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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen. I had to get on here and do this.

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<v Speaker 1>Episode because you've heard me talk about how people are

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<v Speaker 1>putting out bad information, in my opinion, bad information.

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<v Speaker 2>And I am not sitting here saying I know everything.

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<v Speaker 1>But I know people pretty well. I've learned people pretty well.

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<v Speaker 1>I've studied people. I've observed people for most of my life,

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<v Speaker 1>even before professionally. But I want to talk about something

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<v Speaker 1>that I heard, and it came from a person who

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<v Speaker 1>was a license something and I just disagree with what

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<v Speaker 1>this person said. I just totally disagree with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Somebody asked this person on a live.

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<v Speaker 1>TV broadcast, why do I keep picking the same type

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<v Speaker 1>of people? And the first thing the woman said was,

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<v Speaker 1>I won't say that it's because of you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying I won't say that you're not the problem.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I will.

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<v Speaker 1>I will both definitely say that you are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Not sarcastic and you know, trying to be sarcastic, doing

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<v Speaker 1>it in a sarcastic way, or belittling or poking, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>poking the phone, none of that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just being honest with you. Yes, you are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>The other person may be a part of the problem,

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<v Speaker 1>but you are your own problem. So far a so

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<v Speaker 1>called professional person to say, I don't want to say

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<v Speaker 1>you're the problem. I don't want to say that, then

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<v Speaker 1>she don't need to say anything at all, because you

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<v Speaker 1>are the problem.

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<v Speaker 2>If you keep picking the same types of people, you

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<v Speaker 2>are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I said, they may be a part of your

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<v Speaker 1>problem as far as your problematic, problematic situation.

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<v Speaker 2>But you are the one who's responsible and accountable for

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<v Speaker 2>your life, not the other person.

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<v Speaker 1>Because other people are gonna bring into your life what

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<v Speaker 1>you set yourself up for, what you open yourself up to,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're gonna treat you how you have taught them

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<v Speaker 1>that they can treat you.

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<v Speaker 2>Poor blank.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. People try you. They try you to see

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<v Speaker 1>how far they can go with you. They try to

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<v Speaker 1>see how you know what you.

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<v Speaker 2>Will or what you wan't allow. People gonna try you.

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<v Speaker 1>But still yet, it is your responsibility, team yours, no

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<v Speaker 1>one else's as to what you allow someone to do

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<v Speaker 1>to you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's your responsibility.

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<v Speaker 1>You're accountable for your life.

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<v Speaker 2>So yes, you are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Your mindset is your very worst enemy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just really a part that a so called.

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<v Speaker 1>Professional saying I won't say that you're the problem. See,

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<v Speaker 1>it goes to show you that societies all around the

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<v Speaker 1>world are so caught up on credentials and license and

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<v Speaker 1>all of those things because they think it makes a

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<v Speaker 1>person so much more knowledgeable.

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<v Speaker 2>No, people are knowledgeable in that area.

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<v Speaker 1>It does not mean they know everything about everything because

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<v Speaker 1>they don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know one does. And people.

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<v Speaker 1>Put so much credibility behind credentials. People pay for credentials,

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<v Speaker 1>people pay for other people to do their work.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean people can become certified in all of that

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<v Speaker 2>many different ways.

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<v Speaker 1>It does not mean that a person really knows the

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<v Speaker 1>subject that they study. Many people buy degrees on mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Many people let someone else do that work. I know

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<v Speaker 1>it for a fact, an absolute, one hundred percent fact.

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<v Speaker 1>But society is so caught up in credentials when they

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<v Speaker 1>want to be when they want to be because we

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<v Speaker 1>know it's all the farce.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all the farce from the top, hint hints down,

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<v Speaker 2>it's all a farce. So you are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>People will come into your life.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care who they are. It could be your

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<v Speaker 2>friend's family, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Could be your own children, it could be your parents,

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<v Speaker 1>your significant others.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care who it is.

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<v Speaker 1>They will treat you how you have allowed They will

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<v Speaker 1>treat you how you have taught them to treat you.

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<v Speaker 1>And if it's any way other than treating you, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you created that monster because you allowed it. You keep

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<v Speaker 1>picking the same people because you have not chosen to change.

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<v Speaker 1>Simple as that, you have not chosen to change, and

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<v Speaker 1>therefore you pick similar people and you go through similar

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<v Speaker 1>things because you have not allowed healing to take place

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<v Speaker 1>in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>As simple as that.

