Speaker 1: Today we go into part two of The Father that
Every Man Wants to Become with Scott Uncle Back. Enjoy
getting his three key rates for what makes a great father.
Just know that everything he shares has been proven over
decades and that it is not something that is a
quick fix in a day. But with God's help, anything
is possible. Now enjoy the episode That's Impossible. Let me
tell you what I believe.
Speaker 2: It's your weakness, it's not your technique. Don't think you know.
Speaker 1: You the Impossible Life Podcast and you're.
Speaker 2: Sitting on a winning lottery.
Speaker 3: Second, an idea that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks.
This is the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I
are attempting to live impossible lives. What we know is
that nothing is impossible. So instead of using impossible as
an excuse to not try, we'll use the pursuit of
impossible as an ex celerant for greatness. If something's never
been done before, that just means it's unexplored. If they
tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified.
Impossible as a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling
to take a risk. The real truth is this the
solution to any impossible task starts with this question, if
I had to, what would it take?
Speaker 1: Would it take?
Speaker 2: Yes, it's going to very good. All right.
Speaker 1: So the first one, unsurprisingly, Pops, is consistency. It's the
three things that make a great father. Number one consistency.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So, and it's the easiest but the hardest. Right. So,
what I always say about consistency is just show up.
Just keep showing up, and then show up, and you'll
become consistent. It's not rocket Consistency is not rocket science.
So if you base that around bad habits, of course
you're going to be a bad person. But I chose
to be consistent in things that I thought really mattered
in life. Right, So one of those we already talked
about just a minute ago. We decided we were consistently
going to show up at church. So we did. Now,
I can't tell you that all the messages I heard
were positive and the outcome was great, or the worship
was always so perfect or whatever, But what it did
is it embedded into my children that that was important
to mom and dad.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 3: Really, really is the takeaway when he talks about the
season where we went through a church split. We started
going to a different church. I don't remember that church
at all. I remember the effort and the hustle of
having to go to a different church. My from like
before before Elevate Life, which wasn't always called Elevate Life,
it was called Celebration Covenant. But before the year two thousand,
my memories of church was that my family went to church.
That's my memory of church. I don't have a lot
like from before ten years old. I don't really have.
There's like a couple of pictures in my mind, a
couple of flats of church. It must not have been
that great, right, but I remember we went to church.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that really is how kids sum up their childhood, right,
It's like these one or two sentences, like, dude, that
was years of intentionality.
Speaker 2: And so I can't tell you we were perfect, that
every experience was a great experience. But I was consistent,
So that created a going to church for me was
one of my grounding consistencies. Right. I've already mentioned reading
the Bible. I can't tell you that I always enjoyed it.
I enjoy it now.
Speaker 1: I'm into it, right, you know, I like I've seen
your Bible.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, but I can't tell you it was
always that way, but I saw my dad become I
am now like my father when it comes to reading
the Bible, and I when I sometimes I wake up
in the morning when I have a cup of coffee
and I'm early because I wake up around four thirty
to five every morning, and that's what I do. And
I think, oh, I'm like my father. That's what he did, right,
And so.
Speaker 3: His favorite devotional was Oswald Chambers my Ulmost first Highest.
That's why that's where I first got it from.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so so you just become consistent and things
that are obvious, right, it's good choices, right, Okay, you
should be consistent and not drinking and driving. That's like
a no brainer, right. There's lots of those that are
just no brainer things that you can do in life.
I probably shouldn't yell at my wife, that would makes sense.
Probably shouldn't hurt my children. I mean, and I could
give you a list of one hundred just like simple things.
But just be consistent in them. What's crazy about me
with when I see guys come in and out, they'll
come in, they'll get enlightened, right, they meet Jesus or
they've been through a hard time. Most people come to
the Lord if it's not as a youth. The statistics
say that if you're not saved by the time you're eighteenth,
there's a very good chance you're not going to get saved.
