WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.399 --> 00:00:05.240 It is time to stop talking about Penthouse sweets involving 2 00:00:05.280 --> 00:00:08.640 Chelsea Neon, because it's time to catch up with our 3 00:00:08.640 --> 00:00:11.160 buddy Greg Garza and we'll find out what's going on 4 00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:14.240 with beyond goals entering and we will ask Greg, So, 5 00:00:14.320 --> 00:00:15.800 how many cups of coffee are you on? 6 00:00:15.960 --> 00:00:18.079 Sir? This is my second one? 7 00:00:18.559 --> 00:00:18.960 Okay. 8 00:00:19.160 --> 00:00:21.440 So when you when you get up in the morning, 9 00:00:21.519 --> 00:00:23.839 I mean, do you start with coffee or do you 10 00:00:23.960 --> 00:00:26.760 kind of get into your days like with exercise and such, 11 00:00:26.839 --> 00:00:28.320 or does it just like bang. 12 00:00:28.480 --> 00:00:32.640 I wake up, go straight downstairs and the cup is 13 00:00:32.679 --> 00:00:33.479 already ready. 14 00:00:33.719 --> 00:00:36.799 Wow, So you set that up before you go to bed? 15 00:00:36.880 --> 00:00:42.920 Yeah, I already have my pot on mine espresso and yep, man, Yeah, 16 00:00:42.920 --> 00:00:46.159 it's like pre ready. All I gotta do is press down. 17 00:00:46.439 --> 00:00:48.600 Wow, You're a braver man than I. 18 00:00:50.119 --> 00:00:53.679 What I wanted to start off with this week is 19 00:00:54.240 --> 00:00:57.759 you know, we, you and Jason and I have all 20 00:00:57.799 --> 00:01:03.240 talked about the pressures of work and trying to snap 21 00:01:03.320 --> 00:01:06.519 out of that is probably one of the most difficult things, 22 00:01:06.560 --> 00:01:11.920 regardless of what business you're in. And I would imagine 23 00:01:12.200 --> 00:01:15.319 that with the pressures that you put on yourself, warranted 24 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:19.760 or otherwise, being incredibly self conscious about wanting to succeed 25 00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:24.519 in whatever your work is, that we don't know what 26 00:01:24.640 --> 00:01:26.200 we don't know a lot of the time when it 27 00:01:26.200 --> 00:01:28.519 comes to the pressures that we have, you know that 28 00:01:28.640 --> 00:01:34.000 others may not see in ourselves. When you have conversations 29 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:39.000 with fellow adults, with parents, with men teas, how do 30 00:01:39.120 --> 00:01:43.519 you address the idea of making sure that it's okay 31 00:01:43.599 --> 00:01:47.000 not to be okay, and it's okay to navigate, and 32 00:01:47.000 --> 00:01:49.439 it's okay to ask for help in these situations. How 33 00:01:49.439 --> 00:01:52.519 do you navigate those conversations? Because I would imagine a 34 00:01:52.560 --> 00:01:55.640 couple of years ago it was probably a more delicate 35 00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:57.000 topic than it might be now. 36 00:02:00.799 --> 00:02:04.760 You know, I think with with the word pressure, right, 37 00:02:04.799 --> 00:02:09.520 it's like you want. I don't think there's in like 38 00:02:09.560 --> 00:02:12.919 in a professional environment, you almost want to always feel uncomfortable. 39 00:02:13.080 --> 00:02:14.400 Yeah, I don't. 40 00:02:14.400 --> 00:02:17.680 I don't think what podcasts. I don't know if it 41 00:02:17.759 --> 00:02:21.919 was a podcast or like a motivational video that I 42 00:02:21.960 --> 00:02:24.360 watched a few years ago, but just talking about, you know, 43 00:02:24.439 --> 00:02:28.719 living in the uncomfortable that as an entrepreneur, as a 44 00:02:28.759 --> 00:02:32.960 professional athlete, as somebody who wants to build off something 45 00:02:33.000 --> 00:02:35.960 that they have, then you have to be willing and 46 00:02:36.120 --> 00:02:39.439 have the desire to always be uncomfortable, because the moment 47 00:02:39.520 --> 00:02:43.960 you feel comfortable is when that relaxation or that complacency 48 00:02:44.039 --> 00:02:47.719 starts to happen. And that's that's something that you definitely 49 00:02:47.719 --> 00:02:52.719 don't want within with especially within sports. If you are 50 00:02:52.840 --> 00:02:56.639 achieving greatness within sports, then hopefully you can still have 51 00:02:56.680 --> 