WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.199 --> 00:00:03.720 It's interesting as telling Bailey that we don't have a 2 00:00:03.720 --> 00:00:07.599 whole lot of emails on the Minnesota Goodbye, and I 3 00:00:07.639 --> 00:00:09.720 thought we did. We got a couple. So if there's 4 00:00:09.759 --> 00:00:14.160 anything that you want to bring up, then you can 5 00:00:14.199 --> 00:00:17.480 feel free to bring it up. I don't really have anything, 6 00:00:17.519 --> 00:00:20.160 but I will say this. Carson leaves, I want to 7 00:00:20.199 --> 00:00:24.239 say today as tour manager of the David Kushner tour. 8 00:00:24.679 --> 00:00:27.359 So he was the band's manager of you know, David 9 00:00:27.399 --> 00:00:30.039 Kushner had his own manager and Carson was the manager 10 00:00:30.079 --> 00:00:33.479 of his three piece band. Now Carson is the entire 11 00:00:33.600 --> 00:00:37.679 tour manager. Wow. He's the guy who does everything from 12 00:00:37.759 --> 00:00:40.119 schedule the flights to put out the daily sheets of 13 00:00:40.200 --> 00:00:43.399 like here's the schedule, Meet in the lobby at seven ten, 14 00:00:43.880 --> 00:00:47.600 go to breakfast at seven thirty. Lunch is on your own. 15 00:00:48.799 --> 00:00:51.799 And he does everything, and he does the meet and greets, 16 00:00:52.280 --> 00:00:54.520 and meet and greets are really interesting. But I think 17 00:00:54.520 --> 00:00:55.759 he has some help doing the meet and greets. So 18 00:00:55.759 --> 00:00:57.640 you know what a meet and greed is. That means 19 00:00:57.679 --> 00:01:01.960 like backstage before the show, usually before sometimes after, some 20 00:01:02.119 --> 00:01:05.040 fans will get a chance to meet the artist. It's 21 00:01:05.040 --> 00:01:07.000 called them meet and greet, and we know, we used 22 00:01:06.959 --> 00:01:09.680 to call them backstage passes because that sounds way cooler, 23 00:01:09.760 --> 00:01:11.680 I think than a meet and great Like backstage passes 24 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:13.799 makes you think you're wandering around, like walking into the 25 00:01:13.920 --> 00:01:16.640 dressing rooms whatever. But it's a meet and greet. And 26 00:01:16.719 --> 00:01:19.319 I said, I said, I've done a few meet and 27 00:01:19.359 --> 00:01:22.959 greets myself. And I said, I don't you, I know, 28 00:01:23.040 --> 00:01:25.840 you not asking me for advice, but I said, it 29 00:01:25.920 --> 00:01:29.359 is interesting how different artists will do a meet and greet. 30 00:01:29.799 --> 00:01:33.680 If they're a big artist, they stand there in front 31 00:01:33.680 --> 00:01:35.879 of a banner that says, like, you know, Maroon five 32 00:01:35.959 --> 00:01:38.040 or whatever, and then a group of six or eight 33 00:01:38.079 --> 00:01:40.280 people that don't always know each other will come up 34 00:01:40.599 --> 00:01:43.519 and stand there with the band and get a picture taken. 35 00:01:43.519 --> 00:01:45.319 And then you will check your email and you'll get 36 00:01:45.319 --> 00:01:47.280 an email of that. Yeah, And I said, another one's 37 00:01:47.319 --> 00:01:49.040 they like, you know, they come up and they shake 38 00:01:49.079 --> 00:01:51.879 hands and they give you hugs and they take individual pictures. 39 00:01:51.879 --> 00:01:55.519 Oh wow. So somebody like David Kushner, well he's you know, 40 00:01:55.599 --> 00:01:59.280 he's a great artist, probably not to the level of 41 00:01:59.280 --> 00:02:01.239 a Maroon five, where you would probably get up and 42 00:02:01.319 --> 00:02:03.439 you would get a hug and you know, like chat 43 00:02:03.480 --> 00:02:05.400 for you know. A minute or two with David Kushner, 44 00:02:05.719 --> 00:02:07.280 I said, one thing to be careful of is there's 45 00:02:07.319 --> 00:02:11.199 always somebody who will not leave. Leave. Yeah, So for example, 46 00:02:11.319 --> 00:02:13.319 who would you not leave for? Like, if you met 47 00:02:13.319 --> 00:02:16.319 a celebrity you would not like if I met oh, 48 00:02:16.360 --> 00:02:17.800 I don't know, if I met Taylor Swift, I'd want 49 00:02:17.840 --> 00:02:20.560 to sit there and talk to her or whatever. Or 50 00:02:20.599 --> 00:02:23.599 better yet, if I met Paul McCartney, who is my 51 00:02:23.719 --> 00:02:27.240 ultimate dream to me, he'd be like, and I just 52 00:02:27.280 --> 00:02:30.439 want to I really like that yesterday's song. And did 53 00:02:30.439 --> 00:02:33.080 you and John Lennon did you get along with each other? 