WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.120 --> 00:00:03.640 Have you ever experienced being overwhelmed by the stormy seas 2 00:00:03.680 --> 00:00:06.960 of your emotions or feeling lost in the turbulence of 3 00:00:07.040 --> 00:00:10.519 negative thoughts? Would you believe me if I told you 4 00:00:10.640 --> 00:00:14.119 that the ancient wisdom of Stoicism could help you find 5 00:00:14.160 --> 00:00:18.440 your way through this dark time? Marcus Aurelius said, you 6 00:00:18.519 --> 00:00:22.839 have power over your mind, not over outside events. To day, 7 00:00:23.239 --> 00:00:27.960 we examine these profound words. Realize this, and you will 8 00:00:28.000 --> 00:00:32.280 find strength. This powerful statement starts a journey that will 9 00:00:32.359 --> 00:00:35.880 change your life. Come on this journey with us as 10 00:00:35.920 --> 00:00:40.159 we find seven lessons from Stoicism that are not just lessons, 11 00:00:40.359 --> 00:00:43.679 but ways of life. With a heart full of courage 12 00:00:43.960 --> 00:00:47.799 and a mind full of unwavering emotions, these lessons will 13 00:00:47.799 --> 00:00:51.719 guide you to control your emotions and sail through life's 14 00:00:51.719 --> 00:00:56.520 storms in the midst of life's chaos. Welcome to how 15 00:00:56.520 --> 00:01:00.759 to get rid of negative thoughts using Stoicism your guide 16 00:01:00.840 --> 00:01:05.840 to finding peace lessen one, know what you can control? 17 00:01:06.519 --> 00:01:08.959 Have you ever found yourself in a storm, but not 18 00:01:09.120 --> 00:01:12.200 the kind with rain and thunder, but the storms of life, 19 00:01:12.959 --> 00:01:18.599 unexpected events, let downs, or abrupt modifications. The dichotomy of 20 00:01:18.640 --> 00:01:21.920 control is a lesson from the Stoic philosophers of ancient 21 00:01:21.959 --> 00:01:24.799 Greece and Rome, that feels like a life line in 22 00:01:24.879 --> 00:01:29.439 these storms. Think about this, You're planning an outdoor event, 23 00:01:29.840 --> 00:01:32.799 but it rains at the last minute. No matter how 24 00:01:32.879 --> 00:01:36.159 much you'd like to. You can't control the weather, But 25 00:01:36.239 --> 00:01:39.599 how you feel about the rain is completely up to you. 26 00:01:39.599 --> 00:01:42.400 You could be sad and angry, or you could figure 27 00:01:42.439 --> 00:01:45.200 out a way to deal with it. For example, you 28 00:01:45.280 --> 00:01:48.200 could move the event inside or enjoy the rain as 29 00:01:48.200 --> 00:01:52.760 a change. A Stoic philosopher named Epictetus, who was born 30 00:01:52.840 --> 00:01:55.680 a slave and became one of the most important thinkers 31 00:01:55.719 --> 00:01:59.519 of his time, said, some things are in our control 32 00:01:59.719 --> 00:02:04.159 and not. That sounds easy, doesn't it. But there is 33 00:02:04.200 --> 00:02:08.000 a profound wisdom found in this simplicity that has the 34 00:02:08.080 --> 00:02:12.680 power to change our lives. We face many situations every day. 35 00:02:13.280 --> 00:02:16.199 Some of them we can change, like the books we read, 36 00:02:16.560 --> 00:02:19.800 the people we hang out with, and our daily routines. 37 00:02:20.520 --> 00:02:24.319 But there are many things we can't control, like global events, 38 00:02:24.719 --> 00:02:29.960 other people's actions, time passing, and yes, the weather. This 39 00:02:30.159 --> 00:02:34.400 is where things get interesting. Stoic philosophers thought that how 40 00:02:34.439 --> 00:02:38.759 we interpret and respond to external events determines how happy 41 00:02:38.800 --> 00:02:42.680 we are. Our emotions aren't caused by the event itself, 42 00:02:43.080 --> 00:02:46.120 but by how we think about it. Remember a time 43 00:02:46.159 --> 00:02:49.360 when you had to face adversity. Perhaps you didn't get 44 00:02:49.360 --> 00:02:52.599 the job you wanted. Everything felt bad at the time, 45 00:02:53.199 --> 00:02:55.960 but after some time you may have realized it was 46 00:02:56.000 --> 00:02:59.000 actually a blessing in disguise that led you to a 47 00:02:59.039 --> 00:03:02.759 better chance or personal growth. But how are we going 48 00:03:02.800 --> 00:03:06.879 to make this work? Ask yourself? Is this something I 49 00:03:06.960 --> 00:03:10.800 can control? If the answer is yes, then you should 50 00:03:10.840 --> 00:03:14.319 do something about it. If the answer is no, it's 51 00:03:14.360 --> 00:03:16.840 a chance to work on being able to accept and 52 00:03:16.960 --> 00:03:21.439 change things. We can free ourselves from needless pain by 53 00:03:21.479 --> 00:03:26.599 really understanding and internalizing this principle. Knowing that we can't 54 00:03:26.639 --> 00:03:30.560 control the wind, but can adjust our sails allows us 55 00:03:30.560 --> 00:03:34.919 to move through life with calmness. The dichotomy of control 56 00:03:35.039 --> 00:03:37.400 is a bright light in a world that often seems 57 00:03:37.400 --> 00:03:40.599 out of order. It reminds us to put our energy 58 00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:43.599 where it counts most, and to enjoy the peace that 59 00:03:43.680 --> 00:03:46.840 comes from knowing that some things are out of our control. 