WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:03.000 Are you searching for a real change that goes deep, 2 00:00:03.439 --> 00:00:06.679 not just on the outside, but changing your life from 3 00:00:06.679 --> 00:00:10.080 the inside out. In a world full of short term 4 00:00:10.119 --> 00:00:14.439 fixes and quick solutions, finding a deep and lasting change 5 00:00:14.480 --> 00:00:17.600 can seem really hard, like trying to find your way 6 00:00:17.640 --> 00:00:20.640 through a maze without any help. But what if the 7 00:00:20.679 --> 00:00:24.160 guidance you've been looking for is actually right there waiting 8 00:00:24.239 --> 00:00:28.920 for you and comes from old wise teachings. Welcome to 9 00:00:29.000 --> 00:00:33.000 the world of Stoicism, a philosophy that has guided individuals 10 00:00:33.039 --> 00:00:38.079 through the ages toward living with purpose, resilience, and inner peace. 11 00:00:38.960 --> 00:00:42.560 This isn't just another trend or self help gimmick. It's 12 00:00:42.560 --> 00:00:45.479 a profound approach to life that teaches the art of 13 00:00:45.560 --> 00:00:51.200 living well regardless of external circumstances. In this guide, we 14 00:00:51.320 --> 00:00:56.000 delve into the heart of stoicism, uncovering its timeless principles 15 00:00:56.399 --> 00:01:00.000 that can empower you to confront life's challenges with great 16 00:01:00.359 --> 00:01:04.400 and equanimity. You'll learn how to harness control over your 17 00:01:04.480 --> 00:01:08.719 thoughts and emotions, align your actions with your values, and 18 00:01:08.840 --> 00:01:13.760 cultivate a mindset that embraces change as an opportunity for growth. 19 00:01:15.079 --> 00:01:19.319 One critical aspect of integrating Stoicism into your life is 20 00:01:19.359 --> 00:01:22.840 the power of repetition. Just as the strength of the 21 00:01:22.920 --> 00:01:26.959 ocean is in its persistent waves, the strength of Stoicism 22 00:01:27.400 --> 00:01:31.920 is in the regular repeated practice of its principles. Revisiting 23 00:01:31.959 --> 00:01:37.239 and practicing Stoic teachings continually helps ingrain these ideas deeply 24 00:01:37.319 --> 00:01:42.200 within us, transforming our approach to life's challenges and opportunities. 25 00:01:42.879 --> 00:01:47.200 This repetition ensures that Stoicism becomes more than a philosophy. 26 00:01:47.719 --> 00:01:50.760 It becomes a way of life, deeply rooted in our 27 00:01:50.840 --> 00:01:56.120 daily actions and decisions. Stoicism teaches us that true transformation 28 00:01:56.359 --> 00:02:00.799 begins within. By applying its teachings, you embark on a 29 00:02:00.879 --> 00:02:05.200 journey of self discovery and personal development that promises not 30 00:02:05.359 --> 00:02:11.120 just temporary relief, but a lifelong journey of fulfillment and tranquility. 31 00:02:11.599 --> 00:02:16.919 Whether you're seeking to overcome personal obstacles, find clarity amidst chaos, 32 00:02:17.400 --> 00:02:20.919 or simply live a more contented life, this guide is 33 00:02:20.960 --> 00:02:25.680 your starting point. Through the wisdom of Stoicism, you'll discover 34 00:02:25.800 --> 00:02:29.479 how to transform your life forever, crafting a reality that 35 00:02:29.599 --> 00:02:34.439 reflects your deepest aspirations and values. Let's begin this journey 36 00:02:34.439 --> 00:02:38.199 together exploring how Stoicism can unlock the door to a 37 00:02:38.240 --> 00:02:47.280 new way of living, grounded in strength, serenity, and profound joy. 38 00:02:48.120 --> 00:02:51.479 The old wisdom of Stoicism offers a very different way 39 00:02:51.520 --> 00:02:54.800 to live in a world where telling everyone everything about 40 00:02:54.879 --> 00:02:59.759 our lives has become normal. The Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius 41 00:03:00.039 --> 00:03:04.479 and the Stoic philosophers Epictetus and Seneca taught us lessons 42 00:03:04.520 --> 00:03:07.560 that have stood the test of time. They taught us 43 00:03:07.560 --> 00:03:10.039 how important it is to keep some parts of our 44 00:03:10.120 --> 00:03:13.719 lives private. Their lessons give us the courage to face 45 00:03:13.800 --> 00:03:17.960 life's challenges with respect and peace, knowing that not everything 46 00:03:18.000 --> 00:03:22.280 should be shown to everyone. Inspired by their deep insights, 47 00:03:22.639 --> 00:03:26.240 let us look at seven aspects of life that, according 48 00:03:26.280 --> 00:03:30.639 to Stoic wisdom, are best kept private. This will help 49 00:03:30.719 --> 00:03:34.680 us live a life of virtue, peace, and inner wisdom. 50 00:03:35.120 --> 00:03:39.759 You're inner citadel. Marcus Aurelius presented us to the idea 51 00:03:39.960 --> 00:03:43.439 of the inner citadel, which is a stronghold inside us 52 00:03:43.680 --> 00:03:46.719 where we can find safety and strength no matter what 53 00:03:46.879 --> 00:03:50.560 is going on around us. This private space is where 54 00:03:50.639 --> 00:03:55.000 our deepest thoughts, battles, and victories stay. It's a place 55 00:03:55.039 --> 00:03:58.719 with unmatched privacy where the watching eyes of the outside 56 00:03:58.800 --> 00:04:02.599 world can't see who we really are. In the peace 57 00:04:02.639 --> 00:04:06.000 of our inner citadel, we meet our real selves and 58 00:04:06.080 --> 00:04:08.800 have a conversation with them that changes how we see 59 00:04:08.840 --> 00:04:11.879 the world, what we believe, and even who we are. 60 00:04:12.840 --> 00:04:16.360 Stoics think that this inner conversation is very important for 61 00:04:16.399 --> 00:04:19.800 getting better and knowing our place in the world. It's 62 00:04:19.839 --> 00:04:23.480 a process of constant improvement and thought in which we 63 00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:26.920 look at our reasons for doing things, face our fears, 64 00:04:27.319 --> 00:04:33.079 and grow values like wisdom, justice, courage, and temperance. It's 65 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:35.360 not meant for the world to see this trip of 66 00:04:35.399 --> 00:04:39.639 self reflection. Talking about the details of our inner change 67 00:04:40.000 --> 00:04:42.600 can make it less meaningful and take us off the 68 00:04:42.680 --> 00:04:47.199 road of real self discovery. The inner citadel is also 69 00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:50.600 a safe place to escape the chaos of the outside world. 70 00:04:51.240 --> 00:04:53.319 It's a place we can go to get away from 71 00:04:53.319 --> 00:04:58.600 outside opinions and demands and find peace and understanding. Focusing 72 00:04:58.680 --> 00:05:02.839 only on our actions and reactions is a Stoic practice 73 00:05:02.839 --> 00:05:05.680 that helps us figure out what we can control and 74 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:08.759 what we can't. We learn this in the quiet of 75 00:05:08.800 --> 00:05:12.480 our inner fortress. Being able to tell the difference between 76 00:05:12.519 --> 00:05:16.560 these two things is important for staying calm when life 77 00:05:16.600 --> 00:05:20.839 is unclear. By keeping our inner citadel holy and secret, 78 00:05:21.319 --> 00:05:25.000 we protect its power as a source of strength and resilience. 79 00:05:25.560 --> 00:05:28.600 This helps us stay strong in our stoic pursuit of 80 00:05:28.720 --> 00:05:35.199 virtue and inner peace. Your problems and challenges. Going through 81 00:05:35.279 --> 00:05:38.879 hard times is a very personal and life changing trip 82 00:05:39.240 --> 00:05:41.879 that shapes us in ways that are unique to each 83 00:05:41.959 --> 00:05:46.519 person's experience. Stoics say that the details of our problems 84 00:05:46.680 --> 00:05:50.360 should be kept secret because of this. This isn't because 85 00:05:50.399 --> 00:05:53.439 they want to keep secrets, but because our growth is 86 00:05:53.519 --> 00:05:58.360 so personal. We are called to use traits like patience, focus, 87 00:05:58.399 --> 00:06:03.199 and resilience when we problems. These times put our character 88 00:06:03.240 --> 00:06:06.000 to the test and shape it in the fire of trial. 89 00:06:06.720 --> 00:06:11.120 Sharing every detail of these problems can unintentionally take our 90 00:06:11.160 --> 00:06:14.839 attention away from the process of overcoming and learning on 91 00:06:14.920 --> 00:06:18.399 the inside, and put it on getting approval or support 92 00:06:18.439 --> 00:06:21.959 from others. The stoic way of thinking urges us to 93 00:06:22.040 --> 00:06:25.560 take our problems to heart, think deeply about them, and 94 00:06:25.800 --> 00:06:28.879 use them to grow as people. It requires us to 95 00:06:28.920 --> 00:06:33.040 look inside ourselves and rely on ourselves, knowing that the 96 00:06:33.079 --> 00:06:36.399 real value of hardship is the strength and wisdom it 97 00:06:36.480 --> 00:06:41.519 gives us. Additionally, keeping our problems private protects our pride 98 00:06:41.920 --> 00:06:45.480 and gives us control over our story. We live in 99 00:06:45.519 --> 00:06:49.519 a society that often makes pain seem exciting, so meeting 100 00:06:49.519 --> 00:06:54.439 our fights with calm determination, without needing public praise or recognition, 101 00:06:55.000 --> 00:06:58.519 gives us a quiet sense of honor. This doesn't mean 102 00:06:58.560 --> 00:07:01.560 we shouldn't ever ask for help or support. It just 103 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:05.120 means that the specifics of our problems are ours to 104 00:07:05.240 --> 00:07:09.480 own and work through. By doing this, we follow the 105 00:07:09.560 --> 00:07:13.480 Stoic concept of focusing on what we can change, how 106 00:07:13.519 --> 00:07:17.199 we think, what we choose, and what we do when 107 00:07:17.279 --> 00:07:21.680 bad things happen. Stoics believe that keeping our problems and 108 00:07:21.720 --> 00:07:25.439 struggles to ourselves is not a sign of loneliness, but 109 00:07:25.560 --> 00:07:28.920 of the strength of the human spirit. It tells us 110 00:07:28.920 --> 00:07:31.279 that we often grow in the quiet parts of our 111 00:07:31.360 --> 00:07:35.000 lives when no one is around. When we accept our 112 00:07:35.040 --> 00:07:38.000 problems as they are, we can really learn from them 113 00:07:38.279 --> 00:07:41.319 and use what we've learned to deal with future problems. 114 00:07:42.160 --> 00:07:45.600 In this way of doing things, you can develop resilience, 115 00:07:45.959 --> 00:07:49.800 self reliance, and a deep sense of inner peace, all 116 00:07:49.839 --> 00:07:53.759 of which are important for managing the rough waves of life. 117 00:07:54.319 --> 00:07:58.959 Your political views and opinions. The subject of political views 118 00:07:59.000 --> 00:08:03.720 and opinions is complicated in Stoic philosophy, which stresses reason, 119 00:08:04.120 --> 00:08:10.519 self control, and the search for inner peace. Stoics like Marcus, Aurelius, Seneca, 120 00:08:10.680 --> 00:08:13.959 and Epictetus wrote and did things that had to do 121 00:08:14.000 --> 00:08:19.199 with politics. Aurelius in particular, was a Roman emperor. However, 122 00:08:19.480 --> 00:08:22.519 their lessons stress how important it is to focus on 123 00:08:22.639 --> 00:08:26.879 what one can control. Politics can cause a lot of disagreement, 124 00:08:27.240 --> 00:08:31.519 so talking about political views and opinions can sometimes cause 125 00:08:31.639 --> 00:08:35.840 needless trouble, stress, and disagreement, which can get in the 126 00:08:35.840 --> 00:08:39.480 way of living a good and peaceful life. So it 127 00:08:39.600 --> 00:08:42.440 might be best to keep your political views to yourself 128 00:08:42.759 --> 00:08:46.399 so that you can focus on personal growth and moral beliefs. 129 00:08:47.200 --> 00:08:51.200 Stoic philosophy says to protect your inner piece and focus 130 00:08:51.240 --> 00:08:56.080 on personal virtue. Hiding your political ideas is similar to this. 131 00:08:56.919 --> 00:08:59.720 If you choose not to take part in public political 132 00:08:59.720 --> 00:09:03.720 fights or say what your political views are, you lower 133 00:09:03.759 --> 00:09:08.000 the chance that outside battles will upset your peace. This 134 00:09:08.159 --> 00:09:10.799 way of thinking doesn't mean that you don't care about 135 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:15.039 or are interested in politics. Instead, it means that you 136 00:09:15.120 --> 00:09:19.320 have chosen to put inner peace and reasonable conversation ahead 137 00:09:19.320 --> 00:09:24.600 of possibly divisive public talks. Keeping political views and opinions 138 00:09:24.639 --> 00:09:28.000 to yourself. Also makes it easier to connect with others 139 00:09:28.279 --> 00:09:31.279 in a more open minded way, which can help build 140 00:09:31.320 --> 00:09:36.799 community spirit that goes beyond political differences. This action shows 141 00:09:36.840 --> 00:09:41.159 the stoic concept of cosmopolitanism, which says that all people 142 00:09:41.200 --> 00:09:44.799 are part of the same society built on mutual respect 143 00:09:44.840 --> 00:09:49.840 and understanding. Instead of conflict and separation, we make room 144 00:09:49.879 --> 00:09:55.240 for conversation that focuses on shared human values and joint growth. 145 00:09:55.519 --> 00:09:58.480 When we don't wear our political views on our clothing. 146 00:09:59.360 --> 00:10:02.799 This way of thinking pushes us to actively listen and 147 00:10:02.960 --> 00:10:06.399 think about things from different points of view, which helps 148 00:10:06.440 --> 00:10:10.399 us understand and relate to others better. By doing this, 149 00:10:10.840 --> 00:10:14.000 we not only support the Stoic ideals of wisdom and 150 00:10:14.240 --> 00:10:17.799 justice in our interactions with others, but we also help 151 00:10:17.879 --> 00:10:22.360 build a society where people's differences of opinion don't get 152 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:24.720 in the way of our pursuit of the common good 153 00:10:25.200 --> 00:10:29.960 and our humanity. Stoics believe that ideas should be discussed 154 00:10:30.039 --> 00:10:33.840 rationally and ideas should be judged on their own grounds. 155 00:10:34.480 --> 00:10:40.120 Keeping political views secret respects this belief. Stoicism encourages people 156 00:10:40.159 --> 00:10:43.559 to understand and care about others, and it tells them 157 00:10:43.559 --> 00:10:46.720 to listen and think instead of trying to convince or 158 00:10:46.799 --> 00:10:51.240 follow the crowd. Keeping your political views to yourself can 159 00:10:51.279 --> 00:10:54.360 be a way to support Stoic ideals of wisdom and 160 00:10:54.440 --> 00:10:58.200 temperance in a time when political talks can quickly become 161 00:10:58.279 --> 00:11:03.960 divisive and disconnected from fruitful debate your goals and plans. 162 00:11:05.039 --> 00:11:09.639 Under the Stoic philosophy, Marcus Aurelius and his followers stressed 163 00:11:09.639 --> 00:11:12.600 how important it was to live a good life based 164 00:11:12.639 --> 00:11:17.039 on logic and virtue, focused on deeds rather than words. 165 00:11:18.000 --> 00:11:21.279 Stoics say that our plans and goals should also be 166 00:11:21.360 --> 00:11:28.000 kept secret. Because of this concept, Stoics value traits like resilience, patience, 167 00:11:28.399 --> 00:11:32.240 and adaptability, which are often needed to get through tough 168 00:11:32.279 --> 00:11:36.919 situations and reach our goals. By not telling anyone about 169 00:11:36.919 --> 00:11:39.960 our plans and goals, we can keep the focus and 170 00:11:40.120 --> 00:11:43.279 inner piece we need to go after them without being 171 00:11:43.360 --> 00:11:48.799 sidetracked by outside demands or too much attention. Stoics believe 172 00:11:48.879 --> 00:11:51.720 that the only thing we can really manage is our 173 00:11:51.759 --> 00:11:55.240 own thoughts and deeds, which is why they say to 174 00:11:55.320 --> 00:11:59.360 keep your ambitions secret. When we make our goals public 175 00:11:59.440 --> 00:12:03.240 before we're ready, we open ourselves up to opinions and 176 00:12:03.399 --> 00:12:07.480 possibly bad feedback, which can weaken our resolve or make 177 00:12:07.559 --> 00:12:12.159 us question our path. Also, the Stoic practice of focusing 178 00:12:12.200 --> 00:12:15.360 on the present and what we can change is harmed 179 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:17.600 when we worry too much about what we will do 180 00:12:17.679 --> 00:12:20.440 in the future or what other people will think of us. 181 00:12:21.279 --> 00:12:23.919 The act of working toward a goal is just as 182 00:12:23.960 --> 00:12:27.720 important as the goal itself. This is an example of 183 00:12:27.759 --> 00:12:32.519 the Stoic values of wisdom, focus, and persistence. By not 184 00:12:32.559 --> 00:12:35.600 telling anyone about our goals, we make sure that our 185 00:12:35.679 --> 00:12:38.559 journey stays true to who we are and what we want, 186 00:12:38.879 --> 00:12:43.279 without being affected by social standards or passing trends. The 187 00:12:43.320 --> 00:12:46.840 Stoics also believed that modesty was a virtue and that 188 00:12:46.960 --> 00:12:51.480 quiet success was powerful. Pursuing your goals in silence can 189 00:12:51.519 --> 00:12:55.159 make you stronger. You can build this strength without anyone 190 00:12:55.200 --> 00:12:58.519 seeing you. This way of doing things lets you think 191 00:12:58.600 --> 00:13:01.840 more deeply about your trip, so you can make changes 192 00:13:02.159 --> 00:13:05.159 and learn from your mistakes without worrying about what other 193 00:13:05.200 --> 00:13:08.759 people will think. In a world where success is often 194 00:13:08.799 --> 00:13:11.960 measured by how well you are known and seen, the 195 00:13:12.080 --> 00:13:16.080 quiet road of private desire pushes us to define success 196 00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:20.519 on our own terms. By focusing on personal growth and 197 00:13:20.559 --> 00:13:24.159 the happiness that comes from following our values and abilities. 198 00:13:24.799 --> 00:13:28.360 Stoic philosophy tells us that keeping our plans and goals 199 00:13:28.399 --> 00:13:32.519 to ourselves is more important than getting support from other people. 200 00:13:33.240 --> 00:13:36.879 It tells us that the trip itself, the difficulties we face, 201 00:13:37.279 --> 00:13:40.639 the virtues we develop, and the wisdom we gain along 202 00:13:40.679 --> 00:13:45.120 the way, is what makes true success possible. This method 203 00:13:45.200 --> 00:13:49.039 increases our drive and dedication to our goals while also 204 00:13:49.200 --> 00:13:53.240 protecting our mental and emotional health. We give ourselves the 205 00:13:53.279 --> 00:13:57.480 space and freedom to achieve our goals with honesty, focus, 206 00:13:57.519 --> 00:14:00.399 and a strong sense of purpose when we follow the 207 00:14:00.440 --> 00:14:06.440 Stoic practice of privacy in our plans your moments of weakness. 208 00:14:07.440 --> 00:14:11.080 In Stoic philosophy, the most important thing is to develop 209 00:14:11.159 --> 00:14:15.879 personal virtue and resilience. So moments of weakness might not 210 00:14:15.960 --> 00:14:20.720 make sense, but the Stoics like Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and 211 00:14:20.799 --> 00:14:25.200 Epictetus knew that facing our weaknesses and fears was a 212 00:14:25.279 --> 00:14:29.480 key part of growing and knowing ourselves. These times of 213 00:14:29.519 --> 00:14:33.559 being open and vulnerable are very personal events that shape 214 00:14:33.600 --> 00:14:36.720 who we are and how we deal with life's problems. 215 00:14:37.360 --> 00:14:40.240 Stoics would say that These kinds of times should be 216 00:14:40.320 --> 00:14:44.200 kept secret, not because they show weakness, but because the 217 00:14:44.279 --> 00:14:49.080 self reflection and growth they encourage are inherently personal. When 218 00:14:49.120 --> 00:14:52.440 we keep our vulnerable times to ourselves, we can work 219 00:14:52.480 --> 00:14:56.600 through our feelings and experiences without other people judging or 220 00:14:56.639 --> 00:15:00.200 affecting us. This time alone gives me the space I 221 00:15:00.279 --> 00:15:04.159 need to really think about things and learn more about myself. 222 00:15:04.759 --> 00:15:08.759 We can face our fears, question our beliefs, and eventually 223 00:15:08.799 --> 00:15:11.879 find strength in our ability to get through hard times 224 00:15:12.240 --> 00:15:15.679 when we are alone with our thoughts and feelings. A 225 00:15:15.720 --> 00:15:19.879 big part of Stoic philosophy is this process, which stresses 226 00:15:19.960 --> 00:15:23.519 how important it is to master yourself and your thoughts. 227 00:15:24.399 --> 00:15:27.399 We follow the Stoic principle of focusing on what we 228 00:15:27.480 --> 00:15:31.919 can control by talking about our weaknesses in private. This 229 00:15:32.120 --> 00:15:36.399 means that we pay attention to our thoughts, feelings, and actions. 230 00:15:37.120 --> 00:15:39.840 The Stoics also know how important it is to be 231 00:15:39.879 --> 00:15:43.120 able to rely on yourself and how powerful it is 232 00:15:43.200 --> 00:15:47.120 to face our weaknesses without looking for approval or pity 233 00:15:47.159 --> 00:15:50.399 from others. This is not to say that asking for 234 00:15:50.519 --> 00:15:54.200 help is uncourageous, but rather that the main process of 235 00:15:54.279 --> 00:15:57.879 learning and getting over our weaknesses is a personal one. 236 00:15:58.720 --> 00:16:02.000 Going inside to deal with our darkest fears and doubts 237 00:16:02.519 --> 00:16:06.159 is a sign of the Stoic qualities of courage and wisdom. 238 00:16:06.480 --> 00:16:09.879 You can really practice the Stoic ideals of calmness and 239 00:16:10.000 --> 00:16:13.960 courage in these quiet moments. They help you get ready 240 00:16:13.960 --> 00:16:18.399 to face the world with more strength and clarity. Stoicism's 241 00:16:18.440 --> 00:16:21.960 practice of keeping times of weakness secret is a deep 242 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:27.039 recognition of how human growth and self improvement are encourages 243 00:16:27.159 --> 00:16:30.320 us to see our flaws not as mistakes, but as 244 00:16:30.440 --> 00:16:34.200 chances to learn more about ourselves and grow as people. 245 00:16:35.159 --> 00:16:39.240 We show the Stoic traits of courage, wisdom, and self 246 00:16:39.279 --> 00:16:43.519 reliance by being honest about our weaknesses in front of 247 00:16:43.559 --> 00:16:47.240 our own mirror. This way of doing things not only 248 00:16:47.279 --> 00:16:50.879 builds a strong and good character, it also makes sure 249 00:16:50.960 --> 00:16:54.960 that our path to self mastery stays real and true. 250 00:16:55.960 --> 00:16:58.879 We find the strength and wisdom to live a life 251 00:16:59.000 --> 00:17:03.320 based on Stoic principles, one based on virtue and the 252 00:17:03.360 --> 00:17:08.200 goal of personal excellence when we are alone and feeling weak. 253 00:17:08.960 --> 00:17:12.160 Rich people and financial success are often shown off and 254 00:17:12.240 --> 00:17:16.640 talked about freely in today's world. Stoic philosophy takes a 255 00:17:16.640 --> 00:17:21.039 different approach to the issue of financial standing. Stoics like 256 00:17:21.160 --> 00:17:27.039 Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus say that virtue, wisdom, and 257 00:17:27.160 --> 00:17:30.920 happiness are more important than wealth and other things that 258 00:17:31.039 --> 00:17:35.759 people can see. Stoics believe that person's character and their 259 00:17:35.799 --> 00:17:38.799 desire of a good life are more important than the 260 00:17:38.839 --> 00:17:42.400 things they own when it comes to true wealth. Because 261 00:17:42.400 --> 00:17:45.200 of this, it is best to keep the details of 262 00:17:45.279 --> 00:17:49.680 one's finances secret, whether they are rich, in debt, or 263 00:17:49.720 --> 00:17:55.920 somewhere in between. This method encourages modesty, stops pointless comparison, 264 00:17:56.400 --> 00:17:59.880 and keeps the attention on what really matters, growing as 265 00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:04.640 a person and living an ethical life. Stoic's believe that 266 00:18:04.720 --> 00:18:09.039 we should focus on what we can control, like our character, deeds, 267 00:18:09.440 --> 00:18:13.400 and how we deal with life's problems. Keeping our financial 268 00:18:13.480 --> 00:18:17.839 situation a secret is in line with this idea. Stoic 269 00:18:17.920 --> 00:18:21.400 principles of living a simple life and being happy with 270 00:18:21.440 --> 00:18:25.440 what you have back the practice of keeping money issues private. 271 00:18:26.200 --> 00:18:29.160 This helps us be thankful for what we have, no 272 00:18:29.240 --> 00:18:33.160 matter how it stacks up against other peoples. This frame 273 00:18:33.200 --> 00:18:37.160 of mind encourages a simple life where happiness isn't tied 274 00:18:37.240 --> 00:18:40.759 to money, but to the quality of our relationships, the 275 00:18:40.799 --> 00:18:45.559 study of wisdom, and the practice of virtue. Stoic advice 276 00:18:45.640 --> 00:18:49.680 to keep money, problems, and grudges to oneself also teaches 277 00:18:49.799 --> 00:18:53.440 us the value of resolving problems within ourselves and the 278 00:18:53.480 --> 00:18:57.000 power of managing how we respond to things happening around us. 279 00:18:57.880 --> 00:19:00.400 This way of thinking pushes us to put a side 280 00:19:00.480 --> 00:19:04.920 small arguments and emotional turmoil and instead focus on growing 281 00:19:04.960 --> 00:19:09.519 as people and living a good, peaceful life. We develop 282 00:19:09.559 --> 00:19:14.960 a mindset of resilience, mercy, and emotional intelligence by adhering 283 00:19:15.039 --> 00:19:18.519 to this principle, all of which improve our general health 284 00:19:18.839 --> 00:19:21.119 and allow us to live in peace with the world 285 00:19:21.160 --> 00:19:28.759 around us. Your complaints and resentments. Stoic philosophy emphasizes reason, 286 00:19:29.240 --> 00:19:34.480 emotional resilience, and the goal of virtue. Personal complaints and 287 00:19:34.559 --> 00:19:38.039 resentments are seen through the lens of self reflection and 288 00:19:38.200 --> 00:19:44.680 control over one's responses. In Stoic philosophy, Marcus, Aurelius, Seneca, 289 00:19:44.759 --> 00:19:48.240 and Epictetus all talked about how to get over bad 290 00:19:48.319 --> 00:19:53.759 feelings by understanding, forgiving, and realizing that things that happen 291 00:19:53.839 --> 00:19:57.079 to us don't hurt us. How we react to them 292 00:19:57.160 --> 00:20:00.799 does so. Letting off steam and and hanging on to 293 00:20:00.839 --> 00:20:04.920 anger are not only useless, they go against the principles 294 00:20:04.920 --> 00:20:08.920 of stoicism. These thinkers would say that these kinds of 295 00:20:08.960 --> 00:20:12.920 things should stay private because talking about them in public 296 00:20:13.319 --> 00:20:17.359 often makes things worse and takes attention away from personal 297 00:20:17.400 --> 00:20:22.319 growth and finding peace. Stoic advice says to focus on 298 00:20:22.440 --> 00:20:26.119 what we can control, which means keeping our complaints and 299 00:20:26.279 --> 00:20:30.359 anger to ourselves. We take back control of our emotions 300 00:20:30.680 --> 00:20:34.440 and refuse to let outside events control us by choosing 301 00:20:34.519 --> 00:20:38.119 not to speak out about every wrong or slight we 302 00:20:38.160 --> 00:20:42.400 feel we have experienced. By doing this, we are encouraged 303 00:20:42.440 --> 00:20:45.680 to think about what our problems are, work on solving 304 00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:50.559 them within ourselves, and learn to forgive others and ourselves 305 00:20:51.519 --> 00:20:53.960 in order to keep our calm and peace of mind 306 00:20:54.319 --> 00:20:57.960 in the face of life's unavoidable obstacles. It is a 307 00:20:58.000 --> 00:21:01.720 process that develops our mental galth, growth, and character strength. 308 00:21:02.359 --> 00:21:06.039 The Stoics also thought that actions spoke louder than words. 309 00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:09.519 The traits we want to grow are shown by how 310 00:21:09.559 --> 00:21:12.759 we handle our complaints in private and how we show 311 00:21:12.880 --> 00:21:17.359 resilience and forgiveness through our actions. In addition to being 312 00:21:17.400 --> 00:21:20.440 good for our own health, this way of thinking might 313 00:21:20.519 --> 00:21:23.200 also make the people around us, think about how they 314 00:21:23.240 --> 00:21:27.119 react and maybe take a more calm approach to their problems. 315 00:21:27.799 --> 00:21:31.440 Stoic advice to keep our complaints and anger to ourselves 316 00:21:31.799 --> 00:21:35.720 shows us the worth of resolving problems within ourselves and 317 00:21:35.799 --> 00:21:38.599 the power to control how we respond to things that 318 00:21:38.680 --> 00:21:42.799 happen in the outside world. We are challenged to rise 319 00:21:42.839 --> 00:21:47.279 above small fights and emotional upheaval and instead focus on 320 00:21:47.359 --> 00:21:51.759 our own growth and the goal of a good, peaceful life. 321 00:21:51.799 --> 00:21:56.640 We develop a mindset of resilience, mercy, and emotional intelligence 322 00:21:57.000 --> 00:22:00.200 by adhering to this principle, all of which in prove 323 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:03.200 our general health and allow us to live in peace 324 00:22:03.319 --> 00:22:07.240 with the world around us. When we think about ourselves alone, 325 00:22:07.640 --> 00:22:10.359 we find the strength to let go of bad things 326 00:22:10.640 --> 00:22:14.279 and move on with grace and wisdom. Let us use 327 00:22:14.319 --> 00:22:17.720 the wisdom we've learned from Stoic philosophy to make our 328 00:22:17.839 --> 00:22:21.319 daily lives better. In a world full of noise and 329 00:22:21.359 --> 00:22:25.000 people trying to get your attention, choosing to protect our 330 00:22:25.039 --> 00:22:29.799 inner space, our goals, our weak spots, our personal limits, 331 00:22:30.160 --> 00:22:34.880 and more becomes a source of strength and peace. Remember 332 00:22:34.960 --> 00:22:38.119 that the power of privacy is not in hiding who 333 00:22:38.160 --> 00:22:41.759 we are, but in honoring the holy places inside of 334 00:22:41.839 --> 00:22:47.759 us that promote development, wisdom, and resilience. Let these seven 335 00:22:47.839 --> 00:22:51.039 bases help us grow a garden of peace and virtue 336 00:22:51.079 --> 00:22:54.480 in our minds as we go through the busy crossroads 337 00:22:54.480 --> 00:22:58.519 of life. May your journey within show you the way forward, 338 00:22:58.960 --> 00:23:02.079 and may the riches you choose to keep secret become 339 00:23:02.160 --> 00:23:05.880 the foundation of a life filled with meaning, honor, and 340 00:23:06.119 --> 00:23:10.000 unwavering inner strength. In the peace and quiet of your 341 00:23:10.039 --> 00:23:13.000 own world, may you be able to reach new heights 342 00:23:13.279 --> 00:23:21.960 whilst staying true to the timeless ideals of stoicism. Early 343 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:25.359 in the morning, when it's still, when everyone in the 344 00:23:25.400 --> 00:23:29.039 world is still dozing in silence, there is a question 345 00:23:29.160 --> 00:23:33.000 in the air that is almost undetectable but very important. 346 00:23:33.799 --> 00:23:37.000 What kind of life do I want to live? Even 347 00:23:37.000 --> 00:23:40.119 though this question seems easy, it gets to the heart 348 00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:42.839 of who we are and forces us to face the 349 00:23:42.880 --> 00:23:48.000 loops of failure, sadness, and overthinking that have trapped generations 350 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:52.200 in a web of unrealized potential. This quiet time to 351 00:23:52.240 --> 00:23:55.759 think about yourself is where the path to success starts. 352 00:23:56.440 --> 00:24:00.160 Not by making big promises or setting lofty goals, but 353 00:24:00.240 --> 00:24:04.759 by making a deep, unshakable promise to yourself. A promise 354 00:24:04.839 --> 00:24:07.799 to change, to grow, and to break out of the 355 00:24:07.880 --> 00:24:12.359 never ending circle that has trapped us. Stoic thinkers, who 356 00:24:12.400 --> 00:24:14.839 had a deep knowledge of what it means to be human, 357 00:24:15.440 --> 00:24:18.279 gave us a way to get through this dangerous terrain 358 00:24:18.720 --> 00:24:25.079 by following the timeless wisdom of stoicism. Epictetus said, first 359 00:24:25.519 --> 00:24:28.599 tell yourself what kind of person you would be, and 360 00:24:28.680 --> 00:24:32.039 then do what you have to do. This quote sums 361 00:24:32.119 --> 00:24:36.480 up Stoic philosophy. It's not just about setting goals. It's 362 00:24:36.519 --> 00:24:39.400 also about making sure that our very selves are in 363 00:24:39.440 --> 00:24:43.960 line with the values of justice, courage, wisdom, and temperance. 364 00:24:44.680 --> 00:24:48.000 This is an action call and a reflection that success 365 00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:51.680 is not given, but made through the decisions and actions 366 00:24:51.720 --> 00:24:55.720 we make every day. In this way, stoicism is not 367 00:24:55.880 --> 00:25:00.480 just accepting what happens. It is an active participation in life, 368 00:25:01.079 --> 00:25:04.640 a promise to live by the ideals we value, despite 369 00:25:04.680 --> 00:25:08.039 the chaos and stresses in our lives. Outside of them, 370 00:25:08.359 --> 00:25:12.119 there will be failures, losses, and a lot of overthinking 371 00:25:12.160 --> 00:25:15.559 on the way to becoming a great person. The Stoic 372 00:25:15.680 --> 00:25:18.559 said that the first step to becoming great is to 373 00:25:18.640 --> 00:25:22.359 think about yourself and tell yourself what you want to become. 374 00:25:23.240 --> 00:25:26.799 But this isn't just about making plans or goals. It's 375 00:25:26.839 --> 00:25:29.440 about figuring out what kind of man you want to 376 00:25:29.480 --> 00:25:34.079 be and becoming that man in line with nature and virtue. 377 00:25:34.119 --> 00:25:37.079 You have to picture the version of your character who 378 00:25:37.119 --> 00:25:42.000 always does the right thing, no matter what the world's chaos, stresses, 379 00:25:42.279 --> 00:25:47.200 and challenges are. Like by Stoic philosophy, this is the 380 00:25:47.240 --> 00:25:50.599 real start of a dedicated life where all of your 381 00:25:50.640 --> 00:25:53.960 thoughts and actions are in line with this better version 382 00:25:54.000 --> 00:25:57.680 of yourself. Help us get together with this to get 383 00:25:57.720 --> 00:26:01.000 out from underachieving and break free from the chains that 384 00:26:01.079 --> 00:26:05.000 hold us back, to rise with courage and conviction, and 385 00:26:05.079 --> 00:26:08.039 build a shining history that goes beyond the limits of 386 00:26:08.079 --> 00:26:13.160 our past. When we take careful steps, make decisions with purpose, 387 00:26:13.519 --> 00:26:17.839 and face challenges with unwavering resolve, we not only set 388 00:26:17.880 --> 00:26:21.799 ourselves up for success, but we also encourage those around 389 00:26:21.880 --> 00:26:25.839 us to start their own journey of change. Let's say 390 00:26:25.839 --> 00:26:29.279 goodbye to mediocre and take a bold step into a 391 00:26:29.319 --> 00:26:35.799 future full of opportunity, meaning and unmatched success lesson one. 392 00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:39.799 How we see things shapes our world and is the 393 00:26:39.839 --> 00:26:44.240 basis of inner peace. The first and maybe most important 394 00:26:44.279 --> 00:26:48.599 thing that stoicism tells us is how powerful our thoughts are. 395 00:26:49.519 --> 00:26:52.720 Being able to stay focused on our inner guide is 396 00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:57.440 very important in a world full of distractions and outside forces. 