WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:03.520 And that's why I never read the comment. I just 2 00:00:03.520 --> 00:00:06.000 want to like, I'm not even gonna look amazing tonight. 3 00:00:06.080 --> 00:00:10.240 I love what you're wearing. I'll always say, oh my god, 4 00:00:10.400 --> 00:00:15.240 we're all I have an angry cloud is life. But 5 00:00:15.279 --> 00:00:17.480 that's hard, like unless it's like an NBA team or 6 00:00:17.519 --> 00:00:21.920 something like whoa. 7 00:00:23.199 --> 00:00:26.320 Hello, everybody, Welcome back to another special edition of Holly 8 00:00:26.359 --> 00:00:29.399 Randall Unfiltered. I am here at the ABN Show in 9 00:00:29.480 --> 00:00:34.159 Las Vegas. 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Follow them on Instagram 20 00:01:05.920 --> 00:01:07.959 at scworld dot official. 21 00:01:08.159 --> 00:01:08.920 If you're watching this. 22 00:01:08.920 --> 00:01:12.879 On YouTube, their YouTube is stripjack Community. And of course, 23 00:01:12.920 --> 00:01:15.319 if you want to get right to the good stuff. Well, 24 00:01:15.480 --> 00:01:17.159 I feel like I don't need to tell you where 25 00:01:17.200 --> 00:01:19.719 to go use Google if you haven't figured it out 26 00:01:19.760 --> 00:01:23.120 by now. All right, So my guest today went from 27 00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:27.760 serving in the military to serving in the adult industry. 28 00:01:28.040 --> 00:01:30.480 He's been in for about six years now, and I'm 29 00:01:30.599 --> 00:01:32.599 very excited to get to know him. I know you 30 00:01:32.680 --> 00:01:34.840 are too. Let's welcome Bobby Gray. 31 00:01:35.120 --> 00:01:37.200 Thank you, Thank you for having me. I'm honored. 32 00:01:37.280 --> 00:01:39.920 Thanks well, thank you. No, it's a pleasure. 33 00:01:40.280 --> 00:01:44.480 I like doing these interviews at ABM because, you know, 34 00:01:44.560 --> 00:01:46.959 a lot of people are in town that don't normally 35 00:01:47.079 --> 00:01:49.120 you know, live in LA which is normally where I 36 00:01:49.159 --> 00:01:51.719 record my podcast, and I get the opportunity to meet 37 00:01:51.760 --> 00:01:53.359 a lot of different people and do these kind of 38 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:56.560 like quick little get to know you sessions, and yeah, 39 00:01:56.560 --> 00:01:58.519 it's just a great way to like add variety and 40 00:01:58.599 --> 00:01:59.680 new faces to the show. 41 00:02:00.280 --> 00:02:00.560 Awesome. 42 00:02:00.640 --> 00:02:04.599 Yeah, because you live in Texas right now? In Austin, right, yeah, 43 00:02:04.640 --> 00:02:09.360 Austin is. I spent a couple of months in Austin 44 00:02:09.400 --> 00:02:11.120 when I was shooting my Playboy TV show. 45 00:02:11.120 --> 00:02:12.000 It's a very cool city. 46 00:02:12.080 --> 00:02:14.199 Oh yes, Yeah, it's like a mix between New York 47 00:02:14.199 --> 00:02:15.039 and LA right now. 48 00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:17.680 Yeah, it's one of the fastest growing cities too. 49 00:02:17.759 --> 00:02:20.680 Right, ever since after COVID, Yeah, everybody just flooded in. 50 00:02:21.000 --> 00:02:21.319 Yeah. 51 00:02:21.680 --> 00:02:24.960 Yeah, speaking of COVID, that's like when you got into 52 00:02:25.039 --> 00:02:27.319 the industry, like around that time, right, yes. 53 00:02:27.199 --> 00:02:30.400 Yes, yeah, I came in January twenty twenty. Wow, a 54 00:02:30.400 --> 00:02:31.719 couple months later COVID. 55 00:02:31.919 --> 00:02:34.719 Oh so like right before COVID you didn't even wait 56 00:02:34.800 --> 00:02:37.639 for like the shutdown in like a lot of people. 57 00:02:38.000 --> 00:02:39.199 You were like right before. 58 00:02:39.400 --> 00:02:39.719 Wow. 59 00:02:40.479 --> 00:02:42.960 So now before that, you were in the army, right, yes, 60 00:02:43.039 --> 00:02:45.759 and you even did a combat tour in Iraq, that's. 61 00:02:45.599 --> 00:02:46.000 Correct, yea. 62 00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:49.560 So how did that shift from you know, being an 63 00:02:49.639 --> 00:02:51.159 army vet to work in the adult industry? 