Speaker 1: I don't know if your employees would be rude to you,
Speaker 1: but you being subservience of me. Dave Ryan here on
Speaker 1: the Dave Ryan Show, I said subservience. Yeah, I said,
Speaker 1: I barely scratch my beard. It itches because I'm growing
Speaker 1: my beard in. And you said, no, that's gross, which.
Speaker 2: Is mean inappropriate from you to ask such a question.
Speaker 1: After what friends do you scratch each other's beards?
Speaker 2: You just said we were subservience and we are your coworkers.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well your friends that are subservient to me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I'm going to try to it's itchy, and I'm
Speaker 1: trying to grow it out because I'm thinking about going
Speaker 1: for that Duck Dynasty look because I think that's kind
Speaker 1: of hot.
Speaker 2: No one ever, Okay, I agree, I don't think that
Speaker 2: it's hot. However, maybe you do something that you grow
Speaker 2: it out until this happens.
Speaker 3: So what would this be for you?
Speaker 2: Like like a lot of people will grow out their
Speaker 2: beards until they're oh I.
Speaker 1: See, Like I say, yeah, whatever.
Speaker 2: It is, okay, So it's like, what could it be
Speaker 2: for you? Like you grow it out.
Speaker 1: Until the Vikings win the Super Bowl? Goode to Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: that's a long time until they until they get rid
Speaker 1: of the cherry in the spoon, haul that garbage away
Speaker 1: for scrap.
Speaker 2: I think it has to be a little easier than yeez,
Speaker 2: or you'll have a beard for the rest of time.
Speaker 1: Until I make sweet, sweet loving.
Speaker 3: There you go, Okay, so then we'll know, well.
Speaker 1: Biking super Bowl is looking better. Just saying let's dive
Speaker 1: into the emails on the Minnesota Goodbye Hello Dave. Jenny
Speaker 1: Bailey vaught from Charis. She says, I want to comment
Speaker 1: on something Dave mentioned yesterday in the podcast. My mom
Speaker 1: was the only parent my sister and I had. When
Speaker 1: she passed away in twenty twelve, I was thirty three,
Speaker 1: and I felt like I was six, and I felt
Speaker 1: like my world was ending and my life was over,
Speaker 1: and I didn't know what to do without my mom. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying this for pity. She had been ill
Speaker 1: for a while and we knew it was coming. She
Speaker 1: had cancer, by the way, so it was not a
Speaker 1: surprise when she asked away, even knowing that it was coming.
Speaker 1: She told me not to be sad, and I had
Speaker 1: to keep living and I had to be strong for
Speaker 1: my two girls, who were only two years old in
Speaker 1: five months when she died. So, Dave, you were absolutely
Speaker 1: correct about parents wanting their kids to be sad for
Speaker 1: a time but then go on living. I'm still sad.
Speaker 1: I miss my mom every day and my oldest daughter
Speaker 1: is so much like her, but I made myself go on.
Speaker 1: Listening to your show every day makes me happy. Love
Speaker 1: you guys, all right. I don't know how it came
Speaker 1: up yesterday, but I was talking about how a friend
Speaker 1: of mine knowner since junior high and don't know her
Speaker 1: well anymore, but her parents died around the same time
Speaker 1: ten years ago, and she has just let it devastate
Speaker 1: her life. Everything is sad. Everything is just sad because
Speaker 1: she can't get past it. And I don't know that
Speaker 1: I've told her this, but maybe I haven't. I said
Speaker 1: it on the podcast Your Parents. Being a parent myself,
Speaker 1: you would be so sad to know that when you died,
Speaker 1: your child could never be happy again, or refuse to
Speaker 1: really be happy, or refuse to laugh again. I remember
Speaker 1: Billy Crystal did a show called five hundred Saturdays or
Speaker 1: something like that. Have you heard of it? No, the
Speaker 1: one man Show, and basically it was about how his
Speaker 1: dad died when he was like twelve, so he only
Speaker 1: got five hundred Saturdays. Now my math is wrong, so
Speaker 1: don't add it up. So but Billy Crystal said, I
Speaker 1: was never really happy after my dad died. Until I
Speaker 1: went to college and got on the college radio station
Speaker 1: for the first time since my dad died, I was happy,
Speaker 1: And I thought that's really sad because his dad would
Speaker 1: be just fucking heartbroken knowing that his little boy could
Speaker 1: never be happy once dad was gone. Now a little kid,
Speaker 1: you can't say, hey, be happy. Dad would want you
Speaker 1: to be happy. But you know, if you're a thirty
Speaker 1: four year old or a forty four year old or
Speaker 1: a sixty four year old and you lose your parents,
Speaker 1: they would be fucking heartbroken if they thought you cannot
Speaker 1: get over it. So do them a favor and don't
Speaker 1: get over it, but be happy.
