Speaker 1: Hello everyone, Hello, Hello, Hello. I'm guessing the audio is working.
Speaker 1: It looks like everything is doing what it's supposed to
Speaker 1: be doing. I have my headphones here because we're going
Speaker 1: to be doing some reaction shit before we getting these questions.
Speaker 1: So I have over the last couple of days somehow
Speaker 1: have ended up on the manisphere side of TikTok and YouTube,
Speaker 1: where a lot of my content is men and women
Speaker 1: hating each other and a whole lot of stupidity. Today
Speaker 1: I watched somebody else react to a video and they
Speaker 1: had a very different take than what I had. So
Speaker 1: I went and found the video on TikTok, I downloaded it.
Speaker 1: I want to watch the video. I want you guys
Speaker 1: to pay attention to verbage, and then I want to
Speaker 1: have a discussion about it because this video, had I
Speaker 1: followed this man's advice, would have prevented me from being
Speaker 1: with my wife, and this was my mindset before we
Speaker 1: actually got committed. So I figured it would be a
Speaker 1: good conversation piece. And then I have a document of
Speaker 1: questions that I want to get into. With that being said,
Speaker 1: it's Saturday. I hope you guys are having a good day.
Speaker 1: The Patreon members that are hanging out with me right now.
Speaker 1: Thank you for rocking with me on a Saturday afternoon.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you guys had a whole bunch of other
Speaker 1: cool shit that you could be doing. So y'all are here,
Speaker 1: it's all that matter. So put these on. I'm going
Speaker 1: to pop over in the here we go.
Speaker 2: Dating a single mother is one of the worst decisions
Speaker 2: that you could possibly make as a single man looking
Speaker 2: to have a successful, long lasting relationship.
Speaker 1: All right, so before I go any further, I kind
Speaker 1: of agree with him. And this is gonna bother some
Speaker 1: of the ladies in the chat. I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: be controversial. I'm not trying to offend anybody. There's gonna
Speaker 1: be language here, and it's the language that matters. So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna back it up and I'm gonna play the
Speaker 1: beginning of this again just so that you guys can
Speaker 1: understand what I'm talking about by paying attention to the language.
Speaker 2: Dating a single mother is one of the worst decisions
Speaker 2: that you could possibly make as a single man looking
Speaker 2: to have a successful, long lasting relationship.
Speaker 1: Okay, so a successful long lasting relationship. The reason that
Speaker 1: a lot of men feel this way, depending on how
Speaker 1: they define success is that they have a proven track
Speaker 1: record of not being able to keep a family together right,
Speaker 1: And there's there could be a whole lot of reasons
Speaker 1: why that relationship didn't work out right. It could be
Speaker 1: an abusive situation. It could have been that there was
Speaker 1: no real relationship there, it was an oop since she
Speaker 1: didn't believe an abortion. There could be a whole lot
Speaker 1: of reasons as to why that relationship did not work.
Speaker 1: From a surface level, without any of the information, we
Speaker 1: see that situation and we automatically think this is somebody
Speaker 1: who decided to have a child with another human being,
Speaker 1: they were incapable of making that relationship work, and now
Speaker 1: they're looking for another man to step in and raise
Speaker 1: that child. I'm not saying that that's what they're doing.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that from a very initial assessment, without
Speaker 1: knowing any of the information, that is a pretty safe
Speaker 1: assumption statistic.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: We're not throwing shade or blame because men who are
Speaker 1: just as guilty in this situation too, Because if it
Speaker 1: wasn't for men running around trying to fuck everything they could,
Speaker 1: this wouldn't be a thing, right, So this is not
Speaker 1: a blame thing. I just want you guys to be
Speaker 1: clear on that.
Speaker 2: All right, moving on, especially if you are a single
Speaker 2: man in your prime years, which is we'll say thirty
Speaker 2: to about forty five years old.
Speaker 1: I agree with this too. I agree with the prime
Speaker 1: years thing. Up until you're thirty years old, you don't
Speaker 1: have a real career. You haven't established any type of
Speaker 1: real life shit, are you guys hearing us?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 1: In the chat, I keep getting clicking in my headphones. Okay,
Speaker 1: you guys aren't getting clicking or anything. All right, all right, sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna play it.
Speaker 2: You're at the right position of your career, your income
Speaker 2: is increasing, you have a stable business, and you choose
Speaker 2: yo dumbass chooses to date a single mother, someone who
Speaker 2: has made the ultimate decision, deciding to have a child,
Speaker 2: and then failing abjectly in that endeavor and ending up
Speaker 2: with a broken household.
Speaker 1: Okay, again, this is one of those things where both
Speaker 1: people in this situation failed. And as somebody who there's
Speaker 1: gonna be a whole lot that we're gonna get into,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna get into. I'm gonna try really hard
Speaker 1: not to get them ahead of myself. But both people
Speaker 1: in that situation failed just doing hotness. I love you,
Speaker 1: I'll see you get home.
Speaker 3: You can.
Speaker 1: I don't remember what he was saying because my wife
Speaker 1: just distracted me. So we're just gonna play it.
Speaker 4: So let's talk about that.
Speaker 2: If you're a man in his prime, investing your time, energy,
Speaker 2: and resources into dating a single mother bears almost zero
Speaker 2: ROI for you.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is where things start to get real for me.
Speaker 1: He said that investing your time, your effort, in your
Speaker 1: resources bears no ROI for you. People who don't operate
Speaker 1: on a business level, or at least have some sort
Speaker 1: of business degree or real understanding is not going to
Speaker 1: understand what he's actually talking about here. Factually, he's correct.
Speaker 1: There is no real ROI in me investing in the
Speaker 1: children other than I get to be in their lives
Speaker 1: as long as I'm with their mother. My return on
Speaker 1: investment if I give my resources, my time, my energy,
Speaker 1: and I raise these children to the best of my
Speaker 1: ability while their father is still in their life or not,
Speaker 1: I am only I'm only in their lives as long
Speaker 1: as their mother permits. And in the event that we
Speaker 1: were to ever get split up or something was to happen,
Speaker 1: I would have no access to those kids. So in
Speaker 1: the event that I put both of these children through college,
Speaker 1: you can say, I'll say we just for the sake
Speaker 1: of argument, because what about her, right half of the
Speaker 1: everything is mine, you know, and the assets that I
Speaker 1: had before her are mine. So the time, effort and
Speaker 1: finances that I'm putting into putting these kids through college,
Speaker 1: feeding them, raising them, boxing jiu jitsu, swimming lessons, speech lessons,
Speaker 1: all vacations, all of that shit, that money's gone. And
Speaker 1: though I get dope memories and I get to be
Speaker 1: a part of watching these young you know, these kids grow,
Speaker 1: you know, our son and daughter. I'm a bonus dad.
Speaker 1: I don't have a stake to claim to these children.
Speaker 1: So all of that is a complete waste of money
Speaker 1: from this standpoint when you're looking at it from a ROI,
Speaker 1: because again return on investment, we are talking about the
Speaker 1: financial aspect that goes into raising these children. If I
Speaker 1: raise these kids into adulthood, Peaches and I get along great,
Speaker 1: you know, up until they're in their thirties, and I
Speaker 1: end up in a retirement home, Peaches ends up with
Speaker 1: another man, and all of the raising that I've done
Speaker 1: for the thirty years that these kids were in my life.
Speaker 1: They're not going to put me in a retire at home.
