Speaker 1: Welcome to the Wine and Wine Podcast. I'm Kelsey and
Speaker 1: I'm Ellie. This is your dose of friendship, fun and
Speaker 1: figuring life out together. Let's be e besties because life
Speaker 1: is messy, Wine helps.
Speaker 2: And whining is optional.
Speaker 1: Hi besties, Hey guys, welcome back.
Speaker 3: Another episode, another topic. Yeah, this one's going to be
Speaker 3: a fun juicy One's a little juicy.
Speaker 2: We're back with a hot take.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it was so funny. Right before we
Speaker 3: started recording, I was like, Kelso, I cannot go on
Speaker 3: a tangent, So everybody pray for me. Buckle up, buckle
Speaker 3: up because I'm not going on a tangent. Could be
Speaker 3: a tangent topic, but we cannot do it. We are
Speaker 3: holding ourselves to it this time. Yes, and maybe if
Speaker 3: we want to expand, we'll bring up this topic again
Speaker 3: another day.
Speaker 1: I feel like we could go on and on about it.
Speaker 1: I feel like there's so many like, there's so many layers.
Speaker 2: Yes, we can dive into them so much so it'll
Speaker 2: be fies. But first, but first look at any one.
Speaker 3: Let's introduce the one we're mixing it up with a rose.
Speaker 3: Shout out to Sarah. She brought this randomly one day
Speaker 3: to my house and was like, yeah, muse it for
Speaker 3: whatever you want.
Speaker 2: So it's the coolest bottle. It's not a wine bottle.
Speaker 2: It's like it looks kind of like a liquor bottle exactly,
Speaker 2: like or I don't know, like a ginormous ass perfume bottle.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, you can either put your perfume in hair
Speaker 3: or your whiskey shit perfume either are Yeah, just sniff
Speaker 3: before you sip, you know, and then you'll know what exactly. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's called Rosetta and it's from Portugal, and uh, this
Speaker 3: rose has an appealing bouquet of floral and RedBerry notes.
Speaker 3: It is well balanced, soft and fruit forward, delicious as
Speaker 3: an Oh my gosh, I don't know how to say
Speaker 3: this word. Kilsop are appery teeth upper tiff.
Speaker 2: I think, what is that like? Appetizer kind of? I
Speaker 2: literally have not.
Speaker 1: Okay, we've had come up before, so maybe that's our
Speaker 1: next one one.
Speaker 2: And perfect with salad and shellfish. That's so random. I
Speaker 2: do love me some shellfish.
Speaker 3: Oh Okay, I'm not a big fan of seafood, but
Speaker 3: I'd get down with salad.
Speaker 2: I freaking love seafood.
Speaker 3: I to get down with it. Okay, Well, hopefully this
Speaker 3: pairs well with that. Okay, cheers, clink clink, swirling sniff.
Speaker 3: Speaking of swirling, Oh, we'll get to that in a bit.
Speaker 3: It smells good.
Speaker 2: It smells really good. Let's see.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's refreshing.
Speaker 2: It's so freaking good.
Speaker 3: That is so shout out Sarah.
Speaker 2: That is like one of the smoothest wines we've had.
Speaker 3: You know what's so funny is this girl's probably a
Speaker 3: bougie beach. I didn't even look at the price ring.
Speaker 2: Probably a fancy ass.
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is probably something that we have yet to
Speaker 3: pick up because we wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that is so good. Let's see. Not
Speaker 2: me googling the price as we speak.
Speaker 3: Oh, I don't even know. I don't even know. U
Speaker 3: should I then just put like price let's see. Sorry,
Speaker 3: everybody bear with me. Some are saying it's around tennis bucks.
Speaker 2: I just really.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe if I go to like, I don't know,
Speaker 3: you guys help, Why don't I know how to look
Speaker 3: for like a real quick Google search of the price of.
Speaker 2: A wine, maybe I got.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'll just click like, yeah, I'm getting anywhere from
Speaker 1: six dollars from Trader Joe's to twenty seven dollars.
Speaker 2: No shit, yay, this is so it can honestly go anyway.
Speaker 3: This is the I'm here for it.
Speaker 2: You know what.
Speaker 3: She did just get back from Colorado like a month
Speaker 3: ago or so two, and I think maybe she got
Speaker 3: it from Trader Joe's now that I think about it.
Speaker 2: We don't have wine. That's why we can't have nice
Speaker 2: things boooo.
Speaker 1: Anyway, So I honestly would give that a solid four
Speaker 1: seven five.
Speaker 2: You know what, Yes, honestly, I could even go a five.