Speaker 3: Try your best.
Speaker 2: I will say, from like someone who deals with a
Speaker 2: lot of mental health issues, I think that that's easier
Speaker 2: said than done for some people who deal with grief
Speaker 2: and depression and anxiety, because I do think that I
Speaker 2: will struggle a lot when my parents pass away, like
Speaker 2: much more than the average person. And it's not that
Speaker 2: I don't understand that like my parents will want me
Speaker 2: to be happy. It's just that, like my brain doesn't
Speaker 2: work that way. My brain will like think of everything
Speaker 2: and how they're not there for it anymore and stuff
Speaker 2: like that. So it's like, and I get that eventually,
Speaker 2: time heals a little bit. It doesn't like heal you.
Speaker 2: It heals a little bit. But I do think it's
Speaker 2: a little harder said than done.
Speaker 1: Well, true, but you're not a parent, So I'm giving
Speaker 1: you my perspective that, yes, you're right. It's easier to
Speaker 1: say it's like cheer up, well, good luck, cheer up right,
Speaker 1: That doesn't work that way. But maybe it's a little
Speaker 1: bit of consolation to say I'm a parent, and I
Speaker 1: know if I knew that Carson, I think Alison will
Speaker 1: be okay. I think Chase will be okay. I think
Speaker 1: Beth would be like, where's my money? Yeah? How much
Speaker 1: do I make in the will? But Carson, I think
Speaker 1: will be devastated. And if he's not going to be pissed,
Speaker 1: but he can't be devastated for like six years, Yeah, you.
Speaker 2: Do know what I mean do to haunt him. If
Speaker 2: he's not devastated, you're gonna come down and I'm.
Speaker 1: Gonna come back. Oh yeah, I'm gonna come back and
Speaker 1: like surprise him in the shower. You're right, you're right,
Speaker 1: that's weird. Okay, you're right. I'm gonna surprise him while
Speaker 1: he's making love. But you're like, oh, hey, ho, hey,
Speaker 1: hell you what what are you doing there? Just to
Speaker 1: fucking freak him out?
Speaker 3: Yeah? You know, yeah, I.
Speaker 1: Haven't thought it through.
Speaker 3: Don't give expect I mean ideas though, But okay, we'll expectations.
Speaker 2: We will work on what you're going to do to
Speaker 2: haunt Carson.
Speaker 1: Okay, I am going to play one Nita's rant, but
Speaker 1: I got to push a couple of buttons here first
Speaker 1: to make sure I've got this right. So this is pushed.
Speaker 1: That's pushed, This is pushed. Here is your weekly rant
Speaker 1: from Waneda that this.
