WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:07.440 Andenogy cancel so high ect. 2 00:00:09.119 --> 00:00:09.560 Cancel. 3 00:00:13.720 --> 00:00:21.120 It's not Sorryogy. What's up? Positive bitches? How are we 4 00:00:21.199 --> 00:00:24.320 doing today? If you're hearing this episode, then you are 5 00:00:24.359 --> 00:00:27.359 meant to be here, So keep listening on that Bitch's 6 00:00:27.399 --> 00:00:31.480 Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, 7 00:00:31.559 --> 00:00:34.600 we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling 8 00:00:34.719 --> 00:00:39.039 our most empowered positive bitch self. That is Babe in 9 00:00:39.159 --> 00:00:44.000 true connection with herself. On this podcast, we unbecome who 10 00:00:44.039 --> 00:00:47.439 we are not so we can fully step into exactly 11 00:00:47.640 --> 00:00:50.679 who we came here to be. Now, we cannot be 12 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:54.479 steeped in our power if we are giving our power 13 00:00:54.719 --> 00:00:59.200 away to everyone and their father? Now can we? No, 14 00:00:59.359 --> 00:01:02.640 we cannot. I'm going to say something and maybe you 15 00:01:02.719 --> 00:01:06.599 won't agree just yet, but allow it to awaken the 16 00:01:06.719 --> 00:01:11.239 light within yourself and see where it takes you. Hookup 17 00:01:11.280 --> 00:01:17.879 culture makes you ugly mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and yeah, physically, 18 00:01:18.760 --> 00:01:21.879 and I'm going to tell you why. I'm also going 19 00:01:21.959 --> 00:01:25.519 to tell you why and how you can actually get 20 00:01:25.719 --> 00:01:29.439 hotter from your hurt. If you have been engaging in 21 00:01:29.519 --> 00:01:32.879 hookup culture or maybe you're just dating, I'm going to 22 00:01:32.959 --> 00:01:36.599 teach you today how to take negative people and circumstance 23 00:01:36.680 --> 00:01:39.799 that have been sent your way and transmute it into 24 00:01:40.120 --> 00:01:43.799 power to become healthier, hotter, wealthier, whatever you want to 25 00:01:43.879 --> 00:01:46.200 do with it. Because the truth is, if you are 26 00:01:46.280 --> 00:01:48.879 here right now with me, you're listening to this podcast. 27 00:01:49.400 --> 00:01:51.200 Like I say in the intro, you're meant to be 28 00:01:51.319 --> 00:01:54.840 hearing this. But more importantly than that, you're an alchemist 29 00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:59.239 and you have the ability to take the negative things 30 00:01:59.280 --> 00:02:02.200 that unfold in your life. You have a unique ability 31 00:02:02.280 --> 00:02:07.239 as an alchemist to take that in, absorb, observe, and 32 00:02:07.400 --> 00:02:12.000 transmute it, alchemize it into power. Before we get into it, 33 00:02:12.080 --> 00:02:14.560 a couple of announcements. If you're not yet following me 34 00:02:14.759 --> 00:02:18.120 on Instagram at Vibingwocci, be sure to follow me there 35 00:02:18.199 --> 00:02:20.319 for daily tips and tricks on how to steep yourself 36 00:02:20.439 --> 00:02:24.000 into your magnetic energy and feel as your best self. 37 00:02:24.400 --> 00:02:26.960 If you want more information on that, something to read, 38 00:02:27.120 --> 00:02:29.240 I have a book show up as her. You can 39 00:02:29.280 --> 00:02:31.280 get this. The link will be in the show notes. 40 00:02:31.479 --> 00:02:34.800 And last, but not least, today, I want to remind 41 00:02:34.919 --> 00:02:38.840 you that last week I release shadow Work Alchemy, and 42 00:02:38.960 --> 00:02:40.680 this is a course that will help you bring your 43 00:02:40.800 --> 00:02:44.080 shadow to the light. If you feel like you keep 44 00:02:44.199 --> 00:02:48.280 dating the same type of patterns in different people. You 45 00:02:48.400 --> 00:02:50.719 need to work on your shadow self. If you feel 46 00:02:50.840 --> 00:02:53.960 like you just cannot unlock your magnetic energy, you need 47 00:02:54.039 --> 00:02:56.360 to work on your shadow self. If you feel like 48 00:02:56.400 --> 00:02:58.520 it's impossible for you to be authentic, you need to 49 00:02:58.560 --> 00:03:01.800 work on your shadow self. If you have any anger 50 00:03:02.000 --> 00:03:04.840 towards yourself or shame, you have to work on your 51 00:03:04.879 --> 00:03:07.759 shadow self. If you feel like there's just more to you, 52 00:03:08.039 --> 00:03:10.919 hidding gifts, hidden talent, you need to work on your 53 00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:14.080 shadow self. For the rest of this week, it's going 54 00:03:14.159 --> 00:03:17.199 to be the course at a special low price, but 55 00:03:17.240 --> 00:03:19.680 then after this week it's going up to the regular price. 