Speaker 1: I made de Sin Joe oh pace the sunniest sound.
Speaker 2: I had a vision.
Speaker 1: What's what's up?
Speaker 2: Everybody, welcome to her crying out loud, It's gonna be
a great show, and that I feel it.
Speaker 1: Boom me too.
Speaker 2: I feel cold in my bones is what I feel.
Speaker 1: Boom boom. So I was telling Stephanie right before the
show started, like now that I met the new condo.
When I went there for the first time, I was
by myself. So Olga lived there for so long. Now
she's gone every day I've been there. Roberto and Alvaro
been there. So the other day when I went for
the first time to sleep, it was weird. It was
just like because I so Adam and I broke up.
He I was living with him. He helped, he put
down the down payment. But then I made the payments
for the condo okay, and did for the rest of
our relationship, and and so I lived there when when
we were broken up, and it was I just remember
such those weird, bad memories of just being alone all
the time, like just being lonely coming home from work,
and you know, all my friends were just getting married
or they were already married, and they were like you know,
Gina Kimmel, who was like you know, who was really
supportive to me and helped me like decorate the place
and get it you know, blah blah blah. But also
like on a Saturday, like what are you guys doing?
We're going to the Man Show rap party, you know.
Speaker 2: Like everybody's going, Melissa, everybody.
Speaker 1: I can't go, you know, because we're broken up, and
just all those like sad memories every morning, rolling over
and calling Wendy first thing in the morning and just
like before I'd go to work, just crying my eyes out,
like are we ever gonna get back together? Do you think?
Like Bob, just so sad and just getting having like
so last So when I went there, I was like
alone in there, walking up the stairs in my bedroom,
like it just felt so weird but also happy though,
like totally different. Like I wish I could tell my person,
like my old self, Listen, you have a lot of
years where it's like eh, but you're gonna get to
be happy in the long run. It'll be okay. Like
I wish I knew, I wish I would have. I
wish you could tell your old self that. But anyway, Yeah,
it's just I don't know, it's just it's it's it
was interesting. I didn't even think I was going to
feel those feelings, but you know, like it just came
back and it was. But I love having my own
place now that I can decorate and make it my own.
And block had seen it. They, I mean, they know
it's there, they know they haven't seen it yet. I
want an Italia to help me, but she's so busy.
I need her, like I would love to go furniture
shopping with her, and she said she would so, But
I have a feeling once she sees it, she's gonna
be like, oh someday, you know. I don't know, but
I'm glad I never sold it. And yeah, it's it's
going to serve its purpose now, thank god. But yeah,
I'm excited. I'm excited, But it's just weird old feelings. Yeah,
waking up in that bedroom, you know, looking at the
same ceiling, same window. You wake up and go okay,
But I have like two grown kids. Yeah, things have changed,
things have changed totally.
Speaker 2: And maybe it helps that you don't have to sleep
there that often.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, definitely, Yeah, it would be weird if I
was there every eight. Yeah, it's but I'm enjoying it,
like making it my own, and like, you know, it's
just a whole blank canvas, Like I got to buy
all this new furniture and rugs, and I need so
much shit there shampoo, but yeah, so.
Speaker 3: All of those things add up too. It's just like
working that credit card because it's like, oh, we have
a whole new room and it needs same rug. And
then the kids are moving out of their rooms. First
of all, Sadie and Xander's room that they share smells
so bad. It smells like a crime scene. You can't
like you you want to be like one of those
detectives that puts like a cloth over your face to
walk in there. I'm like, do they not smell it?
Speaker 1: It's a combination. It really a lot of.
Speaker 3: It is like bio and then the bo that's on
their clothes that then just goes in their hamper, you know,
is now just like stinking up the room. They also
will wear something and it smells bio in the and
they'll just like slide it under their bed.
Speaker 1: Plus like old food and old drink. It's disgusting. Yeah,
And every time I walk in there, I'm like, oh,
my god, this is horrifying. Sonny smells Sonny's room smells
like a teenage boy. But what he does is he
he thinks he's fooling people by putting on cologne, like
he got cologne for Christmas. So he just smells like
James baby Doll Dixon, you know, like just like Versachi cologne,
you know, but like with bo right and sweat mixed
in it. Like you know when you smell some kid's head,
how you smell their heads smells smelling like that, but
with then like some I don't know, Calvin Klein, I
don't even know what it is, but it's just and
he puts so much on. Oh I know, I know,
this smells like a freaking like Yeah, the kids like
the girls, they like the really heavy vanilla like Bath
and Body sprays like vanilla sugar, the ones from Victoria's
Secret or Bath and Body. Itally smells like a stripper. Yeah,
it's so cloying. It's a terrible smell. I'm like lighting
that ship. I get something with like a more citrusy
right tone, very so strong, I know, I know, Yeah,
she smells like Victoria's Secret, Like that's what strippers smell. Like,
did you have calin No, No, did not know that. Yeah.
Speaker 3: The one stripper that I had when I back in
the day had smelled like treysoors that. Oh yeah, yeah,
pretty but also very strong, right, like very floral, right
you know vanilla?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Like, yeah, did you ever wear Patuli?
