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<v Speaker 1>Hello, and thanks for joining us today on Pastor Rick's

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<v Speaker 1>Daily Hope. This is the Bible teaching ministry of Rick Warren,

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<v Speaker 1>and today we are continuing in a series called the

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<v Speaker 1>Miracle of Mercy. Rick will show us how God's mercy

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<v Speaker 1>can lift your guilt, heal your wounds, and transform the

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<v Speaker 1>way you live. Let's lean in for part one of

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<v Speaker 1>a message called God's Mercy and My Failures.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we are an imperfect people and we live in

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<v Speaker 2>an imperfect world, we all experience failures in life. And

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<v Speaker 2>the night that Jesus Christ was arrested before he went

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<v Speaker 2>to the cross, two of his best friends had massive failures.

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<v Speaker 3>Massive failures.

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<v Speaker 2>Judas had the failure of betrayal and Peter had the

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<v Speaker 2>failure of denial. Now they're actually the exact same sin.

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<v Speaker 2>They both denied Christ, but they are just different expressions

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<v Speaker 2>of it. And Judas rejected the mercy of God and

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<v Speaker 2>later went out and killed himself took his life. Peter

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<v Speaker 2>accepted the mercy of God and later went out and

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<v Speaker 2>became the leader of the church. What I want us

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<v Speaker 2>to do this weekend is look at God's mercy and

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<v Speaker 2>your failures, and I want us to learn some lessons

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<v Speaker 2>from the life of Peter in this massive failure that

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<v Speaker 2>he had.

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<v Speaker 3>And I want us to ask three questions.

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<v Speaker 2>First, what causes personal failure in your life? And we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to look and actually see that three things that

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<v Speaker 2>Peter had in his life are the three most common

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<v Speaker 2>causes of failure in your life. Financial failure, business failure,

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<v Speaker 2>marriage failure, relational failure, and all the other areas of

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<v Speaker 2>failure are caused primarily by three things. There are many

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<v Speaker 2>other uns, but these are the three biggest ones. And

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<v Speaker 2>then we're going to look at not only what Peter

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<v Speaker 2>did wrong, but what he did right, and how do

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<v Speaker 2>you recover? What does God want you to do when

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<v Speaker 2>you've had a failure in your life? And then, most

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<v Speaker 2>important of all, we're going to look at how does

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus respond to our failures and how he shows us mercy.

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<v Speaker 3>So let's get right into it.

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<v Speaker 2>First, what causes our personal failure? Three things that Peter

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<v Speaker 2>did wrong? And the first thing, if you're taking notes

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<v Speaker 2>of this, we overestimate our strengths. This is a big

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<v Speaker 2>cause of failure in your life. When you think that

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<v Speaker 2>you're stronger than you really are, You think you can

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<v Speaker 2>handle more, and you can think you can handle temptation.

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<v Speaker 2>The story begins in Matthew chapter twenty six. Now they'd

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<v Speaker 2>just had the Last Supper, where Jesus said, I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to be arrested, I'm going to die, but three days later,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to come back to life, and I'll meet

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<v Speaker 2>you in Galilee after that, And in verse thirty one

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<v Speaker 2>of Matthew twenty six, Jesus says.

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<v Speaker 3>This to disciples.

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus said, tonight, every one of you will desert me.

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<v Speaker 2>Talking to the twelve. It's his small group that's been

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<v Speaker 2>with him for three and a half years. Every one

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<v Speaker 2>of you will desert me. For the scripture says that

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<v Speaker 2>when the shepherd is killed, the sheep will be scattered.

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<v Speaker 2>But after I've been raised from the dead, this is

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<v Speaker 2>in three days, I will go ahead of you to

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<v Speaker 2>Galilee and I'll meet you there. Then Peter boasted, But Lord,

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<v Speaker 2>even if everyone else fails you, I will never deny you,

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus replied Peter. The truth is that before this night

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<v Speaker 2>is over, and before the rooster crows at dawn, you

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<v Speaker 2>will deny knowing me. Three times, Peter insisted, But Lord,

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<v Speaker 2>I would never do that, even if I have to

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<v Speaker 2>die with you. I will never deny knowing you. And

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<v Speaker 2>all the other disciples vowed the same thing. They all

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<v Speaker 2>made the same You may have never seen that, but

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<v Speaker 2>they all said we would never do this. Lord Jesus said,

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to do it tonight. He said, when they

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<v Speaker 2>take me, arrest me, you're gonna fall to pieces.

