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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Flourish Frequency the show where we activate

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<v Speaker 1>and amplify the frequencies of success, joy, and abundance. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>your host, Beth Larson, a high performance and quantum success coach.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're ready to ditch the herd, hustle and embrace

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<v Speaker 1>a more effortless flow, then this is the show for you. Together,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll tap into quantum thinking, harness the laws of the universe,

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<v Speaker 1>and unlock the secrets to living a life of more,

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<v Speaker 1>more joy, more energy, more passion, more money, and more meaning.

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<v Speaker 1>No more simply surviving. We're going beyond thriving. It's time

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<v Speaker 1>to flourish. The Flourish Frequency Show starts now. Hello and welcome,

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Flourish Frequency Show. And I love that

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<v Speaker 1>we were just talking there at the end of the

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<v Speaker 1>introduction about going beyond thriving and coming into that space

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<v Speaker 1>of flourishing, because that's exactly what today's episode is about.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to dive deeper into the distinction between thriving

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<v Speaker 1>and flourishing. If you are new to my work, one

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<v Speaker 1>of the fine foundational concepts that I teach is what

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<v Speaker 1>I call the four power paradigms. These are surviving striving, thriving,

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<v Speaker 1>and flourishing, and each one of these represents a different

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<v Speaker 1>way of relating to our own power. And while relating

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<v Speaker 1>to the topic of power itself, I should say and

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<v Speaker 1>how we participate in life. In surviving, most of your

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<v Speaker 1>energy is focused on just getting through. You respond to circumstances.

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<v Speaker 1>Usually you're managing your immediate needs and trying to create

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<v Speaker 1>safety and stability in your life. In the striving mode,

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<v Speaker 1>you create change through effort, working harder, pushing, achieving, proving

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<v Speaker 1>what you're capable of. Striving is It's one of those

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<v Speaker 1>places I always say, it's where a lot of high

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<v Speaker 1>achievers can often start and sometimes end up if they

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<v Speaker 1>can't expand past it, because driving can create extraordinary results,

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<v Speaker 1>especially initially, but it often requires you to keep supplying

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<v Speaker 1>more energy in order to sustain those results. And thriving

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<v Speaker 1>you reconnect with personal power. You become more intentional about

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<v Speaker 1>your energy and about your choices and about your own

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<v Speaker 1>personal well being. You begin to feel alive and more expressed,

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<v Speaker 1>more purposeful, and honestly more resourced, and you begin creating

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<v Speaker 1>success that actually feels good. I've always known personally that thriving, though,

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<v Speaker 1>was not the stopping point. Even sometimes though I'll use

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<v Speaker 1>the words thriving and flourishing kind of interchangeably, but I've

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<v Speaker 1>always pictured them very differently. Whenever I imagine thriving, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I get this image in my head out of a

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<v Speaker 1>single plant that is strong and healthy and vibrant, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's growing beautifully because it has it's got the light,

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<v Speaker 1>it's got the water, it's got the nourishment, all the

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<v Speaker 1>conditions that it needs in order to grow and to thrive.

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<v Speaker 1>But when I imagine flourishing, I always see a field

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<v Speaker 1>of flowers, not one plant that's growing beautifully all on

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<v Speaker 1>its own, but this entire living ecosystem. Flowers blooming everywhere,

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<v Speaker 1>butterflies and bumblebees moving from one flower to the next,

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<v Speaker 1>pollen traveling across the field. Each individual life is contributing

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<v Speaker 1>to the health of the whole, and the whole is

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<v Speaker 1>in return supporting each individual life. Only recently have I

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<v Speaker 1>understood more fully what this image was always trying to

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<v Speaker 1>show me. That thriving is something that's personal, but flourishing

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<v Speaker 1>is something that is participatory. Thriving is where you become

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<v Speaker 1>fully alive within yourself, and flourishing begins when you're a

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<v Speaker 1>liveness starts to enter into a larger circulation of life.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, the word flourish itself, it carries a few

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<v Speaker 1>different meanings. It can mean to grow luxuriously. I always

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<v Speaker 1>love that definition. That was one of the reasons why

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<v Speaker 1>I really like the word flourish, like, ooh, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to grow luxuriously. But it can also mean to be

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<v Speaker 1>prosperous and to become successful businesses that flourish. It can