Speaker 1: No? I didn't. But do you remember when the Madonna
album came out, the True Blue, I think, and it
smelled like Petuli? No, it did either like a virgin
or True Blue came out and the whole album smelled
like Petuli. Really yes, And then everybody started wearing Pechuli. Oh,
I don't remember that.
Speaker 2: I had Petuli for a while, and Adam.
Speaker 1: Was like, oh, I sellt like my mom, it's not
my girlfriend down by the way, did I tell you this?
Like she smells like an old grandma. She's where's this
one perfume? I gotta find out the name of it
it is to avoid it. Oh my god, it is
the worst. And I tell Susanne I go when she
came over after I got God blessed don she gotta
get a different perfumes. His hand's like huh, I'm like,
you don't fucking smell. It's like hit me right in
the face when she walked in, Like it just smells
like an old grandma's perfume. Oh and she's already aging
herself by falling down the stairs and hitting her head
and having a hippy place like yeah, you know, like
she's already not in the great shape.
Speaker 2: Come on, don like get a different like her perfume.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Do you remember when poison was a big one?
Speaker 1: Yes, And I hate that smell was so bad and
everybody was wearing it, and I would walk into a
room and be like, oh, I don't like that smell. Yeah,
I remembered your car. I like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: On Guys and Guys Yeah, and Polo Rolf Lauren, Yeah,
oh that was good, and Pierre Cardan oh yeah yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
Sunny doesn't smell like that.
Speaker 3: No, yeah, because you got to be clean for it first, right,
and you don't need to put so much on. But
I've got to literally toss out, like Sadie and Xander
have a rug because they track shit all over.
Speaker 1: It and spill food on it. And it's like I'm
not in their room like steam cleaning their rug, Like
I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: That rug was probably a couple hundred bucks. It was
years ago. I got to roll that thing up. You know, honestly,
you could roll up a body in there and.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't write it, wouldn't You wouldn't be able to
smell a difference, right, So got to get rid of that.
LB's got to get rid of her rug. So we
have to buy a rug for our new room, rugs
for all the rooms. That's expensive, I know, go to
that sale rug dot com. Yeah, yeah, I'm going to
do that because order them all at the same time. Yeah,
but you know you don't think about this betting like
you know, you can order like your sheets or whatever
from any of the great sponsors we use. But then
you got to get a comforter right now if you
want to get like a down comforter, which we have
so we're upgrading to a king bed. So now we
need all new stuff like new Dove, new comforter new
right this that stuff adds up. I know I am
borrowing Olga's duvet, like her comforter, her down comforter because
we just went and have an extra one, so until
I need to go on like a target run or something.
But also Wendy told me Costco down comforters they have,
oh and she said and betting. Yeah, and you can
get them at Costco. Like there's the down comforters, there's
the white Goose down comforters. I need that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they have it there.
Speaker 1: Because I went to Bed Bath and Beyond. Do you
know that they're going out of business?
Speaker 2: They are.
Speaker 1: Everything is being taken over by mail order stuff. Really,
and mail order stuff is great, don't get me wrong,
but sometimes you just need something like today, Yeah, I
know you're like, well, no, I don't want I can't
sleep in this room until I have a comforter, right,
I can't be shopping around. I just want to go
get one, right. I'm like Bed Bath and Beyond. The
shelves are half empty. They only have should go there.
They don't have a big selection, no, no, and the
stuff they have is all of a sudden super overpriced,
even though you can use a twenty percent off coupon.
But I'm like a comforter.
Speaker 2: There was like a comforter was like three hundred and
fifty dollars.
Speaker 1: I was like, no, thanks, yeah, yeah, I want one
for like sixty versus sixty dollars. Comforters good like trying
to find somebody to help you there. I went to
home goods. They had a very limited selection.
Speaker 2: They do.
Speaker 1: There's a home goods right by my house. Well, here's
the thing.
Speaker 3: You could buy a comforter, right But what I don't
love about having a comforter is we have a dog,
so the dog is going to sleep on the comforter.
You have to wash those things, and you can't fit
a whole ass king sized comforter in your washing machine,
so I don't know how people wash it. Whereas a
duvet cover, if you get a comforter and cover it
with a duvet, you can take the duvet on and
off and wash it, which I need to do, even
though it is, of course the bane of my existence.
Speaker 2: Is the worst chore in the entire world, the worst.
Speaker 1: Got to psych myself up for an entire day to
do it, but.
Speaker 3: It's still better than what you did. How do people
clean a can't size comforter? Would you bring it somewhere?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: I would.
Speaker 1: I would bring it to the dry cleaners and just
tell them to do it. Yeah, I guess. Or you
have to go to a laundrymat, or you go to
a laundry mat. I haven't been to a laundry mat.
I get what you got those? Remember the new washer
and dryer thing situation? Then, right, so ours is like
extra because we have so much clothes in that house.
Speaker 2: So we got extra big so it could wash.
