Speaker 1: Welcome to the Becoming You Show, where limits get torched
Speaker 1: and possibility takes the mic.
Speaker 2: I'm Leah Rowing, human in permanent.
Speaker 1: Beta, neurostrategist, mom to three amazing humans, married to one
Speaker 1: legendary soul, and your no Fluff Permission slate to stop waiting.
Speaker 1: Every week we rewire brain patterns, smash hand me down mindsets,
Speaker 1: and die into the daring identity shifting conversations.
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Speaker 1: Your next chapter starts now. Hello, Hello, my friends, Welcome
Speaker 1: to the Becoming You Show. I am your host, Leah Rolling,
Speaker 1: and I am so excited that you're joining me for
Speaker 1: this conversation I am.
Speaker 2: I'm going to let you know. I'm gonna give you
Speaker 2: fair warning.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a little feis today because this is
Speaker 1: an important one. I like to think that all the
Speaker 1: conversations are impactful in some way, at least it's my hope,
Speaker 1: But this one, in particular is one that I keep
Speaker 1: meeting and meeting and meeting in my coaching calls and
Speaker 1: in the world. And I'm probably not going to hold back.
Speaker 1: So get ready and we're going to dive right in.
Speaker 1: So somebody says something to you, okay, one sentence. Maybe
Speaker 1: maybe it's a text, Maybe it's a look across the table.
Speaker 1: Maybe it is a comment in a meeting that they
Speaker 1: didn't even think twice about. Maybe it's a mention or
Speaker 1: a comment on a post that.
Speaker 2: You have on any of.
Speaker 1: Your social media profiles. And it takes you out. It
Speaker 1: takes you out, not for a minute, but for the
Speaker 1: entire day. Right, you're playing it in the shower that night,
Speaker 1: you are writing the response right that you're probably not
Speaker 1: actually going to send. You are lying in bed at
Speaker 1: eleven o'clock still chewing on it. And this is true
Speaker 1: for what was said, and it's also true for messages
Speaker 1: that you send that just.
Speaker 2: Go ghost it, okay.
Speaker 1: So wherever you are meeting me in this conversation, just
Speaker 1: know that it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if what
Speaker 1: was said or if it was what was ghosted.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: And here's the part that I want you to get
Speaker 1: upset about, maybe just a little, Matt. The person that
Speaker 1: said the thing, or the person that ghosted you in
Speaker 1: the thing, they're asleep, they forgot, they have zero idea,
Speaker 1: no clue, right that you've been carrying. They're one careless sentence,
Speaker 1: there one careless comment or a lack of comment altogether
Speaker 1: around like a second job.
Speaker 2: Okay, you gave them a full day. I want you
Speaker 2: to consider this.
Speaker 1: You gave them a full day of your one and
Speaker 1: only life, and we are done.
Speaker 2: We are done with that today. Okay.
Speaker 1: And I want to be clear right up front, because
Speaker 1: this word gets misheard fast. Okay, I'm not going to
Speaker 1: teach you today to care less. You should know my
Speaker 1: heart by now. I'm not going to teach you to
Speaker 1: go cold and to wall up and to walk around,
Speaker 1: you know, with your chest puffed out and the volume
Speaker 1: turned down on the world so that you are unreachable.
Speaker 1: It's not the title of this show, of this episode,
Speaker 1: I'm going to teach you something most people do not
Speaker 1: even know is possible, and that is becoming unoffendable, unoffendable. Now,
Speaker 1: before you go and tell me that you're not all
Speaker 1: that easily offendable, right, I want you to consider that anychjudgment,
Speaker 1: any judgment that you have against anyone else for any
Speaker 1: reason at all, right, is someone that allows themselves to
Speaker 1: be offended.
Speaker 2: Right. So if you think thoughts like they shouldn't do that,
Speaker 2: or they should do it this way. That is judgment.
Speaker 2: That is judgment, and in that judgment, you are allowing
Speaker 2: yourself to.
Speaker 1: Become offended, becoming offended by the very thing that they
Speaker 1: didn't do that they should have, or that they did
Speaker 1: that they shouldn't have. Okay, and let me say the
Speaker 1: thing almost nobody says. A lot of us are addicted
Speaker 1: to it a little bit because being offended feels good,
Speaker 1: it feels righteous. It puts us in the right and
Speaker 1: then in the wrong, and being right is really a
Speaker 1: comfortable place for us to kind of set up camp.