Speaker 3: I honestly, it is so smooth.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna give it. I'm gonna give it a four.
Speaker 3: To five okay, just because like I feel like, I
Speaker 3: don't know, I don't know if this is me being pessimistic,
Speaker 3: but I'm like, I can't ever can't do the five.
Speaker 3: I can't do a five.
Speaker 2: I don't know why.
Speaker 1: Let's do four seven five, Okay, let's do it. But
Speaker 1: this was really good, really good, refreshing and everything. And
Speaker 1: for me to say that with a rose, I love it.
Speaker 1: Your girl is learning.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 2: Okay, what is our wine? One on one today, Ellie?
Speaker 3: Okay, so buckle in and I will talk to you
Speaker 3: real quickly for like a minute about the wine. One
Speaker 3: oh one. So we are talking swirling your wine. So
Speaker 3: swirling your wine isn't just for show. It actually helps
Speaker 3: you smell it better. When you swirl wine in your glass,
Speaker 3: you're increasing its exposure to oxygen, which releases aromatic compounds.
Speaker 3: That's why, Okay, you gotta help me with this word.
Speaker 3: Somaliersmlier Somalier, I don't know, writch.
Speaker 2: He I assume.
Speaker 3: Always give it a little spin. It's like waking the
Speaker 3: wine up so you can experience its full personality, which
Speaker 3: I guess makes sense. Right, You're swirling and then you
Speaker 3: can like because they always say that kind of like.
Speaker 2: Basically what like an air raider would do, like giving
Speaker 2: it the air and the movement.
Speaker 3: Yes, nice, That's why we always are like swirling sniffs,
Speaker 3: swirling sniffs, swirl and swirl, So just swirl before you yeah,
Speaker 3: a little little swirly squirrel. Well that and I feel
Speaker 3: like incorporating all your senses to like something that you're
Speaker 3: indulging in or whatever I.
Speaker 2: Think is always good thing. I agree, kind of like
Speaker 2: when I like sniff a load of lazogna before.
Speaker 1: I eat it, you know, you like act like you
Speaker 1: had a load of lasogna in your hand.
Speaker 2: Yes, because.
Speaker 3: You've got to sniff the meat and the cheese in there.
Speaker 3: You know, I could really go for man, not me
Speaker 3: googling like protein packed lasangna. Right, so I'm gonna buy
Speaker 3: some like pasta that's made out of protein. Anyway. Whoa,
Speaker 3: that's a tangent. Okay, but okay, whoa getting back into this. Okay,
Speaker 3: So we are talking today about would you date yourself?
Speaker 3: We've all looked at each other. We're like, okay, would
Speaker 3: you date yourself?
Speaker 2: Okay, let's talk about it.
Speaker 3: Let's dive in, Okay, Okay, So we have a couple questions.
Speaker 2: Yes, so we don't go off on tangents.
Speaker 1: We kind of made us an outline, so we'll see
Speaker 1: give us some criteria.
Speaker 3: Yeah, just a little like boom boom boom boom boom
Speaker 3: exactly exactly. And while you're listening and you hear the
Speaker 3: question being asked, like just answer it in your head,
Speaker 3: I guess.
Speaker 2: Or like do you agree do you disagree with?
Speaker 1: Like maybe we can do like a little questionnaire on
Speaker 1: our stories.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and people can answer yeah totally totally and not
Speaker 3: necessarily like agree or disagree with.
Speaker 2: Like, what is your opinion?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I guess my friends who
Speaker 3: listen to me know me better than I know myself,
Speaker 3: so you could disagree or agree with what I have
Speaker 3: to say about myself.
Speaker 2: He is a load of shit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, why do you lie on that?
Speaker 2: Why did you just lie? Why did you say you
Speaker 2: were perfect?
Speaker 3: But the toxic one in the relationship is.
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: Well anyway, anyho.
Speaker 2: Back on track, back on track. Okay, So Ellie, what
Speaker 2: first impression do you leave? Is it flirty? Awkward, funny, guarded?
Speaker 2: What would you say?
Speaker 3: Okay, to be completely honest here, I am trying to
Speaker 3: be like a self aware girlie, but I honestly feel
Speaker 3: like I do maybe come off a little guarded, like
Speaker 3: I don't talk a whole lot about like all my
Speaker 3: endeavors and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: Like, to be completely.
Speaker 3: Honest, I don't even tell guys I date that I
Speaker 3: have a podcast, like at all makes sense, Like I say, like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm working on a passion project. If they naturally come
Speaker 3: across it, cool, great, But I don't like even open.
