Speaker 1: I made a decision. I'll pay Sunny. Sunny on I
had visions night.
Speaker 2: What's up, everybody. Welcome to for crying out loud. I
am one of your hostste at Stephanie. Hi, Hi Stephanie.
I'm doing so much to talk right now in this moment.
It's Monday afternoon and Sunny's flew home for Friday night,
drove to Vegas with his friend on Saturday.
Speaker 1: No, Friday night he flew.
Speaker 2: He flew to back home on like late Friday afternoon,
and then Friday at night, drove to Vegas with his
friend because his dad was out there. His dad got
in tickets to the UFC fight over the weekend. Okay,
so they got to do that. Then drove back on
Sunday and then on night traffic they drove.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they drank. He hasn't made it there in time
for a fight. No, the fight was Saturday, okay, So yeah,
it was a lot of traffic. But it was his
first road trip driving to Vegas, which was pretty cool.
He liked it anyway.
Speaker 2: But right now he's flying back as he has school
tomorrow morning, and there's really no direct flights from Burbank
to Eugene, so what he usually does is he connects
into San Francisco. Well, anyway, right now he's he was
supposed to leave an hour ago, but now there's his
flight's delayed and now he's going to miss his connecting
flight in San Francisco. But there's another flight at nine
o'clock tonight, so he's going to kill like six hours
in San Francisco airport. So he still has not taken
off yet. And maybe after we hang after we hang
up the show, I don't know, maybe I can call
and see if there's any earlier flights that he because
he didn't.
Speaker 1: Check his bag.
Speaker 2: He just has a carry on to see if there's
any earlier flights. But anyway, that's the situation an airline. Yeah,
maybe like Southwest or something. I don't know, we'll see.
But you know he can hang out and watch Monday
night football at the airport.
Speaker 1: Yeah, see what he said. Yeah, it's not that long,
I know, so for a walk, like, yeah, you can
go walk around the terminal. Yeah, just some audio porn
right him in his audio.
Speaker 2: I hope he bought his charger because he's gonna run
out of juice listen to all that audio porn.
Speaker 1: I know, have you ever forgotten your charger, like just
like or packed it in your bag that you were
that you were sending me checked, yes, and then you're like,
oh my god, my phone's gonna run out of about it? Yes,
it's the worst feeling. That is the worst.
Speaker 2: That yeah, that he has his charger in his bag,
So yeah, he's okay. So anyway, monitoring that situation.
Speaker 1: I live in fear that my kids are going to
run out of battery. It's a weird like inks, yes,
we have a good we have a good ad that
covers out a little bit later on, right, my anxiety
kicks in and then I'm like, well, I keep watching
Life through sixty and seeing their phone battery, own battery,
and then I'm like, what are they gonna do if
they run out of battery? Thank god? See I don't
have Life three sixty.
Speaker 2: I find them on my iPhone friends, which doesn't tell
me you know their battery. I don't need to know,
but I did have that issue. So then over the weekend,
I had my family's here from Chicago, Wendy's here, and yes,
and Nicholas and his wife and the two year old
and zo baby baby, and he's so ripping so cute.
Oh my god, he just looks like a little baby
Italian goomba.
Speaker 1: It just is so cute.
Speaker 2: So so yeah, they got in Friday night and they're
at Disneyland. They left yesterday and today they come back tomorrow,
so oh perfect. Yeah, so then they'll be here the
rest of the week. And then of course there's Phil.
Like every time the family comes to town, I give
the speech like make sure you don't have any food
in any of your pet bags anything. But because they
have a two year old Andrea the mom, of course
she's got like food in her in her purse and stuff.
So she like went through everything. She forgot one bag
the first night we were here. It was torn apart
and it was like a couple of like all natural
fruit roll up, like you know, a couple of those bars,
plus the bags and the wrappers just gone just a mess.
Speaker 1: Shredd it.
Speaker 2: She's like, oh my god, it was in my suitcase
underneath my folded clothes, like tucked away.
Speaker 1: I got it. Well, he's he can.
Speaker 2: Smells like a bloodhound man, he is a bloodhound. So
he got into that and then he.
Speaker 1: Didn't make him sick, no, the first thank god. It
was root roll ups. Yeah, it was just frut loll up.
Speaker 2: So the first night they it was when it happened,
so he did keep me up all night. He was like,
I gotta go to the bathrooms. I kept taking him
out to go to the bathroom, and then he was fine.
And then as they're leaving to Disneyland, they give little
Enzo half of a bagel with like butter, and he's like,
takes one bite and Phil just gobbles that right out
of his hand. But he's so cute, and he was like,
he's like, yeah, I look, Doggie took my bagel.