And it only usually happens when you go through tragedy, right, divorce,
loss of a job, loss of a parent, loss of
a family, any some sort of crisis, sickness, cancer, whatever,
and they come to the Lords. Well, so we see
guys show up and they have some form of enlightenment,
but the consistency piece is not there and they just can't.
I just tell them all the time you've heard me
say it, probably one hundred times. Just show up. Yeah,
just keep coming and if you'll do it over time,
then it becomes ingrained in who you are. There's some
sort of statistics. You guys probably know what they are.
If you do something for so many times, like if
you do something twenty two times, I think is the measure. Yeah,
that all of a sudden it's now a habit.
Speaker 1: We're not big believers in that, because Garrett blew that
one up and was like, if you do heroin once,
that can become a habit, and I was like.
Speaker 2: Instantly, yeah, that's good. So whatever the statistics are. But
my point there, it is a truism that if you
do think consistently over time, it becomes normal for you.
Speaker 3: Well, consistency, I'm going to put two scriptures together. Consistency
really is one of the ultimate qualities of manliness. In
my opinion, it's Proverbs twenty four. If you fail in
the day of adversity, your strength is weak.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: What Pops is kindly pointing out is like, hey, I
see these guys come in, they get all hot, go
through one tough season.
Speaker 2: They're out.
Speaker 3: What did they do? It got hard? They failed in
the day of adversity. If you fail in the day
of adversity, your strength is weak. Strength is important. What
is the men of men in the Bible? King David, right,
the man who is a man after God's own heart,
ultimate champion, killed Goliath. It's who everybody you know you
want to be number one, You should be most like Jesus.
Number two, You should be like David. What is David's
dying wisdom? First kings David's dying wisdom to his son son,
be strong, act like a man. Right, So you've got
to have strength. And that's what strength. Strength be a
lot of being a man. You should have some strength.
And what is that strength. It's consistency. It's not how
much can you lift when it's easy, it's how much
can you lift when it matters.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And as I say so, the word that comes
out of that, or this spiritual word or the church
word that comes out of it, it's faithful. Right. My
children said I was faithful. I'm just consistent and I
made that decision a long time ago that this is
what I'm going to do. And all I can tell
you is it just works. A farmer is consistent. They
do the same set of things. There's nothing new. They
plow the field, they make sure there's no weeds in it.
They put the seeds in the ground. They hope that
it rains. Or if you have an irrigation system like
they do nowadays, they water. The plants come up. If
we don't have a hailstorm, we harvest the reward of
what we do. It's that same way in life. If
you'll just be consistent in what you do, the harvest
will come up. It's almost immutable. Consistency is it's a
very powerful thing, and then that becomes what people see
as faithful. And if you're faithful, then that creates respect.
Speaker 1: And you And that's a reflection of having high standard,
as I would say, because and the reason I say
that is because the guys who are hot. And I
would also point to the parable of the of the
sower when he's talking about the different soils, right, because
the first soil gets snatched away by birds, and we
know later Jesus explains that the devil that takes it
before they can even receive it. The second one, what happens,
They receive enjoy, but because there's no root, when things
get hard, they find away. The third one is they
start to they start to grow, but they of the
cares of this world choke them out. And then the
fourth one, and if you read, I think it's in
the loop version. He says, through perseverance they produce thirty
sixty one hundredfold. What you're saying is is good and godly,
is what Jesus was saying. And so when guys come've never.
Speaker 2: It work without perseverance. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Ever, I love this place so much, Pops, I'm gonna
be here for I'm gonna be here forever, just like you.
What do you say, Well, see every time, And that's
what I mean about having high standards, because it's that's
that's like you said, that's the part of having emotional control.
That if you're somebody who's maybe a little bit more excitable,
you might read that and be like, wow, that was
pretty harsh. It's like, no, it's it's and it.
