WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:03.600 What is your tender horror story? Story one. I used 2 00:00:03.600 --> 00:00:05.599 to work as a bartender, so I'd hear plenty of 3 00:00:05.639 --> 00:00:09.320 wild stories. One regular shared a particularly awful one about 4 00:00:09.359 --> 00:00:12.039 a tender date she had. The date wasn't ideal, but 5 00:00:12.080 --> 00:00:14.240 not bad enough to stop her from bringing him home. 6 00:00:14.599 --> 00:00:16.640 He left the next morning, and she brushed it off 7 00:00:16.679 --> 00:00:19.480 as a one night stand. A few days later, her 8 00:00:19.480 --> 00:00:22.399 debit card got declined, which was odd since she was 9 00:00:22.480 --> 00:00:25.960 good with her money and typically had plenty of savings. Curious, 10 00:00:26.000 --> 00:00:28.359 she checked her account and saw numerous charges at places 11 00:00:28.440 --> 00:00:31.679 like Best Buying grub Hub. Alarmed, she decided to check 12 00:00:31.719 --> 00:00:34.000 her credit card as well, only to find it was 13 00:00:34.079 --> 00:00:38.840 also riddled with unauthorized charges for streaming services like Netflix, Hulu, 14 00:00:39.119 --> 00:00:41.759 and others. She tried to confront the guy, but his 15 00:00:41.840 --> 00:00:45.560 profile had disappeared. Luckily, she remembered they had a mutual 16 00:00:45.560 --> 00:00:48.600 friend on Facebook. She reached out to this mutual friend, 17 00:00:48.640 --> 00:00:50.799 who revealed that he had done the exact same thing 18 00:00:50.840 --> 00:00:53.000 to her. While I don't know how it all ended, 19 00:00:53.159 --> 00:00:56.240 the girl was furious. What started as a mediocre hookup 20 00:00:56.320 --> 00:00:58.920 quickly turned into a serious case of identity theft. 21 00:00:59.359 --> 00:00:59.920 Story two. 22 00:01:00.280 --> 00:01:01.920 I once went on a date with a guy I 23 00:01:02.039 --> 00:01:04.359 didn't have much in common with, but I decided to 24 00:01:04.400 --> 00:01:06.799 give him a shot anyway. We met at a bar 25 00:01:07.079 --> 00:01:10.040 and he'd already down two pictures of beer. Oddly, he 26 00:01:10.040 --> 00:01:12.760 seemed completely sober. We hung out and talked, but I 27 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:15.439 wasn't really feeling a connection. When I said I wanted 28 00:01:15.439 --> 00:01:17.840 to leave, he convinced me to grab one more drink 29 00:01:17.879 --> 00:01:20.959 at a different bar, since it was still early. Reluctantly 30 00:01:21.000 --> 00:01:23.319 I agreed. At the next bar, we sat down near 31 00:01:23.319 --> 00:01:25.519 a couple that was making out. He turned to me 32 00:01:25.560 --> 00:01:27.200 and asked what I thought people would do if we 33 00:01:27.239 --> 00:01:29.640 started making out too. I tried to laugh it off 34 00:01:29.640 --> 00:01:32.439 and made a lighthearted comment about no one caring. He 35 00:01:32.519 --> 00:01:36.319 insisted we should try it. Feeling uncomfortable, I excused myself 36 00:01:36.359 --> 00:01:38.680 to the restroom. When I came back, he had ordered 37 00:01:38.680 --> 00:01:40.920 a shot for me, just for me, and insisted I 38 00:01:41.040 --> 00:01:44.280 take it. I declined, and he got visibly upset, saying 39 00:01:44.280 --> 00:01:46.400 he was ready to leave. At that point, he had 40 00:01:46.400 --> 00:01:49.159 consumed two pictures of beer, four margaritas, and two pints, 41 00:01:49.200 --> 00:01:52.599 but showed no signs of intoxication. Concerned, I asked if 42 00:01:52.599 --> 00:01:54.719 he thought it was safe for him to drive. He 43 00:01:54.799 --> 00:01:58.359 became defensive and stormed off. Once I got home, I 44 00:01:58.439 --> 00:02:00.959 texted to make sure he got back safe, considering how 45 00:02:01.040 --> 00:02:05.280 much alcohol he'd consumed. His reply, I only date girls 46 00:02:05.280 --> 00:02:07.680 I sleep with on the first date, save to say 47 00:02:07.719 --> 00:02:10.599 I dodged a bullet with that. One story three, After 48 00:02:10.639 --> 00:02:12.319 a movie date with a guy I met on Tinder, 49 00:02:12.360 --> 00:02:15.240 we ended up back at my place let's call him Dude. 50 00:02:15.439 --> 00:02:17.080 I told him we could hang out for a bit, 51 00:02:17.280 --> 00:02:19.120 but I had work early in the morning and needed 52 00:02:19.159 --> 00:02:21.800 to go to bed soon. He agreed, but mentioned he 53 