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Speaker 1: That's impossible. Let me tell you what I believe. It's

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your weakness, it's not your technique. Don't think you know.

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Speaker 2: The Impossible Life Podcast and yes, sitting on a winning lottery.

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Speaker 1: Second, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks.

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Speaker 3: This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I

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are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is

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that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as

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an excuse to not try, we'll use the pursuit of

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impossible as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been

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done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they tell

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you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified.

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Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling

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to take a risk. The real truth is this. The

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solution to any impossible task starts with this question, if

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I had to, what would it take? What would it take?

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Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm

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your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across at

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a man who is actually one hundred and fifty of himself.

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That's right, friends, Garrett Ackback, a man whose very presence

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multiplies those around him.

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Speaker 1: Look that you defy the laws of math by your

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very presence.

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Speaker 3: You can't you can't break the rules of math, but

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you can bend them well. And we talk about through

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like alignment is one of those things that we talked

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about is a multiplier versus edition. And relationships in your

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life are not meant to be a burden. They're not

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meant to just be a plus one for you, but

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they're meant to be a times two times three times

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two for Youationship should be multipliers. And so thank you

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for that compliment, because I want to be a multiplier

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to the people that I'm in their life.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I do want people to capture that. By

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the way, you know, I'm going through the thirty Day

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Discipline challenge. My wife was shocked to find that I

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did not do the challenge that when we were writing it.

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Speaker 1: So she's like, it's your first time through.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, it's my first time going through the actual

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challenge in this form. The one we wrote previously was

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much harder, and this one, I will say, this one

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is still challenging, especially if you do it with a

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group of men like I'm doing it, and you of

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course compete with each other and push each other way further.

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But you said something because I'm getting to listen to

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all our old podcasts and really get to appreciate them

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more as because you know, I've forgotten a lot of

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the ones that we've done. And you said something on

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there about your thoughts are either division or multiplication, and

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is so true. So catch what I just said about Garrett.

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It was a compliment, but it was also a lesson

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for all of us. I mean, when you're going into something,

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is the way you think is the way you act,

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multiplying the situation and making it greater? Are you one

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of these people that comes in and divides? Be a

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whole lesson itself. Unfortunately, we have plenty of podcasts to

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talk about.

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Speaker 3: You know, my dad, my dad give me this one

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all the time when I was young. I don't hear

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him say it as much anymore, but he said this

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a lot when I was young. He say, Son, there's

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two types of people. You're the type of person that

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when you enter a room, everyone says, yay, Garrett's here.

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the room, everybody says, ah, crap, Garrett's here. Yeah, you

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are either and it's your thoughts. Those thoughts become who

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you are, become your attitude, and then in every room

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you're either division or your multiplication. And so today we're

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going to talk about not just how you become that way,

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but what are some of the specific relationships in your

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life where you need to have these relationships and be

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a multiplier in these relationships.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, these are three relationships that are absolute must for

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any person to continue to grow, mature and like advance

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the kingdom. Like these are must for kingdom advancement. So

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this is the concept of the three, which in our

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parts is i would say somewhat well known, but not

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but it's if it needs to be something that you

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truly live, that you do and because it's it's it's

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Mighty Men path, which is fun to be talking about

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it on the podcast today. But this is for every

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person out there. You need to have these relationships in

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your life. One of the uh you know core Man

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masculinity scriptures, which honestly, if you were like your typical

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male and I'm not knocking anyone else's podcast, but your

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typic male masculinity podcast probably uses this scripture way more

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than we do because it's an incredible it's an incredible scripture.

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I think we just touch on other things. But Proverbs

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twenty seven to seventeen, as iron sharpens iron, so one

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man sharpens in. That's what we're called to do. Right,

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life that don't make you better. I want to be

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someone who makes other people better. And that's who I

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want in my life. Nick knows this. If you're not

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if you don't like sharpen me, strengthen me. I'm not

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mean about it, I just become unavailable. I want to

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be my best. I want to be my best for God.