Speaker 2: Up till you're like comfortable with the person and feel
Speaker 2: like trusting them with that. I would probably do the same.
Speaker 3: I just feel like with when it comes to this podcast,
Speaker 3: like it's so like personal to me already that you
Speaker 3: want to kind of lead I think at least with
Speaker 3: an air of like mystery a little bit, you know.
Speaker 3: So if I were to be like yeah, or do
Speaker 3: a podcast on side and then they like know all
Speaker 3: about me, I'm like, they know your most embarrassing moments
Speaker 3: before you go on a second day, Yes, it's so suspect,
Speaker 3: or they'll know that I did it for the plot
Speaker 3: earlier this.
Speaker 2: Year, Like I just I just can't. I can't, I can't.
Speaker 3: So anyway, I feel like I come across a little guarded,
Speaker 3: but I feel like I do come across also like
Speaker 3: super confident. I try to affirm that before I walk in,
Speaker 3: but I also want to be like friendly and warm
Speaker 3: and opening. So that's how I think I go across. Yeah,
Speaker 3: how do you feel like you came across when you
Speaker 3: were dating?
Speaker 1: For me, I think it honestly depended on the comfort level,
Speaker 1: like how much I talked to the person ahead of time,
Speaker 1: and then if it was like someone that actually was
Speaker 1: truly interested in or someone that I was kind of
Speaker 1: just like you never know kind of a thing, you know, so,
Speaker 1: but I would still say, like I probably am a gain,
Speaker 1: like you just said, more guarded because I'm kind of
Speaker 1: a shy, introverted person, So I'd say I'm like guarded.
Speaker 1: But then as the date goes on, if I'm like
Speaker 1: feeling it, I think I'll get a little more like
Speaker 1: flirty and my sense of humor will start coming out.
Speaker 1: But like you said, not like too much either though,
Speaker 1: because you want to leave them with you want to
Speaker 1: leave them guessing, you.
Speaker 3: Know, do you start off flirty or do you wait
Speaker 3: for them to be flirty first.
Speaker 1: I think I'm probably a little more flirty than most
Speaker 1: of the guys that I date.
Speaker 2: Really, I used to get told all the time that
Speaker 2: I'm a flirt. Okay, I think you're a natural flirt.
Speaker 2: Maybe I don't think i'd do it on purpose.
Speaker 1: Oh, I just think that that's just how like my
Speaker 1: personality and I'm kind of like friendly, and a lot
Speaker 1: of times it just comes cross as flirty.
Speaker 3: Okay, that makes sense. That makes sense because I would
Speaker 3: say I'm friendly too, But I know, like when I
Speaker 3: see a guy who's like a potential, I get awkward
Speaker 3: and shy and introvert, So all that to say is
Speaker 3: I feel like I don't lead with flirty, Like I
Speaker 3: wait to see if they're like flirty, and then I
Speaker 3: like try to play with it.
Speaker 2: That's cool, that's interesting.
Speaker 1: I think it just depends on my comfort level. And
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe it's not really flirtiness more like charisma.
Speaker 3: Okay, charming charming, Yeah, we got a charming We had
Speaker 3: a charmer in the house. I don't know, love it okay,
Speaker 3: So uh The next question I have is would you
Speaker 3: want to go on a second date with yourself?
Speaker 2: Girl? Absolutely, I'm a freaking catch. Hell yeah, say it louder?
Speaker 3: Have you met me? I mean?
Speaker 2: But yes, I would go on a second date with myself? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I mean who who are you? Who wouldn't go on
Speaker 3: a second date with your kelso a But also b
Speaker 3: if you if you asked yourself this question, you I
Speaker 3: would hope that everybody would say yes to themselves.
Speaker 2: I would too.
Speaker 1: If you can't, if you don't like then any of yourself,
Speaker 1: then yeah, yeah, I don't know, and you need to
Speaker 1: do some reflecting.
Speaker 3: Yes, that, and I feel like I do. My dayis
Speaker 3: like I feel like first impressions are key, So I
Speaker 3: feel like I really do put like my full good
Speaker 3: self out there.
Speaker 2: Hell yeah, I would take myself out on a second day. Yes,
Speaker 2: I would. I would. I would take you on a
Speaker 2: second date. Thanks. Girls.
Speaker 1: Okay, the next question I have is what is your
Speaker 1: dating style?
Speaker 2: Are you more of a slow burn or are you
Speaker 2: all in?