Speaker 4: Is the reason why you're my best rip. So I
Speaker 4: sent this clip because I thought about this when I
Speaker 4: heard b Bailey and Jenny say that I would be
Speaker 4: the one to help bury the body, and you're right,
Speaker 4: I would. But here's my rant for this week. So
Speaker 4: I s my son went to go play wanted to
Speaker 4: go watch his friend play basketball, and it was gonna
Speaker 4: cost them ten dollars to get in. So I stopped
Speaker 4: at the gas say, she got a couple celsias in
Speaker 4: the back of sunflower seeds came up to ten dollars
Speaker 4: and seven cents. So I'm like, cool, I give her
Speaker 4: twenty dollars and seven cents. She give me a ten
Speaker 4: dollar bill back. I'm on my way. Nope, so I
Speaker 4: gave her the twenty dollars and seven cents. She looks
Speaker 4: at me and she goes, well, I can't you gave
Speaker 4: me too much. I said, oh, I gave you the
Speaker 4: seven cents cause I don't want ninety three cents back
Speaker 4: and change. She goes, why we can't do that. I'm like,
Speaker 4: why the hell not? She goes, because that's gonna throw
Speaker 4: my register off. So I looked at the guy that
Speaker 4: was sitting the line behind me, and he just looked
Speaker 4: at me and sh and shook his head and shrugged
Speaker 4: his shoulders. So I'm like, how the hell is that
Speaker 4: gonna make your register off? And she goes because it
Speaker 4: once I pushed this button, it's gonna spit your change out.
Speaker 4: But if I put the seven cents in there, then
Speaker 4: it's gonna throw my register off. I said, But if
Speaker 4: you don't hit that button. You just hit twenty oh seven.
Speaker 4: It's not gonna spin any change out, and you can
Speaker 4: just give me a fucking ten dollar bill back. She goes, well, no,
Speaker 4: I can't do that. This girl could have been no
Speaker 4: more than about eighteen nineteen years old. I almost called
Speaker 4: her a bitch, but I said, no, this is somebody's
Speaker 4: got so I'm not gonna disrespect her. But you can
Speaker 4: just imagine I called her all kind of names in
Speaker 4: my head. What the fuck are they learning in school, Harry?
Speaker 4: You're not learning any math because you can't count. How
Speaker 4: the hell is that gonna throw your register off? So
Speaker 4: I said, fuck it, I'm not gonna go back and
Speaker 4: forth with you on this. Just give me a goddamn
Speaker 4: change so I can be on my way. So, as
Speaker 4: you know, I stormed out of the store because what
Speaker 4: she pissed me the fuck off. So I get in
Speaker 4: the truck and I gave my son the nine dollars
Speaker 4: in the change. He looks at me and he goes, mom,
Speaker 4: why'd you give me all this change? I said, boy,
Speaker 4: not today, not today. Well that's my ride for this week.
Speaker 4: I love you guys, bye.
Speaker 1: Love you back. That is kind of funny that I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be honest with you. That always confused me because
Speaker 1: we did a like a problem day with that in
Speaker 1: math in about fifth grade. It's like, Okay, the bill
Speaker 1: comes to a dollar ninety three, I'm going to give
Speaker 1: you two dollars and three cents. Why am I going
Speaker 1: to give you two dollars and three.
Speaker 2: Cents so that you can get a dime back?
Speaker 1: So the dime is I didn't. I had trouble understanding
Speaker 1: that that was weird. That was weird to me. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's I get it now. It was weird.
Speaker 5: It's hard if you don't have the change in front
Speaker 5: of you to figure it out. But also, like I know,
Speaker 5: I feel the same way as Wanita because I used
Speaker 5: to work in retail and it gets to a point
Speaker 5: where you like memorize what like you can get back,
Speaker 5: so makes it.
Speaker 3: Then I would ask people like do you have seven cents?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 5: And then I could do it that way. But what
Speaker 5: I hated was once I entered it into the system,
Speaker 5: if somebody gave me like a twenty dollars bill and
Speaker 5: it was like thirteen fifty three, they give me a twenty.
Speaker 5: I entered in and then they say, hold on, I
Speaker 5: have two quarters, but it's not the exact change throws
Speaker 5: me off.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh difficult, I can't do it.
Speaker 5: And they're just like, just count the change back, and
Speaker 5: I'm like, I was never taught how to count the
Speaker 5: change back. I do not know how to do that.
Speaker 5: It's not gonna happen for me. Just let me give
Speaker 5: you change.
Speaker 1: Did you ever? This is funny because I remember when
Speaker 1: I was a kid very clearly wanting to get change back,
Speaker 1: and I could never figure out why I didn't get
Speaker 1: change back. So I don't know what I was buying.