Speaker 1: I think it could wash a large king size comforter. Yeah,
well ours can't. Yeah certain washing machines. Yeah yeah, you
would have to take it to a drunk I'm just saying,
these are the This is the thinking that you do
when you go from place to place. When you go
I'm going to just go out and do some errands
and I'm going to grab a mattress pad, one set
of sheets to get us started, and a comforter, and
then you come home with none of the buddy, now,
you know, you go to four stores and you're like, well,
I still can't sleep on this bed yet, you know.
I know, luckily we have sheets from the house that
I took, but we don't have a comforter.
Speaker 2: I had to borrow all it is. We have lots
of sheets, We've got our brook linen stuff.
Speaker 3: We have stuff for a queen size beg right, not furking, yeah,
and not fit furking, not fit fur king. It's just
oh my god, I know, we talked about this on
Tuesday's show, but it's just everything feels.
Speaker 2: Like it feels like there's all these.
Speaker 1: Boulders rolling down a hill and I have to go wait, wait,
you hold a lot. I know.
Speaker 3: So Sadie has been going to the dermatologist. Alb I
gave up on her skin worked itself out, but Sadie's
been going to this dermatologist who I don't really like
because every time we go there it's eighty bucks. And
they started her on something a long time ago.
Speaker 1: Uh huh. It didn't really work.
Speaker 3: So I ended up calling them and being like, hey,
her skin looks worse than ever. Can we come in
a little bit earlier than our next appointment. Go in
and the she's like, yeah, well you didn't really give
it enough time to work, and it always gets a
little worse before it gets better.
Speaker 2: All right, So down that's another eighty bucks.
Speaker 1: Come back in like six weeks and hear, do this
and take this, take a round of antibiotic to clear
the skin. Okay, well the antibiotic worked, but then once
she stopped the antibiotic, it came right back. So then
we go in again and she's like, well, are you
using the stuff like every day she does, saying it's
really good about that stuff, Yeah she is. Okay, well,
I'm going to give you another round of antibiotics. You're
gonna take it for six weeks and then you're gonna
come back in. So like she's been taking an antibiotic,
her skin's still shitty.
Speaker 3: It's like, how about whatever you're using isn't working, right? Like,
can we now that we've spent hundreds of dollars right?
And now I'm like, so, the reason I was saying
that is because she supposedly had we're recording on Tuesday.
She had an appointment today after school, so yesterday when
they called me to confirm, I was.
Speaker 1: Like, you know, let me move that back a few weeks.
And I think I'm just gonna go somewhere else. Yeah,
try someplace else my losses. Yeah, honestly, it's just the
mask thing. Every day. I think I think it's like,
you know, obviously kids, teens are prone to breaking out,
but then you gotta put the mask on all day,
like it's like a pressure cooker under there. You know,
it's you gotta take that into consideration. Yeah, that is true.
Speaker 2: It's just sucks.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's one of the things why my kids
hate school too, they have to sit there with that
mask on. Uh yeah, Wait, California is getting rid of
the mask mandate, although not La not California, really what
the fuck?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And Jersey's getting rid of in school masks Jersey, Delaware,
like some Connecticut. Yeah, there's like four places that are
getting rid of the.
Speaker 2: Masks in school.
Speaker 3: Well, we'll see, we'll see if they have more outbreaks.
I don't know anymore. I don't even have an opinion
on it any at this point. I mean, you know,
Ilbie had it, it was no symptoms as well, and
Sadie and Xander have never had it, and now they're boosted.
But I'm hoping that that means if they do get it,
they'll have like very few symptoms as well.
Speaker 2: Right right, Yeah, I know what happened to Heather.
Speaker 1: This is why I was going to ask you what
happened to Heather McDonald. I don't know. I don't know
any more than you do. She fell down on stage,
she fainted, that's it. That's that's all I know. M
Maybe her some of her listeners can give us the
jusiest scoop. Yeah boom, boom. So Sonny has been invited to.
So he went snowboarding with his friends, oh, like his
one family over the weekend. And it's funny because the
kid that he went with is on a snowboarding team
because his dad. His parents are divorced, and the dad
goes like every other every time he has the boys,
he takes them up to Big Bear and they go like, sorry, snowboarding.
Speaker 2: And uh, and so he's so anyway, he joined like.
Speaker 1: A team and he's really good, and he's asked Sonny
to go with them a bunch of times. So finally
Sonny went. And then I was talking to him about it,
and I know, I know Sonny, and he was like, yeah,
you know, it's really hard at first. It's like, you know,
when you go skiing, you got to it's a lot
of work. There's like, you know, you got to put
the boots on and you can't. It's awkward. It's weird
feeling you can't move. And but he liked it. He said,
the first day, I was like, be honest, were you thinking,
like what the fuck did I get myself into? He's
like yes, But he's like then once I got used
to it, he.
Speaker 2: Got the hang of it.
Speaker 1: And by the second day he was much better and
he could see.
Speaker 2: He's like, even if I did get the hang of it.
Speaker 1: On the first day, I was thinking, like, even if
I did get it, like, what's the big deal, Like,
it's not that much fun, He's like. But then the
second day I did it more and more and I
was like, oh, okay, this is fun. You know. So
I said, would you go again? And he said yeah,
And in fact, they invited him to go. I guess
during the spring they're going to like, I don't know
France or somewhat. Yeah. I love the fact that you're like,
it could be palm Springs. You're like, I don't know France. Well,
they said, first they said Switzerland, then they said France.
