WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:03.480 She's been voted how many times the best butt in 2 00:00:03.520 --> 00:00:04.519 the adult industry. 3 00:00:04.960 --> 00:00:08.199 I believe I've won five times, four or five times? 4 00:00:09.039 --> 00:00:09.880 Who's counting though? 5 00:00:10.279 --> 00:00:13.919 How many? How many people count their championships, but championship 6 00:00:13.960 --> 00:00:17.120 type of person, champion, championship type of boutet? 7 00:00:17.800 --> 00:00:19.039 And are you from Texas? 8 00:00:19.519 --> 00:00:21.879 You know I wasn't born there, but I was raised there, 9 00:00:22.280 --> 00:00:24.079 you know, So for me, I feel like Texas is 10 00:00:24.120 --> 00:00:26.120 home and I was the only thing I've ever known. 11 00:00:26.120 --> 00:00:28.960 I was born in Panama, raised in Texas, my military brat. 12 00:00:29.359 --> 00:00:31.920 So yeah, but you haven't been very bratty so far. 13 00:00:31.920 --> 00:00:32.880 You've been very professional. 14 00:00:33.280 --> 00:00:35.920 Well, I'm always professional, but you know, sometimes people take 15 00:00:35.960 --> 00:00:37.719 that where it's like you ask for too many things. 16 00:00:37.719 --> 00:00:38.920 I think it's just being a brat. 17 00:00:38.920 --> 00:00:40.359 But it's just you ask for one thing. 18 00:00:40.479 --> 00:00:41.439 I know what I like. 19 00:00:41.759 --> 00:00:43.479 You asked for one thing and it was champagne, and 20 00:00:43.479 --> 00:00:45.799 we got you champagne. You did a little warm though 21 00:00:45.920 --> 00:00:48.320 it was because I'm drinking it too. I started slurring 22 00:00:48.359 --> 00:00:51.280 my words out there. I apologize in advance, but Alexis 23 00:00:52.560 --> 00:00:56.759 laid over there. Alexis and then joining us. Rebecca Barrett, Hello, 24 00:00:57.200 --> 00:01:02.320 professional entrepreneur, professional housewife, Yes, she used to be a 25 00:01:02.359 --> 00:01:07.239 feminist and now she rails against feminism and modern day feminism. Interesting, 26 00:01:07.799 --> 00:01:12.519 very interesting, delight, pleasure. And then Natalia del Ville, she's 27 00:01:12.519 --> 00:01:14.680 on the Ones and twos over there. You know, Natalia 28 00:01:14.760 --> 00:01:17.159 used to have a shorter chair, and I was like, guys, 29 00:01:17.159 --> 00:01:19.680 we're not doing the show anymore until we raised Natalia up. 30 00:01:19.959 --> 00:01:23.239 Lovely gal, she's wearing pink. I'm wearing pink. You got pink. 31 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:25.599 I'm gonna get the memo. 32 00:01:24.760 --> 00:01:27.359 I make everybody flow together. 33 00:01:29.560 --> 00:01:32.879 But are you okay with having a conversation about feminism 34 00:01:32.879 --> 00:01:35.680 today and being a female who is empowered. 35 00:01:36.079 --> 00:01:39.079 I am up for any conversation. I think knowledge is power. 36 00:01:39.120 --> 00:01:41.760 I think communication is important. I don't think everybody's gonna, 37 00:01:41.799 --> 00:01:43.760 you know, be on the same page at everything, but 38 00:01:43.799 --> 00:01:45.400 I'm open into suggestion. 39 00:01:45.680 --> 00:01:48.280 I love that now. On Instagram, I went to go 40 00:01:48.359 --> 00:01:51.879 pull up Alexis Texas, but that wasn't there. But it 41 00:01:52.040 --> 00:01:55.280 led me to white girl politick in me? Did you 42 00:01:55.319 --> 00:01:57.599 take it from the song Kanye Mercy Big Sean? 43 00:01:57.680 --> 00:02:01.480 That's that I did, did Sean and inspired. You know, 44 00:02:01.519 --> 00:02:04.280 it's one of those things that because of social media, 45 00:02:04.400 --> 00:02:08.000 we always you know, adult entertainer entertainers get sometimes red 46 00:02:08.000 --> 00:02:10.319 flagged immediately just because my name may not be me 47 00:02:10.400 --> 00:02:15.000 posting anything crazy. So Alexis Texas was deleted quickly. So 48 00:02:15.080 --> 00:02:17.319 I had to come up with something clever, and I 49 00:02:17.319 --> 00:02:19.080 thought it was a really good name. So I