Speaker 1: Bailey is very excited because you had a landmark day yesterday.
Speaker 2: Landmark I hit three thousand followers on Instagram.
Speaker 1: I made you have before you started working at the
Speaker 1: Mighty katiewb.
Speaker 3: Probably like seven hundred and seventy.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, that makes sense. You're on the radio. It's
Speaker 1: kind of like Lena who used to be on our show.
Speaker 1: She you know, she was here before Instagram was a thing.
Speaker 1: Then she went and worked on the big Elvis duran
Speaker 1: Show in New York and was syndicated, and now she
Speaker 1: has like two hundred and eighty thousand followers.
Speaker 2: That's why she has so many. I thought she was
Speaker 2: just like an influencer of some kind.
Speaker 1: Well, I think she is a little bit, but I
Speaker 1: think she's really good with social media too. But I think,
Speaker 1: you know, if anybody was on and this is not
Speaker 1: to discredit Lena, she would totally admit this that if
Speaker 1: you were on the Elvis Durant Show and you're syndicated
Speaker 1: in eighty markets and you're a big star on that
Speaker 1: big radio station, you're gonna get followers. So I would
Speaker 1: have about fifteen followers if I was not on. Katie Sure, yes,
Speaker 1: checks out on it, but I've got about I don't know,
Speaker 1: forty five thousand followers something like that. I gained like
Speaker 1: one hundred every six months. So if you want to
Speaker 1: follow me. It's funny because there are people who like
Speaker 1: and like and like the things that we post, but
Speaker 1: they don't follow us. So we encourage you follow us
Speaker 1: on Instagram.
Speaker 3: Please do so if you.
Speaker 1: Go look at Bailey Bailey on air, hit that follow button.
Speaker 2: Hit the follow button, please follow me. All of my
Speaker 2: Instagram stories are fascinating.
Speaker 1: Now they're not. I've seen some of them.
Speaker 3: The race are you don't watch all of them?
Speaker 1: Well because they're not fascinating.
Speaker 3: They're really like.
Speaker 4: To watch Bailey's stories. See, but sometimes there's a glare
Speaker 4: of sorts.
Speaker 3: Because your camera, my camera's really bad.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so like when you do a lot of like
Speaker 4: walking stories, it kind of looks like there's a fog
Speaker 4: over the city, and I'm like, yeah, what's happening?
Speaker 2: Very much that I do need a new phone. We've
Speaker 2: established this in one day, maybe you will get one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope. So and so go follow Bailey, follow
Speaker 1: Jenny KTWB and vont Leak l e ak and Dave
Speaker 1: Ryan KTWB. So we appreciate any likes and all that stuff,
Speaker 1: but also hit that follow button. Yeah, why not dive
Speaker 1: it in too. Some emails here on the Minnesota Goodbye.
Speaker 1: First of all, I'm want to tell you I'm very excited.
Speaker 1: It is my last stay before vacation starts. So once
Speaker 1: ten o'clock hits this morning, there will be a puff
Speaker 1: up smoke where I'm standing and I will.
Speaker 5: Be gone, Yes you will.
Speaker 1: I'm go work out later today, headed to Colorado and
Speaker 1: then the Pike's Peak hike is a week from yesterday,
Speaker 1: a week from Thursday. Unless all of a sudden I
Speaker 1: look at the weather and it's going to be bad
Speaker 1: on my hike day, I might do it a little
Speaker 1: bit earlier, a day late, so we will see.
Speaker 5: He us posted because I would like to call you.
Speaker 4: You see how you're doing, like the morning now while
Speaker 4: we're here doing a show.
Speaker 1: With now Now, at this time it's early in the morning,
Speaker 1: they're an hour behind. So if I'm on the trail
Speaker 1: at four o'clock, which is my plan, and I'll be
Speaker 1: hiking the first hour ish in the dark with a
Speaker 1: headlamp on to start to get an early start so
Speaker 1: I'll have more time. So I won't rush, and there's
Speaker 1: thunderstorms in the afternoon that I want to try to beat.
Speaker 1: But I think I'm ready for it. I'm as ready
Speaker 1: as I'll ever be. I've been doing a ton of
Speaker 1: training for it for about six months and hopefully it
Speaker 1: will pay off.