60 00:03:47.599 --> 00:03:52.719 Second lesson, think before you act. People today value speed 61 00:03:52.759 --> 00:03:56.000 and immediacy, so the art of reflection may seem like 62 00:03:56.039 --> 00:03:59.280 a thing of the past. So taking the time to 63 00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:02.120 think and pour can be our saving grace in a 64 00:04:02.159 --> 00:04:05.479 world where we need to act quickly. Think about how 65 00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:09.560 many decisions we face, both big and small, from picking 66 00:04:09.599 --> 00:04:13.639 a restaurant meal to choosing a career path. There are 67 00:04:13.639 --> 00:04:16.800 many options, but it's not the size of the choices 68 00:04:16.839 --> 00:04:20.839 that matter, it's how we approach them. As an example, 69 00:04:21.160 --> 00:04:24.120 let's look at reading a message that makes you feel something. 70 00:04:24.759 --> 00:04:27.800 Someone at work might be questioning your work, or a 71 00:04:27.879 --> 00:04:31.519 friend might make a casual comment. Your first thought might 72 00:04:31.560 --> 00:04:34.800 be to defend yourself or get angry. You could jump 73 00:04:34.879 --> 00:04:38.079 right into that emotional whirlpool. But what if you took 74 00:04:38.079 --> 00:04:41.800 a step back. Your emotions aren't being pushed down when 75 00:04:41.800 --> 00:04:45.120 you give yourself that brief break. They're just being given 76 00:04:45.160 --> 00:04:48.720 a chance to breathe and be understood. Reflection is not 77 00:04:48.839 --> 00:04:52.959 about avoiding or accepting our thoughts and feelings without doing anything. 78 00:04:53.600 --> 00:04:57.160 It's about being present with them. It means asking deep 79 00:04:57.279 --> 00:05:00.800 questions like why did this comment hurt me so much? 80 00:05:01.480 --> 00:05:05.199 My current emotions are being influenced by what underlying beliefs 81 00:05:05.600 --> 00:05:09.759 or experiences I have had. Is my first reaction based 82 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:12.920 on what's happening now or on things that happened in 83 00:05:12.959 --> 00:05:16.959 the past. Also, thinking about what you're going to say 84 00:05:17.040 --> 00:05:19.879 before you say it is a way to build empathy. 85 00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:24.319 By giving ourselves time, we also give ourselves the chance 86 00:05:24.439 --> 00:05:27.680 to see things from other people's points of view. That 87 00:05:27.879 --> 00:05:30.879 co worker or friend may have been having a rough 88 00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:34.439 day and didn't realize how important what they said was. 89 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:38.720 When we think about things, we help ourselves and those 90 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:42.800 around us understand them better. This habit can be very 91 00:05:42.839 --> 00:05:48.160 important in relationships. How many misunderstandings could we avoid if 92 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:51.920 we stop to think before we spoke. How many bridges 93 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:57.240 could be built instead of being destroyed. We find clarity, compassion, 94 00:05:57.680 --> 00:06:02.480 and connection when we take time to think. Also, being 95 00:06:02.519 --> 00:06:06.439 able to stop and think is very useful in professional settings. 96 00:06:07.079 --> 00:06:10.680 People usually respect and follow leaders more who think about 97 00:06:10.720 --> 00:06:15.319 their choices before making them. People think they are thoughtful, calm, 98 00:06:15.759 --> 00:06:19.480 and smart most of the time their choices which come 99 00:06:19.519 --> 00:06:24.279 from deep thought. Last reflection is a way to rebel 100 00:06:24.360 --> 00:06:27.399 against a world that often seems to be moving at 101 00:06:27.439 --> 00:06:31.519 breakneck speed. It's a quiet but powerful way to say 102 00:06:31.560 --> 00:06:34.759 that we won't be swept away by the currents of immediacy. 