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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I back with something for you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about. Listen, whatever you do falls on you unless

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<v Speaker 1>you are not in your right mind. I mean, you've

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<v Speaker 1>lost your mind and you have no understanding of reality

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<v Speaker 1>and delusion. When you have no understanding of reality and delusion,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know the difference. That's the serious problem that

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<v Speaker 1>could lead to devastation and destruction. I know it all

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<v Speaker 1>too well. I'm not talking about those people. I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about broken people who are easily influenced, persuaded, cohurst enticed.

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<v Speaker 1>You're right mind, You're just broken, So best who this

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<v Speaker 1>episode is about. Whatever you do, you can blame other people.

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<v Speaker 1>They made me do it. Whatever you want to say,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you want to do, you can blame. But it

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<v Speaker 1>falls on you. It falls on you when you doubt

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<v Speaker 1>yourself because somebody else says something about you. That person

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<v Speaker 1>is broken too, and you have allowed a broken person

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<v Speaker 1>to affect your life. What does that say about you? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I pause purposely. That tells you that you're broken too.

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<v Speaker 1>You have some unresolved in you. If you allowed another

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<v Speaker 1>person to say something about you that made you hurt inside,

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<v Speaker 1>to made you to make you dout yourself, to make

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<v Speaker 1>you feel bad about yourself. They may have been a contributor,

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<v Speaker 1>but it falls on you because you fail for it.

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<v Speaker 1>You open yourself up to it, and you fail for

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<v Speaker 1>it because of what's going on inside of you. So

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of it all, you are the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>issue in your own life. I tell my grandson all

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<v Speaker 1>the time, and I've mentioned this before anyone in your life.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care who it is. If they are trying

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<v Speaker 1>to entice you, influence you, if they're trying to persuade

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<v Speaker 1>you in any way to do wrong, those people do

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<v Speaker 1>not have your best interest in mind. They don't care

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<v Speaker 1>about you, because a person who care about you will

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<v Speaker 1>not try to entice you to do anything wrong, say

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<v Speaker 1>anything wrong. They just won't. People who want something from you,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll have you doing all kinds of things if you

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<v Speaker 1>follow them. So if you choose to follow wrong, that

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<v Speaker 1>falls on you and you have to suffer the consequences

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<v Speaker 1>of what you chose to to do. Many people think, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's my friend, they're my friends, but they're not looking

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<v Speaker 1>at the situation at hand. They're not looking at what

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<v Speaker 1>their friends are doing, the wrong things, their friends are

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<v Speaker 1>getting into. They're not looking at any of that none

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<v Speaker 1>of it. So if you took the time to look

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<v Speaker 1>at what people around you are trying to get you

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<v Speaker 1>to be involved in, you will know whether they are

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<v Speaker 1>individuals who mean you good or not. And if you

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<v Speaker 1>choose to go along, that tells you so much about yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a person that have issues that you have not resolved.

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<v Speaker 1>You still have insecurities inside of you that you have

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<v Speaker 1>not resolved that has allowed you to follow wrong. So

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of it, it falls on you. Period.

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<v Speaker 1>It falls on you allowing people to get under your

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<v Speaker 1>skin so much ato you snap. That falls on you.

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<v Speaker 1>That is an indicator that you have been lacking self control,

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<v Speaker 1>being influenced by watching commercials to go and gorge on food,

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<v Speaker 1>to eat things you know that are not good for you.

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<v Speaker 1>That falls on you, lack of self control. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about different scenarios, but the basis of what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about is the same. No matter where it

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<v Speaker 1>comes from, no matter where the influence come from, if

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<v Speaker 1>you fall prey to it, that falls on you. And

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to think about that. Think about that

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<v Speaker 1>in every aspect of your life, in every situation. Some

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<v Speaker 1>people are new to their jobs and the main person

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<v Speaker 1>who should do right sometimes do wrong, and that's their

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<v Speaker 1>supervisors or their bosses. They commit harassment and a sexual

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<v Speaker 1>assault or sexual harassment none assault, and the person do

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<v Speaker 1>nothing because they've been groomed into that, because that person

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<v Speaker 1>is an individual who is quiet, don't say anything, let

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<v Speaker 1>people walk over them, or they are an individual who

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<v Speaker 1>is knowing what they're doing but they're trying to get ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>It don't matter which situation or the type of person

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<v Speaker 1>it is. What matters is what you fall prey to.