Speaker 1: You know, that's Phil. It's so cute.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I'm sorry, Enzo, but yeah, So we
had da going on. Then Natalia calls me from Santa Barbara. Oh, okay,
hold on, let me tell you this story, and I'm
going to have to post these pictures on our Facebook
page so you can see she okay, a couple nights
ago last week, she sends me a text and she's
at her front door with the door open, and there's
a homeless guy standing at the front door and she's like, mom,
this homeless guy keeps knocking on the door wanting water.
Speaker 1: He won't, and I'm like, what the fuck?
Speaker 2: So I call her and I go, Ntellia, just close
the door and just say, you know, sorry, can't help you.
Close the door because he looked like not in looked
just homeless. He looked mentally ill. Yeah, he was like
long beard, disheveled, like hadn't bathed. And I'm like, shut
the door, like okay. So she's like okay. Then she
then she I call her back and I goes, he gone.
She goes, no, he won't stop banging on the windows.
He wants water, and she goes, I think I'm gonna
give him some water, and I go, okay, throw a
bottle of water out there and then shut the door.
Speaker 1: And she's like, we don't have bottled water. I'll just
give him a cup.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, Okay, he's banging on the windows.
She goes, well, he's knocking and he's just asking for water.
She's like he seems kind of chill, okay, And I'm like,
are you fucking with me? But I'm looking at this picture.
Then she sends me another and I'm on the phone
like with Suzanne at the time, and I keep getting
these texts back then she shows me another picture and
she's like, see he's chill and he's on the couch
next to her roommate. And I'm like, okay, you're fucking
with me. I don't believe, Like, who is that your friend? Like,
what's going on? And then sends me another picture of
them hugging and she's like, see he's chill. And I go,
I go, Susane, I'll call you right back. I call her,
I go, what the fuck is going on? She's like
it's Ai and I'm like, that is not fucking funny.
Oh it looks real.
Speaker 1: It looked real. They make that I don't know. And
then somebody I was.
Speaker 2: Telling said something like there's some trend on TikTok where
they are doing this AI thing and they're calling their moms,
you know, scaring their moms and then recording it kind
of thing and putting it on TikTok. And did she
record No, I don't think she recorded me. I think
she was just showing me the pictures. And then I
look the pictures and you can clearly say it's not
the same guy. The first guy at the dard's shorter hair,
and then the guy on the couch his hair is
way longer, his beard's longer.
Speaker 1: It's not the same guy.
Speaker 2: And I don't know. I don't have my glasses on.
All I just see is some homeless guy. And she's
like it scared me. I got a stomach ache. I
was like, should I call the police? What's going on?
Why is he in your house? But I still n't
trust it. I was like, what the fuck? Okay?
Speaker 1: So that happened, and again, like after I give her
the speech about the Idaho students, keep your doors locked
and stuff like that, like that was the first thing
I thought. Yes, I was like, come on, like, what
are you doing? Okay? So then.
Speaker 2: The family comes in and it's Saturday afternoon. Suzanne comes
over to see my family because she's close with them.
Speaker 1: We're all hanging out.
Speaker 2: I'm a bagel Saturday, Like at one o'clock, Natalia calls me.
This is like two days later. So she's crying and
she's like, mom, I am in so much pain. My
kidneys are hurting me. And I said, why do you
say your kidney? She said, because it's my lower back,
you know, on my side, my lower I got all
this pressure, she said, and I'm in pain. And I said,
maybe you know. I said, were you drinking last night
or whatever? She said, No, I haven't. I haven't drank
in a couple of days. And she was on this
medication for a rash that she got on her back.
They gave her like an oral medication, and she's like,
I don't know if it's the medication. I just started
taking it like two days ago or what. But I'm
in like so much pain. But she was like upset,
and she's like, I'm going to my roommate's taken me
to the er. So at the time, I'm like texting
her back and forth like how what's going on? And
Wendy's like, she probably just needs an IV. Maybe she's dehydrated,
if her kidneys her, I don't know something. She probably whatever.
So I don't really think about it. But then a
couple hours later, she's still there and I'm like, are
you and she goes. I'm she goes. Then I talked
to her and she was like, mom, you don't understand.
I was in the bathroom shivering and sweating. At the
same time, I was sitting next to the toilet like
I wanted to vomit, and I had the worst pain
in my lower back and side area.
Speaker 1: It sounds like a lotder infection. That turned into a
kidney infection. So they so they took her blood.
Speaker 2: Year they said that there was blood in her urine
and it looked like she had an infection, and then
they did an ultrasound. She was there from like one
thirty until like eight thirty at night, and she stayed
and waited that long because that's how much pain she
was in, and her roommate was there with her almost
the whole time. In her roommate finally she was like,
just go home. I'm okay, just go home. So the
roommate went home and then she and then she went
in to see the doctor and they said after the
urine and blood, they said, we want to do an ultrasound.