Speaker 3: Really really is the lesson of well, we'll see, it's
the lesson of consistency because you can give up on
consistency at any point. Yeah, I've got to say, pops,
I've been here for ten years. I told you I
was gonna make it, well great, what's after that? Well,
my family, you know, I'm going to raise up my
kids in this. We'll see, because at any point you
can stop doing what you're supposed to be doing.
Speaker 2: And it's I saw.
Speaker 3: You hovering over the button, so I'll say it to
say it. It's what it's what strength is. Strength isn't
what you can put pick up. It's what you never
have to put down. And that's really what it is.
Speaker 2: As a man.
Speaker 3: It's deciding I'm never going to put down being a
great father. I'm never going to put put down being
a man who follows after God. I'm never going to
put down being a good husband. It's consistency. What are
the things you're always.
Speaker 2: Going to do?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean you're not going to stumble and fail.
I mean talking about Pike's peak. I got because of
the altitude I got, I got dizzy, and you're all dizzy.
Well that's where.
Speaker 3: Everyone thinks, like man, and like that's your dad.
Speaker 2: Your dad's in his sixties.
Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, man, when I'm in my sixties, I
hope no one's.
Speaker 2: Soft on me.
Speaker 3: Everyone needs a good kick in the nuts every.
Speaker 2: Once in a while. I wasn't. That's what we're all
out here for. Like, I wasn't expecting to be soft
on me, as you know, and I didn't. I didn't
take offense to complain. But what I said was I'm
going as fast as I can go. Yeah, because I
was going and be safe. I didn't have the expectation
that you would be the fastest, right, and you weren't,
so you know, but it's it's just like life though,
so you think you're never going to be dizzy. I'm
almost killed myself on a car wreck in twenty eighteen. Yeah,
I mean, was that on the plan? No have I
went through a series of ridiculously hard things to just
be back to my normal self. Now, Yeah, it's just live.
Speaker 3: Don't let don't I recommend not pulling out in front
of an eighteen wheeler.
Speaker 2: Don't do it.
Speaker 1: That's another thing for consistency.
Speaker 3: Hey, don't pull in front eighteen don't get t boned
at eighty miles an hour.
Speaker 2: Don't do that.
Speaker 1: Thank god you're here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you got you get my point. My point
is is if there's if there's a takeaway from consistency,
is you're gonna experien It's hard times. It's just part
of it. Just don't quit, stay in the game. If
you do, your kids will love you, respect you, and
they'll know, hey, dad went through a hard time. I
went through a hard time, but this is what they did,
and that now you've set a course from when your
kids go through hard times, which both of my kids
went through hard times. We're not going to talk about
that today. That's another podcast. But they didn't quit. They
knew to do what show up? Stay in the game.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's the micro is that you're just
like all I got to do is just show up today.
The macros that you realize the story you're writing, because
you're like, what are my kids gonna do? They're gonna
do what they saw you doing. And if you have
a realization that you're writing a story, that's what Dren
and I would call zoom in zoom out right. So
the zoom in is, dude, you just got a hard dog.
It just show up today. The zoom out is like,
you're writing a story right now, and if you decide
to quit, you're not gonna like the story exactly, and
or the repercussions that you're handing down to the people
you love.
Speaker 3: So going on from consistency and one of other things,
it's gone to the second point here. One of the
things that I've seen my dad be a great model,
built it for me, and you've heard me. You know,
people look at me for this or like, oh, Youngartts
didn't have any feelings I do. You know, Pops will
tell you when I was young, I was a hot
head totally.
Speaker 2: I was a total I was a total hot head
as a kid.
Speaker 3: I would lose it.
Speaker 2: I'd get so mad.
Speaker 1: Just last month, you felt an emotion.
Speaker 2: You told me that's when I would say, you've heard
him say, I so wish I had a video camera
and show you this later, Elijah, He wouldn't you have
a video care You would say that when I was
doing some things, but most of the time when he
was saying that, it was I was just totally losing
my cool.
Speaker 1: You're like red mist and just send it. Yeah, all right.
