WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.880 --> 00:00:10.400 Thelogy cansit so high, elextasysage cansage. 2 00:00:13.679 --> 00:00:20.440 It's not Sorryenogy, the Saint Texas. 3 00:00:21.399 --> 00:00:27.559 Don't try to hold him. Put that man down, down, down, down, Okay, 4 00:00:28.000 --> 00:00:33.159 puck that Lexis throw her keys up, let him go, 5 00:00:33.560 --> 00:00:37.159 go go, go go. Now, if you are in Texas, 6 00:00:37.880 --> 00:00:39.799 ignore what I just said about the not being in 7 00:00:39.880 --> 00:00:44.880 Texas Park. But the sentiment remained the same. And yes 8 00:00:44.960 --> 00:00:47.240 I did make those lyrics up and know the last 9 00:00:47.240 --> 00:00:51.039 one didn't rhyme, but that doesn't matter. What matters is 10 00:00:51.079 --> 00:00:55.159 that you realize it's time to let that mother go. 11 00:00:56.280 --> 00:00:59.159 And that is what we are here to talk about today. 12 00:00:59.679 --> 00:01:02.600 I know we all have that person from our past 13 00:01:02.640 --> 00:01:05.200 that we just can't seem to let go up. Here's 14 00:01:05.280 --> 00:01:09.159 the thing. We just had the nine nine to nine portal, 15 00:01:09.319 --> 00:01:12.439 a full moon. A couple of days before that, we 16 00:01:12.560 --> 00:01:15.319 had a full blood moon, and nine nine nine is 17 00:01:15.359 --> 00:01:20.760 all about releasing karmic debt. Nine nine nine is releasing 18 00:01:21.000 --> 00:01:23.719 what was so we can welcome in what will be. 19 00:01:24.439 --> 00:01:28.400 It is not a death but a rebirth. And you 20 00:01:28.560 --> 00:01:32.120 can't be wanting and praying and manifesting new things while 21 00:01:32.159 --> 00:01:37.799 trying to hold on to old news. Okay. Now, I 22 00:01:38.000 --> 00:01:42.560 believe I am specifically the best guide for this topic 23 00:01:42.640 --> 00:01:47.319 because I have let go of oh so many people, 24 00:01:48.079 --> 00:01:51.280 and I didn't realize how often I do this or 25 00:01:51.400 --> 00:01:54.200 how well I do this until I really started to 26 00:01:54.599 --> 00:01:57.519 talk to people all around the world, my clients, until 27 00:01:57.560 --> 00:02:00.760 I was talking to my friends, my cousin, my family, 28 00:02:01.480 --> 00:02:04.560 and I realize how hard it is for people to 29 00:02:04.719 --> 00:02:09.199 let others go. I'm not kidding you. I don't care 30 00:02:09.280 --> 00:02:11.439 who you are, how long you're in my life. If 31 00:02:11.520 --> 00:02:16.479 you start acting up, you have got to go and 32 00:02:16.599 --> 00:02:19.759 I will remove you. Do I like it? No? Is 33 00:02:19.840 --> 00:02:24.439 it easy? No? But my emotions will never outweigh my 34 00:02:24.599 --> 00:02:28.680 self respect. My current temporary emotions will never outweigh my 35 00:02:28.879 --> 00:02:30.840 vision of what it is that I came to this 36 00:02:31.039 --> 00:02:35.080 planet to experience. Today, we are going to talk about 37 00:02:35.120 --> 00:02:38.240 how to finally move on and know. It's not just 38 00:02:38.280 --> 00:02:42.759 about blocking them. This is about mind, body's soul, transcending 39 00:02:42.879 --> 00:02:45.319 what was so you can finally step into all of 40 00:02:45.639 --> 00:02:49.520 your power. You don't need to be that girl or 41 00:02:49.639 --> 00:02:54.680 that guy that's consistently crying over that thing from your past. 42 00:02:55.319 --> 00:02:58.960 Call them a narcissist, call them demonic, doesn't really matter. 43 00:02:59.520 --> 00:03:02.000 What they are are for sure, though, is someone who's 44 00:03:02.080 --> 00:03:05.599 not meant to continue into your future with you. What's 45 00:03:05.599 --> 00:03:08.120 the positive bitches? How are you doing today? If you're 46 00:03:08.159 --> 00:03:10.000 hearing this episode, then you are meant to be here. 47 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:13.280 So keep listening on that Bitch Is Positive podcast. Sometimes 48 00:03:13.360 --> 00:03:16.919 we will laugh. Other times, baby, we're gonna cry, but 49 00:03:17.240 --> 00:03:20.039 we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive 50 00:03:20.039 --> 00:03:23.280 bitch self that is babe in true connection with herself, 51 00:03:23.400 --> 00:03:27.039 himself or human self. I do just want to say, 52 00:03:27.080 --> 00:03:29.280 if you're listening to this podcast, if you've been enjoying 53 00:03:29.319 --> 00:03:32.759 this podcast, please leave a positive review wherever you're listening, 54 00:03:32.840 --> 00:03:36.039 whether that's Apple Podcasts or Spotify. If you are listening 55 00:03:36.159 --> 00:03:38.800 on YouTube, be sure to talk to me in the comments. 56 00:03:39.080 --> 00:03:41.280 I don't care if you just say hey, hello, how 57 00:03:41.360 --> 00:03:44.479 you doing? Maybe share what you're going through because your 58 00:03:44.560 --> 00:03:47.680 words might help someone else. But I'm really focusing on 59 00:03:48.039 --> 00:03:51.319 making this podcast grow right now, So if you could 60 00:03:51.360 --> 00:03:53.919 engage with this content, it would mean the world to me, 61 00:03:54.400 --> 00:03:56.319 and also it might mean the world to someone else. 62 00:03:56.400 --> 00:03:59.360 You never know. If you are looking for one on 63 00:03:59.479 --> 00:04:01.960 one guide with Law, I am a certified life and 64 00:04:02.120 --> 00:04:04.639 energy coach as well as a reiki practitioner. You can 65 00:04:04.759 --> 00:04:07.840 DM me on Instagram now at vibe and with CC. 66 00:04:08.080 --> 00:04:10.439 My link will be in the show notes. Be sure 67 00:04:10.479 --> 00:04:14.400 to follow me on Instagram for daily energetic readings as 68 00:04:14.439 --> 00:04:17.040 well as Meme Tuesday, because we all need a giggle 69 00:04:17.120 --> 00:04:20.199 here and there. If you are going through a breakup, 70 00:04:20.240 --> 00:04:22.800 the twenty one day Breakup Globe Challenge will be perfect 71 00:04:22.839 --> 00:04:25.439 to pair with this episode. And of course, if you've 72 00:04:25.519 --> 00:04:27.439 not yet gotten your copy of Show Up as Her 73 00:04:27.920 --> 00:04:30.920 My Book, get that as soon as you can and 74 00:04:31.040 --> 00:04:33.800 it will help you move through this season without further ado. 75 00:04:33.920 --> 00:04:37.040 Let's get into today's episode. If it was meant to be, 76 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:42.839 it would be the fact that it's not is evidence 77 00:04:42.920 --> 00:04:48.439 that it's not meant to be. Okay, Okay, I'm gonna 78 00:04:48.439 --> 00:04:51.279 hold your hand when I say this. If it was 79 00:04:51.439 --> 00:04:56.240 meant to be, it would be right now. The fact 80 00:04:56.319 --> 00:05:01.839 that it is not is energetic universal evidence that it 81 00:05:02.120 --> 00:05:08.319 is not meant to be. Period, When we don't chase, 82 00:05:08.720 --> 00:05:13.560 when we don't bargain with destiny, with fate, the invisible 83 00:05:13.639 --> 00:05:17.920 string will pull us accordingly to exactly where it is 84 00:05:18.000 --> 00:05:21.279 we need to go. What is the invisible string theory? 85 00:05:21.920 --> 00:05:24.040 This theory is that when you are born, there's an 86 00:05:24.040 --> 00:05:26.879 invisible string that pulls you to the right people, the 87 00:05:27.040 --> 00:05:31.560 right places, the right cities at the right time. This 88 00:05:31.959 --> 00:05:36.519 is not all in your control. When you try to 89 00:05:36.600 --> 00:05:40.000 fight what is, that is the root of all suffering, 90 00:05:40.959 --> 00:05:44.040 going against what is and trying to enact your will 91 00:05:44.160 --> 00:05:48.800 over thy will. Baby, Yes, you have so much control 92 00:05:48.839 --> 00:05:51.560 over your life, but you are not the sole creator 93 00:05:51.639 --> 00:05:57.000 of it. You are in co collaboration, co creation with 94 00:05:57.160 --> 00:06:02.240 the divine, and you gotta start listening. You are stepping 95 00:06:02.439 --> 00:06:06.120 on your own foot. You're making your life harder than 96 00:06:06.240 --> 00:06:08.920 what it actually needs to be because you are trying 97 00:06:08.959 --> 00:06:13.560 to resist. Simply what is. If this person was meant 98 00:06:13.600 --> 00:06:17.120 to fight for you, they would. If this person was 99 00:06:17.199 --> 00:06:20.560 meant to stick around in your reality, they would. If 100 00:06:20.639 --> 00:06:23.519 this person was meant to be here and continuously date 101 00:06:23.639 --> 00:06:26.519 you and marry you and be with you, they would. 102 00:06:26.879 --> 00:06:29.839 The fact that they are not is proof in itself 103 00:06:30.240 --> 00:06:32.240 that they are not meant to be doing those things. 104 00:06:32.639 --> 00:06:34.759 They are not meant to continue into the next season 105 00:06:35.000 --> 00:06:39.639 with you. Now, something about the invisible string is yeah, 106 00:06:40.000 --> 00:06:42.879 it can actually stretch, It can bend, it can twist, 107 00:06:43.000 --> 00:06:46.399 it can tangle. So if this person at a later 108 00:06:46.560 --> 00:06:52.040 date is meant to componing back into your life by 109 00:06:52.120 --> 00:06:54.800 way of the invisible string. They will be pulled back in, 110 00:06:55.560 --> 00:06:59.920 but there is nothing, no way, nada for you to 111 00:07:00.160 --> 00:07:06.040 do to try to claw, to beg to glue someone 112 00:07:06.120 --> 00:07:08.920 into your reality if they are not meant to be 113 00:07:09.439 --> 00:07:15.279 in this season. Sometimes we meet a soulmate and we 114 00:07:15.439 --> 00:07:18.720 think this is my husband there forever Now. Your intuition 115 00:07:18.879 --> 00:07:21.279 is not wrong that this is a soulmate, But you've 116 00:07:21.279 --> 00:07:24.160 got to understand what type of soulmate are they Are 117 00:07:24.199 --> 00:07:27.759 they karmic, because that would mean they're meant to come in. 118 00:07:28.199 --> 00:07:31.360 They're meant to trigger your wounds that you've had with 119 00:07:31.480 --> 00:07:35.839 your caregivers. You're inner child. They're meant to show you 120 00:07:35.959 --> 00:07:38.680 where you're still hurting. And then they're meant to get 121 00:07:38.879 --> 00:07:41.639 up and leave. They were meant to arrive. They're not 122 00:07:41.800 --> 00:07:47.560 necessarily meant to stay. Just because the invisible string pulls 123 00:07:47.600 --> 00:07:50.480 someone in for a season, it does not mean they're 124 00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:53.160 meant to stay for a lifetime. And if they're meant 125 00:07:53.240 --> 00:07:56.680 to come back in, they will. You don't have to 126 00:07:56.759 --> 00:07:59.920 do anything. You don't have to do anything. You decide 127 00:08:00.199 --> 00:08:02.240 at a really early age that you had to control 128 00:08:02.319 --> 00:08:06.079 your own reality because you don't trust God. You decided 129 00:08:06.120 --> 00:08:07.720 that the only way for you to be safe is 130 00:08:07.759 --> 00:08:11.160 for you to try to control everything. But by the way, 131 00:08:11.199 --> 00:08:14.360 when you're trying to control everything, you're still not controlling everything. 132 00:08:15.279 --> 00:08:17.879 You can only control the controllables. You can control how 133 00:08:17.920 --> 00:08:21.480 you show up, your attitude, what you focus on, what 134 00:08:21.680 --> 00:08:24.480 you do with your time and your energy. But you 135 00:08:24.639 --> 00:08:29.439 can't control other people. You can't control your whole entire 136 00:08:29.759 --> 00:08:34.519 existence because your human self wasn't meant to do that. 137 00:08:34.679 --> 00:08:36.919 There are some things that have been chosen by your 138 00:08:37.039 --> 00:08:41.440 soul self that are destiny, that they're happening no matter what. 139 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:46.879 It's a destiny point. There are some people who are 140 00:08:46.919 --> 00:08:48.679 meant to come in and leave it no matter what. 141 00:08:49.840 --> 00:08:52.120 So sure, you can kick, you can scream, you can cry, 142 00:08:52.440 --> 00:08:56.720 that's not going to change what destiny has in store 143 00:08:56.840 --> 00:09:01.919 for you. You have to say start owning the truth. 144 00:09:02.960 --> 00:09:05.840 Don't let the truth own you. You own the truth. 145 00:09:06.039 --> 00:09:10.000 Make the truth your bitch. If you try lying to yourself, 146 00:09:10.200 --> 00:09:11.799 well they are my soul ma, well they were meant 147 00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:14.399 to be forever, they were meant to be my husband. Actually, 148 00:09:14.799 --> 00:09:18.720 you don't know that. You're running your mouth off of falsity. 149 00:09:19.440 --> 00:09:22.559 What are you even saying? What are you even saying? 150 00:09:23.279 --> 00:09:25.159 And I know everyone wants to be sweet with you 151 00:09:25.320 --> 00:09:27.759 right now, everyone wants to just give you a comfortable 152 00:09:27.799 --> 00:09:30.360 space to lay down your head. I'm not gonna lie 153 00:09:30.440 --> 00:09:33.080 to you. You like to lie to yourself apparently, but 154 00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:35.120 I'm not going to do that. I don't have time 155 00:09:35.200 --> 00:09:38.600 for that. Okay, you need to own the truth. So 156 00:09:38.720 --> 00:09:40.919 if this is a breakup, if you never even got 157 00:09:40.960 --> 00:09:43.679 into a relationship and this is just a situationship, you 158 00:09:43.799 --> 00:09:47.399 need to stop sugarcoating what this is. Sure, maybe they 159 00:09:47.480 --> 00:09:50.120 were your soulmate, but they're not the type that's meant 160 00:09:50.120 --> 00:09:53.360 to stay forever. Maybe they were a heart activator to 161 00:09:53.440 --> 00:09:55.360 show you that there are still good men out there 162 00:09:55.440 --> 00:09:58.000 to give you confidence to keep dating. Maybe they're meant 163 00:09:58.039 --> 00:10:00.480 to triger your old wounds. Maybe they're meant to show 164 00:10:00.559 --> 00:10:03.399 you that you're still in your masculine energy and they 165 00:10:03.440 --> 00:10:06.840 were very feminine. You have to start asking yourself, all right, 166 00:10:07.559 --> 00:10:11.440 what was I meant to learn here? What's the deeper truth? 167 00:10:11.720 --> 00:10:16.440 The good, the bad, and the ugly. Stop sugarcoating what 168 00:10:16.639 --> 00:10:19.440 this connection was, because if it was meant to be, 169 00:10:20.200 --> 00:10:24.159 it would be stop making excuses for them. But they 170 00:10:24.200 --> 00:10:27.960 were so close, but I could see who they could be. Cool, Great, 171 00:10:28.159 --> 00:10:31.120 you have a good imagination. That's not who they are. 172 00:10:31.879 --> 00:10:34.480 And the problem is, when you exist within a higher vibration, 173 00:10:34.879 --> 00:10:37.840 you're able to see who that person could be if 174 00:10:37.960 --> 00:10:41.639 they shifted into your similar vibration. You're able to see 175 00:10:41.639 --> 00:10:44.600 who they could be without the coping mechanisms, without all 176 00:10:44.679 --> 00:10:49.559 the addictions, without them being literally narcissistic and having severe 177 00:10:49.639 --> 00:10:51.559 mental illness. You're able to see who they could be. 178 00:10:52.000 --> 00:10:55.039 But that's not who they're choosing to be. So technically, 179 00:10:55.159 --> 00:10:58.519 you're in love with a fake person. You're in love 180 00:10:58.559 --> 00:11:01.080 with a ghost, You're in love with your own imagination. 181 00:11:02.799 --> 00:11:06.399 Oh well, that's weird, that's weird. What do you what 182 00:11:06.519 --> 00:11:10.480 are you doing? This ain't Texas? Okay, put them down, 183 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:14.720 don't hold them, Stop holding onto this imaginary fake person. 184 00:11:15.519 --> 00:11:18.600 Put it down. Stop rewriting the story in your head. 185 00:11:18.919 --> 00:11:23.840 Because your mind will literally lie to you almost fifty 186 00:11:23.879 --> 00:11:29.000 percent of the time, just to try to get you 187 00:11:29.279 --> 00:11:33.200 back to go towards what is familiar. It will want 188 00:11:33.320 --> 00:11:36.240 that dopamine, that kiss, that hug, that text, So it's 189 00:11:36.240 --> 00:11:38.320 going to tell you go back to them. Go back 190 00:11:38.360 --> 00:11:41.200 to them. Remember when they were good for that one Wednesday, 191 00:11:41.360 --> 00:11:43.360 and for the rest of the week they were terrible. 192 00:11:43.600 --> 00:11:46.399 Think about that one Wednesday, romanticize them, and go back 193 00:11:46.440 --> 00:11:49.799 to it. Your brain does not even remember things one 194 00:11:49.879 --> 00:11:53.240 hundred percent correctly, and when you remember something, you remember 195 00:11:53.279 --> 00:11:55.440 the last time you remembered it. You don't even remember 196 00:11:55.519 --> 00:11:58.519 the actual event. So yeah, you gotta get your brain 197 00:11:58.559 --> 00:12:01.240 on board. You gotta start breaking down that brain barrier 198 00:12:01.320 --> 00:12:04.200 and saying, actually, I know that when I recall something, 199 00:12:04.279 --> 00:12:06.360 it's not one hundred percent accurate, and my brain is 200 00:12:06.480 --> 00:12:09.799 just starving for dopamine. How do you get dopamine? Read 201 00:12:09.840 --> 00:12:12.120 a book, read show up as her, take the twenty 202 00:12:12.159 --> 00:12:15.480 one day breakup glow up challenge, create something, go for 203 00:12:15.600 --> 00:12:18.080 a walk. You need to find a new vehicle to 204 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:22.759 get dopamine. This connection was real because you felt something. 205 00:12:23.360 --> 00:12:26.759 That means something. Okay, yes, but it doesn't mean it's right. 206 00:12:27.720 --> 00:12:31.159 So I'm not going to discount your intuition. I believe 207 00:12:31.240 --> 00:12:33.759 you you felt something deeply. I believe you. That does 208 00:12:33.840 --> 00:12:36.399 not mean you're meant to stay together forever. And that's 209 00:12:36.440 --> 00:12:38.919 what they don't teach you, and it's what I must 210 00:12:39.000 --> 00:12:41.759 tell you. You have to call it what it is. 211 00:12:42.440 --> 00:12:45.480 By the way, moving on doesn't always feel like a 212 00:12:45.840 --> 00:12:48.919 great It doesn't always feel great. Do you think when 213 00:12:48.960 --> 00:12:52.279 I ended my seven year relationship, I was like titterlydly 214 00:12:52.399 --> 00:12:54.720 da da da da da da dad. This is so fun. 215 00:12:54.919 --> 00:12:58.720 I love this. I love breaking up with someone who's 216 00:12:58.720 --> 00:13:01.639 been my best friend very seven years. I love that 217 00:13:01.799 --> 00:13:04.440 I now have to go out and date all over again. 218 00:13:04.840 --> 00:13:07.080 But really, you're not starting over. You're just starting again 219 00:13:07.159 --> 00:13:09.799 because you have more information about yourself and dating in general. 220 00:13:10.240 --> 00:13:12.240 Oh I love that all my friends are getting engaged 221 00:13:12.279 --> 00:13:14.000 in married and I'm now going to be single. I 222 00:13:14.279 --> 00:13:16.600 love that. This is so fun. Do you think that's 223 00:13:16.600 --> 00:13:19.679 what I was saying to myself. No, I thought, Oh, 224 00:13:19.799 --> 00:13:25.320 I guess I'm gonna die alone. Awesome. I cried day 225 00:13:25.440 --> 00:13:30.360 in and day out. I could not eat. I felt 226 00:13:30.480 --> 00:13:35.360 like a piece of paper floating in the wind, like 227 00:13:35.440 --> 00:13:38.200 a plastic bag floating in the wind. That's what I 228 00:13:38.240 --> 00:13:42.639 felt like. So you need to understand that making the 229 00:13:42.759 --> 00:13:45.720 right decision doesn't always feel right. Sometimes it feels like 230 00:13:45.799 --> 00:13:52.720 absolute shit. Hmm, okay, awesome doesn't matter though, doesn't matter 231 00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:56.440 because on soul level, here you know this is what 232 00:13:56.559 --> 00:13:59.440 you need to do. Your mind doesn't want to do it. 233 00:13:59.480 --> 00:14:01.759 It's familiar, it's comfortable. Your mind wants to stay in 234 00:14:01.799 --> 00:14:05.879 that familiarity. But your soul knows it's what you need 235 00:14:06.080 --> 00:14:09.600 to do. You got to listen to your soul because 236 00:14:09.639 --> 00:14:11.960 your soul has a better understanding of your past, of 237 00:14:12.000 --> 00:14:14.720 your present, and your future. Your soul has a better 238 00:14:14.840 --> 00:14:17.879 understanding of your past lifetimes and where you're going potentially 239 00:14:18.039 --> 00:14:20.720 in your next one. Your soul has a greater radar 240 00:14:21.279 --> 00:14:23.440 for what you've come to this planet to do. Your 241 00:14:23.519 --> 00:14:26.480 soul knows that if it's not this soulmate, it's gonna 242 00:14:26.480 --> 00:14:28.960 be a better one one that's more in alignment. Your 243 00:14:29.039 --> 00:14:32.480 soul knows if you pick a moldy grape, that's fine 244 00:14:32.720 --> 00:14:35.039 because there's a whole entire mine of other grapes, so 245 00:14:35.200 --> 00:14:37.639 you can flick that one away and pick a new grape. 246 00:14:38.559 --> 00:14:43.039 The universe will always send you a backup, another soulmate. 247 00:14:43.480 --> 00:14:47.399 There's a never ending resource of people who have incarnated 248 00:14:47.559 --> 00:14:50.799 during this time as backups for you that will be 249 00:14:50.919 --> 00:14:54.879 better in alignment. Just because it hurts doesn't mean that 250 00:14:54.960 --> 00:14:59.159 it's wrong. Your nervous system is detoxing, especially during this 251 00:14:59.240 --> 00:15:03.679 nine nine nine portal and eclip season, we are releasing 252 00:15:03.960 --> 00:15:07.799 so many energies and thought forms and emotions from past lifetimes, 253 00:15:07.840 --> 00:15:10.679 from this lifetime. We are going through it. And when 254 00:15:10.720 --> 00:15:13.320 you wring yourself out like a towbel it's not gonna 255 00:15:13.360 --> 00:15:17.159 always feel good. Do you think, also, when I ended 256 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:19.360 things with this Karmac partner that was easy for me. 257 00:15:19.600 --> 00:15:23.600 You saw me hysterically cry through a whole entire podcast episode. 258 00:15:23.720 --> 00:15:26.240 Do you think it fell all the way right for me? No? 259 00:15:27.159 --> 00:15:30.519 I was hoping on some level, Oh, they'll reach out 260 00:15:30.559 --> 00:15:32.240 to me, we'll talk it out, it will be fine. 261 00:15:32.559 --> 00:15:36.440 But I knew. I knew to pull away on a 262 00:15:36.519 --> 00:15:39.360 soul level. So our brain wants them to reach out. 263 00:15:39.440 --> 00:15:41.440 Our brain wants them to call us, Our brain wants 264 00:15:41.519 --> 00:15:47.039 to reconnect. Our soul knows no, it is not the 265 00:15:47.159 --> 00:15:50.039 right thing to do. So sure, your body might be 266 00:15:50.120 --> 00:15:52.960 craving them or the chaos, but your higher self knows better. 267 00:15:53.320 --> 00:15:56.519 You need to have faith over fear. Pain is temporary, 268 00:15:56.879 --> 00:16:01.600 and you are having this pain right now in service 269 00:16:02.279 --> 00:16:06.120 of greater joy later. You're breaking away now in service 270 00:16:06.360 --> 00:16:09.440 of a greater relationship later. When I ended the seven 271 00:16:09.480 --> 00:16:13.519 year relationship, I've ended mostly all my relationships really, and 272 00:16:13.679 --> 00:16:16.879 I hate doing it because I'm a lover girl and 273 00:16:17.000 --> 00:16:19.799 I know that about myself. But I also know that 274 00:16:19.960 --> 00:16:21.919 means I love myself the most and I'm not going 275 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:24.879 to settle in places that I'm not meant to be planted. 276 00:16:25.320 --> 00:16:28.840 It's not happening. So maybe this pain is temporary, but 277 00:16:29.159 --> 00:16:31.799 my piece that I have that will be permanent. I 278 00:16:31.919 --> 00:16:34.360 go to sleep every single night with peace in my 279 00:16:34.879 --> 00:16:38.159 soul knowing that I'm going to get divine union. Maybe 280 00:16:38.200 --> 00:16:41.000 it wasn't my exes, maybe it wasn't the last guy 281 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:42.960 I dated, but I'm going to get it. Yeah, I'm 282 00:16:42.960 --> 00:16:45.399 going to get exactly what I want, and I'm going 283 00:16:45.480 --> 00:16:51.720 to have faith over fear. Period. Crying every day is 284 00:16:51.759 --> 00:16:55.679 still progressed. Crying is alchemy because you're releasing, blocking their number, 285 00:16:56.000 --> 00:16:58.200 muting them, whatever you need to do, do it out 286 00:16:58.240 --> 00:17:00.840 of sight, out of mind. It really does help pretend 287 00:17:00.879 --> 00:17:03.240 that they're unlive if you have to have a funeral 288 00:17:03.320 --> 00:17:06.079 for them, Technically they are unlive because they're no longer 289 00:17:06.119 --> 00:17:08.319 a part of your reality. And if you stop feeding 290 00:17:08.359 --> 00:17:11.039 something with your attention, it does cease to exist in 291 00:17:11.119 --> 00:17:14.480 your reality. Okay, that is what quantum physics shows us 292 00:17:14.920 --> 00:17:17.599 tears don't mean that you're doing something wrong. Feeling like 293 00:17:17.680 --> 00:17:19.799 you are doing something wrong still doesn't mean you're doing 294 00:17:19.880 --> 00:17:24.240 something wrong, because your body is going to create familiarity. 295 00:17:25.200 --> 00:17:28.400 I think it's really helpful to release as much as 296 00:17:28.440 --> 00:17:31.400 you can during this season. So whether you have to 297 00:17:31.480 --> 00:17:35.000 watch reality television and cry along with the people who 298 00:17:35.039 --> 00:17:37.519 are getting cheated on and all these terrible things happening 299 00:17:37.559 --> 00:17:40.519 to them, or you want to listen to sad music. 300 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:45.119 I with this karmic relationship. Listen to Eternal Sunshine over 301 00:17:45.200 --> 00:17:47.799 and over and over again. As I was driving out 302 00:17:47.880 --> 00:17:50.920 east for my cousin's wedding, and on my way there, 303 00:17:51.079 --> 00:17:53.319 I just said to myself, I need to cry this out, 304 00:17:53.880 --> 00:17:55.279 and I need to do it again and again and 305 00:17:55.400 --> 00:17:59.680 again until I release it. Give yourself permission to feel. 306 00:18:00.319 --> 00:18:03.480 Feeling is healing. It's the bridge to greater peace and 307 00:18:03.599 --> 00:18:07.279 magnetic energy. So feel to heal. It's not a bad thing. 308 00:18:07.759 --> 00:18:13.200 That's energy leaving your body. Now. Some distractions are fine, 309 00:18:13.440 --> 00:18:15.920 but it cannot be twenty four to seven. What I 310 00:18:16.079 --> 00:18:20.160 mean by some distractions, I mean being around friends and family, Okay, 311 00:18:20.839 --> 00:18:24.680 going outside, getting dinner, getting yourself out of your house, 312 00:18:24.759 --> 00:18:27.599 putting on makeup, putting on an outfit. That really does 313 00:18:27.680 --> 00:18:30.119 shift your energy, and it can sometimes show you, look, 314 00:18:30.160 --> 00:18:32.319 there's other people out there, or you have people who 315 00:18:32.400 --> 00:18:34.960 love you and support you. If you have someone to 316 00:18:35.039 --> 00:18:37.359 go out with or spend time with, go do it. Go, 317 00:18:37.519 --> 00:18:40.200 do that workout class, sweat out that energy. And if 318 00:18:40.240 --> 00:18:44.039 you don't. For me, sometimes I don't really like talking 319 00:18:44.079 --> 00:18:45.759 about what I'm going through because a lot of people 320 00:18:45.920 --> 00:18:49.559 in my reality are not living a similar one, so 321 00:18:49.680 --> 00:18:52.680 they don't understand what I mean by karmic relationship. They 322 00:18:52.720 --> 00:18:55.759 don't understand when I say these things that I'm feeling. 323 00:18:55.880 --> 00:18:58.480 So what do I do. I work with energy healers, 324 00:18:58.559 --> 00:19:02.839 I work with shawmans, I work with coaches. So if 325 00:19:02.920 --> 00:19:04.720 you're going through this and you don't have someone to 326 00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:06.960 talk to, book a one on one session with me. 327 00:19:07.519 --> 00:19:09.240 I will help you through it. We will tap into 328 00:19:09.279 --> 00:19:12.079 your energy, we will shift your energy and get you 329 00:19:12.200 --> 00:19:16.079 back on your pedestal. Sometimes it is hard for us 330 00:19:16.119 --> 00:19:18.720 to hold our own energy. Let me help you and 331 00:19:18.839 --> 00:19:20.480 I will pick it up with you. You're not meant 332 00:19:20.480 --> 00:19:22.240 to hold it alone. The next thing you have to 333 00:19:22.319 --> 00:19:25.319 do is release the fantasy that you built up in 334 00:19:25.440 --> 00:19:28.799 your own brain. As women, it's so easy for us 335 00:19:28.920 --> 00:19:31.519 to not just date someone in the present, but start 336 00:19:31.599 --> 00:19:33.599 to think how our future is going to look. We're 337 00:19:33.640 --> 00:19:35.640 gonna live in this house, We're gonna have this family, 338 00:19:36.079 --> 00:19:40.319 We're going to have this type of life together. Yeah, 339 00:19:41.079 --> 00:19:43.559 you gotta let that go. You gotta let that go. 340 00:19:44.119 --> 00:19:48.160 There's a better vision for you. You just can't see 341 00:19:48.200 --> 00:19:51.359 it yet. There's a better life for you. You just 342 00:19:51.480 --> 00:19:54.480 can't see it yet. One of the hardest parts of 343 00:19:54.599 --> 00:19:57.720 releasing people is releasing who we thought they were and 344 00:19:57.839 --> 00:19:59.920 the life we thought we're going to have with them. 345 00:20:00.720 --> 00:20:03.240 You're not just moving on from him, you're moving on 346 00:20:03.400 --> 00:20:08.519 from the story you wrote in your own head. Feels 347 00:20:08.559 --> 00:20:12.000 like an ego death to me. So maybe we have 348 00:20:12.119 --> 00:20:14.880 to take out a pen and paper, and maybe we 349 00:20:15.000 --> 00:20:17.599 need to make two columns, and maybe we need to 350 00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:21.000 write down the version we created in our head versus 351 00:20:21.079 --> 00:20:24.480 what's actually showing up. And then I swear I tell 352 00:20:24.519 --> 00:20:25.920 all my friends to do this, and I have this 353 00:20:26.039 --> 00:20:29.559 for every single one of my exes. Write down based 354 00:20:29.640 --> 00:20:31.799 on the version that they're showing up as, not as 355 00:20:31.880 --> 00:20:34.960 who you think they could be, based on the version 356 00:20:35.119 --> 00:20:38.440 that they're showing up as write down why you made 357 00:20:38.480 --> 00:20:41.680 the right decision. They couldn't show up for me. They're 358 00:20:41.759 --> 00:20:45.680 verbally abusive. They couldn't see me, they couldn't understand me. 359 00:20:46.720 --> 00:20:50.000 We don't have similar values. Write down why you made 360 00:20:50.000 --> 00:20:52.960 the right decision. And every time your brain's gonna want 361 00:20:53.000 --> 00:20:55.759 to go back and tell you, oh, dopaminehit, dopamin hit, 362 00:20:55.799 --> 00:21:00.319 you're gonna remind yourself, no, this is actually what was, 363 00:21:01.039 --> 00:21:02.839 not what my brain is trying to tell me, because 364 00:21:02.839 --> 00:21:09.200 it's craving dopamine. Every thought, stock or scroll is like 365 00:21:09.359 --> 00:21:13.559 plugging your energy into their outlet. It keeps them charged 366 00:21:13.680 --> 00:21:17.240 and it keeps you depleted. Instead, you got to start 367 00:21:17.319 --> 00:21:21.759 reclaiming that juice for yourself. In this relationship, most likely 368 00:21:21.920 --> 00:21:25.039 there was some sort of exchange of energy. It could 369 00:21:25.079 --> 00:21:27.279 have been just through conversation, or it could have been 370 00:21:27.359 --> 00:21:30.200 through being intimate with them. That's fine, but you need 371 00:21:30.279 --> 00:21:32.839 to start calling your energy back from them. You need 372 00:21:32.920 --> 00:21:36.440 to start cleansing. So maybe you get white sage or 373 00:21:36.519 --> 00:21:40.160 Pello santo and cleanse your aura, your field, your body 374 00:21:40.279 --> 00:21:44.039 every single day. Maybe you get a rose quartz crystal 375 00:21:44.319 --> 00:21:47.240 and you hold onto that and remind yourself, I am 376 00:21:47.400 --> 00:21:50.240 in this love frequency with or without them, and I'm 377 00:21:50.279 --> 00:21:53.400 going to get divine union with or without them. And 378 00:21:53.559 --> 00:21:55.720 when you call your power back, you're going to say, 379 00:21:57.160 --> 00:22:00.720 I lovingly and peacefully call all all of my power 380 00:22:00.880 --> 00:22:06.319 back to me now from and state their name. If 381 00:22:06.319 --> 00:22:08.079 you want to take this up a notch, say I 382 00:22:08.279 --> 00:22:11.200 lovingly and peacefully call all my power back to me 383 00:22:11.279 --> 00:22:16.599 from every person, place, dimension and timeline, person place, dimension 384 00:22:16.680 --> 00:22:19.640 and timeline, and you can make this your own. That's 385 00:22:19.680 --> 00:22:23.079 what I did. And when you do that every single day, 386 00:22:23.160 --> 00:22:24.880 maybe you have to do it multiple times a day, 387 00:22:25.160 --> 00:22:29.759 you're gonna start to feel more and more whole. But understand, 388 00:22:30.160 --> 00:22:32.880 every time that you're tracking their social media, you're looking 389 00:22:33.039 --> 00:22:37.000 at their whatever pictures of you two together, you're looking 390 00:22:37.000 --> 00:22:40.680 at their Snapchat score, whatever it may be. Every time 391 00:22:40.720 --> 00:22:43.599 you're doing that, it's like you're giving them money. They 392 00:22:43.680 --> 00:22:45.200 broke your heart and now you want to make them 393 00:22:45.319 --> 00:22:48.480 energetically richer. That's weird. That's weird. I would stop doing 394 00:22:48.519 --> 00:22:51.319 that if I were you. Instead, when you call your 395 00:22:51.359 --> 00:22:53.519 power back, when you refocus on you, that's like you 396 00:22:53.640 --> 00:22:57.799 making money. Girl, math, thank you so much. You have 397 00:22:57.960 --> 00:23:01.079 to see this as your graduation. It's not an ending. 398 00:23:01.279 --> 00:23:05.119 It's not a death, it's a rebirth. You are moving 399 00:23:05.839 --> 00:23:10.759 into a completely new energetic tax bracket. You're not losing 400 00:23:11.079 --> 00:23:14.599 your leveling up. The universe has to make space for 401 00:23:14.720 --> 00:23:18.039