We think maybe had a kidney stone. So then they
did the ultrasound. Nothing really came up, but they they're
from the what she described. They said, you might have
passed a kidney stone. And then they said, we don't
know if you're if it could come back, but if
you have that pain again, come back to the er.
Speaker 1: Well, so did the the pain went away? Yeah, then
the pain subsided.
Speaker 2: They gave her something for the medicine they gave her
medicine for the pain. They did want to know the
medication she was taking. They did say something like it
could have an effect. It could because that medication, you know,
obviously goes through the liver and if she's dehydrated, plus
her diet mixed with a kind of diet she was on.
I don't know, maybe like I don't know too much creatine.
I don't know what.
Speaker 1: You know. She takes all these like health supplements and
stuff that it could have been a kidney stone. Mostly
eats protein, right, didn't Yes, she mostly restricts her carbs. Yeah, yeah,
I mean yeah, so.
Speaker 2: They don't They don't know for sure if that's what
it was or if it's going to come back. But
she did feel much better. She went home. That was
Saturday night. Then I talked to her yesterday throughout the
day and she was okay. Then like I talked to
her and then like half an hour later, she's like,
oh my god, the pain is coming back. And she's like,
but it's not as bad, but I feel like the
pain in my lower back again. And I said, well,
you maybe you need to go back to the arch
because I don't want to go back because she was
there for so I go, but this time they said
to come back. You know, they'll probably take you. Plus
it's Sunday night, it's late, like, you know, just and
she's like, I don't know, I just I just want
to go to sleep. I just want to go to sleep.
So she did go to sleep. I talked to her
this morning. She woke up with some pain in the
middle of the night, not as bad. Took her a
while to get back to sleep, and now so far
she's okay again. So I don't know, but I do
know I need to get her a doctor out there.
She needs like a good shouldn't have like she just
has her pediatrician out here, you know. I think she
needs to have a good obgyn. So now I have to, like,
I got to find her a good doctor to go
to out there.
Speaker 1: So that was she's on your insurance, right, yes, so yeah,
she can see somebody out there, yeah right, So I think, yeah,
I don't see why not.
Speaker 2: I just have to find somebody. You know, if anybody
knows any good doctors in Santa Barbara, let me know.
But yeah, so that that was That's where I'm at
with her, right now and we'll see.
Speaker 1: So you feel like you're like on alert for her
a little bit, say, if she's in pain, yeah, she'll
go back. Yeah, And I told definitely wasn't then a
kidney infection, even though it seems like the shivering, that
seems like an infection right right, But there they didn't
give her like anybody. No, they didn't give her anything. No,
and that shivering stuff went away.
Speaker 2: It went away. Yeah, no fever, no, no, no fever.
But I mean I might go out there and go
get her, like, I don't know, but she doesn't want
me to. She wants to go to class today. And
you know, so she did go at last. I talked
to her, shes getting ready to go to school. She
felt better, she took some motron. So I don't know.
We'll see and then we'll see if Sunny makes it
home tonight.
Speaker 1: That's hard. Yeah, yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2: I just if she's still feeling this pain, I'm gonna
go get her or go out there and take her
to a doctor, because sometimes these ers and urgent cares
like they just you know, treat it and send you
on your way.
Speaker 1: They don't really look into what the problem. I don't
know it sounds like they did though look into it.
They did, but like, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I get the blood in the urine and they said
there could have been an infection, but then they just say, oh,
sounds like you passed it.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Like I feel like and now she's
having this pain again. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I feel like she needs to be seen again by somebody.
So I don't know. I might be driving out to
Santa Barbara. Well, I just drove out to Santa Barbara. Yeah,
so I experienced recently the traffic.
Speaker 1: It wasn't that bad driving out there. It was not
that bad. Yeah, driving home, it was what TANGI go out.
So I took Xander for a tour of UCSB and
it was a two o'clock tour. So we left at
like eleven forty five. Yeah. Yeah, we gave ourselves like
two hours and fifteen minutes. Because you know, me and
my anxiety, which we talk about, but like I was like,
I don't want It's not that I I'm scared that
we're going to miss that we're going to be late.
It's more like I get worried about all the like
where are we going to park? Like is the building.
And I've done it before. That's the funny thing. I
did it a couple of years ago with LB Oh,
she was like a junior in high school. It was
like a few years ago. But I did the tour
and I mean I parked and I but this time
I was reading the directions and that you know, of
course they're like, don't be late because the tour was
just going to leave. You're going to be You're a
miss it. So that I'm like, what if there's traffic
and what if? Yeah? And yeah, so wait, so how
is your electric car to make it all the way
and back? So, because I have a little anxiety, I
didn't take the electric car. Oh okay, I you know what.
