WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.360 --> 00:00:05.400 Stuck at home, bored and alone. You'd think I could 2 00:00:05.480 --> 00:00:15.000 have some fun on my own, but not bald. I 3 00:00:15.160 --> 00:00:20.199 thought AF with Cecily and Stephanie. What's up, everybody, Welcome 4 00:00:20.239 --> 00:00:24.399 to board AF. It's a show. Listen. The name can 5 00:00:24.440 --> 00:00:27.320 be deceiving. We create. We came up with the name. 6 00:00:27.519 --> 00:00:31.000 It was COVID nobody. We were bored. We were so 7 00:00:31.039 --> 00:00:34.000 bored we could. You couldn't leave the house. Well you could, 8 00:00:34.520 --> 00:00:37.240 but you couldn't go anywhere. Where are you going? I 9 00:00:37.439 --> 00:00:37.880 miss that. 10 00:00:39.200 --> 00:00:41.159 I mean I don't miss like the deaths and everything 11 00:00:41.240 --> 00:00:43.560 that was awful, But I thought that was the part 12 00:00:43.600 --> 00:00:46.359 you missed. I miss like the I mean not now. 13 00:00:46.439 --> 00:00:49.039 I had nostalgia. I did have nostalgia for it for 14 00:00:49.079 --> 00:00:50.920 a while. I don't have it anymore. It has, it 15 00:00:50.960 --> 00:00:51.600 has passed. 16 00:00:52.240 --> 00:00:53.960 I don't know. I can't quite explain it. 17 00:00:54.600 --> 00:00:57.640 There was something just kind of special about like reconnecting 18 00:00:57.640 --> 00:01:00.719 to people using Zoom and using remember House game that 19 00:01:00.759 --> 00:01:02.920 you play the game, there's something called like house Party, 20 00:01:03.200 --> 00:01:05.319 and you downloaded an app and you could play charades 21 00:01:05.359 --> 00:01:05.760 with people. 22 00:01:05.760 --> 00:01:06.519 And it's like, I. 23 00:01:06.519 --> 00:01:10.799 Don't hate this, I don't love and I got to 24 00:01:10.840 --> 00:01:12.840 tell you, I don't mean to scare anybody. But I 25 00:01:12.879 --> 00:01:16.280 went to dinner last night and a lot of masks 26 00:01:16.319 --> 00:01:18.840 were back on. So I'm like, did I because I 27 00:01:18.879 --> 00:01:20.640 did turn off the news for a couple of days? 28 00:01:20.719 --> 00:01:25.319 Is there another thing? There's a flu? And crazy is 29 00:01:25.560 --> 00:01:28.159 the people? Just because you know a lot of people 30 00:01:28.280 --> 00:01:31.079 got really mad about having to wear a mask during COVID. 31 00:01:31.519 --> 00:01:35.640 Turns out they do work, so people in other countries 32 00:01:35.760 --> 00:01:39.120 use them for just regular illnesses. So although you don't 33 00:01:39.239 --> 00:01:41.040 have to wear a mask, like I feel like if 34 00:01:41.079 --> 00:01:43.640 people are sick or they're planning to go on a 35 00:01:43.760 --> 00:01:46.519 trip and they just don't want to catch anything, that's 36 00:01:46.560 --> 00:01:48.400 a game. It's a good way to protect yourself. You 37 00:01:48.400 --> 00:01:52.000 don't have to. I'm feeling you. 38 00:01:52.000 --> 00:01:53.680 No, I know I wore a mask. I mean I 39 00:01:53.760 --> 00:01:56.439 was one of those like you. I bought the gloves 40 00:01:56.560 --> 00:01:59.680 I like, went and found those gloves or I would 41 00:01:59.719 --> 00:02:02.439 change out every day. You know how things like bring 42 00:02:02.480 --> 00:02:06.000 you back, Like smell is such a strong sense of memory. 43 00:02:06.200 --> 00:02:11.960 And every time I smell the you called the you know, the. 44 00:02:10.680 --> 00:02:13.319 The stuff you squirt on your hands to make them clean. 45 00:02:14.680 --> 00:02:16.000 It's a sanitizer. 46 00:02:16.280 --> 00:02:19.319 Yeah, yeah, I feel like there's another name for him. 47 00:02:19.319 --> 00:02:22.120 But that as a sanitizer. Yeah, Like when I smell 48 00:02:22.159 --> 00:02:24.039 it in certain ones, like from right A, it had 49 00:02:24.080 --> 00:02:26.919 like a nice little aloe smell to it, I. 50 00:02:26.840 --> 00:02:28.599 Get a little musted out. I don't know, I get 51 00:02:28.599 --> 00:02:29.840 a little like, ah. 52 00:02:31.280 --> 00:02:33.159 I don't use that shit anymore, and I never wash 53 00:02:33.240 --> 00:02:38.400 my hands. I learned nothing. I learned. I went the 54 00:02:38.439 --> 00:02:41.240 other way. I'm like, fuck it, I'm gonna roll myself 55 00:02:41.280 --> 00:02:43.560 in this. Oh you've matt you have mad cow disease. 