Speaker 3: You know what's so funny is ideally, like my dream
Speaker 3: life would be that I would be a slow burn
Speaker 3: girly only because I'm obsessed with Jane Austen And that's
Speaker 3: where like Crimin the La Creme, Like, it's always just
Speaker 3: a slow burn. It's a look, it's a little touch,
Speaker 3: it's a note, you know. So I dream of being
Speaker 3: a slow burn girly, but really I'm a full Like yeah,
Speaker 3: just jump right in.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, hey, hurricane Nellie, come in. Yeah yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm like listen, you like me? I like you?
Speaker 3: Okay, so I love it. What are we doing here? Like, well,
Speaker 3: let's wrap an arrow, wrap it up, let's go delete
Speaker 3: your app. I know it's the first date. I need
Speaker 3: you to delete your app right now. And we're exclusive, right,
Speaker 3: I know that's low key, little toxic or not not realistic.
Speaker 3: Let's be real. So yeah, I'm an all in type
Speaker 3: of girl. See I'm opposite.
Speaker 1: I think I would like to be a little more
Speaker 1: of an all in girly. But I think I'm a
Speaker 1: little more on the slow burn.
Speaker 2: Side of things.
Speaker 1: It takes me a while to get truly comfortable with someone,
Speaker 1: to really trust somebody, like not necessarily like with intimacy,
Speaker 1: like sometimes like all like you know, I'll kiss on
Speaker 1: a first date or whatever and stuff like that, but
Speaker 1: to actually like be like oh yeah, like the relationship
Speaker 1: side of it.
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm. I must more of a slow burn. Okay,
Speaker 2: good for you.
Speaker 3: I think I think ideally everybody should be a slow burn.
Speaker 3: Like I think that that's how it plays out the best.
Speaker 3: But this is why I crash and burn so quickly
Speaker 3: is because I like full send. Yeah, do you know
Speaker 3: what I mean. I'm like, it's fine, everybody, It's fine.
Speaker 1: I said.
Speaker 3: I like that.
Speaker 1: I kind of sometimes wish that I was a little
Speaker 1: bit more that way, because I feel like doing that
Speaker 1: also builds more passion, you know.
Speaker 2: Interesting, Yeah, yeah, they do say, what's that saying?
Speaker 3: If like you go like you started off so quickly
Speaker 3: and so quickly typed dil Oh, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2: Here I am with like my track record of just
Speaker 2: like a couple weeks.
Speaker 3: And then it's done.
Speaker 2: Okay, I didn't know this was gonna be therapy.
Speaker 3: Okay, So my next question is what are your love languages?
Speaker 2: Oh that's a good one. You've done the test, right, Yeah, okay, cool,
Speaker 2: So my love languages. So I kind of interpreted this
Speaker 2: two different ways, like oh, okay, yeah, what my love
Speaker 2: languages actually are? But then because the question is would
Speaker 2: you date yourself, I'm also interpreting it like would I
Speaker 2: like my own love languages? Oh? Interesting? Okay, so I
Speaker 2: have kind.
Speaker 1: Of a couple answers. So my personal love languages are
Speaker 1: words of affirmation and physical touch. I think it's kind
Speaker 1: of partly my anxiety and overthinking that that that comes
Speaker 1: from M. But then I started thinking, I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: the question, the main question we're trying to answer here
Speaker 1: is would I date myself? And I'm like, well, so
Speaker 1: dating myself that means that I would be receiving words
Speaker 1: of affirmation and you know, physical touch, but also wanting
Speaker 1: to receive that. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, I feel
Speaker 1: like that would be like I feel like those are
Speaker 1: the most reassuring love languages, and I think that's what
Speaker 1: I want to receive.
Speaker 2: That's what I give. That's also really actually what I
Speaker 2: want to receive back.
Speaker 3: I yes, okay, WHOA. I'm like kind of confused, but
Speaker 3: bear with me because I'm like, am I just sleep deprived?
Speaker 2: I know, I got like all over the place with
Speaker 2: this question.
Speaker 3: No, no, but okay, so those so your love language
Speaker 3: is WHOA, awards of affirmation and physical touch. But what
Speaker 3: you're saying is you want to receive that. I also
Speaker 3: want I want to give it. That's what I give,
Speaker 3: but I also want to receive that. Oh I hear you.
Speaker 3: And just to like kind of answer this, I don't
Speaker 3: know if this helps or not, just kind of well,
Speaker 3: it's not even supposed to be helpful. I think it's
Speaker 3: just a commentary thing because I do talk about this
Speaker 3: a lot with like, I guess the guys I date
Speaker 3: and we if we eventually get into this conversation piece
Speaker 3: or whatever. But with love languages, you're actually supposed to
Speaker 3: give the love language that they have to them. If
Speaker 3: that makes any sense.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes sense for sure. Okay, why am I?