And I totally could have and it would have been
absolutely fine. But I've only charged it up myself a
couple of times. Yeah, So I was just like, I
don't need to be out there experiencing the Lynette Corolla effect.
Speaker 2: I know, I know I've given everybody anxiety with my stories.
Speaker 1: Well here's the thing. I was like, you know what
the Prius does. So, I mean the Prius gets fifty
one miles per gallon? Oh wow? So yeah, I used
literally like a couple of gallons of gas right there
and back right Like, it's nothing. I didn't even have
I didn't even have to gas up. I had like
half a tank, drove there and back, still had gas
to spare. So I was like, might as well just
take that car if I can. We have two cars, yeah,
and use the electric car around town to really get
the feel for the range. So yeah, So drove out there.
It was no problem. The parking was super easy. Yeah,
it's easy campus to get to an easy it's like
right off the freeway. Yeah, gorgeous day. You know me,
I started trying to make friends right away. I'm I'm
not like you in the way of like I want
people to like randomly approach me and start shit chatting
with me. I'm all about it, right, But a lot
of people I think are more like you, where they're like,
all right, we can exchange pleasantries. But then I'm gonna
like do my own thing, kid, and I'm like, let's
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people like you.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. So, so Xander and I go to find this
spot on the grass. You know, they told us where
to go, and everybody was confused. But when I get confused,
I just asked questions. I'm like, hey, excuse me, Like,
do you guys know where we're going? You guys here
for the tour? Yeah? Anyway, so I meet a few people, well,
you know, mildly friendly then, but some of the kids
that were on this tour were juniors, and I was like,
I want to find like another senior. So I see
this woman and her daughter and I'm like, are you
guys here for the tour? And she says yes, and
I'm like, is your daughter a senior? And she's like yeah,
And I was like, great, where are you from? Exactly exactly?
And she was from not that far from me. So
we started talking and it was really funny, and then
the kids started talking, and then we go on the
tour and she and I are just like chatter chatter,
chattering to each other, and she's totally talkative, and like
we start comparing what colleges our kids are looking at,
and the kids are really similar like Xander's and speech
and debate. Her kids in like Model U N. They're
interested in some of the same schools. They both want
to do communication major. Oh no, that's nice. So she
and I are just like totally.
Speaker 2: And Xander's like you, like I think outgoing and talkative,
super he's very outgoing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And then it was fun because you know, we
were just hanging back and letting the kids be in
the front and with the tour guide, right, and she
and I were kind of hanging back, and she and
I had so much in common. We were both talking
about like the call, the pressure and the college pressure,
and she was saying that like she went to college
in Mexico and it was like a totally different thing,
and that she and her husband are much more laid
back about the whole thing, like they want her to
go where she wants she want to go, but they
don't want to spend a ton of money. And like, anyway,
we had all these things in common. That and she
also what she took in school is nothing even close
to what she's doing now. And then like her, she
was telling me about her friend's kid who went to
school for like finance and then got a job right
out of college and then was miserable, right, and just like,
oh my god, or life so bored. It's like an
office job, you know, and they were like twenty two yeah,
and they were like, forget it, went back to school
for something totally different and now they do something different. Anyway,
So we're talking and it was really fun, and then
later the kids kept kind of looking back at us,
and then we start like she and I started exchanging
information and like we friend each other on Facebook because
we're old. And then the kids traded their you know igs.
Yes right, And then when later I asked Xander, I
was like, so, I go you guys were looking back
and kind of laughing at us, I said, is was
she saying that her mom is like me, like makes friends,
and she goes, No, she was happy because I guess
her mom normally is like to helicoptery, the one asking
all the questions, you know, And she was like, so
she was so happy that her mom was like occupied.
Speaker 2: She was relief that came around. That's funny. Yeah, oh
that's so cool.
Speaker 1: But it was really good time, like we were totally bonded.
Xander is a fun hang Yeah. I bet he's just
so dry. His gamer is really dry. Isn't that fun
to hang out with just one of your kids like that?
What if Xander was like really mean to me all
the time? I'm like, he's so dry, it's hilarious. He's
being really serious, sarcastic, and like he's always joking with me.
It's like, shut up, mom, No he was. He was
really fun. And then we were like, let's the timing
was horrendous because the tour was like from two like
we were done. It was like four thirty, really bad time,
and we hadn't eaten, so we were like traffic was
going to be like over yeah, like two and a
half hours or something. Yeah. We went and ate at Islands.
Oh nice, and then we drove love and it was
a two hour drive.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I mean, yeah, the drive home can suck.
I try to time it so that I get there
a little on the later side, so that I missed
the traffic coming home usually when I go, But.
Speaker 1: You know, is it yeah, is it always like that,
Like if you were to if say we finished podcasting
and you were like, I'm gonna go drive to Santa Barbara.