56 00:02:44.319 --> 00:02:45.840 Okay, let me snuggle up. 57 00:02:46.360 --> 00:02:48.560 No, I'm not a fan of any of this, and 58 00:02:48.599 --> 00:02:50.719 I'm I want to be very careful. But yeah, I 59 00:02:50.759 --> 00:02:52.400 mean after a couple of years, I think we just 60 00:02:52.520 --> 00:02:55.319 we we did what we had to do, and now 61 00:02:55.360 --> 00:02:57.759 I kind of just don't do it. Do you do 62 00:02:57.800 --> 00:03:01.039 you like scrub your hands and hot water for every Yeah, 63 00:03:01.080 --> 00:03:04.439 of course. Not wash your fruit for a long time, 64 00:03:04.520 --> 00:03:07.240 soak it. I mean I wash all fruit. 65 00:03:07.919 --> 00:03:12.360 Yeah, I don't think I've ever washed fruit. Really apples. 66 00:03:12.479 --> 00:03:14.080 You have to wash an apple because people pick that 67 00:03:14.080 --> 00:03:16.840 shit up at the store. I've always washed the apple. 68 00:03:17.280 --> 00:03:19.680 But I'm just telling you that I really don't. 69 00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:23.680 I don't want to be rude, but that's nasty girl. 70 00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:28.400 I mean yeah, but like, how often do you hear 71 00:03:28.719 --> 00:03:34.159 am I sick? Oh? When's the last time you heard 72 00:03:34.199 --> 00:03:36.639 of me being sick? You had a long cough? You 73 00:03:36.639 --> 00:03:39.639 don't have that? Well, I've always had I've always had that. 74 00:03:39.680 --> 00:03:43.240 I didn't have a year long cough. You were in it, 75 00:03:43.280 --> 00:03:45.159 don't you remember? You were in it, literally in a 76 00:03:45.280 --> 00:03:50.039 sanitarium for TB. Did you You don't remember that? Yeah, 77 00:03:50.120 --> 00:03:53.680 I was in there for that. I don't. Was I 78 00:03:53.719 --> 00:03:54.280 at a TV? 79 00:03:54.759 --> 00:03:54.840 No? 80 00:03:54.960 --> 00:03:59.319 I was. I was. I'm saying I'm saying you. I'm saying, yes, 81 00:03:59.439 --> 00:04:04.599 I was in sanitarium for TV. But that was something 82 00:04:04.919 --> 00:04:08.439 that's not what I caught from an apple. I mean, 83 00:04:08.479 --> 00:04:10.879 they say an apple a day, but I don't know. 84 00:04:11.120 --> 00:04:13.280 I mean, you know what, here's the difference between us. 85 00:04:13.520 --> 00:04:16.720 My grocery store is rock and roll. Ralph's right. 86 00:04:16.759 --> 00:04:18.680 People that go into rock and roll, they are not 87 00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:21.120 people that you want touching your apples. And I am 88 00:04:21.160 --> 00:04:24.319 not being judgmental. That is just facts. So I think 89 00:04:24.360 --> 00:04:26.680 I'm coming at it from a day it's like, oh God, 90 00:04:26.759 --> 00:04:29.360 like I'm scared to eat anything. I mean, that's why 91 00:04:29.399 --> 00:04:35.319 I it's all microwave dinners, because touches the thing yeah. 92 00:04:35.519 --> 00:04:35.720 Yeah. 93 00:04:35.759 --> 00:04:38.040 Even then they'll touch it sometimes, just take it out 94 00:04:38.079 --> 00:04:40.040 and look at it and put it back, and I'm like. 95 00:04:40.040 --> 00:04:45.279 No, it's it's pretty crazy, you know, it's crazy. I 96 00:04:45.360 --> 00:04:47.560 just think that what you're going to get from not 97 00:04:47.839 --> 00:04:51.680 washing something is more of like a stomach issue, right. 98 00:04:52.879 --> 00:04:54.519 I feel like you're going to get more your more 99 00:04:54.519 --> 00:04:57.279 app to get something like Legionnaire's disease is that you 100 00:04:57.279 --> 00:04:59.680 don't want that. No, you don't want that. I'm not 101 00:04:59.680 --> 00:05:02.199 saying you want that, but I'm saying that's that's more 102 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:05.399 what you're gonna get than like a flu. But you're 103 00:05:05.439 --> 00:05:08.279 saying you don't like Legionnaire's disease. You're what I hear 104 00:05:08.399 --> 00:05:10.839 you saying is but I don't want a stomach thing. 