56 00:03:20.159 --> 00:03:24.759 Get this course right now. We are in a clip season, 57 00:03:25.240 --> 00:03:29.159 so the energies around us are heavily supporting us to 58 00:03:29.319 --> 00:03:32.719 bring our shadows to the light. Of course, this is 59 00:03:32.800 --> 00:03:39.000 a timeless course, however, I would recommend it's almost like 60 00:03:39.080 --> 00:03:41.199 having a cast on your arm. There's extra support. I 61 00:03:41.240 --> 00:03:44.039 would recommend doing this now when there's extra support in 62 00:03:44.159 --> 00:03:49.400 the electromagnetic field that we reside in this course, I 63 00:03:49.520 --> 00:03:52.960 take you through somatic healing, I take you through meditations, 64 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:55.680 I take you through a pono pono, and I give 65 00:03:55.759 --> 00:04:00.360 you dynamic video lessons, journal prompts, affirmations so you can 66 00:04:00.599 --> 00:04:04.400 fully illuminate your true self. You can integrate your shadow, 67 00:04:04.560 --> 00:04:08.360 illuminate your golden shadow, and so much more. This is 68 00:04:08.520 --> 00:04:10.759 not something you want to miss out on. Okay, the 69 00:04:10.879 --> 00:04:12.960 link will be in the show notes. If you're feeling 70 00:04:13.039 --> 00:04:15.039 called to do this, then you know what to do. 71 00:04:15.759 --> 00:04:19.959 Without further ado, let's get into today's episode. Now, I 72 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:24.480 made a claim that hookup culture makes you ugly, and 73 00:04:24.800 --> 00:04:27.800 to understand this, before we get into the spiritual and 74 00:04:27.920 --> 00:04:31.759 emotional side effects, let's just start with the physical. Yes, 75 00:04:31.920 --> 00:04:34.680 we are a spirit in a body, but we are 76 00:04:34.920 --> 00:04:40.839 quite materialistic because we really rely on our three D 77 00:04:41.160 --> 00:04:44.680 senses to give us information about the world. We rely 78 00:04:44.920 --> 00:04:47.519 on our eyes, our ears, our tastes, our touch to 79 00:04:47.800 --> 00:04:51.160 give us input about the physical reality around us. So 80 00:04:51.319 --> 00:04:54.399 it's only natural that we start with the most physical 81 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:58.120 thing that we have, which is our vessel. It's our body. 82 00:04:58.399 --> 00:05:02.000 Whether we're engaging with hookup culture or we're just with 83 00:05:02.319 --> 00:05:06.160 someone who isn't the right person for us, and there's 84 00:05:06.199 --> 00:05:09.439 an unequal energetic dynamic where we're giving way more than 85 00:05:09.519 --> 00:05:13.720 we're receiving in either one of those scenarios. It will 86 00:05:13.920 --> 00:05:18.360 make us uglier. Why, because we're in a heightened state 87 00:05:18.560 --> 00:05:24.240 of survival for too long twenty four to seven, ninety 88 00:05:24.319 --> 00:05:27.519 percent of our day. You have to understand our brain 89 00:05:27.680 --> 00:05:31.680 and nervous system is very much ancient, yet we're living 90 00:05:31.800 --> 00:05:35.120 in this modern world. We used to get a cordisle 91 00:05:35.279 --> 00:05:39.680 spike from a lion running away a poisonous bury. Oh, 92 00:05:39.800 --> 00:05:43.600 I almost ate that. Now we're in a heightened cordisal 93 00:05:43.720 --> 00:05:47.600 state almost twenty four to seven because social media, because 94 00:05:47.639 --> 00:05:50.959 they're not texting us back, because of dating apps, We're 95 00:05:51.079 --> 00:05:55.639 constantly looking outside of ourselves for threats, and it's putting 96 00:05:55.759 --> 00:06:01.519 us into a constant fight or flight state. What do 97 00:06:01.600 --> 00:06:05.000 you think this does to your physical vessel? What do 98 00:06:05.079 --> 00:06:08.600 you think happens to your body when you're pumping out cortisol? 99 00:06:09.240 --> 00:06:12.759 Do you think you're glowing and floating through the planet. 