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<v Speaker 1>That falls on you.

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<v Speaker 2>It falls on you, whether you are an individual who

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<v Speaker 2>just let people walk over you, or you an individual

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<v Speaker 2>who is trying to use people for progression.

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<v Speaker 1>All of it still tells you who you are as

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<v Speaker 1>a person. So what I want you to understand is

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<v Speaker 1>everything we do in our lives, everything we open ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>up to, everything we give power to the people, we

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<v Speaker 1>let in, how we let people treat us, all of it,

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<v Speaker 1>every bit of it, is determined by who we are

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<v Speaker 1>as an individual. I've told you many times, most people

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<v Speaker 1>in this world really really believe, I mean, without a doubt,

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<v Speaker 1>really really really believe they are mature. You can't tell

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<v Speaker 1>them they're not. But it's because they have been the

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<v Speaker 1>way they are for so long that they think is right.

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<v Speaker 1>They think they have themselves together, even though if they

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<v Speaker 1>really just take a moment and look at the drama

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<v Speaker 1>and the chaos following them. Because remember, no matter where

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<v Speaker 1>you go in life, you can go to the mountaintop,

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<v Speaker 1>you can go to the valley low. One person you

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<v Speaker 1>can't get away from is yourself. So wherever you go,

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<v Speaker 1>chaos and drama will follow you because that's what is

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<v Speaker 1>inside of you. That's the mindset you have, because of

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<v Speaker 1>the unheal heartened mind. So no matter what you involve

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<v Speaker 1>yourself in or who you involve yourself with, whatever happens

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<v Speaker 1>falls on you. Because you play the role. You let

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<v Speaker 1>people persuade you to do wrong, You let people talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you into things you know you didn't want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>You give your power away, You let people take you

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<v Speaker 1>for granted, you let people use you. Whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>it all falls on you. It all falls on you.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people they hate themselves so much because other people

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<v Speaker 1>have beat them down verbally. You're nothing, you're ugly, you're this,

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<v Speaker 1>you're that. When they are those things, they feel like

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<v Speaker 1>that about themselves. But because you are unhealed, you believe

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<v Speaker 1>what they say about you, even though they feel that

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<v Speaker 1>way about themselves, They're just projecting it onto you. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why in the beginning of this episode, I say, you

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<v Speaker 1>allow a broken person to hurt you. You allow that

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<v Speaker 1>because of who you are as a person, what's going

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<v Speaker 1>on inside of you, your lack of security, your lack

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<v Speaker 1>of esteem, your lack of confidence, because of the mindset

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<v Speaker 1>that you have, and it is the very reason why

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<v Speaker 1>people open the doors to things that they shouldn't. People

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<v Speaker 1>allow people that they shouldn't into their lives because of

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<v Speaker 1>the mindset that people have. And a lot of times

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<v Speaker 1>people can come from very good backgrounds, very good but

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<v Speaker 1>as they grow and go through life, they open the

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<v Speaker 1>door to the wrong people and the wrong things. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just what people do. They could have had great lives,

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<v Speaker 1>but they messed up because they opened the doors to

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<v Speaker 1>the wrong people and the wrong things. I want you

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<v Speaker 1>to really think about it, because, honestly, this is happening

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<v Speaker 1>so much, every single day, every second of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>This is happening so much. People are influenced and cohersts

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<v Speaker 1>and coached and encouraged and persuaded by the wrong people

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<v Speaker 1>and the wrong things, and they cannot see that it's

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<v Speaker 1>wrong because of the unhealth hearts and minds that they have.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people just rebellious and they want to do what

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<v Speaker 1>they want to do because they feel grown I can

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<v Speaker 1>do what I want to do. I want it to

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<v Speaker 1>lead to travesty, tragedy, destruction, devastation. I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about it. I want you to really think about

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Stop giving power to powerless people. Stop

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<v Speaker 1>giving power to broken, powerless people. You make them appear

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<v Speaker 1>powerful because you have given them power. You've given them

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<v Speaker 1>your power, which empowered them. But they're weak and broken people.