Speaker 1: But let's say I was buying a twenty five cent
Speaker 1: candy bar. I'd give him a quarter and I wouldn't
Speaker 1: get my change, get any change. But I'd watch my
Speaker 1: mom get changed back, and I was like, why don't
Speaker 1: I They don't give me any money back, and I
Speaker 1: didn't know why. And my dad told me that he
Speaker 1: did the same thing when he was a kid. He
Speaker 1: couldn't figure out why he wouldn't get change back. You'd
Speaker 1: give him a die, you know, back then you buy
Speaker 1: like a new pair of shoes for a dime or whatever,
Speaker 1: And so he give him a dime, and he'd be like,
Speaker 1: where's my change. Another thing, my dad told me he
Speaker 1: once about an all day sucker. You ever heard of
Speaker 1: an all day sucker? No, they don't really call him
Speaker 1: that anymore. It's a giant lollipop.
Speaker 3: Okay, Oh yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Know what that is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he was disappointed because it didn't last all day.
Speaker 1: And I thought that was very cute. You think my
Speaker 1: dad was once such a little boy that he was
Speaker 1: like five years old and bought an all day sucker, yeah,
Speaker 1: which is probably a sucker the diameter of a hockey puck. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a large sucker. Yeah, And he was disappointed and didn't
Speaker 1: last all day. He's like, oh, nah, all right, next one,
Speaker 1: Hannah says, Oh, she says, don't say my name. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say your last name, so people
Speaker 1: won't know who you are. Pertaining to kids talking back,
Speaker 1: My kids are great and really sweet, but my husband
Speaker 1: works sixty hours a week and I stay home, so
Speaker 1: it's me and my kids a lot. For the most part,
Speaker 1: I handle it, but every once in a while they
Speaker 1: definitely need daddy to step in and set it straight
Speaker 1: if they get too mouthy. He tells that they cannot speak.
Speaker 1: He tells him that they cannot speak to me in
Speaker 1: that way, and it definitely snaps them back to reality
Speaker 1: when they get really mouthy. And then he sticks up
Speaker 1: for me and the manage they respect me. Ah, that
Speaker 1: man does it for me. Sometimes. It seems like kids
Speaker 1: need it every once in a while from someone who
Speaker 1: isn't their primary caregiver. I think that's true because you
Speaker 1: get so used to your mama or your daddy scolding you.
Speaker 1: But if grandma does it, yes, then it's a different story.
Speaker 2: You don't disrespect grandma, but I would never you would.
Speaker 3: Oh, you should see my mom.
Speaker 5: So I have a my niece, my sister, and my
Speaker 5: sister's spouse, and my dad, especially my dad, let her
Speaker 5: do whatever she wants. You say that again, So my sister, well,
Speaker 5: my sister, my sister's spouse, and my dad let my niece,
Speaker 5: my sister's daughter do whatever she wants.
Speaker 1: Oh and so even your sister does.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like I mean, she occasionally is like, hey, don't
Speaker 5: do that, that's not nice or whatever. But if my
Speaker 5: mom witnesses my niece like hit somebody, she'll be like,
Speaker 5: we do not hit. She'll like turn into this like
Speaker 5: devil woman. Yeah, but somebody has to.
Speaker 1: Well, why is it your sister does become.
Speaker 5: I mean she probably does, but like it's it's more
Speaker 5: like a okay, buddy, let's not do that, Like stop
Speaker 5: that now unless she's being really bad. Okay, But like
Speaker 5: my dad will just let this child hit him and
Speaker 5: he'll be like, oh, it's fine, it's it's nothing, it
Speaker 5: doesn't hurt.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but she's learning to that hitting is mine.
Speaker 1: Yes, And you'll learn boundaries. You learn not only specific boundaries,
Speaker 1: but the fact that there are boundaries.
Speaker 3: My dad loves to enable, but my mom will have
Speaker 3: none of it.