Speaker 1: They're not going to come visit me. I'll be lucky
Speaker 1: if I get a phone call from them after the
Speaker 1: two of us have split, because they're going to pick
Speaker 1: the loyalty to the parent. This is a very real
Speaker 1: conversation for a lot of fucking men when they start
Speaker 1: meeting single mothers, because it's a whole lot easier to
Speaker 1: support a woman than it is to support a woman
Speaker 1: that's got a whole bunch of baggage with them. And
Speaker 1: make no mistake, single men look at women who have
Speaker 1: kids as baggage. This is not a fuck you for
Speaker 1: having kids, because there's a whole lot of men out
Speaker 1: there who aren't raising their own children, let alone have
Speaker 1: the financial responsibility to take on somebody else's children.
Speaker 3: Right, Let's get back to this in.
Speaker 2: General, not in every single situation, but in general, the
Speaker 2: percentage chance odds are that dating a single mother is
Speaker 2: going to end with your demise and it's going to
Speaker 2: leave you at a deficit.
Speaker 1: So if you again, guys, he is talking about your
Speaker 1: financial resources. This is not about emotional heartbreak. He is
Speaker 1: approaching this entire situation from a fiscal mindset, of financial mindset.
Speaker 2: A woman who has a child by a man she's
Speaker 2: no longer with, You're probably looking at a woman who
Speaker 2: is potentially divorced, obviously separated, has a lot of mental,
Speaker 2: emotional and financial baggage and trauma.
Speaker 4: On a biological level, she's.
Speaker 2: Already been ran through by impregnated by this man, so
Speaker 2: her internal biology inside of her wound is actually more
Speaker 2: prime and receptive to having continued offspring with the man
Speaker 2: who impregnated her, who she had children by. His semen
Speaker 2: literally is implanted in neurons or in certain areas within
Speaker 2: the brain and as well as along the nervous system.
Speaker 1: Okay, I didn't look this up. This is like the
Speaker 1: fourth person that I've heard talked about this in like
Speaker 1: the last two or three weeks, and every time I
Speaker 1: think to look it up, something comes up and I
Speaker 1: forget to look it up. If that's true, does that
Speaker 1: just mean that every woman, every man that has ever
Speaker 1: come inside of a woman has that scene thing with
Speaker 1: the semen and the neurology or whatever. He just said that,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I have no idea. I also didn't
Speaker 1: know that once you have a pregnancy with somebody that
Speaker 1: your body is more primed to continue to have kids.
Speaker 1: So that could be complete bullshit. It could be internet science.
Speaker 1: I don't know because I didn't look this up. All right, guys,
Speaker 1: this is Chris from the next Day. I edited this
Speaker 1: episode last night. I listened to that part where they
Speaker 1: were talking about the DNA and the human matter male
Speaker 1: matter being caught in a woman's brain. However, he worded that,
Speaker 1: and I started doing some digging because I think it's bullshit,
Speaker 1: and sure enough, I could not find a single study
Speaker 1: that confirmed the narrative that's being stated. What I did find,
Speaker 1: according to Google, is that on the priming of the
Speaker 1: woman once being pregnant by a man, that is absolutely
Speaker 1: not true. That speaks to genetic imprinting. So Google said,
Speaker 1: a woman's body is not biologically primed or altered to
Speaker 1: have an easier time conceiving or carrying a baby with
Speaker 1: the same specific person in future pregnancies. There is no
Speaker 1: genetic imprinting. A partner's DNA or sperm does not change
Speaker 1: a woman's genetic makeup or permanently alter her reproductive system
Speaker 1: micro microchimerism. While cells from a fetus can cross into
Speaker 1: a mother's body and remain there for years. Cells from
Speaker 1: a sexual partner semen do not integrate into her tissues
Speaker 1: or influence her future pregnancies. That one's super important because
Speaker 1: of the next thing I'm gonna get into independent pregnancies.
Speaker 1: Each new pregnancy starts completely fresh, hormones reset after delivery,
Speaker 1: and the body treats a new conception independently, regardless of
Speaker 1: who the father was previously. Now, there are myths called telegani,
Speaker 1: which believes that past partners affect future offspring.
Speaker 3: It's been proven to be debunked.
Speaker 1: All right, So let's go to an article on PubMed.
Speaker 1: This is from the National Library of Medicine. Okay, guys,
Speaker 1: so the other link and I'll post this in the
Speaker 1: description of the video if you want to go read
Speaker 1: the actual thing from PubMed. I am going to run
Speaker 1: this through AI to give me a summary so that
Speaker 1: I don't have to read you a really dry article
Speaker 1: of science, because I gotta be honest, it's really fucking
Speaker 1: boring and people don't want to hear it. So Summary
Speaker 1: of the male microchimerism and the human female brain from
Speaker 1: twenty twelve. This study explored a fascinating question can sells
Speaker 1: from a fetus remain in a mother's brain for decades
Speaker 1: after pregnancy. Okay, do you guys hear what I just said?
Speaker 1: Can sells from a fetus remain in a mother's brain
Speaker 1: for decades after pregnancy the fetus not the male that
Speaker 1: she slept with the fetus? The answer appears to be yes.
Speaker 1: Researchers examined brain tissue from fifty nine deceased women, twenty
Speaker 1: six without neurological disease, in thirty three with Alzheimer's. They
Speaker 1: search specifically for male DNA by detecting a Y chromosome
Speaker 1: marker DYS one four, because women do not naturally carry
Speaker 1: a Y chromosome. Finding male DNA strongly suggests cells or
Speaker 1: genetic material originating from a male fetus, not a male partner.
Speaker 1: A male fetus. What is a microchimerism microchimerism? During pregnancy,
Speaker 1: cells travel in both directions across the placenta. Fetal cells
Speaker 1: enter the mother's body, maternal cells enter the fetus. Most
Speaker 1: people assume that these cells disappear after birth, but previous
Speaker 1: research showed that they can persist for decades. This study
Speaker 1: asked whether those fetal cells could also be found in
Speaker 1: the brain. So the major findings of this article is
Speaker 1: that male fetal DNA was found in most women's brains.
Speaker 1: The researchers found male mito microchimerism in thirty seven of
Speaker 1: fifty nine women, so sixty three percent. This means that
Speaker 1: nearly two thirds of the women had detectable male DNA
Speaker 1: somewhere in their brains. The cells weren't confined to one area.
Speaker 1: Male DNA appeared throughout the brain, including the hippocampus, temporal lobe,
Speaker 1: paralal lobe, singulate giros, ponds, medulla, thalamus, cerebellum, spinal cord.
Speaker 1: The medulla showed the highest detection rate, while some regions
Speaker 1: had detected had none detected, likely because some of the
Speaker 1: small number of samples available. These cells may remain for life.
Speaker 1: The oldest woman with a detectable male DNA in our
Speaker 1: brain was ninety.
Speaker 3: Four years old.
Speaker 1: Women with Alzheimer's appear to have less microchimerism, it's not
Speaker 1: really relevant to the study. They detected it by using
Speaker 1: a PCR technique to amplify the Y chromosome gene to
Speaker 1: reduce false positives. They required detention in multiple wells, a
Speaker 1: minimum concentration before calling a sample positive and where do
Speaker 1: these cells come from? Pregnancy with a SUN is the
Speaker 1: most likely source. However, the paper notes the other possibilities miscarriage, abortion,
Speaker 1: a vanished male twin and older male sibling through maternal transfer,
Speaker 1: and blood transfusions. None of those say a male partner
Speaker 1: because pregnancy. Because pregnancy histories were incomplete, the researchers couldn't
Speaker 1: determine the exact origin of the male cells in every woman.