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<v Speaker 1>also describe a bold expression, like when you sign your

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<v Speaker 1>name with a flourish, or you know there's a grand gesture,

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<v Speaker 1>they do it with a flourish. So think about that growth,

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<v Speaker 1>success and expression. Something grows within you, it becomes expressed

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<v Speaker 1>through you, and that expression creates movement beyond you. Think

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<v Speaker 1>about it this way. Your wisdom changes a conversation. Your

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<v Speaker 1>courage gives somebody else courage gives them the permission to

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<v Speaker 1>be bold. Your healing alters a family pattern. Your business

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<v Speaker 1>creates opportunity. Right. Your thriving as an individual begins to

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<v Speaker 1>feed the field, and as that increase circulates, the field

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<v Speaker 1>itself will begin to feed you in return. I was

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<v Speaker 1>looking for a couple of examples really to bring this

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<v Speaker 1>kind of full circle here and help really show what

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<v Speaker 1>this looks like. And I came across two incredible women

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<v Speaker 1>that I want to talk about here today. One is

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<v Speaker 1>Madam C. J. Walker and the other is Tory Birch.

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<v Speaker 1>Both of these women built businesses in very different areas

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<v Speaker 1>and under very different circumstances, but both of them show

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<v Speaker 1>us what can happen when success doesn't stop just with

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<v Speaker 1>the individual. So let's talk about Madam C. J. Walker.

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<v Speaker 1>She was an incredible woman. She was born Sarah Breedlove

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<v Speaker 1>in Louisiana. Hang on, I'm just gonna look at my

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<v Speaker 1>notes real quick. Yeah, Louisiana in eighteen sixty seven to

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<v Speaker 1>parents who had been slaves. They had recently been freed,

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<v Speaker 1>but they had been slaves and she was born. I

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<v Speaker 1>believe while they were still slaves. She was orphaned as

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<v Speaker 1>a child. They died at a very young age. She

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<v Speaker 1>ended up working as a lawn dress and she knew

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<v Speaker 1>the reality is very well of poverty and discrimination, limited opportunity.

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<v Speaker 1>After she experienced some hair and scalp issues, I believe

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<v Speaker 1>she was actually losing a lot of her hair, she

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<v Speaker 1>started kind of playing around with products and trying different treatments,

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<v Speaker 1>and she ended up creating some products heard the beauty industry.

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<v Speaker 1>She eventually developed and sold these products created specifically for

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<v Speaker 1>black women, and her company grew into an extraordinary success.

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<v Speaker 1>She became a millionaire. She's actually in the Guinness Book

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<v Speaker 1>of World Records. She's the first self made millionaire in America.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's amazing. She built a national brand, She

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<v Speaker 1>created a life of financial independence. She had influence, and

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<v Speaker 1>she had choice. Now, that is an extraordinary story of

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<v Speaker 1>a woman who is thriving. But the part of her

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<v Speaker 1>story that matters most for this conversation is really what

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<v Speaker 1>she built around all of that success. She established beauty schools.

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<v Speaker 1>She trained women to become professional hair culturists and sales agents.

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<v Speaker 1>Her network created employment and entrepreneurial opportunities for thousands of

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<v Speaker 1>black women at the time when Jim Crow laws and

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<v Speaker 1>customs excluded them from labor markets and forget about them

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get any sources of financing. She created that

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<v Speaker 1>women gained skills because of her, They earned incomes. Some

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<v Speaker 1>of them became salonovers and franchisees, and they supported their families,

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<v Speaker 1>and they developed professional identities and leadership. She also organized

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<v Speaker 1>clubs that participated in charitable work and civic engagement and activism.

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<v Speaker 1>The value didn't stop with her product or even with

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<v Speaker 1>her own personal wealth. It moved through an entire ecosystem.