397 00:26:58.119 --> 00:27:01.319 Taking control of our thoughts and fears feeling gives us 398 00:27:01.319 --> 00:27:05.759 the strength to question the status quo, to rise above mediocrity, 399 00:27:06.200 --> 00:27:09.720 and to pave the way for success. The first step 400 00:27:09.799 --> 00:27:12.319 to breaking out of the circle of failure and becoming 401 00:27:12.359 --> 00:27:15.480 a great person is to realize that our views have 402 00:27:15.599 --> 00:27:19.519 the power to change our reality. We give ourselves the 403 00:27:19.559 --> 00:27:22.920 tools we need to handle life's difficulties with poise and 404 00:27:23.039 --> 00:27:28.119 resilience by adopting the stoic principles of emotional control, reason, 405 00:27:28.599 --> 00:27:33.480 and concentration. This road isn't simple, and there are things 406 00:27:33.519 --> 00:27:36.319 that could get in the way, but the problems we 407 00:27:36.400 --> 00:27:40.279 face are what make us grow and change. We are 408 00:27:40.319 --> 00:27:44.400 always at an intersection. We can see problems as impossible 409 00:27:44.440 --> 00:27:48.640 to solve or as chances to learn and grow. This choice, 410 00:27:48.920 --> 00:27:51.920 which may not seem important by itself, has a big 411 00:27:51.960 --> 00:27:55.319 impact on the course of our lives. We can prepare 412 00:27:55.359 --> 00:27:58.000 for the ups and downs of life by choosing the 413 00:27:58.039 --> 00:28:03.480 stoic practice of seeing difficulties as opportunities for virtue. This 414 00:28:03.640 --> 00:28:07.000 change doesn't just affect how we think about life, it 415 00:28:07.079 --> 00:28:11.079 also changes how we actually live it. Every day stops 416 00:28:11.119 --> 00:28:14.680 being a list of problems that need to be solved. Instead, 417 00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:19.160 it becomes a chance to practice traits like patience, resilience, 418 00:28:19.480 --> 00:28:23.480 and courage. This lesson, which is easy in words but 419 00:28:23.559 --> 00:28:27.000 has huge effects, makes us think about how we relate 420 00:28:27.039 --> 00:28:30.880 to the world in new ways. According to this idea, 421 00:28:31.039 --> 00:28:34.839 the real battlefield where success is made is inside our 422 00:28:34.880 --> 00:28:39.000 own heads. Breaking the circle of failure starts with how 423 00:28:39.039 --> 00:28:42.440 we see things. To do this, we need to not 424 00:28:42.480 --> 00:28:46.759 only understand stoic principles but also be resolute in our 425 00:28:46.799 --> 00:28:53.279 efforts to live by them in every part of our lives. Lesson, too, 426 00:28:53.519 --> 00:28:58.279 becoming stronger by accepting what will happen, is called resilience. 427 00:28:59.240 --> 00:29:02.440 Stoicism is a strong way to learn how to accept 428 00:29:02.480 --> 00:29:06.119 fate and break out of the circle of failure, sadness 429 00:29:06.400 --> 00:29:09.960 and overthinking that often gets in the way of our success. 430 00:29:10.960 --> 00:29:13.680 This old philosophy says that we can choose how to 431 00:29:13.799 --> 00:29:16.839 respond to things that happen to us, even if we 432 00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:22.599 can't change the things themselves. Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius tells 433 00:29:22.680 --> 00:29:25.759 us to accept that everything that happens to us is 434 00:29:25.880 --> 00:29:30.839 part of the universe's bigger, more reasonable order accept the 435 00:29:30.839 --> 00:29:35.400 things that fate binds you, he says, emphasizing how important 436 00:29:35.440 --> 00:29:39.359 it is to accept our situations with courage and peace 437 00:29:39.359 --> 00:29:43.920 of mind. This acceptance is not an inactive giving up. 438 00:29:44.400 --> 00:29:48.519 It's an active participation in life, recognizing where we are 439 00:29:48.640 --> 00:29:53.680 now and aiming for greatness within those limits. Stoic practice 440 00:29:53.720 --> 00:29:56.720 of accepting fate is more than just putting up with 441 00:29:56.839 --> 00:30:00.680 life's ups and downs. It means actively see them as 442 00:30:00.759 --> 00:30:04.880 important for our growth. From this point of view, every 443 00:30:04.920 --> 00:30:07.480 failure and sorrow should be seen as a chance to 444 00:30:07.519 --> 00:30:13.240 practice qualities like patience, resilience, and persistence. Because of this, 445 00:30:13.720 --> 00:30:16.680 we change how we feel about loss so that we 446 00:30:16.720 --> 00:30:19.319 don't see it as the end, but as a step 447 00:30:19.400 --> 00:30:23.839 toward success. This change in how people think is very 448 00:30:23.880 --> 00:30:28.039 important for breaking the loops of hopelessness and under achievement 449 00:30:28.319 --> 00:30:32.559 that last for generations. Failure shows us that our power 450 00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:35.319 is not in avoiding it, but in how we deal 451 00:30:35.359 --> 00:30:38.240 with it, which helps us develop an attitude that is 452 00:30:38.319 --> 00:30:42.279 focused on learning and getting better all the time. In addition, 453 00:30:42.759 --> 00:30:46.440 this stoic lesson gives us the courage to stop overthinking, 454 00:30:46.839 --> 00:30:50.799 which stops us from acting and makes us unhappy. We 455 00:30:50.920 --> 00:30:54.279 find a reasonable way to deal with life's problems when 456 00:30:54.359 --> 00:30:57.440 we accept our fate and work hard in the areas 457 00:30:57.480 --> 00:31:02.079 we can change. Finding this balance between accepting things as 458 00:31:02.119 --> 00:31:05.279 they are and taking action is what will help us 459 00:31:05.400 --> 00:31:09.480 reach our goals and reach our full potential. It keeps 460 00:31:09.519 --> 00:31:13.240 us from getting stuck in analysis paralysis and lets us 461 00:31:13.279 --> 00:31:16.160 move forward even when we don't know what will happen. 462 00:31:17.039 --> 00:31:20.640 Using this stoic wisdom in our daily lives builds up 463 00:31:20.680 --> 00:31:23.799 our resilience, which not only helps us deal with the 464 00:31:23.920 --> 00:31:27.480 challenges of our own journeys, but also frees us from 465 00:31:27.519 --> 00:31:31.599 the restrictions that previous generations put on us, paving the 466 00:31:31.680 --> 00:31:35.839 way for a future full of achievement, fulfillment, and success. 467 00:31:36.839 --> 00:31:41.160 Third lesson using the power of the present moment. To 468 00:31:41.240 --> 00:31:44.640 break out of the circle of failure, sadness, and overthinking, 469 00:31:45.119 --> 00:31:47.960 you have to be deeply involved with the present moment. 470 00:31:48.599 --> 00:31:51.920 Stoicism tells us that focusing on the present moment is 471 00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:55.839 important not as a way to avoid life's problems, but 472 00:31:55.960 --> 00:32:00.599 as a way to face them with clarity and purpose. Seneca, 473 00:32:00.920 --> 00:32:05.240 a famous Stoic philosopher said true happiness is to enjoy 474 00:32:05.279 --> 00:32:09.759 the present without worrying about the future. This wisdom encourages 475 00:32:09.880 --> 00:32:13.480 us to stop thinking about what was or what might be, 476 00:32:14.039 --> 00:32:17.720 and start focusing on what is. We can free our 477 00:32:17.839 --> 00:32:21.200 minds from the web of overthinking that keeps us stuck 478 00:32:21.240 --> 00:32:26.119 in imagined futures and past mistakes. By focusing on the present. 479 00:32:27.079 --> 00:32:31.680 This lets us act decisively and effectively. To embrace the 480 00:32:31.720 --> 00:32:35.720 present moment is not just to passively accept it. It 481 00:32:35.839 --> 00:32:40.119 means to actively interact with it. As a stoic, we 482 00:32:40.200 --> 00:32:44.319 must carefully watch our thoughts, actions and feelings to figure 483 00:32:44.359 --> 00:32:47.240 out which ones we can change and which ones we 484 00:32:47.319 --> 00:32:52.480 have to accept. We can practice virtue, advance toward our goals, 485 00:32:52.920 --> 00:32:55.200 and bring about the change we want to see in 486 00:32:55.240 --> 00:32:58.319 our lives. When we are aware of the many chances 487 00:32:58.359 --> 00:33:02.079 that are available to us at any given time, We 488 00:33:02.160 --> 00:33:04.680 can break the loops of failure that have ruled our 489 00:33:04.720 --> 00:33:09.359 lives and generations by acting in the moment. Every moment 490 00:33:09.440 --> 00:33:12.359 gives you a choice give in to the old patterns 491 00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:16.119 of sadness and inaction, or rise with purpose and action. 492 00:33:17.119 --> 00:33:20.079 Being present also teaches us how to walk the thin 493 00:33:20.200 --> 00:33:23.720 line between wanting more and being happy with what we have. 494 00:33:24.720 --> 00:33:29.000 Stoicism urges us to pursue greatness, but it also warns 495 00:33:29.079 --> 00:33:31.920 us not to tie our happiness to the accomplishment of 496 00:33:32.000 --> 00:33:36.559 future objectives. We can develop a sense of satisfaction that 497 00:33:36.720 --> 00:33:40.160 isn't saved for a future success, but is felt right 498 00:33:40.240 --> 00:33:43.640 now by finding worth in the process, in the small 499 00:33:43.680 --> 00:33:47.920 steps we take every day. This method lessens the sadness 500 00:33:47.920 --> 00:33:50.880 that comes from not getting what you wanted and the 501 00:33:50.920 --> 00:33:54.000 paralysis that comes from thinking too much about all the 502 00:33:54.079 --> 00:33:59.400 possible outcomes. We can change our reality, develop resilience against 503 00:33:59.480 --> 00:34:02.519 the tides of failure, and pave the way for long 504 00:34:02.640 --> 00:34:06.599 term success as we learn to live fully in each moment. 505 00:34:08.280 --> 00:34:12.000 Fourth lesson the virtue of always trying to get better, 506 00:34:12.360 --> 00:34:16.440 and think on what you're doing. Self reflection and constant 507 00:34:16.480 --> 00:34:21.360 improvement are important skills that Stoicism teaches people who want 508 00:34:21.400 --> 00:34:26.960 to break the circle of failure, sadness, and overthinking. Epictetus, 509 00:34:27.239 --> 00:34:30.480 a Stoic philosopher, says that we should think about and 510 00:34:30.559 --> 00:34:34.239 reflect on our deeds and thoughts every day. He says 511 00:34:34.280 --> 00:34:37.079 that self reflection is the only way to see our 512 00:34:37.159 --> 00:34:41.440 real selves without the chaos and misunderstanding of the outside 513 00:34:41.480 --> 00:34:45.280 world getting in the way. This practice of self reflection 514 00:34:45.880 --> 00:34:48.880 is a powerful way to find the patterns and habits 515 00:34:49.239 --> 00:34:53.519 that hold us back and keep us unhappy and unfulfilled. 516 00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:58.119 When we regularly think about our actions and choices and 517 00:34:58.199 --> 00:35:01.440 how they relate to our core value and goals, we 518 00:35:01.480 --> 00:35:05.880 start a process of continuous personal growth. With each reflection, 519 00:35:06.440 --> 00:35:11.199 we get closer to our ideal selves. Self reflection isn't 520 00:35:11.239 --> 00:35:14.440 just a way to find flaws or weaknesses, though, it's 521 00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:18.159 also a way to really improve yourself. It means putting 522 00:35:18.159 --> 00:35:22.199 our egos aside, being humble and honest about our character 523 00:35:22.320 --> 00:35:25.360 and deeds, and being ready to admit when we fall 524 00:35:25.400 --> 00:35:28.960 short of our stoic goals. Because it forces us to 525 00:35:29.039 --> 00:35:34.039 face painful truths about ourselves, this process necessitates a certain 526 00:35:34.039 --> 00:35:38.199 amount of openness and courage. Still, it is in this 527 00:35:38.400 --> 00:35:43.800 pain that we grow. We develop the traits of wisdom, justice, courage, 528 00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:47.920 and temperance when we accept our flaws and work to 529 00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:52.400 improve our character. When we follow these ideals, they show 530 00:35:52.519 --> 00:35:56.599 us the way out of failure and toward greatness. Also, 531 00:35:57.079 --> 00:36:00.880 the stoic practice of self reflection teach us to stop 532 00:36:00.920 --> 00:36:05.000 thinking too much by directing our thoughts toward positive self 533 00:36:05.000 --> 00:36:09.119 evaluation and taking steps to get better. We learn not 534 00:36:09.239 --> 00:36:13.239 to be afraid of making bad choices. Instead, we make 535 00:36:13.320 --> 00:36:15.920 the best choices we have access to at the time, 536 00:36:16.519 --> 00:36:19.639 learn from the results, and improve the way we make 537 00:36:19.679 --> 00:36:24.960 decisions over time, taking action, thinking about it, and making 538 00:36:25.079 --> 00:36:29.559 changes creates a positive attitude that helps us reach our 539 00:36:29.599 --> 00:36:34.079 goals with focus and purpose. When we make this a 540 00:36:34.199 --> 00:36:37.400 regular part of our lives, we not only break free 541 00:36:37.440 --> 00:36:41.079 from failure, but we also start a lifelong journey of 542 00:36:41.199 --> 00:36:46.039 personal growth and satisfaction, building a legacy of success that 543 00:36:46.119 --> 00:36:50.119 goes beyond the limits of our past. Learning how to 544 00:36:50.159 --> 00:36:53.840 be disciplined and in control of yourself is the fifth lesson. 545 00:36:54.760 --> 00:36:59.000 Being disciplined and controlling your thoughts are two Stoic traits 546 00:36:59.360 --> 00:37:03.800 that can help you break free from dullness, sadness, and overthinking. 547 00:37:04.639 --> 00:37:07.880 These traits are necessary to develop an attitude and way 548 00:37:07.920 --> 00:37:12.320 of life that will lead to success and happiness. One 549 00:37:12.360 --> 00:37:16.599 of the most important figures in Stoic thought, Epictetus says 550 00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:20.000 that the way to freedom is not to seek freedom itself, 551 00:37:20.559 --> 00:37:25.679 but to develop discipline and self control. This seemingly contradictory 552 00:37:25.679 --> 00:37:29.800 wisdom says that controlling your own actions and desires is 553 00:37:29.840 --> 00:37:33.679 the first step to truly controlling your life and its results. 554 00:37:34.719 --> 00:37:39.320 By following strict rules in our daily actions, thoughts, and routines, 555 00:37:39.920 --> 00:37:42.679 we give ourselves the tools we need to break free 556 00:37:42.760 --> 00:37:46.400 from the ties of laziness and delay that keep us 557 00:37:46.440 --> 00:37:51.079 from reaching our goals. In the stoic sense, discipline is 558 00:37:51.159 --> 00:37:54.000 more than just following rules or plans to the letter. 559 00:37:54.679 --> 00:37:58.119 It also means making your own inner order that fits 560 00:37:58.199 --> 00:38:02.280 with your values and goal. It takes work to pick 561 00:38:02.320 --> 00:38:05.599 the harder right over the easier wrong, to wait for 562 00:38:05.679 --> 00:38:09.639 bigger benefits instead of smaller ones, and to stay focused 563 00:38:09.679 --> 00:38:13.159 when life is full of distractions. We are able to 564 00:38:13.239 --> 00:38:17.079 handle life's problems with ease and use our energies effectively 565 00:38:17.159 --> 00:38:20.719 toward our goals because we put these rules and limits 566 00:38:20.719 --> 00:38:25.360 on ourselves. That being said, self control is the skill 567 00:38:25.440 --> 00:38:28.440 of managing your feelings and wants in a way that 568 00:38:28.559 --> 00:38:32.400 helps your success instead of getting in the way. It 569 00:38:32.480 --> 00:38:36.119 means having the inner strength to resist desires in the 570 00:38:36.159 --> 00:38:40.800 short term in order to achieve long term success. Also, 571 00:38:41.320 --> 00:38:45.039 learning discipline and self control is a powerful way to 572 00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:49.039 treat the problem of overthinking. When we train ourselves to 573 00:38:49.079 --> 00:38:52.480 act quickly and with purpose, We leave less room for 574 00:38:52.519 --> 00:38:56.039 the doubt and indecision that make us think too much. 575 00:38:57.000 --> 00:39:00.360 This proactive approach to life supports a mind set of 576 00:39:00.400 --> 00:39:04.639 action over rumination, where each choice is made from a 577 00:39:04.679 --> 00:39:08.679 place of strength and clarity rather than fear or worry. 578 00:39:09.599 --> 00:39:12.360 We break the circle of failure and set a new 579 00:39:12.440 --> 00:39:15.360 standard for what is possible in our lives. When we 580 00:39:15.440 --> 00:39:19.400 practice these Stoic values, we can all reach our full 581 00:39:19.440 --> 00:39:24.679 potential for greatness By being disciplined and controlling ourselves. This 582 00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:28.639 will help us find success that has meaning and lasts 583 00:39:30.159 --> 00:39:34.239 lesson six, the power of being able to change and adapt. 584 00:39:35.000 --> 00:39:38.239 To stop the circle of being average, being let down, 585 00:39:38.639 --> 00:39:42.920 and overthinking and become successful, one must use the Stoic 586 00:39:43.039 --> 00:39:47.719 virtue of adaptability. The Stoics, who have a deep understanding 587 00:39:47.760 --> 00:39:52.000 of how unpredictable life is, promote the idea of accepting 588 00:39:52.119 --> 00:39:57.000 change as a way to grow and develop resilience. Seneca, 589 00:39:57.360 --> 00:40:01.280 a great figure in Stoic philosophy, that being too set 590 00:40:01.360 --> 00:40:04.480 in our plans or hopes can cause us to suffer 591 00:40:04.559 --> 00:40:08.679 and be frustrated, but instead he pushed for an open 592 00:40:08.719 --> 00:40:12.719 approach to life's problems, telling us to change our plans 593 00:40:12.719 --> 00:40:16.719 and ways of thinking. When things change, we can handle 594 00:40:16.760 --> 00:40:19.960 the difficulties of life with grace. Because we are able 595 00:40:20.039 --> 00:40:24.079 to change, we can turn setbacks into chances to learn 596 00:40:24.239 --> 00:40:29.679 and grow. Stoic adaptability refers to an active engagement with 597 00:40:29.760 --> 00:40:33.400 the present moment, armed with the wisdom to recognize what 598 00:40:33.599 --> 00:40:37.000 is within our control and the calm to accept what 599 00:40:37.159 --> 00:40:40.599 is not. It does not mean apathy or a lack 600 00:40:40.639 --> 00:40:44.719 of desire. By making our thoughts open to change, we 601 00:40:44.800 --> 00:40:48.280 can break free from the crippling grip of overthinking and 602 00:40:48.360 --> 00:40:52.159 the sadness of having our hopes and dreams not come true. 603 00:40:52.599 --> 00:40:55.639 We can change direction when we need to and look 604 00:40:55.679 --> 00:40:58.400 for new ways to act that are in line with 605 00:40:58.480 --> 00:41:02.800 our long term goals and core values. This desire to 606 00:41:02.920 --> 00:41:05.920 change and grow is what will help us get past 607 00:41:05.960 --> 00:41:09.159 the shackles of failure and find a way to success 608 00:41:09.519 --> 00:41:12.320 that can adapt to the ups and downs of life. 609 00:41:13.320 --> 00:41:18.079 Accepting change also encourages a culture of new ideas and imagination, 610 00:41:18.599 --> 00:41:22.840 which are important for striving for greatness. We develop a 611 00:41:22.880 --> 00:41:26.159 resilience that is immune to the fear of failing when 612 00:41:26.199 --> 00:41:29.440 we see every new challenge as an opportunity to learn 613 00:41:29.639 --> 00:41:33.440 and change. People around us are more likely to adopt 614 00:41:33.480 --> 00:41:36.679 the same attitude, which is good for our own personal 615 00:41:36.719 --> 00:41:40.719 and professional growth. As we learn to handle life's ups 616 00:41:40.719 --> 00:41:44.119 and downs with ease and confidence, we show others how 617 00:41:44.119 --> 00:41:47.400 to break free from loops of failure and not achieving 618 00:41:47.440 --> 00:41:51.400 their goals. Not only do we succeed, but we also 619 00:41:51.559 --> 00:41:55.599 help move society toward one that is more flexible, strong, 620 00:41:56.000 --> 00:42:01.639 and successful. Lesson seven Why it's important to set limits 621 00:42:01.679 --> 00:42:05.840 and make lists to break out of the loop of failure, sadness, 622 00:42:05.880 --> 00:42:09.320 and overthinking. It's important to learn how to set clear 623 00:42:09.360 --> 00:42:14.400 limits and make good decisions about what to do. First, stoicism, 624 00:42:14.760 --> 00:42:18.400 which stresses living in harmony with nature and focused on 625 00:42:18.559 --> 00:42:22.079 what's important, teaches us how important it is to know 626 00:42:22.199 --> 00:42:26.599 the difference between what really counts and what doesn't. In 627 00:42:26.639 --> 00:42:30.559 his writings, Marcus Aurelius tells us to focus our minds 628 00:42:30.559 --> 00:42:34.760 on what we can control. He suggests that we intentionally 629 00:42:34.840 --> 00:42:39.320 direct our actions, thoughts, and emotions toward the things that 630 00:42:39.360 --> 00:42:43.119 are most important to us. With this method, we have 631 00:42:43.239 --> 00:42:47.519 to carefully consider our responsibilities and choose to only do 632 00:42:47.679 --> 00:42:50.760 things that are in line with our core values and 633 00:42:50.880 --> 00:42:55.199 help us reach our long term goals. By putting limits 634 00:42:55.199 --> 00:42:58.480 on our time and energy, we keep ourselves from getting 635 00:42:58.519 --> 00:43:01.320 caught up in things that will ownly make us mediocre. 636 00:43:02.280 --> 00:43:05.239 Prioritizing is more than just getting rid of things that 637 00:43:05.320 --> 00:43:08.920 aren't important. It's also about picking where to put our 638 00:43:08.960 --> 00:43:11.840 attention and energy to get the most out of them 639 00:43:12.079 --> 00:43:16.639 and feel the most fulfilled. This stoic concept gives us 640 00:43:16.639 --> 00:43:20.440 the courage to live our lives on purpose, making choices 641 00:43:20.519 --> 00:43:23.880 that will lead us to success. Giving up on some 642 00:43:24.119 --> 00:43:28.679 chances and chores doesn't come from fear or laziness. It 643 00:43:28.760 --> 00:43:31.719 comes from a place of strength, knowing that our time 644 00:43:31.760 --> 00:43:34.480 and money are limited and need to be wisely spent. 645 00:43:35.400 --> 00:43:38.639 Setting priorities helps us deal with the pressures of life 646 00:43:38.679 --> 00:43:41.880 with focus and purpose, making sure that the things we 647 00:43:41.960 --> 00:43:46.920 do help us grow personally and professionally. This structured way 648 00:43:46.960 --> 00:43:50.920 of living also helps people who can't make decisions because 649 00:43:50.920 --> 00:43:54.440 it gives them a clear basis for doing so. It's 650 00:43:54.480 --> 00:43:57.519 easier to make decisions when we know what's important to 651 00:43:57.639 --> 00:44:01.840 us and what our limits are. This clarity clears out 652 00:44:01.880 --> 00:44:05.559 the mental clutter that often keeps us from making decisions 653 00:44:05.880 --> 00:44:09.639 and putting things off, letting us move forward with confidence. 654 00:44:10.360 --> 00:44:14.039 Setting limits and making lists of things to do helps 655 00:44:14.079 --> 00:44:17.360 us live a life with meaning and greatness, breaking the 656 00:44:17.440 --> 00:44:21.400 circle of failure and laying the groundwork for long term success. 657 00:44:22.320 --> 00:44:26.039 Stoic wisdom not only helps us reach our goals, but 658 00:44:26.079 --> 00:44:29.199 it also makes sure that our trip is filled with wisdom, 659 00:44:29.639 --> 00:44:35.159 self respect, and inner peace. Eighth lesson using loss to 660 00:44:35.199 --> 00:44:39.440 build on your success. Changing how we feel about loss 661 00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:42.039 is a key part of breaking out of the loop 662 00:44:42.119 --> 00:44:47.599 of average sadness and overthinking. Stoicism teaches us to see 663 00:44:47.639 --> 00:44:51.039 loss not as a setback, but as an important part 664 00:44:51.119 --> 00:44:55.360 of success by taking a realistic view of life's problems. 665 00:44:56.239 --> 00:45:00.239 In his reflective works, Marcus Aurelius urges us to raw 666 00:45:00.320 --> 00:45:03.360 courage from our mistakes and see each one as a 667 00:45:03.440 --> 00:45:07.840 chance to improve our character and our plans. This stern 668 00:45:07.960 --> 00:45:11.360 view changes our attention from the fear of losing to 669 00:45:11.440 --> 00:45:14.280 the fact that every try is a chance to learn. 670 00:45:15.239 --> 00:45:18.559 When we accept that failing is a necessary and important 671 00:45:18.559 --> 00:45:22.000 part of the path to greatness, we free ourselves from 672 00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:25.480 the crippling grip of overthinking and the crippling fear of 673 00:45:25.519 --> 00:45:30.000 making mistakes. This shift in perspective is necessary to break 674 00:45:30.039 --> 00:45:33.119 out of the loops of failure. And sadness that trap 675 00:45:33.199 --> 00:45:37.360 people who don't dare leave their comfort zones. Engaging with 676 00:45:37.480 --> 00:45:41.519 loss in a positive way also builds resilience, which is 677 00:45:41.559 --> 00:45:45.480 a quality that is necessary for long term success. The 678 00:45:45.559 --> 00:45:50.519 Stoic practice of premeditatio malorum, or thinking about bad things 679 00:45:50.519 --> 00:45:54.000 that might happen, helps us be calm and determined when 680 00:45:54.039 --> 00:45:58.199 things go wrong. It helps us prepare for problems and failures, 681 00:45:58.760 --> 00:46:01.320 not so we can focus on them, but so we 682 00:46:01.400 --> 00:46:04.559 can come up with ways to get past them. This 683 00:46:04.679 --> 00:46:08.199 proactive method make sure that when we fail, we don't 684 00:46:08.199 --> 00:46:11.000 give up, but are instead ready to look at what 685 00:46:11.199 --> 00:46:14.519 went wrong, learn from it, and move on with more 686 00:46:14.559 --> 00:46:18.599 strength and understanding. When we see loss as a stepping 687 00:46:18.639 --> 00:46:22.079 stone instead of a problem, it changes our path to 688 00:46:22.159 --> 00:46:26.400 success into a trip of constant growth and self improvement. 689 00:46:27.400 --> 00:46:31.440 Achieving great things and being happy is possible by breaking 690 00:46:31.480 --> 00:46:37.480 the circle of failure Lesson nine adopting the Stoic idea 691 00:46:37.599 --> 00:46:42.119 of being self sufficient to be successful. The Stoic concept 692 00:46:42.159 --> 00:46:45.400 of self sufficiency is at the heart of breaking out 693 00:46:45.400 --> 00:46:50.840 of the circle of failure, sadness, and overthinking. Stoicism teaches 694 00:46:50.920 --> 00:46:53.719 that the only way to truly be free and powerful 695 00:46:54.239 --> 00:46:58.800 is to depend on yourself for happiness and satisfaction instead 696 00:46:58.800 --> 00:47:02.239 of looking for it in others people's approval or accomplishments. 697 00:47:03.119 --> 00:47:08.320 This idea, supported by thinkers like Seneca and Epictetus, urges 698 00:47:08.440 --> 00:47:11.480 us to build an inner fortress of peace and strength 699 00:47:11.880 --> 00:47:16.119 from which we can draw courage and inspiration. By working 700 00:47:16.159 --> 00:47:19.880 on being self sufficient, we give ourselves the tools to 701 00:47:19.960 --> 00:47:23.920 handle life's ups and downs calmly, making sure that our 702 00:47:23.960 --> 00:47:28.000 happiness and success are not dependent on how things change 703 00:47:28.039 --> 00:47:31.679 in the outside world. To break free from the chains 704 00:47:31.760 --> 00:47:36.039 of failure, this change in thinking is essential. It takes 705 00:47:36.119 --> 00:47:39.599 us away from the never ending search for external benefits 706 00:47:39.960 --> 00:47:45.119 and toward a more important, virtue driven life. Self sufficiency 707 00:47:45.280 --> 00:47:48.119 also gives you a clear sense of purpose and direction, 708 00:47:48.639 --> 00:47:52.760 which is very helpful for getting overthinking and not making decisions. 709 00:47:53.719 --> 00:47:56.639 When our sense of worth and joy comes from inside 710 00:47:56.719 --> 00:48:00.000 us instead of outside, we are less likely to get 711 00:48:00.000 --> 00:48:02.840 give in to the worries and pressures that keep us 712 00:48:02.840 --> 00:48:07.119 from achieving our goals and being happy. Knowing that our 713 00:48:07.159 --> 00:48:10.800 happiness is not dependent on approval or success from others, 714 00:48:11.360 --> 00:48:15.679 this inner steadiness enables us to face life's obstacles with 715 00:48:15.840 --> 00:48:21.559 confidence and resilience. The Stoic principle of self sufficiency also 716 00:48:21.679 --> 00:48:25.039 gives us the courage to take responsibility for our lives 717 00:48:25.039 --> 00:48:29.000 and deeds, allowing us to set our own goals for achievement. 718 00:48:29.760 --> 00:48:32.440 We know that we have the power to change our lives, 719 00:48:32.840 --> 00:48:35.239 so we don't wait for things to change outside of 720 00:48:35.320 --> 00:48:38.679 us or for other people to approve of us. By 721 00:48:38.840 --> 00:48:41.920 learning to be self sufficient, we can break out of 722 00:48:41.960 --> 00:48:45.320 the circle of failure and make way for real happiness 723 00:48:45.320 --> 00:48:49.400 and success. This tough lesson not only gives us the 724 00:48:49.400 --> 00:48:53.079 strength and resilience to deal with life's problems, but it 725 00:48:53.159 --> 00:48:55.920 also gives us the power to make our lives fit 726 00:48:56.199 --> 00:49:01.400 our values and goals. The tenth Lesson is about striving 727 00:49:01.440 --> 00:49:05.440 for greatness through work and giving back to get out 728 00:49:05.519 --> 00:49:09.719 of the circle of being average, being let down, and overthinking. 729 00:49:10.280 --> 00:49:14.119 Stoicism teaches us that what really matters is how we 730 00:49:14.159 --> 00:49:19.239 affect other people, not what we accomplish ourselves. This deep 731 00:49:19.320 --> 00:49:22.920 understanding pushes us to put aside our own needs and 732 00:49:23.039 --> 00:49:26.760 strive for greatness by helping others and working for the 733 00:49:26.800 --> 00:49:32.039 greater good. A famous Stoic philosopher named Seneca stressed the 734 00:49:32.119 --> 00:49:35.800 significance of leading a life of virtue and morality that 735 00:49:35.960 --> 00:49:38.599 is based on a sincere care for the well being 736 00:49:38.679 --> 00:49:41.679 of others. He thought that the only way to be 737 00:49:41.760 --> 00:49:45.280 truly great was to use our skills and resources to 738 00:49:45.400 --> 00:49:50.079 help others and leave a legacy of kindness, wisdom, and giving. 739 00:49:51.119 --> 00:49:55.079 This stoic principle shows how charity can change things and 740 00:49:55.159 --> 00:49:58.719 break the cycles of not achieving our goals and being 741 00:49:58.800 --> 00:50:01.880 unhappy that off and get in the way of our success. 742 00:50:02.880 --> 00:50:05.239 By putting the needs of others ahead of our own, 743 00:50:05.679 --> 00:50:09.079 we not only find more meaning and satisfaction in our lives, 744 00:50:09.440 --> 00:50:12.400 but we also encourage those around us to do the same. 745 00:50:13.199 --> 00:50:16.360 Serving others and making a difference gives people a feeling 746 00:50:16.400 --> 00:50:20.039 of purpose and connection that is important for getting past 747 00:50:20.079 --> 00:50:24.159 the limitations of overthinking and self doubt. When we put 748 00:50:24.159 --> 00:50:27.559 our time and energy into helping others, we tap into 749 00:50:27.599 --> 00:50:30.800 a well of drive and resilience that helps us reach 750 00:50:30.840 --> 00:50:35.800 our goals with fresh strength and clarity. Also, striving for 751 00:50:35.920 --> 00:50:39.960 excellence through service creates a sense of thankfulness and wealth 752 00:50:40.280 --> 00:50:44.039 that fights the widespread feeling of lack and weakness that 753 00:50:44.199 --> 00:50:48.960 keeps people stuck in loops of mediocrity and unhappiness. When 754 00:50:49.000 --> 00:50:51.800 we appreciate the good things in our lives and share 755 00:50:51.840 --> 00:50:55.079 our gifts with others. We start a chain reaction of 756 00:50:55.199 --> 00:50:58.920 kindness and giving that makes our effect bigger and makes 757 00:50:59.000 --> 00:51:02.119 us feel better. We can break out of the circle 758 00:51:02.159 --> 00:51:05.719 of failure and set a new standard for success by 759 00:51:05.760 --> 00:51:10.400 living our daily lives by this Stoic principle, success will 760 00:51:10.440 --> 00:51:15.519 be defined by kindness, honesty, and service to others. This 761 00:51:15.639 --> 00:51:18.960 Stoicism lesson not only gives us the tools to handle 762 00:51:19.039 --> 00:51:22.800 life's challenges with grace and resilience, but it also gives 763 00:51:22.880 --> 00:51:25.880 us the power to leave a legacy of greatness that 764 00:51:26.039 --> 00:51:36.039 goes beyond our own personal accomplishments. Imagine being in the beautiful, 765 00:51:36.159 --> 00:51:39.480 peaceful nature, where the only thing that sounds is the 766 00:51:39.559 --> 00:51:42.840 question how can we find clarity in the midst of 767 00:51:42.920 --> 00:51:47.079 the chaos of daily life. The ancient Stoics taught us 768 00:51:47.119 --> 00:51:51.079 that focusing on oneself is powerful, that we can control 769 00:51:51.199 --> 00:51:54.360 what we can reach, and that we can turn problems 770 00:51:54.400 --> 00:51:59.000 into possibilities. Read this wisdom and think about how you 771 00:51:59.079 --> 00:52:03.039 can use it to live a more meaningful and peaceful life. 772 00:52:03.800 --> 00:52:07.199 You will learn how focusing on yourself can change how 773 00:52:07.239 --> 00:52:10.119 you see the world. On this journey of self discovery 774 00:52:10.440 --> 00:52:13.760 and resilience. Thank you for coming to the start of 775 00:52:13.800 --> 00:52:17.519 a change. Good to see you here focused on yourself. 776 00:52:18.000 --> 00:52:21.480 Please sign up right away, share your thoughts in the comments, 777 00:52:21.800 --> 00:52:24.800 and give us a like if you agree. We will 778 00:52:24.880 --> 00:52:28.039 learn how to handle life's storms with peace and strength. 