103 00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:38.839 Making this promise means that we will take care of ourselves, 104 00:06:39.160 --> 00:06:42.800 be happy, and treat others well. It's not just a 105 00:06:42.879 --> 00:06:46.680 practice to think before you act. It's a philosophy, a 106 00:06:46.720 --> 00:06:51.959 way of life that values depth over breadth, understanding over impulsivity, 107 00:06:52.439 --> 00:06:57.160 and lasting connections over fleeting ones. It's a journey inside 108 00:06:57.199 --> 00:07:01.199 that has profound effects on the outside world, influencing not 109 00:07:01.319 --> 00:07:04.560 only how we react, but also how our lives are 110 00:07:04.560 --> 00:07:10.720 put together. Lesson three, Learn to be impartial to someone 111 00:07:10.759 --> 00:07:13.519 who lives in a world that is often emotional. The 112 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:17.800 idea of practicing dispassion may seem strange, but let's look 113 00:07:17.879 --> 00:07:20.920 more closely at what it really means and the power 114 00:07:20.959 --> 00:07:25.360 it has to change things. Dispassion isn't about hiding your 115 00:07:25.360 --> 00:07:28.800 emotions or not caring about what's going on around you. 116 00:07:29.480 --> 00:07:32.319 It's about finding a calm in the middle of the storm. 117 00:07:33.160 --> 00:07:38.120 Imagine not feeling overwhelmed by events, circumstances, or even your 118 00:07:38.160 --> 00:07:42.040 own emotions. Just think about the last movie that really 119 00:07:42.079 --> 00:07:46.519 held your attention. There were times when things were tense, exciting, 120 00:07:46.920 --> 00:07:50.399 and maybe even sad. You knew it was just a movie. 121 00:07:50.759 --> 00:07:53.800 Even though you were interested in the story, You didn't 122 00:07:53.839 --> 00:07:56.279 rush to help the hero or cheer for the bad 123 00:07:56.319 --> 00:08:00.519 guy like their problems were real. While still feeling the emotions, 124 00:08:00.959 --> 00:08:03.879 you were able to keep a sense of distance. A 125 00:08:03.920 --> 00:08:07.639 similar approach to life is promoted by the stoics. It's 126 00:08:07.680 --> 00:08:11.360 about being aware of how emotions rise and fall without 127 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:15.279 letting them control you. Think about being cut off in traffic. 128 00:08:15.879 --> 00:08:19.480 It is normal to feel angry or upset. For dispassion, 129 00:08:19.800 --> 00:08:23.439 you can practice not letting these emotions take over by 130 00:08:23.480 --> 00:08:27.040 recognizing them without judging them, and then letting them go 131 00:08:27.680 --> 00:08:31.040 like clouds in the sky. This doesn't mean you become 132 00:08:31.160 --> 00:08:34.879 passive or apathetic. It just means you have more control 133 00:08:34.960 --> 00:08:40.080 over your emotional reactions. Instead of reacting impulsively when faced 134 00:08:40.120 --> 00:08:43.480 with a difficult situation, you can take a step back 135 00:08:43.759 --> 00:08:47.759 and consider your options. If you can think clearly, you 136 00:08:47.799 --> 00:08:50.320 can avoid getting lost in the heat of the moment 137 00:08:50.679 --> 00:08:55.919 and make better decisions and take positive action. Dispassion also 138 00:08:56.080 --> 00:08:59.200 includes how we react to outside events that are out 139 00:08:59.200 --> 00:09:02.480 of our control. It's normal to feel a wave of 140 00:09:02.519 --> 00:09:06.279 emotions when a global crisis occurs, or when those you 141 00:09:06.440 --> 00:09:10.279 love face hardship. We can choose to respond with calm 142 00:09:10.360 --> 00:09:14.000 and grace instead of giving up or feeling hopeless. If 143 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:18.440 we practice dispassion, This doesn't mean we're cold or uncaring. 