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<v Speaker 1>Most people in the world that you run across or

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<v Speaker 1>you meet, they think they have it together.

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<v Speaker 2>They think they're okay.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't know their word, they don't love themselves, but

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<v Speaker 1>they think they're okay. If you don't know yourself, if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't love yourself, you don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Even know what's good for you.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even know what you need because you're just

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<v Speaker 1>seeking and chasing and reaching, trying to find this and

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<v Speaker 1>that to fill the void inside of you.

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<v Speaker 2>But it never wants it never works out.

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<v Speaker 1>Because people get everything other than what they are seeking

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<v Speaker 1>or what they actually need. They get everything other than

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<v Speaker 1>that because what happens is you become entangled with similar people,

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<v Speaker 1>meaning people with the same mindset that you have. But

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<v Speaker 1>the difference is when there are two people who both

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<v Speaker 1>are broken people, they don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Recognize the brokenness. He don't recognize recognize it in her.

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<v Speaker 1>She don't recognize it in him because they think what

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<v Speaker 1>they have is love. You can talk to them until

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<v Speaker 1>you pass out.

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<v Speaker 2>You will not change their minds.

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<v Speaker 1>They have to go through something devastating, something that is

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<v Speaker 1>so triggering it causes them to want to change.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the only way it's gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 1>People point the finger because they constantly get into these

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<v Speaker 1>relationships that fail, constantly repeating the same cycles, and then

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<v Speaker 1>they point the finger at the people they were in

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<v Speaker 1>the relationships with and they blame them. They have everything

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<v Speaker 1>in the world to say about those individuals they were

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<v Speaker 1>in relationships with when they failed to look at the

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<v Speaker 1>many fingers pointing back itself. I've told you before, we

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<v Speaker 1>have more pointing back at ourselves. For a reason, God

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<v Speaker 1>knew what he was doing when he created us. You

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<v Speaker 1>have to work on that inner man, that inner woman

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<v Speaker 1>that's inside of you, that part of you that devastates

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<v Speaker 1>your life and cause dysfunction that you can't see, you feel.

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<v Speaker 2>The effects of it. But you can't see it.

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<v Speaker 1>We can see how it causes you issues in your life,

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<v Speaker 1>but we can't see the actual dysfunction because cause it

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<v Speaker 1>comes from within, we just see the behaviors, the actions.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to do that inside work. That's why you

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<v Speaker 2>have more famish pointing back at yourself. So again I

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<v Speaker 2>will say, yes, you are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the reason you keep picking the same type of people.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the reason. You are the reason. You're the reason,

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<v Speaker 1>flat I mean, flat out, point blank the end, you're

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<v Speaker 1>the reason. Nobody else is picking them for you. You're picking

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<v Speaker 1>them for yourself because you have not allowed healing in

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<v Speaker 1>your life. Therefore you have no mental maturity. You have

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<v Speaker 1>gotten older, you have gone through things, you have accomplished things,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe not. But the bottom line, the point I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to make is there has been no mental growth,

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<v Speaker 1>no mental maturity.

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<v Speaker 2>Many people get old, but they don't mature mentally.

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<v Speaker 1>Therefore you see things the same way. Bad still looks

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<v Speaker 1>good to you because you're looking through eyes that are

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<v Speaker 1>wide shut. They're open, but you don't see anything because

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<v Speaker 1>you're blind to the things that you want, your desires,

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<v Speaker 1>your feelings.

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<v Speaker 2>You're blind to those things. So you can't see reality

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<v Speaker 2>as it truly is. You see what you want it

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<v Speaker 2>to be. So although that individual have all.

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<v Speaker 1>Of these flaws, all of this negativity, you can't see it.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you're moving on what you want, how you feel,

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<v Speaker 2>what you desire.

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<v Speaker 1>And most times this is the real kicker, this is

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<v Speaker 1>the real serious part that people don't understand. You get

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship based on how you feel. What I

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<v Speaker 1>mean is you get in a relationship with someone and

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<v Speaker 1>you move according to how you're feeling. That's why people

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<v Speaker 1>who have like minds, they give you bits of nuggets

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<v Speaker 1>and nibblets, just enough to keep you in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>And what that does is it make you.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel good for a moment and then you think everything

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<v Speaker 1>is good until it's not again. So you are feeling

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<v Speaker 1>these things, you're feeling these emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>You're doing everything.

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<v Speaker 1>You're trying to please and a peace, and no matter

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<v Speaker 1>what you do, you're still struggling, you still hurt, you're still.