100 00:06:13.040 --> 00:06:17.480 Of course not. When you're in the sympathetic nervous system, 101 00:06:18.680 --> 00:06:23.560 your whole entire demeanor changes. Your body literally primes itself, 102 00:06:23.720 --> 00:06:29.160 It gets ready for battle because it's perceiving a threat. 103 00:06:29.920 --> 00:06:33.040 What's a threat in today's age? In hookup culture, they're 104 00:06:33.079 --> 00:06:35.639 not texting me back, they're not calling me I just 105 00:06:35.720 --> 00:06:38.319 gave them all of myself, and now they're not even here. 106 00:06:38.439 --> 00:06:43.920 I don't understand that causes you to go into your 107 00:06:43.959 --> 00:06:49.040 sympathetic nervous system, your power sympathetic nervous system. Actually, let's 108 00:06:49.160 --> 00:06:52.360 call on my book show up as her page fifty three, 109 00:06:52.800 --> 00:06:56.160 I literally give you the definitions. So your power sympathetic 110 00:06:56.240 --> 00:06:59.040 nervous system is a part of the autonomic nervous system 111 00:06:59.360 --> 00:07:03.560 that is just responsible for relaxing your body. Okay, it's 112 00:07:03.759 --> 00:07:07.439 often referred to rest and digest. When you're calm, when 113 00:07:07.439 --> 00:07:10.160 you're relaxed, when you're self focused, you're able to digest 114 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:13.800 your food. Your shoulders are back, you are smiling, you 115 00:07:13.959 --> 00:07:17.560 feel really good, your heart centers open. In this state, 116 00:07:17.600 --> 00:07:21.360 we're able to digest properly, conserve energy, breathe deeply, engage 117 00:07:21.399 --> 00:07:24.879 with others, and feel safe. However, when we're constantly looking 118 00:07:24.959 --> 00:07:28.399 outside of ourselves for connection, especially to the wrong people, 119 00:07:28.839 --> 00:07:32.399 we then trigger ourselves into the sympathetic nervous system, which 120 00:07:32.480 --> 00:07:38.279 is responsible for responding to perceived stress. Keyboard is perceived. 121 00:07:39.040 --> 00:07:41.279 There doesn't even have to be a real threat out 122 00:07:41.319 --> 00:07:43.480 there for us to think that there is. But if 123 00:07:43.480 --> 00:07:46.839 we're telling ourselves that this person is somehow threatening our 124 00:07:46.920 --> 00:07:51.600 connection to one day get married, have children, engage in 125 00:07:51.639 --> 00:07:55.519 a relationship. We're going to stress ourselves out. This state 126 00:07:55.639 --> 00:07:58.759 is often referred to as fight or flight because our 127 00:07:58.879 --> 00:08:02.560 heart beats faster or draw tightens, our body becomes contracted, 128 00:08:02.879 --> 00:08:07.160 and we become hyper vigilant towards the perceived threat. Your 129 00:08:07.360 --> 00:08:10.720 body when it's not just getting a cortisole spike here there, 130 00:08:10.879 --> 00:08:16.000 but constantly, it will not digest food, so you're gonna 131 00:08:16.040 --> 00:08:19.120 feel bloated. You're gonna start to have less sleep, so 132 00:08:19.279 --> 00:08:21.639 bags underneath your eyes. You're either gonna gain weight or 133 00:08:21.720 --> 00:08:24.399 lose weight. Your hair will thin, you're gonna break out, 134 00:08:24.920 --> 00:08:27.759 your shoulders are gonna be hunched over, your head will 135 00:08:27.800 --> 00:08:33.519 be down. Your whole entire body and system will operate differently. 136 00:08:33.639 --> 00:08:36.120 And on page fifty seven, I literally give you a 137 00:08:36.360 --> 00:08:41.080 chart on how your body literally looks different when you're 138 00:08:41.240 --> 00:08:45.240 in this constant state of stress. And if you're being 139 00:08:45.320 --> 00:08:48.120 intimate with all these different people or with the wrong person, 140 00:08:48.879 --> 00:08:51.720 this is what happens. Your body is gonna perceive this 141 00:08:51.919 --> 00:08:55.559 as a stressed threat, and you're not gonna operate properly. 