Speaker 1: Hey there, Welcome back to the Skeptic Metaphysicians. I am grateful,
Speaker 1: so grateful that you have decided to join me once
Speaker 1: again on this shorter episode of the Skeptic Metaphysicians. Today,
Speaker 1: I'm reading another chapter from Living Untethered Beyond the Human
Speaker 1: Predicament by Michael Singer. Living Untethered is a, I guess,
Speaker 1: an unofficial sequel to The Untethered Soul, which was Michael's
Speaker 1: breakout New York Times bestselling book, which I loved. And
Speaker 1: as I'm reading through this book, certain things jump out
Speaker 1: at me. And one of these chapters I felt was
Speaker 1: so strong that I felt the need have to share
Speaker 1: it with you. It's chapter twenty seven in the book.
Speaker 1: It's very short, and it's called the Paradigm Shift, and
Speaker 1: I think, before I get started, need to mind you.
Speaker 1: He talks about something called sam Scarow's and sam Scarow's
Speaker 1: are thought forms that we form in our intellect, in
Speaker 1: our minds, in our bodies, that lead the way we
Speaker 1: live our lives. A sam scare is a mental impression,
Speaker 1: a recollection, or psychological imprint that shapes our thoughts and
Speaker 1: actions and the influence future actions and circumstances. For each
Speaker 1: one of us, and we do that to ourselves very naturally.
Speaker 1: We've been programmed to do it, and it is a
Speaker 1: very organic way that it happens. He explains it in
Speaker 1: the book, but he touches on sam scares in this chapter,
Speaker 1: so I wanted to make sure that you understood what
Speaker 1: that means. For a deeper dive into sam scars and
Speaker 1: how they work, I would strongly encourage you to pick
Speaker 1: up the book Living Untethered. It's a fantastic exploration of
Speaker 1: how we can learn to release these sam scaros and
Speaker 1: break free from the metaphorical imprisonment that we are all under. Okay,
Speaker 1: here is chapter twenty seven, the paradigm Shift. Everyone wants
Speaker 1: to improve their experience of life. People are always looking
Speaker 1: for more joy, love, inspiration and meaning. The question is
Speaker 1: how to achieve this. Let's do an experiment. Imagine an
Speaker 1: all powerful force has asked you to write down some
Speaker 1: things that need to happen for you to totally enjoy
Speaker 1: your life. If you're like most people, you'll write down
Speaker 1: things like a new house, a special relationship, a higher
Speaker 1: paying job, maybe a year long vacation to your favorite
Speaker 1: spots around the world. When you're done, you will be
Speaker 1: so excited to turn in that list and get your
Speaker 1: wishes granted. Unfortunately, you're gonna have to wait a moment
Speaker 1: because we're gonna go deeper with this experiment. If you
Speaker 1: examine your list more closely, you'll see that it's not
Speaker 1: what you want. Let's say you wrote down that you
Speaker 1: want to get married to the person you love, and
Speaker 1: you want a wedding in Maui with birds of paradise
Speaker 1: surrounding the ceremony. After the wedding, you want to live
Speaker 1: in a beautiful, mortgage free house overlooking the ocean with
Speaker 1: two fancy cars in a driveway. It's the dream you've
Speaker 1: had since childhood. The problem is that that's not what
Speaker 1: you really want. See, your mind has played a trick
Speaker 1: on you. Say you have the wedding, the house, and
Speaker 1: the cars just like you wanted them, but your new
Speaker 1: spouse turns out to be a real jerk. You're treated
Speaker 1: terribly and it's obvious right from the start that this
Speaker 1: is going to be the worst marriage in human history.
Speaker 1: On top of that, you're Catholic, so you can't get divorced.
Speaker 1: Do you still want that wedding? Unlikely, so it wasn't
Speaker 1: really the marriage you wanted. You wanted the beautiful experience
Speaker 1: that you thought the marriage was going to give you,
Speaker 1: So why didn't you ask for that? The same thing
Speaker 1: holds for the new job, the million dollars in the bank,
Speaker 1: and the respect of the other people. Fine, you can
Speaker 1: have it all, but what if it creates so much
Speaker 1: stress and worry that you're miserable. You'd wish you could
Speaker 1: have your old job back. You didn't really want the job,
Speaker 1: the money, or the acceptance. You wanted what you thought
Speaker 1: they would give you. You wanted happiness, joy, and a
Speaker 1: sense of total well being. How about a constant innerstate
Speaker 1: of love, beauty, and inspiration at the highest level you've
Speaker 1: ever experienced. Why didn't you ask for that? What you
Speaker 1: did was allow your strongest past experiences to define what
Speaker 1: you think will make you feel happy. It doesn't work
Speaker 1: that way. There are plenty of people who have what
Speaker 1: you wrote down on your list, and they're not always happy.
