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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Wine and Wine Podcast. I'm Kelsey and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Ellie. This is your dose of friendship, fun and

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<v Speaker 1>figuring life out together. Let's be e besties because life

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<v Speaker 1>is messy, Wine helps.

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<v Speaker 2>And whining is optional.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi besties, Hey guys, welcome back.

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<v Speaker 3>Another episode, another topic. Yeah, this one's going to be

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<v Speaker 3>a fun juicy One's a little juicy.

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<v Speaker 2>We're back with a hot take.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, it was so funny. Right before we

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<v Speaker 3>started recording, I was like, Kelso, I cannot go on

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<v Speaker 3>a tangent, So everybody pray for me. Buckle up, buckle

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<v Speaker 3>up because I'm not going on a tangent. Could be

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<v Speaker 3>a tangent topic, but we cannot do it. We are

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<v Speaker 3>holding ourselves to it this time. Yes, and maybe if

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<v Speaker 3>we want to expand, we'll bring up this topic again

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<v Speaker 3>another day.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we could go on and on about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like there's so many like, there's so many layers.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, we can dive into them so much so it'll

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<v Speaker 2>be fies. But first, but first look at any one.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's introduce the one we're mixing it up with a rose.

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<v Speaker 3>Shout out to Sarah. She brought this randomly one day

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<v Speaker 3>to my house and was like, yeah, muse it for

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<v Speaker 3>whatever you want.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's the coolest bottle. It's not a wine bottle.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like it looks kind of like a liquor bottle exactly,

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<v Speaker 2>like or I don't know, like a ginormous ass perfume bottle.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, you can either put your perfume in hair

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<v Speaker 3>or your whiskey shit perfume either are Yeah, just sniff

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<v Speaker 3>before you sip, you know, and then you'll know what exactly. Okay, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it's called Rosetta and it's from Portugal, and uh, this

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<v Speaker 3>rose has an appealing bouquet of floral and RedBerry notes.

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<v Speaker 3>It is well balanced, soft and fruit forward, delicious as

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<v Speaker 3>an Oh my gosh, I don't know how to say

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<v Speaker 3>this word. Kilsop are appery teeth upper tiff.

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<v Speaker 2>I think, what is that like? Appetizer kind of? I

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<v Speaker 2>literally have not.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we've had come up before, so maybe that's our

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<v Speaker 1>next one one.

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<v Speaker 2>And perfect with salad and shellfish. That's so random. I

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<v Speaker 2>do love me some shellfish.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh Okay, I'm not a big fan of seafood, but

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<v Speaker 3>I'd get down with salad.

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<v Speaker 2>I freaking love seafood.

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<v Speaker 3>I to get down with it. Okay, Well, hopefully this

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<v Speaker 3>pairs well with that. Okay, cheers, clink clink, swirling sniff.

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<v Speaker 3>Speaking of swirling, Oh, we'll get to that in a bit.

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<v Speaker 3>It smells good.

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<v Speaker 2>It smells really good. Let's see.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's refreshing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so freaking good.

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<v Speaker 3>That is so shout out Sarah.

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<v Speaker 2>That is like one of the smoothest wines we've had.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what's so funny is this girl's probably a

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<v Speaker 3>bougie beach. I didn't even look at the price ring.

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<v Speaker 2>Probably a fancy ass.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, this is probably something that we have yet to

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<v Speaker 3>pick up because we wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, that is so good. Let's see. Not

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<v Speaker 2>me googling the price as we speak.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I don't even know. I don't even know. U

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<v Speaker 3>should I then just put like price let's see. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 3>everybody bear with me. Some are saying it's around tennis bucks.

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<v Speaker 2>I just really.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, maybe if I go to like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>you guys help, Why don't I know how to look

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<v Speaker 3>for like a real quick Google search of the price of.

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<v Speaker 2>A wine, maybe I got.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'll just click like, yeah, I'm getting anywhere from

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<v Speaker 1>six dollars from Trader Joe's to twenty seven dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>No shit, yay, this is so it can honestly go anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>This is the I'm here for it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what.

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<v Speaker 3>She did just get back from Colorado like a month

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<v Speaker 3>ago or so two, and I think maybe she got

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<v Speaker 3>it from Trader Joe's now that I think about it.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't have wine. That's why we can't have nice

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<v Speaker 2>things boooo.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, So I honestly would give that a solid four

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<v Speaker 1>seven five.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, Yes, honestly, I could even go a five.

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<v Speaker 3>I honestly, it is so smooth.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna give it. I'm gonna give it a four.

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<v Speaker 3>To five okay, just because like I feel like, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, I don't know if this is me being pessimistic,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm like, I can't ever can't do the five.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't do a five.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know why.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's do four seven five, Okay, let's do it. But

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<v Speaker 1>this was really good, really good, refreshing and everything. And

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<v Speaker 1>for me to say that with a rose, I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>Your girl is learning.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what is our wine? One on one today, Ellie?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so buckle in and I will talk to you

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<v Speaker 3>real quickly for like a minute about the wine. One

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<v Speaker 3>oh one. So we are talking swirling your wine. So

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<v Speaker 3>swirling your wine isn't just for show. It actually helps

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<v Speaker 3>you smell it better. When you swirl wine in your glass,

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<v Speaker 3>you're increasing its exposure to oxygen, which releases aromatic compounds.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why, Okay, you gotta help me with this word.

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<v Speaker 3>Somaliersmlier Somalier, I don't know, writch.

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<v Speaker 2>He I assume.