Speaker 4: I think you're gonna do just fantastic. I mean you've
Speaker 4: been like you literally just started doing StairMaster at the
Speaker 4: gym out of nowhere, which is not an easy thing
Speaker 4: to do, and you crush like one hundred plus flights
Speaker 4: when you do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's boy, I tell you talk about a
Speaker 1: sweat machine. Do you think that you sweat more the
Speaker 1: healthier you get, because I think I sweat more than
Speaker 1: I did back when I wasn't as healthy.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I think some people are naturally gifted to not sweat.
Speaker 4: I have always been a sweaty bitch, always.
Speaker 3: Sweat, not really.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And that's how Andrew is too. He like doesn't sweat,
Speaker 4: And I'm just like, how, Like he's got one of
Speaker 4: those bodies that's always naturally hot, but he just doesn't sweat.
Speaker 1: Steve O from the show back in the day, he
Speaker 1: was a sweat machine.
Speaker 3: Every picture I've ever seen of Steve O. He's sweating
Speaker 3: and he adds up.
Speaker 1: I think we went running one time and he took
Speaker 1: his shirt off and he rang it out and it
Speaker 1: was like he took it out of a bucket of water.
Speaker 1: It was like too funny, it was.
Speaker 4: And I would go to Warriors Golf with him, which
Speaker 4: is a heated yoga like intense hit class, and I
Speaker 4: would almost slip on his sweat next to my mat
Speaker 4: if I stepped off my mat, because he'd be mixting
Speaker 4: me sweating and stuff.
Speaker 5: Shod.
Speaker 1: Let's jump into the emails, and this is a follow
Speaker 1: up from one that we talked about yesterday about a
Speaker 1: therapist who wrote in and said she'd like to be
Speaker 1: on the show. She says, I'm up late ruminating. There's
Speaker 1: some shit I can't stop thinking about, so I thought
Speaker 1: i'd share. I can't stop thinking about how Ginny said
Speaker 1: pap smear in today's episode.
Speaker 3: I thought that too.
Speaker 5: Is that not how you say it?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: Sorry, carry on, dad, it's pap smear like shmear.
Speaker 2: Is like a like a bagel, a bagel stuff you
Speaker 2: put on a bagel.
Speaker 5: Yeah, pap smear.
Speaker 1: You never knew your entire life you're thirty four years old.
Speaker 1: You never knew it was not pash.
Speaker 5: I probably said it both ways.
Speaker 4: But sometimes I just talk and words come out of
Speaker 4: my mouth, and then I go back and I hear
Speaker 4: things and I'm like, well, that wasn't right.
Speaker 3: That ba Rista got a pap smear.
Speaker 5: I do say Barrista all the time.
Speaker 4: I will probably never change that, though Dave kind of
Speaker 4: said it like that yesterday.
Speaker 1: Too, Barista. I probably do Brista. Best part was Bailey
Speaker 1: was the only one that caught it and laughed out loud.
Speaker 1: I laughed too, girl. I'm still laughing just thinking about it.
Speaker 1: I'm also thinking about how Dave did something super weird
Speaker 1: with his hand in the most recent video of the
Speaker 1: four of you all on Instagram, and I don't know
Speaker 1: if it was on accident or his secret signal. So
Speaker 1: help let us know, Dave. My hands are like my
Speaker 1: twitchy like device I have. I just play with my
Speaker 1: hands a lot.
Speaker 5: I wonder what you did which video hands.
Speaker 1: A couple of times, Yeah, I would straightened my fingers and
Speaker 1: then curl them up a little. Yeah. Yeah it means nothing.
Speaker 1: So yeah, but you were not the only one who
Speaker 1: wondered about that follow up to you your follow up
Speaker 1: to your follow up about having a therapist on your show.
Speaker 1: This is my pitch of why I think it would
Speaker 1: be better than the rest of the therapists you've ever had.
Speaker 1: I'm young, and funny, an up to date on what
Speaker 1: is dope to talk about on the air, and not second.