Speaker 1: I think that's good because I think one of the
Speaker 1: reasons that I turned out to be a moderately responsible
Speaker 1: adult is because there were serious boundaries in my house,
Speaker 1: especially with my dad. And to even learn that there
Speaker 1: are boundaries is a very valuable tool. And I think
Speaker 1: a lot of kids grow up not knowing that they
Speaker 1: are boundaries, and that's why they are bad in school,
Speaker 1: bad in class, bad after school, bad when they're an adult.
Speaker 1: So they go on to say, Dave, are you taking
Speaker 1: ukulele lessons at Bud's Music in Hopkins. Yes, I am.
Speaker 1: I took ukulele guitar lessons there When I was younger.
Speaker 1: My cousin teaches there, Tommy. He's such a great teacher. Yes,
Speaker 1: I am from Tommy. I have a ukulele lesson tonight.
Speaker 3: Oh fine, and I'm.
Speaker 1: Kind of excited about it because I've been playing for
Speaker 1: about eight years or so and I'm plateaued and I'm
Speaker 1: not getting better, and i want to figure out how
Speaker 1: to get better. So thank you for that email. Next one,
Speaker 1: let's see no no to that one. Kristin back with
Speaker 1: another random question. What's a tourist destination or spot that
Speaker 1: you highly recommend? And on the other side, what is
Speaker 1: one that you think is overrated and not worth seeing.
Speaker 1: I wish I had some stories to share, but I don't.
Speaker 1: Haven't been fortunate enough to travel a lot. Someday, Thanks guys,
Speaker 1: springtime dart licking season From Kristin. I will say Black Hills.
Speaker 1: Black Hills are like another world and it's a nine
Speaker 1: hour drive away or not even I don't know how
Speaker 1: far it is. Love the Black Hills. There's so much
Speaker 1: to see. There's history, there's scenery, there's luxury, there's simplicity.
Speaker 1: There's food, there's fast food. Black Hills are an amazing
Speaker 1: place just nine short hours away. And it's not just
Speaker 1: one thing to do. There's so many things to do.
Speaker 1: Bear Country, USA, or the Mystery Spot, or Cosmos or
Speaker 1: the Reptile World or the Caves. There's so much in
Speaker 1: the Black Hills. Wow, Mitchell, South Dakota, the Corn Palace,
Speaker 1: And I don't want to rip on the Corn Palace
Speaker 1: because that's all Mitchell has to offer. And I'm not
Speaker 1: here to rip on little Mitchell, South Dakota. But you
Speaker 1: see signs for the Corn Palace all the way there,
Speaker 1: you stop and it's nothing.
Speaker 2: So Jenny, I would say the place I absolutely love
Speaker 2: is the Grand Tetons. The entire National Park is just
Speaker 2: absolutely beautiful. And then a place I would say never
Speaker 2: go to in your entire life, and I think this
Speaker 2: will offend people is Gatlinburg, right outside the Smokies. It's
Speaker 2: the most tourist trap city I've ever been in in
Speaker 2: my life, and since the Smokies is the most visited
Speaker 2: National park.
Speaker 3: And it's it.
Speaker 2: It is, oh because if you think about the national
Speaker 2: parks and how they're spread out throughout the United States,
Speaker 2: like the big Ones, the Smokies is one of the
Speaker 2: few ones on that side of the United States, you know.
Speaker 2: So it's just it's very highly visited. So Gatlinburg is
Speaker 2: just a shit show. And it's not my scene. I
Speaker 2: worked at Bubba Gums at the Mall of America for
Speaker 2: so long, So walking into a city that's like Margeritaville,
Speaker 2: Bubba Gum stuff like that, Like, it's just not my vibe.
Speaker 2: And I know some people who love it and that's great,
Speaker 2: but for me, I hate it. It's one of the
Speaker 2: only entrances into the Smokeyes, so it's busy because it's
Speaker 2: a tourist city on top of the fact that it's
Speaker 2: one of the only entrances into the smokies.