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I want to become everything God's created me to be.

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do that unless I seek out to have great people

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around me. And that's why, you know, one of the

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first things I did coming out of the Navy, I

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didn't say, like, I got it all figured out. Now,

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time to go do my own thing. One of the

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first decisions I made coming out of the Navy wasn't

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you know it's just a big transition. I'm coming back home.

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of the first things I said was where are the

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other men at I need to go get with a

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men's group. And that's where I just joined a few

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guys at a barbecue joint who are reading books. And

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I said, is this where the men are gathering? I

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need to be around other strong men.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And that's so crucial man, just to have that understanding.

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they need other people. But the very fabric of your

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design is that it's not good for men to be alone.

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you said, relationships are how we're supposed to grow, right.

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with the disciples grew and it became warmer, and how

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they grew and developed and changed. When you look at

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like the course of their three years together, well and.

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what was normal was that Jesus was with people. There

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was a special there were special times where Jesus went

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away to be alone, right. Every other time he was

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with people, right. And that's what the majority of our

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life is. The majority of our life is. We're meant

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to be with people. One of the first things God

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said to Adam, it's not good that you're alone. Right,

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have some of these horror relationships. So let's just jump

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into it, Nick, what are some of the key relationships.

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a Barnabas, and you have a Timothy. And we're going

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to break down what each of those people are, how

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to identify them and if you can't find one, the

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potential problems that you're tackling. So very first, one with Paul,

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this is someone who mentors you. This is a father

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in the faith. And one Corinthians four fifteen is where

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you see Paul talking about this, and keep in mind

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he's talking to an immature church in Corinthians where they

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were doing all sorts of stuff and getting it wrong.

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ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers.

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probably spend a lot of time just diving between the

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difference between a guardian and a father.

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Speaker 2: But really the point is that you have somebody that's

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kind of bringing you along, right, they're giving you guidance.

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going to talk about today, they're all challenging in their

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own way, and we're gonna we're going to touch some

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of those pieces. A poll for I think for most people,

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it's not a challenge to think that they should have

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a poll in their life. It's a mentor, right, yeah,

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we need, we need And that's and that's what the

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scripture that Nick Road Nick read. Paul said, we have

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many teachers, but few fathers. Right, fathers are more than instructors.

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They're meant to correct us, to guide us, to love

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us even right, that's not And we have another great podcast,

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another great episode that talks about the difference between mentors

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and teachers. Who you can learn from and who who

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you should follow. There's a lot of people you can

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little bit about real estate. That doesn't mean you you

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replicate your life after his. But a pall is someone

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who loves you, who speaks into you, who guides you.

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like I don't need that, right right? I think I

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one and who is who is going to be a

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pall to me? If you're really blessed, you'll get a

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pall that labors with you, not just spiritually, but in

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your daily walk, in your daily life. It's like, if

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you're a real estate guy, you'd be very blessed if

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you had someone who is a spiritual pall to you

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and is also in real estate with you. Right, someone

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who's like a life mentor to you and a spiritual

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mentor to you. That'd be a huge blessing that that's

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the rarity. Okay, don't have that expectation. What you need

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is it like you could go get mentors in your business. Excellent,

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you has some business acumen, wonderful. But what you primarily

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run a business in their life, and that's totally okay,

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but they can be a spiritual Pall to you who's

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correcting you, someone who's guiding you. And if someone's a

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spiritual Paul in your life, they've got some wisdom. You

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can talk to them about whatever. And they're not going

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to talk to you from like, well, here's my specific

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experience with that. They're going to talk to you from

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the standpoint of here's what the Word of God says,

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follow me as I follow Christ. Right, And when Paul

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says this, follow me as I follow Christ, Paul's also

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saying like, hey, I'm out here. Paul's labor was I'm

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going to deliver the gospel to as many people as possible.