did 50 00:02:19.120 --> 00:02:21.039 white Girl Politicking and that's that. 51 00:02:21.120 --> 00:02:23.800 Sarah Palin and here we are. I believe that was 52 00:02:23.800 --> 00:02:25.560 the lyrics. We read those lyrics to the song. 53 00:02:25.719 --> 00:02:28.960 Yes am I into politics? You know, not like that? 54 00:02:29.280 --> 00:02:29.840 You know what I mean? 55 00:02:29.919 --> 00:02:33.159 I have my opinions, but I'm not like Pull up. 56 00:02:33.039 --> 00:02:36.719 Alexis white Girl Politicians, uh Instagram, so we get a feel. 57 00:02:36.479 --> 00:02:39.039 For what's going on. Six million on ig. She ain't 58 00:02:39.080 --> 00:02:41.199 no joke, not too shabby, not too shabby. 59 00:02:41.240 --> 00:02:44.080 Hall of fame right here, but it goes by white 60 00:02:44.080 --> 00:02:49.039 girl politic and official official Alexis Texas Instagram. For business inquiries, 61 00:02:49.120 --> 00:02:51.960 contact Fred Frenschie. Yeah what happens when. 62 00:02:51.879 --> 00:02:53.520 You contact him that business content? 63 00:02:53.599 --> 00:02:54.639 I mean, I'm here right now. 64 00:02:55.159 --> 00:02:55.400 Damn. 65 00:02:55.520 --> 00:02:56.080 That's how we got. 66 00:02:56.560 --> 00:02:58.599 You emailed me and I didn't answer, but he did. 67 00:02:58.759 --> 00:02:59.400 Thank you, Fred. 68 00:02:59.759 --> 00:03:02.560 So that link does lead to somewhere. Let's pull up 69 00:03:02.560 --> 00:03:05.360 this song so people understand who Alexis is. If you're 70 00:03:05.360 --> 00:03:07.719 not familiar with the song Mercy by Big Sean. Big 71 00:03:07.719 --> 00:03:10.280 Sean's most famous song, I believe went something. 72 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:13.599 Like I danced to that many nights. 73 00:03:13.680 --> 00:03:14.280 I bet you do. 74 00:03:15.599 --> 00:03:17.240 Is that an inspiration of yours? That song? 75 00:03:18.240 --> 00:03:20.039 I mean I had it and I shook it and 76 00:03:20.080 --> 00:03:21.960 it did its thing, and it made lots of money 77 00:03:22.000 --> 00:03:23.840 doing it, So you know, I can't be mad. 78 00:03:23.919 --> 00:03:25.599 We're going to talk about the money today as well. 79 00:03:25.599 --> 00:03:28.719 But let's get to this line now we out in Paris. Yeah, 80 00:03:28.719 --> 00:03:30.879 I'm Perier and white Girl's politick in. 81 00:03:31.120 --> 00:03:32.199 That's Alexis Texas. 82 00:03:32.199 --> 00:03:36.719 That's Alexis Texas. Forget about Sarah Palin, that's that Californication. 83 00:03:36.840 --> 00:03:40.719 So that's a little bit background for Alexis. Thank you 84 00:03:40.800 --> 00:03:42.759 for sharing that. So before we get into this deep 85 00:03:42.800 --> 00:03:44.520 conversation today, we're going to do this for about an 86 00:03:44.560 --> 00:03:45.159 hour and a half. 87 00:03:45.080 --> 00:03:47.439 Hour forty five. Hopefully you've used the restroom. 88 00:03:47.439 --> 00:03:49.560 If you drink too much, you can slide out for 89 00:03:49.599 --> 00:03:52.240 a second, but hold it if you can. Before we 90 00:03:52.280 --> 00:03:56.400 get into the nitty gritty and discuss money in relationships, 91 00:03:56.479 --> 00:03:59.680 let's just start off with an easy question. Are you single, 92 00:03:59.800 --> 00:04:02.120 married relationship? What's your relationship status? 93 00:04:02.360 --> 00:04:09.400 Who says that's an easy question. I am single. Yeah, single. 94 00:04:09.520 --> 00:04:11.919 That's really as dry as it can be. There's nothing 95 00:04:12.039 --> 00:04:15.560 happening out there. Dating is not always easy for someone 96 00:04:15.599 --> 00:04:17.920 who's been in the adult entertainment business, even though I 97 00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:22.040 haven't shot any like adult content really like that in 98 00:04:22.160 --> 00:04:24.800 over five years for the company. I shoot my own 99 00:04:24.800 --> 00:04:26.639 stuff for my own only fans, but I don't shoot 100 00:04:26.680 --> 00:04:30.199 with other partners. I just shoot with myself only. But 101 00:04:30.360 --> 