So the number two is emotional control. So you know
that's easy for you. You're natural. I'm not like that because
there are different temperaments. So what would you say to
that guy?
Speaker 2: So when I was a teenager, I fought a lot,
and so why why would you fight because you don't
have emotional control? Right now, I guys that under the
thought that I was just beating up the bullies, right,
whatever my excuse was, but it was just bad self control,
right right. And so you guys know this, and some
of the listeners probably know because you guys have mentioned
I'm a golfer, right My best quality on the golf
course is I don't ever lose them.
Speaker 3: The last place I tamed my emotions was the golf course.
Speaker 2: And I don't I don't lose emotional control on the golf.
Speaker 1: Course, ever, I'll just you because because the commentary, especially
if you're with a good golfer man, I love it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and but that when I was in high school,
I didn't have that control. Yeah, And so it's a
learned skill and it's just something I saw. I had
a couple of friends that were total anger mania.
Speaker 3: If I hadn't had my dad playing most of golf
with me, if I like, if I didn't have a dad,
I would, I bet you in my teenage years, I
would have broken like dozens of golf class The fact
that I never broke a golf club was only because
my dad was there and he to whoop me if
I broke it.
Speaker 2: I would have sure probably with the golf club. But
my point is is is it's probably the most attractive
thing a man can have in his life.
Speaker 3: My wife would tell you, unprovokable.
Speaker 2: One of the things that was attractive to her with
me was my temperament because I just I just don't.
I mean, listen, I have blood coming out of the
corner of my mouth sometimes, and I still after forty
two years of marriage, there's times I'm like to give
the advice i'd give other just let it circle if
it doesn't sound good, just don't say it.
Speaker 1: I'm glad you gave that advice, because that is a
popsicism right there.
Speaker 2: Let's circle And if it didn't sound good the first time,
one more time and it just don't say it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I can review it in your mind.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I said something today to Darlene that I shouldn't
have said, and she reminded me that I shouldn't have
said it, but I did good like that didn't let
it circle, but it was. I didn't need to say it.
It was just wasted.
Speaker 3: It's the voice of anger that says, like, you got
to say this right now because let it circle is. Look, hey,
if this really needs to be said, you can also
see it later.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not going to hurt you to say it
thirty seconds from.
Speaker 2: Now, but it doesn't. Only the value of controlling your
emotions is not just with your spouse. It's amazing what
it is with your kids and how you teach them
not to be out of come. My kids say I
never yelled at them, but it's not true. I did
raise my voice at him, But yelling at him and
raising my voices two different things, correct, And I didn't
never lose control. I would I would this little cheat
code on discipline. I would send them to their room
and I would go to my room so I could
calm down. I did not want to discipline my children
out of anger, so I would go in and get
They knew I was going to get the belt, but
what I was really doing was calming down. So when
I walked in the room, we discussed why they were
getting discipline. It was never action, and they understood what
they were getting disciplined for. And we did that and
then we prayed together, and let's don't do that again.
Speaker 3: It takes a different level of strength as a parent
to do that type of discipline as well, because a
lot of parents, as soon as they're not emotionally hot anymore,
they don't have the strength of character to discipline their
children are exactly because the kids saying I'm sorry, I
didn't mean it, and they're like, oh, that's okay. Well,
it takes a lot of strength of character when you're
not emotionally hot anymore to follow through with the discipline.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now, I want to encourage people about that because I
will say my equanimity has grown tremendously since I've been
in the environment that I'm in around you guys. Truthfully,
it has and so my kids are growing up with
the story because I just tell them all the time.
I'm like, you will never see me lose my control,
like lose my temper with you guys. You can ask
my kids next time you're seeing has dad or lost
this distemperate? They'll all tell you no, not because I've
brainwashed them, but because it's true, because I backed it up.
Speaker 2: It's a choice. It is a choice.
Speaker 3: And even if it's not at your kids, if you're like,
for example, if I had watched my dad mad and
break a golf club, what would that have taught me?