105 00:05:11.920 --> 00:05:15.759 And what I'm saying is like, you know what, what's 106 00:05:15.759 --> 00:05:18.079 wrong with a little stomach thing? Do you? I mean, 107 00:05:18.160 --> 00:05:19.800 do you want to be skinny or not? I guess. 108 00:05:20.000 --> 00:05:22.279 Let me ask you this. I don't let me ask 109 00:05:22.319 --> 00:05:25.160 you this. Let me ask you this. Have you gotten 110 00:05:25.199 --> 00:05:27.879 because later in life we're supposed to get TB. We're 111 00:05:27.879 --> 00:05:30.399 supposed to get their shots again. You know, we're supposed 112 00:05:30.399 --> 00:05:33.000 to get a shingle shot. I am late I'm going 113 00:05:33.079 --> 00:05:33.879 to get it, but I. 114 00:05:33.800 --> 00:05:37.879 Don't want it. I've uh no, I haven't done it. 115 00:05:37.920 --> 00:05:40.120 And now you're making me feel really guilty too. 116 00:05:40.240 --> 00:05:43.319 Not me too, I feel guilty too because I want 117 00:05:43.319 --> 00:05:45.439 to do it. But you have to take a whole weekend. See, 118 00:05:45.639 --> 00:05:47.720 you've got John and people that can help you, like 119 00:05:47.879 --> 00:05:51.560 I can't unless somebody can watch them. And honestly, like 120 00:05:51.600 --> 00:05:54.079 you're really sick for like two days, not just like 121 00:05:54.120 --> 00:05:56.319 the COVID vaccine sick, which makes you a little flu 122 00:05:56.439 --> 00:05:58.600 made me a little fluy. I do it every year still, 123 00:05:58.600 --> 00:06:00.720 by the way, I still I still get COVID backs. 124 00:06:00.879 --> 00:06:04.439 They like you, Oh yeah, what do you mean. I 125 00:06:04.480 --> 00:06:05.800 got it in like September. 126 00:06:06.160 --> 00:06:08.720 Oh I went because I was watching the news and 127 00:06:08.720 --> 00:06:09.600 I went, and I get my. 128 00:06:09.560 --> 00:06:14.879 Flu in COVID boxes together. Okay, And that's where you're 129 00:06:14.959 --> 00:06:18.399 going wrong. That's why you're having to take a weekend off. No, 130 00:06:18.519 --> 00:06:19.839 that's for shingles. 131 00:06:20.000 --> 00:06:21.319 I don't have to take it off for those I 132 00:06:21.319 --> 00:06:23.279 get a little like I don't feel good for like 133 00:06:23.360 --> 00:06:26.959 one day. But shingles is like you've got to give yourself. 134 00:06:27.000 --> 00:06:28.759 My friend had like four days she had to take 135 00:06:28.759 --> 00:06:31.480 off work. She was so sick Jesus A lot of 136 00:06:31.480 --> 00:06:35.240 my friends, but one friend really like she something really 137 00:06:35.319 --> 00:06:38.319 went wrong. She had it. It's very painful too, Like 138 00:06:38.360 --> 00:06:40.480 I'm not trying to scare people away. You should do 139 00:06:40.560 --> 00:06:44.000 it post fifty. But it's a thing. So I've been scared, 140 00:06:44.040 --> 00:06:46.920 but we should fucking do it. Cause I had shingles already. 141 00:06:46.959 --> 00:06:48.319 I had it when I was fourteen? 142 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:49.480 Are you serious? 143 00:06:49.680 --> 00:06:53.040 And let me tell you girl what. I don't know 144 00:06:53.040 --> 00:06:55.800 what you come to this podcast for, but it's horrible. 145 00:06:56.319 --> 00:06:58.680 And the doctor when they went in, they said they'd 146 00:06:58.720 --> 00:07:01.600 never seen a case because it's, you know, chicken pox related, 147 00:07:01.600 --> 00:07:03.920 but it's not. They said they'd never seen a case 148 00:07:03.959 --> 00:07:06.839 so young. And the doctor said to my mom, I. 149 00:07:06.800 --> 00:07:08.519 Think I told you this because the doctor goes, does 150 00:07:08.560 --> 00:07:11.160 your daughter stress a lot? Does she get stressed? 