Speaker 1: The study doesn't prove what the cells are doing, but
Speaker 1: it discusses several possibilities.
Speaker 3: Tissue repair.
Speaker 1: Other studies have shown that fetal cells can behave like
Speaker 1: simstem cells, differentiating into various cell types and potentially helping
Speaker 1: repair damage tissue immune surveillance. These cells may assist in
Speaker 1: detecting damaged or abnormal cells, including potentially cancerous ones, and
Speaker 1: brain function animal studies. Animal studies suggest fetal cells can
Speaker 1: become neurons astrokites.
Speaker 3: I'm not even try that one, immune.
Speaker 1: Cells within the brain, and whether this also happens in
Speaker 1: humans remains unknown. The The takeaway here is that this
Speaker 1: study overturned the long held assumption that pregnancy ends at birth.
Speaker 3: On a cellular level.
Speaker 1: It demonstrated that cells from a fetus can cross the
Speaker 1: mother's blood brain barrier, becoming widely distributed throughout her brain
Speaker 1: and remain there for decades, perhaps for life. What these
Speaker 1: cells actually do is still an open question. They may
Speaker 1: contribute to tissue repair, immune function, or other biological processes,
Speaker 1: but more research is needed before drawing firm conclusions. Perhaps
Speaker 1: the most profound implication is that pregnancy creates a lasting
Speaker 1: biological connection between mother and child that extends far beyond
Speaker 1: genetic or shared experience. At the cellular level, the child
Speaker 1: cells may literally become part of the mother's brain, persisting
Speaker 1: throughout much of her life. The child's, the fetuses, the
Speaker 1: fetal cells. Not once in this entire fucking study does
Speaker 1: it say a male partner. It may suggests that if
Speaker 1: a mom had a son before she had a daughter,
Speaker 1: that that daughter may already carry markers from having a son,
Speaker 1: because those DNA markers were in her body when they happened.
Speaker 1: But there's nothing here that establishes what these people have
Speaker 1: been stating on the internet. Now, I did find another
Speaker 1: article because I wanted to be thorough and I didn't
Speaker 1: want anybody to be like, oh, well, what about this
Speaker 1: what about that? So before I get into this study,
Speaker 1: I have to be very clear. This comes from Cincinnati's
Speaker 1: Children's Research Horizons. Mom's ability to remember prior pregnancy suggests
Speaker 1: new strategies for preventing complications. This is a study in mice.
Speaker 1: I did not find any studies in humans where this
Speaker 1: has been a thing. They are studying mice to get
Speaker 1: this information. I'll post a link in this one too,
Speaker 1: so I'm going to just scroll down to the parts
Speaker 1: that's relevant here implications for high risk pregnancy. While the
Speaker 1: new study is based on studying mouse models, the co
Speaker 1: authors say a body of research already exists demonstrating the
Speaker 1: cellular cross talk observed in the mice that also happens
Speaker 1: in humans. One emerging theory that requires further study is
Speaker 1: that a woman's immune system may also remember bad pregnancy
Speaker 1: outcomes and much the same way it remembers good outcomes.
Speaker 1: The challenge will be to identify specifically what a mother's
Speaker 1: immune system retains from a pregnancy with a poor outcome.
Speaker 1: If we can isolate how those mechanisms differ from a
Speaker 1: healthy outcome, then we would have a target for developing
Speaker 1: improved treatments to improve outcomes. And high risk pregnancies. This
Speaker 1: also gets into vaccine research. The about the study here,
Speaker 1: it just gives all of the doctors. It gives a
Speaker 1: study information. It's on there. But this study basically says that,
Speaker 1: and this is from twenty twenty three. It's saying that
Speaker 1: scientists have known for decades that pregnancy requires a mother's
Speaker 1: body to adjust so that her immune system does not
Speaker 1: attack the growing fetus as if it were a hostile
Speaker 1: foreign invader. Yet, despite learning a great deal more about
Speaker 1: the immunology of pregnancy in recent years, a new study
Speaker 1: shows that cellular cross talk between a mother and her
Speaker 1: offspring is even more complex and long lasting than than
Speaker 1: expected by investigating how prior pregnancy changes the outcome of
Speaker 1: future pregnancies. This is why I copied the article because
Speaker 1: he's saying that they're imprinting on the woman and now
Speaker 1: they're primed to have babies with that person. That's not true,
Speaker 1: that that implies genetic imprinting. Knowing that a woman's body
Speaker 1: changes once she has a baby to recognize that the
Speaker 1: fetus is not a foreign hostile invader, It's a very
Speaker 1: different conversation than what's being stated in these videos. By
Speaker 1: investigating how prior pregnancy changes the outcome of future pregnancies, or,
Speaker 1: in other words, how mothers remember their babies. Our findings
Speaker 1: add a new dimension to our understanding of how pregnancy works.
Speaker 1: Nature has designed built in resiliency in mothers that generally
Speaker 1: reduce the risk of preterm birth, proclamsia, and still birth
Speaker 1: women who have had prior healthy pregnancies. If we can
Speaker 1: learn ways to mimic these strategies, we may be better
Speaker 1: able to prevent complications in high risk pregnancies and in addition,
Speaker 1: in addition to potentially making progress against the leading cause
Speaker 1: of infant mortality, Way says Way as a scientist, Way says,
Speaker 1: understanding how the immune system changes during pregnancy could influence
Speaker 1: other research fields, including vaccine development, autoimmunity research, and how
Speaker 1: to prevent organ transplant rejections. Gets into the way that
Speaker 1: moms remember their babies. You guys can read these articles
Speaker 1: if you want to. But there's nothing in here. I
Speaker 1: literally looked last night for over an hour. I found nothing.
Speaker 1: I did not find a single actual PubMed National Library
Speaker 1: of Health article, did not find anything that indicates that
Speaker 1: there is genetic imprinting. I did not see anything about
Speaker 1: priming a fetus because you have a baby with a man.
Speaker 1: I didn't see anything that confirmed that our DNA or
Speaker 1: a sperm somehow ends up in the woman's brain. This
Speaker 1: is a narrative that has been twisted, sounds good, and
Speaker 1: has been regurgitated so much that people take it for fact.
Speaker 1: This is mass manipulation, guys. This is because you don't
Speaker 1: do the fucking research. You guys, hear something that sounds
Speaker 1: good or it fits a narrative that you already believe,
Speaker 1: gives you more evidence to fire off at people, and
Speaker 1: you believe the shit. Do your fucking research. If you
Speaker 1: hear something that you are unsure of, go to Google,
Speaker 1: do the fucking research and find out if there's truth
Speaker 1: behind it. If you are repeating something that you have
Speaker 1: never researched, you you are you could be spreading misinformation,
Speaker 1: you could be You're a sheep. Where where is the research?
Speaker 1: Where's the I want to understand how this is happening.
Speaker 1: Where's the I'm gonna I'm gonna be factual so that
Speaker 1: in the event that this is question, I am able
Speaker 1: to give an answer because real shit. If I would
Speaker 1: have regurgitated that shit yesterday and did not do the research,
Speaker 1: and somebody tried to questioned me on it, I'd be like, well,
Speaker 1: I saw it on YouTube, saw it on TikTok, It's
Speaker 1: got to be true, right, Like somebody on TikTok said
Speaker 1: that shit he was wearing a suit had to be factual.