779 00:52:28.119 --> 00:52:31.960 By working together, we will master the art of resilience 780 00:52:32.199 --> 00:52:35.920 and real freedom. Don't pass up the chance to change 781 00:52:35.920 --> 00:52:39.039 the way you see things and deepen your inner journey 782 00:52:39.079 --> 00:52:44.639 with timeless lessons mastering your emotions. As we go through life, 783 00:52:44.760 --> 00:52:49.360 we often face situations that test our patience, our emotional balance, 784 00:52:49.719 --> 00:52:53.000 and most of all, our ability to stay calm in 785 00:52:53.039 --> 00:52:57.800 the face of chaos. Epictetus, an old philosopher, taught us 786 00:52:57.800 --> 00:53:01.079 a truth that is still incredibly true to day. What 787 00:53:01.199 --> 00:53:04.400 affects us is not what happens to us, but how 788 00:53:04.440 --> 00:53:08.239 we choose to understand it. This sentence makes us think 789 00:53:08.320 --> 00:53:11.599 deeply about the power we all have inside us, the 790 00:53:11.639 --> 00:53:16.360 power to control our feelings. Understanding that real freedom is 791 00:53:16.440 --> 00:53:20.480 found in emotional control is at the heart of Stoic philosophy, 792 00:53:20.920 --> 00:53:24.199 an old wisdom that still has much to teach us 793 00:53:24.239 --> 00:53:28.440 to day. What does this really mean, though, it means 794 00:53:28.480 --> 00:53:30.840 that we have the master key that lets us sail 795 00:53:30.920 --> 00:53:34.960 through life's ups and downs, its storms and calms with 796 00:53:35.079 --> 00:53:38.960 a steady sense of peace and drive. Putting yourself first 797 00:53:39.360 --> 00:53:41.920 means you want to explore the depths of your mind 798 00:53:42.280 --> 00:53:45.000 and figure out the puzzles you are faced with every day. 799 00:53:45.719 --> 00:53:48.800 It's not just a quick look inside ourselves. It's a 800 00:53:48.840 --> 00:53:52.360 real examination of conscience in which we try to figure 801 00:53:52.400 --> 00:53:55.719 out not only what we feel, but also why we 802 00:53:55.800 --> 00:53:59.079 feel it. This inner journey shows us that we can 803 00:53:59.199 --> 00:54:02.400 change the core or of our human experience by looking 804 00:54:02.480 --> 00:54:04.800 at the events in our lives in a different way. 805 00:54:05.559 --> 00:54:08.079 It's not easy to be in charge of our feelings. 806 00:54:08.599 --> 00:54:12.000 We need to practice, be patient, and most of all, 807 00:54:12.360 --> 00:54:15.159 have a strong desire to break free from the chains 808 00:54:15.159 --> 00:54:19.880 that hold us back from our natural and often harmful responses. 809 00:54:20.800 --> 00:54:23.840 But the prize for all this work is beyond measure. 810 00:54:24.800 --> 00:54:27.360 Just for a moment, picture a life where you don't 811 00:54:27.400 --> 00:54:31.719 have to deal with fear, worry, or anger. Imagine that 812 00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:35.159 you don't see problems as impossible to solve, but as 813 00:54:35.280 --> 00:54:41.199 chances to learn, grow and change. Epictetus's lesson gives us 814 00:54:41.280 --> 00:54:43.280 hope in a world that seems to be full of 815 00:54:43.400 --> 00:54:46.840 chaos and doubt most of the time. He tells us 816 00:54:46.920 --> 00:54:49.320 that we have no power over things that happen to 817 00:54:49.360 --> 00:54:52.960 other people, but we do have complete control over how 818 00:54:53.000 --> 00:54:56.280 we react to them. Being able to stay cool in 819 00:54:56.320 --> 00:54:58.679 the middle of a storm and keep your head up 820 00:54:58.679 --> 00:55:01.920 when everything else seemed to fall apart is what true 821 00:55:02.079 --> 00:55:06.559 inner freedom means. Being good is enough to make you happy. 822 00:55:07.480 --> 00:55:10.079 As we go through the rough waves of life, we 823 00:55:10.199 --> 00:55:12.639 often look for a lighthouse to help us find the 824 00:55:12.679 --> 00:55:17.079 happiness we so desperately want. In this never ending search, 825 00:55:17.440 --> 00:55:20.000 it's simple to get lost in the waves of wanting 826 00:55:20.039 --> 00:55:24.599 to be liked, make money, and be recognized by others. 827 00:55:24.639 --> 00:55:27.920 Marcus Aurelius, one of the smartest minds to have led 828 00:55:27.920 --> 00:55:31.760 the Roman Empire, gives us advice that is still relevant today. 829 00:55:32.480 --> 00:55:35.760 The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of 830 00:55:35.800 --> 00:55:39.480 your thoughts. At the heart of this message is the 831 00:55:39.559 --> 00:55:43.599 idea that virtue and inner quality that shows the best 832 00:55:43.639 --> 00:55:47.599 in us is the real key to a happy Wishing 833 00:55:47.639 --> 00:55:50.559 that we find happiness not in the short lived shadows 834 00:55:50.599 --> 00:55:54.400 of pleasure, but in the bright lights of virtue and wisdom. 835 00:55:54.760 --> 00:55:57.880 Nature is inviting us to relearn who we are and 836 00:55:58.039 --> 00:56:02.559 live a full, truly human life, the instability of life, 837 00:56:02.920 --> 00:56:06.159 and the value of the present. Our lives are so 838 00:56:06.280 --> 00:56:09.679 busy with all of our jobs, goals, and fears that 839 00:56:09.760 --> 00:56:12.360 we rarely stop to think about a basic truth that 840 00:56:12.440 --> 00:56:16.199 we tend to ignore. Our lives are very short. The 841 00:56:16.239 --> 00:56:20.239 great Stoic philosopher Seneca challenges us with a thought that 842 00:56:20.280 --> 00:56:24.000 should ring in our hearts every morning, you could cease 843 00:56:24.039 --> 00:56:27.239 to exist at the next moment. This is not a 844 00:56:27.280 --> 00:56:30.840 call to despair, but rather an invitation to wake up 845 00:56:31.119 --> 00:56:35.000 and value the present moment with the intensity and presence 846 00:56:35.199 --> 00:56:38.840 it deserves. Being in the present moment is an art, 847 00:56:39.280 --> 00:56:42.760 not just a habit. It involves using the threads of 848 00:56:42.800 --> 00:56:46.239 awareness to weave the fabric of our lives, and it 849 00:56:46.320 --> 00:56:50.480 involves cherishing each moment as if it were special, which 850 00:56:50.480 --> 00:56:54.000 it is. Through this way of looking at daily things, 851 00:56:54.400 --> 00:56:56.920 we can break free from the chains of the past, 852 00:56:57.360 --> 00:57:00.360 which are filled with sorrow and longing, and the weight 853 00:57:00.400 --> 00:57:03.519 of the future, which is full of doubt and worry. 854 00:57:04.239 --> 00:57:07.119 To live in the present moment is to accept life 855 00:57:07.280 --> 00:57:11.559 as it is, with all of its flaws, difficulties, and beauty. 856 00:57:12.159 --> 00:57:15.079 To dance to the random beat of the world while 857 00:57:15.159 --> 00:57:19.719 keeping your feet firmly on the ground of reality. Stoicism's 858 00:57:20.000 --> 00:57:23.960 central tenet, the value of the present, does not advise 859 00:57:24.039 --> 00:57:27.760 us to ignore the past or the future. Rather, it 860 00:57:27.840 --> 00:57:32.679 teaches us to plan wisely and draw wisdom from past experiences, 861 00:57:33.239 --> 00:57:36.320 but not by getting lost in day dreams or worries 862 00:57:36.360 --> 00:57:40.199 that prevent us from living fully as we go through life. 863 00:57:40.519 --> 00:57:43.199 Let go of the weight of what if and maybe, 864 00:57:43.599 --> 00:57:47.239 which keeps us from enjoying the beauty of the present moment. 865 00:57:47.960 --> 00:57:52.000 Stoicism says that true freedom is being able to focus 866 00:57:52.039 --> 00:57:55.840 on the present, know that life is uncertain, and still 867 00:57:55.960 --> 00:57:59.800 choose to live each day with meaning and purpose. Make 868 00:58:00.159 --> 00:58:03.920 peace with the fact that everything changes means realizing that 869 00:58:04.039 --> 00:58:07.679 we can't control everything about our lives, but we do 870 00:58:07.800 --> 00:58:11.920 have complete control over how we choose to live them. Finally, 871 00:58:12.400 --> 00:58:15.280 let us use Stoic wisdom to help us become more 872 00:58:15.280 --> 00:58:20.079 aware and present in our lives. May each breath, each step, 873 00:58:20.440 --> 00:58:25.119 and each movement be filled with purpose and thanksgiving. Things 874 00:58:25.119 --> 00:58:29.679 that were normal become special and daily events amazing, not 875 00:58:29.840 --> 00:58:32.960 because they have changed around us, but because we have 876 00:58:33.119 --> 00:58:37.119 changed how we see and experience them. In a world 877 00:58:37.159 --> 00:58:40.960 that is becoming more linked and where society's opinions are 878 00:58:41.039 --> 00:58:47.360 loudly heard, setting standards for success, happiness, and satisfaction. Self 879 00:58:47.360 --> 00:58:50.719 sufficiency is a strong reminder of a truth that has 880 00:58:50.760 --> 00:58:54.800 been forgotten. Real freedom lies in being able to take 881 00:58:54.840 --> 00:58:59.760 care of yourself. Deeply rooted in Stoic wisdom, this idea 882 00:58:59.800 --> 00:59:03.000 tell tells us to look within, to see and develop 883 00:59:03.079 --> 00:59:07.920 an inner freedom that goes beyond outside situations and other 884 00:59:08.000 --> 00:59:11.599 people's views. When you think about yourself in this way, 885 00:59:12.039 --> 00:59:15.599 it's not selfish or lonely. It's a recognition of the 886 00:59:15.639 --> 00:59:18.199 power we all have to make our lives full and 887 00:59:18.320 --> 00:59:22.880 important by using the resources we already have. It means 888 00:59:22.920 --> 00:59:26.400 realizing that our happiness and peace of mind come from 889 00:59:26.440 --> 00:59:30.920 how we see, understand, and respond to the world around us, 890 00:59:31.360 --> 00:59:35.639 even though we may value and seek relationships, knowledge, and 891 00:59:35.840 --> 00:59:41.480 experiences from other people. Being self sufficient doesn't mean rejecting 892 00:59:41.519 --> 00:59:46.360 our social nature or the benefits of interacting with others. Instead, 893 00:59:46.760 --> 00:59:50.679 it means realizing that a healthy and fulfilling relationship with 894 00:59:50.760 --> 00:59:55.679 oneself is the basis for all healthy and beneficial interactions 895 00:59:55.679 --> 00:59:59.360 with others. Being able to take care of ourselves gives 896 00:59:59.440 --> 01:00:03.639 us mental stability and clear thinking, which helps us handle 897 01:00:03.679 --> 01:00:08.400 the ups and downs of life with balance and wisdom. 898 01:00:08.719 --> 01:00:12.039 Deep self knowledge and a constant effort to make sure 899 01:00:12.119 --> 01:00:15.719 our beliefs, thoughts, and actions are in line with the 900 01:00:15.800 --> 01:00:20.000 rules we choose to live by lead to internal freedom. 901 01:00:20.199 --> 01:00:23.920 Our weaknesses make us stronger, and our strengths teach us 902 01:00:23.960 --> 01:00:27.679 to be humble and thankful with each success. As we 903 01:00:27.719 --> 01:00:31.519 work on becoming self sufficient, we learn that real freedom 904 01:00:31.679 --> 01:00:34.559 comes from being able to be at peace with oneself 905 01:00:34.960 --> 01:00:38.000 no matter what is going on around you. We learn 906 01:00:38.079 --> 01:00:41.039 that happiness and peace are not far off goals that 907 01:00:41.079 --> 01:00:44.480 can be reached by getting more things or getting praise 908 01:00:44.559 --> 01:00:48.440 from other people. Instead, they are states of being that 909 01:00:48.480 --> 01:00:52.400 we can develop at any time by the choices, attitudes, 910 01:00:52.840 --> 01:00:57.880 and views we hold. Accepting what you can't change. In 911 01:00:57.960 --> 01:01:01.239 our never ending search for control over all the different 912 01:01:01.320 --> 01:01:04.920 parts of our lives, we often find the frustrating truth 913 01:01:05.280 --> 01:01:08.760 that we can't change many things. With its foresight that 914 01:01:08.840 --> 01:01:12.559 goes back thousands of years, stoic wisdom gives us a 915 01:01:12.599 --> 01:01:15.559 new way to look at this common problem, how to 916 01:01:15.639 --> 01:01:18.920 tell the difference between what we can control and what 917 01:01:19.000 --> 01:01:23.440 we can't. Accepting this difference with peace not only frees 918 01:01:23.519 --> 01:01:26.000 us from many of the worries we face every day, 919 01:01:26.440 --> 01:01:28.840 but it also sets us up for a deep and 920 01:01:29.000 --> 01:01:34.159 permanent inner piece. Accepting that we can't change things doesn't 921 01:01:34.199 --> 01:01:38.199 mean giving up or being passive when life gets hard. Instead, 922 01:01:38.679 --> 01:01:42.679 it means choosing to put our energy, attention, and efforts 923 01:01:43.000 --> 01:01:46.559 where we can really make a difference. It means realizing 924 01:01:46.639 --> 01:01:50.039 that we have complete control over how we react to 925 01:01:50.199 --> 01:01:54.239 random events, even though we can't plan or change them. 926 01:01:54.599 --> 01:01:57.679 Acceptance is not a sign of weakness. It's a sign 927 01:01:57.760 --> 01:02:00.639 of strength and wisdom, because it means we know it's 928 01:02:00.719 --> 01:02:03.840 pointless to fight forces that are outside of our control. 929 01:02:04.679 --> 01:02:07.239 Self observation is the first thing that you need to 930 01:02:07.280 --> 01:02:09.960 do to find peace in the face of things you 931 01:02:10.079 --> 01:02:13.519 can't control. As we become more aware of how we 932 01:02:13.599 --> 01:02:17.599 automatically respond to things going on around us, we start 933 01:02:17.639 --> 01:02:20.760 to see the space between the trigger and our response. 934 01:02:21.480 --> 01:02:26.119 Instead of being taken away by spontaneous reactions that don't help, 935 01:02:26.599 --> 01:02:29.360 That place gives us the freedom to choose an answer 936 01:02:29.719 --> 01:02:32.760 that is in line with our greatest values and goals. 937 01:02:33.480 --> 01:02:36.119 This change in viewpoint is hard to do at first 938 01:02:36.480 --> 01:02:40.159 because it goes against many of our deeply held mental habits. 939 01:02:40.679 --> 01:02:42.840 But as we get used to this way of thinking, 940 01:02:43.280 --> 01:02:46.519 we find a source of peace and resilience that helps 941 01:02:46.599 --> 01:02:52.239 us face life storms with renewed confidence and calm. Learning 942 01:02:52.320 --> 01:02:55.719 to tell the difference between things we can control and 943 01:02:55.840 --> 01:02:59.360 things we can't helps us let go of fears that 944 01:02:59.400 --> 01:03:03.199 aren't imp vortant and focus on doing things that make 945 01:03:03.280 --> 01:03:07.559 our lives and the lives of others better. This acceptance 946 01:03:07.679 --> 01:03:11.039 also teaches us to value and be grateful for the 947 01:03:11.119 --> 01:03:15.800 lessons and experiences that life gives us, even the ones 948 01:03:15.880 --> 01:03:19.559 that seem bad at first. When we accept the flow 949 01:03:19.639 --> 01:03:24.239 of life with openness and flexibility, we develop a thankfulness 950 01:03:24.239 --> 01:03:28.679 that changes how we interact with the world. Detachment is 951 01:03:28.719 --> 01:03:31.719 the practice of not being attached to things that make 952 01:03:31.800 --> 01:03:35.960 you feel good. In our complicated lives, we are often 953 01:03:36.079 --> 01:03:39.039 drawn to many outside things that make us want to 954 01:03:39.079 --> 01:03:44.159 be happy and satisfied. Epictetus, one of the great thinkers 955 01:03:44.199 --> 01:03:47.639 in Stoic philosophy, does offer us a different way that 956 01:03:47.800 --> 01:03:51.400 is full of wisdom and peace, the practice of separation. 957 01:03:52.519 --> 01:03:55.079 If you wish to be a man of peace, learn 958 01:03:55.159 --> 01:03:59.599 to ignore many things, he says. Instead of encouraging us 959 01:03:59.639 --> 01:04:03.039 to be in different or alone, this teaching tells us 960 01:04:03.079 --> 01:04:06.519 to carefully focus on what means most for our own 961 01:04:06.559 --> 01:04:11.039 growth and well being. Epictetus taught us that detachment is 962 01:04:11.079 --> 01:04:15.639 a conscious way to free ourselves from thought patterns, behaviors, 963 01:04:15.679 --> 01:04:19.639 and relationships that are holding us back from growth and happiness. 964 01:04:20.159 --> 01:04:22.840 It's realizing that many of the things we think are 965 01:04:22.880 --> 01:04:26.719 important to our lives actually take our attention away from 966 01:04:26.760 --> 01:04:30.920 what is truly useful and fulfilling. We can focus on 967 01:04:31.039 --> 01:04:36.199 developing inner traits like resilience, keenness, and wisdom when we 968 01:04:36.239 --> 01:04:41.239 separate ourselves from these outside forces. When we become detached, 969 01:04:41.639 --> 01:04:44.840 we don't give up on relationships or the good things 970 01:04:44.840 --> 01:04:49.440 in life. Insteed, we rethink our goals and change how 971 01:04:49.480 --> 01:04:52.480 we relate it to the world around us. It is 972 01:04:52.519 --> 01:04:55.360 a choice of where to put our attention and energy 973 01:04:55.760 --> 01:04:59.320 that we learn to ignore many things to focus on 974 01:04:59.440 --> 01:05:03.039 building an inner peace and happiness that doesn't depend on 975 01:05:03.239 --> 01:05:08.000 outside factors. It means putting less weight on other people's opinions, 976 01:05:08.320 --> 01:05:12.800 social pressures, and the constant demands of shopping. As we 977 01:05:12.880 --> 01:05:16.000 move toward distance, we are forced to question what we 978 01:05:16.119 --> 01:05:20.119 think we know about happiness, success, and the meaning of life. 979 01:05:21.000 --> 01:05:23.599 It takes courage to face the pain that may come 980 01:05:23.679 --> 01:05:26.199 up when we let go of old habits and ways 981 01:05:26.199 --> 01:05:30.639 of thinking, but the reward is freedom like never before, 982 01:05:31.320 --> 01:05:34.280 the freedom to choose how to live based on our 983 01:05:34.320 --> 01:05:37.519 true values and a clear picture of what we really 984 01:05:37.599 --> 01:05:42.599 want and need. By practicing separation, we find a source 985 01:05:42.639 --> 01:05:46.400 of peace and happiness that never runs out. We learn 986 01:05:46.480 --> 01:05:50.239 to live with less stress by realizing that everything changes 987 01:05:50.760 --> 01:05:54.480 and finding joy in simple things and real connections with 988 01:05:54.599 --> 01:05:58.920 other people. This increased focus on our own growth not 989 01:05:59.000 --> 01:06:02.320 only changes us, but it can also help other people 990 01:06:02.639 --> 01:06:06.519 and the world around us change for the better. Community 991 01:06:06.559 --> 01:06:10.880 and humanity are important parts of Stoic philosophy. Within its 992 01:06:10.920 --> 01:06:14.079 many layers and details, there is a basic truth that 993 01:06:14.199 --> 01:06:17.800 will always be clear. Even though the path to virtue 994 01:06:17.840 --> 01:06:20.800 and wisdom is unique to each person, we are not 995 01:06:21.000 --> 01:06:25.000 meant to take it by ourselves. Contrary to popular belief, 996 01:06:25.400 --> 01:06:30.960 Stoicism emphasizes the value of treating others with compassion and justice. 997 01:06:31.000 --> 01:06:34.360 We are all connected and important parts of a bigger picture. 998 01:06:35.039 --> 01:06:38.920 This bigger picture is society, and its strength and beauty 999 01:06:39.000 --> 01:06:41.920 come from the different ways its members work together and 1000 01:06:42.039 --> 01:06:46.840 contribute in this situation. Empathy isn't just being able to 1001 01:06:46.920 --> 01:06:50.960 understand how someone else feels. It's also a call to action. 1002 01:06:51.679 --> 01:06:54.800 It means seeing in someone else, not a stranger, but 1003 01:06:54.920 --> 01:06:59.320 a mirror of yourself, someone who shares your problems, joys, 1004 01:06:59.559 --> 01:07:03.719 and wants. Real wisdom comes from not only knowing yourself, 1005 01:07:04.000 --> 01:07:07.119 but also being able to go beyond your own boundaries 1006 01:07:07.440 --> 01:07:10.920 and connect with the human experience as a whole. So 1007 01:07:11.519 --> 01:07:14.920 living with empathy is a way to grow your awareness. 1008 01:07:15.440 --> 01:07:17.440 It's a way to try to see the world through 1009 01:07:17.480 --> 01:07:20.960 someone else's eyes and act in ways that help everyone. 1010 01:07:22.000 --> 01:07:25.559 Justice is another important part of stoicism, but it's more 1011 01:07:25.599 --> 01:07:29.000 than just the law or rules. It's also a social 1012 01:07:29.079 --> 01:07:33.000 concept of fairness, of giving everyone what they deserve and 1013 01:07:33.079 --> 01:07:37.280 recognizing the worth and respect of every person. Being just 1014 01:07:37.480 --> 01:07:41.079 means being honest and honorable in everything we do, from 1015 01:07:41.119 --> 01:07:44.440 big decisions to small ones, and in how we treat 1016 01:07:44.440 --> 01:07:47.960 those around us. It is the deliberate act of making 1017 01:07:48.000 --> 01:07:51.960 the world a more fair, caring, and just place where 1018 01:07:52.000 --> 01:07:57.360 everyone is valued and appreciated. Because of this, stoicism tells 1019 01:07:57.440 --> 01:08:01.159 us to understand our duty to others and to the world. 1020 01:08:01.920 --> 01:08:04.599 It tells us that our freedom and growth as people 1021 01:08:05.039 --> 01:08:08.480 are deeply connected to the health of the community. We 1022 01:08:08.559 --> 01:08:12.119 can make our own lives better and improve society as 1023 01:08:12.159 --> 01:08:17.560 a whole by practicing kindness and justice. So let's follow 1024 01:08:17.600 --> 01:08:21.800 the stern advice to live with humanity and justice, knowing 1025 01:08:21.840 --> 01:08:25.760 that every act of kindness and understanding makes the world 1026 01:08:25.800 --> 01:08:29.840 a better place for everyone. As we strive for virtue, 1027 01:08:30.279 --> 01:08:33.119 let us remember that its real worth lies in its 1028 01:08:33.159 --> 01:08:36.520 addition to the greater good, in its ability to see 1029 01:08:36.560 --> 01:08:40.439 beyond oneself and see the humanity that runs through all 1030 01:08:40.479 --> 01:08:45.079 of us. If we want to change, we need courage. 1031 01:08:45.159 --> 01:08:49.239 Aristotle says that courage is the most important virtue because 1032 01:08:49.279 --> 01:08:52.239 it is the foundation on which all other qualities of 1033 01:08:52.279 --> 01:08:56.359 a person are built. Even though it doesn't come from Stoicism, 1034 01:08:56.800 --> 01:09:00.439 it strongly connects with the ideas behind this fore lifliosophy. 1035 01:09:01.319 --> 01:09:05.680 In Stoicism, as in Aristotles, courage is seen not only 1036 01:09:05.720 --> 01:09:08.760 as bravery in the face of danger, but also as 1037 01:09:08.840 --> 01:09:13.800 resilience and drive to face internal challenges, to look within oneself, 1038 01:09:14.199 --> 01:09:17.560 and to make the changes that are necessary for personal growth. 1039 01:09:18.359 --> 01:09:21.880 When it comes to this situation, courage is what drives 1040 01:09:21.960 --> 01:09:25.960 us to focus on ourselves, face our fears, get over 1041 01:09:26.000 --> 01:09:29.920 our weaknesses, and go beyond the limits we set for ourselves. 1042 01:09:30.760 --> 01:09:33.359 You have to be honest with yourself about who you are, 1043 01:09:33.760 --> 01:09:36.640 what you need to change, and how you can grow. 1044 01:09:37.359 --> 01:09:41.239 When we face great danger or act heroically, this kind 1045 01:09:41.279 --> 01:09:45.159 of courage shines through. It also shines through in our 1046 01:09:45.239 --> 01:09:49.319 daily lives, in the small decisions we make, the choices 1047 01:09:49.359 --> 01:09:52.760 we make, and the sacrifices we make for our growth. 1048 01:09:53.680 --> 01:09:56.079 Courage is the key that can open the door to 1049 01:09:56.239 --> 01:09:59.880 full change. It forces us out of our comfort zones, 1050 01:10:00.319 --> 01:10:03.960 questions the way things are, and encourages us to discover 1051 01:10:04.159 --> 01:10:08.079 new parts of ourselves. When we have the courage, we 1052 01:10:08.159 --> 01:10:12.239 can face our fears, accept our mistakes, and work hard 1053 01:10:12.279 --> 01:10:15.079 to get rid of them. This is what makes us 1054 01:10:15.119 --> 01:10:18.239 able to get back up after a fall, learn from 1055 01:10:18.279 --> 01:10:22.800 our mistakes, and keep going with increased drive. Through the 1056 01:10:22.880 --> 01:10:26.880 lens of stoicism. Courage can also mean keeping your ethics 1057 01:10:26.920 --> 01:10:30.960 and virtue even when things go wrong. It means having 1058 01:10:31.000 --> 01:10:33.960 the strength to stick to your values, even if it 1059 01:10:34.039 --> 01:10:39.239 means making sacrifices or facing difficulties. The stoic way of 1060 01:10:39.319 --> 01:10:42.800 focusing on what we can control and accepting what we 1061 01:10:42.880 --> 01:10:47.119 can't is based on this moral courage. It helps us 1062 01:10:47.159 --> 01:10:50.680 make the changes we need to make inside ourselves to 1063 01:10:50.760 --> 01:10:53.880 make our lives more in line with our greatest values. 1064 01:10:54.640 --> 01:10:57.680 When you're in a busy world full of responsibilities and 1065 01:10:57.760 --> 01:11:01.279 distractions that make it hard to hear hear your inner voice, 1066 01:11:01.720 --> 01:11:05.119 reflection can help you grow. It can be a calm 1067 01:11:05.159 --> 01:11:09.880 and clear place to be. This inward journey, whether started 1068 01:11:09.920 --> 01:11:12.760 in the soft light of dawn or in the thoughtful 1069 01:11:12.800 --> 01:11:17.560 silence of twilight, is a potent tool for ongoing self improvement. 1070 01:11:18.479 --> 01:11:21.399 When we read it, we are asked to stop, take 1071 01:11:21.399 --> 01:11:24.600 a deep breath, and explore the depths of our thoughts 1072 01:11:24.640 --> 01:11:30.439 and hearts with honesty, courage, and openness. Reflection every day, 1073 01:11:30.880 --> 01:11:33.640 whether it's through meditation in the morning to get ready 1074 01:11:33.680 --> 01:11:37.279 for the day's challenges and opportunities, or a review of 1075 01:11:37.399 --> 01:11:40.039 conscience in the evening to think about what we did 1076 01:11:40.439 --> 01:11:43.800 and how we felt, is an important part of growing 1077 01:11:43.840 --> 01:11:47.159 as a person. Take a break from the busyness of 1078 01:11:47.239 --> 01:11:51.399 everyday life to think about yourself. These times are not 1079 01:11:51.520 --> 01:11:55.039 only good for you, but they are also valuable chances 1080 01:11:55.079 --> 01:11:59.279 to reconnect with your core values, adjust your goals, and 1081 01:11:59.439 --> 01:12:04.159 reset your inner guide. Setting clear good goals for the 1082 01:12:04.239 --> 01:12:07.520 day ahead can happen in a holy place created by 1083 01:12:07.600 --> 01:12:11.399 morning meditation. It's a time to develop thanks for the 1084 01:12:11.399 --> 01:12:15.439 blessings life provides, to improve our resilience in the face 1085 01:12:15.479 --> 01:12:19.399 of hardship, and to foster thoughts and attitudes that represent 1086 01:12:19.479 --> 01:12:23.279 who we strive to be. Our daily time with silence 1087 01:12:23.279 --> 01:12:26.319 and inner piece gives us peace that flows through our 1088 01:12:26.399 --> 01:12:29.560 day and makes us better people who connect with the 1089 01:12:29.560 --> 01:12:33.159 world around them. On the other hand, a review of 1090 01:12:33.199 --> 01:12:36.680 consciousness in the evening is just as good. It gives 1091 01:12:36.760 --> 01:12:39.720 us a chance to think about what we did, enjoy 1092 01:12:39.800 --> 01:12:43.520 our successes, and admit our mistakes so we can learn 1093 01:12:43.560 --> 01:12:48.600 from them. This process of evaluating ourselves is essential for 1094 01:12:48.720 --> 01:12:53.199 becoming more self aware and encouraging positive changes in our 1095 01:12:53.279 --> 01:12:57.800 actions and attitudes. Thinking about what we do and how 1096 01:12:57.840 --> 01:13:01.439 it affects other people makes us more aware of our habits, 1097 01:13:01.760 --> 01:13:06.239 which is the first step toward real and long lasting change. 1098 01:13:06.479 --> 01:13:10.479 Daily thought is also good for fighting off superficiality and 1099 01:13:10.600 --> 01:13:15.119 spreading out. It shows us how to value depth and relationship, 1100 01:13:15.520 --> 01:13:18.800 and how to live a more purposeful life. We are 1101 01:13:18.840 --> 01:13:22.199 investing in our health, our peace of mind, and our 1102 01:13:22.239 --> 01:13:24.840 ability to make a good difference in the lives of 1103 01:13:24.880 --> 01:13:28.119 those around us. When we make time for this practice, 1104 01:13:28.520 --> 01:13:33.239 freedom through discipline. In our lives, where freedom and restriction 1105 01:13:33.359 --> 01:13:38.119 are often tangled together, a strange, but deeply freeing truth emerges. 1106 01:13:38.840 --> 01:13:42.840 Discipline is the key to real freedom. At first look, 1107 01:13:43.199 --> 01:13:46.399 it might not make sense, as if freedom and control 1108 01:13:46.520 --> 01:13:50.359 were two forces competing for our lives. What we find 1109 01:13:50.359 --> 01:13:53.560 out is that discipline is actually what real freedom is 1110 01:13:53.560 --> 01:13:57.000 built on. When we look into this relationship more deeply. 1111 01:13:57.760 --> 01:14:00.399 Instead of just being a limit or a tie set 1112 01:14:00.439 --> 01:14:03.720 of rules from the outside, discipline is a sign of 1113 01:14:03.760 --> 01:14:09.840 self control and independence. It means consciously aligning our wants, thoughts, 1114 01:14:09.880 --> 01:14:14.479 and behaviors with our most important beliefs and long term goals. 1115 01:14:15.239 --> 01:14:18.039 We are not shackled by a harsh bond when we 1116 01:14:18.159 --> 01:14:22.600 learn the art of discipline. Instead, we are freeing ourselves 1117 01:14:22.640 --> 01:14:27.920 from the chains of recklessness, procrastination, and dispersion that keep 1118 01:14:28.039 --> 01:14:32.199 us from reaching our full potential. Discipline gives us freedom 1119 01:14:32.239 --> 01:14:36.119 that goes beyond outside situations because it lets us act 1120 01:14:36.279 --> 01:14:39.880 not in response to outside forces, but because we choose 1121 01:14:39.960 --> 01:14:42.399 to in a way that is in line with who 1122 01:14:42.439 --> 01:14:45.880 we are and who we want to be. Freedom means 1123 01:14:45.960 --> 01:14:48.640 being able to say yes to things that make us 1124 01:14:48.680 --> 01:14:52.800 better and know to things that make us worse. It 1125 01:14:52.880 --> 01:14:56.159 also means being able to follow our hobbies with focus 1126 01:14:56.520 --> 01:15:01.159 and drive and live a life that has purpose and meaning. Also, 1127 01:15:01.600 --> 01:15:04.880 discipline frees use from the chains of habits and actions 1128 01:15:04.880 --> 01:15:08.399 that hurt us. It helps us make our daily lives 1129 01:15:08.439 --> 01:15:12.239 more clear and purposeful, so that every action we take 1130 01:15:12.359 --> 01:15:14.960 is a choice for our own happiness and well being. 1131 01:15:15.680 --> 01:15:18.840 Discipline teaches us to be in charge of our own lives, 1132 01:15:19.199 --> 01:15:22.079 to make good use of our time and energy, and 1133 01:15:22.199 --> 01:15:26.159 to develop resilience in the face of difficulties. But getting 1134 01:15:26.199 --> 01:15:30.359 better at this discipline takes time, effort, and most of all, 1135 01:15:30.760 --> 01:15:35.359 kindness toward ourselves. When things go wrong, the urge to 1136 01:15:35.439 --> 01:15:38.600 give in to instant wants will seem impossible to fight. 1137 01:15:39.319 --> 01:15:42.920 But it's exactly in these times that real discipline shows up, 1138 01:15:43.439 --> 01:15:46.439 not as a punishment, but as a soft reminder of 1139 01:15:46.479 --> 01:15:51.319 our inner promises to ourselves. So let's see discipline not 1140 01:15:51.399 --> 01:15:53.640 as a way to hold us back, but as a 1141 01:15:53.680 --> 01:15:57.039 way to freedom. It should be the guidance that leads 1142 01:15:57.079 --> 01:16:00.680 us through life storms and fogs, keeping up steady on 1143 01:16:00.760 --> 01:16:04.279 our path to a more real, happy and free life. 1144 01:16:05.239 --> 01:16:08.960 May the control of our wants, thoughts, and actions be 1145 01:16:09.079 --> 01:16:12.319 the key that opens the doors to real freedom, a 1146 01:16:12.359 --> 01:16:15.600 freedom that isn't based on outside events, but on the 1147 01:16:15.640 --> 01:16:18.800 honesty and purpose with which we choose to live each day. 1148 01:16:19.520 --> 01:16:21.960 You can take the next step with us by joining 1149 01:16:22.000 --> 01:16:24.840 our group. We are at a turning point where the 1150 01:16:24.920 --> 01:16:28.199 road ahead is both difficult and lit by the hope 1151 01:16:28.239 --> 01:16:31.720 of growth. It's realizing that many of the things we 1152 01:16:31.800 --> 01:16:35.399 think are important to our lives actually take our attention 1153 01:16:35.520 --> 01:16:39.760 away from what is truly useful and fulfilling. We can 1154 01:16:39.800 --> 01:16:45.079 focus on developing inner traits like resilience, kinness, and wisdom 1155 01:16:45.479 --> 01:16:50.039 when we separate ourselvers from these outside forces. When we 1156 01:16:50.079 --> 01:16:54.199 become detached, we don't give up on relationships or the 1157 01:16:54.239 --> 01:16:58.800 good things in life. Instead, we rethink our goals and 1158 01:16:58.960 --> 01:17:02.359 change how we relate to the world around us. It 1159 01:17:02.479 --> 01:17:04.840 is a choice of where to put our attention and 1160 01:17:05.079 --> 01:17:09.279 energy that we learn to ignore many things to focus 1161 01:17:09.319 --> 01:17:13.000 on building an inner peace and happiness that doesn't depend 1162 01:17:13.039 --> 01:17:16.960 on outside factors. It means putting less weight on other 1163 01:17:17.000 --> 01:17:21.680 people's opinions, social pressures, and the constant demands of shopping. 1164 01:17:22.520 --> 01:17:25.640 As we move toward distance, we are forced to question 1165 01:17:25.800 --> 01:17:29.359 what we think we know about happiness, success, and the 1166 01:17:29.439 --> 01:17:33.119 meaning of life. It takes courage to face the pain 1167 01:17:33.199 --> 01:17:35.199 that may come up when we let go of old 1168 01:17:35.239 --> 01:17:38.640 habits and ways of thinking, but the reward is freedom 1169 01:17:38.800 --> 01:17:42.079 like never before, the freedom to choose how to live 1170 01:17:42.199 --> 01:17:45.439 based on our true values and a clear picture of 1171 01:17:45.479 --> 01:17:50.279 what we really want and need. By practicing separation, we 1172 01:17:50.399 --> 01:17:53.720 find a source of peace and happiness that never runs out. 1173 01:17:54.439 --> 01:17:57.680 We learn to live with less stress by realizing that 1174 01:17:57.760 --> 01:18:02.079 everything changes and finding joy in simple things and real 1175 01:18:02.119 --> 01:18:06.039 connections with other people. Stoic philosophy has a lot of 1176 01:18:06.039 --> 01:18:09.880 different layers and details, but at its core, there is 1177 01:18:09.960 --> 01:18:14.359 one truth that will always be clear, community and humanity. 1178 01:18:15.199 --> 01:18:18.119 Even though the path to virtue and wisdom is unique 1179 01:18:18.159 --> 01:18:20.880 to each person, we are not meant to take it 1180 01:18:20.960 --> 01:18:25.640 by ourselves. Stoicism, in contrast to what some might think, 1181 01:18:26.199 --> 01:18:30.319 emphasizes the value of treating others with compassion and justice. 1182 01:18:30.840 --> 01:18:34.279 We are all connected and important parts of a bigger picture. 1183 01:18:34.960 --> 01:18:38.920 This bigger picture is society, and its strength and beauty 1184 01:18:39.039 --> 01:18:42.319 come from the different ways its members work together and 1185 01:18:42.479 --> 01:18:47.279 contribute In this situation, Empathy isn't just being able to 1186 01:18:47.399 --> 01:18:51.199 understand how someone else feels. It's also a call to action. 1187 01:18:51.880 --> 01:18:55.000 It means seeing in someone else, not a stranger, but 1188 01:18:55.079 --> 01:18:59.359 a mirror of yourself, someone who shares your problems, joys, 1189 01:18:59.600 --> 01:19:03.880 and wants. Real wisdom comes from not only knowing yourself, 1190 01:19:04.239 --> 01:19:07.319 but also being able to go beyond your own boundaries 1191 01:19:07.640 --> 01:19:11.039 and connect with the human experience as a whole. So 1192 01:19:11.600 --> 01:19:15.119 living with empathy is a way to grow your awareness. 