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Speaker 1: Hey, Taro, and this is vocal D frag, asking the

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questions and then questioning the answers. We usually do the

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vocal D frag while I'm on a transition walk. A

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transition walk is taking for me. It's taking a walk

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through this beautiful forest, and I wish you could hear

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the beautiful music. Even though the temperature is barely forty

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three degrees. It's been raining all night. It's even raining

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even as we speak. But you still can't stop yourself

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from doing the transition walk because it is my mission,

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it is my goal, it is my calling to understand

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the transitions, to study the transitions, to know how it

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moves through each and every one of us. And so

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when we do a vocal D frag, we're breaking down

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everything that is taking place. Ask the questions, question the answers.

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Heavy subject today, the subject as we walk through this

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day before Easter is the storms that we move through

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in order to get to. The storms that we move

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through in order to get to There's not a soul

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on this planet that doesn't move through mental storms. Everybody

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goes through them. We all just digest them differently, and

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we seek a lot of professional help in order to

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understand what that storm was about.

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Speaker 2: Some people use those.

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Speaker 1: Storms as keys to awareness and or to rebuilding or

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replenishing their personal lives. But we all go through storms.

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You can do everything you can to push it away,

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it'll keep coming back. It just does that because storms

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have a mind of their own, and storms have the

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strength to turn everything that you own into something that's

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being washed away by a creek on a rainy day

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the day before easter. But the storms that we move

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through in order to get to, my question to you

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would be where are you trying to grow? Where is

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that destination that you're trying to reach, and what are

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the storms that are standing in the way?

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Speaker 2: Not walls, not mountains. Storms can walk through storms.

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Speaker 1: I'm living proof of that right now because I'm walking

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through a rainstorm right now, and I know that my

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destination is to take this transition walk. But in your

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own personal life, the question is where are you trying

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to get to? That's like asking somebody, so, what's your

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favorite song, who's your favorite artist? And if you only knew?

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How many people look at me and they go, I

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don't know, I don't know. I guess I'm old because

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I grew up in the tail end of the Beatles

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becoming solo performers, the rolling Stones are still around. I

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went through the Beg's I've been surrounded by the most

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incredible music, and if somebody were to say, what is

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your favorite song? I could answer that question. But it

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seems like people today can't answer that question, which takes

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me right back to where are you trying to grow?

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What is the destination that you would like to see

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yourself in? And I think sometimes the reason why we

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don't answer is because we're all rolling the die. We

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want to see if we can get the Lucky seven,

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we want to make sure that we get the snake eyes.

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We're rolling the dice. I have a very good friend

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who became a manager at the essential job that I

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show up for, and his roll of the dice was

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he was leaving the food industry to take up a

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job at a grocery store.

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Speaker 2: He had no clue. He was a roll of the dice.

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Speaker 1: And to this day, even though the two of us

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have worked together in the store for a couple of

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years now, he still says, I don't know if this

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was the right decision, but he's not making the move.

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He's not making the choices to find that place. So

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the storms that we move through to get to what

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is your two And the question would be how are

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you going to get there? How are you going to

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move through the storm, and what happens if the storm intensifies.

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It reminds me of a story about a martial artist

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who is stand on the top of his house every

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time the wind would blow in these storms. And the

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reason why is because he solely believed in what's called

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the front stance, and he wanted to make sure that

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his front stance was unbelievably strong, so he would stand

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on his roof during a windstorm to test his strength.

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What sort of tools do you use to test your

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personal strength? What is that one part of your mind, body,

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and soul that you go to when the storms get

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a little bit too much to handle?

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Speaker 2: Do you retreat? Do you race to get home?

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Speaker 1: I fall into a gigantic notebook full of writing. I

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have so many frickin' journals because I'm asking the questions

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and I'm questioning the answers. I do have a lot

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of storms, and I openly admit that I'm willing to

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listen to your storm. The storm doesn't have to last

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the entire time. You are in the power of choice,

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and the question is what is your choice of recovery?

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If we're going to move through the storm to get

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to what is your choice of recovery?

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Speaker 2: What are you trying to improve? I get it.

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Speaker 1: I might as well be asking you what is your

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favorite song? Because I'm still getting to glossy eyed?

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Speaker 2: Look?

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Speaker 1: What are you trying to do? How are you trying

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to heal? What is the recovery time? Is it worth replenishing?

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The questions are there? Are you asking yourself those questions?

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You know some people would say, well, you just setting

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yourself up for something bad to happen. Not true at all,

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Not true at all. I was doing some research today

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on the fear of being fearful.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of that? It's called phobia phobia,

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the fear of fearing.