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<v Speaker 1>One woman's business created a pathway through which many other

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<v Speaker 1>women became more economically capable, and those women expanded the

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<v Speaker 1>reach and the reputation and the impact of the company

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<v Speaker 1>In return. Her success fed the ecosystem, but then the

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<v Speaker 1>ecosystem then expanded her success. That is flourishing. This is

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<v Speaker 1>where the distinction gets deeper than just personal success versus

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<v Speaker 1>just helping other people right. Thriving describes the vitality of

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<v Speaker 1>an individual. Flourishing describes the relationship between the individual and

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<v Speaker 1>the living systems around her. So a person can be

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<v Speaker 1>financially thriving but still create depletion in their team. A

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<v Speaker 1>person can be thriving professionally while their family is held

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<v Speaker 1>together by their constant overfunctioning. You can influence thousands of

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<v Speaker 1>people while privately abandoning your body and your relationships and

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<v Speaker 1>your joy, your own personal joy. See. External impact alone

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<v Speaker 1>is not what flourishing is, and flourishing is not measured

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<v Speaker 1>by how many people depend on you. It's not giving

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<v Speaker 1>until you're empty. It's not becoming the sun, the rain,

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<v Speaker 1>the soil, and the pollinator for the entire field. A

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<v Speaker 1>healthy ecosystem cannot be built around the depletion of one

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<v Speaker 1>of its members. Flourishing requires reciprocity. You contribute what is

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<v Speaker 1>yours to contribute, and you receive back the very things

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<v Speaker 1>that allow you to remain alive, to remain resource, to

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<v Speaker 1>remain capable of continuing to contribute. This is why thriving

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<v Speaker 1>remains essential. A woman who has spent years surviving you

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<v Speaker 1>may need to focus on your safety and stability first,

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<v Speaker 1>and a woman who spent years overgiving may need a

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<v Speaker 1>season to just work on your own energy and your

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<v Speaker 1>health and your desires first. Thriving is where you do that,

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<v Speaker 1>and thriving is what restores you as an individual. It

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<v Speaker 1>strengthens your roots, and then flourishing widens the frame beyond you.

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<v Speaker 1>So what does thriving make possible within the systems that

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<v Speaker 1>you touch? Think about that. Your improved health may change

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<v Speaker 1>the emotional climate of your family. Your leadership may develop

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<v Speaker 1>someone else who later becomes an extraordinary leader themselves and

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<v Speaker 1>then has impact on other people. Your profitable business may

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<v Speaker 1>create meaningful work or client transformation or partnerships. Healing your success.

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<v Speaker 1>Your wisdom begins creating capacity beyond just you, and the

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<v Speaker 1>healthier ecosystem will strengthen you in return. Then you have

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<v Speaker 1>to be open to receiving it, to letting yourself receive

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<v Speaker 1>it back. That's the pattern. Madam C. J. Walker didn't

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<v Speaker 1>merely tell women that they were capable of more. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't go out just being a motivator. She helped

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<v Speaker 1>create structures through which more became possible. She had training,

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<v Speaker 1>and she had products, and she had business opportunities. She

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<v Speaker 1>had community. She didn't only create the impression of possibility.

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<v Speaker 1>She increased capacity. So maybe you're a woman who begins

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<v Speaker 1>caring for your health after years of exhaustion. Let's think

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<v Speaker 1>about this a little deeper. You start getting more sleep,

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<v Speaker 1>you start improving your nutrition, you start working out, moving

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<v Speaker 1>your body. You create healthy boundaries in your life. You

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<v Speaker 1>reconnect with your interests, your passions, your desires. You feel

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<v Speaker 1>alive again. That's thriving. And because you are more regulated

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<v Speaker 1>and more present, the emotional climate of your home also changes. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>Your children see that a woman's well being matters, and

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<v Speaker 1>they experience a mom who is responding to them, not

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<v Speaker 1>reacting to them every day. Your partner maybe participates more

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<v Speaker 1>fully because you're no longer automatically carrying everything. Your health

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<v Speaker 1>and your priority on your own health could be what

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<v Speaker 1>changes and becomes normal within the family. That's an example

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<v Speaker 1>of flourishing. Maybe you're a woman in a leadership role

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<v Speaker 1>and you have authority and influence, and you've got the

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<v Speaker 1>big income and you're thriving professionally, but you also know

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<v Speaker 1>and share the knowledge that you have. Instead of gatekeeping it,

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<v Speaker 1>instead of protecting it, you advocate for someone whose potential

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<v Speaker 1>maybe is getting overlooked, and the people that you lead

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<v Speaker 1>become more capable, not because you fish for them or

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<v Speaker 1>give them fish, but because you teach them how to

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<v Speaker 1>fish right. Your team becomes stronger, and their increased capacity