Speaker 1: There's nothing you ever experienced that left you totally fulfilled
Speaker 1: for any length of time. You've always needed more your
Speaker 1: entire life. You've been saying, if I get this thing
Speaker 1: I want, I'll be okay, and if I don't have
Speaker 1: to get what I don't want, I'll be fine for
Speaker 1: your whole life. There's been a list. When will you
Speaker 1: realize that doesn't work? If you've been doing something every
Speaker 1: minute of your entire life and you're still doing it,
Speaker 1: Obviously it doesn't work. When I go directly to the
Speaker 1: root and say, what I want is to feel love
Speaker 1: and joy. What I want is every moment of every day,
Speaker 1: to feel complete well being as high as I've ever
Speaker 1: felt before, and to be inspired by everything I do.
Speaker 1: Now there's a list, let's turn that one in well.
Speaker 1: The interesting result of our experiment is that it has
Speaker 1: led us away from worldliness and into the essence of spirituality.
Speaker 1: Not that worldliness is a negative term. It just means
Speaker 1: you think the answer is in the world. You think
Speaker 1: the answer lies in what's unfolding in front of you.
Speaker 1: It isn't wrong to go to the world for what
Speaker 1: you think you want it it doesn't work. You're trying
Speaker 1: to find something outside that matches your sam scare of
Speaker 1: the day. Once you get what you want or avoid
Speaker 1: what you don't want, that will no longer be your
Speaker 1: major desire or greatest fear. Once that's out of the way,
Speaker 1: there will always be the next time or the next
Speaker 1: issue coming to the surface. Eventually you wake up you
Speaker 1: realize that you want to feel love, not that you
Speaker 1: want to love someone or have someone love you. You
Speaker 1: just want to feel love all the time. If your
Speaker 1: love is not dependent on anything or anyone, it can
Speaker 1: last forever. We call that unconditional love. The great Yoga
Speaker 1: master Mayor Baba taught that love must spring spontaneously from within.
Speaker 1: It cannot be coerced, and it cannot be dependent upon anything.
Speaker 1: That is what pure love is. Otherwise, you have a
Speaker 1: temporary situation that just happens to match your stored patterns. Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: this won't last, and you've got lots of sem scarows
Speaker 1: in there. In addition, if you're in a relationship, the
Speaker 1: other person has lots of patterns of their own, quite
Speaker 1: different from yours. This is why relationships are so complicated.
Speaker 1: Not only are each person's past sem scaers different, but
Speaker 1: both people have different experiences every day to add to
Speaker 1: the collection. If somebody yelled at your partner at work,
Speaker 1: they're different when they come home than if somebody was
Speaker 1: nice to them. You of course had your daily experiences.
Speaker 1: If your feeling of love is dependent upon your partner
Speaker 1: behaving a certain way when they come home. You're in trouble,
Speaker 1: and so were they. You have enough difficulty dealing with
Speaker 1: your own sam scarrows, now you have to deal with
Speaker 1: theirs also. Now, don't get scared. This doesn't mean you
Speaker 1: don't have meaningful relationships. There are beautiful relationships and they
Speaker 1: can last forever. In fact, they can get more and
Speaker 1: more beautiful all the time. But they are not sam
Speaker 1: Scara relationships. They're not based on the world outside matching
Speaker 1: your inner patterns. They're based on unconditional love. Once love
Speaker 1: is always flowing freely inside you, you'll be pleased to
Speaker 1: share it with another person. Such love is not based
Speaker 1: on needs or expectations. It's based on pure love wishing
Speaker 1: to express itself unconditionally. So how do you reach such
Speaker 1: a state of unconditional love and well being? Instead of
Speaker 1: trying to get the world to match your blockages, you
Speaker 1: work on letting go of the blockages. That's the secret
Speaker 1: of real spiritual growth, That is the real paradigm shift.
Speaker 1: If you don't have the sam scaros, nothing will be
Speaker 1: blocking your inner energy flow. You'll feel love, joy, and
Speaker 1: inspiration all the time, willing to experience the moment unfolding
Speaker 1: in front of you. You'll have the opportunity to be
Speaker 1: inspired by everything. The simple fact that things exist will
Speaker 1: be sufficient to move you. You only have two choices.