Speaker 1: I solemnly swear and promise to be simultaneously concise and
Speaker 1: hilarious at the same time if you ever choose to
Speaker 1: invite me to participate in the show. Honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: even care if it isn't about therapy. I just love
Speaker 1: to run my mouth, so let me know for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: I am multifaceted as fuck. Sligh. That is all. Bye,
Speaker 1: Thank you. You know what. I'll save your email. You
Speaker 1: never know what will happen next one, Jenny writes in
Speaker 1: I love your show. I know sometimes you guys are
Speaker 1: leery of recommendations. Last night I went down a rabbit
Speaker 1: hole of Selene Dion stiff person syndrome. It was too
Speaker 1: hot out this weekend, I recommend you watch I Am
Speaker 1: Celen Dion on Amazon Prime. Always a fantastic always It
Speaker 1: is a fantastic documentary on her short journey of this
Speaker 1: disease because she has stiff person syndrome. So there's a recommendation.
Speaker 1: Thanks for reading Happy Friday, I might do that. We're
Speaker 1: right now binging season twelve of Alone.
Speaker 3: There's twelve seasons of that.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, we watched maybe season three or five years
Speaker 1: ago and we were running out of things to watch,
Speaker 1: so I said, well, wat And it's so compelling. It
Speaker 1: is so interesting. Basically, these people are set out in
Speaker 1: the middle of nowhere, like Saskatchewan or somewhere, and they
Speaker 1: have to build a cabin and fish and hunt, and
Speaker 1: it really is interesting. And I guess I did a
Speaker 1: spoiler the other day by accident talking about yeah, like
Speaker 1: who had dropped out or tapped out already?
Speaker 4: So I think, did you say names or did you
Speaker 4: say specific things about the contestants?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I share pretty much name them.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Thank Jenny Lucas writes in this one is for Jenny.
Speaker 1: Did you hear about this tragic fall? I believe I
Speaker 1: know what he's referring to, and he attaches I think
Speaker 1: a video or a story and I'm not going to
Speaker 1: be able to watch it right now. But this is
Speaker 1: a woman who was a u Arizona University ASU student,
Speaker 1: and she went hiking, I think, with her father on
Speaker 1: Half Dome in Yosemite. Now, you can climb up half Dome.
Speaker 1: It is literally you take a dome and you split
Speaker 1: it in half. You can technical climb with ropes and
Speaker 1: everything up the flat face that's called half Dome the
Speaker 1: hard way, or you can take a trail up the backside.
Speaker 1: Do you know anything about this?
Speaker 4: I did see it. It's very sad. I'm pretty sure
Speaker 4: they made it to the top. And I didn't read
Speaker 4: the full article, but I think they made it to
Speaker 4: the top. And the article says that she had just
Speaker 4: told her dad, I love you like you know. They
Speaker 4: just accomplished this thing together, and I think she fell
Speaker 4: on the way down and she died. It's so sad.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let me open it up and see if I
Speaker 1: can find out more about it. Yeah, there's a video.
Speaker 1: She's a you know, college aide student, and it says
Speaker 1: a heartbroken dad is speaking out after his daughter died
Speaker 1: while they hiked Yosemite's Half Dome. Grace Rollof was hiking
Speaker 1: with her dad. Jonathan tells Inside Edition that his daughter
Speaker 1: had checked the forecast when they made it to the top.
Speaker 1: A storm appeared out of nowhere. It began to pour
Speaker 1: during their descent. Unfortunately, she slipped off the side. As
Speaker 1: Jonathan roll Off warns his daughter's death, he says he
Speaker 1: will now work on making Half Dome a safer adventure.
Speaker 1: And Yeah, my god, that.
Speaker 4: Like breaks my heart because I feel like they weren't
Speaker 4: like super they weren't doing anything dumb, you know, Like
Speaker 4: it's not like they didn't bring water or something. They
Speaker 4: it's got such an unfortunate weather.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think there are cables you hold on to,
Speaker 1: but you're not like buckled into the cables, like sometimes
Speaker 1: when you do some sort of a sense kind of
Speaker 1: like a ropes course and you go up and you're
Speaker 1: even if you fall off the ropes course at Mall
Speaker 1: of America, you're hanging by a belt, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So, and they said that she was not inexperienced. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's just I think I think that they're you know,
Speaker 1: like when I hike Pike's Peak, there are no treacherous
Speaker 1: falls that I know of. I haven't hiked all the
Speaker 1: way up yet, but most trails, if you fall, you fall,
Speaker 1: you get back up. But apparently someone was one where
Speaker 1: she tumbled over the side and felt like hundreds of feet.