144 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:21.440 It just means that even in the face of life's 145 00:09:21.440 --> 00:09:26.960 inevitable storms, we maintain our peace. In a sense, dispassion 146 00:09:27.080 --> 00:09:29.639 is like an anchor that keeps us steady when life 147 00:09:29.679 --> 00:09:32.840 gets rough. It helps us deal with problems in a 148 00:09:32.879 --> 00:09:36.399 strong and graceful way. It gives us the strength and 149 00:09:36.480 --> 00:09:40.000 stability to be a source of strength for ourselves and 150 00:09:40.039 --> 00:09:43.120 those around us, and it reminds us that even though 151 00:09:43.159 --> 00:09:46.360 emotions are a normal part of being human, we have 152 00:09:46.440 --> 00:09:49.159 the power to rise above them and be the calm 153 00:09:49.399 --> 00:09:54.960 in the middle of the storm. Lesson four, accept that 154 00:09:55.039 --> 00:09:59.039 things change. Change is the only thing that stays the 155 00:09:59.080 --> 00:10:03.159 same in life. Everything around us is changing, from the 156 00:10:03.200 --> 00:10:06.399 seasons that change with the months to the cells that 157 00:10:06.519 --> 00:10:10.039 make up our bodies that get new cells all the time. 158 00:10:11.039 --> 00:10:14.519 Even though change is always happening, many of us still 159 00:10:14.559 --> 00:10:17.519 don't want it. There is a fear of the unknown 160 00:10:17.600 --> 00:10:20.159 that makes us hold on to what we know and 161 00:10:20.279 --> 00:10:24.360 feel safe with. The Stoics, on the other hand, advise 162 00:10:24.480 --> 00:10:27.440 us to embrace change as a necessary part of life 163 00:10:27.919 --> 00:10:32.960 rather than just accepting it. Realizing that things change doesn't 164 00:10:32.960 --> 00:10:37.000 mean to cause fear or anxiety. It means to encourage 165 00:10:37.039 --> 00:10:41.080 gratitude and presence. Consider for a moment that everything in 166 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:44.360 your life was permanent, that the people you love would 167 00:10:44.440 --> 00:10:48.799 never leave, that your current situation would never change, and 168 00:10:48.879 --> 00:10:51.759 that every moment of joy and every moment of pain 169 00:10:51.840 --> 00:10:56.080 would last forever. At first, this might sound good, but 170 00:10:56.200 --> 00:11:00.679 it will only lead to complacency and stagnation. Being aware 171 00:11:00.720 --> 00:11:04.720 of how things change is what gives life its color, depth, 172 00:11:04.960 --> 00:11:09.679 and speed. We are reminded that every moment, experience, and 173 00:11:09.799 --> 00:11:14.440 relationship is valuable and short lived. It tells us to 174 00:11:14.600 --> 00:11:18.320 enjoy the beauty of a sunset, laugh with friends, and 175 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:21.600 show our love to people we care about because we 176 00:11:21.720 --> 00:11:25.840 never know when it will be our last chance. The 177 00:11:25.879 --> 00:11:29.200 difficulties and setbacks we face are also included in the 178 00:11:29.240 --> 00:11:33.960 stoic understanding of impermanence. It's easy to feel defeated and 179 00:11:34.080 --> 00:11:38.039 overwhelmed when we're going through tough times. We can find 180 00:11:38.120 --> 00:11:41.159 comfort in knowing that this, too, will pass. If we 181 00:11:41.240 --> 00:11:46.120 accept that everything changes. Just like storm clouds eventually clear, 182 00:11:46.519 --> 00:11:50.200 so do our problems and problems. This is a reminder 183 00:11:50.279 --> 00:11:53.679 that we can handle life storms and come out stronger 184 00:11:53.720 --> 00:11:57.639 on the other side. How then, do we accept impermanence. 185 00:11:57.639 --> 00:12:00.679 In real life. It starts with a change in how 186 00:12:00.720 --> 00:12:03.919 you look at things, but we don't have to fight change. 187 00:12:04.440 --> 00:12:06.879 We can learn to flow with it, like a river 188 00:12:07.000 --> 00:12:10.679 that bends and turns as it goes. We can cultivate 189 00:12:10.720 --> 00:12:15.720 a sense of detachment from material possessions and external circumstances, 190 00:12:16.320 --> 00:12:19.639 knowing that they are transitory, and we can be grateful 191 00:12:19.679 --> 00:12:22.879 for the lessons and opportunities that come with each turn 192 00:12:22.960 --> 00:12:26.440 in our journey. Being open to the idea that things 193 00:12:26.480 --> 00:12:30.159 will change is a lot like dancing with life. You 194 00:12:30.200 --> 00:12:34.120 should fully engage with its ever changing rhythms and find 195 00:12:34.240 --> 00:12:39.679 joy and meaning in each new moment. Five Practice being thankful. 