WEBVTT 1 00:00:08.480 --> 00:00:11.919 Hi guys, and welcome back to Between Us Girlies. I'm Casey, 2 00:00:11.599 --> 00:00:13.160 I'm Lindsay. 3 00:00:12.880 --> 00:00:13.400 I'm daily. 4 00:00:14.160 --> 00:00:17.079 Wow, it has been quite sometimes since we've said that. 5 00:00:17.480 --> 00:00:20.120 We haven't done that in like three months? Yeah, is 6 00:00:20.120 --> 00:00:20.960 that how long it's been? 7 00:00:21.480 --> 00:00:23.800 I think so? I think so this is October. The 8 00:00:23.800 --> 00:00:25.600 girls are saying in the comments. 9 00:00:25.359 --> 00:00:28.559 Oh yeah, that's let's get that out of the way first, 10 00:00:28.600 --> 00:00:32.159 that we do genuinely want to apologize for how long 11 00:00:32.200 --> 00:00:34.520 it's been since we've come out with an episode and 12 00:00:34.719 --> 00:00:35.840 or addressed anything. 13 00:00:36.159 --> 00:00:36.719 Yeah. 14 00:00:36.840 --> 00:00:39.399 I at least for me personally, I feel like it's 15 00:00:39.399 --> 00:00:42.119 one of those things where it was just so easy 16 00:00:42.159 --> 00:00:44.840 to put off because this is such a it was 17 00:00:44.880 --> 00:00:47.000 such an important part of our lives, and so like 18 00:00:47.640 --> 00:00:50.840 all of us even coming together to decide that we 19 00:00:50.960 --> 00:00:53.640 would not be continuing the podcast. 20 00:00:54.880 --> 00:00:56.399 I know, it was really hard and it was a 21 00:00:56.399 --> 00:00:57.119 really tough decision. 22 00:00:57.159 --> 00:00:59.840 So I feel like with holidays and everything is just 23 00:01:00.119 --> 00:01:02.119 of kept spiraling and then we like blanked and I 24 00:01:02.159 --> 00:01:04.280 was like, holy fuck, it's been a while. 25 00:01:04.519 --> 00:01:07.280 Life got busy real quick. I mean everyone listened, We're 26 00:01:07.319 --> 00:01:10.159 all busy. I feel like life just like low key chains. 27 00:01:10.200 --> 00:01:13.920 We're old as hell now. I don't know me and 28 00:01:13.959 --> 00:01:15.319 Bailey are fucking thirty. 29 00:01:15.920 --> 00:01:16.560 That's nuts. 30 00:01:16.680 --> 00:01:19.239 Yeah, I'm unionaclist against us at this point, Like, yeah, 31 00:01:19.640 --> 00:01:23.239 shouldn't let your fans not in on the loop? 32 00:01:24.400 --> 00:01:26.400 So are bad? Major are bad? 33 00:01:26.519 --> 00:01:26.599 Ye? 34 00:01:28.079 --> 00:01:29.799 But yeah, so. 35 00:01:30.799 --> 00:01:32.519 I think saying I'm writing, like if we were just 36 00:01:32.519 --> 00:01:35.000 say like sorry, Like I think saying writing like makes 37 00:01:35.000 --> 00:01:37.439 it more real sometimes too, So yeah, I'm just like 38 00:01:37.599 --> 00:01:38.319 sorry for those. 39 00:01:38.439 --> 00:01:40.040 Also, we didn't want to hit you guys with a 40 00:01:40.079 --> 00:01:43.719 white text black scream Instagram like, hey, we're actually not 41 00:01:43.760 --> 00:01:44.959 going to be doing this anymore. 42 00:01:45.359 --> 00:01:47.840 Yeah, yeah, we thank you guys more than that, I 43 00:01:47.879 --> 00:01:49.799 feel like, to be fair, we also hadn't even really 44 00:01:49.840 --> 00:01:52.760 decided that for a while, Like we kind of just 45 00:01:52.799 --> 00:01:55.079 took a break like naturally, I think, and then it 46 00:01:55.120 --> 00:01:57.840 was just like one of those things where you blink 47 00:01:57.840 --> 00:02:00.799 and and so much time has passed. So we are 48 00:02:00.840 --> 00:02:02.519 we are very sorry, But there was a period of 49 00:02:02.560 --> 00:02:03.920 time where we didn't even know what we were, Like, 50 00:02:04.079 --> 00:02:05.079 we hadn't decided that. 51 00:02:05.079 --> 00:02:06.719 We didn't want to continue with this. Ye. 52 00:02:07.040 --> 00:02:09.560 When we fall out of a habit sometimes like who 53 00:02:09.800 --> 00:02:11.919 I'm getting back into it, It's like kind of like 54 00:02:11.919 --> 00:02:13.800 going to the jam, but like not really, but like 55 00:02:13.919 --> 00:02:16.439 I feel like it was just like okay, like where. 