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<v Speaker 3>Always give it a little spin. It's like waking the

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<v Speaker 3>wine up so you can experience its full personality, which

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<v Speaker 3>I guess makes sense. Right, You're swirling and then you

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<v Speaker 3>can like because they always say that kind of like.

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<v Speaker 2>Basically what like an air raider would do, like giving

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<v Speaker 2>it the air and the movement.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, nice, That's why we always are like swirling sniffs,

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<v Speaker 3>swirling sniffs, swirl and swirl, So just swirl before you yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>a little little swirly squirrel. Well that and I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like incorporating all your senses to like something that you're

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<v Speaker 3>indulging in or whatever I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think is always good thing. I agree, kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>when I like sniff a load of lazogna before.

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<v Speaker 1>I eat it, you know, you like act like you

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<v Speaker 1>had a load of lasogna in your hand.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because.

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<v Speaker 3>You've got to sniff the meat and the cheese in there.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I could really go for man, not me

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<v Speaker 3>googling like protein packed lasangna. Right, so I'm gonna buy

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<v Speaker 3>some like pasta that's made out of protein. Anyway. Whoa,

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<v Speaker 3>that's a tangent. Okay, but okay, whoa getting back into this. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>So we are talking today about would you date yourself?

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<v Speaker 3>We've all looked at each other. We're like, okay, would

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<v Speaker 3>you date yourself?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's talk about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's dive in, Okay, Okay, So we have a couple questions.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, so we don't go off on tangents.

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<v Speaker 1>We kind of made us an outline, so we'll see

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<v Speaker 1>give us some criteria.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, just a little like boom boom boom boom boom

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<v Speaker 3>exactly exactly. And while you're listening and you hear the

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<v Speaker 3>question being asked, like just answer it in your head,

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<v Speaker 3>I guess.

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<v Speaker 2>Or like do you agree do you disagree with?

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<v Speaker 1>Like maybe we can do like a little questionnaire on

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<v Speaker 1>our stories.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and people can answer yeah totally totally and not

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<v Speaker 3>necessarily like agree or disagree with.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, what is your opinion?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I guess my friends who

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<v Speaker 3>listen to me know me better than I know myself,

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<v Speaker 3>so you could disagree or agree with what I have

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<v Speaker 3>to say about myself.

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<v Speaker 2>He is a load of shit.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, why do you lie on that?

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<v Speaker 2>Why did you just lie? Why did you say you

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<v Speaker 2>were perfect?

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<v Speaker 3>But the toxic one in the relationship is.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>Well anyway, anyho.

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<v Speaker 2>Back on track, back on track. Okay, So Ellie, what

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<v Speaker 2>first impression do you leave? Is it flirty? Awkward, funny, guarded?

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<v Speaker 2>What would you say?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, to be completely honest here, I am trying to

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<v Speaker 3>be like a self aware girlie, but I honestly feel

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<v Speaker 3>like I do maybe come off a little guarded, like

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<v Speaker 3>I don't talk a whole lot about like all my

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<v Speaker 3>endeavors and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, to be completely.

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<v Speaker 3>Honest, I don't even tell guys I date that I

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<v Speaker 3>have a podcast, like at all makes sense, Like I say, like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm working on a passion project. If they naturally come

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<v Speaker 3>across it, cool, great, But I don't like even open.

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<v Speaker 2>Up till you're like comfortable with the person and feel

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<v Speaker 2>like trusting them with that. I would probably do the same.

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<v Speaker 3>I just feel like with when it comes to this podcast,

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<v Speaker 3>like it's so like personal to me already that you

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<v Speaker 3>want to kind of lead I think at least with

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<v Speaker 3>an air of like mystery a little bit, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So if I were to be like yeah, or do

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<v Speaker 3>a podcast on side and then they like know all

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<v Speaker 3>about me, I'm like, they know your most embarrassing moments

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<v Speaker 3>before you go on a second day, Yes, it's so suspect,

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<v Speaker 3>or they'll know that I did it for the plot

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<v Speaker 3>earlier this.

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<v Speaker 2>Year, Like I just I just can't. I can't, I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>So anyway, I feel like I come across a little guarded,

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<v Speaker 3>but I feel like I do come across also like

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<v Speaker 3>super confident. I try to affirm that before I walk in,

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<v Speaker 3>but I also want to be like friendly and warm

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<v Speaker 3>and opening. So that's how I think I go across. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>how do you feel like you came across when you

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<v Speaker 3>were dating?

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<v Speaker 1>For me, I think it honestly depended on the comfort level,

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<v Speaker 1>like how much I talked to the person ahead of time,

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<v Speaker 1>and then if it was like someone that actually was

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<v Speaker 1>truly interested in or someone that I was kind of

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<v Speaker 1>just like you never know kind of a thing, you know, so,

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<v Speaker 1>but I would still say, like I probably am a gain,

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<v Speaker 1>like you just said, more guarded because I'm kind of

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<v Speaker 1>a shy, introverted person, So I'd say I'm like guarded.

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<v Speaker 1>But then as the date goes on, if I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>feeling it, I think I'll get a little more like

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<v Speaker 1>flirty and my sense of humor will start coming out.

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<v Speaker 1>But like you said, not like too much either though,

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<v Speaker 1>because you want to leave them with you want to

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<v Speaker 1>leave them guessing, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, do you start off flirty or do you wait

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<v Speaker 3>for them to be flirty first.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm probably a little more flirty than most

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<v Speaker 1>of the guys that I date.