And this family travels a lot. They go like, they
go to Europe a lot. European there this is not no, no, no, no, no.
Didn't they live in Switzerland.
Speaker 2: They moved, that's right, they moved.
Speaker 1: They moved.
Speaker 2: They moved to France. Okay, yeah, so you can see
how I would make that mistake. Yeah, that's fine.
Speaker 3: I can't even believe remember that. Yeah, wrapping the gift
and the Trader drill. No, but I totally forgot that
that family moved. You're right, yes, yeah, No, it's not
pew peugh.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: Now this is he's been friends with this kids in
second grade. But they travel. They're like this European family
that goes, you know, like it's no big deal.
Speaker 2: And so so was the dad remarried, No, but he
just he does the traveling.
Speaker 1: Both they used to both of them as a family,
but I think the dad does it more. Yeah, Okay,
it's like four boys in the family too. The mom
is tired, doesn't want to fucking do all that traveling,
right right, But the dad, yeah.
Speaker 2: You could go get it.
Speaker 1: He wouldn't add a friend, Like he's got already got
four boys to take. Well, two of the boys are
older now, so now it's just more of Sonny's friend.
Speaker 2: And then he's got a younger brother.
Speaker 1: So he Yeah, so they invited Sonny and he's like, so,
now Sonny's got to go get a passport. And I'm like, oh,
here we go. You know, it's like this whole Kashaw
got to find out where.
Speaker 2: To go and what to do, and mom blah blah.
Speaker 1: But luckily Suzanne, she got Gracie a passport recently, so
she knows just go to like Burbank whatever office. But
of course she sends me the link and I click
on it to start to fill out forms, and it's like, yeah,
our server's down, so come back again later. I'm like,
and it's coming up, like it's kind of quick. It's
coming up in April. They're going, oh, so you have
to do a like an express. I'm gonna have to
probably do. Yeah, I have to figure out when they're Yeah,
as soon as I start thinking about just documents.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: I know. It was hard enough getting Natalia's all her
shit together to get to the DMV to get her drivers. Like, hey,
but since I just did that, now I remembered where
I put everything, and Sunny stuff is right there too,
so it's not as hard I have all their stuff.
But still it's just how do people that are not organized?
It's like what do they do? Like, Thank god, I
have a filing cabinet where I put all that stuff,
which I'm sure everybody else does too. But yeah, I mean,
it's just another whole thing that I gotta do. And
I gotta take Natalia back to the DMV and have
her go for her license, again.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, when are you Does she have an appointment
for that yet?
Speaker 1: No, you said we could make an appointment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or you could just go in I guess like
you did last time. I mean, we're just gonna go
in on Thursday this week.
Speaker 3: This is so my life right now. It's like I
have to do this. I have to work around all
of their schedules.
Speaker 1: That's the other thing. I know my own schedule, right,
And then you know, they go, oh, I need to
Like I said, I moved Sadie's dermatology so that I
don't have that like crushing down on me like this afternoon,
because it's always freaking something I know, I know. And
bus plus these two they're at the orthodontis like every
other day between the team of them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I say, driving me nuts.
Speaker 1: And my kids.
Speaker 3: First of all, Xander's teeth are like they're already straight,
like right now, I'm telling you that his teeth could
not be any straight or they've been the same way
for a long time. And sadies are not getting sadies
are like gaps everywhere. It's so weird, Like I'm like,
how come her teeth? I remember Xander's teeth got straight
very quickly from races, and so did Elbie's and Sadie's
that she's had her braces on for two.
Speaker 1: Years and it's they look the same. I don't you
know what I mean? And you can't you feel like
you can't be like, hey, what's the deal with her teeth?
How come they're not? I don't know. They're gonna be like,
what are you an orthodonis? Now I'm gonna go no,
But I have some feelings about it. I have eyes.
Speaker 2: What's the deal with their teeth?
Speaker 1: I know? I know, Like I feel like Sonny's had
his things on for so long. I'm like, one, is
he gonna be done? Is there straight? I know he's done.
Take them off? Yeah, I just freaking get appliers to
take them off. I know, Oh my god.
Speaker 3: And then Xander he's broken a couple of brackets, and
now I live in fear because they're like, oh, next time,
if he breaks another bracket, you're gonna have to pay
a fine.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I didn't make the the braces.
Speaker 1: He's not doing anything, like maybe he just has shitty
brackets on his teeth. They try to blame the kids.
I'm like, listen, I'm already paying a lot of money.
Let's start like he's not doing It's not like he's
eating jawbreakers lunch, Like what the fuck?
Speaker 3: I know, I know, threatening me with like a fee.
If he breaks another bracket, well then guess what an
I just won't tell you.
Speaker 1: Then they're going to find out. I mean, I know
every freaking day. I should show you my schedule. It
probably I'm sure they have an orthodonos s to put
every week one or the other, like it's it's just
a rotating door.