142 00:08:55.600 --> 00:08:58.240 You're not gonna be able to breathe as deep think. Clearly, 143 00:08:58.320 --> 00:08:59.879 you're not gonna be able to hear the same sea. 144 00:09:00.440 --> 00:09:04.639 Nothing will be the same. I'm gonna give you a 145 00:09:04.639 --> 00:09:06.120 little antidote from my own life. 146 00:09:06.159 --> 00:09:06.279 Here. 147 00:09:07.399 --> 00:09:10.440 There was someone I felt a connection to a deep 148 00:09:10.600 --> 00:09:15.159 sense of connection to this person, and I literally refused 149 00:09:15.759 --> 00:09:21.120 to be intimate with them because I just knew that 150 00:09:21.279 --> 00:09:23.480 they were not in the right headspace. They would say 151 00:09:23.559 --> 00:09:28.840 things like, well, they said they loved me and I 152 00:09:28.960 --> 00:09:31.799 was their wife. But they also said things like, for example, 153 00:09:32.279 --> 00:09:34.200 see this is why i's to listen to everything and 154 00:09:34.320 --> 00:09:37.600 not just cherry pick what you wanna. Really pay attention to, 155 00:09:38.159 --> 00:09:40.600 listen to all that they're saying, but more importantly, look 156 00:09:40.639 --> 00:09:43.799 at action. But they would also say things like I'm 157 00:09:43.840 --> 00:09:47.679 in transition. I don't know, I'm really chaotic right now 158 00:09:47.679 --> 00:09:51.360 of all these things going on. They saw me as 159 00:09:51.519 --> 00:09:58.360 really intimidating. That's not a good thing. So I heard 160 00:09:59.000 --> 00:10:01.639 everything he said, not just the things that I wanted 161 00:10:01.679 --> 00:10:04.440 to pay attention to, and I looked at his actions 162 00:10:04.480 --> 00:10:06.519 and I was like, you know what, there are some 163 00:10:06.720 --> 00:10:09.200 good words here, but the actions aren't aligning with the 164 00:10:09.240 --> 00:10:11.120 good words. And he's also saying a lot of things 165 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:14.639 that are not positive. Now, I felt connected to this person, 166 00:10:14.759 --> 00:10:17.039 so it made me upset, But I would not allow 167 00:10:17.120 --> 00:10:22.039 myself to cross that line because I knew, Ceci, if 168 00:10:22.080 --> 00:10:24.720 you are to cross this line, who's going to get hurt? 169 00:10:25.159 --> 00:10:26.480 Who's going to be stressed out? 170 00:10:26.919 --> 00:10:28.519 Him? Or you? Me? 171 00:10:29.320 --> 00:10:32.559 It would have been me because I'm the one who 172 00:10:32.679 --> 00:10:38.440 wanted something more real or more committed, because I don't 173 00:10:38.480 --> 00:10:42.159 engage in hookup culture, and he was all over the place. 174 00:10:43.240 --> 00:10:46.159 We have to read the writing on the wall. We 175 00:10:46.320 --> 00:10:49.399 have to look for situations, or look at situations for 176 00:10:49.480 --> 00:10:52.159 exactly as they are, not what we wish them to be. 177 00:10:52.879 --> 00:10:54.679 And if you're having trouble with this, I want you 178 00:10:54.759 --> 00:10:57.320 to call on divine assistance, and I want you to say, God, 179 00:10:57.840 --> 00:11:00.360 give me eyes to see, ears to here in a 180 00:11:00.480 --> 00:11:03.240 heart full of discernment, so I can see the situation 181 00:11:04.960 --> 00:11:09.240 as clear as day, so I can make the right 182 00:11:09.279 --> 00:11:12.039 decision here. And I said that to God, and I 183 00:11:12.279 --> 00:11:14.720 was able to see clearly and therefore able to make 184 00:11:14.840 --> 00:11:18.200 the right decision for me. A lot of us think 185 00:11:18.360 --> 00:11:23.720 that we're being played, when really we're playing ourselves. They're 186 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:26.440 literally telling us, I'm in transition. I can't do something 187 00:11:26.519 --> 00:11:28.919 serious X, Y, and Z, whatever it may be. What 188 00:11:29.039 --> 00:11:31.159 else could they say, I don't want a relationship right now. 189 00:11:31.879 --> 00:11:33.679 A man will know whether or not he wants a 190 00:11:33.720 --> 00:11:37.279 relationship with you fairly quickly, and if you feel like 191 00:11:37.279 --> 00:11:39.240 you have to prove yourself to him in order for 192 00:11:39.360 --> 00:11:42.399 him to take you seriously, that is not the right 193 00:11:42.480 --> 00:11:47.039 person and you're gonna trigger yourself. You have to see 194 00:11:47.080 --> 00:11:49.600 people for who they are. You have to see the 195 00:11:49.639 --> 00:11:54.639 situation for what it is. They're not playing you. Stop 196 00:11:54.720 --> 00:11:58.039 being a victim. And by the way, if this sounds harsh, 197 00:11:58.120 --> 00:12:00.080 this is the same conversations I have with myself, and 198 00:12:00.159 --> 00:12:03.440 I've literally been there too, I understand. But you cannot 199 00:12:03.480 --> 00:12:05.879 be the victim