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<v Speaker 2>Really, I used to get told all the time that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a flirt. Okay, I think you're a natural flirt.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I don't think i'd do it on purpose.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I just think that that's just how like my

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<v Speaker 1>personality and I'm kind of like friendly, and a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of times it just comes cross as flirty.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that makes sense. That makes sense because I would

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<v Speaker 3>say I'm friendly too, But I know, like when I

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, maybe it's not really flirtiness more like charisma.

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<v Speaker 3>So uh The next question I have is would you

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<v Speaker 2>Girl? Absolutely, I'm a freaking catch. Hell yeah, say it louder?

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<v Speaker 3>Have you met me? I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, that, and I feel like I do. My dayis

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<v Speaker 2>Hell yeah, I would take myself out on a second day. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, the next question I have is what is your

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<v Speaker 2>Are you more of a slow burn or are you

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<v Speaker 3>You know what's so funny is ideally, like my dream

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<v Speaker 3>where like Crimin the La Creme, Like, it's always just

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm like, hey, hurricane Nellie, come in. Yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like listen, you like me? I like you?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so I love it. What are we doing here? Like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>let's wrap an arrow, wrap it up, let's go delete

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<v Speaker 3>your app. I know it's the first date. I need

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<v Speaker 3>you to delete your app right now. And we're exclusive, right,

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<v Speaker 3>I know that's low key, little toxic or not not realistic.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's be real. So yeah, I'm an all in type

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<v Speaker 1>I think I would like to be a little more

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<v Speaker 1>of an all in girly. But I think I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>Side of things.

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<v Speaker 1>It takes me a while to get truly comfortable with someone,

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<v Speaker 1>to really trust somebody, like not necessarily like with intimacy,

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<v Speaker 1>like sometimes like all like you know, I'll kiss on

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<v Speaker 1>a first date or whatever and stuff like that, but

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<v Speaker 1>to actually like be like oh yeah, like the relationship

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm. I must more of a slow burn. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>good for you.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I think ideally everybody should be a slow burn.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I think that that's how it plays out the best.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is why I crash and burn so quickly

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<v Speaker 3>is because I like full send. Yeah, do you know

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<v Speaker 3>what I mean. I'm like, it's fine, everybody, It's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I said.

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<v Speaker 3>I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of sometimes wish that I was a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more that way, because I feel like doing that

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<v Speaker 1>also builds more passion, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Interesting, Yeah, yeah, they do say, what's that saying?

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<v Speaker 3>If like you go like you started off so quickly

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<v Speaker 3>and so quickly typed dil Oh, yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Here I am with like my track record of just

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<v Speaker 2>like a couple weeks.

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<v Speaker 3>And then it's done.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I didn't know this was gonna be therapy.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So my next question is what are your love languages?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that's a good one. You've done the test, right, Yeah, okay, cool,

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<v Speaker 2>So my love languages. So I kind of interpreted this

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<v Speaker 2>languages actually are? But then because the question is would

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<v Speaker 2>like my own love languages? Oh? Interesting? Okay, so I

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<v Speaker 2>have kind.

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<v Speaker 1>Of a couple answers. So my personal love languages are

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<v Speaker 1>words of affirmation and physical touch. I think it's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of partly my anxiety and overthinking that that that comes

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<v Speaker 1>from M. But then I started thinking, I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>the question, the main question we're trying to answer here

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<v Speaker 1>is would I date myself? And I'm like, well, so

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<v Speaker 1>dating myself that means that I would be receiving words

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<v Speaker 1>of affirmation and you know, physical touch, but also wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to receive that. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that would be like I feel like those are

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<v Speaker 1>the most reassuring love languages, and I think that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I want to receive.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I give. That's also really actually what I

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<v Speaker 3>I yes, okay, WHOA. I'm like kind of confused, but

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<v Speaker 3>bear with me because I'm like, am I just sleep deprived?

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I got like all over the place with

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, but okay, so those so your love language

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<v Speaker 3>is WHOA, awards of affirmation and physical touch. But what

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<v Speaker 3>you're saying is you want to receive that. I also

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<v Speaker 3>want I want to give it. That's what I give,

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<v Speaker 3>but I also want to receive that. Oh I hear you.

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<v Speaker 3>And just to like kind of answer this, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know if this helps or not, just kind of well,

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<v Speaker 3>it's not even supposed to be helpful. I think it's

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<v Speaker 3>just a commentary thing because I do talk about this

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<v Speaker 3>a lot with like, I guess the guys I date

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<v Speaker 3>and we if we eventually get into this conversation piece

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<v Speaker 3>or whatever. But with love languages, you're actually supposed to

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<v Speaker 3>give the love language that they have to them. If

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<v Speaker 3>that makes any sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that makes sense for sure. Okay, why am I?

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<v Speaker 3>Why am I trying to understand what I'm saying?

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<v Speaker 2>That meme where she's got the math problem.

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<v Speaker 3>You got, we cannot condense this to like thirty minutes.

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<v Speaker 3>But anyway, no, yeah, so basically that's ideally how it works.

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<v Speaker 3>Like yes, like say those are well, those are your

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<v Speaker 3>two like love languages. It's so natural for you to

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<v Speaker 3>do that for others because that's your natural love language.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's like even more so just like a mindful

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<v Speaker 3>aspect of like giving your partner their love language, which

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<v Speaker 3>might not be your love language, but you have to

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<v Speaker 3>give theirs theirs, if that makes any.

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<v Speaker 2>Sense, which it is kind of like a yeah trip sometimes.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Well, luckily I think just based on you know,

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<v Speaker 1>four years dating him, I think wills are pretty similar.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm.

