Speaker 1: Hey, Taro, and this is vocal D frag, asking the
questions and then questioning the answers. We usually do the
vocal D frag while I'm on a transition walk. A
transition walk is taking for me. It's taking a walk
through this beautiful forest, and I wish you could hear
the beautiful music. Even though the temperature is barely forty
three degrees. It's been raining all night. It's even raining
even as we speak. But you still can't stop yourself
from doing the transition walk because it is my mission,
it is my goal, it is my calling to understand
the transitions, to study the transitions, to know how it
moves through each and every one of us. And so
when we do a vocal D frag, we're breaking down
everything that is taking place. Ask the questions, question the answers.
Heavy subject today, the subject as we walk through this
day before Easter is the storms that we move through
in order to get to. The storms that we move
through in order to get to There's not a soul
on this planet that doesn't move through mental storms. Everybody
goes through them. We all just digest them differently, and
we seek a lot of professional help in order to
understand what that storm was about.
Speaker 2: Some people use those.
Speaker 1: Storms as keys to awareness and or to rebuilding or
replenishing their personal lives. But we all go through storms.
You can do everything you can to push it away,
it'll keep coming back. It just does that because storms
have a mind of their own, and storms have the
strength to turn everything that you own into something that's
being washed away by a creek on a rainy day
the day before easter. But the storms that we move
through in order to get to, my question to you
would be where are you trying to grow? Where is
that destination that you're trying to reach, and what are
the storms that are standing in the way?
Speaker 2: Not walls, not mountains. Storms can walk through storms.
Speaker 1: I'm living proof of that right now because I'm walking
through a rainstorm right now, and I know that my
destination is to take this transition walk. But in your
own personal life, the question is where are you trying
to get to? That's like asking somebody, so, what's your
favorite song, who's your favorite artist? And if you only knew?
How many people look at me and they go, I
don't know, I don't know. I guess I'm old because
I grew up in the tail end of the Beatles
becoming solo performers, the rolling Stones are still around. I
went through the Beg's I've been surrounded by the most
incredible music, and if somebody were to say, what is
your favorite song? I could answer that question. But it
seems like people today can't answer that question, which takes
me right back to where are you trying to grow?
What is the destination that you would like to see
yourself in? And I think sometimes the reason why we
don't answer is because we're all rolling the die. We
want to see if we can get the Lucky seven,
we want to make sure that we get the snake eyes.
We're rolling the dice. I have a very good friend
who became a manager at the essential job that I
show up for, and his roll of the dice was
he was leaving the food industry to take up a
job at a grocery store.
Speaker 2: He had no clue. He was a roll of the dice.
Speaker 1: And to this day, even though the two of us
have worked together in the store for a couple of
years now, he still says, I don't know if this
was the right decision, but he's not making the move.
He's not making the choices to find that place. So
the storms that we move through to get to what
is your two And the question would be how are
you going to get there? How are you going to
move through the storm, and what happens if the storm intensifies.
It reminds me of a story about a martial artist
who is stand on the top of his house every
time the wind would blow in these storms. And the
reason why is because he solely believed in what's called
the front stance, and he wanted to make sure that
his front stance was unbelievably strong, so he would stand
on his roof during a windstorm to test his strength.
What sort of tools do you use to test your
personal strength? What is that one part of your mind, body,
and soul that you go to when the storms get
a little bit too much to handle?
Speaker 2: Do you retreat? Do you race to get home?
Speaker 1: I fall into a gigantic notebook full of writing. I
have so many frickin' journals because I'm asking the questions
and I'm questioning the answers. I do have a lot
of storms, and I openly admit that I'm willing to
listen to your storm. The storm doesn't have to last
the entire time. You are in the power of choice,
and the question is what is your choice of recovery?
If we're going to move through the storm to get
to what is your choice of recovery?
Speaker 2: What are you trying to improve? I get it.
Speaker 1: I might as well be asking you what is your
favorite song? Because I'm still getting to glossy eyed?
Speaker 2: Look?
Speaker 1: What are you trying to do? How are you trying
to heal? What is the recovery time? Is it worth replenishing?
The questions are there? Are you asking yourself those questions?
You know some people would say, well, you just setting
yourself up for something bad to happen. Not true at all,
Not true at all. I was doing some research today
on the fear of being fearful.
Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of that? It's called phobia phobia,
the fear of fearing.
Speaker 1: So a lot of people don't make changes in their
life for the positive or even for the bad, because
you have to have bad choices in order to measure
out to what your good choices are. But the fear
of being fearful is very real, and you have to
understand that fear is an instinct. You need fear in
life when it comes to being aware of what could
bring harm or some sort of pain to your life.
Speaker 2: It's okay to have fear.
Speaker 1: But the thing is, though, and I've heard this from
so many people and you may have said it too,
I've become numb to oh the word numb. Oh yeah, man,
that everything is happening in the headlines, I'm just numb. Now,
I'm thinking we should do everything we can to get
back into a level of fear so that we can
be aware of what really does bother us. Because if
we're going to be numb, then what is the reaction
and are we bringing injury to ourselves?
Speaker 2: Now I'm not a professional here.
Speaker 1: I only study so that I can learn about, and
when you learn about, you're moving toward moving through the
storms to get two answering the question, questioning the answers.
I'll tell you one of the things that I fear,
and I'm just being open and transparent with you. I
fear being spotted at a grocery store. What oh yeah,
forty three years of broadcasting on terrestrial radio, I host
these amazing podcasts, and I fear someone's going to come
in and go, hey, aren't you what are you doing
at a grocery store. I have an answer, and I
do fear that answer being received because the answer that
I have is I've never been in front of real
people before. Sure, when I'm out doing promotions for the
radio station. Sure, when I'm out there wearing the mask
of an on air radio talent, Yeah, I'm that guy.
I can handle people. But when you're yourself and you're
there to study the habits of yourself with other people,
there's a lot of fear. It's the fear of being accepted,
the fear of being enjoyed, because you try to share
a store, you try to make a connection.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Being in radio, we envision people being the listeners. We
envision they're not there with us. We envision it. But
at a grocery store, you're right there in front of me,
and we have conversations, sometimes too deep, sometimes not deep enough.
A man was standing next to me yesterday and he
was telling me that his business failed and that he
was in really deep pain. He explained that the reason
why his pain was so strong was because he invested
so much of his personal money in this business and
there was no way for there to be a recovery.
And the reason why is because the competition became too strong.
He looked at me as if he trusted me in radio.
I wouldn't have had that opportunity. I would have feared
such a conversation without seeing somebody's eyes or like I
said on my podcast yesterday, the zoom is a great tool,
but it's not the texture of the conversation, as foolish
as it may. Moving through the storm, my mental storm,
I don't want to be here. Oh my god, you
mean I like being comfortable inside my studio. The sound
is perfect. I get to talk with people who are
very creative, and now you want to put me at
a grocery store. Why don't I do with this to myself?
Speaker 2: See?
Speaker 1: Moving through the mental storm. To get to okay last night,
I had to get to that man who was filled
with so much fear, and you could feel that he
wasn't happy with the decisions that he had made about
his business because he had no idea what his future
was going to handle. He didn't know how to get
to what he needed to do, so he was feeling
a lot of fear. On Facebook, Instagram as well as Twitter,
I read a lot of your stories about what's going
on at your place of business. I see the mental
storms right there on the page, and as positive as
you would like to try to do, or maybe you're
just trying to relieve yourself from the pain that you're feeling.
Speaker 2: I have to go back to the original question. What
is your two I see your storm, you're moving through it,
but where are you moving to? In other words, what
is the solution? What is the goal?
Speaker 1: The ambition, the dream? What is it that you think
you're missing in life, that you think that you've got
to have when in reality I read about this today
doing my studies. The reason why so many people live
in their past because they think their past is greater
than where they are right now.
Speaker 2: No, that is not true.
Speaker 1: You are certain that it happened because you have a
better understanding of why things happen. But the reason why
you don't like being in your moment of now is
because it's uncertain, it's undisciplined. It creates that fear, and
it creates moments in your heart where you're going.
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: I can't plan this out, whereas when you live in
your past, Oh, it's already been written.
Speaker 2: It's like reading a book. Can you hear the rain.
Speaker 1: It's raining hard in this forest, this storm I'm moving
through while walking up Heartbreak Hill. I'm trying to get
to two. And I challenge you to locate your two,
moving through the storms, to get to ask the questions,
question the answers.
Speaker 2: I marrow and that's vocal de frag