54 00:02:33.240 --> 00:02:38.039 Or so? And I've told him, I said, there's some 55 00:02:38.159 --> 00:02:40.479 that you're gonna have to say, Okay, thank you, that's 56 00:02:40.840 --> 00:02:44.240 enough because the artist. The artist can never say okay, 57 00:02:44.800 --> 00:02:45.800 you need to move along. 58 00:02:45.960 --> 00:02:48.719 Yes I if I mean, if it was me, I 59 00:02:48.719 --> 00:02:52.759 don't Brian Gosling probably really Brian Gosling, I would just 60 00:02:52.840 --> 00:02:55.599 find other things to continue staying and talking to him. 61 00:02:56.000 --> 00:02:59.159 But I don't really meet a lot of artists. I've 62 00:02:59.199 --> 00:03:01.759 not had that opportun unity. So no, I don't know really, 63 00:03:01.840 --> 00:03:06.800 but yeah, I totally get though, Like, for example, not 64 00:03:06.919 --> 00:03:09.360 that I'm anybody, but at my birthday party, I would 65 00:03:09.360 --> 00:03:11.439 be talking to one person for a really long time, 66 00:03:11.919 --> 00:03:14.520 and You're right, like, you can't just be like, Okay, 67 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:17.479 I need to walk away now because there's someone else 68 00:03:17.479 --> 00:03:19.639 who wants to talk to me. Yeah, so you kind 69 00:03:19.680 --> 00:03:22.840 of need either them to get it or for someone 70 00:03:22.879 --> 00:03:23.960 to come and help you. 71 00:03:24.159 --> 00:03:26.120 And that does happen because I think that, you know, 72 00:03:26.400 --> 00:03:28.639 when we go, like your birthday party was a good example, 73 00:03:28.680 --> 00:03:30.360 and I love to meet people who listen to the 74 00:03:30.360 --> 00:03:34.080 show you. I appreciate you more than you will ever understand. Yes, 75 00:03:34.120 --> 00:03:37.000 I loved it, I really do. But then I start 76 00:03:37.000 --> 00:03:40.000 to feel bad if I'm talking to Troy and behind 77 00:03:40.080 --> 00:03:44.080 Troy is Helena and her friend and they've been waiting 78 00:03:44.199 --> 00:03:46.560 for fifteen minutes for Troy to finish talking to me 79 00:03:46.560 --> 00:03:49.960 about his fishing expence, you know, adventures. Yeah, and then 80 00:03:50.000 --> 00:03:51.639 I'm kind of like, I don't want to look over 81 00:03:51.719 --> 00:03:55.039 Troy's shoulder at Helena and her friend because that would 82 00:03:55.039 --> 00:03:57.759 look rude to Troy. But at the same time, I'm like, God, 83 00:03:57.759 --> 00:04:00.439 there's Helena, and there's a table of people that want 84 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:02.319 to say hi, and there's somebody that I want to 85 00:04:02.319 --> 00:04:04.280 say hi to, and there's oh, there's somebody who's sitting 86 00:04:04.280 --> 00:04:06.759 alone and I want to go say hi, so and 87 00:04:07.080 --> 00:04:09.199 we don't really have any kind of you know, security 88 00:04:09.199 --> 00:04:12.280 who's like, hey, Troy, move it along, come on, Troy. 89 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:14.080 And I would never say to Troy, you know, but 90 00:04:14.120 --> 00:04:15.439 I will. I do have a little bit of a 91 00:04:15.479 --> 00:04:18.000 technique that if something's going a little bit too long, Uncle, 92 00:04:18.439 --> 00:04:20.279 very cool, what's your name again? And I'll reach my 93 00:04:20.319 --> 00:04:22.879 hand out and I'll say like, oh, Troy, really good 94 00:04:22.920 --> 00:04:25.920 to meet you now. Ninety percent of the time Troy 95 00:04:26.439 --> 00:04:30.480 will get the hint. Sure that I'm not trying to 96 00:04:30.519 --> 00:04:34.439 be a dickh but sometimes Troy is like, yeah, so anyway, 97 00:04:34.439 --> 00:04:37.879 when it comes to small mouth bass, I like to 98 00:04:38.040 --> 00:04:41.560 use a spoon. Yeah, And I'm like, fucking Troy, I 99 00:04:41.600 --> 00:04:42.399 think what I. 100 00:04:42.360 --> 00:04:44.279 Have to start or I mean, not that it happens 101 00:04:44.279 --> 00:04:46.720 to me a lot, but like say ending it with hey, 102 00:04:46.759 --> 00:04:47.600 let's get a picture. 