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I want to be like this person. Maybe I don't

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necessarily want the same job that they had, right, but

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I want to be like this person. I want to

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live the way that they do. I want to think

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the way that they do. That's a primary for me.

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a Paul is how does this person think?

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all that. It's episode one forty five. So if if

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you're lacking any of these relationships, really go listen to that.

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you said that it's somebody who's a spiritual mentor only

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follow me as I follow Christ. And that was very

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very much Timothy where he like where he was he

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in the work of him, but they did not share

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the same trade. What's so interesting is in Corinthians, Priscilla

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and Aquila were fellow or Quila, however, you say that

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they were fellow tent makers with Paul, which is exactly

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what you're saying. It could be someone that has the

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same professionals that's going like, hey, here's how you here's

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how you walk this through godly. I thought it was

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so interesting when we were with John Leavere and he

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was talking about how he would do church if he

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was pastoring a church, and he mentioned how he would find,

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as he referred to them, giants in each of their areas,

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and he would then give them their heart because he

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knew if they could go out and influence. In this case,

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he used the example of like the education industry, because

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he had someone that was an example of this. If

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they could have his heart and be excellent what they did,

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they could reach tons of people with the gospel and

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then have those people become disciples in that industry. So

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I think that you can sleep on this and make

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Paul only somebody that's like, oh, they have to be

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at my church and they have to be a minister

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and they have to be No. This can this can

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be somebody who's in your arena, whatever that may be,

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and is running after Jesus whole. Hardly that can bring

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you and say hey, here's how you do this the

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Kingdom way. So if you're if you're finding like, gee,

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what would you say to somebody if they're like, oh, man,

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I can't there's no mentors for me.

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Speaker 1: Man I've tried this.

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Speaker 3: Nothing for me. I think that's the challenge for many

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around this one. Not that they need one, but people say, well,

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I can't. I don't have a mentor in my church.

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I don't have a mentor my business or whatever. I

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would tell you one. You need to get into right

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to get into the right groups. If you're not a

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part of a tribe, you're not going to find anybody

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to mentor. Our mentor is not going to come to

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your house and say, you know, hey, God sent me

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to come be your leader. It's just not going to

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work that way. You need to be in a group.

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perspective of who are the people that I look for?

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to be mentored. Right, the people that I look for

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is humble and hungry. Are you teachable? And how bad

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do you really want it? And I think a lot

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of people think they're both of those things. But when

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you are both of those things, mentors and teachers will

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find will find you. Mentors and fathers will find you.

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So I would say, one be mentorible. Be someone who's

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like man that like that is a great piece of

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metal right there. I'd love to help shape that person.

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is a Barnabas for me, but a lot of our

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relationships started that way where I had desire to help

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shape Nick as I said, this guy really wants it,

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and he listens, Okay, let's go, let's go for it.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 3: People who have something to give you, when you have

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a bucket, they'll into you. But when you know, when

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you're a paper towel trying to soak up a five

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gallon bucket of water, people aren't going to spend that

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much time on you because they know what it'll do

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to you. You're not ready for it. So I would say,

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be mentorible and then be in the right rooms, be

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in the right groups of people, and you're going to

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find that person. Just one caveat on that is, don't

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expect a Paul to be your dad. Yeah, but I'm

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not saying your dad can't be a pall to you.

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That's something I'm saying. I'm saying, do not put the

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weight on a mentor in your life that they're supposed

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to be your father. Okay, there's a way, especially for

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men who didn't have a great father, it's difficult, right,

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And there can be this father void, this father emptiness

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in someone's life. And if you put the expectation on

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them that they're going to treat you like their own son,

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you're going to be disappointed. That doesn't mean that there

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won't be some father son like times. And Paul even

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talked about that with Timothy right one of Paul's reflections,

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if Timothy was like a son follows a father, Timothy

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has followed after for me and the gospel, Paul talks

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about that, But just don't have the expectation that this

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guy's going to feel the same way about you that

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he might feel about his children.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because what does a what does a father do

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with his kids? He always seeks them out. And that's

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the thing is you very well are going to have

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to humble yourself to seek this person out like you can't.