Speaker 1: Okay, gotcha. What's funny is like bordering Yellowstone Park, there's
Speaker 1: no big touristy cities there really isn't. I mean, there's
Speaker 1: like I think Red Redwood or something. It's on the
Speaker 1: north side of Yellowstone Park. And then there's Billings, which
Speaker 1: is one hundred or so miles away from Yellowstone Park.
Speaker 1: But there's no big bordering city. Yeah, okay, what so
Speaker 1: you say stay away from Gatlinburg, Bailey, what do you got?
Speaker 3: That question? Is what's worth it? And what's not worth what.
Speaker 1: Tourist definition destination or spot would you highly recommend, And
Speaker 1: then on the other side, what one is overrated not
Speaker 1: worth it?
Speaker 4: Jeez.
Speaker 5: I mean I don't go on a ton of vacation
Speaker 5: in general. Obviously, I've been to disney World a lot,
Speaker 5: so I would recommend disney World. But I feel like
Speaker 5: everyone and their mom would recommend disney World. There's not
Speaker 5: like a lot of unique places I've gone because all
Speaker 5: of my traveling I did as a kid. Like my
Speaker 5: mom used to travel for work and we would go
Speaker 5: along with her. So I honestly, I don't really have
Speaker 5: a horse in the race.
Speaker 2: I never had anything in the in Minnesota that you
Speaker 2: can think of that you don't that I wouldn't like
Speaker 2: because I feel like you go to I feel like
Speaker 2: you're like a museum person or yeah, you love to
Speaker 2: see like something that is like symbolic.
Speaker 5: Well okay, well, I guess if we're thinking about museums,
Speaker 5: I used to work at Mill City Museum. It is
Speaker 5: a place that you go to one time, yeah you
Speaker 5: need to go over again. And I think they're a
Speaker 5: handful of museums that you can go to one time
Speaker 5: and you never need to go again. That is one
Speaker 5: of them, and I work there every day. But yeah,
Speaker 5: I do a lot of stuff in the city. But
Speaker 5: I haven't regretted pretty much anything that I've done here
Speaker 5: because it's all stuff that I've chosen to do, So
Speaker 5: it's not like I got dragged anywhere.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like it all.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I'm trying to think of like some
Speaker 1: little hidden gym. Guestops is a cool little place, and
Speaker 1: I know that's a dumb thing because it's like but
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, this is really cool. I'll give you
Speaker 1: one more. New Olm is a cool little city, so cool.
Speaker 1: It's a cool little city.
Speaker 5: It is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And there's Shells Brewery. The tour is totally worth it. It's
Speaker 1: a brewery, but it's cool. And then wigels Kaiser Hop
Speaker 1: is like an authentic old school German restaurant. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: it's just I don't know, it's just cool.
Speaker 5: There's like this really big like tower that you can
Speaker 5: climb in New Olm and we did that and that
Speaker 5: was terrifying but cool because you could see like for miles,
Speaker 5: which was neat. And their history museum is really cool
Speaker 5: and fascinating and interesting. Anyway, Yeah, Alm is great. I
Speaker 5: do like New Olm.
Speaker 1: It's had a lot of cool history there that is
Speaker 1: going to do it for the Minnesota Goodbye. Thanks for
Speaker 1: sending your emails. We're always looking for more, any thoughts
Speaker 1: on anything. You've got something that you love about, you know,
Speaker 1: a touristy place that you love me Like I said,
Speaker 1: Bailey said, don't do Disney. Yeah, you know, don't do
Speaker 1: the Big Apple. But if you got like something that's like,
Speaker 1: oh man, this is really cool, or somewhere that you
Speaker 1: think is overrated as well. I'm trying to think of
Speaker 1: somewhere that is over ray. I can't really think of
Speaker 1: I just enjoy touristy shit.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just like going do things. I don't mind
Speaker 5: wherever I am. I'll find something to do and it'll
Speaker 5: be enjoyable.
Speaker 1: Send your emails in Ryan Show at katiewb dot com
Speaker 1: and then listen for your email tomorrow here on the Minnesota. Goodbye.