56 00:02:16.199 --> 00:02:19.360 Can this fit in now again? Yeah, we definitely. 57 00:02:19.520 --> 00:02:21.879 I mean I was super busy, and I feel like 58 00:02:21.879 --> 00:02:23.599 that made it really hard to record. And I think 59 00:02:23.639 --> 00:02:25.879 that's what really like was hard for me. I was 60 00:02:25.919 --> 00:02:28.280 just like I can't commit to doing it every week 61 00:02:28.360 --> 00:02:30.960 and I didn't want to like zoom in or do 62 00:02:31.039 --> 00:02:34.000 any of that. It was just getting like too too much. 63 00:02:34.560 --> 00:02:36.599 And I just from someone I never wanted to put 64 00:02:36.599 --> 00:02:39.599 out something that was like half asked, and I felt 65 00:02:39.639 --> 00:02:41.479 like that was kind of the direction it was going 66 00:02:41.520 --> 00:02:43.240 in for me, where I was just like, I feel 67 00:02:43.240 --> 00:02:46.599 like I cannot commit to doing all the work that 68 00:02:46.639 --> 00:02:49.879 it takes to up keep this and between. 69 00:02:49.639 --> 00:02:52.439 Your travels too, like you travel so much like in 70 00:02:52.479 --> 00:02:56.159 a great way, like not derogatory, no, so like it 71 00:02:56.199 --> 00:02:59.000 also like I mean like not like like preventing a 72 00:02:59.000 --> 00:02:59.680 burnout too. 73 00:03:01.159 --> 00:03:03.840 I feel like people might not realize that, like we've 74 00:03:03.879 --> 00:03:06.479 filmed this at I mean, this is obviously not our house, 75 00:03:06.560 --> 00:03:08.479 like this background, but this isn't a studio, so we 76 00:03:08.560 --> 00:03:11.520 have to go by like studio hours and studio availability. 77 00:03:12.080 --> 00:03:14.560 So it's not as easy as just like picking up 78 00:03:14.840 --> 00:03:16.680 a phone and filming a TikTok, Like we have to 79 00:03:16.680 --> 00:03:19.759 schedule time here, and we have paid for this podcast 80 00:03:20.199 --> 00:03:22.199 out of our own pocket. Since we started it, we've 81 00:03:22.199 --> 00:03:24.960 been able to hold events and do things that have 82 00:03:25.039 --> 00:03:27.400 kind of put money back into it. But like all 83 00:03:27.479 --> 00:03:29.199 of the money we've made have just gone back into 84 00:03:29.240 --> 00:03:31.479 the podcast. So it's a lot of money, it's a 85 00:03:31.520 --> 00:03:34.879 lot of time, and you know, it's a lot of commitment, 86 00:03:34.960 --> 00:03:37.199 which is just hard as you get older and things change. 87 00:03:37.520 --> 00:03:41.800 Yeah, and we all like really like connected with you guys, 88 00:03:41.919 --> 00:03:45.840 and obviously we've had such amazing moments between like live 89 00:03:45.879 --> 00:03:48.680 shows and events that we've done, and we've had so 90 00:03:48.759 --> 00:03:53.280 many laughs and it's been so fun. It's just our 91 00:03:53.319 --> 00:03:56.840 lives have changed like so much since we first started, 92 00:03:57.159 --> 00:03:59.840 Like we've been doing it for two years. Like that's 93 00:04:00.080 --> 00:04:02.439 so easy, like feet And I think that was like 94 00:04:02.800 --> 00:04:05.439 I'm just like I'm honestly so impressed with like how 95 00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:06.719 much we accomplished. 96 00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:09.319 So yeah, you said that, You're. 97 00:04:09.159 --> 00:04:10.439 Like we should be proud, Like it is like a 98 00:04:10.479 --> 00:04:12.400 proud thing, like I said, I was like thinking, I'm 99 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:14.120 like when do we Our first episode of record was 100 00:04:14.159 --> 00:04:16.839 November twenty twenty three. Yeah, twenty twenty six. Now, I 101 00:04:16.839 --> 00:04:18.399 mean we just became twenty twenty six, but I feel 102 00:04:18.439 --> 00:04:22.480 like that feels like November twenty twenty three, Like what 103 00:04:22.600 --> 00:04:23.439 that's crazy? 