00:04:32.800 I think it's just the stigma. I think people are 102 00:04:33.319 --> 00:04:37.120 intimidated because I am an alpha female and sometimes, you know, 103 00:04:37.160 --> 00:04:39.439 it takes a strong individual to break those walls down, 104 00:04:39.480 --> 00:04:41.879 and some people aren't always up for the challenge. And 105 00:04:41.879 --> 00:04:44.000 I'm okay with that because that means they're not meant 106 00:04:44.000 --> 00:04:44.279 for me. 107 00:04:44.480 --> 00:04:49.759 So you consider yourself an alpha female? Do you consider 108 00:04:49.800 --> 00:04:53.800 yourself an alpha female? No, not at all. 109 00:04:54.399 --> 00:04:55.439 So we're going to get into what. 110 00:04:55.439 --> 00:04:57.600 An alpha female is and what is a more of 111 00:04:57.680 --> 00:04:59.720 a feminine female? Is that what's the opposite of an 112 00:04:59.720 --> 00:05:00.680 alpha female? 113 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:01.480 Feminine? 114 00:05:01.600 --> 00:05:05.279 Okay, so, but you're also pretty feminine I am. 115 00:05:05.319 --> 00:05:07.399 I think you have to have masculine and feminine. I 116 00:05:07.399 --> 00:05:11.000 think everybody has those two regardless, you know, just in general, yeah, 117 00:05:11.040 --> 00:05:14.160 to coexists. But I think that my my masculine comes 118 00:05:14.160 --> 00:05:16.680 out a little bit more sometimes because of even my persona, 119 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:18.240 of who I am and how I have to move 120 00:05:18.279 --> 00:05:20.800 for business or whatever. In my personal life, I'm more 121 00:05:20.800 --> 00:05:23.480 feminine as far as the energy that I give off, 122 00:05:23.879 --> 00:05:24.639 it just depends. 123 00:05:24.959 --> 00:05:25.480 So we're going to. 124 00:05:25.519 --> 00:05:27.680 Talk about that before we Before we move on to that, 125 00:05:28.199 --> 00:05:31.720 let's stay on the relationship status. You said that you're single, single, 126 00:05:31.759 --> 00:05:34.279 ready to mingle, single, ready to mingle. I assume that 127 00:05:34.319 --> 00:05:37.920 you have no shortage of suitors out there, hollering, sliding 128 00:05:37.920 --> 00:05:39.040 in DMS approaching. 129 00:05:39.560 --> 00:05:42.879 I don't really look at my DMS. I don't really 130 00:05:42.879 --> 00:05:44.600 feel like there's anyone knocking down my door. 131 00:05:44.800 --> 00:05:45.000 Really. 132 00:05:45.120 --> 00:05:46.360 I'm like, I don't know what this is about. 133 00:05:46.439 --> 00:05:46.959 Well, let's help. 134 00:05:47.000 --> 00:05:49.839 Alexis out, Alexis. What is your ideal man? 135 00:05:50.079 --> 00:05:53.879 My ideal man. I need a strong, confident, independent man 136 00:05:53.959 --> 00:05:58.199 that's not afraid to have somebody like myself be an individual, 137 00:05:58.519 --> 00:06:02.160 myself but also a partner. I think it takes a 138 00:06:02.240 --> 00:06:06.319 strong person to allow people to continue to grow whoever 139 00:06:06.360 --> 00:06:09.600 you are as a person individually and together. I think 140 00:06:09.600 --> 00:06:11.360 that people kind of stop sometimes when you get in 141 00:06:11.360 --> 00:06:13.920 relationships it's just unit ere. It's like a unit. And 142 00:06:13.959 --> 00:06:16.480 I think that people sometimes stop and forget who they are, 143 00:06:16.600 --> 00:06:19.160 and then they stop and they just grow as a 144 00:06:19.199 --> 00:06:21.439 relationship and then at the end sometimes that not always 145 00:06:21.480 --> 00:06:23.680 works out. So for me, I feel like it's really 146 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:26.319 it's for me in my personal life. I need someone 147 00:06:26.360 --> 00:06:28.399 that's going to allow me to flourish and if it's 148 00:06:28.639 --> 00:06:31.800 creatively or whatever, and be my biggest supporter, but also 149 00:06:32.279 --> 00:06:33.839 be there to real me and at times as well. 150 00:06:34.040 --> 00:06:37.519 So let's talk about reeling you in. So you said that. 151 