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<v Speaker 1>support your leadership and return when they become stronger. That's flourishing.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you're an entrepreneur whose business becomes profitable. You pay

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<v Speaker 1>yourself well, you work healthy hours. You set up your

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<v Speaker 1>business to be leveraged so that you can get more

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<v Speaker 1>done in less hours. You can serve more people without

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<v Speaker 1>it taking less more excuse me, without it taking more

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<v Speaker 1>from you. You help your clients get meaningful results, that

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<v Speaker 1>is thriving. And then watch what happens clients refer your

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<v Speaker 1>work a collaborator grows through partnership. Your client's transformation then

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<v Speaker 1>changes the way that client leads and parents and serves others.

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<v Speaker 1>Your business against producing opportunity beyond just you, and the

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<v Speaker 1>relationships within the ecosystem then strengthened the business back. That's flourishing.

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<v Speaker 1>These are all incredible examples of what flourishing looks like.

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<v Speaker 1>So I mentioned I had another example I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>look at, and that's the example of Tory Birch. Tory

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<v Speaker 1>launched her company in two thousand and four, and when

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<v Speaker 1>she did it, she had two connected ambitions. She wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to build a global luxury brand, and she wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>establish a foundation that would advance women's economic power. The

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<v Speaker 1>interesting thing is that the second intention, it wasn't something

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<v Speaker 1>that was developed later after the company had already succeeded.

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<v Speaker 1>According to the Tory Birch Foundation, it was actually part

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<v Speaker 1>The foundation's mission is to increase women's economic power by

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<v Speaker 1>access to capital, education, and a community invested in founder

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<v Speaker 1>and business growth. The fellows network of the foundation it

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<v Speaker 1>has over I believe it's over five hundred women entrepreneurs

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<v Speaker 1>across like forty five to fifty cities and over twenty

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<v Speaker 1>different industries. We just consider what that means in practice.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got a woman who gains access to capital, to guidance,

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<v Speaker 1>into a strong peer network with mentors. She uses that

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<v Speaker 1>all to strengthen her own business. Her revenues grow, She

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<v Speaker 1>hires employees, she works with suppliers and service providers, She

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<v Speaker 1>builds relationships with other founders who share knowledge, who make introductions,

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<v Speaker 1>who create collaborations, and one woman's increased capacity begins moving

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<v Speaker 1>through the employees, through the families, through the vendors, through

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<v Speaker 1>the clients, through the communities. Once again, the increase does

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<v Speaker 1>not stop with the individual. I think this example should

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<v Speaker 1>challenge the way that we sometimes think about purpose and contribution.

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<v Speaker 1>Oftentimes we may think that contribution is something that we

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<v Speaker 1>I'll think about my impact But what of flourishing is

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<v Speaker 1>not if it's not some philanthropic project that's added after thriving.

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<v Speaker 1>What if it changes the way you build success from

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<v Speaker 1>the very beginning the business itself, it still has to thrive,

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<v Speaker 1>the products still have to be valuable, and the finances

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<v Speaker 1>that the companies still have to work. All of that's

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<v Speaker 1>really important because a depleted or a collapsing business it

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<v Speaker 1>has very little capacity to increase anyone. So that has

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<v Speaker 1>to happen, but its success can exist inside of a

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<v Speaker 1>larger vision. So I want to invite you out there.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're an entrepreneur in particular, do you have something

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<v Speaker 1>bigger than you that's part of your why for your business?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have your own personal why, the meaningful why

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself? But do you also have something bigger than

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<v Speaker 1>you that's actually more of an ecosystem driven idea. Have

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<v Speaker 1>you thought about your business beyond just your own personal impact,

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<v Speaker 1>and have you thought bigger and broader to the longer

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<v Speaker 1>term impact that you want to make, that you want

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<v Speaker 1>to have the legacy, that you want to live or leave.

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<v Speaker 1>I should say live and leave now. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>make a distinction here too, between helping someone and increasing someone,

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<v Speaker 1>and I said before, we want to teach people how

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<v Speaker 1>to fish, not just give them the fish, right, But

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be a person of increase. Helping has

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<v Speaker 1>an important place. There are times when we all need

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<v Speaker 1>direct support, but helping can also leave the helper as

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<v Speaker 1>the permanent source. So think about it. If I have

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<v Speaker 1>knowledge and you're in need of that knowledge, and I

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<v Speaker 1>provide you with that knowledge and you receive that knowledge.