00:03:00.000 the ability to continue to apply that pressure towards you. 52 00:03:01.240 --> 00:03:02.919 It's like I try and tell my kids that just 53 00:03:02.960 --> 00:03:06.120 remember that somebody else is doing more than you. Every 54 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:08.280 single day, somebody else is doing more than you. And 55 00:03:08.319 --> 00:03:10.439 if you can if you can kind of train your 56 00:03:10.479 --> 00:03:13.240 brain to think like that, then I think you're almost 57 00:03:13.319 --> 00:03:18.120 applying that that goodness of what pressure can be. But 58 00:03:18.159 --> 00:03:20.319 pressure is an interesting one because I feel like it 59 00:03:20.360 --> 00:03:24.400 can it can it can make you crumble as well. 60 00:03:27.199 --> 00:03:30.280 It's interesting. I mean you say pressure, I mean it's 61 00:03:31.080 --> 00:03:33.800 the obvious reason of like what AU is going through 62 00:03:33.840 --> 00:03:37.199 right now, that's they're going through a lot of pressure. 63 00:03:39.159 --> 00:03:42.479 And and I feel like whenever I was in Cincinnati 64 00:03:42.520 --> 00:03:48.159 and had a catastrophical two seasons there, it was almost 65 00:03:48.639 --> 00:03:52.360 very similar. It's like you had this pressure going into 66 00:03:52.400 --> 00:03:56.520 the game to just try to not lose, and that 67 00:03:56.599 --> 00:03:58.919 was the pressure that you were dealing with, and that was, like, 68 00:03:59.560 --> 00:04:01.800 you know, it was almost contagious around the locker room 69 00:04:01.840 --> 00:04:09.000 of like having feeling this ultimate, huge, immense amount of pressure, 70 00:04:09.120 --> 00:04:13.680 thinking about if we lose, how much more pressure is 71 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:16.120 going to build on top of that. I had a 72 00:04:16.160 --> 00:04:18.480 really good goalie in Tijuan, and whenever we were fighting 73 00:04:18.480 --> 00:04:22.800 for relegation, he would always say, you know, you'd always 74 00:04:22.839 --> 00:04:27.839 say just just and maybe in a more positive way, 75 00:04:27.879 --> 00:04:30.199 but we were fighting for relegation and he would think about, 76 00:04:30.199 --> 00:04:32.600 all we have to do is just not lose today. 77 00:04:33.160 --> 00:04:35.720 If we focus on that, then maybe we take a 78 00:04:35.759 --> 00:04:42.399 little bit of that way of way of not feeling 79 00:04:42.439 --> 00:04:43.920 as much pressure. And I know a little bit of 80 00:04:43.959 --> 00:04:45.959 what I just said right now is contradicting to what 81 00:04:46.000 --> 00:04:48.800 I just said about maybe what others feel or go through. 82 00:04:49.920 --> 00:04:52.160 But I guess there's just different ways and methods that 83 00:04:52.199 --> 00:04:52.839 you can look at it. 84 00:04:54.120 --> 00:04:58.000 And that's you know, and I think that it's key 85 00:04:58.040 --> 00:05:02.279 for anyone of any age don't in the work in 86 00:05:02.319 --> 00:05:06.000 the workforce, uh student athlete that wants to try and 87 00:05:06.040 --> 00:05:09.120 apply something. There's there's the academic pressure that you're attached 88 00:05:09.120 --> 00:05:12.480 to the athletic pressure that you're attached to, and I 89 00:05:12.480 --> 00:05:17.600 would imagine that in some spaces it's far more difficult 90 00:05:18.319 --> 00:05:23.519 to navigate and embrace, to embrace the suck for lack 91 00:05:23.560 --> 00:05:28.279 of a better word. And I would imagine that it's 92 00:05:28.360 --> 00:05:31.319 almost a staring contest. I would think with with student 93 00:05:31.360 --> 00:05:33.800 athletes or with anybody else that's in this kind of 94 00:05:33.839 --> 00:05:36.240 a situation. You know, you're you're the suck is staring 95 00:05:36.319 --> 00:05:39.519 right at you, and you have two choices, and for 96 00:05:39.600 --> 00:05:42.240 you to take that first step to sit there and 97 00:05:42.399 --> 00:05:45.199 understand that you've got to push through all of the 98 00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:48.319 negative and understand that it can be a positive on 99 00:05:48.360 --> 00:05:50.600 the other side. I would imagine that that first step, 100 00:05:50.639 --> 00:05:53.720 and in those conversations about encouraging that first step is 101 00:05:53.759 --> 00:05:56.160 probably some of the toughest conversations that you could ever have. 102 00:05:57.160 --> 00:06:00.680 Now most definitely it's it's it's it's not easy. It's 103 00:06:00.720 --> 00:06:04.480 not easy to get out of to get out of 104 00:06:04.600 --> 00:06:10.079 certain instances or situations. But I think that's that's what 105 00:06:10.279 --> 00:06:12.800 Like Mike and I we always talk about that resiliency piece, right. 