104 00:04:23.639 --> 00:04:26.199 Yeah, like it's such a like that's an accomplishment for us. 105 00:04:26.199 --> 00:04:31.000 But that's the resume, No, one hundred percent. Yeah, like 106 00:04:31.120 --> 00:04:34.160 I was living We were living together still we still 107 00:04:34.199 --> 00:04:37.839 are now, but like two apartments to go. Wait November 108 00:04:37.839 --> 00:04:43.439 twenty twenty three, we were on frankfort as you were. Yeah, craziness. 109 00:04:43.839 --> 00:04:47.519 I was in a whole other relationship. But yeah, I 110 00:04:47.560 --> 00:04:50.279 had a quarter. I think of the followers I have now, 111 00:04:50.720 --> 00:04:53.199 like it was or third, I don't know, it was nuts, 112 00:04:53.199 --> 00:04:53.399 it was. 113 00:04:53.439 --> 00:04:57.560 The whole other team like this. My life has flipped 114 00:04:57.639 --> 00:05:00.839 upside down since then. Yeah, it's crazy how much has changed. 115 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:01.920 Damn you're right. 116 00:05:02.199 --> 00:05:06.000 Yeah, Well since I break, I'm back to acrylic nails. 117 00:05:06.360 --> 00:05:07.439 Okay, that's your. 118 00:05:08.959 --> 00:05:13.399 No, no, no, no, I mean look he is, but yeah, 119 00:05:13.399 --> 00:05:18.079 I mean I'm thirty. I I did a real serious 120 00:05:18.079 --> 00:05:21.000 one I did realize recently, is I think it's hap 121 00:05:21.120 --> 00:05:24.319 for me to get on antidepressants because of my period. 122 00:05:24.519 --> 00:05:26.560 I posted TikTok about this the other day and like 123 00:05:27.160 --> 00:05:30.720 my pre minstrual like symptoms have gotten so bad. Were like, 124 00:05:31.279 --> 00:05:32.959 I mean, I feel like I told you before too, 125 00:05:32.959 --> 00:05:35.519 Like I've just been getting so like looky depressed and. 126 00:05:35.439 --> 00:05:37.439 Like I can't like shake it. 127 00:05:37.480 --> 00:05:39.560 Like just when I'm like luteal phase right now, I'm fine, 128 00:05:39.560 --> 00:05:41.800 like I'm about to get my period, so it's everything's fine. 129 00:05:41.839 --> 00:05:43.720 Like I just realized, like, no, I'm not thirty, so 130 00:05:43.800 --> 00:05:44.959 just like not the age. But I think in the 131 00:05:44.959 --> 00:05:47.839 past few months, I've realized a big shift during my period. 132 00:05:47.879 --> 00:05:50.079 I'm like, I think because i know the weed's not 133 00:05:50.079 --> 00:05:52.920 helping anymore, and I'm like, oh lordy. 134 00:05:52.839 --> 00:05:54.279 But it's not like a bath. I'm just like glad 135 00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:56.639 I recognized it. But that's a big change in my life. 136 00:05:56.839 --> 00:06:00.680 There is like luteal phase dose saying too if you 137 00:06:00.720 --> 00:06:03.000 go on it, Like Brandon and I share a psychiatrist 138 00:06:03.079 --> 00:06:06.000 are Queen, and I brought to her attention that I 139 00:06:06.000 --> 00:06:08.439 felt like I was way crazier during my period and 140 00:06:08.480 --> 00:06:10.480 it was just like making it really difficult, like I 141 00:06:10.560 --> 00:06:12.879 was just irritated at everything, and she was like, we 142 00:06:12.879 --> 00:06:15.560 can up your dosing during your ludial phase. 143 00:06:15.600 --> 00:06:17.319 I ended up just upping my dosage together. 144 00:06:19.079 --> 00:06:21.279 But yeah, we're there is a there are a lot 145 00:06:21.279 --> 00:06:23.439 of people who do that because your hormones are so 146 00:06:23.560 --> 00:06:25.600 much stronger and you might. 147 00:06:25.480 --> 00:06:26.319 Just need extra help. 148 00:06:26.399 --> 00:06:30.920 So we can chat after Yeah, yeah, Brandon is like 149 00:06:31.920 --> 00:06:33.839 Encyclopedia of psychiatry mess. 150 00:06:34.319 --> 00:06:36.399 I didn't want to bring my mental health update to 151 00:06:36.439 --> 00:06:42.120 the team, and I appreciate that everybody feel more enlightened recently. 