Speaker 1: Come on, guys, back to yesterday's video. I don't like
Speaker 1: the term ran through. That makes it sound like this
Speaker 1: this person had a one night's stand or is just
Speaker 1: out fucking a bunch of dudes. And you know, my
Speaker 1: wife has two kids from the same person. That's not
Speaker 1: being ran through. She was in a relationship for a
Speaker 1: really long time with this person. They were married. Like,
Speaker 1: that's not the same thing as just meeting a girl
Speaker 1: on the street that's you know, and finding out later
Speaker 1: that she's got six kids from four fucking dads. This
Speaker 1: is a different conversation. The problem is is with what
Speaker 1: he's saying, there's no context. He's providing the information which
Speaker 1: is telling the story that supports the narrative that he's
Speaker 1: trying to tell without the other context there. Because of
Speaker 1: the Internet, because of social media, because of content creators
Speaker 1: that speak the things that this man is speaking, we
Speaker 1: now have a very surface level understanding of things. We
Speaker 1: don't know if any of it's true because I've heard
Speaker 1: this over and over again and I haven't done the
Speaker 1: research to find out if it's real or not. But
Speaker 1: now that I've heard it so much, it must be true.
Speaker 1: So many people are talking about it, right, like that's
Speaker 1: the mindset of so many people. I saw something last
Speaker 1: night on Facebook that said that there was human like
Speaker 1: DNA found in an asteroid that was two billion years old,
Speaker 1: and like it looked like a science thing. There was
Speaker 1: like a link to an article. Well, when I clicked
Speaker 1: on the link, it took me to a fucking bullshit website.
Speaker 1: It wasn't actually a science article. So I went to
Speaker 1: Google and I started searching to find out if there's
Speaker 1: any truth to any of this, because I do believe
Speaker 1: that we're star seeds. There's nothing there proving that article
Speaker 1: to be true. Everything that I read is that it
Speaker 1: was false, that it was a misnomer. It was something
Speaker 1: that was created twenty years as a hoax. But it's
Speaker 1: now making that circulation again, and people are going to
Speaker 1: read that and go, well, look at that, it's a
Speaker 1: link to a science thing. It must be true, instead
Speaker 1: of actually going and reading the data we're doing the research.
Speaker 1: It's the same problem that we're having with the conversation
Speaker 1: that we're having right now. Guys, if I would have
Speaker 1: I almost didn't Peaches, and I almost didn't become anything
Speaker 1: more than a really good time. And that's the honesty
Speaker 1: of it. Like, there was a whole lot of conversations
Speaker 1: where I told her flat out in the very beginning
Speaker 1: when we first started dating, courting that like, I don't
Speaker 1: know if this is going to go anywhere, because I
Speaker 1: don't want to raise children again. I was at a
Speaker 1: point in my life where I was financially free to
Speaker 1: do whatever I wanted to do. I was semi retired,
Speaker 1: meaning I still worked when I felt like it. So
Speaker 1: like I could not work for eight or nine months
Speaker 1: at a time and be totally okay because of the
Speaker 1: mailbox money that I was making from my properties and
Speaker 1: my business, and if I wanted to travel to Tattoo,
Speaker 1: I could. Like I was at a point where I
Speaker 1: was able to do whatever the fuck I wanted. If
Speaker 1: I would have had this type of information shoved down
Speaker 1: my throat repeatedly, over and over and over again as
Speaker 1: a single man, that would have never gotten past the
Speaker 1: dating aspect for her and I, because I wouldn't have
Speaker 1: wanted to, like I would have what about my money, right,
Speaker 1: because that was super fucking important to me. Money is
Speaker 1: important to all of us, and anyone who's like money's
Speaker 1: not important, you're full of shit. You need money to
Speaker 1: live the life that you want to live, even if
Speaker 1: that means you were living.
Speaker 3: At the bottom of the barrel.
Speaker 1: You can't have fast food, you can't have real food,
Speaker 1: you can't have gas in your car, you can't fucking
Speaker 1: buy clothes. You have to have some sort of financial
Speaker 1: resources to be able to live any type of way.
Speaker 1: So you know there was no child support on her part.
Speaker 1: I you know, she was doing the daycare thing, and
Speaker 1: she was driving a shitty car. And here I am
Speaker 1: over here in a great, great off financial situation, and like,
Speaker 1: what kind of real return on investment am I getting
Speaker 1: by deciding to be with this woman. I had to
Speaker 1: put a whole lot of bullshit aside and like really
Speaker 1: decide that this is what I wanted. And we'll get
Speaker 1: into that in a little bit, but I want to
Speaker 1: get to this video.
Speaker 4: It's real deep.
Speaker 2: You should look into the research behind what happens when
Speaker 2: a woman gets pregnant, even the women who have abortions.
Speaker 2: By the way, now if the man her baby daddy
Speaker 2: is not dead, for when she has a connection and
Speaker 2: relationship with that man pretty much for the rest of her.
Speaker 3: It don't matter if he's in jail either.
Speaker 1: Guys, you think that because somebody's ex is in jail
Speaker 1: that they don't have something to do with him. That
Speaker 1: man is still going to be writing letters to the children.
Speaker 1: There's gonna be collect calls coming in during dinner time
Speaker 1: or whenever the fuck they feel like calling. There's gonna
Speaker 1: be a whole lot of things that go into that
Speaker 1: as well. And when that man gets out, you now
Speaker 1: have to worry whether or not that man still has
Speaker 1: her heart. And she's just out running the streets doing
Speaker 1: what she's doing because she's free while her man is not.
Speaker 1: And that's how I view that shit. Because there are
Speaker 1: a whole lot of men who are locked up. They
Speaker 1: get out and get right back with their exes. It
Speaker 1: destroys homes. That's a whole ass conversation in itself. But
Speaker 1: just because somebody's locked up doesn't mean that relationship's done.
Speaker 2: For even after the kids are grown, there's still a
Speaker 2: certain level of need and opportunity that they're going to
Speaker 2: have to have ongoing communications or events could come up
Speaker 2: that are going to force them to have to communicate.
Speaker 1: Right, So, and this is not just co parenting. This
Speaker 1: co parenting will only go so far. Eventually, the kids
Speaker 1: are going to decide where they want to live. They're
Speaker 1: going to have a lot more freedom and say, and
Speaker 1: that person may not be in the life anymore, right Like,
Speaker 1: they may not speak at all because the kids no
Speaker 1: longer have a financial responsibility, But you're still going to
Speaker 1: run into them at events. There's gonna be weddings, there's
Speaker 1: gonna be grand babies, there's going to be all kinds
Speaker 1: of things that both parents are going to either attend
Speaker 1: or someone's going to be the bad guy by not attending.
Speaker 3: And if there is.
Speaker 1: A tumultuous relationship and there is hostilities there, these events
Speaker 1: are going to be very difficult for everyone involved, especially
Speaker 1: the new men who is married or dating into this relationship,
Speaker 1: and it creates a whole lot of problems.
Speaker 2: Why would you want to actively, intentionally and willingly put
Speaker 2: yourself into a situation where you're basically sharing a woman
Speaker 2: with another.
Speaker 4: Man at some level you see, you.
Speaker 1: Guys think that's fair. I don't think that I share
Speaker 1: my wife with her ex husband, just like I don't
Speaker 1: think she shares me with my ex wife. This is
Speaker 1: one of those things that I know for a fact,
Speaker 1: if there were not kids involved, Peaches would never speak
Speaker 1: to that dude again. Ever, Like there's not a copesthetic situation,
Speaker 1: there is a whole lot of fucking animosity and hostility,
Speaker 1: and she is civil because it's the right thing to do.