00:06:38.040 --> 00:06:40.600 The first word you said is I want a strong man. Yeah, 152 00:06:40.759 --> 00:06:44.519 you did say that, But you're also a self proclaimed 153 00:06:44.720 --> 00:06:49.480 alpha female. So what happens if this strong man hypothetical questionnaire, 154 00:06:49.480 --> 00:06:53.600 if this strong man says, take a backseat, miss alpha 155 00:06:53.600 --> 00:06:55.600 female next? 156 00:06:55.959 --> 00:06:58.879 Really, yes, so you're saying I do want an alpha male, 157 00:06:59.000 --> 00:07:01.279 but an alpha male male who's actually an alpha male 158 00:07:01.399 --> 00:07:03.680 is not intimidated by a woman trying to be who 159 00:07:03.720 --> 00:07:05.600 she is really because I don't think it's me trying 160 00:07:05.600 --> 00:07:07.759 to be domineering to a point where I'm controlling the 161 00:07:07.800 --> 00:07:10.800 relationship or that person. I think it's just allowing me 162 00:07:10.920 --> 00:07:13.600 to be me without being put in a box or 163 00:07:13.839 --> 00:07:15.800 take a back seat, taking back a seat to what 164 00:07:16.319 --> 00:07:18.839 like this is a you know, we're getting together side 165 00:07:18.879 --> 00:07:20.120 by side, not one in front of the other. 166 00:07:20.240 --> 00:07:23.040 So your last relationship, if you if you don't mind, 167 00:07:23.079 --> 00:07:24.439 how long did it last? 168 00:07:26.959 --> 00:07:28.199 Let's see, well. 169 00:07:28.920 --> 00:07:30.879 Where did I start my last relationship? 170 00:07:30.959 --> 00:07:32.959 I was in a relationship for two and a half years? 171 00:07:33.040 --> 00:07:33.319 Okay? 172 00:07:33.439 --> 00:07:34.480 Was that an alpha male? 173 00:07:34.839 --> 00:07:35.199 He was? 174 00:07:35.519 --> 00:07:35.879 Okay? 175 00:07:36.120 --> 00:07:36.360 Yeah? 176 00:07:36.399 --> 00:07:38.319 And what happened with that? And why didn't that work out? 177 00:07:38.360 --> 00:07:40.639 Without getting all in the details, but if he was 178 00:07:40.680 --> 00:07:44.079 an alpha male, strong female, was he not on board? 179 00:07:44.680 --> 00:07:44.920 Yes? 180 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:46.560 But I think I don't think that that's just the 181 00:07:46.879 --> 00:07:48.800 when you find that quality where you stop from there? 182 00:07:48.839 --> 00:07:50.800 There's other things on the checklist. There's other things, there's 183 00:07:50.839 --> 00:07:54.000 other standards, there's other things that may seemed okay in 184 00:07:54.040 --> 00:07:57.120 the beginning, but overall things time, things change instead of people, 185 00:07:57.120 --> 00:07:58.639 and it's okay to change what you want from a 186 00:07:58.680 --> 00:08:01.120 relationship and then move accordingly. And I had to move 187 00:08:01.160 --> 00:08:03.279 accordingly and it was no longer serving of me. So 188 00:08:04.040 --> 00:08:05.680 therefore you get cut off, so. 189 00:08:06.319 --> 00:08:07.720 You ended the relationship. 190 00:08:07.879 --> 00:08:11.720 Yeah, okay, okay, So let's incorporate Rebecca for a second. 191 00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:14.480 So you used to be more of an alpha female, right, 192 00:08:14.519 --> 00:08:15.720 you were working as. 193 00:08:15.560 --> 00:08:19.000 A I had to do companies. Yeah, okay, two companies, 194 00:08:19.600 --> 00:08:28.040 raised some money, written in Huffington posts, whatever magazine available, 195 00:08:28.839 --> 00:08:32.679 And yeah, I was an alpha. I was an alpha female, 196 00:08:32.759 --> 00:08:38.559 alpha dog, constantly hustling, constantly working. That was my life. 197 00:08:38.759 --> 00:08:41.720 Got it? But something changed? Yeah, walk us through that. 198 00:08:43.320 --> 00:08:48.240 So I realized, you know, as much as I accomplished 199 00:08:48.240 --> 00:08:51.519 in my career, I was in all of that stuff, 200 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:54.799 raised money. All that stuff is great, right, all of 201 00:08:54.799 --> 00:08:57.080 that stuff is great. But then I would come home 