152 00:06:42.879 --> 00:06:45.199 I feel like I low key like could piggyback off 153 00:06:45.240 --> 00:06:48.600 that because when we first started the pod, I feel 154 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:50.959 like I was like just fine, Like if you could 155 00:06:51.000 --> 00:06:53.199 describe my vibe, it'd be like, I'm fine. And then 156 00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:55.360 I had a job loss and I was like and 157 00:06:55.519 --> 00:06:57.480 like I'm fine, but like kind of down bad. And 158 00:06:57.519 --> 00:06:58.879 then as the time went on, I was like, no, 159 00:06:58.959 --> 00:07:03.720 I'm actually aggressed, severely down bad. And now, so for 160 00:07:03.839 --> 00:07:06.920 the listeners, I've had a little bit of a career change, 161 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:11.519 not by choice, so at this point I'm a seasoned vet, 162 00:07:11.680 --> 00:07:16.199 but I genuinely think that with my thirty year approaching, 163 00:07:16.279 --> 00:07:18.519 I have a little bit more time than some of 164 00:07:18.560 --> 00:07:20.600 my co hosts had. 165 00:07:21.079 --> 00:07:28.000 But I think like these things keep happening because I'm 166 00:07:28.040 --> 00:07:30.920 supposed to be doing something else, And I think as 167 00:07:31.040 --> 00:07:34.040 chapters close and like I'm literally not to start crying. 168 00:07:34.399 --> 00:07:42.160 That's so weird. Yeah, I just feel like like things happen, 169 00:07:42.600 --> 00:07:45.199 oh they're supposed to, and like I feel like I've 170 00:07:45.240 --> 00:07:48.360 done like, oh my god, it's so embarrassing. I feel 171 00:07:48.360 --> 00:07:50.920 like I've done so much like soul searching lately, and 172 00:07:50.959 --> 00:07:53.079 I finally feel like I'm in a place where like 173 00:07:53.199 --> 00:07:55.879 I know not exactly what I want to do, but 174 00:07:55.959 --> 00:07:58.680 at least a direction to like move in, and like 175 00:07:58.759 --> 00:08:02.480 that's honestly tears of joy, Like I'm so excited I 176 00:08:02.480 --> 00:08:05.000 don't have to go to my job, and like I'm 177 00:08:05.040 --> 00:08:07.160 so excited that I get to live with Brandon, and 178 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:10.000 like I'm so excited that like I have an idea 179 00:08:10.160 --> 00:08:13.360 of like where I see myself in the next like 180 00:08:13.560 --> 00:08:14.319 however long. 181 00:08:14.480 --> 00:08:18.160 Yeah, So like that's really nice. I'm really sorry, don't 182 00:08:18.360 --> 00:08:19.120 be sorry at all. 183 00:08:19.199 --> 00:08:21.079 I feel like even the listeners places, that's such a 184 00:08:21.079 --> 00:08:23.600 big mind shift for you, and like such a big 185 00:08:23.720 --> 00:08:25.639 like the way you even just said everything, like I 186 00:08:25.680 --> 00:08:27.519 get to live in Brandon, I get I don't I 187 00:08:27.560 --> 00:08:29.439 get to not go to It's such a beautiful like 188 00:08:29.439 --> 00:08:30.000 I'm gonna cry. 189 00:08:30.079 --> 00:08:31.600 He's a joy for you. That's so beautiful. 190 00:08:31.920 --> 00:08:33.879 I like made a vision board this year and I 191 00:08:34.000 --> 00:08:36.000 like said it as my phone background, and I'm like 192 00:08:36.080 --> 00:08:39.279 ready to like do things differently and like better this 193 00:08:39.399 --> 00:08:43.679 year and like good love that. Yeah, anyways, Casey, No. 194 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:46.919 That's honestly, I'm obviously so happy for you as your 195 00:08:46.919 --> 00:08:48.840 best friend, but I feel like I grew with Bailey 196 00:08:48.960 --> 00:08:51.120 just as a listener to see that growth, and like, 197 00:08:51.679 --> 00:08:54.240 I feel like you have not been passionate about your 198 00:08:54.279 --> 00:08:57.240 career in like a this is what I want to 199 00:08:57.279 --> 00:08:59.360 do type of way, and so I love to hear 200 00:08:59.399 --> 00:09:02.080 that you even have an idea or a path or 201 00:09:02.240 --> 00:09:04.519 even just the fact that you're like, I know I'm 202 00:09:04.559 --> 00:09:06.120 gonna be okay, Like even if you didn't know what 203 00:09:06.159 --> 00:09:07.440 you wanted to do, but you're like. 204 00:09:07.440 --> 00:09:08.919 I'll be fine and I'll figure it out. 205 00:09:09.000 --> 00:09:11.600 That's like the best way to look at it, because 206 00:09:11.600 --> 00:09:13.679 I do believe everything happens for a reason, and if 207 00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:15.799 you don't understand it now, you will at some point 208 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:22.080 for sure. Yeah, I feel like, I mean, the biggest 209 00:09:22.159 --> 00:09:24.440 change for me would just be that I'm getting fucking married. 