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Speaker 1: I live a lifestyle where I openly admit that creativity

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is an addiction. Unplugged because we will always say yes

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to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes. So

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let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. Wow.

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Being in this studio fun fun, fun, fun fun fun

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fun fun fun. Overlooking this forest in South Charlotte, North Carolina. Hey,

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I just started a new podcast. It's called Thanks for

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Being a Part of the Conversation, and it's my goal

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to help share the journey of this forest and the

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energy that is in it. And man, when I show

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people pictures of this forest are like, what the Oh

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my god, I can see why you write in this forest.

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But the podcast is brand new. The first episode went

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up yesterday and it's called thanks for Being a part

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of the Conversation. It's kind of kid driven, but I

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think as adults we still love storytelling. Hey, Sara, this

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is the choice. This is what I was writing while

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the sun was waking up on a brilliant new day

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in prayer this morning. My heart was set on trying

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to understand what we think forgiveness is, What is it?

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What is forgiveness in your life? And does it automatically

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say well, once you forgive, you have to forget. But

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what is forgiveness? A lot of bad stuff goes down daily,

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and we create an excuse as to why a person

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would have made such a bad decision. Now here's what

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the research says. It shows that we tend to have

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more compassion for the rule breakers because we've grown accustom

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to them breaking rules. One leader says, we should start

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saying no to those who continue to do us wrong.

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But you know how people are. People who allow bad

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behavior are enablers. We allow them to do what they're

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doing because we instantly forgive while trying to forget. Or

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are we forgetting without forgiving because we just kind of

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set things aside, right would that not be? Ah, I'm

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gonna forget this situation ever happened? So now forgiveness has

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fallen completely off the map. Sadly, someone who tries to

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change a person that brings bad things to a relationship

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is often accused of having new compassion. Therefore, they're bullying

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the rule breaker when they say stop, I stop at No,

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we don't do that here, okay go oh so now

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I'm the rule breaker, I'm the bully for trying to

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say no to someone who's constantly breaking the rules. But

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what happens when our hearts were thin? Now, I'm no

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professional here. I am no professional, but I'll tell you

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what I do. When I'm surrounded by those that get

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away with everything, I just stay away from them. Yeah.

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I stay completely away from the non carrying walk of

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those who endlessly hurt. And here's the reason why. As

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a child, I wanted to go play basketball at Ponderosa

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Elementary School in Billings, Montana, and my dad said, I

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better not ever catch you playing basketball at that school.

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But Dad, it's outside the building. It's on the playground.

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You heard me. I'd better not ever see you on

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that playground. Dad, Why? And he goes, here's the situation.

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You could be playing a game of basketball, having the

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time of your life, and somebody that you didn't see

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or know throws a rock through the window. Guess who's

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going to get blamed for throwing that rock through the window.

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You don't ever let me see you play basketball at

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that school. Okay. So that's the reason why when it

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comes to being with a rule breaker, I choose not

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to be a very good friend of mine. Her son

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is in prison right now because he was in the

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car of someone who did something illegal, and because he

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was in the car, he's in prison. That's the way

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it goes. You see what I mean. If somebody is

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breaking the rules around you, if someone is making bad

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decisions around you, I'm not a professional. Just stay away.

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Listen to my dad's voice. I better not catch you

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on the playground playing basketball. But isn't it amazing how

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people making bad choices and decisions when it comes to

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how should I play this out? Affects us all. I'm

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Eryl and that's what I was writing. Well, the sun

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was waking up on a brilliant new day.