64 00:02:51.159 --> 00:02:51.919 How did that happen? 65 00:02:52.240 --> 00:02:55.280 I always wanted to be in the adult industry. I 66 00:02:55.319 --> 00:02:57.159 was actually deciding back when I was in college. I 67 00:02:57.199 --> 00:02:59.120 was actually this closest sign of contract and going to 68 00:02:59.120 --> 00:03:01.520 the adult industry first. But because I made a promise 69 00:03:01.560 --> 00:03:03.840 to my mom, finished college, then went to the army. 70 00:03:05.240 --> 00:03:06.400 But I always had in the back of my I 71 00:03:06.400 --> 00:03:08.240 had always had that voice calling out to me, so 72 00:03:08.360 --> 00:03:10.599 it was natural for me. I was pretty much ready. 73 00:03:10.960 --> 00:03:12.919 So when I finished up in the army in twenty fourteen, 74 00:03:13.159 --> 00:03:15.719 I just progressed naturally right over into acting and modeling. 75 00:03:15.759 --> 00:03:17.520 So I was doing that in Korea, South Korea, where 76 00:03:17.560 --> 00:03:20.039 I was stationed. Oh really, and then went to La 77 00:03:20.159 --> 00:03:22.560 back to New York, Texas. And so when I got 78 00:03:22.560 --> 00:03:24.319 to Texas, I said, you know what, I said, let 79 00:03:24.360 --> 00:03:26.439 me put the acting part to the side. Let me 80 00:03:26.960 --> 00:03:31.240 give this adult entertainment an opportunity, a chance. So yeah, 81 00:03:31.280 --> 00:03:34.000 I came across Tadpole X studio. He gave me opportunity. 82 00:03:34.039 --> 00:03:36.240 I flew into Vegas, went to the hard Rock Hotel 83 00:03:36.759 --> 00:03:39.719 and I walked in, I saw everybody. I was just amazed. 84 00:03:40.039 --> 00:03:44.479 And he had promised, if I remember correctly, he had 85 00:03:44.479 --> 00:03:47.080 promised his fans seven new guys. And when I showed up, 86 00:03:48.240 --> 00:03:50.240 we get to Ela Water, we go up and he said, hey, Bobby, 87 00:03:50.240 --> 00:03:51.759 he said, you know, thank you for showing up. He's like, 88 00:03:51.800 --> 00:03:54.680 you know, I appreciate so much. And he's like, welcome 89 00:03:54.759 --> 00:03:57.000 to Welcome to the porn industry. He's like, by the way, 90 00:03:57.479 --> 00:04:00.280 you're the only guy that showed up, no pressure all 91 00:04:00.280 --> 00:04:00.520 on you. 92 00:04:00.759 --> 00:04:03.719 Well, so he's really thankful that you showed up. Wow. 93 00:04:03.879 --> 00:04:05.560 And I walked through the door and Kendri Heart my 94 00:04:05.599 --> 00:04:08.639 first shoot. Oh wow, yeah, yeah, and I was nervous. 95 00:04:08.680 --> 00:04:12.840 I was yeah, and yeah, she's like she took command 96 00:04:12.879 --> 00:04:14.680 of the room, like her energy. She was so bubbly 97 00:04:14.759 --> 00:04:15.159 and chill. 98 00:04:15.280 --> 00:04:16.839 Yeah, and so how did the scene go? 99 00:04:17.079 --> 00:04:19.240 Scene went good? He actually threw and to make it 100 00:04:19.279 --> 00:04:21.079 a group scene. He threw in one of his friends 101 00:04:21.079 --> 00:04:22.759 that was suppsed to shoot the next day, but he 102 00:04:22.800 --> 00:04:24.199 was tested and everything, so he just hadn't put a 103 00:04:24.240 --> 00:04:26.120 mask on. Yeah, so he did an MFM. So he 104 00:04:26.160 --> 00:04:26.920 was good. He was really good. 105 00:04:26.959 --> 00:04:27.839 Yeah, oh wow, yeah. 106 00:04:27.959 --> 00:04:28.120 Yeah. 107 00:04:29.800 --> 00:04:32.360 Why did he mention, like why the other guys didn't 108 00:04:32.360 --> 00:04:35.000 show up? Do you do you think that it's because 109 00:04:35.000 --> 00:04:38.560 I will say, like I get a lot of dms. 110 00:04:38.600 --> 00:04:40.360 Every woman in the adult industry gets a lot of 111 00:04:40.439 --> 00:04:42.759 dms from guys who want to get into the industry, right, 112 00:04:43.160 --> 00:04:45.879 like in their head it sounds like a great idea, 113 00:04:46.279 --> 00:04:48.800 but the reality of it. 114 00:04:48.199 --> 