Speaker 2: Oh, it'll take me like over two hours at this
point a time. I but every time I've gone, I've
timed it like I go like ten am or eleven,
like after the traffic. So always going there is not
a problem. But it's the coming home and it's always
dark at that time, and it's and there's all that construction.
I know we're getting to the weeds, but there is
construction leaving Santa Barbara. So you're like in this teeny
tiny lane on the freeway for miles for a while,
and I get claustrophobic in that lane. And it's been
going on for like over a year now, like the
construction's still going so anyway, but it is nice down there.
It's a great vibe. It's really like, you know, it's
selk southern California. You know, kids everywhere walking around. You
get that ocean breeze and it's nice.
Speaker 1: What did he think? He loved it? He really liked it.
It was his first college tour. Yeah, and he was
I think he because I think I told you that
a little while ago, I was saying that I thought
Santa Barbara would be a great school for him. And
there's also this School of Creative Studies, which is kind
of like you do your own thing. You could apply
for like creative writing. That could be really good for you.
He talked himself out of it, and I don't know why,
but he was like, yeah, I don't think so, I
don't think I'm into it. And I was like, why,
you haven't even seen it. So now he saw it
and he was like, oh, really like it. Yeah, you
know why. It's like when these kids are in like
junior high or middle school or whatever, and they want
to go to a high school that looks like Disney movies. Yes,
you know, they have the picture in their minds, so
they don't want to go to like a small high school,
go to a big school with lockers, and yes, it's
the same thing. These kids see movies with college campuses
and they want this thing that they see, and that's
what Santa Barbara is. Yeah. Yeah, it's nice.
Speaker 2: It's like a college campus from movies, right, I know,
it's it's beautiful. Yeah, I mean it's it's great. Is
there any other place that he wants to go look at.
Speaker 1: So I want to take him to SDSU San Diego State,
and I think that would be a great school for
him too. I mean, we're going to apply to a
bunch of places, but I mean we might go see
Chapman because they have a great like film and TV.
Yeah program, that's nice. But I just kind of want
to wait and see where he gets in, right, right,
That's that's smart because the school gives them excused absences,
I think something like five. Don't they need you to,
like it, take a picture or something, and not until
second semester because I think they figure that's when they
would start knowing where they're accepted to. I see, so
they don't really want you to go until you find
out where you're Yeah. I mean, listen, he could take
a sick day. It's not going to be the worst,
right happens, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well that's awesome, that's great. Good for him. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I thought it would be really cool if Natalia starts going. Yeah,
I would because this is your two I mean, she'll
be a I know, university student next year. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I was talking to Sunny this morning on the
way to the airport, and he's already like getting all
his stuff ready to apply, you know, in November, and
he's like, thank god, it's just one school this time.
Speaker 1: And he's doing the early apply again. He's going to
do that.
Speaker 2: So he's getting ready and I keep saying, do you
do you need somebody to help you?
Speaker 1: And he's like, I have the guy. He is a counselor.
He's talking to me.
Speaker 2: He's like but other than that, he's like, I think
I got it all right, all right, but yeah, And
he started his classes and it's enjoying it. He's in
person like Tuesday through Thursday. Then he's got a cup
of class like offline not I mean not in person online.
And the tally's got a full plate too. So we'll
see come November, we'll see what happens.
Speaker 1: I know Xander are Xander and City already applied to
SDSU that you the state school. They did a little
workshop at their school where they helped them. Nice.
Speaker 2: Do I wish schools had that kind of stuff, you know,
there should be more schools where they they have like
a workshop that helps you apply for colleges and look
into it and you know, prep and all that stuff.
Like I don't know our school did, and maybe other
schools do, but that's good.
Speaker 1: Our school's built for that. Right. When LB went to Taft,
they didn't do anything to do any of that. And
the in fact, at one point I emailed because I
was like, hey, doesn't high school like help you or whatever?
And they're like they use navveyance like this like a
program and app like help. It's like just it's basically
like no, yeah, you're on your own. That's what we had.
We had some kind of app or something. Yeah, exactly,
it's an Appeah, so stupid and it didn't help her
at all. But then we had hired that counselor, who
also didn't help her at all. Yes, we had the
same thing. We had a bad counselor. They did not.
So now they're like sour on a counselor. They're like no, like.
Speaker 2: Between my roommates and the counselor at the at the school,
like I think I got it. I go, are you sure?
Because I you know, I'm talking to Stephanie. She has
somebody that's really good and essay. It's just for I'm
not using a college counselor.
Speaker 1: But just for the essay cart right, yes, right, who
I think I'm just gonna have help him will Xander
with camm well maybe with his personal statement. They call it, yeah,
the common app but mainly for the p IQ's. I
want him to run it by somebody that's not me. Right.