210 00:09:24.159 --> 00:09:25.919 In two months. 211 00:09:26.440 --> 00:09:28.320 If you would have told me on our first podcast 212 00:09:28.320 --> 00:09:31.320 episode that that sentence would like ever leave my mouth. 213 00:09:32.039 --> 00:09:33.000 It's absurd. 214 00:09:33.159 --> 00:09:35.360 Like every time that I plan something for my wedding, 215 00:09:35.440 --> 00:09:38.240 I like it just does not feel real. Like I 216 00:09:38.279 --> 00:09:40.399 literally texted Billy twenty minutes ago and I'm like, yeah, 217 00:09:40.399 --> 00:09:42.240 this weekend I have to like buy my wedding dress. 218 00:09:42.240 --> 00:09:46.759 And I'm like, oh, Like it's it's just so absurd. 219 00:09:46.840 --> 00:09:49.919 But I I don't know, I feel really good going 220 00:09:49.960 --> 00:09:53.480 into my thirties. I feel like thirties are really like it. 221 00:09:53.480 --> 00:09:55.279 It came in like waves, Like for a while, I 222 00:09:55.320 --> 00:09:57.000 was like, holy fuck, I'm about to be thirty, Like 223 00:09:57.000 --> 00:09:58.320 I don't know what I'm doing with my life. And 224 00:09:58.360 --> 00:10:00.120 then it was like, wait, I'm excited to be thirty. 225 00:10:00.159 --> 00:10:02.639 And I've only been thirty for two three weeks, but 226 00:10:02.759 --> 00:10:06.440 like I feel excited again, almost as if I was 227 00:10:06.440 --> 00:10:07.480 turning twenty one again. 228 00:10:07.559 --> 00:10:09.360 Like you, it's almost like a new age. 229 00:10:09.399 --> 00:10:12.360 That's like I said in my TikTok that thirty is 230 00:10:12.399 --> 00:10:14.960 the first exciting birthday I've had in seven years, because like, 231 00:10:15.399 --> 00:10:17.399 after twenty one, I don't think anything in your twenties 232 00:10:17.440 --> 00:10:21.039 is exciting personally, but like thirty is like a new 233 00:10:21.120 --> 00:10:23.039 exciting age. It's like, oh shit, I'm thirty. I get 234 00:10:23.039 --> 00:10:24.559 to do all these things that I did before, and 235 00:10:24.600 --> 00:10:26.480 you're like a new version of yourself. 236 00:10:26.519 --> 00:10:28.960 So I younger, Loki. 237 00:10:29.399 --> 00:10:30.399 Yes, I do too. 238 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:33.919 I feel younger at thirty than I did at twenty eight. Yeah, 239 00:10:33.919 --> 00:10:38.720 one hundred percent. I feel hotter, I feel every possible way. 240 00:10:38.759 --> 00:10:41.519 I feel better now than I did two years ago, 241 00:10:41.559 --> 00:10:42.799 when I was like, oh, I god, I'm ancient. 242 00:10:43.480 --> 00:10:46.120 I know what's crazy. My mom told me that. I 243 00:10:46.159 --> 00:10:48.080 was like, Oh, what's the best like age range you've 244 00:10:48.080 --> 00:10:50.240 ever had? And she said forty. So if we feel 245 00:10:50.279 --> 00:10:52.639 like this now, imagine when we're forty. 246 00:10:52.879 --> 00:10:55.639 That's been like my favorite thing on my birthday was 247 00:10:55.679 --> 00:10:58.840 so many older friends or even like followers reaching out 248 00:10:58.840 --> 00:11:01.600 and they're like, happy birthday, welcome to the best decade yet. 249 00:11:01.639 --> 00:11:04.080 And I'm like, that's so exciting. Like I remember being 250 00:11:04.120 --> 00:11:06.279 in high school and people telling you that about college, 251 00:11:06.759 --> 00:11:09.240 and I'm sure we have I know we have a 252 00:11:09.240 --> 00:11:12.759 lot of young listeners. And like, if you are twenty 253 00:11:12.799 --> 00:11:14.919 six to twenty seven, twenty eight and you feel ancient, 254 00:11:15.120 --> 00:11:17.440 just wait, because it is so much fun being thirty, 255 00:11:17.519 --> 00:11:19.480 Like it really is. I feel like I have a 256 00:11:19.480 --> 00:11:20.320 new pep in my step. 257 00:11:20.399 --> 00:11:21.840 I do, and I feel like my brain just like 258 00:11:21.879 --> 00:11:25.080 opened up all of a sudden, like girls have been puzzling. 