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<v Speaker 3>Has he done the test?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't think he would be interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think heinely not like acts of service or

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<v Speaker 1>gift giving kind of a person, you know. So he's

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<v Speaker 1>definitely a physical touch person for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's good because and.

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<v Speaker 1>I think deep down he also really likes the word

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<v Speaker 1>like the admiration.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't think he would admit it though.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well I mean what guy would. But also it

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<v Speaker 3>is so nice when you share the same love language

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<v Speaker 3>because then it's so easy to give because it's so

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<v Speaker 3>natural for you because you like that yourself. Basically, so

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<v Speaker 3>my love languages are acts of service and quality time.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, that's a good one.

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<v Speaker 3>It is just it's so not I think it's because

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just always like solo dolo, and I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just a girl and I don't know how to

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<v Speaker 3>hang up a mirror or whatever or like curtain rods.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I'm like if somebody can just like come into

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<v Speaker 3>my life and be like, yeah, I got that, I'll

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<v Speaker 3>bring the groceries in, or I'll take out the trash,

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<v Speaker 3>or I'll help you hang this up.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I would just die the biggest death. I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, you're so nice, like yeah, thanks.

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<v Speaker 3>For helping me hang up my TV shit like that eyes, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>like I just I die. Like so those are the

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<v Speaker 3>things that are so like I just love that. And

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<v Speaker 3>then yeah, just quality time.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, my time isn't very important.

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<v Speaker 3>I still do very much value that, yes, yes, So

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<v Speaker 3>then I asked the guys, like, what's your love language.

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<v Speaker 3>I can see if I can, like, you know, kind

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<v Speaker 3>of be in that vibe or whatever. But anyway, interesting

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<v Speaker 3>huh so interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So my next question is what are your green flags?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even know? Sounds hard? Well okay, actually I lied.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh I don't even know. Well wait wait

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<v Speaker 3>my own green flags. It's not what I look for.

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<v Speaker 1>No wait, yeah, because if you're gonna date yourself, so

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<v Speaker 1>you have to answer this for yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Crab, you're what are my green flags? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Oof, you're funny, Oof, you're thoughtful. Oof?

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<v Speaker 3>Thanks girl, No way, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Was thinking communicator.

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<v Speaker 3>Well it's so funny because I was. I was literally

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<v Speaker 3>thinking about what are green flags for me and men?

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<v Speaker 3>So it's funny now that you're like, oh, like, oh shit,

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<v Speaker 3>what are my green flags? Yeah? No, I think I'm buried,

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<v Speaker 3>like like I don't like texting all day, but I

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<v Speaker 3>make it known, like like how we're going to communicate,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I guess I don't leave somebody hanging.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, you never do.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I'm always so clear whether I'm into you or not,

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm like, hey, I really like you or like

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<v Speaker 3>whatever whatever, or like yes i'll talk to you tomorrow

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<v Speaker 3>or yeah I'm a bit busy right now doing this.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll reach back out to you this evening. It's not dating,

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<v Speaker 3>just with friendships.

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<v Speaker 1>You're really good at doing that too, just being like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I just get sending quick texting. H I'm busy right now,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'll get to this in a couple hours.

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<v Speaker 2>That's amazing. A lot of people don't do that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I just I'm not. I'm just not a big texter.

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<v Speaker 3>And like I'll send voice memos. Like literally, Kelsey walked

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<v Speaker 3>in and I was like listening to a voice memo

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<v Speaker 3>and it was from my boss. He was like, he

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<v Speaker 3>was like, I've actually never done a voice memo before

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<v Speaker 3>because I sent him a voice memo. But I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not. Yeah, I just can't text. So just a

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<v Speaker 3>quick voice memo or just like a quick FYI hear

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<v Speaker 3>you go. I just don't ever want somebody to feel

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<v Speaker 3>unsure or insecure about talking to me. I want them

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<v Speaker 3>to feel so sure that I'm like in it. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>and maybe so that's my green flag. But maybe it

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<v Speaker 3>could be like I don't know, you know, some guys

427
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<v Speaker 3>like I mean, we can go on a tangent about

428
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<v Speaker 3>like the chase or whatever, but dude, I make.

429
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<v Speaker 1>It known, yeah, and make it known so you're good

430
00:21:48.319 --> 00:21:50.839
<v Speaker 1>with reassurance, I guess would be a better Maybe not communication.

431
00:21:50.920 --> 00:21:52.759
<v Speaker 1>You are still good to communicator, but maybe a better

432
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<v Speaker 1>way to word dies. You're really good with reassurance.

433
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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, I think that's what it is. I want

434
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<v Speaker 3>people to feel like safe and not have anxiety about

435
00:22:01.640 --> 00:22:05.680
<v Speaker 3>where we stand. Yes, yep, yes that's mine.

436
00:22:05.720 --> 00:22:06.240
<v Speaker 2>What about you?

437
00:22:07.880 --> 00:22:10.759
<v Speaker 1>So this was a hard one for me. I hate

438
00:22:10.799 --> 00:22:14.359
<v Speaker 1>like talking about myself, especially like in a positive way.

439
00:22:14.359 --> 00:22:14.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm terrible.

440
00:22:14.960 --> 00:22:17.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm my biggest bully type thing. You know, kind of well,

441
00:22:17.240 --> 00:22:23.240
<v Speaker 1>you're funny, Oh, you're cute. You're also good communicator. Q

442
00:22:23.599 --> 00:22:25.079
<v Speaker 1>is a green flag, but.

443
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<v Speaker 3>I think it is.