Speaker 3: Why am I trying to understand what I'm saying?
Speaker 2: That meme where she's got the math problem.
Speaker 3: You got, we cannot condense this to like thirty minutes.
Speaker 3: But anyway, no, yeah, so basically that's ideally how it works.
Speaker 3: Like yes, like say those are well, those are your
Speaker 3: two like love languages. It's so natural for you to
Speaker 3: do that for others because that's your natural love language.
Speaker 3: But it's like even more so just like a mindful
Speaker 3: aspect of like giving your partner their love language, which
Speaker 3: might not be your love language, but you have to
Speaker 3: give theirs theirs, if that makes any.
Speaker 2: Sense, which it is kind of like a yeah trip sometimes.
Speaker 1: Right, Well, luckily I think just based on you know,
Speaker 1: four years dating him, I think wills are pretty similar.
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 3: Has he done the test?
Speaker 2: No, I don't think he would be interesting.
Speaker 1: I don't think heinely not like acts of service or
Speaker 1: gift giving kind of a person, you know. So he's
Speaker 1: definitely a physical touch person for sure.
Speaker 3: And that's good because and.
Speaker 1: I think deep down he also really likes the word
Speaker 1: like the admiration.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think he would admit it though.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well I mean what guy would. But also it
Speaker 3: is so nice when you share the same love language
Speaker 3: because then it's so easy to give because it's so
Speaker 3: natural for you because you like that yourself. Basically, so
Speaker 3: my love languages are acts of service and quality time.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker 3: It is just it's so not I think it's because
Speaker 3: I'm just always like solo dolo, and I feel like
Speaker 3: I'm just a girl and I don't know how to
Speaker 3: hang up a mirror or whatever or like curtain rods.
Speaker 3: Like I'm like if somebody can just like come into
Speaker 3: my life and be like, yeah, I got that, I'll
Speaker 3: bring the groceries in, or I'll take out the trash,
Speaker 3: or I'll help you hang this up.
Speaker 2: Like I would just die the biggest death. I'd be like,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, you're so nice, like yeah, thanks.
Speaker 3: For helping me hang up my TV shit like that eyes, yes,
Speaker 3: like I just I die. Like so those are the
Speaker 3: things that are so like I just love that. And
Speaker 3: then yeah, just quality time.
Speaker 2: Honestly, my time isn't very important.
Speaker 3: I still do very much value that, yes, yes, So
Speaker 3: then I asked the guys, like, what's your love language.
Speaker 3: I can see if I can, like, you know, kind
Speaker 3: of be in that vibe or whatever. But anyway, interesting
Speaker 3: huh so interesting.
Speaker 1: Okay, So my next question is what are your green flags?
Speaker 2: I don't even know? Sounds hard? Well okay, actually I lied.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh I don't even know. Well wait wait
Speaker 3: my own green flags. It's not what I look for.
Speaker 1: No wait, yeah, because if you're gonna date yourself, so
Speaker 1: you have to answer this for yourself.
Speaker 3: Crab, you're what are my green flags? Okay?
Speaker 2: Oof, you're funny, Oof, you're thoughtful. Oof?
Speaker 3: Thanks girl, No way, I.
Speaker 2: Was thinking communicator.
Speaker 3: Well it's so funny because I was. I was literally
Speaker 3: thinking about what are green flags for me and men?
Speaker 3: So it's funny now that you're like, oh, like, oh shit,
Speaker 3: what are my green flags? Yeah? No, I think I'm buried,
Speaker 3: like like I don't like texting all day, but I
Speaker 3: make it known, like like how we're going to communicate,
Speaker 3: Like I guess I don't leave somebody hanging.
Speaker 2: Yes, you never do.
Speaker 3: Like I'm always so clear whether I'm into you or not,
Speaker 3: like I'm like, hey, I really like you or like
Speaker 3: whatever whatever, or like yes i'll talk to you tomorrow
Speaker 3: or yeah I'm a bit busy right now doing this.
Speaker 3: I'll reach back out to you this evening. It's not dating,
Speaker 3: just with friendships.
Speaker 1: You're really good at doing that too, just being like, hey,
Speaker 1: I just get sending quick texting. H I'm busy right now,
Speaker 1: but I'll get to this in a couple hours.
Speaker 2: That's amazing. A lot of people don't do that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just I'm not. I'm just not a big texter.