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Speaker 1: So a lot of people don't make changes in their

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life for the positive or even for the bad, because

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you have to have bad choices in order to measure

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out to what your good choices are. But the fear

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of being fearful is very real, and you have to

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understand that fear is an instinct. You need fear in

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life when it comes to being aware of what could

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bring harm or some sort of pain to your life.

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Speaker 2: It's okay to have fear.

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Speaker 1: But the thing is, though, and I've heard this from

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so many people and you may have said it too,

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I've become numb to oh the word numb. Oh yeah, man,

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that everything is happening in the headlines, I'm just numb. Now,

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I'm thinking we should do everything we can to get

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back into a level of fear so that we can

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be aware of what really does bother us. Because if

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we're going to be numb, then what is the reaction

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and are we bringing injury to ourselves?

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Speaker 2: Now I'm not a professional here.

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Speaker 1: I only study so that I can learn about, and

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when you learn about, you're moving toward moving through the

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storms to get two answering the question, questioning the answers.

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I'll tell you one of the things that I fear,

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and I'm just being open and transparent with you. I

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fear being spotted at a grocery store. What oh yeah,

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forty three years of broadcasting on terrestrial radio, I host

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these amazing podcasts, and I fear someone's going to come

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in and go, hey, aren't you what are you doing

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at a grocery store. I have an answer, and I

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do fear that answer being received because the answer that

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I have is I've never been in front of real

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people before. Sure, when I'm out doing promotions for the

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radio station. Sure, when I'm out there wearing the mask

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of an on air radio talent, Yeah, I'm that guy.

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I can handle people. But when you're yourself and you're

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there to study the habits of yourself with other people,

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there's a lot of fear. It's the fear of being accepted,

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the fear of being enjoyed, because you try to share

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a store, you try to make a connection.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: Being in radio, we envision people being the listeners. We

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envision they're not there with us. We envision it. But

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at a grocery store, you're right there in front of me,

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and we have conversations, sometimes too deep, sometimes not deep enough.

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A man was standing next to me yesterday and he

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was telling me that his business failed and that he

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was in really deep pain. He explained that the reason

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why his pain was so strong was because he invested

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so much of his personal money in this business and

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there was no way for there to be a recovery.

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And the reason why is because the competition became too strong.

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He looked at me as if he trusted me in radio.

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I wouldn't have had that opportunity. I would have feared

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such a conversation without seeing somebody's eyes or like I

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said on my podcast yesterday, the zoom is a great tool,

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but it's not the texture of the conversation, as foolish

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as it may. Moving through the storm, my mental storm,

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I don't want to be here. Oh my god, you

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mean I like being comfortable inside my studio. The sound

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is perfect. I get to talk with people who are

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very creative, and now you want to put me at

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a grocery store. Why don't I do with this to myself?

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Speaker 2: See?

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Speaker 1: Moving through the mental storm. To get to okay last night,

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I had to get to that man who was filled

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with so much fear, and you could feel that he

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wasn't happy with the decisions that he had made about

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his business because he had no idea what his future

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was going to handle. He didn't know how to get

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to what he needed to do, so he was feeling

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a lot of fear. On Facebook, Instagram as well as Twitter,

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I read a lot of your stories about what's going

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on at your place of business. I see the mental

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storms right there on the page, and as positive as

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you would like to try to do, or maybe you're

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just trying to relieve yourself from the pain that you're feeling.

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Speaker 2: I have to go back to the original question. What

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is your two I see your storm, you're moving through it,

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but where are you moving to? In other words, what

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is the solution? What is the goal?

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Speaker 1: The ambition, the dream? What is it that you think

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you're missing in life, that you think that you've got

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to have when in reality I read about this today

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doing my studies. The reason why so many people live

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in their past because they think their past is greater

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than where they are right now.

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Speaker 2: No, that is not true.

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Speaker 1: You are certain that it happened because you have a

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better understanding of why things happen. But the reason why

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you don't like being in your moment of now is

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because it's uncertain, it's undisciplined. It creates that fear, and

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it creates moments in your heart where you're going.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: I can't plan this out, whereas when you live in

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your past, Oh, it's already been written.

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Speaker 2: It's like reading a book. Can you hear the rain.

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Speaker 1: It's raining hard in this forest, this storm I'm moving

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through while walking up Heartbreak Hill. I'm trying to get

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to two. And I challenge you to locate your two,

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moving through the storms, to get to ask the questions,

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question the answers.

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Speaker 2: I marrow and that's vocal de frag