00:04:51.079 Is not the same exactly exactly. Do you think that 115 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:52.879 that's why they chickened out. 116 00:04:53.040 --> 00:04:54.639 I think that's a big part of it, because, like 117 00:04:54.639 --> 00:04:56.480 you said, like they have this version in their mind 118 00:04:56.800 --> 00:04:58.560 and now when it's kind to put up our shut up, 119 00:04:59.160 --> 00:05:01.759 and whether it's you know, having it out there and 120 00:05:01.839 --> 00:05:04.000 Internet forever, or I think the big part is them 121 00:05:04.040 --> 00:05:06.480 actually showing up and having you know, the lights of 122 00:05:06.519 --> 00:05:09.120 the camera and all these other people possibly around, you know, 123 00:05:09.360 --> 00:05:12.319 the manager, the agent, you ever know, or just extra 124 00:05:12.319 --> 00:05:15.439 people who are there like waiting for their shoot. I 125 00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:17.759 think that plays into the mind of men, because again, 126 00:05:17.800 --> 00:05:20.120 it's it's easy when you're when you're watching it and 127 00:05:20.160 --> 00:05:23.040 you can envision yourself in that fantasy. But it's another 128 00:05:23.079 --> 00:05:26.560 thing now when it becomes reality. So yeah, when he 129 00:05:26.600 --> 00:05:28.639 told me that, you know, we both started laughing because 130 00:05:28.720 --> 00:05:30.560 we both already kind of figured that's what it was. 131 00:05:31.000 --> 00:05:36.199 Now you did your first scene, what was like unexpected 132 00:05:36.240 --> 00:05:36.759 about it? 133 00:05:37.040 --> 00:05:38.399 What was expected about it? 134 00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:41.639 Like, did you finish that thinking that's exactly how I 135 00:05:41.639 --> 00:05:44.040 thought it would be, or where you're like, that's not 136 00:05:44.120 --> 00:05:45.240 at all what I thought it would be. 137 00:05:45.319 --> 00:05:48.480 Well, you know, funny thing is, I cleared my mind beforehand. 138 00:05:48.519 --> 00:05:49.519 I just said, you know, I don't want to have 139 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:52.480 any expectations. So when I went in and like I said, 140 00:05:52.480 --> 00:05:56.160 I was, I was nervous, even though I had been 141 00:05:56.360 --> 00:05:58.879 in the Swermer lifestyle before, I was kind of nervous 142 00:05:58.920 --> 00:06:01.879 just because again I'm going into a different realm in 143 00:06:01.920 --> 00:06:05.920 a sense. So I guess you could say like once 144 00:06:05.959 --> 00:06:07.959 I finished up, like I was, I was thrilled. 145 00:06:08.279 --> 00:06:08.439 You know. 146 00:06:08.439 --> 00:06:11.000 It was like I was proud of myself in a sense. 147 00:06:11.040 --> 00:06:13.319 You know, I actually did exactly what I said I 148 00:06:13.360 --> 00:06:16.199 was going to do. I followed through and I made 149 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:19.160 a good impression on Tadpole and on the other folks, 150 00:06:19.160 --> 00:06:22.079 so they kept calling me back. But yeah, it was 151 00:06:22.800 --> 00:06:25.759 I would say it was. It was eerie because I 152 00:06:25.839 --> 00:06:28.680 manifested that, because I had prayed about it a long 153 00:06:28.720 --> 00:06:30.519 time ago, because like I said, when I was in college, 154 00:06:30.560 --> 00:06:34.040 I like this closest signed the contract, and I guess 155 00:06:34.040 --> 00:06:36.240 you could say divine timing, So it just it happened 156 00:06:36.560 --> 00:06:38.000 exactly when it was supposed to happen. 157 00:06:38.720 --> 00:06:41.959 And yeah, yeah, are you glad that you waited, because 158 00:06:41.959 --> 00:06:44.800 a lot of people get into the adult industry early, 159 00:06:45.519 --> 00:06:48.920 and not always, but sometimes they wish they had waited. 