1193 01:19:15.680 --> 01:19:17.720 It's a way to try to see the world through 1194 01:19:17.760 --> 01:19:21.399 someone else's eyes and act in ways that help everyone. 1195 01:19:22.479 --> 01:19:26.760 Another important part of stoicism is justice, which is more 1196 01:19:26.760 --> 01:19:30.000 than just following the rules. It is based on the 1197 01:19:30.000 --> 01:19:34.000 moral concept of fairness, which means giving everyone what they 1198 01:19:34.039 --> 01:19:38.119 deserve and recognizing the worth and respect of every person. 1199 01:19:38.680 --> 01:19:42.840 Being just means being honest and honorable in everything we do, 1200 01:19:43.239 --> 01:19:46.680 from big decisions to small ones, and in how we 1201 01:19:46.720 --> 01:19:50.359 treat those around use. It is the deliberate act of 1202 01:19:50.479 --> 01:19:54.399 making the world a more fair, caring, and just place 1203 01:19:54.479 --> 01:19:59.680 where everyone is valued and appreciated. Because of this, stoicism 1204 01:19:59.720 --> 01:20:03.119 tells us to understand our duty to others and to 1205 01:20:03.199 --> 01:20:06.560 the world. It tells us that our freedom and growth 1206 01:20:06.600 --> 01:20:10.359 as people are deeply connected to the health of the community. 1207 01:20:11.039 --> 01:20:14.640 We can make our own lives better and improve society 1208 01:20:14.680 --> 01:20:20.319 as a whole by practicing kindness and justice. So let's 1209 01:20:20.399 --> 01:20:24.479 follow the stern advice to live with humanity and justice, 1210 01:20:24.960 --> 01:20:28.880 knowing that every act of kindness and understanding makes the 1211 01:20:28.920 --> 01:20:33.319 world a better place for everyone. As we strive for virtue, 1212 01:20:33.760 --> 01:20:36.960 let us remember that its real worth lies in its 1213 01:20:37.000 --> 01:20:40.520 addition to the greater good, in its ability to see 1214 01:20:40.560 --> 01:20:44.520 beyond oneself and see the humanity that runs through all 1215 01:20:44.560 --> 01:20:49.000 of us. If we want to change, we need courage. 1216 01:20:49.079 --> 01:20:53.199 Aristotle says that courage is the most important virtue because 1217 01:20:53.199 --> 01:20:56.199 it is the foundation on which all other qualities of 1218 01:20:56.239 --> 01:20:59.960 a person are built. Even though it doesn't come from Stowiss, 1219 01:21:00.880 --> 01:21:06.159 it strongly connects with the ideas behind this philosophy. Stoicism, 1220 01:21:06.640 --> 01:21:10.880 like Aristotle's philosophy, sees courage as more than just being 1221 01:21:10.960 --> 01:21:14.560 brave in the face of danger. It also sees courage 1222 01:21:14.600 --> 01:21:18.600 as the resilience and drive to face internal challenges, to 1223 01:21:18.680 --> 01:21:21.920 look within oneself, and to make the changes that are 1224 01:21:21.960 --> 01:21:26.119 necessary for personal growth. When it comes to this situation, 1225 01:21:26.640 --> 01:21:30.239 courage is what drives us to focus on ourselves, face 1226 01:21:30.279 --> 01:21:34.119 our fears, get over our weaknesses, and go beyond the 1227 01:21:34.159 --> 01:21:37.520 limits we set for ourselves. You have to be honest 1228 01:21:37.520 --> 01:21:40.800 with yourself about who you are, what you need to change, 1229 01:21:41.199 --> 01:21:44.640 and how you can grow. When we face great danger 1230 01:21:44.920 --> 01:21:49.239 or act heroically, this kind of courage shines through. It 1231 01:21:49.319 --> 01:21:52.720 also shines through in our daily lives, in the small 1232 01:21:52.760 --> 01:21:56.640 decisions we make, the choices we make, and the sacrifices 1233 01:21:56.680 --> 01:21:59.880 we make for our growth. Courage is the key that 1234 01:22:00.000 --> 01:22:03.239 can open the door to full change. It forces us 1235 01:22:03.279 --> 01:22:06.520 out of our comfort zones, questions the way things are, 1236 01:22:06.960 --> 01:22:11.279 and encourages us to discover new parts of ourselves. When 1237 01:22:11.279 --> 01:22:14.840 we have the courage, we can face our fears, accept 1238 01:22:14.840 --> 01:22:18.079 our mistakes, and work hard to get rid of them. 1239 01:22:18.520 --> 01:22:20.800 This is what makes us able to get back up 1240 01:22:20.840 --> 01:22:24.760 after a fall, learn from our mistakes, and keep going 1241 01:22:24.840 --> 01:22:29.640 with increased drive. When it comes to stoicism, courage also 1242 01:22:29.760 --> 01:22:33.079 means being able to keep your ethics and virtue even 1243 01:22:33.119 --> 01:22:36.479 when things go wrong. It means having the strength to 1244 01:22:36.520 --> 01:22:40.359 stick to your values, even if it means making sacrifices 1245 01:22:40.840 --> 01:22:44.960 or facing difficulties. The stoic way of focusing on what 1246 01:22:45.079 --> 01:22:49.000 we can control and accepting what we can't is based 1247 01:22:49.039 --> 01:22:52.840 on this moral courage. It helps us make the changes 1248 01:22:52.880 --> 01:22:56.279 we need to make inside ourselves to make our lives 1249 01:22:56.319 --> 01:23:00.840 more in line with our greatest values. As true for growth, 1250 01:23:01.159 --> 01:23:04.079 thought stands out as a calm and clear space in 1251 01:23:04.159 --> 01:23:08.399 a busy world where constant noise from responsibilities and other 1252 01:23:08.439 --> 01:23:13.760 things can overwhelm the inner voice. This inward journey, whether 1253 01:23:13.840 --> 01:23:16.680 started in the soft light of dawn or in the 1254 01:23:16.720 --> 01:23:21.119 thoughtful silence of twilight, is a potent tool for ongoing 1255 01:23:21.159 --> 01:23:25.319 self improvement. When we read it, we are asked to stop, 1256 01:23:25.720 --> 01:23:28.680 take a deep breath, and explore the depths of our 1257 01:23:28.720 --> 01:23:34.319 thoughts and hearts with honesty, courage, and openness. Reflection every day, 1258 01:23:34.680 --> 01:23:37.600 whether it's through meditation in the morning to get ready 1259 01:23:37.640 --> 01:23:41.640 for the day's challenges and opportunities, or a review of 1260 01:23:41.720 --> 01:23:44.920 conscience in the evening to think about what we did 1261 01:23:44.960 --> 01:23:48.399 and how we felt, is an important part of growing 1262 01:23:48.439 --> 01:23:51.680 as a person. Take a break from the busyness of 1263 01:23:51.720 --> 01:23:55.960 everyday life to think about yourself. These times are not 1264 01:23:56.000 --> 01:23:59.640 only good for you, but they are also valuable chances 1265 01:23:59.680 --> 01:24:03.439 to reach connect with your core values, adjust your goals, 1266 01:24:03.920 --> 01:24:08.760 and reset your inner guide. Setting clear good goals for 1267 01:24:08.840 --> 01:24:12.079 the day ahead can happen in a holy place created 1268 01:24:12.119 --> 01:24:16.039 by morning meditation. It's a time to develop thanks for 1269 01:24:16.079 --> 01:24:19.960 the blessings life provides, to improve our resilience in the 1270 01:24:20.000 --> 01:24:23.600 face of hardship, and to foster thoughts and attitudes that 1271 01:24:23.680 --> 01:24:27.399 represent who we strive to be. Our daily time with 1272 01:24:27.520 --> 01:24:31.159 silence and inner peace gives us peace that flows through 1273 01:24:31.199 --> 01:24:34.239 our day and makes us better people who connect with 1274 01:24:34.279 --> 01:24:37.880 the world around them. On the other hand, a review 1275 01:24:37.960 --> 01:24:41.279 of consciousness in the evening is just as good. It 1276 01:24:41.319 --> 01:24:43.720 gives us a chance to think about what we did, 1277 01:24:44.359 --> 01:24:48.119 enjoy our successes, and admit our mistakes so we can 1278 01:24:48.199 --> 01:24:53.359 learn from them. This process of evaluating ourselves is essential 1279 01:24:53.399 --> 01:24:57.880 for becoming more self aware and encouraging positive changes in 1280 01:24:57.920 --> 01:25:02.640 our actions and attitudes. Thinking about what we do and 1281 01:25:02.720 --> 01:25:05.960 how it affects other people makes us more aware of 1282 01:25:06.000 --> 01:25:09.359 our habits, which is the first step toward real and 1283 01:25:09.520 --> 01:25:13.920 long lasting change. Daily thought is also good for fighting 1284 01:25:13.960 --> 01:25:18.239 off superficiality and spreading out. It shows us how to 1285 01:25:18.359 --> 01:25:21.720 value depth and relationship, and how to live a more 1286 01:25:21.760 --> 01:25:26.000 purposeful life. We are investing in our health, our peace 1287 01:25:26.000 --> 01:25:29.119 of mind, and our ability to make a good difference 1288 01:25:29.159 --> 01:25:31.720 in the lives of those around us when we make 1289 01:25:31.800 --> 01:25:37.600 time for this practice. Freedom through discipline in the complicated 1290 01:25:37.640 --> 01:25:41.079 web of our lives where freedom and restriction are often 1291 01:25:41.119 --> 01:25:45.399 tangled together. A truth that is at once paradoxical and 1292 01:25:45.520 --> 01:25:51.199 deeply freeing appears true freedom comes from following rules. At 1293 01:25:51.239 --> 01:25:54.680 first look, it might not make sense, as if freedom 1294 01:25:54.720 --> 01:25:58.800 and control were two forces competing for our lives. What 1295 01:25:58.840 --> 01:26:01.920 we find out is that discipline is actually what real 1296 01:26:01.960 --> 01:26:05.239 freedom is built on when we look into this relationship 1297 01:26:05.319 --> 01:26:08.520 more deeply. Instead of just being a limit or a 1298 01:26:08.600 --> 01:26:11.960 tight set of rules from the outside, discipline is a 1299 01:26:12.000 --> 01:26:16.800 sign of self control and independence. It means consciously aligning 1300 01:26:16.840 --> 01:26:21.399 our wants, thoughts, and behaviours with our most important beliefs 1301 01:26:21.640 --> 01:26:25.359 and long term goals. We are not shackled by a 1302 01:26:25.399 --> 01:26:29.520 harsh bond when we learn the art of discipline. Instead, 1303 01:26:29.920 --> 01:26:34.239 we are freeing ourselves from the chains of recklessness, procrastination, 1304 01:26:34.760 --> 01:26:38.439 and dispersion that keep us from reaching our full potential. 1305 01:26:39.399 --> 01:26:44.239 Discipline gives us freedom that goes beyond outside situations because 1306 01:26:44.279 --> 01:26:47.560 it lets us act not in response to outside forces, 1307 01:26:48.079 --> 01:26:50.960 but because we choose to in a way that is 1308 01:26:51.000 --> 01:26:53.600 in line with who we are and who we want 1309 01:26:53.640 --> 01:26:57.560 to be. Freedom means being able to say yes to 1310 01:26:57.680 --> 01:27:00.960 things that make us better and know to things that 1311 01:27:01.039 --> 01:27:04.760 make us worse. It also means being able to follow 1312 01:27:04.800 --> 01:27:08.159 our hobbies with focus and drive and live a life 1313 01:27:08.159 --> 01:27:12.880 that has purpose and meaning. Also, discipline frees us from 1314 01:27:12.880 --> 01:27:16.079 the chains of habits and actions that hurt us in 1315 01:27:16.159 --> 01:27:19.079 our daily lives. It helps us create a place of 1316 01:27:19.119 --> 01:27:22.399 focus and purpose, where every action is a choice for 1317 01:27:22.479 --> 01:27:26.399 our own happiness and well being. Discipline teaches us to 1318 01:27:26.439 --> 01:27:29.199 be in charge of our own lives, to make good 1319 01:27:29.279 --> 01:27:32.640 use of our time and energy, and to develop resilience 1320 01:27:32.680 --> 01:27:36.159 in the face of difficulties. But getting better at this 1321 01:27:36.199 --> 01:27:41.680 discipline takes time, effort, and most of all, kinness toward ourselves. 1322 01:27:42.239 --> 01:27:44.600 When we fail, we will want to give in to 1323 01:27:44.760 --> 01:27:48.159 our immediate wants more than anything else. But it is 1324 01:27:48.279 --> 01:27:52.439 exactly in these times that true discipline shows itself, not 1325 01:27:52.600 --> 01:27:56.079 as punishment, but as a gentle reminder of our greater 1326 01:27:56.199 --> 01:28:00.760 promises to ourselves. So let's see disc upline not as 1327 01:28:00.800 --> 01:28:03.199 a way to hold us back, but as a way 1328 01:28:03.239 --> 01:28:06.560 to freedom. It should be the guidance that leads us 1329 01:28:06.600 --> 01:28:10.279 through life storms and fogs, keeping us steady on our 1330 01:28:10.359 --> 01:28:14.880 path to a more real, happy and free life. May 1331 01:28:14.960 --> 01:28:19.000 being disciplined in our wants thoughts and actions be the 1332 01:28:19.079 --> 01:28:23.399 key to real freedom, freedom that isn't based on outside events, 1333 01:28:23.720 --> 01:28:26.439 but on the honesty and purpose with which we choose 1334 01:28:26.479 --> 01:28:33.520 to live each day. Fake relationships can be hard to spot, 1335 01:28:34.079 --> 01:28:36.279 just like it's hard to tell the difference between a 1336 01:28:36.319 --> 01:28:39.680 mirage and an island in the vast desert of people. 1337 01:28:40.560 --> 01:28:43.960 The world is full of meetings and mismatches, and people 1338 01:28:44.000 --> 01:28:47.960 wear masks of friendliness and self interest very well. It 1339 01:28:48.039 --> 01:28:50.960 takes both instinct and a sharp eye to figure out 1340 01:28:50.960 --> 01:28:54.359 who really cares about us. It's like a skilled gardener 1341 01:28:54.399 --> 01:28:58.239 who knows the difference between plants that feed and plants 1342 01:28:58.279 --> 01:29:01.920 that take nutrients from the earth. We trust other people 1343 01:29:02.000 --> 01:29:05.479 too much, sometimes when all they're really doing is taking 1344 01:29:05.520 --> 01:29:08.600 advantage of us. We need to learn how to tell 1345 01:29:08.640 --> 01:29:12.000 the difference between people who care about us and those 1346 01:29:12.039 --> 01:29:14.880 who are just trying to get what they want from us. 1347 01:29:15.399 --> 01:29:19.039 Let's talk about some less obvious trends and small signs 1348 01:29:19.439 --> 01:29:22.199 that show what people are really trying to hide when 1349 01:29:22.239 --> 01:29:25.800 they smile and say nice things. You're here because you 1350 01:29:25.880 --> 01:29:29.159 want to get better. Here we'll talk about how to 1351 01:29:29.239 --> 01:29:33.119 solve these problems with people and build relationships that are 1352 01:29:33.159 --> 01:29:38.439 more real and rewarding fifteen not doing what you say 1353 01:29:38.479 --> 01:29:41.680 you'll do. It's a lot like going to the theater. 1354 01:29:42.319 --> 01:29:45.319 Words are the players and actions are the plot that 1355 01:29:45.479 --> 01:29:48.880 isn't read. These people are very good at getting people 1356 01:29:48.920 --> 01:29:52.119 to agree with them. They use words to paint clear 1357 01:29:52.159 --> 01:29:56.159 pictures of support and dedication. On the other hand, what 1358 01:29:56.319 --> 01:29:58.960 they say doesn't always match up with how they act. 1359 01:29:59.520 --> 01:30:02.720 They tell people what to expect, but when it's time 1360 01:30:02.760 --> 01:30:06.359 for these plans to come true, they fail, which shows 1361 01:30:06.399 --> 01:30:09.920 that they didn't mean what they said they would. Sometimes 1362 01:30:09.960 --> 01:30:13.600 people in these types of relationships just leave when help 1363 01:30:13.680 --> 01:30:16.279 is needed the most, or when they say they will 1364 01:30:16.279 --> 01:30:20.479 do something, leaving a sad and empty space When you 1365 01:30:20.600 --> 01:30:23.840 need them, they're not there for you. This breaks your 1366 01:30:23.880 --> 01:30:26.880 trust and shows you what they really want. They are 1367 01:30:27.000 --> 01:30:29.800 lying to get you to believe them, give them money 1368 01:30:30.239 --> 01:30:33.840 or help them out without expecting anything in return. You 1369 01:30:33.880 --> 01:30:37.039 can tell the difference between people who see relationships as 1370 01:30:37.079 --> 01:30:41.000 two way streets of mutual respect and support and people 1371 01:30:41.000 --> 01:30:43.199 who only see them as ways to get what they 1372 01:30:43.239 --> 01:30:47.239 want by how often they break promises. When people are 1373 01:30:47.319 --> 01:30:50.720 let down, they often learn a hard but necessary lesson. 1374 01:30:51.359 --> 01:30:55.079 Not all vows are made with honesty. And morality in mind. 1375 01:30:55.760 --> 01:30:58.119 It is very important to look for people who break 1376 01:30:58.159 --> 01:31:00.840 their promises if you think they might be trying to 1377 01:31:00.880 --> 01:31:04.880 take advantage of you. Things people do reveal more about 1378 01:31:04.920 --> 01:31:08.159 them than what they say, revealing what they really mean. 1379 01:31:09.159 --> 01:31:12.960 People can handle the difficult world of relationships better and 1380 01:31:13.079 --> 01:31:16.359 keep their trust and mental investments safe if they are 1381 01:31:16.399 --> 01:31:22.119 aware of this trend Number fourteen. Compliments that are rude 1382 01:31:22.199 --> 01:31:25.760 or hurtful to other people to get what they want. 1383 01:31:26.159 --> 01:31:29.720 People who often use other people as stepping stones find 1384 01:31:29.760 --> 01:31:34.159 it easy to insult them and bring down their self esteem, confidence, 1385 01:31:34.560 --> 01:31:38.439 and sense of self worth. People say these mean things, 1386 01:31:38.840 --> 01:31:42.680 but they seem like fun or nice talk. They're really 1387 01:31:42.760 --> 01:31:45.720 mean insults that are meant to bring people down instead 1388 01:31:45.720 --> 01:31:48.920 of pulling them up. If you have wins or goals, 1389 01:31:49.279 --> 01:31:51.800 they might make fun of them or act like they 1390 01:31:51.840 --> 01:31:56.000 don't care about or understand your difficult times. Being like 1391 01:31:56.079 --> 01:32:00.159 this is like psychic warfare that you can't see. These 1392 01:32:00.279 --> 01:32:03.800 people throw off the balance of the relationship by always 1393 01:32:03.840 --> 01:32:07.680 putting less value on your goals and achievements. This is 1394 01:32:07.720 --> 01:32:10.359 done on purpose by someone who wants you to keep 1395 01:32:10.399 --> 01:32:15.000 having doubts about yourself and low self esteem. This makes 1396 01:32:15.039 --> 01:32:18.960 you easier for them to control and influence. They feel 1397 01:32:19.000 --> 01:32:22.600 more important because you don't value yourself as much, which 1398 01:32:22.640 --> 01:32:26.800 makes them more in control of the relationship. Also, rude 1399 01:32:26.880 --> 01:32:29.840 people often say those things because they aren't sure of 1400 01:32:29.880 --> 01:32:33.520 themselves and don't think they're good enough. They try to 1401 01:32:33.640 --> 01:32:36.520 hide how weak they really are by putting other people 1402 01:32:36.600 --> 01:32:39.800 down to make it look like they are stronger. This 1403 01:32:40.000 --> 01:32:42.880 behavior makes it clear that they can't connect in a 1404 01:32:42.920 --> 01:32:46.520 way that is healthy, helpful, and good for both of them. 1405 01:32:47.199 --> 01:32:50.279 This pattern of behavior is very important to notice and 1406 01:32:50.439 --> 01:32:53.840 understand because it helps you see through the thin charm 1407 01:32:53.920 --> 01:32:56.880 that these people often put on and figure out what's 1408 01:32:56.960 --> 01:33:00.359 really going on in the relationship that is bad for you. 1409 01:33:01.079 --> 01:33:04.000 To be safe, either talk to the person about their 1410 01:33:04.039 --> 01:33:07.600 behavior and set clear limits, or stay away from a 1411 01:33:07.640 --> 01:33:13.520 bad scenario like that number thirteen help for only one side. 1412 01:33:14.199 --> 01:33:17.479 This can happen in different parts of a relationship, such 1413 01:33:17.520 --> 01:33:21.920 as over money, feelings, or every day things. People who 1414 01:33:22.039 --> 01:33:25.159 use the service may take money or resources from others 1415 01:33:25.520 --> 01:33:28.760 and say they will pay them back or reciprocate, but 1416 01:33:28.920 --> 01:33:32.479 this could never happen. As people, they may count on 1417 01:33:32.560 --> 01:33:36.039 each other a lot for support, praise, and care. But 1418 01:33:36.159 --> 01:33:40.760 not give much back. People might regularly ask for help, time, 1419 01:33:40.920 --> 01:33:43.640 or favors if the rolls were switched in real life, 1420 01:33:44.079 --> 01:33:46.399 but they would be absent or too busy when the 1421 01:33:46.439 --> 01:33:50.479 other person needs help. When two live things are parasites, 1422 01:33:50.800 --> 01:33:53.840 one gets better at the expense of the other. This 1423 01:33:54.159 --> 01:33:58.600 unfairness is like that like a parasite, the user takes 1424 01:33:58.600 --> 01:34:02.319 food from their host, in this case mental, financial, or 1425 01:34:02.359 --> 01:34:06.439 physical support without giving anything back to their host's health. 1426 01:34:07.119 --> 01:34:11.479 Donating something without expecting anything in return can wear down 1427 01:34:11.479 --> 01:34:14.600 the person who does it over time, leaving them empty 1428 01:34:14.640 --> 01:34:18.079 and worn out. People who use others for their own 1429 01:34:18.119 --> 01:34:21.800 gain usually do so because they are very selfish and 1430 01:34:21.920 --> 01:34:25.880 don't care about other people. In this case, the person 1431 01:34:25.960 --> 01:34:30.159 sees relationships as deals, judging them by what they can 1432 01:34:30.199 --> 01:34:33.840 get from them instead of what they can give. This 1433 01:34:34.000 --> 01:34:38.159 view of relationships is basically flawed because it doesn't value 1434 01:34:38.199 --> 01:34:42.199 treating each other with respect, helping each other, and giving 1435 01:34:42.520 --> 01:34:46.079 and taking. To spot this pattern, you need to be 1436 01:34:46.119 --> 01:34:49.439 able to clearly see the ongoing lack of trade and 1437 01:34:49.520 --> 01:34:52.159 the sense of being let down all the time in 1438 01:34:52.199 --> 01:34:55.920 the relationship. To be honest, you have to say if 1439 01:34:55.920 --> 01:34:59.760 the talks make you feel appreciated and important or used 1440 01:35:00.159 --> 01:35:05.039 and not important. Twelve, don't worry about how you feel 1441 01:35:05.279 --> 01:35:08.800 or what you want. If someone keeps ignoring or lowering 1442 01:35:08.840 --> 01:35:12.680 their emotional environment, it's like taking care of a yard 1443 01:35:12.800 --> 01:35:15.479 but ignoring all the other flowers that want to grow. 1444 01:35:16.239 --> 01:35:19.760 In this case, the user's needs and wants come first, 1445 01:35:20.119 --> 01:35:23.560 and yours are ignored or pushed to the side. When 1446 01:35:23.640 --> 01:35:26.960 they do or say something, it hurts your mental health 1447 01:35:27.239 --> 01:35:29.760 and makes you feel like you're not an important part 1448 01:35:29.800 --> 01:35:33.119 of the relationship. There are several ways that this lack 1449 01:35:33.159 --> 01:35:35.840 of care can show up. It might be clear if 1450 01:35:35.880 --> 01:35:38.800 they don't care about your mental needs and aren't there 1451 01:35:38.840 --> 01:35:42.159 for you or understand when you're weak or need help. 1452 01:35:42.640 --> 01:35:45.880 This is clear when their story drowns out yours and 1453 01:35:45.920 --> 01:35:49.000 they don't care about what you think or decide. They 1454 01:35:49.079 --> 01:35:52.279 might not notice what you've done well, or even worse, 1455 01:35:52.640 --> 01:35:55.359 they might play down your problems by making fun of 1456 01:35:55.399 --> 01:35:59.119 the things that are really hurting you. This isn't just careless. 1457 01:35:59.399 --> 01:36:01.800 They're doing it on purpose to stay in charge of 1458 01:36:01.840 --> 01:36:05.960 the relationship by making your wants and feelings seem less important. 1459 01:36:06.439 --> 01:36:09.199 People who use this service make you feel bad about 1460 01:36:09.239 --> 01:36:12.000 your own worth, which makes you easier for them to 1461 01:36:12.079 --> 01:36:15.880 control and move. There is a small, but powerful way 1462 01:36:15.960 --> 01:36:19.479 to manage someone's feelings in this way. The worst thing 1463 01:36:19.520 --> 01:36:23.800 about this situation is that it really hurts people's emotional health. 1464 01:36:24.399 --> 01:36:29.159 Being known, heard, and accepted is very important. If you 1465 01:36:29.199 --> 01:36:32.039 don't get these needs met, it can make you feel 1466 01:36:32.079 --> 01:36:36.000 alone and lower your self esteem, even if it looks 1467 01:36:36.079 --> 01:36:39.199 like you have a partner. To get through this, you 1468 01:36:39.319 --> 01:36:42.279 need to know how to spot the signs of mental abuse. 1469 01:36:42.840 --> 01:36:46.399 This information will help you stay away from relationships that 1470 01:36:46.520 --> 01:36:49.359 could be bad for your mental health. It gives you 1471 01:36:49.439 --> 01:36:53.600 the strength to look for relationships based on care, respect, 1472 01:36:53.960 --> 01:37:00.239 and giving and receiving. Number eleven. Harassing people with your feelings. 1473 01:37:00.840 --> 01:37:04.640 The person who is lying usually starts out slowly, acting 1474 01:37:04.760 --> 01:37:08.199 like they care and are paying attention. When used on 1475 01:37:08.279 --> 01:37:11.840 someone else, though, this mask quickly turns into a way 1476 01:37:11.880 --> 01:37:16.159 to make that person feel worried, bad about themselves, or guilty. 1477 01:37:16.840 --> 01:37:19.720 They are good at using your feelings against you by 1478 01:37:19.760 --> 01:37:22.560 giving you compliments to feel good when it suits them, 1479 01:37:22.920 --> 01:37:26.159 and then being very critical or putting you down when 1480 01:37:26.159 --> 01:37:29.560 they want you to doubt yourself and rely on them. 1481 01:37:29.880 --> 01:37:33.079 Think about what makes a gardener different from a weak plant. 1482 01:37:33.760 --> 01:37:36.319 A good gardener knows how to take care of plants 1483 01:37:36.680 --> 01:37:40.000 by making sure they get enough water and sun. That 1484 01:37:40.199 --> 01:37:43.600 person who plays with your emotions is like a careless 1485 01:37:43.640 --> 01:37:47.039 farmer who gives the plant too much water and then 1486 01:37:47.159 --> 01:37:51.119 lets it dry out. To make people feel unsteady, they 1487 01:37:51.239 --> 01:37:55.600 use strong feelings. This makes the target mentally dependent on 1488 01:37:55.680 --> 01:38:00.000 the manipulator, always needing approval and support to feel good again. 1489 01:38:01.039 --> 01:38:03.920 This kind of behavior is usually an attempt to find 1490 01:38:03.960 --> 01:38:07.520 out more about someone's mental health. They might make your 1491 01:38:07.560 --> 01:38:11.239 mistakes or wins seem big to keep you questioning your 1492 01:38:11.239 --> 01:38:14.560 own skills. They could change the facts of the case 1493 01:38:14.640 --> 01:38:18.119 to make you feel bad about doing normal things. They 1494 01:38:18.119 --> 01:38:21.119 could also blame someone else, so you have to say 1495 01:38:21.239 --> 01:38:25.720 sorry all the time. In relationships where someone is trying 1496 01:38:25.760 --> 01:38:29.600 to scare you, the power dynamic is always off. The 1497 01:38:29.640 --> 01:38:33.279 manipulator is in charge and decides when to show love 1498 01:38:33.600 --> 01:38:36.840 and when to pull away, which throws off the target. 1499 01:38:37.399 --> 01:38:40.399 There is no growth or support for each other. It's 1500 01:38:40.439 --> 01:38:43.840 about giving in to the manipulator's needs at the cost 1501 01:38:43.920 --> 01:38:46.920 of the other person's mental health. You need to be 1502 01:38:47.079 --> 01:38:51.319 very aware of these things to spot mental manipulation. Part 1503 01:38:51.319 --> 01:38:55.039 of it is noticing the patterns of exchanges that mess 1504 01:38:55.039 --> 01:38:58.439 with your emotions over and over again. You have to 1505 01:38:58.479 --> 01:39:01.880 look inside yourself to see how these interactions affect your 1506 01:39:01.920 --> 01:39:06.640 mental health and sense of who you are. Tenth not 1507 01:39:06.920 --> 01:39:10.680 enough real help. Think of a tree in a huge forest. 1508 01:39:11.279 --> 01:39:15.359 It would get food, protection, and conversation from the trees 1509 01:39:15.399 --> 01:39:19.119 and weeds around it in a perfect world. This is 1510 01:39:19.159 --> 01:39:22.239 a tree that stands alone in the desert. There are 1511 01:39:22.239 --> 01:39:25.520 no other plants around to help or protect it. This 1512 01:39:25.680 --> 01:39:28.000 is the same as being with someone who doesn't care 1513 01:39:28.039 --> 01:39:30.880 about you. There is no one to help you and 1514 01:39:30.920 --> 01:39:34.560 you're on your own. Your branches are reaching out for company, 1515 01:39:34.920 --> 01:39:38.640 but it never comes. People in these types of relationships 1516 01:39:38.720 --> 01:39:42.960 don't care about your projects, goals, or problems and only 1517 01:39:43.000 --> 01:39:46.520 do small things to help you. This person could agree 1518 01:39:46.520 --> 01:39:49.720 with your plans, wish you luck, or even say they 1519 01:39:49.760 --> 01:39:53.640 support you, but what they do or don't do says more. 1520 01:39:54.359 --> 01:39:57.560 They're not there when you need real help, helpful tips, 1521 01:39:58.039 --> 01:40:00.720 or even just someone to talk to when things are tough. 1522 01:40:01.479 --> 01:40:04.119 This kind of help is usually only on the surface 1523 01:40:04.520 --> 01:40:06.960 and more about how they look than what they do. 1524 01:40:07.720 --> 01:40:11.039 It also goes away when it's needed the most. They 1525 01:40:11.079 --> 01:40:14.680 are only thinking about themselves, so they don't really back you. 1526 01:40:15.319 --> 01:40:18.439 All they care about are your problems or hobbies, your 1527 01:40:18.479 --> 01:40:22.479 wins or losses, and how those things affect their own plans. 1528 01:40:23.359 --> 01:40:26.720 To figure out how emotionally involved there is, they look 1529 01:40:26.720 --> 01:40:30.199 at relationships through the lens of a deal, where possible 1530 01:40:30.279 --> 01:40:34.439 personal gains are taken into account. This kind of person 1531 01:40:34.640 --> 01:40:39.199 always gives, whether it's time, care, or resources, while the 1532 01:40:39.239 --> 01:40:43.800 other person gets. This makes the giver feel ignored and seen. 1533 01:40:44.600 --> 01:40:47.279 What kind of relationship do you have with that person? 1534 01:40:47.960 --> 01:40:51.000 It's important to be aware of this lack of real help. 1535 01:40:51.520 --> 01:40:53.920 You have to be honest with yourself about how much 1536 01:40:53.920 --> 01:40:57.880 you give back in relationships. It's important to recognize this 1537 01:40:58.079 --> 01:41:01.199 lack of support and do something about it if you 1538 01:41:01.239 --> 01:41:04.439 want to spend your time and energy on relationships that 1539 01:41:04.520 --> 01:41:10.439 are caring, good for both parties, and really helpful. Nine, 1540 01:41:10.479 --> 01:41:15.279 there's always competition. For example, imagine playing chess, where every 1541 01:41:15.359 --> 01:41:18.319 move is planned to both help yourself and hurt the 1542 01:41:18.359 --> 01:41:22.520 other person over time. Also, a person who only wants 1543 01:41:22.560 --> 01:41:25.880 to use you will probably treat your relationship like a game. 1544 01:41:26.680 --> 01:41:30.279 They can show how much better they are with every move, choice, 1545 01:41:30.640 --> 01:41:34.239 and even task you give them These people act this 1546 01:41:34.359 --> 01:41:37.600 way to stay ahead in this race they've set for themselves. 1547 01:41:38.159 --> 01:41:41.279 They do this by making fun of your successes at work, 1548 01:41:41.600 --> 01:41:46.000 going above and beyond your personal ones, or quietly sabotaging 1549 01:41:46.039 --> 01:41:49.680 your choices. This never ending battle shows up in a 1550 01:41:49.720 --> 01:41:52.880 lot of different ways. They may try to steal your 1551 01:41:52.920 --> 01:41:56.600 ideas or make you look bad at work or in meetings. 1552 01:41:57.279 --> 01:42:00.359 When you're with them, they might play down your achievements 1553 01:42:00.479 --> 01:42:04.560 or experiences while highlighting their own to make them seem 1554 01:42:04.600 --> 01:42:09.000 more important. They always want to show that they're smarter, better, 1555 01:42:09.439 --> 01:42:13.199 or more successful. People act this way even when they're 1556 01:42:13.279 --> 01:42:16.640 just chatting because they're scared and have a skewed sense 1557 01:42:16.680 --> 01:42:19.920 of self worth, which means they think their worth comes 1558 01:42:19.920 --> 01:42:23.000 from how much better they are than other people. The 1559 01:42:23.119 --> 01:42:26.520 idea is that in every trade, someone has to lose 1560 01:42:26.600 --> 01:42:29.840 in order for someone else to win. That someone is 1561 01:42:29.920 --> 01:42:33.239 you in this case. In this way of thinking, the 1562 01:42:33.319 --> 01:42:37.079 need to beat and overshadow is more important than getting 1563 01:42:37.119 --> 01:42:41.159 better together. Being around someone who is always fighting with 1564 01:42:41.199 --> 01:42:43.880 you can be hard on the mind. It makes the 1565 01:42:44.039 --> 01:42:48.920 environment stressful and replaces real support or team work with competition. 1566 01:42:49.680 --> 01:42:53.000 It's not that people are proud of your accomplishments. They 1567 01:42:53.039 --> 01:42:56.119 see them as threats to their power. They don't feel 1568 01:42:56.159 --> 01:42:59.359 sad for you. They see your troubles as chances to 1569 01:42:59.359 --> 01:43:03.199 get ahead. It is very important to find and understand 1570 01:43:03.239 --> 01:43:07.000 this trend. It helps you set boundaries and, if possible, 1571 01:43:07.439 --> 01:43:11.239 change the relationship to one that is healthier and more helpful. 1572 01:43:11.880 --> 01:43:15.640 To understand this, one must understand that love and support 1573 01:43:15.680 --> 01:43:18.840 for each other, not a never ending competition to be 1574 01:43:18.920 --> 01:43:23.399 the best, are what make a relationship healthy. Number eight 1575 01:43:24.199 --> 01:43:27.600 not being there when it's most important. This way of 1576 01:43:27.640 --> 01:43:30.640 acting is like a tree that only provides shade when 1577 01:43:30.640 --> 01:43:34.039 the sun is out. When clouds start to gather, the 1578 01:43:34.119 --> 01:43:38.680 tree goes away. In good times, they are together, enjoying 1579 01:43:38.720 --> 01:43:42.239 the light together and maybe even getting something good from 1580 01:43:42.279 --> 01:43:46.840 being together. However, they leave when things go badly or 1581 01:43:46.880 --> 01:43:49.920 when you need help the most, leaving you to handle 1582 01:43:49.960 --> 01:43:53.720 the storm on your own. These kinds of people see 1583 01:43:53.760 --> 01:43:56.720 relationships as a way to get what they want, and 1584 01:43:56.760 --> 01:43:59.359 they decide if they want to be in one based 1585 01:43:59.399 --> 01:44:02.079 on how much which it helps them. You can only 1586 01:44:02.119 --> 01:44:05.359 count on their support on the surface. They only help 1587 01:44:05.399 --> 01:44:08.199 when it helps them or gives them something to gain. 1588 01:44:09.119 --> 01:44:11.680 You can tell when they're not there, whether it's a 1589 01:44:11.720 --> 01:44:16.279 personal problem, a business loss, or mental turmoil. Because they 1590 01:44:16.319 --> 01:44:19.239 make it very clear what their true goals are and 1591 01:44:19.319 --> 01:44:23.239 how much they don't care about the relationship. This kind 1592 01:44:23.279 --> 01:44:26.399 of behavior can really hurt the person who is let down. 1593 01:44:27.119 --> 01:44:30.439 It hurts the trust and reliability that people thought were 1594 01:44:30.479 --> 01:44:34.359 important in the relationship because it makes them feel cheated 1595 01:44:34.399 --> 01:44:37.800 and let down. It makes you think about the relationship 1596 01:44:38.039 --> 01:44:40.920 and the other person's place and value in your life. 1597 01:44:41.520 --> 01:44:44.319 This helps you figure out what the relationship is all 1598 01:44:44.359 --> 01:44:48.079 about and what the other person really wants. You need 1599 01:44:48.119 --> 01:44:52.039 to know about this pattern. It means understanding that help 1600 01:44:52.199 --> 01:44:55.560 that lasts through good times and bad is a key 1601 01:44:55.600 --> 01:44:59.119 part of any deep relationship. You can tell the difference 1602 01:44:59.159 --> 01:45:02.399 between people who really care about your well being and 1603 01:45:02.479 --> 01:45:05.119 those who are only in the relationship for their own 1604 01:45:05.199 --> 01:45:08.159 gain when they aren't there for you when you need 1605 01:45:08.239 --> 01:45:14.039 them the most Seventh not giving back picture a seesaw. 