Speaker 1: So part of this conversation today is going to be
Speaker 1: admitting that you have been getting something out of staying
Speaker 1: offendable and then the practice of just becoming unoffendable.
Speaker 2: Okay, And I'm going to walk you through the whole thing.
Speaker 2: So what is what is being offendable? What is it actually? Okay,
Speaker 2: so let's talk about what it's not. Unoffendable is not numb.
Speaker 2: It's not numb.
Speaker 1: Like I said, I'm not going to ask you to
Speaker 1: feel less. That is not strength. And it doesn't even work,
Speaker 1: by the way, because the stuff that you think you're
Speaker 1: finding a way, the stuff that you think that you're numbing.
Speaker 1: Doesn't go away, It doesn't just leave.
Speaker 2: It just goes.
Speaker 1: Underground and runs the show from down there. So we
Speaker 1: can thank the fines for that. It's not a wall either, right,
Speaker 1: and this is the one that a lot of people miss,
Speaker 1: the same wall.
Speaker 2: I want you to consider this, you guys, the same
Speaker 2: wall that keeps the insult out, that keeps the offense out,
Speaker 2: keeps the love out too. Right. The people with the
Speaker 2: thickest armor are not the safest people. They're not.
Speaker 1: They're the loneliest I find most times. Okay, that's that
Speaker 1: is not what we're building here. What we're building is sovereignty.
Speaker 1: Unoffendable is sovereignty. It's becoming the kind of person who
Speaker 1: cannot get knocked over, not because nothing reaches you, but
Speaker 1: because you finally took back the one thing that you
Speaker 1: kept handing away to anybody who wanted it, and that is.
Speaker 2: The keys to your own inner world.
Speaker 1: So here's the thing that nobody tells you about offense,
Speaker 1: and it's the line that I want you to actually
Speaker 1: let land because it changes everything. And almost nobody will
Speaker 1: coach you into this, okay, And that is this offence
Speaker 1: is not something that happens to you. Offence is something
Speaker 1: you do now. The first time people hear this, it
Speaker 1: sounds like I'm blaming you for your own pain, and
Speaker 1: I'm not. I am handing you your own power. There's
Speaker 1: a huge difference. There's a huge difference. And this is
Speaker 1: where we're gonna go today, because between what somebody says
Speaker 1: or doesn't say and what.
Speaker 2: You feel, there is a gap.
Speaker 1: There's a space, and it doesn't feel like one, and
Speaker 1: it feels instant, like the comment went in right and
Speaker 1: the hurt came right out with nothing in the middle.
Speaker 1: But there is always something, always something in the middle.
Speaker 2: And that is a thought. Okay, it is the meaning
Speaker 2: that you gave the thing.
Speaker 1: It is the story that you told yourself about what
Speaker 1: it meant that they said what they said.
Speaker 2: Okay, the comment what was.
Speaker 1: Said or again, what was not said. I coach a
Speaker 1: lot around ghosting. Okay, that did not create the feeling.
Speaker 1: The meaning that you gave the comment or the ghosting
Speaker 1: created the feeling. Same sentence. I want you to consider
Speaker 1: this too, same sentence, two different people. One is wrecked
Speaker 1: for a week, the other one barely blinks. Why the
Speaker 1: words were identical? The only thing that changed was the
Speaker 1: thought that each person had about it. Okay, And if
Speaker 1: your thought is the thing that's creating the feeling, then
Speaker 1: your power has been sitting right where you left it
Speaker 1: the whole time. You are not at the mercy of
Speaker 1: every careless thing that every person says or doesn't say,
Speaker 1: or does or doesn't do, right, you are at the
Speaker 1: mercy to your own thinking about it. And your own
Speaker 1: thinking about it is the one thing in all of
Speaker 1: this that actually belongs to you. So I'm not minimizing
Speaker 1: your pain. I'm offering your power. So the refrain I
Speaker 1: want you to hear today and I'll keep coming back to,
Speaker 1: is when you got offended, you made a decision. You
Speaker 1: just didn't realize that you are making one.
Speaker 2: Okay. So let's take the two directions that you get
Speaker 2: moved from. And we're going to.
Speaker 1: Start with the outside because it's the easiest one, right.
Speaker 1: Most of us are very well aware of that, right.
Speaker 1: So the outside is the other people. It's it's their opinions,
Speaker 1: it's their reactions, it's their reads on you. It's the
Speaker 1: things that they say or the things that they don't
Speaker 1: say that you feel anyway.
Speaker 2: And here's what you have to make peace.