202 00:08:57.240 --> 00:09:00.960 and no one's there. I would be n actually single, and 203 00:09:01.000 --> 00:09:04.360 I'd be asking myself why am I single? Why am 204 00:09:04.360 --> 00:09:07.039 I alone? Why am I here? And so I had 205 00:09:07.080 --> 00:09:11.039 to do a lot of self work and realize that 206 00:09:11.919 --> 00:09:16.200 my attitude, I was a competitive person in all like 207 00:09:16.720 --> 00:09:23.039 that translated into all my relationships, my work relationships, my 208 00:09:23.039 --> 00:09:29.679 my like family, familiar relationships, and also in my romantic relationships. 209 00:09:29.960 --> 00:09:33.080 And from there, I was like, Okay, we have to 210 00:09:33.120 --> 00:09:36.000 make a change. If I don't make a change for myself, 211 00:09:36.399 --> 00:09:38.759 Like clearly I've been doing this for ten years and 212 00:09:39.879 --> 00:09:45.039 still single, still here, still like coming home alone. And 213 00:09:45.159 --> 00:09:49.519 so I really had to deep dive take accountability look 214 00:09:49.519 --> 00:09:52.360 at myself in the mirror and say, it's not these 215 00:09:52.399 --> 00:09:55.159 people that are the problem, like you are the problem. 216 00:09:55.679 --> 00:10:00.279 You are, You are the issue here and maybe need 217 00:10:00.360 --> 00:10:01.759 to make a change. 218 00:10:01.919 --> 00:10:05.240 So if I'm understanding this correctly, priority number one when 219 00:10:05.240 --> 00:10:08.039 you were more of a boss babe was make money 220 00:10:08.279 --> 00:10:11.639 work and then you would get home and there'd be 221 00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:13.600 nobody there. So you had to look in the mirror 222 00:10:13.639 --> 00:10:16.919 and say, I need to make a change. Right. So 223 00:10:17.080 --> 00:10:19.000 then you met your husband, you're married, now you have 224 00:10:19.000 --> 00:10:22.960 a kid. So walk us through that process of becoming 225 00:10:23.600 --> 00:10:27.840 you know, more of a feminine woman, housewife, you know, 226 00:10:27.960 --> 00:10:31.200 going through that metamorphosis from the alpha female. 227 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:32.399 Walk us through that process. 228 00:10:32.480 --> 00:10:34.399 So I read a lot of Jordan Pusten, and I 229 00:10:34.399 --> 00:10:37.960 think that helped me a lot because when I was 230 00:10:38.320 --> 00:10:42.480 in the feminist like mindset, it was all blame everyone 231 00:10:42.519 --> 00:10:45.639 else for your issues. It's all everyone else's fault and 232 00:10:45.720 --> 00:10:48.279 I don't have to take accountability for any of my actions. 233 00:10:48.279 --> 00:10:50.519 I can just move the way that I move and 234 00:10:50.559 --> 00:10:54.000 everyone has to just move with me. And that's not 235 00:10:54.120 --> 00:10:57.519 realistic whatsoever. And so I did a lot of work. 236 00:10:57.960 --> 00:11:03.559 I opened myself up to a relationship to that you know, 237 00:11:03.799 --> 00:11:05.799 I was instantly attracted to my husband. 238 00:11:06.279 --> 00:11:09.879 But the way shout out to the hobby. 239 00:11:09.519 --> 00:11:11.480 Yeah, shout out to James, love you, you. 240 00:11:11.799 --> 00:11:13.360 Don't, don't, don't even go there. 241 00:11:13.639 --> 00:11:14.080 Relax. 242 00:11:17.159 --> 00:11:25.679 And then during during our engagement process and dating, I 243 00:11:25.759 --> 00:11:28.919 learned how to be a wife and he learned how 244 00:11:28.960 --> 00:11:33.080 to be a husband through pre marital counseling, extensive pre 245 00:11:33.120 --> 00:11:37.279 marital counseling, and then you know, we got married. And 246 00:11:37.399 --> 00:11:39.600 now it's still like I still have to work on 247 00:11:39.639 --> 00:11:44.200 myself constantly because I can catch myself slipping and saying 248 00:11:44.279 --> 00:11:50.200 things that remind me of old Becca, the one that 249 00:11:50.279 --> 00:11:51.159 you don't want to see. 250 00:11:51.440 --> 00:11:53.799 Really, yeah, what questions do you have for her? 