1606 01:45:14.479 --> 01:45:18.520 One side is full of work, sacrifices, and vows, while 1607 01:45:18.560 --> 01:45:21.279 the other side is very light and hasn't done anything 1608 01:45:21.960 --> 01:45:25.520 That shows a bond that doesn't go both ways. This 1609 01:45:25.680 --> 01:45:30.159 kind of connection means that both people regularly give time, energy, 1610 01:45:30.520 --> 01:45:34.239 and feeling to the relationship to keep it going. On 1611 01:45:34.279 --> 01:45:37.720 the other hand, the other person doesn't usually try very 1612 01:45:37.760 --> 01:45:41.159 hard or at all. There are several ways that this 1613 01:45:41.319 --> 01:45:44.600 difference in effort can show up. They might always be 1614 01:45:44.680 --> 01:45:48.039 the one to start talking and making plans even if 1615 01:45:48.079 --> 01:45:51.479 you don't want to or aren't ready to commit. They 1616 01:45:51.560 --> 01:45:54.760 might always be there for you and understand, but not 1617 01:45:54.840 --> 01:45:57.279 always give you the same amount of help or care 1618 01:45:57.399 --> 01:46:00.600 when you need it. People may be guarded and closed 1619 01:46:00.640 --> 01:46:03.439 off when you are open and honest, even when you 1620 01:46:03.520 --> 01:46:07.640 talk about your flaws and personal experiences. The reason for 1621 01:46:07.720 --> 01:46:10.680 this lack of exchange is that people look at other 1622 01:46:10.720 --> 01:46:14.479 people through the lens of themselves. The friendship is just 1623 01:46:14.560 --> 01:46:17.840 a comfort for the person, something they can use when 1624 01:46:17.840 --> 01:46:20.439 they need to, but not because they want to make 1625 01:46:20.479 --> 01:46:24.159 a deep bond. What they do is planned and based 1626 01:46:24.199 --> 01:46:27.159 on what will help them, not what the other person 1627 01:46:27.239 --> 01:46:32.439 needs or wants. Sharing experiences and doing similar amounts of 1628 01:46:32.479 --> 01:46:37.159 mental work are all parts of healthy relationships. This way 1629 01:46:37.199 --> 01:46:41.039 of doing things goes against those ideas. You have to 1630 01:46:41.119 --> 01:46:44.119 carefully watch how the link works to see that there 1631 01:46:44.159 --> 01:46:47.399 is no back and forth. It means making sure that 1632 01:46:47.520 --> 01:46:50.479 everyone is doing their fair share of the work. To 1633 01:46:50.600 --> 01:46:53.359 keep and grow the link and not letting one of 1634 01:46:53.359 --> 01:46:56.239 you do too much. It wants you to be honest 1635 01:46:56.279 --> 01:46:59.439 about how you feel about the relationship and say whether 1636 01:46:59.479 --> 01:47:05.920 it feels good, bad, fair, or unfair. Sixth, talk and 1637 01:47:06.079 --> 01:47:09.520 break your faith. It's like a sword with two sides. 1638 01:47:10.079 --> 01:47:13.039 When you talk about someone behind their back, you give 1639 01:47:13.119 --> 01:47:16.479 them a fake sense of trust and friendship. People in 1640 01:47:16.520 --> 01:47:19.159 this group seem to trust each other, so they might 1641 01:47:19.199 --> 01:47:22.479 seem to be telling you private things. But one side 1642 01:47:22.520 --> 01:47:24.840 of the sword is much more dangerous than the other. 1643 01:47:25.399 --> 01:47:28.520 It's when someone breaks your trust by telling other people 1644 01:47:28.640 --> 01:47:32.319 private or sensitive information about you that you gave them 1645 01:47:32.319 --> 01:47:35.680 in confidence. Not only is this a breach of trust, 1646 01:47:36.039 --> 01:47:38.279 but it's also part of a plan to make you 1647 01:47:38.359 --> 01:47:42.439 feel less safe and private in the relationship. This behavior 1648 01:47:42.600 --> 01:47:46.560 clearly doesn't care about the safety of personal information or 1649 01:47:46.600 --> 01:47:50.239 the limits of what can be kept secret. This person 1650 01:47:50.359 --> 01:47:53.600 often acts as a source of information and talks a 1651 01:47:53.600 --> 01:47:56.960 lot to get ahead in social settings to get what 1652 01:47:57.000 --> 01:48:00.840 they want. They share and change information to try to 1653 01:48:00.960 --> 01:48:06.279 change people's minds, make deals, or even start fights. This 1654 01:48:06.399 --> 01:48:10.359 kind of person sees relationships as functional, which means they 1655 01:48:10.399 --> 01:48:13.720 see other people as means to an end and private 1656 01:48:13.760 --> 01:48:18.239 information as something that can be sold. These kinds of 1657 01:48:18.279 --> 01:48:21.800 crimes hurt the person in many ways. It makes people 1658 01:48:21.840 --> 01:48:25.800 feel unsafe and suspicious, which breaks down a relationship that 1659 01:48:25.880 --> 01:48:31.239 could have been helpful and trustworthy. People's identities, relationships, and 1660 01:48:31.399 --> 01:48:35.680 self esteem can be hurt when personal information is misused, 1661 01:48:36.039 --> 01:48:39.840 which can have mental and social effects. To stay safe 1662 01:48:39.880 --> 01:48:43.279 from these types of relationship thieves, you need to figure 1663 01:48:43.319 --> 01:48:47.159 out this pattern of behavior. It means being careful about 1664 01:48:47.159 --> 01:48:49.920 what you tell other people and what you say about 1665 01:48:49.920 --> 01:48:53.279 them when they're not around. The amount of privacy they 1666 01:48:53.319 --> 01:48:56.680 protect and the number of times they spread stories about 1667 01:48:56.680 --> 01:48:59.439 other people can tell you a lot about who they 1668 01:48:59.439 --> 01:49:02.520 are and what they want. If you want to keep 1669 01:49:02.560 --> 01:49:06.520 your pride and have your personal limits observed at all times, 1670 01:49:07.039 --> 01:49:09.600 you need to be aware of this trend and do 1671 01:49:09.640 --> 01:49:15.319 something about it. Five access that you choose. They're not free, 1672 01:49:15.760 --> 01:49:19.600 but you are. This limited access makes it sound like 1673 01:49:19.640 --> 01:49:22.479 there is only one person on the line at all times. 1674 01:49:23.119 --> 01:49:25.800 Like a phone line where only one person is always 1675 01:49:25.880 --> 01:49:30.159 on call, anyone can always count on you to listen, help, 1676 01:49:30.600 --> 01:49:34.119 or back them. In this case, because they are open books, 1677 01:49:34.520 --> 01:49:38.000 they can easily get to your schedule your feelings and 1678 01:49:38.079 --> 01:49:42.319 your funds. But the other person's availability is as rare 1679 01:49:42.399 --> 01:49:45.199 as a comet in the night sky. It comes and 1680 01:49:45.279 --> 01:49:48.479 goes on its own terms. That's not at all how 1681 01:49:48.520 --> 01:49:52.239 it is. They aren't just different because of busy schedules 1682 01:49:52.319 --> 01:49:55.960 or different goals. It's a choice. The person made a 1683 01:49:56.000 --> 01:49:59.800 smart move they made. Being unavailable helps them in two 1684 01:49:59.800 --> 01:50:03.000 way way. It keeps them at a distance that works 1685 01:50:03.039 --> 01:50:06.399 for them, and it gives them control. They make you 1686 01:50:06.520 --> 01:50:09.600 want more by not being available all the time, and 1687 01:50:09.720 --> 01:50:12.600 you'll be thankful for any time or care they do 1688 01:50:12.680 --> 01:50:16.359 give you. People in these types of relationships will often 1689 01:50:16.399 --> 01:50:19.600 give you reasons to wait or just ignore you when 1690 01:50:19.600 --> 01:50:22.720 you try to connect or chat with them. Some people 1691 01:50:22.800 --> 01:50:26.800 might not answer your calls, texts, or wants might not 1692 01:50:26.880 --> 01:50:29.479 be seen when they talk to each other. Most of 1693 01:50:29.520 --> 01:50:32.640 the time, it's because it fits their needs or goals. 1694 01:50:33.239 --> 01:50:35.840 If you only give them what they want, the connection 1695 01:50:36.039 --> 01:50:39.399 stops being two way and you become more of a comfort. 1696 01:50:39.920 --> 01:50:42.960 It's possible for this pattern to make you feel very bad. 1697 01:50:43.520 --> 01:50:46.800 You start to question how important what you're doing and 1698 01:50:46.880 --> 01:50:49.880 how important you are to them, which makes you feel 1699 01:50:49.920 --> 01:50:54.000 bad about yourself. Feelings of annoyance and anger are present 1700 01:50:54.439 --> 01:50:57.600 because you know that their hard work and availability are 1701 01:50:57.640 --> 01:51:01.079 not valued. It is really important to know how limited 1702 01:51:01.119 --> 01:51:04.640 access works. To do this, you have to step back 1703 01:51:04.720 --> 01:51:09.479 and judge the relationship's mix of effort and availability without bias. 1704 01:51:10.079 --> 01:51:13.640 It tells people that respect, hard work, and being there 1705 01:51:13.640 --> 01:51:17.720 for each other are key to having good relationships. For 1706 01:51:18.720 --> 01:51:22.880 making you feel bad about yourself, think of guilt as 1707 01:51:22.880 --> 01:51:26.600 a puppeteer's string that pulls at good people's minds and 1708 01:51:26.720 --> 01:51:29.279 pushes them in a path they might not want to go. 1709 01:51:30.239 --> 01:51:34.439 Your sense of duty, humanity, or justice are being used 1710 01:51:34.439 --> 01:51:37.560 against you by someone who is good at pulling these strings. 1711 01:51:38.199 --> 01:51:40.520 If you say no, they might ask in a way 1712 01:51:40.520 --> 01:51:42.920 that makes it look like you don't care or are 1713 01:51:42.920 --> 01:51:46.479 being rude. Some people may also remind you of past 1714 01:51:46.560 --> 01:51:49.640 favors or events, which could mean you still need to 1715 01:51:49.680 --> 01:51:52.760 say something to them, as you may owe them something. 1716 01:51:53.560 --> 01:51:56.600 People are often made to feel bad in this sneaky way. 1717 01:51:57.359 --> 01:52:00.399 At first, they only want small gifts or b breaks, 1718 01:52:00.760 --> 01:52:04.560 but over time they start to expect bigger things. You 1719 01:52:04.640 --> 01:52:07.279 can't say no any more because your limits are being 1720 01:52:07.319 --> 01:52:10.560 pushed back. You feel stuck in a cycle of guilt. 1721 01:52:10.840 --> 01:52:13.920 And doing what you're told. The needs and wants of 1722 01:52:13.960 --> 01:52:17.520 the other person come first, while yours are forgotten or 1723 01:52:17.640 --> 01:52:22.039 pushed to the side. People want to be seen as good, helpful, 1724 01:52:22.199 --> 01:52:25.199 and caring, and this is a big part of their nature. 1725 01:52:25.880 --> 01:52:28.880 It works with this plan because it plays on that desire. 1726 01:52:29.600 --> 01:52:32.760 These traits are turned into tools of control by the 1727 01:52:32.840 --> 01:52:36.479 person who uses it. When someone makes you feel bad, 1728 01:52:36.960 --> 01:52:39.880 you do things because you have to, not because you 1729 01:52:39.920 --> 01:52:42.720 want to or because you care about the other person. 1730 01:52:43.560 --> 01:52:46.760 Most of the time, this makes you angry or tired. 1731 01:52:47.520 --> 01:52:49.880 You need to be aware of when someone is using 1732 01:52:49.920 --> 01:52:52.840 guilt to control you if you care about your own 1733 01:52:52.920 --> 01:52:56.560 well being and boundaries. It means being aware of how 1734 01:52:56.600 --> 01:52:59.640 people are feeling and being able to tell the difference 1735 01:52:59.680 --> 01:53:03.159 between genuine calls for help and people who are trying 1736 01:53:03.199 --> 01:53:06.720 to take advantage of your kindness. You should also be 1737 01:53:06.760 --> 01:53:09.359 brave enough to ask why people want you to do 1738 01:53:09.439 --> 01:53:13.399 something and fight for your right to refuse without feeling 1739 01:53:13.439 --> 01:53:17.000 bad about it. It's important to see and deal with 1740 01:53:17.039 --> 01:53:20.560 this kind of manipulative behavior if you want to build 1741 01:53:20.600 --> 01:53:25.560 better relationships based on respect, care, and choice instead of 1742 01:53:25.640 --> 01:53:31.119 duty and guilt. Third, not being interested in you as 1743 01:53:31.159 --> 01:53:34.560 a person. A talk is like a busy two way 1744 01:53:34.600 --> 01:53:38.920 street where thoughts, emotions, and feelings are always going back 1745 01:53:38.960 --> 01:53:42.520 and forth. There are a lot of interested and caring 1746 01:53:42.600 --> 01:53:45.880 people on this street. When you're with someone who only 1747 01:53:45.920 --> 01:53:49.039 wants to use you, this street turns into a one 1748 01:53:49.079 --> 01:53:53.600 way road. Everybody talks about their own lives and experiences, 1749 01:53:54.079 --> 01:53:56.880 and when you try to talk about yours, you often 1750 01:53:56.920 --> 01:53:59.920 get off track or get stuck. This lack of dry 1751 01:54:00.000 --> 01:54:03.119 live shows up in a number of different ways. When 1752 01:54:03.119 --> 01:54:06.439 you talk to these types of people. Chats often feel 1753 01:54:06.479 --> 01:54:09.199 like one way rants that are dressed up as talks. 1754 01:54:09.760 --> 01:54:12.479 They get excited when they talk about the little things 1755 01:54:12.520 --> 01:54:16.760 that happen in their daily lives, their problems, and their successes. 1756 01:54:17.319 --> 01:54:20.600 They want you to understand and care, But when they 1757 01:54:20.640 --> 01:54:24.760 see you they stop being interested. If you answer, they 1758 01:54:24.840 --> 01:54:28.159 might quickly change the subject or nod, or they might 1759 01:54:28.239 --> 01:54:31.680 act like they're not interested or are anxious. Things that 1760 01:54:31.760 --> 01:54:34.399 happen to you don't seem to bother them much. No 1761 01:54:34.479 --> 01:54:37.439 matter how big or small they are. They're not just 1762 01:54:37.520 --> 01:54:40.039 being rude or not knowing how to talk to people. 1763 01:54:40.520 --> 01:54:43.600 They're making a clear statement of their plans and goals. 1764 01:54:44.199 --> 01:54:47.600 They make it seem like their wants, views, and life 1765 01:54:47.640 --> 01:54:50.800 are more important than yours. By taking over the talk 1766 01:54:51.119 --> 01:54:54.359 and not caring about your stories, they are the center 1767 01:54:54.399 --> 01:54:57.560 of attention and you are only there to listen or 1768 01:54:57.560 --> 01:55:01.279 give help. This is a mild form of ego centrism. 1769 01:55:01.800 --> 01:55:05.079 When these things happen, they can have very sad results. 1770 01:55:05.640 --> 01:55:08.960 When people don't feel understood and valued, they may feel 1771 01:55:09.000 --> 01:55:12.479 like they don't matter and become angry over time. This 1772 01:55:12.640 --> 01:55:15.119 mismatch could make you feel more like a part of 1773 01:55:15.159 --> 01:55:18.479 their life than an equal partner. You should know that 1774 01:55:18.560 --> 01:55:21.359 they don't care about you as a person. Part of 1775 01:55:21.399 --> 01:55:24.000 this is being aware of how you connect with other 1776 01:55:24.079 --> 01:55:28.479 people and how one sided conversations make you feel. This 1777 01:55:28.680 --> 01:55:31.479 means that the friendship should be examined to see if 1778 01:55:31.520 --> 01:55:34.279 it is good for both people. You can look for 1779 01:55:34.319 --> 01:55:38.279 better relationships where both of your stories and experiences are 1780 01:55:38.359 --> 01:55:42.760 valued and respected. Once you know about this mismatch Number two. 1781 01:55:43.520 --> 01:55:47.640 Being close on the outside, it looks like the water 1782 01:55:47.760 --> 01:55:50.319 at the top of a lake. It seems to have 1783 01:55:50.439 --> 01:55:54.560 depth and substance at first glance, but upon closer inspection 1784 01:55:55.079 --> 01:55:58.760 it becomes clear that it does not. That's when someone 1785 01:55:58.840 --> 01:56:01.640 might act like a close friend or a serious partner. 1786 01:56:02.279 --> 01:56:05.359 They may laugh together, talk a lot, and even have 1787 01:56:05.479 --> 01:56:09.960 what look like private conversations. On the other hand, this 1788 01:56:10.000 --> 01:56:13.960 connection never really turns into meaning. This lack of real 1789 01:56:14.039 --> 01:56:17.159 will can be seen in several ways. Some people are 1790 01:56:17.199 --> 01:56:20.159 quick to enjoy the good parts of the relationship, but 1791 01:56:20.319 --> 01:56:22.640 quick to pull away when they have to work hard 1792 01:56:22.760 --> 01:56:26.920 or make sacrifices. People don't always have strong support when 1793 01:56:26.920 --> 01:56:29.600 they need it. They may be there for parties and 1794 01:56:29.680 --> 01:56:32.640 happy times, but not at all when things are bad 1795 01:56:33.119 --> 01:56:35.960 or when you feel weak. You're not always able to 1796 01:56:36.000 --> 01:56:39.119 trust and count on each other, which are important parts 1797 01:56:39.159 --> 01:56:43.079 of real relationships. People often say they will do something, 1798 01:56:43.439 --> 01:56:46.760 but then change their mind at the last minute. Most 1799 01:56:46.760 --> 01:56:49.800 of the time, they decide when to start dating based 1800 01:56:49.840 --> 01:56:53.079 on what's best for them and what's easy for them. 1801 01:56:53.359 --> 01:56:55.720 Many people do this to keep a list of people 1802 01:56:55.760 --> 01:56:58.600 they can call on when they need to without having 1803 01:56:58.640 --> 01:57:02.239 to deal with the emotional work that comes with real relationships. 1804 01:57:02.880 --> 01:57:05.560 It keeps people close enough to help each other out 1805 01:57:05.880 --> 01:57:09.159 without being too close to expect each other to work together. 1806 01:57:09.840 --> 01:57:12.520 When you're close to someone, you get the benefits of 1807 01:57:12.560 --> 01:57:15.720 being close without the risk of real connection or duty. 1808 01:57:16.439 --> 01:57:19.039 In a bond. It's important to be able to tell 1809 01:57:19.079 --> 01:57:22.640 the difference between being close on the outside and really 1810 01:57:22.680 --> 01:57:26.560 being close. When you feel close to someone, you should 1811 01:57:26.560 --> 01:57:29.560 watch how they connect with others and ask yourself if 1812 01:57:29.560 --> 01:57:34.159 their actions show real commitment and shared weakness. They want 1813 01:57:34.199 --> 01:57:36.439 to know if the other person is putting an equal 1814 01:57:36.520 --> 01:57:39.960 amount of mental effort into the relationship, or if it's 1815 01:57:40.000 --> 01:57:43.520 skewed toward getting what they want. Even though the two 1816 01:57:43.560 --> 01:57:47.359 people seem close, the friendship isn't really based on trust 1817 01:57:47.479 --> 01:57:50.880 or growth for either of them. Once you know this pattern, 1818 01:57:51.159 --> 01:57:54.720 you can find and build relationships based on being honest, 1819 01:57:55.039 --> 01:58:00.279 giving and receiving, and having real feelings. Number one not 1820 01:58:00.600 --> 01:58:04.880 always being respectful. This isn't just a bad choice or 1821 01:58:04.880 --> 01:58:07.960 a quickly said thing that went wrong. It goes through 1822 01:58:08.000 --> 01:58:10.319 the link like a thread that won't come out every 1823 01:58:10.319 --> 01:58:14.359 once in a while. It appears in various ways. It 1824 01:58:14.399 --> 01:58:17.800 could be through hurtful words or actions, or it could 1825 01:58:17.800 --> 01:58:22.000 be just not caring about your feelings and boundaries. Feelings 1826 01:58:22.079 --> 01:58:25.199 like this can be quiet like a bunch of little cuts, 1827 01:58:25.680 --> 01:58:29.199 or loud like a big pride wound. Think of a 1828 01:58:29.239 --> 01:58:33.039 garden where respect is the food that keeps relationships living. 1829 01:58:33.600 --> 01:58:36.399 The land is empty and can't grow anything good because 1830 01:58:36.439 --> 01:58:40.039 it's not there. When people don't respect and care about 1831 01:58:40.079 --> 01:58:42.960 each other, it makes it hard to talk or connect. 1832 01:58:43.520 --> 01:58:46.800 If someone doesn't value you, they may use this against 1833 01:58:46.800 --> 01:58:50.239 you to control or rule the relationship, even if they 1834 01:58:50.279 --> 01:58:53.079 aren't aware of it. It's a way to stay ahead 1835 01:58:53.079 --> 01:58:56.279 in a place where everyone should be treated equally and 1836 01:58:56.359 --> 01:59:01.520 with care. This rudeness that never stops rip the relationship apart. 1837 01:59:02.199 --> 01:59:05.720 They turn into emotional battles where no one cares who dies, 1838 01:59:06.159 --> 01:59:09.319 instead of places where people can work out their differences 1839 01:59:09.680 --> 01:59:14.239 through understanding and kindness. Sometimes it's impossible to get back 1840 01:59:14.279 --> 01:59:17.159 to a normal state of respect and trust when the 1841 01:59:17.239 --> 01:59:20.960 regular ups and downs of relationships are thrown off. That 1842 01:59:21.119 --> 01:59:24.239 is why it is very important to understand and see 1843 01:59:24.279 --> 01:59:27.760 this pattern of disrespect. It means taking a look at 1844 01:59:27.800 --> 01:59:30.960 more than one event to understand how people act in general. 1845 01:59:31.600 --> 01:59:34.920 Respect isn't just big things we do. It's also the 1846 01:59:34.960 --> 01:59:38.640 little things we do every day, like noticing when someone 1847 01:59:38.680 --> 01:59:41.399 is doing a good job or getting into a fight. 1848 01:59:42.119 --> 01:59:45.119 You can tell someone doesn't see you as an equal partner. 1849 01:59:45.479 --> 01:59:48.199 If they don't value you, they see you as a 1850 01:59:48.239 --> 01:59:51.520 way to get something else. This lack of respect for 1851 01:59:51.600 --> 01:59:55.079 your feelings and honor shows that the relationship is really 1852 01:59:55.159 --> 01:59:58.760 out of whack and not healthy. People who value their 1853 01:59:58.760 --> 02:00:01.720 own self respect and want to be in relationships based 1854 02:00:01.760 --> 02:00:05.600 on mutual respect and equality need to figure out this trait. 1855 02:00:10.520 --> 02:00:14.800 As the Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius put it, the universe 1856 02:00:14.840 --> 02:00:17.560 has changed our life, for it is what we think 1857 02:00:17.640 --> 02:00:21.680 it is. Now it's time to start an interesting journey 1858 02:00:21.720 --> 02:00:25.640 through the twelve global rules that govern our daily lives 1859 02:00:25.920 --> 02:00:29.560 in a subtle but strong way. These rules are the 1860 02:00:29.640 --> 02:00:33.279 hidden forces that shape our world. Like the threads of 1861 02:00:33.319 --> 02:00:36.920 fate that the Stoics talked about. Each one has a 1862 02:00:36.960 --> 02:00:40.199 deep effect and can help us not only understand the 1863 02:00:40.239 --> 02:00:43.279 world around us, but also get in tune with the 1864 02:00:43.319 --> 02:00:47.279 beating heart of the universe. On this trip, we will 1865 02:00:47.319 --> 02:00:50.319 learn how these rules can change the way you see things, 1866 02:00:50.800 --> 02:00:54.359 raise your awareness, and lead you to a happier, more 1867 02:00:54.439 --> 02:00:58.479 satisfying life. Things have brought you to this point by 1868 02:00:58.520 --> 02:01:03.039 some outside force. Stay tuned as we work together to 1869 02:01:03.119 --> 02:01:07.239 figure out these twelve laws of nature. A basic concept 1870 02:01:07.359 --> 02:01:10.560 called the law of cause and effect says that everything 1871 02:01:10.640 --> 02:01:13.319 that happens has a response that goes along with it. 1872 02:01:14.000 --> 02:01:18.039 This idea dispels the idea that life is chance, pointing 1873 02:01:18.119 --> 02:01:21.239 out that every action we take starts a chain of events. 1874 02:01:21.760 --> 02:01:24.720 It's a reflection of the complicated link between what we 1875 02:01:24.800 --> 02:01:28.840 do and what happens next, making us think very carefully 1876 02:01:28.880 --> 02:01:32.800 about the decisions we make. By accepting this law, we 1877 02:01:32.960 --> 02:01:35.960 move from just responding to the many things that happen 1878 02:01:36.000 --> 02:01:40.319 in our lives to actively shaping our future. This law 1879 02:01:40.520 --> 02:01:43.199 is a lighthouse that helps us see that we are 1880 02:01:43.239 --> 02:01:46.239 not just pieces in the game of life, but rather 1881 02:01:46.319 --> 02:01:49.960 the master builders of our own fate. When you understand 1882 02:01:50.000 --> 02:01:53.079 that your choices and actions are the chisels and hammers 1883 02:01:53.079 --> 02:01:55.760 that shape the art of your life, you can use 1884 02:01:55.800 --> 02:01:59.960 it to really improve yourself. As the stoic philosopher says 1885 02:02:00.039 --> 02:02:03.720 Na said, we are more often scared than hurt, and 1886 02:02:03.840 --> 02:02:07.720 we suffer more from imagination than from reality. But this 1887 02:02:07.880 --> 02:02:10.960 is exactly what the law means. It tells us that 1888 02:02:11.000 --> 02:02:16.000 our actions, not outside events, can shape our reality. When 1889 02:02:16.000 --> 02:02:18.760 we use this rule, we start to see things in 1890 02:02:18.880 --> 02:02:22.199 terms of how they happen. Every decision we make and 1891 02:02:22.279 --> 02:02:25.119 every step we take is a single stroke in the 1892 02:02:25.119 --> 02:02:29.479 big picture of our lives. This understanding encourages us to 1893 02:02:29.520 --> 02:02:33.239 take care of our lives and intentionally guide them toward 1894 02:02:33.319 --> 02:02:38.279 our goals, which creates a responsible mindset to understand that 1895 02:02:38.319 --> 02:02:41.760 the seeds we plant today will grow into fruits we 1896 02:02:41.840 --> 02:02:46.399 can pick tomorrow. These days, life is often chaotic and 1897 02:02:46.560 --> 02:02:49.600 hard to plan, but the law of cause and effect 1898 02:02:49.680 --> 02:02:53.000 reminds us that we have the power to change our path. 1899 02:02:53.720 --> 02:02:56.760 As a result, it tells us not to act on emotion, 1900 02:02:57.279 --> 02:03:00.199 but rather to think about what might happen after we 1901 02:03:00.239 --> 02:03:04.560 do something. This rule isn't just an idea in philosophy. 1902 02:03:05.119 --> 02:03:08.159 It's also a wise way to get through the complicated 1903 02:03:08.239 --> 02:03:13.319 parts of life with purpose and meaning. When we internalize 1904 02:03:13.359 --> 02:03:16.680 this rule, we learn to see problems not as problems 1905 02:03:16.720 --> 02:03:20.000 to be solved, but as chances to shape our future. 1906 02:03:20.880 --> 02:03:24.039 It shows us that our present situation is not random, 1907 02:03:24.439 --> 02:03:26.640 but the result of what we did in the past, 1908 02:03:27.039 --> 02:03:30.640 and that the decisions we make today will shape our future. 1909 02:03:31.520 --> 02:03:34.520 This point of view is not only powerful, it's also 1910 02:03:34.760 --> 02:03:37.960 life changing, giving you a path to a life full 1911 02:03:38.000 --> 02:03:41.880 of meaning and satisfaction. For the most part, the law 1912 02:03:41.920 --> 02:03:44.279 of cause and effect is a wake up call to 1913 02:03:44.359 --> 02:03:48.439 live intentionally and thoughtfully. What it means is that we 1914 02:03:48.479 --> 02:03:51.520 are invited to take charge of our own stories and 1915 02:03:51.760 --> 02:03:54.720 use the power we have to shape our lives as 1916 02:03:54.760 --> 02:03:57.800 we go through the ups and downs of life. Let 1917 02:03:57.920 --> 02:04:01.000 us never forget that we hold the pen that rights 1918 02:04:01.039 --> 02:04:04.920 our fate. The law of compensation, which is based on 1919 02:04:05.000 --> 02:04:08.359 the ideas of fairness and balance, tells us that the 1920 02:04:08.399 --> 02:04:12.640 world naturally tries to keep things in balance. This rule 1921 02:04:12.720 --> 02:04:16.159 is not a way to punish people. Instead, it shows 1922 02:04:16.199 --> 02:04:19.239 that the world wants unity and balance in all of 1923 02:04:19.279 --> 02:04:23.359 its vastness. For every action, good or bad, there is 1924 02:04:23.399 --> 02:04:27.279 an equal and opposite reaction. This make sure that the 1925 02:04:27.319 --> 02:04:30.880 scales of justice are always level in the big picture 1926 02:04:30.920 --> 02:04:34.159 of the world. Time works on a different scale, and 1927 02:04:34.279 --> 02:04:38.560 things often happen slowly and quietly. The law of compensation 1928 02:04:38.760 --> 02:04:42.199 includes this part that reminds us to trust that life 1929 02:04:42.239 --> 02:04:45.439 will go on as it should and to always act 1930 02:04:45.479 --> 02:04:48.279 in a good way. It tells us to be aware 1931 02:04:48.319 --> 02:04:50.920 of the energy we put out into the world and 1932 02:04:51.039 --> 02:04:54.800 make sure it matches the outcomes we want. This law 1933 02:04:54.880 --> 02:04:57.319 makes it clear that our acts and the reasons we 1934 02:04:57.399 --> 02:05:01.159 do them are both very important. It shows us that 1935 02:05:01.199 --> 02:05:04.520 both factors play a big role in determining the results 1936 02:05:04.560 --> 02:05:07.880 we see. Think about the story of a farmer who 1937 02:05:07.960 --> 02:05:11.079 carefully plants seeds and make sure they get the right 1938 02:05:11.119 --> 02:05:15.399 amount of water and sunshine. Over time, the seeds turn 1939 02:05:15.479 --> 02:05:18.840 into a bumper crop, showing how hard the farmer worked 1940 02:05:19.039 --> 02:05:22.199 and what he or she wanted to achieve. In the 1941 02:05:22.279 --> 02:05:25.359 same way, what we do and how we feel is 1942 02:05:25.520 --> 02:05:28.880 like planting seeds in the world. The goods we get 1943 02:05:28.920 --> 02:05:31.880 in life depend on how much care and thought we 1944 02:05:31.920 --> 02:05:34.760 put into them. When we act in line with our 1945 02:05:34.800 --> 02:05:38.159 greatest goals and ideals, we ask the world to do 1946 02:05:38.279 --> 02:05:41.640 the same. This knowledge gives us a sense of peace 1947 02:05:41.680 --> 02:05:44.439 and purpose by showing us that what we do in 1948 02:05:44.439 --> 02:05:48.279 the world is part of a bigger, more peaceful exchange. 1949 02:05:48.840 --> 02:05:52.439 People are encouraged by the law of compensation to think 1950 02:05:52.479 --> 02:05:55.319 about their deeds and make sure they are good for 1951 02:05:55.359 --> 02:05:58.520 the world around them. In the end, the law of 1952 02:05:58.600 --> 02:06:02.680 compensation shows us how powerful balance and justice are in 1953 02:06:02.720 --> 02:06:06.079 the world. To be aware of our deeds and goals 1954 02:06:06.119 --> 02:06:09.079 and make sure they are in line with our core ideals, 1955 02:06:09.520 --> 02:06:12.520 this is what it says. We can be sure that 1956 02:06:12.560 --> 02:06:15.800 the world will react in kind, giving our lives a 1957 02:06:15.880 --> 02:06:19.640 sense of balance and meaning. This knowledge is a useful 1958 02:06:19.720 --> 02:06:22.479 lesson for everyone who wants to make their life better 1959 02:06:22.880 --> 02:06:27.039 and make the world a better place. The law of rhythm, 1960 02:06:27.279 --> 02:06:30.880 a deep principle that controls our lives, tells us that 1961 02:06:30.960 --> 02:06:34.960 life will always go up and down. This law basically 1962 02:06:35.000 --> 02:06:38.399 says that life follows a regular pattern with rounds of 1963 02:06:38.520 --> 02:06:42.000 highs and lows, like how waves in the ocean move 1964 02:06:42.119 --> 02:06:45.560 back and forth. It serves as a warning that life 1965 02:06:45.600 --> 02:06:49.359 is basically a dance of forms coming together and falling 1966 02:06:49.399 --> 02:06:54.000 apart of growing and dying. Imagine that life is a 1967 02:06:54.039 --> 02:06:58.439 big symphony with smooth changes between movements. The law of 1968 02:06:58.520 --> 02:07:01.840 rhythm is like the director of the symphony, making sure 1969 02:07:01.880 --> 02:07:04.640 that every note and beat fits in with the natural 1970 02:07:04.800 --> 02:07:08.039 order of the world. This law tells us that just 1971 02:07:08.239 --> 02:07:12.119 like the seasons change every year, our lives also change 1972 02:07:12.159 --> 02:07:16.399 in predictable ways. It means realizing that life goes through 1973 02:07:16.439 --> 02:07:20.039 regular cycles that affect everything from how we grow as 1974 02:07:20.079 --> 02:07:22.960 people to how we connect with the world around us. 1975 02:07:23.800 --> 02:07:28.239 As the stoic philosopher Seneca said, every new beginning comes 1976 02:07:28.279 --> 02:07:31.760 from some other beginning's end. This is what the law 1977 02:07:31.800 --> 02:07:34.600 of rhythm is all about. It's a warning that in 1978 02:07:34.640 --> 02:07:37.880 the big picture of life, every ending is just the 1979 02:07:37.920 --> 02:07:40.920 start of a new one. This law tells us to 1980 02:07:40.960 --> 02:07:43.920 go with the flow of life, knowing that for every 1981 02:07:44.000 --> 02:07:47.279 high tide of happiness and success, there will be a 1982 02:07:47.319 --> 02:07:51.319 low tide of thought and difficulty. It's not just an 1983 02:07:51.319 --> 02:07:55.159 intellectual idea. The law of rhythm is also a useful 1984 02:07:55.199 --> 02:07:58.279 way to live your life. It teaches us to be 1985 02:07:58.399 --> 02:08:02.560 humble when things go well and resilient when things go wrong. 1986 02:08:03.239 --> 02:08:06.520 It tells us that problems are often followed by chances, 1987 02:08:07.000 --> 02:08:11.039 and that times of happiness are intermingled with times of reflection. 1988 02:08:12.000 --> 02:08:14.880 We can handle the challenges of life more easily and 1989 02:08:15.000 --> 02:08:19.640 peacefully if we understand and follow this pace. The law 1990 02:08:19.680 --> 02:08:22.600 of rhythm is a source of security in our modern, 1991 02:08:22.720 --> 02:08:26.199 fast paced world, where the only thing that stays the 1992 02:08:26.239 --> 02:08:30.359 same is change. It tells us not to fight life's 1993 02:08:30.479 --> 02:08:33.960 natural changes, but to go with them, like skilled surfers 1994 02:08:34.039 --> 02:08:37.880 riding the waves. This law encourages us to accept all 1995 02:08:37.920 --> 02:08:41.560 of life's stages, knowing that each one, whether it's happy 1996 02:08:41.640 --> 02:08:46.359 or sad, is temporary and necessary for our growth. Finally, 1997 02:08:46.760 --> 02:08:49.359 the law of rhythm is a strong warning of how 1998 02:08:49.439 --> 02:08:52.600 things should be in the world. We learn to respect 1999 02:08:52.600 --> 02:08:56.279 the beauty of life's cycles and understand that each stage, 2000 02:08:56.479 --> 02:08:59.319 whether it's a time of growth or a time of difficulty, 2001 02:08:59.680 --> 02:09:03.239 is an important part of our journey. When we accept 2002 02:09:03.239 --> 02:09:05.800 this rule, we learn to go with the flow of 2003 02:09:05.840 --> 02:09:09.159 life and find balance and peace in the way our 2004 02:09:09.199 --> 02:09:13.159 lives are always changing. The law of relativity is a 2005 02:09:13.279 --> 02:09:16.439 very important idea that tells us that the way we 2006 02:09:16.479 --> 02:09:21.319 see things changes what is real. It whispers an old truth. 