Speaker 1: With You've just got to make peace with this, friends,
Speaker 1: because there's no version of your life where this is.
Speaker 2: That's not true.
Speaker 1: People are going to have opinions about you that are wrong.
Speaker 1: They are going to have opinions of you that are unkind.
Speaker 2: That is not the risk.
Speaker 1: Hey, that is a guarantee. As long as you are visible,
Speaker 1: hear me say this. As long as you are visible,
Speaker 1: as long as you are doing anything that matters at all,
Speaker 1: as long as you are putting yourself out there with
Speaker 1: any level of authenticity, genuineness, passion, anything at all that matters,
Speaker 1: somebody is going to be wrong about you. Someone is
Speaker 1: going to get you wrong, and some of them are
Speaker 1: actually going to say what.
Speaker 2: They think out loud.
Speaker 1: You cannot control that, and you will burn and I've
Speaker 1: seen it happen your whole life down trying.
Speaker 3: So.
Speaker 1: The work is not to get every person to see
Speaker 1: you correctly. The work is to stop treating every opinion
Speaker 1: in like a verdict that you are required to answer,
Speaker 1: that you are required to respond to, that you are
Speaker 1: required to hurt from. Somebody's opinion of you is information
Speaker 1: about them, not a ruling about you. When a person
Speaker 1: tells you who they think you are. They are showing
Speaker 1: you their lens, they are showing you their fears, they
Speaker 1: are showing you the kind of day that they are having.
Speaker 2: The story that they run about people like you is
Speaker 2: about them, right. They are offering up to you a
Speaker 2: window inside of them.
Speaker 1: They're not reporting a fact about you, and so you'll
Speaker 1: get to take it exactly as it is and has
Speaker 1: always been. It's a data point about them, and you
Speaker 1: can look at it and if there is something true.
Speaker 2: In there, take it, grow, keep moving. You are not
Speaker 2: too fragile to hear our things.
Speaker 1: You're not, and you can stop standing trial for the
Speaker 1: things that that you were never actually charged with. And
Speaker 1: the minute you stop doing that, it loses all its power.
Speaker 1: It loses all its power. So we can just let
Speaker 1: what was said be said, and we can take on
Speaker 1: any truth of that. Most of the time what people
Speaker 1: have to offer, I can find some truth in it.
Speaker 1: If people tell me that I am reckless with my words,
Speaker 1: yeah for sure, sometimes I can be. When people tell
Speaker 1: me that I'm selfish about the amount of self care
Speaker 1: I offer to myself, yeah, you're probably right.
Speaker 2: I don't find any offense to it, because it's all
Speaker 2: things about myself.
Speaker 1: That I've made peace with. I'm a human that's going
Speaker 1: to be imperfect. Okay, so what else you got right?
Speaker 1: When people want to criticize me, I often say, you're like, hey,
Speaker 1: we should just do lunch sometime.
Speaker 2: We have a lot in common.
Speaker 1: There's no one that's gonna be more critical of me
Speaker 1: than me, and we'll get to that.
Speaker 2: So get in line, buddy, and stop taking everything so seriously. Okay,
Speaker 2: so that's outside.
Speaker 1: We're gonna let it be outside, and we're gonna let
Speaker 1: whatever they say right allow us to learn something more
Speaker 1: about ourselves where we have judgment of self, or we're
Speaker 1: just gonna give it back to them and say, huh,
Speaker 1: you could just be wrong about me.
Speaker 2: It's no problem. Okay, Now we get to work on
Speaker 2: the inside.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is the hard one, and this is the
Speaker 1: one that almost everybody skips because it's kind of uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: But it is the way that matters the most. Okay,
Speaker 2: your meanest critic is probably not the person who said
Speaker 2: the thing. It's you. It is you. So here is
Speaker 2: what actually happens when something gets us right.
Speaker 1: Somebody says a careless thing, somebody says what they say, okay,
Speaker 1: and then your own mind picks it up off the
Speaker 1: floor and you build a whole case out of it.
Speaker 1: They say one offhand comment, and a voice inside you goes, see,
Speaker 1: I knew it.
Speaker 2: I told you.
Speaker 1: This proves the thing that you've always quietly been afraid
Speaker 1: is true about you. They must be right, and then
Speaker 1: there's tremendous shame, and when that doesn't feel great, then
Speaker 1: there's blame for them for saying the thing, and that
Speaker 1: blame shame loop is exhausting, and we just have to
Speaker 1: come back to the truth of what happened. The truth
Speaker 1: is they dropped a sentence and walked off. You were
Speaker 1: the one that took it home. You are the one
Speaker 1: that took it home, into the shower, into your sleep,
Speaker 1: into the next day.