That's good because I get carried away with wanting it
to be like creative, I be a little funny. Yeah,
And apparently that's not really what the right right? I know.
Now it's better to get somebody else's eyes on it
than us. I agree. I have a friend who I
might have told you this. This happened like a year ago.
My friend basically was helping her kid. My friend is
a nervous person, could use some no CD and was
helping her kid with the essay and like rewrote some
parts and somehow the coach that the counselor they were
working with could see like that she was in the document,
you know what I mean, Like somehow and they were like,
are you editing his essay? And she was like, I
mean not. They were so mad at her, really, like
don't ever do that again, like wow, or we'll fire him,
like we won't be able to work with him. Oh
my gosh, I guess that's a big deal if parents
try to write their kids yeah, well I'm sure. Yeah,
I'm sure a lot of parents do it. Yeah, move over,
let me write yeah, yeah, out of the chair. I
did not do that. And then, in fact, when I
was kind of helping Lbie round one and I would
like suggest a word like, she would read it to
me and then I'd be like, what if you said this,
And she'd be like, Mom, that's not a word I
would use.
Speaker 2: I know that's what my kids say. Well m hmm,
yeah I did the same thing.
Speaker 1: It's abundantly clear, mom. I would never say like abundant.
I'm like, all right. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Remember, Like Natalia's like her guy that she had was
so bad, Like she was saying she was writing something
about the industry she wants to be in, and and
then he wrote he like said something like, well why
don't you say like as the daughter of a celebrity
comedian remember that? And She's like, no, dude, no, I'm
not saying that's how I talk any way. No, Yeah,
it was he was really bad. Like and Sonny too,
so he's like he wanted me to say all this
weird like stuff about my dad, about his dad too,
about sports, and how he like, and he's like, that's
just not me, you know. I'm like, okay, I get it.
And then I'm trying to help them. They're like, no,
that's yeah, not the kind of words I would use either.
So I'm like, all right, this time, you guys are
on your own. If you want help, let me know,
but I'm not going to bang my head against the wall.
Speaker 1: Keep asking you. Is that I got kind of moded
because you know, round one I did. When I say
I helped a lot, I don't mean that I wrote it,
but you know, of course I was encouraging her to
be a little more creative with her wording, and apparently
that isn't what they're looking for. Round two, I was like, well,
you know, yeah, my name is Paul, as we say,
And then she got in everywhere and I didn't even
read them, see like moated and corroded, like well, looking
toward Sadie and Xander, I guess I don't know, Well
now you learned, Yeah, but you feel so stupid because
I'm like, I'm a freaking writer. I know classics books.
I think I can write a college.
Speaker 2: I know, like the year I was just thinking all
the time, like I got her kids are so lucky,
and she teaches a writing class and everything, like, you know,
it's so great, but like when you got kids that
don't want to.
Speaker 1: Listen to you, you know, yeah, it's funny. Well, the
problem was, I think Albie kind of did want to
listen to me. You let me lead her astray, you know,
even though I think in her heart of heart she
was like, I don't know if they wanted to sound
this creative. I was like, you want to hook them in,
have a hook sentence at the beginning. Oh that's a
great opening sentence. What if you mentioned this, you know,
and I'd be like, all right, yeah, pretty soon it's
like on Walden Pond or something like anyway wrote your
essay and it's I think, whatever, it wasn't that bad.
And she did, but she did work only with her
oh her first That first counselor was I didn't we
didn't use Melissa Melissa Amerol, who I've I've passed on
to many people, not trying to gate keep our essay coach.
But year one, we just we were like, we already
fucking paid four thousand dollars for this coach, maybe forty
two hundred so like, let her help with the essays, right.
I didn't love her notes either though. For LB, yeah,
she'd be like, oh, she really watered down on one
of her essays. She was like, yeah, don't say don't
say this, and she took out the kind of interesting,
sort of funny part. Yeah, and she made it real bland, right,
so you know what, that's how they bolt. Yeah, I
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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, you know what I was thinking too when
we were talking about the college essay thing. You know,
this like chat GBT is like insane. I have a
friend who's a lawyer and uses it for contracts. He's like,
my job has cut down, I mean the hour like
I barely you know, he has contracts and stuff. I
mean they can't really do like detailed contracts, but a
lot of like emails to other lawyers or just even
just the bones of a contract. Like he he names
it hal, he talks to it, calls it hol and
and he's got this whole relation like he knows Hall,
knows about his family, knows about his job, knows about
his boss. Like his boss wouldn't like this if you
said that, Like, you know, how what do you think
about this? Like it's crazy to me. I just this
AI and chat Gypt stuff is just insane to me.
And it's kind of scary that it's like taking jobs
and stuff.