Speaker 3: And like I'll send voice memos. Like literally, Kelsey walked
Speaker 3: in and I was like listening to a voice memo
Speaker 3: and it was from my boss. He was like, he
Speaker 3: was like, I've actually never done a voice memo before
Speaker 3: because I sent him a voice memo. But I'm just like,
Speaker 3: I'm not. Yeah, I just can't text. So just a
Speaker 3: quick voice memo or just like a quick FYI hear
Speaker 3: you go. I just don't ever want somebody to feel
Speaker 3: unsure or insecure about talking to me. I want them
Speaker 3: to feel so sure that I'm like in it. Yes,
Speaker 3: and maybe so that's my green flag. But maybe it
Speaker 3: could be like I don't know, you know, some guys
Speaker 3: like I mean, we can go on a tangent about
Speaker 3: like the chase or whatever, but dude, I make.
Speaker 1: It known, yeah, and make it known so you're good
Speaker 1: with reassurance, I guess would be a better Maybe not communication.
Speaker 1: You are still good to communicator, but maybe a better
Speaker 1: way to word dies. You're really good with reassurance.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I think that's what it is. I want
Speaker 3: people to feel like safe and not have anxiety about
Speaker 3: where we stand. Yes, yep, yes that's mine.
Speaker 2: What about you?
Speaker 1: So this was a hard one for me. I hate
Speaker 1: like talking about myself, especially like in a positive way.
Speaker 2: I'm terrible.
Speaker 1: I'm my biggest bully type thing. You know, kind of well,
Speaker 1: you're funny, Oh, you're cute. You're also good communicator. Q
Speaker 1: is a green flag, but.
Speaker 3: I think it is.
Speaker 2: I think mine would be like, I.
Speaker 1: Think I'm very trustworthy and loyal m I would say
Speaker 1: I'm probably kind of like a Golden Retriever friend or
Speaker 1: like you know, yes, where people always say the Golden
Speaker 1: Retriever boyfriend, I'm probably that girlfriend cue I also am
Speaker 1: like For me, I think it's important to still have
Speaker 1: like and this could maybe not be a green flag
Speaker 1: to everybody.
Speaker 2: To me, I think it is, but I still value having.
Speaker 1: Time with my own friends and letting my significant other
Speaker 1: have time with their own friends.
Speaker 3: With separate license.
Speaker 2: That's so good.
Speaker 1: We can still mix and mingle here and there. But
Speaker 1: I still do value that and think that's great. I
Speaker 1: don't need to be on top of this person twenty
Speaker 1: for seven, you know, So there's that. I also think
Speaker 1: I'm thoughtful if I'm thoughtful.
Speaker 3: Yes, I agree, you are thoughtful, even just like I
Speaker 3: think I'm thoughtful, even just like I think sometimes you
Speaker 3: can correlate like relationships with friendships too, if that makes
Speaker 3: anything very much. So I feel like, just like you're
Speaker 3: so thoughtful and you're gift giving too, I'm like, oh
Speaker 3: my gosh, how.
Speaker 2: Would you How'd you know I love this pickball?
Speaker 3: How or these like Tero card Jane Austin, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean, Like you just know something?
Speaker 1: So like the funny that kind of goes back to
Speaker 1: freaking like the love languages. It's not necessarily my love language,
Speaker 1: but I love giving gifts.
Speaker 3: We are like the fucking same person.
Speaker 2: I shit, it's about getting gifts, but I love to
Speaker 2: give them.
Speaker 3: I literally had the longest conversation with a girlfriend of
Speaker 3: mine the other day and I'm like, this is so crazy,
Speaker 3: but I'm a gift giver to people, but I do
Speaker 3: not like receiving. It gets so awkward, Like I'm like,
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, thanks you didn't really have to here,
Speaker 3: let me bend you fifteen dollars? Yeah, for real. But
Speaker 3: they're like, but they're like, bro, that was that was
Speaker 3: a gift, like you know, and I'm like, wait, I'm awkward.
Speaker 3: I don't know how to receive it, you know. But
Speaker 3: for me, I'm like, i go, like, I do the
Speaker 3: fucking most. I'm like, here's like a bow with it.
Speaker 3: Like then you open the gift and it like there's confetti,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Right, maybe that goes along with our like event hosting
Speaker 1: we like to do too.
Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't know what Isn't that so funny?
Speaker 1: I even think that translates to that is when we host,
Speaker 1: we're also very thoughtful there.
Speaker 2: Yes, we want to make sure everyone's comfortable and having
Speaker 2: a good all time. Yes, down to the damn decorations.
Speaker 3: Down to the freaking decorations and the drink options.
Speaker 1: Everybody, and how we arranged our table space exactly?