Speaker 1: So she says, this guy, this text or emailer says,
Speaker 1: my question is why doesn't this hike have safety cables.
Speaker 1: If they already have steel cables to hold on to,
Speaker 1: wouldn't you think half Dome would install these seems absolute
Speaker 1: craziness to trust yourself from not sleep slipping. That's a
Speaker 1: good question. But also I think Lucas that you can't
Speaker 1: make everything safe. Yeah, and people have said, well, why
Speaker 1: don't they put a bar around the Grand Canyon, Well
Speaker 1: you can't. You just have to rely on yourself to
Speaker 1: be safe, and accidents happen. Second question for Jenny, if
Speaker 1: you ever come close to an injury or even slipping
Speaker 1: on a hike that you made, you question the hike.
Speaker 1: Love you guys, keep up the good work. Licklick, dart
Speaker 1: dart lick lick. That is from Lucas, Jenny.
Speaker 4: I mean, I cut myself on a hike in Tahiti
Speaker 4: just because it was like a very difficult hike. The
Speaker 4: trail was barely maintained. It wasn't anything awful. I could
Speaker 4: put a band aid on it. It wasn't bad. That's
Speaker 4: like the only thing I can think of. But I
Speaker 4: will say that we turned around on that hike because
Speaker 4: we did see storm clouds going over the peak and
Speaker 4: it was already so narrow of a trail that you
Speaker 4: could like fall to your death if you slipped off
Speaker 4: either side of it, because it was kind of a
Speaker 4: ridgeline hike, and once we saw the storm clouds, I
Speaker 4: was like, going back down will be even harder, especially
Speaker 4: if it rains. So we trusted our instinct on that one,
Speaker 4: and I don't think it ever ended up raining, but
Speaker 4: we didn't want to risk it, so we turned around.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a really good idea. I know that you
Speaker 1: don't want to get caught in the open during the thunderstorm,
Speaker 1: and that is one of the things we learned when
Speaker 1: we were boy Scouts. We went to New Mexico because
Speaker 1: the year before us, our troop got caught in a
Speaker 1: thunderstorm on an exposed, treeless peak. And what you're supposed
Speaker 1: to do when you're on a hike and you're out
Speaker 1: in the open, you're supposed to put your backpack on
Speaker 1: the ground, squat on top of your backpack, and be
Speaker 1: a good fifty or one hundred yards from every other
Speaker 1: person in your group. You don't want to huddle up
Speaker 1: in a bunch because if one of you get struck,
Speaker 1: then you're all going to get struck. So you're supposed
Speaker 1: to put your backpack on the ground, squat on it,
Speaker 1: and then like you know, duck down so you stay low.
Speaker 4: This might be a dumb question, but what if you
Speaker 4: have like cell phones or technology in the backpack?
Speaker 5: Is that like not good to do?
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. Yeah, yeah, I just go.
Speaker 5: Throw your cell phone fifty feet away too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I guess. Yeah, you definitely don't want
Speaker 1: to take your hiking poll and point up at the thunder.
Speaker 1: So all right, next one, Dave Bailey, Jenny vont it
Speaker 1: is Charisse. I guess probably be a question for Dave.
Speaker 1: Next week, on July thirty first, it'll be twelve years
Speaker 1: since I lost my mom. Even though it's been twelve years,
Speaker 1: I still cry and get sad and depressed around this time.
Speaker 1: Since I know Dave has lost both parents, I was
Speaker 1: wondering how he handles the feelings of sadness. Do you
Speaker 1: try to think of happy memories with your parents or
Speaker 1: do you keep yourself busy on those days? By the way,
Speaker 1: your mom by Oh, my mom was my only parent,
Speaker 1: so losing her was devastating. Any advice would be appreciated.