444
00:22:29.839 --> 00:22:31.799
<v Speaker 2>I think mine would be like, I.

445
00:22:31.640 --> 00:22:36.279
<v Speaker 1>Think I'm very trustworthy and loyal m I would say

446
00:22:36.319 --> 00:22:38.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm probably kind of like a Golden Retriever friend or

447
00:22:38.880 --> 00:22:41.720
<v Speaker 1>like you know, yes, where people always say the Golden

448
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<v Speaker 1>Retriever boyfriend, I'm probably that girlfriend cue I also am

449
00:22:47.880 --> 00:22:52.039
<v Speaker 1>like For me, I think it's important to still have

450
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<v Speaker 1>like and this could maybe not be a green flag

451
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<v Speaker 1>to everybody.

452
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<v Speaker 2>To me, I think it is, but I still value having.

453
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<v Speaker 1>Time with my own friends and letting my significant other

454
00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:02.799
<v Speaker 1>have time with their own friends.

455
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<v Speaker 3>With separate license.

456
00:23:04.400 --> 00:23:05.079
<v Speaker 2>That's so good.

457
00:23:05.160 --> 00:23:06.920
<v Speaker 1>We can still mix and mingle here and there. But

458
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<v Speaker 1>I still do value that and think that's great. I

459
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<v Speaker 1>don't need to be on top of this person twenty

460
00:23:12.200 --> 00:23:18.279
<v Speaker 1>for seven, you know, So there's that. I also think

461
00:23:18.319 --> 00:23:20.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm thoughtful if I'm thoughtful.

462
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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I agree, you are thoughtful, even just like I

463
00:23:25.119 --> 00:23:28.119
<v Speaker 3>think I'm thoughtful, even just like I think sometimes you

464
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<v Speaker 3>can correlate like relationships with friendships too, if that makes

465
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<v Speaker 3>anything very much. So I feel like, just like you're

466
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<v Speaker 3>so thoughtful and you're gift giving too, I'm like, oh

467
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<v Speaker 3>my gosh, how.

468
00:23:36.799 --> 00:23:39.039
<v Speaker 2>Would you How'd you know I love this pickball?

469
00:23:39.079 --> 00:23:41.279
<v Speaker 3>How or these like Tero card Jane Austin, you know

470
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<v Speaker 3>what I mean, Like you just know something?

471
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<v Speaker 1>So like the funny that kind of goes back to

472
00:23:46.079 --> 00:23:50.759
<v Speaker 1>freaking like the love languages. It's not necessarily my love language,

473
00:23:50.799 --> 00:23:52.480
<v Speaker 1>but I love giving gifts.

474
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<v Speaker 3>We are like the fucking same person.

475
00:23:54.759 --> 00:23:57.240
<v Speaker 2>I shit, it's about getting gifts, but I love to

476
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<v Speaker 2>give them.

477
00:23:57.880 --> 00:24:00.720
<v Speaker 3>I literally had the longest conversation with a girlfriend of

478
00:24:00.720 --> 00:24:03.279
<v Speaker 3>mine the other day and I'm like, this is so crazy,

479
00:24:03.319 --> 00:24:06.559
<v Speaker 3>but I'm a gift giver to people, but I do

480
00:24:06.599 --> 00:24:08.839
<v Speaker 3>not like receiving. It gets so awkward, Like I'm like,

481
00:24:08.839 --> 00:24:10.839
<v Speaker 3>oh my gosh, thanks you didn't really have to here,

482
00:24:10.920 --> 00:24:13.960
<v Speaker 3>let me bend you fifteen dollars? Yeah, for real. But

483
00:24:14.000 --> 00:24:15.759
<v Speaker 3>they're like, but they're like, bro, that was that was

484
00:24:15.799 --> 00:24:19.039
<v Speaker 3>a gift, like you know, and I'm like, wait, I'm awkward.

485
00:24:19.200 --> 00:24:21.720
<v Speaker 3>I don't know how to receive it, you know. But

486
00:24:21.759 --> 00:24:23.640
<v Speaker 3>for me, I'm like, i go, like, I do the

487
00:24:23.680 --> 00:24:26.759
<v Speaker 3>fucking most. I'm like, here's like a bow with it.

488
00:24:27.200 --> 00:24:30.480
<v Speaker 3>Like then you open the gift and it like there's confetti,

489
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<v Speaker 3>you know.

490
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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

491
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<v Speaker 1>Right, maybe that goes along with our like event hosting

492
00:24:36.799 --> 00:24:37.680
<v Speaker 1>we like to do too.

493
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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, I don't know what Isn't that so funny?

494
00:24:40.440 --> 00:24:43.039
<v Speaker 1>I even think that translates to that is when we host,

495
00:24:43.480 --> 00:24:45.799
<v Speaker 1>we're also very thoughtful there.

496
00:24:46.200 --> 00:24:48.319
<v Speaker 2>Yes, we want to make sure everyone's comfortable and having

497
00:24:48.319 --> 00:24:52.279
<v Speaker 2>a good all time. Yes, down to the damn decorations.

498
00:24:51.359 --> 00:24:55.319
<v Speaker 3>Down to the freaking decorations and the drink options.

499
00:24:54.960 --> 00:24:59.519
<v Speaker 1>Everybody, and how we arranged our table space exactly?

500
00:25:00.200 --> 00:25:04.519
<v Speaker 3>Are you literally we literally are the same person. It's

501
00:25:04.599 --> 00:25:09.880
<v Speaker 3>fucking crazy. Okay, Okay, here's here's a nitty gritty one.