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<v Speaker 3>You can count on it. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>Notice three times Peter says, I'll never deny you. I

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<v Speaker 2>would never do that, and I would never deny knowing.

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<v Speaker 3>You at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Ever, this is overestimating our strengths. A lot of businesses

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<v Speaker 2>fail from overestimating their strengths. A lot of battles are

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<v Speaker 2>lost because armies overestimated their strength. A lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>students flunk out of school because they overestimated their strengths.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of spouses fall into affairs because they overestimated

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<v Speaker 2>their strength. I can handle this. It's just a harmless

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<v Speaker 2>little office flirt. There's nothing going to happen from it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can handle this. Beware of thinking this could never

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<v Speaker 2>happen to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>First Corinthians ten, verse twelve says this, if you think

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<v Speaker 2>I'm strong, I can handle this, I'd never fall for

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<v Speaker 2>that temptation. Then be careful, for you could easily fall.

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<v Speaker 2>To the Bible says, one of the reasons we have

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<v Speaker 2>so many fails in our lives. In our lives is

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<v Speaker 2>because we think we're stronger than we really are. Don't

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<v Speaker 2>be naive, don't be self confident. Don't none of us

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<v Speaker 2>are exempt. Given the right situation, I am capable of

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<v Speaker 2>any sin.

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<v Speaker 3>So are you.

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<v Speaker 2>Given the right situation, you are capable of any sin,

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<v Speaker 2>and so am I. And the Bible says, the heart

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<v Speaker 2>is deceitful and we should stop kidding ourselves now. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have time to go into this in detail. But

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<v Speaker 2>not only do we have failings in our life because

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<v Speaker 2>we overestimate our strengths, but also we misuse our strengths.

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<v Speaker 2>You see, you tend to guard your weaknesses. You know

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<v Speaker 2>what you're weak at. You know what's you're weak at. See,

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<v Speaker 2>I gotta stay away from that because I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Weak at that.

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<v Speaker 2>But you don't pay any attention to your And when

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<v Speaker 2>you don't pay attention to your strengths, they become weaknesses too.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, write this down. An unguarded strength is a

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<v Speaker 2>double weakness. An unguarded strength is a double weakness. The

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<v Speaker 2>very area you think, man, there's no way I'd mess

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<v Speaker 2>up on that. You're setting yourself up. The Bible says

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<v Speaker 2>for failure, there's a sense of pride there the very

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<v Speaker 2>area you may have just had a major victory, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>exactly where you stumble next. You know, Sometimes it's after

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<v Speaker 2>a big success that then you have the failure. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>it's after you've been to a very strong spiritual crisis

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<v Speaker 2>and you came out of it and you actually made it,

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<v Speaker 2>that you let your guard down. Jesus was tempted in

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<v Speaker 2>the desert immediately after his baptism, which was a big experience.

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<v Speaker 2>Peter had his biggest failure denying Christ right after the

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<v Speaker 2>Last Supper, which was a very intimate, important, powerful experience. Ever,

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<v Speaker 2>presume that you know where temptation is going to come from.

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<v Speaker 2>We overestimate our strengths. Second reason we fail, this one's

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<v Speaker 2>even bigger. We fear the disapproval of others. You may

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<v Speaker 2>not realize it, but this causes more problems in your

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<v Speaker 2>life than almost anything else. We fear the disapproval of

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<v Speaker 2>other people. Every time you make a decision based on

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<v Speaker 2>what other people would think, you are sowing the seeds

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<v Speaker 2>for failure in your life.

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<v Speaker 3>Because when you.

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<v Speaker 2>Worry about what will other people think, when you fear disapproval,

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<v Speaker 2>when you fear disapproval, you go with the flow, even

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<v Speaker 2>when you know it's the wrong thing. You go with

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<v Speaker 2>the flow because you know, go along to get along.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're become a people pleaser, and you become a coward,

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<v Speaker 2>and you make commitments that you can't possibly keep simply

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<v Speaker 2>because you're trying.