151 00:07:11.199 --> 00:07:15.839 And my mom's like, oh all, we're all just like 152 00:07:16.199 --> 00:07:18.040 and then it was it seemed like the time to 153 00:07:18.120 --> 00:07:21.920 tell the doctor that the kids at school called me stressily, 154 00:07:22.120 --> 00:07:27.480 which I never even minded because like, if the shoe fits, yeah, 155 00:07:27.639 --> 00:07:30.600 so my fucking stress and whatever immune system. 156 00:07:30.639 --> 00:07:33.279 I had shingles and it's so painful and mine was 157 00:07:33.319 --> 00:07:34.959 not even a bad case. 158 00:07:35.920 --> 00:07:38.519 Are you sappy? So that's the only time though, you've 159 00:07:38.519 --> 00:07:42.319 ever had it. Yeah, but I should definitely get the vaccine. 160 00:07:42.480 --> 00:07:44.519 But I'm scared. I'm like, what if it don't But 161 00:07:44.560 --> 00:07:47.160 you've never had it again. That's so crazy, isn't it 162 00:07:47.199 --> 00:07:48.920 The kind of thing where if you get it, you 163 00:07:49.120 --> 00:07:49.839 like in your body. 164 00:07:50.040 --> 00:07:52.680 Well, it's in your body anyway, if you've had the 165 00:07:52.720 --> 00:07:55.480 chicken pox, it's stays dormant, same as you know, the 166 00:07:55.519 --> 00:07:58.360 same all the thing. So it's like it's up, It's 167 00:07:58.399 --> 00:08:01.319 in there, just waiting to be open up. How do 168 00:08:01.360 --> 00:08:05.360 you get up? Or do I get stressed out? I 169 00:08:05.399 --> 00:08:06.759 guess I don't know what I did. 170 00:08:07.000 --> 00:08:08.560 So it is stress related. 171 00:08:09.399 --> 00:08:11.600 Well, it's it's a lot of things related. It's a 172 00:08:11.680 --> 00:08:14.360 virus that just can be like if your immune system 173 00:08:14.399 --> 00:08:16.879 goes down in my I was also I think I 174 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:19.600 was fourteen, so I was really underweight at the time. 175 00:08:19.639 --> 00:08:23.160 I wasn't really eating. I mean, who knows why. Sometimes 176 00:08:23.160 --> 00:08:27.040 it just happens. But it's like a rash that it 177 00:08:27.040 --> 00:08:28.879 goes in a straight line. That's how they can tell 178 00:08:28.879 --> 00:08:30.639 what it is. It's just like a it went on. 179 00:08:30.720 --> 00:08:32.600 It was on my back all the way to my 180 00:08:32.720 --> 00:08:34.600 chest and it went in a perfect straight line, and 181 00:08:34.600 --> 00:08:36.759 it's just like the most painful thing. 182 00:08:37.600 --> 00:08:42.279 Like god, I now remember I have not heard good things, 183 00:08:42.720 --> 00:08:46.080 like I've never heard anybody back out there. It wasn't horrible. 184 00:08:48.120 --> 00:08:49.639 We don't want that. Are we going to have to 185 00:08:49.799 --> 00:08:52.039 rehire like an in home caregiver though? For it to 186 00:08:52.120 --> 00:08:52.919 take care of her hand? 187 00:08:53.240 --> 00:08:53.360 It? 188 00:08:54.679 --> 00:08:58.240 We get the shot, yes, well you have that. Here's 189 00:08:58.279 --> 00:08:58.720 the thing. 190 00:08:58.919 --> 00:09:02.320 Also, you have to get a second shot, yes, two 191 00:09:02.320 --> 00:09:05.000 weeks later like the first COVID's. Remember when you sted 192 00:09:05.000 --> 00:09:07.159 to have to do that. I don't do that anymore. 193 00:09:07.879 --> 00:09:10.200 Remember the pasters We had to get one and then 194 00:09:10.240 --> 00:09:12.480 you got one like two weeks later. 195 00:09:12.720 --> 00:09:17.759 Yeah, yeah, that was really that was crazy. 196 00:09:17.399 --> 00:09:20.600 Did I ever tell you? I mean, I'm sure, I'm 197 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:23.600 sure we talked about it, but I was obsessed with 198 00:09:23.639 --> 00:09:27.080 getting the shot. I mean, he's still me shit about 199 00:09:27.120 --> 00:09:30.759 it to this day. People sometimes I don't know. I've 200 00:09:30.799 --> 00:09:32.720 seen it online where somebody was like, oh my god, 201 00:09:32.799 --> 00:09:35.919 she was trying to like take cuts because do you 202 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:40.519 remember the story? Because I found like a clinic. First 203 