502
00:25:10.480 --> 00:25:15.920
<v Speaker 2>What are your red flags? So going opposite? Yes, so.

503
00:25:17.799 --> 00:25:21.079
<v Speaker 1>These might kind of go together a little bit, But

504
00:25:21.720 --> 00:25:28.119
<v Speaker 1>I overthink everything. I'm an overthinker, and I'll like stew

505
00:25:28.160 --> 00:25:32.759
<v Speaker 1>in it even if like nothing's happening. So I maybe

506
00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:35.599
<v Speaker 1>not be the best communicator like you said that you

507
00:25:35.599 --> 00:25:37.160
<v Speaker 1>thought that was one of my green flags. I don't

508
00:25:37.200 --> 00:25:39.440
<v Speaker 1>think I am, just because I ever think everything, and

509
00:25:39.480 --> 00:25:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I will just do in it instead of talking it

510
00:25:41.200 --> 00:25:45.440
<v Speaker 1>through because part of me knows I'm overthinking it, but

511
00:25:45.480 --> 00:25:49.599
<v Speaker 1>then it kind of changes my mood. But then to

512
00:25:49.640 --> 00:25:55.519
<v Speaker 1>go along with that, I also I am the worst

513
00:25:56.240 --> 00:25:59.440
<v Speaker 1>at saying I'm fine when I'm clearly the fuck not flying.

514
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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, So yeah, we love a self aware queen though,

515
00:26:07.400 --> 00:26:09.559
<v Speaker 3>and I'll try, like I try and be a little

516
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<v Speaker 3>bit better because I will just say I'm fine, no,

517
00:26:11.319 --> 00:26:13.039
<v Speaker 3>it's fine, whatever, you know.

518
00:26:13.200 --> 00:26:17.720
<v Speaker 2>But then I'm like, I'm clear like clearly I'm not fine.

519
00:26:18.039 --> 00:26:20.200
<v Speaker 1>So finally, like eventually I'll just be like, no, I'm

520
00:26:20.279 --> 00:26:22.559
<v Speaker 1>just blah blah blah, I'm overthinking, you know. I try

521
00:26:23.519 --> 00:26:27.000
<v Speaker 1>and be better at that. Yeah, but no, I'm the queen.

522
00:26:27.039 --> 00:26:28.799
<v Speaker 1>If I'm fine or it's fine.

523
00:26:29.680 --> 00:26:30.119
<v Speaker 2>I hear you.

524
00:26:31.319 --> 00:26:34.000
<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, this kind of sounds like a job

525
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<v Speaker 3>interview question only because I'm gonna say it and then

526
00:26:37.160 --> 00:26:38.839
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna be like, but I'm working on it. And

527
00:26:38.839 --> 00:26:40.599
<v Speaker 3>this is how I'm working on it. Like have you

528
00:26:40.640 --> 00:26:42.599
<v Speaker 3>ever like you know, the job interviews where it's like,

529
00:26:42.759 --> 00:26:45.480
<v Speaker 3>what's your weakness when you're like the greatest weakness, yeah,

530
00:26:45.480 --> 00:26:47.160
<v Speaker 3>and you're like and you say it and then you're like,

531
00:26:47.400 --> 00:26:50.039
<v Speaker 3>but this is like the resolution for you to make

532
00:26:50.079 --> 00:26:53.160
<v Speaker 3>it a positive you doo like as positive spin to it.

533
00:26:53.599 --> 00:26:55.960
<v Speaker 3>That's what I'm doing right now. So one of my

534
00:26:56.000 --> 00:26:59.440
<v Speaker 3>red flags for sure. For sure, it's been like this

535
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<v Speaker 3>like for you years again self aware queen overware hopefully,

536
00:27:05.680 --> 00:27:08.799
<v Speaker 3>But I'm so quick to cut people like but a

537
00:27:08.880 --> 00:27:10.920
<v Speaker 3>boom yep, you know what I mean, Like one wrong

538
00:27:11.000 --> 00:27:17.880
<v Speaker 3>move yep, Like oh so you didn't text me back, okay,

539
00:27:18.079 --> 00:27:22.920
<v Speaker 3>done zo? Oh so you said that, Dunzo. Like, I'm

540
00:27:22.960 --> 00:27:27.680
<v Speaker 3>just so quick. And I've learned this year that I

541
00:27:27.720 --> 00:27:30.160
<v Speaker 3>need to have conversations prior to cutting something off.

542
00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:32.799
<v Speaker 2>And you have been doing a lot better. Yes, so

543
00:27:32.920 --> 00:27:35.359
<v Speaker 2>you are correct, Yes, you are working on it.

544
00:27:35.400 --> 00:27:37.960
<v Speaker 3>I am working on it, damn it. So I'm now

545
00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:38.759
<v Speaker 3>having conversations.

546
00:27:38.799 --> 00:27:41.480
<v Speaker 1>There's been a couple of times where it did it

547
00:27:41.559 --> 00:27:42.599
<v Speaker 1>make the situation worse?

548
00:27:42.720 --> 00:27:46.400
<v Speaker 3>Yes it did, And we're also we're working through that.

549
00:27:47.240 --> 00:27:48.720
<v Speaker 3>You need to find the balance.

550
00:27:49.440 --> 00:27:50.880
<v Speaker 2>Yes, we are working through it all.

551
00:27:52.359 --> 00:27:52.599
<v Speaker 1>But no.