when they're literally telling you what it 200 00:12:06.080 --> 00:12:09.000 is and you're then telling yourself, well, I can convince them. 201 00:12:09.279 --> 00:12:11.120 I'm gonna prove to them. I'm gonna give them my body, 202 00:12:11.159 --> 00:12:13.519 my time, my energy, I'm gonna show how amazing I am, 203 00:12:13.600 --> 00:12:16.600 and then they'll see and they're gonna want to convince me. No, no, no, 204 00:12:16.759 --> 00:12:22.159 that's literally not how it works. They will know, just 205 00:12:22.240 --> 00:12:26.399 like you know certain things. They will know fairly quickly, 206 00:12:26.840 --> 00:12:29.279 and it will not require you to prove yourself to them. 207 00:12:31.159 --> 00:12:33.360 You are not being played. You're playing yourself because you 208 00:12:33.440 --> 00:12:35.320 are not listening to what they're saying, and you're telling 209 00:12:35.360 --> 00:12:37.960 yourself that you're gonna convince them to like you. So 210 00:12:38.120 --> 00:12:40.240 you're giving them all your time, your energy, and your body. 211 00:12:40.279 --> 00:12:42.320 And what is it doing. It's making you uglier, it's 212 00:12:42.360 --> 00:12:46.639 making you more stressed out, it's making you feel terrible. Now, 213 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:49.960 when this person did try to be eventually intimate with me, 214 00:12:50.080 --> 00:12:52.879 I was like, no, whoa no, And he was like, what, 215 00:12:53.440 --> 00:12:55.120 I only do this with the girls that I like, 216 00:12:55.200 --> 00:13:00.600 and I laughed. I was like what He's like, No, no, no, no, 217 00:13:00.960 --> 00:13:03.080 I'm not one of the girls you like. I'm either 218 00:13:03.279 --> 00:13:06.399 the girl or I'm gone girl. That's this is not 219 00:13:06.559 --> 00:13:10.240 the game I play. Sorry, no, thank you. And he 220 00:13:10.399 --> 00:13:12.480 was like, oh, I feel so rejected. I was like, well, 221 00:13:12.919 --> 00:13:16.120 I'm not gonna make myself feel dumb. So if me 222 00:13:16.360 --> 00:13:19.320 making a smart decision for myself makes you feel rejected, 223 00:13:19.600 --> 00:13:22.360 I'm okay with that. Yeah that works for me because 224 00:13:22.840 --> 00:13:26.360 right now you just want me when it's good for you, 225 00:13:27.840 --> 00:13:32.440 and that doesn't work for me, so therefore feel rejected. 226 00:13:32.519 --> 00:13:35.519 All you want, I'm gonna rest on my pedestal and 227 00:13:35.639 --> 00:13:38.159 feel really good in the decision I'm making right now. 228 00:13:38.879 --> 00:13:43.000 Was I hurt? Yes, I liked this person. The thing is, 229 00:13:43.639 --> 00:13:47.080 sometimes we're gonna feel connected to people, but that doesn't 230 00:13:47.159 --> 00:13:49.200 mean that they're right for us, or that they are 231 00:13:49.399 --> 00:13:53.879 meant to be our partner in crime. There are so 232 00:13:54.000 --> 00:13:56.399 many different types of soulmates. There are those who trigger 233 00:13:56.399 --> 00:13:59.159 a spiritual awakening in us, those who lead us back 234 00:13:59.159 --> 00:14:03.240 home to ourselves, those who are great partners, boyfriend girlfriends. 235 00:14:03.519 --> 00:14:06.159 There are some soulmates that are just gonna teach you 236 00:14:06.279 --> 00:14:08.559 something a season or reason or a lifetime, whatever it 237 00:14:08.600 --> 00:14:10.960 may be. There are different types of soulmates. Yeah, I 238 00:14:11.039 --> 00:14:12.960 felt connected to this person, but I had to take 239 00:14:12.960 --> 00:14:16.120 a step back and say, well, I feel connected to them, 240 00:14:16.159 --> 00:14:19.399 but that's not good enough. Having chemistry with someone feeling 241 00:14:19.440 --> 00:14:22.679 a connection to them, that's not good enough. There needs 242 00:14:22.799 --> 00:14:26.759 to be a shared value system, and we need to 243 00:14:26.799 --> 00:14:30.080 be in the right and same state of mind. And 244 00:14:30.200 --> 00:14:31.879 I saw that he was chaotic. I saw he was 245 00:14:31.919 --> 00:14:33.320 all over the place. I saw that he was like 246 00:14:33.360 --> 00:14:35.960 a dog, and as soon as another squirrel went by, 247 00:14:36.519 --> 00:14:39.120 he was going towards that squirrel. I saw that his 248 00:14:39.279 --> 00:14:42.679 nervous system was disregulated. I read the writing on the wall, 249 00:14:42.840 --> 00:14:45.639 