00:09:40.559 --> 00:09:43.679 of all, I was constantly like looking at the different sites, 204 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:45.480 and you could not get an appointment at any of 205 00:09:45.480 --> 00:09:48.080 the sites. Oh I know, same same because yeah, yep, 206 00:09:48.639 --> 00:09:51.440 so I found this clinic though that was like it 207 00:09:51.480 --> 00:09:57.200 was for low income families that you cut, no, I do, well, yeah, 208 00:09:57.279 --> 00:10:01.799 I sort of did. What happened is appen was I 209 00:10:01.840 --> 00:10:05.200 went down to this place it was like downtown, and 210 00:10:05.759 --> 00:10:08.360 we took Elby, So we went. We had tried to 211 00:10:08.360 --> 00:10:11.039 go on our own, John and I to just try 212 00:10:11.039 --> 00:10:13.559 to get a shot, and you you'd wait all day 213 00:10:13.759 --> 00:10:16.159 and you couldn't get in. So then the next time 214 00:10:16.200 --> 00:10:18.559 we went, we took Elbe and she was it was 215 00:10:18.840 --> 00:10:21.639 they have the shot for sixteen year olds. So if 216 00:10:21.639 --> 00:10:23.679 you were there in line with a sixteen year old, 217 00:10:23.720 --> 00:10:26.039 I believe we literally had her take a day off 218 00:10:26.039 --> 00:10:29.159 school and we went to this place and we waited 219 00:10:29.200 --> 00:10:33.039 in line, and then they would call groups and they 220 00:10:33.080 --> 00:10:36.080 called for sixteen year olds. Oh my gosh, and so 221 00:10:36.200 --> 00:10:38.279 if you were with a sixteen year old, you got 222 00:10:38.279 --> 00:10:39.320 to go with them and get the shot. 223 00:10:40.440 --> 00:10:43.080 I cut a little too, I'd had I was one 224 00:10:43.120 --> 00:10:44.799 of the I had like a heart you know, well 225 00:10:44.919 --> 00:10:48.480 my heart thing, right, So I asked my cardiologist and 226 00:10:48.519 --> 00:10:50.919 I'm like, can you I should go early? Right, because 227 00:10:50.919 --> 00:10:52.759 it was if you were in any kind of immune 228 00:10:53.080 --> 00:10:56.440 immuno confident compromise. And my cardiologist is like, you're not 229 00:10:56.519 --> 00:10:59.840 immuno compromise. You had heart surgery and it's been fixed 230 00:11:00.000 --> 00:11:02.240 and you don't have to worry about that. So but 231 00:11:02.279 --> 00:11:04.960 you know, the funny thing about COVID is that the pharmacy, 232 00:11:05.000 --> 00:11:08.120 no one knew anything, including the pharmacist. So all I 233 00:11:08.159 --> 00:11:10.320 had to do is I went in and I was like, 234 00:11:10.399 --> 00:11:12.759 I'm my heart and I showed my scar, you know, 235 00:11:13.240 --> 00:11:14.960 and they were like okay, because. 236 00:11:14.720 --> 00:11:15.440 They don't fuck it. 237 00:11:15.519 --> 00:11:18.360 Nobody knew nobody, And I didn't feel that bad. I 238 00:11:18.440 --> 00:11:20.320 just there wasn't like a big line that I got 239 00:11:20.320 --> 00:11:23.159 in front of. I write this like kind of pharmacy 240 00:11:23.200 --> 00:11:25.720 that somebody told somebody in Beverly Hills, but no one 241 00:11:25.759 --> 00:11:28.240 really knew they had the thing, but no one was 242 00:11:28.279 --> 00:11:30.840 really on it, you know, so it was like okay. 243 00:11:31.080 --> 00:11:34.360 So yeah, it wasn't like I didn't like throw someone. 244 00:11:34.559 --> 00:11:37.200 I didn't grab someone like a ninety five year old 245 00:11:37.200 --> 00:11:38.679 and like throw them into the street so. 246 00:11:38.639 --> 00:11:40.919 I could get it. I would have. I didn't do 247 00:11:41.080 --> 00:11:43.399 that either. And here's the like, you know, just to 248 00:11:43.440 --> 00:11:45.559 take it down a notch. Here's the thing that a 249 00:11:45.600 --> 00:11:48.120 lot of people didn't understand was that at some of 250 00:11:48.159 --> 00:11:51.840 these low income areas, they weren't a lot of the 251 00:11:51.879 --> 00:11:54.919 people the neighborhood didn't know about it. They didn't I 252 00:11:55.039 --> 00:11:57.960 know about the COVID vaccine, they