Speaker 2: Exactly?
Speaker 1: But this is where but this is where I think
the simple mapping in your mind is so important because
up until I came to this environment, you know, you're
around all sorts of types. Oh, this guy's got anger problems. Yeah,
you wouldn't like when he's angry, and it's kind of
like it's a good thing. It wasn't until I came
into this environment. And because awareness proceeds change. So the
first thing is you've got to be aware of what
emotional stature and a lot of people are flying off
the handle and someone's like, why are you so mad?
I'm not mad, bro, you're mad? Okay, Like, go look
in the mirror. So first you have to be aware.
But the second thing is you have to start thinking
how negative Like if you think being angry is normal
or it's even a good thing, why would you stop it?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 2: So, like, what do I have?
Speaker 1: I have your voice in my head, Pops, I can
hear it. No, you don't need to say it weak.
That's weak.
Speaker 2: It's weak. That's weak.
Speaker 1: So as soon as I hear that, I'm like, I
don't want to be that way. And so it was
just mapping those things was a real like that was
the starting point for me.
Speaker 3: We have other episodes on this and it's you know, Nick,
we can flag it for tools and tactics to come
back to. Yeah, but really to emotional control, it's first
you have to want it. You have to see the
value of it. The same way like, what is fear
robbing me of that's one of the keys to overcoming fear. Well,
what is a lack of emotional control robbing it of
your life? Then it's understanding, Hey, well there's tools, right,
Like I can just learn how to think the right thoughts.
It is breath work, Like, hey, I can I teach
it to my kids, Like, okay, we need to take.
Speaker 2: Big, big, deep breaths right now. Right.
Speaker 3: You can talk yourself out of be an angry, same
way you can talk yourself into it. But if you'll
just decide, like I want to be this way, see
the value of being this way, understand all the strength
that's on the other side of having emotional control, and
really like put that great value on it, then.
Speaker 2: You'll have it.
Speaker 3: Until you do that, you know, it'll sound like a
good idea and the same way like people, So I'd
love to be in shape, but until you put some
value around it, you're gonna fall to every temptation. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So there's plenty of scriptural basis. I mean, you know,
you just you could you could just look about how
almost any story in the Bible, right, you know. I
mean David had great equanimity. He could have killed Saul
multiple times, and his guys were saying do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, God's given them to you language yeah.
Speaker 2: And he's like, I'm not doing it.
Speaker 3: Or when the guys are throwing rocks at his head
and his bro's like, let me kill that guy. You
should kill that guy.
Speaker 2: And if you won't kill him, ye, let me kill.
Speaker 1: Kill yeah, and he said no.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So it just there's nothing positive comes out of
being out of control emotionally. And you've heard Garrett talk
about when you're in conflict, the guy that loses his
temper never wins. It's just predictable.
Speaker 1: Garrett did say that. I said, I've lost a lot.
I've been in a lot of fights. I've lost some
never lost to an angry man.
Speaker 2: What you're gonna do?
Speaker 1: Exactly what he said, exactly, I'll never forget. When you
said that, I was like, interesting, yeah.
Speaker 2: And so it's that way you can apply that across
the board. The main the main thing is is what
what do you want your kids to remember about you?
You're a hot head? Were you out of control? Or
did you were? You're loving father and I and it
bothered me if I was ever, you know, out of control.
Speaker 3: And I won't say it who he was, but one
of my dad's friends grown up. I remember growing up
with him. I watched him throw golf clubs into the lake.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: My dad would say, well, think about think about what
every man wants.
Speaker 1: He did go to prison, Oh oh, Wow, that's not
for throwing golf clubs in. But you lose your temper
on a golf course, you're probably losing in other places.
But think about what every man wants. They want respect, right,
You want to be respected by your wife and your kids.
What was the first thing that your daughter said about you?
She said that you were consistent and that you never
lost your temper, and she put it herself, breeds respect. Yeah,
I mean it's it's it really is that.