Speaker 3: Are you literally we literally are the same person. It's
Speaker 3: fucking crazy. Okay, Okay, here's here's a nitty gritty one.
Speaker 2: What are your red flags? So going opposite? Yes, so.
Speaker 1: These might kind of go together a little bit, But
Speaker 1: I overthink everything. I'm an overthinker, and I'll like stew
Speaker 1: in it even if like nothing's happening. So I maybe
Speaker 1: not be the best communicator like you said that you
Speaker 1: thought that was one of my green flags. I don't
Speaker 1: think I am, just because I ever think everything, and
Speaker 1: I will just do in it instead of talking it
Speaker 1: through because part of me knows I'm overthinking it, but
Speaker 1: then it kind of changes my mood. But then to
Speaker 1: go along with that, I also I am the worst
Speaker 1: at saying I'm fine when I'm clearly the fuck not flying.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, So yeah, we love a self aware queen though,
Speaker 3: and I'll try, like I try and be a little
Speaker 3: bit better because I will just say I'm fine, no,
Speaker 3: it's fine, whatever, you know.
Speaker 2: But then I'm like, I'm clear like clearly I'm not fine.
Speaker 1: So finally, like eventually I'll just be like, no, I'm
Speaker 1: just blah blah blah, I'm overthinking, you know. I try
Speaker 1: and be better at that. Yeah, but no, I'm the queen.
Speaker 1: If I'm fine or it's fine.
Speaker 2: I hear you.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, this kind of sounds like a job
Speaker 3: interview question only because I'm gonna say it and then
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be like, but I'm working on it. And
Speaker 3: this is how I'm working on it. Like have you
Speaker 3: ever like you know, the job interviews where it's like,
Speaker 3: what's your weakness when you're like the greatest weakness, yeah,
Speaker 3: and you're like and you say it and then you're like,
Speaker 3: but this is like the resolution for you to make
Speaker 3: it a positive you doo like as positive spin to it.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm doing right now. So one of my
Speaker 3: red flags for sure. For sure, it's been like this
Speaker 3: like for you years again self aware queen overware hopefully,
Speaker 3: But I'm so quick to cut people like but a
Speaker 3: boom yep, you know what I mean, Like one wrong
Speaker 3: move yep, Like oh so you didn't text me back, okay,
Speaker 3: done zo? Oh so you said that, Dunzo. Like, I'm
Speaker 3: just so quick. And I've learned this year that I
Speaker 3: need to have conversations prior to cutting something off.
Speaker 2: And you have been doing a lot better. Yes, so
Speaker 2: you are correct, Yes, you are working on it.
Speaker 3: I am working on it, damn it. So I'm now
Speaker 3: having conversations.
Speaker 1: There's been a couple of times where it did it
Speaker 1: make the situation worse?
Speaker 3: Yes it did, And we're also we're working through that.
Speaker 3: You need to find the balance.
Speaker 2: Yes, we are working through it all.
Speaker 1: But no.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I'm just trying to be more mindful of
Speaker 3: like having these conversations before cutting guys off, because like
Speaker 3: I've said before, it's almost like they were taking a
Speaker 3: test they didn't know they were taking and they filled
Speaker 3: it and they're like what the fuck? And I'm like, okay, okay, Ellie,
Speaker 3: how about you have a conversation with them versus like, hey,
Speaker 3: when you did this, it made me feel this way.
Speaker 3: How do you so working on that? But definitely was
Speaker 3: a red flag on my part. Another thing I would
Speaker 3: say too, And it's weird because it's it's definitely a
Speaker 3: red flag, and but they wouldn't see it as a
Speaker 3: red flag, but it might morph into a red flag
Speaker 3: if it kept going that way, because eventually I'd be
Speaker 3: over it, if that makes any sense. But I'm too
Speaker 3: much of like a people pleaser in the beginning, so
Speaker 3: I will literally bend to their will like on anything. Yeah,
Speaker 3: They're like, actually, can we just like like or do
Speaker 3: and I'm like, yeah, totally, I'm like super easy, chill girl,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. And then I'm like, no,
Speaker 3: I have to set my standards and be like, no,
Speaker 3: that's that's not okay, that's not a quick that's okay.
Speaker 1: You're allowed to have boundaries exactly. I think that drives
Speaker 1: them away. Then that's their problem.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I agree, So I think that's kind of
Speaker 3: my I mean, for them. I guess it would be
Speaker 3: cool because I'd be like, yeah, I'm getting out anything
Speaker 3: I want, you know, but really I might be over
Speaker 3: in the future and so oh yeah, for sure. Anyhom okay.