259 00:11:26.919 --> 00:11:28.639 Yeah, we all are avid puddlers. 260 00:11:28.679 --> 00:11:31.440 Now I feel like, also, really, there's so much fucking 261 00:11:31.440 --> 00:11:32.039 dog care on me. 262 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:35.840 Sorry, like sorry, thing I realized. I hope everyone knows 263 00:11:36.000 --> 00:11:40.240 we're still friends because we eat were individually posting puzzles 264 00:11:40.240 --> 00:11:41.720 on our stories. I'm like, it looks like we don't 265 00:11:41.759 --> 00:11:45.000 fucking talk like we have, Like we're talking like we're friends, y'all. 266 00:11:46.200 --> 00:11:48.000 But yeah, I finished the puzzle after like two and 267 00:11:48.039 --> 00:11:48.720 a half months. 268 00:11:49.360 --> 00:11:51.879 Now I'm on puzzle TikTok no puzzle talk. 269 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:54.279 That's so funny you say that because I was telling 270 00:11:54.279 --> 00:11:56.200 my coworkers that I was coming to hear and they're like. 271 00:11:56.120 --> 00:11:56.960 Oh, are you sad? 272 00:11:57.000 --> 00:11:59.840 And I was like, yes, sad to close this chapter. 273 00:12:00.080 --> 00:12:04.360 But it's not sad in like a heavy sad kind 274 00:12:04.360 --> 00:12:04.600 of way. 275 00:12:04.639 --> 00:12:06.200 It's just like, wow, this was a really important part 276 00:12:06.200 --> 00:12:06.600 of our life. 277 00:12:06.600 --> 00:12:08.759 But like, we are all still best friends, so I'm 278 00:12:08.759 --> 00:12:11.519 not that like it's not sad like I'm losing something. 279 00:12:11.519 --> 00:12:14.399 It's just sad like we're going in a different direction. 280 00:12:15.080 --> 00:12:17.879 Oh you're so right, Yeah, but can you talk about 281 00:12:17.879 --> 00:12:18.519 your wedding war? 282 00:12:19.000 --> 00:12:19.240 Yeah? 283 00:12:19.320 --> 00:12:20.639 I don't want to say when it is. 284 00:12:20.879 --> 00:12:23.480 Right yeah, yeah, but like you mentioned your dress, like, 285 00:12:23.480 --> 00:12:24.799 do you get what it is or are you trying 286 00:12:24.799 --> 00:12:25.639 them on this weekend? 287 00:12:25.720 --> 00:12:29.240 No, I'm just like, and this is not directed at 288 00:12:29.279 --> 00:12:31.799 literally anyone. I'm just so tired of people asking me 289 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:33.960 about my dress and I don't have an answer, and 290 00:12:34.000 --> 00:12:36.840 I feel like that's like everyone's most exciting thing. And 291 00:12:36.879 --> 00:12:39.000 it's like you know when people start asking you something 292 00:12:39.000 --> 00:12:41.039 and then you become self conscious because you haven't done 293 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:43.559 it yet. Now I'm like so self conscious of the 294 00:12:43.559 --> 00:12:45.080 fact that I don't have a dress. So I started 295 00:12:45.080 --> 00:12:47.440 looking last weekend and like, I want to have like 296 00:12:47.559 --> 00:12:49.879 three good options after this weekend. 297 00:12:50.440 --> 00:12:53.600 But Sunday, my fiance and I, y'all know, Jake. 298 00:12:53.440 --> 00:12:57.720 And I are like getting coffee and having like our 299 00:12:57.799 --> 00:13:00.720 final planning day where we're like we've booked like seventy 300 00:13:00.720 --> 00:13:02.600 five percent of it. So we're doing a wedding week. 301 00:13:03.360 --> 00:13:05.639 So we're getting married on a Thursday, which I love 302 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:08.519 because I feel like Thursdays are just good energy. We're 303 00:13:08.559 --> 00:13:11.279 flying in on Wednesday, getting married on Thursday, and then 304 00:13:11.320 --> 00:13:14.399 we fly out of Vegas on Friday and we're going 305 00:13:14.440 --> 00:13:18.039 to Joshua Tree for like four or five nights, and 306 00:13:18.080 --> 00:13:21.039 then from there we're driving to Arizona. So we're having 307 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:23.440 like a full wedding week just us, which I'm really 308 00:13:23.480 --> 00:13:25.919 excited about. So I have a bunch of outfits. 