Speaker 2: Simple, simple, simple, not easy. They stacked together. Consistency goes
along with equanimity. So if you can be consistent about anything,
you can get peace. Consistent if you don't have peace
in your life. It's take exam just one quick example.
We'll move to the next time. If you're going if
you're driving down the toll way or in Dallas and
you're in traffic, you have a choice. Before you leave
your house. I'm going to get there with a smile
on my face. I'm going to be a complete train wreck,
right because people do not know how to drive. I
mean I watch them have res in front of me.
I watch people cut in front of me. I've determined
to drive slower and enjoy the ride and not be
messed up about it. Matter of fact, I respect guys
that come blowing up to the stoplight and make the
corner in front of me and get.
Speaker 1: In front of that's your son.
Speaker 2: That's why, Yeah, your job.
Speaker 3: I do drive fast and aggressive. But if you're going
to do I do it with a very positive attitude,
not like angry or upset. You pair those things together
and you become not only a dangerous driver, but a
very impaired driver. Right, You're like, being angry is like
being drunk. It is the light like there's you know,
biological alcoholic sobriety, and there's emotional sobriety. You driving, you're
driving fast and driving angry is a recipe for it
is as you.
Speaker 2: Can't control it.
Speaker 1: And side note, Garrett's been trained in how to drive
that way. So like my this is my wife, who doesn't,
you know, give anybody comments for no reason. She's she's positive,
but she's not gonna say she said. The difference when
we drive with Garrett and other people is that I
never feel unsafe when Garrett's doing it because you've driven
us fast. We've been late for dinner before, and you've
made up time. Shall we say, and she that was
her quotment. She's like, I never feel unsafe. So I mean, like,
I just want to have you out that for people like,
well I have a pause latitude and Garrett from Posus
that means I can go one hundred and ten.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you haven't had fifty thousand dollars for the drive.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you've been Special Forces trained on, Yeah, for
a lot more than that by actual like motocross or
what was what was the rally? Rally drivers and Baja
drivers like come on? So anyways, all right, so pops,
we got consistency, We got emotional control.
Speaker 3: Third one is going to be last, last point. Wrap
us up here, gonna be really easy. Deep sigh.
Speaker 2: You know, well I want I want to kind of
segue just for a second. Yeah, we've talked about a
lot of what I would call tactics or are ways
to be For me, the most important sub point, just
to come back to it real quick, is it's who
you are in Christ, right, So I just want to
I want to lay that before we go to the
final thing. I just want to lay that there's only
one eternal mission, and as I've gotten older, I don't
want to say, but I'm the old guy, and now
I just think about legacy. But there's only one thing
that matters, and it's what's on the other side. So
we are we are in this life experiencing a very
small picture of eternity. If we believe in Christ and
then that God created the university, he sent a son
for us, and that we're going to have eternal life
which all goes together, then what we're experiencing here in
this little window is just a picture or beginning of
what attorney is going to be about. And I personally
believe that all go together. I don't think God has
us here training us. Yeah, going through the steps and
not having an eternal correlation to that, now that's a
big thought. But I just want everybody to hear my
heart in that that serving hard after God and wanting
to be the best for in that vein leads you
to having steps of things that you should be in
control of, right, And I know that's like a I
don't know what the word I'm trying to say, but
it's easy for us to lose sight of the goal.
And we are created to create disciples. What you guys
do at the impossible life as you help create disciples
of Christ and whatever stage they're in. And so I
just don't want to lose I don't want to lose
folks in the midst of this great tactical discussion about
being a good father. It really there's only one mission.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well that that I mean, But that's a perfect
setup for the final point of intentionality is intentionality comes
from an understanding of what matters? Right, How how can
you be intentional if you don't know what the real
purpose of something is. Intentionality is the ability to It's
like it's like focus, but focused with a purpose of
looking past. Hey, that stuff doesn't matter us just have
you know, fun is great, maybe what the restaurant is great,
But we're we're here for a specific reason intentionality and family. Right,
It's not like, well, I'm going to be intentional about
making sure my kids have a good life. I'm going
to be intentional about making sure that we enjoy being together. Now,
let's be intentional about making sure that we're living kingdom lives.