Speaker 3: It used to be we would try to figure out
the timing for feeding schedules, and now it's figuring out
the timing. It's like one of them gets off schedule
and it sucks up your entire life.
Speaker 2: Now you got to go back twice in one week.
Speaker 1: Yep, it sucks. Yeah, I know, oh yeah, and I
have to send John.
Speaker 3: And then, like the glasses thing I was telling you
that I'll be was like I need glasses and I
didn't want to go back to the place we went before.
Speaker 1: This is how I found a new one. You wish
you could just ask another mom, but everybody's got a
different story, right, So you're like, hey, where do you
get your kid's glasses.
Speaker 3: Well, my kid is only far sighted, so they don't.
I'm like, right, then, somebody's like, we just go to Costco.
Speaker 1: I can barely handle costcout is, let alone the the
Tommentry apartment. Immediately, my brain just goes, I have a
feeling you need an appointment for that. Yes, yes, And
then I just feel like it's going to be somebody
from like, you know, the wine department that just comes
over and goes, I think I can.
Speaker 3: Use the eye machine feels irresponsible. Yes, it's fine, but
like you know something that I'm like, go on YELP.
Speaker 1: While I'm on YELP, I'm like, let me look up
the bad reviews from the place I went before.
Speaker 2: Sure enough, there's even more. There's newer ones that are
like this guy's a thief.
Speaker 1: Like interesting, Oh, and the guy argues with everybody who
leaves a bad review. He goes on there and insults them.
And one person put up oh my god, I should
show you this, Kaylin, will you post will you put
up city eyes in Van eyes? I gotta show you this.
One woman posted text messages the guy, the owner of
the store, started sending her texts really, and she was
writing back like, dude, this is really unprofessional to argue
with her about her YELP review.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: He started texting her and like arguing with her about it. Wow,
this place is crazy. Wow.
Speaker 3: Remember I told you about this visit though, and Elbie
was getting so uncomfortable because I was like, I do
think that's covered.
Speaker 1: And I told them I felt pressured. They tried to
put a year's context. So yeah, look at this. Look
at these texts. Can you make it big? Oh? Those
are the text messages?
Speaker 2: Yes, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: If if you did, you would have singled my family
out as simply basically, the guy was saying like, you're
the reason I don't take medical anymore. You're the reason
I'm not going to take medical anymore. People like you?
Oh really Yeah? And then it's this is the woman
writing back to him his text, it's really ridiculous that
you feel the need. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So I was looking for a better exchange between the.
Speaker 1: Two of them. Uh yeah, look at all these one
star reviews. Why didn't I look at this first before
I went there? Look at that. Wow, he's writing he's
yelling at people. Okay, So I'm like, so I start
reading that to entertain myself. And then I see somebody
who's like, this guy tries to overcharge and they claim
your insurance does it cover it? And then they said
there's this.
Speaker 3: Other place called blah blah blah right down the street.
It was like Vision Eyes of whatever. And I was like, oh, let.
Speaker 2: Me call them, right.
Speaker 1: I called them and I go, hey, we used to
go to City Eyes but they sucked. And I go
and I was reading their bad yell reviews and somebody
loved you guys, so we're gonna try you out. It
was really funny.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: They're like great, yeah, but of course they had like
no appointments. I'm like three weeks, Yeah, it's gonna work
that day. And they're like, well we're not open this day.
And I'm like, okay, LB, I got you an appointment,
but it's not for a few weeks. Just try not
to use your eyes until then. Exactly. I know everything
that I want to do I want to do that day. Yeah,
Like I'm like, I got a window for two hours,
let's get your eyes chat, you know. But it never
just doesn't work.
Speaker 2: That way, right, No, I know, you always got to
make an appointment.
Speaker 1: I know, said he was like, let's just go get
my my my passport.
Speaker 2: Now, like the night that I was taking him to.
Speaker 1: Go buy clothes for He's like, we'll just stop. He
goes there's a place ups at the they do passports.
I see it in the window every time I'm on
my walk. They said passport, So let's just go there,
and I'm like, no, it's not, it's not.
Speaker 2: You can't just what shut up? You can't just go
to the passport I got. I'm sure I gotta bring shit.
I don't know what I'm supposed to bring. And he's like, well,
just let's call him.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: Of course it doesn't work that way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, John and I had to renew our passports. Oh
a couple of years ago when we went to Canada.
Speaker 1: Uh huh. It was a whole ordeal.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you get to gather a lot of documents. It
took like three hours at the place we have to.
You know, it's worse.
Speaker 1: Than the DMV because you stand in a big line
just to get the information and so they can check documents.
Then they send you to another area where you sit
in chairs and like wait for your name to be called.
Then you get like basically interviewed, like you're on trot
you know. Oh boy, they make you do a polygraph test, right,
and that's just to go to Canada. So I because yeah,
it's a I don't think you can just go to
Uh can I get a passport? Here's a copy of
my utility bill? Right you? Here's this, here's this report card,
here's the show that he lives in the neighborhood. Yeah
that's not here's a spectrum bill.
Speaker 2: Yeah, now that's right, not right, happen FIR certificate.
Speaker 1: I have all but I have all this stuff, but
I should do it. Suzanne told me what to do.