106 00:06:12.839 --> 00:06:16.839 That resiliency is building that tough mindset and understanding that 107 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:21.560 you know, life, life is. He has had a unique 108 00:06:21.600 --> 00:06:27.120 conversation with a young man yesterday last night who was scared, 109 00:06:27.399 --> 00:06:28.839 who was scared to tell me that he was going 110 00:06:28.920 --> 00:06:32.199 to he's quitting soccer. He's a junior rising senior and 111 00:06:32.199 --> 00:06:34.000 has played at a high level for a long time, 112 00:06:35.240 --> 00:06:39.279 dedicated his whole life to soccer and going into his 113 00:06:39.399 --> 00:06:41.680 senior year. You know, I've been speaking to him for 114 00:06:41.680 --> 00:06:44.839 probably the last two to three years. He was afraid 115 00:06:44.879 --> 00:06:49.000 to tell me that he was quitting soccer. And and 116 00:06:49.560 --> 00:06:53.600 I feel like, you know, ultimately, what I tell these 117 00:06:53.680 --> 00:06:58.360 kids is that why why would you feel pressure to 118 00:06:58.759 --> 00:07:02.040 tell me that you're quitting like I'm I'm not. I'm 119 00:07:02.040 --> 00:07:07.040 not doing something that is like making you starve within 120 00:07:07.120 --> 00:07:09.680 your day or putting a gun to your head to 121 00:07:09.720 --> 00:07:11.759 tell you something. I want. I want these kids to 122 00:07:11.800 --> 00:07:14.040 feel confident when they do make a decision and not 123 00:07:14.079 --> 00:07:17.160 feel that immense amount of pressure that I think sometimes 124 00:07:17.199 --> 00:07:21.600 a lot of people, they allow that external pressure to 125 00:07:21.680 --> 00:07:26.480 be to speak greater volumes than maybe their own consciousness 126 00:07:26.560 --> 00:07:30.879 right their own consciousness. And I think that like really 127 00:07:30.920 --> 00:07:35.600 good professional athletes or people who are at the top 128 00:07:35.639 --> 00:07:37.720 of what they do, they are allowed they are able 129 00:07:37.800 --> 00:07:40.519 to block out all of that external pressure of what 130 00:07:40.560 --> 00:07:44.600 anybody else thinks or what anybody else may believe in them. 131 00:07:44.680 --> 00:07:47.680 And I think they're almost like this this alter ego 132 00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:52.399 that you have in terms of try and just focusing 133 00:07:52.439 --> 00:07:55.519 on yourself. And I think last night having that conversation 134 00:07:55.600 --> 00:07:58.839 with that young man was just helping him understand that, like, 135 00:07:59.399 --> 00:08:02.480 whatever does decision you make, don't don't allow that external 136 00:08:02.480 --> 00:08:06.639 pressure of what others may believe be something that affects 137 00:08:06.680 --> 00:08:12.680 you internally and externally. So it's once again, like I said, 138 00:08:12.800 --> 00:08:19.240 the pressure and things people go through is it's all subjective, right, 139 00:08:19.279 --> 00:08:21.800 It's all different on how we get through certain things. 140 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:25.000 But you know, as long as you can use those 141 00:08:25.160 --> 00:08:29.800 instances or situations, as you know, lessons and teachings and 142 00:08:29.839 --> 00:08:32.360 experiences to help you later on in life. 143 00:08:33.320 --> 00:08:36.159 Well, I would also imagine that you know, as as 144 00:08:36.279 --> 00:08:40.639 we're growing up in those impressionable teenage years, that you 145 00:08:40.799 --> 00:08:43.799 don't want to let those around you down for that 146 00:08:44.120 --> 00:08:49.120 early investment that they made in your life. There's that's 147 00:08:49.320 --> 00:08:52.919 that sense of attachment and responsibility of like, well, these 148 00:08:52.919 --> 00:08:55.200 folks have done all of this for me, I don't 