Speaker 1: So the next question is do you think you would
Speaker 1: drive yourself nuts? Or would you feel balanced dating yourself?
Speaker 3: Would I feel balanced dating myself? Sorry, I'm trying to
Speaker 3: understand that question, like would.
Speaker 1: I don't I guess maybe hmm, if you were dating yourself,
Speaker 1: would you be annoyed in doing that I'm going to
Speaker 1: cut this person out? Or do you think it would
Speaker 1: feel good and like home kind of a thing? Like?
Speaker 3: Or is the question like am I exuding some type
Speaker 3: of energy to where like I feel balanced or nuts?
Speaker 3: Based off I don't know. I feel like you can
Speaker 3: take the question different ways, right.
Speaker 1: I just interpreted it as like just like thinking back
Speaker 1: on like like past relationships, just being like.
Speaker 2: There were some that like they were.
Speaker 1: Super toxic and it did drive me nuts, like it
Speaker 1: wasn't like symbotica.
Speaker 2: But then I've had obviously.
Speaker 1: With Will, it's pretty well balanced. That makes sense emotionally
Speaker 1: physically everything.
Speaker 3: I hear you, I hear you. Yeah, I mean fuck,
Speaker 3: I think I would like to say balance, right. I
Speaker 3: don't think I would drive anybody nuts, you know, Yeah,
Speaker 3: But I guess, to be completely honest, I honestly just
Speaker 3: feel like I literally have not found my cup of tea,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Like, I honestly think that's
Speaker 3: what it is, because if you think back on like
Speaker 3: just even just this past year, I've just either not
Speaker 3: been into it because I'm like, you're just we're just
Speaker 3: not vibing and that's okay, see you later, or they're
Speaker 3: like the biggest fucking red flags ever, or they completely
Speaker 3: just fall off the face of the earth. Like I
Speaker 3: honestly don't think there's like this like big crazy blow
Speaker 3: up or anything to make it.
Speaker 1: But they were still all in their own way emotionally taxing. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: you definitely did not feel balance yep. So anyhow, that's good.
Speaker 2: What about you?
Speaker 1: I honestly think that if I was dating myself, I
Speaker 1: think i'd feel very balanced.
Speaker 2: I think a big.
Speaker 1: Reason for that is is just again going back to
Speaker 1: like the love languages and my like green flags and everything,
Speaker 1: the ones that I give out. So then you know,
Speaker 1: if I dating myself, I'd also be receiving them back.
Speaker 1: It's like what, you know, what I'd want. They're the
Speaker 1: things I value in a relationship. So I think it'd
Speaker 1: be pretty dwn balanced. I think I might drive myself
Speaker 1: a little bit nuts with the overthinking.
Speaker 2: It would just be two people overthinking all the time.
Speaker 1: But maybe we wouldn't because there'd be words of affirmation
Speaker 1: all the time.
Speaker 3: There you go, so who knows?
Speaker 2: There you go?
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, the last burning question, Kelsey, would you date yourself?
Speaker 2: Yes? Yes, I would date yourself.
Speaker 3: I would, yay, I would. I actually do date myself?
Speaker 3: Damn it.
Speaker 1: I know we do solo daters sometimes, you know, I do. Again, though,
Speaker 1: I love spending time with just by myself. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: love being alone sometimes.
Speaker 2: Isn't it such a vibe? Vibe?
Speaker 3: It is such a vibe.
Speaker 1: Yes, But this where you kept saying, like we're very
Speaker 1: similar people. It would be interesting to hear other people's perspectives,
Speaker 1: because I know a lot of people that hate spending
Speaker 1: time alone be interesting. To get their perspective, we should
Speaker 1: do like a poll of like yes no, would you
Speaker 1: date yourself yes no? Or like would you drive yes?
Speaker 1: And I love Kennessee where the majority yes. After this goes.
Speaker 2: Live this weekend, Well, we'll do some poles funsie, Fine,
Speaker 2: these were really good questions. They were good questions. Heck, yeah,
Speaker 2: look at us, go look at us.
Speaker 3: Just get into the nitty gritty of it all. And
Speaker 3: honestly we could have gone on tangents, but we could.
Speaker 3: We were We were good at like like this.
Speaker 1: Our last episode was over an hours. Really, this one
Speaker 1: has to hit the mark. Yeah, we gotta, we gotta
Speaker 1: make it just long enough for your hot girl bocks yeah.
Speaker 3: With wine, yeah, exact hand.
Speaker 2: Anyways, Well, thanks for thanks, guys, this was fun.
Speaker 3: See yea bye. All right e bessies, that's it for
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