Speaker 2: And I also want to bring this to you with love.
Speaker 1: Is that voice inside doesn't need much, It doesn't need
Speaker 1: a whole lot of provoking. It could take one careless
Speaker 1: thing that a stranger said, something that you don't even
Speaker 1: know on your social in your day to day, and
Speaker 1: use it to confirm a story that you have been
Speaker 1: telling yourself for years decades.
Speaker 2: Being unoffendable on the inside means you stop letting it,
Speaker 2: You stop loaning your peace to people. Today today you stop.
Speaker 1: I would love for you to just announce that to
Speaker 1: yourself today, I stop. Make that be that demarcation line
Speaker 1: in your world and say, today I stop, I stop
Speaker 1: giving my peace to other people. And I want you
Speaker 1: to think about how strange that arrangement that you've made
Speaker 1: with your life is. Some person, Okay, let's break this down,
Speaker 1: because I really want you just to be able to
Speaker 1: stop like today, full stop. So some person, okay, having
Speaker 1: probably not their best day, maybe their worst moment, says something,
Speaker 1: says a thoughtless thing, and you take that thoughtless thing
Speaker 1: and you.
Speaker 2: Give it the authority to be thoughtless to yourself.
Speaker 1: You let the most careless version of somebody's worst day
Speaker 1: define you. You would never sign up for that on purpose,
Speaker 1: None of us would. But most of us are quietly
Speaker 1: living inside that exact deal, that exact arrangement. When was
Speaker 1: that arrangement made. I want you to renegotiate the deal.
Speaker 1: You hold the pen, you get to write the new contract.
Speaker 2: You get to do that.
Speaker 1: And I hope that you do that today, and I
Speaker 1: hope that you come back to this conversation every time
Speaker 1: you need the practice of doing it, because It is
Speaker 1: a practice, my friends, It is a practice.
Speaker 2: And so I want to take you.
Speaker 1: Somewhere out where this conversation doesn't normally go because so
Speaker 1: far this sounds mostly about your feelings, okay, and about
Speaker 1: not having your day ruined right, not by the outside
Speaker 1: and not by your inside, and all of that matters.
Speaker 1: But this is so much bigger than your afternoon. This
Speaker 1: is so much bigger than your lack of rem sleep
Speaker 1: last night, and I need, I really really want you
Speaker 1: to feel the size of it. Okay, being offendable doesn't
Speaker 1: just cost you days rest sleep. It quietly makes decisions
Speaker 1: for your entire life. Most people never catch it happening. Okay,
Speaker 1: So here's how it works. When you are somebody who
Speaker 1: gets moved right offended by what somebody else says, by
Speaker 1: what other people might think, you start managing for it
Speaker 1: before you even act. It happens underneath you, kind of
Speaker 1: below that waterline. You don't send the message because what
Speaker 1: if they take it wrong.
Speaker 2: You don't say what.
Speaker 1: You actually want to say because you don't want to
Speaker 1: be that disruptive. You don't raise your hand in the
Speaker 1: room because what if it sounds dumb?
Speaker 2: What if you actually don't know the answer. What if
Speaker 2: it's just a guess right, You.
Speaker 1: Don't start the thing, launch the thing, apply for the thing,
Speaker 1: say the thing, because some part of you already knows
Speaker 1: and is bracing for how it might land and who
Speaker 1: might have a comment about it. And so, without ever
Speaker 1: sitting down and choosing it, without ever rearranging right that arrangement,
Speaker 1: without redefining the contract, you start capping your own ceiling.
Speaker 2: You shrink the dream down to a.
Speaker 1: Size that feels safe from judgment. You soften the thing
Speaker 1: that you actually wanted to say you you live one
Speaker 1: inch smaller than you really are everywhere you go. And
Speaker 1: here's the part that gets me. It's the part that
Speaker 1: I want to shake you on just a little bit.
Speaker 1: You don't call that fear. You call it being careful,
Speaker 1: You call it being realistic, You call it being humble, right,
Speaker 1: being appropriate, being a team player.
Speaker 2: It wears a lot of respectable.
Speaker 1: Labels, it does, but it is none of those things.
Speaker 2: It isn't.
Speaker 1: It's your life getting run by an arrangement that you
Speaker 1: made that you haven't renegotiated on.