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<v Speaker 2>Drained, you're still going through all.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the same things you've always went through because you

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<v Speaker 1>have not changed. There has been no improvement in your

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<v Speaker 1>mental cognition, no change. So when there's no change, you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do similar things or the same things with different people.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Even go back to the same person, thinking it's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be better than the second time around, when most times

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<v Speaker 1>it's not, because not only you.

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<v Speaker 2>Haven't changed, that other person haven't changed.

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<v Speaker 1>They haven't changed either, but you still want them, You

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<v Speaker 1>still behind and over them, and you see things the

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<v Speaker 1>same way they say, Oh I've changed, and you want

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<v Speaker 1>to believe them so much you let them back into

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<v Speaker 1>your life. And if that's not the case, your particular case,

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<v Speaker 1>but I know it's the case for many. You end

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<v Speaker 1>up with someone else similar characteristics.

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<v Speaker 2>Treat you the same similar way.

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<v Speaker 1>You go through the same, similar situations because you are

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<v Speaker 1>attracted to that negativity, even though you feel you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what you attract.

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<v Speaker 1>And people will always do this until they choose change.

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<v Speaker 1>You must allow healing inside us, deal with that inner man,

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<v Speaker 1>that inner woman.

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<v Speaker 2>You must heal. Let all of the jump go.

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<v Speaker 1>Learn to love and know yourself, because you gotta love

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<v Speaker 1>and know yourself first before you can understand what love

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<v Speaker 1>is or what it is, and before you even know

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<v Speaker 1>how to truly get to know that other person. When

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<v Speaker 1>you're going off of your feelings, you want your desires.

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<v Speaker 1>You're blind to everything else. You cannot see what you

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<v Speaker 1>need to see.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you're living by that superficial stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>That means nothing when it comes to building a strong, loving, lasting,

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<v Speaker 1>healthy relationship. Look, money, titles, possessions, none of that.

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<v Speaker 2>None of it. It's going to help you.

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<v Speaker 1>Build a strong love and lasting, healthy relationship, None of it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's superficial.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you have not mentally matured, you do not

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<v Speaker 1>understand anything I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>It makes no sense to you, But I challenge you,

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<v Speaker 2>look at your life. Are you on the wheel?

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<v Speaker 1>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>You just go on in the circles.

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<v Speaker 1>We live in the same similar things. It's not his fault,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not her fault. It's your fault that you gravitate

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<v Speaker 1>Why am I shoes in the same type of people.

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<v Speaker 1>For nothing in this world because most people think they're okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, it's just baffling to me, because how

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<v Speaker 3>How can you think you're okay when you continue to

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<v Speaker 1>There's no way you can be, in no way in man,

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<v Speaker 2>And the only way you can get to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Point, that point of healing is by accepting that it

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<v Speaker 1>whether they understand it or not, or believe it or not,

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<v Speaker 1>everyone knows why.

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<v Speaker 2>They have the mindsets that they have.

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<v Speaker 1>Because you know better than me, you know better than

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<v Speaker 1>anyone else what you've gone through, all of that negativity

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<v Speaker 1>Because everything may come from childhood. Some people just got

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<v Speaker 2>You can't blame everything on childhood.

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<v Speaker 1>But the point I'm trying to make is wherever that

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<v Speaker 1>let it go because you're not in it anymore. It's

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<v Speaker 1>the memories of it that people allowed to hold them back,

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<v Speaker 1>that people allowed to cause them to.

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<v Speaker 2>Be dysfunctional in the present moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you are still hurting, still carrying old pains

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<v Speaker 1>You're still angry, you're still mad, you're still allowing it

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<v Speaker 2>Problem.

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<v Speaker 1>What people fail to understand that it's very serious, is

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<v Speaker 1>the mindset that you have came from, or was formed

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<v Speaker 2>All that formed the mind that you have now now.

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<v Speaker 1>But as an adult, it's your responsibility to choose better.

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<v Speaker 2>But most people don't. They stay on the same negative paths.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you stay on the same negative path, you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get the same negative results, are similar results.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just the way it is.

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<v Speaker 1>No one on the face of the earth, and I

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<v Speaker 1>mean no one on the face of the earth can

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<v Speaker 2>Remain in the same It's not going to happen. It's

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, yes, yes, yes, you are the problem because

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<v Speaker 1>you're the one who pick and choose who you want

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<v Speaker 2>You're the one who.