00:02:21.840 --> 00:02:24.759 was hungry and decided to order some food. Dude ordered 54 00:02:24.759 --> 00:02:27.680 two large subs and a milkshake, devoured them and didn't 55 00:02:27.680 --> 00:02:29.680 bat an I. I didn't think much of it at 56 00:02:29.680 --> 00:02:33.080 the time. Later, we fooled around and fell asleep. Around 57 00:02:33.080 --> 00:02:35.159 one am, I woke up to the sound of my 58 00:02:35.240 --> 00:02:38.919 front door opening and closing repeatedly. My dogs were barking, 59 00:02:39.280 --> 00:02:41.719 so I got up to investigate. I walked out to 60 00:02:41.719 --> 00:02:43.960 find the bathroom light on and the door wide open. 61 00:02:44.560 --> 00:02:48.000 There squatting over my toilet was Dude holding a stick 62 00:02:48.039 --> 00:02:50.280 and poking at a toilet bowl filled to the brim 63 00:02:50.319 --> 00:02:54.000 with murky brown water. Horrified, he shouted, stop looking at me, 64 00:02:54.240 --> 00:02:56.840 go back to bed. I've got it under control. Still 65 00:02:56.919 --> 00:02:59.319 half asleep, I couldn't process what was happening, and just 66 00:02:59.400 --> 00:03:03.080 nervously he yelled, why don't you have a plunger. I 67 00:03:03.159 --> 00:03:06.319 replied I've never needed one until now. He told me 68 00:03:06.360 --> 00:03:08.400 again to go back to bed, insisting he had it 69 00:03:08.479 --> 00:03:09.159 under control. 70 00:03:09.479 --> 00:03:09.639 Two. 71 00:03:09.719 --> 00:03:12.840 Disturbed and tired to argue, I went back to bed. Later, 72 00:03:12.919 --> 00:03:15.479 I heard him peek into my room, saying I fixed it, 73 00:03:15.919 --> 00:03:19.000 before leaving and slamming the door behind him. The next morning, 74 00:03:19.039 --> 00:03:21.719 I hesitantly checked the bathroom. The water level in the 75 00:03:21.719 --> 00:03:24.199 toilet had gone down, but I noticed something sticking out. 76 00:03:24.639 --> 00:03:28.639 Upon closer inspection, it was a broken stick. Using gloves, towels, 77 00:03:28.680 --> 00:03:31.800 and BBQ tongs, I removed about three feet of broken 78 00:03:31.879 --> 00:03:35.199 sticks from the toilet. It all made sense. He'd been 79 00:03:35.240 --> 00:03:38.840 going outside to find sticks, breaking them and trying again. 80 00:03:40.080 --> 00:03:42.599 The bathroom floor was covered in drips of toilet water, 81 00:03:42.680 --> 00:03:45.960 and he had left so quickly that he forgot his underwear, undershirt, 82 00:03:46.039 --> 00:03:48.680 and socks. After work, I went straight to the store 83 00:03:48.719 --> 00:03:52.680 and bought a plunger. Lesson learned story four. This one's 84 00:03:52.719 --> 00:03:55.240 not about me, but my dad and it's not tender 85 00:03:55.280 --> 00:03:57.800 but match dot com. My dad had been on Match 86 00:03:57.840 --> 00:04:00.599 for about three months, and being a tall, decent looking 87 00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:04.159 Australian man, he had garnered some attention. One weekend, he 88 00:04:04.240 --> 00:04:07.759 received his first ever unsolicited nude photo. He found it 89 00:04:07.800 --> 00:04:10.680 strange but decided to brush it off. Later that week, 90 00:04:10.879 --> 00:04:14.199 the same woman sent him six more nudes before blocking her. 91 00:04:14.240 --> 00:04:16.240 He decided to open them out of curiosity. 92 00:04:16.759 --> 00:04:19.839 Five of the pictures were poorly lit, unappealing close ups 93 00:04:19.839 --> 00:04:23.519 of her private parts. However, the sixth picture was unique. 94 00:04:23.720 --> 00:04:26.279 In the photo, the woman stood in front of a mirror, 95 00:04:26.519 --> 00:04:29.639 wearing just a bra and winking with various herbs like Basil, 96 00:04:29.720 --> 00:04:33.639 Parsley and time shoved into her bra the caption spice rack. 97 00:04:33.959 --> 00:04:37.879 After laughing uncontrollably, my dad finally blocked her. Story five. 98 00:04:38.000 --> 00:04:40.560 This happened when I had just started dating again after 99 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:43.639 a rough breakup from a three year relationship. At twelve 100 00:04:43.680 --> 00:04:46.319 forty five am, I got a message from a Tinder 101 00:04:46.319 --> 00:04:48.759 match asking what I was up to. She then invited 102 00:04:48.759 --> 00:04:50.759 me to hang out. It felt a bit late, but 103 00:04:50.800 --> 00:04:53.560 I thought why not. I'm single