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<v Speaker 1>But you gave them power in your life to make

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<v Speaker 1>you feel less than, to make you feel that you're

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<v Speaker 1>not good enough. You gave them that power. We are

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<v Speaker 1>the ones who caused the most devastation in our own lives.

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<v Speaker 1>We are the ones who caused the most dysfunction in

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<v Speaker 1>our own lives by what and who we allow into

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<v Speaker 1>our lives. Who we are allowing to persuade us and

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<v Speaker 1>influence us and coherts us and all of those things.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to open yourself up to it. Whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>is or whoever it is, you have to open yourself

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<v Speaker 1>up to it. First, So you have to look at you.

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<v Speaker 1>Why did you do that? Why did you open yourself

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<v Speaker 1>up to whatever it is was, or who it is

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<v Speaker 1>or who it was? Why did you do that? It's

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<v Speaker 1>because of the mindset that you have. Everything points back

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<v Speaker 1>to self. That's why you have three fingers pointing back

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<v Speaker 1>at you when you're pointing to blame others. Think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all I want you to do. Just really think

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<v Speaker 1>about your life. What you've given power to, whom you've

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<v Speaker 1>given power to. Some of you are in relationships where

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<v Speaker 1>you're afraid to stay, you're afraid to go. But you

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<v Speaker 1>are the one who gave that person power over you.

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<v Speaker 1>They would never be able to have you in that

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<v Speaker 1>situation if you had not given them power over you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the bottom line. You gave that person power over you,

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<v Speaker 1>to control you, to be possessive over you, to be

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<v Speaker 1>obsessive over you. You gave them that power because when they

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<v Speaker 1>started out doing that stuff and you didn't run, that

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<v Speaker 1>fell on you. The first sign of abuse and you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't run. That fell on you, the first sign of

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<v Speaker 1>disrespect and you didn't run. That falls on you. You

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<v Speaker 1>having to buy their love and you didn't run. That

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<v Speaker 1>falls on you. You initiating everything all the time, and you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't run or you didn't at least talk about it.

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<v Speaker 1>That falls on you. You thinking that their looks was

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<v Speaker 1>the greatest thing in the world until you found out

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<v Speaker 1>they were stolen, crazy, or you found out that they

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<v Speaker 1>were abusive, or you found out they were using you.

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<v Speaker 1>But you thought their looks was everything. You thought you

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<v Speaker 1>were safe because said there looks falls on you. Everything

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<v Speaker 1>goes back to your self in every situation, no matter

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<v Speaker 1>who you are, who you think you are, what you have,

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<v Speaker 1>what you don't have, it falls on you. And I

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<v Speaker 1>really truly hope people let this episode sink deep. Just

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<v Speaker 1>think about it, listen to it multiple times, get understanding

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<v Speaker 1>of what I'm trying to convey here, because most of

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<v Speaker 1>the world operates this way. Most other people in the

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<v Speaker 1>world operate this way. And that's why many people are

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<v Speaker 1>in relationships, unhappy, they're in relationships, lonely in their relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>prisoners in their relationships, all because of what you allowed

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<v Speaker 1>from that other person, all because of what you went

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<v Speaker 1>along with. It's the same on your jobs, in the

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<v Speaker 1>clubs that you're members of at your schools, whether high school, college,

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<v Speaker 1>no matter what, no matter the situation, it goes back

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<v Speaker 1>to you, your unresolved issues, the mindset that you have,

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<v Speaker 1>and I want you to really, really really let this

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<v Speaker 1>episode set with you for a while. I'm leaving it

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<v Speaker 1>right there. Thank you for listening. Please share much love

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<v Speaker 1>to each and every one of you. I end every episode,

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<v Speaker 1>episode the same, and I hope you do it. Jay

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<v Speaker 1>called it mm hm