160 00:06:49.319 --> 00:06:52.480 For me. I am thankful that I waited, because I 161 00:06:52.600 --> 00:06:56.360 just know that had I gone in at nineteen, I 162 00:06:56.519 --> 00:06:59.959 probably would have gotten gotten hooked up to the wrong 163 00:07:00.160 --> 00:07:03.480 crowd per se, and I probably would have messed a 164 00:07:03.560 --> 00:07:05.079 lot of stuff up for myself. And then we hear 165 00:07:05.079 --> 00:07:06.839 those stories all the time, in the entertainment business. You know, 166 00:07:06.879 --> 00:07:09.720 folks that kind of go in whether at like a 167 00:07:09.839 --> 00:07:12.839 very early age in their teens, young adults, and end 168 00:07:12.959 --> 00:07:14.560 up kind of like going like blowing through their money 169 00:07:14.600 --> 00:07:16.720 and getting caught up in drugs, the bad crowd. And 170 00:07:16.759 --> 00:07:18.560 I think for me, not because I was a party 171 00:07:18.600 --> 00:07:20.120 guy too much, it was just more of like I 172 00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:22.920 have a really good heart, and that's like easy prey 173 00:07:23.160 --> 00:07:23.959 for certain you know. 174 00:07:24.040 --> 00:07:26.120 Type of people. It's easy to be influenced to at 175 00:07:26.120 --> 00:07:27.040 that age exactly. 176 00:07:27.079 --> 00:07:29.639 So I'm very thankful that I did wait. And also, 177 00:07:29.800 --> 00:07:31.519 you know, I got to experience, like I said, going 178 00:07:31.560 --> 00:07:34.879 into the military, serving my country and going overseas, meeting 179 00:07:35.040 --> 00:07:38.079 just the different different people going around with different cultures. 180 00:07:38.079 --> 00:07:39.560 So yeah, I'm glad I waited. 181 00:07:39.759 --> 00:07:41.759 Do you think that the army gave you like a 182 00:07:41.839 --> 00:07:44.639 kind of discipline that helped you, yes. 183 00:07:44.600 --> 00:07:47.600 Oh yeah, yeah. It definitely gave me structure, and it 184 00:07:47.639 --> 00:07:49.959 definitely gave me the ability to have like that thick 185 00:07:50.000 --> 00:07:52.279 skin to where like when things kind of like you know, 186 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:55.360 don't go your way, especially in this industry, it's like 187 00:07:55.399 --> 00:07:57.839 a roller coaster ride. You managing so much, so it's like, 188 00:07:57.879 --> 00:07:59.199 so you got to have that thick skin where it's 189 00:07:59.199 --> 00:08:01.040 just like on to the next thing, you know, and 190 00:08:01.120 --> 00:08:03.160 just not allow other things to affect you too much. 191 00:08:03.160 --> 00:08:06.000 So, yeah, have you had to navigate changes in like 192 00:08:06.079 --> 00:08:08.519 how friends or family perceive you since entering porn? 193 00:08:08.759 --> 00:08:13.439 Uh somewhat. I don't have too many family and friends 194 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:14.079 that know about it. 195 00:08:14.399 --> 00:08:14.519 Uh. 196 00:08:14.519 --> 00:08:18.680 The ones that do super excited. A best friend of mine, 197 00:08:18.759 --> 00:08:20.720 he lives in the Philippines now, and every now and 198 00:08:20.759 --> 00:08:23.000 again he'll hit me up and he'll send messages and go, hey, man, 199 00:08:23.000 --> 00:08:24.879 I'll just show these girls your your page and stuff 200 00:08:24.920 --> 00:08:27.240 and when you're coming out to the Philippines. And then 201 00:08:27.279 --> 00:08:31.360 my younger brother, we're twelve years apart, and he's he's 202 00:08:31.480 --> 00:08:34.120 back in New York and every now and again we'll talk. 203 00:08:34.279 --> 00:08:36.679 And recently, the last time we talked a few months ago, 204 00:08:36.720 --> 00:08:39.639 he said that he's also interested in, you know, getting 205 00:08:39.639 --> 00:08:41.120 into the industry. So I gave him some tips and 206 00:08:41.159 --> 00:08:42.639 them some emails and that stuff, and I said, you know, 207 00:08:42.679 --> 00:08:44.200 I said, pick my brain as much as you want. 208 00:08:44.639 --> 00:08:47.320 But uh, yeah, the uh, the family friends who know, 209 00:08:47.639 --> 00:08:50.480 you know, they're they were kind of shocked at first 210 