Speaker 1: I just want to stop randomly breaking into tears when
Speaker 1: I think about her. Thank you if you read this
Speaker 1: all all right, Charise, thank you. Twelve years is a
Speaker 1: long time and it does get easier, for sure. And
Speaker 1: I think that most of the time when I think
Speaker 1: about my parents now, I think of the happy things.
Speaker 1: I don't think of anything sad. Maybe they've been gone
Speaker 1: for a long time, and while we were close, I
Speaker 1: don't want to say that we I think we had
Speaker 1: gotten to a part where I didn't talk to them
Speaker 1: as much. I still love them just as much, but
Speaker 1: I guess I didn't rely on them for things. It
Speaker 1: was just always nice. And the nice thing about having
Speaker 1: a parent when you get older is like you know
Speaker 1: they're always there for you, and you know that if
Speaker 1: you needed them, you can go back and move into
Speaker 1: your basement room anytime you want to. And I think
Speaker 1: that's true with I would tell Carson or any of
Speaker 1: my kids, everything's get rough, you come back and you
Speaker 1: move in with mom and dad. But I would say
Speaker 1: for me, I think time has just created more of
Speaker 1: a softness to the pain. And I also, I really
Speaker 1: have comforted myself with this. As a parent, if I die,
Speaker 1: I would not want my kids to be so sad
Speaker 1: that they couldn't function or they couldn't enjoy life. So,
Speaker 1: in other words, if if I died, I would expect
Speaker 1: and demand that they'd be sad for a while, and
Speaker 1: like plant a tree or something, I would demand that.
Speaker 1: And if they weren't sad, I'd be pissed, But I
Speaker 1: wouldn't want them to not be the same or enjoy life.
Speaker 1: And I have a friend of mine whose parents have
Speaker 1: both died. She's my age, and she's still she won't
Speaker 1: live her life because she's so sad. And I think
Speaker 1: your mom and dad would have been devastated to think
Speaker 1: that you are so devastated that you can't enjoy life anymore.
Speaker 1: So your mom and dad will still want you to
Speaker 1: be happy. They're not here to tell you that, but
Speaker 1: if they were here, they would say, cheris, I want
Speaker 1: you to be happy. Think about the happy things about me. Now,
Speaker 1: that's easier said than done, but I think that just
Speaker 1: think of the happy thoughts. That's what your mom would want.
Speaker 1: Think the happy thoughts, all right, Next one it is.
Speaker 1: The subject is skibbity Toilet's comment s gimbity. Okay, so
Speaker 1: this is this came up on the show the other
Speaker 1: day and Bailey, I think it was on Wednesday or
Speaker 1: Tuesday said skibbity toilet and I thought it was just
Speaker 1: one of Bailey's random, weird ass things that come out
Speaker 1: of her mouth. And it turns out this is a phrase.
Speaker 2: It's a real thing that gen Alpha says, and in
Speaker 2: looking into it, because I was trying to find out
Speaker 2: exactly what it means, it's this whole like brain rot
Speaker 2: thing that like Jen Alpha does apparently when they say
Speaker 2: things that truly mean nothing, and skibby toilet is one
Speaker 2: of those things.
Speaker 1: Though.
Speaker 3: It is like a music thing.
Speaker 2: It's like a song thing, and it's creepy video where
Speaker 2: heads come out of toilets and they have creepy eyes.
Speaker 2: It's all like cgi and I don't know is a fortnite?
Speaker 3: Who knows?
Speaker 2: So?
Speaker 1: Is it an expression like you drop your sandwich in
Speaker 1: the mud and you go, ah, skibbity toilet.
Speaker 3: I have absolutely no idea.
Speaker 5: It makes no sense.
Speaker 4: When we were talking about it on the show, was
Speaker 4: trying to google it and I could not understand.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't mean anything. That and like they say,
Speaker 2: what the sig? And that doesn't mean anything.
Speaker 3: And just like skibby riz and skibbity Ohio or whatever,
Speaker 3: none of that means anything.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, she says, good morning. I've been listening to
Speaker 1: Show since the nineties. You guys make my mornings. I
Speaker 1: wanted to comment on the Skibby toilets conversation from last week.