196 00:12:40.519 --> 00:12:46.120 Five practice being thankful. Gratitude is a simple yet powerful 197 00:12:46.159 --> 00:12:49.559 practice that can change how we see the world. It's 198 00:12:49.600 --> 00:12:52.840 about seeing and appreciating the good things in our lives 199 00:12:53.240 --> 00:12:57.360 even when things are hard. Being thankful changes our attention 200 00:12:57.480 --> 00:13:00.840 from what's missing to what's available, and from what's wrong 201 00:13:00.960 --> 00:13:05.759 to what's right. Stoic philosophy recognize the power of gratitude 202 00:13:06.080 --> 00:13:09.879 as a means to inner peace and contentment. In their view, 203 00:13:10.240 --> 00:13:13.799 we can find happiness in the present by recognizing the 204 00:13:13.799 --> 00:13:17.360 good things we have, but how do we show gratitude? 205 00:13:17.759 --> 00:13:21.480 Why is it so important? Being thankful isn't just for 206 00:13:21.559 --> 00:13:25.080 big acts of kindness or unusual events. It can be 207 00:13:25.159 --> 00:13:28.080 found in the simple pleasures of life, such as the 208 00:13:28.120 --> 00:13:30.679 feel of the sun on your face, the sound of 209 00:13:30.720 --> 00:13:34.360 a child laughing, and the aroma of a favorite dish. 210 00:13:34.879 --> 00:13:38.559 It's about enjoying these little things and knowing how important 211 00:13:38.600 --> 00:13:42.399 they are. The stoics actually advise us to consider the 212 00:13:42.480 --> 00:13:47.440 transience of these pleasures by imagining their loss. Consider, for 213 00:13:47.519 --> 00:13:50.840 a moment, not being able to feel the sun's warmth 214 00:13:51.279 --> 00:13:54.600 or hear the laughter of someone you love, how much 215 00:13:54.639 --> 00:14:00.000 more valuable would those memories become. This negative visualization practice 216 00:14:00.200 --> 00:14:02.960 isn't meant to make us sad. It's meant to make 217 00:14:03.080 --> 00:14:06.480 us value the present more. It's a reminder that the 218 00:14:06.519 --> 00:14:09.879 little things we take for granted are really gifts that 219 00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:13.440 are worth a lot. The power of gratitude can also 220 00:14:13.600 --> 00:14:17.279 change how we deal with difficulties. It's simple to give 221 00:14:17.320 --> 00:14:21.919 in to negativity and hopelessness when we face difficulties, but 222 00:14:22.039 --> 00:14:25.600 if we practice being thankful, we can stay strong and 223 00:14:25.720 --> 00:14:29.759 find hope even when things are hard. For example, you 224 00:14:29.840 --> 00:14:32.720 can still be thankful for the support of your loved ones, 225 00:14:33.120 --> 00:14:36.480 the care of medical professionals, and the chance to get 226 00:14:36.519 --> 00:14:40.240 better even if you're sick. By focusing on what you're 227 00:14:40.279 --> 00:14:44.200 thankful for, you can find strength and happiness even when 228 00:14:44.240 --> 00:14:47.679 things are hard. How then, do we show gratitude in 229 00:14:47.720 --> 00:14:52.120 our everyday lives. To begin, just think about what you 230 00:14:52.200 --> 00:14:55.360 want to do. Take a moment every day to think 231 00:14:55.399 --> 00:14:58.559 about what you're thankful for. It might look like a 232 00:14:58.639 --> 00:15:01.759 note in a journal, a mental list, or a chat 233 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:06.159 with a friend. When you practice gratitude, try to be specific. 234 00:15:06.720 --> 00:15:10.759 For example, instead of just saying I'm thankful for my family, 235 00:15:11.320 --> 00:15:14.759 think about specific things or moments that make you thankful 236 00:15:14.799 --> 00:15:18.440 for them. These actions can turn into habits that change 237 00:15:18.440 --> 00:15:21.320 the way you see things and make you happy and 238 00:15:21.440 --> 00:15:28.200 content with your life. Lesson six. Build your resilience. The 239 00:15:28.240 --> 00:15:33.159 capacity to overcome adversity, adjust to change, and persevere in 240 00:15:33.200 --> 00:15:37.720 the face of difficulties is known as resilience. This trait 241 00:15:37.840 --> 00:15:40.399 can mean the difference between giving up in the face 242 00:15:40.440 --> 00:15:44.720 of life's challenges and coming out stronger than ever in 243 00:15:44.840 --> 00:15:48.360 order to deal with life's inevitable ups and downs. The 244 00:15:48.440 --> 00:15:52.399 Stoics understood the value of fortitude. They thought that we 245 00:15:52.480 --> 00:15:55.759 could face problems with courage and grace if we worked 246 00:15:55.799 --> 00:15:59.039 on our inner strength and stability. But how do we 247 00:15:59.120 --> 00:16:02.960 build resilience in real life? Change of mind is the 248 00:16:03.000 --> 00:16:06.360 first step. We don't have to see problems as problems 249 00:16:06.440 --> 00:16:09.679 or setbacks. We can see them as chances to learn 250 00:16:09.679 --> 00:16:14.399 and grow. When confronted with challenges, ask yourself, what can 251 00:16:14.440 --> 00:16:17.600 I learn from this? How can I become stronger as 252 00:16:17.600 --> 00:16:22.159 a result? By rethinking problems in this way, you give 253 00:16:22.200 --> 00:16:26.080 yourself the power to face them with determination and resilience. 