103 00:04:48.600 --> 00:04:50.279 That's a good one too, Yeah, do you want to 104 00:04:50.279 --> 00:04:51.120 get a picture? Right? 105 00:04:51.199 --> 00:04:53.000 Except at my birthday didn't have my phone on me, 106 00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:55.160 so I was like, well, thank you so much for 107 00:04:55.199 --> 00:04:57.560 coming to my party. It's so nice to have you here, 108 00:04:57.560 --> 00:04:59.720 and then just hope that they would slowly walk away. 109 00:04:59.800 --> 00:05:02.079 Yeah, And it's never an arrogant thing. It's never like no, 110 00:05:02.120 --> 00:05:04.759 I don't have time because we love people seriously. We 111 00:05:04.839 --> 00:05:07.079 love anybody who wants to come up and say hi 112 00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:11.120 to me. I love you so much. But I also 113 00:05:11.199 --> 00:05:13.959 love the person behind you, yeah, and the person behind them, 114 00:05:13.959 --> 00:05:15.879 and I always feel bad for that person because they 115 00:05:15.879 --> 00:05:20.879 stand there feeling super awkward, like God, I'm waiting for 116 00:05:20.959 --> 00:05:28.839 a DJ. So anyway, here is Aaron. Aaron is talking 117 00:05:28.879 --> 00:05:31.720 about a situation at work and wants to get some 118 00:05:31.879 --> 00:05:35.079 input on this one. I graduated in two thousand and nine, 119 00:05:35.319 --> 00:05:38.639 joined the professional workforce at twenty two. I'm twenty seven now. 120 00:05:38.759 --> 00:05:41.000 I've had a few different positions since graduated, but I'm 121 00:05:41.000 --> 00:05:45.079 always finding myself bored. Like I could easily work a 122 00:05:45.160 --> 00:05:47.560 three day work We get everything done and still have time. 123 00:05:47.879 --> 00:05:49.720 There are some weeks that are busier than others, but 124 00:05:49.720 --> 00:05:52.639 for the most part, my job is slow. When I 125 00:05:52.639 --> 00:05:55.079 look around my colleagues, they all seem to be busy. Granted, 126 00:05:55.079 --> 00:05:57.800 their jobs are quite a bit different than my position. 127 00:05:58.160 --> 00:06:00.920 I know older generations often seem to work longer hours, 128 00:06:00.920 --> 00:06:03.519 but could that be due to not being as proficient 129 00:06:03.560 --> 00:06:08.279 with technology, or perhaps having higher up positions and more responsibilities. 130 00:06:08.399 --> 00:06:10.920 I know the person in my position previously retired from 131 00:06:10.920 --> 00:06:14.160 my position, and my coworkers are often saying how awful 132 00:06:14.199 --> 00:06:16.079 she was at her job. I think there are more 133 00:06:16.160 --> 00:06:18.839 tasks that I could be given, but I would constantly 134 00:06:18.839 --> 00:06:21.040 have to ask for them. I've told my colleagues, just 135 00:06:21.079 --> 00:06:22.759 give me some work and I'll let them know when 136 00:06:22.800 --> 00:06:25.120 my plate's full, but they won't do that. I assume 137 00:06:25.160 --> 00:06:27.279 it's because they're not used to having someone helpful on 138 00:06:27.319 --> 00:06:30.680 their team. I'm just curious of other people my age 139 00:06:30.720 --> 00:06:33.240 twenty seven feel the same way about not having a 140 00:06:33.240 --> 00:06:35.959 workload large enough to fill their eight hour day, forty 141 00:06:35.959 --> 00:06:38.199 hour week. Is it a me problem or do others 142 00:06:38.279 --> 00:06:42.360 find themselves in this situation? Something to ponder, Aaron, I 143 00:06:42.399 --> 00:06:44.560 think that there's a couple of things, maybe at work 144 00:06:44.639 --> 00:06:48.959 that older people have been conditioned to keep working. And also, 145 00:06:49.000 --> 00:06:52.959 I would say it behooves some people to find something 146 00:06:53.040 --> 00:06:56.160 to do, but it doesn't look like you're finding anything 147 00:06:56.199 --> 00:06:59.839 to do. The technology thing I don't know about. I'm 148 00:07:00.079 --> 00:07:03.720 moderately proficient at technology. It never becomes an issue. I 149 00:07:03.759 --> 00:07:05.680 will ask Bailey once in a while, how do I 150 00:07:05.720 --> 00:07:08.319 get sound to play on my Instagram stories. Yeah, but 151 00:07:08.639 --> 00:07:10.439 for the most part, I do, Okay, what do you think? 