didn't know about these 253 00:11:58.000 --> 00:12:01.840 low cost what was free. But they didn't know about 254 00:12:01.840 --> 00:12:04.279 these clinics. So there were a lot of people that 255 00:12:04.320 --> 00:12:07.679 were sort of starting trying to spread awareness, and you know, 256 00:12:07.879 --> 00:12:09.919 it was like it was hard to get in because 257 00:12:09.960 --> 00:12:12.879 it was all freaking people like me that weren't in 258 00:12:12.919 --> 00:12:15.039 the neighborhood. So that was the thing that they didn't love, 259 00:12:15.720 --> 00:12:18.200 was that it was supposed to be for people in 260 00:12:18.240 --> 00:12:22.159 the neighborhood. I always met people. But on the other hand, 261 00:12:22.200 --> 00:12:24.039 the reason I didn't even were not bad is they 262 00:12:24.080 --> 00:12:27.159 weren't a lot of those people weren't there, and really 263 00:12:27.279 --> 00:12:29.200 not a time where you could really just go door 264 00:12:29.240 --> 00:12:30.960 to door. You were scared for your life. We were 265 00:12:30.960 --> 00:12:32.440 scared for our lives. Yes we did. 266 00:12:32.600 --> 00:12:34.840 Like, okay, I'm going to switch I got switch topics 267 00:12:34.879 --> 00:12:37.440 really quick. If I may, or go what were you 268 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:39.159 going to say something to I didn't mean to. 269 00:12:39.720 --> 00:12:41.440 No, I was just I was going to say like 270 00:12:41.559 --> 00:12:46.080 fuck you, no, okay, fair enough this is the thing 271 00:12:46.120 --> 00:12:48.080 I wanted to talk about that I was all excited 272 00:12:48.120 --> 00:12:48.639 to talk about. 273 00:12:48.639 --> 00:12:51.679 And I feel kind of weird saying it, but I 274 00:12:51.759 --> 00:12:54.240 know that these people don't listen to. Do you ever 275 00:12:54.279 --> 00:12:56.360 do that on for crying out loud or whatever? You're like, 276 00:12:56.840 --> 00:12:58.679 I want to tell the story And I feel kind 277 00:12:58.679 --> 00:12:59.879 of bad, but like fuck. 278 00:12:59.639 --> 00:13:02.440 It because I don't even bother to listen to this. Yeah, 279 00:13:02.519 --> 00:13:05.480 there are well my problem with for crying out loud 280 00:13:05.600 --> 00:13:08.159 not naming that. There that every once in a while, 281 00:13:08.639 --> 00:13:11.080 Lynette and I will talk about somebody that's like in 282 00:13:11.080 --> 00:13:14.039 my life, like something that I you know, worked with 283 00:13:14.159 --> 00:13:15.399 or a parent from the kids. 284 00:13:15.240 --> 00:13:17.879 To school, and I don't listen, so, yeah, you don't 285 00:13:17.919 --> 00:13:18.759 I give be one of those people. 286 00:13:19.559 --> 00:13:22.000 And I always go like, none of those people listen. 287 00:13:22.080 --> 00:13:24.919 And then every once in a while, somebody really random 288 00:13:25.000 --> 00:13:26.759 in my life will just be like, oh my god, 289 00:13:26.759 --> 00:13:28.600 I was listening to your podcast, and I'm like, we. 290 00:13:28.799 --> 00:13:31.159 Know what, I have a lot of those I have. 291 00:13:31.279 --> 00:13:34.240 I know who I think listens, so I just kind 292 00:13:34.240 --> 00:13:36.600 of careful. But okay, I'm going to tell you something. 293 00:13:36.679 --> 00:13:38.480 This is I'm not naming names, but I have two 294 00:13:38.519 --> 00:13:40.600 friends that don't know each other they've met, but they 295 00:13:40.600 --> 00:13:43.840 don't know each other. Okay, and this story isn't going 296 00:13:43.919 --> 00:13:46.080 to be long, so like we're gonna have to fill 297 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:46.480 this out. 298 00:13:46.519 --> 00:13:47.519 I'm just telling you right now. 299 00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:51.360 But one of them, they both have a cadence when 300 00:13:51.360 --> 00:13:55.240 they speak that both drive me. Fuck, it drives me 301 00:13:55.360 --> 00:13:57.440 crazy talking to them. So I want I want to 302 00:13:57.840 --> 00:13:59.799 I want to