251 00:11:53.799 --> 00:11:55.879 Because I have a lot and I and I think 252 00:11:55.919 --> 00:11:58.200 that I don't. I don't disagree abouly. It's your path, 253 00:11:58.200 --> 00:11:59.879 that's your journey, and everybody has their own thing. And 254 00:12:00.279 --> 00:12:03.480 I too have done or self work and I understand 255 00:12:03.480 --> 00:12:07.440 those things, but I don't see the difference of stopping 256 00:12:07.480 --> 00:12:09.480 being a boss, baber or whatever however you want to 257 00:12:09.679 --> 00:12:11.600 make it, and then that there has to be two 258 00:12:11.600 --> 00:12:13.480 different sizes. I think that it's where you are in 259 00:12:13.519 --> 00:12:15.279 your life and being open up to things, and I 260 00:12:15.279 --> 00:12:17.399 think that that we programmed as like as how we 261 00:12:17.440 --> 00:12:19.120 programmed as we when we were children, and what we 262 00:12:19.159 --> 00:12:21.879 saw growing up is how we end up in being 263 00:12:21.879 --> 00:12:24.279 in adults. So it's like until you allow yourself to 264 00:12:25.279 --> 00:12:27.720 take accountability and have like see your needs and what 265 00:12:27.759 --> 00:12:29.639 your wants really are, and you could have both, but 266 00:12:29.679 --> 00:12:32.639 you have to be communicated about those things and honest 267 00:12:32.720 --> 00:12:35.399 because everything even daily work, it takes every day. You know, 268 00:12:35.559 --> 00:12:37.600 I've done self work the last year, but it's still 269 00:12:37.600 --> 00:12:40.399 it's an ongoing process from anything from relationships to not. 270 00:12:40.480 --> 00:12:42.039 But I don't think it needs to be one or 271 00:12:42.039 --> 00:12:42.360 the other. 272 00:12:42.519 --> 00:12:44.559 Well for me personally, that's the question that I want 273 00:12:44.600 --> 00:12:47.399 to get to the heart of is because can you 274 00:12:47.480 --> 00:12:50.840 be both? Like here we have maybe what is considered 275 00:12:50.840 --> 00:12:55.080 two polar opposites boss babe making money, killing it hall 276 00:12:55.159 --> 00:12:58.759 of famer, okay, hall of famer, and you former boss 277 00:12:58.799 --> 00:13:01.559 babe entrepreneur who say that ain't the life for me. 278 00:13:01.759 --> 00:13:04.799 I wanted to get married, have kids, be a housewife. 279 00:13:04.240 --> 00:13:06.080 But being a boss babe and that sort of experiment. 280 00:13:06.159 --> 00:13:08.440 But that could be how she operates her family, how 281 00:13:08.480 --> 00:13:10.600 she's with in her you know, in your own comfortability 282 00:13:10.679 --> 00:13:12.639 level in that level because you did the work part. 283 00:13:12.679 --> 00:13:14.240 You did those things. That's I'm saying. I don't think 284 00:13:14.279 --> 00:13:15.879 that should be a different. 285 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:16.559 Can you be both? 286 00:13:16.879 --> 00:13:20.000 I don't think that you can be both successfully. I 287 00:13:20.039 --> 00:13:23.600 think that you at one at a certain point, one 288 00:13:23.679 --> 00:13:27.679 has to take over the other. And because if I mean, 289 00:13:28.080 --> 00:13:28.679 I think your. 290 00:13:28.559 --> 00:13:30.559 Ego has to be lessoned. You have to understand the 291 00:13:30.600 --> 00:13:32.440 realist of certain things. But a lot of for me, 292 00:13:32.600 --> 00:13:34.320 I know the self work I have done, I have 293 00:13:34.360 --> 00:13:36.639 a big ego. So when I'm having a partner or whatever, 294 00:13:37.039 --> 00:13:39.240 it's about what who's going to take me to lessen 295 00:13:39.279 --> 00:13:41.480 those those things to real back on it. I don't 296 00:13:41.519 --> 00:13:44.720 think that it needs to be linear. I think it 297 00:13:44.759 --> 00:13:46.519 could be subjective. 298 00:13:48.399 --> 00:13:54.440 To a degree because where I push back is, you 299 00:13:54.440 --> 00:13:59.240 know you are a boss babe, you have a competitive nature. 