309 00:13:25.559 --> 00:13:28.759 I need a plan in my hotels, and we've booked 310 00:13:28.759 --> 00:13:29.399 a lot of things. 311 00:13:29.440 --> 00:13:32.279 We got our first big adult credit card together, which 312 00:13:32.320 --> 00:13:34.759 is crazy. So like, yeah, we put like everything for 313 00:13:34.799 --> 00:13:37.360 the wedding on the credit card, which is crazy, just 314 00:13:37.399 --> 00:13:40.879 like racking that shit up right away. Like we booked 315 00:13:40.879 --> 00:13:42.879 our We're flying a photographer out, so we paid for 316 00:13:42.919 --> 00:13:47.200 the photographer, we paid for our hotel, we bought something out. 317 00:13:47.279 --> 00:13:51.240 Oh, we got our rings. We got custom rings made. 318 00:13:51.320 --> 00:13:54.200 In Philly, which I'm really excited about from Lpory Jewelry. 319 00:13:54.559 --> 00:13:57.519 And I do my final like ring fitting next Thursday, 320 00:13:57.840 --> 00:14:00.960 so I'll get like my official ring six weeks after that, 321 00:14:01.000 --> 00:14:05.440 which is fucking crazy, so crazy, but yeah, I'm I'm 322 00:14:05.480 --> 00:14:10.679 so fucking excited. Like I'm emotional because it feels I've 323 00:14:10.720 --> 00:14:12.240 talked about this on my TikTok. I'm having a really 324 00:14:12.320 --> 00:14:16.600 hard time with changing my last name. It's one of 325 00:14:16.679 --> 00:14:20.000 those things where no solution fits because I want Jake's 326 00:14:20.039 --> 00:14:23.720 last name. I just don't want it at the same time, 327 00:14:23.799 --> 00:14:25.799 like I want. I like the idea of having the 328 00:14:25.799 --> 00:14:27.440 same last name. I like the idea of our kids 329 00:14:27.519 --> 00:14:29.320 having the same last name. I like being like a 330 00:14:29.320 --> 00:14:32.879 family unit. But the idea of getting rid of Kroten 331 00:14:33.039 --> 00:14:37.519 feels crazy. Like I've cried more about changing my last 332 00:14:37.600 --> 00:14:39.759 name than I have about anything regarding my wedd. 333 00:14:41.279 --> 00:14:43.039 You don't have to change it, which is an option. 334 00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:46.120 You can hyphenate it, you can make your middle name like, 335 00:14:46.159 --> 00:14:48.120 you can do literally anything. But it's one of those 336 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:50.320 things where it's like I don't like any of those options. 337 00:14:50.320 --> 00:14:52.120 It's like I don't want to hyphenate it because I 338 00:14:52.120 --> 00:14:53.519 don't want a super long last name. 339 00:14:54.360 --> 00:14:56.159 My middle name is really meaningful to me. So I 340 00:14:56.159 --> 00:14:58.799 don't want to switch my middle name because. 341 00:15:00.159 --> 00:15:03.000 I guess like I like technically could like I plan 342 00:15:03.080 --> 00:15:05.840 to keep Kraaden on like socials and stuff. I ask you, 343 00:15:05.960 --> 00:15:08.679 yeah no, And I told Jake that, like right away, 344 00:15:08.679 --> 00:15:10.360 I was like, I don't. I can't change my name. 345 00:15:11.320 --> 00:15:12.919 I feel like you, like people don't go by their 346 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:16.759 legal names. Yeah, Like I could be both, Like I 347 00:15:16.799 --> 00:15:20.960 could be the full like say both, but it's just 348 00:15:21.039 --> 00:15:23.559 the idea of like I don't know, I just can't 349 00:15:23.559 --> 00:15:26.440 conceptualize meeting someone and being like, Hi, I'm Casey Cohen, 350 00:15:26.639 --> 00:15:27.399 like really crazy. 