So I'm it's gonna do it. Is it passport office
or is it like a post It's a passport office.
Speaker 2: But she said, download the PDF file.
Speaker 1: Fill that out first, then call and make an appointment.
She's like, you got to make an appointment. It's at Burbank,
somewhere in Burbank. Okay, some office in Burbank. So I'll
figure it out. Yeah, I'll do it too. Yeah not
like today, No, no, because today's not your two hour window.
No no, Well I also have like fifteen million podcasts.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's true.
Speaker 1: Like I got to watch I do like the fact
that my job is like I have I'm sorry, well
I'm not available.
Speaker 3: I have to watch The Bachelor, right, Please, You're gonna
have to handle life yourself.
Speaker 2: I'm watching The Bachelor right now for work. Right.
Speaker 1: Are you watching You Married at First Sight? No? I
should though, huh it's it's a good season. Okay, I'm
enjoying it. Oh and Joe Millionaire, I'm like an episode
behind on that.
Speaker 2: Oh, I should watch that too.
Speaker 1: It's good.
Speaker 2: Oh, okay, it's good. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And also, how am I supposed to schedule in all
my TV shows and podcasts? Right?
Speaker 2: I need a podcast to listen to.
Speaker 1: I finished the Dropout, which they're coming April now, March
third on Hulu.
Speaker 2: Amanda Seafreed or whatever Yes is playing.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I heard.
Speaker 2: She does the voice really well.
Speaker 1: Yeah. She but when she talks like this, yeah, this
is so what you're gonna look for.
Speaker 2: Yeah, her voice is. We got the new machines in
and I really wanted them to work for people.
Speaker 1: Total what is that?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: But she's going to jail she is m yeah, oh wow,
that's what the experts are. Yeah, I mean I don't
think she hasn't been sentenced yet. Oh but it's three
to ten years. Yeah, she's gonna go to jail. So
now I need another podcast to listen to.
Speaker 2: What do you got?
Speaker 3: I'm trying to think what. I listen to stuff and
then I'm so bad. Our people are always suggesting things
and then I listen to them and then I don't like,
like halfway through, I'm like I'm bored. Yeah, and then
I take them off my thing.
Speaker 1: Right? Uh? Oh I am. I did start a podcast
called Wild Boys.
Speaker 3: Okay, this is pretty good. Wild Boys it's about these
two brothers who.
Speaker 1: Were like living in the woods, kind of off the grid,
and they claim that their parents were like living underground
and they weren't. They didn't never went to school, and
there's something is very very off about their story. We're
going to find out that that's not true, but these
people that you find that out early on, so it's
not really a spoiler. But there's been like three episodes
out so far. Oh heyman, there's only a few episodes out.
Court Junkie is really good. Do you listen to it?
Speaker 2: Remember we had Jillian on. Yeah, I should listen to that.
Speaker 3: It's really good. I like that podcast. Then I started
this one called Culpable. That's old and it was good.
Speaker 1: For like the first few episodes, and then I was like, man,
they are dragging the story out.
Speaker 2: Is it one story? It's one story? Oh, I like
a one story thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you could try it. See if you like it. Culpable.
Here's what it looks like.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, So I.
Speaker 3: Have one little story for you before we wrap up.
So Sadie's IEP meeting. So today's Tuesday.
Speaker 1: We're recording and you guys are listening to this on Friday.
So her meeting is Wednesday. It's tomorrow.
Speaker 3: But so your kids have official i EPs. Yeah right,
because so Sadie used to have one, right, So I
made as you know, I made them go through all
the testing and ms Koontz yes, was like why are
you You shouldn't compare your kids like I have any
one kid and I don't compare them, you know, constantly
hitting me with like I'm sure she's she's doing.
Speaker 1: Fine in school, you know.
Speaker 3: So I call like a really good friend of mine
who works as a speech pathologist, was like, get a
copy of the report. I asked her if she thought
I needed an advocate, and a lot of you guys
are screaming right now. Yes, you need an advocate, but
I don't know that she's going to end up. I
really wanted it to see if she if they can.
Speaker 1: Spot any processing stuff or ADHD or some stuff that
through their testing to save me like seven thousand dollars
in private testing. I thought we'd do this first. I
wasn't really expecting them to give her like a full
IEP services.
Speaker 3: I know I can get a five oh four to
get her accommodations. The reason I can do that is
because she has the diagnosed anxiety and depression, so they
have to make accommodations on a five o four for that,
they don't necessarily have to give her services like she
would have to need something right like speech or you
know something.
Speaker 1: Okay, so I.
Speaker 3: Was already, but you still don't expect them to be
fucking rude about it?
Speaker 1: Is the thing?
Speaker 2: Well, of course, so I called.
Speaker 1: So this is going to irritate you to no end
for me, irritate everybody. And I don't even have I
haven't even had the meeting yet, so I'll have more
to complain about afterward. But my friend is like, if
in order for me to determine if you need an
let me see the report. Because they had done all
her testing and scheduled the ep meeting. She's like, can
you get me a copy of the report? I was like, oh,
let me ask them. I was like, I'm one hundred
percent sure this woman's going to be a total cunt
about it.