Speaker 1: Either you devote your life to getting the world to
Speaker 1: match your sam scarows, or you devote your life to
Speaker 1: letting go of those sam scaros. If you choose the ladder,
Speaker 1: you don't end up with both a worldly life and
Speaker 1: a spiritual life. You end up with one life. Work, meditation, retreats,
Speaker 1: taking out the garbage, sweeping the floor, driving, showering through
Speaker 1: all the same The same thing is going on in
Speaker 1: all your activities. You are letting go of your blockages.
Speaker 1: It's equally beneficial to be letting go of your blockages
Speaker 1: at work, when you're driving the kids to soccer, picking
Speaker 1: up the groceries, or doing whatever it is that you're doing.
Speaker 1: Every single moment of your life, you are either naturally
Speaker 1: enjoying what is or letting go of what's keeping you
Speaker 1: from enjoying what is. If you let go of the
Speaker 1: wants and fears that are limiting you, you'll always be
Speaker 1: okay letting go of yourself instead of serving yourself. That
Speaker 1: is a real paradigm shift. That's the end of the chapter.
Speaker 1: I hope that you got as much out of it
Speaker 1: as I did. This whole book is mind blowing. It's
Speaker 1: not an easy one to break into. But once you're
Speaker 1: in the right mindset and you let it speak to you,
Speaker 1: like truly speak to you, the wisdom is unbelievable. It
Speaker 1: makes so much sense. Things that I have experienced are
Speaker 1: causing me to react to the world in a certain way.
Speaker 1: And how many teachers and yogi's across the world have
Speaker 1: always said that. I think it's the Buddhist thought process
Speaker 1: of philosophy that says the sources of all suffering is attachments. Well,
Speaker 1: in essence, that's what a simska is. I guess right.
Speaker 1: You're attached to a particular outcome. Someone cuts you off
Speaker 1: in traffic. Your experience in the past has been a
Speaker 1: negative one, so you react negatively. But if instead you
Speaker 1: think about the fact that, oh, they just cut me
Speaker 1: off in traffic, Thankfully nothing happened, everybody is safe. It
Speaker 1: really doesn't affect you if you allow it to feel
Speaker 1: that way. Of course, our first reaction is to let
Speaker 1: it affect us. In buoy in a big way. But
Speaker 1: what good does that do. It's not going to make
Speaker 1: that person not have cut you off. It's not going
Speaker 1: to teach the person a lesson if you suddenly get
Speaker 1: all road raging on them, right, what's the good in it?
Speaker 1: All it does is hurt you inside. It makes you
Speaker 1: feel bitter and angry and resentful, and then your entire
Speaker 1: day is led from that energy perspective. And that's no
Speaker 1: good for anybody. If instead we said, ooh, okay, this
Speaker 1: person's in a hurry, or maybe they got in the
Speaker 1: wrong lane and they were trying to get over didn't
Speaker 1: know how or anything that you want to. When you
Speaker 1: assume good intent, good things happen. But even further than that,
Speaker 1: what the book is talking about, with what the chapter
Speaker 1: is talking about is I'm not even assuming good intent,
Speaker 1: but rather not letting it phase you. It's just an
Speaker 1: action that someone has taken because of their own Sam
Speaker 1: scarows that doesn't affect you unless you allow it to,
Speaker 1: unless you want it to. And I believe me, it's
Speaker 1: a much easier thing said than done. I've been working
Speaker 1: on this since I started reading the book. It is
Speaker 1: not easy. The good thing is later on in the book.
Speaker 1: It does give you very specific ways of how to
Speaker 1: release thee Sam scarows these energies are being blocked inside
Speaker 1: your emotional system throughout your entire life, and so I'm
Speaker 1: starting to get it. I'm starting to see it. I'm
Speaker 1: starting to make changes inside myself, release certain things, some
Speaker 1: situations that in the passive call me to be super anxious.
Speaker 1: By utilizing the steps he is showing me in the books,
Speaker 1: I have found a way to deactivate those situations, and
Speaker 1: that anxiety is not as strong for me anymore. I
Speaker 1: got a long way to go, but boy, I've come
Speaker 1: a long way, all right. If this spoke to you
Speaker 1: in any way, I encourage you to pick up Living
Speaker 1: Untethered by Michael Singer's It's remarkable if you allowed to,
Speaker 1: if you're ready for it. So curious if you're reading
Speaker 1: Living Untethered, or if you've read it, what your thoughts
Speaker 1: are on It'd love to hear your thoughts. You can
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Speaker 1: Like I said at the very beginning, I'm very grateful
Speaker 1: that you choose to join me on these journeys. Every
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Speaker 1: received as much out of this as I have, and
Speaker 1: I look forward to a lot more connections like this
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Speaker 1: take care of yourself.