break this down with you and figure out, like, 303 00:14:00.120 --> 00:14:03.480 is it my I think it's my impatience and I 304 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:06.039 do have ADHD. So like when someone's telling a story 305 00:14:06.039 --> 00:14:08.039 in a certain way, I'm like, fucking get to it, 306 00:14:08.679 --> 00:14:11.039 like I'm doing right now. But it's more the way 307 00:14:11.080 --> 00:14:13.639 they speak, not what they're saying. So one of them 308 00:14:13.679 --> 00:14:16.480 does this. I'm just gonna just I'm just gonna say 309 00:14:16.480 --> 00:14:21.639 they're both he he But that's not necessarily true. Okay, Okay, 310 00:14:21.799 --> 00:14:23.399 he does this. 311 00:14:23.120 --> 00:14:25.159 This guy's like so. 312 00:14:27.000 --> 00:14:32.879 I was as wait, I was so and it like 313 00:14:33.399 --> 00:14:37.039 every not every word, but like every tenth word is 314 00:14:37.080 --> 00:14:40.879 held out that long. So I have lost I am 315 00:14:40.919 --> 00:14:43.720 no longer listening at the first sentence. I really honestly 316 00:14:43.759 --> 00:14:46.639 don't know why. I know that that's impatient and shitty. 317 00:14:47.120 --> 00:14:50.039 But then my other friend, he talks like this. He'll 318 00:14:50.080 --> 00:14:53.120 be telling a story and he'll just be like yeah. 319 00:14:54.279 --> 00:15:00.840 So in we went to London and I'm like, okay, dude, 320 00:15:00.879 --> 00:15:03.759 and I'm closer to him, so I'll say you got 321 00:15:03.799 --> 00:15:06.320 to go, like, I'm out if you don't speed this up. 322 00:15:06.360 --> 00:15:09.080 And then I even said to him today, actually, I go, 323 00:15:09.559 --> 00:15:11.440 can you just put this on a voice recording, like 324 00:15:11.519 --> 00:15:13.200 do a voice memo and I'll put it at one 325 00:15:13.200 --> 00:15:16.320 point five because I literally cannot do this. 326 00:15:16.679 --> 00:15:17.039 Huh. 327 00:15:17.080 --> 00:15:21.320 I can't do it? So what's wrong? What's what's going 328 00:15:21.399 --> 00:15:25.000 on here? I know I talk fast, so that's on me, 329 00:15:25.159 --> 00:15:28.440 but like, what can I do? What are some tips that. 330 00:15:28.360 --> 00:15:32.679 I will have? I genuinely think because I have I 331 00:15:32.759 --> 00:15:36.600 also have have this issue. I won't say had it 332 00:15:36.600 --> 00:15:40.200 which and we've talked about it. Yes, yes, I genuinely 333 00:15:40.240 --> 00:15:42.840 think that there are times, and you might not know 334 00:15:42.960 --> 00:15:45.600 it in the moment, but there are times when you 335 00:15:45.720 --> 00:15:49.799 have more anxiety than other times. And it's always I 336 00:15:49.879 --> 00:15:52.519 noticed this for myself. It always bothers me more when 337 00:15:52.519 --> 00:15:54.840 I'm anxious. When I'm anxious, I'm like, oh my god, 338 00:15:55.039 --> 00:15:58.120 I can't listen to this for much longer. 339 00:15:58.639 --> 00:16:00.919 I think I'm always anxious. I don't think there's a 340 00:16:00.919 --> 00:16:03.159 lot of times where that isn't the case. 341 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:05.240 But you wouldn't need to be friends with this person 342 00:16:05.279 --> 00:16:07.720 if they could not get a sentence out. 343 00:16:09.480 --> 00:16:11.759 But I had this thought of like, what if they 344 00:16:11.799 --> 00:16:13.639 talk to each other? What if I was in a 345 00:16:13.720 --> 00:16:15.639 room and they're having a conversation with each other. 346 00:16:15.759 --> 00:16:18.120 Would it sound like that? Would it be? 347 00:16:19.039 --> 00:16:21.240 Now I'm very self conscious about how I'm speaking, but 348 00:16:21.279 --> 00:16:24.840 I'm telling you one of them is like, yeah, so, 349 00:16:26.679 --> 00:16:30.000 And then occasionally they'll say something that is normal, like 350 00:16:30.039 --> 00:16:32.519 in normal speed. They'll be like, yeah, so right, okay, 351 00:16:32.559 --> 00:16:38.480 so we landed in Vancouver and then okay, and it's 352 00:16:38.879 --> 00:16:41.679 it's crazy to me, but that's just how this person talks. 