00:08:50.639 --> 00:08:54.360 because I didn't give off the energy of that type 211 00:08:54.399 --> 00:08:56.200 of person that would go, you know, into into the 212 00:08:56.279 --> 00:08:59.000 industry because people see me as more like the clean cut, 213 00:08:59.120 --> 00:09:01.720 you know, guy next door type stuff. So when I 214 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:05.480 do tell people their shots, yeah, but. 215 00:09:05.440 --> 00:09:07.960 There's obviously like a side of you that they don't see. 216 00:09:08.120 --> 00:09:11.480 Right, How do you think adult performers are still misunderstood 217 00:09:11.480 --> 00:09:12.720 by people outside the industry? 218 00:09:12.879 --> 00:09:14.600 Oh, great question. 219 00:09:15.759 --> 00:09:17.480 I mean now that you're in it, and maybe the 220 00:09:17.480 --> 00:09:19.200 way that you saw them before you got in it, 221 00:09:19.360 --> 00:09:21.320 right now that you're now that you're one of us. 222 00:09:21.200 --> 00:09:25.320 Exactly, exactly exactly. I think the big part is and 223 00:09:25.360 --> 00:09:27.720 it's so funny because it's like us in the industry 224 00:09:27.759 --> 00:09:30.960 now we laugh at it. They don't seem to realize 225 00:09:30.960 --> 00:09:34.600 like how often we get tested. You know, on the outside, 226 00:09:35.039 --> 00:09:37.000 people have this mindset like Okay, I got tested in 227 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:39.080 like it like they're good for a year, and I 228 00:09:39.080 --> 00:09:40.960 have to remind them. I'm like, that's a test, it's 229 00:09:41.000 --> 00:09:43.600 not a shot. Yeah, And I was like, you know, 230 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:46.200 we have to get tested very often, especially depending upon 231 00:09:46.240 --> 00:09:49.159 how many shootes. It could be every two weeks, every 232 00:09:49.240 --> 00:09:52.279 three weeks, whatever the case may be. And I think 233 00:09:52.320 --> 00:09:54.120 that's the misconceptions that we were like a bunch of 234 00:09:54.120 --> 00:09:57.159 dirty people just having sex and you know, we've got 235 00:09:57.159 --> 00:10:00.080 all types of diseases and runner and that's far from it. 236 00:10:00.159 --> 00:10:02.879 I mean, we are. And that's that's something that definitely 237 00:10:03.639 --> 00:10:08.799 opened my mind's eye was just how strict the industry is. 238 00:10:08.840 --> 00:10:10.519 I mean, and of course because of things that have 239 00:10:10.559 --> 00:10:13.360 happened in the past with you know, things on set, 240 00:10:13.399 --> 00:10:15.919 with people not being tested and spreading stuff. 241 00:10:16.120 --> 00:10:18.759 Yeah, unfortunately, we've had to learn, We've had to learn 242 00:10:18.759 --> 00:10:21.120 some hard lessons over the years. Yeah, but it's made 243 00:10:21.200 --> 00:10:25.720 us a safer industry and it's created like also, like 244 00:10:25.960 --> 00:10:28.879 I think a strong sense of responsibility amongst people in 245 00:10:28.919 --> 00:10:33.480 the industry. Like I think that people who are professionals 246 00:10:33.639 --> 00:10:38.200 and you know, who work consistently like understand the importance 247 00:10:38.240 --> 00:10:41.279 of testing and like nobody blows it off, you know exactly. 248 00:10:41.320 --> 00:10:44.000 And I think also the fact that they don't, I 249 00:10:44.039 --> 00:10:47.600 guess they sometimes forget like that we're human. And sometimes 250 00:10:47.639 --> 00:10:50.240 I'll other places that I've worked at, work in fitness 251 00:10:50.240 --> 00:10:52.759 facilities and people have known there and they were all 252 00:10:52.759 --> 00:10:56.279 excited and stuff. And the funny thing is they don't 253 00:10:56.279 --> 00:10:59.240 realize just how chill and how relaxed and just how 254 00:10:59.279 --> 00:11:03.039 normal we are. Yeah, they Yeah, they truly believe like 255 00:11:03.080 --> 00:11:04.759 we were from like another planet. 256 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:06.480 You know, it was so funny. 