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I think everybody wants to be sat there and have

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someone go like, Wow, you're such a great You're such

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a great piece of metal.

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Speaker 1: I want to mold you.

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Speaker 3: A good dad is gonna is going to kick you,

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even if you're saying I don't I don't want to

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be great, I don't want to do this right. If

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you act that way with your mentor, he's probably gonna

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not have a lot of time for you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, probably Like okay, good for you.

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Speaker 2: All right, gee let's go to Barnabas then, because Barnabas

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and I uh, this is a brother you run with. Man.

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This is the guy that when you're going through tough times,

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they remind you of your purpose their mind, They encourage

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you on the plan the path. This this is a

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friend who really knows you, like somebody who knows who

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you are at your core. And you see this in

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Acts nine to twenty seven, it says, but Barnabas. Now,

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think about this, Saul has just become Paul as we

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like to say it in Christian circles, even though that's

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a whole other thing with names based on the culture

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of the times. They would use it in different places.

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But he's had this radical conversion. Everyone's going like, hey,

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this guy killed some people. Don't think we're really going

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to welcome him here in Acts nine twenty seven. But

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Barnabas took him and brought him to the apostles. Let's

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take him straight to the leaders of this church. Like,

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wouldn't that be a great kill? He could eliminate the

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whole thing. But Barnabas sees who he is. He told

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them how Saul on his journey had seen the Lord,

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and that the Lord had spoken to him, and how

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in Damascus he had preached fearlessly in the name of Jesus.

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Speaker 3: That scripture speaks exactly to what a Barnabas is. Okay,

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here's what a Barnabas is as a brother. It's someone

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who knows who you are. Right, Barnabas saw who Saul was.

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He could see who he was, and so even where

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other people doubted, Saul dragged Barnabas for or Barnabas dragged

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Saul forward said, I know who this man is. And

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that doesn't mean that you know Barnabas is someone who's

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always walking around promoting you. What it does mean is

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that this is a man who sees who you are.

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You need what a what a Barnabas is going to be.

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They can't be the foundation of your identity, right And

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where you're going to struggle to find a Barnabas is

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if I really find true brothers, is where you're looking

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for people to tell you.

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Speaker 1: Who you are.

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Speaker 3: No, they need to see they need to see who

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you are. You have to know who you are, right

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and what the end? Then what that Barnabas is is

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someone who's on the same mission as you. Man when

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I when they see who you are, they see what

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you're after. They want to run with you. They want

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to sharpen your iron, they want to stand with you.

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They want to strengthen you, they want to encourage you.

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They're going to steady you. Those are all things that

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a brother is supposed to be, right, But again, this

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is a brother is born for battle. These are brothers

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who are on the same battle with you and see

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you fighting for the same things as them, and just

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like you're going to do in the battlefield. Right if

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my if my teammate need is out of water and

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need some water, I'm happy to share with him. But

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that's that's a guy who's my brother. That's a guy

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who's fighting with me that I see his and I'm

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happy to give to him or to serve him. But

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you need the people in your life that'll fight with you.

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But when they see you as when they see you

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as a warrior on the same journey as them. So

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that's really the core thing about a Barnabas is someone

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who sees who you are, not someone who's going to

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like If you're looking for a Barnabas to affirm you,

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to tell you who you are, if you've got a

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lot of insecurity or you've got a lot of pride,

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you're going to have a hard time finding a Barnabas.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and the obvious things here, Argie, I find that

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the Barnabas relationships, they're going to require time and proximity, right,

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And that sounds really obvious, But you know, with all

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these things, you don't just go and acquire them in

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a day, because you listen to this podcast, like you

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really have to. With all my Barnabases. Even with our relationship,

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there's an there's a foundational element of like you just

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grow closer because you're you're around each other, you do

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things together, you spend time, and so it's you know,

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how someone going to know who you are if they

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haven't seen you in various arenas, right, So it's just

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a very obvious thing.