152 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:14.279 I mean? I get that, like it might take somebody longer. 153 00:07:14.319 --> 00:07:16.839 I'm trying to think of like my older jobs that 154 00:07:16.879 --> 00:07:19.040 I've had and the people that I worked with that 155 00:07:19.160 --> 00:07:23.519 are older. It's interesting because I feel like, in general, 156 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:26.240 we're not necessarily transparent with like the work that we 157 00:07:26.399 --> 00:07:30.279 do in whatever job that we're in. So I would 158 00:07:30.319 --> 00:07:33.279 just assume that the people I worked with were busy 159 00:07:33.879 --> 00:07:36.639 all the time. But then I also knew that all 160 00:07:36.680 --> 00:07:39.040 of us, like to some degree would kind of like 161 00:07:39.079 --> 00:07:41.279 because we worked from home half the time, and all 162 00:07:41.360 --> 00:07:43.639 of us to some degree would kind of like sit 163 00:07:43.680 --> 00:07:47.920 around and do nothing for part of the day, not 164 00:07:48.120 --> 00:07:51.600 like for hours and hours and hours, but we'd be like, oh, 165 00:07:51.639 --> 00:07:53.480 I'm just gonna go over here and pet my cat 166 00:07:53.519 --> 00:07:54.879 for a little bit, or I'm gonna look at my 167 00:07:54.920 --> 00:07:56.879 phone for a little bit, and then like forty minutes 168 00:07:56.879 --> 00:07:58.519 of pass near're like, oh crap, I have to do 169 00:07:58.560 --> 00:08:01.439 my work. So that like that kind of helped stretch 170 00:08:01.439 --> 00:08:04.079 out the time a little bit where we're not necessarily 171 00:08:04.120 --> 00:08:09.120 working as proficiently as we could or efficiently as we could. 172 00:08:09.160 --> 00:08:11.000 You think that you work from home when you work 173 00:08:11.040 --> 00:08:13.839 for the History Center right part of the time. Yeah, 174 00:08:13.959 --> 00:08:15.959 do you think that you work more efficiently at home 175 00:08:16.199 --> 00:08:16.680 or at work? 176 00:08:16.759 --> 00:08:20.199 No? Work? Tell me it's because I think I was 177 00:08:20.240 --> 00:08:22.319 different than the other people I worked with, because they 178 00:08:22.360 --> 00:08:23.959 a lot of them said that they worked better from 179 00:08:24.000 --> 00:08:27.000 home because they didn't have distractions, or they could wear 180 00:08:27.000 --> 00:08:30.160 comfy clothes or whatever. But when I'm home, I don't 181 00:08:30.160 --> 00:08:32.639 feel like I'm at work. So it was really hard 182 00:08:32.679 --> 00:08:35.879 for me, yes to do work efficiently while I was 183 00:08:35.919 --> 00:08:38.519 at home, because I'd be like, well, I mean, I 184 00:08:38.519 --> 00:08:40.879 can just get up and go to the bathroom whenever 185 00:08:40.879 --> 00:08:42.480 I want, and I can sit on my phone while 186 00:08:42.480 --> 00:08:45.240 I'm in the bathroom or whatever, and it was just 187 00:08:45.279 --> 00:08:47.759 so much easier to just do whatever. I mean. I 188 00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:49.799 would wake up literally ten minutes before I had to 189 00:08:49.840 --> 00:08:51.639 be at work and then walk over and sit down 190 00:08:51.639 --> 00:08:55.000 in my pajamas, like that's it. It was not for me. 191 00:08:55.320 --> 00:08:56.360 I did not like working for them. 192 00:08:56.879 --> 00:08:59.639 I definitely prefer like when I do the show from Colorado, 193 00:08:59.679 --> 00:09:03.000 I don't I love doing the show from Colorado. I 194 00:09:03.080 --> 00:09:05.360 get up about twenty minutes before we hit the air, 195 00:09:06.000 --> 00:09:08.200 and I get coffee and I'm in my PJA pants, 196 00:09:08.399 --> 00:09:12.320 And I don't love it because I love to be 197 00:09:12.399 --> 00:09:16.200 here with you guys in the studio, and it's just 198 00:09:16.279 --> 00:09:18.080 kind of a hassle, you know, because the audio quality 199 00:09:18.159 --> 00:09:22.360 is not always really good. But I don't I don't 200 00:09:22.480 --> 00:09:26.279 love I love being in Colorado. I don't love working 201 00:09:26.279 --> 00:09:27.200 in Colorado. 