254 00:16:27.080 --> 00:16:31.559 The capacity to control stress and unpleasant emotions is another 255 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:37.840 crucial component of resilience. To develop inner calm and emotional equilibrium, 256 00:16:38.320 --> 00:16:43.639 the stoics recommended practices like mindfulness and meditation. You can 257 00:16:43.679 --> 00:16:48.159 stay calm and centered during life storms. By doing these things, 258 00:16:48.879 --> 00:16:51.960 this will help you make good decisions and act in 259 00:16:52.039 --> 00:16:56.080 the right way. Being resilient also means being able to 260 00:16:56.159 --> 00:17:00.440 deal with change and uncertainty. Life is always truck changing, 261 00:17:00.799 --> 00:17:03.799 and our plans and goals need to be shifted around too. 262 00:17:04.839 --> 00:17:07.480 Stoics say that we shouldn't hold on to a certain 263 00:17:07.519 --> 00:17:11.559 outcome or fight change. Instead, they say we should be 264 00:17:11.640 --> 00:17:14.559 open to the ups and downs of our journey. We 265 00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:17.680 can stay true to our core values and go with 266 00:17:17.759 --> 00:17:21.680 the flow of life. We can face uncertainty with confidence 267 00:17:21.759 --> 00:17:25.640 instead of fear because we are able to adapt. Last, 268 00:17:25.759 --> 00:17:31.559 but not least, community and connection give resilience strength. Having 269 00:17:31.640 --> 00:17:35.119 a network of friends, family, or mentors who are there 270 00:17:35.160 --> 00:17:38.799 for you can give you support and direction when things 271 00:17:38.839 --> 00:17:43.240 get tough. One powerful way to build resilience is to 272 00:17:43.279 --> 00:17:46.119 talk about your problems and ask for help when you 273 00:17:46.200 --> 00:17:50.680 need it. In essence, developing the inner resources to face 274 00:17:50.720 --> 00:17:55.559 adversity is what resilience is all about. When you're resilient, 275 00:17:55.960 --> 00:17:59.880 you can handle life storms with courage and grace, knowing 276 00:17:59.880 --> 00:18:02.680 that you have the strength to get through anything and 277 00:18:02.799 --> 00:18:07.680 come out of it stronger than before. Seventh lesson live 278 00:18:07.720 --> 00:18:10.200 in a way that is in line with your values. 279 00:18:11.119 --> 00:18:13.599 To live in line with your values, you have to 280 00:18:13.640 --> 00:18:17.519 make decisions and choices that show what's most important to you. 281 00:18:18.359 --> 00:18:21.839 It entails taking the time to fully understand your core 282 00:18:21.960 --> 00:18:25.079 values and making a commitment to live by them in 283 00:18:25.160 --> 00:18:28.799 all aspects of your life. The Stoics thought that we 284 00:18:28.880 --> 00:18:32.240 can find true happiness and inner peace by living in 285 00:18:32.279 --> 00:18:35.519 line with our values. But how do we figure out 286 00:18:35.559 --> 00:18:38.200 what our values are and what can we do to 287 00:18:38.279 --> 00:18:41.759 live our lives in line with them. First, you should 288 00:18:41.759 --> 00:18:45.480 figure out what your core values are. These ideas and 289 00:18:45.559 --> 00:18:48.759 beliefs will guide your life and help you decide what's 290 00:18:48.839 --> 00:18:52.279 most important to you. They can be any values that 291 00:18:52.359 --> 00:18:57.480 are important to you, like honesty, compassion, strength, or integrity. 292 00:18:58.240 --> 00:19:01.200 Take some time to think about yourself self and figure 293 00:19:01.240 --> 00:19:04.880 out what's important to you. Think about the times and 294 00:19:04.920 --> 00:19:08.720 events in your life when you were happiest and most satisfied. 