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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged,

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hey Zaro, And this is vocal dfrag.

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Speaker 2: Vocal defragging is having a physical conversation where you can

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go back and listen to your emotions, your inflection, your pitch,

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your volume, your tones. I strongly suggest vocal defragging because

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you can write in a journal all day, but when

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you come back to it to study it, you don't

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hear your voice. You just see a bunch of words

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and your interpretation in the days ahead.

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Speaker 3: You know what. It makes up its own storyline.

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Speaker 2: So even though I've been a daily writer for twenty

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nine years and I've been basically defragging in a different

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journal since twenty seventeen, I go back to those pages.

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I don't hear my voice, I don't hear the emotion

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or the physical questioning and how I come up with

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answers and then come back and question those answers. So

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that's what vocal defragging is, and I do invite you

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to pick up that journey. And I know people are

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so afraid of getting caught for opening up their hearts.

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Speaker 3: I get it.

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Speaker 2: But you know what, though, sometimes those people on the

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outside have nothing to do with the person inside of you.

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That's why I suggest, and I do encourage you to

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vocal defrag. Today's subject who Man. It came to me

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really hard, and it's been something worth researching. It actually

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started when I went to I'm getting ready for a colonoscopy.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. He said that word. Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: I wish everybody would have a colonoscopy. But the doctor

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was concerned with this thing called invisible reflux. And invisible

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reflux is not like acid reflux, but it is. And

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you know you've got invisible reflux when you have something

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to eat and then you get post nasal drip. Your

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voice is hoarse, and there's other things that are going

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on inside your mouth, like bad taste and stuff. And

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so I sat there and I thought about, Wow, invisible reflux,

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which is called silent reflux. That's kind of like the

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official term of it. And it's like, okay, if most

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people don't realize they've got this silent reflux, and it

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is doing damage to your mind, body, and soul, especially

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your throat. What other things in our life are invisible.

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So in my de fragged journal writing, I asked the

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question do I have invisible anger? Is there such a

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thing as invisible anger?

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Speaker 3: What about you? Do you?

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Speaker 2: I mean, you've got physical anger, we all have that,

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but what about invisible anger? And I had to do

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some research on that and believe it or not, invisible

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anger does exist.

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Speaker 3: People who have.

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Speaker 2: Invisible anger don't really know they've got it, or if

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they do, they try to hide it. Invisible anger is

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covering things up and always being happy because we're always

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told that, hey, look man, it takes just as much

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energy to be positive as it does to be negative.

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People who have invisible anger actually bring damage to others

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around them, and they.

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Speaker 3: Don't know it. That was the part that shocked me.

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Speaker 2: They don't know that they've got invisible anger and they're

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using it on other people. Some of the ways that

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you can identify in visible anger, it's sarcasm. If you're

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very sarcastic or cynical to our different things that are

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happening in life, you actually could have invisible anger. Ways

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that you can get around this or to learn from it,

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or even to help heal it is that you have

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to become aware of it. You have to know how

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you are setting yourself up with others in conversation. There

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are many times that you know, being a radio guy,

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you know, we do get a little cynical. We do

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get a little sarcastic, because you know, in radio, when

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you're jocking it up over a song or you're doing

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it on talk radio, you know, people tend to laugh

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at stuff like that, and sarcasm is one of those

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things where people go, ah.

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Speaker 3: God, almighty, I've been there before.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I like listening to this person because

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they talk about this and this and this and this

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and so. But that's one of the things that you've

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got to learn. If you are being sarcastic or cynical,

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and you are aware of it in a present conversation,

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maybe we should step back from that because the after

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effects of what you're doing may not be a positive

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outcome in your presence.

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Speaker 3: Remember, what we say, what we write, what we do.

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Speaker 2: In our everyday life has an after life and an

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after effect on something. And then we wonder why we

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feel like crud. We wonder, well, why aren't things happening

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the way that I want them to? What is going on? Well,

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the question is is that what did you do before

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you got here? Were you locked inside some sort of

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invisible anger and without even knowing it? But now, because

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of how you're handling things, you might actually see yourself

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as an invisible angry person. Your body language is showing

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it invisible angry people. Now once again, those that suffer

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from invisible anger do try to hide it by being

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happy all the time, and they don't realize what they're

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doing to other people. So, if you're facing those moments

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in your personal life and you're using awareness as a key,

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the thing is is that it's not going to take

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just one shot at Hey, today I was aware, Tomorrow

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I'm going to be fixed. Yeah, that's not true. I've

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been a daily writer for twenty nine years. I know

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what's in those journals, and I know what I have

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put on those pages in order to help free the

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anger or the pain from my mind, body, and soul.

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As a broadcast instructor, I have to coax people to

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put on the earphones. I don't like the way my

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voice sounds. Well, if you don't like the way your

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voice sounds with earphones on, how do you like your

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voice without the earphone?

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Speaker 3: I guess it's okay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But what about that inner voice that really doesn't

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have a physical sound. Ooh, an invisible voice. Because we're

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talking about invisible things. What is your invisible voice saying

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to you that the rest of us can't hear. Is

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it feeding the invisible anger? Is it causing invisible reflux?

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Because you know, when we get worked up, oh my god,

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the acid is flowing inside our stomachs and ride up

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that esophagus. So I ask about your invisible voice. I

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ask about your invisible anger. I just want to hear

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what your interpretation of self is. And that's what vocal

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defragging is all about. And I put so much love

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and interest in the physical conversation because you've got to

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hear your emotions as they are being freed from your innercore.

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Because if you put it on paper, like I said,

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then when you come back to it, it's just another

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day of reading. And oh my god, this guy, it's

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been in a bad mood that particular day. So to

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hear the way that you present your words is so

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soothing to your soul. It's almost like you're telling yourself.

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I'm listening, what are your questions. I'm listening. Try it sometime.

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I know it's going to take some confidence, some courage,

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and I know we all fear challenge and change, but

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you know what, the new you is looking at you

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in the mirror every day.

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Speaker 3: I'm MARYL. And that's vocal, D fragging