202 00:09:27.279 --> 00:09:28.879 I feel the same way. I just worked so much 203 00:09:28.879 --> 00:09:31.519 better when I was like in the office, like surrounded 204 00:09:31.519 --> 00:09:32.799 by other people who are working. 205 00:09:33.080 --> 00:09:35.559 Aren't a lot of offices now, since we're so far 206 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:39.360 out of COVID, aren't most people requiring workers to come 207 00:09:39.399 --> 00:09:41.720 back into the office. Yeah, a lot of people still 208 00:09:41.759 --> 00:09:43.960 work from home, no question. I know a lot of 209 00:09:44.000 --> 00:09:44.759 people come back. 210 00:09:44.600 --> 00:09:47.759 In in the In my team, my old team, they 211 00:09:47.919 --> 00:09:50.480 work they have to be in the office three out 212 00:09:50.519 --> 00:09:51.480 of the five days. 213 00:09:51.240 --> 00:09:53.320 That they were Still is not bad, not terrible. 214 00:09:53.440 --> 00:09:55.639 I mean, back when I was there, it was we 215 00:09:55.679 --> 00:09:57.919 came in one day a week and that was it. 216 00:09:57.960 --> 00:09:59.480 But I would come in more because I got so 217 00:09:59.559 --> 00:10:01.960 much more work done while I was actually in the building. 218 00:10:03.960 --> 00:10:08.120 Yeah. I don't know. I maybe you work better at home, 219 00:10:08.159 --> 00:10:09.679 maybe you work better at work. So if you got 220 00:10:09.679 --> 00:10:12.159 any opinion on that, let me know. And also do 221 00:10:12.240 --> 00:10:14.720 you think that like her older colleagues just have a 222 00:10:14.720 --> 00:10:17.440 different work ethic or do you think that it is 223 00:10:17.480 --> 00:10:19.039 a technology thing. 224 00:10:19.480 --> 00:10:21.840 I do think maybe work ethic too, where like somebody 225 00:10:21.879 --> 00:10:24.360 younger might be like, well, I don't want it's the 226 00:10:24.360 --> 00:10:26.480 whole work life balance thing. So they're like, I'm not 227 00:10:26.559 --> 00:10:28.759 going to put in all of this work for my 228 00:10:29.080 --> 00:10:32.320 job when I could be living my life. So maybe 229 00:10:32.360 --> 00:10:35.559 the old an older generation will be like, well, jobs everything. 230 00:10:36.039 --> 00:10:38.080 Yeah. True, And that's kind of how we've been conditioned 231 00:10:38.120 --> 00:10:40.559 that your job is, you know, it is everything. And 232 00:10:40.600 --> 00:10:44.440 I think that I think one thing that's always got 233 00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:47.080 me ahead is I always worked more than I should have. 234 00:10:47.960 --> 00:10:50.720 So when I was like twenty four, most people would 235 00:10:50.759 --> 00:10:52.399 do their radio show and go home and you know, 236 00:10:52.440 --> 00:10:55.399 play golf or whatever, and I was still there working 237 00:10:55.440 --> 00:10:56.639 on the show for the next day. 238 00:10:56.799 --> 00:10:57.120 Yeah. 239 00:10:57.159 --> 00:10:59.720 And I've always told people, and it works in radio, 240 00:10:59.759 --> 00:11:02.039 and I'm sure it works in your field too. Most 241 00:11:02.080 --> 00:11:05.000 people are lazy. Most people do just enough to not 242 00:11:05.080 --> 00:11:07.799 get fired. So to be a standout, you don't have 243 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:10.559 to work fourteen hours a day. You just have to 244 00:11:10.600 --> 00:11:13.799 work harder than the people that are lazy, and you're 245 00:11:13.840 --> 00:11:16.399 going to be a star performer because your boss is 246 00:11:16.440 --> 00:11:19.879 going to say, wow, look at Joe Anne. She's still 247 00:11:19.960 --> 00:11:25.240 here when Kelly left four hours ago. Yeah, But then again, 248 00:11:25.320 --> 00:11:27.960 Kelly would be like, I'm out living my life, right. 