149 00:08:55.200 --> 00:08:57.200 want to let them down, even though it may not 150 00:08:57.279 --> 00:09:01.720 be something that I enjoy anymore. There's there's that there's 151 00:09:01.759 --> 00:09:06.360 that first real conversation that you have with yourself about 152 00:09:06.799 --> 00:09:09.519 you know, I'm not having fun anymore, or I want 153 00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:11.480 to do other things and I don't want to pursue 154 00:09:11.480 --> 00:09:13.879 this anymore. But it's like, you don't want to hurt 155 00:09:13.879 --> 00:09:16.960 somebody's feelings, but I think that you might end up 156 00:09:17.000 --> 00:09:19.480 hurting them more if you're not honest with them about 157 00:09:19.480 --> 00:09:20.559 how you feel about something. 158 00:09:21.360 --> 00:09:26.480 Most definitely, I think it is it is like absolutely 159 00:09:27.240 --> 00:09:31.440 essential for kids and and people to understand that no 160 00:09:31.480 --> 00:09:34.480 matter what their decision is, that they have an immense 161 00:09:34.519 --> 00:09:37.600 amount of support around them, right. I think that's that's 162 00:09:37.639 --> 00:09:39.919 what being a parent is, That's what being a mentor is. 163 00:09:39.960 --> 00:09:45.639 That's what being a coach is, helping helping kids understand 164 00:09:45.799 --> 00:09:48.639 that no matter what they go through, they have they 165 00:09:48.639 --> 00:09:53.320 have a good support system whatever whatever their decision may be. 166 00:09:55.080 --> 00:09:57.159 The one word that I told the kid not to 167 00:09:57.240 --> 00:09:58.759 use last night, and I was like, I don't ever 168 00:09:58.879 --> 00:10:02.440 use that word again. What was the word regret? Yeah, 169 00:10:03.159 --> 00:10:06.600 And I think that that that's such a strong word 170 00:10:07.679 --> 00:10:11.480 to use, you know. I was like, in life, you 171 00:10:11.519 --> 00:10:13.600 can ask for forgiveness, you can ask for all these 172 00:10:13.600 --> 00:10:15.840 different things, whatever it might be to the to the 173 00:10:16.360 --> 00:10:19.200 to the higher being or whatever you believe in. But man, 174 00:10:19.360 --> 00:10:23.080 using the word regret is like such a strong you know, 175 00:10:23.159 --> 00:10:25.759 I regret making this decision or I regret doing this. 176 00:10:26.200 --> 00:10:31.120 You never you never want that. So walking him through 177 00:10:31.279 --> 00:10:34.720 last night, that was like his only question of you 178 00:10:34.759 --> 00:10:37.360 know if I do this well, I regret not playing 179 00:10:37.360 --> 00:10:40.559 my senior year. And I just told man, that's that's 180 00:10:40.600 --> 00:10:45.080 something for you to really really think about, because the 181 00:10:45.159 --> 00:10:47.320 last thing you want to do is ten years from now, 182 00:10:47.399 --> 00:10:49.440 look back at it and be like, man, I regretted 183 00:10:49.519 --> 00:10:53.240 not being with my friends just one more time. That 184 00:10:53.440 --> 00:10:56.200 that's that's that's like the last thing you want with 185 00:10:56.200 --> 00:10:59.840 with with quitting something or letting go of something. 186 00:11:00.039 --> 00:11:04.360 I think, how hard is it in your travels and 187 00:11:04.440 --> 00:11:07.519 conversations with peers, how hard is it to let go 188 00:11:08.559 --> 00:11:13.799 of a career path and understand that you know it's 189 00:11:13.919 --> 00:11:16.679 it's time. How how hard is it to let go 190 00:11:17.279 --> 00:11:19.200 when you've invested so much into something. 191 00:11:20.679 --> 00:11:24.600 I think for all of us athletes, it's, like I 192 00:11:24.679 --> 00:11:27.399 explained to people, like life and death, it's like you're 193 00:11:27.440 --> 00:11:31.320 being reborn again. There's a part of you, there's definitely 194 00:11:31.360 --> 00:11:34.399 a part of you that that that dies. Honestly, there's 195 00:11:34.399 --> 00:11:37.279 a part of you that dies the second you hang 196 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:41.480 up your boots and trying to find something that can 197 00:11:41.840 --> 00:11:46.440 animate your life, you know, bring bring yourself to life again. 