Speaker 2: That's it. That was a decision. It was a.
Speaker 1: Decision to not play your life big, to not show
Speaker 1: up in your life with the full truth of who
Speaker 1: you are, and most of us don't even realize we're
Speaker 1: making it right.
Speaker 2: So I want you to I want you to hear
Speaker 2: me say this.
Speaker 1: The tragedy in this, you guys, isn't isn't that you
Speaker 1: went for something great and got judged. I would love
Speaker 1: for you to do that, because then you get practice
Speaker 1: working on becoming unoffendable. That is not the tragedy. That's
Speaker 1: the gift. The tragedy is that you never went for it,
Speaker 1: and you never even knew.
Speaker 2: The reason.
Speaker 1: Was that you were protecting yourself from people whose opinions
Speaker 1: are not going to matter at all on the very
Speaker 1: on the very last day of your life. Because that
Speaker 1: really is what offendability costs. It's not a bad mood,
Speaker 1: it's not a ruined shower, it's not a restless night
Speaker 1: of sleep.
Speaker 2: It's a whole.
Speaker 1: Capped life, a whole capt life. That is the importance
Speaker 1: of this conversation today.
Speaker 2: So I want to.
Speaker 1: Clear up one thing before I hand you a practice,
Speaker 1: because people get a little nervous, right, and I want
Speaker 1: to talk you out of it. Unoffendable does not mean
Speaker 1: that you let everything slide. It does not mean everything
Speaker 1: is fine. It does not mean that you don't have boundaries.
Speaker 1: It does not mean that you turn into a doormat
Speaker 1: who absorbs whatever anybody wants to hand you and just
Speaker 1: smiles and waves. That is not sovereignty. That is a
Speaker 1: level of self abandonment with better manners. Okay, I want
Speaker 1: you to hear the difference. You can become completely unoffended
Speaker 1: and still say no. You can be unbothered and still
Speaker 1: walk out the room. You can decline, you can address
Speaker 1: it straight. You can remove yourself from something that is
Speaker 1: not okay all without your inner world getting set on fire.
Speaker 2: In fact, in fact, you.
Speaker 1: Will be able to make those calls, hold those boundaries
Speaker 1: from a steadier place than an offended one, because now
Speaker 1: you are choosing on purpose instead of reacting from a wound.
Speaker 1: You are deciding from a level of consciousness, from a
Speaker 1: level of intentionality, instead of just reacting to what the
Speaker 1: world will throw at you. So again, sovereignty is not
Speaker 1: the absence of care and standards. It's quite the opposite.
Speaker 1: It's honoring the standards with such a conviction that you
Speaker 1: don't have to prove them wrong for your own belief.
Speaker 2: Okay, So when we do this work. Okay, this is
Speaker 2: what we get to do. Right.
Speaker 1: Number one, you take the piece off the table, and
Speaker 1: you do this in advance, on a calm day before
Speaker 1: any moment shows up. Right, it's really hard to negotiate
Speaker 1: this contract when your heart is pounding.
Speaker 2: And your body's on fire.
Speaker 1: You decide ahead of time that your steadiness, your nervous system, regulation,
Speaker 1: your peace is.
Speaker 2: Not up for grabs.
Speaker 1: It's not up for sale. Okay, that your inner world
Speaker 1: is not on offer to every person who.
Speaker 2: Wants to walk by with an opinion.
Speaker 1: Okay, you make it a settled thing right now, so
Speaker 1: when the moment comes, you're not deciding from a place
Speaker 1: of disruption.
Speaker 2: You already know who you are and how you're going
Speaker 2: to meet that moment. Okay. Second, two questions. Right when
Speaker 2: you feel.
Speaker 1: The heat, because you will, because you're human and you
Speaker 1: kind of feel that familiar poll to jade right, to justify,
Speaker 1: to argue, to defend, to explain, you get to ask
Speaker 1: yourself two things.
Speaker 2: One is this true? Is this true? Is what they're
Speaker 2: saying true?
Speaker 1: You'll probably find some truth to it, otherwise there wouldn't
Speaker 1: be the heat.
Speaker 2: Okay, work on the truth for you is this mind
Speaker 2: to carry. That's it. A lot of what comes up
Speaker 2: fails the carry part. You don't have to carry all
Speaker 2: of this. You just have to make peace with it.
Speaker 2: If there's truth to it, If there's not truth in it,
Speaker 2: why are you holding it? Give it back? Give it back.