249 00:11:27.919 --> 00:11:31.240 I'm having a good time. I'm living my real life 250 00:11:31.279 --> 00:11:33.919 and not my work life. And I'm here for that, honestly, 251 00:11:34.320 --> 00:11:37.039 because I think I would be so much further in 252 00:11:37.159 --> 00:11:41.679 general in my career or whatever if I cared like 253 00:11:41.840 --> 00:11:45.000 ten percent more. It's not that I don't care, yeah, 254 00:11:45.000 --> 00:11:47.200 because I do care, and like I feel like I'm 255 00:11:47.200 --> 00:11:49.720 pretty ambitious, like I've had a ton of jobs and whatever. 256 00:11:49.879 --> 00:11:51.679 But like if I just decided, oh, I'm going to 257 00:11:51.759 --> 00:11:55.080 stay at this one and try really hard to like 258 00:11:55.159 --> 00:11:57.000 go up the ladder, than I could be a whole 259 00:11:57.000 --> 00:11:59.480 lot further. But I just like, that's not what's That's 260 00:11:59.480 --> 00:12:01.200 not what matter to me. What matters to me is 261 00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:03.480 like the personal relationships I have with my family and 262 00:12:03.480 --> 00:12:05.120 my friends and things that I go and do. 263 00:12:05.360 --> 00:12:06.879 I can only add to that. I would say, like 264 00:12:06.919 --> 00:12:08.720 a lot of people say they don't make enough money, 265 00:12:09.039 --> 00:12:11.080 Well are you working hard enough? And I'm not to 266 00:12:11.080 --> 00:12:12.879 looking at you, but are you working hard enough for 267 00:12:12.919 --> 00:12:15.440 your boss to say, Wow, Jill really is working hard. 268 00:12:15.879 --> 00:12:17.679 When she comes and asks for a raise, I'm going 269 00:12:17.759 --> 00:12:20.240 to give her a raise, whereas Kelly might not get 270 00:12:20.240 --> 00:12:23.320 a raise because Kelly is you know, she's out kayaking 271 00:12:23.360 --> 00:12:24.240 with her boyfriend. 272 00:12:24.960 --> 00:12:28.039 That's called content. I'm creating content kayaking. 273 00:12:29.200 --> 00:12:31.159 All right. This is a totally different one that I 274 00:12:31.200 --> 00:12:32.879 put off for reading for a while because it was 275 00:12:32.879 --> 00:12:34.200 a little bit different. But I'm gonna go ahead and 276 00:12:34.200 --> 00:12:36.679 do it. Kaylee writes in says I need advice from 277 00:12:36.720 --> 00:12:39.600 you and listeners who've dealt with a terminally ill parent. 278 00:12:40.799 --> 00:12:44.799 My mom was diagnosed with als last week. Wow, and 279 00:12:44.799 --> 00:12:47.080 the projected lifespan is two to five years. She's already 280 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:49.600 had symptoms for a year now, and her right arm 281 00:12:49.679 --> 00:12:53.080 muscle is completely atrophied. It's getting to the point she'll 282 00:12:53.080 --> 00:12:54.840 need to hire an in home health aid to help 283 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:57.799 her with a basic showering, dressing herself, et cetera. My 284 00:12:57.919 --> 00:13:00.440 dad retired at the start of COVID, got board and 285 00:13:00.480 --> 00:13:04.080 started his own business. He's not a good father nor husband. 286 00:13:04.120 --> 00:13:06.240 He won't help my mom with basics like putting on 287 00:13:06.279 --> 00:13:09.679 her bra or helping her with a shower. My mom 288 00:13:09.679 --> 00:13:12.000 found out today that quote they make too much money 289 00:13:12.039 --> 00:13:15.279 to get coverage for an aid. Dad does make too 290 00:13:15.360 --> 00:13:19.720 much money. I'm worried that he'll continue working, neglect her, 291 00:13:19.759 --> 00:13:22.720 but also neglect getting her a health aid. What should 292 00:13:22.759 --> 00:13:24.519 I do? I'm a teacher. I can't afford to quit 293 00:13:24.519 --> 00:13:26.320 my job and take care of my terminally ill parent, 294 00:13:26.759 --> 00:13:28.679 nor should the weight of this be expected of me 295 00:13:29.159 --> 00:13:32.279 one d percent. I cannot accommodate her with my current house. 