198 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:51.679 I think is extremely important that transition can take some time. 199 00:11:51.960 --> 00:11:55.399 And we've had good friends, even Atlanta United friends that 200 00:11:56.559 --> 00:12:00.879 have gone through retirement and have been in those have 201 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:05.360 been in those moments of you know, sometimes depression or 202 00:12:05.559 --> 00:12:08.240 or trying to figure out what the heck their life 203 00:12:08.320 --> 00:12:10.600 is going to be since they've dedicated so much time. 204 00:12:11.960 --> 00:12:16.360 But it is it is extremely hard to let go 205 00:12:16.440 --> 00:12:18.720 of something. I think even for these kids who have 206 00:12:18.799 --> 00:12:21.360 dedicated a long time to doing something that they love 207 00:12:21.399 --> 00:12:24.120 and like you said, feeling almost responsible because of how 208 00:12:24.159 --> 00:12:27.039 much their parents have sacrificed or paid for or done 209 00:12:27.080 --> 00:12:31.639 for them. It's it's it's it's definitely a hard transition. 210 00:12:32.279 --> 00:12:34.480 But but once you once you find something that you 211 00:12:34.600 --> 00:12:37.360 enjoy and you love and and and you have that 212 00:12:37.440 --> 00:12:39.320 desire to do it, I think that makes it all 213 00:12:39.799 --> 00:12:40.639 so much easier. 214 00:12:40.840 --> 00:12:45.799 And in looking at just in the this this little 215 00:12:45.840 --> 00:12:49.120 sphere where you and Michael have you know, social media, 216 00:12:49.200 --> 00:12:51.320 and you know you're you're giving back and you're being 217 00:12:51.360 --> 00:12:53.279 a part of things in the community, and Michael's giving 218 00:12:53.279 --> 00:12:57.039 back through mentoring. It's you can you can sense that 219 00:12:57.600 --> 00:13:00.799 the that the aura that you guys have have, even 220 00:13:00.879 --> 00:13:02.919 just if you're looking at something on social media, there's 221 00:13:02.960 --> 00:13:08.559 an aura there that just kind of close that positivity 222 00:13:08.840 --> 00:13:11.399 and that it's something that you are truly engaged in 223 00:13:11.440 --> 00:13:13.480 and you want to help and you want to give back. 224 00:13:13.919 --> 00:13:17.519 Do you notice or do others notice that your that 225 00:13:17.519 --> 00:13:21.320 that aura is it's different even though it's still athletics. 226 00:13:21.320 --> 00:13:23.639 Do they notice that that that glow is there for 227 00:13:23.679 --> 00:13:24.039 you too? 228 00:13:24.960 --> 00:13:28.720 For sure? Yeah. I think like even even last night, 229 00:13:28.759 --> 00:13:32.039 I think it was like it's it's like I think 230 00:13:32.039 --> 00:13:36.600 believe Pele said that you'd rather feel relief than regret. 231 00:13:36.960 --> 00:13:39.200 That's that's something that he said whenever he kind of 232 00:13:39.559 --> 00:13:44.120 you know, I thought about his whole entire career in 233 00:13:44.159 --> 00:13:47.600 an old interview of his. But it's like, for me, 234 00:13:47.679 --> 00:13:51.919 it was helping that kid understand that no matter what, 235 00:13:52.799 --> 00:13:56.759 as a as a mentor, we can talk about anything, right, 236 00:13:56.759 --> 00:13:58.679 it doesn't necessarily have to be about soccer, but how 237 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:02.559 can we apply and implement those values and everything he's 238 00:14:02.639 --> 00:14:06.200 learned within the sport to what he wants to do next. Uh, 239 00:14:06.279 --> 00:14:09.679 And I think that's that's that's like Mike and and 240 00:14:09.879 --> 00:14:13.960 my biggest goal to help kids understand the values that 241 00:14:14.000 --> 00:14:16.279 come along with the sport that they love and cherish 242 00:14:16.360 --> 00:14:19.480 and and everything that bonds and ties us together is 243 00:14:19.519 --> 00:14:23.879 helping them understand how to use those values within their 244 00:14:23.919 --> 00:14:25.039 everyday lives. 245 00:14:25.879 --> 00:14:28.720 Did that MENTE feel better or at least get look 246 00:14:28.919 --> 00:14:31.159 look like they felt better at the end of the conversation. 