257 00:11:06.519 --> 00:11:09.080 I had girth Master on a few months ago, and 258 00:11:09.360 --> 00:11:14.120 you know, he's like fairly new to the industry doing 259 00:11:14.159 --> 00:11:17.440 mainstream porn, and I asked him, like, what one of 260 00:11:17.480 --> 00:11:20.000 the things about the porn surprised him, and he. 261 00:11:19.960 --> 00:11:22.600 Said, there's a lot less orgies that I expected. 262 00:11:23.279 --> 00:11:24.919 Like I thought that every party I would go to 263 00:11:24.960 --> 00:11:27.519 the orgies, No one's having orgies. 264 00:11:27.559 --> 00:11:29.960 People are just it's like a normal party are going 265 00:11:29.960 --> 00:11:31.519 and like having drinks and like talking. 266 00:11:31.720 --> 00:11:34.159 Yeah, yeah, which I thought was so funny. Yeah, I 267 00:11:34.159 --> 00:11:36.440 mean it's it's it's a beautiful thing to see, like 268 00:11:36.440 --> 00:11:38.879 when you can actually just chill out, relax, enjoy a drink, 269 00:11:38.919 --> 00:11:42.039 cap of conversation with people, and that's something I think 270 00:11:42.080 --> 00:11:44.279 for me, it didn't surprise me too much when I 271 00:11:44.279 --> 00:11:47.000 was on the outside, because, as I said, like I 272 00:11:47.039 --> 00:11:48.960 wanted to be an industry for so long. So when 273 00:11:48.960 --> 00:11:51.159 I had the opportunity to meet like Shawn Michaels joining 274 00:11:51.240 --> 00:11:55.919 Angel at the Expos Awards years back, I got to 275 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:58.559 kind of peek into that world a little bit. I 276 00:11:58.559 --> 00:12:00.320 got to hang out with people at the after the 277 00:12:00.360 --> 00:12:03.600 award shows and stuff, and it was just so calming, 278 00:12:03.639 --> 00:12:05.240 It was so relaxing. It was like it was like 279 00:12:05.399 --> 00:12:07.799 I felt like I belonged, you know, and I loved it. 280 00:12:07.879 --> 00:12:08.159 Yeah. 281 00:12:08.279 --> 00:12:10.840 I say this so frequently that people are probably sicking 282 00:12:10.840 --> 00:12:13.440 to me saying it. But it is very much like 283 00:12:14.200 --> 00:12:18.320 a big kind of misfit family. And Mick Blue actually 284 00:12:18.320 --> 00:12:21.399 brought a friend of his to one of the awards 285 00:12:21.440 --> 00:12:24.559 ceremonies and he told Mick that, and he was someone 286 00:12:24.600 --> 00:12:27.120 who works in mainstream Hollywood, and this like really stuck 287 00:12:27.159 --> 00:12:30.840 with me. And he said that he couldn't believe how 288 00:12:31.039 --> 00:12:35.200 incredibly close everybody was and how like genuinely happy everybody 289 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:38.600 was to see everybody, and like the like the love 290 00:12:38.639 --> 00:12:42.879 and the connection between people was felt really genuine, and 291 00:12:42.919 --> 00:12:45.000 it was like I've never seen that at a Hollywood 292 00:12:45.039 --> 00:12:47.480 party at all, And I thought about I actually went 293 00:12:47.480 --> 00:12:50.840 to like Paris Hilton's birthday party last year or something 294 00:12:51.440 --> 00:12:57.559 with a friend of mine, and it was very like la, 295 00:12:57.879 --> 00:13:01.159 you know, like nobody was talking to each other. People 296 00:13:01.240 --> 00:13:03.639 were just like no one was talking to each other. 297 00:13:03.679 --> 00:13:05.360 It was like no one knew each other. Everyone was 298 00:13:05.440 --> 00:13:06.159 just standing. 299 00:13:05.840 --> 00:13:06.639 In these little groups. 300 00:13:06.720 --> 00:13:09.480 Yeah, and everyone looked so bored. It was like the 301 00:13:09.480 --> 00:13:12.399 most boring party I've ever been to, and I was like, 302 00:13:12.600 --> 00:13:15.200 this is not the world I want to be in. 303 00:13:15.600 --> 00:13:18.480 Like it made me so grateful for working important. 304 00:13:18.600 --> 00:13:18.759 You know. 305 00:13:19.000 --> 00:13:21.960 Yeah, so you've been married twice and you now prefer 306 00:13:22.039 --> 00:13:23.440 a polyamorous lifestyle. 