Speaker 1: But when the kids are able to make their own
Speaker 1: decisions and we don't have to have those interactions, she
Speaker 1: will block him on everything and that will be the
Speaker 1: end of it. I know that there are people out
Speaker 1: there who are going to say that's naive, thinking that
Speaker 1: she won't do that. Why would she? Because I've been
Speaker 1: here for as long as I've been here, the kids
Speaker 1: were in diapers, right, So like I have been here
Speaker 1: for all of this, I know what's going on in
Speaker 1: that relationship, and there has been a lot of ugly
Speaker 1: and a lot of hostility, and some of it has
Speaker 1: made waves in our household, not in our marriage. In
Speaker 1: our household, there's a difference. But he's right in this aspect.
Speaker 1: Until those kids are of that age. You're not sharing
Speaker 1: your wife with this person, but this person is going
Speaker 1: to be there. So when this person creates drama, the
Speaker 1: great night that you were once having is now full
Speaker 1: of fucking hostility and there's frustration between both parties and
Speaker 1: you're trying to find your way back to an even balance.
Speaker 1: And that comes down to your wife or your girlfriend's
Speaker 1: inability to set boundaries and follow through. It also speaks
Speaker 1: to the other person thinking that they're more important than
Speaker 1: they are because not been boundary set, and they allow
Speaker 1: these things to continue happening. Ladies, if this is bothering you,
Speaker 1: please just let me get through this. I promise you.
Speaker 1: This is not me hating on women who have kids.
Speaker 4: A man and women come together, whether it's a marriage
Speaker 4: or not.
Speaker 2: Okay, whether it literally was a fleeing or a long
Speaker 2: term relationship that just didn't work out. When they have
Speaker 2: a child, they are a family. And I don't care
Speaker 2: what women say. A lot of women will say, oh,
Speaker 2: wasn't ish, it didn't work out, he didn't want to
Speaker 2: be in the kid's life.
Speaker 4: A lot to be black and blad.
Speaker 2: They can say whatever they can, They can demean the
Speaker 2: man however they want they can label the man however
Speaker 2: they want, but at the end of the day, they're
Speaker 2: a family at a biological level.
Speaker 3: It just is.
Speaker 2: There's no argument to be had. It really doesn't matter
Speaker 2: what the family court says. They're a family. So you
Speaker 2: are joining as the second male or possibly third male
Speaker 2: if you got more than one baby daddy, You're joining
Speaker 2: a family that's already been established.
Speaker 1: I disagreed with this really hard when I've listened to
Speaker 1: this this morning and I have since listened to this
Speaker 1: a couple more times, and he's not wrong in this either. Biologically,
Speaker 1: this is a family. You guys may not have, you know,
Speaker 1: given vows, but you are now connected through DNA with
Speaker 1: this child. That is a life that is unable of
Speaker 1: taking care of itself, and the two of them are
Speaker 1: responsible equally for making sure that this child is capable
Speaker 1: of surviving until it's an adult. I wanted to make
Speaker 1: an argument that that's not what family is. Just simply
Speaker 1: being in links with somebody because of another thing doesn't
Speaker 1: make family.
Speaker 3: Family is a choice.
Speaker 1: It's the way that we have loyalty and respect towards
Speaker 1: each other biologically, which is what he said. He's not
Speaker 1: fucking lying like that's factual.
Speaker 2: And adding yourself as an add on to that, you
Speaker 2: have to have an incredibly slow sense of self esteem
Speaker 2: and self worth to do.
Speaker 1: And this is where I start to have problems. I
Speaker 1: have very high self esteem. I know the worth that
Speaker 1: I bring to the world. Don't get me wrong, there
Speaker 1: are still days where I doubt myself. I think we
Speaker 1: all have those moments where we have imposter syndrome where
Speaker 1: we feel a certain type of way about what it
Speaker 1: is that we're doing. But the idea that I am
Speaker 1: willing to be with my wife, even though she has
Speaker 1: two kids from a single person before I got to
Speaker 1: meet her, that that somehow negates my self worth. I
Speaker 1: know what I have in my wife. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: that all the women out there who have kids are
Speaker 1: of the caliber of my wife. I see the videos
Speaker 1: of you guys on the internet with nine fucking kids
Speaker 1: talking about how you've got all these different baby daddies
Speaker 1: and how they ain't shit. The problem is you won't
Speaker 1: keep your fucking legs closed. And you can blame everyone
Speaker 1: else for the fact that you keep getting pregnant, but
Speaker 1: the common denominator and all of your decisions as you
Speaker 1: my wife does not have those type of decisions. And
Speaker 1: if I listen to content like this, and I just
Speaker 1: believed all of that this amazing fucking life that I
Speaker 1: have with my wife would not exist. I have again,
Speaker 1: I have stated that this is the type of content
Speaker 1: that is starting to come up in my tiktoks and
Speaker 1: my YouTube, and it's starting to become to become such
Speaker 1: a frequent thing that I can see how this is
Speaker 1: going to create division and it's going to push people
Speaker 1: away from each other. I already don't care for her ex.
Speaker 1: I did a lot in the beginning of our relationship
Speaker 1: to be civil. We did holidays together. I tried to
Speaker 1: buy them a car like I did a lot trying
Speaker 1: to make sure that the co parenting situation for the
Speaker 1: children was as a mutually beneficial in both households as possible.
Speaker 1: On the ROI aspect, I lost a lot of fucking
Speaker 1: money doing it. Now I have resources that in losing
Speaker 1: that it didn't affect my livelihood. And if you are
Speaker 1: a high value man who's got a decent amount of
Speaker 1: income and good money coming in, I don't understand how
Speaker 1: taking on this extra small little bill every year, because
Speaker 1: you think about your yearly income and how much you
Speaker 1: have to put out for a kid or two. If
Speaker 1: that's what you're choosing to do. If it breaks you
Speaker 1: and you are not financially capable of doing that, then
Speaker 1: there's a bigger discussion that needs to be had. Because
Speaker 1: you haven't built the empire that you are allowing yourself
Speaker 1: to believe. You've got a whole lot of ego that
Speaker 1: needs to be checked.
Speaker 2: Here's why I say that I've been coaching for around
Speaker 2: five plus years. Okay, but I've been in the game,
Speaker 2: and I've been around this industry of success and dating
Speaker 2: relationships for ten years.
Speaker 1: How are you You're going to be talking about success
Speaker 1: and dating in relationships and not have a ring on
Speaker 1: your finger. I don't want to hear shit from anybody.
Speaker 1: That's not where I want to be. If I want
Speaker 1: to have a successful marriage, I want to hear advice
Speaker 1: from people who have successful marriages, not from people who
Speaker 1: have been divorced fifteen times and fucking beats on their
Speaker 1: person and lies and steals and cheats and thirst traps
Speaker 1: and fucking does all the things that they're trying to do. So, like,
Speaker 1: how are you coaching on all of these things and
Speaker 1: you're not married yourself. Maybe he is and just doesn't
Speaker 1: wear a ring. I have no idea who this person is.
Speaker 1: Somebody else reacted to this video and I had to
Speaker 1: go find it.
Speaker 2: I have often we do journals, so like, for example,
Speaker 2: in my program, when I bring a new student in,
Speaker 2: I give them a journal, three journals.
Speaker 4: My ideal self and value is.
Speaker 2: A man, my ideal woman, my ideal lifestyle in relation
Speaker 2: to your romantic life. I have never once seen a
Speaker 2: man write out the journal my ideal woman and have
Speaker 2: any description in that journal that yeah, I'm looking for
Speaker 2: a woman who's already had children by another man.
Speaker 4: I've never seen it.