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Speaker 3: You can know. It doesn't every friend that you have.

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You can have friends who like you. You can have

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friends who've been your friends for a long time. Doesn't

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mean they're a Barnabas. This is someone a Barnabas who's

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someone who's in the same fight as you, Yes, who

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will strengthen you when you need it, and where people

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struggle to have a Barnabas or like, well, I don't

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have anybody you know that can be that for me.

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That's really two things. It is one, you're making it

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about you. There's a pride element to that. I could have,

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you know, said hey, there's nobody here that's doing what

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I'm doing, and I could have out of my pride,

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I could have zero great men in my life who

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helped me, who strengthened me. I don't need you to

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be like me. I need you to be like you are.

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Let's fight this battle together. Pride will will tell you

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there's no equal to you, and that'll ruin people from

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being able to have a Barnabas. But the other thing

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that eats you up as in having a true brother

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is that insecurity, Like I said, a Barnabas will see

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who you are. But it's not the barnabases job. A

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father is going to help tell you who you are,

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right right, and if certain types of Paul's can help

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tell you who you are, a barnabasiness job is to

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see who you are and out of insecurity. If you

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have a lot of insecurity, if you don't know who

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you are, that's a major lack of authenticity. And that's

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where you can have friends, people who you like to

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hang out with, but they don't know who you are

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because you don't even know who you are.

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Speaker 1: Very good man, Really capture that, man.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I always like trying to highlight when

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you say things you said, A Paul will tell you

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who you are, but a Barnabas will see who you are.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 1: That's that's good, all right?

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Speaker 2: Gee, let's let's go on to Timothy, because Timothy, and

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think about it. Think about how this works. You get

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poured into by your by your Paul. You kind of

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like pour into each other's cups to fill to overflow

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with a Barnabas. And then the Timothy is someone you mentored,

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someone you pour into, and the Timothy lesson is it's

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a reminder. I think this is one of the greatest lessons.

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It's a reminder that's not about you, because you've said

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this to me and it's something I took seriously from

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day one. Is that you get to carry another man's

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soul and you understand what true accountability and responsibility to

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God is. Because this is not something we can play.

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We'll forget that guy like once you once you've taken

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this on, it's like, man, I have to answer to God.

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This is not about me being fair or living up

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to an expectation of whatever definition of friendship. This is

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about accountability to God. And we see this in Firs.

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Timothy twenty through twenty two. This is this is Paul

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literally talking about Timothy, how he identified his Timothy. I

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have no one else like him who will show genuine

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concern for your welfare. For everyone looks out for their

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own interests, not those of Jesus Christ. But you know

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that Timothy has proved himself because as a son with

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his father, he has served with me in the work

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of the Gospel.

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Speaker 3: One of the things about relationships, Okay, this is true

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of all relationships, and let me tell you how they're true.

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In these three relationships are mirrors for you. There are reflections.

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You can see yourself in a relationship. Right, You want

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to know who you are. Get married, you'll find out.

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Speaker 1: Who you are a man.

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Speaker 3: You may think every man thinks he's something. He gets

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married and you realize who you are. So every relationship

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is a reflection. Reflections are meant to be really good reminders, right,

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And I didn't hit this for the others, so I

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want to hit it for Timothy. Well, each relationship is

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a reflection for you, and it's a reminder of something.

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Paul's a Paul in your life is going to remind

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you of the stuff you don't want to hear. What

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you know is right, right, Like, you're not doing this,

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You're supposed to be doing this. He's a good father,

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he's a good teacher. He's going to remind you of

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the right instruction, of the right obedience, keep doing what

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you know to do right. That's what a Paul is

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going to remind you of. That's the reflection you're going

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to get from a poll. A Barnabas will then won't

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tell you who you are, but they will help remind

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you who you are. They'll remind you of the journey

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that you're on. They'll remind you of because they're right

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there in the middle of it with you, and sometimes

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where you can't see the horizon, you're looking at the ground,

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A Barnabas is going to help remind you of that.