Speaker 1: I'm a mom in my forties. I had no idea
Speaker 1: this was kid LINGO. I hear my two youngest using
Speaker 1: this term and I thought they made it up. I
Speaker 1: had no idea. It is what the kids say. Thanks
Speaker 1: for educating me. And now I know why my youngest
Speaker 1: calls me a boomer even though I'm in my early forties.
Speaker 1: I am a teacher. My question for you is what
Speaker 1: was your favorite elective class in high school? I am
Speaker 1: an FACS HOMEC teacher. Love you guys, look forward to
Speaker 1: listening to you on my commute to work all year long.
Speaker 1: I live in Austin aka Spam Town. I would love
Speaker 1: a staff writer sticker that is from Jennifer in Austin, Minnesota.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let Jenny go first. What was your favorite
Speaker 1: elective back in school?
Speaker 4: I would say ap stats because I loved math and
Speaker 4: I just thought stats was super fun and everything about
Speaker 4: it was decently easy for me, except for probability. I
Speaker 4: struggled with that for some reason. But also, my teacher
Speaker 4: was one of the bigger influences in my life to
Speaker 4: help decide where I went to college. He was just
Speaker 4: so fucking cool and he kind of talked me through
Speaker 4: because it was my senior year, my decision to go
Speaker 4: either Marquette or the u of M, and he was
Speaker 4: more on the side of the u of M. Without
Speaker 4: being like biased, I could tell he was, and that's
Speaker 4: where I decided to go, not only because of him,
Speaker 4: but he made some very good points.
Speaker 1: So, Bailey, what was your favorite elective?
Speaker 2: I would probably sit like. We had theater classes, so
Speaker 2: like acting class was really fun. But I also liked,
Speaker 2: uh photo. It was called photo video, which is such
Speaker 2: a stupid name for a class, but we just used
Speaker 2: you know, it was like the photography class and everything,
Speaker 2: and it was super fun and I ended up teaching
Speaker 2: half of that class because my teacher didn't know how
Speaker 2: to use photoshop, so I knew how to use photoshop,
Speaker 2: just because I was chronically always on the internet and
Speaker 2: on my computer during the summer instead of outside, and
Speaker 2: so I would teach their kids in the class how
Speaker 2: to use photoshop.
Speaker 3: I felt better than everybody.
Speaker 1: That is cool, I would say mine was probably I
Speaker 1: don't really remember. I took band and I was not great,
Speaker 1: But I think my favorite elective was probably in ninth grade.
Speaker 1: It was called batching it, which was a term that
Speaker 1: they used to use back in the day. Batching was
Speaker 1: short for bachelor. So batch's to learn to do things
Speaker 1: if you don't have a woman around the house to
Speaker 1: do things for you. That was a class batching it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it was basically being a bachelor. Learned to cook
Speaker 1: and learn to sew. And so the cooking part, I
Speaker 1: knew how to cook. I baked my ass off when
Speaker 1: I was a kid, And one of the reasons I
Speaker 1: did is because it made my dad so happy. He's like,
Speaker 1: look at Dave. He's making a cake. He made fudge,
Speaker 1: he made brownies. But we sewed. I learned to sew
Speaker 1: in this class. And I've told this story before. I
Speaker 1: was in ninth grade, so I was growing like a weed.
Speaker 1: I the beginning of the semester I bought a down kit.
Speaker 1: So you buy the stuff and you buy the down
Speaker 1: and you make the down vest. And I made this
Speaker 1: down vest. It took me about three or four months
Speaker 1: to make it, an hour at a time. And by
Speaker 1: the time I finished the down vest, I had outgrown it.
Speaker 1: Oh no, and it really it was. It bummed me
Speaker 1: out because it was like, fuck, I made this down
Speaker 1: vest and I remember putting it on and it was
Speaker 1: too small, and I was like, so sad. I wore
Speaker 1: it a couple of times. I'm like, it's too small
Speaker 1: and I still have it. I should throw it away.
Speaker 1: What am I going to do with it?
Speaker 3: Would it fit Carson?
Speaker 1: He doesn't want all this shit?