in my twenties, might 104 00:04:53.600 --> 00:04:56.319 as well take opportunities. She offered to pick me up, 105 00:04:56.360 --> 00:04:58.920 so I got ready, put on cologne, a nice shirt, 106 00:04:58.959 --> 00:05:01.759 the works. When her car arrived, I noticed she was 107 00:05:01.800 --> 00:05:04.360 in the passenger seat while her friend was driving. A 108 00:05:04.360 --> 00:05:07.959 bit odd but not completely unreasonable. I got in and 109 00:05:07.959 --> 00:05:10.480 asked which club we were going to. We're not going 110 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:13.839 out out, just out, she replied, Feeling uneasy. I asked 111 00:05:13.879 --> 00:05:16.759 where are we going? Just into town? She said. We 112 00:05:16.839 --> 00:05:19.439 ended up at a parking lot under a bridge. They 113 00:05:19.480 --> 00:05:22.560 cranked up the radio, started chatting about the most mundane 114 00:05:22.600 --> 00:05:26.120 topics and barely included me in the conversation. Then the 115 00:05:26.199 --> 00:05:28.879 driver pulled out a giant bottle of chocolate milk and 116 00:05:28.959 --> 00:05:32.000 started drinking it. After about fifteen minutes, they got out 117 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:34.560 of the car to smoke. My tinder match was wearing 118 00:05:34.560 --> 00:05:37.720 fluffy white slippers that lit up with every step. At 119 00:05:37.720 --> 00:05:40.680 that point, I decided I'd had enough. I appreciate you 120 00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:43.240 picking me up, but this really isn't my scene. I'm 121 00:05:43.279 --> 00:05:46.279 going to head out have a good night. They were offended, 122 00:05:46.319 --> 00:05:49.519 but I didn't care. Story six. A girl invited me 123 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:51.480 to what she called a work party at her house 124 00:05:51.480 --> 00:05:54.319 and said it was byob I brought a six pack 125 00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:57.079 and headed over thinking it'd be a casual gathering. When 126 00:05:57.079 --> 00:05:59.120 I arrived, I noticed that most of the guests were 127 00:05:59.160 --> 00:06:02.680 teenagers seventeen eighteen years old, even though the girl and 128 00:06:02.720 --> 00:06:05.560 I were both twenty one. Soon everyone was gathered in 129 00:06:05.560 --> 00:06:07.920 the living room, where the party turned into a pitch 130 00:06:07.959 --> 00:06:11.079 meeting for a pyramid scheme. The group leaders started telling 131 00:06:11.120 --> 00:06:13.800 sob stories and boasting about how much money they'd made, 132 00:06:14.079 --> 00:06:16.639 claiming they could help others earn millions in no time. 133 00:06:17.000 --> 00:06:20.480 At one point, he pointed to his BMW three series 134 00:06:20.519 --> 00:06:23.240 outside and said it was a company car that anyone 135 00:06:23.240 --> 00:06:25.560 could earn if they worked hard enough. I sat there 136 00:06:25.560 --> 00:06:27.920 for two hours, the only one drinking, because I thought 137 00:06:27.920 --> 00:06:30.839 it'd be rude to leave during their stories. Finally I'd 138 00:06:30.839 --> 00:06:33.160 had enough. When the girl asked what I thought of 139 00:06:33.199 --> 00:06:35.560 the presentation, I said it's not for me. 140 00:06:35.839 --> 00:06:36.480 I'm leaving. 141 00:06:37.240 --> 00:06:39.240 She asked if I wanted to take my beer, but 142 00:06:39.319 --> 00:06:41.079 I told her they needed it more than I did. 143 00:06:41.480 --> 00:06:43.879 Weeks later, she texted me asking if the group leader 144 00:06:43.920 --> 00:06:47.800 could call me to discuss why I wasn't interested. He did, and, 145 00:06:47.879 --> 00:06:50.879 after repeatedly pushing me to join, I had to firmly 146 00:06:50.920 --> 00:06:53.519 tell him to back off. Looking back I wish I'd 147 00:06:53.519 --> 00:06:55.839 stood up during the pitch, chugged my beer and said, 148 00:06:56.240 --> 00:06:59.680 this is nonsense, don't ruin your lives. But alas, that's 149 00:06:59.720 --> 00:07:02.759 just a daydream. Story seven, I've got one where I 150 00:07:02.839 --> 00:07:05.240 was the Nightmare Date. I met a girl from Tinder 151 00:07:05.279 --> 00:07:08.199 at a Cajun restaurant in Dallas. Before the date, I 152 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:11.759 decided to try cretum, a supplement i'd recently read about 