even though I wanted it to be something different. Okay, well, 250 00:14:46.159 --> 00:14:49.360 my ceiling is God's floor, so obviously there's just something 251 00:14:49.440 --> 00:14:51.639 better for me. And that's what you need to remind 252 00:14:51.679 --> 00:14:54.120 yourself about. If it's not this person, it will be 253 00:14:54.440 --> 00:14:58.399 someone better. That's the mindset you want to adopt. Not 254 00:14:58.639 --> 00:15:01.799 I need to prove myself so they like, absolutely not. 255 00:15:03.120 --> 00:15:05.960 The cure to this is intentional intimacy. Before I ever 256 00:15:06.120 --> 00:15:09.200 would go out with this guy, I would always tell myself, Okay, 257 00:15:09.399 --> 00:15:12.320 I know the line I'm not going to cross because 258 00:15:13.120 --> 00:15:17.480 I have not gained enough data on this person to 259 00:15:18.039 --> 00:15:21.120 understand what they're truly capable of giving me and if 260 00:15:21.159 --> 00:15:26.039 we're aligned. And eventually I saw, oh we're not aligned, 261 00:15:26.279 --> 00:15:28.960 No are we? They we're not They we're not. And 262 00:15:29.720 --> 00:15:32.879 I'm so happy I didn't cross that line because if 263 00:15:32.919 --> 00:15:35.200 I did, who would be more stressed out, who would 264 00:15:35.200 --> 00:15:38.559 be more upset? Who would not feel good? It would 265 00:15:38.600 --> 00:15:43.080 be me. You have to protect your own heart. And 266 00:15:43.200 --> 00:15:45.840 I'm so much of a lover girl. I absolutely love love, 267 00:15:47.120 --> 00:15:51.159 but there's no one I love more than myself. So 268 00:15:51.720 --> 00:15:55.080 therefore I'm gonna make sure that I'm intentional and not 269 00:15:55.240 --> 00:15:59.879 just on autopilot and acting out of wounds. Your power 270 00:16:00.120 --> 00:16:03.120 is not your promiscuity. Your power lies on your pedestal 271 00:16:03.879 --> 00:16:06.799 when you are hypervigilant. Not of do they like me? 272 00:16:07.159 --> 00:16:10.159 But how do I feel? How does this feel in 273 00:16:10.200 --> 00:16:12.720 my body? How is this person affecting my nervous system? 274 00:16:13.240 --> 00:16:16.279 That will lead you to the right places. Your power 275 00:16:16.480 --> 00:16:20.000 is in your receptivity, not trying to prove yourself. Your 276 00:16:20.120 --> 00:16:25.000 power is in you receiving seeing them prove themselves over 277 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:27.840 a period of time. By the way, if you're worried 278 00:16:27.840 --> 00:16:30.759 about is this person for me or not, the truth 279 00:16:30.919 --> 00:16:33.919 always stands the test of time. So if they are 280 00:16:34.039 --> 00:16:37.759 for you, they'll stay, They'll stay around, they will stand 281 00:16:37.799 --> 00:16:41.039 the test of time. They will be there. And now 282 00:16:41.120 --> 00:16:44.039 that I've been dating again, because as you guys know, 283 00:16:44.120 --> 00:16:46.720 I was in a seven year relationship and then we 284 00:16:47.159 --> 00:16:51.159 ended earlier this year, And now that I've been dating again, 285 00:16:52.360 --> 00:16:55.799 it's so easy for me to have better discerning because 286 00:16:55.799 --> 00:16:59.039 I'm like, WHOA, I really see how different different people 287 00:16:59.080 --> 00:17:02.159 affect my nervous as. This person who I liked in 288 00:17:02.240 --> 00:17:05.799 this scenario was constantly triggering me, making me feel very 289 00:17:05.880 --> 00:17:09.680 anxious and then there'd be another person who I would 290 00:17:09.720 --> 00:17:12.039 be talking to, and they made me feel like a princess, 291 00:17:12.079 --> 00:17:16.119 fairy queen. And I clearly see the difference now, and 292 00:17:16.279 --> 00:17:19.279 that helps me make better decisions as well, you know, 293 00:17:19.440 --> 00:17:22.519 even asking God give me discernment here, so I can 294 00:17:22.839 --> 00:17:26.720 really understand what's right for me and really make right 295 00:17:26.759 --> 00:17:29.160 decisions that make me feel my best. That's going to 296 00:17:29.240 --> 00:17:33.559 help you. Okay. So that's our physical self. When we're 297 00:17:33.599 --> 00:17:36.240 in our sympathetic nervous system, we look worse because we 298 00:17:36.279 --> 00:17:40.200 have more quarters ole and we can't digest our hair 299 00:17:40.319 --> 00:17:43.079 mai thin acne, bloating all that jass. When we're in 300 00:17:43.119 --> 00:17:47.880 our powasympathetic nervous system, our rest and digest our skin glows. 