300 00:13:59.759 --> 00:14:02.279 And the last relationship that you that you said that 301 00:14:02.320 --> 00:14:05.600 you have, he was an alpha. So if he was 302 00:14:05.639 --> 00:14:07.919 an alpha and he checked that box for you and 303 00:14:07.960 --> 00:14:10.759 he pushed you and he and you guys moved as 304 00:14:10.840 --> 00:14:13.600 like an alpha couple, then yes, I understand there are 305 00:14:13.639 --> 00:14:17.879 other reasons for why the relationship would fall apart, But 306 00:14:19.759 --> 00:14:23.759 if you already had an alpha, like, where do you think? 307 00:14:24.399 --> 00:14:26.679 How do how do you think that you're gonna find 308 00:14:26.720 --> 00:14:29.720 someone that's going to top being an alpha for you. 309 00:14:29.879 --> 00:14:32.879 Because there's multiple alphas. There's different types of alphas. There's 310 00:14:32.879 --> 00:14:35.919 type of alphas that are you know, in different scenarios. 311 00:14:35.960 --> 00:14:37.840 There's some people who want you to take a back seat, 312 00:14:37.879 --> 00:14:39.679 some people who want to empower you to be an 313 00:14:39.679 --> 00:14:42.120 alpha or just who you are as an individual. I 314 00:14:42.159 --> 00:14:46.120 don't think for me personally, I should have to lessen 315 00:14:46.279 --> 00:14:48.960 who I am or water down what really drives me 316 00:14:49.039 --> 00:14:51.799 and motivates me to find a partner. And if that's 317 00:14:51.840 --> 00:14:54.440 the case, that's not for me and the partner's not 318 00:14:54.440 --> 00:14:56.519 for right for me. I don't feel like it like 319 00:14:56.559 --> 00:14:57.919 I need to be one or the other? 320 00:14:58.600 --> 00:15:01.879 What h like? What does water down mean? 321 00:15:02.120 --> 00:15:04.120 As far as like how you said, like that's just 322 00:15:04.440 --> 00:15:06.919 I mean doing things that you like. I guess the 323 00:15:07.039 --> 00:15:09.480 analogy is like boss babe, Like why don't you feel 324 00:15:09.480 --> 00:15:12.039 that you're still of alpha or a boss? Paper had 325 00:15:12.080 --> 00:15:15.639 to be less of or submissive person than being quote 326 00:15:15.720 --> 00:15:18.480 unquote in alpha because I could be submissive in relationships 327 00:15:18.480 --> 00:15:22.600 as well. And I think alpha sometimes is misread sometimes 328 00:15:22.679 --> 00:15:24.559 as far as like it has to be my way, 329 00:15:24.559 --> 00:15:26.200 that it's only this way and like this, that and 330 00:15:26.200 --> 00:15:29.240 the other where that's not how I am and operating relationships, 331 00:15:29.279 --> 00:15:31.960 that's how I am with business. But business and relationships 332 00:15:31.960 --> 00:15:33.000 are two totally different things. 333 00:15:33.440 --> 00:15:36.000 Yeah, but a lot of it bleeds into real all. 334 00:15:36.639 --> 00:15:38.080 But that's what I'm saying. If you have your own 335 00:15:38.120 --> 00:15:40.480 boundaries and you have your own standards, then that doesn't 336 00:15:40.519 --> 00:15:43.159 have to be that situation. There's pretty there's successful people, 337 00:15:43.320 --> 00:15:46.240 women who still have careers and have successful marriages, have 338 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:49.279 children and doing the same thing. I don't think it 339 00:15:49.320 --> 00:15:51.279 has to be limited to one or the other. 340 00:15:51.720 --> 00:15:54.519 I believe that that is the exception, not. 341 00:15:54.519 --> 00:15:57.360 The rule, true, and that's why everybody's path is different. 342 00:15:57.399 --> 00:15:58.960 But I don't think that it has to like that's 343 00:15:59.360 --> 00:16:00.360 the end, all, y'all. 344 00:16:01.000 --> 00:16:02.840 Let me ask you this. Do you you want to 345 00:16:02.840 --> 00:16:03.320 get married? 