attack again. And I am most grateful for 314 00:20:50.079 --> 00:20:53.839 mindfulness meditation because I was able to cure myself. And 315 00:20:54.319 --> 00:20:58.200 you can do the same thing. So the other thing 316 00:20:58.319 --> 00:21:00.920 is maps in my fingures of four in your positive 317 00:21:00.920 --> 00:21:05.160 relationships in your life. Another practice we can do is 318 00:21:05.240 --> 00:21:08.079 just being grateful and thankful when we wake up in 319 00:21:08.119 --> 00:21:12.200 the morning, just saying, oh, I am so grateful to 320 00:21:12.240 --> 00:21:14.519 be alive, to be able to see, to hear, to 321 00:21:14.519 --> 00:21:17.240 get out of bed, to walk, because some people can't. 322 00:21:17.440 --> 00:21:20.039 Some people aren't even going to wake up in the morning. 323 00:21:20.359 --> 00:21:23.599 So it's just wonderful that we all woke up this 324 00:21:23.720 --> 00:21:27.880 morning and we get to enjoy one more day, or 325 00:21:27.920 --> 00:21:31.400 taking time for this gift called life, the ability to 326 00:21:31.480 --> 00:21:34.799 see and hear and talk and to have friends and 327 00:21:34.839 --> 00:21:38.119 to be alive, to transform the feelings of grief, worry, 328 00:21:38.160 --> 00:21:43.599 and victimhood into reframing them into something positive. That this 329 00:21:43.720 --> 00:21:46.319 is something we've learned and we can now take it 330 00:21:46.440 --> 00:21:51.799 forward and transform our lives and help others who are 331 00:21:51.799 --> 00:21:55.039 going through the same thing, and trusting that these life 332 00:21:55.160 --> 00:21:59.279 lessons will give us greater wisdom. Realize that there are 333 00:21:59.359 --> 00:22:03.519 some health challenges or emotional challenges that are going to 334 00:22:03.599 --> 00:22:08.200 require a professional like a counselor or social worker, a psychologist, 335 00:22:08.240 --> 00:22:13.119 a psychiatrists, or medication or for some you know, a 336 00:22:13.160 --> 00:22:15.519 support group of other people that have been through the 337 00:22:15.559 --> 00:22:19.160 same thing can be enormously helpful. But the other thing 338 00:22:19.200 --> 00:22:21.519 that I want to walk about, especially for we women, 339 00:22:22.119 --> 00:22:25.759 is that oftentimes when we get to our wisdom years, 340 00:22:25.920 --> 00:22:30.599 you know, fifty sixty, seventy eighty, or like my mother ninety, 341 00:22:31.079 --> 00:22:35.079 people think of us as like Grandy's we are gray haired, 342 00:22:35.359 --> 00:22:41.559 we're postmenopausal, we are retired. Nothing could be further from 343 00:22:41.599 --> 00:22:46.160 the truth. I discovered when I was sixty three years 344 00:22:46.200 --> 00:22:49.000 old why I came to this life in the first place. 345 00:22:49.480 --> 00:22:53.960 And once I did, I knew that what my sole 346 00:22:54.000 --> 00:22:58.119 purpose was. It ignited me. And what helped me was 347 00:22:58.160 --> 00:23:02.400 that program at UMass, and I had to collect all 348 00:23:02.400 --> 00:23:05.000 the research of how we were going to prevent cancer. 349 00:23:05.480 --> 00:23:07.920 And what I found is, if we're going to prevent cancer, 350 00:23:07.960 --> 00:23:11.440 we have to start in pregnancy, young childhood, and adolescence 351 00:23:11.920 --> 00:23:16.000 and protect those genes and the epigenetics so they aren't 352 00:23:16.079 --> 00:23:21.920 impacted by the environment or diet, whether too much or 353 00:23:21.960 --> 00:23:28.680 too little, or toxins or mental health challenges, those or drugs, 354 00:23:28.759 --> 00:23:31.680 those can all have an effect on the epigenetics. So 355 00:23:32.720 --> 00:23:36.839 that really pushed me into writing a paper getting it 356 00:23:36.880 --> 00:23:43.160 published called the Precautionary Principle Cancer prevention efforts during critical 