153 00:07:11.759 --> 00:07:15.199 that supposedly makes you feel relaxed and euphoric. The first 154 00:07:15.199 --> 00:07:17.240 time I tried it, I didn't feel anything, so I 155 00:07:17.279 --> 00:07:19.759 figured i'd double the dose this time. I wrapped a 156 00:07:19.800 --> 00:07:22.360 large amount of credum powder and deli meat and swallowed 157 00:07:22.360 --> 00:07:25.480 it before heading to the date. I felt fine until 158 00:07:25.480 --> 00:07:27.879 I sat down with her. Suddenly I realized I was 159 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:31.839 seconds away from violently vomiting. I excused myself, but as 160 00:07:31.879 --> 00:07:34.680 I walked toward the restroom, I started choking and spewing 161 00:07:34.800 --> 00:07:38.319 vomit everywhere. I covered my mouth with my hands, leaving 162 00:07:38.360 --> 00:07:40.240 a trail of vomit all the way to the bathroom. 163 00:07:40.519 --> 00:07:43.519 Once inside, I projectile vomited into the trash can and 164 00:07:43.560 --> 00:07:46.959 spent several minutes cleaning myself up. Mortified, I returned to 165 00:07:47.000 --> 00:07:49.519 the table and somehow survived the rest of the date, 166 00:07:49.800 --> 00:07:53.480 though I felt like the biggest idiot. Lesson learned, don't 167 00:07:53.519 --> 00:07:57.680 experiment with substances before a first date. Story eight. I 168 00:07:57.759 --> 00:08:00.839 matched with a girl and we started messaging. Later that night, 169 00:08:00.920 --> 00:08:03.560 we had a great phone conversation and I asked her 170 00:08:03.560 --> 00:08:06.279 out for the next evening. She agreed, but then mentioned 171 00:08:06.279 --> 00:08:08.639 she had something to tell me. She was permanently in 172 00:08:08.639 --> 00:08:12.160 a wheelchair. At that moment, I felt stuck. Backing out 173 00:08:12.199 --> 00:08:14.120 would make me feel like a jerk, and leading her 174 00:08:14.160 --> 00:08:17.279 on wasn't right either, but I figured why not, It's 175 00:08:17.360 --> 00:08:19.279 just a date and it could still be fun. The 176 00:08:19.319 --> 00:08:21.199 next morning, she called me early and told me she 177 00:08:21.279 --> 00:08:24.439 was doing something crazy, but wouldn't say what. A few 178 00:08:24.480 --> 00:08:26.959 hours later, she sent me a photo her wrist with 179 00:08:27.040 --> 00:08:30.160 my name tattooed on it. I was stunned and immediately 180 00:08:30.160 --> 00:08:33.240 told my friends about it. Despite my reservations, I decided 181 00:08:33.240 --> 00:08:35.000 to go on the date because I was curious about 182 00:08:35.039 --> 00:08:37.120 the tattoo and thought I should at least give it 183 00:08:37.159 --> 00:08:40.120 a chance. On the way to her place, I realized 184 00:08:40.120 --> 00:08:43.480 my car might not accommodate her wheelchair. Since I knew 185 00:08:43.519 --> 00:08:46.200 she drove, I asked if she could drive instead. When 186 00:08:46.200 --> 00:08:47.879 she pulled up, I got in her car and noticed 187 00:08:47.919 --> 00:08:51.879 it wasn't handicapped enabled. Instead, she used two crutches, one 188 00:08:51.919 --> 00:08:54.039 for the gas and one for the break. We were 189 00:08:54.120 --> 00:08:57.039 driving on the southern California freeways in traffic, and I 190 00:08:57.120 --> 00:09:00.639 was silently praying the entire time. During she got a 191 00:09:00.639 --> 00:09:02.919 call from her ten year old daughter, who was scared 192 00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:06.440 because she'd been left home alone. I suggested we go back, 193 00:09:06.480 --> 00:09:09.159 but she said it's fine. I gave her something to 194 00:09:09.200 --> 00:09:11.559 make her sleep, she'll be out soon. At that point, 195 00:09:11.559 --> 00:09:13.919 I decided to skip the movie and head back. On 196 00:09:13.960 --> 00:09:17.600 the drive home, she casually said, wow, I'm kind of 197 00:09:17.679 --> 00:09:21.919 drunk after having only one drink. She refused to let 198 00:09:21.960 --> 00:09:24.080 me drive and floored it, using her crutch to hit 199 00:09:24.120 --> 00:09:26.720 the gas. I said a few prayers, but we eventually 200 00:09:26.799 --> 00:09:28.879 made it back to her place in one piece. I 201 00:09:28.919 --> 00:09:31.320 helped her back to her door, said goodbye, and vowed 202 00:09:31.360 --> 00:09:34.039 never to see her again. For the record, the tattoo 203 00:09:34.120 --> 00:09:37.000 was real. Story nine. I matched with a cute girl 204 00:09:37.039 --> 00:09:39.559 a few years ago and we went out for drinks. 