301 00:17:47.960 --> 00:17:50.000 We have just a different air about us. Where our 302 00:17:50.039 --> 00:17:53.720 shoulders are back, we can smile, We're feeling safe to engage. 303 00:17:54.799 --> 00:17:59.559 That is where we want to go. Now, let's move 304 00:17:59.599 --> 00:18:01.759 on to the mental body here. Okay, so that's a 305 00:18:01.799 --> 00:18:04.799 physical body. Let's move on to the mental body. When 306 00:18:04.839 --> 00:18:07.359 you're thinking about them twenty four to seven, Why aren't 307 00:18:07.359 --> 00:18:09.519 they texting me? What are they doing? Are they talking 308 00:18:09.559 --> 00:18:11.119 to someone else? Oh my god, are they gonna hook 309 00:18:11.200 --> 00:18:13.920 up with someone because I'm not there. When you're checking 310 00:18:14.000 --> 00:18:16.759 their Instagram twenty four to seven, their social media, their 311 00:18:16.839 --> 00:18:19.359 snapchat score, who they're following, you're checking your phone to 312 00:18:19.359 --> 00:18:24.839 see if they're texting you, that is repellent and depleting 313 00:18:25.599 --> 00:18:29.200 on your end, You're depleting yourself. We want to attract 314 00:18:29.240 --> 00:18:31.599 and not chase, but you can't do that if you're 315 00:18:31.640 --> 00:18:34.839 giving everyone and their father all of your energy, your body, 316 00:18:34.920 --> 00:18:37.799 and your attention. And I want you to just take 317 00:18:37.960 --> 00:18:42.519 a step back here. How would it look if instead 318 00:18:42.559 --> 00:18:45.000 of giving your time and your energy and your attention 319 00:18:45.160 --> 00:18:48.559 and your awareness to this person you poured into you 320 00:18:50.480 --> 00:18:54.759 think about this, like, really think about this. If you 321 00:18:54.839 --> 00:18:58.319 weren't checking their social media, if you weren't waiting around 322 00:18:58.359 --> 00:19:00.759 for their text, if you weren't waiting for them to 323 00:19:00.839 --> 00:19:05.000 call you, if you weren't stalking who they're following, what 324 00:19:05.240 --> 00:19:08.880 they're doing, waiting for an update from them, how much 325 00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:13.039 more time and energy would you have? Okay? And what 326 00:19:13.119 --> 00:19:16.160 would you do with this time and energy? Really visualize this? 327 00:19:17.039 --> 00:19:19.519 What I want to do a cooking class? Would I 328 00:19:19.720 --> 00:19:22.440 want to try a new sport? Maybe I want to 329 00:19:22.559 --> 00:19:26.039 read a new book. Is there something I've been wanting 330 00:19:26.079 --> 00:19:28.400 to do since I was a child, but hadn't have 331 00:19:28.519 --> 00:19:31.599 the time to do. Can I channel my energy into 332 00:19:31.799 --> 00:19:38.319 that instead. I've realized that there were certain people who 333 00:19:38.400 --> 00:19:40.200 I would date and they would not make me feel 334 00:19:40.400 --> 00:19:43.920 stable and grounded and peaceful, and I'd be giving them 335 00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:46.519 all my attention and energy. And the cure to this 336 00:19:46.720 --> 00:19:49.599 is you have to direct your mind better, cause your 337 00:19:50.119 --> 00:19:52.279 mind will do what you tell it to do. You 338 00:19:52.359 --> 00:19:55.559 got to input something, so instead of me just sitting 339 00:19:55.599 --> 00:19:58.079 around waiting for someone to reach out to me or 340 00:19:58.119 --> 00:20:01.039 whatever it may be, I started taking cookie classes. I'm 341 00:20:01.079 --> 00:20:04.240 certified in reiki. Now, I am a golf star. I've 342 00:20:04.279 --> 00:20:07.240 been taking golf lessons. I've been signing up for esoteric 343 00:20:07.839 --> 00:20:10.880 energy classes at least twice a month. I've learned more 344 00:20:10.880 --> 00:20:15.480 about politics. I've been learning about ancient civilizations like Egypt, 345 00:20:15.880 --> 00:20:18.559 Jesus and the scenes. I've been taking my health so 346 00:20:18.680 --> 00:20:21.880 much more seriously, Like I have so much more time now. 347 00:20:22.359 --> 00:20:24.440 And I was telling someone last night, I was like, 348 00:20:24.519 --> 00:20:27.400 this is a favorite or this is my favorite iteration 349 00:20:27.559 --> 00:20:30.559 of CC because I have so much time to give 350 00:20:30.559 --> 00:20:33.240 to myself and I'm loving it. I'm loving it. 351 00:20:33.839 --> 00:20:34.319 And when you. 352 00:20:35.000 --> 00:20:38.640 Literally. Yesterday, I set up a little divine, feminine ritual 353 00:20:39.119 --> 00:20:40.920 and I put my phone on do not disturbed. I 354 00:20:41.000 --> 00:20:43.000 put on a Victorian music playlist. 