Speaker 2: So whenever I see a man who's choosing today to
Speaker 2: single mother, I know for a fact he's making that
Speaker 2: decision out of a scarcity of options.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this and I'm not. I don't think that.
Speaker 1: I'm like I think on average like a five or
Speaker 1: six when it comes to my number. But I'm a
Speaker 1: tattoo artist. I have I haven't had good financial success
Speaker 1: in my life. I own my own house, I own
Speaker 1: my own cars, I had multiple properties when it came
Speaker 1: to real estate. When before Hurricanean I had I could
Speaker 1: have had a whole lot of options. It would have
Speaker 1: been very easy for me to as a tattoo artist
Speaker 1: to find a whole lot of women, So it's not
Speaker 1: a scarcity thing. At some point in your life, you
Speaker 1: have to determine if the person that you're talking to
Speaker 1: is going to be compatible with you, and ultimately that's
Speaker 1: going to matter more than their body count. It's going
Speaker 1: to matter more than their past decisions, and that is
Speaker 1: going to speak on your security. This whole you know,
Speaker 1: scarcity mindset and you know, lack of self worth and
Speaker 1: your insecure and all this shit that he's been talking about.
Speaker 1: I think the opposite is more accurate. If you are
Speaker 1: too insecure to dat a woman who has kids, if
Speaker 1: you are so insecure that you're worried about her BodyCount
Speaker 1: because you're afraid that there's other men out there that
Speaker 1: could fuck better than you, then maybe you need to
Speaker 1: step your game up. Bring some toys into the bedroom,
Speaker 1: watch some how to videos like buy buy some books.
Speaker 1: There's some things that you could do to step your
Speaker 1: game up, be a little more enthusiastic in the bed,
Speaker 1: focus on her, not on you. Right, Like, there's a
Speaker 1: whole lot of things that you could be doing that
Speaker 1: an aspect, and that would fix your insecurities. I'm not
Speaker 1: worried about a BodyCount, and she's got a little BodyCount anyways.
Speaker 3: But I'm not. That's not something that I've ever worried about.
Speaker 1: I mean, when I was like a teenager, I'm worried
Speaker 1: about that shit, because that's little boys worry about that
Speaker 1: kind of shit. I'm not worried about her kids in
Speaker 1: the aspect of the fact that she has kids, or
Speaker 1: the DNA thing that he was talking about, or any
Speaker 1: of that shit. I was worried about giving up my
Speaker 1: retirement age. I'm in my prime years, as he said,
Speaker 1: I was getting ready to start traveling the world and
Speaker 1: doing all the shit that I want to do. And
Speaker 1: taking on two new kids meant that I had sixteen
Speaker 1: and seventeen years of my life that I now had
Speaker 1: to give up to do the things because she had children.
Speaker 1: I could have given that up. I could have just
Speaker 1: been like, look, this isn't what I want. I want
Speaker 1: to travel and do this thing, and I would have
Speaker 1: missed out on all of the love and the compassion
Speaker 1: and the joy that I have in my marriage.
Speaker 3: You guys understand where I'm getting.
Speaker 1: Out with this shit like you can't listen to somebody
Speaker 1: on the internet tell you about your relationship.
Speaker 3: Even us.
Speaker 1: We've told you guys over and over and over again
Speaker 1: that we get a pinprick of a view. You guys,
Speaker 1: look through the fucking doorhole to see what's going on
Speaker 1: in your hallway.
Speaker 3: You have a very limited view. That's what we get.
Speaker 1: So when we give you, guys information on the podcast,
Speaker 1: we're only giving you information about what you sent us.
Speaker 1: We have no fucking idea what's going on in your life.
Speaker 1: These people that speak in broad generalities and try to
Speaker 1: tell you things, they wrap up their message inside of
Speaker 1: language that makes it so that you can't argue it.
Speaker 1: He's right that there is no ROI for a man
Speaker 1: that is deciding to raise two children that is not his.
Speaker 1: That is factual. There's nothing that anyone can say or
Speaker 1: do that's going to prove that.
Speaker 3: Differently.
Speaker 1: You were going to invest money into two or three
Speaker 1: or five, or however in many other human beings, and
Speaker 1: you are not going to get anything from that, and
Speaker 1: maybe not even gratitude. That's fucking factual. The language is
Speaker 1: what makes that factual. The family conversation, I wanted to
Speaker 1: argue that point, he said the word biologically, it removes
Speaker 1: your ability to make an argument against that stance. So
Speaker 1: for people who are listening, whether they're mentally receptive enough
Speaker 1: to understand what he's saying, subconsciously, their brain is picking
Speaker 1: up what he's putting down and they're developing ideas based
Speaker 1: around it. You hear ROI, you think it's not worth it,
Speaker 1: I hear ROI, I think risk assessment. I have to
Speaker 1: determine if the investment that I'm making right now is
Speaker 1: going to be worth it long run, if I can
Speaker 1: afford to lose this money. That's what happens when you
Speaker 1: go on vacation. You're buying time and memories and things
Speaker 1: of that nature. If I love my wife and want
Speaker 1: to be able to vacation with her, and I have
Speaker 1: to take these two kids along, and the kids are
Speaker 1: good and behaved kids because I'm help raising them, I'm
Speaker 1: just helping that along the line. So like, is there
Speaker 1: an ROI to be had there? It's a lot.
Speaker 2: And what they'll do is they'll always rationalize it and
Speaker 2: justify it and try to make it seem like they're
Speaker 2: doing something honorable, Like they found a woman who really
Speaker 2: was a good woman, but she was with a bad
Speaker 2: guy and he didn't treat her right, or he left,
Speaker 2: and he's stepping in the equation with his cape flapping
Speaker 2: in the wind, and he's going to save the day
Speaker 2: and be the man the night in shining Army.
Speaker 1: I didn't want any of that. I didn't want to
Speaker 1: be the night and shining Armor. I didn't want anything
Speaker 1: to do with any of this. When we first started
Speaker 1: dating and decided that we were going to try to
Speaker 1: make a run at this, knowing she had kids, I
Speaker 1: told her I wasn't going to discipline. I wasn't going
Speaker 1: to get involved in any of this shit. Like they're
Speaker 1: her kids. If there's something going on and I have
Speaker 1: a problem, I'm gonna talk to her and she's gonna
Speaker 1: deal with it. I had a very different understanding of
Speaker 1: who her ex was at that time. I thought he
Speaker 1: was very present in the kids' lives and doing the
Speaker 1: dad thing, and like there was a whole lot of
Speaker 1: a different narrative that was being had in that moment.
Speaker 1: None of this for me was stepping in and playing superhero.
Speaker 1: I know the relationship that she had with him. He
Speaker 1: was abusive as fuck and manipulative, and there was a
Speaker 1: whole lot of things that went on there. And this
Speaker 1: isn't hypothetical or her bashing him. This is what I've
Speaker 1: seen with my own eyes in the beginning. I didn't
Speaker 1: see that. In the beginning. I saw a woman that
Speaker 1: I wanted to be with that happened to have two
Speaker 1: fucking kids. And yes, that was a major inconvenience for
Speaker 1: me at the time. I've grown to love those kids
Speaker 1: as if they're my own. There's a he's talking about
Speaker 1: it being an honorable thing. It is an honorable thing.