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<v Speaker 1>In that scenario, I'm actually the source of the knowledge.

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<v Speaker 1>But increases different. If you're thinking from increase, the primary

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<v Speaker 1>thought in your mind is can this person that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>interacting with become a greater source of wisdom, of value,

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<v Speaker 1>of creativity, of possibility in their own right. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>difference between solving every problem for someone else and expanding

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<v Speaker 1>their ability to solve problems on their own. And there's

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<v Speaker 1>a difference between giving advice and strengthening somebody else's discernment

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<v Speaker 1>so that they can make their own decisions. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>difference between creating followers and developing leaders, between building an

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<v Speaker 1>audience that relies on you and cultivating a community whose

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<v Speaker 1>members generate value for one another. This all is very

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<v Speaker 1>much tied into the impression of increase. That's from Wallace Waddles,

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<v Speaker 1>who wrote the book The Song Is of Getting Rich.

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<v Speaker 1>In the book, he wrote that there's a guiding thought

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<v Speaker 1>in all of our dealings with other people that should

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<v Speaker 1>convey increase, because all life is looking and seeking greater

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<v Speaker 1>life and fuller expression, and the individual as a creative

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<v Speaker 1>center from which increase can move to others. Now, when

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<v Speaker 1>I read that, I didn't read it like positive, relentless positivity.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't mean I become a walking affirmation or inspiring

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<v Speaker 1>every person I meet. It means that something about the

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<v Speaker 1>way I engage with people can make more life available,

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<v Speaker 1>And the same thing for you. Do people feel more

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<v Speaker 1>capable after speaking with you? Do they leave with greater clarity?

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<v Speaker 1>Does your leadership does it call forward their intelligence or

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<v Speaker 1>does it train them to depend on yours? Does your

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<v Speaker 1>relationship allow someone to evolve or does it just require

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<v Speaker 1>them to stay familiar? Does your work create real capability

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<v Speaker 1>or does it just keep people consuming? Does your success

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<v Speaker 1>make the pathway wider for others? That's what increases all about.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is also where frequency becomes part of the

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<v Speaker 1>conversation here. Right, Frequency is not about maintaining the perfect

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<v Speaker 1>emotional state at all times. Right, You're allowed to feel

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<v Speaker 1>all of the emotions out there. In fact, you want

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<v Speaker 1>to feel all of the emotions, including emotions like fear

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<v Speaker 1>and grief and anger and disappointment and uncertainty and all

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<v Speaker 1>those lower level emotions because they're part of life and

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<v Speaker 1>they create contrast in life, which gives you this beautiful experience. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>That contrast actually creates energy that, when used properly, can

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<v Speaker 1>create momentum in your life. If you didn't experience contrast,

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<v Speaker 1>life would be very flat, it would be very dull.

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<v Speaker 1>There would not be an expression coming through. But frequency

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<v Speaker 1>is really about, especially the flourish frequency. It's about the

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<v Speaker 1>deeper orientation from which you meet life. So what do

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<v Speaker 1>I mean by that? Are you oriented towards scarcity or increase,

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<v Speaker 1>towards control or participation words taking or giving, towards proving

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<v Speaker 1>your value or just expressing it, towards protecting your position

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<v Speaker 1>or expanding possibility? Like are you fighting just for your

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<v Speaker 1>point of view to get across or are you open

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<v Speaker 1>to expanding possibility? Your frequency feeds the field through the

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<v Speaker 1>standards that you normalize, through the questions you ask and

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<v Speaker 1>the introductions you make and the ways that you respond

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<v Speaker 1>to to another woman's success. When you feed the field

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<v Speaker 1>the field, that's hard to say. The field feeds you back.

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<v Speaker 1>When you feed the field, a client will share her

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<v Speaker 1>experience about their work with you. A colleague will say

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<v Speaker 1>your name in a conversation that you're not even a

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<v Speaker 1>part of. Right. Someone will forward your podcast to somebody

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<v Speaker 1>else and say, hey, you got to you gotta check

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<v Speaker 1>this out. You got to listen to this. A relationship

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<v Speaker 1>suddenly becomes a collaboration, an introduction becomes a door. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>your ideas and your impact move beyond your individual reach.