346 00:16:03.919 --> 00:16:06.320 I have been married, you have. I'm divorced happily for 347 00:16:06.360 --> 00:16:09.639 eight years. But I liked I was married. Yeah, yes, 348 00:16:09.720 --> 00:16:11.279 but I liked being married. I was married to the 349 00:16:11.279 --> 00:16:14.840 wrong person. I would if it happened for me, then 350 00:16:14.919 --> 00:16:18.159 yes I would. I don't. I don't know. 351 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:19.200 Do you want to have kids? 352 00:16:19.440 --> 00:16:21.279 I don't know. I don't take it off the table, 353 00:16:22.279 --> 00:16:23.879 but I'm you know, I'm thirty seven years old. 354 00:16:23.919 --> 00:16:25.919 I really I thought you were way younger. 355 00:16:26.000 --> 00:16:27.639 Okay, I don't know if that's a compliment or not, 356 00:16:27.639 --> 00:16:28.440 but okay. 357 00:16:29.279 --> 00:16:31.159 Right, yeah I did. That is a compliment, I guess, 358 00:16:31.440 --> 00:16:31.720 but you know. 359 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:32.000 What I mean. 360 00:16:32.039 --> 00:16:34.200 So for me, it's it's not that I you know, 361 00:16:34.240 --> 00:16:36.799 I've been a step mom. There's different situations where you 362 00:16:36.840 --> 00:16:38.759 can be a mother as well and other things too. 363 00:16:38.879 --> 00:16:40.559 I just don't know what's for me because I don't 364 00:16:40.600 --> 00:16:43.480 have that person that I'm working towards that goal with. 365 00:16:44.240 --> 00:16:46.039 So you're thirty seven, Yes, so I thought you were 366 00:16:46.080 --> 00:16:46.600 way younger. 367 00:16:46.679 --> 00:16:49.120 So my my line of questioning is going to change 368 00:16:49.120 --> 00:16:50.639 now again I thought you were way younger. But at 369 00:16:50.679 --> 00:16:53.840 thirty seven, I mean, how feasible is it to even 370 00:16:53.919 --> 00:16:55.000 have kids at thirty seven? 371 00:16:55.360 --> 00:16:55.960 It's feasible. 372 00:16:56.080 --> 00:16:57.960 It's pretty difficult. Do you have you have your your 373 00:16:58.000 --> 00:17:00.919 freezing your eggs? I will you have done this year? 374 00:17:01.399 --> 00:17:01.960 Got a girl? 375 00:17:02.080 --> 00:17:02.360 Yeah? 376 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:04.240 Because for me, it's like I don't know, but I'm 377 00:17:04.240 --> 00:17:05.599 not going to take it off the table. God, you 378 00:17:05.640 --> 00:17:07.440 know what I mean. So it's like maybe one day 379 00:17:07.519 --> 00:17:09.279 well and maybe I'll never do anything with it at all, 380 00:17:09.319 --> 00:17:11.759 But I don't know. So therefore, because I'm in a 381 00:17:11.799 --> 00:17:14.920 place financially that I can do that. Okay, I will 382 00:17:14.960 --> 00:17:17.680 do that, but I don't feel like again, I don't 383 00:17:17.720 --> 00:17:19.640 know yes or no. Like you would have asked me 384 00:17:19.680 --> 00:17:21.400 when I got married if I'm gonna see with him forever? 385 00:17:21.440 --> 00:17:22.799 I said yes, look at me now, you know what 386 00:17:22.799 --> 00:17:25.400 I mean. Things change and everything is permanent, and you 387 00:17:25.440 --> 00:17:25.799 know what I mean. 388 00:17:25.880 --> 00:17:28.599 Got it? So, by the way, this conversation about having 389 00:17:28.680 --> 00:17:32.880 kids when you're with like you're let's just call it 390 00:17:32.920 --> 00:17:35.759 co workers, is this a common conversation, Like, I don't know, 391 00:17:35.799 --> 00:17:37.480 should we have kids? I don't think I'm thinking about 392 00:17:37.519 --> 00:17:40.799 it like, I mean, there's this conversation with Lisa Lisa, 393 00:17:40.839 --> 00:17:42.759 and she said, now the kids aren't for me. I 394 00:17:42.759 --> 00:17:44.720 think she's was in her late forties at the time. 395 00:17:44.960 --> 00:17:47.440 Now just not for her. You're thirty seven. The windows 396 00:17:47.440 --> 00:17:50.559 still potentially open. That conversation that you have with your 397 00:17:50.559 --> 00:17:54.319 fellow actresses, is there, Should we have kids? Should we not? 398 00:17:54.400 --> 00:17:55.680 What's that conversation look like? 399 00:17:56.359 --> 00:17:58.839 I mean, there's not like a boardroom meeting table where 400 00:17:58.839 --> 00:18:01.640 we're all discussed seeing serious topics like this. Everybody has 401 00:18:01.680 --> 00:18:04.200