205 00:09:39.799 --> 00:09:42.320 Things were going well, so we decided to grab a 206 00:09:42.320 --> 00:09:46.159 six pack and head to the beach to stargaze and makeout. Somehow, 207 00:09:46.519 --> 00:09:48.759 we ended up on a stolen sailboat at two am 208 00:09:48.840 --> 00:09:51.679 with her ex, an old drunken boat repairman who had 209 00:09:51.679 --> 00:09:54.279 stolen the boat by making copies of the keys, and 210 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:57.200 her dog. After thirty minutes of arguing with her ex, 211 00:09:57.399 --> 00:10:01.360 she blacked out and fell asleep. Meanwhile, her dog was terrified, 212 00:10:01.559 --> 00:10:04.919 running around the boat and pooping everywhere. Her ex, tripping 213 00:10:04.960 --> 00:10:07.720 on acid, started yelling at me, telling me I had 214 00:10:07.759 --> 00:10:09.759 to take care of her and never hurt her. Then 215 00:10:09.799 --> 00:10:11.480 he ran to the bow of the boat to finish 216 00:10:11.480 --> 00:10:14.639 his trip. The old drunken boat thief he was just chilling, 217 00:10:14.759 --> 00:10:18.159 drinking vodka straight from the bottle. I gave up, cleaned 218 00:10:18.200 --> 00:10:20.600 up after the dog, brought it inside the cabin, and 219 00:10:20.639 --> 00:10:22.879 went to sleep. The next morning, I woke up to 220 00:10:22.919 --> 00:10:24.919 her and her ex screaming at each other about some 221 00:10:25.080 --> 00:10:28.399 car crash. The old boat thief had disappeared, and I 222 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:31.600 had no idea where I'd parked my car. I quietly left, 223 00:10:31.639 --> 00:10:34.519 grabbed some coffee and breakfast, and wandered the harbor until 224 00:10:34.559 --> 00:10:37.080 I found my car. I never spoke to her again, 225 00:10:37.480 --> 00:10:40.919 but I didn't delete tender either. Story ten I matched 226 00:10:40.919 --> 00:10:43.320 with a guy and we decided to meet halfway at 227 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:46.440 a beach pier. Before the date, we'd been texting and 228 00:10:46.480 --> 00:10:49.000 he seemed normal. When I got to the pier, he 229 00:10:49.080 --> 00:10:51.519 texted me saying he couldn't make it because his license 230 00:10:51.639 --> 00:10:54.440 was revoked. Instead, he asked me to meet him at 231 00:10:54.440 --> 00:10:57.480 a pizza place closer to him. I should have left then, 232 00:10:57.840 --> 00:11:00.200 but I didn't. When I arrived, I saw him and 233 00:11:00.240 --> 00:11:03.799 immediately realized his photos were three five years old. He 234 00:11:03.840 --> 00:11:06.879 looked like a greasy, unkempt version of himself, with holes 235 00:11:06.879 --> 00:11:09.519 in his shirt and messy hair. I awkwardly gave him 236 00:11:09.519 --> 00:11:12.039 a side hug, and he said, Oh, no, we're not 237 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:14.720 getting pizza. Let's go to the park. At the park, 238 00:11:14.759 --> 00:11:16.559 he pulled me onto his lap before I could sit 239 00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:19.960 down and said, God, baby girl, you're so cute. I 240 00:11:20.039 --> 00:11:22.440 scooed it away, trying to start a conversation, but he 241 00:11:22.480 --> 00:11:25.440 pulled out his phone and started texting. A few minutes later, 242 00:11:25.480 --> 00:11:28.480 he interrupted me, asking if I smoked. He suggested we 243 00:11:28.600 --> 00:11:32.000 go back to his place for a bowl, but I declined. Ah, 244 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:34.159 come on, baby girl, my place is right there. We 245 00:11:34.200 --> 00:11:36.919 could have some fun too, he said. When I declined again. 246 00:11:37.000 --> 00:11:39.919 He pulled me close by the face, whispered, you're so innocent, 247 00:11:40.279 --> 00:11:42.600 and licked my face from chin to ear. I was 248 00:11:42.679 --> 00:11:44.639 so shocked. I just sat there for a moment. Then 249 00:11:44.639 --> 00:11:47.519 I faked an urgent phone call and left Story eleven. 250 00:11:47.879 --> 00:11:50.039 It was my first time using dating apps in three 251 00:11:50.639 --> 00:11:53.600 four years. I matched with a Chinese guy who seemed 252 00:11:53.639 --> 00:11:56.399 really nice, and his pictures made him look very handsome. 