357 00:23:43.200 --> 00:23:46.599 periods of growth and development. And once I wrote that paper, 358 00:23:47.279 --> 00:23:51.880 I knew with every cell in my body this was 359 00:23:51.880 --> 00:23:54.839 the whole reason I came to this earth, and it 360 00:23:54.960 --> 00:23:58.599 ignited in me a passion that I feel like my 361 00:23:58.720 --> 00:24:01.920 life is just beginning, and so I need to like 362 00:24:02.039 --> 00:24:04.519 really go out into the world and share this with 363 00:24:04.640 --> 00:24:10.079 the world to help others to live their best life 364 00:24:10.119 --> 00:24:12.480 and to help their children to live their best life. 365 00:24:12.480 --> 00:24:16.559 Because the truth is, what we do in this life 366 00:24:16.720 --> 00:24:20.200 and when we're pregnant will affect three or four generations 367 00:24:20.200 --> 00:24:22.799 in the future, just like what our grandparents did when 368 00:24:22.839 --> 00:24:26.519 they were getting pregnant affects our health in our lifetime. 369 00:24:27.119 --> 00:24:32.160 So with that, I would really encourage you to think 370 00:24:32.200 --> 00:24:38.480 about you know, as an older person, we are actually 371 00:24:38.960 --> 00:24:44.000 the wisdom grandmothers, right, just like in the indigenous cultures, 372 00:24:44.119 --> 00:24:48.400 and so we have so much wisdom from our life experiences. 373 00:24:48.480 --> 00:24:51.720 We have so much to give the younger generations. So 374 00:24:51.880 --> 00:24:54.240 it's not that our life is over and we should 375 00:24:54.279 --> 00:24:57.759 think of ourselves just sitting in a nursing home, but 376 00:24:58.039 --> 00:25:02.880 we have we we can let that experience light us 377 00:25:02.960 --> 00:25:05.440 up to do what we're meant to do in this life. 378 00:25:05.799 --> 00:25:12.279 So anyway, I have two workshops that I'd like to 379 00:25:12.359 --> 00:25:15.279 encourage you to join me for, and one is called 380 00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:18.519 Envisioning the Life that You Would Love, which is one 381 00:25:18.559 --> 00:25:20.960 of my favorites to do and we always have fun 382 00:25:21.039 --> 00:25:23.799 when we do it. The next one is September eighth 383 00:25:23.799 --> 00:25:27.359 to ninth, from seven to eight thirty pm Eastern Time, 384 00:25:27.440 --> 00:25:30.720 which is four to five thirty pm Pacific time, and 385 00:25:31.039 --> 00:25:33.799 it's on Zoom, so it's from the comfort of your 386 00:25:33.799 --> 00:25:37.519 own home. You can be eating your dinner and listening, 387 00:25:37.799 --> 00:25:43.599 you know along, but it is free, and it's two 388 00:25:43.680 --> 00:25:47.319 nights September eighth, September ninth, and you can go to 389 00:25:47.359 --> 00:25:50.920 my website orallyformier dot com just like you see on 390 00:25:50.960 --> 00:25:53.319 the screen here, just you don't put the cavern in, 391 00:25:53.400 --> 00:25:57.759 but orallyformier dot com all together and you'll see at 392 00:25:57.759 --> 00:26:01.000 the top there's a workshop tab and you get the workshops. 393 00:26:01.519 --> 00:26:04.920 Other workshop I want to let you know about that 394 00:26:05.240 --> 00:26:09.240 I love and I hope that you can come also 395 00:26:09.880 --> 00:26:14.200 is called Legacy Reset Prevention, Survivorship and Healing, and this 396 00:26:14.440 --> 00:26:19.039 is a five week workshop. It's every Thursday starting September 397 00:26:19.400 --> 00:26:23.519 sixteenth to October fourteenth, again seven to eight thirty pm 398 00:26:23.720 --> 00:26:30.279 each evening Eastern time four to five thirty pm Pacific time, 399 00:26:30.519 --> 00:26:33.920 and I would love to have you come. It's basically 400 00:26:33.960 --> 00:26:36.880 for people that have a personal or family history of cancer, 401 00:26:37.559 --> 00:26:41.160