Speaker 1: We need more mentors. This guy makes his money coaching
Speaker 1: men who don't have fathers in their lives to teach
Speaker 1: them how to be men. So if there were more
Speaker 1: men out there being mentors, raising children and being present
Speaker 1: in their children's lives, he'd be out of a fucking job,
Speaker 1: so would we, right, So, Like, the difference is is
Speaker 1: we're doing free podcast shit. We're trying to fucking create
Speaker 1: environments where people succeed. It's not about taking money from
Speaker 1: you guys. Don't get me wrong. This is a business
Speaker 1: and we need to make money to continue doing it.
Speaker 1: We do our podcasts for free. We don't run advertisers
Speaker 1: on our show. We do have ads that pop up
Speaker 1: on Spotify and shit, but we don't see none of
Speaker 1: that money we get paid for our downloads.
Speaker 2: Farmer who she should have ended up with the first time.
Speaker 2: It sounds good, it makes you feel better about your decision.
Speaker 1: It don't make me feel at all. Justify it don't
Speaker 1: make me feel good at all. Why would it make
Speaker 1: me feel good knowing that these kids are as strange
Speaker 1: with their dad, or that there's children out there who's
Speaker 1: fought treated their mother as a cum dumpster and just
Speaker 1: fucking went along with their life and that's the end
Speaker 1: of that shit. They're they're no longer present in the
Speaker 1: child's life. Why would that make me feel good? Knowing
Speaker 1: that I'm stepping up and creating change to be with
Speaker 1: their mother? Is not about being a superhero. Just this
Speaker 1: kind of talk aggravates the fuck out of me. And
Speaker 1: I can understand why this narrative is so popular because
Speaker 1: of the amount of hurt that's out there and the
Speaker 1: way that men view this. You hear enough of this
Speaker 1: as a single young man, and I can one hundred
Speaker 1: percent understand why men are removing themselves from the dating pool.
Speaker 1: They're saying that more than sixty percent of men under
Speaker 1: the age of thirty have just given up. They're not
Speaker 1: even fucking trying anymore. And the ones who are trying
Speaker 1: are going to run into women who have been with
Speaker 1: multiple partners, who have had kids, who have been divorced.
Speaker 1: Because the dating pool has become that green sludge on
Speaker 1: the bottom of a pool that ain't been clean in
Speaker 1: five years.
Speaker 2: Frames hurt and picture in which she does it, she
Speaker 2: seems more like a victim than the culprit of poor decision.
Speaker 1: No, my wife being a victim. My wife made a
Speaker 1: lot of bad decisions in her younger years, and even
Speaker 1: with her bad decisions, she doesn't regret her children right, like,
Speaker 1: would she have done things differently if she had different
Speaker 1: knowledge growing up in the situation she was in? Absolutely
Speaker 1: I believe that. But she's not a victim. She made choices,
Speaker 1: she's accepted those choices, and she's living a dope fucking
Speaker 1: life now. And real shit, she'd have been doing this
Speaker 1: with or without me. I may have been able to
Speaker 1: give her a leg up in the world because of
Speaker 1: where I was when we met, but she was already
Speaker 1: doing the things. She was already managing businesses in her
Speaker 1: mid twenties, and like she was on her way to
Speaker 1: becoming a tattoo artist. That could you know, because of
Speaker 1: her her bubbly personality and her ability, could have been
Speaker 1: pulling six figures a year. She would she was on
Speaker 1: her way to doing her damn things. She'd have been
Speaker 1: successful with her without me.
Speaker 2: But make no mistake about it, both the man and
Speaker 2: the woman are to be blamed.
Speaker 4: Any time you have a broken house.
Speaker 2: I agree it is very very rare that one person
Speaker 2: is at fault for the failure of a relationship, especially
Speaker 2: when a child was involved.
Speaker 1: See so now he's coming back to the vernacular, the
Speaker 1: articulation of his point in a way that cannot be argued.
Speaker 4: How could you be more motivated to stay in a situation?
Speaker 3: Guys?
Speaker 1: This is how you get manipulated. This is how manipulation happens.
Speaker 1: People wrap up. It's like a pig in a blanket.
Speaker 1: The thing that they want you to believe is the pig.
Speaker 1: The blanket is the truth that's wrapped around. It's like
Speaker 1: giving a dog a medicine and a thing of cheese
Speaker 1: or one of those little fucking pocket treats.
Speaker 4: With somebody and work through things.
Speaker 2: When there's a child involved, Like, what greater motivation could
Speaker 2: there possibly be, Like you would have to be to
Speaker 2: the point where you don't even care.
Speaker 4: About the child's well being.
Speaker 1: So here we go now, now I don't I gotta
Speaker 1: be honest. I stopped before we got to this point.
Speaker 1: So anything beyond this, I don't know what he's gonna say.
Speaker 1: This is one of those situations where if there's actually
Speaker 1: abuse happening, physical manipulation, whatever the case may be, psychological
Speaker 1: abuse happening, and a child is growing up in the home,
Speaker 1: that child's going to get it too.
Speaker 3: It doesn't just stop with the mom.
Speaker 1: So are you saying that women who are in physically, spiritually,
Speaker 1: emotionally abusive situation shouldn't fucking get out, that they should
Speaker 1: stay for the sake of the child, because that child's
Speaker 1: going to get abused because of it.
Speaker 3: I did if.
Speaker 2: Not being able to get along with this person was
Speaker 2: sincerely enough motivation for you to just ditch the family
Speaker 2: household and force the child to be bouncing back and
Speaker 2: forth between two households and then having the fighting and
Speaker 2: the lack of cooperation that typically happens. I mean, you're
Speaker 2: really dealing with two dysfunctional people. More than likely write
Speaker 2: anytime that you see a broken household, and you know
Speaker 2: minuners of blame too.
Speaker 4: But we're talking about.
Speaker 3: Now truth again.
Speaker 2: What I would encourage men to do if you find
Speaker 2: yourself dating a single mother is you need.
Speaker 4: To learn the game. A lot of men who end
Speaker 4: up dating.
Speaker 2: Single mamas will often repeat this trope, well, where are all.
Speaker 4: The women who are over the age of twenty five
Speaker 4: that don't have kids?
Speaker 2: Well, where are all the women that are single that
Speaker 2: have their stuff together, that are still looking to date?
Speaker 4: You just don't get out and meet enough women. That's
Speaker 4: all that.
Speaker 2: That means, you don't go out and proactively take control
Speaker 2: of your dating relationship and romantic life, and you don't
Speaker 2: meet any women. You're going on the dating apps, you're
Speaker 2: going into places where it's easy.
Speaker 4: And let me explain what I mean by easy.
Speaker 1: Right, If you're a high value person, I hate that
Speaker 1: fucking term so much, that's a way for you to
Speaker 1: mentally masturbate guys. But if you're a high value person
Speaker 1: and you think that you're some hot shit and you
Speaker 1: are struggling to meet people because you're afraid to go
Speaker 1: out and approach somebody, and you're only rely on dating apps,
Speaker 1: or you're too busy, or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're not high value, maybe you're just busy. Maybe
Speaker 1: you are finding reasons to just begintting through your life
Speaker 1: instead of actually trying to enjoy yourself. This goes to
Speaker 1: the self confidence thing that he was talking about earlier.
Speaker 1: If you are a high value person and you've got
Speaker 1: your shit together and you fucking know it, you're gonna
Speaker 1: conduct yourself differently when you talk to a woman. There's
Speaker 1: not gonna be this fucking weird like blowing up their phone,
Speaker 1: chasing them, playing the fucking games and doing all of
Speaker 1: that shit, because you know what you bring to the table.