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<v Speaker 1>Picks the decision as an adult, you're the one. They're

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<v Speaker 1>not laid Get over here, you're gonna be in a

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<v Speaker 1>you think they have money or they have money.

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<v Speaker 2>You love you know what you see you.

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<v Speaker 1>You you're you're admiring their tied on their position, and

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever drew you in. It's super superficial.

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<v Speaker 1>It's superficial, and most people only realize when they're in

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<v Speaker 1>such bad situations that good look, the money, the titles,

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<v Speaker 1>of it helps the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you want things to be different, you have

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<v Speaker 2>to choose differently. I mean, I've been there myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, at one point in my life, when I was

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<v Speaker 1>much younger, I settled.

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<v Speaker 2>But I tell you what. I will never settle again, ever, ever, ever, ever.

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<v Speaker 2>I know my work.

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<v Speaker 1>I am a gym hands down all around, and I

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<v Speaker 2>I would never require or.

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<v Speaker 1>Look for something and someone that I don't possessing myself

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<v Speaker 1>to me, that is just completely I mean, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>a rational way to think, but most people think that way.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I want him to have this and have that

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<v Speaker 1>when you have nothing, it don't make sense. People supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to enhance your life, the people you choose to be

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<v Speaker 1>were supposed to enhance your life.

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<v Speaker 2>But you're supposed to enhance theirs too. So many people

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<v Speaker 2>have nothing to bring to.

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<v Speaker 1>The table, but they want everything from the table, irrational thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>Be cool or what you're looking for now?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I said, plenty of times, sometimes it may mean

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<v Speaker 1>yourself because people are in intimidated. They're intimidated by people

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<v Speaker 1>who they see, who they see and think are strong individuals.

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<v Speaker 1>They're intimidated by that. That's not your problem. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>want anybody like that anyways. So in your times of

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<v Speaker 1>being by yourself, those are the greatest times for you

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<v Speaker 1>to become the best you possible, strong, knowing your word,

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<v Speaker 1>loving yourself. But unfortunately, many people don't have that patience.

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<v Speaker 1>They want want, want, and never get nothing, work anything.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm talking from the top down because brokenness do

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<v Speaker 1>not care who you are. They don't care how pretty

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<v Speaker 1>you are. They don't care how many houses.

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<v Speaker 2>And cars you have. They don't care if you don't

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<v Speaker 2>have a house or car. They don't care if you're

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<v Speaker 2>in the highest position in the world. They don't care.

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<v Speaker 1>Broken brokenness does not care, and it does not discriminate.

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<v Speaker 1>Figuratively speaking, realize they can see un need I say more,

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<v Speaker 1>need I say more. It's all around us, at our jobs, at.

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<v Speaker 2>Church, in the clubs, I mean all types.

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<v Speaker 4>Of clubs, like party clubs, clubs that people are a

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<v Speaker 4>part of, in societies, I mean, in every aspect.

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<v Speaker 2>Of life, brokenness, brokenness, brokenness.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why we see all of these run and

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<v Speaker 1>a monk that we see amongst people, all of the division,

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<v Speaker 1>all of the hatred. People are broken, but they don't

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<v Speaker 1>better because they're looking to other people who are broken.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like them. So you are the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>I will stand and say it to your face if

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<v Speaker 1>I had to. You are the problem. If you are

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<v Speaker 1>going through those things, keep picking the same type of

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<v Speaker 2>You're the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the one picking them.

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<v Speaker 2>And if anyone is.

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<v Speaker 1>Out there that want to talk about it, reach out

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<v Speaker 1>to me my podcast page Think on It by.

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<v Speaker 2>Cherry gives you mind email. I always respond. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I do get some weird emails sometimes, and I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>sure a lot of people be asking me about being.

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<v Speaker 2>On you know, some.

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<v Speaker 1>Episodes with me, but I don't know these people, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure if it's real or not.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, people are so scamming these days. But I

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<v Speaker 2>will respond to.

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<v Speaker 1>You if you reach out with a question or you

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<v Speaker 1>just want to talk, or like I said, I always

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<v Speaker 1>offer prayer to people. If you need prayer, I'm more

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<v Speaker 1>than willing to do that too. So thank you for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm leaving it right there. Please share this episode. Much

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<v Speaker 1>love Newing to each and every one of you all

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<v Speaker 1>around the world. I love you so much. I end

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<v Speaker 1>every episode the same, and I hope.

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<v Speaker 2>You do it. Thame Pardon