253 00:11:56.840 --> 00:11:59.639 We talked consistently for about a week, and I liked 254 00:11:59.679 --> 00:12:02.559 him a lot based on our conversations. When he asked 255 00:12:02.600 --> 00:12:05.320 me to meet up, I agreed. When we met, he 256 00:12:05.360 --> 00:12:08.600 looked nothing like his pictures. Later I found out he 257 00:12:08.600 --> 00:12:11.080 had been using photos of Godfrey Goo instead of his own. 258 00:12:11.519 --> 00:12:13.360 He admitted he did it because he thought he was 259 00:12:13.399 --> 00:12:15.879 too ugly. I should have left then, but I didn't. 260 00:12:16.559 --> 00:12:19.039 We talked and he suggested going for a walk in 261 00:12:19.080 --> 00:12:20.399 a park just down the road. 262 00:12:21.159 --> 00:12:22.320 I naively agreed. 263 00:12:22.679 --> 00:12:26.080 I got into his car, a huge mistake, and instead 264 00:12:26.080 --> 00:12:28.559 of going down the road, he drove twenty five thirty 265 00:12:28.559 --> 00:12:31.200 minutes to another city. He said there was a nice 266 00:12:31.200 --> 00:12:34.519 trail there, so I reluctantly went along, but instead of 267 00:12:34.559 --> 00:12:36.960 taking a walk, he parked and started kissing me. Then 268 00:12:37.000 --> 00:12:40.200 he began groping me. I was terrified. When I refused 269 00:12:40.200 --> 00:12:41.799 to get in the back seat, he dragged me out 270 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:43.759 of the car and forced me into the back I 271 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:46.279 kept saying no, but he wouldn't stop. I'll never forget 272 00:12:46.320 --> 00:12:48.759 his words. I've never been with a white girl before. 273 00:12:49.080 --> 00:12:51.639 He assaulted me, but I managed to fight him off, 274 00:12:51.879 --> 00:12:54.360 force the door open, and grab my purse from the 275 00:12:54.360 --> 00:12:57.600 front seat. I ran down the road until I found 276 00:12:57.600 --> 00:13:00.279 a car with a high school girl inside. I begged 277 00:13:00.279 --> 00:13:03.080 her to pretend we were friends. She called nine hundred 278 00:13:03.080 --> 00:13:05.480 and eleven and let me into her car, locking the doors. 279 00:13:06.000 --> 00:13:08.519 The guy came looking for me, screaming for me to 280 00:13:08.559 --> 00:13:11.240 come back, but the girl convinced him we were best 281 00:13:11.279 --> 00:13:15.360 friends and he left. The police arrived, took my statement 282 00:13:15.679 --> 00:13:18.919 and helped me gather myself. I've never told anyone until now. 283 00:13:19.320 --> 00:13:21.039 At the time, I had just ended a three year 284 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:24.639 relationship after catching my boyfriend in bed with my best friend. 285 00:13:25.000 --> 00:13:27.000 I guess I was looking to feel something or be 286 00:13:27.080 --> 00:13:30.279 seen as attractive. I learned my lesson always verify who 287 00:13:30.320 --> 00:13:34.039 you're meeting and be cautious. Story twelve. This happened on 288 00:13:34.080 --> 00:13:36.639 bumble but here it is anyway, there was a guy 289 00:13:36.679 --> 00:13:38.360 I used to work with two years ago who I 290 00:13:38.399 --> 00:13:41.320 had a big crush on. He quit shortly after I started, 291 00:13:41.519 --> 00:13:43.759 but he'd occasionally come by to visit his sister, who 292 00:13:43.799 --> 00:13:46.120 still worked there. A year ago, I found him on 293 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:49.240 bumble and we matched. I made the first move and 294 00:13:49.279 --> 00:13:51.679 we went on a date A week later. We hooked 295 00:13:51.720 --> 00:13:54.159 up that night, and he specifically asked me not to 296 00:13:54.200 --> 00:13:57.960 tell his sister. Afterward, he ghosted me, occasionally hitting me 297 00:13:58.039 --> 00:14:00.799 up for casual hookups, which I avoid. 298 00:14:00.440 --> 00:14:01.879 Because I wanted something serious. 