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What a Timothy does is a Timothy is meant to

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remind you of that. It's not about you right, the

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same way I can say for my own life Luke

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twelve forty eight. To who much is given, much is required.

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Garrett is who he is because so many men have

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poured into me and built me.

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Speaker 1: I didn't build this by.

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Speaker 3: Myself, and what that puts on me is an expectation

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to do the same. And where I get the opportunity

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to pour into other people or to help other people,

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it's one of the great privileges of my life. Just

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to get to do this podcast and to share with

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people and at least be a voice to people that

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I don't have the opportunity to be a Timothy to.

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But what it reminds me of is that my life

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is not about me, right. This is the multiplication element.

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As you get older in life, you want to look

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at some of your real fruit. It's your children and

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your Timothy's. When you're an old man, you're not going

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to say, look at that thing that I built that

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will crumble.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 3: What you can point to as an old man is say,

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look at the children that I raised, Look at the

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men that I discipled who are out there building other people.

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Nothing I built is going to build anything else, right,

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that's addition. But the people that I've poured into those

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are my multipliers. I'm not responsible for, Like I don't

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own these people, the people that I'm a Paul to

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them that they're a Timothy for me. They're accountable to God.

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But God has given me the opportunity to be a

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voice in their life, to be a strength in their life,

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to help show them who they are, help get them

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on the right path. And when you live that way,

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it corrects you in all these other areas of your life,

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just like having children will center you in life. If

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you're not honestly, I don't know how else to say it,

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but if you're just not a loser, if you love

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your children and you pour into them and develop them,

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it's like, man, that's what life is about. I'm here

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to help develop these people. This is one of the

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greatest responsibilities that God's given me. When you have a

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Timothy and you see it that way, it straightens you

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out in all these other areas where people will miss it.

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With a Timothy is you're not looking for somebody to

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serve you. You are looking for a servant's heart, right. And

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Paul saw this in Timothy, and Paul had to remind people.

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It's like, you, guys, look at Timothy as the guy

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carries my bag. Paul says, Timothy stands in my shoes

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when I'm not here, right, And so Paul looked for

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the servant's heart. But Paul also looked for this is

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a man that when I'm not here, he's going to

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carry my weight. And so if you're just looking for

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someone who's going to help you, you've got a very

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wrong attitude about what a Timothy is yes, they do

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need to pursue you, but that the pursue you test

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of a Timothy is really just to show how much

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they want it. Right, you have to return that the

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same way that like a son loves his father differently

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than a father loves the son. But the weight of

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those is not is the weight of those is equal.

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It's just different substance. Right, You've got to give back

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to Timothy everything that they're given to you. It's just

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a different form of pursuit from each person.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so guys really capture what we said. I hope

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you realize that like so many people that are looking

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to advance and grow, and I think that those are

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the people that listen to this podcast, they always think

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about what about what their opportunity is, And what I

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always say is it's going to be a who, not

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a what.

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Speaker 1: We've just given you the template.

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Speaker 2: For greatness, truly for the greatness and relationships that you

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need a Paul, you need a Barnabas, you need a Timothy.

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Go back and listen to this again, Meditate on it,

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marinate on scripture, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal it

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to you, and then go out and be somebody's Paul.

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Find your Barnabas, be there, Barnabas, be somebody's Timothy. Like.

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Understand that these roles. You can be in multiple roles

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at one time, but just know that God made us

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to be in relationship. The iron will sharp and iron.

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That's the way you're going to grow. That's the way

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you're going to develop and be disciple. That's because that's

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the way God designed it. Thank you very much for listening. Guys,

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Speaker 1: We appreciate it all.

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Speaker 2: If you want to get in touch, you can follow

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at gmail dot com if you have any questions. If

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Thank you again for listening. Go out there and think

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