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<v Speaker 1>That is the pollination effect. So think about it. A

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<v Speaker 1>flower doesn't go around chasing the butterfly and the bumblebee.

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<v Speaker 1>What does it do? It grows, It blooms, and it

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<v Speaker 1>offers what it is authentically, it's to offer its own

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<v Speaker 1>to offer its own nectar. The pollinator receives nourishment and

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<v Speaker 1>it carries something valuable into another part of the field.

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<v Speaker 1>This is how the ecosystem works. Right, you feed the field,

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<v Speaker 1>the field will feed you back, and you if you're

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<v Speaker 1>open to receiving it and you allow the ecosystem to work,

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<v Speaker 1>it will carry value farther than you can all on

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<v Speaker 1>your own. It will feel like magic when you're in

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<v Speaker 1>the ecosystem. It's not magic, it just gets to feel magical. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So I hope this conversation has expanded some of your

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<v Speaker 1>thinking today on what's possible for you when you allow

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<v Speaker 1>yourself to thrive, when you make yourself a priority, when

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<v Speaker 1>you pour into yourself first. It's like putting on your

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<v Speaker 1>own oxygen mask. Right. You can't feed the field if

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<v Speaker 1>you're automatically depleted, But you can't also wait for the

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<v Speaker 1>field to feed you. You have to feed yourself, fill

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<v Speaker 1>yourself up, and serve from your overflow. As we would

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<v Speaker 1>close here today, want to return to the four power paradigms.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember that surviving is doing what is necessary to just

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<v Speaker 1>get through in life, and striving is creating through effort,

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<v Speaker 1>through force, and through personal will. But thriving is where

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<v Speaker 1>you connect reconnect, I should say, with your personal power,

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<v Speaker 1>where you become fully alive and where you expand your

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<v Speaker 1>capacity to both give and receive more. And flourishing is

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<v Speaker 1>where your aliveness enters that larger circulation of life. Madam C. J.

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<v Speaker 1>Walker built an extraordinary personal success in a world that

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<v Speaker 1>offered black women very few pathways to economic independence. But

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<v Speaker 1>her success became education and employment and entrepreneurship and all

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<v Speaker 1>these opportunities. And more than a century later, Tory Burch

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<v Speaker 1>built a global brand while creating a foundation focused on

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<v Speaker 1>expanding women's economic power. Else became access for others to

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<v Speaker 1>education and resources and relationships and community. Different women, different eras,

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<v Speaker 1>different circumstances, but they shared a principle. They're thriving entered

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<v Speaker 1>the field, and once it entered the field, it created

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<v Speaker 1>increase beyond anything either woman could have accomplished all on

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<v Speaker 1>their own. So this is also why I've created the

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<v Speaker 1>field in my own world, the flourish field. If this

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<v Speaker 1>is something that you're interested in. My vision for the

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<v Speaker 1>flourished field is it is a place where you can

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<v Speaker 1>come and you can plant yourself and give yourself room

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<v Speaker 1>to grow when you're ready to grow, when you're ready

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<v Speaker 1>to evolve. But my bigger vision for it and what

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<v Speaker 1>I see it becoming in the future is actually a

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<v Speaker 1>very self fulfilling organism and ecosystem. The feeds and is

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<v Speaker 1>being fed. So if you're interested in that, check the

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<v Speaker 1>show notes. There's a link there. I'll tell you a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit more about that it's my monthly member. It's

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<v Speaker 1>called the flourish Field for a reason. Until next time,

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<v Speaker 1>I invite you to just consider your own blooming, take

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<v Speaker 1>care of yourself, and keep flourishing. Thank you for tuning

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<v Speaker 1>in to the Flourish Frequency Show with me Beth Larsen.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you've enjoyed this episode and are leaving with

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<v Speaker 1>a heart full of inspiration and a mind buzzing with

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<v Speaker 1>the possibilities of more. Tune in every third Thursday at

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<v Speaker 1>eleven am Pacific on Transformation Talk Radio for more frequency

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<v Speaker 1>boosting conversations and if you want more help getting into

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<v Speaker 1>your flourish flow and stepping into the possibilities of more,

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<v Speaker 1>you can find me at Bethlarsencoaching dot com. That's Bethlarsencoaching

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. Larsen with an E speak the best Stay