355 00:20:43.640 --> 00:20:44.160 It was like. 356 00:20:44.759 --> 00:20:49.559 Victorian library music background. Whatever from you to put that on. 357 00:20:49.759 --> 00:20:53.319 I lit all my candles. I did some mirror work. Okay, 358 00:20:54.279 --> 00:20:57.039 people call this glamour magic, but literally, it's just looking 359 00:20:57.119 --> 00:20:59.920 in the mirror and saying affirmations and then writing it down. 360 00:21:00.799 --> 00:21:04.319 I meditated on this and I've really just fed myself 361 00:21:04.720 --> 00:21:07.839 my energy for a full hour. And when you do that, 362 00:21:08.240 --> 00:21:11.319 you remind yourself how much you actually like your own energy. 363 00:21:11.720 --> 00:21:14.559 When you're constantly depleting yourself, you don't know who you are, 364 00:21:14.680 --> 00:21:16.200 you don't know what your energy feels like, you don't 365 00:21:16.200 --> 00:21:18.759 know how cool your energy is, and therefore you're walking 366 00:21:18.839 --> 00:21:21.680 around like an empty cup and it sucks. So you 367 00:21:21.839 --> 00:21:25.359 want to take your power back by directing your mind. 368 00:21:25.720 --> 00:21:28.200 Do a ritual, do a meditation, read a book, sign 369 00:21:28.319 --> 00:21:33.839 up for a course, learn something new. When you are 370 00:21:34.000 --> 00:21:37.880 hurt from a situation, from a hookup that went wrong, 371 00:21:38.440 --> 00:21:40.200 from someone who can't give you what it is, you 372 00:21:40.319 --> 00:21:44.599 truly want, use that energy and channel it into a class, 373 00:21:44.759 --> 00:21:47.559 Channel it into a creative endeavor. This is how you 374 00:21:47.680 --> 00:21:50.440 get hotter from your hurt. Oh you're feeling hurt, Okay, 375 00:21:50.559 --> 00:21:53.720 use that energy, Go do a workout. Oh someone's bowling 376 00:21:53.759 --> 00:21:56.000 you at work. Use that energy to stay an extra 377 00:21:56.119 --> 00:21:58.920 hour and use it as fuel. You can use your 378 00:21:59.079 --> 00:22:02.640 hurt as fuel. This is transmutation. This is how you alchemize. 379 00:22:03.759 --> 00:22:05.279 So you can think of all the people who have 380 00:22:05.400 --> 00:22:06.880 hurt you and say, think you think you think you, 381 00:22:07.000 --> 00:22:09.119 thank you. I'm going to use that energy and I'm 382 00:22:09.160 --> 00:22:11.119 gonna write a book. I'm going to use that energy, 383 00:22:11.119 --> 00:22:13.480 and I'm going to create a shadow Alchemy course. I'm 384 00:22:13.480 --> 00:22:15.680 going to use that energy and I am going to 385 00:22:16.839 --> 00:22:19.119 really channel it into something that can help me make 386 00:22:19.200 --> 00:22:23.240 me more beautiful, happy, wealthier, healthier, whatever it be. Oh, 387 00:22:23.279 --> 00:22:25.400 I just realized. I talk about this guy more in 388 00:22:25.519 --> 00:22:28.640 depth in the Shadow Alchemy course as well, So if 389 00:22:28.640 --> 00:22:30.960 you want to hear even more tea on that, you 390 00:22:31.039 --> 00:22:34.200 can look there. The other cure of this, in addition 391 00:22:34.319 --> 00:22:37.640 to directing your mind, is call your power back. I 392 00:22:37.920 --> 00:22:41.640 lovingly and peacefully call all of my power back to 393 00:22:41.759 --> 00:22:44.240 me now. And if you want a twenty minute meditation 394 00:22:44.440 --> 00:22:47.400 on this, you can get that for free on YouTube, 395 00:22:47.599 --> 00:22:49.880 and if you want a course on this, join the 396 00:22:49.960 --> 00:22:53.799 Pedestal Path course. It will help you understand why it's 397 00:22:53.839 --> 00:22:55.680 so hard for you to focus on yourself, why it's 398 00:22:55.720 --> 00:22:57.519 so hard for you to be on your pedestal. And 399 00:22:57.759 --> 00:23:01.079 then I give you not only meditation and workbooks to 400 00:23:01.119 --> 00:23:03.400 get yourself back on there, but I believe it's over 401 00:23:03.559 --> 00:23:06.039