296 00:13:32.759 --> 00:13:34.559 All of the bedrooms are on the second floor, as 297 00:13:34.559 --> 00:13:37.679 well as the shower. She can no longer do stairs help. 298 00:13:38.159 --> 00:13:40.279 I'm having a mental breakdown and I have sought guidance 299 00:13:40.279 --> 00:13:43.039 from a therapist. Thank you for any guidance you have. 300 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:46.679 Love y'all From Kayley. I don't have any suggestions for 301 00:13:46.759 --> 00:13:49.519 you other than to say to dad, Dad, you've got 302 00:13:49.519 --> 00:13:50.919 to be the one. You got to take better care 303 00:13:50.919 --> 00:13:55.679 of mom. But if he's that fucking absent and clueless 304 00:13:55.720 --> 00:13:58.240 that he doesn't understand that himself, I don't know that 305 00:13:58.279 --> 00:14:00.000 he ever will, Yeah, because. 306 00:13:59.759 --> 00:14:03.039 That's kind of something hard to convince somebody of if 307 00:14:03.080 --> 00:14:07.039 they're not prepared to do that. But also like I don't, 308 00:14:07.480 --> 00:14:10.879 I don't know. It's interesting because I get that, like, oh, 309 00:14:10.919 --> 00:14:13.039 you're their kids, so you should be taking care of them. 310 00:14:13.080 --> 00:14:15.600 But like then that's going to be your next two 311 00:14:15.679 --> 00:14:19.159 to five years is taking care of your mom versus 312 00:14:19.240 --> 00:14:22.080 having someone take care of her that you can't, that 313 00:14:22.159 --> 00:14:24.759 you don't fit into like the bracket for that. That's 314 00:14:24.799 --> 00:14:26.159 such a it is. 315 00:14:26.320 --> 00:14:27.879 It's a hard position to be in that they don't 316 00:14:27.919 --> 00:14:30.519 qualify for a Nate, I would say, there's got to 317 00:14:30.559 --> 00:14:34.600 be a resource that's not us. Somebody but listening will say, hey, 318 00:14:34.919 --> 00:14:38.200 here's who you reach out to. Whether it's AARP or 319 00:14:38.879 --> 00:14:44.080 a healthcare company, I don't know, but somebody's got to 320 00:14:44.080 --> 00:14:45.919 have a suggestion for you. But I think shame on 321 00:14:45.960 --> 00:14:49.559 your dad for not being the one, especially if he 322 00:14:49.600 --> 00:14:51.960 doesn't need to work and he's his own boss. He 323 00:14:52.000 --> 00:14:54.720 can set his own hours, sure, and then take care 324 00:14:54.720 --> 00:14:57.679 of your mom, because that should fall on you, I 325 00:14:57.679 --> 00:14:58.960 mean on dad, not. 326 00:14:59.399 --> 00:15:03.120 On what's the what's that company that Susan does stuff for. 327 00:15:05.080 --> 00:15:06.720 Home instead instead? 328 00:15:06.720 --> 00:15:10.080 Because I think my dad did that too, And that's 329 00:15:10.080 --> 00:15:14.000 where like they have somebody like come to people's. 330 00:15:13.519 --> 00:15:15.480 Houses to help them exactly right, yep. 331 00:15:15.399 --> 00:15:18.639 But it's not as like involved as like a home 332 00:15:18.679 --> 00:15:20.879 care like a PCA. 333 00:15:21.200 --> 00:15:23.679 Yeah, Susan is you know, she had to take CPR 334 00:15:23.759 --> 00:15:27.879 classes and do a big background check. But she goes 335 00:15:27.919 --> 00:15:30.360 and takes care of this older woman who's like eighty 336 00:15:30.519 --> 00:15:35.559 or so, takes her shopping, puts away your groceries. She 337 00:15:35.600 --> 00:15:39.240 doesn't do any bathing or injections or anything like that. Yeah, 338 00:15:39.240 --> 00:15:40.919 and that's why it's kind of like, you know what, 339 00:15:40.960 --> 00:15:43.000 the things that this old lady has trouble doing, Yeah, 340 00:15:43.039 --> 00:15:45.399 Susan does them for her. Yeah. Kind of like that. 341 00:15:45.519 --> 00:15:48.720 So yeah, maybe you can check into that. But then again, 342 00:15:48.759 --> 00:15:52.159 that ain't free right exactly. Randomly, somebody's sent a picture 343 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:56.080 of a Dave Ryan bobblehead figure from five years ago. 344 00:15:56.279 --> 00:15:56.919 I want one. 345 00:15:57.039 --> 00:15:57.679 Have you ever seen this? 346 00:15:58.559 --> 00:15:59.960 Hold on, let me put on my glasses. 347 00:16:00.320 --> 00:16:03.200 I'll swing it over to you. It is me wearing 348 00:16:03.240 --> 00:16:06.679 a KWB baseball jersey, holding a microphone, wearing headphones, and 349 00:16:06.720 --> 00:16:08.600 holding a donut with sprinkles. 350 00:16:08.639 --> 00:16:10.519 You look like Jenny's friend Tony. 351 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:12.519 I do, Yes, I do. It's funny. 