247 00:14:31.440 --> 00:14:34.919 He did? He did. Yeah. It's it's always cool to 248 00:14:34.960 --> 00:14:41.080 see when kids just just under understand the the utmost 249 00:14:41.080 --> 00:14:44.320 support that that they have within within people around them. 250 00:14:44.360 --> 00:14:48.559 And I think that's that's I don't know if I 251 00:14:48.600 --> 00:14:50.120 mentioned this last time. I think I just did a 252 00:14:50.120 --> 00:14:52.960 recent video. I sent it to our marketing team, But 253 00:14:53.000 --> 00:14:54.559 I don't know if I mentioned this last time. I 254 00:14:54.600 --> 00:14:56.159 was on with you as well as as I had 255 00:14:56.279 --> 00:15:04.159 a young boy that he's eleven years old, and one 256 00:15:04.200 --> 00:15:06.039 of his questions to me was, how do I not 257 00:15:06.080 --> 00:15:07.559 feel scared every time I play? 258 00:15:07.799 --> 00:15:08.279 Yeah? 259 00:15:08.720 --> 00:15:10.759 And did I give that example last time or no? 260 00:15:10.399 --> 00:15:11.679 No, this is to me. 261 00:15:13.600 --> 00:15:15.559 His question to me is how do I not feel scared? 262 00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:20.440 And it was interesting because I just reiterated the question. 263 00:15:20.639 --> 00:15:23.879 I was like, well, what do you need in order 264 00:15:23.919 --> 00:15:27.639 to not feel scared when you're doing something? And he 265 00:15:27.720 --> 00:15:29.960 gave me such a good answer. He said, sometimes I 266 00:15:30.039 --> 00:15:31.960 just need more than one person to tell me that 267 00:15:32.000 --> 00:15:35.840 I'm capable. And that was like eye opening to me 268 00:15:35.919 --> 00:15:38.440 because I feel like his parents were also sitting next 269 00:15:38.480 --> 00:15:40.519 to him. Sometimes you rarely have parents that are sitting 270 00:15:40.519 --> 00:15:42.879 next to him, and I could just see the parents, 271 00:15:43.000 --> 00:15:46.720 like maybe dad or mom, trying not to tear up 272 00:15:47.399 --> 00:15:50.080 because you could just tell that, wow, that they are 273 00:15:50.120 --> 00:15:54.320 probably so critical of him and everything that he does. 274 00:15:54.440 --> 00:15:56.679 You know, he's a good student, he's a good player, 275 00:15:57.519 --> 00:16:00.840 and they probably are extremely critical of him and many 276 00:16:00.919 --> 00:16:05.600 times of his day. And sometimes it's totally fine to 277 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:09.879 be have that dad or mom constructive criticism all the time. 278 00:16:10.159 --> 00:16:13.720 But sometimes you just need to understand that that kid 279 00:16:13.879 --> 00:16:17.360 just needs one one, one or more people to tell 280 00:16:17.440 --> 00:16:22.039 him that that that he, him or her is is 281 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:25.399 absolutely capable of doing something. And I think that's that's 282 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:27.399 an important message for all of us, right We we 283 00:16:27.480 --> 00:16:29.919 always need a good a good support system around us. 284 00:16:29.960 --> 00:16:34.080 I think that's that's key and essential to having success. 285 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:36.200 If you have you have to surround yourself with the 286 00:16:36.360 --> 00:16:37.159 with the right people. 287 00:16:38.360 --> 00:16:42.159 Do we get lost in the idea of positive reinforcement? 288 00:16:42.440 --> 00:16:44.320 And what I mean by that is, do is it 289 00:16:44.399 --> 00:16:47.200 something that we almost take for granted at times where 290 00:16:47.519 --> 00:16:51.080 we don't use it enough and we just have the 291 00:16:51.159 --> 00:16:53.960 individual that's in our sphere that's going through whatever the 292 00:16:54.039 --> 00:16:58.639 issue is. Even even if you're there and you don't 293 00:16:58.639 --> 00:17:01.399 give positive reinforcement, you think you're doing enough when you're 294 00:17:01.440 --> 00:17:01.840 really not. 295 00:17:02.039 --> 00:17:04.640 Do we do enough positive reinforcement these days? 296 00:17:05.440 --> 00:17:07.559 I think we can always do more. I think we 297 00:17:07.559 --> 00:17:11.799 can always do more. I think positivity is such a 298 00:17:12.279 --> 00:17:15.759 such an important piece of of everything that that we do. 299 00:17:15.839 --> 00:17:20.079 It's especially within our within our kids. I think is 300 00:17:20.160 --> 00:17:24.079 as a massive