552
00:27:52.759 --> 00:27:55.720
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so I'm just trying to be more mindful of

553
00:27:55.799 --> 00:27:59.839
<v Speaker 3>like having these conversations before cutting guys off, because like

554
00:27:59.880 --> 00:28:02.119
<v Speaker 3>I've said before, it's almost like they were taking a

555
00:28:02.160 --> 00:28:04.000
<v Speaker 3>test they didn't know they were taking and they filled

556
00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:07.279
<v Speaker 3>it and they're like what the fuck? And I'm like, okay, okay, Ellie,

557
00:28:07.359 --> 00:28:09.359
<v Speaker 3>how about you have a conversation with them versus like, hey,

558
00:28:09.519 --> 00:28:11.079
<v Speaker 3>when you did this, it made me feel this way.

559
00:28:11.119 --> 00:28:14.480
<v Speaker 3>How do you so working on that? But definitely was

560
00:28:14.519 --> 00:28:17.599
<v Speaker 3>a red flag on my part. Another thing I would

561
00:28:17.599 --> 00:28:20.640
<v Speaker 3>say too, And it's weird because it's it's definitely a

562
00:28:20.680 --> 00:28:23.799
<v Speaker 3>red flag, and but they wouldn't see it as a

563
00:28:23.839 --> 00:28:26.839
<v Speaker 3>red flag, but it might morph into a red flag

564
00:28:26.880 --> 00:28:29.240
<v Speaker 3>if it kept going that way, because eventually I'd be

565
00:28:29.279 --> 00:28:32.559
<v Speaker 3>over it, if that makes any sense. But I'm too

566
00:28:32.640 --> 00:28:35.720
<v Speaker 3>much of like a people pleaser in the beginning, so

567
00:28:35.799 --> 00:28:39.079
<v Speaker 3>I will literally bend to their will like on anything. Yeah,

568
00:28:39.119 --> 00:28:42.440
<v Speaker 3>They're like, actually, can we just like like or do

569
00:28:43.079 --> 00:28:45.839
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, yeah, totally, I'm like super easy, chill girl,

570
00:28:46.319 --> 00:28:48.640
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean. And then I'm like, no,

571
00:28:48.799 --> 00:28:50.960
<v Speaker 3>I have to set my standards and be like, no,

572
00:28:51.079 --> 00:28:53.680
<v Speaker 3>that's that's not okay, that's not a quick that's okay.

573
00:28:53.680 --> 00:28:56.720
<v Speaker 1>You're allowed to have boundaries exactly. I think that drives

574
00:28:56.720 --> 00:28:57.960
<v Speaker 1>them away. Then that's their problem.

575
00:28:58.119 --> 00:29:00.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, I agree, So I think that's kind of

576
00:29:01.200 --> 00:29:03.359
<v Speaker 3>my I mean, for them. I guess it would be

577
00:29:03.400 --> 00:29:05.279
<v Speaker 3>cool because I'd be like, yeah, I'm getting out anything

578
00:29:05.279 --> 00:29:08.400
<v Speaker 3>I want, you know, but really I might be over

579
00:29:08.559 --> 00:29:12.720
<v Speaker 3>in the future and so oh yeah, for sure. Anyhom okay.

580
00:29:12.759 --> 00:29:15.319
<v Speaker 1>So the next question is do you think you would

581
00:29:15.359 --> 00:29:18.480
<v Speaker 1>drive yourself nuts? Or would you feel balanced dating yourself?

582
00:29:20.079 --> 00:29:24.079
<v Speaker 3>Would I feel balanced dating myself? Sorry, I'm trying to

583
00:29:24.160 --> 00:29:25.880
<v Speaker 3>understand that question, like would.

584
00:29:27.279 --> 00:29:30.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't I guess maybe hmm, if you were dating yourself,

585
00:29:31.400 --> 00:29:33.519
<v Speaker 1>would you be annoyed in doing that I'm going to

586
00:29:33.599 --> 00:29:36.079
<v Speaker 1>cut this person out? Or do you think it would

587
00:29:36.079 --> 00:29:39.519
<v Speaker 1>feel good and like home kind of a thing? Like?

588
00:29:39.960 --> 00:29:49.640
<v Speaker 3>Or is the question like am I exuding some type

589
00:29:49.680 --> 00:29:54.039
<v Speaker 3>of energy to where like I feel balanced or nuts?

590
00:29:54.119 --> 00:29:56.640
<v Speaker 3>Based off I don't know. I feel like you can

591
00:29:56.680 --> 00:29:59.799
<v Speaker 3>take the question different ways, right.

592
00:30:01.480 --> 00:30:04.519
<v Speaker 1>I just interpreted it as like just like thinking back

593
00:30:04.559 --> 00:30:09.319
<v Speaker 1>on like like past relationships, just being like.

594
00:30:11.519 --> 00:30:13.839
<v Speaker 2>There were some that like they were.

595
00:30:13.759 --> 00:30:15.839
<v Speaker 1>Super toxic and it did drive me nuts, like it

596
00:30:15.920 --> 00:30:17.720
<v Speaker 1>wasn't like symbotica.

597
00:30:18.559 --> 00:30:20.720
<v Speaker 2>But then I've had obviously.

598
00:30:20.319 --> 00:30:25.240
<v Speaker 1>With Will, it's pretty well balanced. That makes sense emotionally

599
00:30:25.279 --> 00:30:26.480
<v Speaker 1>physically everything.