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<v Speaker 3>To make everybody happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Now we see this as the second reason Peter stumbled

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<v Speaker 2>in his in his denials in Matthew, chapter twenty six,

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<v Speaker 2>verse fifty eight. In sixty nine and seventy, the Bible

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<v Speaker 2>says this, after they had left the last supper in

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<v Speaker 2>the upper room, Peter followed Jesus at a distance.

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<v Speaker 3>Now there's a problem right there.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a major problem following Jesus at a distance. But

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<v Speaker 2>he followed Jesus at a distance to the courtyard of

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<v Speaker 2>the High priest Palace, and he went in and he

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<v Speaker 2>sat down with the guards, the Roman guards, to see

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<v Speaker 2>what was going to happen to Jesus. He's being being arrested,

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<v Speaker 2>He's going to be tortured. Peter wants to know what's

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<v Speaker 2>going on. As Peter was sitting in the courtyard. A

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<v Speaker 2>servant girl came up to him and said, you, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I recognize you. You You were with Jesus of Galilee,

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<v Speaker 2>weren't you, but standing there in front of everyone? Now

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<v Speaker 2>that's the operational phrase, standing there in front of everyone.

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<v Speaker 2>Peter denied it. I don't even know what you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, now, think about this Jesus. Peter is just

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<v Speaker 2>spent three and a half years with Jesus Christ, the

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<v Speaker 2>Son of God. He's lived with him for three and

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<v Speaker 2>a half years, and the first time the rubber hits

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<v Speaker 2>the road, he's in the clinch. He's in the crisis.

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<v Speaker 2>He denies us, I don't even know what you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>He's more worried about what other people think than he

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<v Speaker 2>is about identifying with Christ. How many times have you

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<v Speaker 2>had the opportunity to admit you were a Christian at

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<v Speaker 2>work or somewhere else, and you said nothing because you

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<v Speaker 2>were worried about what other people think. And this thing

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<v Speaker 2>actually happens in our life all the time, not just

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<v Speaker 2>with witnessing about our faith, but in so many areas

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<v Speaker 2>you stumble and you have failures because you are thinking

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<v Speaker 2>more about what somebody else thinks than about what God thinks.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, I don't even know the person now. Peter

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<v Speaker 2>struggled with people pleasing his entire life. I could give

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<v Speaker 2>you many examples in his life. One time Paul had

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<v Speaker 2>to actually rebuke him and say, hey, Peter, you know

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<v Speaker 2>you're acting this way with this group over here, and

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<v Speaker 2>you act this way with this group over here. You're

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<v Speaker 2>trying to please everybody. You can't do that. Before we

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<v Speaker 2>go on, let me just ask you some consider some questions.

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<v Speaker 3>Personally.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you following Jesus at a distance? You say, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to be a follower Jesus. I just don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to get too close to him. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to be a radical. I don't want to be a fanatic.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to follow Jesus at a distance. That is

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<v Speaker 2>a setup for failure. It's trying to have a foot

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<v Speaker 2>in both worlds. It doesn't work that way. The Bible

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<v Speaker 2>tells us that Peter was just sitting around waiting for

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<v Speaker 2>something to happen. Do you find yourself doing that, sitting

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<v Speaker 2>around waiting for something to happen. That's a setup for

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<v Speaker 2>failure in your life. And then Peter was worried about

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<v Speaker 2>what other people thought. Let me ask you this, whose

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<v Speaker 2>opinion matters to you more than God's? Whose opinion matters

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<v Speaker 2>to you more than God's? And you're more worried about

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<v Speaker 2>what they think than doing the right thing or saying

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<v Speaker 2>the right thing. When you let anybody else be more

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<v Speaker 2>important than God in your life, they become your God.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's called an idol, and that's a setup for failure.

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<v Speaker 2>More important even than that of whose opinion matters to

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<v Speaker 2>you more than God?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this question?

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<v Speaker 2>Have you ever asked yourself why the opinions of other

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<v Speaker 2>people matter so much to you? Have you ever even

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<v Speaker 2>asked yourself that Why you cringe at any criticism, why

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<v Speaker 2>you hate it so much? Why it just turns your

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<v Speaker 2>stomach in a nod if somebody disagrees with you. Have

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<v Speaker 2>you ever asked yourself? Why am I such a coward

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<v Speaker 2>when it comes to being different?