299 00:14:02.360 --> 00:14:05.039 Fast forward a month and I started seeing someone new 300 00:14:05.039 --> 00:14:08.039 who was interested in a serious relationship. When I told 301 00:14:08.039 --> 00:14:10.720 the first guy, he snapped, called me rude names, and 302 00:14:10.759 --> 00:14:14.919 claimed I wasn't special. Classic nice guy behavior. For eight months, 303 00:14:15.000 --> 00:14:16.720 he would show up at my workplace to see if 304 00:14:16.759 --> 00:14:19.399 I was there, and he kept making fake accounts to 305 00:14:19.440 --> 00:14:21.799 message me. I blocked every one of them, but he 306 00:14:21.799 --> 00:14:24.879 wouldn't stop. Eventually, I told his sister what was going on, 307 00:14:24.960 --> 00:14:27.399 even though I was scared she might defend him. To 308 00:14:27.440 --> 00:14:30.120 my relief, she took my side. She even told their 309 00:14:30.200 --> 00:14:33.639 mom and they both scolded him. After that, he finally 310 00:14:33.759 --> 00:14:37.039 left me alone. Story thirteen. I worked at a sushi 311 00:14:37.039 --> 00:14:40.840 restaurant during college. One night, during a busy dinner shift, 312 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:44.399 an attractive guy and his friend came in. Despite the rush, 313 00:14:44.559 --> 00:14:47.399 I gave them great service and they tipped extremely well. 314 00:14:47.799 --> 00:14:50.320 Later that night, I was relaxing at home swiping through 315 00:14:50.360 --> 00:14:52.679 Tinder when I saw the same guy. He was hard 316 00:14:52.679 --> 00:14:55.960 to miss because of his distinctive tattoos and memorable tip. 317 00:14:56.440 --> 00:14:58.919 I swiped right, passed out, and woke up the next 318 00:14:58.960 --> 00:15:01.559 morning to see that we met. He sent some sweet 319 00:15:01.559 --> 00:15:04.559 messages and we started texting. Turns out he was only 320 00:15:04.559 --> 00:15:06.559 in town for business, but he asked me out to 321 00:15:06.559 --> 00:15:10.039 dinner at a fancy French restaurant. My roommates encouraged me, 322 00:15:10.120 --> 00:15:12.679 with the help of mimosas to go, so I agreed. 323 00:15:13.039 --> 00:15:15.480 He was oddly insistent on picking me up, but I 324 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:18.200 refused and told him i'd cancel if I couldn't drive myself. 325 00:15:18.679 --> 00:15:20.960 He backed down and we met at the restaurant. The 326 00:15:21.039 --> 00:15:24.080 date started normal enough. He ordered a two hundred dollars 327 00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:27.879 bottle of wine, lobster, and an extravagant meal, totaling around 328 00:15:27.879 --> 00:15:30.639 six hundred dollars. As he drank more, he admitted he 329 00:15:30.720 --> 00:15:33.360 was married, but claimed it was an open relationship. I 330 00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:35.559 didn't believe him, so he called his wife, showed her 331 00:15:35.639 --> 00:15:39.360 my picture, and put her on speaker. She confirmed everything 332 00:15:39.480 --> 00:15:41.759 and even suggested I join them for a threesome at 333 00:15:41.759 --> 00:15:44.879 their home in Cancun. I was overwhelmed with red flags 334 00:15:44.960 --> 00:15:48.039 and decided to leave. Before I could, he revealed he 335 00:15:48.080 --> 00:15:50.600 made his money through a drug cartel, claiming it was 336 00:15:50.639 --> 00:15:53.519 all safe. I excused myself and headed for my car, 337 00:15:53.879 --> 00:15:55.919 but he followed, trying to convince me to come to 338 00:15:55.960 --> 00:15:58.759 his hotel. He even showed me pictures of his wife, 339 00:15:59.039 --> 00:16:02.440 who was undeniable attractive. When I refused, he said I 340 00:16:02.480 --> 00:16:05.240 at least owed him something for spending so much on dinner, 341 00:16:05.440 --> 00:16:08.759 and tried to force a kiss. I managed to get away, 342 00:16:09.120 --> 00:16:11.720 but I was terrified he might follow me home. I 343 00:16:11.799 --> 00:16:13.799 drove around for a while and ended up spending the 344 00:16:13.879 --> 00:16:16.639 night at a friend's house with male roommates just in case. 345 00:16:17.000 --> 00:16:19.519 I deleted Tinder the next day and never looked back. 346 00:16:19.879 --> 00:16:21.480 In hindsight, I wonder if it was part of a 347 00:16:21.559 --> 00:16:25.840 human trafficking scheme. Either way, it was terrifying. Story fourteen. 