as a massive one. Positivity for me 301 00:17:24.240 --> 00:17:27.680 is like it moves mountains. I think that you're able 302 00:17:27.759 --> 00:17:34.160 to really change, you know, the perspective of someone when 303 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:36.839 when you're when you're able to push positivity within within 304 00:17:36.839 --> 00:17:37.599 everything that they do. 305 00:17:39.119 --> 00:17:42.319 So, if you were to walk into a closed door 306 00:17:42.400 --> 00:17:47.279 conversation with your former club, considering how they're grinding right 307 00:17:47.319 --> 00:17:50.519 now and they're trying to grind out results and things 308 00:17:50.559 --> 00:17:55.400 aren't things aren't meshing, what kind of positivity would you 309 00:17:55.519 --> 00:17:58.799 give to that locker room right now to make sure 310 00:17:58.839 --> 00:18:01.839 that they understand that it's okay and as you push 311 00:18:01.960 --> 00:18:04.079 through this, there's something on the other side that can 312 00:18:04.119 --> 00:18:06.160 be a whole lot better. What positive points would you 313 00:18:06.160 --> 00:18:06.599 bring up? 314 00:18:08.279 --> 00:18:12.400 I I would definitely focus on what they are doing 315 00:18:12.440 --> 00:18:16.039 well in games, because if they continue to focus on 316 00:18:16.119 --> 00:18:20.200 where they continue to make their mistakes or everything that 317 00:18:20.240 --> 00:18:22.680 they're doing right now and in terms of not meshing, 318 00:18:22.880 --> 00:18:29.119 then then that positivity will not will not come. And 319 00:18:29.319 --> 00:18:31.559 we spoke about it last time. I do remember just 320 00:18:32.680 --> 00:18:35.799 allowing positivity to flood through that locker room. I think 321 00:18:35.920 --> 00:18:39.000 is probably we're not in the locker room, so we 322 00:18:39.079 --> 00:18:43.160 can't see what the you know, what the environment is like. 323 00:18:44.960 --> 00:18:48.200 But you know, I would I would really hope that 324 00:18:48.240 --> 00:18:51.519 you have some guys that are still able to provide 325 00:18:51.559 --> 00:18:56.119 smiles and things like that, because it is it is 326 00:18:56.119 --> 00:18:59.839 a it is a pretty tough time that they're going through. It's, uh, 327 00:19:00.480 --> 00:19:04.480 two wins, two three wins or two wins out of 328 00:19:04.480 --> 00:19:07.200 a whole entire season about what fourteen games so far? 329 00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:09.480 You're pushing fourteen, Yeah, so. 330 00:19:09.839 --> 00:19:12.720 You know, it's it's it's not it's not easy it's 331 00:19:12.720 --> 00:19:16.200 not easy. It's not an easy thing to think in 332 00:19:16.240 --> 00:19:17.920 the back of your head that we've won two games 333 00:19:17.920 --> 00:19:22.200 out of fourteen games. So it's it's it's definitely something 334 00:19:22.359 --> 00:19:26.720 that they really have to find, you know, that that 335 00:19:26.839 --> 00:19:28.759 bright side of what they're doing and see how they 336 00:19:28.799 --> 00:19:32.279 can continue to implement those those things rather than than 337 00:19:32.279 --> 00:19:32.920 anything else. 338 00:19:33.319 --> 00:19:37.000 What was the craziest thing that you tried to do 339 00:19:37.680 --> 00:19:41.559 to snap out of a string of bad results as 340 00:19:41.559 --> 00:19:44.000 a team or bad personal results of if your game 341 00:19:44.119 --> 00:19:46.240 was just if your game was out the door, didn't 342 00:19:46.279 --> 00:19:49.920 leave you a note and had left had left the building, 343 00:19:50.680 --> 00:19:53.279 what was the craziest thing that you thought of to 344 00:19:53.359 --> 00:19:56.119 try to turn things around? And whether it worked or not, 345 00:19:56.200 --> 00:19:58.400 But what was the craziest thing that you thought of 346 00:19:58.440 --> 00:20:02.160 that might turn something around in a string of bad form? 347 00:20:02.799 --> 00:20:07.200 Yeah, I think I think getting park he always talks 348 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:09.279 about this as well. Just getting away from the game, 349 00:20:09.319 --> 00:20:13.680 I think is extremely important. I think getting the way, 350 00:20:13.720 --> 00:20:17.319 getting away from the game and your personal life