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<v Speaker 3>Why do other people's opinion.

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<v Speaker 2>Matter to me so very very much that I'll even

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<v Speaker 2>do the wrong thing in order to please somebody maybe

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<v Speaker 2>that happens? Why it matters to you so much? Socrates said,

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<v Speaker 2>the unexamined life is not worth living. I say the

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<v Speaker 2>unexamined life is a setup for failure because the part

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<v Speaker 2>And the same thing is true with you. The part

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<v Speaker 3>You're afraid to look at.

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<v Speaker 2>The parts of you that you are in denial about,

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<v Speaker 2>the parts of you of why you act away and

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<v Speaker 2>you maybe even never even asked, why am I so

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<v Speaker 2>that I can't handle the disapproval of anybody else? It

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<v Speaker 2>just makes me sick, It uspects me. I'll do almost

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<v Speaker 3>Why does that matter so much? Until you figure.

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<v Speaker 2>That out, you're going to keep stumbling and stumbling and

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<v Speaker 2>falling and failing in that area. Now, the answer is

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<v Speaker 2>the reason why you're worried about the fear of disapproval.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there's always a wound behind that, a hidden wound

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<v Speaker 2>is always behind the fear of the disapproval of other people.

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<v Speaker 2>There's something that triggers in your mind, that fear. And

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it was a rejection in the past. Maybe it

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<v Speaker 2>was an unmet need that you had growing up. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>it was some hurt, Maybe it was a trauma that

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<v Speaker 2>happened in your life, a pain or an injury, as

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<v Speaker 2>I said, some kind of unmet need. But there's some pain,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's a deep pain, and it's so deep it's

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<v Speaker 2>hidden in you. I call it soul pain. The worst

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<v Speaker 2>kind of pain is soul pain. That's the kind of

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<v Speaker 2>people say, are you a Christian? Well, yeah, and you

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<v Speaker 2>won't stand up for what you believe, and you won't

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<v Speaker 3>Don't know who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>The Bible says in Proverbs twenty nine to twenty five,

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<v Speaker 2>it is a dangerous trap to be concerned with what

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<v Speaker 2>you will be safe. He said, I'm already a goner.

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<v Speaker 2>I've already fallen into the trap if I'm more worried

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<v Speaker 2>about what other people think than doing the right thing

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<v Speaker 2>or say, or think or feel. Peter overestimated his strength.

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<v Speaker 2>Doing, adult can I can watch these kind of things.

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<v Speaker 3>That it doesn't bother me. Who you kidding?

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<v Speaker 2>I can go to these kind of places and it

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<v Speaker 3>Who are you kidding?

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<v Speaker 2>I can listen to this kind of stuff and it

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<v Speaker 3>Who are you gidding?

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<v Speaker 2>We all worry about air pollution, but we ought to

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<v Speaker 2>worry about mind pollution. The stuff you allow in your brain,

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<v Speaker 2>garbage in, garbage out. When we think you're strong and

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<v Speaker 2>you're not. When you're worried about the approval of other people.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna you're gonna have failures in your life. And

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<v Speaker 2>then there's a third one that we see in Peter's life,

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<v Speaker 2>and this one's the biggest of all we fail. One

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<v Speaker 2>of the causes of personal failure is we speak without thinking. Hello,

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<v Speaker 2>this may be the most common cause of all failure

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<v Speaker 2>in your life. We put our mouth in motion before

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<v Speaker 2>we put our mind in gear, and we speak impulsively,

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<v Speaker 2>and we speak rashly, and we speak in haste, and

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<v Speaker 2>we speak thoughtlessly, and we don't pause to consider the

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<v Speaker 2>damage of what we're about to say, what it's going

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<v Speaker 2>to do in the lives of other people, or even

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<v Speaker 2>in our own lives. And we just speak impulsively. And

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<v Speaker 2>the true reason is we don't think rationally. We think emotionally.

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<v Speaker 2>Most of the time when you talk, you're not thinking

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<v Speaker 2>about what you're talking about. You're not thinking rationally. You're

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<v Speaker 2>not thinking what's the unintended consequence of what I'm about

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<v Speaker 2>to say. You never stopped to say, Lord, do you

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<v Speaker 2>want me to say this? You're not asking God, is

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<v Speaker 2>this the right thing to say at the right time,

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<v Speaker 2>in the right way. Now, you just say whatever you feel.