And if we can live lives on purpose for what
really matters, then all the other good things like scripture
promises are going to follow. And so, really, what you're saying,
Pops is you don't. Don't think you have more time.
It's one of the most foolish delusions that you can have. Hey,
I got more time, got more time with my kids,
got more time with my wife. Let me tell you
the truth. The truth is you're out of time. You're
out of time, like today is all that you have.
Make today matter with your kids. Don't forget, you know,
make this dinner that you're about to have, make it
a dinner that matters. Pray with your kids. Speak life
into your kids. Don't just read them a book. Pray
over them before they go to bed. Make every day
an opportunity to speak life. Speak wisdom into your kids
because you're out of time.
Speaker 2: Yeah so good. Yeah, it's very well said, son. And
being intentional is when you look back. So I can
look back at the things I did well right, and
I can stack up some wins and say, okay, that
was good. But Darlinge and I always had a picture
with our kids because she came from a dysfunctional family. Also, okay,
what is the what is the far range outcome that
we want? And we gave that when we were together.
You know, we wanted their kids to be good human beings,
and we wanted, you know, our kids to choose Jesus
on their own and we wanted them to choose us back.
And that's that's a that's a wonderful goal to have
as a family, and we're fortunate enough to have had that.
But now I think about grandkids, right, So now we
have number seven grandchild on the way, very exciting Garrett
Junior's own way, And all I think about is, now, Okay,
how can I affect them? How can I be intentional
about what our life looks like, what those grandchildren are
going to see? How are we going to train them
where they get the same. So now we've multiplied, right,
So it was too my Both of my children chose
very wisely. They have great spouses, they're they're now family members.
I don't look at them as a different They're part
of our family.
Speaker 3: Both required an appropriate level of training.
Speaker 2: Yes we're not. That's a different podcast.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love both of them.
Speaker 2: So that's actually very funny, but.
Speaker 3: It is true, and some training continues, you'll get to
be in this family circle just as you are.
Speaker 2: We what we say, how do you say it? We're
going to always talk about the things that we always
talk about and talk about and in our family, Pastor
Case says that, and in our family it's that way
when we have we are talking about the same things
over and over again. We're very intentional about that, and
so we're creating. We're creating an intentionality that that will
bleed naturally into our grandchildren and they're going to follow
what we do. And so by being intentional, started with
Darlene and I create We created it with consistency, we
created it with with equanimity. Darlene has a lot of
academia now, and then we're going to create it intentionally,
created with our kids and in our grandkids. And by
doing that, I tell people all the time, I'm the
richest guy in the world. Yes, we've had some measure
of success in life, but honestly, it's meaningless to me.
What is valuable to me is this. What is value
to me is our family. What is value to me
is my grandchildren. And if you don't, if you just
take it flippantly, life will just pass you by. My
dad died at the age I am right now he does,
so I'm planning on it. He was in good health
as far as everybody knew. He had a rare, rare item,
which is a brain aneurysm, which is usually comes from
a birth defect, and he was gone the next day.
So how do you plan for that? You do exactly
what you said. You're out of time.
Speaker 3: It's Pop says that all the time, like I'm the
wealthiest man you know in the world, and that's not
really it's not about money. The proverb says it. I
think it's probably it's Proverbs twenty something. Money sprouts wings
and flies away, right? Or is just people say, hey,
money comes and money goes. But there are things that
you can have in this world that do not sprout
wings and fly When you have planted your children and
the house of the Lord, that doesn't just sprout up
and fly away. When you've spent a lifetime developing character,
having consistency in your life, raising children, pouring into your spouse,
when you've discipled one hundreds and thousands of people in
your life, those things don't sprout up wings and fly away.
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