2007 02:09:21.960 --> 02:09:25.279 Nothing in life is good or bad by nature. What 2008 02:09:25.359 --> 02:09:29.960 makes it meaningful is how we see it. Epictetus, a stoic, 2009 02:09:30.199 --> 02:09:33.600 once said, it's not what happens to you that matters, 2010 02:09:34.000 --> 02:09:37.079 but how you react to it. When you're facing a 2011 02:09:37.119 --> 02:09:41.279 mountain that seems impossible to climb, the law of relativity 2012 02:09:41.399 --> 02:09:44.159 tells you to see it not as a problem, but 2013 02:09:44.279 --> 02:09:47.119 as a part of your journey that is different from 2014 02:09:47.119 --> 02:09:51.239 everyone else's. It's telling you to accept your problems as 2015 02:09:51.439 --> 02:09:55.359 unique situations that are meant to help you grow. We 2016 02:09:55.560 --> 02:09:58.720 learn how to change our minds about our problems by 2017 02:09:58.760 --> 02:10:01.439 looking at them through the legs ends of growth and learning, 2018 02:10:01.920 --> 02:10:05.119 not just as problems that we have to deal with. 2019 02:10:05.119 --> 02:10:08.439 With stoicism, this fits right in with the idea that 2020 02:10:08.520 --> 02:10:11.520 we should focus on what we can control and let 2021 02:10:11.600 --> 02:10:15.039 go of what we can't. The law of relativity is 2022 02:10:15.079 --> 02:10:17.720 based on the idea that our power lies in how 2023 02:10:17.760 --> 02:10:22.960 we perceive things. Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius once said, you 2024 02:10:23.079 --> 02:10:27.239 have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this 2025 02:10:27.800 --> 02:10:31.479 and you will find strength. When we accept this law 2026 02:10:31.560 --> 02:10:35.439 with calm and kindness, we can start to enjoy our success, 2027 02:10:35.880 --> 02:10:38.920 no matter how small, without having to compare it to 2028 02:10:38.960 --> 02:10:42.199 what other people are doing. We should respect our own 2029 02:10:42.359 --> 02:10:46.359 unique road, which has its own set of challenges and successes. 2030 02:10:46.720 --> 02:10:50.359 Because of this rule is a warning that everyone has 2031 02:10:50.399 --> 02:10:53.880 a unique path, which is what makes life so interesting 2032 02:10:53.960 --> 02:10:58.159 and full of different experiences. In addition, the law of 2033 02:10:58.199 --> 02:11:01.600 relativity helps us understand and that everyone is going through 2034 02:11:01.640 --> 02:11:05.119 a difficult time. We learn more about other people and 2035 02:11:05.199 --> 02:11:08.439 become more kind to them. This not only makes our 2036 02:11:08.439 --> 02:11:12.439 relationships better, but it also makes us feel more fulfilled 2037 02:11:12.479 --> 02:11:15.960 and true to ourselves in life. We feel more grounded 2038 02:11:16.000 --> 02:11:19.119 and balanced When we follow this law. We learn to 2039 02:11:19.199 --> 02:11:22.119 see the things that happen in our lives not just 2040 02:11:22.159 --> 02:11:25.640 as things that happen, but as chances to learn and grow. 2041 02:11:26.199 --> 02:11:29.680 When you stop comparing things and start thinking about yourself 2042 02:11:29.720 --> 02:11:33.760 and your growth. You change your attitude. Remember the law 2043 02:11:33.840 --> 02:11:36.840 of relativity as you go through the ups and downs 2044 02:11:36.840 --> 02:11:39.560 of life. Let it lead you to a place where 2045 02:11:39.600 --> 02:11:44.359 you can understand and accept other people and yourself. You'll 2046 02:11:44.399 --> 02:11:47.159 feel more at peace and like your life has a 2047 02:11:47.159 --> 02:11:50.600 reason if you accept your journey with all of its 2048 02:11:50.720 --> 02:11:57.239 unique challenges and successes. Another Stoic philosopher, Seneca, said life 2049 02:11:57.279 --> 02:12:00.319 is like a play. It's not the length that matters, 2050 02:12:00.760 --> 02:12:04.760 but the excellence of the acting. Your journey is your 2051 02:12:04.800 --> 02:12:08.720 own custom made play, and its quality depends on how 2052 02:12:08.760 --> 02:12:12.680 you choose to understand and act in it. The law 2053 02:12:12.760 --> 02:12:17.520 of perpetual transmutation is a deep concept that controls our lives. 2054 02:12:18.199 --> 02:12:20.560 It tells us about how energy in the world is 2055 02:12:20.600 --> 02:12:25.439 always changing. Energy is always changing forms, and this law 2056 02:12:25.520 --> 02:12:29.399 shows us how dynamic energy is. It also gives us 2057 02:12:29.399 --> 02:12:32.760 a powerful picture of how flexible the forces around us 2058 02:12:33.079 --> 02:12:36.199 and inside us are. Think of this rule as a 2059 02:12:36.199 --> 02:12:40.239 flashlight that shows you the way to understanding how flexible 2060 02:12:40.439 --> 02:12:44.399 energy really is. It means that the forces in our lives, 2061 02:12:44.840 --> 02:12:48.000 like our feelings and thoughts, are not set in stone, 2062 02:12:48.359 --> 02:12:53.039 but can change. This is a very important understanding because 2063 02:12:53.039 --> 02:12:55.840 it gives us the power to change the energy around 2064 02:12:55.920 --> 02:13:00.520 us by deciding to be positive and hopeful and change 2065 02:13:00.560 --> 02:13:03.560 the energy around us, which will have an effect on 2066 02:13:03.640 --> 02:13:07.640 our surroundings and the things we do. This law is 2067 02:13:07.680 --> 02:13:10.520 a good lesson of how much power we have over 2068 02:13:10.560 --> 02:13:14.640 the energy we send out and receive. What we can 2069 02:13:14.680 --> 02:13:18.239 do with energy is more important than the energy itself. 2070 02:13:18.880 --> 02:13:21.680 Our feelings and thoughts are not just mirrors of what 2071 02:13:21.800 --> 02:13:25.079 is happening to us. They are strong tools that can 2072 02:13:25.159 --> 02:13:29.600 change our world. We can transform our inner desires into 2073 02:13:29.640 --> 02:13:34.279 attainable goals by utilizing this energy with a positive frame 2074 02:13:34.319 --> 02:13:37.079 of mind. Take a look at the story of a 2075 02:13:37.119 --> 02:13:41.319 farmer and his yard to see what I mean. The farmer, 2076 02:13:41.640 --> 02:13:45.399 who stands for our brains, takes care of different plants 2077 02:13:45.760 --> 02:13:49.840 that represent our feelings and thoughts. We take care of 2078 02:13:49.880 --> 02:13:53.239 our thoughts with attention and mood, just like a farmer 2079 02:13:53.359 --> 02:13:56.520 takes care of plants by giving them water and sunshine. 2080 02:13:57.199 --> 02:14:00.159 If the farmer only cares about the weeds, they will 2081 02:14:00.159 --> 02:14:04.199 grow quickly and hide the pretty flowers. In the same way, 2082 02:14:04.600 --> 02:14:07.840 if we think about bad things, they will get stronger 2083 02:14:08.079 --> 02:14:11.399 and take over our minds. But if the farmer pays 2084 02:14:11.439 --> 02:14:14.399 attention to the flowers and takes good care of them, 2085 02:14:14.840 --> 02:14:17.920 they will grow and make the yard a bright oasis. 2086 02:14:18.640 --> 02:14:22.439 In the same way, if we think optimistic thoughts and 2087 02:14:22.520 --> 02:14:26.319 feed them positivity and hope, they will grow and change 2088 02:14:26.319 --> 02:14:29.960 our lives for the better. This story shows us how 2089 02:14:30.000 --> 02:14:33.800 important it is to keep in mind where our energy goes. 2090 02:14:34.560 --> 02:14:37.880 Focusing on good feelings and thoughts can be like planting 2091 02:14:37.880 --> 02:14:42.199 a field of happiness that can change our lives. Finally, 2092 02:14:42.600 --> 02:14:46.760 the law of perpetual transmutation is a strong warning that 2093 02:14:46.800 --> 02:14:49.479 we have the power to change the energy around us. 2094 02:14:50.159 --> 02:14:53.520 When we know that our thoughts and feelings are changing energies, 2095 02:14:53.960 --> 02:14:57.279 we can consciously move them in a good direction. This 2096 02:14:57.399 --> 02:14:59.840 then makes it possible for us to bring our dreams 2097 02:15:00.199 --> 02:15:04.279 life clearly. This story shows us that by focusing on 2098 02:15:04.359 --> 02:15:08.039 good thoughts and feelings, we can improve our lives and 2099 02:15:08.119 --> 02:15:11.279 make them more in line with our greatest hopes and dreams. 2100 02:15:11.960 --> 02:15:15.960 Remember that the energy you focus on shapes your reality, 2101 02:15:16.600 --> 02:15:20.079 so be smart about what you choose and let happiness 2102 02:15:20.119 --> 02:15:23.319 guide you. The next thing we'll talk about is the 2103 02:15:23.399 --> 02:15:27.800 deep and interesting law of correspondence, which connects our inner 2104 02:15:27.840 --> 02:15:31.960 world to the outside world. This law, which is one 2105 02:15:31.960 --> 02:15:35.920 of the twelve universal laws that rule our lives. Beautifully 2106 02:15:35.920 --> 02:15:39.720 shows how our inner thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are not 2107 02:15:39.800 --> 02:15:43.319 only reflected in the outside world, but are also deeply 2108 02:15:43.359 --> 02:15:46.600 connected to it. Imagine that this rule is like a 2109 02:15:46.680 --> 02:15:49.600 mirror that shows not only how we look, but also 2110 02:15:49.800 --> 02:15:53.760 what we really think and feel. Discovering a deep and 2111 02:15:53.880 --> 02:15:58.760 real link is more important than just finding commonalities. The 2112 02:15:58.840 --> 02:16:02.119 law of correspondence tells us that the thoughts and beliefs 2113 02:16:02.119 --> 02:16:05.520 we hold inside have a strong tendency to show up 2114 02:16:05.560 --> 02:16:09.720 in our outside events and surroundings. It's like the artist 2115 02:16:09.840 --> 02:16:13.079 is inside of us and the outside world is the 2116 02:16:13.119 --> 02:16:16.920 paper that our feelings and thoughts are painted on. This 2117 02:16:17.039 --> 02:16:20.720 theory tells us to look at our views, attitudes, and 2118 02:16:20.880 --> 02:16:25.000 regular ways of thinking very carefully. It serves as a 2119 02:16:25.039 --> 02:16:28.399 warning that our inner world is not a separate island, 2120 02:16:28.800 --> 02:16:31.760 but is strongly linked to the huge ocean of our 2121 02:16:31.800 --> 02:16:35.799 events in the outside world. When we learn this, we 2122 02:16:35.879 --> 02:16:38.760 can start to see how powerful we are and how 2123 02:16:38.760 --> 02:16:42.200 we can change the world around us. Think about the 2124 02:16:42.239 --> 02:16:45.959 story of a gardener and his garden. How the gardener 2125 02:16:46.040 --> 02:16:49.360 thinks and feels about his garden affects how he takes 2126 02:16:49.399 --> 02:16:52.040 care of it. If he thinks of it as a job, 2127 02:16:52.440 --> 02:16:55.079 the garden shows it, But if he looks at it 2128 02:16:55.159 --> 02:16:59.600 with love and desire, the garden grows. This metaphor is 2129 02:16:59.680 --> 02:17:02.959 like the law of correspondence in that it shows how 2130 02:17:03.000 --> 02:17:07.399 our inner state affects the outside world. Now, let's look 2131 02:17:07.440 --> 02:17:10.399 at what the Stoics said about this idea, which they 2132 02:17:10.440 --> 02:17:14.639 knew hundreds of years ago. The great Stoic philosopher Marcus 2133 02:17:14.680 --> 02:17:18.360 Aurelius said, the happiness of your life depends upon the 2134 02:17:18.440 --> 02:17:22.399 quality of your thoughts. This quote fits perfectly with the 2135 02:17:22.520 --> 02:17:25.959 law of correspondence because it says that we can change 2136 02:17:25.959 --> 02:17:30.079 the quality of our lives by thinking good, helpful thoughts. 2137 02:17:30.959 --> 02:17:33.760 As we look into this rule, it's important to keep 2138 02:17:33.799 --> 02:17:37.000 in mind that it's not about judging ourselves for everything 2139 02:17:37.000 --> 02:17:41.280 that happens in the outside world. Instead, it's about realizing 2140 02:17:41.360 --> 02:17:45.200 how our actions affect our feelings and using that knowledge 2141 02:17:45.239 --> 02:17:49.360 to create a good setting inside ourselves. By doing this, 2142 02:17:49.840 --> 02:17:52.719 we can start to see changes in the outside world 2143 02:17:53.040 --> 02:17:57.040 that match the growth and happiness we feel inside. In 2144 02:17:57.120 --> 02:18:00.639 the end, the law of correspondence is a strong warning 2145 02:18:00.719 --> 02:18:03.920 of how our inner and outer worlds are linked. It 2146 02:18:04.000 --> 02:18:06.760 tells us to keep an open mind about our ideas 2147 02:18:06.799 --> 02:18:10.600 and thoughts because they have the power to change our world. 2148 02:18:10.879 --> 02:18:13.280 This law should be close to our hearts as we 2149 02:18:13.319 --> 02:18:16.079 go through life. We should use it as a tool 2150 02:18:16.200 --> 02:18:19.840 to create a good inner world that shows up beautifully 2151 02:18:19.840 --> 02:18:25.120 in our outer experiences. Remember that what's inside is what's outside. 2152 02:18:25.719 --> 02:18:28.000 Let this be our theme as we learn the law 2153 02:18:28.040 --> 02:18:32.319 of correspondence, and in turn, how to live a good life. 2154 02:18:33.159 --> 02:18:36.159 A simple but deep idea called the law of action 2155 02:18:36.680 --> 02:18:39.680 can help us reach our goals and make our dreams 2156 02:18:39.719 --> 02:18:43.319 come true. It's a simple truth. If you want to 2157 02:18:43.399 --> 02:18:46.920 change your life, you have to do something like a 2158 02:18:46.959 --> 02:18:50.040 soft push. This rule makes us want to make our 2159 02:18:50.079 --> 02:18:53.840 thoats come true. What matters is not how fast we 2160 02:18:53.879 --> 02:18:57.000 do things, but what they are for and where they 2161 02:18:57.040 --> 02:19:00.559 are going. Think of this law as a small stream 2162 02:19:00.600 --> 02:19:04.719 of water that doesn't seem important at first, but slowly 2163 02:19:04.760 --> 02:19:08.760 cuts through the hardest rocks. This story uses metaphor to 2164 02:19:08.799 --> 02:19:13.479 show how powerful small, regular acts can be. At first, 2165 02:19:13.760 --> 02:19:17.280 they might not seem important, but like a stream, they 2166 02:19:17.280 --> 02:19:21.360 build strength and speed, finally changing things in big ways. 2167 02:19:22.000 --> 02:19:26.040 Instead of big jumps, we'll be taking slow, steady steps 2168 02:19:26.120 --> 02:19:30.479 toward our goals. This idea also shows us how important 2169 02:19:30.520 --> 02:19:33.840 it is to stick with something even when it gets hard. 2170 02:19:34.559 --> 02:19:37.840 Any work you do is a step forward, no matter 2171 02:19:37.840 --> 02:19:42.120 how small. It teaches you resilience and patience, while also 2172 02:19:42.239 --> 02:19:45.360 telling us that everything we do and everything we try 2173 02:19:45.399 --> 02:19:48.479 adds up to the big picture of our goals. Think 2174 02:19:48.520 --> 02:19:51.879 about the story of the bamboo tree. It doesn't grow 2175 02:19:51.920 --> 02:19:54.920 at all after it's planted for years, but in the 2176 02:19:54.959 --> 02:19:57.760 fifth year, it only takes six weeks for it to 2177 02:19:57.799 --> 02:20:01.680 grow to eighty feet. This glory shows how important it 2178 02:20:01.799 --> 02:20:04.680 is to keep going and believe in what you're doing. 2179 02:20:05.319 --> 02:20:08.280 The bamboo tree may have grown quickly, but it has 2180 02:20:08.319 --> 02:20:11.959 been getting care and attention for years. In the same way, 2181 02:20:12.399 --> 02:20:14.879 the things we do in our lives might not always 2182 02:20:14.959 --> 02:20:18.280 have instant effects, but if we are patient and keep 2183 02:20:18.319 --> 02:20:22.479 at it, they can lead to huge growth. Overall, the 2184 02:20:22.600 --> 02:20:25.280 law of action serves as a warning that we can 2185 02:20:25.319 --> 02:20:28.440 achieve our goals and dreams as long as we are 2186 02:20:28.440 --> 02:20:32.000 ready to act. We can't just wish for things to change, 2187 02:20:32.440 --> 02:20:34.879 We have to work for them. We can make the 2188 02:20:34.959 --> 02:20:40.479 life we want by consistently taking small steps toward our goals. Therefore, 2189 02:20:40.840 --> 02:20:43.680 let us answer the call to action, take care of 2190 02:20:43.719 --> 02:20:47.000 our lives and start the path to making our dreams 2191 02:20:47.040 --> 02:20:50.520 come true. Keep in mind that what counts is not 2192 02:20:50.680 --> 02:20:53.680 the size of the deed, but the will and purpose 2193 02:20:53.719 --> 02:20:57.280 that went into it. In the same way, the things 2194 02:20:57.319 --> 02:21:00.479 we do, even if they don't show effects right away, 2195 02:21:01.000 --> 02:21:04.600 set us up for future success. In the end, the 2196 02:21:04.719 --> 02:21:07.159 rule of action tells us that we can reach our 2197 02:21:07.280 --> 02:21:12.079 dreams and goals by taking consistent, full moves. It's a 2198 02:21:12.159 --> 02:21:15.680 lesson to respect every effort and know that big things 2199 02:21:15.719 --> 02:21:19.600 are often made up of many small, steady steps. As 2200 02:21:19.600 --> 02:21:22.959 we never get through life, let this law be our guide, 2201 02:21:23.200 --> 02:21:26.440 pushing us to act, keep going, and believe in the 2202 02:21:26.520 --> 02:21:29.840 slow but steady path to our dreams. For those who 2203 02:21:29.879 --> 02:21:33.600 want to make their lives better, take this law to heart. 2204 02:21:34.120 --> 02:21:37.399 Let your deeds speak for themselves, and watch as your 2205 02:21:37.440 --> 02:21:41.280 efforts slowly change the world. We can learn the deep 2206 02:21:41.360 --> 02:21:44.559 truth of balance in life from the law of polarity, 2207 02:21:45.200 --> 02:21:49.399 a concept that runs through everything we do. This global 2208 02:21:49.479 --> 02:21:52.600 law says that there is a natural balance between things 2209 02:21:52.639 --> 02:21:55.319 that seem to be in complete opposition to each other, 2210 02:21:55.840 --> 02:22:00.959 like light and dark, happiness and sadness, and success and failure. 2211 02:22:01.840 --> 02:22:05.760 That these differences are not just opposites, but rather parts 2212 02:22:05.760 --> 02:22:09.520 of a bigger hole that work together and enhance each other. 2213 02:22:10.399 --> 02:22:12.920 Think of the law of polarity as a dance of 2214 02:22:13.040 --> 02:22:18.000 cosmic duality. Each step, whether its forward or backward, is 2215 02:22:18.079 --> 02:22:22.319 important for the dance to flow smoothly. This law doesn't 2216 02:22:22.360 --> 02:22:26.520 just say that differences exist. It goes deeper and shows 2217 02:22:26.559 --> 02:22:29.040 how they work together in a way that most people 2218 02:22:29.120 --> 02:22:32.479 don't see. It shows us that even when two things 2219 02:22:32.520 --> 02:22:34.920 seem to be at odds with each other, there is 2220 02:22:35.000 --> 02:22:38.639 actually a greater link between them, a thread that holds 2221 02:22:38.680 --> 02:22:43.000 them together in a silent dance of life. For example, 2222 02:22:43.319 --> 02:22:45.959 we look at how times of great suffering can often 2223 02:22:46.040 --> 02:22:49.239 lead to big changes in our lives. There are times 2224 02:22:49.280 --> 02:22:52.879 when we face tough situations that shape and improve our 2225 02:22:52.959 --> 02:22:56.760 character in the same way, the best joys often come 2226 02:22:56.840 --> 02:22:59.959 after big problems are solved. When we look at the 2227 02:23:00.079 --> 02:23:03.079 things from this angle, we can enjoy the beauty in 2228 02:23:03.159 --> 02:23:06.920 life's balance and know that every event, good or bad, 2229 02:23:07.360 --> 02:23:12.159 adds something special to our lives. Seneca, a Stoic philosopher, 2230 02:23:12.239 --> 02:23:15.799 said the time will come when careful research over long 2231 02:23:15.879 --> 02:23:19.200 periods of time will bring to light things which now 2232 02:23:19.239 --> 02:23:22.840 lie hidden. This is similar to the law of polarity 2233 02:23:23.319 --> 02:23:25.639 in that it tells us to look deeper to find 2234 02:23:25.680 --> 02:23:29.959 wisdom and understanding in life's duality. To show how this 2235 02:23:30.079 --> 02:23:33.200 idea relates to our mode and lives, we look at 2236 02:23:33.200 --> 02:23:36.280 how failure is often seen as the opposite of success 2237 02:23:36.360 --> 02:23:39.920 in the workplace. With the law of polarity, on the 2238 02:23:39.959 --> 02:23:43.000 other hand, we can see that failure is not just 2239 02:23:43.079 --> 02:23:47.239 the opposite of success, it's also an important part of it. 2240 02:23:47.879 --> 02:23:51.520 Failure is how we gain new ideas, learn and grow, 2241 02:23:51.879 --> 02:23:55.840 which leads to success in the end. In our daily lives, 2242 02:23:56.200 --> 02:23:58.479 this law tells us that it's good to keep a 2243 02:23:58.520 --> 02:24:02.719 fair view when we face problems or losses. Remind yourself 2244 02:24:02.760 --> 02:24:06.479 that these problems are not just problems, they are chances 2245 02:24:06.520 --> 02:24:10.040 to learn and grow. In the same way when you 2246 02:24:10.079 --> 02:24:13.959 are happy or successful, think of those times as benefits 2247 02:24:13.959 --> 02:24:17.879 for your resilience and tenacity. In the end, though, the 2248 02:24:17.959 --> 02:24:21.600 rule of polarity is a strong warning of how everything 2249 02:24:21.639 --> 02:24:24.959 in life is linked. It teaches us to accept the 2250 02:24:25.000 --> 02:24:28.799 two sides of life, to find balance and difference, and 2251 02:24:28.920 --> 02:24:32.040 to see the secret links that combine all of our 2252 02:24:32.079 --> 02:24:35.719 events into a whole that makes sense. We can live 2253 02:24:35.760 --> 02:24:39.920 a life of greater knowledge, balance, and resilience. If we 2254 02:24:40.159 --> 02:24:44.639 understand and follow this law, we can use every experience, 2255 02:24:45.079 --> 02:24:48.399 no matter how good or bad it seems, as a 2256 02:24:48.440 --> 02:24:53.719 springboard for our own development and illumination. This simple but 2257 02:24:53.920 --> 02:24:57.079 deep rule is based on the idea that forces that 2258 02:24:57.200 --> 02:25:01.159 are similar are drawn to each other. The idea behind 2259 02:25:01.200 --> 02:25:04.600 it shows a basic truth. The energy you give off, 2260 02:25:04.879 --> 02:25:07.680 whether it's good or bad, has a big effect on 2261 02:25:07.799 --> 02:25:11.040 the things that happen to you. Think of your emotions 2262 02:25:11.079 --> 02:25:14.440 and thoughts as strong forces that pull things to you 2263 02:25:14.879 --> 02:25:18.120 that are similar to what they are. This law goes 2264 02:25:18.159 --> 02:25:22.200 beyond positive thinking and shows how powerful your mind can 2265 02:25:22.239 --> 02:25:26.559 be in attracting the situations you want to happen. If 2266 02:25:26.600 --> 02:25:29.600 the seeds of lack and negativity are planted in your 2267 02:25:29.639 --> 02:25:33.600 mind like seeds in a field, don't be surprised when 2268 02:25:33.600 --> 02:25:36.920 they grow and spread in your life. You can also 2269 02:25:37.040 --> 02:25:40.399 create a mental space full of thoughts of wealth and happiness, 2270 02:25:40.760 --> 02:25:44.040 which will help you draw more of these things. This 2271 02:25:44.200 --> 02:25:48.319 method doesn't mean ignoring the problems in life. Instead, it 2272 02:25:48.399 --> 02:25:51.159 means picking a point of view that fits perfectly with 2273 02:25:51.280 --> 02:25:54.479 your values and goals. You have to steer the ship 2274 02:25:54.559 --> 02:25:57.920 of your life on purpose, not by chance. If you 2275 02:25:58.000 --> 02:26:01.040 believe in the law of attraction, it's like releasing a 2276 02:26:01.120 --> 02:26:04.479 powerful tool that lets you create a life that fits 2277 02:26:04.520 --> 02:26:08.319 your inner desires. It serves as a stark warning that 2278 02:26:08.360 --> 02:26:11.760 our inner world has a huge impact on the outside world. 2279 02:26:12.399 --> 02:26:16.360 As the stoic philosopher Seneca said, life is like a play. 2280 02:26:16.920 --> 02:26:19.559 It's not the length that matters, but the quality of 2281 02:26:19.600 --> 02:26:22.719 the acting. When it comes to the law of attraction, 2282 02:26:23.280 --> 02:26:26.040 this means that how we think and feel has a 2283 02:26:26.040 --> 02:26:29.440 big impact on how our lives play out. You are 2284 02:26:29.479 --> 02:26:32.120 not just floating in the sea of life if you 2285 02:26:32.280 --> 02:26:37.000 understand and follow this law. Instead, you are actively plotting 2286 02:26:37.040 --> 02:26:40.959 your course, using the inner map to guide you. It's 2287 02:26:40.959 --> 02:26:44.159 about realizing that we don't have control over everything in 2288 02:26:44.200 --> 02:26:47.319 our lives, but we do have control over how they 2289 02:26:47.840 --> 02:26:51.000 our energy makes them. When you think about the law 2290 02:26:51.040 --> 02:26:54.879 of attraction, ask yourself what kind of energy am I 2291 02:26:54.959 --> 02:26:58.559 sending out into the universe? Am I focusing on things 2292 02:26:58.600 --> 02:27:01.920 that help me reach my goal? Remember that the world 2293 02:27:02.000 --> 02:27:04.959 is like a mirror. It reflects back the energy you 2294 02:27:05.000 --> 02:27:08.719 put out into it. When you understand this law, you're 2295 02:27:08.719 --> 02:27:13.120 not only gathering experiences, you're also making your life represent 2296 02:27:13.239 --> 02:27:16.959 your deepest wants and values. To put it simply, the 2297 02:27:17.079 --> 02:27:19.600 law of attraction is not just an idea that you 2298 02:27:19.600 --> 02:27:23.120 should understand. It's a way of life that you should follow. 2299 02:27:23.600 --> 02:27:26.360 What it means is that you should match your thoughts 2300 02:27:26.360 --> 02:27:29.959 with your dreams and make your hopes and dreams come true. 2301 02:27:30.559 --> 02:27:33.360 As you go through this path of change, you take 2302 02:27:33.479 --> 02:27:36.920 charge of your life and make it both satisfying and 2303 02:27:36.959 --> 02:27:39.959 a testament to the power of your thoughts and feelings. 2304 02:27:40.600 --> 02:27:42.639 Keep in mind that you are the author of your 2305 02:27:42.680 --> 02:27:45.840 life story, and that you write each chapter with the 2306 02:27:45.879 --> 02:27:48.719 pen of your thoughts and the ink of your feelings. 2307 02:27:49.000 --> 02:27:52.600 As you follow this law. In this part of our trip, 2308 02:27:52.959 --> 02:27:56.000 we explore the deep and mysterious world of the law 2309 02:27:56.040 --> 02:28:00.159 of vibrations. We imagine the universe as a huge, moveving 2310 02:28:00.319 --> 02:28:04.639 cosmic symphony, with every part from the smallest atom to 2311 02:28:04.719 --> 02:28:09.120 the biggest star, contributing to a never ending rhythm of harmony. 2312 02:28:09.959 --> 02:28:13.760 Nothing is ever still according to this rule, everything is 2313 02:28:13.799 --> 02:28:17.200 always moving and giving off its own energy or frequency. 2314 02:28:17.920 --> 02:28:20.440 Every sound and beat fits in with the rest of 2315 02:28:20.479 --> 02:28:24.280 the group, like in a big orchestra. Picture yourself as 2316 02:28:24.280 --> 02:28:28.760 a musician in this universal orchestra. Your thoughts, feelings, and 2317 02:28:28.840 --> 02:28:32.120 actions are the notes you play, and they all send 2318 02:28:32.120 --> 02:28:35.239 out vibes that bring other energies that are similar to 2319 02:28:35.280 --> 02:28:38.840 them to you. The law of energy says that things 2320 02:28:38.840 --> 02:28:42.040 that are similar will draw things that are similar. It's 2321 02:28:42.040 --> 02:28:44.559 a strong warning that you have the power to change 2322 02:28:44.559 --> 02:28:48.319 your own energy and by extension, the energy of those 2323 02:28:48.360 --> 02:28:51.520 around you. Think back to a time in your life 2324 02:28:51.559 --> 02:28:55.079 when things weren't going so well. The law of energy 2325 02:28:55.120 --> 02:28:58.040 says that you can change your events by changing your 2326 02:28:58.079 --> 02:29:02.520 emotional state. Point is not to reject reality, but to 2327 02:29:02.680 --> 02:29:05.559 accept it and choose to hum at a level that 2328 02:29:05.680 --> 02:29:10.319 matches your goals and dreams. At the atomic and molecular levels, 2329 02:29:10.719 --> 02:29:14.159 there's a buzz of activity, a dance of particles that 2330 02:29:14.280 --> 02:29:19.280 shows a huge network where everything affects everything else. This 2331 02:29:19.479 --> 02:29:23.840 is important to remember even when things seem still. The 2332 02:29:23.959 --> 02:29:27.840 universe is change. Our life is what our thoughts make it. 2333 02:29:28.319 --> 02:29:32.639 The stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius once said, when you think 2334 02:29:32.680 --> 02:29:35.600 about things with calm knowledge, they can have a big 2335 02:29:35.639 --> 02:29:38.719 effect on your life by lining up with the feelings 2336 02:29:38.719 --> 02:29:42.000 that are true to who you are. Remember that you 2337 02:29:42.079 --> 02:29:44.920 are an important part of this global music. As you 2338 02:29:45.000 --> 02:29:50.440 go through life. No matter if your emotions are from happiness, love, sadness, 2339 02:29:50.520 --> 02:29:54.600 or hope, they add to the common song. By carefully 2340 02:29:54.639 --> 02:29:57.920 aligning your emotions with patterns that make you feel good 2341 02:29:57.959 --> 02:30:01.120 and excite you, you not only prove your own life, 2342 02:30:01.440 --> 02:30:04.879 but you also make the rhythm of existence better for everyone. 2343 02:30:05.680 --> 02:30:08.760 By its very nature. The law of waves tells us 2344 02:30:08.799 --> 02:30:11.559 that everything is linked and that we have the power 2345 02:30:11.600 --> 02:30:15.000 to change this dynamic. It tells us to be aware 2346 02:30:15.040 --> 02:30:18.959 of our lives, pick our thoughts and actions carefully, and 2347 02:30:19.079 --> 02:30:22.559 align ourselves with the forces that make us and those 2348 02:30:22.639 --> 02:30:26.799 around us better. As you accept this law, let it 2349 02:30:26.879 --> 02:30:29.959 help you make a life full of happiness, meaning, and 2350 02:30:30.040 --> 02:30:34.159 peace in line with the timeless knowledge of Stoicism and 2351 02:30:34.239 --> 02:30:42.000 the laws that govern all existence. Being old is just 2352 02:30:42.079 --> 02:30:45.719 a number. It doesn't stop us from changing. As long 2353 02:30:45.719 --> 02:30:48.559 as the river keeps running, so does our chance to 2354 02:30:48.600 --> 02:30:52.239 make a change. This is what the idea of the 2355 02:30:52.360 --> 02:30:56.840 power of now means. Time always gives us new chances 2356 02:30:56.920 --> 02:31:00.239 to go in a different direction. People who believe even 2357 02:31:00.319 --> 02:31:03.879 Stoicism like this idea because it reminds us that it's 2358 02:31:03.959 --> 02:31:06.719 never too late to make big changes in our lives. 2359 02:31:07.360 --> 02:31:10.360 A new beginning always comes after the end of an 2360 02:31:10.399 --> 02:31:15.000 old one because they repeat wise words by Seneca. These 2361 02:31:15.040 --> 02:31:18.559 words remind us of how strong growth and change can be. 2362 02:31:19.280 --> 02:31:22.760 In this light, we should understand that life has stages, 2363 02:31:23.280 --> 02:31:26.040 and that death is both the end and the beginning 2364 02:31:26.120 --> 02:31:30.399 of something new. Seeing things this way helps us stay 2365 02:31:30.479 --> 02:31:35.079 positive and strong when things change. We know that every ending, 2366 02:31:35.479 --> 02:31:39.159 no matter how bad, can lead to something good and new. 2367 02:31:40.040 --> 02:31:42.639 People often think that the best time to learn and 2368 02:31:42.719 --> 02:31:45.879 grow is when they are young, so it's easy to 2369 02:31:45.920 --> 02:31:49.520 believe that once we reach a certain age, our chances 2370 02:31:49.600 --> 02:31:53.639 to change and grow are gone. Would you believe us 2371 02:31:53.719 --> 02:31:56.280 if we said it was always possible to start over, 2372 02:31:56.799 --> 02:32:01.200 learn new things, and make things better. Sometimes our old 2373 02:32:01.239 --> 02:32:04.120 habits and our hopes for the future go in different 2374 02:32:04.159 --> 02:32:08.319 directions as we go through life. Being silent is the 2375 02:32:08.360 --> 02:32:11.159 best way to find your way forward when you feel 2376 02:32:11.200 --> 02:32:14.479 like you can't go back. A lot of older people 2377 02:32:14.600 --> 02:32:17.079 feel like they don't have as many chances as they 2378 02:32:17.200 --> 02:32:21.280 used to. Stoicism, a way of thinking that has roots 2379 02:32:21.319 --> 02:32:24.440 in ancient Greece and Rome, gives us a different view. 2380 02:32:25.159 --> 02:32:27.520 There are many things that can happen in life at 2381 02:32:27.520 --> 02:32:31.120 every stage, and every moment is a chance to start over. 2382 02:32:31.840 --> 02:32:35.360 Stoics think that the mind can change things no matter 2383 02:32:35.399 --> 02:32:39.440 what age or situation you are in. Marcus Aurelius said, 2384 02:32:39.920 --> 02:32:43.879 the universe changes. Our life is what our thoughts make it. 2385 02:32:44.639 --> 02:32:48.319 Stoicism is not just a view, it's also a way 2386 02:32:48.360 --> 02:32:52.319 of life. Its ideas are still important to day, even 2387 02:32:52.360 --> 02:32:56.600 though Seneca, Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius wrote them a long 2388 02:32:56.680 --> 02:33:00.479 time ago. This way of thinking teaches us to focus 2389 02:33:00.520 --> 02:33:04.040 on what we can change, to separate ourselves from the 2390 02:33:04.079 --> 02:33:07.760 effects of other people's actions, and to find inner peace 2391 02:33:07.840 --> 02:33:11.040 and resilience in the face of the changes and challenges 2392 02:33:11.079 --> 02:33:14.079 that life brings. You have a lot of power when 2393 02:33:14.120 --> 02:33:17.040 you think this way, especially when you want to learn 2394 02:33:17.079 --> 02:33:20.719 new things and change. Let's go on this trip together. 2395 02:33:21.280 --> 02:33:23.879 Don't forget that it doesn't matter where you are from 2396 02:33:24.319 --> 02:33:26.879 or how old you are. You need to be ready 2397 02:33:26.879 --> 02:33:29.559 to live in the present, use the power of now, 2398 02:33:29.959 --> 02:33:33.479 and take big steps toward learning and growing all the time. 2399 02:33:34.200 --> 02:33:36.360 This is what the Stoic said that can help you 2400 02:33:36.440 --> 02:33:40.280 get through the rough seas of change. Also, let's talk 2401 02:33:40.319 --> 02:33:43.200 about how you can always start over and reach your 2402 02:33:43.239 --> 02:33:46.639 full potential. Today we're going to talk about how you 2403 02:33:46.680 --> 02:33:50.840 can always change, get better, take on new tasks, and 2404 02:33:50.959 --> 02:33:54.319 start over. Join us as we learn the lessons of 2405 02:33:54.399 --> 02:33:58.319 Stoicism that will help you learn and grow throughout your life. 2406 02:33:59.280 --> 02:34:02.600 In our first lesson, we'll talk about how powerful the 2407 02:34:02.680 --> 02:34:08.360 present moment is. First lesson, savor the present to learn 2408 02:34:08.440 --> 02:34:11.600 how to be patient. The first and most important thing 2409 02:34:11.680 --> 02:34:16.360 you need to do is enjoy the present moment. Seneca said, 2410 02:34:17.040 --> 02:34:21.239 true happiness is to enjoy the present without worrying about 2411 02:34:21.280 --> 02:34:24.680 the future. This is what makes us want to keep 2412 02:34:24.760 --> 02:34:28.639 learning and growing. Socrates says that time is not a 2413 02:34:28.680 --> 02:34:32.280 straight line, but a collection of present moments that we 2414 02:34:32.360 --> 02:34:36.559 live and act in. Our power is now. You can't 2415 02:34:36.680 --> 02:34:39.440 change the past, and it's hard to tell what will 2416 02:34:39.479 --> 02:34:42.479 happen in the future. We can then be in charge 2417 02:34:42.760 --> 02:34:46.639 and act in the present. As you start over today, 2418 02:34:47.079 --> 02:34:50.920 you may feel bad about mischances or scared about what 2419 02:34:51.000 --> 02:34:55.159 the future holds. Stoicism, on the other hand, tells us 2420 02:34:55.239 --> 02:34:58.319 to look at every day as a new beginning. Tell 2421 02:34:58.360 --> 02:35:02.120 yourself that you can start over, learn something new, or 2422 02:35:02.159 --> 02:35:04.959 break a bad habit when you wake up. It's not 2423 02:35:05.120 --> 02:35:08.079 just kids who can think this way. Anyone can use 2424 02:35:08.159 --> 02:35:11.559 this age old idea steps you can take to live 2425 02:35:11.600 --> 02:35:17.040 in the present. One mindful awareness. Do something mindful. First 2426 02:35:17.040 --> 02:35:20.399 thing in the morning, as you sit still, pay attention 2427 02:35:20.520 --> 02:35:23.879 to your breath. Don't worry about the past or the future. 