307 00:13:24.080 --> 00:13:26.720 What did traditional relationships teach you about yourself? 308 00:13:27.639 --> 00:13:32.159 That I'm not monogamous? That it is, Yeah, it's it's 309 00:13:32.559 --> 00:13:36.320 the traditional relationship lifestyle. Nothing wrong with it, but it's 310 00:13:36.360 --> 00:13:39.120 just not for me. I felt like, I don't know, 311 00:13:39.120 --> 00:13:42.799 I felt like I was confined, and uh, I think 312 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:46.120 for me, like society gives you like a guidebook and 313 00:13:46.639 --> 00:13:49.399 it's to learn from and create your own. The mistake 314 00:13:49.440 --> 00:13:51.000 I made was I was actually like following it to 315 00:13:51.039 --> 00:13:53.799 a tea, you know, go to college, career, get married. 316 00:13:54.879 --> 00:14:00.639 And it also taught me that I'm very sensual, very sexual, 317 00:14:00.759 --> 00:14:04.559 Like I love women, you know, I love being sexual. 318 00:14:04.600 --> 00:14:06.720 And I think being in a monogamous relationship, at least 319 00:14:06.720 --> 00:14:08.879 from what I saw growing up, it was it was 320 00:14:08.960 --> 00:14:11.279 confined in the sense that it's almost like you you 321 00:14:11.399 --> 00:14:14.200 couldn't have certain thoughts, you couldn't be a certain way 322 00:14:14.279 --> 00:14:16.600 even in your own relationship. Like something was wrong with you, 323 00:14:16.639 --> 00:14:19.720 And that's what I went through in both those relationships, 324 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:22.279 and it got to the point where I was just like, 325 00:14:22.320 --> 00:14:24.240 you know what, I the best thing to do is 326 00:14:24.279 --> 00:14:26.120 just to walk away. We're not compatible, you know. And 327 00:14:26.159 --> 00:14:28.720 it was nothing against them, wonderful, wonderful women, but I 328 00:14:28.960 --> 00:14:31.000 knew what they needed and I just was not that 329 00:14:31.720 --> 00:14:35.159 and I knew what I needed. So it it, like 330 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:37.080 I said, divine time, like everything just kind of fell 331 00:14:37.080 --> 00:14:39.320 into place where it was supposed to. And then the 332 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:42.879 port the opportunity for the porn industry came up, and yeah. 333 00:14:42.480 --> 00:14:44.080 Can you tell us the story of how you earned 334 00:14:44.080 --> 00:14:45.480 the nickname mister Honeymoon. 335 00:14:46.240 --> 00:14:50.639 Yes. So I was on a sept for Tadpole TADPOLEX Studios, 336 00:14:50.720 --> 00:14:53.159 and I don't know if it was either, Yes, it 337 00:14:53.240 --> 00:14:59.120 was Exotica Chicago and Exotica Miami. So on the set 338 00:14:59.399 --> 00:15:03.039 doing the game scene and because I take my time, 339 00:15:03.080 --> 00:15:05.360 I worship the woman's body. I listened to her energy 340 00:15:05.759 --> 00:15:07.919 and that's just how I how I kind of navigate. 341 00:15:09.120 --> 00:15:12.120 So there was this guy, I'm not gonna get his name, 342 00:15:12.360 --> 00:15:14.440 good guy, good guy. He didn't mean anything by it. 343 00:15:14.559 --> 00:15:17.279 So after the one in Chicago, he walks up to me, 344 00:15:17.320 --> 00:15:18.960 and he's just like, hey, man, you know, just so 345 00:15:19.039 --> 00:15:22.279 you know, I get your style and everything. I respect it, 346 00:15:22.279 --> 00:15:23.440 but you know, this is gang bang. You know we 347 00:15:23.480 --> 00:15:24.840 got to be like pop pop pop to the next 348 00:15:24.879 --> 00:15:26.399 one pop pop pop, Yeah, the next one, right, And 349 00:15:26.440 --> 00:15:28.519 I said no, I said, I completely understand. And we 350 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:29.879 talked for a little bit, and then when I got 351 00:15:29.879 --> 00:15:31.559 back home, he had messaged me again. I guess he 352 00:15:31.559 --> 00:15:33.840 felt really