352 00:16:12.559 --> 00:16:13.120 That's funny. 353 00:16:13.519 --> 00:16:15.840 They made that years ago. And the reason was there 354 00:16:15.879 --> 00:16:18.639 was a morning show over at another radio station. Van 355 00:16:18.720 --> 00:16:21.720 and Cheryl huh. Van and Cheryl did the morning show 356 00:16:21.720 --> 00:16:24.440 on another radio station, and the Van got a bobblehead, 357 00:16:25.399 --> 00:16:27.919 and they were here for a short time. I didn't 358 00:16:27.960 --> 00:16:30.639 know Van at all, but Cheryl was a wonderful person, 359 00:16:31.080 --> 00:16:33.799 and when I met her, she said, I always heard 360 00:16:33.799 --> 00:16:36.679 you were a dick, but you're really nice, and I said, 361 00:16:36.960 --> 00:16:40.960 I think people anyway. So my boss said, if Van 362 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:44.120 has a bobblehead, you're going to get a bobblehead. So 363 00:16:44.279 --> 00:16:47.000 once in a while somebody will see one at an 364 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:49.960 antique store, a flea market or something and they'll send 365 00:16:49.960 --> 00:16:53.559 it to me. So thanks. I was really cool. But 366 00:16:53.879 --> 00:16:56.000 where was I going with that one? Oh? Yeah? But 367 00:16:56.159 --> 00:16:59.159 sometimes people that they'll I don't think I get it 368 00:16:59.200 --> 00:17:01.200 so much anymore because I think I've got a pretty 369 00:17:01.200 --> 00:17:04.240 good reputation. But when I was newer here, people would 370 00:17:04.279 --> 00:17:06.839 think that I was a dick because I was kind 371 00:17:06.880 --> 00:17:09.480 of obnoxious on the radio, and there were people that 372 00:17:09.559 --> 00:17:12.279 honestly were kind of jealous that I was on the 373 00:17:12.319 --> 00:17:15.640 big radio station, KATWB, and they thought they should be 374 00:17:15.680 --> 00:17:18.279 on KTWB, so be like, yeah, Dave Ryan, he's a dick. 375 00:17:19.359 --> 00:17:21.680 And I remember one person said that worked here and 376 00:17:21.720 --> 00:17:23.599 they wanted to do the morning show, but they couldn't 377 00:17:23.599 --> 00:17:26.480 because they weren't really ready for it, and they said, yeah, 378 00:17:26.559 --> 00:17:28.359 the only reason his show is good is because all 379 00:17:28.400 --> 00:17:31.440 the people that surround him, And I'm like, bitch, that's 380 00:17:31.480 --> 00:17:34.839 part of what a person does is surround themselves with good, 381 00:17:34.920 --> 00:17:38.440 talented people. I'm gonna go use Maroon five reference again. 382 00:17:39.079 --> 00:17:43.119 Adam Levine is a household name because he hires the 383 00:17:43.119 --> 00:17:46.440 best musicians to be in his band. Nothing wrong with that. 384 00:17:46.920 --> 00:17:50.920 That doesn't mean that Adam Levine sucks. It means he's smart, sure, 385 00:17:50.960 --> 00:17:52.160 and hires people that are good. 386 00:17:52.359 --> 00:17:54.759 I've had I mean I've even had friends of mine 387 00:17:54.799 --> 00:17:58.000 say like, oh, Dave seems like a real douchebag. Like no, no, 388 00:17:58.079 --> 00:17:58.839 he's real nice. 389 00:17:59.880 --> 00:18:02.039 I think they are really nice. And it goes back 390 00:18:02.079 --> 00:18:05.880 to and we had this discussion a month or so ago, 391 00:18:06.519 --> 00:18:10.400 and it was like, when people feel like, why do 392 00:18:10.519 --> 00:18:13.160 I worry that nobody likes me? Why do I keep 393 00:18:13.200 --> 00:18:15.519 worrying that nobody likes me? Do you ever get over 394 00:18:15.599 --> 00:18:18.079 nobody likes me? I said, I got over does anybody 395 00:18:18.160 --> 00:18:20.279 like me? A long time ago, because I'm not insecure 396 00:18:20.279 --> 00:18:22.359 about whether I'm a good person. Sure, And I'm not 397 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:24.680 saying that anybody who feels that way wonders if they're 398 00:18:24.720 --> 00:18:27.480 a good person. But I never worry about whether people 399 00:18:27.599 --> 00:18:30.440 like me because I'm happy with the person that I am. 400 00:18:30.880 --> 00:18:32.960 I know I'm good to people, and I'm fair to people. 401 00:18:33.000 --> 00:18:36.680