2428 02:35:24.479 --> 02:35:28.879 Pay attention to the present. Two. Today is a new 2429 02:35:28.959 --> 02:35:32.680 day with a chance to learn and grow. Tell yourself 2430 02:35:32.680 --> 02:35:37.920 this every morning. Say today I am a learner. Today 2431 02:35:38.120 --> 02:35:43.040 I embrace new beginnings. Three. Pick a small skill or 2432 02:35:43.120 --> 02:35:46.440 thing you want to learn, something as simple as reading 2433 02:35:46.479 --> 02:35:50.040 a chapter, taking fifteen minutes to learn a new language, 2434 02:35:50.399 --> 02:35:53.680 or making a new dish. The most important thing is 2435 02:35:53.719 --> 02:35:56.559 that it is true and takes place in the present. 2436 02:35:57.319 --> 02:35:59.639 If you want to be strong for life, you should 2437 02:35:59.719 --> 02:36:01.840 learn to see the present as a place where you 2438 02:36:01.879 --> 02:36:06.079 can grow and change. It means seeing every day as 2439 02:36:06.120 --> 02:36:08.719 a new page in your life book where you can 2440 02:36:08.760 --> 02:36:12.239 start writing a new story. There is a strong lesson 2441 02:36:12.280 --> 02:36:16.120 in Stoicism that says we should start changing and learning 2442 02:36:16.200 --> 02:36:19.479 in the present. This lesson should be read no matter 2443 02:36:19.520 --> 02:36:22.840 what page you are on. Your path to more growth 2444 02:36:22.840 --> 02:36:26.079 than development starts with how you think and act right now. 2445 02:36:26.600 --> 02:36:30.280 Do not miss this chance. You can always learn, grow 2446 02:36:30.680 --> 02:36:33.920 and change. The second lesson is to be strong when 2447 02:36:33.959 --> 02:36:37.639 things get tough. Stoicism is based on the idea that 2448 02:36:37.760 --> 02:36:40.840 bad things will always happen to you and that life 2449 02:36:40.920 --> 02:36:45.120 is full of surprises. Emperor Marcus Aurelius was known for 2450 02:36:45.200 --> 02:36:49.000 being very calm. He said, what stands in the way 2451 02:36:49.399 --> 02:36:54.479 becomes the way. This lesson is about turning problems into chances, 2452 02:36:54.920 --> 02:36:57.280 which is a key way of thinking for anyone who 2453 02:36:57.360 --> 02:37:00.719 wants to learn new things and get better, but especially 2454 02:37:00.799 --> 02:37:05.440 as they get older. As a teacher, trouble stoics don't 2455 02:37:05.479 --> 02:37:09.319 see issues as issues, but as lessons that are valuable 2456 02:37:09.399 --> 02:37:12.920 to be learned. Every time you face a challenge, you 2457 02:37:12.959 --> 02:37:17.360 can put your patience, bravery, and resilience into practice. There 2458 02:37:17.360 --> 02:37:19.639 will be times when you have trouble as you try 2459 02:37:19.680 --> 02:37:22.840 to learn or get used to something new. Instead of 2460 02:37:22.879 --> 02:37:26.680 seeing these as mistakes, see them as chances to learn 2461 02:37:26.920 --> 02:37:31.120 and get better. Choose to be uncomfortable. One way to 2462 02:37:31.159 --> 02:37:35.479 build resilience is to choose to be uncomfortable. In this case, 2463 02:37:35.799 --> 02:37:39.079 getting out of your comfort zone might mean doing something 2464 02:37:39.200 --> 02:37:42.360 scary or taking on a job that you find hard. 2465 02:37:43.040 --> 02:37:45.600 Being able to deal with pain is something you should 2466 02:37:45.600 --> 02:37:49.079 work on because it will help you learn everything. You 2467 02:37:49.120 --> 02:37:54.440 can start building your resilience right away. Buy one every day, 2468 02:37:54.840 --> 02:37:58.040 push yourself to leave your comfort zone in a small way. 2469 02:37:58.760 --> 02:38:01.520 You could start a conversation about something you don't know 2470 02:38:01.639 --> 02:38:06.879 much about, start a new hobby, or learn a new language. Two. 2471 02:38:07.239 --> 02:38:10.120 Every day, think about the things you've done well in 2472 02:38:10.159 --> 02:38:13.719 the past. Take some time to remember the problems you've 2473 02:38:13.719 --> 02:38:17.319 fixed in the past. This thought gives you more strength 2474 02:38:17.360 --> 02:38:22.399 in your belief that you can handle problems in the future. Three. 2475 02:38:22.559 --> 02:38:25.360 If you have a growth mindset, you believe that your 2476 02:38:25.399 --> 02:38:28.520 skills and knowledge can get better if you work hard 2477 02:38:28.840 --> 02:38:33.399 and stick to your goals. This approach promotes resilience and 2478 02:38:33.440 --> 02:38:36.360 a love of learning as you start to see issues 2479 02:38:36.399 --> 02:38:40.920 as opportunities to learn and grow. Four. It can help 2480 02:38:40.959 --> 02:38:43.120 you see things better if you write in a book 2481 02:38:43.200 --> 02:38:47.159 every day. Not only write down your problems, but also 2482 02:38:47.280 --> 02:38:50.200 how you handle them. Looking at how you've dealt with 2483 02:38:50.319 --> 02:38:53.200 problems in the past helps you see things in a 2484 02:38:53.239 --> 02:38:56.920 new light. Browse through your old posts to see how 2485 02:38:56.920 --> 02:39:00.520 you've grown and changed. As a stoic, you should think 2486 02:39:00.559 --> 02:39:04.200 about yourself every day. This helps you remember what you've 2487 02:39:04.280 --> 02:39:09.959 learned and get ready for new things. Five. Setting aside 2488 02:39:10.000 --> 02:39:13.120 time for prayers that focus on resilience for the Stoic 2489 02:39:13.280 --> 02:39:17.000 is a good idea. Think about the duality of control, 2490 02:39:17.319 --> 02:39:20.760 which means figuring out what you can and can't manage. 2491 02:39:21.360 --> 02:39:24.120 When you think about the things you can change, like 2492 02:39:24.200 --> 02:39:28.360 your actions, reactions, and thoughts, you have more strength to 2493 02:39:28.440 --> 02:39:32.040 deal with issues. You will also feel less stressed about 2494 02:39:32.079 --> 02:39:34.879 things going on in the outside world. When you do 2495 02:39:34.959 --> 02:39:39.079 this exercise, this will make you more flexible. Take the 2496 02:39:39.120 --> 02:39:43.520 stoic view that everything changes, even the hard things. This 2497 02:39:43.600 --> 02:39:46.319 will help you be more resilient when you're having a 2498 02:39:46.360 --> 02:39:50.040 hard time learning new things or getting used to changes. 2499 02:39:50.760 --> 02:39:54.120 Every problem can be turned into a chance to learn something, 2500 02:39:54.559 --> 02:39:56.799 and every loss can be used to make you a 2501 02:39:56.840 --> 02:40:00.840 better person by asking yourself, what can this teach me? 2502 02:40:01.799 --> 02:40:05.120 This is part of the Stoic practice of building resilience 2503 02:40:05.159 --> 02:40:08.479 through pain. No matter what age you are, you can 2504 02:40:08.559 --> 02:40:11.840 learn new things with confidence and a sense of purpose 2505 02:40:12.239 --> 02:40:15.159 if you are willing to face challenges and see them 2506 02:40:15.159 --> 02:40:19.639 as opportunities to advance your knowledge and strength. Always keep 2507 02:40:19.719 --> 02:40:22.840 in mind that what matters for your growth is not 2508 02:40:22.959 --> 02:40:26.600 what happens to you, but how you handle it. Now 2509 02:40:26.600 --> 02:40:29.840 that you've learned this second lesson, you have another strong 2510 02:40:29.959 --> 02:40:33.520 conservative tool that will help you deal with change and 2511 02:40:33.680 --> 02:40:37.040 keep learning all your life. Don't miss out on the 2512 02:40:37.079 --> 02:40:40.159 next lesson. It will help you change and grow no 2513 02:40:40.280 --> 02:40:44.280 matter what age you are. Third lesson, get to know 2514 02:40:44.399 --> 02:40:51.239 yourself and talk to yourself self reflection. Stoicism tells us 2515 02:40:51.280 --> 02:40:54.600 that it's important to know ourselves and keep looking at 2516 02:40:54.600 --> 02:41:00.200 ourselves through our own thoughts and experiences. In meditations, Marcus 2517 02:41:00.239 --> 02:41:03.600 Aurelius wrote about how to do this. The point of 2518 02:41:03.639 --> 02:41:06.959 this lesson is to help you learn more about yourself, 2519 02:41:07.280 --> 02:41:09.719 which is a big part of growing as a person. 2520 02:41:10.559 --> 02:41:13.920 Stoics believe that getting to know yourself is a big 2521 02:41:13.959 --> 02:41:17.079 part of learning because it helps you grow as a person. 2522 02:41:17.920 --> 02:41:21.680 Being aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions will help 2523 02:41:21.719 --> 02:41:24.040 you see what you're good at and what you need 2524 02:41:24.120 --> 02:41:27.319 to work on when you're trying to learn new things 2525 02:41:27.760 --> 02:41:31.520 or deal with change. Getting to know yourself better is 2526 02:41:31.600 --> 02:41:35.159 helpful because it helps you make better decisions and see 2527 02:41:35.239 --> 02:41:39.079 problems more clearly. Take time every day to think about 2528 02:41:39.120 --> 02:41:43.040 and study your actions and thoughts. This is called thoughtful 2529 02:41:43.159 --> 02:41:46.959 self examination. With this method, you can check if the 2530 02:41:46.959 --> 02:41:50.079 things you do are in line with your values, spot 2531 02:41:50.120 --> 02:41:53.760 habits that aren't helping you and consciously change the way 2532 02:41:53.760 --> 02:41:59.000 you Behave steps you can take to become more self aware. One. 2533 02:41:59.600 --> 02:42:02.159 Every day day, take a few minutes to think about 2534 02:42:02.159 --> 02:42:05.079 what you did, what you felt, and what you thought. 2535 02:42:05.760 --> 02:42:08.559 You could ask yourself things like did I act in 2536 02:42:08.639 --> 02:42:12.200 line with my values to day? Or what emotions did 2537 02:42:12.239 --> 02:42:17.559 I feel to day and why? Two mindful response Work 2538 02:42:17.600 --> 02:42:19.840 on this. When you need to decide what to do 2539 02:42:20.120 --> 02:42:23.239 or say something, think about what you want to do 2540 02:42:23.319 --> 02:42:26.360 for a second. This helps you plan what you're going 2541 02:42:26.399 --> 02:42:31.600 to do instead of just doing it without thinking. Three. 2542 02:42:32.239 --> 02:42:37.399 Give and receive feedback. Regularly ask trusted friends, family, or 2543 02:42:37.440 --> 02:42:41.360 co workers for feedback. Taking an outside look at yourself 2544 02:42:41.639 --> 02:42:44.639 can help you understand parts of yourself that you may 2545 02:42:44.680 --> 02:42:49.200 not be aware of. Four. As you read and think 2546 02:42:49.239 --> 02:42:54.120 about philosophical texts, don't just read and think about stoic texts. 2547 02:42:54.760 --> 02:42:58.520 Read and think about philosophical texts from other schools of 2548 02:42:58.600 --> 02:43:02.319 thought as well. Think about how these ideas match up 2549 02:43:02.360 --> 02:43:05.760 with what you already know and believe. By giving you 2550 02:43:05.879 --> 02:43:09.319 more information, this makes your view of life and learning 2551 02:43:09.360 --> 02:43:15.200 more complete. Five Stoic thought tasks include view from above, 2552 02:43:15.639 --> 02:43:18.440 in which you imagine looking at your life from a distance. 2553 02:43:19.159 --> 02:43:22.399 This game helps you get a bigger, more objective picture 2554 02:43:22.479 --> 02:43:25.280 of what you do and how it affects other people. 2555 02:43:25.840 --> 02:43:30.280 Stoic techniques like self awareness and self examination can help 2556 02:43:30.319 --> 02:43:33.479 you learn more about yourself and find your way through 2557 02:43:33.520 --> 02:43:38.440 lifelong learning. Think about your feelings, deeds, and thoughts often, 2558 02:43:38.840 --> 02:43:42.239 and ask other people to give you feedback. This will 2559 02:43:42.280 --> 02:43:45.280 help you figure out who you are no matter what 2560 02:43:45.479 --> 02:43:49.120 part of life you're in. This can help you learn, change, 2561 02:43:49.399 --> 02:43:52.840 and get better. As you learn more about these methods 2562 02:43:52.840 --> 02:43:57.040 and use them, your learning journey can be more thoughtful, focused, 2563 02:43:57.360 --> 02:44:01.360 and fulfilling. The fourth lesson is to choose the virtue 2564 02:44:01.399 --> 02:44:05.079 of restraint. Stoics say that two of the most important 2565 02:44:05.120 --> 02:44:09.559 traits are moderation and self control. In every part of 2566 02:44:09.600 --> 02:44:13.799 your life, you need to use moderation, balance, and self 2567 02:44:13.840 --> 02:44:18.399 control to be moderate. It's important to learn new things 2568 02:44:18.440 --> 02:44:21.719 and grow as a person, especially as we get older 2569 02:44:22.000 --> 02:44:26.680 and deal with life's difficulties. This lesson is all about that. 2570 02:44:27.600 --> 02:44:31.239 Stoicism says that any kind of excess can throw life 2571 02:44:31.280 --> 02:44:34.920 off balance and into chaos, whether it's too much focus 2572 02:44:34.920 --> 02:44:38.840 on one thing or too much mental pleasure. This is 2573 02:44:38.879 --> 02:44:43.120 why temperance is important for learning In general, it can 2574 02:44:43.159 --> 02:44:47.319 make learning and life less fun. To sum up, temperance 2575 02:44:47.399 --> 02:44:50.760 means finding a good balance and making sure that our 2576 02:44:50.799 --> 02:44:54.399 goals like learning new things and getting better at things 2577 02:44:54.440 --> 02:44:57.639 we already know, are in line with living a full 2578 02:44:57.799 --> 02:45:03.719 and happy life. Can do right now to become more temperate. One. 2579 02:45:04.159 --> 02:45:08.399 When you eat, watch TV, or read, keep your mind present. 2580 02:45:09.120 --> 02:45:11.600 You should ask yourself every day if the food you 2581 02:45:11.639 --> 02:45:16.840 eat is making your life better or worse. Set some limits. Two. 2582 02:45:17.159 --> 02:45:20.239 Limit what you can learn. If you want to keep 2583 02:45:20.239 --> 02:45:23.200 from getting burned out, you should set limits on how 2584 02:45:23.280 --> 02:45:27.319 much you can learn. You should plan to learn new things, rest, 2585 02:45:27.719 --> 02:45:32.360 and do other things at certain times. Three. Pay attention 2586 02:45:32.479 --> 02:45:35.639 to what you want and what you do. Make sure 2587 02:45:35.719 --> 02:45:38.200 your deeds and wants are in line with each other. 2588 02:45:38.280 --> 02:45:41.680 Often do you believe that something is taking too much 2589 02:45:41.680 --> 02:45:44.639 of your time? What are your wants that are making 2590 02:45:44.680 --> 02:45:48.280 you do bad things? When you think about yourself, you 2591 02:45:48.319 --> 02:45:53.000 can see things more clearly. Four to keep things in balance, 2592 02:45:53.360 --> 02:45:56.719 do a lot of different things, Do many different things, 2593 02:45:57.200 --> 02:46:01.159 think about things a lot. Do something native or active 2594 02:46:01.280 --> 02:46:04.319 to take your mind off of things. This method is 2595 02:46:04.360 --> 02:46:08.040 good for your health and helps you keep learning. Five. 2596 02:46:08.520 --> 02:46:11.520 A lot of nose that means you can say no 2597 02:46:11.840 --> 02:46:16.760 to some things like chances, requests, or even your own wants. 2598 02:46:17.399 --> 02:46:20.520 This keeps you from agreeing or giving up too much 2599 02:46:20.840 --> 02:46:24.120 and helps you keep your mind on what's important. To 2600 02:46:24.200 --> 02:46:27.360 live a healthy and self controlled life, you need to 2601 02:46:27.440 --> 02:46:31.079 learn how to be temperate and then practice it. It 2602 02:46:31.159 --> 02:46:33.520 makes sure that the way we look for skills and 2603 02:46:33.600 --> 02:46:36.959 knowledge is useful and fits in with our other goals. 2604 02:46:37.639 --> 02:46:40.399 We can keep our learning and lives in balance by 2605 02:46:40.559 --> 02:46:44.399 keeping an eye on our spending, setting limits, thinking about 2606 02:46:44.440 --> 02:46:47.879 what we want doing a range of things, and learning 2607 02:46:47.959 --> 02:46:51.319 to say no. With age comes the need to deal 2608 02:46:51.360 --> 02:46:56.159 with life's challenges with wisdom and calm. This stoic virtue 2609 02:46:56.239 --> 02:46:59.159 is an important part of a complete and well rounded 2610 02:46:59.200 --> 02:47:04.360 personal growth path. Fifth lesson, learn to be thankful. Pay 2611 02:47:04.399 --> 02:47:08.360 attention to being thankful. A big part of being silent 2612 02:47:08.760 --> 02:47:12.120 is being thankful. Being happy is a big part of 2613 02:47:12.159 --> 02:47:16.719 growing as a person and learning new things throughout your life. 2614 02:47:16.760 --> 02:47:20.239 This lesson is all about that. To keep a strong, 2615 02:47:20.440 --> 02:47:23.760 open mind and stay upbeat, we should think about and 2616 02:47:23.840 --> 02:47:26.760 be grateful for what we have instead of whining about 2617 02:47:26.799 --> 02:47:30.440 what we don't have. As we age, This is even 2618 02:47:30.479 --> 02:47:34.239 more true as part of the stoic mindset. It is 2619 02:47:34.319 --> 02:47:37.040 important to live in the present and value what we 2620 02:47:37.120 --> 02:47:42.360 have right now. Our memories, knowledge, relationships, and even our 2621 02:47:42.440 --> 02:47:46.319 problems are all part of this. We can't see or 2622 02:47:46.360 --> 02:47:49.799 touch them, but they help us grow. Not only does 2623 02:47:49.879 --> 02:47:53.079 being thankful make us feel better, it also makes us 2624 02:47:53.120 --> 02:47:56.639 more willing to learn and grow as people. Right away, 2625 02:47:57.079 --> 02:48:00.959 you can do these things to show thanks while every 2626 02:48:01.079 --> 02:48:05.280 day write down three things you're grateful for. This can 2627 02:48:05.319 --> 02:48:08.680 help you start or end the day. A nice day, 2628 02:48:09.079 --> 02:48:11.639 a good book, or the chance to learn can be 2629 02:48:11.719 --> 02:48:14.680 all of these. You will start to notice what you 2630 02:48:14.799 --> 02:48:17.600 do have instead of what you don't have. When you 2631 02:48:17.719 --> 02:48:23.120 do this, two challenges are chances to get better. Think 2632 02:48:23.159 --> 02:48:26.040 about what your problems can teach you and how they 2633 02:48:26.079 --> 02:48:29.120 can help you get better. Once you see things in 2634 02:48:29.159 --> 02:48:32.799 this new way, you can stop being angry at problems 2635 02:48:33.079 --> 02:48:36.959 and start being grateful for the lessons they teach you. Three. 2636 02:48:37.600 --> 02:48:41.479 As you learn and grow, enjoy the little winds. Don't 2637 02:48:41.520 --> 02:48:44.600 forget to enjoy the little things you do well. This 2638 02:48:44.760 --> 02:48:47.840 praise makes you want to grow even more and thanks 2639 02:48:47.879 --> 02:48:53.239 you for your growth. Four Thank other people. Thank people 2640 02:48:53.280 --> 02:48:57.799 who are important to you, often like family, friends, and mentees. 2641 02:48:58.520 --> 02:49:01.600 Being aware of how they've felt your life can help 2642 02:49:01.639 --> 02:49:07.280 your relationships and make you feel more grateful. Five meditations 2643 02:49:07.319 --> 02:49:12.760 by Stoics on changelessness. Keep a calm mind and think 2644 02:49:12.799 --> 02:49:16.200 about how things and life will change over time. You 2645 02:49:16.239 --> 02:49:18.799 will feel grateful for a long time after doing this 2646 02:49:18.920 --> 02:49:23.559 activity because it makes you value what you have more. Six. 2647 02:49:24.200 --> 02:49:29.000 Enjoying the present moment with awareness. Remember to enjoy and 2648 02:49:29.079 --> 02:49:31.680 be aware of what you're doing and where you are 2649 02:49:31.799 --> 02:49:36.040 throughout the day. When you do this awareness exercise, you 2650 02:49:36.120 --> 02:49:39.680 become more aware of the present moment and feel thankful. 2651 02:49:40.639 --> 02:49:43.879 The Stoics say that learning to be thankful can change 2652 02:49:43.879 --> 02:49:48.239 your life and help you grow mentally and emotionally. Being 2653 02:49:48.360 --> 02:49:52.760 thankful helps you see the value in every moment, every challenge, 2654 02:49:53.120 --> 02:49:56.879 and every chance to learn. This way of doing things 2655 02:49:56.920 --> 02:49:59.799 not only makes you feel better, but it also lets 2656 02:49:59.799 --> 02:50:02.920 you learn and grow more as you go through life. 2657 02:50:03.479 --> 02:50:05.639 You can go through life with a heart full of 2658 02:50:05.680 --> 02:50:09.319 thanks and a mind open to change if you practice 2659 02:50:09.399 --> 02:50:13.920 being thankful. The sixth lesson is to be mindful and 2660 02:50:14.040 --> 02:50:18.200 aware of the here and now. Mindfulness and present moment 2661 02:50:18.280 --> 02:50:23.159 focus should be cultivated in your daily life. Stoicism and 2662 02:50:23.280 --> 02:50:27.360 mindfulness are two different schools of thought, but they both 2663 02:50:27.479 --> 02:50:32.079 stress living in the present. Using mindfulness methods in daily 2664 02:50:32.159 --> 02:50:35.479 life can help you reach your stoic goals of peace 2665 02:50:35.559 --> 02:50:39.559 and wisdom. This is especially important as you continue to 2666 02:50:39.680 --> 02:50:44.280 learn and grow in life. Mindfulness and stoicism complement each 2667 02:50:44.280 --> 02:50:48.600 other well. One thing that both stoicism and mindfulness teach 2668 02:50:48.680 --> 02:50:51.479 us is to live in the present and be more 2669 02:50:51.520 --> 02:50:55.879 aware of our thoughts, feelings, and actions. We don't have 2670 02:50:56.000 --> 02:50:58.559 to act on instinct when we're in this higher state 2671 02:50:58.600 --> 02:51:01.920 of awareness in sea. Instead, we can deal with life's 2672 02:51:01.959 --> 02:51:06.159 problems with calm and understanding. Simple things you can do 2673 02:51:06.280 --> 02:51:11.159 to become more mindful. One every day, do some focused breathing. 2674 02:51:11.719 --> 02:51:14.239 It's a simple way to start or end the day. 2675 02:51:14.959 --> 02:51:17.639 As you breathe in and out, pay attention to how 2676 02:51:17.680 --> 02:51:21.399 it feels, bring your mind back if it wanders. It 2677 02:51:21.479 --> 02:51:25.319 clears your mind and brings you into the moment. Two. 2678 02:51:26.000 --> 02:51:29.159 Each day, take some time to really look around you 2679 02:51:29.239 --> 02:51:33.479 with your mind. This is known as careful observing. Being 2680 02:51:33.520 --> 02:51:36.360 aware of the little things in a place, like how 2681 02:51:36.440 --> 02:51:40.280 something feels or the sounds of nature might be enough. 2682 02:51:41.120 --> 02:51:46.920 Getting better at being fully present is what this training does. Three. 2683 02:51:47.079 --> 02:51:50.440 When you listen mindfully, you give your full attention to 2684 02:51:50.479 --> 02:51:54.200 the person speaking without planning what you will say next. 2685 02:51:54.920 --> 02:51:58.879 By practicing mindfulness every day, you can become more aware 2686 02:51:58.920 --> 02:52:02.280 of the present moment and deal with problems in life 2687 02:52:02.559 --> 02:52:06.799 in a calm and understanding way. We need to remember 2688 02:52:06.840 --> 02:52:11.079 this as we learn and grow throughout our lives. Being 2689 02:52:11.159 --> 02:52:14.600 aware of and mindful of the present moment can help 2690 02:52:14.639 --> 02:52:19.840 you live a fuller, more worth while life. Finally, stoicism 2691 02:52:19.920 --> 02:52:23.280 can teach us important lessons that can help us deal 2692 02:52:23.360 --> 02:52:26.760 with the difficulties of life and keep learning and growing. 2693 02:52:26.840 --> 02:52:30.280 No matter what age we are, we can live more 2694 02:52:30.319 --> 02:52:34.079 important and rewarding lives if we accept the power of 2695 02:52:34.120 --> 02:52:38.399 the present moment, are resilient in difficult times, get to 2696 02:52:38.479 --> 02:52:45.360 know ourselves, practice balance, are thankful, and practice awareness. Stoicism 2697 02:52:45.520 --> 02:52:48.479 is not just a set of ideas. It's also a 2698 02:52:48.479 --> 02:52:50.799 way of life that can help us be wise and 2699 02:52:50.879 --> 02:52:54.159 have a purpose in life. So let's learn from these 2700 02:52:54.239 --> 02:52:57.600 lessons in stoicism and keep going on our path of 2701 02:52:57.719 --> 02:53:01.559 learning and growing. This makes you your friendship stronger and 2702 02:53:01.680 --> 02:53:08.600 helps you listen better. Four Body scan meditation. Do body 2703 02:53:08.600 --> 02:53:12.639 scan meditation every day. Take it easy on each part 2704 02:53:12.680 --> 02:53:14.879 of your body as you lie down or sit down. 2705 02:53:15.719 --> 02:53:18.639 Being in the present moment and being more aware of 2706 02:53:18.680 --> 02:53:24.159 how your body feels is what this does. Five. If 2707 02:53:24.200 --> 02:53:26.799 you want to learn how to be thoughtful, make it 2708 02:53:26.840 --> 02:53:30.079 a habit to eat every day. Take your time when 2709 02:53:30.079 --> 02:53:33.479 you eat, and enjoy the tastes and textures of your food. 2710 02:53:34.200 --> 02:53:38.360 Also remember that it is feeding you. This habit makes 2711 02:53:38.399 --> 02:53:41.520 you more thankful and aware of what's going on around 2712 02:53:41.559 --> 02:53:46.319 you every day. Sixth, time to think during the day. 2713 02:53:47.120 --> 02:53:49.959 Take short breaks to think about what you're thinking and 2714 02:53:50.000 --> 02:53:53.520 how you feel you should accept them without judging them, 2715 02:53:54.159 --> 02:53:57.680 then slowly turn your attention back to the task at hand. 2716 02:53:58.399 --> 02:54:01.120 Being aware all the time is easier if you make 2717 02:54:01.200 --> 02:54:04.639 this a habit. The ability to use one's mind to 2718 02:54:04.719 --> 02:54:09.520 make good choices. Becoming more aware when making choices is 2719 02:54:09.559 --> 02:54:12.440 one of the most important ways that the stoic theory 2720 02:54:12.520 --> 02:54:16.879 can be used. Read about stoicism to learn how important 2721 02:54:16.920 --> 02:54:19.879 it is to use your mind and be careful when 2722 02:54:19.920 --> 02:54:24.040 making choices. Being aware about what you're thinking before you 2723 02:54:24.079 --> 02:54:26.600 make a choice can help you make sure that it 2724 02:54:26.680 --> 02:54:31.559 fits with your values and long term goals. Adding mindfulness 2725 02:54:31.600 --> 02:54:34.440 to your daily life can help you get further along 2726 02:54:34.479 --> 02:54:38.920 your stoic path of peace and wisdom. Being mindful helps 2727 02:54:38.959 --> 02:54:43.120 you fully experience each moment, which makes learning more meaningful 2728 02:54:43.159 --> 02:54:46.360 and full. It gives you the strength to stay calm 2729 02:54:46.399 --> 02:54:50.760 and understanding when bad things happen in life. Being mindful 2730 02:54:50.799 --> 02:54:53.360 can help you grow as a person and learn new 2731 02:54:53.399 --> 02:54:56.879 things throughout your life. The choices you make can have 2732 02:54:56.920 --> 02:54:59.760 a big impact on your progress as you learn and 2733 02:54:59.799 --> 02:55:03.120 g r row. This is especially true when it comes 2734 02:55:03.120 --> 02:55:06.680 to learning and personal growth. You can be more aware 2735 02:55:06.760 --> 02:55:11.799 when making choices by doing these easy things. One, take 2736 02:55:11.840 --> 02:55:14.360 a deep breath and think about what you want to 2737 02:55:14.440 --> 02:55:18.399 do before you decide. Do this every time you need 2738 02:55:18.440 --> 02:55:21.760 to make a big choice. That gives you time between 2739 02:55:21.799 --> 02:55:25.159 the event that sets off the response, letting you make 2740 02:55:25.200 --> 02:55:29.879 a better choice. Two, think about what you want and 2741 02:55:29.920 --> 02:55:33.479 what you value. Think about how each option fits with 2742 02:55:33.559 --> 02:55:38.000 your views and long term goals. Check does this choice 2743 02:55:38.120 --> 02:55:41.959 lead me towards the person I aspire to be. Three, 2744 02:55:42.440 --> 02:55:45.000 have a look at the long term effects as you 2745 02:55:45.079 --> 02:55:48.000 make your choice. Don't just think about what will happen 2746 02:55:48.040 --> 02:55:51.120 in the short term. Also think about what will happen 2747 02:55:51.159 --> 02:55:54.840 in the long term. This helps people think ahead, which 2748 02:55:54.879 --> 02:55:58.040 is a skill that is useful for learning throughout life. 2749 02:55:58.680 --> 02:56:03.399 Improving your thoughtful resilience in the face of hardship. Another 2750 02:56:03.520 --> 02:56:06.760 important skill for stoics who want to find inner peace 2751 02:56:06.879 --> 02:56:11.360 and grow as people is resilience. Mindfulness is a key 2752 02:56:11.399 --> 02:56:15.319 part of growing resilience. Keeping an open mind when things 2753 02:56:15.360 --> 02:56:19.600 go wrong teaches you how to handle issues without getting upset. 2754 02:56:19.920 --> 02:56:23.079 When you know this, you can act calmly and logically 2755 02:56:23.520 --> 02:56:27.760 instead of letting your emotions run your life in real life. 2756 02:56:28.040 --> 02:56:33.559 Here are some ways to practice mindful resilience. One, recognize 2757 02:56:33.719 --> 02:56:37.120 and name how you feel. Sometimes when you're having a 2758 02:56:37.200 --> 02:56:41.040 rough time, you should stop and name your feelings. It 2759 02:56:41.159 --> 02:56:43.959 keeps you from acting on your feelings because you are 2760 02:56:44.040 --> 02:56:48.200 aware of them. Two. Pay attention to your breath when 2761 02:56:48.239 --> 02:56:51.319 you're stressed. If you want to bring yourself back to 2762 02:56:51.360 --> 02:56:54.799 the present, This simple habit can help you feel calmer 2763 02:56:55.079 --> 02:57:02.280 and smarter. Three. Writing about problems with refees Regularly write 2764 02:57:02.319 --> 02:57:05.479 down what you think and feel about the issues you're having. 2765 02:57:06.120 --> 02:57:08.639 This can help you see patterns in how you handle 2766 02:57:08.680 --> 02:57:14.159 issues over time and pick more considerate responses. Practicing focus 2767 02:57:14.200 --> 02:57:17.280 every day can help you live a more calm life. 2768 02:57:18.000 --> 02:57:21.399 Mindfulness practice makes you more aware of the present moment, 2769 02:57:21.879 --> 02:57:25.079 which helps you learn and live With a calm, focused 2770 02:57:25.360 --> 02:57:29.079 and open mind, anyone of any age can reach a 2771 02:57:29.120 --> 02:57:32.600 state of peace and knowledge that is important for personal 2772 02:57:32.639 --> 02:57:36.319 growth and effective learning. If you want to keep learning 2773 02:57:36.399 --> 02:57:39.399 and getting better, these habits will help you do that. 2774 02:57:40.200 --> 02:57:43.360 They will also help you deal with life's problems in 2775 02:57:43.399 --> 02:57:50.159 a calm and mindful way. Lesson seven show care and understanding. 2776 02:57:50.239 --> 02:57:54.440 By being kind and understanding, you can bond with and 2777 02:57:54.680 --> 02:57:59.479 understand other people better. Stoicism, which is frequently thought to 2778 02:57:59.600 --> 02:58:04.680 encourage emotional distance, actually makes people more caring and understanding. 2779 02:58:05.319 --> 02:58:10.040 These traits are necessary for personal growth, understanding others and 2780 02:58:10.079 --> 02:58:13.760 making deep links. In the area of ongoing learning. We 2781 02:58:13.840 --> 02:58:17.200 can learn from both our own and other people's situations 2782 02:58:17.200 --> 02:58:21.559 and points of view, which makes our lives better. Stoicism 2783 02:58:21.959 --> 02:58:26.600 and the obligation to provide stoicism shows us how important 2784 02:58:26.639 --> 02:58:29.760 it is to understand that we are all human and 2785 02:58:29.799 --> 02:58:33.520 to view things from others perspectives. You can deal with 2786 02:58:33.559 --> 02:58:36.600 other people better when you have this kind of understanding. 2787 02:58:37.280 --> 02:58:41.440 This is important for both personal and professional growth. We 2788 02:58:41.520 --> 02:58:44.399 are more open to new events and points of view 2789 02:58:44.680 --> 02:58:48.719 when we have empathy. This helps us learn and understand 2790 02:58:48.760 --> 02:58:51.799 the world better. Things you can do right now to 2791 02:58:51.879 --> 02:58:58.200 become more kind and understanding one paying attention. Listen to 2792 02:58:58.239 --> 02:59:01.600 what other people have to say. As some one talks, 2793 02:59:01.959 --> 02:59:05.120 pay close attention and try to see things from their 2794 02:59:05.159 --> 02:59:08.719 point of view. Do not judge or answer right away. 2795 02:59:09.479 --> 02:59:12.440 This shows that you value and care about what they 2796 02:59:12.520 --> 02:59:18.319 feel and think. Two. Getting along and understanding. Try to 2797 02:59:18.360 --> 02:59:21.040 put yourself in some one else's shoes when you talk 2798 02:59:21.079 --> 02:59:24.040 to them. To do this, you may need to think 2799 02:59:24.079 --> 02:59:28.000 about their past, what they've been through, and how they're feeling, 2800 02:59:28.399 --> 02:59:34.000 and then be kind and understanding. Three. Giving back to 2801 02:59:34.079 --> 02:59:38.639 the community and volunteering do things for free in your neighborhood. 2802 02:59:39.239 --> 02:59:42.760 Things like this can help you understand different scenarios, better 2803 02:59:43.319 --> 02:59:46.200 see things from a different point of view, and become 2804 02:59:46.319 --> 02:59:51.120 more aware and kind. Four. Writing in a diary to 2805 02:59:51.200 --> 02:59:55.239 process social events. Take notes about the people you see 2806 02:59:55.280 --> 02:59:58.840 every day. Write down times when you felt very close 2807 02:59:58.920 --> 03:00:02.040 to or far away from other people, and then think 2808 03:00:02.079 --> 03:00:06.440 about why that was. Being more aware and understanding how 2809 03:00:06.479 --> 03:00:10.799 your mind works are both helped by this. Stoic's thought 2810 03:00:10.840 --> 03:00:14.159 about how everyone is the same. Take a moment to 2811 03:00:14.200 --> 03:00:17.319 think about how everyone is connected in a staunch way 2812 03:00:17.479 --> 03:00:20.440 every day. Know that you are all part of a 2813 03:00:20.479 --> 03:00:23.600 bigger group and that everyone needs to be kind and 2814 03:00:23.760 --> 03:00:28.079 understanding to get along. Being mindful and in charge of 2815 03:00:28.120 --> 03:00:31.479 your feelings when you're with other people. When you are 2816 03:00:31.559 --> 03:00:35.399 aware of your thoughts, keep them in mind instead of 2817 03:00:35.479 --> 03:00:39.760 moving without thinking. You can answer with care and understanding. 