348 00:16:26.200 --> 00:16:28.039 I went on a Tinder date a few months ago 349 00:16:28.200 --> 00:16:31.440 around October and it went really well. She was cute, 350 00:16:31.559 --> 00:16:34.080 had a job, and seemed sane. We hit it off 351 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:36.879 and planned a second date. However, for the second date, 352 00:16:36.919 --> 00:16:39.159 she invited me to her Thanksgiving party to meet her 353 00:16:39.159 --> 00:16:42.120 friends and family. It felt too soon, but I didn't 354 00:16:42.120 --> 00:16:44.600 have other plans, so I agreed. My job for the 355 00:16:44.600 --> 00:16:47.039 party was to make jungle juice. I used my trusty 356 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:51.720 college recipe, ever clear Hawaiian punch, lemonade, powder, and ice. 357 00:16:52.559 --> 00:16:55.279 The drink was a hit and everyone got drunk Toward 358 00:16:55.360 --> 00:16:57.480 the end of the night. My date and her friends 359 00:16:57.480 --> 00:16:59.879 complimented the drink and mentioned they loved the fruit. I 360 00:17:00.159 --> 00:17:03.919 added that comment didn't sit well with me, so I 361 00:17:04.000 --> 00:17:06.960 went to investigate. Using a ladle, I scraped the bottom 362 00:17:07.000 --> 00:17:09.279 of the canister and found chunks of meat and pieces 363 00:17:09.319 --> 00:17:11.759 of ramen. That's when I realized someone had puked in 364 00:17:11.799 --> 00:17:15.720 the jungle Juice story fifteen, During my sophomore year of college, 365 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:17.519 I matched with a girl who was a junior or 366 00:17:17.559 --> 00:17:20.319 senior at the same school. The first time we hung out, 367 00:17:20.359 --> 00:17:22.559 we just watched Netflix at her place and got along 368 00:17:22.599 --> 00:17:25.720 really well. I thought we might have something special. We 369 00:17:25.799 --> 00:17:28.680 kept texting and planned to hang out again. The following weekend, 370 00:17:29.240 --> 00:17:32.759 out of nowhere, she started sending me unsolicited nudes. I 371 00:17:32.799 --> 00:17:34.960 hadn't asked for them, but as a young college guy, 372 00:17:34.960 --> 00:17:37.759 I wasn't complaining. When she came over to my apartment, 373 00:17:37.880 --> 00:17:40.119 she asked if she could stay the night. Given the 374 00:17:40.160 --> 00:17:42.799 context of the nudes, I assumed her intentions were clear. 375 00:17:43.240 --> 00:17:44.799 She asked me to sleep in the bed with her, 376 00:17:44.880 --> 00:17:47.319 so I knew things were on. We ended up hooking 377 00:17:47.440 --> 00:17:50.519 up and I used a condom afterward. I tossed it 378 00:17:50.559 --> 00:17:53.039 to the side of the bed. A few minutes later, 379 00:17:53.079 --> 00:17:55.839 she got up, grabbed the condom, and ran to the bathroom. 380 00:17:56.160 --> 00:17:59.640 I heard a loud crash and her yell. F Concerned, 381 00:17:59.640 --> 00:18:01.799 I asked if she was okay, but she didn't respond. 382 00:18:02.240 --> 00:18:04.480 I opened the bathroom door and saw her standing in 383 00:18:04.519 --> 00:18:08.000 my shower, one leg propped up, trying to shove the 384 00:18:08.039 --> 00:18:12.680 condom flipped inside out into herself. Shocked, I immediately closed 385 00:18:12.720 --> 00:18:15.400 the door. She came out a few moments later, embarrassed 386 00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:17.839 and said she was leaving. I never heard from her again. 387 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:21.079 Story sixteen. I went on a date with an Australian 388 00:18:21.119 --> 00:18:23.559 woman who had just moved to my city two weeks earlier. 389 00:18:23.799 --> 00:18:26.680 And didn't know anyone. Our first date at a pub 390 00:18:26.759 --> 00:18:29.400 went fine. She talked a lot, but we got along. 391 00:18:29.759 --> 00:18:32.799 For the second date, she suggested a budget pub because 392 00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:35.599 she hadn't been paid yet. Afterwards, she wanted to see 393 00:18:35.640 --> 00:18:38.000 live music, so I took her to a cool venue 394 00:18:38.000 --> 00:18:41.039 about thirty minutes away. The band was great, but she 395 00:18:41.119 --> 00:18:45.160 annoyed everyone there, including the band's girlfriends. One't even asked me, 396 00:18:45.640 --> 00:18:48.400 are you seeing the red flags yet? Trying to salvage 397 00:18:48.400 --> 00:18:51.160 the night, I suggested we head back to our neighborhood. 398 00:18:51.519 --> 00:18:53.440 On the way, she wanted to stop at a popular 399 00:18:53.440 --> 00:18:55.799 osc KEI we hang out bar, but it was closed. 400 00:18:56.119 --> 00:18:58.480 A group of people invited us for drinks elsewhere, but 401 00:18:58.519 --> 00:19:01.200