353 00:16:41.720 --> 00:16:46.759 I think. I think there are people that know, uh, 354 00:16:47.159 --> 00:16:49.080 they know they're kind of doing it, but they're not 355 00:16:49.159 --> 00:16:52.399 thinking ahead and there they don't have a we're storytellers, 356 00:16:52.720 --> 00:16:55.440 so we kind of know where shit's going, right, you 357 00:16:55.440 --> 00:16:58.399 know when we go to start out of story listen, 358 00:16:58.440 --> 00:17:00.360 are there going to be times when we go hold 359 00:17:00.360 --> 00:17:02.399 on a minute, I forgot to give you this part 360 00:17:02.480 --> 00:17:05.720 to give it context. Right, Oh, sure that's going to happen. 361 00:17:06.200 --> 00:17:09.039 But I think in general, we kind of know when 362 00:17:09.079 --> 00:17:12.079 we're starting out a story, we don't usually start out 363 00:17:12.079 --> 00:17:14.200 with like, oh my god, I have the funniest thing 364 00:17:14.240 --> 00:17:18.640 to tell you, and then just trail off forever. And 365 00:17:18.680 --> 00:17:20.519 I think that a lot of people do because they're 366 00:17:20.559 --> 00:17:23.880 just not used to telling stories. Is that possible this 367 00:17:23.960 --> 00:17:26.720 person they are both used to telling stories. One tells 368 00:17:26.720 --> 00:17:29.039 them on stage, they are both in the entertainment business. 369 00:17:29.039 --> 00:17:32.799 That's absolutely not No. I think it's like with one 370 00:17:32.839 --> 00:17:35.799 of them. I think that this person is looking at 371 00:17:35.839 --> 00:17:38.119 other doing other things. Because this is always on the phone, 372 00:17:38.240 --> 00:17:40.759 it's not as bad in person. Okay, so I think 373 00:17:40.839 --> 00:17:43.920 that he's he's texting, or he's you know, yeah, he's 374 00:17:43.920 --> 00:17:47.720 doing something else. I guess. I don't know. That's where 375 00:17:47.720 --> 00:17:49.839 you just got to call it out and go it 376 00:17:49.880 --> 00:17:52.720 sounds like you're distracted, So why don't you let's talk 377 00:17:52.799 --> 00:17:53.480 later when you're not. 378 00:17:53.440 --> 00:17:55.240 Wanting to put it on a voice memo whatever this 379 00:17:55.279 --> 00:17:58.359 bullshit is. But I also know I'm impatient the other one. Yeah, 380 00:17:58.400 --> 00:18:00.160 I don't know, but it just I just thought of 381 00:18:00.200 --> 00:18:02.039 it today, was like, my god, what if we were 382 00:18:02.079 --> 00:18:03.519 all what if they talk to each other? 383 00:18:04.680 --> 00:18:08.559 So, yeah, they just won't talk to each other. They 384 00:18:08.680 --> 00:18:11.279 won't they will have nothing to say to each other. 385 00:18:11.400 --> 00:18:13.240 They would both be like, oh my god, you're the 386 00:18:13.240 --> 00:18:16.559 most boring person I've ever talked to, not realizing they're 387 00:18:16.599 --> 00:18:17.319 already boring. 388 00:18:18.160 --> 00:18:20.279 The space is in between what I said to the 389 00:18:20.599 --> 00:18:22.240 like I said my friend that I'm closer to where 390 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:23.680 I was, like, just put it in a voice memo. 391 00:18:23.759 --> 00:18:26.839 I can't, I go the spaces are too long between 392 00:18:26.839 --> 00:18:30.119 your words. And he's like, you, you just talk fast, 393 00:18:30.160 --> 00:18:32.720 so that's what you and I go, Yes, But maybe 394 00:18:32.720 --> 00:18:34.000 somewhere in the middle is. 395 00:18:33.960 --> 00:18:37.480 The truth, you know, like, let me say this too. 396 00:18:38.000 --> 00:18:41.160 Let me say this. Sometimes when you become aware of it, 397 00:18:41.160 --> 00:18:43.119 it makes it one hundred times worse, like when you 398 00:18:43.160 --> 00:18:45.880 start going like, oh my god, this person. Okay, so 399 00:18:46.279 --> 00:18:49.079 case in point and John and I noticed this at 400 00:18:49.119 --> 00:18:51.240 the same time. But do you ever listen to Sam 401 00:18:51.319 --> 00:18:55.400