2818 03:00:40.600 --> 03:00:45.360 Getting better at understanding by accepting differences. It can help 2819 03:00:45.399 --> 03:00:49.120 you understand and care about other people by learning about 2820 03:00:49.120 --> 03:00:53.559 their ideals and ways of life. Stoicism teaches us to 2821 03:00:53.600 --> 03:00:57.399 see things from different angles, which helps us understand other 2822 03:00:57.479 --> 03:01:01.760 people better. This touch help helps us understand things more 2823 03:01:01.760 --> 03:01:06.040 deeply and honestly by broadening our views and putting our 2824 03:01:06.079 --> 03:01:09.399 beliefs to the test. Things you can do right now 2825 03:01:09.520 --> 03:01:14.120 to be open to differences. One, learn about other countries 2826 03:01:14.159 --> 03:01:18.239 and ways of life. You can read books, watch movies, travel, 2827 03:01:18.719 --> 03:01:21.360 or talk to other people to learn about countries and 2828 03:01:21.440 --> 03:01:25.559 practices that are different from your own. You'll be able 2829 03:01:25.600 --> 03:01:28.719 to understand and care about more people when you do this. 2830 03:01:29.840 --> 03:01:33.799 Two do things where people from different backgrounds can meet 2831 03:01:33.840 --> 03:01:37.680 and talk about their cultures. Join groups or events that 2832 03:01:37.760 --> 03:01:41.040 do this. Going to talks and events can help you 2833 03:01:41.120 --> 03:01:45.879 learn about how other people live and think. Three, Take 2834 03:01:45.920 --> 03:01:48.600 a look at your own views. Take a lot of 2835 03:01:48.639 --> 03:01:52.239 time to think about and question your own biases and beliefs. 2836 03:01:52.840 --> 03:01:55.520 You need to be aware of your flaws and work 2837 03:01:55.559 --> 03:01:58.600 on them if you want to really understand and care 2838 03:01:58.639 --> 03:02:03.200 about other people. When things get hot or tough, compassion 2839 03:02:03.280 --> 03:02:06.319 is often put to the test. Here's how to show 2840 03:02:06.399 --> 03:02:11.200 kindness in those times. Stoicism advises us to remain calm 2841 03:02:11.280 --> 03:02:16.120 and forgiving even when things go wrong or people don't agree. 2842 03:02:16.319 --> 03:02:19.760 When things go wrong, being kind not only helps you 2843 03:02:19.879 --> 03:02:24.000 grow as a person, it also makes things easier. Things 2844 03:02:24.000 --> 03:02:26.600 you can do right now to be kind when things 2845 03:02:26.639 --> 03:02:31.239 are tough. One. During a fight, try to understand how 2846 03:02:31.280 --> 03:02:34.520 the other person feels and see things from their point 2847 03:02:34.559 --> 03:02:37.760 of view. Make it your goal to solve the problem 2848 03:02:38.120 --> 03:02:42.479 instead of trying to win. Two. Help people who are 2849 03:02:42.520 --> 03:02:46.360 having a bad day. Show someone you care and understand 2850 03:02:46.680 --> 03:02:49.719 when they are having a hard time. Being there and 2851 03:02:49.799 --> 03:02:54.280 listening is sometimes the kindest thing you can do. Three. 2852 03:02:55.000 --> 03:02:57.639 Use quiet thought when you're under a lot of stress. 2853 03:02:58.319 --> 03:03:01.120 When you're under a lot of stress, stop and think 2854 03:03:01.159 --> 03:03:05.760 about stern ideas like the difference between power and calm. 2855 03:03:05.959 --> 03:03:08.920 This makes it easier for you to stay calm and kind. 2856 03:03:09.760 --> 03:03:12.760 Doing these things every day will help you understand and 2857 03:03:12.920 --> 03:03:16.719 care about other people better, especially when things are hard 2858 03:03:16.840 --> 03:03:21.440 or unusual. These extra curricular activities are in line with 2859 03:03:21.559 --> 03:03:26.239 stoic ideas, and they also improve your personal and social life. 2860 03:03:26.840 --> 03:03:29.479 This makes the world a better place for every one. 2861 03:03:30.079 --> 03:03:33.479 Being kind and patient is a big part of being silent. 2862 03:03:34.239 --> 03:03:37.600 This helps you connect with others more deeply and grow 2863 03:03:37.840 --> 03:03:42.120 as a person. When we listen, try to understand, do 2864 03:03:42.319 --> 03:03:46.440 community work, and think about our relationships, we get to 2865 03:03:46.520 --> 03:03:49.920 know and connect with the people around us better. This 2866 03:03:50.040 --> 03:03:54.000 makes our connections stronger and helps us learn and understand 2867 03:03:54.040 --> 03:03:57.799 things in new ways. This makes our life journey more 2868 03:03:57.840 --> 03:04:02.040 important and full. When we do these things, we show 2869 03:04:02.120 --> 03:04:06.360 the Stoic values of care and understanding, which are important 2870 03:04:06.639 --> 03:04:13.200 for living a good life. Lesson eate, work on being 2871 03:04:13.239 --> 03:04:17.760 persistent and stuck to your goals. Stoicism teaches us how 2872 03:04:17.760 --> 03:04:21.159 to keep going even when things get hard. This is 2873 03:04:21.280 --> 03:04:24.319 especially helpful as we try to become better people and 2874 03:04:24.440 --> 03:04:27.879 learn new things. In order to stick to our plans 2875 03:04:27.879 --> 03:04:32.040 and goals even when things get tough or progress is slow, 2876 03:04:32.639 --> 03:04:36.840 we must develop the strength to do so. Stoicism says 2877 03:04:36.879 --> 03:04:40.200 that changing for the better and getting smarter is often 2878 03:04:40.239 --> 03:04:43.399 a long and hard road, but it is also a 2879 03:04:43.559 --> 03:04:49.200 very good one. How Stoics deal with problems. Stoics don't 2880 03:04:49.200 --> 03:04:52.399 think problems are hard to solve. They see them as 2881 03:04:52.440 --> 03:04:55.120 steps that must be taken in order to grow and 2882 03:04:55.200 --> 03:04:58.920 become wise. This point of view tells us to face 2883 03:04:59.000 --> 03:05:02.079 our problems head on on and use them as chances 2884 03:05:02.159 --> 03:05:06.280 to get stronger and better people. It was Marcus Aurelius 2885 03:05:06.280 --> 03:05:10.120 who said what stands in the way of action becomes 2886 03:05:10.200 --> 03:05:13.799 the way. Steps you can take to be more persistent. 2887 03:05:14.680 --> 03:05:18.680 One set goals and plans for the long run. Clear 2888 03:05:18.719 --> 03:05:22.239 out your mind often and write down your long term goals. 2889 03:05:22.959 --> 03:05:26.680 This keeps you determined and on track, especially when things 2890 03:05:26.719 --> 03:05:31.879 get hard. Two. Break up big issues into manageable steps. 2891 03:05:32.440 --> 03:05:35.520 Break up a big problem or job into smaller steps 2892 03:05:35.559 --> 03:05:39.040 that you can handle. This makes the job less scary 2893 03:05:39.440 --> 03:05:43.520 and helps you get it done faster. Three Think a 2894 03:05:43.559 --> 03:05:45.840 lot about the good things that have happened to you 2895 03:05:45.959 --> 03:05:49.760 in the past. Think about the issues you've already resolved. 2896 03:05:50.280 --> 03:05:52.600 This makes you even more sure that you can be 2897 03:05:52.760 --> 03:05:58.760 persistent and succeed. Four. Take on a growth mindset. Work 2898 03:05:58.799 --> 03:06:02.159 hard and don't give up. You can get smarter and 2899 03:06:02.239 --> 03:06:05.600 better at things if you believe in yourself. This method 2900 03:06:05.760 --> 03:06:10.920 encourages people to be strong and eager to learn and improve. Five. 2901 03:06:11.440 --> 03:06:14.600 To get ideas for your own writing, read and think 2902 03:06:14.639 --> 03:06:19.319 about stoic works that stress the virtue of persistence. Stoics 2903 03:06:19.360 --> 03:06:21.440 knew a lot of things that can help you and 2904 03:06:21.520 --> 03:06:26.479 give you ideas. Six. Take your time with everyday things. 2905 03:06:27.239 --> 03:06:30.239 Patience is an important trait to have when you're waiting 2906 03:06:30.280 --> 03:06:33.799 in line or dealing with a slow process. You can 2907 03:06:33.840 --> 03:06:37.200 get better at it with practice. In order to learn 2908 03:06:37.239 --> 03:06:41.479 to continue and build inner strength and resilience, it's important 2909 03:06:41.520 --> 03:06:46.079 to make regularity a daily habit. Stoicism says that you 2910 03:06:46.079 --> 03:06:50.000 should learn and follow rules every day. By adding normal 2911 03:06:50.040 --> 03:06:53.920 habits and routines into our daily lives, we can strengthen 2912 03:06:53.959 --> 03:06:58.440 our commitment to our goals and increase our capacity for perseverance. 2913 03:06:59.360 --> 03:07:03.200 Steps you can take to make things more consistent one 2914 03:07:03.680 --> 03:07:07.280 set up daily habits. Set daily habits that will help 2915 03:07:07.319 --> 03:07:10.520 you meet your long term goals, like giving yourself a 2916 03:07:10.559 --> 03:07:14.079 certain amount of time to think, study, or work out. 2917 03:07:14.920 --> 03:07:18.399 Doing these things over and over again helps you stay 2918 03:07:18.440 --> 03:07:24.639 focused and not give up. Two, You can use schedules, plans, notes, 2919 03:07:24.840 --> 03:07:27.760 and other tools to help you stick to your habits 2920 03:07:27.760 --> 03:07:31.840 and goals. Changing and going over your plan often can 2921 03:07:31.920 --> 03:07:34.559 help you stay on track and keep your mind on 2922 03:07:34.639 --> 03:07:39.760 the task at hand. Three. Every day make small promises. 2923 03:07:40.360 --> 03:07:43.639 Promise yourself that every day you will do small tasks 2924 03:07:43.879 --> 03:07:47.399 that will help you reach your bigger goals. Over time, 2925 03:07:47.799 --> 03:07:52.799 these small steps add up to big changes. Using stoic acceptance, 2926 03:07:52.879 --> 03:07:56.879 when things go wrong or take too long, Stoicism stresses 2927 03:07:56.959 --> 03:07:59.559 how important it is to learn to deal with things 2928 03:07:59.559 --> 03:08:04.600 that are of our control, like delays or mistakes. Stoicism 2929 03:08:04.719 --> 03:08:07.799 tells us not to let losses make us sad, but 2930 03:08:07.879 --> 03:08:11.840 to keep our cool and move on right now. Here 2931 03:08:11.879 --> 03:08:14.200 are some things you can do to accept things as 2932 03:08:14.239 --> 03:08:18.159 they are when they go wrong or take too long. One, 2933 03:08:18.840 --> 03:08:22.159 accept the stern idea that you should separate the things 2934 03:08:22.200 --> 03:08:25.879 you can control from the things you can't. Focus on 2935 03:08:25.959 --> 03:08:29.520 the things you can control, and calmly accept the things 2936 03:08:29.559 --> 03:08:35.200 you can't. This will help you see the dichotomy of power. Two. 2937 03:08:36.000 --> 03:08:38.959 Think of bad things that happen as chances to learn 2938 03:08:39.000 --> 03:08:41.959 and get better. Take a step back and think about 2939 03:08:42.000 --> 03:08:45.879 your mistakes instead of letting them bring you down, use 2940 03:08:45.959 --> 03:08:52.159 them to learn and improve. Three develop your resilience. As 2941 03:08:52.159 --> 03:08:55.000 a stoic, you know how important it is to keep 2942 03:08:55.040 --> 03:08:58.760 your emotions in check, keep your feelings in check, and 2943 03:08:58.840 --> 03:09:02.520 be ready to change your plans when problems arise out 2944 03:09:02.520 --> 03:09:06.319 of the blue. Stoic ideas can help you stay strong 2945 03:09:06.639 --> 03:09:10.079 even when things get tough. If you follow these stoic 2946 03:09:10.159 --> 03:09:13.639 rules every day, you will get better at staying strong. 2947 03:09:14.200 --> 03:09:17.479 You can develop resilience in the face of adversity by 2948 03:09:17.520 --> 03:09:21.479 focusing on your long term objectives and viewing setbacks as 2949 03:09:21.520 --> 03:09:26.200 opportunities to learn and advance. Stoicism tells us that if 2950 03:09:26.200 --> 03:09:29.440 we follow these steps, the path to personal growth and 2951 03:09:29.559 --> 03:09:32.959 continuing to learn may be hard, but it is also 2952 03:09:33.280 --> 03:09:38.200 very good. Building resilience and determination will help you deal 2953 03:09:38.280 --> 03:09:41.799 with setbacks and problems with a strong will, so you 2954 03:09:41.840 --> 03:09:46.520 can reach your goals and reach your full potential. Stoicism 2955 03:09:46.639 --> 03:09:49.079 is a great way to get through this trip. It 2956 03:09:49.159 --> 03:09:53.000 includes both old fashioned advice and useful tips on how 2957 03:09:53.040 --> 03:09:57.520 to draw on your inner strength and resilience. Lessen eight, 2958 03:09:58.239 --> 03:10:01.360 Be strong and keep going e even when things get hard. 2959 03:10:02.280 --> 03:10:05.760 Stoicism teaches us how to keep going even when things 2960 03:10:05.799 --> 03:10:09.239 get hard. This is especially helpful as we try to 2961 03:10:09.280 --> 03:10:13.280 become better people and learn new things. In order to 2962 03:10:13.319 --> 03:10:16.719 stick to our plans and goals even when things get 2963 03:10:16.760 --> 03:10:20.559 tough or progress is slow, we must develop the strength 2964 03:10:20.639 --> 03:10:24.479 to do so. Stoicism says that changing for the better 2965 03:10:24.760 --> 03:10:28.440 and getting smarter is often a long and hard road, 2966 03:10:28.559 --> 03:10:32.159 but it is also a very good one. As a stoic, 2967 03:10:32.559 --> 03:10:35.280 you know how important it is to keep your emotions 2968 03:10:35.319 --> 03:10:38.879 in check, keep your feelings in check, and be ready 2969 03:10:38.920 --> 03:10:43.319 to change your plans when problems arise out of the blue. 2970 03:10:43.360 --> 03:10:46.559 Follow these stoic rules every day to put the ideas 2971 03:10:46.559 --> 03:10:50.559 of stoicism into practice. This will help you keep going 2972 03:10:50.879 --> 03:10:54.760 even when things get tough. You can develop resilience in 2973 03:10:54.799 --> 03:10:58.000 the face of adversity by focusing on your long term 2974 03:10:58.000 --> 03:11:02.760 objectives and viewing setbacks as opportunities to learn and advance. 2975 03:11:03.440 --> 03:11:05.799 It may be hard to keep learning and growing as 2976 03:11:05.799 --> 03:11:08.479 a person if you follow these steps, but it is 2977 03:11:08.559 --> 03:11:13.280 also very helpful. Stoicism tells us that developing the virtues 2978 03:11:13.319 --> 03:11:16.959 of resilience and persistence will help you deal with problems 2979 03:11:16.959 --> 03:11:20.040 and setbacks with a strong will, so you can reach 2980 03:11:20.040 --> 03:11:23.280 your goals and reach your full potential. In the end, 2981 03:11:24.479 --> 03:11:27.440 Stoicism is a great way to get through this trip 2982 03:11:27.760 --> 03:11:30.920 because it tells us to see problems as normal parts 2983 03:11:30.920 --> 03:11:35.280 of learning and chances to grow. It includes both old 2984 03:11:35.319 --> 03:11:39.079 advice and new, useful tips on how to boost your 2985 03:11:39.120 --> 03:11:43.479 inner strength and resilience. Real life advice for being stoic. 2986 03:11:44.000 --> 03:11:46.719 When you fail, see it as a chance to learn. 2987 03:11:47.399 --> 03:11:51.399 Do not rush when something goes wrong. Instead, think about 2988 03:11:51.440 --> 03:11:53.920 what went wrong and what you can learn from it. 2989 03:11:54.520 --> 03:11:56.920 Failures can teach you a lot if you change how 2990 03:11:56.920 --> 03:12:01.079 you see them. Be calm when you think about as 2991 03:12:01.120 --> 03:12:05.440 often as possible. Remind yourself of the stern duality of control. 2992 03:12:06.159 --> 03:12:08.879 Focus on the things you do and think that you 2993 03:12:08.920 --> 03:12:12.319 can change instead of the things that happen which you 2994 03:12:12.399 --> 03:12:16.319 can't always change. Keep your growth in mind and let 2995 03:12:16.360 --> 03:12:19.319 it happen at its own pace. Know that it takes 2996 03:12:19.360 --> 03:12:22.000 time to make progress and that you need to be 2997 03:12:22.040 --> 03:12:26.600 patient to keep going with something. By incorporating these extra 2998 03:12:26.680 --> 03:12:30.159 steps into your daily routine, you can give yourself more 2999 03:12:30.159 --> 03:12:32.879 strength to deal with the ups and downs that come 3000 03:12:32.959 --> 03:12:38.719 with personal growth and lifelong learning. Consistency, practice, and a 3001 03:12:38.799 --> 03:12:42.840 tough attitude toward failure are all important ways to build 3002 03:12:42.879 --> 03:12:46.559 resilience and resolve on your path to learning new things 3003 03:12:46.879 --> 03:12:50.799 and improving yourself. Stand firm if you want to become 3004 03:12:50.879 --> 03:12:55.319 smarter and better. This is very important for stoics. Setting 3005 03:12:55.399 --> 03:13:00.200 long term goals, breaking down obstacles, focusing on past wins, 3006 03:13:00.559 --> 03:13:04.959 having a growth mindset, getting ideas from Stoic lessons, and 3007 03:13:05.040 --> 03:13:08.879 practicing waiting all help us build the resilience and resolve 3008 03:13:08.959 --> 03:13:12.799 we need to get past problems and keep learning throughout 3009 03:13:12.840 --> 03:13:17.520 our lives. Our character is improved and our life experiences 3010 03:13:17.559 --> 03:13:21.159 are made richer by our determination to keep going. It 3011 03:13:21.239 --> 03:13:26.200 also helps us meet our personal and educational goals. Lesson 3012 03:13:26.280 --> 03:13:31.799 nine teach intellectual humility and a desire to learn. Make 3013 03:13:31.840 --> 03:13:36.239 your mind ready to accept new ideas and things. Stoicism 3014 03:13:36.319 --> 03:13:39.799 stresses how important it is to always be ready to 3015 03:13:39.879 --> 03:13:43.920 learn new things and keep your mind humble. No matter 3016 03:13:43.959 --> 03:13:47.079 how much we think we know, we can always learn more. 3017 03:13:47.799 --> 03:13:51.040 It means agreeing that our ideas and thoughts can change 3018 03:13:51.040 --> 03:13:54.879 over time, especially as we learn new things and come 3019 03:13:55.000 --> 03:13:59.159 up with new points of view. Stoic ideas about knowledge 3020 03:13:59.200 --> 03:14:02.520 and wisdom. The Stoics knew that the only way to 3021 03:14:02.600 --> 03:14:05.680 be truly wise is to be aware of how little 3022 03:14:05.760 --> 03:14:09.639 you know. Always wanting to learn and grow was what 3023 03:14:09.680 --> 03:14:13.319 they pushed for. This is especially important in the world 3024 03:14:13.360 --> 03:14:16.840 we live in now, where things change so quickly. We 3025 03:14:17.000 --> 03:14:19.719 keep our minds open to new ideas and grow as 3026 03:14:19.760 --> 03:14:23.479 people because of this way of doing things. Now is 3027 03:14:23.559 --> 03:14:28.319 the time to start being intellectually humble. Always learn something new, 3028 03:14:29.040 --> 03:14:31.760 keep an open mind, and know that no matter how 3029 03:14:31.799 --> 03:14:34.959 old you are or how much knowledge you have, there 3030 03:14:35.040 --> 03:14:38.920 is always something new to find out. Often think about 3031 03:14:38.959 --> 03:14:42.600 what you believe, Think about what you believe and what 3032 03:14:42.639 --> 03:14:46.040 you think. Think about why you believe what you do, 3033 03:14:46.440 --> 03:14:49.079 and be ready to change your mind if you learn 3034 03:14:49.159 --> 03:14:52.959 something new or find a better reason. Try to see 3035 03:14:53.000 --> 03:14:57.440 things from different angles, find thoughts and ideas that aren't 3036 03:14:57.479 --> 03:15:01.479 the same as yours. Learning about things from different points 3037 03:15:01.479 --> 03:15:04.600 of view can help you understand them better and make 3038 03:15:04.639 --> 03:15:08.319 you question what you believe you know. It's important to 3039 03:15:08.399 --> 03:15:12.680 listen actively when you talk or chat, especially when talking 3040 03:15:12.719 --> 03:15:16.719 about something tough or controversial. Don't just wait for your 3041 03:15:16.760 --> 03:15:21.319 turn to talk. Listen actively. Instead, just try to see 3042 03:15:21.360 --> 03:15:25.280 things as the other person does. Read many different things. 3043 03:15:25.840 --> 03:15:29.559 You can learn more by reading books, papers, and other 3044 03:15:29.639 --> 03:15:32.920 things about a lot of different subjects. Even if those 3045 03:15:32.959 --> 03:15:37.639 subjects aren't usually your thing. Mistakes are chances to learn 3046 03:15:38.280 --> 03:15:41.680 there was something wrong. When you make a mistake, think 3047 03:15:41.719 --> 03:15:45.200 about what you can learn from it. Seeing mistakes as 3048 03:15:45.319 --> 03:15:50.799 chances to learn makes you more intellectually humble. Intellectual curiosity 3049 03:15:51.159 --> 03:15:54.000 is a big reason why people keep learning, and the 3050 03:15:54.079 --> 03:15:57.600 idea has its roots in the Stoic philosophy for the 3051 03:15:57.639 --> 03:16:00.959 sake of learning, It means really one to find out 3052 03:16:01.040 --> 03:16:06.319 new things, learn about new things, and understand hard ideas. 3053 03:16:06.799 --> 03:16:11.159 When we're intellectually interested, our minds stay busy and open, 3054 03:16:11.680 --> 03:16:15.399 ready to learn and grow from every new event. If 3055 03:16:15.440 --> 03:16:18.319 you want to be more intelligent in real life, try 3056 03:16:18.399 --> 03:16:21.920 learning something new every day. You should make time to 3057 03:16:22.000 --> 03:16:25.719 learn about things that you don't usually find interesting. This 3058 03:16:25.799 --> 03:16:30.319 could mean going to talks, movies, or online lessons about 3059 03:16:30.319 --> 03:16:33.479 things you don't know much about. Talk about things that 3060 03:16:33.559 --> 03:16:36.440 make you think. Talk to people who can help you 3061 03:16:36.840 --> 03:16:40.680 think of new ideas. Having talks that are stimulating for 3062 03:16:40.760 --> 03:16:43.959 your mind can make you want to learn more. Make 3063 03:16:44.000 --> 03:16:47.159 a list of your questions. You should keep a journal 3064 03:16:47.159 --> 03:16:51.079 where you can write down new ideas, questions, or things 3065 03:16:51.120 --> 03:16:54.920 that interest you. Keep coming back to these questions and 3066 03:16:55.040 --> 03:16:58.680 study or talk about them to find out more to learn. 3067 03:16:59.200 --> 03:17:02.680 Have the mind of beginner. This is a Zen Buddhist 3068 03:17:02.719 --> 03:17:06.799 idea that fits well with Stoic ideals. It means going 3069 03:17:06.840 --> 03:17:10.680 into every situation with the curiosity and openness of someone 3070 03:17:10.959 --> 03:17:14.239 who is just starting out. No matter how much you know, 3071 03:17:15.079 --> 03:17:17.840 This way of thinking helps you get over being proud 3072 03:17:17.879 --> 03:17:20.719 of your knowledge and leads to a more humble and 3073 03:17:20.959 --> 03:17:24.760 in depth way of learning and understanding. To keep your 3074 03:17:24.799 --> 03:17:28.360 mind fresh, learn new things and look at them in 3075 03:17:28.399 --> 03:17:32.079 a fresh way. No matter what you're learning or going over, 3076 03:17:32.520 --> 03:17:35.280 try to remember it as if it were the first time. 3077 03:17:36.000 --> 03:17:38.959 This way of doing things keeps you from getting comfy 3078 03:17:39.280 --> 03:17:43.319 and helps you learn new things. Mindfulness is a good 3079 03:17:43.360 --> 03:17:46.920 way to learn. Pay close attention and be in the 3080 03:17:46.959 --> 03:17:51.239 present moment while you learn. When you're aware, you can 3081 03:17:51.280 --> 03:17:55.360 better understand and value the little things you're learning. Ask 3082 03:17:55.479 --> 03:17:58.760 for help and feedback a lot. Even if you think 3083 03:17:58.799 --> 03:18:01.760 you know a lot about a object, ask other people 3084 03:18:01.799 --> 03:18:05.280 for feedback and help you stay on track and want 3085 03:18:05.319 --> 03:18:08.879 to keep getting better because of this habit. Simply by 3086 03:18:08.920 --> 03:18:12.280 adding these extra activities to the way you learn, you 3087 03:18:12.360 --> 03:18:15.840 not only follow the ideas of stoicism, but you also 3088 03:18:15.920 --> 03:18:19.879 get smarter and learn more. Keeping an open mind and 3089 03:18:19.959 --> 03:18:23.360 being interested in new things are great ways to make 3090 03:18:23.399 --> 03:18:27.440 sure that your road of learning and self improvement is enjoyable. 3091 03:18:28.399 --> 03:18:32.840 Some important parts of stoicism and personal growth are intellectual 3092 03:18:32.959 --> 03:18:37.600 humility and a willingness to learn. To develop this, we 3093 03:18:37.639 --> 03:18:41.680 should always be willing to learn new things, question our beliefs, 3094 03:18:42.040 --> 03:18:46.440 and look for different points of view. Reading, listening, and 3095 03:18:46.520 --> 03:18:50.120 making mistakes are all great ways to do this. Not 3096 03:18:50.200 --> 03:18:52.840 only does this way of thinking help us understand the 3097 03:18:52.879 --> 03:18:56.920 world better, but it also helps us adapt, grow, and 3098 03:18:57.000 --> 03:19:00.319 do well in a world that is always changing. Being 3099 03:19:00.399 --> 03:19:03.920 mentally humble helps us stay grounded and open, which is 3100 03:19:03.959 --> 03:19:07.639 good for our learning and growth. Don't be afraid of change, 3101 03:19:07.959 --> 03:19:10.920 be open to it. Get better at changing the way 3102 03:19:10.959 --> 03:19:13.920 you think an act. The last lesson in our road 3103 03:19:13.959 --> 03:19:17.319 to becoming Calm talks about how important it is to 3104 03:19:17.360 --> 03:19:21.799 be flexible and open to new things. Socrates teaches us 3105 03:19:21.879 --> 03:19:25.000 many good things, but one of the most important ones 3106 03:19:25.399 --> 03:19:28.719 is how to deal with change. This lesson is all 3107 03:19:28.760 --> 03:19:32.239 about how to deal with new problems and situations with 3108 03:19:32.399 --> 03:19:35.719 ease and grace. This is a skill you will need 3109 03:19:35.799 --> 03:19:38.239 for the rest of your life to keep learning and 3110 03:19:38.319 --> 03:19:43.559 growing how to understand change. In stoicism, change is a 3111 03:19:43.639 --> 03:19:48.559 normal part of life, says stoic thought Marcus Aurelius said, 3112 03:19:49.239 --> 03:19:53.280 always keep in mind that everything happens through change. To 3113 03:19:53.360 --> 03:19:55.799 stay calm and get things done in a world that 3114 03:19:55.920 --> 03:19:59.879 is always changing, you need to understand and accept this. 3115 03:20:01.360 --> 03:20:04.399 Mindful acceptance is a skill that can help you deal 3116 03:20:04.479 --> 03:20:07.680 with not knowing what will happen. You can accept the 3117 03:20:07.719 --> 03:20:11.120 present moment with all of its questions and opportunities by 3118 03:20:11.120 --> 03:20:15.319 practicing mindfulness. When you know this, you don't worry as 3119 03:20:15.399 --> 03:20:18.239 much about what you don't know. When you don't know 3120 03:20:18.280 --> 03:20:21.799 what will happen, think about what you can change. You 3121 03:20:21.879 --> 03:20:25.079 can change how you respond and the choices you make. 3122 03:20:25.799 --> 03:20:29.280 Don't worry about the things you can't change. Get ready 3123 03:20:29.280 --> 03:20:32.360 for the worst that might happen. It's impossible to know 3124 03:20:32.440 --> 03:20:35.520 what will happen in every case, but making plans for 3125 03:20:35.600 --> 03:20:38.200 what to do in general can help you feel less 3126 03:20:38.239 --> 03:20:41.479 stressed and more at ease. A big part of being 3127 03:20:41.520 --> 03:20:44.559 flexible is being able to let go of things that 3128 03:20:44.639 --> 03:20:48.319 don't help you and move on. It can be old ideas, 3129 03:20:48.760 --> 03:20:52.360 bad habits, or even goals that you no longer care about. 3130 03:20:53.040 --> 03:20:55.440 If you want to be strong, you need to know 3131 03:20:55.520 --> 03:20:58.440 when to change course and have the guts to do it. 3132 03:20:59.360 --> 03:21:01.760 Here are some real life tips on how to learn 3133 03:21:01.799 --> 03:21:06.959 to let go. One, Regularly check your goals, habits, and 3134 03:21:07.000 --> 03:21:10.159 beliefs to see if they still fit with your reality 3135 03:21:10.239 --> 03:21:13.479 and values. This helps you figure out what you might 3136 03:21:13.559 --> 03:21:18.360 need to change or give up. Second, get better at separation. 3137 03:21:19.159 --> 03:21:22.760 Learn to separate yourself from the results and understand that 3138 03:21:22.920 --> 03:21:26.319 letting go is a major part of growing. It doesn't 3139 03:21:26.360 --> 03:21:29.120 mean you don't care, but it does mean you shouldn't 3140 03:21:29.159 --> 03:21:33.559 get too attached to one goal or path. Third, find 3141 03:21:33.799 --> 03:21:38.120 inner piece even when things are changing around you. Keep 3142 03:21:38.159 --> 03:21:42.600 your inner piece by meditating or thinking stoic thoughts. Being 3143 03:21:42.639 --> 03:21:45.559 at peace with yourself makes it easier to let go 3144 03:21:45.680 --> 03:21:49.600 and move on. By incorporating these extra steps into your 3145 03:21:49.680 --> 03:21:53.879 daily routine, you can strengthen your ability to adapt, deal 3146 03:21:53.959 --> 03:21:58.399 with uncertainty, and let go when necessary. These skills are 3147 03:21:58.520 --> 03:22:02.200 very helpful for navigating the ever changing landscape of life 3148 03:22:02.600 --> 03:22:07.319 and for continuing to learn and grow. Accepting uncertainty and 3149 03:22:07.399 --> 03:22:11.079 learning to let go our important skills for surviving in 3150 03:22:11.120 --> 03:22:15.040 a world that is always changing. According to Stoic philosophy. 3151 03:22:15.879 --> 03:22:19.840 Being open to change and able to adapt is important 3152 03:22:19.879 --> 03:22:22.799 if you want to follow the Stoic philosophy and do 3153 03:22:23.000 --> 03:22:26.239 well in the modern world. We can be confident and 3154 03:22:26.319 --> 03:22:30.440 at ease when life changes because we are cognitively flexible, 3155 03:22:30.840 --> 03:22:35.479 have a change attitude, plan for different outcomes, stay informed, 3156 03:22:35.920 --> 03:22:39.520 make our habits more flexible, and learn from the past. 3157 03:22:40.120 --> 03:22:42.680 We can deal with the unknowns of life better when 3158 03:22:42.719 --> 03:22:46.200 we can change. It also lets us try new things, 3159 03:22:46.639 --> 03:22:49.680 learn new things, and grow as people in a world 3160 03:22:49.719 --> 03:22:53.760 that is always changing. Being able to adapt better is 3161 03:22:53.840 --> 03:22:57.280 one of the most useful things we can learn. As 3162 03:22:57.319 --> 03:22:59.559 we come to the end of this journey through Stoic 3163 03:22:59.600 --> 03:23:03.399 flos sophy, it's important to think about how these lessons 3164 03:23:03.479 --> 03:23:08.079 can change our everyday lives. Stoicism offers guidance on how 3165 03:23:08.120 --> 03:23:12.159 to live a life of virtue, resilience, and happiness, in 3166 03:23:12.200 --> 03:23:16.360 addition to being more than just an intellectual debate. When 3167 03:23:16.360 --> 03:23:19.440 we use these lessons in our daily lives, we give 3168 03:23:19.479 --> 03:23:23.000 ourselves the tools to deal with life's problems and make 3169 03:23:23.040 --> 03:23:26.239 the most of its opportunities by being kind and smart. 3170 03:23:27.120 --> 03:23:30.879 The things we've talked about aren't just thoughts. They're meant 3171 03:23:30.920 --> 03:23:35.479 to be done and felt. As Marcus Aurelius said, don't 3172 03:23:35.479 --> 03:23:39.040 waste time arguing about what a good man should be 3173 03:23:39.040 --> 03:23:43.280 be one. Being a good person is what stoicism is 3174 03:23:43.319 --> 03:23:46.760 all about. Doing what you believe in is the only 3175 03:23:46.799 --> 03:23:51.520 way to build resilience, mindfulness, the ability to accept change, 3176 03:23:51.920 --> 03:23:55.959 or kindness. In each lesson, you can learn something new 3177 03:23:56.079 --> 03:23:59.840 and make your life better. To live by stoic ideals, 3178 03:24:00.239 --> 03:24:03.280 we have to keep working at them and thinking about them. 3179 03:24:03.760 --> 03:24:07.079 Because it's a journey. The road is just as important 3180 03:24:07.120 --> 03:24:10.200 as the end goal. Every day is a new chance 3181 03:24:10.319 --> 03:24:13.760 to show these good traits, grow as people and learn 3182 03:24:13.840 --> 03:24:17.399 from our mistakes. The great thing about stoic thought is 3183 03:24:17.440 --> 03:24:20.280 that it works for everyone, no matter what they are 3184 03:24:20.319 --> 03:24:24.520 going through. Don't forget what the Stoic's taut us. Let 3185 03:24:24.559 --> 03:24:27.840 it shape our actions and choices as we move forward. 3186 03:24:28.399 --> 03:24:32.000 Let's resolve to live by these principles every day, keep 3187 03:24:32.040 --> 03:24:35.719 an open mind about our actions and thoughts, and constantly 3188 03:24:35.799 --> 03:24:39.840 work to improve ourselves. That makes our lives better and 3189 03:24:39.920 --> 03:24:43.120 the lives of those around us better as well. Keep 3190 03:24:43.200 --> 03:24:46.639 in mind that stoicism is not about being perfect, but 3191 03:24:46.760 --> 03:24:50.559 about getting better. As we work to get better, we 3192 03:24:50.600 --> 03:24:54.639 should be kind to ourselves, notice our progress, and learn 3193 03:24:54.680 --> 03:24:58.520 from our mistakes. Let's be stoic and respect each other, 3194 03:24:58.879 --> 03:25:02.399 Be brave and keep an open heart. Then will be 3195 03:25:02.440 --> 03:25:05.079 ready to deal with anything life throws at us with 3196 03:25:05.200 --> 03:25:13.360 calm and knowledge. As we bring our exploration of stoicism 3197 03:25:13.399 --> 03:25:16.719 to a close, it's important to remember that the journey 3198 03:25:16.719 --> 03:25:20.879 you've embarked on is one of continuous growth and self discovery. 3199 03:25:21.680 --> 03:25:25.159 The principles and practices of stoicism you've been introduced to 3200 03:25:25.680 --> 03:25:29.200 are tools for life, designed to guide you toward a 3201 03:25:29.239 --> 03:25:35.319 more serene, resilient, and fulfilling existence. The power of repetition 3202 03:25:35.440 --> 03:25:40.239 in embedding Stoic principles into your daily life cannot be overstated. 3203 03:25:41.200 --> 03:25:45.239 Just as habits form through consistent action, so too will 3204 03:25:45.280 --> 03:25:50.040 the transformative power of stoicism become apparent through regular reflection 3205 03:25:50.479 --> 03:25:54.040 and application of its teachings. It's in the day to 3206 03:25:54.120 --> 03:25:58.760 day moments of choice, challenge, and contemplation that the true 3207 03:25:58.920 --> 03:26:03.399 essence of stoicism comes to life, shaping your reactions and 3208 03:26:03.559 --> 03:26:08.639 fortifying your spirit. Carry forward the insights and practices you've learned, 3209 03:26:09.159 --> 03:26:13.159 letting them illuminate your path as you navigate the complexities 3210 03:26:13.200 --> 03:26:18.879 of life. Remember Stoicism isn't a destination, but a journey, 3211 03:26:19.520 --> 03:26:24.120 one that offers profound insights into the nature of happiness, virtue, 3212 03:26:24.479 --> 03:26:27.760 and the good life. Thank you for taking the first 3213 03:26:27.840 --> 03:26:31.040 steps on this path with us. May the journey ahead 3214 03:26:31.079 --> 03:26:35.000 be rich with growth, understanding and the peace that comes 3215 03:26:35.000 --> 03:26:40.079 from living in harmony with Stoic wisdom. Keep revisiting these teachings, 3216 03:26:40.479 --> 03:26:44.520 letting them guide you through life's trials and triumphs. Here's 3217 03:26:44.559 --> 03:26:49.000 to your continued transformation and the endless possibilities that await 3218 03:26:49.440 --> 03:26:53.399 as you embrace Stoicism in your quest to transform your 3219 03:26:53.440 --> 03:26:54.159 life forever.