Speaker 1: And like, this was the situation with her and I
Speaker 1: there was. I tested the fuck out of her. I
Speaker 1: had a lot to lose in our relationship if this
Speaker 1: didn't work out, Like and I'm not proud of it,
Speaker 1: but I gotta be honest, I wouldn't have done it
Speaker 1: any differently, knowing what I know now. Do I feel
Speaker 1: guilty or like wrong that I tested her the way
Speaker 1: that I did? Sure, But she passed all those tests
Speaker 1: and I got this sense of safety and security that
Speaker 1: I needed to move forward with a woman who had
Speaker 1: two kids and we've built this fucking life together. If
Speaker 1: back to what I was saying, if you are somebody
Speaker 1: that thinks you're high value, and you think that you
Speaker 1: are some hot shit and you bring something to the world,
Speaker 1: your confidence is going to say a whole lot, and
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be needy just looking for the easy
Speaker 1: way out, because you're going to be used to rejection.
Speaker 1: And I mean that in terms of business, you're gonna
Speaker 1: be used to failing. You're gonna be used to learning lessons.
Speaker 1: There's gonna be a different charisma about you and the
Speaker 1: way that you carry yourself because you know what you're
Speaker 1: capable of. And that's where the whole thing with Tupac said,
Speaker 1: if you got to tease me because I don't want it,
Speaker 1: if it's that easy, like that's the truth of it.
Speaker 1: Like at that point we look at you, guys, very
Speaker 1: differently than when you conduct yourself as a person of value. Men,
Speaker 1: men who are used to a competitive environment. When things
Speaker 1: come too easy to us, it's fucking boring, Like there's
Speaker 1: no excitement to be had there. Where's the chase, where's
Speaker 1: the negotiations, where's the thrill of.
Speaker 3: Closing?
Speaker 1: The deal for a lack of a better term, Like,
Speaker 1: there's a lot that goes into that. Psychologically, there's a
Speaker 1: lot of like wanting to win that goes into that.
Speaker 1: And that's a very different conversation that I really don't
Speaker 1: want to get into because some of that's toxic as
Speaker 1: fuck as well. But like, to his point, if they're
Speaker 1: only looking for easy, is this really the market that
Speaker 1: you're talking to, Like he's talking about having high value
Speaker 1: men and like your ROI and your biological family, and
Speaker 1: he's using all these terms that indicate that he's dealing
Speaker 1: with men who are who are fucking earners and closers
Speaker 1: and like salesman's and shit. So like, if that's the case,
Speaker 1: why are they having a hard time talking to women
Speaker 1: unless they're easy? This is the verbiage guys, Like the
Speaker 1: people that are going to be listening to this video
Speaker 1: because they're going to be relating to him, and they're
Speaker 1: hurt and they're living their life through a hurt lens
Speaker 1: because they've probably been rejected even by women who have kids,
Speaker 1: and now well you know they're easy, and now they're
Speaker 1: changing the narrative in their mind and it's creating division A.
Speaker 4: Lot of men.
Speaker 2: If you're ending up with a dating pool of options
Speaker 2: that are like single moms and just women who don't
Speaker 2: have their stuff together, what that means is that you're
Speaker 2: not taking enough action to get the result that you
Speaker 2: want in your dady life. So you're ending up with
Speaker 2: women who are in desperate situations. And make no mistake
Speaker 2: about it, a single mother is in a desperate situation.
Speaker 2: She already knows that by being a single mother, her
Speaker 2: value is lower in the majority.
Speaker 4: Like damn near all men's eyes.
Speaker 1: He's not wrong in this. I know y'all don't want
Speaker 1: to hear that shit. I know you don't want to
Speaker 1: hear it. But when men are thinking about starting a family,
Speaker 1: they're not thinking of starting a family with somebody who
Speaker 1: already has a family. We have the idea in our
Speaker 1: head that we're going to meet the girl and it's
Speaker 1: going to be the perfect relationship, and one day they're
Speaker 1: going to have our kids and we're going to have
Speaker 1: the perfect family and the white picket fence and all
Speaker 1: that shit. Men dream about that shit. It may not
Speaker 1: be to the same level that women do with the
Speaker 1: marriage and all of that, but we do have an
Speaker 1: expectation of what these things are going to be so again,
Speaker 1: he's now wrapped up his opinion in this nonsense inside
Speaker 1: of some truth nuggets. We have two and a half
Speaker 1: minutes left to this someone to let it play.
Speaker 2: She's already been knocked up by an other man. She
Speaker 2: already has the baggage from the relationship. Like I already said,
Speaker 2: she's already been You know that body count's already probably high.
Speaker 4: If she's a single mom.
Speaker 2: Now, a woman in that position, what she's gonna be
Speaker 2: willing to do that other women are not gonna be
Speaker 2: willing to do.
Speaker 3: I lied, I have to. He brought the fucking body
Speaker 3: count thing. I know.
Speaker 1: I know that there are men out there who absolutely
Speaker 1: do not want to have a woman who's been with
Speaker 1: more than like ten people. If if men, if you
Speaker 1: want women to have low body counts, you need to
Speaker 1: stop runn around trying to stick your dick and everything
Speaker 1: that breathes. That's just all there is to that shit.
Speaker 1: They have the body count they do because of the
Speaker 1: other half of the equation. Ladies, you are not going
Speaker 1: to lock a man down because you open your legs.
Speaker 1: There needs to be time. You guys need to learn
Speaker 1: each other. There's a whole lot of things that need
Speaker 1: to be established before you run around and start fucking
Speaker 1: because now you're gonna have a kid with somebody you
Speaker 1: don't know, or you're gonna get pregnant and have to
Speaker 1: abort it if that's what you're gonna do, And that
Speaker 1: leads into a whole other different discussion, right, and like
Speaker 1: is this really what you want? Do you want to
Speaker 1: be response for another man? Uh, you know, another man's
Speaker 1: child for the rest of your life as a woman,
Speaker 1: Like you are going to raise this kid on your
Speaker 1: own and and it's very likely that that's going to
Speaker 1: be the case when you look at single single mother
Speaker 1: households versus single father households. They're saying that studies say
Speaker 1: that after two years, most men aren't present in their
Speaker 1: children's lives at all. They start making excuses, they're not
Speaker 1: coming over anymore. There's a whole lot of things that
Speaker 1: just doesn't fucking happen anymore. So, like, what what's what's
Speaker 1: that look.
Speaker 3: Like for you?
Speaker 1: Do you do you think that because you got somebody
Speaker 1: got you knocked up, that you're gonna have this baby
Speaker 1: and that's gonna somehow fix the relationship problems. And they're
Speaker 1: never going to leave you because there's a kid there. Now,
Speaker 1: do you know anybody that that's actually the case. It's
Speaker 1: just not this body count thing. Maybe this is a
Speaker 1: me thing. Maybe maybe it might just be me. I
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck unless you're like Bonnie Blue, that's
Speaker 1: fucking a thousand dudes in a day, or you know
Speaker 1: it's ridiculously high. That shit doesn't phaze me. I'm I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna say that. I was gonna say something really
Speaker 1: inappropriate sexual. I'm gonna just move past that. Maybe there's
Speaker 1: a whole lot of confidence in me behind closed doors
Speaker 1: that I don't have to worry about that kind of shit.
Speaker 3: I'm move on.
Speaker 1: Actually, you know what, I'm done with this because I'm
Speaker 1: starting to get annoyed. Guys, thank you for hanging out.
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Speaker 1: I recorded this in front of thirty forty people throughout
Speaker 1: the entire thing, and that's pretty nice for a Saturday.
Speaker 1: It's been a nice little chat. We're doing a thing.
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