Speaker 1: You know. The only thing is well, a couple of things.
One do you think that kids are just going to
use chat GPT to like write their whole essay? Well,
that's write me an essay that will get me into
like right, Barbara, Right? And then you tell this yeah,
and you can tell how all about yourself and then
he just writes it for you, and then you can
tweak and say more humor Hal or not so formal
Hall or what a d da dat? Right? How are
they going to know these school Well? I think they
think they can.
Speaker 2: Tell they think yeah, I think they can run it
through a program or something I've heard, But I don't
know if that's really true or how accurate that is.
Speaker 1: I mean, there are some things that do sound a
little AI. But I'll tell you another thing that's weird
for chat GPT. So John runs my episodes for Drunkish
through chat GPT to get descriptions, yes, right, and also
to get clips so that you know where to cut
for clips. All right, that's weird. He sent me before
I left, he sent me a bunch of clip options,
like here's some potentially uh viral clips, okay, And I
read through all of them and I was like, oh,
I like this one, this one and this one. He
just wrote me and he was like, turns out that
chat GPT was totally made up, that those some of
those clips do not exist in the show. What really
made it up? Let me see what he wrote? So
is he is chat GBT listening to the audio of
your show or the sorry chat GPT totally fabricated most
of those quotes annoying as fuck? And then he wrote,
here's the run of actual ones there twenty like it
just made it up? That's crazy. Does he put the
audio into chat GBT and that's how it does it? Yes,
But sometimes this happened once before you put the audio in,
and it was with it was with Meredith. I had
this episode with Meredith, and and he sends me he
emails me all the descriptions descriptions for the episode, and
a bunch of them were like Meredith gets into talking
about like what it's like to be a sober mom,
and I'm like, she's not super Like none of the
things really made sense. So John goes I was like,
none of this is really I go this is really weird.
I don't none of this is really true about her
and we didn't even talk about that in the episode.
So he goes to chat chipeat and he goes, hey, like,
did you listen to the audio episode? And chat Cheepet goes, oh, no,
I didn't see. John goes, well, why not, and it
was like, sorry, I'll totally listen to it now. Then
did it again and then John goes why are you
not listening to it? And it goes, oh, well, I
just figured i'd use like descriptions that you've used before
four uh huh, and John goes, well, why would you.
Then GPT will be like I'm not sure, but I
will do it right now. I will absolutely listen to
it this time. Sorry about that. This is my bath.
Speaker 2: But that is so funny because like my friend like
sometimes it'll be like hallo fuck up and he'll go
listen you, dick, I didn't say to do this, and
then I'll go easy now with the language, you know,
or if you tell him like I like to be
you know, funny and like dry or whatever, then like
they'll adjust to your sense of humor and stuff.
Speaker 1: It's crazy to me. Oh, he always tells it to
do stuff in my voice. So almost every single episode
description has spoiler alert. Oh really, Like all right, touchy,
it's trolling you, settle down. I'm going to use that
every time, right, Yeah, it's funny, though it is crazy. No,
I don't know if our kids are competing with their
essays now against other kids who were just using chatchipt. Yeah,
I know. I worry about that, so yeah, I guess.
I don't know. I've always thought that you can't use
chat ChiPT because they have a program or something, or
maybe that was just what they said in high school.
I don't know they do. But then a lot of
times kids are really writing stuff and the program is like, no,
gotcha that you're using AI, right they're not. Yeah, I
don't know. Yeah, I don't know if it's over sensitive,
don't I don't know, because sometimes I've read stuff that
chatchpt get like descriptions, and I'm like, oh, that sounds
exactly like something that I would have written if I
spent four hours on it. Uh huh right, right, it
did it one second. Yeah, it's crazy.
Speaker 2: And now like all these videos and stuff too online,
Like like when Jimmy was off the air for a
few days and it's like somebody posted something on Instagram
in his voice talking and saying, well, you know, this
is what's going on, blah blah blah, and I believed it.
I sent it to Sonny Natalia, go, oh, Jimmy just
came out with something. They immediately are like, mom, don't
fall for this. This is not Jimmy. I'm like, how
did you know? And then I listened to it. I'm like, oh, okay, moded,
but like it seemed like when you watch it and
listen to it for the first time, was his sense
of humor and everything. I don't know if people's it
was just this one thing and that was on Instagram
was going around, but it wasn't him.
Speaker 1: It's scary. There's a lot of misinformation comes out. Yes,
I know, because these videos are all over the place
from different people, right, you know, and we're like hearing
Trump talk about his med beds and like, you know, yeah,
people are like, oh god, great, right, medbeds around it.
Everybody's gonna have free access to them. And they're like
look at this. Yeah, it's like totally Alan, it sucks.