bad, so he messaged me this long, you know, 353 00:15:34.000 --> 00:15:36.320 nice message and he said he said, yeah, you know, 354 00:15:36.320 --> 00:15:39.399 he's giving me some more advice. And so then I 355 00:15:39.399 --> 00:15:40.639 said to him, I said, hey, I said, you know, 356 00:15:40.720 --> 00:15:43.080 duly noted, but I said, also realized. I said, this 357 00:15:43.120 --> 00:15:45.639 is the reason why Tadpole keeps, you know, asking me 358 00:15:45.679 --> 00:15:48.840 to come back, because he likes my style. His fans 359 00:15:48.919 --> 00:15:50.840 like my style. I guess it ads like a different dynamic. 360 00:15:51.799 --> 00:15:54.480 And then also a lot of times in the past 361 00:15:54.600 --> 00:15:56.879 when Tadpole reached out to the women and they were 362 00:15:56.919 --> 00:15:58.159 kind of like, I don't know if I can make it, 363 00:15:58.159 --> 00:16:00.480 then he would show them my profile and they're like, oh, yeah, 364 00:16:00.480 --> 00:16:02.120 he's going to be there. I'll be there. I was like, okay, 365 00:16:02.159 --> 00:16:05.840 So it again, I in my own way contributed that energy, 366 00:16:07.279 --> 00:16:09.200 and that's what I also loved about it was just 367 00:16:09.240 --> 00:16:10.840 being on the set and seeing like the different people 368 00:16:10.879 --> 00:16:13.600 who have, you know, brought something different. So then now 369 00:16:14.000 --> 00:16:17.480 the Miami Exotica shoot, same thing again, and the same 370 00:16:17.519 --> 00:16:21.519 guy is there, and so everybody finishes up. Tadpole's standing 371 00:16:21.519 --> 00:16:23.200 there butt naked with the camera and he's looking at me, 372 00:16:23.240 --> 00:16:26.519 and I'm on top of Sarah Arabic. Wonderful, wonderful. 373 00:16:27.240 --> 00:16:28.519 We love Sarah Arabic. 374 00:16:28.720 --> 00:16:30.639 I met her for the first time on the Expis 375 00:16:31.000 --> 00:16:34.759 red carpet because she did an unboxing of the strip 376 00:16:34.840 --> 00:16:37.039 chat merch that we gave away at the party that 377 00:16:37.080 --> 00:16:38.519 we did at David Busters. 378 00:16:38.559 --> 00:16:40.240 So thank you, Sarah. 379 00:16:40.320 --> 00:16:43.360 I will always love you for that special like social 380 00:16:43.399 --> 00:16:44.960 media like shout out, yes. 381 00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:47.639 She is awesome, like her energy, the way we connected. 382 00:16:48.320 --> 00:16:50.559 So I'm on top of her, and I think we 383 00:16:50.600 --> 00:16:52.559 both kind of forgot where we were. So that's why 384 00:16:52.600 --> 00:16:54.600 Tadpole was like, hey, Bobby, youre about to finish up? 385 00:16:54.720 --> 00:16:57.519 Was like, so I said, yeah, one second. So just 386 00:16:57.559 --> 00:17:01.559 as I get ready, the guy he's standing there and 387 00:17:01.600 --> 00:17:04.759 he has his hands on his hips, sure on his hips, 388 00:17:04.839 --> 00:17:09.519 Like there he goes mister Honeymoon, and everybody starts busting 389 00:17:09.519 --> 00:17:11.839 out left and I stopped like right before I come 390 00:17:11.880 --> 00:17:14.119 and I look over and I was like, bro, thank you, 391 00:17:14.119 --> 00:17:15.920 I'm going to use that. And I just took it 392 00:17:15.960 --> 00:17:17.599 and ran with it, and so ever since then, I 393 00:17:17.680 --> 00:17:20.839 used mister Honeymoon, and yeah, it's stuck because it was 394 00:17:20.880 --> 00:17:24.799 funny too. It's like I was looking for a nickname 395 00:17:24.839 --> 00:17:27.480 for myself and Boems, you just gave it to me 396 00:17:27.559 --> 00:17:28.079 right through him. 397 00:17:28.119 --> 00:17:30.839 So do you feel though, then, because I understand what 398 00:17:30.880 --> 00:17:32.920 he's saying about gang bangs and gang bangs are like 399 00:17:32.960 --> 00:17:35.400 a very yes. I've talked a lot about how the 400 00:17:35.480 --> 00:17:38.119 dynamic actually matters between the guys than it does between 401 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:39.839