is 351 00:20:18.079 --> 00:20:25.559 massively important. You know, it's it's when when you are 352 00:20:25.839 --> 00:20:28.599 I think, if you continue to concentrate and focus on 353 00:20:29.480 --> 00:20:32.240 everything that's going on, and you're not able to kind 354 00:20:32.279 --> 00:20:35.519 of have a disconnect. Yeah, then it's just going to 355 00:20:35.599 --> 00:20:38.319 continue to go the same. And I think for myself 356 00:20:38.319 --> 00:20:41.240 in particular, I think when there was a bad streak 357 00:20:41.319 --> 00:20:43.359 or there was moments to where I wasn't up to 358 00:20:43.440 --> 00:20:48.599 my level, just just trying to focus on other things 359 00:20:48.640 --> 00:20:50.880 that bring your joy and bring your happiness rather than 360 00:20:51.279 --> 00:20:54.200 having the game continue to make you feel miserable. And 361 00:20:54.240 --> 00:20:57.599 I think I think a lot of kids that I 362 00:20:57.720 --> 00:21:01.400 work with, they don't understan They don't understand that. They 363 00:21:01.440 --> 00:21:05.559 don't they they think that. You know. It's it's interesting 364 00:21:05.599 --> 00:21:09.319 because I spoke to the young kids that are the 365 00:21:09.440 --> 00:21:14.640 up and coming Atlanta United kids and I told them, look, 366 00:21:15.119 --> 00:21:18.960 when you finish this season, don't train for like ten days, 367 00:21:19.440 --> 00:21:20.599 don't train for two weeks. 368 00:21:20.640 --> 00:21:22.319 And they looked at you like you were crazy. 369 00:21:22.680 --> 00:21:24.960 Yes, they looked at me. It was like, what do 370 00:21:25.000 --> 00:21:27.480 you mean We're gonna we're doing private sessions tomorrow, We're 371 00:21:27.519 --> 00:21:30.559 already doing group training the next day. And I'm like, man, 372 00:21:30.720 --> 00:21:33.440 look like you're going to burn out. There's gonna be 373 00:21:33.480 --> 00:21:34.920 a moment to where you're going to burn out, and 374 00:21:34.960 --> 00:21:37.160 you're gonna you're going to look back and be like, man, 375 00:21:37.200 --> 00:21:41.319 I I wish I I wish I had a balance 376 00:21:41.480 --> 00:21:45.680 of life and work, because that's what it's become. I 377 00:21:45.720 --> 00:21:48.960 think the game has become more of a job for 378 00:21:49.000 --> 00:21:52.000 sometimes for kids too, it's become more of a job 379 00:21:53.000 --> 00:21:56.279 and everything that they do, So, you know, I think 380 00:21:56.279 --> 00:21:59.200 it's I think it's important for even kids and everyone 381 00:21:59.240 --> 00:22:02.039 around them. And I think that's that's the same thing 382 00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:05.480 for the guys at the club. I really hope that 383 00:22:05.519 --> 00:22:08.440 whenever they finish, they can go be with their families 384 00:22:08.559 --> 00:22:13.480 or do fun things that takes them, yes, sometimes far 385 00:22:13.519 --> 00:22:14.200 away from the game. 386 00:22:15.240 --> 00:22:18.799 And I mean it's to be able to take that 387 00:22:19.160 --> 00:22:22.839 on off switch and just kind of recharge your own batteries, 388 00:22:22.920 --> 00:22:26.000 away from away from soccer, away from something that you love, 389 00:22:26.039 --> 00:22:28.279 away that that's over there a way that it is, 390 00:22:28.319 --> 00:22:31.039 you know, your occupation where you're being paid handsomely to 391 00:22:31.119 --> 00:22:34.599 do your job. I mean, I think that that might 392 00:22:34.640 --> 00:22:38.799 get lost because of the cycle of if something's going wrong, 393 00:22:39.119 --> 00:22:40.960 you feel like you have to work that much harder 394 00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:44.000 to try to correct what's going wrong, and you are, 395 00:22:44.319 --> 00:22:48.039 you know, pushing that notion of spiraling even further and further. 396 00:22:48.119 --> 00:22:49.240 You're working that much harder. 397 00:22:49.240 --> 00:22:51.880 It's becoming that much more difficult, and then you can't 398 00:22:51.920 --> 00:22:53.559 quite figure out how to get out of that. And 399 00:22:53.559 --> 00:22:56.400 I think that there might be some instances where folks 400 00:22:56.480 --> 00:23:00.279 think that working harder is the solution, but there's way 401 00:23:00.279 --> 00:23:04.559