Speaker 3: Take it?
Speaker 1: You? Really? Would you want my down vest?
Speaker 3: I mean, is it cute?
Speaker 1: It's not particularly cute. If you remind me, I will.
Speaker 1: I will try to remember to bring it in when
Speaker 1: I get back from Vacas. I wear it is it's
Speaker 1: a down vest. It's legit.
Speaker 3: I mean, if it's warm, I'll wear it.
Speaker 2: I mean this idea that was called batching it, that's
Speaker 2: hilarious to me.
Speaker 1: That was the thing. Yeah. I was like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: well he's not married. He's twenty four years old. He's
Speaker 1: batching it.
Speaker 2: Wow, well this the person emailing teaches that class essentially facts. Yeah,
Speaker 2: Family and consumer Science was always like the bombs class
Speaker 2: too slutely.
Speaker 1: All right, here we go a a high gang. I
Speaker 1: need to note that I love and appreciate you all,
Speaker 1: but this question is specifically for Dave. I live in Colorado,
Speaker 1: been plotting my move back to Minnesota for the last
Speaker 1: two months with my two and three year olds. I've
Speaker 1: been with my partner for thirteen years, but we never married,
Speaker 1: so I have complete custodial rights as their mother, and
Speaker 1: I can move them anywhere without his approval. He is
Speaker 1: a narcissist. He has cheated on me numerous times, and
Speaker 1: I cringe thinking about my children inheriting some of his
Speaker 1: characteristic traits. My family is amazing. I had the best
Speaker 1: childhood growing up. I felt like I was part of
Speaker 1: the community, had their support, which I would like to
Speaker 1: give my littles as well. My question to you is
Speaker 1: how did you co parent with Cricket and Julie when
Speaker 1: you lived in different states? What worked and what would
Speaker 1: you have changed. I am heading into uncharted territory and
Speaker 1: I appreciate your advice on how I can help my
Speaker 1: children maintain a relationship with their dad. Thank you, oh
Speaker 1: wise one. Well, everybody's Alyssa's situation is different. Cricket was
Speaker 1: very good about if we wanted to come for a
Speaker 1: week or a month, she was happy to They lived
Speaker 1: in a crappy environment, they really did. It was a
Speaker 1: dirty house with not always the best people around Beth.
Speaker 1: So whenever I had a chance or Cricket had a
Speaker 1: chance to send Beth to me, she would gladly send her.
Speaker 1: And Beth loved coming up to see us, So that
Speaker 1: was never an issue. With Chase. It was a little
Speaker 1: bit different because there was a lot of resentment and
Speaker 1: bitterness with Julie, and so Julie used to poke the
Speaker 1: bear every chance she got. Every chance she got, she
Speaker 1: would try to make things as difficult or as expensive
Speaker 1: as possible. But I would say, if you're dealing with
Speaker 1: somebody difficult, document everything. Document like right down. If the
Speaker 1: kids went and visited Dad, document what they did, Like
Speaker 1: did he just make them sit around and watch TV
Speaker 1: all weekend? Did he send money or did he not
Speaker 1: send money? Did he pay for this? Did he call
Speaker 1: the kids and tell him they're stupid? Was he drunk? Document?
Speaker 1: Meant everything other than that, don't expect a lot, don't
Speaker 1: have high expectations, but if you can have him at
Speaker 1: least involved in the kid's life. But also gauge what
Speaker 1: the kids are saying about the visits with dad. And
Speaker 1: also remember Alyssa that kids will tell you what they
Speaker 1: want to hear. So if you if the kids think
Speaker 1: that you want to hear they had a miserable time
Speaker 1: with dad, they will tell you they had a miserable
Speaker 1: time with dad. Because Chase used to do that when
Speaker 1: he was little. He'd be like, I gotta go visit Dad,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to And he would say that
Speaker 1: because he was six years old and he wanted to
Speaker 1: tell mom exactly what she wanted to hear. So, all right,
Speaker 1: thank you for that one, and we're going to wrap
Speaker 1: up on the Minnesota Goodbye. That's going to do it
Speaker 1: because it's time.
Speaker 3: It's time, it's time.
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