Speaker 2: Though, right, like there will be no surprise there.
Speaker 1: But of course she'll first she'll say no, right, And
my friend's like, my friend, Laura, She's like, well, they can't.
They can't just say no. There's a reason they shouldn't
give it to you. And I go, oh, they'll find
a reason, mark my words. So she goes, we'll ask them.
So I email the woman, Miss Coots, and I'm like, hey,
can I wanted to show the report. I want to
show that all the test results to my advocate to
see if I want to have her in the meeting
with me. Can I get a copy of them? So
she writes me back, I'll give you a copy of
them four days before the meeting. Right, Why why why that?
Why not just send it to me? You have it,
they're all done or whatever. Okay. So I go, okay, thanks,
So sorry, our friend Julie Cayson calling me. So I
was like, okay, so yesterday would have been two days
before the meeting.
Speaker 3: Still no day, she didn't send me the report. I said,
should I follow up with you? And like when it's
four days before? She goes, no, no, no, I'll get it
to you four days before. So two days before was yesterday.
I sent her an email. I was like, Hey, it's
now two days before our meetings and I really need
the report.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can show it to my advocate. Fuck.
Speaker 3: So I get a phone call from the school and
it's Ms. Coon's just bitchier tone than ever with the
school psychologists in the background, and she's like, Hi, is
this miss miss Taylor you know, blah blah blah, And
she says, yeah, you had asked me for a copy
of the test results.
Speaker 1: When I got your email. And she's like, but you
never signed on the forms, you never requested a copy
of the test results, so.
Speaker 2: What is happening? What the fuck?
Speaker 1: And I was in the car when she and I
was what are they trying to coming back from a
frustrating trip to bed Beth and beyond was in no
mood for this cancer, right, So I'm like, uh, yeah,
I don't remember ever being offered a place to request
the results. I came in, I signed some papers and
gave information about my kid. No where nowhere was I ever.
Speaker 2: And I was like, anyway, whatever are you not?
Speaker 1: Are you saying you won't give it to me? She goes, no,
we'll give it to you. I can get it for you.
She goes, but not until like tonight, No, not until tomorrow.
She goes, I'll get it for you tomorrow. I said, well,
that's not going to give me much time to have
somebody to look it over.
Speaker 2: Right. She goes, Wow, Well, I don't know what to
tell you.
Speaker 3: She's like, but you know what, I will tell you
that your daughter is not going to she doesn't qualify
for any she's doing well in her classes.
Speaker 1: She starts that shit again, she goes, and she doesn't.
She's not going to show she's not going to be
qualifying for an I E P. And I was like,
she's so aggressive in her tone. So I'm like, oh, okay,
Like I don't. I'm like in my mind, I'm like,
is this the IEP meeting? Give me the like what
are you doing?
Speaker 3: So I have no respect? I just go okay, and
she goes, it's good news. I'm not kidding. I could
not make this up.
Speaker 2: Well, I guess how you look at it?
Speaker 1: What I go?
Speaker 3: Okay, I was like, I go, I don't really know
what to say to that. I go because I haven't
seen any of her test results.
Speaker 1: She's like, well, she's doing well. So then the school psychologist,
who must know that this she's dealing, she must know
how this woman comes across, right.
Speaker 2: She's like missus Taylor.
Speaker 3: She's got a very thick accent, which I'm not going
to imitate. But she's like, I can tell you, uh something,
you know, I said something to the effective. I go,
but I do want to know regardless, you know, yes
her what the results were for the ADHD and the
processing speeds. So she's so the psychologist says, well, you know,
basically tells me she didn't show any she does not
show ADHD and she doesn't show Oh.
Speaker 1: She said, well, one of the tests she scored low
for listening auditory processing, but her visual processing is really good.
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, well, let's back up for a second.
So one of them was low. She's like yeah, but
then on another.
Speaker 1: Type of test she tested high she's like, so she
won't get services for that.
Speaker 2: Are we having the IEP meeting right now?
Speaker 1: That's what I said. I go, okay, so do we
is this? Are you just telling me the results right now?
She goes, oh, no, no, no, we still are having
the meeting, but I'm just telling you that that's what
you're going to find out in the meeting.
Speaker 2: And she's totally adversarial about it.
Speaker 3: So I go, oh my god, Okay, I go, I
still want to see the report. She goes, okay, well,
we'll get it to you tomorrow. This is insane. So
I got I did get the report, but it's really
it's like twenty seven pages long, and it includes a
lot of like reports from not their testing so much
as like stuff that I told them when I met
with them, and like old report cards that showed like
good things that the teacher said, you know what I mean,
Like they cherry picked like stuff to show that she's
doing well. And I'm like, whatever, it doesn't really even
matter because I'm going to get accommodations on the five
oh four plan. I'm sure a lot of people here
can understand my frustration. So then, but the thing is,
like she takes sometimes three hours to do her homework,
something that would take Xander fifteen minutes. So there's some
thing going on. I may have to just do some
private testing to find out how to help her, you know,
and I'll have I'm not going to fight with the school.