I hate that. It's crazy. Yeah, that's anything else. So well,
I did say that I wanted to discuss this. I
just have this one other topic, which is I was
watching and this is why we did the Patreon that
we did. Yeah for tomorrow. It was a good one.
No sign up. Yeah, it was a good one. Yeah.
About friendships, female friendships, and I was I had seen
something from Lala, some clip of Lala from vander Pump
talking about getting in a fight with Sheena. What the
hell are they beefing about? By the way, I don't know,
nobody knows. They both kind of suck. But yeah, if
I had to choose, I like La La. Yeah, I
think better than she seems more real and she seems
like a Disney character. Now she's got a little bit
of a temper. I think they've cheef do, right. But
she was discussing the fact that they'd have this fight
and they'd be like go fuck yourself, fuck you, you know,
and like sort of saying really mean stuff. And I
was like, I don't know that as an adult, right,
I've had I mean, I don't fight with John that way.
I don't yeh ever go like fuck you, right, I don't.
And I'm not saying listen, if you do fight like
that with people, I'm not judging it. I'm just saying
it's so odd to me.
Speaker 2: As an adult to fight that way. I've never had
those kind of fights either with anybody as an adult,
you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I can't even maybe like sometimes I'll get mad and like,
you know, will yell at each other or whatever.
Speaker 1: I don't even remember.
Speaker 2: But I don't really fight with my friends, So I
can't even remember the last time I've had a falling
out or a fight, you know with my ex husband.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well yeah, I mean I've had some big
fights with John where we're like where I was yelling, right,
But I've never just gone for the jugular with anybody. Yeah,
you're like where you say something that you're gonna regret. Yeah, right,
But then you see these reality shows and these people
housewives vander pump and they say the like craziest shit
to each other, and then a couple of episodes later
they're like they're like, hey, all good coo cool, I
know that's why you can't keep a husband. Yes, yeah,
it's crazy. I know. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And so yeah, I was watching. You don't watch the
Miami Housewives, do you?
Speaker 1: I don't. There was a bombshell last week one of
them said she slept with another one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they slept together. So Wendy was over. And then
we went back and watched old episodes of them and
their friendship, and you could totally see like when he
was like I wasn't surprised, like, yeah, you know she's
a lesbian and yeah she's married, but the way these
two were carrying on, like her and her friend, they
were like more than just friends, and you could see
it in old episodes.
Speaker 1: But yeah, that happened. Yeah the Housewives, I don't know
what it is, but like the wait, so the one
woman is a lesbian, but she's married to Martina Mataitola whatever,
she was married to a woman. Yeah, she's married to
the tennis star, but she had but she slept with
another but.
Speaker 2: She she had a Yeah on the cast, Like for
a couple of years, they were really close. They were
like best friends, and you know, they were on vacations together,
and she even the lesbian one that's married. She even
got on her knee and like asked her to be
her friend, like had like a friend engagement kind of thing.
It was kind of weird, but like they had this little,
really close friendship. But I never thought because she was
married and she's married, they have kids since they just
adopted kids. So I was like, so that's what's shocking, Like,
so she cheated on her wife with her friend. How
did it come out on the reunion? So the last
season they have not been getting along. So Adrianna is
the other girl, the friend of hers, and Julia is
the one that's married, and they were they were beef
all season, not getting along, fighting with each other, and
it's like you could tell there was really deep down
hurt feelings. And then finally, like at the end of
the first reunion episode, they were like, Julia was like,
I have to say something. She said, Adrianna and I
slept together in the Hamptons, and you see Andy Cone's
face went like he did a double cake take.
Speaker 1: He was like wait what And then all the everybody
else is like what what what? Then there's Larsa Pippen
whose face cannot move because it's frozen with so much botox.
She's just like, eh, like she can't even move and
make an expression. Some of those girls with the botox
out of control. But yeah, that was the big, big cliffhanger, bombshell.
So is the one the one that's not married, Yeah,
the one that was that slept with her? Right is
that she's not married.
Speaker 2: She's not married and she's been married, and she's straight
as you know, as far as everybody thought or whatever. Yeah,
but she's definitely lonely.
Speaker 1: A little bit like a Brandy and Denise situation.
Speaker 2: No, because Brandy and Denise are young and hot, not
saying that these girls are not. But that's more of
like a drunk I feel like that was just like
a drunken thing or whatever. These two, no, like they
don't they're not like out of control drunk and stuff
like that. And you know, the the other one, Adriana,
who straight was married to I think two guys, and
so now she's divorced. She's definitely lonely. You can tell
she's not getting along with a bunch of other girls.
She was kind of keeping to herself this season, and
because she was not getting along with Julia, her close friend,
they had a falling out over something and then they
she decided to drop it. But she's married to the
tennis star Martina, right, so yeah, crazy, I know.
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