295 00:19:09.480 --> 00:19:12.160 These things can help you figure out what your core 296 00:19:12.240 --> 00:19:16.279 values are. Once you know what your values are, you 297 00:19:16.319 --> 00:19:19.319 should try to make sure that your decisions and actions 298 00:19:19.400 --> 00:19:22.960 are in line with them. This means making choices that 299 00:19:23.079 --> 00:19:25.880 are in line with your values, even when they are 300 00:19:25.920 --> 00:19:31.079 hard or inconvenient. One example is that if you value honesty, 301 00:19:31.519 --> 00:19:34.640 try to be honest with everyone, even when it's easy 302 00:19:34.680 --> 00:19:38.480 to lie. Finding ways to help others and being kind 303 00:19:38.559 --> 00:19:42.079 in your daily life are important. If you value compassion, 304 00:19:42.880 --> 00:19:46.759 being self aware and responsible are also important for living 305 00:19:46.839 --> 00:19:50.599 in line with your values. Check your actions and decisions 306 00:19:50.640 --> 00:19:53.160 often to see if they are in line with your values. 307 00:19:53.839 --> 00:19:56.160 If you find that your actions are no longer in 308 00:19:56.200 --> 00:20:00.119 line with your beliefs, you need to take responsibility and 309 00:20:00.240 --> 00:20:03.759 work to make them again. Remember that living your life 310 00:20:03.799 --> 00:20:08.119 in line with your values is an ongoing process. As 311 00:20:08.119 --> 00:20:10.880 you change and grow as a person, you have to 312 00:20:11.000 --> 00:20:15.480 keep reflecting on yourself and making changes. Being true to 313 00:20:15.559 --> 00:20:19.000 yourself and being happy happen when you live in line 314 00:20:19.039 --> 00:20:22.519 with your values. People who are happy and at peace 315 00:20:22.880 --> 00:20:25.960 are more likely to make decisions that will make them happy, 316 00:20:26.480 --> 00:20:31.359 even when they face problems and difficulties. Finally, the Stoic 317 00:20:31.400 --> 00:20:35.680 philosophy gives you timeless wisdom and useful advice on how 318 00:20:35.720 --> 00:20:40.519 to control your emotions and get through life's challenges to 319 00:20:40.599 --> 00:20:43.920 find inner peace and happiness In a world where emotions 320 00:20:43.960 --> 00:20:47.279 can feel like rough waves. You can understand what you 321 00:20:47.359 --> 00:20:52.720 can control. Think before you act, practice dispassion, accept that 322 00:20:52.839 --> 00:20:57.480 things change, be grateful, build resilience, and live your life 323 00:20:57.640 --> 00:21:01.240 in line with your values. Don't forget that you shouldn't 324 00:21:01.279 --> 00:21:04.759 expect to learn these lessons right away. They need to 325 00:21:04.759 --> 00:21:08.640 be practiced and thought about all the time. However, you 326 00:21:08.759 --> 00:21:11.880 can start to change your relationship with yourself and the 327 00:21:11.920 --> 00:21:16.880 world around you by implementing Stoic principles into your daily life. 328 00:21:17.880 --> 00:21:21.400 Help the character you saw who was crying You felt 329 00:21:21.759 --> 00:21:25.240 but you didn't move from your seat. For me, This 330 00:21:25.440 --> 00:21:29.400 is what it means to practice dispassion. Deeply involved in 331 00:21:29.480 --> 00:21:32.880 life and feeling all of its emotions, but also knowing 332 00:21:32.920 --> 00:21:35.599 when to stay in the theater of your mind and 333 00:21:35.720 --> 00:21:39.319 watch without getting caught up in the action. In to 334 00:21:39.400 --> 00:21:43.880 day's information overloaded world, this approach becomes a life line. 335 00:21:44.440 --> 00:21:47.720 We get a lot of news, updates and notifications every day. 336 00:21:48.400 --> 00:21:51.720 If we felt strongly about every piece of information, we 337 00:21:51.759 --> 00:21:56.039 would always be tired. Dispassion is a buffer that helps 338 00:21:56.039 --> 00:21:58.400 you deal with the world in a more stable and 339 00:21:58.599 --> 00:22:04.000 balanced way. Dispassion is also very important in relationships with 340 00:22:04.079 --> 00:22:08.640 other people. There are times when arguments and heated conversations 341 00:22:08.960 --> 00:22:12.960 happen to all of us. When this happens, being able 342 00:22:13.000 --> 00:22:16.519 to remain neutral can mean the difference between a helpful 343 00:22:16.559 --> 00:22:21.319 conversation and an argument that hurts both sides. We can 344 00:22:21.400 --> 00:22:26.039 listen better respond instead of react, and handle disagreements with 345 00:22:26.200 --> 00:22:30.440 understanding and grace. When we do this, being self aware 346 00:22:30.559 --> 00:22:34.799 is the first step to developing dispassion. This space between 347 00:22:34.839 --> 00:22:39.240 stimulus and response is made by regularly checking in with ourselves, 348 00:22:39.720 --> 00:22:45.599 recognizing our emotional triggers, and understanding our patterns that space 349 00:22:45.680 --> 00:22:48.640 gives us the freedom to choose how to react and 350 00:22:48.680 --> 00:22:52.680 to act on purpose instead of on impulse. And