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<v Speaker 2>People say well, I just say whatever I feel. Is

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<v Speaker 2>if that's a mark of courage, No, that's a mark

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<v Speaker 2>of immaturity. Children do that, they say whatever they feel.

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<v Speaker 2>Adults need to learn to have a governor on their mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>And so when you feel envy, you speak an envy,

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<v Speaker 2>And when you feel jealousy, you speak in jealousy. And

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<v Speaker 2>when you feel insecure, you say things that reveal your insecurity.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you're frustrated, and when you're angry, you say

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<v Speaker 2>things in anger. And when you're afraid, you say things

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<v Speaker 2>in fear, not even thinking about the consequences. The reason

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<v Speaker 2>why we have so many failures in our life is

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, some powerful words from Pastor Rick. And now this

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<v Speaker 1>really is one of my favorite parts of the broadcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Letters from our listeners.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's Rick, Hi, everybody, today, I want to share with

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<v Speaker 2>you a special testimony from Delia. Delia says that Daily

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<v Speaker 2>Hope has helped her with deep anxiety. But then she

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<v Speaker 2>also shared about what happened as she began to share

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<v Speaker 2>Daily Hope with her parents. She writes this, Pastor Rick,

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<v Speaker 2>a couple years ago, I found myself pretty lost. My

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<v Speaker 2>company had a merger and all the senior management were

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<v Speaker 2>changed overnight, and I was among them. At the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>my long term relationship ended. Then a couple months later,

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<v Speaker 2>my father was diagnosed with colon cancer. I was in

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<v Speaker 2>shock and I fell into a deep depression from all

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<v Speaker 2>these changes. In fact, every day I experienced a panic attack.

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<v Speaker 2>But then I found your teaching on Daily Hope, and

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<v Speaker 2>it just seemed that you understood every emotion that I

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<v Speaker 2>was going through, emotions that I didn't even know how

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<v Speaker 2>to verbalize to other people. But it was Daily Hope

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<v Speaker 2>that helped me get out of bed every morning and

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<v Speaker 2>gave me the strength to get through each day. Through

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<v Speaker 2>your teaching on Daily Hope pastorrect, I was able to

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<v Speaker 2>experience God's love.

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<v Speaker 3>And power like never before. You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I even translated the Daily Hope devotional for my parents

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<v Speaker 2>who don't speak English, and they accepted Jesus too.

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<v Speaker 3>That's amazing, Delia.

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<v Speaker 2>I am so grateful for you and the team at

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<v Speaker 2>Daily Hope because it has become the morning routine that

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<v Speaker 2>I can't live without now. Delia, you have been through

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<v Speaker 2>more pain than I can possibly imagine, some very very

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<v Speaker 2>challenging times, and I'm sorry, I really am.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes we experience multiple traumas at the same time, and

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<v Speaker 2>when that happens, that's when we really need the hope

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<v Speaker 2>of Jesus Christ. And I'm so glad you experienced that,

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<v Speaker 2>that you found God's love and found God's power. And

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<v Speaker 2>what a blessing that you translated the daily hope devotionals

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<v Speaker 2>for your parents and then they accepted Christ. That's amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>I am celebrating with you that they are now in

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<v Speaker 2>the family of God. It's stories like yours that just

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<v Speaker 2>encourage me and keep me going. So thanks so much

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<v Speaker 2>for taking the time to write and share your story.

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<v Speaker 2>And by the way, anybody else listen. If you have

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<v Speaker 2>a story, please write me. I would love to read

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<v Speaker 2>it and love to share it if I can with others.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll encourage other people with your story. God bless you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks so much, Rick, And if you'd like to let

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<v Speaker 1>Rick know how much this broadcast has meant to you,

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<v Speaker 1>how it's blessed you, please send him an email at

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<v Speaker 1>Rick at pastorick dot com. That's Rick at pastorick dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>Rick looks so forward to reading those emails. Be sure

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<v Speaker 1>to join us next time as we look into God's.

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<v Speaker 3>Word for our daily hope.

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<v Speaker 1>This program is sponsored by Daily Hope Ministries and your

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<v Speaker 1>generous financial support.