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Speaker 1: Have you checked it out yet? Ero dot net a

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r r oe dot net. It's more than a podcast.

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It is a collection of daily podcasts in one place.

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It's not that big of a choice. But if you

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don't go there, Oh what are we listening to today?

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One of the hot features on ero dot net is

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a show called pod Crashing and Podcrashing one on one.

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We actually talk to podcasters from all over the world

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and on pod Crashing one on one, what we're doing

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is we're putting focus on you developing your own podcast

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and locating success. Ero dot net a r r oe

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dot net. Enjoy your exploration. Hey, sad dude, that's always

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asking questions. The reason why is because it's really fun

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when you start researching for answers such as does the

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average person remember more of their bad times than good? Plus?

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How can we retrain our brain to take note of

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the good times? My name is Erro. I'm a daily writer,

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a silent wolf. That means I stand on the sidelines

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and do nothing but watch, listen, study, then activate. I

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happen to call it the Daily Mess because it is

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a chronological walk through an everyday world. It is my

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morning writing as a receiver of thoughts and ideas. We

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as people tend to naturally throw things to the side

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because we're convinced that we're going to deal with it

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later on. Not true at all. When a subject arrives

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inside of me, I know it's time to dig in.

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It's still keeping that daily journal, but by doing the research,

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the picture becomes clearer. This is the daily mess. Do

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most people only remember their bad times versus you know

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those good moments? All right, here's the cold hard facts.

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We as a generation find it easier to call up

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a bad memory. I'm talking pretty dang fast. But but

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but but it's not wearing a label that's screaming I'm

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the only one. The negative bias has a good time

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with our daily behavior. We can blame this method of

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remembering the bad first on survival wiring. Our brains prioritize threats.

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I mean, it loves to deep dive in the way

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of trying to figure out what the hell went wrong here. Plus,

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let's not leave out a much stronger emotion imprint such

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as pain, fear, and embarrassment. Oh, that's going to activate

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the brain. That's when your inner problem solver says, I

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got this, I got this. Everybody, calm down. I'm here,

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I'm here. The mind endlessly plays negative things over and

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over again, and the inner problem solver things. I'm here,

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I got it, I got it, Back it down, back

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it down. Well, here's the thing. Over time, people will

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experience a better feeling. It's called the fading effect bias.

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That's when your negative emotions start to fade faster than

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the good times. In short terms, your bad feelings, they're

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not going to be so loud anymore, and it usually

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loses out to winning, which is a positive. So hold

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on tight. Change is on the way. But how well,

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that's what we're going to talk about next. How do

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you retrain your freakin' brain to look at the good times? Hey,

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thanks for coming back to the daily mess. How do

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you retrain the brain to take note of the good

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times without creating a fake positive? Oh, this is a

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very real deal here. The brain naturally tilts toward being negative.

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The daily goal isn't to override your emotions with a

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fake positive, which I call a candy coated plastic bathroom mirror. Smile,

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get rid of it. Your mind and heart are constantly

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working and rebalancing attention, which allows better times to be registered.

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We aren't pausing in the right place. What y'all say

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that again? We are not pausing in the right places.

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A compliment is shared, and what do we usually do

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instantly throw it to the side. Ah, that was fun.

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That was a jolt of celebration. Wooo. But we don't

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do a pause, We don't take one. No, we take

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it in and just keep moving on. You gotta let

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your body feel this stuff. Man, This strengthens your neuro

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pathway without pretending that you are bigger and larger than

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the situation that's really taking place. I mean, it's okay

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to say, hey, I gotta get my balance in order. Okay,

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so how am I gonna do that? You see how

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that is? Oh my god, I'm freaking out. Oh my

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balance is off. Well, then figure it out. There's your balance.

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Have the opposite side. If you take the time to

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practice this, your body isn't going to hold on to

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just the bad stuff. I mean that good stuff is

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knocking on your heart saying come on, give me some love,

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give me some light, and you're gonna start registering the

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oh wow moments I marrow