while 351 00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:56.920 dispassion may sound like being detached from life's pleasures and joys, 352 00:22:57.519 --> 00:23:01.039 it actually makes them better. We we can fully immerse 353 00:23:01.079 --> 00:23:05.039 ourselves in the journey and enjoy each moment without the 354 00:23:05.119 --> 00:23:08.200 constant fear of loss or change if we are not 355 00:23:08.440 --> 00:23:12.880 overly concerned with the results. Finding balance in a world 356 00:23:12.920 --> 00:23:17.160 that is constantly changing is the goal of dispassion. It's 357 00:23:17.200 --> 00:23:20.240 a map that leads to inner peace and helps us 358 00:23:20.279 --> 00:23:24.839 move gracefully through life's many terrains. By doing this, we 359 00:23:24.920 --> 00:23:27.839 not only make our own lives better, but we also 360 00:23:27.960 --> 00:23:32.480 help those around us feel calm and clear. Lesson for 361 00:23:33.480 --> 00:23:37.119 ask yourself, will this still be important in five years? 362 00:23:38.240 --> 00:23:42.519 Fourth lesson, ask yourself, will this matter in five years? 363 00:23:43.440 --> 00:23:46.559 There will be times in life when our patience, strength, 364 00:23:46.880 --> 00:23:50.200 and sense of perspective are put to the test. Our 365 00:23:50.319 --> 00:23:54.039 days are filled with a variety of situations that elicit 366 00:23:54.200 --> 00:23:59.240 a variety of emotions, from minor annoyances like a spillid coffee, 367 00:23:59.240 --> 00:24:03.119 to bigger challenge like arguments with loved ones. We tend 368 00:24:03.119 --> 00:24:05.319 to get caught up in our feelings. When we're in 369 00:24:05.359 --> 00:24:08.240 the middle of something, it can feel like the end 370 00:24:08.240 --> 00:24:11.720 of the world when you miss a deadline, get negative feedback, 371 00:24:12.200 --> 00:24:16.359 or forget an important historical date. Will this matter in 372 00:24:16.519 --> 00:24:20.319 five years is a powerful question that can help us 373 00:24:20.319 --> 00:24:25.200 see things more clearly. This simple but profound question takes 374 00:24:25.279 --> 00:24:27.880 us to the future and back to the present at 375 00:24:27.880 --> 00:24:31.759 the same time. All of a sudden, that heated argument 376 00:24:31.920 --> 00:24:35.920 or missed chance looks very different. Most of the things 377 00:24:35.960 --> 00:24:38.640 we worry about now will be small details in the 378 00:24:38.680 --> 00:24:41.799 big story of our lives that we will never remember. 379 00:24:42.759 --> 00:24:45.799 Think about the problems and stresses you were facing five 380 00:24:45.920 --> 00:24:49.640 years ago. How many of them are still true. How 381 00:24:49.680 --> 00:24:54.559 many have been overshadowed by new memories, experiences, and things 382 00:24:54.599 --> 00:24:58.960 you've learned. This realization can make you feel both humble 383 00:24:59.279 --> 00:25:03.759 and free. Using this question as a regular guide helps 384 00:25:03.799 --> 00:25:07.319 us figure out what's most important to us. It helps 385 00:25:07.400 --> 00:25:10.799 us tell the difference between short term problems and long 386 00:25:10.920 --> 00:25:14.519 term effects. A bad day at work might seem like 387 00:25:14.559 --> 00:25:17.759 a lot right now, but in the grand scheme of things, 388 00:25:18.160 --> 00:25:21.799 it's just one day in a career that lasts decades. 389 00:25:22.440 --> 00:25:26.759 This point of view also makes people more resilient. Reminding 390 00:25:26.799 --> 00:25:29.799 ourselves of the bigger picture can help us deal with 391 00:25:29.920 --> 00:25:34.240 difficulties and find solutions. When we are faced with difficulty, 392 00:25:34.920 --> 00:25:38.519 we don't have to get stuck on the problem at hand. Instead, 393 00:25:38.920 --> 00:25:43.240 we can plan change and move forward, knowing that time 394 00:25:43.400 --> 00:25:47.799 often brings clarity and answers. But it's not just about 395 00:25:47.799 --> 00:25:51.920 making our worries seem less important. This question also makes 396 00:25:52.000 --> 00:25:57.240 us think about what's important. Investing in relationships, personal growth, 397 00:25:57.559 --> 00:26:01.279 and experiences that last is important if we want the 398 00:26:01.359 --> 00:26:04.160 things we do and choose to matter in the long run. 399 00:26:05.000 --> 00:26:09.160 The question will this matter in five years helps us 400 00:26:09.200 --> 00:26:13.240 live a life with meaning, perspective, and peace. Even though 401 00:26:13.279 --> 00:26:15.839