Speaker 1: There's no reason. There's just right. They're so unhelpful.
Speaker 3: I don't And I know some people are going to
be like, you got to get a lawyer and you
got to see them. But I don't care because I
don't think that they're they're going to give her good
services anyway, even if it's free.
Speaker 1: I don't want it. They don't care, they don't care,
they think they're All they want to do is tell
me she's doing great. Yeah, right? Is it because they
don't have services to go like? No, I think they do.
Speaker 3: I just think to get services through la USD, your
kid has to be really showing major problems, major deficits.
Speaker 1: They're not going to give services to a kid who's
getting a's and b's in her classes.
Speaker 2: They just feel like she's not enough behind.
Speaker 1: It's the kind of thing that I have to deal with,
right right, And it's it's fine. It's just their approach
is so god off. Yes. Yes. So then today, on
my way here, like the school nurse calls me and.
Speaker 3: Is like, Hi, yes, so we have an IEP meeting
for your daughter tomorrow. Can you tell me why she's
having an i EP meeting? I need to put it
in a I was.
Speaker 1: Like, what, what if this has been going on for months?
I said, no, I can't. I said, it's I already
saw the report.
Speaker 2: Right, what do you mean why?
Speaker 1: She's like, well, is it for academic? Is it for
social emotional? And I was like, both, is your daughter
on any medications? I was like, listen, it's all in
the report. I've already seen the report. It's all in there,
all her medications, therapists, all the reports, it's all there.
Take a look at it. And she's like, well, well,
you just can't tell me. You can't give me the
summary now, I go, No, I can't. I go, I'm
on my way to work. I can't.
Speaker 2: It's all there.
Speaker 1: There's no reason to be asking me this, right, that's insane.
Speaker 2: I was so mad, mad for you. I am so
irritated for you.
Speaker 1: Also, it just fell to to be just asked over
the phone like by some random and at the schooling. Yeah,
what medications? Shut up? Yes, a confidential report was sent
from her therapist to the school. And now you're just like, hey,
what's up?
Speaker 2: What's codication?
Speaker 1: What's it right? Why do you need to know she
doesn't take it at school?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Fuck off? I know, fuck off. So I'm sure if
I'm this mad now, oh my god, tomorrow I'll be mad.
Speaker 2: Yes, awesome.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so your kids with your i EPs? Yes, what
is the end result of that? They still have it?
They get services.
Speaker 2: They both still are continuing services for it.
Speaker 1: So what did they get?
Speaker 3: Do they get pulled out of class or do they
just get accommodation?
Speaker 1: They get accommodations, that's it. I mean, they get like
extra time for quizzes and stuff like that, some extra
like for instance, Sonny gets like more prompting, you know,
like you could see daydreams. They get like more time
to turn in assignments. Just typical kind of IEP stuff.
Speaker 2: I guess that's about it. Really, do you think that I.
Speaker 3: Could ask for having having been in quite a few
of these meetings as you have, do you think I
could ask for less homework for Sadie because the math
teacher gives so much homework every day she is in
tears of like even though it's even though she's not
even unable to do it, it just takes her so long.
It keeps up a big portion of her day every day,
and he gives thirty problems like every day, each one
takes her a long time. Could I say, like she
can only she's only going to do half the homework.
Speaker 2: Or yeah, I mean they could, they could do.
Speaker 1: Basically, what should happen, I think is they sit down
with you. But then I think the next step is
they sit down, you have an IEP meeting with all
her teachers. If they if she qualifies, then you sit
with there. So she's not going to qualify. They already
told me so. Then they said that they'll do the
five oh four plan.
Speaker 3: They said, she's not going to qualify academically, but because
of her the social emotional and the depression and anxiety,
she will. They will do a five oh four and
they'll do it right away and give her accommodations. But
so I need to come up with what I want,
right you should?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, what I want is like her to be exempt
from some of the homework. Yes, well, that's an easy request.
I don't see why not will they do that? Well,
that's what these meetings with the teachers that I always
have do. Like they'll go like there's an advocate like
that speaks up for study or in Italia, and then
they'll say, missus math teacher, is it possible for you
to give less homework or is it possible for you
for blah blah blah, And then she'll say like, yeah,
I could do, you know, and then you come up
with a compromise kind of thing. You know. Remember my
story about this math teacher though, who was like trying
to seeing Sadie and say he has missing assignments from
before she even started at the school. I mean it's
a monster. Yeah, yeah, so he's I hope I don't
have to deal with him. I wonder who is going
to be at this meeting?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. I don't have a feeling.
Speaker 1: It's just going to be kunts and the school psychologists, right,
but maybe there'll be more people.
Speaker 2: Maybe, Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: All right, I'm going to try to hold I'm going
to try to hold strong for less home.
Speaker 2: Please you should?
Speaker 1: You should? It's so I talk to her and ask her, like,
what is you know what would help her out.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, all right, I'm sure you guys will have
a little bit of advice for me and you can
give me advice on that.
Speaker 2: Just don't tell me I'm a bad parent. We're probably
gonna cry, all.
Speaker 1: Right, all right, thanks everybody, Thanks Cale, mean you go, Rams, Lenny.
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