600
00:30:26.599 --> 00:30:29.839
<v Speaker 3>I hear you, I hear you. Yeah, I mean fuck,

601
00:30:29.960 --> 00:30:32.720
<v Speaker 3>I think I would like to say balance, right. I

602
00:30:32.759 --> 00:30:38.880
<v Speaker 3>don't think I would drive anybody nuts, you know, Yeah,

603
00:30:38.960 --> 00:30:42.480
<v Speaker 3>But I guess, to be completely honest, I honestly just

604
00:30:42.519 --> 00:30:45.799
<v Speaker 3>feel like I literally have not found my cup of tea,

605
00:30:46.240 --> 00:30:48.039
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean? Like, I honestly think that's

606
00:30:48.039 --> 00:30:50.519
<v Speaker 3>what it is, because if you think back on like

607
00:30:50.680 --> 00:30:54.240
<v Speaker 3>just even just this past year, I've just either not

608
00:30:54.359 --> 00:30:56.799
<v Speaker 3>been into it because I'm like, you're just we're just

609
00:30:56.839 --> 00:31:00.480
<v Speaker 3>not vibing and that's okay, see you later, or they're

610
00:31:00.519 --> 00:31:04.440
<v Speaker 3>like the biggest fucking red flags ever, or they completely

611
00:31:04.599 --> 00:31:07.359
<v Speaker 3>just fall off the face of the earth. Like I

612
00:31:07.480 --> 00:31:12.559
<v Speaker 3>honestly don't think there's like this like big crazy blow

613
00:31:12.640 --> 00:31:14.200
<v Speaker 3>up or anything to make it.

614
00:31:14.119 --> 00:31:18.119
<v Speaker 1>But they were still all in their own way emotionally taxing. Yes, yes,

615
00:31:18.240 --> 00:31:22.960
<v Speaker 1>you definitely did not feel balance yep. So anyhow, that's good.

616
00:31:23.160 --> 00:31:23.680
<v Speaker 2>What about you?

617
00:31:24.400 --> 00:31:27.839
<v Speaker 1>I honestly think that if I was dating myself, I

618
00:31:27.920 --> 00:31:30.720
<v Speaker 1>think i'd feel very balanced.

619
00:31:31.440 --> 00:31:32.200
<v Speaker 2>I think a big.

620
00:31:32.079 --> 00:31:34.319
<v Speaker 1>Reason for that is is just again going back to

621
00:31:35.559 --> 00:31:38.400
<v Speaker 1>like the love languages and my like green flags and everything,

622
00:31:38.920 --> 00:31:41.400
<v Speaker 1>the ones that I give out. So then you know,

623
00:31:41.400 --> 00:31:43.279
<v Speaker 1>if I dating myself, I'd also be receiving them back.

624
00:31:44.400 --> 00:31:46.640
<v Speaker 1>It's like what, you know, what I'd want. They're the

625
00:31:46.680 --> 00:31:50.880
<v Speaker 1>things I value in a relationship. So I think it'd

626
00:31:50.880 --> 00:31:53.119
<v Speaker 1>be pretty dwn balanced. I think I might drive myself

627
00:31:53.160 --> 00:31:55.000
<v Speaker 1>a little bit nuts with the overthinking.

628
00:31:57.720 --> 00:32:00.000
<v Speaker 2>It would just be two people overthinking all the time.

629
00:32:00.440 --> 00:32:04.039
<v Speaker 1>But maybe we wouldn't because there'd be words of affirmation

630
00:32:04.200 --> 00:32:04.799
<v Speaker 1>all the time.

631
00:32:04.960 --> 00:32:07.079
<v Speaker 3>There you go, so who knows?

632
00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:07.799
<v Speaker 2>There you go?

633
00:32:09.079 --> 00:32:15.039
<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, the last burning question, Kelsey, would you date yourself?

634
00:32:15.640 --> 00:32:19.400
<v Speaker 2>Yes? Yes, I would date yourself.

635
00:32:19.559 --> 00:32:23.039
<v Speaker 3>I would, yay, I would. I actually do date myself?

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<v Speaker 3>Damn it.

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<v Speaker 1>I know we do solo daters sometimes, you know, I do. Again, though,

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<v Speaker 1>I love spending time with just by myself. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>love being alone sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't it such a vibe? Vibe?

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<v Speaker 3>It is such a vibe.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, But this where you kept saying, like we're very

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<v Speaker 1>similar people. It would be interesting to hear other people's perspectives,

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<v Speaker 1>because I know a lot of people that hate spending

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<v Speaker 1>time alone be interesting. To get their perspective, we should

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<v Speaker 1>do like a poll of like yes no, would you

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<v Speaker 1>date yourself yes no? Or like would you drive yes?

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<v Speaker 1>And I love Kennessee where the majority yes. After this goes.

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<v Speaker 2>Live this weekend, Well, we'll do some poles funsie, Fine,

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<v Speaker 2>these were really good questions. They were good questions. Heck, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>look at us, go look at us.

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<v Speaker 3>Just get into the nitty gritty of it all. And

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<v Speaker 3>honestly we could have gone on tangents, but we could.

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<v Speaker 3>We were We were good at like like this.

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<v Speaker 1>Our last episode was over an hours. Really, this one

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<v Speaker 1>has to hit the mark. Yeah, we gotta, we gotta

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<v Speaker 1>make it just long enough for your hot girl bocks yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>With wine, yeah, exact hand.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways, Well, thanks for thanks, guys, this was fun.

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<v Speaker 3>See yea bye. All right e bessies, that's it for

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<v Speaker 3>this episode of the Wine and Wine Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't leave us hanging, like, subscribe and follow or else

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<v Speaker 1>we'll drink all the wine without you kidding.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of and hey, tell a friend they need be

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<v Speaker 2>besties too.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye