1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:01,960 Speaker 1: Have you been to Leo's Bakery and Deli and East 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:04,960 Rochester recently? Oh, you gotta get there. Throw open every 3 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:08,039 day so it's very convenient. It'll satisfy your sweet tooth, 4 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:11,480 your sandwich cravings. Get the Cubano tell them. Billified said 5 00:00:11,519 --> 00:00:16,199 to have the Cubano sandwich, fresh baked bread, hand crafted pastries, 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:19,879 deli favorites, and desserts like Canoli's that'll make you rethink 7 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:23,800 your self control. It's all waiting for you. So what's 8 00:00:23,839 --> 00:00:27,640 the best thing about Leo's Everything? Check them out a 9 00:00:27,719 --> 00:00:30,679 deskbats drive in East Rochester because every day is a 10 00:00:30,719 --> 00:00:33,560 good day for Leo's. Because the best thing about Leo's 11 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:34,520 is everything. 12 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 2: When your old career gives you lemons, throwing some ice 13 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:42,960 mix in some vodka. Call it a podcast from the 14 00:00:43,079 --> 00:00:46,719 Mac of All Trade Studio in Fairport and driven by 15 00:00:46,759 --> 00:00:52,159 Victor Chrysler Dots, Gee Ram Eats, Billified the Bill Moran Podcast. 16 00:01:04,359 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: Well, hello and welcome. Thanks for getting your pot on, 17 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:10,680 Thanks for telling a friend. That's how we spread the 18 00:01:10,719 --> 00:01:13,799 word about the pirate ship. Today's episode is going to 19 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:17,079 be a little bit different and honestly, I think really special. 20 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:20,120 I've never done anything like this. I've been encouraged to 21 00:01:20,159 --> 00:01:24,319 do some solo podcasts. Somebody reached out to me and go, 22 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:25,879 I think you need to just be you in the 23 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:28,920 room sometimes, so we'll see how that goes. But this 24 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,239 is my birthday week. I am turning fifty four, and 25 00:01:32,599 --> 00:01:36,719 I birthdays really have never meant anything really to me. 26 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:39,200 I think as a kid, I used to tease my 27 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:42,560 sons when they were younger. I would say, hey, you know, 28 00:01:42,599 --> 00:01:45,519 when you turn thirteen, we stop celebrating your birthday. What 29 00:01:45,599 --> 00:01:50,000 we start celebrating is your achievement day. Whatever you did 30 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:52,959 that is great, Like you know, we'll celebrate the day 31 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:55,840 that you finished Cub Scouts, or will celebrate the day 32 00:01:55,879 --> 00:01:58,040 you hit a home run or the day you made 33 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:00,480 a pick in a game, and that'll be the day 34 00:02:00,519 --> 00:02:03,599 we celebrate you on the year I did not go 35 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:06,640 over well, but I just to me, it was kind 36 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:09,080 of nothing. What did I do? I was born? I've 37 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,599 always felt like the real hero of the that day 38 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:15,159 is your mom. She's the one that did all the 39 00:02:15,199 --> 00:02:17,800 work that day, brought you into the world and has 40 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,840 been by your side ever since. Right, So today I 41 00:02:20,879 --> 00:02:24,000 invited my mother to join me on the podcast for 42 00:02:24,039 --> 00:02:27,439 a conversation, and we're going to talk about the day 43 00:02:27,439 --> 00:02:30,120 I was born, of course, right the journey our family's 44 00:02:30,159 --> 00:02:32,960 been on and some of the wisdom that she has 45 00:02:33,039 --> 00:02:36,639 gained along the way. Now my mom is also and 46 00:02:36,719 --> 00:02:39,280 we've talked about on the podcast a Level three Reikie Healers, 47 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,120 So we may even get into a little energy and 48 00:02:41,199 --> 00:02:42,919 healing and a few things that I think will leave 49 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:45,719 you hopefully inspired. That's really what I want to do here, 50 00:02:46,319 --> 00:02:48,759 And of course I want to honor my dad as well, 51 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,479 who passed away a little more than a month ago, 52 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:53,800 like a month and a day. And even though my 53 00:02:53,879 --> 00:02:57,759 parents weren't married, they spent thirty five years building a 54 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:01,159 life together and their story is a huge part of mine. 55 00:03:01,599 --> 00:03:06,719 So this episode is about family, love, resilience, and hopefully 56 00:03:06,719 --> 00:03:08,879 we get a few laughs in there. So with that, 57 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:16,039 I bring on Mom, Marge, Hi Mom, Hi Bill. Well, 58 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:20,039 I know and I I never was like the birthday 59 00:03:20,039 --> 00:03:23,120 week person you. We used to call it the High 60 00:03:23,159 --> 00:03:26,439 Holy Days with you, and it was wonderful. You had 61 00:03:26,439 --> 00:03:29,719 the greatest birthday celebrations you did. We all went up 62 00:03:29,759 --> 00:03:32,039 to Cape Cod, we all, I mean, those were really 63 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:34,840 really fun, fun times to the point where like my 64 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:39,800 older sons, they love that. They talk about that yeah 65 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:42,560 to this day, So that's always uh special. 66 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 3: Especially the older I get you have to celebrate everything 67 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:51,479 you can because you never know when that's going to 68 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:52,919 run out and you're not going to be able to 69 00:03:52,919 --> 00:03:56,840 celebrate anymore. And I think that's extremely important to celebrate. 70 00:03:56,879 --> 00:03:59,639 And also, you know, when you were talking about birthdays 71 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:02,879 and that important, I'm thinking, oh my god, all those cakes, 72 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,400 all those stars. No no, no, no, you did. 73 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,919 Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like, actually got older. You didn't do 74 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:10,719 them when I was fourteen, fifteen years old, I didn't 75 00:04:10,719 --> 00:04:12,680 get those cakes. I think I got them up to 76 00:04:12,759 --> 00:04:15,599 like twelve, and that seems about right. Let's celebrate that. 77 00:04:15,879 --> 00:04:17,560 And then after that, I used to tease the boys, 78 00:04:17,639 --> 00:04:20,399 now we got accomplishment day, you better do something. That's 79 00:04:20,439 --> 00:04:22,240 what we're going to celebrate. Of course, that did not 80 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,519 go over because anything I said, anything that I said 81 00:04:25,639 --> 00:04:28,480 that would even be slightly joking or I thought that 82 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:31,120 was a pretty good premise, get out there and hustle, 83 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:35,000 but it was always shot down. It was shot down 84 00:04:35,319 --> 00:04:37,639 and they went. You know, they had a committee behind them. 85 00:04:37,639 --> 00:04:42,040 So I'll ask you kind of this, what do you 86 00:04:42,079 --> 00:04:45,759 remember most about the day I was born, which was 87 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:51,360 August twenty second, and the days around that kind of 88 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:53,480 I don't know if there was chaos. 89 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:54,079 Speaker 4: I don't know. 90 00:04:54,519 --> 00:04:56,839 Speaker 1: I always think now when I look and I'm sorry 91 00:04:56,879 --> 00:04:58,959 that I'm still talking, and I asked you a question, 92 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:02,040 but you were twenty four years old. 93 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 3: That's what I was thinking. 94 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 4: Oh my god. 95 00:05:05,959 --> 00:05:08,720 Speaker 3: I was like, you know, I had finished graduate school, 96 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:13,439 I had just worked a year, and it was almost 97 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:17,240 like a baby having a baby in ways. Yeah, it 98 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:20,639 was scared. And that summer it was very hot. We 99 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:23,360 had a little apartment in Hyde Park, and I remember 100 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:28,959 if I went to the movies and saw hospital scene, 101 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:31,399 I cried because I'd never been in the hospital before, 102 00:05:31,439 --> 00:05:33,560 and now I'm going to go to the hospital though, 103 00:05:33,759 --> 00:05:38,120 So oh my god. And you know what, I used 104 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:41,600 to think, there's no stopping this, Like when it starts, 105 00:05:41,879 --> 00:05:43,879 it's going to happen. You can't change your mind. 106 00:05:45,079 --> 00:05:46,279 Speaker 4: Yeah. 107 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,959 Speaker 3: Yeah, but the day you were born, I'm just thinking 108 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,759 to me, it's so funny because I don't remember too 109 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,000 much chaos. But I think your dad, if you were here, 110 00:05:55,079 --> 00:05:57,279 would say there was a lot of chaos because my 111 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:00,879 parents were at the house and went into labor, and 112 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,639 they didn't go home. My mother wasn't feeling well and 113 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:05,879 she stayed, I'm not going to go into too much 114 00:06:05,879 --> 00:06:08,439 of that. So anyway, we went off to the hospital 115 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:12,920 and it was a very long labor and for some reason, 116 00:06:12,959 --> 00:06:16,480 most of mine were and you were a very big baby, 117 00:06:16,519 --> 00:06:18,399 which we didn't realize at the time, but you were 118 00:06:18,439 --> 00:06:24,439 ten pounds and I was trying to deliver naturally and 119 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:28,639 it was at Vassar Hospital. And so then they said, 120 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,439 because I was having a hard time with the natural, 121 00:06:31,759 --> 00:06:34,519 why didn't I think of a spinal And all of 122 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:37,120 this was so scary. And now because of the spinal, 123 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:39,800 because it was fifty four years ago, your father couldn't 124 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:44,800 come into the room. Yeah, so you know, now you're in. 125 00:06:44,879 --> 00:06:48,759 I'm in with two men, a doctor Cohne and this 126 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:52,160 is doctor Shannon, who is the anesthesiologist, and then can 127 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:54,399 get you at and so you were this little cone 128 00:06:54,439 --> 00:06:58,199 head because they're using forceps pushing on me on the shoulders. 129 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,959 And then when I finally came in, he goes, oh, no, 130 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:07,920 wonder no. So that was that was a lot, you know, 131 00:07:07,959 --> 00:07:10,160 and it was a lot to recover from. 132 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:11,079 Speaker 4: Yeah, but. 133 00:07:12,839 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 3: I remember when I first looked at you, and you know, 134 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:18,439 you look at a ten PM baby compared to other 135 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:20,839 little babies, and it's like having a three one though, 136 00:07:21,399 --> 00:07:25,439 and you were just beautiful in my eyes, just beautiful, 137 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:29,560 and it was it was very exciting, very exciting. 138 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 4: That's uh, what's that? 139 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 3: And it was good to have it all over. 140 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 4: Yeah. 141 00:07:35,279 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: I can only imagine that would be like, because I, yeah, 142 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:43,160 I remember that even with my guys too, when they 143 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:43,639 were born. 144 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:44,279 Speaker 4: That you. 145 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's an exciting and odd time. You don't know 146 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:53,120 kind of what to expect, especially with the first one, 147 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:56,839 and you start to worry a bit. And of course 148 00:07:56,959 --> 00:07:59,680 this was you know, so many years later or thirty 149 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:00,959 years later practically that. 150 00:08:02,959 --> 00:08:05,399 Speaker 4: You could everybody could be in the room. 151 00:08:05,759 --> 00:08:08,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, remember I went out and I was bitching 152 00:08:08,279 --> 00:08:09,120 to you. 153 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:14,399 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, that's the thing. And Dad was a real 154 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:16,879 rock for me, and he was through all of the births. 155 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:20,439 He really was, because I remember during Katie's birth and 156 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:22,839 we always know with me it's going to take a while, 157 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:24,639 he wanted to run home and get the camera and 158 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:30,319 I wouldn't let him out of my side. I just yeah, but. 159 00:08:32,519 --> 00:08:36,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, how about as a as a as a kid, 160 00:08:38,399 --> 00:08:41,559 did you see any hints of what I would become. 161 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 4: I don't know if I would have become. 162 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think one of the funny things was, well, 163 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:52,519 just like thinking with your birth dad was off because 164 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:54,799 he was a teacher. Now he had worked that summer 165 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:57,360 at a rehab center. And that was another thing that 166 00:08:57,440 --> 00:08:59,840 had my mind blown, because I thought I had always 167 00:09:00,159 --> 00:09:02,000 with handicapped kids, that for sure, we're going to have 168 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:05,600 a handicapped kid. Kiuse who could be you know better 169 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:06,519 than too? 170 00:09:06,879 --> 00:09:08,440 Speaker 4: You know? So well you did? 171 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:09,039 Speaker 1: I mean. 172 00:09:10,919 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 3: I don't think I did, but anyway, I so Dad 173 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,519 went back to work and I remember being, oh my god, 174 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:20,159 now I'm on my own. But it was fun. I 175 00:09:20,279 --> 00:09:23,840 really really enjoyed it. And then I went back on 176 00:09:23,879 --> 00:09:27,440 the Jewish holidays because my district was open, and I 177 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:29,639 went in and I subbed. And so you were about 178 00:09:29,639 --> 00:09:31,600 six weeks old, and I'm saying to Dad, just talk 179 00:09:31,639 --> 00:09:33,559 to him, talk to him about everything. I don't know 180 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:36,320 what to say. No, And I, oh, you tell him everything. 181 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:38,759 Attention is stuck could do this. So then we had 182 00:09:38,799 --> 00:09:44,679 recordings and at six weeks or less, you could track, 183 00:09:45,279 --> 00:09:48,799 I could keep your attention. You we would make visual 184 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:54,000 eye contact and you could imitate sounds. So yeah, I 185 00:09:54,039 --> 00:09:56,919 think from that point on I always knew you were 186 00:09:57,320 --> 00:09:57,759 talking about. 187 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:00,279 Speaker 1: I wish I could remember what grade I would in 188 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:03,799 when I tried to skip school and go fishing. And 189 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:07,039 then you came popping out. I'm waving the bus on 190 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:09,559 and I'm standing back because the garage was it was 191 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:11,960 attached to the house, but just step backing off and 192 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:15,399 trying to hide there. And and how how like out 193 00:10:15,399 --> 00:10:19,440 of all the days, you never came by the door, you. 194 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:22,919 Speaker 3: Know, no, you all think like you never did this. 195 00:10:23,039 --> 00:10:25,279 I was watching the bus come and drive. Well, you 196 00:10:25,279 --> 00:10:28,039 could look from inside the windows. You know. It wasn't 197 00:10:28,039 --> 00:10:30,000 a big house, so I could work from the kitchen 198 00:10:30,039 --> 00:10:32,679 to there and take a peek in something. That day 199 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:35,320 was like this. 200 00:10:37,919 --> 00:10:40,879 Speaker 1: I got busted so badly, just wanted to go up 201 00:10:40,919 --> 00:10:44,159 and just spend the day hanging out by the pond fishing. 202 00:10:44,279 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 4: I didn't care. It was just day, that's the thing. 203 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 3: And even like the things, a lot of the things 204 00:10:50,279 --> 00:10:53,159 that you got in trouble for later on and stuff, 205 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:58,960 and you know, being the one that did that, it 206 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:01,759 was all really tough. I'm sorry your adventures almost like 207 00:11:01,799 --> 00:11:04,799 it was just kids in the country. 208 00:11:04,879 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: And you know, is there like thirty five years you 209 00:11:08,279 --> 00:11:12,679 guys were together, and what what did you learn from that? 210 00:11:12,759 --> 00:11:14,639 And what do you kind of carry forward? I guess 211 00:11:14,639 --> 00:11:17,039 would be a question. I know they're a little deep 212 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:19,200 and maybe hard to answer, but. 213 00:11:21,399 --> 00:11:23,639 Speaker 3: Or say, or things you wouldn't say here. 214 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:25,639 Speaker 4: You know, Yeah, oh on the podcast, is what you mean? 215 00:11:25,799 --> 00:11:26,000 Speaker 3: Yeah? 216 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 4: Oh? 217 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:29,519 Speaker 1: Sorry, Well I didn't mean like that. 218 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:30,840 Speaker 4: I was looking for a pot. 219 00:11:30,919 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 3: Now. 220 00:11:31,639 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 1: I didn't know if there was something, because sometimes there 221 00:11:34,279 --> 00:11:37,679 are are things. I mean, he he was funny. I 222 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:40,559 mean I I he was extremely funny. And I do remember, 223 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:44,240 like at the dinner table because he read the Mismanners 224 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:47,159 Guy to perfect etiquette, so there were no sounds that 225 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:51,559 emanated from below the neck. And god, we would just 226 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:55,919 rip farts. And I'll never forget the time you jumped up. 227 00:11:55,919 --> 00:11:56,919 Speaker 4: Do you remember what you did? 228 00:11:57,360 --> 00:11:57,559 Speaker 3: Yes? 229 00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 4: They did, thank you. 230 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,879 Speaker 3: And I don't know whether you or handy. 231 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:04,519 Speaker 1: Yes, I mean I ripped a fart. That was just 232 00:12:04,799 --> 00:12:08,200 it was award winning. And yes, you screamed. I don't 233 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:11,000 know why that. I slapped your face or hand your 234 00:12:11,039 --> 00:12:14,519 paper towel. And he just sat there like I think 235 00:12:14,519 --> 00:12:18,360 he was there. He just sat there. Yeah, And I 236 00:12:18,399 --> 00:12:22,080 couldn't breathe. Of course, I found that absolutely so funny. 237 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:26,279 Speaker 3: I think, you know, in the thirty five years, you 238 00:12:26,279 --> 00:12:31,879 you do get a understanding that everyone is different and 239 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:34,799 has a very different perspective and looking at the very 240 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:39,840 same thing. And I think the good thing is when 241 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:44,759 you can bring those perspectives together, you see things clear 242 00:12:45,039 --> 00:12:48,759 as a whole. And that doesn't always happen, but you know, 243 00:12:48,799 --> 00:12:52,279 it was good. And he that did have an act 244 00:12:53,039 --> 00:12:57,039 for really seeing the complete picture a lot of the times. 245 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:01,759 Speaker 1: Yeah, he was very very intell and I uh yeah, 246 00:13:01,799 --> 00:13:04,600 but it was very perceptive, right, you could kind of 247 00:13:04,639 --> 00:13:07,000 see things sometimes. 248 00:13:08,519 --> 00:13:11,039 Speaker 3: He had a wonderful sense of humor. Now it could 249 00:13:11,039 --> 00:13:13,600 go on the road side and all that, but. 250 00:13:15,399 --> 00:13:18,679 Speaker 4: Nothing about this, but you know, he. 251 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:22,799 Speaker 3: To really be humorous, you have to be intelligent, and 252 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:24,720 he really had a handle on all of that. 253 00:13:25,279 --> 00:13:28,159 Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, he was so funny. 254 00:13:28,399 --> 00:13:30,879 Speaker 1: He was so funny, and he was so fun when 255 00:13:30,879 --> 00:13:33,679 he wanted to be, you know, my my thing. And 256 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:37,240 you know for thirty five years, you guys being married, 257 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:39,600 and even beyond that, it is certainly with the kids 258 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,759 and the grandkids and everybody, and there was never any 259 00:13:41,919 --> 00:13:44,320 thing he was at your house last Thanksgiving, there was 260 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:49,320 always right, so there was never any animosity. But the 261 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:52,200 thing that I always had trouble with with with dad, 262 00:13:52,279 --> 00:13:54,559 and it was one of these things where I've always 263 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:59,559 tried to reconcile with myself, was there was this wildly 264 00:14:00,039 --> 00:14:06,759 hilariously HBO special funny guy and then there was absolute 265 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:11,559 like by the book, there was no wiggle room, there 266 00:14:11,639 --> 00:14:13,000 was no screwing around. 267 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:14,279 Speaker 4: If this is the way it was. 268 00:14:14,440 --> 00:14:17,159 Speaker 1: It was extremely serious or extremely funny, and there didn't 269 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:18,960 seem to be much of a middle ground. 270 00:14:19,919 --> 00:14:23,519 Speaker 3: Yeah, Maral code too. 271 00:14:23,879 --> 00:14:29,840 Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I love the idea of because we don't 272 00:14:30,399 --> 00:14:34,120 I think, and I don't want to say until it's 273 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:36,080 too late, because I never think it's too late, but 274 00:14:36,159 --> 00:14:40,200 I don't think. Sometimes we appreciate another person's perspective, we 275 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:44,360 get annoyed and we argue and those things become that 276 00:14:44,519 --> 00:14:50,559 and I think sometimes. 277 00:14:47,879 --> 00:14:50,399 Speaker 4: It's hard, it's very hard. 278 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:54,879 Speaker 1: But I've been, you know, like I don't know if 279 00:14:54,879 --> 00:14:56,200 I got it from you or what, but I go 280 00:14:56,279 --> 00:14:59,840 into these weird things and I spent a lot of 281 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:05,000 time time writing and thinking a lot, either early mornings 282 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:10,840 or late at night. And I think sometimes that you 283 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:16,159 have to tap into a higher frequency and then decide 284 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:20,080 what your emotions are, because if you don't, then the 285 00:15:20,120 --> 00:15:23,000 other person's perspective that you may not agree with is 286 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:24,120 just going to bring you down. 287 00:15:24,639 --> 00:15:25,840 Speaker 4: And so if you stay up. 288 00:15:25,799 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: There, you might actually be open to oh shit, okay, 289 00:15:28,639 --> 00:15:31,360 you know that that's a great that's a great way 290 00:15:31,399 --> 00:15:33,679 of looking at it. I didn't think of that and 291 00:15:33,759 --> 00:15:38,000 instead of like resistance resistance resistance, which I think sometimes 292 00:15:38,039 --> 00:15:40,559 can be a learned thing. And his way was really 293 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:43,799 my way or the highway many often often. 294 00:15:43,919 --> 00:15:45,279 Speaker 3: And there are a lot of people like that. 295 00:15:45,399 --> 00:15:47,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean more of an I would say today 296 00:15:48,039 --> 00:15:49,600 an old school philosophy. 297 00:15:50,039 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 3: The church enters into that too. Yes, yes, and it 298 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:58,399 was their way or no way, you know, And so yeah, 299 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:04,120 didn't matter on things that didn't matter that like with 300 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:05,000 the church, you know. 301 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, and a lot of times. 302 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 3: With a lot of us, on things that were holding. 303 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:12,440 So when you step back and if you take the 304 00:16:12,519 --> 00:16:15,120 perspective of is this going to matter in ten years? 305 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:17,960 Is this going to matter tomorrow? You get a different 306 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:20,279 look at things. If you can pull yourself away from 307 00:16:20,279 --> 00:16:21,559 the emotion of the mirror. 308 00:16:21,679 --> 00:16:26,679 Speaker 1: Well, you bring up the church. And I've had lots 309 00:16:26,679 --> 00:16:30,039 of thoughts about religion, and I thought, you know, if 310 00:16:30,039 --> 00:16:35,279 we all followed the Ten Commandments, nothing else, just nothing else, 311 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:36,559 it'd be a pretty nice planet. 312 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:37,279 Speaker 4: We were all, I. 313 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:42,399 Speaker 1: Think everybody would be pretty good. But the rigidity of church. 314 00:16:42,480 --> 00:16:45,919 And then what always lost me a little bit was 315 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:52,120 Henry the A switching you know, to Protestantism because he 316 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:54,440 wanted basically, he would just want to have sex with 317 00:16:54,879 --> 00:16:57,720 Queen Anne or whoever was one of his wives, and 318 00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:01,360 the Church wouldn't a knowledge. He switched. The entire country 319 00:17:01,399 --> 00:17:04,200 gets switched for one guy and it's Penis. Yeah, I 320 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:09,279 mean really, And then years later it becomes so now 321 00:17:09,279 --> 00:17:13,000 we have a war in Ireland because Southern Ireland didn't 322 00:17:13,079 --> 00:17:16,440 follow and they stayed Catholic, which is where our families 323 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:19,680 are from, and we still have family there. And then 324 00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:24,559 it became so bad that when we switched, Dad wrote 325 00:17:24,799 --> 00:17:26,759 a resignation. I wish I could, I wish I could 326 00:17:26,759 --> 00:17:30,480 see it, the resignation letter to the Catholic. Yeah, he 327 00:17:30,519 --> 00:17:32,119 wrote a resignation letter to the Catholic. 328 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:36,319 Speaker 4: I don't know. I have no idea that I wonder. 329 00:17:38,039 --> 00:17:39,599 Speaker 1: He might have given it to Patrick Colla, or he 330 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:41,799 might have also sent a copy to the Archdioceise in 331 00:17:41,839 --> 00:17:44,920 New York. Who knows with him he done anything, but 332 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:49,319 he wrote, he wrote a resignation letter and very I'm sure, 333 00:17:49,519 --> 00:17:52,279 very thought out and philosophically as to why. And I 334 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:56,440 and as a child, I'm seven, Uh, you were told 335 00:17:56,519 --> 00:17:58,759 that you weren't getting enough out of the church. It 336 00:17:58,759 --> 00:18:01,200 wasn't in his Bible base. So we go Protestant. And 337 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:03,160 then your father doesn't talk to you. 338 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:04,400 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 339 00:18:04,559 --> 00:18:06,839 Speaker 1: Which then when I learned what kind of the history, 340 00:18:06,839 --> 00:18:09,680 I go, this is the religion is is. 341 00:18:11,079 --> 00:18:12,880 Speaker 4: Screwed up? It's screwed up a little bit. 342 00:18:13,519 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 3: I went down to talk to my father that day 343 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:18,559 and he had been grocery shop and it was porn 344 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:20,559 ran and I had a ringcot on and he and 345 00:18:20,599 --> 00:18:23,599 I came in at the same time. And he's not 346 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:25,799 asking me to sit down, and you know what grandma 347 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:27,960 was like, and you gotta ask the poor girl to 348 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:32,160 dig her coat off, you know. Meanwhile he is taking 349 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:35,599 grape troops out of the bag and smashing them on 350 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:39,480 the wall in the kitchen. I had never seen anything 351 00:18:39,559 --> 00:18:40,160 like this. 352 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:42,839 Speaker 1: This is all over religion, This is all over the church. 353 00:18:43,559 --> 00:18:46,799 Speaker 3: And then he retired and I was not invited me 354 00:18:47,039 --> 00:18:51,599 or my family to the retirement party. None of them. 355 00:18:51,799 --> 00:18:52,240 Speaker 1: Wow. 356 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:55,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, that was one of the last talks they had 357 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:59,440 with Dad. We were talking about religion and I said 358 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:02,720 to him, you know, it's it's not the way we 359 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:04,839 were brought up. And well, I don't believe. I mean, 360 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,359 that's all you can say that you don't believe. I 361 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:11,359 really believe if you look at what Jesus, Buddha, any 362 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:16,799 of the great philosophers preached and lived, it's about love. 363 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:20,480 It's about being kind to each other. It's about taking 364 00:19:20,519 --> 00:19:25,000 care of the people around you. I don't think it's 365 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:28,759 about this harsh judgment. But the church has made plenty 366 00:19:28,839 --> 00:19:31,920 of money. I'm scaring the track at it. 367 00:19:32,079 --> 00:19:35,119 Speaker 1: You being a level three reiki healer and I've talked 368 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:35,519 to other. 369 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 3: I'm a master level four. 370 00:19:39,839 --> 00:19:42,559 Speaker 1: When did that happen? And why wasn't I invited to 371 00:19:42,599 --> 00:19:49,400 that graduation party? Oh you're a master level four. I 372 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:51,200 thought you were only a level three when you did 373 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:51,640 it on me. 374 00:19:53,039 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 3: You were the went all the way through. 375 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:58,559 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, good, Well, I'm glad. I'm glad for 376 00:19:58,599 --> 00:20:03,400 the correction. That is just really about energy. But there 377 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:06,640 are people who would kind of look at it as 378 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:11,200 you know, against the religion or whatever. And to me, 379 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:15,000 there are two separate things or two things that should 380 00:20:15,039 --> 00:20:16,640 be congruent. 381 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:22,559 Speaker 3: Absolutely and it is. It's all about energy and everything 382 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,000 is made of energy. And you find it more and 383 00:20:25,079 --> 00:20:28,519 more in sciences agreement with that, and it's and our 384 00:20:28,599 --> 00:20:34,519 body is an amazing, amazing piece of machinery, piece of 385 00:20:34,799 --> 00:20:37,480 whatever we were put together. And we do have the 386 00:20:37,519 --> 00:20:43,000 potential to heal ourselves in many instances, or at least 387 00:20:43,079 --> 00:20:46,359 approach things with much more of a calmness than we do. 388 00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:51,400 And reiki just helps open energy channels and lets the 389 00:20:51,559 --> 00:20:55,000 energy flow more evenly through the body. 390 00:20:55,279 --> 00:20:59,200 Speaker 1: How are people what is their reaction when you say 391 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,319 that you're Level four or master Ricky Healer. 392 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:07,559 Speaker 3: Well, when people don't understand, it's funny, you know, in 393 00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:11,160 some of my close friends, they do kind of look 394 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:13,519 at you and then you try to explain. And then 395 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,480 a few of the people we've done it on and 396 00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:19,400 you know, just even the relaxation is so great that 397 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:23,119 people appreciate that, but it's more because of non understanding 398 00:21:23,319 --> 00:21:24,200 than anything else. 399 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:28,119 Speaker 4: Yeah. Ignorance, Yeah, yeah, I mean that's. 400 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,759 Speaker 3: That's which is the thing with everything that's what's. 401 00:21:30,599 --> 00:21:34,480 Speaker 1: Led to wars and all right, just absolute ignorance. Why 402 00:21:34,599 --> 00:21:37,839 what what made you pursue this? Because I don't recall 403 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:42,519 this kind of woo woo when when I was growing. 404 00:21:42,319 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 3: Up, Do you remember Dorothy Chanting? 405 00:21:45,559 --> 00:21:51,519 Speaker 1: Well, I do remember your friend dart Taya Darth Darthea 406 00:21:51,599 --> 00:21:54,359 Taya Taya came down and she was from Syracuse, and 407 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,680 I loved her. She was like she just there was 408 00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:02,119 something about that woman. She had energy and all she did. Yeah, 409 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:06,279 and she she looked she was she was older than. 410 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,400 Speaker 3: You, seventeen years older. 411 00:22:08,559 --> 00:22:12,079 Speaker 1: Yeah, but there was something cool about her look and all. Like, 412 00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:17,839 she was very attractive in her way. Everything was flowing and. 413 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:19,680 Speaker 3: Came through those flowy things. 414 00:22:19,759 --> 00:22:24,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and went to, yes, the Omega Institute, that's right. 415 00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:25,200 I couldn't remember the name of that. 416 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:26,119 Speaker 4: The other day I went. 417 00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:29,880 Speaker 3: Over to some things that Omega also was dabbling along 418 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:33,799 the way. But then when I retired and had time, 419 00:22:33,839 --> 00:22:35,640 I kept thinking, you know, I need to look into 420 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:39,759 this reiki further. And then, and I truly believe nothing 421 00:22:39,839 --> 00:22:42,640 is by coincidence. I was with pack Gellick, who was 422 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:46,960 one of the furthest people from reiki, really right, and 423 00:22:47,039 --> 00:22:49,160 so I'm sitting with very straight out of dinner, and 424 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:51,400 she has a friend coming who was a reading teacher 425 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:54,119 in Hyde Park who's still a friend of mine, Barbara Danna, 426 00:22:54,680 --> 00:23:00,880 and Barbara was studying reiki. So Barbara took me. We 427 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:02,920 linked up and I went with her and we went 428 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:05,440 over to this orange net who was a nurse offering 429 00:23:05,759 --> 00:23:08,799 the thing. But when I first went, and I was 430 00:23:09,039 --> 00:23:11,559 very very nervous, and I was just coming in to observe, 431 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:14,799 and I didn't want anybody going near me put in 432 00:23:14,799 --> 00:23:18,359 their hands. But the woman that was teaching it said 433 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,799 we can stand around, but she was going to do it. 434 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:24,759 But before that, they sat down and did some prayer, 435 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,279 you know, prayer. Yeah, prayers are meditation of that. But 436 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:32,039 they did tinctures. So they were all opening their mouth 437 00:23:32,039 --> 00:23:34,559 and she's putting things on their tongue, and all I 438 00:23:34,599 --> 00:23:37,079 could think of is, oh my god, where the barbetation. 439 00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:43,559 Speaker 1: Jim Jones, he was like, oh my god, what does 440 00:23:43,599 --> 00:23:45,480 it taught you about people? 441 00:23:45,519 --> 00:23:45,880 Speaker 4: Reiki? 442 00:23:48,079 --> 00:23:52,920 Speaker 3: I think you see the sameness in people, you know, 443 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,240 and I think you see how we all really are 444 00:23:55,319 --> 00:23:58,920 the same, and you see the fears, the fears and people, 445 00:23:59,599 --> 00:24:02,079 so you see things that are blocking people and you 446 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:07,160 see the many obstacles that so many people. Well, life 447 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,839 isn't a smooth run for anybody. You know, everybody has 448 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:17,359 different right, so you see that especially as people are sharing, 449 00:24:18,519 --> 00:24:22,799 and I think it just that it once again brings 450 00:24:22,839 --> 00:24:26,480 it all down to that we are all energy. We 451 00:24:26,559 --> 00:24:29,839 all have fears and dants, but we are all capable 452 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:35,160 of love, and we have a great resilience. I think 453 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:39,599 that's really really I've noticed that that the resilience of 454 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:40,720 people is remarkable. 455 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:45,440 Speaker 1: You take it back to uh, just anybody who walks 456 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:49,039 in a room and either lights it up right, there's 457 00:24:49,039 --> 00:24:53,079 a difference or or funks it up right. It's like 458 00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:56,559 a green cloud came in and you you you know 459 00:24:56,680 --> 00:25:00,640 you that's energy. That is en that's energy, and that's 460 00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:02,279 a dominant. 461 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,519 Speaker 3: Energy about some of that at lunch today. And I 462 00:25:05,519 --> 00:25:08,279 think the thing right now, especially in the world we're in, 463 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,359 is we have to try to keep putting out as 464 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:16,680 much positive energy as possible. Right, Negative energy just as. 465 00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,880 Speaker 1: Well, it's a lower frequency. Because I always think, like, 466 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,000 you know, there was a very it might have been 467 00:25:21,079 --> 00:25:24,200 Thomas Aquinas, I don't remember. I always enjoyed these classes, 468 00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:26,960 even though I was told I got gentleman speech I 469 00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:31,839 which is my dad was. My dad would say to I, 470 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,640 you know, the very simple philosophy that the being that 471 00:25:34,759 --> 00:25:37,039 is in the trees, in the chair that you're sitting on, 472 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,279 that is in you, is this, and that there is 473 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:44,480 no such thing as evil because it has all come 474 00:25:44,519 --> 00:25:47,480 from the source. So if there's no such thing as evil, 475 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,200 there's only a privation of good, to which I've said 476 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,000 is a lower frequency. Now there are people who will 477 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,079 tell you that there are people that have attachments. 478 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:55,759 Speaker 4: I know people. 479 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,160 Speaker 1: I mean, I could get you into some really really 480 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:02,160 weird stuff if you wanted to and have Well yeah, 481 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:05,240 and I'm not saying that it's not right. I think 482 00:26:05,279 --> 00:26:11,079 it's there. But you can decide every day where you 483 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:14,200 want to be, you know. And I think your emotions 484 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,480 are your guidance system. I wish you were more like 485 00:26:16,519 --> 00:26:18,519 this when we were little. I know. 486 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 5: No, no, no, that sounds horrible to say, like that's 487 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,319 a horrible thing to say, but like it's just such 488 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:29,759 a different way of you know, doing things. 489 00:26:30,279 --> 00:26:33,599 Speaker 3: Oh, I have to take the time. See. The other 490 00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:37,200 thing is and I think and it's hard. You're raising kids, 491 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:41,519 you know, two people are working you know, I'm not 492 00:26:41,559 --> 00:26:44,799 making I'm not talking. I'm talking about people today. It's hard, 493 00:26:44,839 --> 00:26:47,599 but if you can take the time, and one of 494 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,960 the things I found the most most helpful is to 495 00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:56,839 try to take some time aside and meditate. But one 496 00:26:56,839 --> 00:27:00,839 of the things I found really really helpful look like 497 00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:06,559 an advertisement, but it's the five minute journal, and it 498 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:11,359 just sets the tone for the day because in the morning, 499 00:27:12,079 --> 00:27:14,640 you list three things you're grateful for as soon as 500 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:18,160 you're getting your feet out of the bed, and it's 501 00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,200 a different focus because now you're focusing on positive and 502 00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,440 you're focusing on what you're grateful And it could be 503 00:27:23,519 --> 00:27:26,839 that I woke up your right, that I slept well, 504 00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:29,759 that the sun is shining, and then three things that 505 00:27:29,839 --> 00:27:33,039 you think would make today great, so you know what 506 00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,319 you have ahead of you for the day. But if 507 00:27:35,319 --> 00:27:39,000 you look at that and then a daily affirmation about yourself, 508 00:27:39,039 --> 00:27:43,200 something positive about you, which is something we were never 509 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:43,880 taught to do. 510 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,359 Speaker 1: No, we always shin on ourselves. I'm fat, I'm ugly, 511 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:50,119 I'm out of shape, I'm a terrible student, I'm a 512 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:50,839 bad athlete. 513 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:54,599 Speaker 4: I can't run, i can't walk. Yeah, yeah, that is that's. 514 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,519 Speaker 3: Something comes Then at night, and it is it's five 515 00:27:57,559 --> 00:28:00,839 minutes highlights of the day, the three things. And it 516 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,799 may be completely different than on your birthday And what 517 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:05,119 bird joy did you in that day? 518 00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 4: What was good? I know what my birthday present is? 519 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,880 Speaker 3: Huh? What did I learn today? 520 00:28:12,599 --> 00:28:15,319 Speaker 1: What would be a good grounding thing for people? 521 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,519 Speaker 4: If you were going to do raking like a. 522 00:28:18,599 --> 00:28:22,079 Speaker 1: Grounding because I'm finding grounding when I say that, like 523 00:28:22,279 --> 00:28:26,400 walking in the grass with bare feet sometimes. Oh yeah, right, 524 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,000 I sometimes I do that in the morning. And I 525 00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:34,200 noticed that the Buffalo Bills were doing that at Some 526 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,319 players would go out after practice on the grass field 527 00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:41,359 and just walk around barefoot with a sports psychologist. 528 00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:44,839 Speaker 3: Yeah, now, that's supposed to be very important walking in 529 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,519 nature as much as you just getting out in nature. 530 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:54,720 And I think again, like giving yourself time five ten 531 00:28:54,759 --> 00:28:57,240 minutes even, That's why I wrote up that journal, to 532 00:28:57,599 --> 00:29:03,559 just set aside, you know, get away from the phones 533 00:29:03,799 --> 00:29:07,039 and computers and just get away from that for a 534 00:29:07,119 --> 00:29:10,000 while and give yourself just a few minutes every day 535 00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:13,599 to just concentrate. And I think one of the nicest 536 00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:20,279 things that I've ever is the loving kindness meditation. I go, oh, 537 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:25,400 I'd like to do that for everybody right now and 538 00:29:25,559 --> 00:29:28,359 just to you. So you always start with yourself when 539 00:29:28,359 --> 00:29:31,240 you're doing this. But now I'm going to say that 540 00:29:31,319 --> 00:29:34,240 I wish this for all of you today. I wish 541 00:29:34,319 --> 00:29:37,960 all of you. May you be happy, May you be healthy, 542 00:29:38,799 --> 00:29:43,480 May you be safe, May you be peaceful, and may 543 00:29:43,519 --> 00:29:46,960 we all be aware and grateful for our many blessings. 544 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:50,160 And what you do is you do it for yourself, 545 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:53,839 and then you do it for anybody you can think of, 546 00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:56,200 and you keep doing it. You can do it for enemies, 547 00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,880 you can do it for political people, you can do it. 548 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:04,400 It's just again, I think putting a different spin on things. Yeah, 549 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,640 and loving kindness out into the world. 550 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,960 Speaker 1: I'll take that as my birthday blessing that you said. 551 00:30:09,759 --> 00:30:11,839 Speaker 3: Too, birthday present, Well. 552 00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:15,279 Speaker 1: No birthday blessing and birthday blessing. You know the year ahead, 553 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:16,480 what would you you know? 554 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:24,960 Speaker 6: It would be you're ahead, would bring your peace, love, 555 00:30:26,519 --> 00:30:29,920 that you would be able to see and realize and 556 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:33,559 be grateful for all you have, and that many of 557 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,240 the goals you have set out for yourself will be accomplished. 558 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:40,319 Speaker 4: Yeah. I think that's uh, that's very nice. 559 00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:43,799 Speaker 1: Well, thank you so much for being on the podcast, 560 00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:48,720 and I think actually for sharing the stories and the 561 00:30:48,759 --> 00:30:52,359 wisdom and your heart. I think having this conversation on 562 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,160 my birthday kind of feels like a real gift. And 563 00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:58,559 I know it hands a little corny. I always worry 564 00:30:58,599 --> 00:31:03,119 that I I don't like to show my sappy, soft underbelly, 565 00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,319 but I have it, and it's there because it's not 566 00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:09,359 just my day. I think it's ours, right, you and 567 00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,240 me twenty second and then you know, Kevin's in two 568 00:31:12,279 --> 00:31:14,839 weeks and it's you and him, and you brought me 569 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:16,640 into the world. And I'm always grateful for that. 570 00:31:17,559 --> 00:31:21,079 Speaker 3: Well, and I'm always grateful that I did. Yeah, did 571 00:31:21,519 --> 00:31:25,359 all three of you. So may your year be wonderful. 572 00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:27,240 I love you from the bottom of my heart. 573 00:31:27,279 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: Well, thank you. I'm going to take you off the screen. 574 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,119 Don't go anywhere though, I'm just gonna take you off. 575 00:31:31,119 --> 00:31:35,039 We're just gonna remove To all of you out there listening, 576 00:31:35,079 --> 00:31:37,920 I hope this episode kind of reminds you to reflect 577 00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:41,480 on the people who made life possible and the stories 578 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:46,279 that shaped who you are. Maybe it's your mom, possibly 579 00:31:46,319 --> 00:31:48,599 it's your dad or someone else who's played a big, 580 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,799 big role in your life's journey. If you can reach 581 00:31:51,839 --> 00:31:54,640 out say thank you or ask them to share a memory. 582 00:31:54,799 --> 00:31:56,680 You never know what you're going to learn, and I 583 00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:01,799 think that's very important. As for me, get my outro music, 584 00:32:03,519 --> 00:32:05,799 John Hyan. Somebody said to talk about John Hyat too much. 585 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:06,599 Speaker 4: I hear you. 586 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:09,720 Speaker 1: As for me, I'm going to carry my mom's blessing 587 00:32:09,759 --> 00:32:12,359 into this next year of life and I'm excited to 588 00:32:12,359 --> 00:32:14,200 see where it takes me. And thanks for being here 589 00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:21,000 to celebrate until tomorrow, Take care and keep finding ways 590 00:32:21,039 --> 00:32:21,920 to honor. 591 00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:40,200 Speaker 4: The people you love. I woke up in holtal didn't 592 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,119 know what to do. I'm turning a TV. 593 00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:49,000 Speaker 1: All right, listen up, beautiful humans and intergalactic wanderers. Shila 594 00:32:49,119 --> 00:32:52,839 Tillick is something really amazing for you. 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