351 00:15:27.519 --> 00:15:28.120 Oh my god, it. 352 00:15:28.120 --> 00:15:34.320 Sounds right that's your name, but it's crazy because I 353 00:15:34.360 --> 00:15:36.320 thought I was really alone in that because I'd never 354 00:15:36.360 --> 00:15:38.519 heard anyone else talk about it, and when. 355 00:15:38.360 --> 00:15:39.919 I posted a TikTok about it, so. 356 00:15:39.960 --> 00:15:42.200 Many women were like, no, I feel really weird about 357 00:15:42.240 --> 00:15:44.200 it too, where this one girl commented and she was like, 358 00:15:44.279 --> 00:15:46.639 I it took me twenty years to like my last 359 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:48.480 name and I finally like it, and now because she 360 00:15:48.559 --> 00:15:50.519 is like a Russian last name, and she was like, 361 00:15:50.519 --> 00:15:54.480 it's very like classic Russian. So I didn't like it 362 00:15:54.519 --> 00:15:55.799 for the first half of my life and now I 363 00:15:55.799 --> 00:15:58.519 love it, and the thought of changing it it weirds 364 00:15:58.559 --> 00:15:59.960 me out. And I was like, Wow, this is something 365 00:16:00.240 --> 00:16:02.120 people should talk about more because. 366 00:16:02.320 --> 00:16:04.639 My mom did the middle name. So like, my mom's 367 00:16:04.679 --> 00:16:08.720 middle name is Scott okay oh, and it's like Scott Anderson, 368 00:16:09.360 --> 00:16:11.960 and she had a middle name, but she like got 369 00:16:12.039 --> 00:16:14.080 rid of it. Yeah over time, She's just like, that's 370 00:16:14.080 --> 00:16:16.039 not my middle name. Like she she was very adamant 371 00:16:16.039 --> 00:16:18.399 about saying, like, my past middle name is not my 372 00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:20.159 middle name, and I don't know if there's like any 373 00:16:20.159 --> 00:16:22.200 weight that's like, I don't think there's any weight carried 374 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:24.360 with that. Yeah, you think it's genuinely just like she 375 00:16:24.440 --> 00:16:27.799 missed her yeah, her last name, especially in Philly, like 376 00:16:27.799 --> 00:16:29.919 it's a small town, like yeah, it's a big city, 377 00:16:29.960 --> 00:16:31.919 but small town, and people would come up to her 378 00:16:32.000 --> 00:16:35.279 and say, like they call her Scottie like that like 379 00:16:35.360 --> 00:16:37.440 has a last name, and I think that just like yeah, 380 00:16:37.480 --> 00:16:39.480 so I don't know. I've supported your journey on. 381 00:16:39.440 --> 00:16:43.519 That it's a changing journey because I'm like I want it. 382 00:16:43.559 --> 00:16:45.919 I want his I just don't at this moment, like 383 00:16:46.039 --> 00:16:48.399 if the thought of it, and it does feel like 384 00:16:48.399 --> 00:16:49.720 I'm changing my whole identity. 385 00:16:49.759 --> 00:16:50.960 It's like, oh my god. 386 00:16:51.159 --> 00:16:54.399 There's this weird like yeah, there's this weird. 387 00:16:54.120 --> 00:16:56.679 Like feminist, like feminist side of me that's like I 388 00:16:56.720 --> 00:16:58.159 will never be tied to a man like that. 389 00:16:58.240 --> 00:17:00.639 Meanwhile, I love him more than any all planet Earth. 390 00:17:00.679 --> 00:17:02.879 But there's a side of me that's like, that's my 391 00:17:03.039 --> 00:17:05.160 last name, Like you don't, I don't want to change it. 392 00:17:05.240 --> 00:17:07.160 I mean, like the origins of why you're changing your 393 00:17:07.240 --> 00:17:09.160 last name do you have to do with like just 394 00:17:09.160 --> 00:17:11.680 being property of somebody else, So that is why. 395 00:17:11.640 --> 00:17:12.279 Don't make it work. 396 00:17:13.079 --> 00:17:15.400 So I do think, well, I know I want my 397 00:17:15.480 --> 00:17:16.640 husband to take my last name. 398 00:17:17.240 --> 00:17:20.319 I feel like you've always said is a great last name. 399 00:17:20.599 --> 00:17:21.759 I'm not changing it. 400 00:17:22.400 --> 00:17:23.799 Hello, wait, that's kind of camp. 401 00:17:23.880 --> 00:17:25.640