Speaker 1: And the last thing, the last thing, the part of
Speaker 1: you that wants to fire back, the part of you
Speaker 1: that wants to win, the part of you that wants
Speaker 1: to be right, the part of you that wants to
Speaker 1: get the last word, prove them wrong.
Speaker 2: Here's what I want.
Speaker 1: Here is what I do not want you to do
Speaker 1: with it. I don't want you to obey that part
Speaker 1: of you, okay. I also don't want you to shame it.
Speaker 1: I want you to think it. I want that is
Speaker 1: the part of you that learned somewhere in your life
Speaker 1: that you had to fight to be okay in whatever
Speaker 1: way that you had to defend and preserve your own
Speaker 1: enoughness and worthiness and matters. Thank it, Thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: Thank you for having my back. Thank you for wanting
Speaker 1: to fight this for me.
Speaker 2: But we don't. But but we don't need to fight
Speaker 2: this truth.
Speaker 1: Thank you for the loyalty that is how you become unoffendable.
Speaker 2: That is how you become unoffendable.
Speaker 1: And so everything everything that I walked through today isn't
Speaker 1: isn't kind of a one and done decision, like you
Speaker 1: heard me say this, So now you're now you're all
Speaker 1: of a sudden unoffendable.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: No, it is a practice. It is a practice, and
Speaker 1: it is harder to build it alone. It is harder
Speaker 1: to build it in your head with nobody around you
Speaker 1: doing the same work, challenging the decisions that you're making
Speaker 1: unconscious to stay comfortable from the judgment of other people.
Speaker 1: Those are blind spots that most of us can't see.
Speaker 1: They're they're called blind for a reason. And that is
Speaker 1: the whole reason that inner lab exists. Okay, Inner lab
Speaker 1: is where this stops being a podcast that you nod
Speaker 1: along and maybe take some notes to and maybe share
Speaker 1: with friends, and it turns into the actual work that
Speaker 1: you do with real people doing it right next to you.
Speaker 2: And this month, we are living inside one word, and
Speaker 2: that is possibility. That is possibility because.
Speaker 1: Remember what I told you, So many people are quietly
Speaker 1: making decisions for their life that are limiting them, that
Speaker 1: are capping their ceiling, that are shrinking them, and they do.
Speaker 2: Not even know that is what they're doing.
Speaker 1: Remember I told you they were they were being careful
Speaker 1: right when they were actually getting smaller. This month, inside
Speaker 1: the lab, we're catching those decisions before they get made.
Speaker 1: We are, we are, we are taking the ceiling down
Speaker 1: on purpose. Together, we are practicing living from possibility instead
Speaker 1: of from protection. So here's where I'm going to leave
Speaker 1: you today. If you're not in the lab, join us
Speaker 1: this month.
Speaker 2: It will be the best month of your year.
Speaker 1: You were not put here to live one sentence away
Speaker 1: from a bad day. You were not I want you
Speaker 1: to think about how ridiculous that sounds. You were not
Speaker 1: put here to live one sentence away from a bad day.
Speaker 1: You were not put here to hand your peace over
Speaker 1: to every person that handed you an opinion right, or
Speaker 1: to let your own mind prosecute, prosecute you with words
Speaker 1: that a stranger dropped and forgot. And you were absolutely
Speaker 1: not put here to cap your own life to stay
Speaker 1: safe from an imagined judgment of people who are not
Speaker 1: even thinking about you. When you get offended, you make
Speaker 1: you made a decision, and in that decision, you got smaller.
Speaker 2: Right. You did not know you were making one and
Speaker 2: now you do.
Speaker 1: And the second that you can see at a decision
Speaker 1: that you either make or you don't, you get to
Speaker 1: make a different one.
Speaker 2: You get to make a different one. Make that one,
Speaker 2: Make that one.
Speaker 1: Okay, my beautiful friends, have a beautiful, beautiful weekend, and.
Speaker 2: I will see you next week. Take care, everybody.
Speaker 3: If this episode cracked something, open good, let it and
Speaker 3: then head to lerollincoaching dot com and grab the tools
Speaker 3: to rewire the.
Speaker 2: Story and replay your future. It is yours.
Speaker 1: And then share this with someone who's still waiting to
Speaker 1: be chosen, still waiting for permission, and.
Speaker 2: Remind them they don't need a breakthrough, that they are
Speaker 2: the breakthrough.
Speaker 3: Until next time, my beautiful friends, just in you